7 Dec 2025 · 54 min
Emily Morse talks with adult film performer Jenna Haze about her career, transition to new projects, and sexual wellness. The conversation includes caller questions and touches on Emily's skincare brand.
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They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.
Eyes that mock our sacred institutions.
Bedroom eyes, they call them in A bygone day.
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You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com. do it right now. Sign up for our mailing list. And we won't spam you. We'll only send you sexy things. And we'll also send you the five biggest mistakes you're making in bed if you're a man or a woman. And then we'll send you emails from time to time with, like, really good information to help you improve your sex life or your relationship. Because that's what I do. That's why I'm on the planet, Dammit. And that's why you're listening to the show, right, Anderson. Hi, Anderson. How are you doing tonight? Glad to have you with me.
Good to be here with you, Ems. I miss you.
I miss you too. And you have a great haircut. Super sexy.
Thanks, kid. You know what? The people that I work with every day didn't even notice.
Really.
That's why I love it.
That's why it's true love. It's true love. I have another wonderful guest, lovely guest here in the studio. It's Ms. Jenna Hayes. Hi, Jenna. Hi. Jenna is an American director, model, and former former porn pornographic actress. She's won numerous adult industry awards. Like, okay, your list of awards is two pages right now on my screen.
That's actually not all of them.
But I mean, seriously, like, okay, like 2003, you were the Avian Award. Best starlet goes on and on and on. Female performer former of the year. I mean, we. People went crazy today when I was like, posting social media. Jenna Hayes. Jenna Hayes, what do you attribute your success to? Why? There's a lot of girls out there. I know you've retired now we're gonna get into what she's doing next. But, like, what do you think it is that made you such a success? I don't know.
I think that I have a very, very specific look, that it's like the girl next door, natural. I have no tattoos, no piercings. No plastic surgery. Like, everything from my nails to my hair is all real. There's nothing, like, fake at all. I've never had lip injections. Nothing like that.
Right. So that's it. So you're more the innocent. I think so, too.
And I think that I, you know, I came in the industry, I went pretty.
You know, all out right away. Like, how do I say this? Nice. Yeah, I went into it pretty, you know, quickly. I didn't just start with solo, you know, shoots and then move on. I just went right into, like.
I was reading that your first scene was pretty, like, intense, that you were just do one thing and then it ended up into being something else. Is that it?
Yes. So it was kind of, you know, it was kind of unexpected. I kind of threw myself into it. I. Well, I was an adult film fan before I got in the industry. As a teenager, I'd watched him with boyfriends.
So I was.
I knew a lot about the industry. I knew stars. I was fans of certain stars and stuff. So it was.
Who was your biggest fan? Who were the biggest fan of.
I liked a girl named Sky Lopez who most people would never even know. She used to be on the Shane's World ones. I really like the Shane's World. I don't know if you. The old Shane's world with actual Shane in them.
Okay, okay.
And she had, like, a group of girls that were really good in all of her movies, like Sky Lopez and, like, I think Hallie Aston, the redhead girl author.
So hot. Oh, wow. So you were.
And their movies were so real. Like, they would just be a bunch of people who go up and go, like, snowboarding, and they would just, like, you know, like.
And they're all having sex.
It was, like, the beginning of reality porn. But now it's, like, big right now.
It's everything. Right now. Everything's about amateur porn and all that.
It was much more real and, like, just fun and, you know, I like that.
So that's cool. So your boyfriends, was it their idea or your idea to watch when you were.
Well, it was their idea. I was very young.
Right, so you were like, okay. And then you were into it. Now, were you attracted to women? Have you been with them? You've always been attracted to a man?
I was with a woman before I was ever with a guy.
Oh, wow. Okay. So when did you first have your first feelings that you might be into women? How old are you?
I was pretty young. I was probably like. I don't. I don't even know if I'M allowed to say this on air.
You had feelings. Like, I mean, I was.
I was young. I was in my, like, preteens.
Okay.
And you start attracted to women. Yeah, I was obsessed with Madonna.
Right.
I was like. So. I mean, it was the 80s and the 90s, you know. 80s. Oh, gosh, I'm making myself older than I am.
Don't even get me started on that. Okay.
Yeah, it was the 90s. That was when Madonna was very, like. It was her erotica stage.
I was, like, turned on by that.
Yes, very much. I was very turned on by her sexual empowerment, too. How she was not afraid to be, you know, in charge of her sexuality on such a huge scale.
Right, exactly. And so do you feel that you, like, how was your first formative. Like, your formative sexual experiences, like. Like with the woman, for example, that was your first. Was that your first sexual experience? Yes. Was it, like, making out or was it more than that?
Like, it was more than that.
How was that? Like, how did you know what to do? Just. I mean. No, I'm watching porn.
Well, not then. I hadn't watched it yet.
Oh.
Yeah, it was before that ever happened. I don't know, like, as. Like. I don't know, as young little girls, like, in my preteens, we would, like, act out, like, oh, well, you pretend to be the guy, and I'll pretend to be the girl. And, like, we'll, like, you know.
Right.
Like, flirt and, like, it was, like, practice.
I'm doing that too. With a practice.
It was almost like practice.
Yeah, totally grabbing hair out of my boob, and I'm like, that kind of feels good. Yeah, I remember that.
But I knew that I was still attracted to, you know, that I was already attracted to women, and it just kind of came naturally. And then when I was, you know, in my little bit later teens, I. When I actually started, like, you know, kissing girls and not just, like, trying to act out right now, like, at.
The bar, like, it too, or whatever, to impress me. You really attracted to me? I'm saying there's so many women. Like, I kissed a girl because it was, like, fun, and my boyfriend wanted me to do this.
No, I liked girls before, I liked guys, but now I definitely want guys for relationships and girls for just fun.
See. Right? That's totally fine, and I totally get it. So you. So you do both, then. That's so in your. Okay, so how about your experiences, like. Like, sexually with a guy? So the first time, like, you had sex with them, like, do you remember was that oh, it was terrible. Terrible. It always is, right? I've never had sex. I gotta tell you people, like, some people. That's my show. It's like. It's not supposed to be great the first time, so don't even stress about it. Right.
It was terrible. And, like, the reason. The guy I picked and, like, the reason I did it was just so stupid and childish. Like, I.
Why? Who was he? What happened?
It was because the guy that I was all like, you know, I was. I was just about to be.
Freshman in high school, and I really liked this guy. It was the summer before I started, you know, my first year of my ninth year. And I really liked him. I dated him, like, all summer. And then I wouldn't sleep with him, so he broke up with me. And so then I got mad because he broke up with me because that. And I went and I slept with his worst enemy. I know. How mean, right? And I didn't even like him.
Right. But you just slept with and it was terrible.
