Getting Even Wetter with Lynette Carolla

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions.

Bedroom eyes, they call them.

In a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

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You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to my website. Check out my incredible blogs. I am so digging my blogs these days. Okay, there's one right now, this week I love. It's called. It's a pubic service announcement, or a psa, if you will. And it's all about pubic hair through the ages. I mean, don't you want to know what's happening? Fall fashion's underway.

Yes.

What's happening in September issue of Vogue? What's happening with your pubic hair, Lynette? Carolla is my guest. Yeah.

No, you don't have to introduce me right now, but I agree.

I get your carpet change, bikinis, and razors. Embracing the bush back to bear. The 90s was waxed versus hairy and proud. And then there was the Brazilian debut. And now I think people are doing what they want. What do you think, Lynette? Do you know?

I agree. Yeah. Yeah. Can we. Can we get into it right now?

Let's get into it.

Yeah.

Okay. So.

So I have not been waxed until when I first met Adam, my husband, back in 95. There's a place called Pink Cheeks that just kind of opened in the Valley.

Pink Cheeks.

Pink Cheeks in Van Nuys. And they were known at the time for Pam Anderson. Made it famous with the whole, like, Playboy thing.

Okay.

So back then, I did it, and it hurt like a bitch. And I was like, fuck that shit. Like, what do I. I don't have to impress this guy anymore. I'm getting married in Paris now. Fast forward 20 years. We went on a honeymoon, kind of like, whatever trip. And I was like, you know what I'm gonna get? All right? I'm gonna get waxed. Who cares? So then I got waxed. I got the whole Brazilian thing. And I thought, wow, it hurts. But then I thought, this is kind of nice. It feels good, and it lasts for a long time. Like, it's smooth and everything. And now I understand what all you bitches are talking about. So then I went back again a couple weeks ago, and she's like, do you want a Brazilian? And I was like, I don't know. What's a Brazilian? And she's like, the whole thing. And then it's, like, embarrassing, like, yeah, yeah, the whole thing. Why? I wouldn't be here if I didn't want the whole thing. Then she's describing what I want as. As far as, like, the.

The triangle. The landing strip.

Yeah. What you like to take it off. I don't want it all. No, Adam would. He would be horrified.

Oh, these are all the different designs you could have.

Oh, that. Is that where you. I guess so you have that in the lobby? A zigzag?

I don't know. I'm looking at these pictures on the. You know, it's a personal choice right now. I think it always should be a personal choice. So what? You choose. So I just want.

I said, lady, listen, just keep some stuff there. I don't want to be like a 12 year old.

Right.

But don't make me look like Hitler either. That's weird, right? The Hitler thing, is that like the little thing?

The Hitler mustache? I know I did. It is weird.

I'm not judging. Who am I to judge? But I just a little like.

Right.

I like a little triangle or something. Just something to show that I am above age. That's all.

But it's all. I get it. So you go back and get the. Yeah, and then I go and then.

Come back every six weeks. Listen, I'm married. What do I care? But if we're going on a vacation or something, or it's our anniversary or birthday or somebody or Christmas, then I'll do it.

But. Yeah, it's a whole thing. I got lasered.

Yes, me too.

But here was the thing. It was like 10 years ago, but I was like, I don't want them to take everything off. Like, do you want it all off? I'm like, no. What if the bush comes back? What if I want the triangle? What if I want a zigzag? You know, who makes it back?

Yeah.

What if I wanted a star? I don't know what I want. So I have most of it gone. But then now it's just in a weird formation that I feel like I still have to half wax it, but then I just don't. So then I shave it all off, which is probably too much.

You shave it all off?

Well, just because there's still just like a little lashes and I'm so busy. I'm single.

I know you're busy. Single. I would too, if I go.

But here's the problem, is that half of it's really smooth. I've never talked about this out loud. So this is. You're getting shit out of me is that I get stubble now. Cause it's like stubby. So then I'm on top. I'm doing something. I'm grinding in the coil alignment technique. And it's like, I have stubble. That's what I have.

So bad in my stomach. It's hurting.

So now it's like. But even if I go back and get the Brazilian, that would still come back and be stubbly, so.

Right.

I don't know what to do. And I actually don't want to look like a pubescent.

Right.

I can never say that word. What do you do with that stubble thing, Child?

What do you do?

I think it's better to leave a little bit of hair.

Yes.

And then the other parts, if you leave it in between your legs, like, it's not as stubbly. Maybe because. I don't know, it just. This is a new thing. I don't think there's an issue before.

I don't think it was.

God damn it.

You think my parents had this issue? No, My mother. Denied.

Here's the thing, guys. It's a choice. And if I think I know a lot of women today who are just letting it go crazy. Like the bush, it's all back. And I feel like I'm better off letting mine grow out. And that's actually what I've done. This whole shaving it off was like, I think I was going to Hawaii, and I was in a hurry, and I was like, I don't have time. And that's when this started. It's very recent, so I think I was better with the kind of oblong shaved tuft than I was with the prickly stubble.

Yes. Yes.

So everyone just. Do you. Do you party in the back?

Yeah.

Okay, so Lynette, Carolla is awesome.

Thank you.

And she's a podcast called for crying out Loud. And also a podcast for the after.

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Yeah, it's like, if we did an after show on your show, like, we'd be like, oh, my God, Emily's show was so good. Did you hear her talk about her bush and that the waxing.

Oh, my God. We should do an after show. Who wants to do. Any of my listeners want to do a post game show?

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It's a great idea. And I just revealed something, like, for example, about my bush, which was a big moment. Okay, you guys, I have no secrets from you. Also, the other thing I want to mention about is that I have a subscription box. Do you do any monthly boxes?

I like the monthly subscription stuff.

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So check that out. And that's what we got for you. Oh, and all social media ex with Emily. We took some amazing. We are taking some fun clips of the show today because we're having a blast. So you're going to check all that out. And, Lynette, I didn't prepare you for this part. Okay, before we get into emails and talking, I've got five questions for you that I ask all my guests. They're quickie questions. Ready? Sure. What's your biggest turn on?

You know, what you want. Physical or mental?

Anything.

This is what I was gonna ask you about. All right, so here's my chance to ask you, for some reason.

