Girl Talk With Emily, Anna & Danielle

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day.

Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend?

Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standard.

Oh, my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh, my God, I feel so good. Being bad feels pretty good.

Well, you know, Emily's not the kind.

Of girl you just play with.

Hey, everyone. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Do you ever wish you were a fly on the wall of an epic girl talk? You know, the ones that you imagine, like we're sitting around, we're talking about sex, dating, what we really want in bed, what we're not telling you fantasies, stuff like that. Well, that's what this show is all about. I've got amazing guests on the show. I'm also here with Menace, and it's gonna rock your world. So thanks for listening.

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Hey, how you doing?

You're like, good. Get over that.

What?

Go.

Oh, something really cool happened. I was doing the morning show here in LA and somebody called in from Ecuador says that they listened to the Sex with Emily podcast.

Really? Yeah.

And then they were listening to the morning show that I do. It was crazy.

That is crazy, dude. We're just taking over and they go.

Through, like, some crazy process where they can listen to your show. And then the morning show, the Woody show that I do, where they, like, log into the Internet in America from Ecuador. It's. It's insane. But so they go. They go through a lot of effort. Yeah, a lot of effort to listen to the show. So shout out to them.

That's just a shout out to my Ecuadorian fans and Australian fans. I do. I know I mentioned this a few weeks ago, but for some reason, I don't know if you were on the show when I mentioned this, that we had 6% of our listeners from Australia last year and now 30%. Wow. And I don't know. They're getting down down there. Yeah, they're getting down in Australia. So I welcome my Australian listeners and I love you all for listening. It's awesome. So it's kind of what's going on in Australia. Like, what don't we know? Crazy sex. Move. Okay. I am here with Anna David.

I just had a thought about Australians.

That's all. I'm surprising my dad.

Okay, go wait, finish the intro and then I'll say, no.

I mean, we're good. We're rolling. I mean, I love the show because I invited two guests back that have been on the show several times, and you guys are awesome. Danielle. Anna was just on. Recently, we did a show about online dating. We did. And that was super fun. Super fun. And Danielle was on. Talking just about everything. Sex.

My disastrous dating life and sex work.

Yeah, it was a hilarious show. Danielle Stewart. And we're all friends, btw. And I'm like, let's just have a girl talk with some men is here who can pitch.

Yeah, I'm one of the ladies.

You're looking very feminine too.

Oh, thank you.

I'm always looking feminine.

And I wanted to get into some stuff about, you know, like what we, you know, like the kind of things that we talk about that people are like, do girls you don't really talk about, but what is going on in our dating lives, how it's changed how we approach people about what we want in bed fantasies. We're just gonna get into it, but what were you gonna say about. And then I'm gonna give all your handles and stuff in a minute, but go ahead.

And it was so not worth disrupting for my comment about Australians, who are the most fun people you will ever meet. So no wonder they're interested in sex. And they drink a lot, let's be honest. Yeah, they do. Sometimes those things can go together.

Every time.

I have friends that visit say it's like one of the best times that they ever had.

Australians.

Yeah.

When they go to Australia and.

Right.

They're down under. Like, that's their logo. They're like, tagline is we go down under New Zealand.

Not the same. I went there. It was.

I know. And then they beef with each other. They're like, I am not from Australia, I am from New Zealand.

It's like the San Francisco LA fight. Yeah, it's like the San Francisco LA fight, but no one in LA knows that they're in a fight with San Francisco.

Same with the New York.

So true.

LA fight. It's like you got like, we love New York, we love San Francisco. What's your problem with this?

I know, right?

Everyone hates la. Exactly. So everyone in San Francisco. Yeah. You know, they don't like it, but it's cool. We love each other. So Anna David, she's an author, a journalist, has her own goddamn podcast you should all listen to. It's called After Party Pod. She's the creator of afterparty magazine, a company dedicated to trying to show addicts, sober and not sober alike, and loved ones of addict, what recovery can be like. And she's a really good friend of mine. Nabdavid on Twitterpartysite. On Twitter.

Yes, it is.

And then your website, afterpartypod.com afterpartymagazine.com you.

Can get the podcast there.

That's perfect. Danielle Stewart.

That's me.

That's Danielle Stewart. D A N I E l l e Stewart s t e W-A-T.com like John. This will all be on my site. Like John. That's easier. Danielle@danielestewart.com hedanyste we'll do with this healthy end too. It'll be on our website, on Twitter hedanistew and facebook.com TheDanyStew you got it. And Dani has done a lot of things. Dani is just hilarious. She's a comedian. She's a writer. She writes it. After Party magazine. She recently hosted the AVN Awards.

That's right.

She rocked. She killed it. Friends were sending you pictures. Cause I told everyone to look out for her. Which they're like, the porn. They're like the Academy Awards of porn.

For porn. Yeah.

And.

You were killing it. People say, oh, my God, your friend's so good. Cause, like, I was so proud that you were doing it. I was like.

I'm like. And you were also scared I was gonna bomb.

Well, I was like, I kind of know her. And then like, she's my best friend.

And as a comedian, like, how, you know, I. How do you keep a straight face and not, you know, when the girls are crying for best anal and stuff like that?

I think Danielle takes it pretty seriously.

Oh, I'm very serious about it. I think it's funnier when actors cry about their Academy Award. I'm like, you got paid, like, millions of dollars. These girls are getting paid, like, the same.

Yeah.

And they have to take, like, you know, you know, fists in the ass and stuff. So like, I respect them more.

Yeah, yeah.

But. But also I'm so obsessed with myself that I'm not even thinking about what they're saying or doing.

So at least you can admit that. So. So I thought we would launch in here. Is there anything else that I missed that you guys would like to talk about about yourself? Well, at the end, we'll promote it. No, I want to feel good. Well, it just.

Just my sex credibility. I was the sex dating and relationship expert put on G Force attack of the show for four years.

A very.

That's true. That's true. And that's how we met. Like, I still think of you as.

That until recently, we met sort of. We've talked about this before over our shared sex work. Does that not sound.

I know we met over our sex work. And my ex had a crush on her. She doesn't remember, but yes, she's very well cred. And Danielle's very well endowed. No, I've never heard all of your, like, crazy sex stories. Danielle.