Yes, once. It was horrible. And I was like, that sucked. That's a bad way to lose my virginity.
Exactly.
Not very good.
No, but we all do weird things like that. Right? But then, did you. What about you, like, growing up, like, sexually? Like, did you have orgasms? Like, would you remember the first time you masturbated? Oh, I was.
I was always, from a young age.
Like, humping stuffed animals, jealous of women like you.
I never had a problem with that.
With orgasming or anything. You always, like, were good at it and could do it and knew about it.
I've always been a very sexual person. I mean, as like a little kid in a. You know, I would take, like, my clothes off all the time and run around naked. I, like, you know, stole my mom's lingerie and, like, dressed up in it. Pretended I was Madonna in video.
Oh, my God. Do they have little videos?
No, thank God.
Okay. They get put on website. That'd be cute, though. Throwbacks.
I don't even want to think about that.
What?
Bad thoughts. That would inspire people.
No, you're right. We don't want to do that. You're right. Forget that. I would just. I think it's cute. Okay. But. But so you.
I would think sexual too, but.
And so have you always been comfortable that when you, like, when you've been after that terrible experience when you're with men, like, women expressing what you need so important?
Yeah, it was very natural to me. Sex was always very natural to me. From a, you know, young age. I feel like that's why when I got approached to be an adult, I kind of went for it.
Yeah, because you were like, I mean.
There'S a whole bunch more, but you know. Yeah, okay. It wasn't. That's why I think that I like, you know that first scene you were talking about, it was just like I was exploring my sexuality.
Right. You know, with like two different people in it or something. Yeah. Why you're making Fade Away so fun. It's like you've won all these awards. I mean, obviously you're doing something right and you liked it for a while when you were in it. And now you're moved on, you're directing and now I'm in a different place. Okay, that's good. Okay, we have some callers coming in, so we should take these awesome number. Let's take line two. Someone wants to know what? Okay. Reggie. Hi, Reggie.
Hey, how are you doing?
He's in Illinois. Hi, thanks for calling Sex Thumbley.
Yes. Yes, I'm a first time caller. I've been listening to your podcast of your show and it's really amazing.
Thank you.
Really great interviewer and I'm a fan of Jenna Hayes.
Well, we are both here for you.
Thank you.
Do you. Well, thank you so much for listening to the show and calling in. It's great to talk to you. How can we help you tonight?
Well, thank you. I was just, just had a quick question. Just wanted to know what Jenna Hayes been up to since she's retired a while back. I was like, do you have any projects I can check out or are you doing any mainstream work?
Yes.
That's awesome. I actually am just about to come out with two indie movies that I have cameos in. One is a horror movie and it's called Raised by Wolves by the Butcher Brothers. And then the other one is another indie movie called Pocket Listing. Pocket Listing. Thank you. You took it.
Took it right out of my mouth. Pocket Listing. And I make a little cameo in that one too. And they're coming out soon. Pocket listing has Rob Lowe and Burt Reynolds in it. The other one is, is a more underground indie movie. Doesn't have any celebrities in it.
Except for you.
Except for me, but that's cool.
Yeah, I definitely do. Yeah, I like horror movies, so I'll definitely be.
Oh yeah, it's my favorite.
Me too.
That's what I want to be. I want to be like a scream queen.
Yeah, that'd be cool. And then like I said, I definitely appreciate your previous work. You were amazing performer and, and you always Brought it, you know. So this is my first ever, really getting a chance to talk to you. So I know that you've been busy and everything, directing and everything like that and doing all wonderful things. It's just cool to finally be able to talk to you and show my appreciation.
Aw, thanks, Reggie. Love you.
You're awesome.
I know. That's so great. You've just made our night.
No problem.
Have a good one. Thanks, Reggie. Of course. Have a wonderful evening. Oh, you're such fan. People are so, like, on Twitter and everything. And we can find you on Twitter as there. What are you on Twitter?
Twitter, I'm Enahaze.
Enahaze. Instagram.
I'm Ennahaze. And then Facebook. I'm the real Jenna Hayes.
The real Jenna Hayes. Okay. And I'm Socks with Emily on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and all that stuff. Okay. So you've got the. Okay. So we were going back to. I wanted to hear about your. Can you talk about your masturbation orgasms? I'm jealous about that. I just have to say no. Really?
I'm so giggly because this is my first, like, interview or anything in like three years or something.
She came in and she's like, I haven't done an interview in three years. I'm like, wow, I'm so honored that you're here. Like, really, like, that's like.
Yeah, it's been two or three years at least since I've done anything.
I mean, and you know, that's. I'm very, very honored. And so I heard about, like, I mean, everyone heard about you, but I also want to know about. So Fleshlight. Let's just talk about Fleshlight for a minute. It is the best. The number one male sex toy, which a lot of, you know, I talk a lot about. We're going to get into this later. Let's talk a lot about sex toys for women. How couples can use to get together. But this is like a. Especially for men. And they actually have a Jenna Hayes Fleshlight. You were the first Fleshlight girl. But how would you explain. I know we don't have penises. Like, sometimes I wish I did so I could, like, feel it because it seems like it's amazing. It's like, it's a masturbation sleeve. It stimulates the feel of real sex. It's body safe. It provides variety for men who want to experiment. It's clean, durable. If you go to my website, sex with emily.com and click on the Fleshlight banner, you'll learn more about it. But which been yours. Have you ever used it with a guy or know anyone who's used it? The Fleshlight. Well.
Well, the Fleshlight. I actually am not the very first girl. I believe the first girl was Tara Patrick.
Okay.
And then came me. But I was the first girl to have all three of them. Oh, not just the all three.
So what are they?
Well, there's the vagina, and there's the. You know, the back door.
Back door.
And then there's the mouth.
Amazing.
And the mouth one was definitely the weirdest to mold.
Like, they actually come in and they stick. Like, they stick it. How does. I always wonder.
I think they did it at G. They did at the convention at avn. They molded my mouth in front of everybody.
Oh, my God. Are you serious?
And, yeah, I'm, like, wearing this, like, herb lej dress and, like. And they're, like, molding my mouth. It was with all these people, like, a crowd of people. I think they had G4, like, recording it. It was crazy.
That is crazy.
But it's hard because you have to keep your mouth, like, slightly open, but, like, puckered very sexily and.
And not laugh.
You can't move. You can't laugh.
How long do they have the molding?
Like, five minutes.
How long do you in your vagina for?
It's about the same.
Okay. And then it pulls out. It's like.
Do you look at.
You're like, that's really my vagina? Yeah.
It's kind of interesting.
Well, the fleshlights, too.
It's kind of. You know, it's.
It's.
It's kind of amazing, though.