So a couple years ago, I went for a massage, and the girl did a massage. She goes, would you like a tummy massage? And I was like, never had it before, but okay. And then she. She did a stomach massage. And then she's telling me, as she does the Clockwork orange. No, the clock. The counterclockwise on your stomach in a circle is good for digestive. But all I kept thinking was, oh.

My God, it was turning me on. It was like, pubic. It was a little lower than your stomach. It was more like your pubic mound. Yeah. Why? How?

Why?

Why did it really turn you on?

So then I told Adam, like my husband to when he was giving, like, a massage. I said, can you do it, like, counterclock, go either way, I don't care. But with the lower belly massage, why is that press on the lower belly.

So the pubic mound.

Such a tough one.

That's a really great question. Yeah, it's because here's the thing, is that there are so many nerve endings right there. And it's also, like this whole area. So I think a lot of us, if we're lucky, we know your partners or women, you know, that you have a clitoris. And we think about this clitoris being this little button right above the vaginal opening that has, like, you know, 8,000 nerve endings. And it's amazing. But it's not just that little bulb. It's actually. The clitoris has legs and there's just. It's connected. But when you also. The pubic bound can also indirectly stimulate your G spot. So there's just a lot going on there. So when you're pressing on this area, you're tickling over it. You're actually tickling these nerves beneath it. Look, I'm showing you right here.

Yeah, I know.

That's like. So she was, like, here and tickling, like, around. And she would. Maybe her fingers were, like, swiping against your.

Like, do it again.

Because all of that is connected. And I love that you're asking this question, because I think that a lot of people don't really even understand that sex and foreplay and turning your partner on isn't just about like, oh, I know, like, where the. I know the clitoris. I'm going to finger it. No, it's the entire, like, your inner thighs, your pubic ground, your lower belly, like, and it's that light touch, right? Going in circles. And. And then even sometimes you put your palm down and you apply pressure you have an orgasm, though, it's a turn on. Right. So it was like the tickling, and it was teasing and it was building your arousal, and that's because it was just stimulating all these nerves.

It's stimulating the nerve endings underneath there.

Exactly.

Underneath the belly. Right where the G spot is.

Right.

The one that Adam can't get. I mean, the one that.

Can'T get to.

Right. But I think this would be good first. So, for example, for women, some women, and there are people who might even argue and say, it's no, it's not the G spot. There's other ways of orgasm. It could be a cervical. It doesn't really matter how you label it or what it is or what you want to call it. It's the fact that you got turned on and you felt it in there. Because some women would be like, I did the counterclockwise circle, and I felt nothing.

Right.

The key to the game here, the name of the game, is experimentation and tickling and touching your body and figuring out what makes you feel good. Because every single person's body is different. And so you're a woman who's been with a lot of different people, and it took a masseuse a few years ago, and you're like, oh, my God, I had no idea that would turn me on. And that punctuates the exact point that I'm always trying to make on the show, is that we are. Sex is expansive. What turns us on could change over time. We're always discovering new things. And I love that you found that out. I feel like you don't have to wait to get a massage to feel like, when you masturbate or when you're with your partner, you say, you know what? Let's take sex off the table. Let's just explore each other's bodies. Let's get some massage candles. Let's massage candles. I love massage. Let's get some massage oil, and let's take each other's hands and rub them over each other's body and just, like, figure out your pleasure points. Because we all have different areas that feel good. Like, for me, when I want to have an orgasm. Okay, here's the other thing for the after show I don't often talk about is that if I'm with somebody and they're, like, going down on me, for example, or they're whatever I press, it's not really the lower butt. It's more like my pubic mouth. I push on here, and that will, like, intensify my Orgasm. I didn't realize that, like, when I was 20. Right. But that took me a while. Right.

So I always like that. Belly, lower, belly.

Pressure. I feel like.

And I didn't know what was going on.

Yeah. Okay. Pressure. That's what it is. Okay. It's common, but I think again, it's, like, indirectly stimulating your G spot, your clitoris, like, whatever. Yeah. Because here's the other thing. When you're pressing that area, you press, but you go down. So if I'm pressing it and I push down, it's also like the clitoris, the outer, the inner, the labia, all that stuff.

Right.

It's a good time. Okay.

It's a good time.

Yeah. So biggest turn on. That's your answer?

Yeah.

Biggest turn off.

Where do I begin?

Biggest turn off. Like. Like grabbing the head. I like to give a blowjob.

Don't push my head.

Don't push that.

I was already on the way, and guess what? I'm leaving.

Yes.

Don't push my head.

I know Adam doesn't do that, but I have friends that have gone on dates, and they do the she. They tell me that they do that, and it's like. And, like, it's the worst.

No, I thought, like, I'd be banned that, like, on the last ballot initiative or something. You should do it. I know.

Yeah, you should.

And faking orgasms. Okay. What's the sexiest part of a man's body?

Oh, my goodness. I like a chest. The chest of the man.

What's the one thing you wish you could tell your partner about your body's needs?

I would say, don't give up.

Just keep going.

Trying for the G. Cause I haven't really had a G spot orgasm.

We've talked about this years ago.

Yeah.

Okay.

I haven't had that.

We've got more work. Yeah. Craziest place you've gotten busy.

In my bedroom when I was a teenager. At home.

And your parents were there?

No. My mom came home.

She caught you?

Yeah.

What happened?

She said, because she's an Italian immigrant, she said, lynette, listen, in the end, he's gonna win. You're gonna lose. So don't get busy in your room and don't tell your father. I saw what I saw.

That was it. It's the best story ever.

Yeah.

Oh, this is a good time. I love this. I love you. It's a great show.

Oh, my God.

We're just getting started. Your mom said that? Yeah.

In the end, he's gonna win, and I'm gonna Lose.

You didn't lose. You're a winner.

No winner. I'm winning.

Okay. So you said you came armed with questions for me.

Yeah.

And I'm here for you.

Yes. Oh, God. All right, so the. The. The lower belly. The.

How to have a. Oh, G spot. G spot. So last time I saw you, not saw you, but when I first brought you vibrators, I think I gave you a G spot one. But here's the thing about the G spot. So tip. To find the G spot, one of the best ways to start is if you're already turned on and if you already have a clitoral orgasm, for example. So you have toys. I'll give you. You saw that I gave you a little preview for what's to come in the sex toy closet.

