Face-Sitting, Libido Boosting & Other Sex Goals for 2016

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone age. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh, my.

The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com we can check out all of our podcasts. We've got so many. We've got 10 years of podcasts, blogs, videos, everything to help you have better sex. And sign up for our mailing list because you will love our emails. Just gotta say that. So, Happy New Year. I'm with Anderson.

What's up, babe?

Hi. It's so good to see you.

It's good to see you.

Happy New Year.

You're like a whole new lady. I love you.

Yeah.

It's like I haven't seen you in so long, I forgot what you look like and everything.

Yeah. You like my haircut?

Your haircut looks. You getting straightened?

Is that what you get?

Yeah.

Straight and short.

How do they do that? Do they have to damage the follicles?

No, I got a. This straightening thing on it so it won't be, like, frizzy and stuff.

It looks really good.

Thank you.

It looks like somebody from Friends or something.

People say they look like Courtney Cox. My whole life.

A little bit. I've never seen it before.

No. Now you See it till this haircut.

Yeah, this haircut brings it out.

I know. Thank you. Yeah, check it out. Go to my end Instagram. We should take a photo. A new photo perhaps.

We'll do that. But I don't have new hair, though.

You're adorable. I missed you. I missed you. Like, my heart is like, oh, my God. Anderson. I get excited.

We've only talked, what, once since.

Yeah. And you. I was gonna come meet you out one night, but I was like, all freaky. It was like, right for Christmas. I wanted to. Because I was like, how fun. Anderson at the Improv, right up from my house.

Yeah. My very dear friend Mike Carano was doing a live show at the Improv.

So sad. I missed that. I love my chrono. He took great pictures of the live improv show that I did. And that podcast just came out last week and it's kind of awesome.

It came out?

Yeah.

I need to go back and hear it.

I know. It's really like, people are freaking out.

That was kind of a blur, so I got to go back and revisit it.

Dude, talk about blur. Yeah. This is. We're moving to the 11th year now of sex with Emily. And I'm glad you're here. How is that?

We're still having sex, so it works.

They'll always be having sex and hopefully better sex.

Yes.

You know what I love? I get emails all the time. As you know. We'll be reading some of them tonight. That people are like, thank you so much. Ever since I've been listening, you've helped me. You've changed my sex life. And I always want to know what was the, like, one specific thing, like when they say that, I'm so glad and that's why I live and exist. But what, what was it? Were you like, oh, that's how you do oral or. Or ah, do more proper play? I'm just wondering.

Yeah, that'd be a good poll almost. Or like, you know, have people just write in an email for advice or. And, or write in like, what's the thing that has learned and helped you the most in the bedroom?

Can I just tell you? That would help me so much. Feedbackexmy.com if you just like the one thing you're like, oh, wow, that that helped me or I didn't know that.

I'm curious is what it would be.

I know.

I bet it's a lot of dudes saying, you, you made it so that she'd give me anal.

Yeah, exactly. We're having threesomes. Every weekend. It's awesome. That could be it. So Pia, did you make any New Year's resolutions?

No, I don't do those. But I am going to quit smoking next week.

Oh, this is the second annual Quit Smoking or is it every.

I don't like to do it with, you know, everybody else in the first plus like I'm still hungover a little bit on the first side wean myself but I'm doing it staggering it. Like I'm starting to eat good again this week and then next week I'm going to eat better and then the following week I'm going to stop the boozing and the smoking.

So you're stopping boozing too?

Can't. I can't quit one without the other because as soon as I have a few, you know, for how long I.

Got to have like you're going to sober go.

No, no, I don't have that kind of problem yet. Yet.

Not yet.

Something is new with me. I believe that you commented it on my Instagram.

I was.

I started a brand new show which is pretty, pretty exciting for me. It's been a long time since I started. I got a couple other shows that out of the film that you know and. And the after disaster. Both relatively successful.

Yeah, I actually made a successful on the film vault.

Without the film vault, I. I can't pay the rent. I mean I actually make a living on that show. But I started a new show called Cinematics. It's like cinema with the CIM and then addicts. Like a drug addict or like what you just suggested I was.

Okay. Right.

And suggest it's with my friend who I've been friends with for 20 years now. He's an actual film critic. He like, he, he's real.

Okay.

And we're only covering movies that are coming out that Friday. So we're going to be doing so smart. Two to three new movies that are about to come out. We're going to release it on Wednesdays. The first one went up on itunes last week and it's Cinematics and it's.

I'm so. I. I think passion first of all. That's so smart.

Passion, insight and access. Because we have full access, we get screeners of these movies before they come out. So we can give you the heads up and talk about them without spoiling them. So it's going to be for the real movie lovers and people that want to be abreast of what's going on. It's there. And my co host, he's an insane man. He's a crazy person. His New Year's resolution and he's gonna stick to it. A thousand movies. He's gonna watch a thousand movies this year.

How the hell do you do that.

With three a day? Yeah, he's doing three a day. He doesn't have a wife or a girlfriend.

But you watch three day basically.

No, I don't do that. I try and do five a week. He's gonna do a thousand movies this year, so.

Oh my God.

Cinematics. Check it out.

Is he cute? He doesn't have a girlfriend.

I think he's an attractive guy.

I've been trying to watch more movies.

And I'm not going to hook you up with him because then no more movies. He won't. He'll just be watching.

I want to watch more movies.

Oh, I see.

No, my goal is to watch.

In fact, I easily attainable. You just push play.

I just. I don't have. I can't sit down. I can't. I don't come home and like think, turn on the tv. It's like outside my box. And then when I.

What do you do when you get home? How does m unwind?

I don't.

Yeah, you don't. You know that you took offense earlier in the show or before the show began, when I said that you're a little high strung, I was like, really? You're like. I'm not high strung. What do you mean high strung?

I was so surprised because I wouldn't. I. I wouldn't think of myself as high strung. I would think of myself as a little stressed out sometimes. Is that the same thing?

Yeah, Synonymous.

Interesting. Because I was. Well, I was a little late because.

I was hoping for a new M and a new year.

Well, no, I did. Do you want to.

11 year old Zen.

