High Pleasure: Cannabis + Sex

And you know what I love about doing an edible personally, is that you kind of forget you take it. It's like that. Like when you get high, you smoke a vape, you're like, oh, I'm high. I'm like, oh, I took it. Kept, you know, worrying about what I was worrying about. I remember what I was doing. I was like doing some paperwork and then all of a sudden about like 45 minutes later, I started to feel like I started to breathe a little bit. I slowed down, I looked up, I was like, oh, it's really sunny out. I should go outside for a minute. I should walk the dog. Like, I just started, like feeling more grounded.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. It's a new day in the world of cannabis and sex. So many of you asked me for the show, so here we are. Even though the research is still thin, there's many encouraging signs that cannabis could help you unlock more sexual pleasure. Whether it's your erotic arousal, helps with erections, less anxiety or less pain. But I get it. Cannabis isn't legal everywhere. Not right for everybody. So on today's show, I'm discussing the latest research on cannabis and sex, how to know if it's a good choice for you, delivery methods, edibles, drinkables, and then some vetted product recommendations for sexy times, whether you're with yourself or a partner. All right, Intentions with Emily for each episode. Join me in setting intention for the show. My intention is to demystify sex enhancing cannabis products and guide you with science so you can decide if this is the pleasurable plant based assist you've been looking for or not. Up to you. Please rate and review Sex with Emily wherever you listen to the show. My new 420 gift guide, High Pleasure a guide to cannabis and sex is up at sex with emily.com which I'll be discussing in more detail throughout this episode. Must be 21 or over. To access the gift guide, please check out my YouTube channel, social media and TikTok it's all Sex with Emily for more sex tips and advice. And if you want to ask me questions, leave me your questions or message me at sex with emily.com askemily or call my hotline 559-talk-sex or 559-825-5739. Just include your name, your age, where you live and how you listen to the show. I. I'm cool. If you change your name or wanna remain anonymous. It's all good. And by the way, in case you forgot, I am coming out with a book. I'm so excited about my book and I hope you are too. It's called Smart how to Boost your Sex IQ and Own youn Pleasure. I would love if you pre order the book right now@sexhomely.com or in the show notes. You could also win a prize pack right now and our updated yes no maybe guide. So pre order the book. It helps get healthy sex into more hands. Might become a New York Times bestseller. I appreciate you all. All right everyone, enjoy this episode.

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All right everyone happy. 420. If you know, you know. Do I have to explain to you what 420 is? I feel like most people know what 420 is. So it's the weed holiday. Today's bonus episode is all about cannabis and sex. There's way more openness and acceptance around sex these days. And there's also more acceptance and openness around cannabis. It's been legalized in many states. In fact, I think it's 21 states have legalized cannabis for recreational use. And in 38 states, medical use of cannabis is legal with the doctor's recommendation. So it's happening. I mean, come on, tell me you haven't been to more parties or family gatherings in the last few Years, especially since the pandemic where Uncle Tom had a little tin of edibles. And in fact, I think the New York Times did a piece about some of the top advancements during the pandemic or the tip cultural trends, and one of them was edibles. So let's just talk about cannabis and sex. I mean, you've probably heard that, oh, yeah, we can help you feel more relaxed in the bedroom. It can increase your sensitivity. You can have more orgasms. So that's nothing new. In fact, I was remembering when I was in college, I realized that I had not. I didn't know a lot about sex. I didn't have great sex education. I was having sex at the time, and I talked to my friends one day and I was like, what is the big deal with sex? I like cuddling my partner, I like making out. I even like the penetration, but I'm not having an orgasm. And they're like, really? Like, you've never had an orgasm? And they talked to me about masturbation. And then I realized I didn't even know what. Masturbation? Yeah, that's all in my book, which you guys should totally pre order right now. It's called smart sex. But what I'm saying is I was confused and I was kind of pissed that I didn't have an orgasm. Everyone else was. So I went home and I think I had the first conversation with my mother about sex. I remember driving home from college. I walk in the door, my mom made a chicken stir fry. I'll never forget this. And we're sitting at the table. I was like, you know, mom, I was talking to the girls today, and I said they had were telling me about sex. They were having orgasms. And I realized I never had one. And she just looked at me and she's like, you know what you should do, Emily? By the way, I think I was also a little bit anxious at the time. I think it was final. As I came home. I was stressed. She goes, you know, Emily, you should really just smoke a joint. I was like, what do you mean? She said, it really helps with sex. Now, first off, my mom and