Right.

I'm gonna tell you just for yourself, because then you could bring Adam in. You can not.

Okay.

And when you're aroused, it helps to. That whole. The whole area, the G spot becomes more engorged, which is about 2 inches inside. You stick like a finger inside, and it's like the come hither motion towards your belly button. You can feel like a rough patch, kind of like an apricot or something. Yes. It feels different ways. And then you apply like direct pressure to it, and through that motion, you can oftentimes have a G spot orgasm. However. Yeah, there's different positions. Like, the thing is, for some women. Here's one thing I want to say. A lot of it has to do with anatomy and the way you are built. For some women, they've got clitorises on the outside without a clitoral hood, and they can just have orgasms, like when they sneeze. And for some women, like, every time they have sex, they have a G spot orgasm. Like, it's truly. Some women, all bodies are different. All of our bodies are different. It just means that maybe once you find it, for example, Lynette, Then you can move a certain way with Adam, even though you've been having sex with him for 20 some odd years, if you on your own find it, you'd be like, oh, now I know. So using fingers is helpful. There's also some great toys that don't malfunction in your vagina that I can give you. I would say the We Vibe Rave or Nova. The rave is the best G spot toy out there.

So do you suggest you get the clitoral clitoris? Yeah, clitoral excited first.

That helps.

Then you try and get the.

And then you can have a blend. Yeah, I would Say just knock on a clitoral orgasm, because those are. Yeah, they're fun. You're aroused. Use a vibrator. Use your fingers.

I'm gonna do this first on my own first.

Yeah, yeah, that's what I'm saying. And then use lube, of course. And I think it's easier with some of these toys, especially the Rave, which I love by we vibe. It's just the way it's shaped, the way it works. I mean, you can use it with an app as well. You. You might want to use it with an app. It's cool because you can send your phone. You don't have to be down there, like using the different speeds and pressures and all that. And.

Yeah, there's nothing worse. When you're about to orgasm and you turn the off.

Oh, yeah. It's the worst thing. Stops. Oh.

When it's done.

That's the worst sex I've ever had. That's my biggest turn off is when a toy turns off. And also the other thing that's really helped me now, I. I've had sex, plenty of sex. What?

What?

I never had a G spot orgasm ever, until I started the show 12 years ago. So I. I never even had one, like, in my 20s because I didn't know how. So I had to work at it. Work at it. And I realized for me, the big thing was doing my kegels, that when those muscles became stronger. Because those are the muscles that you, like, kind of pump.

Yeah, I know. When you think I noticed that.

Yeah, you're right. To orgasm. And so for me, when those were stronger, it was like walking around with, like, I've been doing abs all month or something. It was like when you want to wear like, like a crop top when you're. It was that kind of thing. It was like, oh, my God, I'm all my muscles are turned on. And I was, like, thinking about sex more and wanting sex more. And then a combination of that and using the toy, I was able to have my first G spot orgasm and then blended. When you can have both, when you, like, have it clitoral. Have a. You know, I didn't want to get greedy, but I was having blended.

Yeah.

And then I was able to during intercourse by squeezing on his peanut, like, squeezing my kegels. That's helped me. Right. Oh, squeezing.

So when you first had your internal orgasm, was that on your own?

That was my own. There was nobody there. It was not a party that was alone. It was a party.

Then you had a party.

And I Was the only one there. Really?

I didn't know that.

Another thing for the after show. Will you do my after show? But you were here, so we need someone else to. Yeah. Yeah, that was it. And I'm. I learned so much. I mean, that's when I started the podcast. I was like, I have a hunch that sex could be a whole lot better than.

Yeah, you're right.

And I was like, this seems like something worthwhile to study for the rest of my life.

Yes. Yeah, you're right.

And I don't think I'm done. Like, I still don't think I've had the best sex ever. Yeah, I want to keep going. Okay, Lynette, that was a great question about ChangeBots, because I get asked that a lot, and I love that we can, like, actually have that real conversation right here when I want to. And it's a good one.

Thank you.

You're so welcome. Okay, so we're gonna move on to emails. You're gonna help me even calls, and you're gonna help me help the people. I love that. I love that you're here.

I love it.

And thank you, everyone, for listening to the show and for supporting my sponsors because they help keep the show free. And when you support them, you're supporting the show, and I just love you. We'll be right back.

Okay, Lynette, are you ready for the calls and the emails?

Yes.

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797-979.

Yeah.

Not 6969. I know.

I think it was already taken. Such a buzzkill, right?

I know.

Like, if anybody should have the 69s.

Yeah. Hello. Somebody should cubed. Yes, Me.

Who the hell took that?

I know.

I don't even want to get into that now. Okay, we've got Kat. She's 26 from Los Angeles, and she wants to know about positions to maximize sensation, even when she's really wet during sex. Hi, Kat.

Hi, Emily.

Hi.

I'm here with my friend Lynette Carolla. So you've got two women here helping You.

Hi, Kat. Why don't you just brag more often? Okay. You want to get someone who's kidd when you're wet.

Some women. Some of us can't get wet. Some do. Kat, what's going on? Talk to us.

So basically, the problem that I'm having is that no matter what, like, no foreplay, nothing. It doesn't really matter what happens beforehand. Every time I have sex, I'm always incredibly wet. Like, dripping, everywhere wet.

All right.

And sometimes it makes it so that I can't really feel much of any of the stuff that's happening.

Right, right. No, I've heard this from women. Yeah, absolutely. I totally get it. Yeah. And what have you tried so far? Have you tried anything?

So I've tried just, like, doing different positions or basically, that's it.

Okay. Well, first, let me tell you a little about the wetness. Like, the vaginal lubrication comes through the vaginal walls. And typically with younger women, if you have higher estrogen levels, that can lead to more lubrication, and that's. That is common with younger women. Just like women going through menopause have lower estrogen and they're not as wet. That's what happens.

Well, because. I'm sorry, let me ask my pal Emily a question here. A lot of. From what I see a lot of times, and I remember back in my single days, guys would, like, shove their hand down your pants and go, oh, you're so wet. Even though they're not very turned on.

