7 Dec 2025 · 57 min
In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, host Emily Morse and co‑host Anderson Cowan blend product promotion, personal storytelling, listener advice, and bizarre news items into a free‑wheeling conversation about sex, relationships, and culture. The show opens with a detailed plug for the Hera rabbit vibrator and the Vesper necklace, followed by a discussion of Emily’s recent trip to Israel and her family’s transgender cousin. They then dive into a series of “sex in the news” stories – an Ohio woman stabbing her boyfriend over salsa, a Minnesota man charged for ejaculating in a coworker’s coffee, and a German brothel‑tester job posting. Listener emails are read, including a relationship dilemma about differing life goals, and Emily offers practical condom‑use advice, kegel‑training app promotion, and tips on sexual positions and communication. Mid‑episode the hosts promote Emily’s own “Hot Sex” book, call for interns, and advertise the upcoming Sexual Health Expo in Phoenix. They discuss Anderson’s Film Vault podcast and exchange opinions on recent movies such as Wild, Whiplash, Danny Collins, and the HBO documentary Going Clear, even critiquing the lack of sexual allegations in the Scientology narrative. The episode also features a Fleshlight promotion and a sponsorship spot for Qualia Magnesium Plus, tying supplement benefits to sexual health. Throughout, the hosts maintain a conversational, humorous tone, mixing earnest advice with satire and occasional off‑color jokes, while repeatedly urging listeners to follow them on social media, leave reviews, and engage via email.
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It's really cool and it stays really shiny.
It's really shiny and pretty. And I wear it every single day.
Polish in it.
I'm not polishing it. You mean with my. You know what?
Yeah, that's how it works.
I can't talk about that on the show. So anyway, check it out. Go to lovecrave.com. they've won a bunch of awards. It's just the coolest thing that you need to buy yourself or someone you love. And yeah, thanks for listening, everyone.
Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions.
They call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend, cuz? My man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.
The girl's gotta have her standards.
Oh, my. The women know about shrinkage.
Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?
Are you kidding me?
Oh, my God, I feel so good.
Being bad feels pretty good. Well, you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.
You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Sex with Emily podcast. We do two. We do two a week. We do eight a month. That is a lot of freaking podcasts. You can check them all out on itunes. Some people aren't huge fans of itunes. You can download the Podcast One app, the Stitcher app, anything listen to on your smartphone. So easy. I feel like we need. I'm here with Anderson. I do feel like we need to do like a public service announcement so people understand podcasts. It's still sometimes people listening, you guys know, but they don't realize how easy it is.
That'd be a weird psa.
It's a really short one.
Want to hear uncensored filth on demand? Listen here at local psa.
No, but I mean, like, people are like, how do I do it? I'm like, it's so easy. People don't realize how easy it is.
It's weird. It is strange how few people actually still to this day. I think cereal helped.
That's what I'm saying. It did help people. Like, oh, cereal. I'm like, yeah, yeah, Especially the oldies.
They're like, wait, wait, I gotta use it, listen on my phone and make it downloadable.
And then I have to pay for that, right?
The whole thing.
It's weird, but it's not weird. And you can subscribe on itunes and then you get it in your inbox, in your itunes every day. Or what else was the other like, droid. What do they use for droid?
Stitcher.
Stitcher is the best one. I love Stitcher. I used to record there before I knew you. So do that and check it out in our website. Also, sign up for, you know, our newsletter. I give good newsletter. Gotta say, I do it. And I'm here with Anderson. It's great to see you again. It's been a little while.
It's been a minute.
It's been hurting.
Yeah.
Miss you.
You were off.
I was off in Israel.
Yeah.
Off out of the country. No, it was great. It was great with my. It was very cathartic and spiritual and intense. Cause I was in a bus with my family for eight days.
Did you wear a shawl on your head? No. You didn't wear anything on your head? No.
Like a hat? No, it wasn't.
It just seems like everybody. Every time I see pictures or video or anything of like, the Middle east or Islam.
Well. Cause they're like fighting in Muslim.
