Guess Who's Having Sex With Emily

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No.

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.

Eyes that mock our sacred institutions.

Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standard.

Oh my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh my God, I feel so drunk. Being bad feels pretty good.

You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com you can check out all of our podcasts. Sign up for our mailing list. Have you not signed up for a mailing list? I don't understand how you listen and don't sign up for a mailing list because I do not spend. But my emails rock. I will catch you up on all the latest podcasts. We write articles every week and they're just a good friggin time. And you actually get excited. People tell me they get really excited about my emails. So I'm just saying. And thanks everyone for listening. I love you. Hi, Menace, I'm here with Menace today.

Hello, Emily. How are you doing today?

I'm great. How are you?

I'm good. I went and traveled many places. I'm back.

I saw that.

I'm sunburned. It looks like I have a disease on my nose.

You do look like you have a disease.

Yeah, but I'm happy to be back.

I know. I saw you like in Haiti and riding around. Haiti, Cruise ship.

Jamaica, Mexico, some parts of the country, Florida.

With your girlfriend.

Yeah.

When you guys can start fighting or something so we can have something interesting to talk about.

Yeah, we don't fight because it was so fun. We were just talking about it the other day and you know, we have cup. We know couples that have issues and stuff like that.

Couples of issues.

And we just laugh at it and we go, really? Does everything need to be that dramatic? It's crazy.

It's like you found your perfect woman. I don't understand it. I like want to hang out and go to dinner and be like, there's some cracks there.

No, you want there to be because that like gives you. I'm not saying you, but Fodder. Yeah, fodder. And I mean 90% of women out there meaning in life to gossip and talk about drama, like, who gives a crap?

No, I'm really happy.

Let's go have fun and travel the world. Like we do Dude, I'm really, really happy at your house.

You know, Menace, I'm just happy for you. I just want you to. I think it's time that you just, you know, open up by your sex life. That's all.

This is the Sex with Emily show and you announced that you're having sex with our guest. And that is amazing.

I know.

I didn't even tell menis so many questions.

Okay, so Menace. I did not tell Menace. Brief him on our guest. But this is Ross.

Hi, everybody. Ross.

How you doing?

Ross Grant.

Hi, Menace.

All right.

And we've had some fun experiences lately. And I was like, Ross, you should just come on the show and we'll talk about it.

Wow.

And I'm sure Menace would have a frigging field day because he's actually never really met anyone. No one's been on the show that I've dated.

Yeah.

And yeah.

Yeah. This is weird.

Making Sex with Emily history right now.

You kind of are.

I know.

Like we're going to give you a jacket after and a special plaque.

The question is like, first of all, how do you do it? How do you.

Very carefully, Menace.

How do you do it, man? And why would you agree to come on the show? It's crazy.

Why?

What do you think's going to happen?

No, nothing's going to happen. I'm just saying that, you know, okay, I've known, I've known Emily for 10 years. Right, right. And I mean, love her. Great, awesome person, I agree. But effing exhausting. Okay, when you talk to her, like how do you handle hanging out with her all the time? I don't get it.

We don't hang out all the time.

Like how much does she talk?

She does talk a lot. She's worn talking. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But you know, she usually says interesting things.

I would want to take a nap.

You know, she tells me that people have told her before, no talking after 8 o'.

Clock.

I told you about that. My boyfriend, long time ago.

And that her parents used to say only two questions before bed.

Yeah, because I would ask questions all day long. They'd be like, okay. My mom would be like two more.

I know. So you don't have any of those rules?

I mean, I'm not always that talkative. So sometimes she'll just come in and talk non stop and then I don't have to say anything.

It's great. Yeah, he's not very talkative and I fill in the blanks.

But you haven't like set any rules yet?

No.

About talking yeah.

So how long? Yeah, yeah, about talking.

No, I haven't limited her talking yet.

Okay. That wouldn't go down to that point. Leave me, my friend, have that conversation now.

So it's not, you know, I didn't. I could, I could have like before him, like menace, be cool, don't do anything. But I'm like, fuck it, you're gonna say no, I'm okay. Moving on from talking. My talk. He likes my talking is one of the things that I don't know he likes about me.

Okay, that's great.

Any other questions?

Yeah, more questions. All right, so wait, so how long has this been going on?

Like it's sort of been off and on for months.

Months.

All right, what would you say, Emily?

Like we like the truth?

Yeah, I mean, we met two years ago actually and then we were friends for a while and then we were dating.

What kind of sex party did you guys meet at?

We didn't meet at.

We met in like the most non sex party way ever. We met just looking at apartments.

Looking for apartments about a year ago. We met two years ago, but uh huh. Yeah. Sleeping together for about a year. But a few months is fine too. Yeah. So we met looking for apartments two years ago when I was moving to West Hollywood and he was moving here from San Francisco.

Oh.

So I was like, oh, wow. Bay Area.

Yeah.

And then we became friends and we went on a date and then.

And then we like didn't see each other for like six months or something like that. Emily was too cool. We texted now and then and I kept our relationship to podcasts and Loveline.

Cool.

Yeah.

He listened to me. Yeah. Well, because when we met, you were like, oh, I recognize your voice. He had heard me in Loveline.

Yeah.

And he likes Loveline.

Nice.

Yeah. And then we just started dating.

Cool.

So what do you guys do? We'll get to the sex part.

Whatever.

Okay. We did. We didn't meet a sex party, but we did go to a sex party that I'm gonna talk about.

Yeah. Last week.

What do you guys do.

For like fun and stuff like that?

Pretty much all Sibian all the time.

Yeah, he actually, he. He broke my Sibian.

No, for real. I just don't know like what, I mean, like, what do we do? Entertain.

Go to dinner, go to movies, Go to parties.

Yeah.

Hang out with friends.

Mutual friends.

What do you think I do?

I don't know. That's why I'm asking. We like, how do you keep her entertained? Because she's.

You think she'd be Hard to entertain.

Yeah, I'm sorry. Like, I took her with me to some screening of a movie for like. It was like.

It was the worst movie ever.

It was like some press screen, right? And all she did is talk through the whole movie. And then I was embarrassed because all my colleagues is like, who the hell is this?

Everybody talked the whole time. Was the worst movie I was ever made.

Everybody was just. You talk the whole time.

Okay.