Right. Guys do say that. And the thing about wetness, or men or who, women, your partners, it changes different times of month as well. Even for you. I don't know if you've noticed, Kat, that maybe sometimes it's really wet and other times it's kind of wet. Throughout our cycle, our body changes throughout the month, and so sometimes we're really wet, and I'm just a little less wet. So when guys say, you're so turned on, you're so wet, and you're saying that you weren't even wet.

Right. And guys would always be like, oh, you're so turned on. No, not really.

No. And sometimes we can be wet and not turned on, or we can be really turned on and not wet. So it's actually not an indicator of your arousal.

But that's a mixed message.

It is a mixed message. Yeah. Okay. But, Kat, here's the thing. I would say for you that I would keep a towel by the bed, because really, these are the only things I can tell you is that it's not a big deal. To stop to, like, wipe it off because you're so wet. Like, to wipe off his penis to wipe yourself off and then to keep going. And also for positions, I would say focus on the positions that are more grinding movements, like the cat. Like the coital alignment technique. Do you orgasm during intercourse? Yes. Okay.

Almost always.

Do you clitoral orgasm or do you intercourse? Vaginal?

Vaginal. Which? I mean, which one do you do? Cat?

Both.

Okay, so that's awesome.

First of all, it's funny that the coital alignment technique is Cat.

Yeah, yeah, exactly.

So this is the deal with the cat. It's a variation of missionary that directly stimulates the clitoris. And you're like, missionary. What? This would be great because you won't feel like you're dripping all over him and really wet. You're lying back on the bed, and he's lying on top of you, like regular missionary position. And with your legs are spread slightly, and he's kind of between your knees, like in the traditional missionary. And he's supporting himself with his hands. And he'll rest on his forearms, elbows, thighs, upper knees. Kind of like distributing his weight, like, evenly throughout your body. So he's relaxing his muscles, and he should maintain. Here's the key part. As much contact with you as is comfortable without, like, crushing you. Right. We don't want him to crush you, and we don't want you to lose contact externally or internally. So what he's doing is he's sliding his body towards your head and body, like, up and down, right. With, like, your jaw could be resting on his shoulder. And he's, like, aligning his pelvis with yours, his hips at a downward angle. And so it's like a slow, sensual grinding. And not, like, a pumping. So he's not going in and out and in and out. It's a grinding in circles, grinding back and forth. And it's more of a controlled movement. So you can feel his shaft, like, rubbing against your clitoris, rubbing against your pubic mound. It's gonna be totally inside of you the whole time, and you're, like, rocking together. Does this make sense to you? So you're rock. You know, you're not. You're not going sideways, but you're, like, rocking up and down. But the whole time, his pubic bone and base of his penis is rubbing against your clitoris.

Yeah, it's kind of funny. I actually think I have a partner who's accidentally been doing that. Cause, like, I've always wondered why it wasn't as much of a problem with certain people, and maybe it was just.

Oh, so this position has worked for you?

I think so. I mean, I wasn't doing it intentionally. It wasn't a thing I was conscious of. I just think that I, you know, it was like this particular partner I had, and he was just really great.

And I didn't know why. No, this is it. And I'm telling you, especially for the wetness and for the grinding. And this is also kind of a go to position that I tell a lot of women who have never had orgasms that this is actually a great position that works, that we don't actually think about it. So you just kind of repeat this movement, like back and forth, you know, and so he's moving up as you go down and, like, it's just you're grinding together. I think it's going to solve both your problems. We're going to link to it in the show notes as well for everyone listening. But I think this is really going to help you. But if there's other positions that also work for you, there is no shame to the towel game. Have a towel there, wipe off, and then keep going. I'm not going to tell you you should take a pill to stop the wetness. You know, I just think that we can just try to do modifications of what you're already doing. And I love that you're having a lot of orgasms. You can play with toys. A lot of toys are waterproof, which is really fun.

Thank goodness.

Exactly. So, Kat, that's what's going on with you. So Godspeed. Let me know what's happening Very much. Okay. You're welcome.

Bye, Kat.

Let us know how it goes. Coriolan technique. You try that one today.

I mean, to me, that's like a maneuver that happens in between. Like, it seems to me that that technique is not like something that goes on and on and on. It is something that happens for a stroke or five or three or eight or whatever in between.

For me, that works, too. It's like the friction and you're holding it together, right?

Yeah.

No, it can go on the whole time. I know.

That was a yes.

I know. Do you have my book?

See? Yes, I have your book.

I gave my book, right?

Oh, yeah. My daughter saw it a couple weeks ago and was like, what's these drawings of these? I was like.

I'll take that. Why are you in my drawer, bitch? Get out of here.

Kids, they see the book. Yeah, but it helps. It's a good book.

Yes. Yes.

So, yeah, that's Coral. I'm taking. I love it. Okay. Yeah, that was gonna change your life.

I hope that was good.

Right? We've got Carrie. She's 27 from Toronto, and she wants to know how to move from texting to dating. I hear you, girlfriend. What the hell?

Me too.

I'm with my friend Linda. Carolla, you've got two women helping you here today. Carrie, what is going on? Tell me. Talk to me.

All right, so basically I'm 27 years old. I haven't really had a long term relationship. I've tried, like, going out, being with friends, and then now obviously I've been on the dating app and I've just found that like, even if I've met like people kind of free work, they're just so into texting and it's hard to like, you know, I've asked them to hang out and it's always kind of an avoidance. I kind of want to get. No, like, how do you get from texting to actually hanging out? Because I don't want a texting boyfriend.

I hear you, man. So I absolutely 100 hear you. And you just gotta let them know, set boundaries and just be like, you know what? I'd rather have this conversation when I see you next. Just cut it off. But are you saying that on the apps this is a problem or just even when you go out and you meet someone and you go on one date and then you just text every day until you see him again or like, what's the main challenge for you?

I think the main would be like, before the first date. So, like, I've had this as, like, you know, I met a guy kind of through work. Like, it was a coworker and we never, we knew each other but had never been out and he expressed interest. And then the same thing has happened over dating apps where it's just this texting all the time, right. And I've asked them out and it doesn't really, you know, go anywhere, but then they kind of keep this flirty texting.

