How To Make Her Moan with Joanna Angel

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Yeah, it's too much sex.

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Be a good rhythm for you and I.

Okay. All right. I think we should do that. And so also, I did another great show this week, and Anderson wasn't there, but it was with Dennis Cobb. I'm so sorry, but you.

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Or The Boy Scout. Yeah, the Bunny Ranch. From the Bunny Ranch. We did it at Podcast one a few days ago and it's been a wildly successful episode. He gave some killer sex to the. And he brought one of his bunnies with him. Joanna angel is here tonight as well.

Hello.

Hi, Joanna. Which is so good to be back here. I'm so glad you're here. Do you know Dennis Hoff from the Bunny Ranch?

I've met him a couple times. I wouldn't say I don't know him.

He was pretty funny. But Joanna angel is on tonight and she was on the show a few months ago and it was such a popular show. Was it a year ago? I saw October and I was like, it's. Oh, you're right. That was a year ago. Okay. I didn't even know what month, month it was today. It was one of those days where I was like, oh, it was four months ago. I guess I must have thought it was February. Okay, well, I'm glad you're back.

I'm back.

Awesome. Joanna angel, she's from Burning angel, the creator, founder, writer, director of everything@burningangel.com and it's what?

Hardcore.

Hardcore punk rock emo porn.

Oh, yeah, I don't.

That's your tagline. But it's really just all about you. So how did you. I mean, really. Like, I know you've been on the show before, but it just seems like you're blowing up everywhere I go. Joanna Angel. Joanna Angel. And your Instagram, it's adorable. Everyone should follow you. Is it burning?

It's just. Oh, Burning angel has an Instagram as well as Burning Underscore Angel. And you know, Burning Angels, more of like, we show the updates and all. There's hundreds of really hot tattooed girls on burningangel.com and you know, there's photos of all of them on the Burning Angel Instagram. Mine is more about me, of course. I post pictures of other girls too, from every now and again.

Right.

About me in my life. So you can follow me. It's Oanangel. I try to get creative and not be totally bored. She just.

No, you're not boring. Like, I love her Instagram and every day I'm like, how does she look? Good every day. Because I, I mean, I post on my Instagram sex with Emily, but it's. They're just adorable shots. I'm like, every day, like, she just crawls out of bed.

You know, I have a. I have a good. I have a good stand up mirror.

I have a very good Selfie mirror in my apartment.

And it helps you with selfies for real?

I don't know. It's like, because it's near a window, so the light is always shining on it.

Really? Well, maybe that's what I need to get you.

Maybe you need a new mirror. It kind of sucks. Like, I felt like I was, like, not a very good selfie taker for a little while. And I would see the girls on set, like, I was taking selfies, and I'm like, how are you doing that? And I remember asking one of the girls. I was like. I was like, what? What did you just do? Show me how to do it. And I actually, like, had this, like, younger girl. She was, like, 22 years old or something. And this was a couple years ago.

Like, in the womb.

Exactly. Because they. They just know.

They just know.

I'm, like, asking tips. Like, I felt like a grandma being like, how do you do that? And I'm like, I need to do that. Because I was actually. I remember when the. The shift happened, when everyone was just on Twitter. And now then, like, you just. I stayed off Instagram for as long as I could. I was like, I'm done. I have enough social media.

Exactly. How do you keep up with. Right?

And then eventually you like, okay, I have to get on Instagram. It's like, you can't avoid it anymore. So I was like, oh, this sucks. Because I liked Twitter when you could just tweet because all you had to do was. I'm good at talking and just saying quirky, stupid little things. That was my thing. And I'm like, fuck. I need an image to go along with my quirky little personality. So it gets hard. Especially, I think people really think that my life is more exciting than it is sometimes. And if I'm not doing an event or traveling or whatever, like, a lot of times I'm just home. And sometimes I'm home for, like, two weeks at a time, and I'm like, how many more pictures can these people possibly see of my dog or the.

Food I'm eating or this underwear? So what were the selfie tricks that you learned?

Well, I think you gotta, like, put it to the side a little bit. You need to put it to the side a little bit. I think you gotta put it.

You wanna put it, like, up, you know?

Oh, up.

Up to the side.

Right? Okay. I'm just curious for people listening. If you want to take a good.

Selfie, I'd also say put on that. There's a timer cam, you know, Like a self timer camera. So then you could just like put your phone down. Oh, do whatever you want, you know, and that's how you get a good butt shot. I always like, I'll always like kind of put the timer, the timer on and I put my phone down sort of like on my toilet. It just seems to be like, like, you know, with a lid shot, it's, it's just the right height for me. I mean, yeah, I'm short, so maybe a taller girl would need to put it on a table or something. So I just kind of put on the, like, you know, where the toilet is and then I just like shut the lid. And then I wear like a good pair of booty shorts and I turn around and then I push, you know.

That's awesome. Anyway, so your butt, your butt, your breasts, everything. I'm like, you're so hot. Really? Do you.

I do. I mean, I didn't have to for a long time. I'm like almost 34 years old.

Really? You are?

Yeah.

And you've been doing this. So let's go back to the beginning. The beginning was like 12 years ago now, so. Okay. And you start. That's when you started.

That's when I started.

Right. Well, I was.

But I started burning angel in 2002.

Right. Like at the end of when I was finishing up college.

Okay.

And then, yeah, I was dancing shortly after that because, you know, I needed to do something because the website wasn't making any money. Right, Exactly.

That's amazing. In 2002, you started it.

Yeah, I started. You know, it was really good. We started when we did because we developed a very loyal fan base like, early on. I don't know if we really could have done it if we started now. You know, it's a tougher market, so we're able to kind of like get in there.

Well, what is it, do you think? I mean, I know it's like tattoos, emo. What is it? Punk rock? I mean, that's really who you.

Yeah, that's, that's the aesthetic, you know, but there's definitely like, you know, at the time, we were the only people making porn with, you know, tattoo girls. Now every girl in porn has a tattoo. It's much different now.

Everyone has a tattoo.

Like, yeah, everyone in the world. I feel like my grandparents are gonna get tattooed too.

My mom is tattooed. She's like, what are you gonna get? I'm like, I have no idea. I'm. I'm like, I don't have a goddamn tattoo. And jews Aren't just. I was gonna say something like, we're both like, what is it? Like, everyone in this industry, I swear to God, like, sex experts, porn stars, a lot of them Jewish.

I know. Cause we're all real crazy.

But we're crazy. Yes. But we also weren't born with the guilt and the shame around sex. Were you raised that way or were you.

No, I mean, we definitely didn't talk about it.

Right. We didn't either. But we didn't talk about.

