Getting Shameless & Sexy With Shanola Hampton

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.

Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day.

Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh, my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God. I feel so drunk. Being bad feels pretty good.

Well, you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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That and photos of you, right?

Yeah, there are photos of me. It's funny, our photo gallery was down and we just put it back up again, mixing it with the website. But yes, there are pictures of me not naked. It's funny when you Google Emily Morse sometimes this is like nude. Naked Emily is the second thing.

Yeah. Cause people are, like, trying to find it.

I know. I don't have any naked photos. I feel like I really lost that. I know it's been a problem.

Didn't you show some cleavage in, like, some indie movie that you did?

I'm a sex addict. It's so funny. Yes. Ten years ago, I was in a movie called I'm a Sex Addict, which still lives on. It still plays on TV all the time.

Oh, really?

Yeah, you could get on that. People like it, it was a good film, it won some awards, and I did not show any cleavage. Maybe a little cleavage. But there was a nipple scene, but it was cut out. But I think it's in the deleted scenes. But I don't want to really talk about that because there are no naked pictures of me online. So also.

This is what I have to tell you. I am very excited because I'm hosting the Podcast Awards, April 14th in Vegas.

Yeah. That's huge.

Dennis Miller, you should come.

Hopefully it'll be my next time.

I gotta check.

Yeah, I gotta check times and stuff, like. Cause it's in the middle of the week, but there's nothing to go to Vegas.

How fun is that? Dude, you go to Vegas every five minutes. Yeah, that Of Disneyland. Like, I'm lucky I get this time with you.

Yeah.

What's going on?

But no. Well, hold up. We gotta back up.

Dennis Miller.

But you're gonna be nominated, right?

Yeah, hope so. Yeah, it closed last week, but people could have voted. And hopefully you all voted for me. Cause you love me.

Keep voting and stuff like that.

I think you can keep. If you can keep voting, keep voting. But I think it stopped.

Oh, it did.

The voting.

Ah, okay.

Well, hopefully. But that's fine.

Something happened. You'll be there regardless.

Yeah, dude, I'm gonna get up there and host it and not win it. Yeah, that happens. But okay. I'm Cool. I know. We're the best.

Yeah. And, dude, you're like, 10 years in the game. Like, everyone's jumping off.

I should just get a lifetime achievement award.

I know.

Podcasting achievement award.

Podcast.

Because podcasting is so hot right now. Like, everyone is getting on it. And the thing is, it's like, oh, yeah, a lot of famous people are getting on podcasts and stuff like that. But again, we've been doing this 10 years. We know how to do a podcast.

Exactly.

Some of those are going to be hit or miss. Some of them. Some of them are going to be great and good, but it's not like, you know, you can just turn on a mic and just have content and have it flow, and there's a lot to it. You can't just ramble on.

You can't just write. Exactly like I did the first eight years.

You finally got it down, though. Year nine and a half.

Year nine and a half. No, it's true. I mean, when I first started, I had never heard. It was 2005, so podcasts were just starting that year. And it was my Elizabeth at the time, who was my intern, was like. We were doing that show on cable. My friend Mark and I called Searching for Sex in San Francisco. It was like our own, like, cable access channel. And then Elizabeth Morse, remember her? And she was like, oh, you should do a podcast. I was like, what? And then she was my intern producer. That's how it all started. And then I got live and. Oh, that was before I met you. Then I was on CBS Radio with you, which was good times. And then we kept doing the podcast through thick and through thin. So here's the deal, peoples. It's a big deal, man. This is a big week coming up. Do you know. Do you know why this is a big week?

Why it's a big week?

Why is it some crazy master.

Oh, I don't know. Valentine's Day is coming?

That too.

Yeah. So 50 Shades of Grey, dude, people are freaking out.

I'm actually doing radio commercials for them right now.

You are?

Yeah.

What are you saying?

Just, like, promoting. That is Valentine's Day weekend, and you should take your lady to go.

Yeah, you should. You should take your lady to go, because people are kind of. Well, first of all, what's your thoughts on 50 Shades of Grey? Just from, like, what you know of it.

Yeah. As a man, I didn't read the book, but it definitely, you know, I think it's opened up a conversation into that type of sex. Definitely. For women, I think it's given them, like, free reign to just talk about, you know, maybe busting out some chains and whips and, you know, getting your freak on when they are blindfold or blindfold, where they, you know. We're afraid to talk about stuff like that.

Exactly. So it gave, right? Okay. But doesn't freak you out? Like, are you afraid that one day your girlfriend's gonna come home and be like, hey, look, and chains?

And it was so funny. We, her and I were watching this reality show, of course, with Jenny McCarthy and Donnie Wahlberg. Right? They have. It's like, Donnie loves Jenny or something like that. And he was doing a bunch of stuff with her son, and he did, like, a bunch of errands, so she wanted to repay him. And he got home, and she's, like, in this lingerie, she has, like, all these candles lit. She has, like, rose petals everywhere and, like, all this food prepared, like, being all sexy. And my girlfriend turns to me and she goes, if I was like that when you got home, you would laugh on my face. I go, you know me too well. I'd be like, dying.

But what if that's something that's.

It gets hilarious.

See, that's why a lot of people don't do things like that, because they think their partner will be.

But I'm sure there's, like, a ton of guys that'd be totally into it.

But what does your partner do that lets you know she's ready for sex? You think it's cheesy.

I think all that stuff is, like, super. I mean, I don't think, like, BDSM stuff like that.

Right. But you're saying, like, candles and laundry. As long as you're making an effort in your relationship, whatever resonates with your partner. Men is your psych. When she orders the pizza ahead of time and it gets delivered, you're psyched. I get it. Whatever turns you on.

I'm definitely in the minority of guys that wouldn't, like, be turned on, but.

A lot of wood. And so the thing about 50 Shades of Grey is that it's not. I think what it's done also is that, I mean, erotica's been around forever, right? Like, etchings of, you know, walls, you know, of the caveman. Like, walls. You'd see erotica from the beginning of time, but the thing. Or lithographs. But the thing is about 50 shades of gray was. It came out. There has been other erotica, but it was available on the iPad, the Kindle. People could read it. Women could Read it. But also, I do think it started a conversation about the just power play. It's not even about like dominant submission. It's not like you need. So I think the misconception is that it's gonna be about whips and chains, but it could just be a blindfold. It could be handcuffs using my favorite bondage tape, or just something like that that is just mixing up your sex life. And I think that guys. I've always said this since the beginning, that guys should friggin be reading this. Not cause she wants you to be like Christian Grey in a billionaire of the helicopter. It's not about that. It just really has some insights into the way that women think about sex and the way women get turned on and the way men do. And I have a guy friend who's reading it and he's like kind of turned him on. And it was interesting because he was like, God, it took the first hundred pages. They had sex. I'm like, yeah, it was all like verbal foreplay.