Yeah.

I haven't done your stand up. And Ann is always like, oh, talk to Danielle. I mean, we've been. We've talked about other things. Right?

Yeah.

But I would like to get into it. And the first thing I wanted to read, though, there's 20 something sex versus 30 and 40 something sex. And we're like, all in our 30s.

A little bit of 40s. So it's. This study came out 89% of women between the age of 45 and 55 are super experimental in the bedroom. And it also says that women in their 40s have much better chance of orgasms. And their 30s.

100,000%.

Yeah. And in your 20s, women, not so much, which doesn't surprise me because you're not as comfortable with yourself. So, you know, what do you guys think about this? How is the biggest difference you've noticed in your sex life from your 20s to your 30s now?

Oh, my God. I mean, I was sleeping around a lot in my 20s, and I was energetic and enthusiastic, but not skilled. You know, I mean, maybe the skill was that, like, I showed up and I had, like, a smile on my face.

Enthusiasm is the one.

Exactly.

Attitude, isn't it?

Yeah, I had an attitude of gratitude about it, but I certainly wasn't. Well, first of all, I was drunk, so that's. I mean, I'm a sloppy drunk. Like, I'm a. You know, I've peed, passed out, like, the whole thing. So, you know, that that's not good. But so into my thirds.

Sober now, right?

Sober now. But I kept hearing that we were gonna have, like, this.

The sexual peak. Right. Is like 35. That's what I heard. And I'm not. You know, none of us are 35 yet. But as I near 35, I don't really. I never. I didn't really feel that happening. But I will say that I understand my body now, and I'm in a relationship where I. I know exactly what I like, and I'm able to, like, you know, communicate that with him. Actually, you know what? We haven't. I haven't had to actually communicate it. There's like. It's with the direct communication, like, excuse me, my clit's actually over there. That's hard. Thankfully, that's not the case. But in terms of knowing what I like, I'm able to, like, you know, moan at the right times and so to give him.

Guide him through your voice. Nonverbal communication.

Yes.

So this is a new guy?

Yes. And he's so cute.

I met him at our epic birthday party.

Yes, he's very, very cute.

So you haven't had to give him direction?

No. I mean, not anything other than just typical couple adjustment we seem to have. And that's just luck. We seem to have the same rhythm, which is rare. And by the way, I don't think that that necessarily means. If you don't have the rhythm, it doesn't mean that you're not compatible, you know, but we Just happen to have that which is like, oh, thank God that's out of the way.

Thank God. What about you, Anna? How long do you wait when you're with someone to talk to them about I need a little help or I need you to do this or that or do you.

Not the first time, I would say, but. But I would say that's very you though.

Very direct.

Speaking to.

Why mess around? Why waste time?

Yeah, I mean, it's sort of like the faking orgasms thing. Like, how are you ever gonna learn if I. I'm not doing you any favors if I'm pretending to be having fun when I'm not. But I don't fake laugh either, so.

So it's painful when you think you're really funny.

I fake both.

Good to know, Dan.

Well, I. I don't. Well, I faked in my 20s, I. I made a rule.

I did too. I'd last.

Yeah, I made a rule where I stopped because. Exactly what you said. I felt like Rose ruining it for other women too.

Yeah, exactly. They're future replacements.

It's true.

But.

But I will say, you know, for me, I actually not just I had no idea what I liked and what I didn't like, but I just, I. My body was not capable of what it's capable of now. And you know, and also I've told both of you guys this. I went off of a medication that had a serious numbing effect. And so that was a year ago and it's a completely different world now.

I love this. So tell me about this world.

Oh, it's a good one.

It's a good world. Well, I mean, I used to basically not be able to orgasm unless it was like oral sex with a ton of fantasy.

Right. And a fantasy in your head. Okay.

A lot of work. I mean, seriously, how long did it take? You know, a long time. And it also was never a guarantee.

Right.

And now it's basically. I don't. It like just making out without any fantasy whatsoever. You know this.

I know, but I'm always. I just. I want that. I think that's amazing. I haven't had that while. That is really. That's just.

You're as efficient as you are in. In the workplace.

That makes sense. That makes sense. You just learn to like, God damn that numbing. It's like, you know, I'm so glad that that went away for you. So here's my question about. You brought up a good point about fantasy. So when you'd be fantasizing, for example, what Were you thinking about when a guy was performing all sex?

Well, I had a go to. It was never about somebody else, really. Like, this is actually, I never really talk about this. Mine is sort of like, oh, it's so embarrassing.

Just say it.

Like a teacher student situation. And like, the best sex I ever had was with this guy who was like a professor. And we would sort of do a little role playing around that. But that's like. That's seriously hot.

So in your mind, you're like, he's going down to me. I'm a schoolgirl. I was living late for class.

Not school girl.

College student.

College. College student. No, but I'm saying.

So it's like a power. It's a power thing for sure.

I want to piggyback on that because I met my current boyfriend. He was working on something that I worked a project that I worked on, and we didn't talk. I mean, it was not. It was a professional situation. And so when it went non professional, you know, when we went. There's something so hot about that. And I. And I'm still getting off on that. You know, where it's like we once had to be appropriate with each other and now we're finally like. And it's sort of the same. I mean, not the same, but it's.

Was he your superior in this situation?

No, but it was not, you know, equal. Yeah, I mean, it was just we. Neither one of us. Both of us would have been in trouble if there had been, you know. Yeah.

But no, it is true. There is a dynamic power play. We cannot get away from women wanting, you know, the man with power. It's sexy. It is. Yeah.

And also the forbidden.

It's the forbidden. I think more than the power thing because. Yeah. It's just so inappropriate.

Right, Exactly. That's why Menace used to sleep with.

All of his assistants and stuff all the time. No, I wanted to ask you, though, but on the. On the thing where it became more than just a working relationship.

What.

What was that moment? Did you guys, like, went out drinking or whatever? Cause that usually.

Great question. Yeah, no, what happened was I. I was under the impression that he was married. Cause that's what he told me. And.

Weird.