The reason why I was a little. Seemed high strung is because I've been meditating. I meditate and I usually have a really regular practice, but I've fallen off the meditation wagon the last month or so. So tonight I got home from work. This is how I unwind. And I turned off my phone, which is huge. And I sat and meditated.

Turn off or ring her off?

Ringer off. Dude, I don't even know how to turn it off. Are you kidding me? Like, you got to turn it off. God forbid. What if it doesn't turn back on? Oh my God. And I laid down, I laid back to my meditation and then I. I fell asleep and I woke up, it was 8:05 and I was like, oh my God. I mean I, I could have because I. Yeah, that's it. And then you said, do you want tacos? Which I probably missed because you texted me 20 minutes earlier. I was like, yes. But then I'm here. I got here in time, barely. But I could have slept through like through midnight, through the Loveline, everything. So I'm glad that I'm here. And that's why I might have appeared high strung, but not normally. What else?

Let me. We'll move on and get to sex and hopefully have some cool sex in the news. Let me just let people know that you're not the greatest communicator sometimes, but I'm going to give it to you because you're asleep and why not? You just explained that to me. But I said, here's what I write to Emily, grabbing food and rushing over. Then rushing over. I'll be there at 8:20. Want a taco or three? Her response is yes. OMG. 8:22.

How.

8:20 and then the word two. How am I supposed to interpret that? Did you want tacos or not?

No, I wanted tacos.

Okay, I got a taco for you.

You did?

Well, I mean it's for me, but.

I was hungry because I was gonna eat in that half hour that I fell asleep after meditation because I got.

Home at night, I wasn't gonna eat anything other than a chip.

Well, I was. I always heat from the vending machine here. That's all there is.

One chip at a time. And it takes her about 30 minutes to get through a bag.

No, because the show's on, so I don't want to crunch in the microphone.

Good move.

Yeah, thank you. But I'm so glad you got me taco because I'm hungry. So Sexual Health Expo this weekend.

She.

She. Sexualhealthexpo.com January 16th and 17th. This is very exciting because this is our fourth one. We started last January in LA, gone to four, three other cities, bringing it back home. It's been an amazing ride because every city just gets better and better. Top sex educators for two days. Teaching workshops. Plus like all the toys I talk about, plus and more are gonna be there. It's open to the public. There's nothing else like this feedback@sex withelmi.com it's the 12th right now. You've got a few days. I can give you a free ticket if you want, if you email me why you want to go. And I'll be there doing a live show on Sunday the 17th from 1 to 2. So I hoped and I'll be there Saturday, too. The ribbon. So I'll see you all there.

So as soon as you get out of church, go have a little brunch and then head right over to she.

Exactly. Church and sex. They go really well together. So that's what's happening. Also, I just want to point out that if you're not following me on Instagram, stupid. Or Twitter. Exwithemily, I'm perplexed. Why not?

Why would you not?

And you should. And you should also check out my Facebook. Facebook.com sexwithemily. Cause that's a good time there.

I saw a picture of you with Menace last week.

I'm sorry, no. You guys got along at the show? No. Did you talk?

It was in public. We put on a good face in public.

Can I tell you a weird thing, speaking of you?

Yeah.

The other night, I couldn't. I haven't been sleeping great. But I woke up in the middle night and I. And I literally was like, thought to myself, if Stanley were here, I would sleep so much better. And then my dog and I had like, a tear. Like, I miss him. And I. I really wish you weren't as attached to him as you were or that you left town more often.

I'm leaving town February.

Can I watch them? Can I watch him?

He doesn't have a home as of right now. You want him?

Yeah. What are the dates? We'll talk after.

Okay, we'll talk after.

Cause like, I. And then I. Then I. That at 4 in the morning. My best friend's a vet. I'm like, charlotte, I'm ready for a new dog.

Get one. Get a dog.

Cause the fact that I missed Stanley, I wasn't like, I want a man here. I was like, I want Stanley.

Emily comes in and talks about talks like this off air quite often during Loveline and, you know, during the breaks when she's in here and Dr. Drew, I don't know if you noticed, but Dr. Drew is adamant that you don't get a dog. And he's always like, hey, yeah, I know you love Stanley, but Stanley's a very rare dog. There's not many dogs like Stanley. Don't go out there and try and think you're gonna find another Stanley because you're not gonna get one. Don't do that. Don't get his dog. It's like, shut up, Drew. Let her rescue a dog.

Well, because the thing is, I already rescued a dog once, and he knows the history.

He's in heaven now, right?

No, no, no. He's he's in Palm Springs, actually.

Is this what your mom told you?

What?

She's like, he went off to Palm Springs, Emily, to learn.

No, no, no. This was like four years ago.

I know. Still?

Yeah. She's like, emily, we're taking the dog. No, it's that. It was Daisy. I love her. She's a Jack Russell. She was a puppy. She had so much energy. I was obsessed with being a really good dog mom. So I walked her 800 times a day. She doesn't have energy. It was too much. And I just moved to la. I had no money and no, I had to pay for dogs in San Francisco. She had like a baby daddy. She had. So here. It was hard and I couldn't find a place for it with a dog.

And sent her off to pasture.

Still, this couple loves her in Palm Springs. I still get pictures. The point is, I think Drew knows that story.

Right?

Yeah, but I'm more mature now.

I think you could get a dog. And I think you should get a dog.

Yeah.

So I think you should.

That's what I want. Do it for the new year.

Do it.

Okay, so.

And then go to dog parks and you meet, like, weird random dudes with dogs and you can bring in stories.

I was so. I was Ms. Dog park in San Francisco. I had all my dog park friends.

That's good for the show. Get a dog for the show.

Okay, it's done. So. So she's so Charlotte's like looking for one because she works at a shelter. Vet shelter.

What'd you give her? A profile.

Remember we called her about your rat? Yeah.

My cat brought in a half dead rat and I was trying to nurse the rat back to health. And Em's like, I'll call my vet friend. She'll tell us what to do.

She's like, I don't know where you're gonna take the rat.

I hate seeing things die. I hate it so much. My cat brought in a parrot. Remember? I told you.

I know. You're a good man. Okay, so let's sex in the news, which I know you love. This is a really interesting study. Lots of sex reduces the likelihood of prostate cancer, which is one of the most common cancers that you know for men. So you can avoid getting prostate cancer by popping off at least one orgasm a day.