Well, I always think it's good to also be aware of things that women are into. You know, like, women have always been shocked when I know like what type of, you know, purse they have or like what type of shoes they're wearing.

You're good with the Gucci, the Louis Vuitton. Yeah, yeah.

I'm always like, I always know that. And I always. And the never always good thing too is like in. I know it's playing games and you say it doesn't work, but it works on a ton of women playing games. You say like, hey, you know what? You could buy probably a better person that you make enough money dissing. Like the dissing, they.

They don't love it.

What are you, like a pickup artist from six years ago?

No, I'm just saying.

And then she'll want to suck my penis.

I'm just saying it sparks a different type of.

It does. It does.

Than they're used to.

No, it's true.

You just want to stand out. Fucking dudes. Our guys are kissing their ass all day and we're like, wait a minute, this guy is not kissing my ass all day.

And he notices my purse and he knows I could have done better.

What is going on? You know? And it like, it messes up their brain for a second.

It's not that it messes up their brain. I'm all for guys talking to women and bringing up a different. In a different perspective. And I just like, hey, where are you from? So if a guy's like, hey, Nice purse. You could do better than you. I get it. I'd be like, oh, okay, you're interesting. You're not just trying to talk to me because I'm hot? Do you think I'm hot? You want to sleep with me, but you probably do. Yeah, but you were a little more clever. So I'm actually gonna talk to you for a minute.

I know. Look, probably like if you opened up your Tinder, it'd be like a thousand guys saying the same thing. You know what? What's gonna be something that you're gonna do? Yeah, here's my dick. What's gonna be different that you're gonna say that's gonna make you stand out?

Exactly. We talked about this and yeah, just be like something. If you could pick out something from her photo, you could pick out something from, you know, just whatever it is, whatever is in your brain. Something that'.

I'm trying to think of what would be what was one of the clever things that people said to me. But I can't log into my Tinder now because I changed my Facebook password and then I can't log into my Tinder, which is really friggin annoying. But I'm trying to think. I think it was the guys who were just like, are you always that? Because when I have pictures, is my foot up or something? Like, so do you always. Something in the bottom. It was just something clever about the bottom of my shoe. And I don't know what. It wasn't like he, like, was hysterical and like quoting like Proust or anything, but it was funny. Stand out. Stand out.

Can I talk?

Yes. That's what texting is for. Yeah. Can I talk? You have the baton.

Hilarious. So today we've mentioned this on the show over the years, but we got a bunch of new listeners every year. I go do Grammy pre interviews. So, like, before the Grammys, there's a couple days where we have these things called radio roundtables. And There'll be like 50 radio stations across the country. A bunch of people come by and you interview them. So I got this list of, like, people to interview and it was like Nick Jonas, Pete Wentz.

No way.

Spike Lee, Jordan Sparks. It's just. It just goes on and on. Who else? Anybody could. Charli xcx.

Just Cagey Elephant. Just a bunch. That's so cool.

So you'll be like, backstage.

Yeah, ti. And then I get through the list and it says Emily Morris on there.

What, am I going to the Grammys? Oh, my God.

It says Friday. It's A radio roundtable. So it's free Grammys.

I am going to that.

Yeah. So it says. So I'm looking through the list. I'm like, wait a minute. Emily Morris. I was like, ah, no, I'm not gonna check that one.

Wait a minute. Back up.

Why am I so.

Grammys list?

So this is like this. These are all the people.

I am going to that thing.

These are all the people I get pitched. And then. So, like, I write down, like, oh, yeah, I'm interested in interviewing them. And then I go, emily Morris. I'm like, nah, not interesting.

Dude, I'm just kidding. What's it for? What are you interviewing me for? For station.

Yeah, it's for. For our show. Our morning show, so how fun. Yeah. Yeah.

I'm so scared. What are you gonna ask me? Oh, I better prepare for. I'm just kidding. Yeah, but what does that do?

I'm not gonna leave the interview.

But how is it with the grant? Why? Okay, Radio Row is associated with the Grammys.

Yeah. So it's an event that I'm going.

To that I still don't understand. So explain it to me.

So basically, again, it's like 50 radio stations. They're in there at the Staples center where the Grammys happen. And it's pretty much where, you know, artists, our TV personalities, our radio personalities go and they get interviewed to, like, talk about what's going on with them. So, you know. Okay, I don't know who set this up.

Am I at the bottom of the list? Yeah. Okay.

Well, you're right next to Dr. Drew, so you might be going around with Dr. Drew.

Yeah. So would you like to interview us? Please contact my publicist.

Yeah, yeah. So I don't know what, like, who set this up for you on, like, what you're supposed to be pitching. Are you supposed to be pitching Loveline? Are you supposed to be pitching sex? Emily. You know, Emily.

Pitching with Emily.

Okay.

All my stuff, my products.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So who knows?

We should talk about this offline.

You can practice.

But what?

Yes, you will be interviewed by me and my friends.

I'm so excited. This will be great. Are you gonna be there all day?

Yeah, it's. Yeah, it's like, crazy amount of people. Did you go before?

We need to stop. Okay, whatever.

She never listened to me, people. I already said that I did, but.

I know you go to the Grammys. I didn't know this was part of the Grammys.

It is.

It's part of, like, dude, Kimber, my assistant right here. Did we know do you know it's part of the Grammys? See, they did not say that in the email.

I got an email right here. It says her name, Emily Morris.

I love that. Did you feel like. Did you feel like. What'd you think about that moment?

I. I thought it was hilarious. And go. I go, what? Emily Morris?

Yeah, that's me, baby.

So I will interview me.

It'll be a good talk.

I'll tell my other friends to make sure they interview. Oh, that's sweet, because it's pretty sad because sometimes, like, these people, they get pitched and no one picks them.

I'm so glad I got picked.

So you got picked by me.

Thank you. I feel good, you know? Like, at least someone picked me. At least I know. Be the one. The last one picked, like, in. So bad because, like, in sports, in high school, when you're the last one paid or in middle school.