So I like, you know, we had a very fun, loving, you know, sort of, you know, work environment. And so I would shamelessly flirt with him because I thought it was safe. You know, like, nothing graphic, but just like, hey, handsome. You know, stuff like that. And finally at the end, when the job was over, he reached out to me and Was like, I'm actually going through a divorce and would you like to go out sometime? And I was like, my mind blew. You know what I mean? Like. Because I never thought I could have it. I mean, I was like, oh, my God.

And then he blew.

Yeah, many times.

Oh, my God, I love this. So can we go back to your fantasies? So. Because I think a lot of times I've always seen a women, you know, and men. But men has seemed to have an easier time just whipping up fantasies in their head. Usually it's past things that have happened. Or. What is it, men? It's you guys porn. It's not past things, but with women in our heads, like, what do you. Do you have a go to. Did you always have fantasies?

Okay, yes, but I can't. I wish I could have, like a nice, just fantasy. It has to be with the person I'm with. I have had fantasies where it's not with the person I'm with. And I know the relationship is over at the end.

Right, okay, exactly.

Because the other thing is, as a woman, unless I'm, you know, thinking about Clive Owen, which, by the way, Clive, if you're out there, you know, we can make it happen. But if. Unless I'm thinking about Clive Owen, I want to make the fantasy happen. The person that I'm thinking about is accessible in some way.

What about when you're masturbating? What do you think about?

Well, I'm in a new relationship, so that's what I think about.

Okay.

Every time.

A year ago. How about when you're not in a relationship? Do you have a go to fantasy?

Oh, I have some. Go to sites that I go to.

Okay. Like what? Oh, share that. That would be interesting.

Oh, God. Well, okay, so it's super embarrassing, but I'm just so embarrassed. I read, like, erotica, but it's not like, you know, Norman Mailer. It's not like, you know, literary. It's very like Penthouse for Emmy.

I'm down with that.

But for more for women, so they don't say stuff like meat pole and bloodstick and stuff like that.

So you read to get.

Yeah, it's a lot more like. It's more on the Danielle Steel end of it. It's very embarrassing.

No, but that's why they make it. That's why she makes a bazillion dollars.

I used to.

I've been to her house. It is insane.

Danielle's in there.

Yeah, it's crazy.

I used to masturbate for, like, months to Twilight. I Was reading Twilight, and that was so arousing for me.

You didn't even need the 50 shades.

I know, exactly.

Sorry, what were you. I was just gonna.

Oh, please.

What gets you off?

Basically, Daniel Steele.

Oh, I just talked about that. But. But what I was gonna say is pre. When I was on the medication, I would read the erotica too, because that was kind of the only thing that worked.

Like a little like you porn. Yeah, a little bit. But yeah. No, I remember. I don't know if you guys remember, like, when you were 12 and 13 and first reading that stuff. Well, wifey, the Judy Blume book. Forever.

Yep, forever.

I still remember that. She named the penis Ralph.

Oh, I didn't remember.

Cause I always hated that name. And I was like, that's the wrong name. And then I don't know if you ever read this book, Lace. It was really big in, like the 80s.

No.

And I just remember mind blown.

But did you masturbate to that? Yes. I was going to ask you guys these questions. So when did you first. So tell me about that. Was it the first time you masturbated or.

I remember that. I don't know if that was the first, but it was definitely in that era. We also had not a Jacuzzi, but it was like a thing called a Jacuzzi.

It's a portable thing.

I don't even know if these are around anymore. And that you put it in the bathtub.

Yeah. And it turns into it. So that hit your clitoris. That's so common to women like that.

Have their first magic wand in water.

It is the magic wand and water. So. So that. That was. How old were you?

Like, 12, I think that was the year. The first year I drank. That was the year that.

I mean, you were like, wow. And then you.

Yes. And then it was like. It was so easy to get off. There was like, you know, just with my hand. There was no vibrator or anything. Like.

That's amazing because, I mean, I've shared this a lot, but I never masturbated with once. Never had an orgasm until I was 20. Didn't even occur to me. What.

I love it.

No. Never came up. Never had a shower hit me in some odd, random way where it would have hit my clitoris the night I'd have an orgasm.

But.

Well, it pisses me off, too.

I have a thing about that, which is, you know, you do not talk. Maybe Danielle is different. I did not talk to my friends about it. No. And I thought, God, it's so crazy That I have this thing that like none of them have because I couldn't even picture it.

How would you know? Right? You couldn't google it even. It was a different world.

Different world. Yeah.

And so what about you, Daniel, when you first.

So I started. I don't, you know, I apologize in advance if this is jarring. I started masturbating at three. You know, I don't want everyone to get upset. Apparently it's very common when people come from a chaotic household, which I did. It's a self soothing thing.

Right.

So because of that, I started masturbating with a pillow as like a grind.

Oh, I did that.

Yeah.

I never really graduated much like, much like college. I didn't really graduate. And so I still. That's still my preferred method. Now I have two kinds of masturbation that I do. One is when I'm by myself and it's like do like due diligence, like I gotta get someplace, I'm running late. Like that thing. And then I have the sensual like you know, I'm on the phone while I'm text with my boyfriend or we're having sex. That is more like. Why did I just say sex? So quiet.

We're having sex.

You can't say that on the show that I use. You know that I do this more traditional way but I can't traditionally masturbate.

Break those down for us after we take a quick break for our sponsors. I want to come back and hear those two different ways you masturbate. Okay?

Rock smelling cliffhanger.

Cliffhanger like that. It's called teaser.

It's a pillow hanger.

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Well, the pillow. Sort of gradual. Like sometimes you still use a pillow on your stomach? Yeah, like in between my legs, right?

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Are you lying on your side?

Sometimes I'm lying on my side. Sometimes I am upright riding it, which is embarrassing.

No, not at all.

It is. It's weird.

You're like grinding on top of it.

Yeah.

I love that you're whispering that.

It would only be embarrassing if somebody walked in and watched.

What's funny is that What? I was embarrassed.

The pillow feels the pressure. Feels like the sex wedge or something. But do you want a Liberator? I feel like we should give her a Liberator.

Oh, but that's only for sex, right? That's not for masturbation. Or is it?

Oh, it can totally be for masturbation. It'll pelv your pelvis up, because I.

Think that's Daniel's birthday is coming.

I would probably like it. It is.

Yeah. I see you have your crate, your vestibule. I do.

