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You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com but you can check out my blogs, my podcast, my videos, and be sure to sign up for my mailing list the second you get there, because you can. You can get a report the five biggest mistakes you're making in bed if you're a man or a woman. And also, we'll send you emails. Not too many emails. Not like an annoying sense, but with more details to help you improve your sex life. And I would love to. I'd love to hear from you. As always, email me feedbackexwithemily.com I'm very excited for tonight's show because my special guest is Shindell Chanel Preston.

Chanel was on last year with Samantha Saint and their episode was like our most popular episode last year. And they're both porn stars. And they were the. You guys were the avn. You were the awards. The host of the awards ceremony. That was really fun. So Chanel does porn, but she also launched a great new website. You guys gotta check it out. Nakedwithchanel.com which helps people shed the inhibitions and negative attitudes currently keeping them from understanding themselves better. Don't we all know about that? So we're going to get into that and a lot of Chanel talking about her and her life. And then we're also going to be reading the emails tonight. Topics are tips for being clean when you're having anal sex. A woman can't orgasm and has tried every single trick in the book, even the magic wand. We've got to help her dick cheese questions. If you listen to last week's show, a woman called in. She had a problem her boyfriend's penis smelled like dick cheese or smelled like cheese. We're getting into that and how to have more powerful ejaculations. But first, I just need to talk to you all about something. Anderson. And I'm with Anderson. Why are you laughing?

We're doing a whole dick cheese segment now.

Dude, dick cheese is gonna become a whole new thing. I mean, apparently, I got emails about it.

I don't like it. I don't know if this is a road we should be.

I know. It makes me kind of nauseous and hungry at the same time. I don't know why I haven't eaten dinner yet. The cheese part. Not a dick cheese. Whatevs.

That would be. You know what? Back in the Vietnam era, I used to watch a lot of Vietnam movies, and they'd call each other cheese dick all the time. Oh, I wonder if that has anything to do with it.

No, I think it just smelled like cheese and she was concerned. Chanel, I'm gonna fill you in on this one. You're gonna have to help me answer this. Okay, so here's the thing. What I want to talk about is talking to your partner about sex. Because this comes up, like, all the time. I mean, I really think it's one of the top questions I get asked or one of the top answers I give to people is like, you just gotta talk about it. So last night, I was at this dinner party with a bunch of girlfriends, and, you know, some old, some new. It was great. Cause I don't, you know, just. I moved to New city. It's great to meet new people. And of course, I walk in, and the host, who I've been friends with for years, like, oh, Emily, tell everyone what you do for a living. Which sometimes is a little, you know, I know the whole conversation, what you do. I told him what I do, and there goes the night. We talked a lot about sex, and to no surprise, one woman who was sitting next to me, she was a new friend, super cool woman. And she said, you know, she has three kids. She's been married for 10 years. And she said, you know, I really want to talk to my husband about sex, about something that I want in bed. And I really don't. You know, I haven't talked to him. I'm like, well, do you guys ever talk? And she says, no, we actually have never talked about it. And so here's the thing. This no longer shocks me because I just hear from people all the time. It just makes me kind of sad and kind of riled up because I just want people to start talking to your friggin partner or whoever you're with. I don't care if you're with them for three nights or you know, 30 years, you have to talk about sex. So you've heard me say this over and over again. Communication is a lubrication. But I'll break that down for you and what that means that it's imperative that you talk to your partner about sex, period. It's never ever too soon. It's not like you gotta wait a month or three months. So we bring it up the second your penis is inside her vagina or your vagina allows a penis to enter, or two vaginas or two penises, I don't care. It's time to start talking about or at least expressing what you need in bed. Because I've been amazed at how many people are having sex, like a lot of sex. And they never ever, ever, ever talk to their partner about what they want in the bedroom, long or short term relationships. And I get these emails to you every day or people on the street. My wife doesn't want sex, my husband won't perform oral sex. And what do I do? I really need it. And the thing that is that sex is the most important one, most important things in a relationship, especially when you're not having it, it becomes the most important thing and you need it to stay connected. But no one knows how to like broach the subject. It's like this. You can talk about everything else in the world but sex. But it really is some of the most important work that you can do with your partner. And it's like it's about being vulnerable. And I just want people not to be afraid because you're already with this person. And in fact you have to be vulnerable to have a healthy relationship and have to have great sex. And if you don't take risks in a relationship by being vulnerable, you're not going to have great sex or relationships. And through talking is exactly how you will get the love, intimacy and the sex that you've always wanted. Because a lot of people I think, get confused. They think, well, we're intimate, we have sex, but it's the talking about it that'll keep you closer. So that's why it's ironic because we're in relationships, we're having great sex. You could be having orgies or threesomes or doing crazy, you know, whatever stuff and, and you're still not really talking about it, you're not being vulnerable and therefore you still won't have the sex you want because it's not going to magically happen. I think a lot of you think that you're going to find the perfect partner and this partner is going to know this man or this woman is going to push, like, all the buttons that I need. But the problem is, even if they know at the beginning, we all change. We're in a relationship and our desires change as we grow and evolve over time. And so the issue is a time passes and you never talk about it because maybe it's great at the beginning. Like, we all have great sex at the beginning. I hope that's our wisdom on three, six months, nine months. And so you think we don't need to talk about it. But if you. If you take your old. Like that's the thing, is that things passes and you think, well, how can I start now? Because we've been together nine months or nine years, and how do I start now? So I think it's important to first think about what you want to say. Like, take your own, like, sexual inventory. How do you like to be touched? What feels good? What gets you in the mood? What. What kind of mind frame do you have to be in to have great sex? And if you don't know, and a lot of women, they don't know, they don't take the time exploring their bodies. That's a great thing to do first. So it's masturbation month. We've got 10 days left. Happy masturbation month. I will never stop talking about it till it's over. Because if you're. Maybe you don't even know it feels good. So take the time, you know, figuring it out so you can actually explain it to your partner. And just because something might have worked for you 10 months ago, it might not work anymore. So how do you start the conversation? That's the next thing. Like, this woman last night was like, well, how do I start? We've been together 10 years, and I think the best is always, like, outside the bedroom. You don't want to start saying, well, honey, this is what I need, when you're actually having sex. So you just got to start. It's like ripping off a band aid. You know, make it positive. Don't say, you know, honey, we need to talk about our disastrous sex life, because that is just going to be just going nowhere. Rather, I know we both want to feel good sexually, so let's talk about how to make it even better. Or you can say something like, I love when we have a night together and have sex without distractions. Last week was so amazing and you made me feel so good. And let's talk about more things we can do like that. Because you can. And you can also start by reminiscing. I think this is a great thing for couples. Talk about back to the first time you had sex together or that was really fun when we, you know, it was really exciting when we used to make out all the time. So just do it like remember it's not a one time conversation. And once you start having the conversation about sex, you're going to see that you actually enjoy it and you learn about each other and you get closer and, and you grow together and your sex life will be better. So that's what I gotta say about that. And let me know how it's going. So start tonight, talk to your partner.

Two mimes can't have a good sexual relationship.

No, they can't. They need to mime it out.

Then you know what, talk to your partner about that. Speaking from experience there. Mm, yeah, it is. It can be uncomfortable and awkward sometimes. And I think maybe like whether it's your picture book or any kind of pictures might be a good starting point.