So all these short. All these people, you'll get a handler. So somebody will go with you that you don't know. And they'll have, like, this sounds intense.

Yeah, yeah.

They'll have.

I was gonna show up, yo, check out sex and Emily.

They have this notebook with your name on it. And then the handler will come by to. To the radio people and flash the name. And then the people. You learn, they'll either say yay or nay.

Oh, no, this is terrible.

Yeah.

What if everyone goes, no, no, no. I'm like, that's cool. I didn't want to talk to you anyway, bitch.

Yeah, well, they might not know who you are, but, you know, at least I know who you are, so you get it.

So then maybe we could get, like, a bunch of your friends stand around me, like, clamoring. Like, we could have them standing there, like, every time, like, go, yes, yes. And then. Okay, got it. I'll find out who, you know, how LA is. If someone else thinks someone's cool, then they'll think they're cool. Okay, let's get into some news here, though, for people. Sexy. All right.

Sorry about that, but it's gonna be hilarious.

And can we use the interview? Be on your radio.

We'll get the audio for you and figure out how people can listen to it, because it's gonna be fun because my. My friends are ruthless, so they're gonna ask you all the.

These are your friends from your Woody show?

Yeah, from the Woody show.

I'm excited to meet them.

Yeah.

Worlds collide.

You already met them, too, so don't.

When did I meet them?

When we worked at CBS.

We went to school. Oh, so 10 years ago?

Yeah.

Oh yeah, I remember them really well.

Just act like you know who they are.

Okay, can you just brief me ahead of time? Just like the time you introduced me to your girlfriend but you didn't tell me she was your girlfriend and I asked her to get water and now she hates me. But it was like eight years ago and we were in the middle of show and I thought she was your assistant. Okay. And I would never normally do that, but I was so friggin Thursday.

All right.

Sex and the news.

Okay.

Okay. And we have our guest here. I'm very excited we're talking to her. Are we gonna bring her in after the break? Right. Okay. We got Chanola Hampton from Shameless, which show is freaking killer, man. Have you seen it? I actually have even seen it if you believe it or not. Okay, but we're gonna get to that in a little bit. Most men, the sex, the news though I love this one. Most think men would jump at the chance for a risk free one night stand. That's a poll that came out that said most men, if they had risk free, no info to find out they would cheat on their spouse for a one night stand.

Oh, I'm sure they would.

This doesn't really surprise me. You know, no matter how happy they are in their relationship, most Americans say that most people, men would jump at the chance to have the one night stand. So it says that 71% said that most men would jump at the chance if they had the opportunity and there was absolutely no chance of getting caught. On the other hand, fewer than half, 45% of women believe women would do the same. What?

That's a lie. See.

When women do it, I don't.

Know if they interviewed surveys.

So through a lot of relationship research does show that men and women are more similar than different. Are much more similar than different. Men's greatest greater likelihood, see of accepting a seemingly consequence free sexual encounter is consistent with the research that shows that men are higher in socio sexuality. Meaning that they're able to separate between sex and love. They can have emotionally detached sex a lot easier than women. Which would make sense why the numbers would be higher. They say that men can compartmentalize sex where there's a lot of women who have sex with someone and they think they're in love. Right? They have an orgasm and they're like, oh my God, we're getting married tomorrow. Right. So that would make sense. I'm not like that. I'm more like the male species in some ways. My friends are like, how do you just sleep with someone? I'm like, how do you not? You know? So yeah, that was an interesting study. Just because I already knew the truth to that. I could have done that study. Yeah. Would you do it?

What?

Would you cheat on your partner if no one would ever know in a million years?

Oh, yeah, totally. Come on.

She doesn't listen to the show. No, she hates me because I asked her for glass of water. Okay. I'm kidding. Okay. So. No. Okay, here's another thing. When I first read this, I got afraid that it was kind of me because I just got. Listen to this. No one has claimed suspicious box of a thousand condoms. And then it says, found it. New York City bus station. But when I first read that Lifestyles just sent me a thousand condoms, I was like, who else gets a thousand condoms in the mail? But police say a suspicious package left behind a concrete barrier of a New York City bus station, didn't contain any explosives, but did have some unexpected contents. A thousand individually packaged condoms for both men and women.

Yeah. And actually we talked about this on our radio show and I said it actually isn't that crazy to have a thousand condoms because I had a buddy's girlfriend who worked at Planned Parenthood and she would seriously, probably at a time would have like 500 condoms on her.

Just like that's I have in my trunk right now. I have like 300 in my trunk. Yeah, Yeah, I have to. It's true.

So a thousand is not really that big, but to the average person. Yeah, yeah, that is not around something like that.

Exactly. What are they gonna waste the condoms now? I don't know what happened.

Yeah, I'm sure they just forgot.

At least I'm glad that. That the security is. Is functioning there in New York City. You follow me on Instagram, right?

All the time.

Right? Sex with Emily.

I haven't stopped following you since I set up the account for you.

Did you set it up for me? You set up my Twitter too, by the way. But the point is, what I'm trying to make here is you see me rocking my very unique piece of jewelry in my pictures.

Yeah.

I'm obsessed with my newest sex toy, which I actually wear as a beautiful necklace. My Vesper Crave. Yeah, it's beautiful. We saw it last week on the show.

It kind of looks like a pen.

It looks like a pen. It's a nice layering piece that people would wear. Right. I wear it every day. Like, I forget that it's a vibrator sometimes. But the Vesper by Krave is the hottest, newest, prettiest, shiniest sex toy. Great Valentine's Day gift. Wearable technology. Yeah, you can charge it, usb. It's the coolest thing.

You definitely have to look it up online, people, because it just looks like a normal, everyday necklace.

It is. I mean, that Nicki Minaj posted a picture of it. Okay, so here's the thing. If you guys want to check it out, the best place to go is Lovecrave.

And. Okay, I'm sorry, is this where I'm doing. Yeah, no, am I doing the ad code? I do.

Yeah, it's got the code in it.

And everything at the very bottom.

It doesn't say their website, though. Oh, lovecrave. Got it. Okay. Got it. We're gonna edit this. Okay. So anyone? Vesper by Crave. Sexy twist, unwearable technology. It's the perfect combination of style and pleasure. And it's powerful. It's like a real vibrator. Like, I've used it as a real vibrator. And then you always have your vibrator on you, you know, which is not a bad thing when you're, like, out with some guy.

Or like, maybe it looks like something that you would pick up at forever 21.

