Happy, Healthy & Fearlessly Sexy with Fran Drescher

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You know, I realize that we're looking at the problem completely wrong. We're trying to solve the end symptom of trying to fix this breast or that testicle or this cancer. And we're not looking at causation. Why are we getting sick in the first place? Let's find out what's causing us to get sick in the first place and eliminate it.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and on today's show I'm joined by actress, writer and activist. You probably know her as the nanny Fran Drescher. Topics include why it's so, so important to be more than just a patient, but a medical consumer. Well, we'll tell you what that is what you can do for your health to ensure you're living your best life possible, AKA clean living. But it's not as hard as you think. A couple ways to overcome trauma and get back to a healthy sex life. Ny second, third and sometimes fourth opinions. Going to your doctor matter. All this and more. Thanks for listening.

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I hope so.

Gee, you're a legend. I love you. I'm so happy that you're here. We're all so excited. We all have our moments of, like, our favorite, like, Fran moments, but what you've been doing.

So tell me. I didn't realize you were a doctor.

Yeah, I'm a doctor of human sexuality. Not a medical doctor, but I studied human sexuality and got a doctorate. Yep.

Wow. Good for you.

Thank you.

Excellent.

That's what I do. I help people. Yeah. You know, I.

Maybe next year we should have you speak at our summit.

Yes, well, that's the thing. I was looking at your.

All year we curate the most fantastic speakers.

Oh, I would love to speak at your summit. So this is. You're here to talk about many things. So let's talk about that. You're having. On November 2nd, you're having a summit.

In Los Angeles, Masterclass health summit at the Dorothy Chandler Pavilion in the Los Angeles Music Center. You could get your tickets@CancerSchmance.org and I'll be there. And all year I've curated amazing doctors to blow your mind. Basically, people don't even wanna go to the restroom cause for fear they're gonna miss something. And it's just one powerful talk after another that covers the gamut of global health. And it's fantastic. And you walk away with a lot of tools and call to action and motivation and education to really start rethinking everything that you do now.

Tell me about it. So it's a women's health.

Well, we have an organization, the Cancer Schmancer Movement. It's a fundraiser for cancer schmancer. But our kind of fundraiser is putting on a real education program of doing what we do, of actually showing you what we're about. And.

We'Re a health organization. Cancer Schmancer Movement. We started focusing on women because I'm a gynecologic cancer survivor. But very shortly after we started, I began to see that the problem with, you know, this unhealthy paradigm in this country is not about a particular gender or even a particular body part, is about about how we're living, how we're exposing ourselves to a cacophony of chemicals and carcinogens and toxins. And we have to stop that because how you live equals how you feel. And well, let's.

Okay, so, yeah, all of that. Yes, yes, yes. We were talking before when she first got in here, like water bottles, like plastic. Why are we drinking out of plastic? Still, it's also bad for us, but I want to back up to your story. And it's bad for the planet, good for the planet.

And we're one big living interdependent organism.

So I think we're just starting to get it. But, like, not everyone, not everywhere, not every time.

The thing is, when you look at, you know, like the human history, there are these pockets where we go into dark ages and we get dumbed down and numbed out to things that maybe other People knew. We're getting close to understanding that we must live, you know, at one with the natural world. But truth be told, the indigenous cultures have known that for, you know, eons.

I know it's true, it's true. But we're just, I mean, but the thing. You're right and I hope that we're getting there. And I love that you're putting on this summit and it's been so successful. But I just want to go back to something you said because you. That you have cancer. And that's kind of been. We always say the silver, like, you know, silver lining or lemonade out of lemons. Like, you successful actress, super driven. And you were just going, going, going, working it, working it as, you know, a lot of us. And then you were misdiagnosed. You had perimenopausal symptoms. Like, who doesn't, right? I mean, well, I do. I know what you're saying. And they're like, no, no, it's just you and the goatee. You know, go home. And sometimes gynecologists tell women, take a glass of wine, take hormones, put some synthetic hormones. Turns out you had cancer.

Right? And, you know, I was very lucky that even at the end of two years and eight doctors, I was still in stage one. So I had a slow growing cancer. If it was ovarian cancer, I'm sure I wouldn't be sitting talking to you right now. And the more I wrote a New York Times bestseller by the same name, Cancer, Shirley, Cancer.

This is also. I just want to say this, you guys, if you want to go to the organization, you want to go to her health summit on November 2, Fran Drescher's health Summit. It is groundbreaking. You should go. We're putting it in our show notes. Go to sexwithemily.com, you can click on the link there.

