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It'S a throwback.

Look into his eyes.

They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions.

Bedroom eyes, they call them.

In a bygone day.

Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standard. Oh, my.

The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me? Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good.

You know, Emily's not the kind of.

Girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com you can check out all of our podcasts, sign up for a mailing list, and do all that fun stuff. And we're so happy to hear you. And I just want to thank everyone for listening. You know, I'm just being very heartfelt lately, Menace, because we are coming up at our 10th year.

Wow. 10 years ago.

And I just feel like I've been just doing a lot of thinking about that and how grateful I am that I have listeners and that I. That people like the show and that it's continued and we can make a living.

How do I put up with you for 10 years? I do not know.

I do not know.

I can't decide if you like me more or less. I think we're just like brother and sister, but I know.

So I want to shout out, I got somebody on Twitter. I think his name's Jer on Twitter.

Okay.

Says that he loves me on the show. So thank you for tweeting me knowing that you love me on the show.

Thank you for loving menaces.

And he called you M, which I. That's what I keep you in my phone as M. You do. Anybody ever wants you. Well, wants your phone number. And they find my phone. You're Under M. Okay.

Good to know. My friends call me M. Yeah, You've always had me as M. Like, aren't you other M's?

Yeah.

Just mister.

That's it.

Okay. I feel like that's a term of endearment. That's what my friends call me.

Em.

Yeah.

And so you're all my buddies. So when you email me, you can be like, dear Em. People do that sometimes. It makes me feel good and warm and fuzzy. So it's great to see you. And I want to tell you, today's show, I'm really excited. We have a great guest. Lynette Carolla is here. And the husband of Adam Carolla. People have heard of Corona.

I don't think she's the husband.

Husband. Wife.

I think she's the wife.

She's the wife. Actually, she's wife. She's beautiful. She just walked in. Okay. But I want to tell you, Menace, that I'm glad we're here, because I had two near death experiences in one week.

What?

What, dude? Well, first, I walked on fire. Where? I was in Las Vegas. I mean, Las Vegas. You were probably in Las Vegas. I was in. Of course. I was in New York. I went to a Tony Robbins seminar. Do you know Tony Robbins?

Yes.

Okay.

I've always wanted to go because I have a lot of friends who've been very successful in business and like, the minute before, they went on to make like a million dollars and be successful. And I saw them change a lot.

By what?

And I know people. Motivational. It really moved me. It was four days, 12 hours a day. But you walk across hot coals.

Are you serious?

I swear to God. And you put it like he puts you in this. I mean, his whole thing is about not just like positive mindset or motivation, it's about changing your state and how if we change the way, like, our body has so much. Our emotions create our emotions, and it was just all this stuff. So we trained to go on fire and to walk. Like, you say this thing and you stand up straight and you breathe. We did a meditation. I walked across fire.

Wow.

And it was really cool.

At least you got it on tape somewhere.

I know, but it was dark and cold and snowy. It was like. It was 7,000 people in the conference. But I was like the first 10 rows, so it was pretty cool. I walked on fire.

I walked on fire. That's amazing.

I know. Isn't that cool?

Yeah.

And I was telling drew. He's like, Dr. Drew. He's like, you did what? That's crazy. Because he loves everything that I do. I'm like, no, it was a life changing, life altering. Because before you walked on the fire, you had to give up something. Like you had to find something that you want to work on. It was really deep, intensive, emotional self help stuff. And it was. It's like, you know, what do you want to give up in your life? What do you want to change? What, something you're struggling with.

And you picked up. You picked something easy like not getting married or something like that, right?

No, Ironically. Menace, thank you for saying that. Is that I. It's funny because it was one of these things where I usually hate this. Like, turn to the person next to you and tell them what you're saying. Like, like, I don't know you. But this woman next to me was like a life coach too. Not two. I'm not a life coach. She was like, stuff happened. She totally got my jam. And she was like. And I said something like, I can't. I don't remember what it was. I'm like, well, I kind of feel like I can't really commit and I've got. I don't remember what. It wasn't strong enough. She goes. And then she kept pushing me. She goes, I don't believe you. I don't believe you're thing. And then all of a sudden I thought, you know, I have a really hard time being vulnerable and I need. I mean, we all know this, but I was like, I'm. Because we were going to release something when you walked across the fire, so I released the fact that I'm never vulnerable and I'm going to learn to be more vulnerable.

So I might start crying on the show today.

No, I'm kidding.

Hopefully not.

Not in the show. I'm not. I'm not feeling it right now. But. But I'm saying that's. And it just, it just inspired me.

Well, I've made you cry. So before the show started, I'm getting a little insight. Before the show started, Emily said, oh, I. I listened to podcasts that we did in 2011 and we were much more funnier then, but I. And I think they were more funnier then because I would make fun of you, but then you would cry and say that I was mean.

I never cried. It was only when we had guests or we were shooting our Bravo show. And Menace was like, bravo's here, I'm gonna. And it was like things you never said to me. And it was rude and I never cried.

Oh, you always called me out on that Saying that I played whenever there was.

You did play it for the cameras, which worked. Cause they loved you. And putting every friggin episode. Because he trashed me. So they're like, oh, it's reality tv.

We need some drama. I didn't want. But I did that on my podcast.

I'm not saying we were funnier and better. Actually, you heard the. I said it was interesting because, okay, we've got 2,500 podcasts and that's a lot. And there's a lot of them that aren't on itunes. You can go now. There's 200 and something, but they give you a limit, as they should, and so people can download them. But I thought, God, some of these are really. We used to do five days a week, an hour a day, and 2011. They were pretty awesome. And I was just laughing. And it wasn't so much that they were funnier. I didn't say that. I just said it was. We were both at different times in our life and it was. I was single. You were. I mean, I'm always single, but you were single. We were like doing more social things and I don't know. But anyway, check out those throwbacks because I'm releasing them now and they're funny and they're like. I don't know, they're interesting. I don't think we're more adult, I guess. Kind of. I mean, I don't feel like I'm adult, but.

Me neither.

But we have a guest.

We do have a guest. Lynette. Lynette, Carolla's here. We already talked about you.

Can I just say thank you?

Hi, Emily. Hi.

So nice to see you too. I'm so happy to be here. Can I just say, menace you are cannot be further from a menace.

Oh.

She loves me.

No, but I'm a huge fan. I listen to the show all the time. Should I put the headphones on? Sure, yeah, if you want. And I just. I couldn't. I didn't podcast one. I've never been here. It's amazing, right?

Okay.

Wow. These things are squeezing.

I know.

You can.

Oh, yeah. You can get your other ones if you want.

No, these are fine. I. I just didn't. I just didn't. I didn't know what to expect and I. Manis does not.

Well, how did you picture him?

I thought I pictured him that age. You're. You seem young. You look young.

Yeah.

Yeah.

He's not as young as he used to be.

I know.

Yeah, but more like that skinny, like tattoos or Something.

Oh, oh, menacing.

Yeah.

Oh, yeah, because the name.

Right.