Exactly. Or somewhere nicer than that because it's actually gold plated and really, really beautiful. Ballin', Ballin'. So get yours@lovecrave.com the Last Day to buy it and have it shipped by Valentine's Day is February 12th. And for a limited time, use code Emily for free shipping. Also, from February 3rd to the 9th, use code VdayEmily, all caps for 20% off. That's V Day, Emily. All caps. It is the best Valentine's Day present for your partner or for your goddamn self. Because let's be honest, Valentine's Day, it's all about love. Love yourself. Buy yourself a present. So check it out. That's V Day, Emily. All caps@lovecrave.com all right, all right. Okay. Hello. Chenault. We have a guest here.

Yeah, we are.

I'm so excited. Hello. I want to give you one of these Vesper Crave necklaces. And I meant to bring. Have you seen them? They're a vibrator necklace. No, I'm not even wearing it. I know. I'm, like, so upset. I said when I was leaving my house I should bring. They are beautiful there.

Oh, my gosh.

I'm gonna give you one.

They really look like a nephew.

Like, show her, like, how it by. Anyway. Cause I saw her during the read. I was like, if you used this.

Already, this is not used. Right.

Yeah.

I don't know how I'm gonna go about, like, wearing it out.

Just clean it, Clean it.

Hold on. I just started. Oh, no, hold it, hold on.

Did you put it on the powerful. No. It's like. It's like a serious vibrator. Yeah.

Oh, my gosh. I could get in so much trouble.

Right? Exactly.

At table reads and everything. Everything is great.

I'm fine. Exactly. I'm just really, really having a great day.

Oh, it's like different. Like different vibrations.

Yeah, no, it's a real. It's one of your, like, it's like a high end vibrator, but it's in your necklace and you always have it. And you can for sure. You know, let's talk about vibrations are strong enough that.

Yes.

It does the job.

I love this.

I know. Okay, so I. I'm giving you one as you are. Yay. Yay.

My husband will be excited too, because then I won't have to jump his bones.

Oh, perfect. Exactly. Right.

I can't take him in the car with me, so that's going to be very helpful.

Exactly. So you'll have with you all the time. But let's introduce you to our audience here. Okay. Shanola Hampton is awesome. She's in the studio known for role as the sassy and sexy Veronica Fisher on Showtime's Shameless, which everyone I know is obsessed with. I've even. I don't. Okay, so I don't watch tv. Preface it by saying, this is one show that I've actually seen. It's amazing. People are just addicted to it. And you're amazing in it.

Thank you.

And it's your four. I'm looking for this fourth season, fifth season. Congratulations.

Got picked up for a six.

That's awesome.

I know.

Do you know how amazing that is? We know. That's something that never happens.

I know.

And you are amazing in it. And congratulations. And you arenolahampton on Twitter. People can find you. Okay, so how has this show so. Okay, so in this show, you are part of a very passionate sexual couple. You have an intense relationship. Kinky sex. Kinky stuff.

Master slave stuff. If you've seen the show.

Right. Little bdsm.

We do a little bit of.

And your body's killer.

Oh, thank you, Jesus. Thank you very much.

The whole thing. I watched all those scenes. I've seen them. But yeah, that makes me so excited.

I can't even tell you. Oh, good.

I love that. Oh, my God, really? But were you always. So did you prep for it, or are you kind of into that in your.

Well, what I would do is. For the first. The very first scene I had to shoot for Shameless was me behind Kev with a dildo. So the dildo was being used on him. We do a lot of reverse things on our show. So I just practice with my husband. He hit me out of the bed because I stuck a dildo on his butt. But it was fine because I told him it was research. I'm just kidding.

I didn't have it.

I do that all the time. He doesn't like me. He doesn't like me.

Touch anything on his butt. I tried to do, like, a finger thing one time, and he was like, what are you doing? I was like, I thought that was. That's not neurotic. I like a finger.

Exactly. Right, right. Exactly. Totally like a finger. But some guys do. Some guys don't. I think that they don't know that they do because there's a lot of straight guys who just have all this fear that it's gonna make them gay. But if you, like, ease into it with, like, a little lube and you just kind of rub it a little, I think when they feel the finger coming, they're just. Yeah, but that's good that you know that you like it. Yeah, it takes care of you.

I mean, well, you know, every now and then, right at the peak, you.

Just gotta do something a little different.

A little bit different. Right.

Because, you know, so were you always. So what have you. Did your sex life change at all by doing the show besides trying to stick in dynamite? Really?

Not at all. Kevin. Veronica are so out there and so crazy. And, I mean, I'm great in bed.

That's beyond just kidding. But, no, they just do things that my husband would be. He thinks it's just hysterical. Some of the things they do, like the master and slave act, which, again, was reversed. And I was saying, we shall overcome. And I was hitting him with the whip. But we were all dressed up like the master instructor.

You're not the dominant home. Your husband does not walk around on a leash.

No, he does not do that.

But you've always known you were good in bed. So a lot of women can't just sit there and go, I'm good, because you mean it. And I feel that way too, over my life. Like, I feel like I can't, you know, confidently say that. Like, I've got most of it nailed down. But a lot of women don't so where do you think you got that confidence from?

I don't know. Well, you know, I've been also with the same men for a really long time. We've been together married for 14 years and married for 19. I mean, together for 19 years. Married for 14.

That is an amazing compliment.

Yeah. So, I mean, and he was older, so maybe I learned some of this stuff from him. But you know what I learned? Just because you're cute doesn't mean you don't have to, like, do stuff.

Yeah.

I think pretty girls think that they can just lay there and be pretty. You can't, like, moan or something, like, get into move, gyrate your hips, get on top and get the boop, boop, boop, boop, boo. Like do something.

Exactly.

So I realized the more active you are especially. And you have lot of control when you're on top.

Absolutely.

And that's a great way for women who have problems with orgasms to really find what works for them to have an orgasm when they're actually having sex. But anyway, so I think I just practice. Practice makes perfect. But I haven't had that many sexual experiences, so. Because I haven't had that many partners because I've been with this guy while my husband years.

So how.

How.

I mean, that's amazing. First of all, how have you. What is this? The secret to it? Keeping it interesting?

I don't know what the secret is for us.

What works for you?

What works for. We're easy, breezy people. We're friends. We don't take anything too seriously. We don't try to fit into the mold of whatever wife is or husband is, even though we're from the South. Like, I wasn't cooking and doing all that crap. So I think you picked a partner.