You know, it is amazing that, like, people, like, millions of men have bought your vagina. But the thing is, right, like, everyone's like, not the real. No, she would not sell her real vagina, but you can also buy fleshlights that aren't like a vagina as well, but just because it's good for men, for stamina. It is.
And I know a lot of couples that use it together. I haven't personally, but I know a lot that do. And I also know a lot of guys who. I have a friend, a girlfriend who's amazing. She's a gorgeous model, and she travels a lot, and her husband has to be home alone a lot. And, you know, I hook them up with ones from my friends and stuff like that. Me too.
I give them to friends. Right. Guys love it. Just like a variation. Because we've got toys. Men. If you want to make, you know, mass. Make masturbation, a little variety to it or you want to last? It feels like I gave it to one of my friends, and he's like, God, I'd leave my wife if it could cook. I mean, he loved the flashlight.
Well, I don't give them. I don't give my friends mine.
No.
But I give them awkward.
You're like, here's my vagina. Take this to the regular Fleshlight.
I give. I give them other girls, right? Because, like, her. Her husband was like, can you get me so and so's. And I was like, oh, yeah, I'll get you some. So I just, you know, that's okay.
That's. I guess it'd be kind of weird to get, like, gift your friends. Yeah, that's. Unless they were, like, awkward. A boyfriend or a girlfriend or something. Okay, I got it. Okay, so go to sex with emily.com fleshlight or just click on the Fleshlight banner and text with Emily and you can check them out. Because it's also a great gift and it's a great thing for couples. No, it's number one mailings.
Like, I think, like, guys, let me first. A lot of times they think it's ridiculous and they feel awkward and feel kind of like, you know, I have a hand. Like, why do I need that? And, you know, feel kind of silly, probably using, like, a sensei. But I've had so many guys tell me that it's so much better than their hand.
I know. It's so much better than. It's easier to. You put some lube in it.
And it's not as good as the real thing they say, obviously, but it is. It is a really good variation from the regular stroke, you know, and it. A lot of guys like it better.
Right? Exactly. And there's.
With all these different girls, we all have. There's the lotus texture, which is the basic vag texture, and then there's the basic back door.
Right.
Am I allowed to say anything? I don't.
You can say anything you want. Okay, good.
I just want to make sure. I'm so used to doing radio.
I know. Me too. After this, I do love line, and we can't swear, so I'm like, do whatever you say. Whatever you want.
Okay, good. Well, the bum one.
I'm still being all PC, right.
That's fine, too.
That one has its own special texture. And, like, then each girl individually, there's also the mouth one is called the swallow. Each girl has their own signature textures as well.
Oh, that's so. That's amazing.
And so each one feels different. So There's a lot of guys who will, you know, buy them because it's different textures. It feels different.
Each one. Right. It's like different sex. Like I said, it's like different sex toys. Like sometimes I want the rabbit or I want the clitoral vibrator.
That's the cool thing about, you know, Fleshlight is that they designed a special texture for each different type of sex that you can have, you know, which is cool. Each one is totally different.
So then they make ones are more tighter.
Yes. And they make it feel. They try to make the textures really feel like the real thing, which is amazing.
Yeah, it's pretty amazing. The texture is like body safe materials. You use lube. I want some guys and you know, I'm gonna give one away tonight. So if you want to email me@feedbacktextelmy.com I'm send you a flashlight and then you put. But you have to email me after and tell me about it. Okay. You can even be anonymous. But I want to hear how much you loved it. So yeah, that's. Check it out flashlight on my website. So anyway, going back to that, I guess we have more calls. Let's talk to. Let's talk to number Michael on line one. Hey Michael, thanks for calling. Sex with Emily.
Hello. Hey.
Hey, what's going on tonight? How are you? How can I help you? I'm here with Jenna Hayes.
Hi. I was listening to your show. I love your show. It's awesome. I just know your app for my phone is pretty cool.
Oh, thank you.
You're welcome. Hello, Genevieve.
Hi.
How are you?
I'm good.
Thanks for calling in.
You're welcome. I'm so like nervous just calling in to hear your voice.
Aw. Just breathe. It's okay. We're just having a good time here on a Thursday.
That's pretty cool. Just to hear your voice. I can't believe I hear you after all these years.
Aw, thank you.
You're making me bless. Like I said, it's my first interview. I haven't had any interaction with fans like this in a long time.
I know. It's good. You have to come back all the time.
It's flattering.
I know. So, Michael, how can we help you? Any questions?
I've got a question. What made you decide to change? I mean, you're not dancing anymore either.
At the moment I am not doing any of that. I'm focusing on some other projects I actually just built myself. I built a new website, Jenna Hayes dot com. And it's gonna be a merch Site.
Jenna Hayes dot com gonna be the.
First time you're gonna be able to buy T shirts, like everything. T shirts, posters. I'm gonna do art prints. Like, I'm gonna do all these things, Calendars, everything you can imagine. So that's amazing. I've been working on that for a while. I've design. I've designed it myself.
So check it out. Jennyheese.com support her. She's amazing.
And so that's what I've been doing recently since I. I mean, I dance flash about six months ago.
Okay.
So I haven't retired from that officially or anything.
So you do dancing tours?
Yeah, well, I do it. I did it for eight years and I would do it almost every other weekend to every weekend. And I would just fly out, do a gig at a show or a gig at a club and for a few days and then go back.
Wow. So it's like stripping, dancing or dancing.
It's feature dancing, which means that you put on a bigger show. You have costumes, like crazy costumes and stuff. You give away stuff. You. Yeah, you have a signing and stuff after.
Michael, you have to go to our next one. Where's your next. Is it coming up?
I haven't booked anything right now because I'm so focused on getting this site launched within the next couple weeks.
Hire a wet person. Do you like doing it?
I want to do it myself. It's like a project that I want to.
I totally get it.
Yeah, I run it myself. I'm gonna be like, everything's gonna be autographed.
WordPress.
No, it's actually. I built it on a different website.
Okay. Remember, we'll talk about me after. Okay. Well, thanks, Michael, for calling in.
You're welcome.
Have a great night.
Are you too. Bye.
Bye. Oh, he loves you. He's so happy. I know people get nervous.
I'm like, it's cool, it's cool.
We're all good. Okay. So we can. Let's keep going here. So we have some more calls coming in. Everyone, if you're listening right, you can always call in on Thursday nights from 8:30 to 9:30 at 1-800-Love-191, I believe it is if I'm right about that. So I love that because I do love Line after this. And also I do do love Line if you guys want to check out that podcast as well.
It's awesome. I started listening to Loveline at a very young age.
Did you? Yeah.
I remember being like 13, 14 and listening to it.