Yeah, it's annoying because, like, you know, our life, I swear to God, we're going to be like on our deathbed, be like, well, how was your life? Like, oh, I spent my entire goddamn life texting. And it's really annoying. What I found lately though, with the apps and in life that we kind of make a plan and it stops. Like, I'm not feeding into it with a lot of texting. And then they kind of respond to that as well. When you Meet someone. The sooner you can set a time to meet, the better. Because I think the longer that we draw this out and you just, like, you don't make a plan. Like, I actually would. Set a boundary for yourself and just say, you know what? I'm not actually going to text longer than a few lines with somebody until I make a plan or a day with somebody. And you say that. Say, let's meet. I'd rather meet than text. Or, like, I'm not really into texting. If you want to meet, let's make a plan. And then if they. If they're like, well, I'm not sure. I'm traveling a lot, just say, let's make a plan for when you get back and done. I mean, I think you'll be able to find the people that will respect that. And if there are those people, I think that actually want to text and they just want to kind of keep you in their loop, and they're texting a lot of different women, and that's just not who you are. You guys tell them I'm not down for that. What do you think?

Yeah. Hi, Kerri. It's Lynette. Like, you know who I am.

Lynette. Carolla is amazing. Okay.

Yeah. So I've been in a relationship for 21 years, but I have two very close friends that are single, and they've been out there in the single world. Like, I have Emily at my disposal to ask. It's the same thing. It's like, what do you say to these guys that are like, okay, you text back and forth maybe one or two times. And then as far as the dating app, it's like, okay. Then you never hear back from him. Nothing. It's ghost, Ghost.

That's true.

What do you do?

Like, you just gotta set the boundaries and just. You don't let it go on for too long and just say, you know, I'm really busy. I got stuff going on. Let's meet up. And if they just. If you don't hear from, then you unmatch with them, or. I mean, I really think that you just have to take the lead here. And are you saying that you do that it's not working? Yeah.

Like, there's been times where I've kind of suggested to meet up, and it's kind of, you know, been never happened. So I guess with those guys, you just need to learn to just, you know, onto the next.

Onto the neck. I was just gonna say that. Onto the next. It's like everything in life, the quicker you Move on from, like, a guy you just want to text or a bad job or a bad relationship or whatever it is, the quicker you're going to be able to make changes in your life and find someone who's right. So I say you're doing nothing wrong here, Carrie. Some women love text texting. Not you, not me, not Lynette's friends.

No.

So, Carrie, you just set the rules here and you keep going and you'll find the run.

My girlfriend did find a guy.

There you go.

Yeah.

So will you carry it work? Just do it. Yeah. Just don't. Don't. Don't engage. Okay. Good luck, Carrie. You got this, girl.

Thank you.

Bye. Thanks for calling.

Bye. Yeah, my girlfriend, finally, after eight years, she was married. She did not want to get a divorce. They had a baby. The husband wanted to have fun, and she didn't. Like, she was married and ready to have a family and kids, and he was like, I'm out. So now she's thrown back into the single scene, and now she's. So four to five years, she had to work on herself. Then after that, she had to get back into the single scene. Now here we are, four to five years later. Finally, she met somebody. She's the one holding it up, and she likes the guy. And it is the real, like, what.

Kind of work did she do on herself?

She worked on how to be alone and being okay with that.

Yeah. You know what? Until you can really be okay with being alone and maybe being lonely and taking the time to figure yourself out, I think you're really not gonna find somebody.

No, you're not.

If you go from one to the next, especially after, like, a heartbreak or any time in life. Back to the texting thing real quick, though. Is that. It's just. It's a pain in the ass. And I. I'm on my phone all the time anyway. Literally, it makes me crazy. And I'm just like, can we make a plan? If not, I. Unmatched.

She has to unmatch.

If it's.

If you can't make a plan, goodbye. She was doing that. And then finally this one guy was like, can you make a plan? And he was like a baller from New York. Like, she liked this guy.

Good.

He took her by surprise.

Right.

And, you know, and now they've. I don't want to jinx it, but they've been seeing each other for, like, a month.

Oh, good.

Which is a lot. I know it doesn't sound much, but.

For her, it's a long time. Yeah. Hey, you guys, just keep going after what you want. Don't stick in a relationship that you know. We all know the answers. Trust your gut.

Yes.

Hi, Emily. I'm a new listener and absolutely love your show. I've learned a lot about sex since finding your show and I'm excited to keep listening. You address a lot of topics I've always wanted about and been too afraid to ask about. I'm a 21 year old female and I text for the first time earlier this year. I grew up in a conservative household and we didn't really talk about sex ever. Our sex ed in school was talking about women's self confidence and dignity. Nothing about actually having sex. I'm not seeing or sleeping with anyone now, but I'm masturbating. However, my lack of experience is frustrating. I have a hard time finding my clitoris when I'm masturbating with and without a toy and getting anything other than a meh experience. Do you have any advice for a beginner like me for finding my clitoris orgy spot and getting to an orgasm? Thanks, Molly, 21, Dallas. We already helped her with G spot.

That was. I'm Molly, 21 from Dallas.

That's me. For real. It's every woman. It's every woman.

Exactly, exactly.

Molly. I was you. I did not have an orgasm until.

You know, we're both you, Molly.

We were both you. We're still you. My God, you're one.

It never ends too.

Never freaking ends. Okay, so let's talk about first what the clitoris is. And I want to address this. I'm sorry that you're getting frustrated a little bit here, Molly, because let me tell you something, Sex education is abysmal. Especially in the United States. We get nothing at all. And if we do. Like I'm glad that you said that they talked about self confidence in your school because mostly they try to scare you and it's like fear based and you're gonna get an STD and you're gonna get pregnant. So just don't have sex.

Absolutely.

So the fact they talk to you about being confident is great. That's like ahead of anyone else. But what they didn't tell you about was pleasure and understanding your body and figuring out what makes you feel good. And if you. Sounds like you learned a lot of that from the show that you know that that's the first step.

You're 1,000% right, by the way. They never point out the pleasure ever. They all only point out like, what are you gonna get? What kind of STD you're gonna get when you're pregnant. Yeah.