No, that's Menace. He's like, kind of a guy to.

Meet, by the way.

We were just talking. This is funny.

Okay, you want to explain it?

Yeah, go ahead.

Actually, I don't know if you know this, but there's this guy named Adam Carolla.

Right.

So we worked for this company called cbs, and they launched a bunch of radio stations called Free FM, and they're talk stations.

Right.

And in 2006.

In 2006. And I. I was working on the station, and Emily was doing a podcast that was very popular on itunes. And the bosses there were like, we should put this girl on air, even though she has zero broadcast experience.

Never been in a radio station in my life.

But you were podcasting.

I know. In 2006.

No, no, no, no.

There's FCC regulations. Like, you can't say masturbation every five minutes. You can't say cocktails. Yeah.

Jerking off and all that.

Right, right, right.

And so they're like, hey, you know, can you look after, you know, this woman? Yeah. The word board. And make sure, you know, she doesn't get the license taken away. And then. Which I would have a heart attack every five seconds and have to dump her out when she. She would say, I can't say blow job on the air.

I would say it on the air.

She would say it on the. On the air. Why are you dumping me? I can't say blowjob. So she would say it.

I would, like, literally makes your life miserable.

That was just the first month or two.

First.

Anyway, so that's how we met FIA fm. It was really cool because I started the podcast. I know. 2006. And he was like, a young, young lad. He was, like, sleeping at the station because he was, like, living in his car. That was right after you were living in your car. Menace is, like, uber successful now. I'm amazing to see how much he's grown.

No, I was doing a morning show before that, and I. I thought it would last forever.

What morning show? I'm just.

It was called the Doghouse morning show in San Francisco.

Oh. But Adam was on Free fm, free of frame, the morning show every day, but he was syndicated in every city. I was just in San FRANCISCO Saturday nights, 11 to 2.

So what happened was I thought, you know, I was a young kid. I thought morning shows last forever, which they don't. And I got fired, and then I didn't save any of my money, and I got that job at CVS where I was Working part time, making no money. So I'd be. I would like sleep at the same time.

I'm just saying. Cause I'm impressed by how he's the hardest work. I know. Anyway, that's how we met and we.

Didn'T talk Good morning cinema.

We didn't talk to first few years because we just did the radio and then we became friends and then it's.

Been eight years that you spend together. You make a very nice couple.

Oh, thank you.

I don't know who this Adam guy you guys keep referring to, but you guys.

I'm so excited.

I'm so glad that you've and I've been on your show. For crying out loud. We talked about your podcast which people can find@adamcarolla.com is that what you send them?

Yeah, you just go to AdamCarolla.com and you look at the other shows and it's up there for crying. Just click on for crying out Loud.

Okay, got it. Cool.

So what's it all about?

Everything. Well, it's. My co host is Stephanie Wilder Taylor. She was sort of the first mommy blogger that was like drinking and getting drunk at nap time. And one of her first book was best selling book was Sippy Cups or Not for Chardonnay. And she's just a funny author, writes books. She has a new book coming out, Gummy Bears something.

She's gonna kill me.

Oh my God. But she's great. And we got together and Adam is doing his shows and we were sort of building network and so we talk about, you know, most of the time, I mean not most of the time, but we try to keep it like family. What family?

Except for when I came on.

That's part of it though. We talk about relationships and marriages and you know, we talk about everything, you know, kids and other people's marriages and relationships.

But you're really open too and it's very like relaxed and gives, you know, good advice and talk about your share your experiences where I think we all learn from each other.

Right? Right. Right. Yeah.

So it's a good time.

Yeah.

And so I was on her show actually on that show and we had films.

You made it filthy.

I did make it filthy. Yeah.

Our show.

Cheese spots.

Yeah, yeah, we go, you know, we go filthy sometimes. But yeah, no, I wanted Emily on our show because she's done. She's with Loveline, you know, with Drew and I just thought she was, you know, he moved out here from San Francisco and it's just like, just. She's just a You know, interesting person. I just like talking about you.

I know.

Well, I also like talking about sex, too. I know.

Good. Well, that's why you're here for a little.

I mean, 20 years with the same person. I know.

Can we talk about that?

Yeah, we can talk about that.

Should we just get into it?

Yeah.

20 years.

20 years. About 20 years coming on in December.

Yeah.

Yeah. So with. Well, we broke up. I mean, for about almost a year. And my heart was broken.

Before you got married before?

Well, we got engaged, and.

We got engaged, and it was because I wanted to get engaged. And he. It was right when he started doing Man. It was right at the height of the man show, and he never experienced. And I met him before. I met him right before. Right. Three months into Loveline is when I met him.

Oh, okay.

So he's still living in an apartment. Still living. Driving his crappy car and all that kind of stuff. And we were together then. And then as we went on, he got successful, and he wanted to see what life was like as a single guy. And I was like, let's get married. Let's get married. It's been, you know, four years now. And even Jimmy Kimmel, his best friend, who was married at the time and had two small children, was, you know, he's a big family guy, Jimmy Kimmel. So Jimmy was telling him, like, what's going on? When are you getting married? And then Drew, his other partner, is like, so, like. So he's in between two family guys. And I'm like, yeah. And I'm, like, best friends with Mrs. Kimmel and Mrs. Drew and, you know, and, like, family.

Yeah.

So, like, let's get married. And even Jimmy's wife found the. The wedding ring that I still wear to this day. Actually, I'm not wearing it right now. It broke, but.

Got out of a gumball machine.

But that was before he made money. Yeah.

And anyway, so they kind of. He got pushed into it, and so we got engaged, but he wasn't ready. And then I came home from work one night. We lived together in the same house. And I remember Van Halen was playing on the Klos. I just remember. And I walked in, and he opened. I was fumbling with the lock, and he opened the door for me, and he just started crying. And I was like, what's the matter? And he said, you know, I can't. I can't. I can't. I can't get married. He just went on a trip with Drew, and he was talking to Drew about it, and Drew Said, you have to let her go. You can't, because, you know, juggies are throwing themselves at him.

Yeah.

You know, at the time, they dang.

They dang.

Yeah.

Big question.

I was like, how old was he at the time?

He was like, 36 or something.

Okay.

Yeah.

And it's a huge television show.

It was big at the time. And listen, he was a, you know, a contractor. He didn't get famous until he was 31. And, you know, he didn't experience anything as a single guy.

So he was. Because he was just so. He wasn't getting laid. He wasn't getting.

Right. I mean, he was getting laid by me, but.

No, before you, he hadn't really.

Right. Yeah. He wasn't a lady.

Second you get on tv, it's like.

Right?

But he was not a ladies man. He always had just one girlfriend at a time kind of thing. So Drew said, you gotta let her go, dude. You can't. You're gonna. She's too. You know, you don't do this to her. And he came home from that trip with Drew, and he started crying, and he said, I gotta. And I started. I was like, on the floor, like, I feel like I'm gonna throw up. That kind of like just coming out of his skin.

Yeah.

