Four Women, Four Orgasms

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend?

Cuz my man E here, he just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's got to have her standards.

Oh, my.

Do women know about shrinkage? Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

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Being bad feels pretty good, but, you.

Know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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How you guys doing?

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Doing great. Well, thank you for showing up today to talk about your orgasms as we do every day, but we don't actually record it. So now we're all here. Yay. So do you want to go around and say something about yourself and if you were a tree, what tree you'd be? No, just kidding. You don't have to say that, but you could. Who wants to start?

I'll go first. My name's Madison. I'm a vegetarian. Gemini. And I really enjoy orgasms. Obviously. And if I was a tree, I think I would be a palm tree. To be perfectly honest, I kind of of have that vibe, I think.

Yeah. Well, we do. We do have Summer Madison on Laurie's computer, anyways.

Yeah.

Right.

So that was Jamie.

Jamie. What up?

I'm Jamie. If I was a tree, I'd have to be a willow tree. Just because they're very laid back and cool and they just kind of hang out.

Aren't those the crying trees, like weeping willow?

Yeah. Okay. Well, I don't cry. I'd be a happy willow. I'd be the cheerful.

That's cool. You'd make up your own country as. As you should. Yeah. You could do combo of trees. You'd be like the happy willow, the.

Weeping willow, before it really discovered that life is kind of hard. Right. Like maybe in, like, its youth.

Pre weep. Exactly. Perfect childhood. Nothing makes you cry yet. It's a good time.

I'm Lori. I.

Just bought a new car, and it's red, and red's my favorite color. And if I was a tree, I would be a fake creature Christmas tree. Because I like so deep.

Yeah.

I like to be, like the center of a celebration. I like parties. And also I'm really scared of dying.

Right. So you're already dead. You don't have to worry about it.

I don't have to worry about it.

Good one.

Okay, Emily, what kind of tree would you pick?

You know what's so funny is that I was. I was joking with the tree thing. I threw it out. I was like, you know, But I learned so much about you girls. I think I'd be a birch tree. Do you guys know birch trees? We grew up with them, like in Michigan. They were in Canada, where I went to camp. And the reason why I like birch trees, because you can constantly peel back all the layers of the birch.

Oh, yeah.

I know. And it, like, I loved it. I would peel them off and I'd write great letters home to my parents and write off. So I like that because I feel like I'm always peeling back my own layers personally. And I like people to write all over me. Wow.

We used to call those strip trees.

Yeah.

I think you were telling me a story about them that used to. Yeah. That's so funny.

Gosh.

I had a tree there. We all have trees. Amazing. Okay, so, you guys, thank you for coming in to talk about this. Very important topics, plural. And these are the different kinds of orgasms. Oh. But first, let's do a little sex in the news. Okay. Science reveals what it may say about your personality if you're still friends with your ex. Nothing about this. If you recently noticed that your ex unfriended you on Facebook, go ahead and check. We'll wait. It could be because the person caught wind of a new and somewhat disturbing psychological research. A study published by researchers at Oakland University found that people with dark personality traits, I.e. those who are generally disagreeable, manipulative and exploitive, were more likely to be friends with former flames for practical and sexual reasons. So researchers asked these people to come up with a bunch of reasons for staying friends with an ex. And people used, like they said, you know, they were a great listener and that if you said they were a great listener, that would fall under reliability and sentiment. Being with someone who's sentimental, I wanted money from them. Would mean that you only stay friends with them. Like, it's a very pragmatic view, like, I'm going to get something from him, or we have sex from time to time. That sexual access. So here's my point. When I first read this, I was disturbed because it said there was dark psychological profile. Tattoo state, friends, their exes. But once you get in there, you realize it's own. The people are like, well, he gives me money or she gives me blowjobs. For me, it's like, I truly love my exes. Like, we really have this like deep friendship. We were together for, you know, long years ago that I even forgot that we dated, that we really connect. And it doesn't seem like it's a deep, dark psychological trait of mine. I mean, I might have other ones, but that's not one of them. So anyway, the takeaway is not that if you're friends with someone, you stay. You should like check yourself into a hospital. Nothing's wrong. In fact, if your past relationship, your post relationship, like works fine and you're happy, no problem. But if your ex only comes around when they're like, like want to have sex with you or they need something, then we know there's a problem. So I stayed at my exes in San Francisco last weekend and you know, we're friends because of the, you know, we're sentimental. We've got like this true connection. In fact, it was funny because I was sitting there and I knew that in the morning he was going to his see his new his girlfriend in New York and his suitcase was out. I was like, oh, and I brought like my sex With Emily T shirts. I thought, how funny. I'll put one in a suitcase on top of a suitcase, and that says, you know, I had sex with Emily and all I got was a T shirt. And I. And then he woke up in the morning and he, like, picks it up. He's like, this isn't my size. And I was like, I wanted you to laugh. I wanted you. Like, it wasn't like I tucked it in the suitcase so the girlfriend would open it. In fact, she knows that we're friends. But still, he was like, no, that's not my size. I'm like, would you wear it? He's like, I don't know if I'd wear it.