Thank you.

So. Okay.

Okay.

I just want them to know.

Yeah, I appreciate that. I appreciate that.

How about you?

You know, I realize that we're looking at the problem completely wrong. We're trying to solve the end symptom, trying to fix this breast or that testicle or this cancer. And we're not looking at causation. Why are we getting sick in the first place? Let's find out what's causing us to get sick in the first place and eliminate it. Let's not get cancer in the first place. How's that for a cure?

Well, that would be a great cure, but what you're saying is you had to get a second, which I always Tell people, get a second opinion, get a third opinion.

You're right.

Your doctor doesn't know. I talk a lot about functional medicine in Eastern, western, and I think a lot of our listeners are, you know, all over the world, but, you know, all over this country for sure.

That's my phone. Wait a minute.

Usually it's me going off.

Who's that?

I like your ring, though.

Oh, thank you.

Is that why you're happy? And you look beautiful, by the way. You do like your skin. Could you come back another time? We'll just talk about your skin and regimen. But maybe it's all. It's all the clean.

Thank you. It's the clean living, organic. I sleep on my back. I taught myself to sleep on my back. And, you know, organic is key. And organic products for your skin is very important.

Okay.

And then, you know, balancing mind, body and spirit shows and having a clean liver is really important for your skin. Yeah.

Because your liver tells you everything about your skin. And then there's. So when you're getting a second opinion or third opinion, but what you decided was like, I feel like you are training people to become, like, medical consumers. You say, Right. We should be asking. Bring a friend. Take notes, Record what your doctor's saying.

Yes.

Don't assume that.

Because it's kind of like doctors aren't gods. They're people with problems of their own and they're bludgeoned by big business health insurance to go the least expensive route of diagnostic testing. So don't be afraid to say, hold on a minute. You need to sit and listen to what I'm saying and give me a little bit of time. And if that person isn't interested in doing that, then that's not the doctor for you. Move on. It's your life. Because when the doctor calls and tells you of cancer, at the end of the day, he goes home and eats dinner with his family. You go home and eat your heart out with yours. So it's your life. Take control of it. And what we try to do is, you know, educate, motivate, and activate people into taking control of their bodies.

So what does that look like? So this is through cancer. Schmancer. I can't cancel. Schmancer, Schmancer, Schmancer. And that. And then they come to the summit. So it's like a lot about what you're saying, the mind, body connection. I know you're having cannabis, which, yeah.

We always have a good Harvard medical doctor turned cannabis expert and really is a radical in the forefront of the Revolution and is brilliant and.

But how does it relate to the mind body? Is it. What kind of things with cannabis. Whatever else is happening.

A very progressive program called Detox youx Home at Kansas Mansa. The home is the most toxic place we spend the most time in and ironically have the most control over. So we ask you to learn about that. Take the in on and around you challenge. What are you putting in your mouth? What are you putting on your skin? All your personal care items and oral hygiene. What are you cleaning? What are you gardening with? You know, what aromas are you using in your house? Candles and those things that stick in the sockets. Anything that has a long lasting scent is probably carcinogenic.

Oh no.

Start thinking about all that. You're okay.

Wait, wait. Can we go back to what those candles. I love my candles.

You got to.

I like incense. Is my incense okay? Well, it's nothing. Not, you know, the Indian.

Yeah, the incense are probably okay. But still I. I would make sure that what, you know what you're buying is extremely pristine. You know, you can do everything just make sure that you're buying very pristine. And nothing that has a scent, you know, that says that it's like just.

But what about a sexy scent that you want in your home?

It has to be an organic essential oil. Do you use a diffuser?

But it is. They are. I do use organic essential oils.

That's great.

Oh good. I was afraid I had to throw the whole thing away.

I was like another thing alternative. I have essentially roll. I wonder if I have it on me. A roll on perfume. That's essential oils. And if I tell you every single person, I wonder if I have it.

I love organic and I like the roll on. Cause it's sexy. You put it on the nape of your neck. Wherever else you want. Everywhere.

Everywhere. I don't have it.

I don't think it's okay.

But you know, that's what you have to do. You have to shift gears and find the replacement. And it takes a little bit of time. But it's so. Because so much of the dis. Ease that we're experiencing today is almost completely because of all the crap that we're bringing into our home.