I'm just saying, how do you keep her entertained?

She's a little bit of a homebody sometimes I have to make her do stuff, actually.

See, this is what you don't know. People don't believe this about me, actually.

I go out more than she does.

Yeah. Yeah.

Wow.

Cuz I'm talking all day and I'm working all the time and I actually. People assume that, like, my friend Anna David was like, you go out every night, you're out every night. I'm like, I really don't. Like, I actually like to hibernate and sort of be kind of more reclusive. So, yeah, I said hello.

Okay. So when she said that she does sex with Emily, you're like, oh, hell yeah.

Yeah, that's a good.

Was that like, very interesting to you right away? Obviously, any guy would probably think that was interesting.

Yeah, it was. I mean, I actually used to live in San Francisco and I used to hear on her FM show up there, like years ago.

She heard us on the show.

Wow, that's crazy.

Which was like four or five years ago, I think. And then, you know, I heard her on Loveline. And so when I met her, it was just like really interesting because I heard her voice and I was like, I know, that stalker.

But that's cool. You like soccer?

I wasn't really looking for an apartment exactly.

He moved here to be with me.

No, no, I mean, I, you know, I'd always liked what she had to say on the radio. I was interested to get to know her a little bit.

Cool.

Yeah.

So you used to masturbate and listen to the show before you?

Maybe you did. Maybe that was the connection. But you don't remember. But it's interesting you say that because I don't know if I've asked this, but people do all the time. They're like, are guys intimidated to date you? Like, is it weird? But I don't know, like, were you? Cause that's just. No, no, it wasn't.

Honestly, just. No, I don't.

You're like, cool. Sex with Emily, maybe.

My parents have been like, so what's that?

Like, his dad asked him, what's sex with them? So what's that like?

And you said, that's a lot of fun.

Wow. You had that conversation with your dad.

And they Googled me. His parents Googled me.

Well, she actually met my parents.

I met him fairly recently.

Oh, my God.

I went to a family reunion.

How did it go over Emily?

I liked it.

Was it stressful for you?

It was stressful because it was actually a few months ago. And when I went to San Francisco and he was having family reunion outside San Francisco and he was like, oh, as long as you can be there, come meet my family. And I was like, okay. You know, and then I'm thinking, a reunion. It wasn't just his parents. Like, it was this whole, like, how many members of your family?

Like, 30 of my cousins and aunts and uncles and stuff.

Yeah, for the weekend. Sea Ranch.

Wow. Okay, so there's 30 people there. And then you say, oh, this is sex with Emily.

Right?

Are you serious?

Yeah, dude.

Well, we didn't even say that. But it was like my parents knew she was coming for a while. So of course, all the cousins had, like, Googled her before we got here.

This is the problem. You Google me. It's like anal sex month. Hi, Emily. Nice to meet you.

Steak and BJ Day, right?

Exactly. So, yeah, they were cool. They liked me. I like them.

Of course. Did they have, like, a ton of questions that are just asking you constantly or. No. Or they avoided the subject.

They avoided the sex. What do you think?

They kind of avoided the subject, to be honest. Honest, I think. Didn't they? I don't know. Did anybody ask?

No, no one was like, so how did you study sex? What exactly went into that?

Give me a tip on PJs.

Yeah, no, it wasn't like that at all. No, No.

I remember my dad just. They talked later and went, well, at least Ross is having a good time.

Yeah. You know that. It's a good time. Yeah.

What about your mom, though? I mean, like, course Dad's gonna be into it.

If anything, my mom. My dad's a little more conservative, so my mom was probably like, this is great. And fascinated. Yeah. Wow.

Yeah. Mom was nice. I liked him. But I was nervous because it's like, when I meet people, I'm always thinking about, like, my job is not just like, I'm a doctor or I'm a. Ross is actually a doctor. But it's not like I'm actually like, I'm a dentist. Or it's like, I'm a sexual relationship. You know, I have a doctorate in human sexuality and I help people better. Sex and relationships, you know, he's like, it's always weird. Sex with Emily is my brand. You just. You can't just say it. But I just. I don't know where I said. I think they all knew, though, because they already googled me. Right. So that was a good time.

Wow.

Yeah.

So surprised. Meeting family.

I know.

I'm sure they loved her. That always happens like that.

They did love her.

They could not.

I don't know, I mean, it was a last minute thing that she came, but it was really fun.

It was a good time.

Yeah.

Yeah. So there you go.

I'm blown away.

I know. You can't even speak. I've never seen you like this, but it's funny. So the reason why I thought it'd be interesting to have Ross in here, besides the fact that people. Who knows? And people assume I don't really even have sex because they've never met anyone. But we recently went to a swingers party.

And we're talking recent. It was two weeks ago.

Yeah.

And I thought about you. Minus the whole time. No, not the whole time. But what happened was Holly Michael, they're swingers. They have a show on Playwright radio called Swing. And they've been saying, oh, come to these play parties. They're fun. And, you know, I've been to like parties in the past and it's interesting if you've never been. And they sent me a text. We were out the other night, which is such a random night. Cause first we went out with Dr. Drew and his wife Susan for dinner. Like it was like normal night. And then we went out to see Anderson, who's the, you know, call screen on Loveline. He did a film screening at Busby's.

Producer.

Producer.

He's not just call screener.

He's not even a call screener. I didn't know I said that. Ford engineer. God. Sorry. Anderson. I love you, Anderson. He's jealous of you, actually. He's like. Because he's like. He think he's my other guy that.

I people know way, way more people know who Anderson is more than me.

No, people know you. No, people know you. Okay. So anyway, we did that. And then like in between the dinner and the screening for Anderson's films, I get a text from Holly Michael. They're like, hey, there's a really cool party tonight in the Hollywood Hills. Do you want to come? Like a play party. And Ross and I talked about because he's never been to one. And if you've never been, it's kind of interesting experience. So I look at him like, do you want to go? And you went to work the next day. And I was like, well, maybe we should just. You were like, try, But I was kind of tired. I'm always. No. So you know why he's good for me? Because there's so many nights where I'm like, yeah, we should go to a movie. And I'm like, ah, he's gonna stay home. And he, like, pushes.

Right. I mean, that was a perfect example where you'd think Emily would be like, yeah, sweet. And she was like, let's see. Just go home and go to bed.