Doesn't have to be sex, guys.

Just masturbating. I know every guy wants another excuse to rationalize your excessive masturbation. Now, I'm not.

Why should I not? Oh, it's good for the prostate.

Yeah. Exactly. Scientists claim that having sex and or orgasming once a day can drastically reduce chances of coming down with prostate cancer. Scientists claim there really is such a thing as sexual healing, as a study showing ejaculating once a day could reduce the risk of UK. This is the UK. UK's most common cancers by nearly a quarter.

How do they do that study? Do they take a bunch of dudes? They're like, hey, no beating off for you. You know, we're going to come back and test you in 40 years.

We're going to get into that, because scientists at the Harvard Medical School, I know you like to trash some of my studies, but they found that men who ejaculate at least once a day have a very low chance of developing prostate cancer. They reap the benefits of me time as sex itself isn't required, just an orgasm. So this is a game changer for prostate cancer. And the data shows. Yeah, men who ejaculated more than 21 times a month were 22% lower risk of getting the disease.

Sweet.

So if you need any more excuse. There you go. Okay, this is a funny one. Well, I shouldn't say I hate when people say it's funny than if you don't laugh.

I'm wondering. I'm sorry, I'm still thinking about the last question, the last news.

Yeah.

I'm wondering how long it's going to take before a rapist actually uses this as a defense.

Oh, that's so sick. Really?

But yeah, he's like, hey, I had to, because I had to get off to make sure that I don't get prostate cancer. You know, it's gonna happen. No, dude, eventually someone's gonna use it.

So many other. No, that's. That's terrible. No, first of all, the fact that your mind went to rapists using his defense. I thought you were gonna say, oh, I could hear guys, you know, justifying to their partners why they're watching so much porn. But no, you went to rapist, which.

Is why you always go extreme.

You're so.

I'm sorry.

Okay.

I can't wait for that to happen. Send an email to Emily when that story happens. When somebody uses that as a defense.

Yeah, do it. If that happens. Let's hope that doesn't.

Because they killed Harvey Milk. And that guy tried to say is because he, like, didn't have a Twinkie or he did have a Twinkie and he had a sugar high.

Right, The Twinkie defense. Yeah. The guy who. What was his name? The city supervisor who shot him James Brolin? No, not James Brolin. He's the actor. No, no, no, no. I read a film, a documentary about San Francisco. Doesn't matter. But yeah, the Twinkie defense. They too much sugar. And that's why he killed him. Okay, ready? So Amazon customer service rep gets reve vengeance on a shopper by placing a 10 inch dildo in his shopping cart.

It's a bonus.

It's a boner. It's a bonerous. Bonerous, it appears. Isn't that funny though? He's like, how am I to get back at this guy? I know. 10 inch dildo.

See, that's kind of funny. That's cute and light. That's not dark, right? Oh, yes, it was.

Was it black?

Was it a big black one?

Well, it's really veiny. You should see it. If you Google this story, it's so funny. Cause my intern showed me Jamie. She was like, check this out. I'm like, oh my God. And the guy will listen to the story. So a spiteful customer rep did not appreciate negative feedback from a shopper. So they made the customer happy by giving into all their requests. Just kidding. The representative put a ginormous 10 inch dildo in his Amazon shopping cart. So what happened was there was an IT contractor in Ireland at Amazon, and the customer named Pedro was disappointed that his book arrived. It was the wrong edition. So he complained to customer service. Right. He was frustrated that in Pedro kept emailing customer service. He was really disappointed. He really left a really negative search.

Was the book how to get over your fear of dildos?

Unfortunately, they didn't say what the book is.

I want to know.

But what happened was the next time Pedro opened up his Amazon account, there was a dildo in his shopping cart. But not just any lousy dildo. Oh no, it was Hulk. 10.25 inch Hong, huge dong. Black. Oh, it says it's black, but it wasn't black when I saw the picture.

Yes, it's dark humor.

That has a retail value of 61.99. Go big or go home. I guess it gets worse. Here's the problem. He was at the office in an open space with people behind him.

Sure, he was a guy.

And two girls were sitting by me when I opened up Amazon and they saw the contents of the basket.

Fuck you, Pedro, you're lying.

He's like, that's not my 10 inch dildo. He thought if his best friend did, it'd be a funny joke. And so they tracked it back to.

This actual he did not purchase.

I guess so they did not purchase the dildo. We don't know what happened to the.

Amazon rep. You gotta imagine he was let go.

Oh, I'm sure he probably was let go, But I thought that was a. I like it.

I like that verse much. I don't believe Pedro. I think he's trying to make it a bigger deal than it is because he's a little bitch. Who's. Who's complaining about customer service? I mean, I was on the phone with Time Warner Cable today for an hour and a half. Never once did I think, oh, I'm going to write a terrible review about them. I'm just angry inside.

But don't they send you? Like, how was your day with don't they send you?

They don't. When it goes poorly. I noticed that.

They really don't, do they? That's a good point. When you're, like, in and out. Like, I talked to Verizon, like, here's our custom. I'm like, I love you guys.

Only when it. When it. When something goes good, I get the little survey thing, like, 10 minutes later. When it goes bad, I never get the call, which I'm happy with, because I hate those calls.

I know. I hate them, too. Dealing with that stuff is the worst. Like, I need to call my health insurance because for, like, a month now, and I just can't do it. Yeah, I'm sorry to go through that. You seem okay, though, for being on the phone for an hour and a half. Was it today? Yeah. Okay. I've got some mini topic here that I'd like to talk about. Sexual health. Resolutions.

Okay.

Because sexual health, so important. And I know people make commitments every January. They're gonna exercise more, they're gonna get healthy, they're gonna quit smoking. They're doing all these things, and they want a happy and healthy new year, and I'm all for that. Oh, the gym. I heard the other day the gym.

So crowded right now.

Couldn't even park in the parking garage. Five stories of cars.

I'll go back two weeks from now. I'm gonna go every day.

Everyone's gonna die. No. It's annoying.

So annoying. It's a herd mentality.

I know. But here's the thing. It's important to be healthy, but wellness in the bedroom, so important. So I want you guys to have better sexual health in 2016. Okay? So here's some things you can do. I'm just gonna give you some tips. And this is something I actually. I don't know if I announced this yet. But I am the the sexual health editor now for about dot com.