Yeah, we definitely didn't talk about it. I definitely did not have, like, people who are like, oh, yeah, like, my dad gave me a condom or like, my mom sat me down and told me this, this and this. Like, I never had that. I think we just, like, avoided the topic. Like, you know, we just pretended that, you know, it didn't exist. And that's not good.

No, it's not good. Well, I think that parents today still have a hard time talking. I mean, I always have been getting calls from, like, my brother and how do we do this? How do we talk about it? And that's. I feel like I want to create, like, something for parents to educate their children.

Right.

Because it's like a liberal. I came up with a really liberal home. My mom's like, if you ever want to talk about sex, you should talk to me. But they never directly said.

Right.

About it. Yeah, I wish they tell me about masturbation because it never even occurred to me to masturbate, like.

Yeah, well, I think I'm a pre. I was a late bloomer, so I think that's same with me.

When did you first bloom? When did you first.

Oh, God, not until I was, like, 20 or 19.

When you first masturbated?

I didn't even masturbate till way later on. Like, I didn't the first time I had sex. Like, I lost my virginity at, like, 19. I was lost at late.

Okay.

And I mean, I really, like, wasn't ready till then, you know? Like, I remember I had these, like, boyfriends in high school and, like, thinking in my, like, like, I wanted to be ready, you know? But when it came down to it, I would, like, be making out with them, and it would get kind of heavy, and I would just, like, tense up and I would freeze and, like, I just. I really wasn't ready. And then.

That's good that you didn't, because so many, I think young girls are pressured into it and they're not. Yeah, no, I was.

I think I had a very awkward, you know, group of friends. And I don't, you know, like, things are different now. Things are.

Ways are different now. I mean, for.

I don't know if anyone can stay a virgin till they're 19.

I know if they. Exactly. But I think it's good. I was 17, but it's. I dated the guy for 11 months. I was like, okay, now I'm gonna sleep again.

Wow. Can you even imagine? Like, what would you do for 11 months with someone? What would you do?

No friggin idea.

You know, I dated someone when I, when I was in college and I finally just felt comfortable enough. Like, that was when I felt ready and I was like, all right, now.

Did you have orgasms?

Um, I. Not the first time that I had sex. It actually took me a really long time to have an orgasm from like actual sex that, you know, I had. I had orgasms, you know, from like clitoral stimulation. But I remember being like scared. Like, I remember he was like, you know, like rubbing my clit and stuff. Like my. And like, I was just like. I start. I got like scared and I was like, I think I'm gonna pee. I don't know what to do. And he was like, just let it out. And that was like. I was like, oh, this is an orgasm. Like I. I never had one before.

That's amazing though.

I didn't even know. I just. I just didn't get it.

I really.

I knew nothing about sex. I didn't even like, know the point of sex, like was to get off.

Or, you know, I didn't either. It's weird. So then you had an orgasm and then you got into sex?

Yeah, then I was like, horny. Like I'm in the mood. Like, I think I was able to like, figure out what to do with that anxious feeling I would get sometimes, you know, Like, I think I would do things was like close to masturbating when I was really young, you know, like where you just like. I would like get horny and like touch myself a little bit or like, you know, maybe like. Like do like weird things, right? That, like what? I don't know, like, like rub up against. Yeah, rub up against your. My pillow or something. I don't know. But then I was so weird. I like, I just. I didn't know what to do.

I don't know.

You know, I just didn't know what to do. And then I was like, oh, okay. And then I like started to become, you know, but more open, sexually open. But I didn't masturbate till way later. On. I don't think I mast till I was like 24 years old or something.

And then you just were like, okay.

Yeah. I remember just like being alone and like being really horny and being like really frustrated. And I like, I was like single and. And then I was like, oh, I can like do this myself. Like it was like something dawned on me. Exactly. I don't have to like go out and like find some. I like didn't associate that like someone else. Wow. Because we're two crazy Jews. Right?

But yeah, I was too busy. I had so. We had so much going on.

Yeah. I didn't like comprehend that like when you're feeling, you know, this.

Yeah.

That you can do this. And then I was like addicted to it. I was like, oh, I felt like I was like a 12 year old boy or something.

And then you can't master it.

I was like, why didn't I do this before? Like, what's wrong with me? This could have gotten me. There's so many hard times, you know, or times you feel anxious or even like lonely or something where you just feel like insecure because you like feel like you need boyfriend or girlfriend or whatever. Like I should just masturbated. I could have been so much more focused in college.

I wonder if that's maybe me too. I mean, honestly, I think it was just maybe it's that neurotic. My friend always calls it the jujin. But I don't know if it's like the neurotic. I was like, I never. I was so busy all the time. I always come home. I just passed out. I'd be tired. I went from studying or working.

Also like I always lived in, you know, like these apartments with like 17 roommates, you know.

Yeah.

Like, where the fuck was I gonna figure that out? I didn't really have much like alone now.

Do you still with having. I mean. So what is your schedule? So Burning angel is you and a lot of other women.

Yes.

And you manage it and direct it and people can go on there and check it out. Burning angel dot com.

We've got hundreds of beautiful, beautiful girls. Like I. I sometimes get like teary eyed. Like I love the girls so much. They're all so pretty and we have a great like, you know, so many different types of girls.

Yeah. I mean you really.

So many different ones. Big ones and small ones and everything and anything in between.

That's awesome for everybody. That's why it's so popular. I mean, what do you attribute the success to your site? Because there's so many sites. People, it's, you know, people have to subscribe, pay for it.

I mean, you know, it's. It's a lot of hard work and just persistence. And.

You know, I think some of just making. Making something people want, you know? Like, I, I really. How do you want. You know, you don't. But I, I, I put my heart and soul into the pornos that we make. Like, I, I, when I'm writing them, I have the same writer's block that, you know, any other writer would have, you know, like, when I look around, I like every girl that we're shooting. I try to think of, like, what is gonna bring out the sexiness in them, you know? Like, I just. Every little thing, you know, from the outfit to the location to the crew to, you know, you know, just, I put everything together, and I really do want everything we shoot to be. To be awesome, you know, and, and you're not in.

You're in a lot of them.

I'm in a lot of them, yeah, but I'm not in all of them. I'm pro. I mean, I definitely. We put out. How many we put out, I don't even know. I mean, the website gets updated a couple times a week, but, I mean, all in all, we put out about 20 movies a year, and I'm in, like, six or seven of them.

So. Okay, so you're not like, shooting every. Not having sex every day, doing shit?

No, no.

Okay.

I was when we first started.

So now you're like, the business woman.

Yeah, but I still. A lot of people think I retired, which is frustrating because I definitely haven't.