Yeah.

I would have been like, I'm going to bed.

Right.

I kind of talked. I mean, I had never been to one, but I was just curious. I was like, when? All right, so when else am I going to go to it?

Tell me about this experience, though. Like, how many people were there? And what was going on? Were there people naked? Do you see live sex acts? What's going on?

Yes.

No.

I mean, we drive to the house.

Yeah.

So we drive. We drive, like, you know, going up the hills, and we're like, what's going to be like. And. And I knew that these people would be like. There'd be, like, an attractive swinging crowd. Not that it matters, but, like, you always think swingers of ponytails. And I want to tell you that. Were there any ponytails at the party?

There were no ponytails.

No ponytails?

No.

And so then he went to a really high class one.

Yeah, right. I'm not gonna mess around. So we go to the party and we get there, and it was Holly, and Michael greeted us, and there was just. It's like a regular party. Like, people are standing around drinking, maybe a little more scantily clad.

Yeah. But I mean, when you walk in, it pretty much just looks like any party in la. It was like they had a bar and a dj and, like, they had hors d' oeuvres set up and stuff. It was just a nice house in Beverly Hills, and people were just kind of standing around.

So how many people are at this party?

Maybe like 50. 50, 60, something like that.

All right, so you get there, and.

More, probably more women than men.

Yeah. So the rule for swinger parties is that it has to be couples, and then single women are allowed to come. So when they invited me, they're like, hey, come meet us. I'm like, I'm with a Guy. They're like, okay, okay, cool, Bingham. So we went and we're talking. But the great thing about Halle and Michael is they've been in the lifestyle, as they call it, for a while. So, Ross, actually, you had question. Like, they actually were like, our tour guides, our swinger party tour guides. And they were explaining to you and to me about their relationship and how it all worked, right?

Yeah. Because I didn't know anything about this whole world. But Michael was a really interesting guy and he has a PhD in psychology or was getting one. So he was really into talking about the whole thing worked and all the different rules that different couples have and stuff like that. So, yeah, it was interesting talking to him about it. Yeah.

And then they took us on a tour. And, like, so before, it's like a regular party, people are drinking and talking, and you walk and we're like, okay. You walk back to the house, and there's, like. Like, four bedrooms that were two bedrooms that were empty with, like, lit candles and, like, bowls of condoms and, like, just beds. You're like, okay, that's where the sex is gonna go down. And then there's, like, a back room. Oh, there's sort of a back room too.

Yeah. And it was funny because when we got there, I was like, this is just like any other party. And we kind of went, wait, like an hour or two. Everybody will be having sex everywhere. And I was like, no way. And then about an hour later, after, we just kind of had a drink and hung out. And then we went back to look at the other rooms. And then when we met back there, everybody was having sex.

Everybody's having sex just in front of everybody.

Yeah.

It'd be like, sort of like each room would have, like, a couple of people having sex. And actually there were a lot of people just standing around watching. Like, it was very much about sort of the voyeur aspect of it because a lot of people weren't really participating. They were just watching.

Wow.

Us included. I mean, we didn't.

Yeah, we weren't gonna.

Like, we just watched.

Right? We watched and then we walked around. It was funny because we. Yeah, there's people, like, having sex and then we're, like, on the dance floor and start getting kind of. Everyone's dancing and we're just standing. Were we dancing?

We were kind of dancing. And then it was funny. Like, we were sort of dancing and just, like, making out or something. And then we looked to our left and some couple just started having sex against a pole, like, right next to us.

Yeah. So, like, yeah. What kind of positions are going on at this? A lot of.

From behind, standing up. That seemed to be the go to.

That was the go to. But at first I'm like, are they Dirty Dancing? Oh, no, they're doing doggy style.

Like, it was so foreign to me because I realized I've never seen any two people have sex in front of me ever. So I'd look over and be like, wow, that's. She's not wearing much. Oh, wait, she's actually naked. And he's actually having sex with her right next to me.

And there's like two women going down to the guy on the couch. But then some people are just sitting around talking, you know, so it's interesting because you look over and you're like, oh, I can't. Oh, yeah.

So after you experience all this and you don't have sex in front of anybody, do you go home and have sex?

Yeah. Well, I thought it was great foreplay because we were. It's hot to watch people have sex, you know, like, we were like.

You weren't tempted to go into a room there and have sex?

No, no, no, we weren't. No. But it was hard.

You had to, like, wait until.

You had to wait. But then we had awesome sex when we got home, I think, yeah, it was really fun. Cause it's kind of like foreplay, but it's like watching porn, but live porn. And then you go home and you have sex. So it was interesting. But the best part, the reason why I thought, because I. At one point, I'm like, okay, we've seen this. Can we go? And then Ross was like. I look over and he was like, wow. Like, his face was. I was like, it's probably like how a kid feels like with, you know, parent feels with their kid. Like the first time their kid seems to see snow and they're like, oh, seeing it through their eyes. And I was like, oh, Ross is seeing people have sex. It was such a fascinating experience.

I know you brought that to him. And it's for the holidays too. Like, what are you gonna do now? Now what do you do?

I know. Exactly. Your parents would be so proud. I'm opening. I'm opening your eyes up.

No, wait until your parents find out that she's bringing you to swingers parties.

Now, his mom did say to him recently, so I don't understand this podcast. How do I listen or something? I'm like, please, can we not go?

I know my dad has been trying to listen to the morning show. That I'm on the Woody show in Los Angeles for like the past year and a half. He can't figure out how to stream it. And I tell him, don't worry about it. I don't know, because we're always ragging.

On stuff, but you're good.

But Menace does never give any details of his sex life.

He used to. I listened to an old show recently.

I mean. I mean, I'm not going to wild sex parties. And I. I mean, yeah, of course I have. I have sex sometimes. Sometimes here and there. But the. Yeah. I'm not like a single man. I'm in a relationship. And I. But I always said this is, you know, this is. People are not here for me. They're here for Emily. You know, I love you.

Minus.

That's. Thank you.

All the emails, everyone. Thank you for emailing.

But I. Yeah, but there's. I'm not at the. The level of why people are here, you know, when it comes to sex, I'm here to enhance you and make you a better broadcaster.