I had never talked about weed or sex until that moment. I don't think that my mom is a weed smoker per se, but she knew that in her experience when she had tried it, that it helped her somehow during sex. And the bummer is, I didn't smoke weed in college, really. So I never really remembered it until later in life. And then I was like, oh, I think I got high. Once or took it edible. I was like, oh yeah, this is really, really good for me. What it did is it helped me feel more present. It helps with anxiety, meaning I wasn't having racing thoughts and worried about things. It gets me in the mood. It helped me feel more connected to my body. My partner have more orgasms. Listen, it's why you're having a cocktail at the end of the day. A lot of you have a drink at the end of the night, right? You come home from work and you have a glass of wine or you do you have a cocktail. For many of us, having an edible, a tincture, a patch. However you consume cannabis can be a great way to take the edge off at the end of the day. Let's be honest, work is stressful. It can be. And sometimes you want something to relax in the moment, feel present. Well, it also transfers into the bedroom. I have to state the obvious. Cannabis isn't legal everywhere. And in some states legality is a gray area. So I'm not encouraging you to break the law at all. But if you have the legal means to explore your sexual pleasure with cannabis, this show is going to give you a lot of guidance. I'm going to talk about the current science, what they say about weed and sex, how I recommend you explore cannabis within your sex life and the different delivery methods out there. And I'm also going to highlight a few specific brands and products from my new 420 guide, High Pleasure. You can find the guide in the show notes or on my website in the read section@sexwithemily.com so what is the science saying about weed and sex? There's been a lot of science, the research, all the things. So the studies have shown that the use of cannabis increased participants desire for sex. It increased their sexual satisfaction, it increased their sensitivity to touch and increased their intensity of orgasms. It also showed that it helped people with pain. A lot of women have pain during sex. They just do. A study with an OB GYN's office showed using cannabis decreased pain and enhanced the satisfaction of their orgasms. So what I love about these benefits and what I want to highlight here is that the funny thing is if I look at increased desire for sex, sexual satisfaction, sensitive touch, orgasms, what you mostly ask me about is questions along the lines of I'm not in the mood for sex, I can't have an orgasm, I feel sort of numb and I'm having a lot of pain. I would say those are a lot of the areas that you guys have challenges in. And you email me about that, you're like, oh, I can't relax. My mind's racing. I can't have an orgasm. I've got pain. So cannabis, for many people, seems to really help. Why is cannabis so beneficial? If you're someone who wants to understand the science of it, what's really going on? A lot of these benefits have to do with the fact that cannabis is a vasodilator, meaning it increases blood flow. And remember, decreased blood flow is what happens when we are not getting erections or having orgasms or feeling aroused and turned on. Increased blood flow also explains why there is an increased sensitivity to touch and more intense orgasms. Since your genitals are more engorged, your nerve ratings are more active. Plus, I asked you on Instagram, what's your experience been with weed and sex? Here's what y' all said. Powerful orgasms. So intense. Good intense. Quicker, stronger. Multiple orgasms. My high orgasms are much more intense. Oh, I love this. Started taking gummies the year after our hysterectomy. They change our sex life. So a lot of you are using the word intense. Intense sensations. Intense orgasms. Someone else had the best sex ever. Two of you said, they go good together. Someone else said, I find it very enjoyable. It felt like a different euphoric feeling. Wish my partner and I could do it more. Someone else said, it was numbing and took someone else out of the experience. This is what I'm saying. This isn't for everybody. Maybe you're one of these people who had a very bad experience with weed, which is many people. Right? You took a big bong hit and you were so high that you had to, like, crawl home from the party. Or maybe someone gave you an edible and they gave you too much and you were like, were catatonic in the corner all night. That's happened. Has that. That's happened to me. I'm like, oh, I took too much. They told me to take half. I took too many. So the good news is, right now, a lot of the weed that you buy in stores is dosed for you. It'll say like 2 milligrams, 5 milligrams. It's like, just as, like, your Advil. Like, it's very prescriptive, so you don't have to worry about that. Same dosage problems. Okay? My wife and I both enjoy it so much more when we're high. She comes so many times. It sounded like you're all having more orgasms, more intensity. Okay. You said, I love it. I think I'm more sensitive to sensation when I'm high. And so it only adds to it. A lot of you are talking about relaxation. The best touch is more enhanced. So you're all matched up with the research here. Someone else said I had sex on half of an edible once and it totally unhinged the experience. It was pretty hot. Someone else said it was traumatic. I