On Instagram or Twitter.

She's not retired? No, I haven't retired. I still have stuff coming out, you know, but. But also, it's like, I only work for myself, so it'd be kind of silly to be like, here's another update with me. And here's another update with me. You know, like, other girls who are performing for different people every day. It's like you have something coming out with different companies all the time, so it's different. Like, so there's really no need for me to shoot every single day, because then people are just gonna get bombarded, like, on the website, they're gonna be like, all right, we've seen this. All right. So I try to, you know, how.

Do you find the girls for Burning Angel?

There's a model application on Angela.

What do they apply? Do you interview them? And obviously, we look through the application.

And we talk to Them. I mean, it's a combination of things, you know, Like, a lot of girls we shoot are from out of town, and when the girls come into town, it's like they're staying at my house, and, you know, they're really getting led into my life. So, like, there's definitely been girls who applied who are beautiful, but, like, I just didn't feel like, you know, like, they were just right. Like, the days can be long, you know, and, like, I just. I don't know. Like, we don't shoot that often, and so there's definitely. Looks are obviously a part of it, you know? Obviously they are. So we want someone who's sexy. You know, we do like, more tattooed girls. That's what people like when they come to Burning Angel. Every once in a while, we'll get a girl tattoos.

Can we just talk about that for a minute? What do you think it is? Haven't you heard back? I mean, have you always had. When did you start getting tattoos?

Yeah, when I was 18.

Okay.

I got tattoos before I had sex. That explain it.

You wanted something to do.

You've always. And you. Beautiful tattoos. And do you feel like that's.

I've always thought tattoos were sexy. I always have. I've always liked the first. Like, you know, I remember, like, having, like, a huge crush on a girl in college, and she was, you know, covered in tattoos. And like, I remember even in high school, like, I used to. Where are you from? The east coast or you from.

I'm from Michigan.

Oh.

But my mom's from New York.

I remember, yeah. When I was from New Jersey. But I used to always, like, on the weekends, go to, like. Like, shopping and go to see bands play and stuff in New York City. And I remember, like, there was this girl that worked at this, like, store that sold, you know, all, like, bondage pants and all that shit that I, you know, bought when I was in high school. And, like, I remember she had, like, a mohawk and she had a bunch of tattoos, and I was like, oh, that girl's so pretty. I wish I could look like her. Like, ever since I was little, I always was, you know, attracted to that look.

So you bisexual? Were you attracted to?

I. You know, I did not.

Like I said I was so, like, not in touch with my sexuality in high school. I don't think I knew what I was like. I would see girls that I thought were really pretty and get, you know, like, fantasies and feelings, but I. I didn't have my first, like, lesbian experience while I was in College. Like most girls, right?

Exactly. What is it? Lugs? Lesbians? But then did you are you're still bisexual? You have a boyfriend?

Yeah, I do. You know, sometimes I feel bad saying I'm bisexual. I was in like a.

I like dated a girl for a few months once, but even still then we were fucking guys together all the time. But so I don't even know if we were what. We were probably really bad lesbians. But I did love her, you know, very much. I've never really like just dated a girl, right. For a long period of time and not had any guy like, you know.

But you like having.

But yeah, I like having sex with girls. I really do. I'm attracted to girls. I like having sex with girls. I love checking out girls. I don't know. I don't know. Does it like. Can you still call yourself?

Yeah. You know, when I'm single, I'm usually looking for a relationship with a man. You know, Obviously if the right girl came along, I wouldn't be opposed to it. So I'm. Whatever that means. But I love having sex with women. I really do.

What's your favorite part? What do you love about it?

I just love everything about it, you know, like, women are so beautiful, you know, like I love boobs, like I love pussy. You know, like I love. Like there is really like such an amazing feeling when you get a girl off, you know, like you like, it's. It's a better feeling than getting a guy off. It's totally different, you know?

Right. It can be challenging. Or do you have like a quick, like, do you know, do you feel like, you know, stuff that we could share? I mean, we probably might have talked about this last time, but I'm sure you have a million tips, like your best, like something that kind of every woman is different. But is there anything your go to move when you're performing artists?

I think, you know, I think a lot. I always try to figure out by like feeling around, like, does this girl like more clitoral stimulation or does this girl like more like insertion?

Figure that out.

I mean, you start. You start touching things and then they start like moving and squirming when they're doing the right thing. So I always think like with girls, like when they start liking something, like you can tell, like just stay there.

Just keep doing it, whatever it is that you're doing. Once they start making those good noises, just don't stop and keep doing that thing, whatever it is. And you know, with every girl it's different sometimes it's like a weird spot on the side and like, you just. Just keep going around there like it's. It's like some weird place on the inside.

That's not clitoris. Right. You all think clitoris is like this little. Like it. There's like. It has all different, like, erotic within the 8,000 nerve endings. Like, you gotta find the one nerve endings.

Just find whatever it is and just stay there until she just can't move anymore. But it's fun. But I do love having sex with girls. And I do, I love. You know, I'm fortunate enough where.

I have a great partner and we've had some great threesomes. And I think it's like, not good to have a threesome with someone if you're in a shitty relationship.

Exactly. It's no satisfaction. No.

It's just gonna lead to a really shitty threesome.

Exactly.

And it's gonna make someone else feel really awkward. And I know that because I've been there too. But now.

Me too. I've had bad threesomes. What makes a good threesome would.

Like, you. I think two people need to be on the same team. So if that means you and your girlfriend, like, both want to, like, get a guy off, you know, like you two are. It's like two. Not against one, but two on one, you know, I think, I mean, I could be wrong, but that's what I found. So if it's you and a girl that's like, yeah, let's like fuck with this guy, then once, then that's you two and.

And right.

And a guy. And then, you know, if you're a couple, like, you two need to be like on the same team. So you can't start getting down to, like, you can't fuck her more than me, or you can kiss her, but you can't kiss me, or you could do that or what do you know? Like, everybody has to want everyone to get off.

Exactly. You know, and you talk about it beforehand too. If you're in a couple, if you're in a relationship, and only if you're on very, very sturdy ground. Do I tell people to, like, get to try a threesome. Yeah.

You know, it sucks because I always think communication is.

Is the key to everything, but I think I feel like couples that talk about threesomes, like, all the time. It's almost like they talk about it too much. And then, I mean, the best threesomes I've ever had have been spur of the moment.

See, that's what I always say. If you can handle four exacts.

Because that's really hard to give someone that kind of advice. But the best threesomes I've had with my partner, we've just been out and we just. It just feels right. But you gotta act quick, you know? The second you're like. You go home, you start talking about, should this girl do it? Should this girl do it? Like, I've had couples come to me and they're like, we think this girl will be right or we think this girl. And like, it's like, you probably lost the chance, you know? Like.