You're true. It's true. Okay. I wrote a book called hot Sex. Over 200 Things yous Could Try Tonight. People always email me that they use my. But you can get on Amazon or my website. You open up the pages, colorful pages of people having sex and pick a position, be like, honey, let's try that tonight. Or watch porn together.

You point the pictures and you don't even have to talk about it at first.

Can you do that with your wife?

Have you ever thought about making a pop up book? Pop up sex book. Not bad.

Dude, that's a million dollar idea.

Coffee table.

My book is a coffee. It used to be over there. Totsacks. It's right there. I'll show you. It's like, I mean it's like, yeah, you can grab it at me while you've had phones on. But it's like, it's like you don't have to read the book from front or listen to the podcast together or watch porn together, right? A lot of couples, you know, guys do it on their own, but they think they don't, you know, watch, watch Game of Thrones together, right? And just be like, this is what I like. That's what you know, if you don't know yourself. And then that's a great like third party way where you could be like, oh, what do you think of that we go to a sex toy story even? What do you think, Chanel?

No, I agree. And I think part of the problem too is that some women don't know what they like. So that's also a problem with communicating is they're like, well, I'm willing to communicate, but I don't know what I like.

Right, exactly.

So I like the idea of watching things with your partner and pointing out like, oh, that turns me on. Or I like that. And kind of figuring out what it is you like about it and talking about it at the same time.

Exactly.

And then it can lead to something.

Even you never know what it's going to lead to watch. Chanel, what's your most. What film do you love? Like, would you like to promote that you've done that you think would help coup or that you think would be great for couples to watch together?

Oh, my gosh. That I've done. I don't know. I shoot some crazy stuff.

Well, it doesn't matter. I mean, it could be. Yeah, I just. Whatever. Anything or any porn. Good starter, maybe.

Well, I mean, there's different companies that tend to shoot things that are aimed more towards couples. There's new Sensations. They're really great because a lot of their movies are very high quality. Feels like a real movie. And it's definitely the plot. The plot is great. Generally they choose the performers that can act.

Right.

So do Sensations. There's also Wicked and Digital Playground. Those all are story based.

Porns. But not to say every woman wants a story.

No, exactly. And I hate to be stared. I hate to be stared at, but you know, I hate that on the show. You guys know that. I know that we're all different, but sometimes there are certain, there are certain stereotypes.

It's an intro and then girls who are used to it, you know, then they branch out and they're like, I like browsers where there's a small storyline but it's, you know, not a whole movie. And then they get into the crazy gonzo and they're like, I love watching that girl get choked.

Right, exactly. And then they're like, okay, maybe we want to try something different. I mean, because honestly, if your mind, if you're like, I really don't know. Because a lot of women don't fantasize as much as men.

Right.

So I think porn is a great way. Or reading erotica or whatever it is that can get you thinking about new things with your partner. I love it.

I actually recommended this to a lady who emailed me about not being able to speak to her husband. And I suggested buying an erotic novel and when she's home alone, maybe reading it out loud to get used to saying certain things or seeing what they're saying.

Right.

So that was a suggestion.

I, that's a great suggestion. Or reading it together sometimes I think it's sweet when couples read it together. I think that's a great idea. I think all these things, it's other, other things out there that can help you communicate and have better sex. So what else are I going to say? Okay, this week, just by week. So I was today, Anderson, I was in playboy.com for giving oral sex tips, which is exciting. And then also women's health, talking about the clitoris. It was a big press day, so I was, it was, it was, yeah, oral sex.

And you realize if I, your father, I would have had a heart attack before you finished. I know, Greg, I was on playboy.com today for giving oral sex.

I wasn't giving oral sex. I was talking about it. There's a lot of press stuff. And then I was also on Brandi Gland show. You know, if you watch the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Atlanta. Is it Beverly Hills? No, I was on our podcast. It was, I mean, I, I, I watched some tv. I was, I had a show on Bravo for years ago and they literally made me watch Bravo because I hadn't, it was like getting a job at a radio station and I don't ever listen to radio.

Wait, before you started doing your reality show for Bravo? They made me watch.

They were like, you need. Yeah, I had to get a TV. I hadn't had a television in 20 years.

They're like, we won't put you on our network unless you watch our network.

Like, Emily, it would be helpful. It makes sense. Like, you couldn't go work driving a truck if you never driven a truck.

Yeah, it's true. But we want all our truck drivers doing the same thing. I don't want all our shows like.

Acting like a truck. I know, but you just like, there's like the sit down interviews where they ask you and you have to talk to us.

I had that issue the other day too because I was talking to an agent. They were talking about where I would fit and they were like giving me names of people and shows and I'm all, huh, right.

They're like, you gotta get right. Especially living in LA too. People are like, that's all anyone talks about. Like Game of Thrones. Like I've heard of it. I Don't watch it.

I've never seen it.

You guys would love it.

But when I was there, Brandi Glanville show, which is really her podcast. You could check it out. It's also on podcast one where you can find Mom. We like, literally her show. Usually she has guests on for 15 minutes. I was there for an hour and a half. We were just talking about.

What are you trying to say? You guys loved each other?

No, we were. We did love each other, but we're both like single and women or we're like kind of like men in some ways, and sleeping around and having a good time. And then Larry King walked in.

You're kidding me. No, I was like, fucking kidding me. Larry King.

Larry King. Well, because I was doing my show after, and then he came in. He was there with.

With Norm.

Yeah. And I was like, oh, my God, Larry King. I was like, do you want to come on my show? Because he's been married like eight times. I was like, I promise I won't ask you about all eight marriages. I didn't say that, but I.

You could be number nine.

Yeah. He was with his wife, though he might have been younger than me.

Was he wearing a suspenders?

He wasn't wearing a suspender. I posted on his.

Disappointing.

I know. I don't think he was just bond down cash. Yeah. With a very young, beautiful wife.

All right, off Larry David, back to porn. Larry David. Sorry.

Larry.

Larry. Larry King. Larry King. I almost said Larry Clark. Hey, speaking of gonzo porn, not that I'm a guy, I don't even understand gonzo porn. But what I found fascinating, an old co host, an old host on Loveline years ago, brought in a bunch of stuff and it was all by Lizzie Borden. Does she still make movies?

She's actually a friend of mine. She does not make movies anymore. She's been out of the industry for a while. The last. About two years ago, me and her shot together and she directed a couple.

Things, but she's not the one that we popped in. The DVD player here in the studio had a bunch of pig heads, actual pigs heads, like floating around on fishing lure. And sex scenes were going on all around these floating pig heads.

Well, she's the queen of gore. That's the thing.

I don't even know.

It's very interesting. It was super interesting.

She's into, like, gore, you know, like blah. So that's, you know, it's her genre.

That's her thing. Okay, so it's gone Halloween, and she loves all that monsters and did you.

Like was really interesting. I mean, there was nothing erotic about it for me. But her parents really had some foresight when they named her Lizzie Borden.

Well.

Because she likes horror and the macabre.

Okay, got it.

I'm kidding you, Fox. Of course. Of course her parents didn't name her that.