I totally. Okay, I totally agree with that. Wait, let me just. No, I'm just saying who I'm talking to. People don't know. They just tune in. They just got in their car. Fran Drescher's here, you guys. She's throwing down some serious wisdom here. Lot of your stuff in your home. Not to be the bear of bad news. You might have to throw it out, but it will help you have better sex and better love or finish it.

You spend money on it, but then.

When it's finished, right, it's like my mom, wait till you finish it and then. Okay Trip. Okay. You guys can call us anything. I'm here with Fran Drescher. She's got a health summit on November 2nd.

Every single one of these doctors went to medical school, drank the Kool aid, started practicing, got woke and decided there's gotta be a better way. This is a profit driven business sickness. And you have to realize that. And you know, it's supporting hospitals, it's supporting doctors, it's supporting pharmaceuticals.

It's so true.

And you know, we're the consumer. We're the ones that enable everything from the irresponsible manufacturer, the sociopathic big business manufacturer who doesn't really care about anything but making of the bottom line.

Well like so I think I was heard you say so we are in the business of sick, not the business of getting sexually or not I say sexually health any healthy. I can't have the throw in the sex. We are in the business of keeping people sick and not health. We all, if you watch tv, you see all the ads and take this drug and that drug. But we're not like saying like here's some organic know reasons why you should buy this and that we buy this cleaner or this soap or it's all.

You know, we're sort of reading labels and understanding that we're, we're supporting our own dis ease in our bodies. The human immune system can't cope with all of these chemicals.

Let's talk about how the chemicals that specifically like what is a like people are like whoa, I didn't know that.

Well first of all, if you're using one of those major brand toothpaste that say do not swallow or cold poison control, get rid of that toothpaste that I will say throw away because you cannot. It's your mouth. It should be made of herbs that grew in your grandma's garden. I mean you cannot put stuff in your mouth one, two or three times a day and not expect it to start seeping into the gums. Is the gateway to a lot of disease. Never get a root canal. That is the only part of the body that's allowed to be dead and remain inside the body within the entire medical community. And it's not never get a root canal.

I mean I know our gums are the secret to our, you know if.

You'Ve had gums, bad health, just take out a dead tooth and put in a, you know, like an implant, an inert implant. Because the tooth has trillions of microscopic holes in it. When it's alive, that's part of its filtration system. But when it's dead, it's just leeching crap down your neck, into your thyroid, into your breasts, into your heart. It's not advisable. Or even, you know, you could be getting sinus infections, headaches.

It can all be avoided by the foods we're eating.

Like we have a biologic dentist coming. Most biologic dentists, that.

Biologic dentists, let's talk about what that is.

The mouth, body connection.

Okay.

And you know, most biologic dentists, making.

Me want to floss right now, I love to floss. Okay.

Are not going to.

You know, advise you to get.

Because they were trained the way they were trained.

Don't try to understand, even prophylactically, taking out wisdom teeth when there's nothing wrong with them is a mistake. Because every tooth connects to a different energy meridian in the body. Your average dentist isn't thinking about that.

So we don't have to get the requisite wisdom teeth out.

I would, you know what, whatever your dentist says, if he's an old school dentist, I would get a second opinion from a biologic dentist.

So who else is gonna be there that I wanna see?

Oh, we have a.

Well, Sharon Osbourne is gonna be sharing her compelling story of cancer and her survival.

Amazing. Okay.

She's delightful. Such a sweet woman. So she's kind of like our celebrity speaker.

Okay. Besides me, we've had Matthew 15.

Yeah, I do the whole show. I mean, I'm either introducing or doing one on one interviews or doing a panel discussion. And if you buy a VIP ticket, then at the end of the, after the last speaker, you go into the exquisite Founders Room and get to have a one on one with the doctors.

It's so worth it. And you get to just hang out.

Yes, exactly. And by the end of the day, you'll have questions. There'll be someone in that constellation of doctors that you're gonna wanna get in front of.

So are you hoping it's your hope that people leave their feeling at least?

Cause I feel like we're working empowered. Empowered and educated and feeling like, okay, I got a game plan. I know what I can do.

Right.

Instead of being scared and feeling impotent, what we do is pivot it. Because there's so many problems with the world and at the end of the day, change yourself. That's what you have complete control of. So start doing that. Start changing yourself. Honor the planet, honor your body, and use your purchasing power as not only your vote, but your protest.

Yeah, so, okay. So what I'm saying, though, people who are listening, I think people know now they have to start. And myself, we have to make changes. And I've started. I started with the organic. The. The deodorant. Going from regular deodorant to the organic was like a whole thing. Like, I found my life. Yeah, me too.