Just couldn't. I remember I went over to. To Jimmy's house. I couldn't sleep in the house that night. And I went over to Jimmy's house, and Gina was hugging, and I was crying. And I'll never forget. Jimmy walked in, and he was like, I'm sorry. He didn't know what to say. He's just a sweetheart. He goes, I'm sorry. And then he goes. And then two days later, I was still on the couch, crying, upset. Like, I was a mess for a long time. And I stayed at Gina and Jimmy's house for a while on their couch, and with cousin Sal. And Jimmy came in one night, and he goes, ah, you're still with the crying. And he's like, listen, Lynette, he's not that great. He's like, I'll never forget. Magic words. He's not that great.

That is so funny.

All of a sudden, I snapped at him.

You're like, you're right.

You know what? You're right. And then.

And then.

How long. What happened? Did you start dating?

It was about nine months. I had. I got my own place. I moved in. I never lived by myself. I always had a roommate, so it was a whole new thing. Gina Kimmel helped me throughout the whole thing. She Was God bless her. And I started loving being in my own place.

Right.

I was coming home. I was working at ABC Network. I was coming home after work. My friends, my girlfriends were coming over. We were doing bongloads, watching Survivor.

It was great. Sounds like me.

Oh, my God, it was so much fun.

That's so fun. So then what, did he circle back, or did you not talk for those nine months?

No, he always had his. He always. He kept in touch a little. Like, he would call and say, do you need one of my guys to come over and install the shelves in your room? Or whatever he kept. Yeah. And then around nine months to a year, he started to come back around and he'd say, I. On a Friday night, he would say, do you want. I'll come pick up food and come over and we'll watch Boy Meets World together. Because that's what we used to do, right? And then I'm like, I did. What's going. Are we gonna. Do you wanna get married? And he said, yeah, eventually I do. And then we never talked about marriage again after that for a long time. And then, like, three or four years later, when the man show ended, he said, you know what? I think it's time we start planning. Well, I said, hey, what's going on? All right, you know, man show's ending. Whole new world. And he said, yeah, all right, let's start planning wedding. And he was. It was the best thing that ever.

Happened to him because he kind of came to it on his own.

He came to it on his own. Nobody pushed him into it. He went and experienced life as a single guy. He dated a model. I know he dated a model. He dated a model. And he experienced it, but he always kept in touch with me. And then, you know, he did what he had to do, which was the best thing. But if you told a brokenhearted Lynette back in 1999, I wouldn't. I mean, I was coming out of my skin crying. My boss would have Comedy Central on in his office. So I go in his office to cry, and it would be like, man show, Monday night, Saturday night, commercial.

Oh, man.

Anyway, so that's.

But that's somebody. But you went on and had you date too, I'm assuming.

Yes. And I hated everybody.

I did.

I wasn't into it.

I know, because you just loved him.

Well, here I am 20 years later. Okay, now. Now I'm thinking, wow, what I showed.

You was I so excited.

I was. I show you. So you're not. I should have taken advantage I mean, I, you know, I dated a couple I didn't really like.

Your heart was.

My heart was still broken.

Right.

But, but, but listen, here's the thing. The good news is, is that we, we love each other. And we're still, I think, the biggest thing, and I think we talked about this maybe when you were on my show. But the biggest thing I think is important is that we're attracted to each other.

That is huge.

That brings everything. Because even if you're mad at the person and you're like, it's been, you know, just in this funk or whatever, there'll be a time where he walks by or she walks by and they're like, oh, let's get it on. And then you get it on and you start to feel, you start to feel connected again.

Exactly. That's, that's what that is really important. I always tell couples, if you don't, people are like, oh, it's very common for couples to be like, we're not attracted to each other anymore. You know, we can't really. We're not having sex. And I'm like, well, did you have it at the beginning? And there's a lot of couples who say, no, we never did. I'm like, well, then there's nothing to get back. But if you have it and you maintain it and you prioritize it, right, you're good. You got the attraction. Because you need the attraction.

Need it. And he's my type. He was always my type.

And what is that, like, type?

Like just tall. First of all, extremely intelligent, you know, funny. All girls say that, but we all say tall.

Funny.

Yeah, but just. I like that Jew. I thought he was Jewish. I'm full blooded Italian. I thought he was Jewish. Name was Adam. He had a Jew fro. I thought he was Jewish for like a week. And he was like, no, I'm not Jew. I'm a little Italian. And I was like, oh, really? I was let down. But, but yeah, so that's the thing. You got to be, you have to be attracted. So we had, we were attracted to each other then, you know, still track. Attracted to each other.

That's good.

But it's, but keeping it, like, do you guys make efforts to, you know, keep it.

Yeah, he, I mean, we do. And he, he knows that obviously by working next to Drew for, you know, 12 years on Loveline, he knows what you have to do, you know, so he'll say, well, you know, if it's been a while, he'll say, you want to go on Date night. You know, Saturday night. Let's go, like, make reservations for Morton's Steakhouse or whatever.

You know, it's important. And you have two kids. Yeah.

And I never turned down a blow job ever.

Really?

Always. That was like my thing. I believe I'm saying this.

No, it's fine.

He's gonna kill me. Yeah, I've never. Yeah.

Never turned it down. Meaning he offers you his penis and you never say, no, thanks.

Well, yeah.

Right.

No, thanks. I'll have the steak.

I'll have the steak. Yeah, I've always. I don't know.

No, that's good. I feel the same way I feel. I mean, I haven't been in a long term. Well, two and a half years.

She's never even lived with a guy.

I never wanted to.

No. I kind of. I'm envious. Listen, you know, you die. I'm envious of that.

I know, I know. It's like I go back and forth, but it's true. I feel like we used to joke years ago about how you get married and there goes your last blowjob. You know, Everyone jokes about it and I think that's a big deal. You gave a brick and blowjob.

You have the sex.

It's like. I always say it's like going to the. I've said this so much lately, but I'm like, It's like going to the gym. Like it's. Sometimes it's harder. Or even the sex thing. Blowjobs. I agree. You should just do it. And guys should also go down on their partners.

Yeah, definitely.

You should just. I mean, how long? 10 minutes. And it's so much better rather than the rejection of it. The rejection.

And it's bad. Yes, it's bad. It's not good for a guy. You can't. I don't know, I just feel like you can't reject.

Exactly. I totally agree. Because I was. Go ahead. Because I have to find another analogy.

It's not about blowjobs, but being together for.

Since he hasn't had one in a long time.

Please. So I have an example from like last night. And I wanted to ask you, since you've. You've been married 20 years and how do you deal with maybe things that your partner does that irritates you?

Yeah.

So my. So my girlfriend is never on time ever. All right. So I said we were going to this like, really exclusive, like, foo fire show last night.

Oh, wow.

And he does cool stuff. And I was like, yeah, we have to be there at 5:30, right? And it's like seven minutes from our house. She goes, okay, okay. I was like, we have to be there at 5:30. And of course, this is a huge issue in relationship. Yeah, yeah, of course. Takes her sweet time. And then we get to the venue and I. Seriously, by 30 seconds, somebody was supposed to corral us to go backstage to go hang out with the band. We missed that window. And then she goes, we missed the band.