It's a free T shirt.

It's a free T shirt. But it was. I thought it was funny. Yeah.

And they were, like, really soft.

Yeah, they're really good T shirts. They are anyway. But no, we're just good friends. We, you know, we talk. I know what's been funny about that relationship as well is that we can, like, actually go back and work on, like, retroactively things that happened in our. Like, I was taking the somatic training and that's. I was in San Francisco and I was, like, learning so many things. I was like, well, now when we were dating and we had these dysfunctional things, how would we have dealt with these things? Like, how would we have communicated? I was feeling abandoned and you were feeling smothered and, you know, broke it down. It was a good trip.

That's.

See, even your ex boyfriends can be used in your future therapy. I'm just saying. Okay, so let's give a little shout out to our sponsors now. Give them some love, and we'll be right back.

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That's a lot of masturbation for me. I mean more like I masturbate a lot usually and I did it more.

You did, right. Cause you're a hard worker, I think, and you knew there was some hard work to do in masturbation month. But it's all about pleasure. Because our bodies have such a huge capacity for pleasure. And just because you've mastered the basics doesn't mean you should stop your journey there. Meaning you know how to get yourself off. You do three minutes with the magic wand or you jack off and you're done. We all have our go to moves and safety orgasms, but you know, you don't have to stop there. So. So with the help of my team here, we are taking you through four different orgasms, four different kinds of orgasms, sharing our own experiences with each types of orgasms. Which I think is so interesting cause I'm sure they're all gonna be very different. Cause I'm telling you women all, we get there, but we all get there in different ways. And plus some of the toys that helped us get there. So this is fun. Okay? And let me tell you this little disclaimer. Yes, this show is masturbation focused, but that doesn't mean it's only for the women, okay? Cause guys, I know you're like, I just drank off, I'm fine. But the more you learn about your partner's pleasure. And let me tell you something, there's some stuff here to be learned about your own masturbation routine. You will enjoy your sex life better and you'll be able to communicate better and you're going to love the show. So just keep going with us here. So there's four types of orgasms we're going to cover. We Got clitoral, which is common. We've all had what? We all had a clitoral one.

Yes.

G spot, slash vaginal. We're all good. We're all clear with that. Okay, we've all had one here. Blended. Yes.

My favorite.

Okay. We've all had one.

This is great.

Multiple orgasms.

Mm, yes.

Okay, good. So this is what we're covering, so we're all gonna be able to chime in. Okay. Clitoral orgasm. Just gonna give you a little briefing here. Located above the vaginal opening, has 8,000 nerve endings. Its sole purpose on the planet is to give you pleasure. That's. It looks like a little button, but for most of us, the clitoris is actually underneath the surface. So there's like, the clitoral legs, and there's all these. There's all these nerve endings that make it feel really good. Really, you could focus on that. That's where the love button is. And we're gonna talk to you about how to find it, where to find it, what to do with it, and that's when you can use both direct and indirect stimulation to pleasure it. And the reason why clitoral orgasm is the most common way that women orgasm, it's so accessible, it's so easy. We all figure it out somehow how to find it. The wind blows. You're like, oh, that's an orgasm. Shower head, pool jet, all that stuff. So how to have a clitoral. Okay, use your pointer, middle finger. You place them on your clitoris. Clitoral hood the skin right above the visual part of the clitoris, and you start moving your fingers around, and you can use a circular motion. You want to make sure that you've lots of lube, and you just experiment. That's really what you do. It's all about experimenting with pressures and strokes. And we actually covered this really well. I was going to say deep, deeper penetration, deeper coverage on clitoral stimulation in a recent podcast, Great solo sexpectations, and we take you through a range of masturbation techniques about the clitoris. Plus, on our website, tons of articles on that. You can check it out. But I want to get to my esteemed roundtable here, and I want to know how you all discovered clitoral orgasms.