Okay, Well, I appreciate that. God knows I need the help. The other thing that I also want to talk with Ross about, which we'll get into is that I believe you hadn't used sex toys before with a partner.

Not very little.

Oh, my God.

Very, very little.

Are you ready, man?

Very, very little.

You've been to her apartment, right?

Oh, yeah, Yeah. I mean, it's.

I mean, I haven't been to her. No, I haven't been to her Los Angeles apartment. But we used to have a lot of meetings at her. At her San Francisco apartment. And that place was running out of space.

Yeah.

It's intense when you walk in there the first time.

Yeah. There's, like, toys. Like now I got the Civian. Like, it's a whole thing. And actually was with me when I tried the Stibian. So when.

And you told me that your LA place is smaller than your San Francisco one, right?

It is. It's smaller.

Just tripping over everything.

She has no closet.

I have no closet.

Clothes and sex toys.

Wow.

It's really. I know. It's. It's a. It's hard. It's hard to, like, navigate like a more Sibian to get to my dresses and then climb back over the flashlights and, you know, it's cute though.

It's small like her.

Oh, how sweet. I mean, like, the fuse box, like, handle all the charging.

It sounds like an enthusiast.

You need solar power.

I know. Totally. Okay.

And you get one of those new Tesla batteries that they have for the whole.

They do that. Okay, well I gotta talk about something really quickly and then we're go back to toys. But the thing that you need to know about. Oh. Is my magic wand. We've tried the magic wand, right Ross? The Cadillac of all vibrators. How long have we talked about the friggin magic wand?

Oh, it's been your number one for 10 years.

Right. Well the exciting news to share is that it's the same toy that you know and love and trusted for 30 goddamn years. Who has toys out for 30 years? It's amazing. Penetrating vibrations. And you remember that I used to plug it into the wall and all that. But now the mind blowing magic wand is unplugged. Has no cord and no limits to how you can enjoy it. So it's a common belief that rechargeable sex toys can't be powerful. But the rechargeable wand is every bit as strong as the original. In fact, I love it because it has a few new tricks up its sleeve. Including a smoother sil head, four brand new vibration patterns like you've never felt before and four levels of intensity to choose from. And I've tried them all and they're all equally mind blowing as the original. Not to mention a little bit quieter. Which is great if you have roommates because if you have roommates, sometimes they can hear stuff that's going on. Thank God I don't have roommates. Okay, so how long does the charge.

Last again on these things?

It lasts hours. I feel like I never charge as well. Like four hours maybe. I don't know, probably like five. I've never even charged it so it's awesome. So this is the deal. You don't have to sacrifice pleasure at all. Just try out the rechargeable vibe@magic wandrechargeable.com. are you ready to go unplugged?

Okay, cool.

Now we're back at the show, we're getting some calls. Yeah, here's the deal. So we thought we'd try this out. We are going to open up the phone lines once a month, twice a month, see how it goes. And we just tweeted out the number and let you know through Facebook. It's all sexwithemily. And we have a call coming in and it's Rachel from Utah.

What?

Let's put Rachel on. What up Rachel?

Oh my God.

Hi.

What? The phone's working. Everything. It's crazy.

This is crazy.

I know.

I'm such a huge fan. So I'm kind of Nervous, but I'm really nervous.

Don't be nervous. I'm excited, too. You're our first caller. What's going on?

What?

I'm the first caller?

Yes, you are.

Oh, my God. I've been waiting, like, anticipating this. This is crazy. Okay.

Hi.

I'm 24, I live in Utah.

And I have a question. First of all, I thank you for what you do. You've kind of changed my life, my sex life.

Oh, my God. You're welcome. Thank you for listening.

Yeah, you're awesome. No, you're awesome. I listen to you every day. And I've been listening to you for the last few months.

And I'm here with Menace, by the way, and Ross, the guy I'm sleeping with.

Thank you.

I love you, too.

Thank you, too.

Okay, I'll stop fangirling now.

Thanks, sweetie. It's really sweet to hear from you.

Okay, so my boyfriend and I first. I decided to first have sex in March for the first time, and it was with my boyfriend, who I'd been dating for, like, a month. And the sex was awesome. I've always been really into sex and, like, super turned on and always, like, passionate about it. And so from right from the start, it was, like, amazing and awesome. But I. I didn't think I was having orgasms, because I've always heard that if you have one, you. You're gonna know. And I never. I never knew. And then, so after, like, a few months of having sex, I was like, I really don't think I'm having them. So I had to do some research, and that's how I found your podcast. And I was like, okay, I need to go get a vibrator. I need to start masturbating.

That's it. That's right.

I had never. I had never done it. And, like, it took two times and I had an orgasm.

Awesome. What toy did you buy? I need to know.

Okay, well, I bought, like, the little mini bullet, like, the screaming O. Oh, perfect.

It's great. Starter one. Yeah, it's three speeds. It's like 15 bucks. Great starter. Okay.

Okay.

Good job. Congratulations.

So, yeah, so it's awesome. So now I can have orgasm super easy. And I watch porn and I can have orgasm no problem.

Wow, look.

Easy.

Doing the Lord's work.

I am Menace. Yeah.

It'S awesome. But. But now it's kind of a problem because I was having sex with my boyfriend for, like, six months maybe before I ever had one. And never. I still can't have him with him. And we have awesome Sex.

That's really super common. Okay. So I've even listening.

But now it's been like, I've been able to have organs orgasms for like two months now and I still can't have them with him. I've tried.

And so you're having him, obviously. Okay, yeah. You're having him clitorally. Right? Clitoral orgasm because you're using a little bullet. So how come you can't just bring the bullet into the bedroom?

I have.

Okay.

We're very. Yeah, we're very open about everything. And I tell him and he was really excited and he wanted to try it on me and I tried to show him and like he couldn't do it in the right.

Well, maybe you need to do it the first time and have his hand.

I've tried, I've tried and it's not, it's just like. I don't know.

I don't know. I think you're blocking yourself. So you're having anxiety around it. I think because he's watching you and like in your room you probably feel like you can make the faces you want and you can, you know, rub as hard whatever it is that you do. And you're probably really self conscious that he's going to be like judging you and it's just not going to happen. And so a lot of times we like cockbuck ourselves from orgasm, you know.