I'm like, Cause you're doing your hair or whatever.

Goddamn late. Because of you, you know, late is a. And that's like. That's like always like my number one.

See, this is fixable though, you know? Yeah. That's your number one pet.

Yeah.

Well, you have to work on it.

How do you deal with.

Well, I was the late one all the time too, with. With him. And I think it was date number four where I pulled up late. And he's like, hey, listen, you gotta be on time. That's enough. Like, you got to be on time. If I say be here and with him, you know, with Loveline and radio. Yeah. So he's like, you know, you gotta be here on time. And he's like, you know what? You're. He's right, you. I have to. So I made it a point. He's right, I have to be on time. So I don't know. Menace.

No, no, Menace, I gotta tell. This is something that I just studied with. I was saying earlier that I went on. I went to see Tony Robbins last week. I was in New York for four days.

Oh, wow.

Yeah, it was inspirational. Cool. And I walked on fire. And I decided I was gonna be vulnerable and all this stuff.

That's nice.

But the second thing. And oh, I said, I almost died twice. I had a really bad flu. But that was bad. Cause I wanna wrap up that story at the beginning. But the point is, he talked about this stuff about limiting beliefs that you have about yourself and what are the beliefs that you tell yourself. It could be like, I'm too old, I'm too young. I'm never on time. I can't be on time. And how do you change those belief pattern? So I was talking to a friend of mine who, she's like, I've got. She goes, I'm always late. I'm always like, I don't know what to do about it. And she actually read a book. There's a book. I'll get the name for you. And it's about being late. And she said. We were talking about it and she said, there's A moment in the book, this thing that stuck with her in the book that says, you decide that you're gonna be late. Like, you know that moment that you're gonna be late. And she said. And she's learned. Like, she was. She's chronically, like, hour late. Like it's a problem. Like, it's. She went to a support group, like a 12 step.

What?

No, I'm serious. This is a good thing. And she was like. I realized finally. And then I brought it up to her again, and she was like, last week, she goes, oh, my God. I was about to go to my therapist. I was leaving the house. And then I realized after we talked, she was. I sat down and I was gonna start. Oh, this would be a good time to start crocheting my scarf. And then she's like, wait, I'm gonna get up. I'm gonna go. And she's like. And I was on time. And it's like, you make the decision.

It's a decision you have to make. You have to decide. And still to this day, sometimes where we're getting the kids ready and we got to get in the car and we're going over to somebody's house for dinner that we're invited to or whatever, and Adam's like, wheels up, six o'. Clock. You know, get the kid. I have to get the. Now I have to get the kids ready and stuff like that. But I can't blame it on the kids. It's. It's me, you know, because he'll. If it. He'll. I said, I'll say, well, the kids, blah, blah, blah. He'll say, listen, you were. Wait, you know, before the kids, you had this problem, so you need to work. But I worked on it. And so now with kids, even, you know, a couple.

How did you work on it, though, even before the kid? Sounds like you changed.

Well, I had to make a decision because I don't want him to get mad at me. I was like, all right. You know, and he's right. So you make the decision, and it feels good, you know, it does feel good.

It does. And then it gets into your DNA. You start, like, it gets into the grooves in your brain. And my brother had the same issue with his wife when they first started dating, you know, like 20 years ago. And it was the same thing. People underestimate how much time things are going to take, too. So he's like, you take an hour to get ready. He would tell her, like, she was one of these. Takes a lot. He's like, so just make sure you get in the shower. And she did it. Like, she changed. Not late. So, yeah, you got to put your foot down. You gotta be like, listen, this is really not, like, in a joking way, but just, like, this is something that really bothers me, and this is something that's becoming an issue, and if we got it, think. Tell me what, you know, some solutions I have is maybe just realizing it could take you an hour and, you know, whatever it is, and then see what she says.

But I want to. I want to dig in deeper, though, with somebody that's been married for 20.

Years, you know, well, married, like, 11, but together. Yeah, together for 20 years. Yeah. Yeah, yeah.

But, like, how do you deal with pet beefs?

With them?

Do you just, like, straight up tell them?

Like, there's times where I talent, you know, hey, by now, it's. We've gotten past all that. It's sort of weird how relationships are because there was a time where I would sulk and not say anything and hold it in, and then I would blow up, and he didn't know, you know, or he would sulk, and I would say, what's wrong? I would know. See, I pick up when on. He's sulking, he doesn't pick up.

Right. He can't.

He's got a little bit of, you know, Asperger.

Well, no, guys, that's what you said.

On Howard Stern, right?

Yeah. Did he say that?

He said someone at Asperger's. I don't know if it was Adam. I think it might have been Adam. Yeah.

I think.

Did you hear the whole Howard Stern?

No. Okay. Yeah. I didn't have. I didn't.

Drew was on Howard Stern. He was hosting the Wrap up show, and it was like. I guess it was the most popular Wrap up show they've had. And he analyzed every single person. And then you heard about Adam, and I thought he said.

I'm sure he did. I know I said it before.

Being from Kevin and Bean, they said that it has.

It.

Yeah. They don't pick up on emotional cues. Yeah.

Yeah.

Which can be hard. As a woman, we have a lot of emotional cues.

Oh, my God. Very hard. And then when you start seeing it with the kids and stuff, he doesn't pick up on.

You know, I think it's a man thing, though, too. Like. Well, with women, we don't pick up the signs at all. We never. We've talked about this a million times how we don't even know if a girl even likes us or not.

I know, you don't know if they're interested.

You know, they gotta.

Yeah. But for men, as pet peeves, just. You gotta. Don't hold it in. You gotta get it out. And then after a while, they start knowing each other. You start knowing what to do. Like, I know this is happening. He doesn't like it, I gotta fix it. And he. Vice versa, you know, he'll come and kiss me good. I don't know. Be a little more lovely, whatever it is.

If you're like, yeah, I want to kiss goodnight.

Right.

And you start making. And I think that menace. Maybe it'd be good if you start communicating these things, like in a direct way with her.

I do too. Like when I.

But you probably make it seem like, whatever. You probably make her feel bad about it more than you do. Say, hey, listen, this is really something that's bothering you.

Because you know what? I do, dude, I'm just.

I know you better than anyone.

No, no, I'm just. What? I noticed that she's upset. I. I don't know if it's a good or bad thing. I tried to ignore it.

Fix it.

No, diffuse it. Defuse it right away. Like, I can tell that she's mad.

And then all the stuff you're like, YSL bag.

What are you doing?

I'll say like, oh, look, there's Dave girl. Yeah, I'll just keep on looking at her while I know she's like really upset. And I'll say, why are you laughing so much? Why are you laughing? And then like, seriously, within a minute she'll.

Yeah, but honey, that just means that you made her laugh, but doesn't mean that you talked about the laugh.

Yeah, yeah. Then we talk it out.

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Yeah.