I discovered. Hi, I'm Lori, the fake Christmas tree. I discovered my first clitoral orgasm quite a young age, around six or seven when I first started showering by myself. And I didn't know how to rinse off my, like, you know, lady parts. So I positioned myself Beneath the shower.

Very forward thinking, right?

To like get all the soap out of there. And then I. Yeah. And then I had an orgasm. Was like very pleased with it. Continued to do that.

And you were how old?

Six or seven.

Okay.

And then you have. Right, that's. It's the shower head. That's it. You have to slide the jets. How about you, Jamie?

Well, mine was similar. Just because it was in the shower with my shower head, it's always been able to come off of the thing, the little. The holder of it. So it's very movable. So I can move it in a bunch of different areas and it just makes it easier to wash myself. But just that's how I first found my clitoral orgasm. That way.

So lucky.

I was taking swim classes when I was like six or seven in a big public pool. And we had to like, I wasn't even deep, like deep end swimming yet. And so we had to like hold on to the edge of the. The pool and like move along. And I just passed over the pool jet and was like, oh, hey, water. They're probably like, I don't remember specifically. I remember that moment, but they're probably like, madison, come along. And I'm like, no, I'm just gonna stay here for a second. But I remember being like, whoa. Like, it was almost like too intense, you know, Like. And after that, me and the showerhead were really good friends. I figured out how to recreate it and that was a good time.

I don't actually need a shower in my house. Like, not like I only took baths. I don't know why this didn't happen to me, but that's okay. So you found it that way, which is common some women. It's like horseback riding. Okay, so that's how you discovered it. And then. Okay, we're gonna talk about a clitoral sex toys since we've all had them. Lori, you as one of your missions here, I know you've got a lot of difficult jobs, but one of them, we wanted you to try the tango. Now I know you love the Magic Wand.

I do.

But we said, here's a tango, which is a much different kind of toy, right?

It's like a couple three inches long, and it looks just like a lipstick. Like it's in the shape of a lipstick. And I. When I first saw it, I was like, there's no way this thing is going to be able to bring me to orgasm. Like, it's. I'm used to the Magic Wand.

It's huge.

And I like it, but it's awesome. It's very powerful. I like that it's a hard plastic because I'm so accustomed to, like, the silicone toys, which are great, but it's just something different. It's nice to change.

Righty. Yeah.

And it's not only is it very powerful, but it's so quiet.

It's quiet. Yeah. Whisper quiet. Yeah, that's true. And it's waterproof, right?

Completely submersible, which I love because I like to masturbate in the shower and so I can use it when my boyfriend's sleeping next to me and he doesn't wake up.

Love that.

That's really cool. So, so how is it? So usually you like the magic wand, and then so you probably think, oh, it's powerful. So this is a different kind of orgasm.

Yeah, it was a different kind of orgasm because the magic wand's head is pretty large, so it kind of covers the entire clitoral area.

Like, you put it on your clitoris, but you can't help but have. Right, right.

The bulb everywhere but the tango. Since it's got like a little slanted lipstick point, I could place it in different positions around the clitoris and like the, like from 9 to 12 o'.

Clock.

If you're looking at the clitoris head on, is the quadrant that feels the best to me. That's the kind. The part of clitoris.

Popular quadrant. Yeah, yeah, the. The right. The upper left hand side.

Upper left.

Yeah.

It just feels different. It's weird. Like, all the other quadrants feel the same and then that one is like.

No, that's where. That actually is a common quadrant for many women. So that's where you did a little point that you could point it in. Direct that side.

Direct it there. And like, I feel like that orgasm lasts longer and is more intense.