Good. So that's it. It took a trial and error, but.

I'm saying just the baby steps of starting, like, the deodorant, and then you start with it. But what are you giving steps? Cause people can't go home and throw out all their stuff right now.

No, you don't have to throw it out, but I would never use an antiperspirant because that has aluminum in it. And people with dementia and Alzheimer's, I. Massive amounts of aluminum in their brain. And that generation got it from cooking with aluminum foil. Aluminum cans. Aluminum cans.

How about when I used to suntan with aluminum cups?

They used to have.

Did you ever get the sun. Did you ever suntan with aluminum foil?

Yeah, I didn't, but.

No. Look at your skin.

You didn't.

I did. You did it.

I never liked.

So smart.

No, I just wasn't a fan. Now I walk around with a parasol. I'm so eccentric.

That's so romantic though, too. It's kind of sexy.

Women will see me and say, oh, I'm going to start doing that.

I have friends.

Bring back the parasol.

Yeah, why not? You always have something to do with your hand.

Yes.

It's kind of sexy, like, to walk around and.

And you know what? The one that I'm using now is like, white nylon. So it. It gives that beautiful cast of light.

Oh. So it's. Oh, it's almost like having a selfie camera in front of you all the time. Yeah. Like, I wish this camera here that's filming our. I wish this followed me around all the time. The light. So that's what the parasol does. You should make your own now and sell it that way. Like your selfies never look around.

Are they gonna get me from the side?

We're getting you there. And then we have also secret cameras on the side.

Oh, I see. Okay, good.

But I think that's getting her from.

I'm looking at you. I'm not.

We're getting it all it's gonna be beautiful. Cause then we've got a whole camera thing going. There's someone downstairs looking at us now who I don't even really know, but apparently he's looking at me all the time. I was like, you're always there, like, even on the breaks when I'm like, you know. So that's what's happening with it. I know they're. Okay, guys, we're gonna take a quick break. And we come back more Fran Drescher.

So, you know why I'm so amazed by you and my deep dive into all things Fran Drescher is that you got diagnosed with cancer in 2000, and then you wrote a book. Too late. Two years later, a book came out. So did you get diagnosed? You were like, okay, change pivot. Gonna change the world. And my life changed. I think that's amazing just in itself. You gave birth to this book.

Yes. Well, that' that's true. And that's the way I put it, too, because, you know, I was in a relationship with a guy that was 16 years my junior. And he was the first person that really kind of awakened those maternal feelings in me. I wanted to have his baby first time. But then I got diagnosed, and the, you know, radical hysterectomy was my cure. So that kind of ended that. And we kind of lasted maybe two years after. He was amazing and very helpful and, you know, really an angel. But I never had that kid.

And could never after that thing in the natural way, so. But I did give birth to a boy. And, you know, I remember.

Thinking that I didn't want what happened to me to happen to other people by means of misdiagnosis and mistreatment. And it wasn't really until. And I had to write four drafts of that book longhand with a Mont Blanc pen. Cause I wasn't computer savvy then to write my whole book on. I liked putting pen to paper.

And I really. I mean, it took me four drafts to find the funny bone. Because in the beginning, I was very angry and bitter, and I thought I felt kind of screwed over from the medical community and by my own body. Quite frank. And I had always likened myself to be everyone else's caregiver and the superwoman and the stalker. And then I was so level to the ground. I mean, I was so weak and depressed after that surgery. And they kind of decided to take out my appendix without even talking to me about it. And they kind of said, well, you don't need it anyway, and you're only at risk of it getting infected once we open your abdomen. And, you know, fast forward 19 years later, it turns out in the community that I work that the appendix is really the brains of the lymphatic system. So basically, my lymphatic system got a lobotomy, and I have chronic inflammation as a result of it.

So all these things happen. So at the time, if you had known this, with the cancer diagnosis, you had the radical hysterectomy. You said, that's. Now, would you. So what would you have done instead? You would have kept it.

Obviously, I would have kept my appendix. Right.

Appendix. Right.

You know, I probably would have had.

I mean, I don't know. I probably would have had the hysterectomy.

Right.

But I wouldn't have had the appendix removed. And then the thing was, they took 40 lymph nodes, too.

Well, that's a lot.

That also compromises the lymphatic system. And it turns out I was in stage one. But the surgeon, the oncologist was worried because when she did her own endometrial biopsy, she was picking up on cells that were grade four. And four is the most mature. So she didn't know. She figured you've had this for at least two years, and I don't know how advanced it is, so we're just gonna take everything out.