With this. So what were we talking about? So Madison needs to work on communication. I'd like you to come back next week having resolved one issue with her.

Okay.

That's your assignment.

My thing is the. The late thing, too, because my dad was always late too, which annoyed me.

No, people. This is, like, very common. I mean, this is something you can work on, though. Do you want me to find out the name of the late book? Would she read it?

I would like it because I could use it. I know I need.

Yeah, I'm late too. A little bit. Not too bad.

But I got late here today, but.

Had nothing to do with her lateness. This is really late.

Like, your husband and I are in a similar industries, but I mean, like, he's like, on a way, way higher level, but it's like, yeah, you have to be there on time at this time.

You can't. Like, the radio goes on, like. Right, I get it.

That's all.

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I know. I've got no information, like, are we just gonna show up and get on stage together? Like, there's nothing.

Dennis is great. He's a pro.

Yeah. Yeah. But am I a pro?

You're a pro, too. You guys are gonna be great together.

And then I had some stuff That I wanted to talk to. There's a study that came out, 10 science proven facts about married sex. And I thought. And since you're in a long term, I thought we could talk about some of these. Okay. All right.

Okay.

And this is actually a lot of these studies are kind of bs but this is Kinsey from the Indiana University, which they do all the top sex studies from there. So I actually give it a little bit of credibility. More credibility than most. So number one is the grass is not greener on the single side. So how many times on TV or in movies have we seen a merry dice shamed by the bachelor buddy for settling down when he could be playing the fields?

Yeah.

The fact is that married people have more sex than single folks. They say in the research, they confirm this finding that 61% of singles reported that they haven't had sex within the past year, compared with 18% of married people.

Well, it depends on who's the single person.

I know.

Right.

You might have caught them in, like, an off month or something.

I mean, I don't think that's the case for you, Emily. Right.

No. Yeah. I call it off.

Yeah.

I can cut.

It's gonna come off sexist. But a woman can get.

Just a warning.

A woman can get laid anytime that they want. They can walk outside if they really wanted to. If they really wanted to.

If they really wanted to.

Yeah, but a guy can do that.

Yeah, you can. No way. You just gotta have more confidence. And you gotta be nicer to women.

When you meet them.

No.

If you wanted to. If you wanted to. Just like a girl.

Right.

But you would have to really work at it to make it happen. Like a woman, honestly, just steps outside and says, hi, I'm here. I would like to have sex.

And you'll have true. Because, you know, with Tinder and everything speeding it all up, you can get my friend, you know.

Oh, my God. I cannot. I'm meeting my girlfriend. She's a single mom.

She's okay.

She's a single divorced mom full time, works full time. She can't meet. She can't meet anybody. It's so hard. And. But she'll put in, you know, that she's all the criteria she is looking for. And it's still. It's like she'll say, look, Lynette, this is what I have to choose from. You could tell by the pictures that they're not doofish.

Hey, beautiful.

Yeah, not gonna work. But I just met this woman that showed me her Tinder profile, and it's like, sexy pictures of her. She's a nurse. She's. Because she's a nurse, right? She doesn't look like that when I see her. But these pictures are artsy, sexy. And I'm thinking, now my girlfriend who's single, I'm like, you gotta get your. She's. I'm.

No, you should. There's like a certain.

I'm dying to be on Tinder. I would love. I would love to be on Tinder.

Someone just did. Oh, Mike. Catherine was saying that he did a fake profile. He did? Yeah. You could do it for. Talk about your show. Be funny.

Be fun. I think it's fun. I mean that, you know, I mean, I did it.

I just can't log in now because of something happened with my. Whatever. But I was doing it for a while. I had a fake. I had a blind Tinder date on my show a few months ago. But I don't know if you remember the last time I.

What about Hinge? Have you heard about Hinge?

Yes.

Hinge is supposed to be great because Hinge is a dating app that connects you just through Facebook, friends only. So you have to have a mutual friend. And then coffee meets Bagel, which is. Which we've been talking about for a while, but it's. It's now I feel like more and more people are using that as well. Where. Yeah, it's like, it started in San Francisco a few years ago. I talked to the founder, and you're supposed to make a. Emily so connected.

I am like, she's like, in that, like, Silicon Valley area.

Funny.

They always joke.

Venture capitalists.

Seriously.

My friends would joke in the office or jealous. My team always jokes. They're like, how do you know? I'm like, well, the founder, because. Because it's San Francisco. Like, no one was entertainment.

No.

No one gave a shit. What. We're like, what Radio tell. We were on the Bravo show. No one has tv.

Yeah.

No one cares.

Right?

Unless you're at, like, a dot com.

They're like, I'm so sorry. You're in tv. I don't have a tv. I'm like, oh, that's cool. But here it's like, what you did. What? But yeah, I mean, coffee meets bagel. I think it's like, they set you up with pretty good, my friends. It's a little higher caliber. I had a conversation with my friend in San Francisco today because she's been on everything, and she just said, it's. I think you set up for a lunch or something or maybe It's a group. I'm gonna butcher this. But it's a site that's been around for a few years, but apparently it's. Since two people have told me about it in two days, I feel like.

It'S taking this other one that's out of San Francisco, where the guy has to make like a quarter of a million dollars to even.

That's just living in San Francisco, right? Wow.

Well, you have to. In San Francisco now you have to make $142,000 to buy a house.

Yeah. Yeah.

Did even think about buying a house.

And then San Francisco. It's beautiful, though. That's Adam. And I love, love to go there sometimes. If we have a romantic getaway, that's.

A great place to go. Go to Sonoma Napa. Yeah, that's where I win the whole time.

Met your. Your husband for the first time at the Starlight Lounge.

I was there too. That's where I met him. He was. Because it was cbs, it was cfm, and they were bringing an Adam. He was the big. He was the big name.

Yeah.

So funny. They set him up like it was like a. Like a prom photo.

He didn't say hi to me. I was sure he looked down and.

Didn'T say hi to anybody.

I just, like, walked him in, then stood him in front of this background that looked like a bad, like, 80s background and, like, made everyone line up and take a photo. But he was very nice.

Adam is very shy in front. Honestly, in front of people.

He.

Not shy, but he. It's. It's uncomfortable. Yeah, it's a little uncomfortable.

No, I get it.

If you want to, like, know, you gotta meet, like, sit and talk. Like, how we are, like, in a room. Totally.

We'll have him on. We'll talk about, you know, what you said, everything about your sex life.

Okay, so we'll play them clips.

It says, okay, the next one is, on average, married couples having sex. How frequency frequently. People always want to know this question, like, what are the right number? I mean, I never want to say there's anything that's normal. Like, you should have it. It's whatever.

Yeah, that's what I want to know. Emily, what do you think?

I mean, I think that couples who have more sex more frequently, this study says, too, are happier. Like, if it's once a month, it's probably not enough.

Right.