Oh, nice. Okay. Yeah, I love the tango. I've tried it a while ago when it came out, and I like it because they also have the attachments to it. You can turn it. The thing is, it's like a bullet vibe, which is how a lot of us. My first vibrator was a bullet vibe, like with batteries and all that. And this is just like, I think the ultimate bullet vibe. I love it. So I'm glad you tried that one. Okay, so let's get into the G spot. Vaginal orgasm. Okay. Science still debating its existence. Whenever I read the stuff, I'm like, really? It's usually some male researchers are going, oh, there is no G spot because you haven't Found it.

Exactly.

Okay. So many consider it to be the holy Grail of female pleasure. It was discovered by Ernst Grafenberg in 1940s, hence the G. Graffenberg Grafenberg spot. Isn't Ernest. Yeah, I said Ernst.

It's Ernest. No, it's Ernst.

Is it Ernst? I think I always said Ernest Ernst. Okay. He described in the Rajdesign. Okay, let me get in my German accent.

You say okay. He described an erotic. I can't do it now. Erogen zone in the front wall of the vagina. Found that a small amount of women, particularly those with a strong pelvic floor muscles, could have powerful orgasms when thus aria is stimulated.

You sound like Bernie Sanders, actually like a Jewish German. The 1%. Yeah, exactly.

Okay. G spot orgasm is more elusive than clitoral. Okay. So 30% of women out there report to being able to have deep, intense orgasms from vaginal penetration alone. But it's frustrating. So that's only 30% can have them. That's, you know, that's not the majority of women. You all hear that. So it's really common that women have to, you know, find other ways to orgasm during intercourse, which is fine. And this is all about finding your G spot as well. So we're gonna help you. So you can eventually have one perhaps. But it's frustrating for a lot of women. They expect they should just be able to have them during sex. And they assume that a penis and should be able to the job, you know, and they say, oh, I can't have one. It's not possible. I've had sex with all these penises have been inside me. There's all these penises and I've done it and I've never had a G spot orgasm. And I think that a lot of us tell ourselves stories that aren't necessarily true around sex. And I know that I did. I didn't think it was possible for me to have a G spot orgasm. I didn't think it was possible for a lot of things. And you gotta just put. You gotta keep trying because it's like everything it. Just because it didn't happen doesn't mean it can't. Masturbation. Great way to get it going. So it's located on the front wall of the vagina, two inches inside the vaginal opening cluster of a tissue that's roughly the size of a Benin. Benine. A bean Bazzini. A bean. It resembles the texture of a walnut. And again, it helps for when a woman's turned on, has more like arousal that area's more engorged. And then the G spot will be easier to find.

It's true.

It swells. It's more sensitive to touch. So our great solo sexpectations podcast.

Yeah, again.

Yeah. Another one teaches you how to have a G spot orgasm. We get really into it, so you gotta just be relaxed, patient, and listen. Just because it hasn't happened through the 85 guys you slept with or women you've slept with haven't had one either. I don't know what it is, but because guys might think that a woman. I don't want to be sexist here. A lot of people have never found their G spot, but it might not happen right away. It might not happen with all the sex you've had because you need to spend some time alone with your fingers, with another penis, with a toy and find it and figure it out. It is great work and some of the most important work you can do. Use your fingers, use lube, all that stuff. So let's talk about how you all found your G spots.

I guess I'll start. It's Jamie here. Because mine was pretty. It was a pretty interesting experience for myself. I was having sex with my boyfriend at the time. We were about to take a shower, and we were up on the counter. And my back wall next to the counter isn't. It's. The whole thing is a mirror. And so we have outlets that are on the mirror, you know, so if you plug in certain stuff. So I didn't realize that I was backing up onto the mirror and the condensation from the mirror is dripping down. And as I'm about to actually orgasm, I got a little electrocuted shock in my head.

Oh, my God.

So I don't know if that, like, added to the experience. It definitely felt really good. But afterwards I was like, whoa. Like, what?

And that was your sweet spot orgasm?

Electrocuted.

Yeah, it was perfectly on there. And then it was funny because the next time I tried to do it again.

You did get electrocuted.

I didn't.

Now, are you into electroplay? Electricity? Okay, that's. That's hilarious. But. But that's. But you found it.