Right.

Like a girl that wants to enter the bedroom with a couple. Like, it's kind of like. It's a. It's a spur of the moment.

Yeah. Just hype. Don't pause. Yeah.

Like, just. Just go. If you feel right, you know, you gotta just kind of go for it.

And your boyfriend. You guys have been together for a little while?

Oh, yeah. Two and a half years.

Okay. That's right. Okay.

Two years.

And he's awesome. He did my business cards.

He did randomly. What a small world.

I don't remember how I. We talked about how I found it, but that. So awesome. And so do you guys often have threesomes?

It's not that often. It. People think it's more often than it is, you know, but it. Yeah, it's just. Just from the. When the right girl comes along. Right.

The right girl. I love it. And it's never a problem. He's. And he's cool with. Obviously cool with what you do.

Yeah, it's. Look, I can't say it's not, you know, it. It's challenging. We're both human, you know? Like, you could. Being in a relationship and being in porn, it's. It's not easy. Whether you're dating someone in porn or out of porn. There's. There's always, you know, a. It's. It's hard when sex is your job.

You know, And. And I think the way I am at work, you know, like. Like kind of changed a little. Like having someone that I love so much at home, you know, Like, I'm like, okay, I got it. Like, you got to find whatever that place in your brain that you need to go to when you do porn, and then that place sort of changed a little.

When you get a boyfriend.

When you get a boyfriend. But, you know, it's okay. You just. You got to find a way, you know, to balance everything.

You guys probably have really good communication.

We do. We have good communication. And I know I Know the days that I'm working, he is gonna be a little insecure.

You want to know before you go, like, who you're sleeping with today?

No, I try. I don't tell him. There's, you know, I ask him, like, do you want to know or do you not want to know? Like, he doesn't need to know.

Right.

You know, like.

I know what you mean.

Sometimes he's gonna find out anyway. He's gonna see it, you know, so. So he, like. But he doesn't need to, like, think about the person that is. I always ask him, like, if you want to know, I'll tell you. If you don't want to know, I won't tell you.

Okay.

It's hard, too, because porn is, like, my whole life, you know, and all the lines, you know, get kind of blurred. They do.

They do get blurred.

I prefer these days, you know, because there are some porn performers who are really close friends of mine now, you know, and when it's Labor Day or Fourth of July or whatever, you know, and, like, we all kind of party together, and they're friends with my boyfriend, too, and I kind of try these days. I book myself mostly with people who are sort of, like, outside of my, like, friendship circle, you know, Because.

Because why? It's more natural.

I think it's easier for me, and I think it's a little easier for my boyfriend.

Right. Because, like, oh, you slept with him last night. Yeah.

Yeah. And, you know, obviously it happens when we go to, like, porn conventions and stuff like that.

Right. I saw you at avn.

Yeah. And obviously that's gonna happen, but I think it's a little easier, like, it's like, you know, to sleep with people who are outside of our immediate circle. And I think it's easier for me, too. It's like.

Right. No, I totally get. And that's, like, the good. To work with someone. It's organic.

It used to be different. I used to really like working with my close friends. It changes, you know, everything.

Yeah.

I've been doing it for a long time, so it changes. And that. That doesn't mean, you know, I think I like having just this. All right, like this hot, intense, you know, kind of physical relationship with a handful of people, and then I don't know them outside from that.

Exactly.

And I don't have to learn.

It's kind of nice sometimes when you don't, because I feel like that, too, with. My life is my work. My work is my life. It's nice to have separation, boundaries. Yeah. Exactly. Either. Because I love. No, it is hard.

It's hard because. Yeah, I also, you know, I'm. I'm a director, so I'm always directing people. So I'm spending a lot of time with people on set. So of course I'm going to become friends with them. But, you know, it's. There's different levels of friendship.

There's something about directing porn, like, and you write it, so you actually like. How long are the scripts? I mean, how long?

Well, it really all depends. I mean, I make movies with no scripts at all.

And then I make movies with very, very long ones. I mean, even in no script.

So is it more like somebody.

Well, like, like one of my more recent movies came out Latex. Latex. Xxx. So it's latex with three X's.

Burning movie.

I'm in. Yeah. Burning angel dot com. They can buy it. You can find it there. You get it most adult video stores too. And it's a latex fetish movie. So I got all these. I got beautiful latex dresses from Siren Latex. They make latex. They make such amazing stuff.

Okay.

I'm real like fashion, fashiony, like couture. Couture latex. So anyway, I mean, it's a latex finish. And you saw the girls are wearing these gorgeous latex outfits and you know, myself. And then the beginnings, just like a striptease. I know a lot of latex fetishes. They like to hear you, like, like the sound that the outfit makes when you're rubbing up and down, you know, like, kind of like masturbating with the latex, like on top of your perfume.

That feels really good.

Yeah, Anything looks so beautiful. And I did a lot in that movie. Like when there's not a plot, I try to do a lot with the lighting and. And stuff like that. So the lighting was very dramatic and intense. Everything, it was almost like, like kind of artsy the way I did it, you know.

Do you figure out all the lighting and stuff too, or do you.

I mean, I have a lighting guy, but I always talk to him, you know, about what I want.

Right, exactly.

You know, and we all work together. So in that movie there's just, you know, like a three to five minute kind of like tease. There's two girl girl scenes in the movie and then there's. There's two solos in the movie and then there's two boy girl scenes in the movie. And so, yeah, I just, you know, masturbated and did some cool, like, strip teasy, like Things with latex on. And then someone comes in the room and they have sex, and that's that.

Like, that's. There you go.

There we go.

Exactly.

So there's that. And then. And then I've done ones with really long scripts. I mean, some of the more popular ones. Some of our parodies are really popular. We have a Walking Dead parody. It's one of the most popular movies we ever did. That, of course, has a long script I just made. There's another movie that's out that I loved. One of my favorite movies we put out this year. It's called Vampire Cheerleaders. And it's a whole long movie about me and my friends being cheerleaders, but we're vampires. And we've been trying to make it to the. The reason why we, like, became vampires. We were trying to make it to the finals. We're really bad cheerleaders. So we've been trying to make it to the finals for 700. And, like, I don't know.

I love it because the whole vampire phrase, that must trend right now. Can't that. So that does.

And then there's, like, a werewolf that's trying to, like, be our friend, and we pick on him because there's, like, the vampires versus werewolf things. So, like, he, like, is trying to fit in with us, and we.

And you wrote that script, too?

Yeah, I wrote the whole script. And there's, like, special effects, and we kill people.