I have my. My crave vibrator on each other.

Oh, I want one of these.

That's your birthday present wrapped up. That's still in my car.

I've been hearing about this birthday present.

I know, and it wasn't a lie. Like, I actually wrapped it. And there's two other things. Sorry. In there.

It's great.

I gave you a thing.

Let me tell you what I just want to say, that this crave vibrator is not only great for vibration while you're driving, but it is the most amazing conversation starter on the planet. And I've got to tell several strangers that I hosted the AVNs just because they asked me what this is.

Oh, my God, I love it.

You know, I was like, it's a bragging, right? It's called the vesper.

I know it's called a vesper. It's. Go to lovecrave.com, use code EMILY, and you get free shipping. It's the most. I know.

Can you hear?

They've heard me talk about this for months. And literally, people stop me on the street. They're like, look what I got. And then. My Hustler workshop. Yeah, it's part of your birthday present with the bow.

Can't wait.

I know you probably think I'm one of those people who lie and say, I have a birthday present for you.

But you do never lie. I can picture myself wearing it already.

I'm not a lie.

Okay, So I can't. So I couldn't have an orgasm just from putting something like the Crave necklace between my legs. But what I could do is I could put the Crave necklace between my legs and a pillow underneath it and use the grinding and the thing. I used to love this thing called the butterfly.

Oh, I know. The butterfly.

I've never really found a good replacement.

Butterfly kiss. Is it insertion or straps on? That was one of my first vibrators. It goes around your waist.

Yes.

And the butterflies.

So much trouble.

It kind of is. And I. Yeah, it's I never were able to find a good replacement for vibration.

Did it go out of business or something?

No, still around.

Still around, but it just. I don't know. Anyway, it just worked in a time. But. But yeah, so that. That's pretty much that.

Do you use vibrators?

I do sometimes. Yeah. But I. I can rarely have a orgasm from just a vibrator. I have to have something in the main.

Penis.

Yeah. Like a.

Like a penis or an insertion vibrator.

Yeah.

And even magic wand.

I don't do the magic wand.

Cause it can destroy you. Coming from sex.

It doesn't, though. It hasn't me.

No, but. But I worry about it.

But I'm orgasmically challenged as it is.

Well, I think that those years before when I was on that medication, that was my only hope. And it. It started. I don't know. Then I had a mental thing. Oh, it was like cocaine.

I threw it away.

And then I went and got another one.

Oh, my God.

Yes. Because I was actually like, this is destroying any chance of me ever having an orgasm with another person.

And then you were like, I need to have an orgasm.

Yes.

Talking about what I preach.

Do you know that it's rechargeable now? And they just came out without the cord.

I think that's amazing.

And I remember you wanted to go on a hike the other day. I was like, I want to go, but I have to run home and get a toy.

Yes.

I had to go run home and get that because it's rechargeable now. Out of the wall.

You needed it for the hike.

Next time.

That's how addictive it is in the office.

And Anna's like, I'm like, I gotta run home and get a toy.

What kind of videos are you shooting in the office?

We actually did a really funny one yesterday with it. Because the magic wand is now. It used to be plugging the wall. Now it does.

So imagine it's revolutionary.

It's amazing. You can bring it camping. Hiking.

It's the number one vibrator that all my friends here. So don't listen to me. I'm just like.

So, you know, use code emilyoodvibes.com yeah, get one. Okay, so I want to know, you guys, what Were you gonna ask a question?

No.

He was drifting off out of this world of.

There's something going on in his head.

I think I want to know. This is what I want to know. If you guys had any, like, what you've learned now, what would be some sex tips that you would Impart to your younger self, like, what you know now that you didn't know that. And it can be, like, about your own body or about what you wish men knew. You could tell men, I mean, just anything.

Well, what I would say is it took me a while to get liberated around certain parts of sex that have been so freeing. Like, for me personally, I don't think it's okay for me to be afraid of cum. It's a very limit. Like, it cuts me off. It's not about the guy. It cuts me off to the connection and the sexual experience. If I'm like, oh, could you just come over there?

Oh. So used to not swallow.

And I used to just be freaked out by the whole thing. Like, what am I supposed to do? Am I supposed to like this? Like, you know. And so what I did is I. I don't know if I forced, but, like, I got to a place where I realized how much men like to, for instance, come on the face. Right. Facials, once I connected that. That turned them on so much, I could get turned on by it. And now I don't even need them to really care. I like it on my own.

Right. You learn to love the semen, the blowjob and the penis and. Right.

And not for them, for me.

Me, like, smoking cigarettes.

You look.

You hated the first one.

I hated the first pack. Yeah, yeah, but.

Absolutely.

And what it did is, again, I want to reiterate, it wasn't for them. Well, I thought it was, but it opened up all of my doors.

Okay, I would like you to explain this more because there's a lot of women listening to show and men who have partners and women who don't like blowjobs, they think they don't. They think they hate men who don't.

Like to go down, which totally freaks me out.

So you did this. Me too. But you did this transformation where you actually got into it and you learned to love it for your own time because it made you feel empowered and sexy and you knew you would and you enjoy it.

Exactly.

If you can change people.

Yeah. If you understand how much I was with. You know, if you understand how much men love that. Certain men, then you'll. You can understand why you should love it.

Right.

Because it makes. I don't want to say it ups your value. That's so gross. But I mean, like, then it makes them more open. Like, I'm in. Like, I have such a sexually open relationship because I'm so open. And so it's made him open. He wasn't open before he was in, you know, a thousand year marriage, you know, and he's opened up because I'm open.

Right.

You know, and so now I'm getting stuff. I'm getting amazing stuff from his openness. So it really, it's not about, you.

Know, give and take. I get it. Like, you're open, he's open.

And balls is another thing I feel like people got to get on board with. I know, I know. Anna going to look at me and go, I don't.

Not at all. Can I. Can I jump in, please? Yeah.

No.

All I was going to say is I've always loved it all.

I didn't have to look like blowjobs.

Yeah, no, just like men coming. Like, I.

That's great.

Yeah.

Always a Jewish thing. Because someone tell me it was.

I was like, Danielle.

Yeah.

I did not like it. I was just scared. Like, I didn't know what was.