Okay.

Which is the fifth largest website in the world.

Dot com is giant. I've landed by mistake numerous times. Not by mistake but it comes up right.

So I'm actually honored and I've done. I do four stories a month or eight. Eight stories the first month. So check it out about dot com. Click on it because yeah I have good stories and also they I get some points of view.

It helps support em by looking at the about.

That's all you gotta do. Just click through it when you're like watching porn after you watch porn. But no. So the first one I'm just gonna give a few tips more self pleasure. Not just because of prostate cancer but a recent Indiana University study. 94% of men and 85% of women admit to masturbation. And masturbation has numerous health benefits for women. It helps prevent cervical and urinary tract infections.

Forearm strength.

It does this as arousal promotes fluid circulation in and around the cervix, clearing out bad bacteria. It should give you. I know vagina and bad bacteria.

Bad bacteria being flushed out of the.

Vagina lowers the risk of diabetes, insomnia through hormone and tension release and many other benefits. The other thing is which I talk about a lot. It's the best way to learn your body and maximize orgasms. Now I'm talking about mostly for women. Guys kind of figure it out, pretty simple. But for women it also just like going to the gym. The more you do something, the more you're going to want to do it. So if your libido's been suffering lately, you're not that into sex. I promise you the more you get busy with yourself, the more sex you're going to want. And also even if you're solo. Totally not even if great. Learn your body. Learn your other erogenous zones. How to have a million different kinds of orgasms. There's so many.

As a lady, can I let me ask you this.

Sure.

Do you have any idea how foreign that sounds to men?

I know.

Do you? I mean you do this for a living, so I guess you do. But I think a lot of women don't realize just how foreign that would sound to a guy. Because it's like why would I need to make an appointment? Why would I make it a make. Need to make sure that I do this because it's such a great thing and I do it all the time.

Because men just like. Don't even think that men use your like stress relief or you're like. You don't even. You're like, just do it. But for women, it's more. It can be more complicated. And our brains are not as, like, focused on the sex thing. Like, it just doesn't happen. We just get boners in the middle day and think, oh, I gotta go home. I gotta go in the bathroom. Whatever you do, pull over on the side of the road.

I know. It's like gym. And they'll see a girl in yoga class when they're just walking by and they're off in the stall, beating off.

I wish that happened to me.

I swear to God, that's not me. I do know guys.

No, I know that too.

Not me, though.

But. But the thing is, whether you're alone or partnered, more sex has been frequently linked to greater happiness and health benefits. And so. Oh, this is my next one. Sorry. Was scheduled sex. But it's not just if you're alone or partner, you should just schedule sex, which is also really foreign to you, I'm sure, because I'm sure you have lots of sex with your partner. But regular sex also lowers blood pressure, decreases stress, and leads to better heart health. And also, people who have more sex report higher levels of satisfaction and happiness. But if you're flying solo, like I said, schedule a time. This is, again, for women, but sexual exploration, you know, in the bed, in the bathtub. I talk about this all the time, different ways that you can learn just because you know the one way that you orgasm, Use your hand, use toys, you know, and don't make orgasm the goal, even if you're like, I don't feel like it. Just spend some intimate time giving yourself a breast massage.

Light a candle.

Light a candle. And scheduling sex with your partner might seem unromantic, but it can have a stimulating effect, because then you know that you're having sex. You're like, okay, Saturday nights, you're not frustrated during the week, but you're like, I know it's happening Saturday. So it's a little bit of a, you know. What is it spontaneous? No, but it's not as spontaneous.

But it's more like if you're a lady and you do this because the guy doesn't have to know that it's scheduled. Oh, that's true for the most part.

Like I'm giving out in salary.

You just. Yeah, you make your own schedule. Don't even let them know about it, and then you just make yourself available for the most part. Most relationships, unless you're like the Ropers from Three's company. Most relationships, the lady wears the pants as far as when they're having sex.

Yeah, it's true.

So if, like.

So if you're setting the schedule, that's fine, but just know and start, like, you know, if you've been like, we're only doing Saturdays, and start thinking about it in the middle of the week. Like, start whatever turns you on. Reading erotica, watching porn. The more you think about sex, too, the more.

Right.

You'll want it for sure.

Like anything else. But you're not talking about people who are like, oh, God, Saturday's coming and I have to have sex soon. Are you. There are those.

No, I'm talking. Yeah, there are those people. But I'm thinking, like, if you feel like you have kids or you don't have enough time or whatever it is with your partner, just say, we're gonna do it on Saturdays. You can. You can tell them about it. Because I know that there's a lot of people who are in relationships where they get. They feel like there's a lot of pressure from the partner, and they're always saying no. And so it's this way. If you know you're having it on Wednesdays and Saturdays, while it might not seem sexy again, you know that it's coming, so you can be thinking about it and building towards it. So when I first started my show, people will talk about scheduled sex. I'm like, that is such a buzz kill, A boner kill. But it actually isn't. The next thing is sexual resolution. Sexual health is increasing your libido. So if you're not getting in the mood as often as you'd like, there could be emotional factors, environmental factors that could all be contributing to this. So take a look. First of all, number one, are you taking any medications? Could be birth control, which is the silent libido killer. No one knows that birth control could do that. Talk to your doctor. See what else it could be. It could just be. A lot of medications can cause you have low libido. Also, are you eating right? If you have a diet, fresh vegetable, like, your diet's gonna get much healthier. Whole foods, vegetables, lean proteins. It will Lowell.

Lower. Lower is how you say it.

Lower your cholesterol, blood pressure, reduce the risk of diabetes. And all those risks will also release. I mean, and reduce all those risks, but also it will release endorphins, helping you feel happier, more relaxed, and wanting to have more sex.

The eating good.

Yes. Yes.

You know, it's crazy how quick it happens, too. Like within 24 hours of just changing your diet, you feel like a much better person.

I know.

It's amazing how quick you're talking about, how you fell out of the routine of your meditation. And it's just. It's so crazy to me that, you know, human beings, we're smart, you know, evolved animals, we still are so stupid when it's like, how do we all do it? We're like, hey, we know this is really good for me, but I'm gonna, like, fall out of the routine and just stop doing it. Like, why?