I heard you say that and I'm like, we're so like comfortable together though. I don't. And I don't. I think my problem is like talk, like communicate. Okay, here's the problem is like we have a certain way of having sex because it's been like six, eight.

Yeah, but that's nothing change it.

Okay, I know, but okay, but so like I'm. It's always really good. But like, I think he's like so used to that way that he's like.

Not used to like, what is the way? What is the way? Like missionary?

No, no, we do everything.

I thought you said there's one way of sex.

No, I know, but it's usually like.

Like he's into the G spot more so than the clitoris.

But you're not yet. So here's the deal. Does he ever go down on you? Oral sex?

Yeah. Yeah, but okay. When he does, it's still like. I don't know if he knows. Like now that I. Okay, so now that I know what it's like, I don't think he's giving enough attention to my clitoris. And I Told him that, but then I think I hurt his feelings. I don't know.

No, I don't think you did. I think that guys need to be shown. And you're young. Is he 24? Is that.

Well, he's 27.

Okay. Guys in their 20s don't know anything about the clitoris or the vagina, to be honest. So I think that you just need to be totally honest with him because I believe it sounds like a good man. You sound like a good woman, and you've probably picked a good guy that he would actually be really interested in, wanting to know exactly what to do to please you. So.

Okay, But. Okay. Okay. So here's my. Here's my other problem. It's only with a vibrator. I can't. I can't have an orgasm with just my fingers.

Okay. That's common, too, but okay. So you could bring the vibrator with. Do you use lubricant?

Yeah.

Awesome. So lube is great. And I think that you just need to show. Has he ever seen you have the orgasm yet? Like, has you?

No.

No. And I almost feel like he doesn't even care because he's so used to, like, having. Like, I don't. Like, It's. I don't think he even cares anymore. Like, he did at first. Listen, Like, I wasn't having them. So he's just like, rachel, here's the deal, okay?

So you got to back up. So you're telling yourself all these stories about why it's not happening. Bye. Bye. You guys were having sex for six months. That's nothing you can change. This is like. You can change this whole game around and just be like, first of all, I recommend mutual masturbation. You have the vibrator and be like, babe, let's. Like, I think mutual masturbation. Mutual masturbation is a great way for couples to, like, learn.

So, like, I. I'm doing it myself, and he's doing it himself because he totally.

That's hot. He watches you. You watch him. And then he's gonna see. See exactly what you're doing. He'll get off because you're getting off and try that. But I think you're, like, limiting yourself because you're. Yes. Butting me. So all the things I'm telling you, like, yeah, but. Yeah, but. Yeah, but. But just listen. So there's stuff that's listening to you.

I trust you.

No, you're awesome. Okay, good. So there's a. I actually have a great blog on my website called what's Getting in the Way of youf Orgasm. And you should check that out. I have tons of stuff like this on my website. But I think that you just. You can have the orgasm. That's great. So you just need to figure out how you can translate him. So first he needs to watch you do it. You need to do exactly what you do. Even if you're holding it while you're on top or bottom or doggy style. And just like, let him see that. Tell him to, like, slow down. And you're assuming that he only wants to have sex in these certain ways. And he doesn't care about your orgasm. But he just. You're right. He's probably care.

But then it's like, so he's. So I told him so. Then he tries to spend more time on the clear system. Like after like five minutes. And I don't have an orgasm.

Five minutes is nothing. Five minutes. He could have made you dinner, got you a glass of water. Like, five minutes is nothing.

Yeah, you're overthinking it. You should smoke weed or something.

Chill out, Ross. What do you think? Okay, Ross, we got some two guys in here. So I'm gonna. And then we'll have to let you go.

But it sounds a little bit like you're making assumptions about what he thinks, though. I mean, I think just sit down and talk to him.

There's too much thinking going on.

Yeah, there's too much thinking.

And.

Yeah, honey, you're so in your head. But I love that you gotta vibrate. I think that you just gotta be like, babe, listen, our sex is awesome. I love having sex with you. And now that I've like, had a. Did he know you weren't orgasming before? Yeah, babe. This is so exciting. I want to show you this. This is how. Let's play some music, light some candles, have some wine and be like. Let's do this thing where you get off and I get off. You show them what happened, what you do. And then you explain to him what you need. And bring that little bullet with you. Don't worry about that. You can't do it with your fingers or whatever. That could come later, but it doesn't matter. So now you just gotta figure out how to integrate it. And stop telling yourself all these messages that he doesn't wanna do. Whatever. Cause it's not true. And check out that on my website. What's Getting in the Way of youf Orgasm? Thank you, Rachel. Thank you so much for listening and calling. You're awesome.

Thank you.

You're My first call. You Roc this. You're on this. Keep going. Keep talking. Thank you, honey.

Have a good day.

Silver Tequila. Silver Tequila.

The female Viagra. Bye, sweetie. Thank you so much for calling. Good luck, too. Keep us posted. Bye.

Great call.

Great call. I love it.

She's just getting in her head about what he's thinking.

I know.

Exactly. Don't you think that women do that a lot? And you're appreciative when I'm like, hey, Ross, I need to talk.

He'll probably be stoked on it. He'll be excited to talk.

Exactly.

And excited to watch.

Now, speaking about orgasms and stuff like that first time, did you have an orgasm, Emily?

With Ross?

Yes.

I don't remember.

Was there a lot of pressure? Having sex for the first time? Knowing, you know, this is what she does for a living? Constantly talk about sex.

Wow. It's going back a little ways, I think. No, I wasn't thinking about it at the time as much. I probably thought about it later.

That's why I didn't have one.

Yeah, exactly. That's what she's all. Yeah, you did think about.

Wasn't. It was kind of a spontaneous thing when it first happened because we were.

Friends and we didn't think we were gonna hook up.

And then we, like, didn't do it again for a while. And then probably. I don't know.

Okay, I have a better question. Okay, forget that one. How does she sound when she orgasms?

Oh, geez.

There we go. That's what people want to know.

I don't know, Emily. Why don't you just do an impression of it and I'll tell you if you're accurate.

I can't. I can't. Is there a vibrator in here? No.

Ross, you tell me.

Come on, she's loud.

You don't have to. Oh, wow. Are you serious?

Yeah. Good thing she doesn't have roommates. Yeah.

Am I loud? I'm loud. Am I always loud?

Yeah, it's great.