No, I get it.

You're like, what is this?

It was my first podcast. Go ahead, I'll tell you after. Okay.

Yeah, no, just. I've always liked it. I think I've just always been so turned on by the idea of a guy being so turned on. I mean, it's interesting because it does sort of connect to my, like, college professor fantasy. It's like I cannot control my attraction. Like, that's what does it for me.

Yeah, agreed.

And so I've always. I've just always been super turned on by it. And, like, always kind of used to again, like, this was when I couldn't really orgasm from sexual. Or when I was sort of trying to keep things relatively innocent because I don't sleep with people right away. So I would always do the, like, mutual masto thing. I'd be like, oh, hey, Madison's nodding.

We always do the mutual media.

Like, you know what? And I would just get so turned on with that. It still happens.

Can I piggyback off that on a sex tip for men, please?

Yeah, I wanted to get into some tips. Yeah.

Because this is something that I think is really important. You just said it. What men seem to not understand about women in the bedroom and outside, that they just want to feel worshiped. They just want to feel special. Even if you don't. I don't care how you really feel. Just act. If you want me to be like a slut for you in the bedroom and be open, then you have to pretend that you want me more than anything. And if you do that, you are going to get everything you want, you know? But you can't go in trepidatiously and be like, I don't really like to.

Eat pussy and then expect me to.

Give you a blowjob. It's not about eye for eye. It's just about like, if you're not. If you don't want to put your face up in it, then I'm like, I don't. We're disconnected already. So you just have. If you make the girl you're with feel like she is, like you can't even take the attraction even, you know, even if just to get a good blowjob out of it, it's worth, you.

Know, tell her she's hot. Right.

It's better than an Academy Award.

I would love to go back to one thing about sexual fantasies and masturbation. I don't want to get you off the track, but like, I will say, oh, and like that I have a guy that whenever I'm not dating somebody, I mean, six years my go to.

Fantasy, I only pull up like one time with him. Or is his face his thing?

Well, he was the college professor guy.

Everything.

It was everything. Like it was just for whatever reason, the most sexually gratifying experience.

Where is he and how do we find him?

That man was his God given gift. Like what he can do is not.

Just, how did you hook up with him?

It's actually kind of a great story, but I don't want to get you too much.

It was on referral, wasn't it?

It was. I had a friend who had dated him who said, it's just too weird for me to set you up because I dated him. But like, find him and like ask. He was sort of in the same field. Ask him if he wants to meet. And so it was like one of those things.

Was that illegal on campus or. No, not really. Like if he.

Oh, he wasn't my teacher. This was like when I lived in New York.

Oh, I got it. He was a professor. Okay, got it.

And then. And there's the quick thing. So we go to coffee and I'm like, yeah, he's all, whatever, he's cute. And he mentions that he has a girlfriend. I was like, what am I doing here? And then he mentions that his girlfriend has a boyfriend. And then he mentions that he's open. Yeah. And I was like, I can't get involved in this. I can't get involved in this. And so then we were leaving and he's like getting on the subway and. And he goes, so let's go for a drink. And I go Yeah, I don't drink. And he's like, cool, I'll come. I'm gonna cook you dinner and come over. And so suddenly I found myself in this thing that was.

Wow.

So I love that that was your thing. That.

How long did that last for?

Well, I never wanted to actually make him my boyfriend. Not just because of his situation, but it just. For different reasons. And so it could last, like, you know, a couple years, on and off.

Yeah, I get it. I like those ones.

You got to.

Yeah.

Can you pass it along?

Yeah, I know I should. I should give it out for the.

Emily wants it.

But. But let's talk about this. About worshiping the female, because this kind of reminds me. Menace, I know what you're thinking about the compliment thing. I used to say joke on the show. I'm like, compliment her 20 times a day, 10 times a day. And Medusa would be like, come on. Then she's gonna know that you're really into her and blah, blah.

I'm like, no, it's just like, I don't know, some guys gives him the.

Upper hand or whatever.

But no, no, no.

Yes, I'm with Menace.

You get walked all over.

Hold on.

Then the woman becomes disinterested in you.

That Anna has a thing. Anna has a thing.

But you like compliments. Like, I want to know.

No, she doesn't want too many compliments.

That's what I'm saying.

Yeah.

I'm not saying never compliments her, but 20 times a day.

Is it fake comments, like, this guy I was dating, his reaction was, hi, beautiful. Every time he called me, hey, beautiful, beautiful. And in the middle of the sentence, beautiful. We went out twice.

Every guy that I met that she's hooked up with is pretty much a douchebag. So I want to, like.

So not true. You've not met anyone I've hooked up with. I've met two.

I've met more than two. And the douchebag level is, like, crazy.

What level?

Douchebag level. Hopefully at least, like, what's your freaking four or five?

It's not true.

I'm just saying that your judgment on dudes are not that great.

Well, I. We're similar in that way.

I'm not saying I make the best decisions always, but I think that you're quick to judge people.

I want to clarify.

And you're protective.

I want to clarify that there are two. I think we could all agree on this if we make a clarification, which is that I don't want a ton of compliments. For a guy I'm not into. I don't. I also don't want a dozen roses on our first or second date. That means nothing because it looks insincere. What I don't want. I love you. Every time we get off the phone, I don't want. Hey, beautiful. Every time, you know, I want it to feel sincere. So you really, like.

You look at me, you're like, wow, you like. You look great. I love. That shirt. Would be specific. You know something? You notice your eyes.

My boyfriend tells me all the time, and I love it and can't get enough of it.

What does he do?

But I know he's just like, I love you. You're gorgeous. I love what you're like, you know.

And you know it's real.

Yeah. And if he goes, hey, beautiful. Hey, gorgeous. I.

It's.

We're in. Into it enough now that I believe it.

When it's prematurely complimenting, when it's too much. I understand it can be overboard. But what we were talking about earlier, though, too, is, like, just sexually, just having that you don't even want to feel desired in the bedroom. Like, you're so hot. Like, if you get naked with the guy for the first time, don't you want to be like, God, your body is.

Oh, absolutely. But I will say the over. Like, for me, it's like, it means. When it means so much, like, you know, they meant it because they're not somebody who does it all the time.