Except for in the Netherlands. I gotta say, it's really interesting if you study sex education over there. Like, they talk about pleasure and they talk about prevention and they talk about STDs, but they say, like, you know what? It's your body. You know, here's what you do, and it's about pleasure and masturbation. But here, if you talk about masturbation, schools, like, parents will lose their mind. Right? So we don't live that. We live in America. So let's talk about the clitoris. What is it? So it's erogenous organ that plays a key role in your sexual response. But it can be so hard to find. It's a complex structure. It's different on every woman. We think it's just this little bulb. For some women, it's more retracted. So, like, it's underneath, buried beneath the clitoral hood. And you actually have to be aroused for it to come out and, like, say hello. And for some women, it's just out all the time. So you gotta just, like, take a look for it. It's like a little pearl or a pea, like, on top of the vagina vulva. But again, unless you're aroused, it can be very hard to find. And the internal structure of it is the little. The legs. You know about the clitoral legs that are, like behind your labia, like, that whole area. So we talked about, like, the pubic mound and pushing on there. Right. Sometimes the labia, like, tickling, like, that whole area. That feels so good, too. Soft touches. Yeah. Because it's all the clitoris. Yes.

Right.

Yeah. So besides, you know, internal, external, like I said, there's a clitoral hood, which is kind of like the foreskin. When it's aroused, it retracts and you can find it. And what I would recommend for you, Molly, is to sit in front of a mirror, lie back on your bed. I mean, I so wish I did this at 21 me. Take, like, the mirror. Take the light from your cell phone or something. Yeah.

See there?

And look at it, like, look at it like your clitoris is at, like, 12 o'.

Clock.

Okay. Like in the opening of the vagina, 6 o'. Clock. So your clitoris is 12. Opening vagina, 6 o'.

Clock.

I think lube is great. Use a little bit of lube. You might not be aroused yet. And start to, like, stroke the top, like in a circular motion or back and forth. Circular, up and down. Start teasing yourself and just start, like, practicing with what really makes you feel good. Because we're all really different about what would turn us on. But those moves have proven to be very popular for women. But the other thing is, if you're going in with this mindset that you're frustrated, Molly, and that you've been trying and that you can't believe you haven't found it yet, this is gonna do nothing for you. So I'd also like you to take some time and just kind of touch your entire body and think about, like, things that turn you on, like, what makes you feel good. Is there any, like, erotica that you've read or, like, a sexual experience or someone that you fantasize about or do you even know what your fantasies are? Watch porn. And that will get you in the mindset. Because when our mind's on board for sex, like, our body will follow. And then you'll be like, oh, that was. That was really hot. And then you'll start to feel like your body reacting to that. You'll start to feel maybe your clitoris and everything will tense up. You'll start to just breathe through your body. So it's not just about touch. It's about getting everything on board.

Yes, I agree. Can I ask, what about the OM method? Have you heard about that?

I have. I've done it.

I've heard about it on your show.

Right.

And then I've read about it recently. And it's a method where they, whatever, take.

Stroke your clitoris for 15 minutes.

It seems so unlike sexy, though, the way it happened.

Well, okay, I get it.

It's a good idea.

But I'm down for anyone, like, focusing on the clitoris and trying to figure out how it works and how. What turns you on.

Right.

And the thing about oming. So it's a method that started. It's called orgasmic meditation. And it started in San Francisco by this woman named Nicole De Don, maybe when I started 2005, 2004, and they were actually in some of my first shows because they call them orgasmic monks. And they were all living in a house in San Francisco together. And, like, the bell would ring every hour and you needed to grab your partner. And it was a partnered practice with men and women where the man would literally, she would lay down and he would massage her clitoris in a very, very specific way where they're kind of breaking down the clitoris into regions kind of like 12 o', clock, 6 o' clock on your clitoris, though. And I'm like, oh, My God. There's, like, quadrants. It's actually quadrants. Like, there's four quadrants of the clitoris. And I'm like, oh, my God. I'm just like, if someone can find the clitoris, you're breaking quadrants. Yeah, but it is true that, like, the lower, like, right hand part of the clitoris is more sensitive.

Valley region and then. Right.

But it doesn't seem very sexy. And for me, to be honest, it wasn't. It was fun. Like, I liked my omi partner, and he came on my show after talking about massaging my clitoris, and it was a great episode, which we should find somewhere in the archives. But, yeah, we've been talking about this because I have 8,000 shows. But you're like, what's the guy getting from it? What's he gonna do? Well, there's actually energy, like, if you believe in, like, energetic connections between. You know, you could actually feel her body rising in the arousal. And the focus isn't orgasm for oming. It's more about getting really turned on. And it's more about, like, energy flowing and about feeling sort of throughout your body. The whole sensations and energy that you can. That can be, I guess, elicited through touch. The right kind of touch to your clitoris and that they're like, no, we don't go over and they mean orgasm. Like, we just kind of stay in a state of orgasmic bliss 24 7, which I was like, I would move into your house. That sounds fun. You orgasmic multiple. But I was super busy at the time, so that's kind of what it is. And a lot of people I know, the couples, they can go. They can train. Like, I think that's what you gotta do with Adam.

Train him.

I don't know. I mean, he might get into it. It's kind of mechanical. Yes, in a good way.

Yes, I agree. But the other thing is, is that I have boy, girl twins that are age 11, 12, going on 18. And what do I do to them? Who they. Instant satisfaction. They're gonna be able. I would say my daughter more than my son, because my son's up a little bit.

He doesn't.

He's looking at, like, basketball, like, stats and football and fantasy football. My daughter, though. Instant gratification in this new age of pornography where they can instantly get. They can jack off and come in two seconds and be done.

What do you do?

Be open to them. I want to tell them, like, look, I know what's going on, Okay? I know. I know what's going on. But how do I like guide them and tell them what do I do with that?

With them? Well, I think that it really starts with. I mean, I don't know how you stop them from watching porn, to be honest. Like, it's everywhere. They're gonna find it. You're not putting like, what is it, the adult proofing your computer?

Yeah. No, yeah, Parental.

Parental guidance. I don't know.

But if Emily, if you had two 11 year olds, boy girls, what would you do?

Oh, my God. Great question. I been really thinking about this a lot over the years because I feel like for me, I will. No, I am. And I feel like that it starts with talking to them about. It's very different conversation and you probably can't talk to them at the same time. And to be honest, you're not gonna like this answer. But what I've. The conclusion I've come to lately is that I don't think that kids want to hear about sex from their parents. I know, they just don't.

I don't think it's natural because I'm the most easiest.

I know everything.

Loveline, dad over there.