Right. I did too. And it's like it's to be sitting here doing it is very iconic. It is iconic, yes. Since the 80s, remember 30th year helped a lot of people.
It's almost as old as me.
I know. Seriously, can you imagine? Right, so the year you were born, they started doing it. Yeah. It is amazing because there's so many questions. Do you get a lot of people asking you sex questions and advice and stuff like that?
I definitely used to, yeah. I mean, whenever I would go to, even when I'd be at signings or conventions, through emails, I still get people who are like, you know, how do I get my girl to do this? Or, you know, like the best is just when you get people that write you, that just tell you how much like you've, like, especially when it's couples and they're like, you know, you taught my wife this technique or she didn't think that she could, you know, ever like give oral rights, you know, and she was never able to like, you know, make me come to completion on it, you know, through that way. And because I watched her movie, like that kind of stuff.
Oh my God. It makes you feel kind of exactly like I. Exactly. Those are the. That's why I do when I get the emails, like, oh, my God, my sex life has improved. I never thought. Okay, but tell me about your oral sex tip then for men. Well, if it made this man have an orgasm from his wife, we all have to hear about it. I have to hear about it.
Well, that was kind of what I was known for in the industry.
For your oral sex. Good for you. Okay. Why? How'd you. What? Tell me everything.
I mean, I have a specific technique with my hands and my mouth.
Okay.
So I mean, if you should check out, check out some of my movies.
Check out her movies.
I'll send you some.
Okay? Please, please. And can you explain it for people?
Well, I guess my fans have called it like the corkscrew.
Okay.
So it's a, it's a mouth and.
Double up and down, up and down bow. Okay. And twisting your hands the whole time.
Yes. And so, yeah, lots of saliva. Lots of, lots of saliva. I think the most important thing for girls though, with any kind of sex act though, is that they enjoy it.
Right.
If you don't enjoy, if you don't be open minded a little bit, even if you haven't done it before and you're trying something new, try to enjoy it. Like, right. Like look forward to it. It's exploring your sexuality. It's a beautiful thing. It's awesome.
Exactly.
You know, so I've always said that a lot of girls don't enjoy giving oral. That's why, you know, but it can.
Be so sexy, and it could be.
So fulfilling for a woman, too. Like, I. I very much enjoy.
I know. I do, too. I know. No, I do too. I love it. So many women don't. And you always do that thing about, oh, I got married, she stopped giving me heads. Right?
Like that whole cliche of that.
But it's true.
Stereotype Anderson.
Oh, he's not there. I was gonna ask Anderson. No, he wouldn't answer, though. He never talks about sex life. But it's true. Like, women just, like, they stop. It's like, you're right. Because I feel like sex should always be expansive. You should be constantly growing and doing things. And I think that so many people have. Women and men have these messages that they're just, like, from childhood or whatever, they feel shame or shut down and. And then they keep having sex the same way, and then they get bored. But it's like, it can be such a. You're right. Be into it. Even if you're, like, afraid of something, you can still, like, talk to your partner about different things you want to try. And I think porn. I think you brought up a great point there, that people thank you for doing porn because porn can get such a bad rap. And it's like, I get it, like, if someone's addicted to it, but really, I feel like porn is a great tool that couples can use to watch together and learn things. You might want to do everything, but you could just. At least either it'll just turn you on and you'll make you guys want to have sex, or you could learn a few tips, right? Yes.
And, you know, I think that sexuality is something that society tends to shun and that, you know, porn gets the bad rap and everything, but it's something that should be celebrated more than, you know, in healthy ways. You know, everything that's consensual and, you know, but it. You know, it should be explored and enjoyed by people. Single men, single women, whatever. Like, and whatever you're. You know, some people don't.
Maybe.
Don't they like videos, but they like toys.
Exactly.
Maybe some people don't like toys or videos, but they like to go to a strip club, right?
You know, try it all out. See what? Talk to your partner. Talk to. See what. See what you like. Like, try. So I'm not asking. Do anything super crazy, but, like, maybe there's a little something I always have to be like, try one thing different this week, like, with your partner this month even. Like, I'm gonna do a striptease or I'm gonna buy a new sex toy or I'm gonna. Whatever it is. Doesn't. That. We're not talking. Like, you have to say anything crazy, but just to keep it interesting and you might let go. You're right. Like, don't. People, women, men, so in their head, afraid they're gonna be judged, and couples just don't communicate about their sex life.
I think judgment is one of the worst things in the world, to be honest. And I think that it's.
It's.
It causes so many people to not feel good about themselves. They don't do what they want to do with their lives. They don't, you know, because they're so worried about. You know, obviously, I haven't ever given a shit about.
I don't either. I don't either. I really don't. It's so funny. I. I was in a show, and this woman called me. She said, do you mind that we said that? I'm like, what? She's like, do you want me to cut it? I was on someone else's podcast. I was like, no. Like, what did I say? I don't care. You know? But so many people are afraid, especially women. It's like slut shaming. Or afraid that we're gonna be like, a guy's gonna think we're slutty if we. If we say or do this certain thing. And it's like, I mean, we'll respect a woman who owns her sexuality and who knows what she wants. Who knows her body. Yes. And knows how to make herself orgasm. Like, it's not his or her. It's not anyone else's responsibility. I always think women have to take responsibility for it, to figure out what they want and then communicate it. Or sometimes it just happens, but if it doesn't.
And I think that in the more recent years, women have been owning their sexuality more and, you know, expressing themselves in that way a lot more. And there's a lot more strong. I mean, look at Beyonce right now.
Oh, my God, girl, she's amazing. Oh, my God. That partition video, I didn't see it yet. I know. I heard. I heard. I need to, like, catch up on everything. Wow.
And that's just an example of a beautiful, strong woman who is a wife, a mother, and she is, you know, being very, very provocative and sexy, but still keeping it in a very classy.
Exactly.
Manner. But showing women that you can be strong, you can be beautiful, you know, and you can own your sexuality. It's nothing to be ashamed of.
Exactly. Do not be ashamed of your sexuality. So let's try to help Ben because he's got a question along these lines on line three. Hey, Ben, thanks for calling. Sex with Emily.
How you guys doing?
Great. So you're here with Jen Hayes. So how can we help you tonight?
Well, I just wanted to ask you guys a question. I've been seeing this one girl for a little while and she's just really timid sexually. We've had sex a couple times.
Went to go down on her one time and it's apparently the second time anyone has ever gone down on her.
Wow.
She tried to stop me and you know, and told me like happened to her once and she didn't like, it didn't feel good. And I was just like, you know, let me try to make you change your mind.
Right.
And you know, and she said she felt really, really good. It was much better.
Good.
But I think she's just, she's nervous about it. Too much.