I don't know. And it's like, I've been out of.

My routine for four months now. I put on 22 pounds, and I feel like.

You did. You don't look like it.

Oh, thanks, kid. But, yeah. And I know I'm doing it. It's so weird. There's something psychologically deep in there. You know what I mean?

No, it's true. I mean, I. When I was meditating every day for. I mean, for 15 years, I've been trying to do it every day. But for about three months this year, I was right on track, and I was like. And literally, I was like, I feel so amazing. It's because of this. And it was almost the next day that my brain was like, oh, like, I'm not gonna do it. It was like, sabotage. Like, that's what you're saying. Our brain is like, this feels so good. This feels so good. I'm not gonna do it tomorrow.

Can I miss something real quick? That. All right. So I started eating good two days ago, right? It's, like, so, like, you know, a week and a half into the new year, that's like, the first step. And it's. It's not that easy. Like, so last night I had, you know, a few drinks, and the wife, she had gotten, you know those big cookies that you get from Pizza Hut?

Yeah.

They're like. They're like 8 inches of your head of a pizza. So they have, like. They cut it so you can, like, take slices of the pizza. She had it in the fridge, and I had one, right? And it was really good. So I went and had a second one, and then now it's half gone. So I'm like, you know what I could do? I could eat the whole thing. And then tomorrow, I'll go. I'll go to Pizza Hut. That's today. And I'll. I'll buy a new one, and I'll just take one slice out, throw it in the trash, and then replace it in the fridge. She'll never know. And I did that.

You did? Yeah. She doesn't know.

She has no idea.

You've literally.

Is that sad and sick.

Yeah, I ate the whole thing.

And I did the calories. I Catalytic calories. 883 calories. Right before I went to sleep.

Could you. I can't.

On top of the Jameson whiskey.

Oh my God. So you really like, snuck. What? This morning, like 10am you were the first customer at Pizza Hut.

No, I mean she's at work all day and I have days free, so I, you know, I did it like.

3Am she's listening to this podcast, so she won't know that that cookie was actually a fake. I can't believe I threw the piece away.

Yeah, I felt kind of weird. You know what the weirdest part was when I walked out. Thanks very much for my giant cookie. And I walk and immediately opened it up, took a piece out. And I was afraid that they were looking and watching me and I was afraid they were going to think, what fat ass. He's about to eat it. But then I threw it in the trash. The one piece in the trash.

And you were not tempted to have another bite then?

No, no. Today, during the day, I'm not drinking. And it's like, I look at.

When you drink, it's a trigger.

That's poison.

I can't believe you did. That's the best story I've done. I'm trying to think if I've done it. Well, I've never lived with anyone where I've had to share anything. So. No, I just rather just in hotel rooms when I used to take stuff from the mini bar, when they. Before you would touch it and they would charge you, I'd be like, I'm going to go buy M M's downstairs. Because they just charged me $5 for the M and M's.

Feel vindicated and because you get a good deal.

Yeah, I got a deal. Such a Jew. I hate when they charge you so much.

I was just mortified at the idea of her waking up or later tonight getting home, seeing there's like one piece left or two pieces left. So I'm like, I got. I gotta fix this chick.

What happened to healthy diet?

There's only one way to fix it.

I love that you actually followed through with that. That's awesome.

Okay, ashamed. Got a lot of shame.

But I love that you're talking about it. Was that cathartic?

No, not really. Okay, makes me feel worse.

Well, another sexual health practice for the new Year. I'm sorry that you feel really. I love that you're so open and honest about that. I feel like I wanna. Let me see if something comes up.

Sexual health practice?

No. I was gonna see if there's something I could admit that I've done like that, but nothing's coming to head. Cause I'm kinda perfect.

Mm, I'd have to agree.

Okay, well, I know you wear all.

Of your faults on your sleeve. I know like anyone. Yeah, anyone listens, if they listen to you long enough, they're gonna hear you talk about it.

That's true. Yeah. I think I'm pretty much, you know, open about it.

You're the real deal. Like, you. You are what you like. People ask me like, what, what's she like off air? I'm like the exact same.

Exactly.

Exact same. Her head's not in her purse as much on air, but she's pretty much exactly.

I went to hear my friend Anna do a storytelling last night and I. In the middle of the thing, I put my purse down on the floor in the middle of it and I started digging through it and. And I was with Ross, the guy. And he looked at me. I saw him just like go like, what are you doing? Like, I had my light in my purse.

I see homeless women do that all the time.

So I'm homeless. I'm like a homeless person. But there's a lot. I am bagley. There's a lot going on in my purse. Okay, before we get to the next one, which is very actually my favorite tip for sexual health acceptance, I've got to tell you all, got to tell you about one thing here. And I just want to thank you all for supporting our sponsors who help keep this show free for you. But this is one that I'm crazy about. It's my new toy. If you've listened to the show the last couple months, you've probably heard me talk about this toy. It's called. It's a unique product. It's called the Womanizer.

Oh.

A while back, the owners of the company asked if they could send me one to test. And of course I always say yes. I said yes. I agreed. And as you know, I own and I review a lot of toys, so I was fairly confident that I've tried every category of product around. I was wrong. Anderson.

The Womanizer is new.

The Womanizer, designed in Germany. And unlike anything else on the market, it indirectly stimulates the clitoris using suction.

We have no time for wasting.

Well, it's funny. Keep this. It's kind of like a sexy ear thermometer is what it looks like, if you could think of that. It has a silicone cylinder on the face that you place over your clitoris. Kind of like how a partner might use their mouth. Or at least it's kind of how we would wish partners would use their mouth. That's why I think it's so good. While it's on you, you vary the suction, move it to create this, like, amazingly just intense experience.

It's literally sucking you.

Most women in the focus group achieved orgasm in one minute. It's like the 60 second orgasm.

Can you stand up? Does it stay attached? Like, is it suctioning?

No, it's not like that. No. So back to me. I tried the Womanizer and they weren't kidding. It's amazing, Anderson. It's kind of like if I dreamed of how I'd want a man to, like, know my clitoris. This toy, like, knows me.

It's like the Mercedes sex toys.