Like, oh, my God. I gotta check it. I love it. But people can. Burning Angel.

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Hey, how you doing?

Great, how are you? I'm so glad you called about Christy Mac, because I was actually going to start with that, but we. Joanne and I just gone off on a tangent here, but so sad what's happened to porn star Christy Mac.

Her savage beating by her MMA boyfriend. And so Eddie, was that. That was your question. Have you. Have you. Are you friends with her at all?

I mean, we're not. We're not friends. I've actually never met her. We obviously have crop, you know, we have similar circles of friends. We have a mutual respect for one another. But I don't know her, so I'm not. Just because something bad happened, I can't pretend that I'm her best friend. But I obviously, I, you know, I tweeted out a link to her medical fund and I, you know, put on on our Instagram to, you know, the reward money to find War Machine. And I, you know, put it out there that I support her and obviously it's a terrible thing that happened.

Terrible pictures, everything.

I don't know her personally, so I don't know anything else other than what's out in the news. I know just as much as you.

Right. So, Eddie, What? Do you have another question?

Do you know that War Machine is a psychopath, though? He's been around the porn industry before.

Really? Yeah.

He came to an industry party. It was like six or seven years ago. You could find it if you search through, like archives of the news. And he beat up like six people. And there was a performer that I was supposed to work with, and the scene had to get canceled the next day because the person that I was supposed to work with was in the hospital.

Are you serious? Yeah.

And this was like six, seven years ago, so. And I actually after that, I haven't even Heard his name until him and Christy got together. Then I started hearing his name again. I was like. I was like, this guy's back. I thought he was done. Who let him back into this world?

He's a psychopath. I don't know anything that happened.

Eddie had another question for you too. Eddie, did you have another question? Yeah.

Yeah.

Well, thank you for answering that, and we all feel for it. No, I guess my second question was it kind of came.

In the aftermath of that.

Particularly War Machine. He tweeted about it afterwards like he was glorifying it. I mean, he was proud that he was Crush your face in.

No, he didn't do. I mean, I don't think he did that. He hasn't like it. He hasn't admitted it. He tried to lie.

He tried to lie afterwards. Right.

Okay, well, whatever.

It's like, you know, I mean, his actual, like, his actual, you know, writing or, like, what he said is very. It's convoluted. I mean, he took it down pretty quick because I think he was.

But they've had a very. Their relationship has always been very public and very. They've always insulted each other on Twitter.

Like.

Like, I never thought it was very funny, but I. You know, for a while, it was kind of passed off as, like, oh, like a. Like, this is just. This is just what they do question.

Though, is like, even if. I mean, even if, like, you know, he's joking about in the past, this time, obviously, he, you know, he wasn't. And the response from that. Response from the world or a lot of people, you know, was positive to that. Like, I mean, many bros in the world were like, yeah, whatever the hell. I mean, how prevalent is the violent part of your industry? Is. I mean, is it that prevalent?

War Machine's not in my industry, so I just want to make that clear. He's not a porn guy. He's an MMA fighter that did a couple porn movies.

Right.

Because people in porn do love celebrities, so the sec. You know.

Right.

I will say that, but he's not part of my industry at all.

Okay, well, no, no, no. I mean, I didn't mean. I didn't mean him particularly. I meant what meant was, like, how, like, how prevalent is, like, where, like, do people blur those lines sometimes? Like, is that, like, when in porn?

I'm not sure what you're asking.

Yeah, well, no, I'm sorry. It's. It's hard. It's hard to. It's hard to put into words, like, basically, like, how I. Like, there's A lot of. There's a lot of bondage and a lot of, like, a little bit more rougher porn out there. And then you see guys like War Machine blur those lines a lot.

And I think it happens in every. Everywhere. There's just abusive people. Women make bad choices. They don't know ahead of time. Guys are, you know, I mean, porn.

Is a controlled environment.

So, you know, the things that you know, are, yeah, quote, violence and porn. I mean, that. That's rough sex, and that's much different. You know, when two people are having sex with each other and then they start getting rough and they start playing around. I personally, I mean, I can't speak for all of porn. Like, we don't film anything that rough because I'm not. I don't like what it. I don't like the super rough porn, but it is out there, and the rough porn that is out there, it is consensual. And it's a controlled environment.

It is controlled and more safe than this guy.

And also, people are having sex while it's happening. So that's. I think that's where the line is drawn. I mean, what War Machine did to Chrissy Mackie went into her house. They were not. They were not playing a sex game. That went too far.

Exactly.

You know, he was beating her up. There was no attention there.

Thanks for your call, Eddie. Yeah, it's true. It's just. It's just really sad. I mean, it happens in any. It should be in any industry women make, you know, whatever. You just don't know. It's very sad what happened. So, yeah, we've been tweeting out as well. So before all this, this break, I was. You were saying something about, okay, the movies. Oh, yeah, the movies you were making. And so what is your favorite kind of porn? Like, what are the days you're like, oh, good, today I get to do blank.

Well, my. I mean, I love all the movies that we do. You know, like I said, I did love the latex movie, but I have to say my favorite movies are the. Are the big features with the plots and the. You know, just at the end of.

The day with women, you like the plot? The porn with the plot.

Yeah. At the end of the day, I just. I feel so proud. And it's fun because those are the movies where I can actually, like, show it to my friends and take the sex out and they love it and.

What do you mean take the sex out for your friends? Because they're like, I don't want to.

Like, you're no, yeah, like my good friends. Like, like. And also the sex scenes, they're long, Right. I remember. I, I, I, I've done screenings of some of my movies before. There's a small sex shop in New York, and they let me screen some of my movies. So I've picked movies that I really like. And I'll just make the sex scenes, like a minute or two minutes long, and they show the plot and then, you know, and then like a minute or two of sex, which sounds like it's not a lot, but it's long. So watch like, two minutes of people fucking, like, in a whole room full of people. You know, Like, I've tried it. I've done it before, where I leave it at 10 minutes. I'm like, oh, maybe they. Because everybody says, like, more sex. And I'm like, at 10 minutes, it's so awkward.

Right?

So, yeah, I'm like, okay, I'm gonna put it at two minutes, maybe three minutes.

But that's so funny, being able to.

Sit in a room and people laugh at the funny parts and they clap when, like, the bad guys winning and the, and the good, you know, like, when, like, to see people react to my porno movies, like, their real movies. Like, I really. That was one of the moments in my career where I, like, I, like, sat in the room and I almost cried, you know, because I don't get to see people watch my movies. It's always a personal, personal thing.

Yes.

So when I got to take some of my movies and, and, like, I love comedy, and I really do love making people laugh. And it's hard to make people laugh.