That's.

But what about, like, let's. Let's rewind to your last relationship and like, if you guys, like, you're a couple months into it and you were like, totally, like, so into him. If he had switched from how he was in the first couple months and all of a sudden went like, God, you're gorgeous. God, you're this. And kept going. You would love it.

No, I mean, he was very complimentary. Okay. But it just was not constant. And it meant so much when it was.

Okay, let's see.

That's what I'm talking about.

Right?

I get it. Okay.

I overdo it.

But it was because there's a lot of men who I think just withhold it all. And we went there sometimes, so there's a fine line.

And I think for some in bed, you're right. Be marveling. Yeah.

Because it's like, yeah. Then you're gonna get. We're all gonna get what we want. And I do it too. I'm like, oh, your penis is smaller than I thought. But we're gonna have a good time now.

And don't worry about women having the upper hand. It's like, we can have children. We always have the upper hand. So just worship us.

Yeah.

No guys know that you're in charge, but just pretend that you know we have some power.

What would be your one sex tip to men if you could give them one tip now because yours was more of the worshiping in the bedroom. Did you give your one tip?

Well, I mean, I would second that one. You know, I think just like those men who think that, like, let's say oral sex is a skill that they have, remember that it is not. It is not like, across the board. Yeah. It's not like, oh, I'm a good writer, so I'm always gonna write in this way. You are, right. Like, it's like writing an article for a different audience every single time.

Exactly.

So feel her out, so to speak. See what she likes. It's so obvious when someone's just kind of like, I know. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6. I'm gonna do that.

I'm on letter G with my tongue. Right? We did the tablet.

Yeah.

Did we talk about pack a lunch down there?

Do we talk about that? No. No. Goal sex.

Okay.

Well, no, it's just piggybacking what you said. Because I've had at least three guys in my lifetime be like, I love tea pussy so much. I'll fucking pack a lunch down there. And it's like, okay.

What you look at nowhere near me.

I. I do not want you to be down there so long that you need to take a lunch break. Cause now you're doing it wrong. Two, I don't want the idea of food near my vagina. Disgusting. And also, why are you talking about, like, I just picture a construction worker with, like a. Like, a metal lunchbox.

It's just like, I've never heard of it.

She said it to you.

I've had a few people say that to me over my lifetime.

The last guy that I met that she hooked up with sounds like a dude that would totally say that.

You're so ragging on her right now.

No, I'm just keeping it real now. I'm curious who the last one he met was.

The last one?

Yeah.

I'll tell you later.

She was awesome. Not the one whose car I crashed.

No, no, no.

But that Danielle's point brings me to. I know it was terrible story for another time. I want to hear it. I want to hear it. But the men who talk about how much they love Doing it. Chill out. Because, again, it kind of goes back to the worship thing. I want to think you really love doing it to me. Not that it's just your general, like, love.

Right, of course. But I do think something that men can say is a lot of women do worry that he doesn't want to be down there.

Yes.

Maybe try younger women. Like, do I smell bad? And I think when a guy says, I don't want to bring you lunch, but he's like, babe, I just relax. Like, I just love being here. Like, I've got all nights. How about I've got all night and no snacks.

Yeah, I like that.

I like, I've got all night, or I'm not going anywhere, or like, I'm.

Convinced my boyfriend likes it more than I do.

Yeah. I hear the men who love it. I hear from men all the time are like, why won't. My wife won't let me or a partner. Okay, guys, what's the best. Can you describe the best sex you've ever had?

Goanna.

Well, I just did. I mean, it was.

Why? Oh, well, it's a pout. Because the.

I want to meet this guy.

Yeah, no, that guy. Unfortunately, he's not a sex teacher, and he should be.

Was there a particular moment or something that happened? Oh, yes.

So he. He had written this story about. About. And I'm not even necessarily into this, about tying women up with this certain belt and how he. Whatever. He had to drill a hole in the belt to make it work for her hands. Nanis, are you taking mental notes?

Yes, I am.

And so he wrote this story, and then he came over for that time to make me dinner, and I realized he was wearing that belt.

And then he foreshadowing.

So he did do, like, I'd sort of been tied up, but, like, by people who didn't know what they were doing. And he's like, your safe word. And I'm like, oh, my God, I'm really living. I'm getting a safe word. I can't believe it. And, like, I just. And he did this thing where he blindfolded me. And then he was like, the only rule is you cannot beg. And so then he would, like, come in the room and kiss me and leave. Then he would come in the room and sort of, like, touch me and leave.

And I'd be like, oh, it was S. And Emmy.

Yeah.

And I would be like, come back. And he's like, nope, because you did that. I'm winning. And it was, like, so teasing.

Hot. Building. And the Arousal.

And then he would not have sex with me that night, which was all part of it. And so then the next time we met, he's like, I'm making you lunch, come over. And the minute I walked in his apartment, he just attacks me.

He's very calculated though, in his way, because he knew. It's like, oh, right at work.

Yeah, I love that story.

Okay, now that's my new fantasy go to. But I don't you. And you can take it. I don't fantasize. Well, you know, we'll see.

What?

Okay, Dan. Well, I don't fantasize about you, per se. I haven't.

You haven't?

No.

What I thought you meant in general.

Don't particularly fantasy me. Put my face there on top of yours.

Well, good.

Good. Danny. What, Danielle?

Well, I think I would have to say that, you know, there really isn't anything hotter from somebody. I don't know if this is my weird validation thing. There really isn't anything hotter than being the first piece of pussy from a guy who's getting out of a 17 year relationship.

Oh, that is hot. Yeah.

It's almost like fucking a guy out of prison.

Yeah.

He must be so excited.

Oh my God, it was so amazing. You know, it's. It's amazing on the mental and physical level, which it's always mental and physical. But I mean like, it's. There's, there's fantasy, there's, you know, the first time, there's a. And it just like. And also there's like this feeling of like I'm doing like God's work, you know, like I'm being of service. And so like it just worked for me on all levels. And so that was pretty mind blowing.

That's amazing.

Yeah.

Okay, one more question then emails real quick. One thing you've always wanted to try in bed, but have not yet.

Well, I. I think I've talked about this before. I did anal when I used to do drugs, but I have never done it sober and I really want to.