And they've even said, well, if you both agree to it. But then if you're both agreeing to once a month and you're not connecting, you need that Intimacy. The intimacy is the glue that keeps you together and from being roommates, which I always say. And so this study says the majority of married couples are having sex a few times per month or once a week. And past research corroborates this hitch. Couples had sex 66 times a year or a little more than once a week. So it says that. And single people are having a lot less. But I'm wondering, like, because I was thinking like the single there, maybe they're talking to singles. Like, because if they were talking to singles and singles, like, we have a lot less sex, right. If singles have it like once every few months, it could have just been in that month. Because when you're single and then you meet someone new, then you have sex eight times a day.

Yeah, exactly.

So I'm not sure, but that I believe all this.

Listen, I'm jealous of the single life right now.

I know, but see, it is. The grass is always green. So true.

But it's interesting. Like, I want my girlfriend to get hit, hooked up.

I want to meet her. You should all go out. I want to meet any more single women here. Okay, I do. Like, I. This is my year of not working as much either. Like having a social life.

Yeah, Getting out there.

Getting out there. I mean, I do it, but not enough, but.

So you're gonna stop dating people that you're not interested in?

No, I like this guy now that I'm dating.

Okay.

Yeah, totally. No, I mean, he is a guy that I've been dating casually for six months around and it's.

Wow, that's a long term relationship for her.

Wow, it's been so casual.

How is casual? What does that mean? Like, you hear from him.

It means we're not. Yeah, we're not like committed, seeing other people.

But like, there's times where you don't hear from him for a while.

Yeah. And then it got a little weird because you can only do that for. So we were friends first.

Right.

And I actually met him looking for apartments when I moved here. He was just moving from San Francisco as well. So that was like our connection. Like San Francisco. And then we just became friends. And then eventually we slept together. And it was interesting because I could. Then I realized it was very casual and it was the point where it wasn't as consistent. And then I was like feeling like. And I'm so not the girl. Like, I've never had the talk. I've never been. But then I felt like, this doesn't even. I actually liked it better when you're friends because you were more open. And now it's like, I know you have a date, that's fine. Just tell me. Because I'm the kind of person like, let's. Let's talk about it. Let's be open. It wasn't as much, but now.

Did he want to date you more or did you? I mean.

No, see, this is the thing. We never talked about it because. Because I just. I didn't.

That's the.

But now we did. And then we decided. Then we thought, okay. I mean, it's not. We decided that we're just gonna, you know, see what happens. It's evolved more to the sense of.

Wait, are you guys going steady now? Or what?

We're going steady? No, not exactly. But we're more communicative about what we want. And if we are seeing. Because it was kind of like this elusive. But the point is, what happened here, and this is what I told him is like, I finally. I had to be the one that. To bring up the talk, which I've never done, and it was more of the talk. I'm like, this is the talk. But without, like, what? I know how it's gonna end. It's just that. Or how. I don't have a fore drawn conclusion to this. It's just that you can be like friends with benefits. You can be anything for a while. But all relationships have to move. Like, they have to move and to evolve, right? Otherwise it gets boring. Your friendships evolve. Menace and I have evolved like an old married couple, you know, girlfriends. You're like, oh, we get closer and closer. That's what's so exciting. But if it's just we're gonna hook up every few weeks. We're not. It gets kind of, you know, it's like Woody Allen said, like, you know, relationships have to keep moving or they're, you know, what do you say? Like, they're a shark. A dead shark.

Wait.

Oh, he said.

What did he say?

He said, relationships are like a shark. You have to keep moving. And he said, and what we have on our hands is a dead shark. When he was. It was a nanny hall, anyway.

All right, you're still talking like a politician. What was the end result?

The end result of the conversation was that we really like each other and that, you know what?

You're gonna stay how you are.

No, we're not. We're gonna.

We're gonna talk.

Talk more about what we're figuring out.

They're communicating more. They're communicating.

We're communicating more. And we weren't communicating because we were just, like, playing it cool and I'm really busy and I was dating other people, and he is too, and that still could happen. But I said. I said, we can't keep doing the same thing. I would like to at least talk about the fact, like, are you dating? Am I dating? Like, are we gonna make plans? And then he wasn't. You know, we should just make a plan.

Right? Right.

I can't. I can't. Don't. Why'd you ask me about this? I know. I'm kidding. It's fine. The point is, it's evolving and I like him, and that's all that was. Can we just cut that? What the hell? Okay, so let's keep going.

Running for Senate later, dude.

Hey, Emily. Does it. Does talking about married. I probably know the answer. Is she talking about married life bore you? No, I love. Okay, dude.

This is what I do for a living. And it's so funny because I'm fascinated. I feel like I help.

I'm fascinated by single life.

Well, we could just swap stories. But I think it's fascinating and I love helping people. It's funny because you're like, how can you help? What are you listening to me? Tell them. I like how whatever story, but I find it fascinating. And I think that I could help a lot of people because. And I'm just interested in how people make it work because I actually started this podcast because I was really cynical about relationship. I mean, coming from a family divorce and all that stuff, I just thought, four divorces. I thought, I'm gonna get to the bottom of it. I want to understand how what makes relationships work and what doesn't. So when it started as a podcast, it was just me interviewing married. Yeah. And I'm fascinated by it too. And I think there is a science to it. There is a. You know, it does all come down to communication and sex. If you stop having sex, people are like, oh, it's okay. Because we'll get to that after the kids go to college. You gotta keep it going. You gotta give the blow jobs. You gotta have the chemistry and you gotta work on it. So, okay, the next one was. Sex is pretty discreetly correlated to satisfaction in marriage. So men and women, it says, for instance, one study of Australia note that men and women who were dissatisfied with their frequency of sex were also more likely to get express overall lower sexual. Sexual relationship and satisfaction. Which makes sense. If you're having less sex, you're not happy. And I agree. Sex is the glue. And it's like we worry about so many other things like building the deck or where to go on summer vacation. But the second if you realize that you're not addressing it, it's not going to go away. The sex thing, like it's, it's like people think, oh, it'll heal itself after the laundry.

No, it's like going to the gym. You know, you sit there and you become middle aged and you look at your body and you start going, well, what, you know, I'm getting overweight or whatever. So you got to go to the gym, you got to work out or whatever. You got to maintain. You got to maintain. And. But after you do it, it feels good. So it's like you kind of realize like, okay, it's been a while, let's have sex. And then after you do it, like we should do that more often and feels good. And then, you know, then you go into this thing where you do it for a little while and then you start, you know, he's busy, he's gone.

And yeah, I mean, but you're right, it is the glue. It really, it really wants to go.

Because I'm sure when you had kids too, it was probably hard to get it, keep it going.

But yeah, I mean, with twin.

Twin boys?

Yeah. Boy and girl.

Oh, boy and girl.

Okay.

I thought they were boys. Twin boys.

Because she's like a boy, that's why.

Oh my God.

I mean that's.

You got your hands full, right?

Yeah.