Like, guys, come on.

You ain't gonna talk to Olga or nanny, like, who you guys are talking to.

Honestly, Olga the nanny they might listen to more than you because you're the parent. I mean, that's why I've been saying lately, like, what if there was some kind of. Like, this doesn't exist yet. And I'm not going to get to your question, but like peer education programs where you're training like kids in high school and college to like talk to younger kids about sex. Because I'm like, mom, like, no, you have sex with D. I don't want to know. No, I got it, I get it, but they don't get it. And so I feel like I wish that I had a great idea for like a great book or a great place to tell you. In fact, people keep snapping me and emailing me and asking me these questions about the best place to go to teach children right now. And Scarlatine is a website that's been around since I started Scarlatine. Scarlatine, yeah. It's like, I don't know if it's still a great site for people to go do. That's what I've often told parents and kids to go to. Scarlatine. Also, there's a website that's new called and I don't know what age it's targeted towards, but omg, yes.

Yeah, I have that on my computer.

You do?

Yeah, I downloaded it.

I love it. Did you pay the membership?

Yes, I did.

Now what kind? Okay.

And then I got bored after two days.

Well, because the thing about that is I think that's like hand, like literally teaches you about your body. Yeah. And the clitoris and stroking. I love that you did that. Yeah. So, yeah, for your kids, it's like.

But for an 11 year old, I.

Mean, because they're, they already know. So I think it's like, if you have questions, you can tell. I think that you got to teach your daughter about her body. And I really would tell her about masturbation and about pleasure and that it's really like what I told my niece when. As soon as she. She didn't ask. But I knew that there were things going on. I was like, listen, never have sex or don't do anything because you think someone's gonna like you more, boys are gonna like you. You know what sex is about? Yes. You make babies. It's about procreation, all that stuff. But there's another part of sex. It's actually about your pleasure and you being confident in your body and understanding your body, what makes you feel good. And I was like, masturbation. She's like, ew. I'm like, but you know, it's like, that's like the most important work that you could do is figure out your body, what makes you feel good before. But your kids, 11. Yeah. I feel like you are the only one that can talk to now. You don't have like the troops yet that I would like to train around the world to help kids. Yeah. Here's the other thing. We think that we tell people things once. Parents, friends, spouses. And they're gonna get it. Like, well, I told them last year to touch my clitoris. I told them last year I wanted more oral sex. I told them, right. Think about how long it takes to change behavior. Like, anytime you've changed anything in your life, right. You've had to like, work at it. You have to hear it, you have to study, listen. Right. So it doesn't change over time. So if you think you've already had the sex conversation with your kids, I would say the more you bring it up, perhaps the more comfortable to get that it's like talking about the fact they should stop eating sugar and that they should have eat more broccoli or they should, you know, get exercise, why that's important. Or be nicer to friends. That if sex becomes part of the, the discussion that you have in your family. And Adam's on board and it's natural because it's everywhere right now. So maybe I'm just thinking about like, if you guys are like united on it, it's not weird, it's not awkward, it's not uncomfortable. But you're like, no, for real. We're going to keep talking about it. You can run in your room and play fantasy football and you can go talk Snapchat with your friends, your daughter. But we're continue to talk about it. Like we're. I'm going to tell you, like, your body, what feels good. Like, porn is no way to learn about sex, right? Wrong. With porn, you can. It might get you off, but technically what you're seeing there. Yeah, he's nowhere near clitoris. There's no way she's having a real orgasm.

Right?

I mean, I almost feel like the more we talk about it, then maybe it just becomes normalized.

I.

So that's my new answer.

Thank you.

Because until I can like make some kind of app or solution and train people, I don't do that.

Please.

I will.

Okay.

It's on my list. Hi, Emily. I love your advice. I'm a young professional physician and I make a very good living salary wise. I'm recently back in the dating pool after a two year relationship went south on first dates. I'm finding the guys are bringing up the what do you do? Question somewhat innocently. However, when they find out what I do, she's doctor, their eyes get wide and at least something like you got the check right or something rude. I rarely get second dates and then I find out I'm intimidating. I don't want to end up single at 40, but it's so frustrating. I also don't want to end up a sugar mama. How do I weed out these losers and find a real guy? I'm new in town, so I can't really lean on my friends for quality men. Thank you. Nina, 28, Naples, Florida. Wow. Naples has been hit though.

I was just gonna say, I know.

I hope you're starting to recover right now post hurricane. And this might even change your dating experience because volunteering could be a good way to bring the community now.

And what's wrong with being a sugar mama?

Well, she doesn't. She doesn't. Well, just like a guy doesn't want to be a sugar daddy. I mean, some do okay, but she doesn't.

I wouldn't mind. All right. I mean.

Right. But that's where we're at now. Now I'm like, yeah, I don't know. I'm different than I was at 28.

Yeah, I know. Okay, so that's a good question.

That guy made that comment is an asshole. Because if a guy said to me, will you get the check? Well, maybe again, some women, I never talk like that on my show, but I don't typically criticize people in that way. But to me, it's okay. But have you figured out. I'm curious, Nina, like, what you really, really want in a man? And not only from a man, but what do you want from a relationship? So here's the interesting paradigm right now, and this is the other thing to be talking to your kids about, is that it's not the way it was when we grew up, that we don't. Look, men and women are equal, and we don't need a man to, like, take care of us and support us and pay our rent and do all these things. It's more like we want to, like, have kids, perhaps, or we want someone that we love and hang out with, and we, like doing some of the same things or whatever it is. I don't have the answer for you, Nina, but I think you'd be interested. You think about, how would a man enhance my life right now? How would a relationship change where I'm at in my life right now, make it better? And when you think of it that way, like, you really close your eyes, you're like, what does the perfect relationship look like? Like, where am I living? What am I doing? What are he and I doing together that might change the way you act on a date. Because what I'm thinking is, it's true. Like, maybe guys are intimidated. You're a doctor. Doctors can be intimidating across the board, right? I mean, that's true, and I understand that. Like a doctor, just in any way, you're like, oh, you're a doctor. Like, that happens, right? So I get that you're a doctor, so I understand that. But also, I feel like we all want to feel needed. And if you might be presenting yourself in ways, if you actually have been told that you're intimidating, that leaves a guy thinking, I'm not really sure where you need me right now. Like, I'm not really sure how I would enhance your life. Because you've got a job, you pay your rent, you're beautiful, you're smart. And even though things have changed and men and women are very different, we still all want to feel needed and play a role. So maybe that's. There's a way of just I don't know.