It is hard to make people laugh.

Especially, you know, you're dealing with so many, like, uncontrollable variables. You know, you've got all these porn actresses, and none of us are amazing actors and actresses, so I always try to get the most out of everyone. Like, I try to highlight their.

I don't really put people in features unless I kind of know them. So I'll always sort of write a character based around their personality as it is.

So they're just focused. Yeah.

So it's not so much of a stress on the line.

Okay. Brian's been at hold for a while. He's got a question for you. Hey, Brian, thanks for calling Sex With Emily, you're on with Joanne Angel.

Yes, I'm here to ask her how did she come up with the name Burning Angel?

Oh, my God, it was so long ago. I don't know. Just me and my My business partner. We were just sitting around throwing a bunch of different names out and I don't know, it just kind of.

It's a good one.

It just kind of came out.

Are you fan, Brian?

Yeah.

Yeah. Who isn't? Right. What do you love about. Tell me why. Okay. There's lots of porn out there. Why do you love Burning Angel? What sets it apart?

It kind of sounds funny. Like an angel in hell or some shit.

It's a what?

It sounds like an angel in hell.

Oh, you like the name, but what about the porn?

Love a lot of it. I love women in tattoos.

Yeah, they're hot and they're hot. Women in tattoos. Yeah. That's awesome. Okay, thanks, Brian. Hope we answered. Question. Your question. Thanks for calling Sex Family Bernie Angel. It's a good site. When you got a good brand and you sell a lot of stuff on your site, right? You got like.

Oh, yeah, yeah.

There's a lot paraphernalia.

T shirts.

Okay. So I have a few emails from my listeners that I'd love you to help me answer. Are you cool with that?

Sure.

Sex tips. Okay. It's called Bad in Bed. Dear Emily, I recently read the article you wrote, 10 signs you're bad in Bed. Oh, I think this is for Men's Fitness. And it left me with a big question from my own section, Sex life. How can I get my partner to read this without directly asking him to? How do you bring up the fact that your partner is bad in bed? Thanks, Jennifer. So I wrote this thing for men's Fitness. I believe you can just, yeah, go to Men's Fitness and search my name. But it had like five bazillion shares on it. And it was like 10 Reasons yous're Bad in Bed for Men. And obviously a lot of people shared it. They liked the tips. But Jennifer wants to know how you tell them. How do you approach your partner? What do you think?

I don't mean to. I hope I'm not contradicting.

I didn't say how you tell your partner. I just said 10 reasons you know that you're bad in bed. But I didn't say, here's how you tell her.

I have a theory that I don't think anyone is bad in bed. I think it's all about the chemistry you have with someone else. Because there's definitely people I've slept with that I've heard. Other girls.

Me too.

That guy's awesome in bed. And I didn't have a good experience. But that has to do with what your Chemistry is.

Exactly. They might be bad for you, so.

That might be bad for you.

Right. There's not like a universal. But I would also, you gotta pick the right time. You got to be careful how you approach it. Also, you don't want to insult with your partner.

It's such a tricky thing, you know, because I feel like once you start over talking about sex, it's hard to have good sex anymore, you know, And I think.

I think if you. It sounds like, you know, she's probably stuck in a routine with her partner and some of that might be her fault, too.

Exactly.

All the blame.

5050 Jennifer, really? So I.

Did my mic just go out or something? I don't know.

Instead of telling him, I would say what he's doing wrong. You can just kind of say, tell him what you want more of. You know, I love that time when you were kissing my breasts out in the sun. We were sitting on the beach in Hawaii, whatever.

Buy some sexy lingerie and come out of the bathroom and be like, hey. And like, just give him, like, the world's greatest blowjob and just, like, see how he reacts, you know? Like, he might be a little bit submissive. He might just need you to, like, more from her. Yeah. But she might have to just kind of. Sometimes if you put that energy out there, then you might get it back, you know, like, she might just have to, like, find that slut in her.

Exactly. Find your inner slut.

Find your inner slut. I see.

Like, as far as the article goes, I mean, you could seriously also just somehow say, this is really funny. Like, this is an article I came across, and it made me think, I. I think you're. I love having sex with you, but I thought, you know, I actually would like more oral sex. I think I love when you do it, but I feel like lately we've been so busy and. God, that really is so hot the way you do it or something. I mean, you got to give him some. Yeah.

Or just when he's in the middle of a sentence, be like, shut up and eat my pussy. And, like, just see what happens, you know?

But you want to pick the right time. You don't want to talk about in your bed. You don't want to whatever. Because he'll, like, lose his erection and the whole thing. I mean, there has to be a right time in place to address it. And I mean, again, it is chemistry and it is communicating. You don't, I guess, you know, over communication. Couples never talk about it, though. They're together forever. I mean, you're such a different world. And so where I can't be. No, but I am too now. I mean, I've had bad sex, I dated people for way too long having bad sex, which is hard.

I won't date someone, I mean, I won't date someone, I mean.

But I used to like when I started the show. I mean that's one of the reasons I started the show. I was like, how come everyone's about the best sex ever? The bad. I haven't had the best sex in my life. I want to have the best friggin sex of my life and I'm going to learn how. And I started the show, I was. Because I wasn't eight years ago, nine years, I wasn't like the expert in sex. It was more like I started interviewing people like how do you do? How do you do you do. And then I, you know, got my doctorate, all this stuff. But yeah, you know, you got to learn and you got to communicate with him what you want. Because men are not mind readers. So many women believe that he's just going to figure it out. He's magically going to know. And no, they don't know anything. They really don't. And if they do know something, his last partner could have been very different from you, Jennifer. So another question here is, is. Hi, am I'm worried my boyfriend fantasizes over other girls. Whether it be during sex or when he's by himself. It's starting to really ruin my sex life with him as well as my thoughts on myself. I ask him, am I good enough? Am I sexy? All to which. All which he continually says I'm everything he wants. But it's still so frustrating. Do you have any advice or opinions? Thanks, Emily.

Everybody fantasizes about other people. There's, you know, as long as. As you're. He's not actually fucking those people.

Yeah, exactly. I'm wondering, Emily, why you, first of all, why you're so worried about why you.

But what's in his brain?

Yeah, exactly.

It's a dream. That's like the times when I've like woken up and I'm like, I'm like, you did something mean in my dream. And then we get. And me and my boyfriend will get in a fake fight over it. He's like, I didn't do that. That was in your dream. You can't get angry at somebody for what's in their head. And maybe he's thinking of something that turns him on. And then he is having sex with his like that's.

I don't exactly. I mean the thing is that you say you're worried over fantasies, but I want to know like why. Why are you thinking this?