Yeah. And then I tried to work at it more by myself. So I was like, I need to figure out how to do this again.

Right. Without, like, all the bells and whistles and electro.

Yeah, exactly. Without the electrocution.

Okay, what about. What about Madison?

The first night at G spot orgasm is with my ex boyfriend, and we were having some hot and sweaty car sex as people who Live at home, tend to do. And I was me on top, and it happened. And I was like. We kind of looked each other, and we were like, what is that? This is before the sex with Emily days. This is back when I didn't know the difference between one orgasm or the other. And I wasn't really, like, expecting to have orgasms. I thought that's all sex needed to be, was just, like, pounding. And so I had it. And then we kind of looked each other, and we're like, whoa. And then we just kept going. And if it happened, cool. But it didn't really. And then later on, I started to figure out, like, what that was and how to have it. And then I've just been rocking them ever since. It's been great. It's been a great ride.

Good ride with the G Spot. Okay. So there's lots of different toys out there that you can use. I really like the Amarino. Great G Spot Sex toy. Fun Factory makes it. The Amarino. It's body safe, silicone, waterproof. Here's the thing about it, though. It. It. It's got, like, a. I just like the way it has. It's girthy. I like the shape. For me, it just hits my G spot, like, just right. And it's not too big and has. Doesn't have too many bells and whistles on it, except for one that I like. And it's got this yellow band that stretches around it. And so when the band is on, it, it takes the vibrations and it, like, circulates it all around the. You know, because it attaches a little nub and attaches around the vibrator. So that vibration circulates all around your vagina. Like, you put it inside you. It's like. It's all around, like, your labia on the inside and the outside. So it's, like, making every surface area that it touches, like, vibrate in the same way.

That's amazing.

Yeah, right? Yeah. And so I like that, and I like the way that it just. Just the. The position and the shape of it, the way I can just like, hit my G spot. It makes me really happy.

I think some toys, especially, like, everyone has, like, a different story of, like, a G Spot toy that, like, really hits it for them. And it just proves that, like, every woman's, like, built a little differently. But I know you were saying that it's, like. It's, like, a little bit girthier, like, and that's, like, part of why it's, like, kind of shorter and girthier Shorter.

Yep, it's shorter and girthier. So it didn't need to be, like, long crazy. But it's. Yeah, yeah, it's a nice G spot. Fun. Good times. And also when I do my Kaggle exercise, I've talked about this before. It really helps me. Like, when I do my kaggles on a regular basis, which I have been doing all year, I can just have a G spot orgasms, like, no problem. And they. They. Honestly, even though I learned how to, and I was. I was like a lot of women who didn't. I never had a train intercourse. Like, I had to, like, get in there and figure it out. And when I did, I still don't have it every time, but when I do, you know, it's amazing. And the more I do Kegels, squeeze those muscles, I can have one. So that's another reason why you should. Oh, download my app, Kaggle Camp. It's a good time. Okay. Blended orgasms, okay? They're the G spot and the clitoris at the same time. It's like a whole party and your entire vulva was invited. Okay, you guys. So common ways to have a blended orgasm during oral sex because your partner is performing cunnilingus, using their fingers to massage the G spot end at the the same time. That can be amazing. Amazing during intercourse. So you're having intercourse, penis in vagina sex, and a lot of clitoral stimulation, Whether it's through manual stimulation to your clitoris using a toy or a position like woman on top that provides the direct pressure. You can also have a blended orgasm that way because the penis is inside you. And to have a blended orgasm yourself, toy your best friend, that's a really good way to have one. So let's talk to my trusty team here. Who's had a blended orgasm?

Me.

Madison.

Yeah, I think we've all had one.

We've all had one.

Lori dropped a bomb on me and was like, I've had one. And I didn't know that.

Yeah, I thought, you sure I've had one?

Because I haven't had, like, tell us all this stuff.

Yeah, well, when. When we did the show with the Rave and the Nova. Like, I had the Nova, which is awesome. But I've never had a G spot orgasm by itself. So I was, like, getting really frustrated. I was on my mission to, like, make my G spot orgasm happen, and I had an orgasm in which I was effectively stimulating both the G spot and the clitoris at the same time. So I can only classify that as A blended orgasm.