I'm like, what are you talking. Right, right. Okay, I got it. I get it. Yeah. I don't even know. So what? We have some calls coming and people have been waiting already to talk to you. Hi, Miguel. You're on Sex with Emily. With Chanel Preston. What's going on?

Hey, how you doing?

Good, how are you doing? Okay.

Just here I was, you know, chilling right now. I just came back from all working out.

Yeah. You're in Chicago.

Yeah. Yep.

I love Chicago. Okay, so how can we help you tonight? What's going on?

Miguel?

Hello.

Hello. What brings you? What brings you here tonight? Calling us.

I was gonna ask Daniel Preston, will she ever do a candy score.com with a fan? Because I'm actually a big fan of hers.

I don't know, what's the website?

Can you score?

Can you score?

Can he score? Is that what it is?

Yes.

I'll have to check it out. I've never heard of it. I know that there are girls that do a fuck a fan sort of thing. I've never been approached with the idea, but you never know. But obviously if I do, I will be tweeting the heck out of it.

Yeah, Miguel, you'll be the first one.

Yeah. Because to tell you channel, I'm actually the same age as you, by the way.

Really? We're like twinsies and it has to happen.

That means that you should be together.

So we need to have sex.

You're practically separated at birth.

Oh, and by the way, I also got family from Alexa, Alaska.

Really?

Where I'm from, my dad's.

Like, where. Where are they living?

Huh?

Where are they living in Alaska?

Like. Like the same as you. Like, like you said before. Remember.

Fairbanks?

Yeah.

Okay. Okay, nice. Well, thanks, Miguel. Thanks for calling. We appreciate it. Have a great night. Jesus. He wants to have sex with you on a porn site. I think that was the bottom line, right?

Yes, yes.

Good luck Miguel, with that one. Okay. Hey, Andrew.

Hi.

Hi, Andrew. Thanks for calling in to Sex with Emily. I'm here with Chanel Preston. How's your night? How can we help you?

I heard. I actually heard that Chanel was going to be on your show and stuff. And I basically wanted to say hi. And I have just Started seeing her work this year, and I am just. I am a new fan of hers, and she is just a darling. She is beautiful.

She is.

Thank you, Drew.

She's beautiful and smart and sweet and amazing. Yeah. So what would you. What was. What film did you watch? What got you first turned onto her? Which one do you remember?

Well, actually. Well, I think. I think it was on a Facebook page called Adult DVD Empire. It was a picture I saw of her, and I just. I was like, wow.

She has.

For a living. Wow. Because you wouldn't think it, like, she also has this look, like. You got to check out her new website, too, which is, like, educational. Naked with. But she's got, like. She can go both ways.

I can go. I swing both ways.

She swings both ways. Yeah. You got to check it out.

Yeah, I would have to say that. I think probably the only major. I think the only four scenes I've ever seen of her is. Is tonight's girlfriend. The very first scene, she was in her POV anal scene. And probably my favorite, I think, and it's probably my ultimate fantasy, the masseuse scene.

Oh, what was the masseuse scene?

I've done a few masseuse scenes. Those are popular.

You know, they like, are you. You're giving it or.

Well, in which was I getting the massage or was I getting. Or giving.

She was giving the guy. The guy massage. It was a. It was a student. It was a. It was a student that.

So you want to get a massage for me?

Yeah.

You want With a happy ending?

Yeah.

Take a number.

I've had a lot of stress the last couple years, and just. I mean, it's been pretty bad and.

Oh, yeah. I mean, I would treat her like, almost like if I was a date and stuff. I treat you like a regular person, like flowers and just treat you just the way you deserve to.

Well, you are very sweet.

That's really sweet, Andrew. Well, keep. Keep in touch with her and check her out at. At Chanel.

I found her on Facebook, too, so.

Good.

Well, keep liking herself.

Yeah, definitely do my Twitter because my Facebook, I struggle with keeping in contact with people, so follow me on Twitter.

Chanel Preston.

I hope to get back on Twitter again.

Yeah, do it. Just do it. It'll make you feel better.

I think he wants Chanel to put the lotion in the basket.

I know. So now we want someone who wants to have sex with Chanel, which is no surprise on a website. And someone else would like a massage from you, but he would bring you flowers.

Oh, yes.

Which is sweet. After you give him a happy ending, he'll bring you flowers.

That's very nice.

That's a good guy. Okay, we can take line three. Why are you laughing? We'll take line three. We're on a roll. Hey, Christian in Ohio, you're on sex with Emily with Chanel Preston. Thanks for calling.

Yeah, anytime. I had a question for you.

Okay. For Chanel.

Okay.

Yeah.

Chanel.

Hi, Christian.

Hi.

My question was have you did a girl on girl scenes with like on swinger parties?

You mean have I done girl on girl at a swinger party or is this. Yeah, okay. No, I actually haven't. I mean, I've been to many swinger parties, but I have not.

Engaged in sexual activity in front of everybody. But that sounds like fun. And if the opportunity came about and I was feeling the girl and I was really turned on, then I definitely would not turn it down.

Right?

Yeah.

That's cool.

Yeah. How about that?

Yeah.

Is that really his question though?

Yeah. Is that really a question?

Have you ever gone to a party and hooked up with a chick?

Has she done a film where she was girl and girl, did a girl and girl scene?

Because I see probably like a film. Yeah.

Like do you films.

Each video of porn has its own thing. What if it's in a limb or on a bus or a van? You know, everything is its own kind.

Well, I have done many girl on girl scenes. I'm sure if you google me or go find any of my movies, you will easily find what you're looking for. Because I. I have, I have, I have boinked many girls.

Yeah.

Yeah. Cool. We'll check it out.

Okay, I'll sure do that.

All right, thanks, Christian.

Bye. Have a good night.

My God.

What?

I like to think all three of those guys were like really proper. And they're like. Because when they first come on, they were talking normal. And then as soon as they hear Chanel's voice, they're like, hey, how are you? So I was like, massage girl. You ever have them? They become mush.

Right. And this guy Miguel, he would like to. Yeah. Go to a website where you can pay and you'll. And you have same birthday. So you guys are like separated at birth and you should be together forever. Right? That was hilarious. Okay, so Chanel. Hello. Okay, so tell me. Okay, so swinger parties. This is what you just brought up, swinger party. So do you go to swinger parties like here in la?

I don't. I mean, I randomly have gone to some, but I've Actually, never been to one here in la, I don't think.

Okay, me neither. I've been to San Francisco, but not here. But I've been invited to some and haven't gone. But do you. What do you think? Like, people are always asking, curious about that life. Like, have you ever been in a relationship where you were, like, in a swinging relationship or.

Yes, actually, I have. The first. My first relationship that really brought me out of my sex shell. I guess you could say we dabbled into swinging a little bit.

Was it. Did it work in a relationship? Like, was it?

Well, it was. We didn't really participate with other couples because my ex would get really annoyed because he's like, I don't think these couples really want to do anything. I think they just like being here, talking about it. And that's true. A lot of times it is what.

You just want to watch.

Yeah, people just want to watch, or they want to just talk about maybe doing it, but they never really get to that point. Which is fine because, you know, it's.

It's.

It's a big deal to share your partner with somebody or, you know, sleep with strangers or whatever, so. But yeah, we didn't really go all the way with a couple.

Right.

But we brought home, like, one. Like a girl.

Right.