Yeah, exactly. We were just talking about that. We're like, women are so in their heads during sex. Like, what's gonna mean, does he think that I taste bad or is he not really want to do it or am I gonna orgasm? And women just have to get out of their heads. And so I'm glad. And another thing I want to point out is so many women have bad first time experiences with things like for example, anal sex. Some women guy tried to shove it in with that lube or then she'll never do it again. It's like. Or she had a guy went down on her and he didn't like it. So I'm glad that you were like, you know what, this will be better. But so she's a little timid. How old is she?
23.
Okay. And do you know, was she like a weird upbringing that was maybe particularly like oppressive in that way or shaming?
She's an Asian girl, so I mean, there's actually a couple other things I want to ask you too, but she's an Asian girl, so I don't know if it has anything culturally.
Not necessarily, but. Okay. So how you want her to be more adventurous then? So what would you suggest, Jenna?
I would probably start, you know, I mean, she sounds like she is self conscious about herself. Very much so. I think it's important that you make her feel beautiful and that you make her feel comfortable right about and confident about herself. Usually I found that girls that don't really like to be gone down it are really like insecure.
Exactly.
In a way. They aren't, you know, they aren't very comfortable with their sexuality. They aren't comfortable with their body. I think it's important that you really build her confidence and then maybe start, you know, trying little things here and there.
Telling her she's beautiful. Do you do that already? Do you tell her she's beautiful and.
You'Re attracted to her all the time and she just kind of like makes this like. Like so she's in, like, rubs her shoulders and.
Yeah, she's not used to the attention, but I'm sure it feels good to her, but she doesn't know how to accept it. So. Do you know if she's ever had an orgasm?
I don't know that.
Okay, so that might be a good place to start. Maybe she's never had one. Maybe she's never masturbated. So maybe, maybe you could start with your fingers and be like. Just start playing around there. Like, first ask her, like, you know, if you feel comfortable. Be like, what makes you feel good? She might not even know. I mean, she might.
She might not. There's so many women who have never even. They don't know how to, you know.
Exactly. I mean, they don't even. They don't even. Maybe in her home growing up, it was like shamed and she was told not to touch herself. I mean, I know that for whatever reason, I grew up in a very liberal home and my mom was like, talk to me about it. But I never, never occurred to me to masturbate. Never even heard about it until I was 19. I know, which is weird. I mean, I didn't even think about it. I know her eyes are like about to roll out of her head. So what I'm saying, Ben, is that even me, my mom's like, if you want.
I don't know know why I was a very horny.
I know. That's why I love women like you. But, Ben, what I'm saying is you might just have to kind of roll this whole thing back. And in a very way, they just like, we're beautiful. Say, you know, babe, I think sex could be amazing. Like, I want to make you feel good. Do you know? And maybe you just start like kissing her, like kissing her breasts. Like, maybe we just scale it all back.
I also think that it's important that when she does anything to you or makes you feel good, that you really show her how much you appreciate it and how good she is at making.
She's never even once like gone down, you know.
Okay. I think she doesn't have a lot of experience. So I think we got. Yeah, yeah. You might be the teacher here. So you, you did have sex though?
Yes.
Did she seem to be into.
Was painful for her. She's.
Lou, like.
Kind of long and.
Thick and she's big. You're large male. Ben.
But it's just like she's also very tiny.
Right.
You know, it's one of those things. It's like she's very, very wet.
Right. But you still should use lube. You should add lube into it. But here's the thing. Let's back this whole thing up. So I think you need to start turning around just by like kissing. Kissing her neck. Like seductively teasing her, getting her really, really.
I love that you said kissing her neck because that is like why don't guys.
They don't do it. They don't do it. Women, we want our neck kissed.
We really do.
Please just do it. Like don't even ask. Like kiss her neck, kiss the ear. Kiss her breast. Kiss her slowly down her body. Spend time on her breasts. Like I feel like men just like jump right into it.
Yes. They want to go right into the. Into the intercourse or the world. They want to go. Right.
I don't want to interrupt you guys, but like that's totally what I've been doing because it's like, like I love you know, like kissing all the way down the body. Down, down the thigh, up the thigh. Teasing, you know, not going right out.
Good. Good for you, Ben. So. And she. And does she seem.
How long have you guys been seeing each other? Like how new is this relation have going?
Almost two months.
That's not very long, I guess.
Very long.
So. Yeah, I mean I would say so. But it sounds like. Does she seem into that? Like is she able to lie back when you're kissing her and doing all this stuff?
Oh yeah. I mean she's just. She gets so wet, you know, So I know she likes it.
Right. Well that's good.
But that's really good.
Just, you know, lights off. Don't look at me. Type, type. Check it. It's.
It's very lights off.
Very different than what I'm used to.
Right. No, I'm sure. So it sounds like you just have to maybe have some talks with her. Like in a very non threatening. Not like something's wrong with you, but like, hey babe, I just want to make you feel. I want to make you feel good? Do you know what make you know what makes you feel good? Or you know, do you masturbate. Org like, what's the best way that you orgasm? I think that's okay to ask. How do you orgasm? Is it clitorally? Like, you know, she might be like, I've never had one. And then you guys could work on that together.
Sex store together too. Yeah, Like a pocket rocket is very interesting, very non threatening to a woman at the beginning. That was my first vibrator.
My, my. My first toy was a pocket rocket too.
Yeah, it was a pocket rocket.
Have you ever used toys with a woman?
I have, yes, actually. This is like a little. Aside from it. Jenna Dom, thank you for your videos because a girlfriend of mine a few years back, she asked me how I like to get my dick suck and I showed her one of your videos.
Oh my God.
I got. Will you send me a video? I want to suck dicks like Jenna. I seriously do. Everyone's talking about it.
Oh, I want a sound bite of that right now.
But I called it the pepper cracker.
Oh, okay.
God.
It's. Whatever it is. See, she's infamous for this. So maybe you guys could watch. I mean, I don't think you're gonna rush into porn with this woman, but I think, you know, go to. Go to sex with emily.com goodvibes or just click on the Good vibes banner on the Sex Ellen site. There's like special discounts. You could check out like some good clitoral toys, beginner toys. Maybe go to a store with her.
When they're having sex. It would relax her because she said she's so tight and stuff and it's painful. If she had like a pocket rocket on her.
Right, Like a clitoral orgasm first. I think you just got to start talking to her. Yeah, that's.
I try to. That's the hard thing. She just won't say anything.
Yeah, you got to keep working, you know? Yeah, I think. Keep going. If you really like your patience, if.
You really like her, if it, you know, if it becomes a problem, then.