Yeah. So the suction is adjustable. You can position to create so many different sensations, which is so cool. It's just its own category. Like, I, I, I, I've tried every toy. There's nothing else like it. I suggest you check it out for yourself. Go to Sex with emily dot com. Click on the Womanizer banner for more information. It's also available from womanizer shop.com. that's womanizer shop.com shop also you.

So you say it, it's, it earns its name.

Well, here's the crazy thing about it is that is that when they want to send to me because, you know, I get every day he want to send me toys and I don't get to all of them. I can tell. I'm like, oh, I've tried this, I've tried that. And the, the weird thing is, is that the name is like kind of weird. In Germany, it means something different. Here it's like that douchebag you date in college, the Womanizer. But this toy, it's fitted, has sold more than any other toy that's only had. It's only been out for a year. Crazy numbers. Every sex educator I know has been like, have you tried the Womanizer yet? So it's like got this buzz. Literally.

I get it.

So it's amazing. I just have to say, and it sucks your clitoris. Okay.

Can I ask you a quick question?

Yeah.

What if it was like a new organic sex toy company?

Right?

You're like, you want to send me a product?

Sure.

And you just got Like a zucchini in the mail. You open it up.

That wouldn't be body stuff.

Do you give it a shot?

No. You can't put anything inside your vagina. Not body stuff. Okay, thank you. I've learned something. Okay, guys, are you ready to mix up your masturbation routine? Guys, this is for the men. The number one sex toy for men still is in 2016. The only one you want is the Fleshlight. It's a masturbation sleeve. Use it solo or with a partner and it simulates sensations of real sex and was engineered to look and feel like the real deal. And they have a lot of products now. They've got the stamina training unit. It helps you last longer during sex. They got this discreet one called the flight. They've got the go, which is compact on the go. And now there's a quick shot. It's open ended. A male masturbator. It's like the size of your hand and it's geared towards new kind of self pleasure. You can use it solo or with a partner. It takes hand jobs and blow jobs to the next level. I'm just saying. There's a great blog on my website about it. Madison wrote it and she's like, I hate giving hand jobs. But this changed it. Every woman has a vibrator. Every man should have one of these. Go to sexwithemily.com Click on the Fleshlight banner, use code Emily and you get a free bottle of their award winning flesh lube. How about that? Okay, back to sexual health resolutions. This is my favorite one. What do you think it is?

How in the world would I know Kegel exercises? Oh, kegs. Yes. I should have known.

It's a few minutes a day. Men and women can do it. They increase their sexual health by completing these simple pelvic floor exercises. There are so many benefits to them for women. Increased sexual sensation, more frequent orgasms. It strengthens your vagina after childbirth birth. It helps post menopausal women maintain lubrication. They build your pelvic floor which atrophies over time. So you just have to do them. And for men, they improve erectile dysfunction, increases your ejaculatory control and prostate trouble. Yeah, you aim shoot across the room like you were 18. I have an iPhone app called Kegel Camp which you can download and every day it will remind you to do it. It pops up on your phone. There's 20 levels. K, E, G, E, L. Camp.

Camp. You didn't get like crazy with a cane.

You know what we thought about that. But no. Number five. I want you guys to practice the five resolutions. Practice safe sex. You guys, let me just tell you something.

Just do it.

If something hurts, see a doctor. Don't shy away from asking our awkward questions. We hear this on Loveland all the time. They're like, I don't know. I'm not gonna go to my doctor and talk about my penis. Yes, you should. For women, regular breast exams are essential. You know, starting young is a good baseline. You gotta do all of that. And also, you guys know birth control and always use condoms. You just don't know. If someone says they have tested, you can't believe them.

And if you're young, you might have to try four or five birth controls before you find one that works.

That's true, too. People. When I. When I took birth control when I first started in college, I didn't know that it would, like, decrease my libido, which it did. I didn't know. I mean, it did make my breasts, like, two sizes larger.

Some make it skinny.

It may be fat with large breasts.

Some make you horny, some make you shut down.

Yeah, but no one was like, oh, there's other kinds.

You never know until you try a few.

So if you are a woman right now and you're taking birth control, like, why don't I want sex? Or, you're having some side effects. Go back to your gynecologist, wherever you got it. And there's so many different. Everyone's body's different, reacts differently. Let's try it. Okay, so emails now.

Boom.

Good time for emails. I love you all. I love when you email me. I love hearing from you. I love reading the emails. Feedbackextwithelmy.com include your name, where you're listening from, and how you listen in the email. It helps us. The first subject and your sex of 2016. Anderson, in our emails. Ready, Face, sitting. Oh, so I'm a woman.

Okay.

Dear Emily, my partner and I just started getting close and talking about our favorite things to do in the bedroom. He told me that he really likes it when a girl straddles his face and rides it. I've never done that before, and I'm really nervous because as basic as it sounds, I don't really know perfectly what to do. Do I ride his face like I would ride him? I know it's a dumb question, but the more we have sex, I know the day will come when he's gonna hint at help. Sincerely, Katie.

Watch Alien at the end with the facehugger thing. That Goes on guys face.

That's not gonna help.

Very similar.

Katie, this is not a dumb question. I mean, to figure out the logistics of a new or unfamiliar position is very valid. People ask me about, you know, altering positions all the time. And I love that he's into this because, let's be honest, face sitting, it's all about her pleasure. I mean, he gets pleasure too, evidently.

If he wants it.

If he wants it. I love that. But I get why it's weird. Cause you're like, does he need to support like a snorkel on, you know, like. Cause you think she'd smush him.

Yeah, well, she a big girl.

I don't know. But you don't have to ride his face. Like, you'd ride him in cowgirl position. So you're not going up and down. You're not like aggressively going back and forth. There's no penetration, so moving up and down is unnecessary. Make sure he can breathe, but maintain contact the entire time with your clitoris because the focus is your clitoris. Let's be honest with this. The range of motion will be smaller. So you're not like sliding all over his face. Unless you want to. It's just making sure the clitoris, you know, tiny circles.

Not bathe in his face.

No, unless he wants you to. Little thrusts forward and back. They'll stimulate your clitoris while also giving him the feeling of being ridden. And don't feel. This is another thing that I think probably is. Her question is, like, she doesn't have to hold all of your weight. Like, Katie, you don't have to be like, you know, if she has any.