Or even a guy. Yeah, we just brought home a couple.

Right. I got it. That's fine. Okay, so that's. That's good. I. I've done that. I did that. I went home once with a couple after swinger party. I did do that.

Maybe I have. I just don't remember.

It's so hard to remember all the sexual stuff we've done. But that was kind of fun. I thought, like, I don't know. And I feel like. Do that again. I'm just busy. I got my time.

So busy to go home.

It sucks. I know. No, I should do that more. It was fun. I don't know, you know, but are you mostly. So are you dating out?

I am not dating anybody. I actually haven't dated anyone in a while.

Because you don't want to or because you're not?

I'm just. I work a lot, so it's difficult.

It's too busy.

Yeah. I am too busy to go to a swinger party.

Right.

Plus, it's hard to find people that are tolerant of what I do.

Right.

I don't really want to put myself in a position to feel bad about what I do. And it's almost just not even worth it to me sometimes.

I know, right?

It's hard.

It's really hard. I think it's hard too, because sex with Emily, it's like, oh, God, here we go. Did he Google. Someone's fixing me up with someone this week? And I'm like, did you tell him? My first. Did he Google me? And I can't imagine being in porn. It's like 10 times, and I don't shoot vanilla stuff.

There's things that I'm sure if someone Googled me would seem horrific.

Right. But. Right. Perhaps. Or he could be really into it, and then you don't know if he's just in it or you know. Cause he's into that. He thinks every night's gonna be like that.

I'm always having to determine that. And actually, recently.

Someone. My friend was trying to hook me up with someone, and we were like, texting, and I thought, I should be honest with him. I'm gonna tell him what I do because he knows my friend. It would be weird if he finds out. So of course, the moment I tell him my name, I was like, ew, it's over. It's over before it began. So I actually went on vacation. When I got back, I text him, I said, did your Google search scare you away? And he's like, yeah.

He said that? Yeah.

He's like, but my friend would love to meet you. And I was like, no. He's all, no, he's really nice. I'm like, that. No.

Oh, God. I know. I can imagine that it can be really like. So when was the last time you were in a relationship? Was it with someone who was cool with it, or was it someone who worked in porn as well?

No, the last time I was in.

A more serious relationship was a while ago. And he was actually not cool with it.

See, that's hard. Someone has to respect your. Your work, I mean. Yeah, totally. So you just could. Have you just had. Would you ever date anyone in porn? Or have you?

I have once. I. I would rather not. But obviously if I met someone I really like, I'm not gonna say no. But I already know everyone that's in it. Sort of like knowing all the kids in your class.

Right? Like, meh.

So probably I prefer not to.

Right. I get it.

But when you don't, it's hard. It's always like, what do I do?

See, I hate that these guys because you're such, like, a nice, normal, smart woman. And I just wanna be like, that's what she does for, like, it doesn'.

Right. I don't need to get like, Whipped in my personal life, maybe.

If you like it sometimes.

Sometimes I feel like it.

She wants me, like every single time. But sometimes. Is that what you're in? Do you like S and M and your personal lifestyle or being whipped or.

I'm not really into full on BDSM in my personal life, but I definitely like power play. That's really big to me.

And I like, are you more submissive or dominant?

I like. I generally like to be more submissive to men, but then I also like when they can step back a moment and I can take over if it just feels right for a moment and they're not insecure about it.

Right.

But I definitely like dominant men because I have a big personality.

Right.

So when someone can make me feel, like, small.

Oh, right. That's just. Most women are more. More submissive and they. They like that. So how do you. If you're with a guy and you do, you tell him, like, this is what I want. Are usually with guys who kind of know, like, what kind of things. If you're not into. You're more into power play. So more into him. Like telling you what to do or just being like. Like light bondage or like walk me through like a. Your personal sex scene.

So generally when I meet somebody and I click with them and I have chemistry, there's already. We generally already have this idea of how we click. Like if I meet someone who I really like, dominating me, that's already. That. That dynamic's already there. It already exists. So all that I would need to say is specifically things I like. Like if I do want to get tied up or whatever, or I'll just do whatever he wants me to do.

Right, Right, Exactly.

I'll do whatever you want. And sometimes I don't necessarily like something, but I like that they've made me do it.

Right. Like what? Like, give me an example. Give me example. You have to.

So I have a friend who will come over and he'll. He teases me and he makes me do really stupid things that make me mad. Like, get on your knees and bend over. I don't know, just like funny, stupid, humiliating things. But then he won't do what I want until I do that.

And it's.

And it's sort of playful and fun. And I wouldn't do that with another person maybe because we don't have that sort of dynamic.

It's interesting. It is about the different dynamics.

Yeah. So with that it's. And I have a weird thing with denial. Like, I like people to not Give. Give it to me right away.

We all do, right? But don't you like the teasing? Because it's a build up and anticipation.

Yes, and I like that. And I like them to sort of say no to me. And I'm like, wait, what?

No to you? How no do you like when you're like, I want to have sex right now or something? Or no to you how not no.

Like, no, I don't like you, I'm not interested. No, like you need to wait, right?

You need to wait till I touch you.

You need to be patient, right?

You're like, I don't like being patient. I'm like, what?

No, Yeah, I do like that.

Yeah, I do too. And I think that a lot of women like that. Like, I'm always telling guys, like, go, when you're having sex, go five times slower than you think you need to. Or just slow it down. Undress her slowly, tie her up, make her wait, Tease her. Don't go right for it.

Like, make her wait.

That's. Make her wait. Make her wait, Tease her. Because then she'll be begging for it, which is what you want anyway. But when guys just have this habit of just like tearing off their clothes, like getting naked, and we're like, I didn't even see you walking the road. I didn't even ride. Yeah.

And then they're like, I don't know why she didn't come. And you're like, it, I wasn't pounced her ass. And.

Exactly. That's why she doesn't get anywhere. Exactly. Because. Because foreplay is not something that we're just like making up to torture y'. All. Like, you're really, like, we really, really need it. Like, we're not. We don't go zero to 60. You walked in, we looked hot, you got a boner. And we're like, still, Even if it's.

Throughout the day, like a sexy text or a little phone call, I mean, you can have foreplay all day long. You'd have it all week long.

All week long. I don't know if it's long, right. Starts. Foreplay starts with your last orgasm. I mean, seriously, I think it's so true. This guy that kind of seemed like sent me the sweetest text on the way here. And it just made me so happy. He was like, I think you're just. That's cheesy. I'm not gonna read it. But it was like, it made me feel good. And it was like something about I don't know what, but it was Sweet. And it was a little forward. I was like, oh, maybe. And I hadn't thought about him all day. And then instantly, boom. It was like, he's in my mind. And now I'm excited to see him. So, like, texting is like. Is like the greatest invention of century in some ways.

I hate it.

Cause it's like beep all day. But for men to seduce women, to anyone to keep a relationship going, those words are so powerful. So, yeah, foreplay all day. So on your. So on your. Your new website, Naked with Chanel, you give a lot of sex tips and sex advice for people. So what made you build the site in addition to the other work you're doing?

Well, I started doing hosting work with a. Like a. It's sort of E news for the industry sort of thing.

Oh, fun.