It'S not the right. Sexually compatible. Yeah, because she's might never open up. She might need some therapy. There might be some trauma. Right. I don't want to make assumptions, but if you try, you're doing all the things that you're saying, Ben. It seems like you're doing all the right things, then she just might not be the girl for you. But I would, you know, give it, give it. Keep giving a Try. Thanks for calling, Ben. I appreciate it.
Thank you guys.
Have a great night. Okay. Another thing that guys can do to really turn a woman on is I like. Okay, I like receiving flowers from a guy. Okay, I do too.
And nobody does it enough. But why not?
Why don't they?
I think they think it's so, like old fashioned or something, but like it lights up your world when you get flowers from a guy. You're like, especially if it's out of.
The blue, like, okay, well, I have to tell you that sending online flowers can sometimes suck. We've all been burned. It's like 1999 and then it becomes 7450. They're always like, oh, here's the 1999 bouquet. And then it's like $74. And always what shows up isn't when you ordered and she might get some bad flowers, which is worse than sending flowers in the first place. It's mostly dead. And then you get spammed. So the geniuses at thebooks.com launched a whole new way to send flowers. That's T-H-E B O U Q S.com, boucs. Because they took bouquets and they totally simplified them. So the books.com sends flowers straight from sustainable farms located at an active volcano in South America. In a volcano? Seriously? Volcano Anderson volcano flowers. Okay, that's real. So. And they charge a flat rate of just $40 with delivery. So your loved one gets beautiful flowers and you save cash. So for a limited time, the Boox is offering 20% off with promo code Emily. So you all heard how much Jen and I love getting flowers. So if you like someone right now and you're just like, what can I do that would make her feel good? Go to thebooks.com that's b o u q s dot com. Click on the shop button at the top of the page. Send them a book, use promo code Emily. Get 20% off. And they're from a friggin volcano. Okay, so do that. She'll appreciate it and you're welcome. Okay. Anyway, yeah, so this guy just sent me flowers. I'm dating lilies, which smell amazing. And I literally had five minutes at home today. I was so busy, but I went home and I like trimmed them, made them look pretty because I just love caring for them. And it's a nice gift.
It's very nice.
And I like sex toys too, but I get a million. Do you get them sent to you all the time?
What sex toy?
I do. Just because I review them? No, do you not? No. Favorite.
My favorite brand of vibrators are anything like that is Lilo.
Oh, Lilo. Yeah.
They're my absolute favorite. I have every single one they make.
I know. I love them. Okay, what's your favorite one? Do you like the Leia? Have you had the Leia?
I don't know them by name.
I don't know them by clitoral ones.
There's a little one, the black one that has flowers on.
Yes, I have that one. It's a great clitoral one.
It really is.
It fits in the palm of your.
Hand and there's are like, you just plug them into the wall so there's no batteries. You never have to worry about. They are so, like, they last so long. They're so well made. I love them.
I love them too. So again, taste.
You have great taste.
I know. Oh, my God, I do. I do. So go to Good vibes. Go to sexlomony.com, click on the Good Vibes and check out Lilo. L E L O. I. I love everything they make too. And I'm going to a sex toy conference in Vegas next week, so I'll get you some. Some of their latest and ready, we'll hook up.
That's pretty awesome.
I know. I love their stuff. So. Yeah. Should we take another call here? Elizabeth on line four. Hi, Elizabeth. Hey, how are you? Good. How are you? Thanks for calling Sex with Emily. You're on with Emily. Jenna Hayes. Hey, Emily. I love your podcast. I listen a lot. And I just had a question for her. Is there, like, any kind of, like, safety thing or when you're in a contract, when you do your movies and everything to prevent, like, all the parties from, like, catching STDs or is there any other safety net other than just condoms or. I mean, were you able to have a relationship? Was your guy understanding why you're able to do it? Question. I'm sure you probably could ask that a lot, like, how do you be when you did porn? Yeah, thanks, Elizabeth.
That was a big question. That's awesome. Well, in the porn industry, we have. That's STD testing. That has to be. That's mandatory. That has to be done every so often. In the last two years, they've tightened up on it even more. Now there's like, a condom thing in place. Where before some companies shot without condoms.
Some companies did.
When I was under contract, I used condoms because it was a company that was really big on that at the time. It was Jill Kelly's company, and I had a Boyfriend. I think this is what she's kind of referring to. I had a boyfriend when I was under contract, and I did quit doing men for him.
Okay.
He was the cameraman for the company.
Did he ask you to or you decided not to?
I decided not to. Because you became really weird, awkward, and, like. It just. Yeah, it just didn't work. Then my other relationships in the business. I dated a guy who was a director in the business, and he performed and I performed. So it worked okay. It was fine.
Did you guys have sex on camera on stuff? Yes. Okay, got it. So.
And we had sex with other people. It was. It was fine for the. You know, for what we were agreeing on. It was. It was cool for us. But, you know, I do know a lot of couples have problems. It's harder for. It's harder for people in the industry, whether they're a stripper or a nude model or a porn star or an escort or whatever, to have a relationship with somebody that's not in their kind of industry. That's why you see so many porn people be, you know, adult industry people. Be with people that are in the adult industry.
Because how do they understand? Right. Because how are they gonna understand? Like. Cause it's just hard. Like, I think a lot of men and women have a hard time thinking about. They don't understand. Most people can't detach sex from emotions, and so I think that they just don't understand it. If you're in love with me, how can you go have sex with someone else? Right. I feel like I wouldn't make a good porn star because I feel like I can do that. I can have sex just for sex sakes and enjoy it and not get attached.
But there are. Yes, but exactly.
Yes.
I obviously was able to do that too. As I get older, I have a harder time.
Okay.
It feels like it's separating that, but I think it's also because I had so much casual.
Right, exactly.
But there are couples, too, who I do know, some who are fine with it, who have a spouse who is not in the industry, and they work it fine. I think it just depends on the. The individual and the understanding. But it can be very difficult.
Sure. I'm sure it can.
And they're. Like I said, there's testing that's full in place. Once I started my company, I made sure that everybody got tested the day before I worked with them. I paid for it out of pocket. Like, I was always very like, right.
So what happens if someone gets tested up? Is Elizabeth still. She's on a hold. Can she hear us, though, still? Yeah. Okay. Well, thanks for calling, Elizabeth. I think that probably answered your question. I appreciate you calling. Hey, Elizabeth, did I answer your question?
Yes.
Thank you. Okay, sure. Have a great night. Thanks so much for calling. Sex with Emily. Okay, so tell me about the testing. So what if someone does have, like, herpes? Say, can they not be important? No, they can't.
I mean, no, they can. There's people who. In the business who do have that, and there's people who don't.
I'm sure. So then they. Are they taking. So they're taking, like, a daily pill or they're. Or they're.
From what I know. Yeah.