That was okay with that.

Yeah. And like, he's cool. I cook now. Cause now I have a daughter and all that. But you know that thing a little bit kid, right? Yeah, but no, but we just figured out what worked for us, and we just. We're not typical.

That's awesome.

We're not a typical couple.

Every couple has to figure out there shouldn't be a mold because two people coming together, deciding to get married, they can make their own rules, they can make their own relationship. And it should be that way. You should compliment each other.

Exactly.

Who cares what anyone else thinks? But having a child, though, that has. That impacted things in a way that's been more of a challenge or. I know what happens.

You're like, but it's our Philosophy. But you know what happened? The reason why the child hasn't is because we waited. So my child is just a year old. So we waited. And we'll be married for 15 years in March. So we had time to travel. We had time to be together. We had time to figure stuff out. We had time to fight kids and slash tires and break window. We had all of that time.

We grew up together.

And then you have a baby, and it's like, okay, this is the next thing. And she just kind of fits perfectly. And we don't do the whole, oh, we can't do this because the baby's sleeping. It's like, come on, kid. You come into our lives and. And we just. That's how we.

That is exactly how I would be.

I think that's the best thing you can do if you're getting married is you take some time before you have kids.

Yes.

Like, people get married, and within the first couple months, they're already pregnant. Like, enjoy your time together.

Yeah.

First.

Yeah. Figuring out how to be married is a whole other thing. Even when you've been with someone for a really long time, and you guys.

Are probably so similar now in your values and your goals that it'll be a lot easier to raise a child than if you were together for a year. So you're like, oh, yeah, we know how we are. We're. You know. And I love what you're saying about parenting. We don't talk a lot about parenting on the show, which we actually. Sex and parenting go. But it's funny because I. I don't have kids. I love kids. I'm not gonna have kids, but I like them anyway. I always feel like I have to, like, preface. I've never worn them. But I love kids, and I don't think I'm a killer.

I don't want kids either. It doesn't.

But what I'm saying, all my friends do. And I was thinking, God, it's so funny, because my friends. And I don't want to say this is just a California thing, but I actually lived in the bay area for 20 years, and I moved here recently. But my friends in the Bay Area, so I'm from Michigan originally, so I feel like there. But it's also. I guess it's not even about a geographical thing. It's that there's some people who have a kid and they change their entire life to revolve around the kid. But then I have my friends in San Francisco. I could think of a few. They're like, we're going to a concert. We're bringing the baby. They're coming with us.

You know, some people won't do that. Some people are like, oh, I have kids. I can't leave anymore.

If they have to put them on a schedule, they have to go to baby.

But yeah, I mean, schedules are good, but, you know, come on, don't be so strict.

Right.

Easy breezy, baby.

I love this.

And I was ready to have sex six weeks. Like, before the six week was. Was up, you know, this is a show about sex.

Yeah. Yeah.

I wasn't one of those people that was like, oh, don't touch me. I just had a baby. I was like, when is this going to be over?

So, okay, that's another anomaly.

You are superwoman or super, super sexual. I don't know which one.

Because a lot of women, they say six weeks and it takes. No, I love it. But have you always been a sexual person?

I think, meaning just in touch with.

Yeah, I think it's in your genes. Like, I think, like, my grandfather and my grandmother, everybody in my family, pretty hot in the pants.

You guys all talk about it, like, yeah.

Oh, I'm so open. I don't care. We talk about everything. When I got my boobs done, I, like, showed my grandma. I'm like, grandma and I motorboated her. It's just like, we're just kind of free spirits, really.

See? Yeah, that's it. I totally get it. That's how my family is.

We walked around the house naked, which makes my husband really uncomfortable.

Is that what happens at Christmas? Do they still have. Yeah.

And like, he's like, I've seen all of your sisters naked by accident. This was just this last Christmas. But then we got into this big thing because his father, when I go to his house, I put a towel on to go to the shower. And he says it makes his dad uncomfortable. But he was like, I have a towel on. You know, the towel covers more than what I actually wear in life.

Exactly. Right. Exactly. I was dressed, going to dinner.

So we got in this whole discussion. He was like, yeah, well, everybody's not comfortable with their body like your family. I said, well, I'm sorry if I offended your dad with my towel.

What are you supposed to put on, like, a full, like, suit or something and a jacket and, like, a hat.

And they literally goes to the bathroom with all of their clothes on, shoes included. And then they, like, change in the bath. It's weird and it's not my thing. Honey, you better be glad. I Did a towel. You're welcome.

You're right. You're lucky I wasn't naked. I mean, Jesus Christ, that is so funny. I mean. Yeah, my family's pretty open about it. I mean, they have to be.

Yeah.

Yeah.

But did you think that's what it is? There was no shame. Like, what about. Okay, so masturbation. We talk about this on the show. Like, did you. Was it the kind of thing that you. I'm assuming that you have. Or did. But did it occur to you?

Masturbate?

It. I never did either. Like, it didn't occur to me ever, growing up, until I realized.

I'm lying, by the way.

Okay, good. I never did. So you're one of those women.

Like, she's an anomaly.

Yeah, I don't. I don't. Once you discover it, how do you stop?

I didn't discover it until I knew. Then I found out it was missing. And then I. Oh, and then you.

Went and you went to town.

The vibrator Neckline.

Freaking no. Well, that was. Yeah, we're talking. Yeah. Yes. That's one of my latest toys. I have so many toys. Card.

I have a car battery, too.

Oh, the Magic Wand. Do you know the Magic Wand vibrator?

I don't know any of this.

Seriously. Do you use toys ever?

No.

Well, you don't. Cause you have 18 orgasms every day.

No. No, that's not why. It's because I used to have a friend, my toy, and my husband was really jealous of him, and he was pink, so how could you be jealous of my pink friend? And he's like, you like your pink friend better than me. No, you're just different.

Exactly. Exactly. I just want a threesome.

I just know.

Right. No, I get it.

I just got rid of it. It just ended up being too much. Like, he would, like, go in my drawer and be like, don't put your hands on my toy.

I get. No, I get it. And that was the thing when we started. When I started the show 10 years ago, I felt like whenever I first started talking about sex toys, I had to explain that men are very. Can be very intimidated by them. They're bigger sometimes. Or the way they look, or they think, oh, you're going to leave me for your. It's like, we're not gonna leave you for our vibrator. They don't cuddle, take out the trash and stuff. They're not gonna leave you for the vibrator. But nowadays, I think it's sort of like more than 50% of all women have own vibrators. They're selling 50 shades of gray stuff at Target right now. Just got on the shelves.