Okay, so you're having sex at her house.

I'm loud. And his house.

But he says I don't really have roommates either.

Okay.

I'm loud.

Yeah. Loud. Okay.

Yeah.

I mean, she doesn't hold back. She's uninhibited.

How many decibels? Like, loud?

Like, a lot. Hundreds.

So do you think maybe her neighbors can hear her?

No, because I don't have neighbors. I live in a separate house.

Yeah, she lives in, like, a separate little house.

I know, but there's. I'm sure There's.

I close my windows. I have air conditioning on.

Yeah.

But I wonder when the windows are open.

Yeah, I don't know. Now I'm thinking about the first time thing. Why do you have sex with me again then?

Because you're hot. And I thought there's potential because most women don't have orgasm the first time with a partner. And then we got closer.

I did though, if you were wondering if I did.

I did.

You did. Yes, you did.

I did have an orgasm.

I know. I feel like every time you have. Thanks. Thanks. It was awesome. But I feel like then we started to communicate more about things. Cause it was really. I mean it was very. So Ross when we opened up, said a few months, but it's actually been a year. And it's funny cause we were visiting your family. They're like, how long have you guys been together? You're like a year, but then just now you're like a few months. Yeah.

Emily answers in various ways too.

Yeah, but it's been a year that like since your penis has been in my vagina.

Well, that's always like.

That'S always.

Look at Madison's face.

Yeah, but I mean that's the typical thing that when you're usually like casually hooking up with somebody and then maybe you end up, you know, being in a relationship with them is like. Oh, you know, what do you call the, you know, actual timeline of us?

You know, I also think the guy starts to care more later.

Yeah, not always.

Ideally the guy starts.

Ideally the guy cares. Sometimes he's like, we'll just, you know.

Well, I mean sometimes it's like girls complain about it. It's like maybe the guy just didn't care the first time.

Yeah.

Well, it's even like Rachel called in like you think like her guy doesn't, you know. I don't know. They've been. I think most. Yeah. If someone likes you in their relationship, you hope that they care. But I wanted to talk about before we get into the sibian experience we had. But I want to talk about the first sex toy I think we used was the. The cock ring, the Jae Jou, the Mio. Which is friggin rocking. It's like a rechargeable.

Right. Wasn't that the first one?

I think so, yeah.

What color is it?

Black. I left at your house. Do you still have it?

Yeah, it's in my pocket.

And that was cool because I don't think so. What did you think about it? Because you'd never. I always talk about how guys like the vibrations. But I thought. Didn't you like how it felt too? Yeah, and it's a cock ring. It vibrates.

It's just cool to use one that you're both using at the same time.

Yeah, because he puts on penis and then I get on top of it and have orgasms.

Now you said that you didn't really ever use sex toys before hanging out with Emily. Has. Has any of them, you know, caught your eye like that you like so far, like, oh, you gotta bring in that one.

I mean, I like whatever one she likes. So it's just fun to like have her try. She likes the. I don't, I don't. I'm bad at the name of them. The little pebble one.

Oh, the. Meet Mimi.

Yeah, you.

The Jaejung Mimi. You even know that it's hot watching.

Her use that one?

Yeah, it's great because it fit like. I guess like. Yeah, it fits in the palm of your hand. And it's great to use for clitoral strimulation. And also you can use it, you know, on guys balls or shaft. Pretty cool.

Has she introduced you to the dump truck yet?

No. Enlighten me, Menace.

There's no one. I've been working on that one manufacturing for you.

Menace had his idea for his own sex toy, the Sibian. Let's talk about that. Because so what happened was I talked about Sibian at the beginning of the show. But they sent me one because I met them at like the sex toy shows. I go, they're like, we want to send you one. I'm like, oh my God. And I got it. And I was a little at first, I'm like, it was in the box and then you take it out. And I was like, I gotta try it. And so Ross and was over. I'm like, let's try it. And it's cool because I don't know, you plug it in the wall and you do mount it. And I didn't try it with any of the attachments because it has attachments. You can like ride them. Like stimulate like a vibrator, like a attachment, like a dildo attachment. But I just wanted to like feel the vibrations of like clitoral. And. And he like worked the controls. It's like a spaceship almost has like a vibration control. You can go up to like 11, whatever, 10 and. And it was hot.

What are you telling your friends? Like, I'm going over to her house.

He did text his friend, have a.

Sibian, you know, like, that's not not everyone has a Sibian.

Nobody has. I'm like, this is the only, like, second person they've ever given one to for free. Yeah.

People are familiar with it. From Stern, to be honest.

Yeah.

Yeah.

My friends are like, oh, yeah, from Stern.

Right.

Did you get Sibian head?

Sybil head is a big thing. So did you see how it could be? You didn't that time?

I didn't. I didn't.

I know, but we'll work on that.

Okay.

It's mind blowing.

Yeah. I'm trying to imagine all this stuff. So you're walking in and there's a freaking simian.

It's not that big, though. You think it'd be really big and intimidating.

I'm assuming that it.

Yeah, it's just. It's just out there on our coffee table. When you walk into the place, they.

Actually just sent me this ottoman. It looks like just like an ottoman, like a furniture thing, but you open it up and I could store the simian inside of it.

It's because I'm thinking the Sibian is like. It looks like a. One of those rodeo horses that you would see at a bar.

Yeah. But it's on the floor. Like, it's. It's smaller, though. It's like a little saddle. Yeah. I actually have the measurements here, which I wrote down. Yeah. No, but it's not that, like, intimidating at all. Like, in that way. Like, it. Look at it. Look at the picture.

It's smaller, actually.

Yeah. It's. The measurements are. What is it, 10 inches high, 13 wide, 12 inches long. Wow. And the thing about it, which I thought was cool. Which. We have to do more work on it, but. Okay. What was your experience of, like, watching me on it?

It's hot. I mean, it was cool watching you do something you'd never done either.

Right.

For the first time. And then you're trying different settings and stuff, and I don't know, it was just fun to watch your reaction. It was hot.

It just plugs into the wall and it's intense.

I mean, it's intense.

Yeah.

Like the motor. It's pretty crazy.

Yeah.

Feels like you're operating a heavy piece of machinery.

Right. It was a good time.

That's crazy.

So fun with sex toys. Yeah, exactly. We want to help us answer some emails here.