Okay. I don't know. I'm just wondering what happens. I don't know. No, because if you are tested, you come up positive. Something. Does it mean you can't work again? Or it means, like, I just never know this. I was.
Well, if. I mean, if you come up positive, say you come up positive for chlamydia or something like that.
Which.
This doesn't happen very often in the business, but when you, you know, STDs, a lot of people in the industry just have sex with people in the industry, like I said. So it doesn't. There's not a lot of STDs that really come in. But if you do.
They call you, they tell you that your test is. Then you go and you get pills or whatever, and you're not allowed to work. You're not cleared in there on a database or whatever, from what I know. You have to remember. Also, I haven't performed in three years. So the whole testing procedure may be a little bit different.
Right. But. No, it's the same. I get the gist of it. Okay, that's cool. That's good to know. Okay.
So I'm not exactly completely up to date on all of that.
Does it mean that you're out forever? Because, like, I don't know. I didn't know how it worked, but that's. I was just curious, so. And so is Elizabeth, So thanks for calling Elizabeth. Okay, so here's another question. So when you were dating the cameraman, you decided just to do the women scenes? Yeah. So do you. I'm. You know, I always ask people this, but, like, what? I feel like the female. Like, the vagina. The female orgasm is like the Rubik's Cube of life for so many men, and they don't understand or.
I love the way you put that.
Right. Like how, like, what are your best like, you gave us your great blow job tips, or what are your great oral sex tips for performing oral sex on a woman that you think people would get some tips from you that they might not know? Well, because everyone was different. I know it's a hard one.
Everyone is so different with those kinds of things. Even with, like, my oral technique, there were guys that don't like that, you know, that once in a while they're.
Like, how do you not like the Jenna Hayes corkscrew? Yeah, what's wrong with your penis?
But, you know, everyone, like you said, everybody's body is different. Some people can, you know, come from the most random things. Some people like their belly button played with, for God's sakes. You know, there's different things that turn different people on, you know, and that's. That's amazing that there's so much diversity in it. But when it comes to. Especially women are even more varied than men.
Exactly.
Some women really like you to, you know, put your tongue, like, inside the vagina. Some are very clitoral. I think it's, you know, important to figure out which exactly those your girl is, you know, when you're gonna do that, because that's, like, the most important part. I'm a very clitoral person.
Right.
So I'm, like.
On that.
Right, Exactly.
And don't be afraid to, like, suck. Don't be afraid to use your teeth a little bit. Don't be afraid to have fun. And don't also just be focused on the clit and, you know, the actual vaginal opening. Also enjoy, like, all around, like, the inner thighs.
All that stuff feels amazing. That goes down with the kissing the neck. Why don't men just play tease?
We need more foreplay. Men, foreplay.
I know, it's like, okay, they've heard me say it 8,000 times, but thank you.
Yes, we do.
We need more foreplay. And there's nothing getting as hot and bothered like if you just kiss around, like, our thighs, that area and don't go right in for it. And then when you go in for it, you go in for it. That's fine.
But there has to be something to. Yes.
Yeah. Because we're not going to be said.
For teasing and for. And for making it linger, making it build up to where you are. Just like, please put your tongue right.
Exactly. Please. Tease, tease, tease. I mean, really, I just think I should do like a whole 10 shows about, like, how to tease. So for women before, like, you would do a scene with them or you're with a Woman. Do you guys, like, talk ahead of time? Like, what do you like? Or.
Yeah, I would always before every scene with any performer. And I mean, usually I would work with the same group of performers over and over and over again because it was much safer that way. And because those are the guys that I liked and the girls that I liked, and those are the people that I liked, you know? But you go up before. Before you start you. You know, I would be like, hi. You know, so and so, like, if it's a new person you haven't worked with or whatever, you talk about what your do's and your don'ts are. It's kind of of a basic porn thing, you know, before a scene, if it's a new partnership, you do it and, you know, say, what do you like? What do you don't like? Okay, I won't do that. Okay, I won't do this. Okay, I do like this, right? You know, and then so.
And then so for women, it's like.
It'S such a big. It's like a business.
It is.
People don't understand that porn is very business, like.
Right.
You know, it's very.
Is there a questionnaire that you fill out? I always thought that'd be great for couples when you first start dating someone, like, what do you like? What don't you like? What have you tried clitoral or G spot? So for the women, when you're like, so performing girls, that would you find. But there's anything. Is there any, like, special moves? Like. I think you're right. Like, use teeth. Nibble fingers. Yeah. Toys.
I have. I mean, I'm, you know, part Spanish and Mexican, so I have that tongue roll thing. And if you can do that, like how you roll your Rs.
No, I can't roll the R. Do it. Do it. What do you mean? I actually.
I don't think I can do it right.
Oh, I know what you mean, though. It's like a. And then you could like, vibrate. Vibrate your tongue on it.
Like a vibrating tongue thing.
Oh, my God. Your vibrating tongue.
Yeah.
That's amazing. They love that. If you. If you.
If you're like a Spanish or Mexican or.
You can usually say, like, you can, you know, like you can roll your R's really good. And if you can do that, like, that's one of my tips is you do that right on the clit.
It feels good. It's like you're a vibrator.
That's softest, wettest vibrator in the world.
That's amazing. Oh, my God, I love it. That's hot. I'm like. Just got a little bit turned on, so. Because the oral sex, it's true. And then some women want fingers or G spot orgasms. So do you have G spot internal orgasms? Can you? Yes. Okay. But usually you need a clitoral one first.
I am very clitoral, period.
Right, right, right. Me too. I know. Me too.
Period. It's just. I mean, that's the spot for me. Right, right.
But the G spot can happen.
It can, but I definitely. Well, I definitely prefer. And it's easier for me with an actual penis.
Right.
Than with, like, fingers and stuff.
Right, exactly.
Fingers. Sometimes. Unless a guy really knows what he's doing or a girl really knows what.
They'Re doing with the fingers.
Fingers can hurt.
They can hurt. They poking you in the wrong place.
And if a girl's got nails.
Oh, God, the nails. Or guys have nails. You're like, really get our, like, hanging cuticles, guys. You should get manicures, too. You don't have to tell us about it. You go to some place off the beaten track, but you're awful. Why are you looking at me? Anderson? You weren't a hangnail.
I'm still the hangnail thing. It's so disgusting, dude.
But guys do that. And you're like, really? You're touching your hangnails. It's great. Ew. I can't even talk about it.
Actually, you know what? I was having lunch with a girl about, like, 10 years ago, and she was looking at my nails, and she goes, you know, whenever a girl looks at your nails, she's just thinking about how much that would hurt if you ever fingered her.
No way.
It's true.
Did you finger her after lunch? No.
She was a friend.
Okay, got it. That's kind of true. It kind of says a lot. I don't remember looking guys, but I.