She's like competing with something that doesn't exist.

Exactly. And I'm telling you, confidence is the number one sexy.

Yeah. Once you start being like, am I good enough?

Yeah.

It's like. Like nobody. Imagine if he was saying that to her. She would. She would not want to have sex. No.

Am I good? Am I penis big enough? The whole thing. Jennifer, you gotta. You gotta cultivate your confidence. It's gotta. And this is Emily, not Jennifer. She was last Emily. You have got to cultivate talking to another. You gotta cultivate your confidence. If that's the one thing that you work on right now. Is, is. Is. Is loving your body. Appreciate it. Maybe you need to spend some more time alone masturbating. So you can like tell him what you want in the bedroom. And if you're worried about your excitement in your sex life, you can ask your boyfriend if there's anything he wants to try. But if you keep asking him, he's not going to tell you. Yeah, babe. Actually, I was just thinking about Joanna. Angel. But she probably was. Sorry, Emily, but no, really. I mean, I don't know why you're so focused on this to be honest. Honest. I know that guys do this sometimes. I've never had that thought. I just assume I'm the best lover and he's looking at me and if he's not. Okay. But I don't even think. My mind doesn't go there. And. And you got to train your mind not to go there and to be in the moment with him and get him.

It's just a thought, right?

Thoughts are not. The thoughts are not real. It is not real. We're here to tell you that it's not real. So I would. You know, maybe it's not. There's probably something else going on underneath here and it's. I'm not sure why. Maybe it's shading in the past. I'm. But this could destroy your sex life. Single handedly. You could destroy it. So you need to figure out what it is and stop worrying about it. Because it's gonna be a self filling prophecy and just work on yourself and talk to about it and get over your insecurities. Easier said than done. Might need some therapy.

Okay.

Another one here. Dear Emily, we all need a little therapy.

Right? Talking about issues. I went to therapy for a very long time.

Yeah, me too. Dear Emily, I'm a huge fan of your show and listen to your podcast every week. I love all your advice, special guests and sex tips. My boyfriend and I have been together for over five months and I still have not had an orgasm. We have had multiple honest conversations about what we want in the bedroom, but I feel like he still does not listen. For instance, I have told him I need a lot more foreplay before we have sex. Yet every time we do it, it's never enough. We've tried mutual masturbation so he can learn what I like as well as new positions, but nothing seems to work.

Stressful.

I am so stressed out. I don't want to nagging about it all the time, but I honestly, how could I make him listen to me when I say I need more foreplay? Any advice or tips you have for me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. Liz.

Sweet. How does you need.

I mean, she's talking to him, talking to him, talking to him. I mean, I want to know. First of all, for everyone out there, foreplay really isn't a suggestion. It's a requirement for most women. You gotta have it. So I'm not sure, Liz, is the problem that he isn't trying during foreplay or that he isn't succeeding? So is it that, that he is he trying it and you're not pleased? Are you communicating to him what you want? And you keep saying that you need more foreplay, you need more foreplay and you've never had an orgasm. I really don't like it when women not have an orgasm. They blame it on their partner because it's really your responsibility. So do you know how to have an orgasm? Of course.

Can you just lay him down? And then I love Joanna's like, just take over.

Okay. Yeah, do what you want. Bring out. Whip out your vibrator. I mean, women do require.

Take his head when he's going down and you just move his head to the right spot. Just sit on his face. How can you not have an orgasm sitting on his face?

Exactly.

Just move your pussy into the right position and make him do it.

Yeah, exactly. I mean, women do require on average to get warmed up men, he require like 20, 30 minutes of foreplay. And so if he's. What he's doing isn't enough, you should consider like taking intercourse off the men. You tell him you're not going to have sex the them for a few weeks and you're just gonna focus on foreplay. Because sometimes I tell that to couples who, you know, sex becomes an Issue for them. They're like, oh, sex is a thing we haven't had in a while. They're arguing like, okay, let's rebuild your sex life. Just start with touching, start with massage, start with something else. Just tell them that you just don't want to have sex and you want to focus on exploring other erogenous zones. Anderson, were you gonna say something there? No. You were just looking intently. Okay, I'm listening.

There's just a lot of action going on in there, so.

But I'm listening.

There is. I love it. Okay, so this could help if the problem. If he's rushing and skipping on the foreplay because he wants his turn. Another option could be introducing him to sex toy in the bedroom. Do you use a sex toy, Liz? If you do, bring that on. Because that's going to help you have your orgasm. I mean, yeah, but then that might.

It sounds like they need to learn how to have one without one. Because then if the sex toy gives an orgasm, then what are they going to use it every single time?

Exactly. And it could also be mental that you're focusing too hard.

She's a bit of a control freak.

Yeah, exactly.

I just have to let go. But I'd say just sit on his face. I think you should start with that.

Game over. Sit on his face.

Move your clit into the right position. And he actually won't.

And he's trying, but it's like she says, like he's failing. So I really just think that you, it's something about you.

Like move him around, show him.

You got to show him and you got to tell him that you love him and that like you need it more. Guys, I don't understand, like, what, I mean, do you feel like, so what do you think you've learned mostly by being important after 12 years? Like if you look at Joanna when you started and where you're at now, how do you think that you've evolved?

You've gone through that, a lot of changes.

I'm sure you have. So when you started out, you were like late bloomer, and now 12 years later, you're like the porn queen Joanna angel that we're talking to here. What is it that you have learned about sex that's made your sex life better and that you could impart wisdom to my loyal, lovely listeners?

Yeah, I mean, you, you know, you gotta like really be in the moment. You know, you gotta like put everything else aside and it's a two way street, you know, like even if you're just having a one Night stand with someone or even when I'm just at work with someone. It's like, I need to make the guy that I'm working with feel good because he needs to have an erection in order for the scene to keep going and in order for the scene to end, you know, like, I need to make him feel good and he needs to make me feel good so we can continue in this thing we both agreed to do together. And that's kind of just. That's what it is. It's a partnership.

It is a partnership.

It's a mutual partnership.

It's selfish. Yeah.

You need to. And I mean, I think, you know, that's how it works at work and that's how it works in real life.

What about sex? Have you had bad sex?

I mean, it's. That's difficult. I have had some bad sex.

How would you describe your bad sex?

I can't count any sex at work because sometimes the bad sex I would have at work is like, oh, if we're fucking on, like, an uncomfortable.

Right before, even, like. No, no.

I've had. I've been on some very bad dates.

And what made it bad?