Lots of lube. Yep.

That's what I keep doing.

Slowly ease into it. I'll give you some lube.

What about an enema?

No, you don't need to have an enema.

And I can't take this.

No, you need to like, just make sure you have like a lighter lunch a day. Your bowel's empty, you'll be fine.

But what's a light lunch? Because like if I have like a salad that's raw vegetables.

Well, make sure you go to the bathroom. That's funny.

Okay.

Porn stars say, like, bread and water or something.

Okay.

And I can't take it.

When I was on Attack of the Show, I would get anal sex questions all the time. And I still get mail from. From men who were like, I can't believe how anti anal you were. And I realized it's sort of like we talk about, like, there are many ways to get sober. Like, just because I would never do it does not mean that it's okay for me to, like, put that on any of my opinions.

But it just grosses you out. That's fine.

Yeah, I have, like, ass things. It's. It's like lsd. I never needed to try it to know I hated it.

Right. Okay, Got it. But did you. Did you give us your. You did.

What would you do?

Oh, that. I haven't. I don't think there's anything that I haven't done that I would want to do.

Great. So you're filled. Okay, let's move into emails. You guys help me answer anything.

I'm ready.

Okay. Hi, Emily. I have a bit of a problem that you may have addressed previously, but I really need someone to expand upon. I've been at my current job obsessing over every aspect of it for the last three years and rose from the role of extra hand on deck to the CEO's assistant. Problem is, about a month ago, I led into temptation and had my way with the boss. Late 30s, married with children. He's been a mentor and huge part of my life for several years, and I have feelings for him. He's been talking about leaving his wife for me the last few months, and it's almost like we're in a boyfriend, girlfriend like relationship. My company is failing due to issues outside his control, and it's destroying me to know I may not be with him daily soon. What do I do? E, she's a female. She's 22.

Oh, my God. Get the hell out of there. That is a disaster.

Except that. Do you remember how impossible it was to get out of things when you were 22? And that deep in.

Because you think it's love. You're gonna love no one.

You think he's gonna leave the way?

Well, not only that, you have no pain to reference. Like, that's the only thing that gets me out of situations is that I've been through such gnarly pain that I can go. I don't want to go through that again.

Yeah, yeah.

She almost needs to. Okay, so she's in a crappy situation. But if she can't wedge herself out of it, which I completely understand, then she may just need to walk through it and deal with the pain because she's gonna get hurt. She's gonna get hurt no matter what.

She's not gonna leave his wife even if he does.

It's messy. Here's the thing that no one talks about. Not only that he cheated on his wife with you. That means he's going to cheat on you with somebody else eventually.

Like, yes.

Right.

You know, and, and, and you don't care right now because you're so hot for him. But, like, you know, it's just not. It's. It's beyond, like, impossible. It's just. It's possible and it's bad, but everything.

Surrounding it is really bad, which is.

Why it's such a turn on, which.

It totally plays into my professor fantasy, by the way.

So it's.

It's super, super hot, but it's. It's just got sort of disaster all over it, you know? I will say, you know, I once got involved with a married man and it was the most painful thing of my life. Same here. But I remember being told you got to do it until, like, this whole, like, don't call him. Don't do this, don't, you know is.

Never going to work because she's going to be. I want to tell her to quit the job right now. If the company's failing, you should secure yourself and go get another job.

I do think that's a good recommendation. But this whole, like, we can't do this anymore is like the biggest lie that two people tell each other.

Yes.

They're talking so much sense right now, it's crazy.

Well, here's like. So she wants the real direct advice. The real. In my opinion, the real direct advice is find a new job, block him on everything, do not return his calls. Done. That's. That's what you should do. You're not gonna do it.

Yeah. You're not. That's what I'm saying.

But there's no other way around it. The good news is, if she goes through, if she just keeps doing what she's doing, she's gonna get into so much unbelievable pain that she probably won't repeat this behavior.

Yeah. So that I never did again.

Amazing, amazing advice.

So it's a win. Win. Really?

Yeah.

And you're gonna need a new job anyway. And take care of yourself. And this guy's not leaving you guys. That was killer.

Again.

Even if he did, he's gonna Cheat on you and you're gonna have to deal with the wife and the kids.

And you're gonna be a stepmom.

Yeah. Possibly of four children at 22.

Yeah. Okay.

Without a job.

Yeah, exactly. Okay, let's do another one. Hi. I love your show. Been listening for a while. I'm a 36 year old girl living in Santa Monica, California. I've been on literally 500 dates and finally found a great, smart and funny, Jewish, very important to me guy. We've been dating since April. The chemistry is awesome and so is the sex. He just dropped a bomb on me stating he's moving in two weeks. He's moving back to Austin, Texas. Said that finding a job here. He's a writer. Has been a struggle. His mom's health is deteriorating, et cetera. What the heck? Do I even bring up anything about continuing this relationship or cut my losses? I'm so sad he's leaving. I also don't know how to see him over the next two weeks without crying all the time. Thanks so much, K. Wow.

I got another one for that one.

Okay. Okay. Do you want to go first then?

Well, what I'm gonna say is, is that they've been. I understand that the relationship is going amazing, but it's been about three months, which is that you're still in that honeymoon period. And let's look at the facts. He has an ailing mother who he feels so responsible for that he's gonna move back to Austin to take care of.

But I don't think that's that unusual, that part.

I don't. But if you have a life in LA like I remember, he doesn't.

He's hard. Having a hard time getting writing. Exactly.

And he's not gonna get a writing job.

He's not getting in Austin.

So he's down on his own and his mother dying. So you can't go to Austin with him. Let's just take that off the table.

I don't think she asked that though, did she?

But no, I think she's saying, I don't know what I should do. I mean, what are they. Don't say goodbye, have a long term relationship.

No, don't have a long term relationship. Unless you want to move to Texas.

Yeah, I mean, so, yeah. Sort of just to back Danielle up. It's sort of the same thing. And you know, in a guy that would. That would drop it like that after sort of like indulging in this fabulousness since April is, you know, desperate.

He's desperate.

Well, and I was Telling Danielle this morning that my therapist says red flags don't exist, but. Red flag.