Okay.

Okay, totally.

This one is about dating in San Francisco, so I thought you could both could really help me with this.

Definitely.

Okay. Emily, I've started listening to your show this year and enjoy it a lot. It's entertaining and definitely insightful. Even being 32, I know there's always more to learn. Hoping you can give me some insight into meeting and connecting with women that are strong and beautiful. I'm five four, athletic, working out five days a week, own my own company, own my own place, make good money, and feel like I'm confident in every element of my life. I live in San Francisco and have for most of my life. I actually think there are a lot of beautiful girls in the city, but for the past four years, I have met anyone that can keep me interested for more than six months. Besides a general lack of connection, there's either a complete lack of intelligence, no sense of humor, or not attractive. I found a few girls who are put together, but not but unexciting sexually. I feel like I'm looking in the wrong places. I've tried all the dating apps, and they're all losers for me. All my friends are married with kids, so the phase of getting introductions to single friends is pretty much over. Being a shorter guy, I feel like one of my issues is making an approach at a bar. But once I'm in, my confidence takes over. Bottom line, I'm wondering if you have advice from me and how to meet a woman like you, confident, successful, sexual, and ready for a relationship. Do they exist in my city? I know you know the city, so help me out. Do I need to change up my social scene? Any resources outside Tinder and apps, similar apps I can check out, give me direction. Thanks, Mike. What do y' all think? San Francisco? You guys both came to la, but what do you think dating in San Francisco?

Dating San Francisco is. It would be pretty easy if we're confident because.

Yeah. And he sounds like he has the.

Confidence, then it's just pretty much just a numbers game then.

And he seems like he has really high standards and he's kind of judgmental with these women maybe. Yeah.

Yeah.

And, like, I'm wondering if, like, he's just holding to the standard that, like, he thinks he knows exactly what he wants. He's like. I thought he's like, they're attractive, but they're not attractive. I'm into them, but I'm not into them.

I have friends like that where they. They set such high standards. Like, they end up never dating anybody.

Right.

You know?

Yeah.

But again, I mean, if you. If that's whatever, then you're just gonna. Just gonna be a numbers game, then you're just gonna have to keep on going. Yeah.

And he also says he's dated these women for six months and they don't work out, then. They just don't work out. Yeah, to some extent, it's like, what do you want?

Did he say for six months? Did he?

He said, I get tired of him after six months.

A lot of guys do. That's what happens. I don't know that he's. Emotion. Exactly. That happens. I don't think that he's really emotionally, like, open. I think that he's. He's in his head just like our caller earlier, that he's thinking about it too much and maybe he should try a little duty dating, like, with girls that you're like, automatically think, no, I'm not into. Like, go off them once, like three times, like three dates. And don't just write people off that you think you wouldn't be into. Because clearly the women that he thinks he's attracted to, he's not necessarily attracted to. So I think that you just got to do them, you know, and if they're not sexually unexciting, you also might have bailed too soon on them, and they might be more exciting because sometimes it takes time, you know, to get into someone. So, I mean, you got the confidence thing down. And just make sure when you're out with someone using eye contact, you're asking questions and make sure that you plans for the dates and just really, maybe you just got to not think about so much again, just ask women out that you wouldn't normally be attracted to. Okay. My good luck in San Francisco. You know what? Everyone thinks that every town sucks. But the truth is, wherever you go, there you are. You'll find someone. And we have another caller.

Sweet.

So exciting. It's Ryan from Minnesota. Hey, Ryan, what's up? Thanks for calling Sex with Emily. You're on air. What's up, Ryan?

Yes, hi, Ryan.

Hey. Hey, Emily. That's Ryan. I'll just. I know you. I heard you talk about before about vibrators and.

Guys being afraid to buy them or have them for women and. Yeah, and.

Is that you. Are you afraid to buy them? What's your question?

No, no, we. We've had a vibrator before, but my wife, you know, we don't get it on that much. And, you know, it seems like when we do have a vibrator that, you know, she would use it and then we wouldn't have sex for a long time. So it's not like we're afraid to have a vibrator.

Okay, so what's the. So what's the problem? What's going on right now?

You have A vibrator, and she uses it, but then she doesn't want to have sex.

No, no, I'm just. I'll just. I have heard you talk in the past about how guys are afraid that you don't get vibrators and you're not afraid and, you know, to have a vibrator in the house and. And then. Because the women, you know, don't use it or whatever, but. I'm sorry, I'm just really nervous.

Oh, no, don't worry about it.

Don't be nervous at all. You're awesome. You're so often. No, I love you.

So I get what he's saying. He's like, don't be afraid of him.

Yeah. So you're not afraid of them, but you're saying that she's not as into it, maybe. Are you saying that you buy it and then she's, like, not using it?

Well, no, she'll use it, but then it's like, we don't have sex, you know, that often because we don't, you know, maybe we have a. Once a week, but if, you know, I'm not around or whatever, she'll use a vibrator that is, like two weeks off, you know, we want to affect for two weeks then, is what I'm saying.

Oh, he's getting replaced.

Oh, you think he's getting replaced by the vibrator? Are you sure?

Yes, it's. Yeah, we've talked about that.

You need to throw that thing in the dumpster then.

Yeah, I did.

You did?

Oh, no. Okay, so sometimes we've used it together.

But then it seems, like I said, when I'm not around.

Yeah.

You know, I'm always. I'm always wanting to get it on, but there's times when I'm not around, and then all of a sudden she'll use it. She would have or did use it. And then.

Do you guys ever use it? Did you use it together before you threw it in the dumpster? You did?

Yeah.

And then you're like, at dinner, she's like, texting the vibrator. Is there other things going with it later?

Is there other things. Things going on in your relationship right now? Have there's been stress or any issues? Is she going through anything emotionally? Do you guys have a fight?

No.

Financial stress?

She gets stressed at work, but it's just the vibrators.

That good, Emily?

No, it's not true. They don't replace you. Yeah, I don't think that's true. Are you doing.

Do you know I've Seen proof. I try everything. Backups. I. Every time we. Because, well, that's another thing I was going to talk to you about too, is I, you know, I don't last that long. Said bought enough Promethean and it doesn't. It didn't seem like it helped me much.

Really. It didn't help you? Did you use it correctly?