And I got really into it and I knew it was something I really wanted to do. And when I got into doing hosting classes, they really emphasized branding yourself. And obviously my brand is sex. So I was like, well, what's my approach to sex? Because I don't really do the sex tips generally. I'm not like, this is the best way to do this. How can you do this? My approach is sort of like deconstructing people's attitudes around sex and helping them deconstruct it for themselves and find out where their attitudes come from so they can change them and change their perspectives about sexuality and then they can learn how to gave a great job.

Yeah, totally.

Yeah.

So it's true. And that's what I was saying earlier about talking about is that people. I think the reason why people don't talk and communicate about my whole rant earlier is because also people are brought up with so much. So much, you know, shame, shame around sex or however they were raised. And you hold on to that stuff for a lifetime until you don't. Until you go to therapy, until you release it, you talk to a partner, whatever. Whatever it is to release the stuff that's holding you back from having great sex or having orgasms.

And some people don't even realize that it's there. They don't know. They don't until they really think about it. Like, why do I feel this way? And that's sort of the question I want people to ask when they go to my site is like, why do I sort of address like, social issues around the place?

Like, give me an example.

So, like.

Why don't. Why, like, if. Maybe if you're not, you don't support homosexuals or something, you know, why? Because it's not right. Well, but why? Why? Like, where do you get that attitude from? Anything surrounding sexuality. You can be like, why? Because I think so many people have these ideas and they just blurt them out because it's not right or whatever. And you're like, well, why?

They don't change, right? They never change. Do you know why you think that's good?

Usually don't know, Right?

No, that's good. I'm glad that you're getting people to think. Okay, I'll be right back with Chanel in a second. I have some words for our from our wonderful sponsors. So I want to thank everyone for listening to the Sex with Emily show. And I've made it my job, as you know, to give you the best show possible and to make sure that this show stays free and I can bring you to two times a week. Just take a moment and listen to my awesome partners here. So I know a lot of you out there live in the LA area or you come here often. And the Hustler Hollywood store should be one of your main destinations. After you. I don't know. Check out the Hollywood sign. What do people do in LA for the best toys, erotica, the sexiest lingerie, and most of all, the easiest way to find the answers you've been looking for to spice up your sex life. Hustler Hollywood is a perfect date night spot. Like I'm talking about, if you want to spice things up, go to a sex store. If you're in a relationship, browse their selection of sexy products. See what both gets you turned on. This way you can avoid any awkward conversations about sex and go right to the source to fulfill all your desires. Also, if you're single and you just want to have more fun during solo play, you got to see this amazing store. It's really beautiful, displaying the best products on the market today. So Hustler Hollywood, they do love my Sex with Emily listeners and want to make your sex life better whether you're single or in a relationship by offering a 20% discount if you mentioned Sex with Emily when you visit this legendary store. That's it. You can actually go to any of their stores. They have like 12 stores around the country. They have one in San Diego if you mention Sex with Emily. That's why mention sex Emily get 20% off. And in the words of Hustler, sex is free. We sell the accessories. So again, mention sex. Sex with Emily get 20% off. Happy shopping.

Hey, Em.

Yeah?

Can I tell a quick Hustler story?

Please? Do. All right.

I met a very attractive girl, like, a long time ago, long before the wife was involved. And first thing she started to do is bitch about her boyfriend. So I knew that there was a good chance. So I pulled the ultra douchey move. After just talking to her a few times in class, she was telling me that she hadn't had sex with her boyfriend for two months. I'm like, hey, let's hang out after class. I took her straight to the hustler's door.

You did?

On Hollywood Boulevard. Helped her pick out her vibrator, and then it was on.

No way.

She broke up with a boyfriend, like, the next day.

And then did you use the vibrator with her?

No, we threw that away because I just started banging her.

Oh, okay. Got it. But you could have. Okay.

Could have. Yeah.

Yeah, dude, nice move.

Yeah, that was.

You were like, hey, let's get a. Let's go to the Hustler store.

But the Hustler store is, like, a must stop now. It's, like, right there in the heart of the strip. So it's, like, right across the street from Whiskey A Go Go. There's so much history right there.

There is. And they're open late, and it's fun. Like, soon as I get out of bars, I'm like, oh, my God, they're still open. I'll go in there. It's. It's really fun. Have you been? You've been.

I haven't been there before.

Oh, it's amazing. You got to check it out. It's very. I'm sure they would live for you there. Oh, I'm gonna do some workshops there. Maybe we together or something. I would love that. That'd be amazing. Okay, one more sponsor that we have to talk about, and this is something that you're going home with. Your special prize. One of them. I have a gift basket for you, but this is my Down Under Comfort, which actually is. So I launched this new intimate care line called Emily and Tony. And there's nothing like our product Down Under Comfort. In fact, we sold out of it once because it really is that good. It's a unique cream formula that turns into a light, natural powder to keep your intimate areas comfortable, fresh, and ready for action anytime. Down Under Comfort for men and for women, can be used anywhere in your body, and it prevents sweating, sweat stains, chafing, and that not so fresh feeling. So it's like, anywhere, like, a lot of men use, like, talcum powder or baby powder. It's, like, messy and sticky, but this is like vegan cream to powder. It doesn't get messy and anywhere you sweat, it keeps you fresh, like all day. So you might be thinking, emily, I showered this morning. I'm good to go. But guess what? Poor hygiene, number one complaint for men and women. So check it out. What are people saying? This is what I got an email today after being a baby powder man for most of my adult life. Can't imagine a day without this. Girlfriend's a big fan as well. Any guy who says his girlfriend won't go down needs to try the stuff. She loves it. Balls are no longer lonely. Women can use it as well. Go to emilyandtony.com get down under comfort. Use code EMILY for 20% off your first order. That's emilyandtoni.com and I'm going to be giving some to you as well as my massage can. Thank you. Yes, we have some there too. So back to Chanel. Everything Chanel. I have so much I want to talk to you about. Okay, so your website is doing well now. You just launched it and then. Are you working on any films right now?

I'm always shooting.

Okay. Yeah.

I mean.

And you're still into it? Yeah, I love it.

Yeah.

Okay. And you do a lot of girl? Mostly girl. Like, what is. What's your.

I do mostly boy girl. I don't actually do. I mean, obviously in the span of my career, I've done tons of girl girl, but I generally don't do girl girl. That's not like my.

Right.

It's definitely boy girl, but I do different stuff. I mean, I do a lot of romance stuff because I'm a decent actress.

Good. You are. Well, obviously, if you're doing hosting and stuff, you have, you know, you are. You're able. I mean, you're great on the show. It was. Check out our last show with Chanel Press and Samantha Saint. That's how you'll find it.

Yeah.

So that's good. You can do all that.

But I also do, like, BDSM work or just hardcore gonzo.

Is there anything that you were ever like, no, I'm done. I can't do that.

No, I love that.

How could, like a million, like, I'm sure there's so many guys they could just get back. They'd be so fun and great and cool and, like, down. Like, you're like, down to earth.

I love trying new things, and I think that's what I liked about porn so much was when I got in, I had tried, you know, I tried quite a Few things, but there's so much more.

I know.

And I got in and I was like, what? And I'd see these porns and I was like, they did what? And I was like, I want to try that. What do you mean?

Bondage?

Tie me up. Like, I was really excited to try all this different stuff.