But I always say that it is like going to the gym. And then today I was like, I always say that. So what's another analogy? I was thinking about a lot of times people ask me do things, you know, go out to a concert or be for dinner. And most. And my first reaction is always like, like usually it's like, no, can I get out of like I don't like making commitment around issues. But then I thought, I've never regretted any. Like, I don't have a lot of regrets, but very rarely have I been like on the fence about something. And then I went and I was like, that sucked. I shouldn't have gone out with those people or gone to that concert or gone to the gym, had sex.

Right.

You're not like, why did I freaking have sex?

Right.

So I just feel like when you're thinking that in your head, like just think, say yes. Say yes to the bojob. Say yes to the sex.

It's all a decision. It's boils down decision in the moment.

By moment, making decisions that are Healthier for your relationship.

Yeah.

Can I go back real quick? Because she kept on saying, I'm fascinated by the single life now. Is it just because. Is it kind of like if you're watching Sex and the City and you just want to see all the juicy stories. You want to hear about it?

No. I'll tell you what. My best friend. Well, two of my best. The closest girls to me are both single. One is she lives in Malibu and she's happy to be single, but she's. She's gorgeous and she has. I think she has a little bit of intimacy issues and she has a wall. But she doesn't meet anybody, though. That's the problem. Like, she doesn't. She's Malibu, too, in isolation. Yeah. And so it's hard for her.

Wouldn't she be, like, lonely?

She doesn't get lonely at all.

That's crazy.

I know. That's the. Yeah, she's. And she's very close to me and my kids. She loves my kids, so thank God for her. And then my other girlfriend, I grew up with, and, you know, I saw her get married. I saw her have the kid. They had the kid at 18 months. They got a divorce. He want. He wanted the door. She didn't. And he moved on and got, you know, into another relationship quick. And she had, like, you know, five years of trying to deal with, oh, my God, you know, my whole life has changed. All she wanted to do was be a wife her whole life. Like, I just want to be a mom and a wife. And she's completely changed now. She's worked on herself, she went to therapy, she goes to the gym and all that kind of stuff. Her hair is brighter blonde, she lost weight. She looks great. And now she's, like, completely a different person. Like, she's like, let's go. Like, you know, I want to go meet people. And I'm with her. Like, I'm excited for her. Like, I want her to meet. And we went to New York and we had a blast. And we sat. It was so impromptu. It was one of these things that happened. Like, oh, my God.

These people. We went to the Howard Stern studios, dropped off Mangria.

Okay, Mangria, wait, we didn't even talk about that yet.

That's fine. And we dropped it off for the Stern family. And then we asked them, where should we go for happy hour? They said, downstairs is del fresco. You should go to the restaurant. We went there. We sat there from 4:35 o' clock on a new York rainy day until midnight. And we watched guys come and go and we. People watched. And she sat across from me and literally there was a group of guys that were talking. There was about five of them in the group. And I said, suzanne, I turn around and look at these guys. And she turned and we. Not one, not one ugly guy.

They were such good looking men in suits.

Maybe it's the suits.

I love the suits.

It is the suits.

Just go buy a suit, guys.

If you go, yeah, guys need suits, go buy a black suit. And so they're all standing there and. And then she's like, do they have wedding rings on? And I'm like, well, two of them don't. No, two of them don't. And then the two that didn't, you know, we kept then what do you do? At that point? She's like, I don't know what to do.

I'm like, go talk to them.

Just go talk to them. And then. So I don't know, I'm like, should I go talk to them? And we didn't. We just sat there and watched and we watched guys come and go. And in New York, they're so. Guys are so different because they're, they seem more genuine. And I think that everybody goes to New York because they want to work in the finance industry or, you know, and they want to build a family. They want a family. And people that come here, guys that come here are Peter Pans. They don't want that. They're the opposite. They want to be a model or whatever, actor or an executive. I mean, it's, you know, at a network or an agent, it's like, it's like, come on, it's too superficial. And, and guys in New York, you just, you know, they're just normal like guys.

And they ask you out in New York too.

They're very direct.

Yeah, I mean, I don't have guys. So did she meet a guy?

She met a guy. Yeah, she did. She met a guy and she just had fun. Like, she was just talking with him and she talked to him. Like, I got tired at midnight and I left and she stayed and my other girlfriend was there too, and she.

I wanted to go. I know next time I'm going on the girls trip, I always get my.

Emily would. Jaw drops, walked right over and started talking to the guys.

But so bad to you, Minister, your question is that's. I'm fascinated. I love, like. Because I haven't been single in a long time, but I can live vicariously through my God.

Yeah, that's what I'M saying that's what excites you, is to hear the story.

Totally.

My friends do that, too. I'd be like, how's your marriage? They're like, tell me about you. And I'm boring. But I love hearing about witch because I want to, like, help or listen or anything.

Right. But I want to hear about you because you're having fun, you know?

Yeah, I am having fun, and I just told a really bad story about my guy. But because. Because this is evolving in a way that I can't actually ask her about.

Some of her old stories.

I'm fascinated. No, but you know, Emily, I'm fascinated by how.

Successful that you are and how busy you are, but yet you date so much and you meet so many guys and you have.

I do. Well, it seems like you do. I guess I get asked out.

It seems like you do, yeah. And you guys. And you have a lot of sex. It seems like I do. You do. And it's like, it's I. And I love, like, who. Who do we know that's open about that? Like, totally open. Beautiful girl, successful. Hey, here I am. I have a lot of sex.

Yeah, I have a lot of sex. And a lot of sex toys.

And a lot of sex toys. Fascinating.

I think she's very outgoing and very approachable. Yeah, I think that's what it is, too. So guys feel comfortable to ask her out. I mean, I find it exhausting and draining being around her more than five hours. But I think that's why I think a lot of, you know, she's not off putting.

Right.

You know?

Yeah, I'm chill.

Definitely. Yes.

Or you find as a man, you. You can find a lot of women that off putting, they seem like they're not even interested to even be around.

Well, that's what I'm trying to train my girlfriend Suzanne, to not. Look, she's not off putting, but I.

She's shy, right?

So it's like, don't look. Don't look like you're, you know, stuck up or whatever, you know, practice.

So this is like, what do you.

Want me to do? Well, what do I do? What do I. I'm like, just relax.

It's so funny because I was just talking to Sick. I feel like all my friends are single now. But she was saying the same thing. She goes, I think that guys think. And she's beautiful, smart. She said, I think guys think I'm stuck up, and I think guys are intimidated. And she's the sweetest. I said, you know what? You got to do. She goes, but I tried it. She told me this. She said, I went into Starbucks and I smiled at some guy and I just smiled. And then he came over and he was like, you have really nice legs. And she's like, I wasn't into them. But I realized that I so long. She does have nice legs. But that I said to her, that's what you got to practice. I'm like, I want you to five times a day. Like when you walk into a public, put your phone down, smile. Because men probably think you're not approachable because you're hot. And you're like, probably have a rushing phone.

Right? Right.

So I think the phones are also.

That's another thing. Don't sit there, look at your phone.

Just say hi. Just sit there, smile. And that's, you know. And I actually one of my things that I truly. And I've been this way since I was a kid. I love meeting people. Like, I could go into a room, my favorite thing is going to party where I know nobody or around by myself.