So that's what happened.

We're gonna take out. Yeah, the 40 lymph nodes. We're gonna do a full cavity wash and hope for the best.

Okay.

Then when the whole. The pathology report came out, they said that I was in stage one, grade two. So the majority of the cells were grade two, and the tumor was stage one, which means it hadn't even penetrated the wall of the endometrial lining. It was just sitting there, kind of getting bigger.

So this was. So I said the hysterectomy, because a lot of people. I was thinking about the radicalness of just having that. But then your appendix. So that's the part. The lymph nodes. You wouldn't have done. Because now you realize. But let's talk a little bit about your history before that. Cause I know you've been through. We're gonna move into some experiences. Sex trauma.

Yes. Well, you know, I married my high school sweetheart, Peter. And we met when we were 15. And we fell in love, you know, and had a lot in common and are really soulmates. And we're still the best of friends and very much a family. But he realized that his true orientation was being gay. And we needless to say, we split after that. But prior to that, I had become a victim of a viol. Violent crime. A man that was on parole and his brother burst into my house, knocked down the front door and raped me and my girlfriend.

How old were you then?

I was, I think, 27.

Okay. In New York.

Yeah, I think I was like 27. Something like that. I was afraid to feel my pain.

That's right.

And that was a thing that I kind of had its post traumatic stress. Later, when I was early in doing the Nanny, one of the tabloid television entertainment shows did a whole piece on that I had been raped. And they even went to the jail to try and talk to the rapist. And for me. And people were calling my parents like it had just happened. It sounded like it had just happened. And at that point I was actually already in therapy because I was having issues with my marriage. You know, for obvious reasons.

Yes, we wanted to, but we didn't.

Know that was the reason at the time. He was just so controlling. And later we found out that it was cause he was trying to control himself. So he was controlling. Yeah, because he was gay. But he loved me and he wanted to be with me. And he didn't, you know, really want to lose everything he had.

So anyway, so back up and think about the rape. And then I might have to go on to your idea.

You know, I know that you're a sex doctor and you know, for after like the first two or three weeks, I mean, we had sex for the first time, Peter and I. And it was suggested that we kind of dive in the deep end and go for it.

Okay. After you. After the.

After the rape.

Okay. With your husband.

Yes.

They said just go ahead and have sex again. And then.

Yeah, try it. Yeah, try it. Don't like be afraid or, you know. Yes. So we.

It was really an amazing thing and I'll never forget it because I think that Peter saw in my face with my eyes closed that I was kind of grimacing and maybe back.

Yes, of course.

Night of the attack. And he said, open your eyes, it's me. It's just me. I love you. And you know, and even now I kind of can get a little choked up thinking about it. Cause it was just so sweet and loving. And I did open up my eyes and I could see him right now over me being so gentle and loving. And not all men are like that. And not all husbands are like that. They kind of can make it about them and start sulking and then something happened.

You never want to set up since you've had pain or you've had this.

Or they reject you because they feel like somehow you're soiled or whatever and they don't want to be with you because you know this man has weight with you or something. You hear terrible stories.

I do.

And you know, as I said when we were off the air, women often have me sign their books from Interwining where I write about it. Bad things happen to good people. And I talk about it in the second book too.

But the thing is like, so we know one in three women are raped in this country. And typically, you know, women who have been raped or had any kind of sexual assault, when they call into the show or men, I often say, like, it's not gonna go away. Just cause time if the more you repress it, you know, whatever you resist, persists. And what I recommend a lot these days, I found that EMDR therapy, trauma therapy can, can help for a lot of people. Not just talking, but you kind of have to get into your body and release a lot of, you know, we, we store emotions in our body and stuff. So what, what did you do? What kind of like. Because I know you also say, I know this a lot going through this. You said that you learned you weren't vulnerable. And I get that. I. We're all been career women, not vulnerable, keeping our emotions. I had trauma growing up.

I kind of let it out. I thought, I'm okay, you know, I didn't get like. I thought. I didn't really get hurt, right? I mean, I didn't get beat.

It could have been worse. We say like, oh, I could have. Right?