Right. And you, like, was there anything that you tried but you didn't like, but you're glad you tried it?

Well, I'm not a pain slut, so when I do bdsm, I wasn't necessarily. I mean, I would take the pain because I liked the experience of challenging myself and trying new things. But it wasn't in my personal life. I wouldn't have someone really hurt me.

Right.

But some people like that and it actually gets them off.

I know. It totally. I. A lot of people like it. Yeah, I mean, like. Like serious pain. But yeah, I'm not. I'm a little spanking. I love spanking.

Right.

But that's.

Mine is like, I like the dominance factor, not the pain factor.

Right, Exactly. I totally. I totally get that. So what do you think that you've learned, like, about your own. Like, is it. Do you feel like, since you've been. How many years have you been doing porn now? Like, four and a half years. So you've already been really open, it sounds like, in your sex life before that. But how do you think in the last four years, if you had to look at the spectrum, what do you think that you've learned about yourself?

How have you opened up? I'm sure in so many ways. But is there any particular thing that you can point to, like how you were at the beginning, how you are now, or. Well, anything you can share that would be a good tip about what you've learned.

My experience with sex and sort of my progression to where I am today.

So I had been pretty adventurous previous to porn, but not for that long. Maybe like a year or two years. It wasn't like, I always was. And I wasn't a very promiscuous person in general before that, but I was always open minded. So with the guy I was with before porn, we were adventurous and try different things. And I was like, oh, that's really fun. Wow. And that was my time to try new things. And when I got into porn, it was the same thing. I was like, I'm gonna do this and I'm gonna do this. And now that even though I still really love it, I've tried everything and I have a lot of fun doing porn. But now I really value like the connection with people.

Intimacy. Yeah.

And so I. It doesn't just cuz I'm in porn doesn't mean I have to be like flipped over into a pretzel all the time. Like I really value connecting with people because I have a lot of sex with people that I have fun with.

Right.

But I don't really connect with them on like a really intimate level all the time.

Because you're not. Right. Because it's sex. And sex is like I was saying, just like you can have sex and have a word with someone, but if you don't know them and talk to them and have the energy, intimacy and.

It feels so different then. And so I really value that. And then I also in men and my partners, I value them being like sexually aware people.

Right.

So it's hard.

So not all. It's so hard to find. It's really hard to find guys who are everything just like men are saying the same thing about women. I can't find a woman who has it all. So when did you first. Did you have like a certain guy that you were dating that sort of opened you up because you said you weren't always into sex or as. I don't know. Or into sex. Did you have like one partner that was like. I did opened you up?

Yes.

So we all need that. Yeah.

He was much older than me. And it wasn't in like a creepy way like I'm the old man. He looked very young.

He had. Right, of course.

So I was 20. I was like 21, 22 when I met him. And he was like 38.

Okay.

But we clicked. We had an amazing relationship. We're still friends to this day. But in his previous relationships, he really wanted to try swinging. And not necessarily. He was very much a voyeur. So it wasn't like he wanted to fuck other women. He was like, I like to watch. And his ex was like, okay. It said she was into it, but then it caused problems. So I think they just weren't. So when we were together I was like, well, let's, let's do this. And then we'll just communicate. If we try something and one of us doesn't like it, we'll just, just say it.

And we won't go, you're 21. That's so healthy. Yeah, we'll move on.

We won't bug each other about it and we'll just be really open and honest. And we did. And we had a lot of fun and we did things and sometimes it was like, oh, that was okay.

We're like, okay.

Yeah, you're right. And other times it was like, ooh, right?

I like that. That's fun. That's good to have a partner like that. Like, that just, like, gets you, you know? I had like that. That too in my 20s. Someone just kind of opened me up. I feel like I hadn't had it. And it just keeps going from there. Once you have it and you like it, you can keep going. So when. Oh. So what's your. What is your advice? One of the big thing for women, I think, is that they. They lack, like, sexual confidence in the bedroom. They're not, you know, either they're insecure about things, or they just don't have the confidence that they're doing something. What advice would you give to women who are experiencing that? They're like. They're just not feeling it. They're, like, afraid they're not doing the blow job right. Or they don't feel good about their body. Is there anything advice you could give to women?

Oh, that's. It's hard for me because I've been doing this for so long that it's just second nature at this point. So I've never really been in that position in so long.

Right. So. Always been that way.

Right to where I was really. I mean, but there was a point where I was young and I didn't know I was like, what am I doing?

But you always felt pretty good. I mean, I did. Same way. Like, I was never in. Really insecure. I don't. Well, maybe I was. I don't remember.

Well, I actually wrote a blog about my sexuality. And I actually talk about dressing sexy in front of my boyfriend when I was like, 18, 19, and how I was so awkward cause I wasn't sexy even though I had sexy clothes on. That doesn't make you sexy. And now it's so different. And I just really found myself as a sexual person because at the time it was like, oh, hey, honey, am I sexy? And it's like, well, no.

Cause you're standing there. Cause you're standing there as if you're sexy. Maybe women on their own. Could you just dress up sexy in front of the mirror, play music and start to feel sexy? I think a lot of it has to do with women getting to know their own bodies. Again, I can't go back to masturbation a month. I promise I'll only talk about it for 10 more days. But women do not spend enough time getting to know their own bodies.

Yeah.

And there's more to it than just, like, having an orgasm. You might not have one kind. There might be other ones. Nipple orgasm, second most common type of orgasm. Have you ever tried to have one of those? I mean, spend time. You might be lacking sexual confidence because you don't really know what you want.

Or you just don't. You don't feel sexy. So find what. It doesn't have to be in the bedroom necessarily. I mean, there's a lot of things that can make you feel sexy. Like something smelling good could make you feel sexy. Reading something, wearing something. So find something that makes you feel sexy and get used to feeling that way or somehow. I mean, if you can incorporate it into the bedroom.

Right, exactly. And also you might learn by like, reading, like we said, reading erotica or porn and just ways to.

You know, for me, it was when I started stripping.

Oh, right, you started stripping.

Yeah. And I wasn't like this real sexual girl or anything. So when I started stripping and I was dancing, I was like, ooh, this is fun, I think.

And grinding. And it was really. I liked it. And it sort of brought out this different person.

Right. So how did you get into that?

I just was curious about it, and I was like, I could be a stripper.

Right.

And it was really out of curiosity mostly, and I just found it to be really fascinating.

Did you like it? How many years did you do it?

I only did it for about a year and a half or two years before I got into porn.

Okay.

I didn't like the hustling aspect, but it was an interesting world, and I liked that it was sort of this weird, secret, gritty, underground world, like, oh, you're a stripper.

Right?

And I met a lot of. Of really bizarre and amazing people.

I'm sure. But, you know, the funniest thing about her was the guys who were like. I heard all the time, like, guy friends. Like, no, she. She really, like. They think that you really like them. Right. Like, that's her job, though. You said the hustling. Like, you really have to pretend that you like them, even if you don't. It's like, no, this one was. She gave me your number. I swear to God, she's into me. I'm gonna go back. But that's what you want. You want to go back and give you more tips.

She's a good businesswoman. If she really. If you really think she likes you.

Yeah, exactly. Like, she's doing her job, but guys really believe it. Yeah, you probably had that.