That's exactly.

I'd say.

Who might?

You can.

Yes.

You can kind of tell because it's a little. They're two different sensations. And you were. Yeah. So it's like. Yeah, I felt both of them.

I just couldn't have the G spot one without the clitoral stability.

But still. No, that counts.

Still counts, right? Totally counts. I'm counting it. I'm writing it in my diary.

Dear diary, I don't rule out any orgasm. An orgasm is an orgasm. You're good.

Yeah. For me, Madison, usually it's like I start off having a clitoral and then I can have another, like, blended afterwards. So it's like if I start off with like, clitoral stimulation, like, usually. My favorite usually is, like, with oral when my boyfriend's wearing down on me and he's already given me a clitoral orgasm. And then he brings the fingers in and I get really excited and I start to dance. And then I can have like another clitoral, but like with G spot at the same time. And it's like, crazy.

Yeah, it's kind of like a process like you're working up to. It's like each step it's like, okay, I have my clitoral orgasm first. All right. Oh, now we're gonna throw in a little G spot action in there with the clitoral. And it's like, okay, clitoral's gonna fall by the wayside. Just gonna have the G spot there.

See, I haven't reached that. That's my next step.

That's.

I'm like two out of three.

Right. Like, you stop with the clitoral, but you'll get there. Yeah. I'm not convinced.

Keep practicing. Just put aside the magic wand for a little bit, you know?

Yeah. It's good to mix them up.

I know.

Not that you're gonna become numb and anything's bad from any toy, but just like, sex is all about variety.

I have to have someone, like, hide it from me and not tell me where it is.

Right.

I recently brought out my magic wand with the cord one. And I was like, oh, hey, old friend. Haven't used it in a while. And it was really nice. Yeah, Blended. So I made it my mission to try the Sugar Pop by Vibratex. It's like a really cool. It's different from their other toys. Cause it's made of body safe elastomer, which has, like, a little bit more like, give. It's not like the hard plastic or the silicone splash Proof. It takes a. AAA batteries, which was interesting. Cause I haven't had, like, a battery toy in a while, but I really liked it. And it's dual stimulation. It's got the internal shaft, has, like, the rotating beads, which is. Again, I've never had a toy like that before. And I've. You know, I've seen the rabbit habit and all that. And I was like, all right, we're gonna see how this goes. And it's got the external clitoral tickler, which is really funny just to watch. We played it, and we turned it on in the office the other day, and I was like, holy. Cause it just, like, it goes crazy. It's, like, very, very intense. And it's got dual motors. So, like, Laura, you were saying that you. You know, when you are trying to have a G spot orgasm, you can, like, be using it for blended and then take away the clitoral and then just have, like, the internal going.

Yeah, you can turn off. It's different switches.

Yeah, I totally recommend doing that, but. So I liked it a lot. I thought it was surprisingly strong. That was, like, my biggest takeaway from it was I wasn't expecting it to be as, like, powerful as it was. And especially because it's battery powered. I'm so just not used to that. But the clitoral appendage is super intense. Even on, like, the lowest setting, it's very powerful. And I just discovered why it was so intense. It has these, like, little nubs on the inside of it. Emily and I were, like, looking at the toy, like, actually looking at it.

I was like, oh, hey, that explains.

Explains it. But, like, it's got these, like, little, like, soft rubber, like, whatever that's called elastomer nubs. And it, like, transmits the vibrations throughout the clitter. So not just directly on the clitoris, like, all the area around it, which was nice. And I like the way the buttons are laid out, because I know we've all kind of, like, had those issues where you're trying to turn on a toy, and all of a sudden you, like, switch the setting when you're really close, but you want to turn it up. And it has, like, two rows, and they're, like, organized really, like, really nicely. Like, the top one is, like, to turn it. It's like, to turn it on or do the functions. The middle one is on and then up for the. And then the off one is just off, which is great, because in case someone's, like, walking by and it's a little loud, you're like just off and it's just kill switch done. And I really liked that about it. And I liked that the rotating beads were very pleasurable. Overall, I would give it. I would give it a good rating. Plus, it's like, I don't know, just a cool toy.