I cannot wait for that one.

I know. I'm so excited we're talking about this earlier. Did you. Okay. Right. Did you read it?

All of them? And I started trying to get so freaky with my husband. He was like, what are you reading? I'm like, tie Me up and Spank Me. He's like, I'm not doing that.

Really? So what do you. What was your takeaway from it? Like? Had you ever been into that before?

No. I don't know if I could deal with somebody actually whooping my ass.

Right? We don't want, like, a dungeon. That's what I'm trying to explain.

I can't be. I'm not down. You know what I had a hard time with. With that book, though? Every time they would have sex, I said, how can she still be wet? I really. Because she would, like, go to bed, they'd have sex, and then they. Then they would go back and do it again. I'm like. Like, when you're sore, you're like, okay, enough. You cannot come back inside me.

Right, exactly.

Because it hurts now. It's not a pleasurable hurt, so. And all of my moisture is gone. By the way, I have a sister who hates the word moist.

I don't like the word either.

Oh, I'm sorry.

No, no. I would say it, but I know what you mean.

It's controversial, but, like, all the lubrication, it's gone. I had a hard time with that.

Right. Cause you're like, where's the lube?

Where's the lube?

Exactly. So anyway. But I love. I loved those.

It was so good. Right? I mean.

And I feel like I'm afraid they're not gonna show the sex the way it needs to be shown.

No, they're not at all. They're not at all.

And we're all gonna be disappointed.

Everyone's already disappointed.

And then it's not 50 shades of gray, then you just shouldn't have done it.

Well, I heard there's not even any wiener in it, Just FYI.

No, there isn't any wiener. I know, but the thing is, is that the. Yeah. That people are. What was I just gonna say to you about the 15th degree? That they've sold more to advance tickets than ever before.

With no weenie in it.

No weenie watch.

Shameless. You'll get to see Weenie. We are an equal opportunity.

I know. Serious. So shameless. This Is. I mean, okay, so right now it's your fifth, and then you got picked up for a sixth?

Yeah. Right after the first one hit.

What's happening? Right. Like, what is. Where are you at right now?

Oh, well, my character can change a little bit. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We can talk about it. But see, here's the thing. Last season was a little bit more fun in the season before because my character couldn't have a child, so she asked her mother to have sex with her husband to have their baby. So there was a lot of scenes where it was basically a threesome with Veronica's mom. It was quite gross.

That's the thing about the scene.

I threw up in my mouth a little bit during that, but now they just had twins and they are going through, which. You know, what's funny about this is life can change so much when you have kids. And that's what the show does so well. It shows you reality. And rather than Kev being the one that's feeling like he's not getting any, Veronica is the one that feels like he's giving all the attention to the kids and their sex life is shot. So the last episode that aired, I had an orgasm just on the dance floor.

I was gonna bring that up. Okay, so you were on the dance floor and you just rubbed up against someone?

Just rubbed up and you had an.

Orgasm, like, in a second.

Yeah. So it was my coochie saying, things ain't right at home. That was a line.

I love it. So it's like, right after that, because it's interesting, because it's usually. First of all, it's kind of like your own life. But women, they say that women don't want sex after. But here you are, and your husband's becoming this perfect. He's into the kid.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, luckily, though, my husband has a nice balance. Kev, however, does not. And he's just focused on the kids. And also, there's something to be said, especially if your husband was in the room when you gave birth.

Yeah. When you.

It does something to their psyche.

It does.

Like, he wasn't supposed to peek. My husband in real life wasn't supposed to peek, and he did. And then he started giving me details. I was like, you don't give details. Just, like, you don't talk about the sounds you make the night before when you have sex. Don't tell me details about when the baby came out and what it looked like. That's gross.

You told. Right?

How do. You weren't supposed to look.

He Was, like, sneaking in, like, with this.

Yeah, but so Kev. Kev is trying to figure out how, like, the mother of the child, and she had my baby, so how can she go down on me and then I kiss her the next morning and see her kiss the kids, which is insane.

Yeah.

You know, like, you go down on your husband, and then the next morning, you kiss your baby for breakfast, and they're like.

Like, that is a thing. Just brush your teeth just right.

Well, you would think, but the man is thinking. Your mouth.

Yeah, no, you're right.

And now you're gonna kiss my baby. Like, don't suck the lollipop of the.

Baby and then hand it. Exactly.

Yeah.

That would freak you out, right? Yeah.

Yeah.

God, it does get tricky after that. They watch. I mean, men, you see, years ago, you've seen Mad Men. No, the whole thing with men, just, they wouldn't go in the room. They're not gonna look at that. They don't need those images. They already might be struggling with the fact that now you're the mother of their child. So we can no longer be the freak in the sheets anymore. Because I don't want my wife doing that stuff, which I don't understand, because I believe if you are a sexual being and you're connected with your partner in a way that you guys can transcend that in real life.

In real life, I think you hope so.

But a lot of people actually, in the real life can't do that. No. So I'm glad you've been able to do that. So have you and your husband. Like, how is your sex life? Just like everything else, it's perfect. In your marriage, did you ever have to talk about. I'm kidding. No. Cause you're, like, an anomaly. You are an anomaly that things are. You have, like, a good relationship, good marriage, good sex. I mean, of course, nothing's perfect, but did you guys ever come to a point where you felt like you had to talk about it or how did. I mean, have you always talked about it about sex? Yeah, just like, we need it more or less or this way or less.

Oh, my goodness. Yeah. Especially the first time when things had gotten. I mean, not the first time we had sex, but, like, when we first got married, something changed, and not in the good way. It became less. And it was sort of like, what is happening right now? And every. It was this moment of when I said that we just, like, accept each other for whatever it is. It was that moment when you first get married and you're like, what am I supposed to do now? I'm a wife and what am I.

Supposed to do now?

I'm a husband. And then once we were like, the hell with all that, then it was okay. But. But we've definitely had very serious conversations. And people don't realize how the lows can go very low. Especially when you've been with someone for a long time and you become roommates sometimes and you trying to figure out how to not go into that dark place of being in a sexless relationship, which is something that people are afraid to talk about and are embarrassed about. But it's something that's very real for a lot of relationships.