am temporarily paralyzed when high, unable to have sex. You guys like weed. A lot of you do. Some have had bad experiences. And again, it's not for everyone. But how do you know if it's right for you when it comes to sex? Well, first try it. Try it in a non sexual context. That's my best recommendation. Try with people you feel safe and comfortable with. So people who are also familiar with cannabis themselves, those friends who already like cannabis, those would be the ones to do it with because they know the drill. They can help you through it and see how you feel. How do you feel in your body? Do you feel comfortable? Do you feel more anxious? Do you feel like, what do you feel? Just get curious about it. Just take a small dose and see what happens. So if you like that and you're like, okay, you know what, weed is my friend. I didn't think it was. And I can kind of deal with it. My next recommendation is to try it during your solo sex practice. Next time you're masturbating. Start with a low dose. You can build it up over time, but see how it affects you. Try different strains. You know, weed is very different. Just like when you consume liquor versus beer versus taking a shot, having wine. Same thing goes for cannabis. So this is a great time to practice mindful masturbation too. What are you feeling when you're high? Does it feel different? Touch your genitals. What actually feels good? Take note, Breathe. Maybe you felt more into your solo sex and you wanted to touch yourself and you felt really good and it was a really great experience. Or maybe you're like, I just wanted to sit and watch tv, I was gonna masturbate. I got too high and I ended up cleaning out my sock drawer. And it didn't make me feel sexual. It made me want to crawl into a hole. It made me want to call my mother. I mean, I don't know. Only, you know, take some time so you can figure out, is it right for you? Is it not? That's how you'll know if it's right to kind of take it to the next level and take it with a partner and see what Happens. But first, let me tell you, there are different types of cannabis. You know, there's cbd, which CBD is the non psychoactive part. It does not make you high, but it can have physical benefits. Helps reduce pain, nausea, help with migraines. THC now is the primary active ingredient that causes psychoactive effects. This is what gets you high. THC is a cerebral effect, cbd, greater effect on your body. Now, they do work independently, but the magic is in the Entourage effect, as scientists call it. That's when they work together in synergy. You can balance CBD and THC. Then there's Delta 8 and Delta 9. This is new. Delta 8 and Delta 9 are synthetic compounds derived from THC. They are mild, mild or high than THC. And they're derived from hemp plants that are heavier in CBD. And then the CBD is converted to delta 8 or 9 THC, and that's what it's all about. So there's a lot of different varieties too, with D at Delta 8 and 9. These are legal in more states than THC right now. Remember, it can also be great just to enhance your intimacy. Remember that sexual intimacy doesn't have to equal penetration. So make pleasure your goal every day, but especially when you're experimenting with weed. Chill right where you are. After the break, I'm breaking down the different strains and ways to consume cannabis to enhance your sex life.

So I'm talking about different types of cannabis. Now the strains of cannabis we just talked about, like CBD versus thc. But now these are the strains. There's sativa and Indica. So Sativa is the head high. And that's what can help you with creativity. You're going to get stuff done. It can help reduce anxiety and stress, increase creativity and focus. And then there's Indica. Indica is more of a body high that increases your, like, deep relaxation. It reduces insomnia. And Indica can also be great for sex. So really, I'm a fan of the hybrids. Hybrids just combine both Sativa and Indica strains and create a new strain. And you can try out and see how that feels. Okay, so now we're going to talk about the different ways you can consume cannabis. There's lube. One of the latest trends in cannabis is infused lube. Because remember, I said that cannabis is a vasodilator. Same thing is true of cbd. And since CBD is a vasodilator, blood flows increase wherever you apply the lube. And of course, that means your genitals as well. So when you use a CBD lube, it can help enhance your arousal. Lubrication have heightened sensations and I know I've mentioned them before but could not do a 4:20 episode without shouting out to one of my new favorite lubes, Morgasm. I just love the name. Like I. It's almost like enough said. Morgasm. But it's actually so well named because listen to this. It's a CBD infused arousal lube. It's water based, 100% hyperallergetic. It's oil free and has natural ingredients like L arginine. Can reduce inflammation, enhance arousal, has a CBD that helps with muscle relaxation and anxiety. I also love that it has a slightly vanilla taste to it which is great for oral sex. So I think this is a fun way. Start with lube. If you haven't tried it yet, you can get 15% off Morgasm Lube using the code emily@morgasm.com sexwithemily or click the link in our show notes M O R g a s m.com sexwithemily so that's my lubric edibles. Let's talk about edibles. Okay. Like I said, you might have had a really bad experience. You took too many edibles. That is not the case anymore. The name of the