But that's Sometimes they do. Sometimes they do what? Strippers like you.

Sometimes they do. No, they really do.

No, no, no. I'm sure you've probably met guys. I've. Yeah. I have guy friends who.

I took a stripper home once and. And I talked her out of being a stripper.

Oh, why?

I swear to God, she started working at Home Depot like the next week.

What, are you kidding?

Shame her after you banged her?

Didn't shame her. I was just. Because she was a really sweet girl. She was like 19 and she was like a university.

You tried to rescue her. I did. Don't do that.

And then I flew home because I didn't even live there. It was pretty crazy, really.

Did you have sex with her and then you talked her out of it?

We did some stuff.

She's probably pissed now. She's like that, that motherfucker.

That douchebag.

He made me quit stripping. And here I'm at Home Depot and I'm still the manager at Home Depot to this day. I could have met a rich man.

Home Depot sponsor the show.

Oh, okay.

They are.

I'm joking.

Yay.

I wish. We should get friggin Home Depot to be a sponsored show. Okay, I want you to help me answer some emails and I think you're gonna be great to have some of these, so. Dear Dr. Emily Morse, it's very professional. My name is Steve. Let me first thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing all your knowledge with your listeners, especially me, your biggest fan. Two questions. First, is it okay to use female douche in my colon? If not, what? How do I keep my anal area squeaky clean for the ladies? And is there a possibility of meeting you? I'm going to attend Jordan's boot camp. It would be an honor to meet you and personally thank you for all your great advice. Keep up the great work, Stephen. So first of all, Jordan Harbanker, he's been on the show Art of Charm is his website. He teaches boot camps for men to meet to meet women and all that. He's awesome, Jordan. Okay, so I'm not gonna be there, but maybe one day we can meet. Steven, if you're ever in LA and I'm doing something, let me know. Okay? But let's talk about his anus. What would you recommend to men about keeping. Because he talked about douching and I just don't think.

You don't safe.

They don't?

No.

Well, I mean, there could be harsh chemicals in it, but what do you.

The thing with the anal area Is there's already so much bacteria in there anyway. You can probably actually get away with putting whatever up there. But not to say you should, but you don't need to put a female douche up there because they have enemas. And so you can either use the little $2 enemas that you can buy at a drugstore and you can use the solution, or you can just dump out the solution and use regular water because the solution will make you use the bathroom. The water will just sort of clean out whatever's right there. Okay, that's.

In adult film. They don't use solution.

Okay, that's a good idea. So buy it, but don't use solution. Just fill it with water.

Yeah, unless you really want it to, like, stimulate everything and get everything out. Use the solution. But you can just fill it with regular water. But use an enema bottle, not a douche bottle.

Okay.

Because it might be messy because it's where the holes are placed.

Okay.

Just believe me. Okay, I friggin believe you. But if you're just.

I had an ex who loved butt play, so he always had baby wipes in the bathroom.

I was gonna say that next. Use baby wipes.

Yeah. And instead of. I mean, use toilet paper and then use a baby wipe.

Yeah, I have baby wipes. Baby wipes are awesome for everything. Like literally have them in the bathroom. Clean up and women too, before you have sex. Be clean. Use baby wipes. They're awesome.

First cheese dick, and now this.

Oh, cheese dick is next. Thank you so much for asking. Hey, Emily. I just heard my first episode of SWE and it was fun as hell. You have a very sexy voice, by the way. But I have to ask your female listeners a question. How can you put a man's penis in your mouth with the intent of swallowing or spitting out for the prudes and rudes who listen his splooge but not feel close enough to notify him that he might have a bacterial infection. This is about the dick cheese. If any of my ex girlfriends noticed something weird like that, I would have much rather dealt with the embarrassment of looking like a dick sniffer in the eyes than the crumbling relationship that would follow. Or my dick riding off in the meantime. Side note, if I'm waiting long enough to be comfortable to mention this to a girl before I eat her like a watermelon, am I waiting too long?

This guy's a poet anyway.

I know.

I think he likes writing this.

I know. Anyway, love the show and that sexy voice, Jeff. So this woman called in Last week and she just said she's. My boyfriend went away on this five day trip sponsored by espn. It was like a business trip. They were playing golf.

Boondoggle.

Boondoggle. I kept using the word boondoggle, which no one knew, but I used to work in politics. So to explain what that is, a boondoggle was when politicians would go on like these trips to like, you know, and I would go with. I used to plan these trips to Southeast Asia and you know, to talk to like the head of water and Buenos Aires and how they do their irrigation whatever. But really it was a boondoggle meaning that you're playing golf and you're doing fun things and staying at five star hotels and the taxpayers are paying for it, but that must be a political thing. So this was a business trip, he's playing golf. They've been together a while, this couple. And she goes down and I mean he just showers and his penis smelled like cheese. And so she was very concerned and I think, yeah, she should have said something in the moment because. And she's like, I don't think he cheated. But then he said he didn't play golf, that they played golf. But then I found out he didn't. Whatever. So he could have picked something up, a bacterial infection. And she probably should tell him right.

Away, yes, I am very lucky. I've actually never experienced that.

Me neither. No dick cheese. No dick cheese. Me neither. I haven't. But so that's why I'm like, she should tell me. I say Pete. But she still didn't. She still go on and give him the blowjob.

I think she may have.

She did. People pleasers. These women are the.

So in her head he banged some strange prostitute.

Yeah. She's still. Cuz she wants to be a good girlfriend. Give him a blowjob, but don't tell him that his penis.

I don't know if she did. I don't know if she did.

No, I think she did. I think she did. Everyone.

That was to avoid last week's episode intercourse. She put it in her mouth instead.

I don't know what. No, she was going down on him and smelled the cheese.

Yeah. Girls, stop being people pleasers. Stop it.

They're not worth it.

They are worth it.

Women gotta take. You gotta ask for what you want. Really.

I have dealt with that with women, however, not with men.

Oh, you're going down on a woman and they. And it.

Yeah. Cause I.

Let's talk about that.

Well, when I. I never dealt with it until I Started doing Dom work.

Right.

And I started working with a lot younger girls.

Okay.

Just don't know any better.

Right.

And then I would. I never had anything really bad, but I would smell it on them.

Wait, what does that mean? Like, the younger girls don't know any better.

They don't know. I mean, when you get into the industry, they don't know to. Do most girls douche beforehand just as a curse.

Do you use the chemical?

No, we just use water, generally.

So they don't know to do that.

Right.

They can't recognize when there's something wrong with them. So they could have had sex, you know, all week long and picked a yeast infection up or bacterial infection. And they don't know because they can't smell it themselves.

Right. And they don't think to smell. To check.

Yeah. And they just don't know. They don't know what to look for.

Right. It's true. And so if a guy is with someone and she has that smell. We've talked about this also on Loveline. Like, it probably could be an infection if you mess up with her for a while and she showers and she's clean. You know, it could be something. So you gotta tell your partner.

And the way you approach it is. You say that you heard it on a radio show or a podcast. You're concerned.

Yeah. Just say, I'm concerned because there was. You didn't have this particular scent before, and now you do. And now you do. And now you gotta go to the doctor.

You smell like cheese made of fish.

Oh, my God. It's so true. Dude. It's bad. But it is true that women, a lot of men have this. This problem with women, and you've had it, so I got it.