Absolutely. I mean, I. That's what I talk about on my show all the time. So then what would be your. What do you think it is? Or your girlfriends who come to you on this? What do you tell them?

Well, I know for us, because we also grew together, for us to get through that, it was really about knowing ourselves and being secure and being at a place where you're actually happy. Because if a man is not happy with himself or if he's not where he wants to be career wise, or if there's something going on there that has little to do with you in a way he can't perform in the bedroom, he doesn't have that drive.

So true.

And the more you put pressure on and the more of an aggressor you are, the less they feel. So you just gotta back up and let them find themselves and then come back to each other.

It's true. So it's gonna be a series of ebb and flows. And it's true that when men are, like, stressed about money or their jobs or anything, it's like they do not want to have sex.

No, they don't.

Like, that's like their emotions, like, you think? I thought you always want to have sex. No, not when they're worried about money or they're worried about getting fired or they're worried about stress, about anything. Do you find that's too menace? Or you. You just don't want to have sex anymore?

Don't want to have sex anymore?

Yeah, yeah.

He's been in a relationship. I don't think he's ever had sex. I don't know. He's like, with someone he never talks about.

How long have y' all been together?

We've been together four years.

Oh, so y' all aren't having sex?

No, I really have messed up hours all the time and I'm always tired and stuff. Like that. But I'm.

Excuses.

No, but I'm always supposed to be the man. I'm always supposed to be extremely horny at at all times. And it's supposed to be the aggressor.

Yeah.

No, no, no, it's not. But I think that's what, you know, society wants. But I think, you know, I. We. We have a good sex life. I do. I don't. We're not having sex, like, every single day. Like, yeah. Person over here who wants.

Are you in a relationship?

Or she thinks that I'm not in a relationship.

Weren't you looking for love at one point?

Oh, yeah. Yeah, I was. Oh, did you? Yes. By Bravo show. Yeah, I saw that. I was looking. No, I mean, yes. I'm always looking for love.

Yes.

So she says she's always looking for a hookup. Maybe.

I mean. Yeah, hookup, you know. Okay. I have never been really on the path of looking for a committed relationship. I've dated a lot, and if I find someone, I do, but it's not, like, my main focus. But I'm dating with the hopes that I find someone nice and loving.

So when you're dating like that. Because I always live vicariously through my friends who get to do this. This makes me so excited, honestly, because I've been with the penis for so long.

Okay, so we're gonna go back to the toy thing after.

When women are just dating, can you have multiple sexual partners in the same week?

Yes. What do you mean, can we? Like, is there a law?

I mean, like, do you. Because I think times have changed now. Because you used to be afraid I'm gonna be a whore, whatever. But once you get a certain age, doesn't all that shit go out?

I never worry about that at all. Oh, I hope I can go home and shower before I go with this guy.

And so you. You. You don't feel funny having sex with Jack on Monday and then Jim on Wednesday? I love you so much.

I know. I've never had that. I've always been able to do that. I mean. Yeah, I don't know why. It's a gift. No.

I'm like a lot of men.

I'm dead inside. I'm like a man. I can compartmentalize about sex. Like, I don't get attached to. I mean, some sexual partners I get attached to, but sometimes, yeah, it's just, you know, Bob on Monday and Rick on Wednesday.

And do you revisit if they aren't good? Because is it worth the number?

No. Oh, revisit.

Oh, like, like the person. Like, do you go back and have.

Sex with them if it's not good? Like the first time, it's not having one night stands. I have intimate. I have in my life. But typically they're people that I've been, you know, I've been dating or. Yeah. But I. Since I'm not committing, I'm very open about the fact that I'm not gonna just jump into a relationship until I meet someone that I like. And I did. After.

All right. No, no, no. Check this out though. After we really want me to. To blow your mind.

Blow my mind?

Go ahead.

No, I was gonna say that after. Just hold on a minute. Yeah, like after the Bravo show, I did have a relationship for a year and a half. So I have committed, but I'm not. I think a lot of women and men, they start having sex with someone and typically it's a woman after a month or two. Like, okay, so where we at? Are you being monogamous? Because we're getting attached and sometimes it's a little bit too soon to really lock it down. And I'm thinking, I've done that. And then I feel I don't really know this person yet. So I'm very open now with the people that I'm dating that I'm not, like, locking this down for commitment.

Oh, that's good. But, you know, that makes the men want you more and they all love you, thirsty, and fall in love with you because you're a challenge.

It's interesting. That is. That seems to me that that is true, I think, for a lot of men. And it wasn't never like, it's like. And you read these dating books, like, pretend you're not interested. Pretend you don't want to commit. I'm like, I've been doing that forever. And it really. A lot of guys are like, oh, it's a challenge. Like, no, no, but this is like real me. Like, I'm not making it up. But it's true when you're not. People want that. What they don't have or they. You seem unavailable. Okay. Blow your mind.

No, no, no. I think it's great now that you're. You're more honest because I think, like, in the past. In the past, she'll, like, still hang out with guys that she's absolutely not interested in. And then she would know that after the first date, but she would still be. That is great. That's the great part. Here's the. Here's the part that's gonna blow her Mind. She's never even lived with the guy.

You've never lived with a guy?

Never. I've never.

So I'm afraid that you're.

What is that phobia? You've never lived with a guy?

See what I'm afraid of? She's finally gonna find a guy that she wants to lock down with.

Yeah.

And then she has to have this whole experience of living with the guy for the first time.

Yeah. Do people really have to live together? Can't you have, like, a shared home or maybe separate homes?

Okay, listen, I think that that's doable when you sleep in the same bed, my husband and I, and that. That's the other key. We do not share the same bathroom. We do not share the same closet, and we have. Have separate bedrooms, but sleep in the same bed, which is my bed.

That's what I'm talking about. I could handle that.

That's the truth.

Yeah, I could handle that. You need your space.

You could do that. You need your own space. You need your space, and we're comfortable with that.

Yeah. No, I think the couples who spend a little time apart or don't. They don't share everything. Why do I have to see you go to the bathroom with the door open? Like, just say, let's decide.

Please do not come in my bathroom. I will cut his throat.

I want to see all my. Oh, what's this? Pick up my makeup and just. No, go in your room. Create a separate space.

What is also crazy. I have a friend who didn't move in with her husband until they got married. And so she's, like, still trying to go through that and figure out how to cohabitate with somebody.

Yeah, it's hard. That's a hard thing.

If there were, like, different wings and stuff, I could.