Quad strength at all, she'll be able to pull this off.

Right? But, you know, she can put some weight on him by sitting back onto his chest. She can put pillows under her knees. She can lean forward onto the wall. You know, like, that's what I've done.

So that's what you're thinking. She should be facing away from him rather than back towards him.

No, no, no. Facing him.

No, no, no. But like, I'm where if she laid down her head, she wouldn't be on his peen. You know what I mean? No. 69, but sitting up she should be. Because there's two different ways you can do cowgirl reverse cow. You see what I'm saying?

I'm thinking that she's fa. She's like.

So she can just focus on her stuff and. Yeah. Put her hands on the wall. Like you.

Hands on the wall. Yeah, that's what I've and you could lift yourself up. You can put pillows under your knees. That's what I suggest. Okay, go for it. Ride that mouth.

A lot of girls just don't get the guys. Some guys have, like, oral fixations and they're really into, like, why haven't I met the guy With a lot of guys?

I've met some, but not enough.

A lot of guys and a lot of, you know, people in general, if they don't. If they have an adversity to something, like, if they don't an aversion to, like, semen or body fluids, they assume their partner does too. And a lot of the time doesn't line up that way.

No, no, no. I know. I've dated guys who are not as into oral and I'm not as into them. Yes, okay, we understand that. At least.

Gotta fake it. And ladies, you gotta fake that you love the oral, too. Until you love it.

Until you're married and you just stop.

And then. Yeah, it's in the agreement.

Don't stop oral pleasure. Ever. Okay. Unless you're. Unless you both aren't into it. They started dating, but we were talking today in the office about online dating sites, how there's like, now dating sites for everything there could be. There's one for big guys. Like, guys, like, it's called like, eight inches and over. Eight and over. Yeah. But maybe there's one for, like, people who don't like oral. Match those people up. Yeah, they're like, you don't want blowjobs and you don't want connilingus. I'm down. Let's get married. Okay, so. Dear Emily, another email. My name is Kristen. I'm 26 years old. I live in St. Louis, Missouri. I've been with my boyfriend for four years. I've been listening to your podcast for the past five years, and we've both benefited big time from your advice. We're constantly inspired with your new ideas to mix things up and are big fans of the occasional hand job. Sorry, Menace. Menace is anti hand jobs.

Why? He doesn't like the old fashioned.

Well, it's a long story. Okay, okay. This new year, I'm focusing on taking more time out to up the romance in our relationship. Outside the bedroom. To inspire us even more. Inside the bedroom, I'm planning bi weekly dates, including staycations at nearby hotels, dinners out, couple road trips. And I'm running out of ideas. If I were to plan the perfect date night, what should I include? What's the science behind great dates and keeping things Interesting. When we've already been on four years of fun and interesting. Thanks for everything you do to make the world a better, sexier place. Kristin.

Where's Kristin calling from?

She's in St. Louis.

St. Louis?

Yep. I think it's a great question. And Kristin, thank you for listening to the show and your support. I appreciate it. I'm so glad I.

Is she doing all the work here though? It sounds like she's like the planner and he's just kind of going, where.

Are you taking me to the first place?

Okay, where are we going?

I think in every relationship this isn't true. I think two planners don't often get together. I'm not a planner, but the problem is I'm dating someone who doesn't have a big planner either. So we basically don't do anything, don't.

Do a damn thing.

I know. And I'm not a big planner. And so I kind of would like him to plan more. But like, are you and your wife both planners?

I'm a planner.

Right. See, there's always one planner and I don't think that either one of us are planning. So it's kind of an issue I probably need to bring up. But besides that, it's not about me. There is no exact science, Kristin, for the perfect date because everyone's different.

The thing is, is that it sounds like you've already found really interesting things. And generally a great date has more to do with like the people on the date than the activities. But since you are looking to mix things up, couldn't explore hurt to like explore more adventurous options together. Because they always say that the more that you or I say couples who play together stay together. So if you do like adrenaline pumping things like I don't say jumping out of a plane, but even if you guys like playing, played a sport together, you did something like that. That even if you like said that once a week you take some kind of like exercise class or dancing class or something like that, which somebody would tell where you get your blood pumping. That could be fun and exciting for you. Who knows? But planning and dates, like with new like roller coasters, skydiving, rock climbing, it like I said, it gets your those feel good hormones going, the adrenaline, all that stuff. Interactive dates, always a great idea. Cooking classes, sushi making is popular. Okay, here's this. Anderson, you'd love to this in la, there's now a class, there's a cooking class you take. Oh no, there is cooking, but there's a drunk painting class. No.

Ew, no not cooking with gum.

Good. I think I would recommend that.

I don't.

You're.

It's a sexual.

No, you're right. If anyone recommended. I would.

It's a real thing.

There is a drunk painting class where you get to drink wine while you create works of art.

I like it.

Laughter is usually involved.

I'd show up drunk though, so I'd have to.

You'd already be drunk. You're like, oh, I already came.

So Picasso painting with my dick halfway through.

David, you're such an ass kisser. You already came here drunk.

You came here.

Your.

You did your assignment before you even got here.

I know. That's so yummy.

Hey, she could. They could go to see the St. Louis Rams who are about to leave town. They're gonna come to LA and then try. Try and find a place to have sex in the stadium somewhere, which is.

Illegal, but you could.

It's illegal. So, you know, we're not recommending that. But it's your last chance because they're about to bail.

I agree. Learning to do new things also get.

A little rammed in the Rams stadium. You know what I'm saying?

I totally do. Learning to do new things also, like, it brings you closer together if you're both doing something together, like learning to drunk paint, learning to cook. And don't be afraid to get him involved. Like Anderson said, you know, two heads are better than just the act of like, talking about the new things you like to experience can also inspire great new ideas together. And again, if you. It sounds like your sex life already great and you're doing these staycations, I would, you know, get a copy of my book hot sex. Over 200 things you could try tonight is a great book for something like this because you. You get on Amazon, you literally just open the page and you're like, let's try this tonight. So it gives you ideas that are really easy to implement. That can. Anderson uses it.

Yeah, you just flip to a random page. Page. And if you land on a page, something you've already done, you go to the next.