Well, I think. Well, actually, it was. I don't know, like. Because, like, when I was single, I was, you know, before I was with my boyfriend, I went on a series of dates with people and I was already, like, a porn star. And I think that made, like, some people nervous. And then when it came down to sex, like, I dealt with ejaculation.

No.

They couldn't even get their dick hard.

Wow. Yeah, sure.

I remember going on a date with someone. Like, the end of the date, he was, like, jerking off of my bed, like, crying.

Oh, my God, you made him cry. You brought him to tears.

I didn't even. I was like, it's cool. We can just watch tv. Like, it's whatever.

Right? Or you could leave. Don't hit you in the ass, buddy.

Awkward.

I know.

I think that he was just building it up. Like, I have to compete with what I saw her do on camera.

Right.

And, you know, I get it. I feel that. And that's totally not, you know, how you are, what I wanted or how I feel.

Like, that's my day job at all, you know?

Yeah. Like, if I wanted to have that kind of sex at home, then I would just go on a date with someone I work with. I mean, I have great sex at home, but, like, it just. It's just different. I don't even know how to, like.

Right. You know, I got It. Because I always used it. When I first started my show, I was like, what is good sex to you? What is bad sex? I always wanted to know what people meant when they were like, what's the best?

I think, could I ask you, like.

What'S the best sex of your life? Could you say, like, with the best time, you would think you're. Do you have a moment or a thing that makes sense?

Yeah, I mean, it's hard to pinpoint it, you know, when you've had like lots of partners you've had. Oh, no, I. I have not had that many partners.

But yeah, I have. You know, I really. More like, I think I. People say it's because I'm a Capricorn or something. I've never really been that good at being like a total slut. I know it's ironic being like a porn star, but I've always been like a. I had tried it. Like, I remember, like I lived in New York and I was going out all the time. I was like, yeah, I want to like fuck different guys that I meet all the time. And I would like, try and like, it winds up with so much bad sex. Like going home with dudes, you know, like having like random, you know, one night flings. And I was just like, you know, the best sex you have is someone you know, connected with them. Someone you connect like after you've had sex a couple times. And you know, I've had, I've had good sex and I've had bad sex. I've had some horrible, horrible, like one night stands.

Why was it so bad? Just, can you tell me the worst? One night stand and then we're gonna.

Oh, I wrap it up. Yeah, just, you know, tell me what happened with a guy that's like really, really, really drunk. You know, you know, the guy's hard and then he's soft. And then like sometimes, you know, like these guys, like, they get to a place so they're just like trying to like overcompensate because they're like so drunk and.

Right.

And then they're trying to like get it together. So they're kind of being rough, but it's like not coming across right. It's just like drunk, right?

You just want to give him a tranquilizer and call it a day. I totally get it.

I don't know.

Yeah, watch your alcohol intake. Especially, you know, on your first second date and for your entire life, actually. Drunk guys are not attracted.

I've had good drunk sex too, but, you know, and there's just been that bad, bad. One night stand, drunk, where you're like, what am I doing? I should have stayed home and just ate pizza.

I know. I regret. Why did I freaking sleep with him? This is a waste of time. Finish some work or clean out my underwear drawer.

Waste of a condo.

Okay, Joanna, we gotta wrap up. Tell me everyone can find you at.

Burning angel, joannangel.com, joanngel.com, find me on Twitter. It's oannaangel. Instagram's joannangel. I actually have my own radio show. Oh, yeah, on Vivid Radio.

Tell me Every.

Every Tuesday from 1 to 2pm it's on Vivid Radio. You can find it on vividradio.com it's also. It's on Sirius, but it's like not on the console. It's kind of confusing. So you have to download the Sirius app. Okay, you can listen to it on that, but you can just click mine. Click Vivid Radio and you can find my name.

And by the way, it's on every.

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And yes, buy my Fleshlight. You can buy it@tinyurl.com jafleshlight it will take you right to me.

Exactly. There you go. Or also sex the emily.com Fleshlight Joann, I love having you on the show. You're awesome.

I love being here. The time goes by so fast.

I know, see, because we just talk like two little chatty Jews. Okay, everyone, find me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Sex with Emily. Thanks everyone for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwith emily.com.

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So what are some common mistakes that guys make during sex?

I mean, we hear all the time.

Like, guys make this. Guys did that. I think one of the most common things is guys have no idea what women want.

Exactly. That is a great mistake. That many men.

Great mistake.

It's a great mistake. No, you're right on point with that. The guys assume that, you know, my last girlfriend wanted this. She must want this. But I mean, as you mature sexually, you should never assume this. You should never make assumptions that every woman is the same. So what you gotta do is learn how to communicate with your partner and find out what she wants. You do not know what the this woman wants. I'm telling you, first time you have sex with her, you have no idea.

You have no idea.

Really? No. There's not like a universal thing that every woman likes except for maybe, you know, diamonds or something. We're talking about sex.

Okay, and what else?

The thing is, number two is that you have all she needs. Okay? Some women, I'm telling you, Jordan, they cannot have an orgasm with less than 3000 RPMs. No human tongue or fingers can generate that kind of vibration. But men think sometimes something's wrong with them if they need a vibrator. And I tell all women and guys like, don't be intimidated by the vibrator. If that's what she needs to get off, bring the vibrator into the room. Have your own little threesome there with her and her vibrator. You know, it's a lot less work for the guy and a lot more pleasure for her.

That makes sense. Alright.

Yeah. And you know, people can always go to goodvibes.com and use coupon code Emily and get discount on vibrator.

Good to know. A little vibrator discount never hurts. A lot of guys think that. Women think just like we do. So there's like kind of. We think that sex feels the same for us as it does for you.

Exactly. And that's a huge disconnect because when a man has sex with a woman, his penis goes into her body. So is that how that works? Yeah.

This is sex is 101m4.

Exactly. But think about that. It's like off the charts. And you just think, guys are like, I can't imagine what that feels like. But they can't imagine that that feeling isn't the same way for her. But the inside of the vagina is less sensitive than the outer parts for most women. So deep thrusting into the vagina, vagina isn't necessarily great for women. It's the outer 2/3 of the vagina that are most sensitive.

So you don't want to bang on that cervix.

No, I mean, some, it feels good for a little bit, but you want to mix it up all the time. It does not feel the same way for women. And the clitoris, just because you're having sex, you got to pay attention to the clitoris. Whether she uses her hands, use your hands or a vibrator, but the clitoris. Most women need a clitoral orgasm before they even have any other kinds of orgasms?

Good to know. And we'll continue some of these sex mistakes next week. If you guys want to learn more from the Art of Charm, about dating, relationships, and even networking for business, Visit us at theartofcharmpodcast.com or check us out in itunes and follow me on Twitter at theart of Charm.

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