game here is dosage. The edibles are measured already in milligrams. They're usually five to ten milligrams. Might be too overwhelming. You can break a five and a half and just try it. Try it and see how it affects you. It comes with gummies, they come with chocolates. There's a lot of different ways to take it. Remember, everyone's tolerance is different and it definitely depends on how often you use it, your metabolism, few other factors. And just don't eat more than you know you can handle. You can always eat more. It's not going anywhere. It's right there. Take half. Take half and do something else. Maybe like go down in your partner or something. Of course. One of my new favorite edibles was specifically created to enhance sexual experiences and that is via Hemp company's high love. They have these THC libido gummies that are so delicious. They heighten your senses, they increase blood flow, they enhance your libido, they have horny goat weed in it. Other aphrodisiacs. I love it. They sent me a whole bunch of them and so I tried them. I had everyone on my team try them as well if they wanted to. I'm not a pusher. But my parents are coming this weekend. They haven't been to my house yet. I was making it all pretty. There was a lot to do, and I was like, you know, I'm just gonna try these. A great time to try these edibles. I hadn't connected with my partner in a while, so I took one of their High Love gummies, and they are so fun. I took a half because I always take half. I practice what I preach. I don't know how this new thing is going to impact me. And, you know, what I love about doing an edible personally, is that you kind of forget you take it. It's like that. Like, when you get high, you smoke a vape, you're like, oh, I'm high. Like, oh, I took it. Kept, you know, worrying about what I was worrying about. I remember I was doing. I was, like, doing some paperwork, and then all of a sudden, about, like, 45 minutes later, I started to feel like I started to breathe a little bit. I slowed down. I looked up, I was like, oh, it's really sunny out. I should go outside for a minute. I should walk the dog. Like, I just started, like, feeling more grounded, more present. And then I looked over my partner and realized we hadn't talked in a few hours. Like, let's go walk the dog. It's sunny out. And I just sort of left my worries, my anxiety in the house, went outside, and I was connecting with my partner again. Then we felt more sexual and connected in the mood. And that carried on a few hours into the evening. And I have to say that I felt relaxed, less anxious, and just more of my body, more in touch, more present. I definitely was more in the mood for sex than I had been. So, you know, I do sometimes I'll take an apple, and then I set the timer on my phone and I look at, like, how long has it been? And this time I even forgot. I was like, oh, yeah, I feel better. So clearly my Instagram audience is having some good experience with it, too. If you want to try Via Hemp any of their products, you can try their High Love THC Gummies Libido Gummies. Go to viahemp.com that's V I I A H E M P dot com. They have an ongoing 420 sale, which is smart for business. Or use a Code Emily to get 20% off your order. And a free sample of Via's 50 state legal THC gummies. You can also try patches. Patches are such good options if you're not looking to get too high because with a patch, your body absorbs the THC CBD slowly, more gradually can help with pain relief. So patches another way. There's also tinctures. Go to a local dispensary and see what they have. Drinkables, another great category. They're like cocktails. Those are fun. They sort of give you a more euphoric buzz. They can help with social anxiety. Great for date night. I hope this episode helped you really just feel more comfortable and confident in the world of cannabis. If you're unfamiliar with it, maybe you're excited to try something. If you try it again, if you haven't, or try it for the first time, even you're already using it, maybe this sparks some new ways for you to play. Also, there are even more ways to play in our 420 gift guide. We were really inspired this year at Sex with Emily. We were inspired. I was like, let's just do a guide. Let's just help y'. All. Weed's not going anywhere. Try it out. And remember that everyone's relationship to cannabis is personal. It evolves over time. I've definitely gone through different stages of my life where I liked using cannabis. I didn't like using it. Just depends. It's kind of like alcohol, right? So see how it feels to you. I just think it's great for becoming more embodied for many people, more in touch with your sensations in the moment. And remember that these are all factors that help you have more pleasure. So I'm all about you having more pleasure, boosting your sexual intelligence. Have fun with it. Happy 4 20. And by the way, Morgasm, which I mentioned earlier, is doing a giveaway right now on Facebook and 10 lucky winners are going to be randomly selected to receive their CBD arousal lubricant, a pre order copy of my new book Smart Sex and some extra cash for a sexy date night. This is all happening now. Just head to my Facebook page. It's exwithemily. Follow Morgasm Lube on Facebook. Tag your friends in the giveaway post. Each tag is an entry and there are unlimited entries. So head there right now for a chance to heat up your sex life. Thanks everyone.

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