Good G spots delivered. Good G spot orgasms.

Totally. I mean, I warmed up beforehand with like a clitoral because I just, you know, didn't want to go in cold and use lots of lube with it. That's the only thing I have to say is lots and lots. Yeah. Water based lube because the silicone will eat away at it.

But overall, always use lube. Throw in a little lube.

Okay.

Thank you for that, Madison. That was the what? That was the sugar pop.

That is the sugar pop by vibratine.

Okay, cool. All right. Multiple orgasms. How to have them. Okay. To achieve them, you need to focus on all your attention on the clitoris. And you got to be patient with this one because after the first orgasm, a lot of women think, you know, find that their clitoris is super sensitive and you want to, like, pull back. Or you think, oh, that felt good, I'm done, you know, I'm out. But really, you know, we're so lucky because our refractory period is so short that we can kind of just like, if it's too sensitive, we just kind of pull back from the stimulation. And you can try, like, massaging areas around it, like the labia or your inner thighs or your breasts. And then you go back to it. You know, you go back to your clitoris and you start, like, wrapping yourself up again. And you can also do this with a toy. If you were using a vibrator, you might have it higher, and then you crank it down lower. And then you can just start teasing all around the clitoris. And then you go back to it and you. When you go back again, you want it to be like a lower intensity, but, you know, just keep breathing, too. That's a big part about having the next orgasm. So you have that first one, you keep breathing. You know, you kind of bring down your energy and your intensity, and then you, you know, kind of start to. The energy starts to rise again, and you just want to stay connected mentally and physically with your body. So instead of worrying, is it going to happen again? Is it going to happen? You know, you just kind of like you're paying attention to your body, you see the build again because you keep touching yourself, but not on the clitoris. And you bring yourself Back to the clitoris. And you probably have another one and another one. That's all you need to get going. But what, Lori? I know. Yes. Just right about. This is a good story. Proud moment about your multiple orgasmic experience. Right. Well, we.

When I first used the touch, we all were talking about multiple orgasms, and I said I never had them. I was convinced.

The we Vibe touch.

Yeah, the we Vibe touch touch.

Right.

I was convinced I couldn't have them just because I masturbate a ton and I've never had one. So I was like, why will it ever happen? And then you gave me, like, a little bit of a pep talk. Like a multiple orgasm pep talk. Like, you know, just don't open your mind to it. It was like a really, I don't know, Zen pep talk about it. And then I just went home that night. I didn't really put too much pressure on myself, and I had my first multiple orgasms. Like, five of them.

You had five? I remember the next day, we were testing the touch, and I was like, how'd it go? You're like. And you didn't tell me to run there. And she's like. I'm like, did you have multiple. She's like, five. Yeah. I think I gave, like, shooting now. I could die. I'm so happy. Yeah, the time stamps. Yeah. One minute and then. Right. So that's cool. So how so since then, have you. Do you always have multiples now?

It's like I opened a third eye or something, Right?

Totally. It's crazy.

Like, now that my. My body like that, my brain is convinced that I can do it. It allows my body to do it. So, like, it doesn't. It only happens when I choose to, you know? And I can tell if, like, oh, this orgasm is good for more.

Right.

It's like, since I've started to think about it, every orgasm is so different that I can, you know, decide if I'm gonna keep going or stop. And it's super easy.

That's cool. So it was about changing your mind about what's possible.

Totally. I was just closed off to it. And as soon as I decided not to be closed off to it anymore, then it goes.

She's doing it now. Okay, that's great. Thank you. Good story. Okay. You know, I love that. So, Jamie.

Yeah. It was interesting because I didn't really. When I first had my first multiple orgasm, I was just using my hands by myself, and I didn't really realize that I could do that because you know how sometimes you just have an orgasm that's just like, oh, my God, that was so awesome. Can I take a retake of that, like, right now, please?

Yes.