Well, you could marry very, very rich.

I could. You know, I wish that I was drilling in my head because there's a lot of women who's, you know, it's just as easy to fall in love with rich man as a poor man. And my parents would say that to me. I was like, but, yeah, there's always, like, the starving art. And I even had, like, the rich man with planes and stuff. I'm like, but I'm just. He's just not that cute. My brother's like, he's got a plane.

Can't you kids find him cute?

I'm like, no, I'm just not like that. I'm gonna make it up. And now I'm thinking maybe. No, but it's. Yeah. So I will. Whatever. We'll see what happens. But it's not traditional in that sense of most women, I think. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Not at all. You could say that. Not traditional. But back to toys. What I was gonna say to you is that first we're gonna have give you one of these craves. But also that typically I'm circling back to something we're saying a minute ago that a lot of guys were intimidated and I think now that they can realize that it's not gonna replace them. But men like the vibrations too on their. Like if you would like there's these vibrating rings you could put on his penis. There's things that like under their balls. Like they really like it. So I'm just saying if you were missing your toy, I could give you. Just play with it together and it might be.

And let's just try it. Yeah, Listen, I'm down to try anything.

Right. Okay.

I'll do anything.

I wish I knew this about you before because now I'm just gonna have to say you're in la. Okay. I'm doing care package.

Yeah, right.

Are you designing these toys?

I'm not designing them. No.

I do have a. Oh, you're very good.

Oh, thanks.

Like of knowing your body and the woman's body and stuff like this. You're an expert.

Yeah, I know my toys are next, but I actually brought. I have a candle. I have a massage candle line that I brought you. Oh, massage candle. And it's called Emily and Tony. I'll show you. It's a candle that Tony. Tony is my business partner. He's actually my boyfriend. We've been living together for 10 years. Just kidding.

No, no, that would be hilarious.

He owns skincare called Anthony's Logistics. He's got a huge skincare line. And then we partnered for men called Anthony's. But then we partnered Emily. Tony. We've got a lubricant. We've got a down under comfort. We've got really beautiful products. But toys are. Dex.

That's good. Your lube doesn't kill the sperm just in case you. Yeah, that's good.

No lube.

People are trying to get pregnant now and you know you have to be careful of what lube you use because it can. Because it'll deadens the sperm.

Water based vegan. Exactly.

I love.

Because lube is.

Lube is important and the fact that it's vagina.

You don't have a kidney purpose. Yeah. The whole product line.

I had a girl break out her vagina.

Vagina, vagabad. Right?

Bad lube, honey.

Bad lube.

Yeah, don't buy the drugstore stuff.

I like my lube, Emily and Tony, which actually isn't on shelves yet. You can't buy it. But I also like Uber lube, which is great. It's a silicone lube. And I like pure. I like pur p j u r. It's all@good vibes.com, use code Emily if you want to buy lube. Yeah, but lube is like. I always feel like it's the most underrated sexual thing that you need to keep interesting. Okay, so I. If you had to give me one sex tip, what would it be?

Swallow. No, I'm just kidding.

If you really love them. Preach.

Some guys I'm learning lately are like, I don't even want you to swallow every time.

I really. I truly thought that was, like, the biggest thing.

So you'll still go down on them for real?

No, I think the biggest sex tip, I would say, is be interactive.

Just because you're pretty doesn't mean you don't get to just lay there.

I know.

Do we need to do that?

Move around.

Move your pelvis.

You guys have been saying this forever. Thank you.

It is so true. I mean, they always say the hot chicks just lay there, but then the guys with the big penises are just, like, pounding you in and out, too. Do you remember that? Yeah. Right.

So just because it's big doesn't mean you know how to use it. Although I'd rather big than little any day, though, honestly.

Right. Your size. Yeah.

Yeah, I think. I can't. I can't do.

Obviously you didn't do that.

I didn't. No. And I mean, the thing is. And this is just not even being on one hand with partners because I've been with the same guy for so long, but, yeah, little penises don't do anything for me.

Right. I hear you. Some people.

I'm sorry, guys, you know what? But there's. There are other women out there that will still love you.

I know that there's a lot of little penises that didn't work for me. For others that are very perfectly happy in relationships right now, those penises have gone on and had really good lives.

No, I haven't. She was just talking about how she had sex with a guy one time, had a really small penis, and she. She's like a total size queen. She has to have, like, massive, you know, wiener in her life. But she said that the guy and they're still friends and she the guy ended up, like, getting married, having two kids. And, you know, it's just not. Not for everybody. The small wiener.

It's true. Whatever. Whatever.

It's all good.

Okay, so, Shanelle Hampton. I'm so glad you came here. Shanola Hampton from Shameless on Showtime, fifth season. Check it out. Now, what night? Tell me just what.

Sunday nights, nine o' clock on Showtime.

Thank you very much. We're gonna have that all in the Sunday nights. Showtime. Awesome. That's, like, a big night to be on. It's a perfect slot.

I know. We have good ratings.

You've amazing. That's why I watch it. Because when I say I don't watch tv, it's not. Cause, like, I always have to clarify it. Cause it's not like I'm home reading important novels. Like, I wish I watched more tv. I'm just busy and I don't prioritize it. But whenever I'm dating someone, that's when I watch TV or see sitting with.

Someone, she can't sit in front of something.

But this guy that I've been seeing for a while now, one of my sex partners, religious. So that's why I've seen it. And I love it. Like, I.

He's my favorite one.

Yeah.

He's my favorite keeper.

Keep him on Wednesday, he screamed when I told him I was interviewed. Oh, my God.

Tell him I'll send you a photo of us. I mean, with your sex toy necklace.

I know. Okay.

Doing whatever we do with it. I'm just kidding.

We have so much more to talk about. I'm so sad. We have to go. Okay, so Sunday at Showtime. We can check you out there and. And your Twitter and all that'll be on my. My page. But then we could say right now.

Shanolahampton. I'm so easy.

Yeah. Sholohampton. All right, Menace. You're at Menace.

At Menace.

Anything else you have to say?

No, I just want to say you actually have been one of the best guests we've had.

I think so. Thank you.

Amazing.

No, you really are.

You know how to do an interview to be, like, a part of all this. It's amazing. I just gave you a tweet and said, because I enter. Well, we all interview people a lot, and honestly, one of the best guests.

Oh, thank you.

We've done 2000 shows. No joke. You're awesome.

Thank you.

I want to be best friends.

I love it.

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