I do look at guys hands. If I'm, you know, gonna get intimate with them, because I want to make sure that their hands are clean.
Right. That's another thing. Thank you. That I hate. When you hear, like, this is so bad. You hear a man go to the bathroom, and he comes out, you're at his house, you know, you're gonna say, and he doesn't wash his hands.
You're like, I didn't hear the water.
Yeah. Is that what you say? Do you say something?
Oh, I say something.
I'm like.
I'll be like, did you not just wash her? Did you just not wash your hands? What is going on?
Yeah. Okay. This is a. This might be the most important sex I've ever given because there can be bacteria. Their hands are going inside you.
Hands are very. Like, wash your hands before you get any sort of intimate with a girl.
Before you do anything. Before you eat lunch. Like, seriously, drink a hamburger. Like, wash your hands.
Maybe I'm a little OCD because I wash my hands, like, constantly.
I know. I like that. I have, like the. In the. I have the. You know, the. What's it called? Purell. All over my life. Like, literally, I'm like, three in my bag right now. Okay. So that's. That might be the best sex to have ever. Because I feel like I've never brought that up, but men should just. And women wash your hands. And also, if you go to dinner with the guy, then you come home and, like, they don't even. Like, you had dinner and they're drinking or. I just hate the taste. Like, just brush your teeth. It's just good to be clean. And sometimes you're just really drunk and it's fine. But, you know. Okay, let's just.
Yes, exactly.
Okay, let's take the top. Let's talk to Thomas in Tulsa. Hey, Thomas, thanks for calling Sex with Emily. You're on with Emily. And Jenna Hayes, what is going on with you?
Well, I'm really impressed with Jenna Hayes, and I'd sure like to know what her definition of real good sex is.
Me, too.
The definition of real good sex. My definition or, like, a general definition?
Yours. Like, to you, what would be like, wow, that was amazing sex last night. Well.
Well, that would be my definition, too. Well, that was a great sex last night.
Yeah. I mean. I mean, there's so much to sex and there's so many different. Like, I've had amazing oral sex. I've had amazing, like, every kind of sex.
Right.
That's such a broad question that I'm just kind of like, are there any.
Elements then that are like. Okay, whenever it's. I know.
Chemistry. Chemistry between people is so important. And passion. And lots of kissing.
Lots of foreplay. I know. Kissing.
Take your time.
Right. Slow it down. Yeah, Right, Thomas, that's great. Orgasm.
Lose yourself in the other person's body and the other person. Person.
Yeah. That's a great answer. There you go, Thomas.
Oh, yeah, that's right on. That's perfect.
Yeah, good. Go do that. Go take that good sex definition, give it to another woman or whoever you're with.
Yeah, I think I will.
Okay. We love kissing. We love foreplay.
Yeah, I mean that's wonderful.
Yeah. Well, thanks for calling, Thomas.
Yes, you're welcome.
Have a great night.
Okay, bye.
Okay, bye. Okay, Jenna, so where can people check most yourself out what you're doing? I know you've got the two films coming up, Raised by Wolves and Pocket listing. Those are indie films. Yes. And then what about your other, your favorite. What's the favorite films you've done? If you want to put any.
Well, my company is called Generation X.
Generation X, yes.
It's J E N N A R A T I O N Because I was the new generation adult media.
Got it. Love it.
X rated media. So Generation X.
We'll put that on my website, the podcast. Thank you.
It's distributed by Jules Jordan Video and I put out a total of 13 movies that I've directed, produced and I've starred in 11 of them. So there's a lot of material there. They're all a lot of my best work because of course it was my stuff. So that's like a lot of the best work. I also have my website, which is gen xstudios.com that has all the stuff I've directed of me, all the stuff I've directed of other girls.
Gen X Studios. So J E N X Studios. Okay, we'll have that on the site. Okay.
And it's got all kinds of girls from Lisa Ann to Alexis, Texas Christina. Like all the girls, all the tops. Skin diamonds.
Everybody actually skin diamond. She was on the feature.
I saw her twice. I love her.
I love her too.
She's amazing.
She taught me how to twerk. No, we had fun. I know. No, we had a fun show, but. And then you guys did like a video together or something recently.
I didn't do a video with her, but I have directed her twice.
Okay. She's so great. She was here too, so I think twice.
I'm sorry. Maybe I don't know.
Well, I think. I think that she rocks yous rock too. Thank you so much for coming on the show. Like I appreciate like in three years you've done an interview and here I am. I feel honored. You gotta come back. And then first we're gonna to my car and I gotta give you a little present. I gotta give you my candles. You have to pick out which one. Have you used a massage candle before?
I have not used one. I bought one but I never used it for massage.
You're gonna freak out, like, okay, so blow one of those out right now. Okay, so that's the vanilla. And then you wait two seconds. And it's not hot or sticky. And then just smell it. You rub it in your hands. It's coconut oil. It's like the most moisturizing. We've had these lovely candles lit the whole time.
Yeah, it's very romantic in here. I like it.
It is romantic. And you can, like pour it on your partner. You can have a massager. I just use it as moisturizer.
Yeah, it's so silky. And it's not sticky or like heavy or anything like that.
It's not waxy, it's not sticky, it's not hot. It's actually moisturizing. So I'm gonna give you one of those and everyone else can. If you love the show and you want to support what I'm doing in my life, it's emilyandtoni.com use coupon code.
EMILY and you can always. My new site is jennahayes.com just gonna be a merch site where you can get the posters, autographs, everything like that.
Okay.
So yeah, you can see me on Twitter. I'm Ennahaze. Instagram, I'm Ennahaze. Facebook. I'm the real Jenna Hayes.
Okay, got it. You're awesome. Thanks for the show. We're doing a whole video after this too. Just like a two minute thing that you guys can check out on the site too, if you want to see what's really going on here. Anderson, you rock. How's your week? But you're very quiet tonight.
I'm sicky.
Oh, you're sick. It's kind of sexy. How's your podcast?
Like, you're trying to hear about, like, sex and the sex industry and some sick guys.
Like, well, usually, you know, I get it. I get. I hope you feel better about. But how was your podcast this week? What are we talking about?
One of the reasons why I'm sick is we did top five characters from films we'd like to have a beer with.
Oh, okay.
I did a lot of research. What's your number one corner? And thinking by myself, like, who would I like to be drinking this beer with all week long?
Wow. Did you talk about it? Which way?
How do you find my number one but David Lynch. A lot of David lynch characters come.
Okay, well, how can they find your podcast?
That's called the Film Vault.
The Film Vault. If you're into films, it's everything film. Okay. Thanks, Anderson. And thank you, Jenna Hayes. And thank you everyone, for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.
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