Well, I mean, that's a good. Definitely a good point to bring up and definitely a good conversation to have, especially if you have kids, because I have a daughter who I want to be strong, and I don't want her to have to rely on dudes or whatever. But then there's a fine line, because I don't want her to, like, be.

Alone, like me in her 40s. I get. No, it was my choice. I get it.

I wouldn't mind being in your position. Right.

I know. I love my life, but. Yeah, but, like, I get it. How do you be softer? Yeah.

And then I have a boy at the same age who I don't want him to feel, you know, like he's got. What's the. The word? Emasculated.

Yeah. So it's interesting, the masculine and feminine. I mean, that's, like, a really interesting conversation about how men can really live in their masculine. Can live in their feminine, feminine, and, like, who they really are, and then still come together and feel like they need each other.

So kids are gonna have to learn at this generation, as far as I'm concerned, as my gen. My kids generation, they're gonna have to learn how to get along and how to be able to be in their own worlds and come together.

Right?

Right. Yeah.

I mean, there's a lot of good. I did a great show a few months ago with John Wineland that people loved, and we talked a lot about the masculine and feminine and that I think a lot of people really felt enlightened. But it's true. It's like. It's harder to explain, maybe to your kids at 11, but in general, I think that women being in their bodies and being in their feminine. No matter how strong you are, Nina, and tough, and you're a doctor, and I didn't think you're tough, but you're, like, taking care of things, and you're working really hard. You got a medical school. How much are you, like, in your body and, like, in touch with, like, who you are, Nina? And what makes you feel good? Like, taking dance class or taking movement or meditation or, like, just, like, being connected. I feel like a lot of us live in our heads. I'm speaking for myself in many ways. I am very, like, masculine. And they're like, I have a company. I have a business. I've been all about, like, making it and supporting myself and that there could be a part that maybe isn't as feminine, even though I'm sitting there talking about sex all day long. If I had to learn to like slow things down on dates and not be like I'm trying to prove myself or whatever it is, none of this is conscious, but just even being conscious of how I move in the world and my body and slowing things down and being in my feminine. Yeah. My goddess energy, if you will. So that's a whole other practice. Yeah, but it's, it's really important.

Well, I mean, maybe it's something for parents to think about how to, to, you know, train their kids to start thinking.

Yeah.

Because one thing I'm struggling with, and this has nothing to do with sex in a nutshell, is my kids are no academics. They're, they're not, they're bright, but they're not going to go to a four year college. This whole thing of going to school school for four years, getting your master's degree or getting your bachelor's degree and then going in and getting a job and getting your 401k and then retiring at 55, to me that's kind of out the window. This whole world is changing. And for me to not be able to teach my kids how to learn about the technology industry and learn how to maybe even invest, take that money that I save for them to go to college and take that money and invest in like 10 to 15 startups.

Yeah.

And not only just invest and walk away.

No, but I get it. Those are skills that we should be teaching in schools. How to life skills all about.

It's a different world now.

It is a different world. Well, you and Adam, I mean, I feel like you guys are entrepreneurs and you start a business. Like how great. Like they're so lucky to have you as parents because you get to decide how you want to raise them and what, what kind of values you want to enforce. And I wish that I knew about money and stuff like that. How to balance checkbook or not on balance checkbook anymore, but whatever it is, I didn't know any of that shit.

Yes.

And I had to learn it the hard way by like going through really rough stuff and being like, oh, I don't know about money, you know?

Yeah. So we have that side. Can you just come in and teach them how?

Yeah, I will. I gotta tell you, there's two things that I'm really uber passionate about right now. One of them really is education and kids and helping like college students and young kids because. Because we're so under educated in that area and it's never been done. Right. And so I take that as like a huge personal Challenge and mission that if I could help parents and kids to kind of understand sex, obviously I don't know how I would do it. You know, would I raise money? Like, is it an app? Is it programs where I'm actually teaching? I think it's really, really important. And then the other thing that I'm just super passionate about is just sort of. I feel like a lot of us are sort of in our heads, attached to our phones. Myself is included, you guys. That's why I can never do anything that I'm not super passionate about. And I want to help myself, but we're disconnected from our bodies. So a lot of people who call into the show or email and having problems and not thinking about, they're just, like, getting off really quickly online. They're jacking off, and they've the orgasm and they're, like, ordering pizza. We're so not connected to our bodies. And that sounds very like. Because we're so fat, we're doing all these other things. But the more that you stop and you breathe into your body and you learn to, like, connect again, like, I think we're just, like, dead. It's like, neck up.

Yeah.

We're in our brains, and then there's our bodies happening. And for a lot of women that I hear from, they're like, I don't feel anything or I don't feel aroused. I don't feel turned on. It's because you're just. You're not connected. So breathe into that area and feel it. And so if I could find a way to connect everything that I'm doing, like, the mind, body connection with sex in a way that isn't too like. People are like, oh, I could go buy some crystals and.

No, I agree. I agree.

So that's kind of where I'm at.

All right.

Exhausting. But I really want to help.

Let's help them out.

Okay, well, that's what's going on. How can everyone find you?

Lynette, you can find me at LynetteCarolla. @ l y N E T T E C A R O L L A At Twitter, Facebook. I'm Laneca, Rollette. All across the board. And for crying out loud. For crying out loud. And sword and scale rewind And Mangria. Yes.

Mangria. Corolla drinks, which are delicious.

Yeah. IPA beer, which is out.

Now. I want your.

Beer. I have beer. I brought it for.

You. Oh, my God. Okay, so we're gonna put all that on our website as well, but follow Lynette. She's awesome and beautiful and smart and hot. Check out our videos from the show because it was awesome. Thank you so much for being here. I had a blast. And thank you to all my listeners. Thank you to my amazing team, Ken, Jamie, Intern, Shannon, Producer, Lark and Michael. You guys are all awesome. Thank you so much for listening to to the show. Follow me everywhere, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat. It's all Sex with Emily and Was it good for you? Email me feedback with emily.com.

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