It's interesting.

I know because I just truly look like, who are you? Who's your story? There's no one around me there. Like, oh, have you met my boyfriend? He doesn't talk to people. I gotta worry where he is, you know. No, it's me alone. I can do whatever. And I just, I love, just store with people. I love connecting. It's like, it gives me juice use.

Yeah.

So I think I've always learned that. But people, a lot of people aren't. And that's just people got to work on it, right? Put down the phone.

Yeah, put down the phone.

Tomorrow.

But then the phones, guys, I mean, what, what city does she live in? Is it San Francisco?

She lives in la.

Oh, la, okay.

The poor single girls. I feel bad for my single friends in la. I really do. Well, I'm like, go to Chicago and meet someone.

You love Chicago.

Well, I always tell my, my buddy buddies also who live here on the coast, like they have problems also with meaning women. I'm like, dude, travel to like the Midwest or something like that, you're not gonna have any problems. Because the women there are so approachable and nice and they're like genuine.

That's how we feel about the guys, us girls feel about guys in the Midwest. Like I told her, I said, go to Chicago, I have family. Go see some Chicago.

No, but it's amazing if you're, I.

Mean, visiting fucking la. Sorry.

No, I mean, I was born in.

Cleveland, but my family Moved to when I was seven years old. So I grew up here.

The trust. You guys are nice, but I get.

Bored to meet people. Just friends, at least.

Yeah. Yeah. What do you think, Emily?

I mean, I think that as far as dating, or as far as, like, where.

What city has great guides?

It's so hard because every town that people live in, they say it's the worst town. Dating, like, New York's like, oh, every guy's just like, you know, working for his career. And women are always chasing the bigger, better. They say, la. Every guy's chasing the bigger, better. Deal. San Francisco, no one asks you out, ever. I'm like, the guys there check their balls at the Golden Gate. I'm like, really? Yeah. And so I don't. What is the best. I honestly believe that wherever you go, there you are. And that you can find someone wherever you're at. I don't care if you're, like, in Des Moines. I mean, I'm from Michigan. People find love, and you just got to put yourself out there. And it's so easy to blame it on the city, but what are you doing lately to meet someone new? If you're doing the same thing every day and you're not changing up your mood, your pattern, doing something different and putting yourself out there where you might be a little nervous to go to a party that you don't date for, but you got invited. Go. Yeah, well, you're not gonna die.

You sound like my husband. Adam says the same thing.

Does he? Yeah.

These people that say I can't meet anybody, it's like, no, you can.

There's go billions of people. You're gonna find somebody, right? Yeah.

You got to put effort into it.

You do. And so I'll talk to your. We'll all have drinks. Yeah. It'll be fun.

For sure.

I really. I really.

Well, you can join us. We're going in Burbank after this, but I mean.

Yeah.

Burbank. That's awesome. No, we. We have to get together with my.

No, we are. We're gonna do that thing, and we're gonna do our live show, and then I was gonna ask you. I mean, you know, I had some sex questions for you, but you. No, I wanna know. First of all, how's it going with. We talked about the G spot on your show. I brought you a special toy, too.

Yes. My whole life I've heard about it, but I'm always the girl that has. Has the orgasm.

It.

You know, literally.

Right.

That's good.

So I.

At least you can have that. A lot of women can't.

Really?

Oh, yeah. Really?

During intercourse again. And. Yeah, that's hard.

Okay. Yeah.

But.

But I need help. Yeah. Right. Yeah. It needs to be stimulated.

Right? Of course.

Right. Okay, so. But I. The G spot. I'm like. I don't. I don't know, do I?

I brought you such a goodie bag here.

Okay.

I brought you.

No, wait, look. Oh, okay. Yeah.

Oh, the other thing. She's gonna freak. But this is the gift. Jeju. So this is my favorite. I've heard you talk about this. Okay. So this is. I talked about the Mimi, which is the clitoral one, which, if you like that, this is the Uma. And this is like all about G spot. It moves it. It's.

Oh, my God.

And it's rechargeable and it's beautiful. Like, you're just gonna.

It looks beautiful.

Thank you.

I got some other stuff that we'll go through. Thank you. You're welcome.

The really cool thing, though.

That's awesome.

Okay. So do you know about my.

Oh, my God. Of course. I hear about it all the time. No.

So I got you on.

Oh, my God. Thank you.

It's the crave.

Thank you. Oh, my God. I have the crave.

The crave vesper. And it's. Yeah. I mean, look at it. It's like.

I know. I hear you talk about it all the time. I went on your website and looked at it. I've been wanting to buy it.

I just. Oh, and I was talking to you yesterday. I'm like, okay, so wait, now tell me what kind of vibrate, because I already got something else you're gonna love. But I need to know.

I love it.

I know. I'll show you how it works because it's really cool. It's already charged, too.

Really?

Yeah. Great bus perk. So check it. Check it. I hope you.

I know.

I'm gonna have a fun sitting in traffic.

What did you want? Did you want one?

It's like Christmas hair or something.

Totally.

I know.

Okay, we gotta wrap it up.

I know.

This is awesome.

Flew by.

I know. I'm so good.

Forever.

I know. You can come back on.

I would love to.

And then we're gonna do our live show, so. And I have to give all of your. Your info, which is AdamCorola.com to listen to it, which is say C A, R, O, L, L, A.

Yes. Thank you.

And then. LynetteCarolla. LynetteCarolla on Twitter.

Yeah. Instagram. Twitter.

It's all on Facebook.com LynetteCarolla Instagram. And we'll have this all on our site as well.

Thank you.

And for crying out loud. Is your podcast. Check it. It's a really frigging hilarious, funny podcast. It's popular. Thank you. Congratulations on that.

Thank you.

And Mangria.

Mangria. Yes.

I've never had it. I just hear Adam talking.

I have it for you.

I've been hearing about it for years.

Years. I don't even know, like, what.

We should have poured some during the summer. I know, but yeah, here's the white. Here's the red.

We'll mix it a cocktail and not.

White wine, you know, I'm telling you, it's really strong. It's.

That's all we need to know.

19 proof. What do you call it?

Wow.

Yeah. And it's not. It will. You'd have like, one. You pour it over ice, it's ready to pour. Pour it over ice. And one drink just melts. When I come home, like after a day of like, stress, have a glass of that in. All your stress just melts after one glass.

Where is it available?

It's. It's available at. @ bevmo. A lot of. A lot of our retails doing well.

Right?

Yeah. Yeah. Go to mangria.com corolladrinks.com and click in your area. You'll find it. Yeah.

It'S. I like to pour that over something right now and drink it. Something cool for our next show. And then we'll be at. Do our drunk show, which we just talked.

About.

Up. Yeah. Okay. Well, Lynette, thank you. So.

Glad. Thank you so much. Menace. Nice to meet.

You. I know Menace is better than she thought. Thank you. Madison, produce the show. Love you. And thanks everybody for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedback with.

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