She didn't have it. She's had to deal with it.

I did.

So what did you do? But did you still have to do the. Oh, it was down work.

It was down work. So I don't have to be down there in the region, but I can tell. And so I've never had to. If I had to actually go down on a girl and she was like that, I would probably mention something.

Yeah, you got to. We all got to.

I would be like, go douche with vinegar. That always helps.

Yeah, exactly.

So she was like a client that you were working on when this happened, or was it on video?

It was on video.

Okay.

Yeah.

Okay, so it was a client. That's good. But still. But still, if you're in a relationship, have you ever.

Anderson, you know, I never noticed every Vagina smells a little different, but I've never really dealt with any kind of gooey.

I think some men don't know, especially when they haven't had that many partners. I think they think maybe that's what vaginas smell like. They don't know. They're all. I heard that they can smell. Maybe that's what they smell like.

Right, Exactly. And I think that women, too, just like men. You need to just use a baby wipe before you have sex or just take a shower, make sure. Or douche or do whatever. But I always think that douching with water.

Yeah, douching isn't generally very healthy.

So I wouldn't recommend it. The enema with the water for women, not animal. But the douche with. Just replace the vinegar.

Replace. You can replace the solution with water if you want. I mean, it still will flush out good bacteria, but you won't be putting in because some of that stuff is, like, scented, right? No, like cherry blossoms.

Oh, God.

You don't want to spray, which could cause a use.

It does. It mixes with your own natural.

So you can get, like, addicted to it, right? Like you have to. Your body becomes dependent on it if you use it too much.

No, I don't. I don't think so. But it can harm the bacteria, your natural bacteria.

But there's really no reason to douche unless something's wrong. I feel like.

Right.

Get checked out by your gynecologist twice a year. Once a year. Once a year. I guess you're supposed to go once a year. I go once a year.

Is there a Pap's awareness month? Because there should be. Right. I got Pap smear awareness month, Cervix awareness month.

There is breast cancer awareness month.

We get a lot of girls that call Loveline. They're 25. Never had a public examination.

Never. God, I've been going for you gotta go.

You gotta start appointment in a couple weeks.

Good, good. Glad to hear. Oh, shoot. You know, I need to. Lauren, put it on my schedule. I gotta call the gynecologist. Thank you very much. Okay, one more question. We've got. Dear Emily, I have had issues with getting an erection until recently. I have had issue with getting an erection until recently. I believe was called caused by bad life problems. I have a female friend that I find attractive and she's teased me and this has allowed me to get an erection. The problem is I have. Is that when masturbating, when I ejaculate, it has no power pressure and doesn't Actually ejaculate, but instead flows very slowly out of my penis. I would like advice as what I can do to help to ejaculate with more power. Thanks, Anthony. Interesting. So it.

There's a couple issues there.

Okay. Yeah. I mean, go ahead.

So is he able to get an erection?

Yeah, he can get an erection, but he wants. But when he ejaculates, it just sounds like it just dribbles out. But some guys, it does. That's normal. Maybe he's watching porn where it shoots across the room.

That's what I was gonna say. Maybe he has this idea that it should be shooting across the room, and that's not true. I mean, I've had guys have really big orgasms, and they're like. And it just kind of dribbles out, and that's okay.

I think Anthony's been watching a lot of porn, but I have to say that I don't think anything's wrong in. Unless, you know. Yeah, long as it's coming out of your penis, I think you're fine. Ejaculate with power. I do have to say that doing Kegel exercises for men can also help them ejaculate. I just know this one because I have an iPhone app called Kegel Camp, and it reminds you. Do your. We talked about this last week. Do your exercises every day. And it just pops up. Time for Kegel camp. And my friend Jordan, who I talked about earlier, there's 20 levels, and I don't.

It's.

I mean, I don't even have time. He got to level 20, and he's like, oh, my God. And he's probably, like, 32 or something. He's like. Like, I swear to God, now when I ejaculate, it, like, shoots across the room. Like, I'm 18. I'm like, okay, that's amazing. I mean, I don't know for sure, but, Anthony, you could try doing calculation exercises, but if you think there's really a problem, then I would see your doctor. So those are our questions. Chanel. Anything else? So people can find you. The best place is your new website or chanelpreston.com where do you want them to go?

Well, they can go to chanelpresson.com and see me having a lot of stuff.

Sex, which they might like.

They might like that. They can't contact me through there. You can follow me on Twitter hanelpreston, and I do have a Facebook, but I don't necessarily communicate with people on there.

It's hard to do it all, man. Yeah.

Because I get so many messages, it's overwhelming.

Oh, I have so many messages.

I know, honey.

Look at Chanel. She's beautiful. I'm gonna do a little video after if you want to check out who she is. It's not gonna be a naked video, but.

But there is a contact section on my nakedwithchanel.com site.

Check out her new site. It's really cool. It's got good information and she's adorable.

Can I just say, we have porn stars in here all the time. And she's super cool, isn't she?

Right? I know. I love her. I'm so glad you came back. Thank you so much. And I will have to have you back on again soon. I appreciate. Thank you, Anderson. How was your podcast this week, Anderson?

Fantastic.

Film Vault.

The Film Vault was a good one.

Yeah, yeah.

I'm trying to think of. I'm trying to stall so I can think of it.

Check it out. People love it.

The hell was it? We had a good one though. The hell was it?

We drunk this time?

Top five racist characters.

Oh, geez.

Oh, it was fun. Yeah.

I don't even know. Okay, everyone, check out his podcast, the Film Vault. And thanks everyone. Yeah, check out my podcast. I'm trying to think. Instagram, Facebook, Twitter is all Sex with Emily. And thanks everyone for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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You know, a lot of guys will write in. I know. I just realized this sounds like I have a friend, but a lot of guys will write in and be like, you know, they have premature ejaculation. They can't last very long. They're too pumped.

Chunks.

Two pump champ. We've all heard about the minute Man.

College roommate was a two pump chomp.

He told you that? He did or were you there for it?

Both.

He's like, he would like, you know.

He was super nervous about it.

That happens to a lot of guys. Well, there's a lot of ways that guys can learn to last longer, but they can master masturbation so they could learn. Yeah. Really work yourselves up to like 10, 15 minutes and you just wait to the point where you're about to go over and have that orgasm and then you stop. You could also have her climb on top. Usually when women are on top, men are less likely to ejaculate.

That you can't control it as well.

Exactly. Well, no, when she's on top you can. Right? You can control. Wait. When she's on top, you're let. Most men are less. A lot of men are less likely to orgasm. That. Right. They can also stop thinking. A lot of times it's in their head. They're thinking about their orgasm. It's going to happen. It's going to happen. It's going to happen because it happened the last three times and think it's going to happen again. So I tell men they got to focus. They got to focus on what they're feeling in the moment, the sensations they're feeling. They can also try promescent. It's a numbing spray, actually, that helps men last longer in bed. It's the only FDA approved solution really.

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Wow. And it goes away after a while.

Yeah. Promescent. Everyone's checking out. Oh yeah, it goes away. It's not staying forever. You're not walking around with an erection for the next two years at least. If you are, let me know. Or let them know. Jews.

Right? Let us all know, actually.

Right.

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