And so that's just how I felt. I was like, I'm just going to keep going and see if it, you know, it happens again. And it did. But then once I joined this lovely team here, I opened up my world to sex toys, which was great. And the. The womanizer, specifically the deluxe version. Oh my gosh. Like, that is just like multiple orgasm heaven. I was. I'm like, honestly, really? I like the first one a lot, but once I got the second one, the second woman. The first one is better depending on your hands because it's. It's a little easier to grasp it and hold it in, in place. But the second one, it's. That comes with. First of all, it comes with two different sizes of the silicone head, which is cool because if you do have a larger clitoris, it'll fit better into it. Also, it kind of changes up the sensations if you even. Even if you do have a smaller clitoris, if you just change the head size, it kind of changes the indirect.

Exactly.

You got pleasure. Yeah. So it kind of gives you a different pleasure.

Air technology.

Exactly. But I just, I love it because first of all, it knocks out your first orgasm in like it is a minute tops. Like, seriously. And then the buttons are really easy to use. It's only an on off button and then an intensity button. This, the deluxe version, has eight different settings. I usually start out already on the second or third depending, just because I do like a lot of it has a little bit more vibrations and I do like to have a little bit more intensity. And then I'll start going. And then once I have my first orgasm while I'm still kind of climaxing there, I turn the intensity up a little bit and my, like, I can almost have like another orgasm within that orgasm. Wow.

But then it's like a bubble and a bubble.

But then after that I can't. I can't keep going up intensity after that. I have to bring it back down, which is why I like the on off button. If you just press it once instead of having to lower it step by step, it goes straight back to the beginning. And so then that way I can work up to like my next one. So I can have like three or four.

So the woman. I just been good for you in this way to like, practice with the. I think that's a good point. That you just can turn it off and you don't have to.

Yeah, well, yeah. Like, you don't have to measure it down. And it doesn't turn off all the way. It just goes back to the first setting. So it just. It knows. It's like. It's like. Okay, you hadn't. You were intense for a little bit, and we're bringing you down.

That's. I caught the Clit whisperer. Yeah. Speaking of which, it's like they designed it, though. Wait, we have to talk about our video. Can people find our video?

Absolutely.

Okay. I'm obsessed with this video. So Good. It's on YouTube, our website.

It's on. Yes.

Everything.

Only YouTube.

YouTube.com called the Whisperer.

It's called the Whisper.

It's about this. I'm not gonna check it out.

Yeah, it's a short film. It's really moody, and it features the Womanizer. It's. It's hilarious.

It's actually really good. Totally want to see what it looks like. So, Jamie, that's a good explanation of it, because I know we've all had different experiences with the Womanizer.

I just think it's crazy because it sucks. Like, it sucks. I can't. I've just never seen anything like it.

And it's pleasure air technology all the time, indirect stimulation, all that stuff. I think, like, that's. I always say, like, that's kind of what I thought. If my clitoris could speak, it would say, do this thing that you're doing with.

This is what I want.

That's cool, James. I love that. Okay, where else we good and orgasms Are we.

Yeah, I mean, that's. There are plenty of other orgasms, but those ones we're covering today, all.

We had time for it. You guys are awesome. Thank you for sharing these experiences. Where can people find all these stuff? Toys. Let's go to our website, sex with emily.com.

Yeah, go to. We'll include them in the show. Like, in the show, posting on the website. And also, if you want to know more about the. The different kind of orgasms, there's a blog on the website called your orgasm orientation. Takes you through literally everything we just talked about for the most part with, like, clitoral, you know, vaginal, all of that. And you can kind of get a little bit more if you're looking for.

How to do it right. That's a great point. Because the truth is, a lot of stuff you're hearing on the show, you might think like, oh, she's. I didn't get that. Or she's. She's going too fast with that, which I know I talk really fast and that happens maybe to a lot of things. But you could often find a lot of this information on our site if you would like to read things about it. You know, we have a lot of. We have a dense amount of work.

Absolutely.

That you will like. Okay, great.

Yeah. And also, again, great soloist expectations because you answer the three top masturbation questions we get asked.

I deep into it.

Yeah. One of them was how to masturbate by itself and the other one was like can my G spot migrate? But it's all about like locating the G spot when you're not sure that it's there.

So that was a good show. Yeah.

I thought you did really well.

Thank you.

You know, it's your job.

I think you all do really well. Thank you all for being here and for killing it here in the new office. This is great. Let's. We should light some incense or something.

Make sure you're following us on Snapchat because we're going to be snapping the new office.

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