Totally fine. So try that.

She's been with. I know she's been listening to you for five years, but they've been together, so that means that they like each other quite a bit after four years. Because there's nothing better than taking a good road trip with somebody who you're really comfortable with and who you can just talk. And what the wife and I kind of discovered a number of years ago is what we do is we'll fly Into a place, rent a car, and then do a big circle. We'll drive, like 2,000 miles in a circle back to the airport over, like, five days. You know what I mean?

So just check out a new place.

Yeah, we'll go to, like, a national park or two. But, like, we do, like, a big circle from, like, we'll fly into Denver and then we'll go up to, like, Wyoming and through, like, Yellowstone and then back around. And you're so. You're always on the road, but you're very far from where you live.

Right. I love that. I love road trips. I haven't done one of those in a while either.

And always bring a new sex toy on a road trip.

Always. Okay, how to get ready?

They should sell them at aaa. They should sell sex toys.

They should sell them everywhere.

They should.

Well, they do sell them at, like, Walmart.

Not Toys R Us. That'd be worth.

Weird. That would be weird. How about Sex Toys R Us? That could be my new story.

Oh, my God. I bet it exists.

I don't know. Look it up. Okay, now just go to my website to buy toys. Okay, how to get ready for round two. Emily, I love your show. I've been listening for several years. My fiance and I have been enjoying some of the best sex ever because of the tips and advice from your show. I love you people. Thank you, James. Awesome. We both tried many new things. Now the sex is great. We want more of it. The problem is, once I come, it takes a long time. Recover for another round. What can I do to decrease the amount of time it takes to get hard after I come? We're getting married in a couple weeks, and I want to make sure the honeymoon really is really memorable. Any help will be appreciated. James, 23, Des Moines, Iowa. Okay, so here's the thing, James. All men do need a break after ejaculation to get erect again. This is called the refractory period. It fluctuates from person to person. And younger guys typically have shorter refractory periods. My boyfriend, when I was 25, every time we had sex, he would come three times. Just. Just remind me that literally I had three times. I was like, oh, God, here we go again. Here we go again. Which is, you know, fine, but it just as you get older.

Please.

No, he just couldn't help it. But there are things, James, you can do that trained your body to shorten your refractory period. So for women, when they have multiples, you know, a lot of times there isn't as long of A refractory period. Number one, diet and exercise. Lots of fresh fruit, lots of vegetables can shorten the period. So here's some. Here's some levels. Some foods that increase those levels that can help you those testosterone levels is avocado, bananas, oysters, lean meats, beans, garlic, nuts, fish oil, eggs, any foods rich in zinc, any foods rich in vitamin D. You could try some natural supplements. Cardio, you gotta work out. You need to, you know, strength training increases your testosterone. So all these things will help you. And also kaggle exercises for men. I'm telling you that they will train you to have more control over your ejaculation. It just does. Helps you have stronger, more intense, and even multiple orgasms. You know, I've had guys, My app has 20 levels, Kegel Camp. So it builds over time. And I've had guys email me like, oh, my God, I'm now shooting it across the room like, it's true. So also, you can practice edging, which is like the stop start method, which means that, like, when you're masturbating.

Is that bad for your anything? No.

You stimulate yourself until you're about to orgasm. And then you let that go down, and then you start again, let it go down, and the third time you let yourself eject it. And then you start training yourself and understanding your ejaculatory response cycle. So that will help you be careful.

What you do in between, because then you're gonna end up associating that with sex. If you. Like, if every time you stopped, you edged off and you went and made yourself a ham sandwich.

No, no, no. This is all in one sesh, okay? Don't get up and make a ham sandwich. This is like you're doing this during a masturbation. So you're getting to the point of no return.

How long do you take a break before you.

You know, just a few. It could be like two, three minutes. And then go back up again. Two, three minutes. And then you start to know your body. And then you can eventually. The concept is, if you master it, you can have a dry orgasm and go for rounds of rounds without losing your erection. This takes a lot of practice, a lot of commitment.

I don't know if that's a real thing. I don't know if there's. I think there's dudes out there that claim that they can do that, but I bet they're lying.

I don't think so.

I think they might be. And I bet they have ponytails.

They might. But no, Pete, this does exist. People can do this, but that's a whole like life. That's like a lifestyle choice. The next thing is just relax. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to have to do it again again. If you're getting frustrated, stressed out, we're getting hard, it will not help you. Just like anytime we just about anything, you'll have the opposite effect. And let's just remember this while you're waiting for round two, why not please your woman, go down on her, make sure she's pleased and you know, might just turn you on again. If you're into oral, which I hope you are pleasing, her boner might just come back on its own. So diet and exercise, Kegels edging, all that, make sure she's happy in the meantime. That's my advice for you, James. And thank you for listening to the show.

Alezer, go over the list of foods again.

Why? Really? Yeah, because avocado, banana, oysters, lean meats, beans, garlic, nuts, fish oil, eggs.

Eggs.

Any foods rich in zinc, any foods rich in vitamin D. Because I think.

People can probably remember most of everything else you said, but that was kind of like. It was fast. It was a list, like a grocery list. And some people might want to talk about it.

Let's do a blog about this. Maybe we should blog this.

That seems like something people love to know what they can put in their body so they can get something better out of it.

You know what I mean? You know what? This is going to be on our website. Done.

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You're so good. Okay, well, thank you, Anderson. So good to see you. Get in the new year, everyone. Check out Anderson's new podcast. Good to see you.

Yeah. Cinematics, the sea, like cinema and addicts.

I know. I'm proud of you.

Passion, insight and access. That's what we're going to bring you every week. Last week we talked about the Revenant, which is a big new Leonardo DiCaprio movie which came out last Friday. And I don't have my notes in front of me, but this week we're talking about two. Oh, my buddy's actually taking one for the team. He's going to talk about Ride along two and.

Yeah, okay, good. Check it out also. Yeah. Thank you, Anderson. And thank you, Madison. No, it was good. No, you're dude right along too.

Really?

Who's not going to listen to your podcast.

We're going to make sure we have a sexy movie in there every week.

Perfect. Thank you Anderson. Thank you Madison, Lori, Alyssa, intern Jamie for producing the show. And yeah, thanks everyone for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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