Yeah, right. They don't exist. Why? Because we don't see them. So they're fine.

No, my therapist just told me this this week.

What?

Red flags are a misnomer because someone can do something once and never do it again. Someone cannot do something in the beginning and do it a lot later.

It's true, it's true. But this is different because you might.

Get different to do it.

But I will say that what's happening is that I think he's getting out of the three month, like la La land. Nothing matters. Real life is setting in. He's got financial fear and his fear about his mother's health and he's bailing. And it's just. It's not that he's a bad guy. It's not. It's just that you're getting on a sinking ship. You know, this guy needs to deal with his mother, get his life back on track, and then be ready.

You know, she went 500 dates, she finally felt she found the one. We get it.

Here's what I will say. If you think he's the one, move to Austin with him and take care of his mother with him. If you think he's the one, really, then that's what you should do. None of this long distance relationship.

Exactly. I don't know what kind of job you have, but that's true. You got to cut it again. Same thing like, but it's gonna be hard. You might cry, but you can't know.

He'S the one at three months. I don't think you can know he's the one at six months.

That's why I don't believe she should head into a whole long distance thing because then it'll still be great. That's just extending the whole period of getting to know someone when you see.

Also I do think this is a guy. When he said, I'm leaving in two weeks, if he was like moving there was an option. If continuing everything was an option, he certainly would have brought it up.

Yeah, I mean, this is obviously a desperate, fearful move. And a man that's in that position is not gonna be a good partner. Because men need to feel like men in order to show up in a relationship. And this guy is not feeling like a man right now. Even if he's into you.

Exactly. When men are suffering financially or jobs are creative, you know, they're work wise, it's hard for them to get it up and to want Intercourse.

And it's actually. Sorry. Interesting that the two emails are very related. Like the man on the sinking ship, you know?

That's true. That's true. Oh, my God. I didn't think about that.

I have so many. Like, my whole dating life is a Titanic. I have been on so many sinking ships.

God.

I mean, I don't know that I've been sinking ships. Maybe. I don't know. I sunk them.

No, I mean, I feel like I have a thing.

No, I think Danielle subconsciously has sought it out.

Yeah, I think that. I know.

Yeah. Like.

Well, do you know how they have Captain Save a Ho? Have you heard of that?

Yeah.

I'm like the female version of.

Really?

Yeah. Even though I shouldn't be because I don't have any money and I have nothing to offer, but I somehow, like, I think subconsciously I feel like it's my duty to, like, save people. And then it's like a nightmare. So you try to.

You want. Do you think they're gonna change?

It's a weird form of code.

It's very.

You guys are awesome. I love you guys being a. You just come back and we'll just do this, like, every day, all the time, any day, oftentimes.

One email that you did want to mention.

Oh, thank you very much. From the last show. Anna was on my last show a few weeks ago, online dating. It was a very popular show. It was killer. And Anna, you can tell the story. Anna got a nice email after the show.

Very nice sounding guy. A nice email from a guy.

Cute.

Who was cute. Who was coming here, who, you know, complimented me on what I said on the show, quoted her, whatever. And then he was here last week and we were gonna meet up, and then he's so nice. And it's not that. It's just I got a little overwhelmed by the emails and I couldn't. I just ended up not do it.

And so.

Cut to yesterday, right? Madison. I get an email because I've already fed his email.

Yeah.

Madison forwards my feedback. He goes, oh, here's the guy. Because I was joking in the office, I'm like, anna gets a date from the show. I don't get dates. And then Madison says, you don't read all the feedbacks right away. There are a lot of guys asking you. I'm like, but this guy's super cute. Anyway, he emailed me as well. The same exact email that Anna got. The same exact picture.

Put it on.

Same exact jokes. I was like. And at first I was like, this is familiar. And I click on the photo, I'm like, oh, my God, dude, give me.

The email so I can send friends to use.

But that's. That's not even true because then we also have the same, like, watching people podcast.

We ended up on a date with the same man on the same day.

We went with the same man.

I mean, you guys have. You guys are both petite, really cute girls. You know what I mean? So you have, like. I understand why men would like both of you.

It's a.

It's a type thing.

But.

They were on the same show. Like, how do you expect them not. Not to talk to each other?

Oh, that guy.

So dumb.

Right? Exactly.

But.

But I do want to say there was really nice.

So nice. You should email Madison. I don't email Danny.

I don't think.

Yeah.

I don't think men realize how much women talk.

Maybe not.

We talk to each other. We talk about everything.

Yeah.

And men don't. Men will get an email from a girl and not bring it up. He probably didn't think you guys would.

Ever talk about it, right?

Dude, we talk about everything. Oh, my God, you guys are awesome. Okay, so, Anna, where would you. Can you find you.

Oh, anadama.com. but I really don't do anything there. So Afterparty magazine. And I do want to say Danielle is like, the number two there who does everything. So if you were amused by her too, there's. Danielle Stewart is all over that site.

I am.

It's a great site. And I actually. I actually read your site, and I'm not sober.

Right. I love it.

Yeah.

I like the idea of being sober.

Yeah.

And it's.

It's for anybody interested in being.

It's a good idea.

It's really about just being healthy because I think we all kind of. A lot of people walk the line. They're, you know, have questions about it.

One in three are mentally ill, but I'd argue one in one. Kidding. I mean, whatever. And also the podcast, Afterparty pod, download, itunes, stitcher, all that. Cool.

And then you can find me@DanielStewart.com Also, I've written almost 200 articles for After Party magazine, and you can find me on Twitter hedanistew. D A N I S T E W. Oh, okay.

Menace. Just menace on Twitter. M E N A C E. Like.

It'S the first time you've done it.

I know.

It's hilarious.

I know. I love you. I love you. I love you guys. Thank you so much for being on the show. It was super Fun. And thank you Madison for all you do and producing and being wonderful. Also, did I mention the New York thing that I'm gonna be in New York? I'm in New York September 18th to the 20th for this sexual health expo and I know a lot of you are like, oh, when are you coming to New York? I'm coming in New York, so come get tickets. There will be a give you more information about that when it comes up. And if you. Is there anything else reading in the workshop? We don't know. Okay. I love you all. Follow me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. It's all sex with Emily. Thanks for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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