And you know, he didn't beat me up or anything. It wasn't a violent. It was a violation for sure and it was violent, but it wasn't like it could have been worse. I could have been brutally battered and wasn't at all. So, you know, I thought, okay, I'm just gonna get on with my life. But not really dealing with how it truly impacted me emotionally had its repercussions. And I really think that contributed to why I got a gynecologic cancer. Because, you know, you hold the pain in and it's almost poetic that that's where the cancer lodged itself in my uterus. So, you know, you gotta really feel your feelings. Even just today a girlfriend of mine wrote me and said her mom passed away and I felt so bad. But the thing that I tell people always is feel your feelings.

Feel em now. Don't repress it.

Honor Honor the relationship. Grief, grieving.

But we don't know how to. This is why I'm saying it's like I. In my own experience, like, my dad died suddenly when I was 19, and he was 49.

Wow.

And I didn't. I know. And I didn't. I knew that. I went back up to school, got three jobs, took a bunch of classes, been driven. Right. But then I didn't, you know, And I knew. I'm like, I haven't really dealt with it, but I didn't know what that looks like to deal with grieving. No one. There's no, like, manual. This is how you grieve. So I always just tell people, like, when my friends cry or anyone cries, I'm like, good. Feel it. Keep crying. It's good. When my producer, Jamie, started crying earlier this year, I was like, feel. Cause she hadn't felt. She kept things down. So it's like.

I think it's.

So women.

We got to keep falling.

Yeah, it's good. It's good. My manager of 38 years, who was like a surrogate mom to me, went out to lunch one day and dropped dead. I never saw her alive again. And she was the first person that I really, truly loved that died. So I was lucky that, you know, it was only four years ago.

Right. So you knew how to feel by that you had learned how to feel.

I did. Well, I honored that. That profound loss with grieving and not being embarrassed that I started to. Would start to cry in front of people.

Yeah. Isn't it funny that we get so embarrassed to show it?

And that's why we show emotions.

We don't have a lot of great models about how to show emotions. I hope it's getting better for people, but definitely taking care of your health.

Your wellness, indulge yourself, honor the relationship. You can cry. And if anybody's uncomfortable, you know. Addy host.

Okay, Fran, we just have a few minutes. I have to. Before we go, I have a few things.

Okay.

I have to ask you the five questions that we ask all of our. And they have to do with sex, because we haven't gotten much into sex. But I gotta do it, Fran. Just rape. But I think rape. Going from rape to sex. I know, Fran. So let's, you know, a little bit of sex. Okay. Biggest turn on.

Okay.

No, I have to admit something here. I actually have dreams about Brad Pitt.

Oh, okay.

And he's the only. You love him too.

I love him. He's so hot.

He's the only star that shows up in my dreams. Yes. And the last one, he was in some kind of trouble and I agreed for the sake of publicity, I would marry him.

Okay, fine. Just this once.

He turns me on. If he shows up in my dream.

I think so too. I'm with you. But I.

Like a nice kiss is, you know, like a really delicious, pillowy kiss.

Yes. Biggest turnoff is.

Oh, the biggest turnoff. Oh, I thought you were saying that's your biggest turnoff.

Don't you dare kiss me. No, I love kisses. I love soft kiss.

No, I love this guy. You know, the biggest turnoff is probably.

Bad breath. Yeah.

Hygiene's a big one for people. What makes good sex for people? Many people. Hygiene's like a big category. Category when Michigan came out. Category of problems.

I think what makes what.

I don't know what makes good. I just want to count. Yeah. What makes good sex.

I think that both people really being in the moment and very present and really connecting and being extremely tactile and having it just be slow enough that.

You'Re making a connection.

Okay. Your number one relationship tip or sex.

Tip, you know, get, like, really comfortable with being naked.

Enjoy being naked.

Yeah. Learn to love your body.

Yeah, totally. Sell it. Sell it. Whatever it is, just sell it.

Okay. This just in from the other room, though. Your director says, what's your type of sexy man?

What's my type of sexy man? You know, I think ultimately it's probably in real life. I think that Brad Pitt. Yeah, but I don't usually date blondes. Even though Peter's kind of on the light side. I had the best sex with an orgy. Argentinian.

Oh, I love that lover. Okay, Fran Drescher, thank you for being here. We gotta go check out our fifth annual Master Class November Health Summit on November 2nd. Cancer schmancer.org it's all on our website, sexwithemily.com all right, guys, thanks for listening to the show. Thank you for rating it. 5 stars. Wherever you listen. I love when you do that. That really helps us. We can continue to do more shows. We know we release three shows a week now. And thank you to my amazing listeners and my great team. Team. Love you. Ken, Kristen, Elisa, Michelle, producer, Jamie and Michael. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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