Alcohol. Gotta try alcohol.

I think that there's a lot going on. First of all, do you make sure that she's pleased? Like, do you know how to give her an orgasm?

That's the thing. I, you know, makeup. I go down on her every time and, you know, make sure she's pleased. And then we. I do my thing.

Right. So you're worried about. Okay. Premature ejaculate. So it sounds like there's a few things going on here. Do you think that she's. Have you guys talked about that? The fact that you don't last as long in bed and, like, do you guys talk about this stuff?

Oh, well, we both, I mean, realize that I don't last that long so that I make up for it, you know, going down on her and making. Making sure she's always pleased first.

Right? And how about just, like, foreplay and, like, doing things? Did you guys ever go away together? Do you ever surprise her? Do you ever sex outside the bedroom? Like, sometimes you just got to mix things up.

Yeah, I gotta. I try to get it whenever I can.

Okay, well, I think. I think you just gotta, like, whenever.

She'S in the mood then, you know.

But you gotta get her in the mood. Like, foreplay starts after the last orgasm, so what can you do to turn around? Like, what makes her feel good? Like, when you take her out when you got, like, make a special plan if you surprise her with something, like, you know, give her a massage, tell her it's all about her pleasure. I. I don't really know. Like, is there something else that you guys. That you've been wanting to try, or does she have any sexual fantasies that you guys haven't tried yet? Do you guys talk about this stuff?

Yeah, I tried to talk to her about it, but she doesn't. She never tells me anything about her fantasies.

Why is she saying she's not having sex with you?

Why does she. We got three kids and.

Well, that's really hard, too. Okay, so you've got kids and.

Yeah, but have you even had that discussion?

Have you had that discussion at all or. No, I know. It's like, it's really hard. It can be really challenging discussion why you're not having sex.

About just, like, why you're not having sex. I mean, it is a problem. Like, couples who don't have sex, like, eventually, you know, you do become roommates. So it sounds like you have to change the way you guys are talking about it, because it's not really. Like, you're frustrated and you're. I think that you're also, like, have some. You know, you're upset with her because of the vibrator thing, and you're thinking that's replacing you. I'm not sure that's the case. I think there's something else going on here, and that. That you need to, like, take the conversation to a deeper level. Okay. Okay.

Okay.

Good luck. Go shopping for something else. Like, go to your local sex toy store. I know there's one in Minnesota. And walk around, be like, hey, what about this laundry? What about this toy? What about this book? This porn? And just get a whole bevy of things. You can try to spice it up again. Okay. Good luck to you. Thank you so much for calling, Ryan. I really appreciate it. Thanks for listening.

Thank you.

Bye.

All right.

Good times.

See? Getting replaced by the vibrator.

Dude, that doesn't happen.

You always say that never happens.

It doesn't happen. They can't cuddle the vibrator. I would never. I would never. She's a. I would never leave you.

I know. I'm okay.

Sex toy.

You'd be okay. Actually, no.

I mean, Emily loves her vibrator, but it's all good.

Yeah. Every time. Although I did on.

Valentine's Day, I brought over, like, a suitcase of toys that I wanted to try, so I was like, literally a suitcase. It was kind of hilarious.

And a collar.

And a collar, and a collar.

I woke up with a collar on and a leash.

Yes.

No way.

Yeah, I did.

Was it studded? What kind of collar was it? Leather?

Leather?

Pink. Pink. We don't wear it.

Where did you get this?

It was like Joanna Angel. It was Joanna Angel's. It was from Stockroom. Yeah. Stockroom. Wow.

Emily also fell off her chair at dinner that night.

I was buzzed.

Oh, man.

And I don't drink that much, which is a good time. Great time there. Okay.

Sex toys. What else does she do on a Valentine's Day for you?

What do I do?

I mean, she needs to do other than bring over a suitcase full of sex toys.

I know, but I always give a crap. I'm like, other than the sex, what are you bringing?

I was telling Rossi it was a.

Scintillating conversation before she fell off her chair. And then it was time to buy.

I used to say that you used to give me shit because you're like, I don't cook. I don't like. You're like, I don't understand what you bring to the table.

She made me a smoothie the other day.

I did.

That was good.

It was a really good smoothie.

Did you buy it or did you make it?

No, she made it. That's like her one cooking thing she does.

What else did I bring to the table? Menace always wants to know.

Yeah.

Stuff things.

Yeah.

So much shortcoming.

Okay, we'll leave it at that.

It's never a dull moment, right? Good time she brings.

Here you are on that podcast talking about your sex relationship with millions of people.

Yeah, why not?

Never a boring moment.

It's not boring. I know. I'm surprised too. He wants to be here, but thank you, Ross. And should we give out your Twitter? You're welcome. Ross is a doctor, also a musician.

Sweet.

He plays in bands and has great music. So you can check him out, Dr. RossGrant on Twitter. We do. Just started his Twitter account.

Yeah, I'm new to Twitter. It's exciting.

I know. Tweet them.

And all our listeners are gonna tweet you. Like, I mean, are they gonna be mean?

No. I don't know what the hell they're gonna say.

Yeah, I mean, like 80% of the dudes that listen to the show want to have sex with her. So I'm sure they'll have nice comments for you.

That could be dark. Huh?

Don't forget. Strike that. And it's at Dr. Ross Grant. M. What the hell is it? M, D, PhD, O, N, G.

Okay. On Instagram. That was the Instagram. Russ Grant, MD, PhD. OMG. And Menaces. Menace this.

Menace.

Yeah.

Across the friggin board. I love you, Menace.

This is good.

You were good. You handled this well.

Yeah. See, I didn't get you too upset. She gets mad at me sometimes, feels that I grill her too much. But everyone always sucks her dick all the time. You know, somebody has to bring her down to reality.

I hear you.

You know what I'm saying?

It's good.

This was awesome. Thank you both. Okay. Anything else? I just say thank you, Madison Price, you're amazing producer. Thank you, Lori. Is she here? Lori, thank you for everything. And thank you, Kevin. Thanks for the calls and the board.

I didn't have to run the board this time.

I know. And so I really hope that we're gonna start doing this more often taking calls and we will let you know when. So you have to follow me, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, all that stuff. Exwithemily. It's great for the people. I love it. We like this like old times. So yeah, thanks everyone for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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