Well, they're also like fighting the sun, right?
Oh, yeah. Yeah. It wasn't that hot yet. I mean, it was hot, but not. I went to the Dead Sea. It was. My niece had it. But it was fun because I'm not very religious, but I did experience.
Says the lady who wears a dildo around her neck. That's funny.
You know, the Jews are all into sex. It's funny. We. We don't have any issues like Catholicism or anything else where they're, you know, in the afterlife, you're going to be so punished in some way.
Like, there's like no heaven or hell, really, right?
No, nothing. We're like, we're Live on through your living time while we're here. Let's have a good time while we're here. But it is funny because if you look at a lot of the sex expert sex educators, a lot of them are Jewish, which is interesting. And so it was also interesting being with my family because, you know, it's often a mirror unto yourself. And often the things in our parents that kind of tweak us are things that we kind of see in ourselves sometimes, too. Do you realize that?
Nature, nurture. Yeah, for sure.
But I also noticed that I am like a Martian when it comes to my family. I mean, they all live in the Midwest. They haven't moved. You know, they're sophisticated. They're a sophisticated people. But yet my life.
I met your brother. Yeah. He's like a top level executive lawyer.
Hardcore. Yeah.
But you needed a faster paced lifestyle, I think, right?
And I marched the beat of my own drummer. I try to educate my nieces, you know, because we actually have a family member, close family member, who is transgendered, who's become going from a female cousin to a male cousin. And so it's been really confusing to them. And so we were talking about. It just made me think about this because I. I said to them, and then I found. I said to them that transgender people are. It's become this whole, like, explosion now. Like, no one was really understanding it or talking about it now. And now, like, in media and like, Orange is New Black. And it's kind of like the thing that.
Whatever. Like, how gay. Like, I didn't know a lot of gay people when they didn't come out when I was in high school or in college. But now I think the trend is.
A new movement becoming a more common thing.
It's becoming more common. And I was trying to explain to her that it's not because they're so confused by it, but the thing about transgender people. People think like, okay, we're talking about Bruce Jenner, of course. That's how they learned about it because they love the Kardashians. And it's not that Bruce, like, they're like. Well, I think it's because, you know, he's been around women. So people who are transgender, they actually, like, know at a young age. Like, a lot of your gay people, like, know it for fourth grade, fifth grade, you know, when they're so. They just. But they think they have to live in this body. So anyway, it was time they become.
Lesbians, which is very odd and strange.
You mean when a man changes to a woman.
Whole nother level to try and understand too?
Yeah, exactly. There's a lot to understand.
A lot of them, they love women so much, they want to be a woman, and they feel like they are a woman. You know what? This is just.
They feel like they are.
There's a very. You might find this interesting. There's a really interesting documentary from a few years ago called Hole W H O L E. Okay. And it's all about people who. They're not transgender, but they feel like they shouldn't have an arm. Like, they're like, they. They just know. Almost like in a past life they didn't have an arm, and like, their appendage really bothers them, and then they go ahead. And a lot of these people in the documentary Hole whe they actually have their arm removed.
Do you talk about in your podcast?
What?
A long time ago. Yeah. Wow.
It made me think of it, because it's kind of the same thing as transgender.
Yeah.
Because you always feel like there's something wrong. Something's not right.
You're like, I know that I'm a girl, or I know that I'm a boy. Because it's not about sexual attraction. It really is about identity. So I think it was. I was trying to educate them. My brother just, like, rolling his eyes at me, but then I found this great article. Post said the same thing, that there's an explosion right now, and I felt more justified. So next week, I am going to Vegas for the podcast Awards, and I'm hosting.
Dr. Drew is gonna be there.
Oh, yeah.
I think Dr. Drew is gonna be, like, the MC.
I'm the emcee. No, I'm the host. I'm fighting over the mics with Chris Jericho.
Oh, he's a good guy. I like him.
I don't. He's a wrestler.
Yeah. Yeah.
That's all I know.
He's a podcaster.
Yeah, he's a podcaster. Wrestler.
Good guy.
Yeah. Okay, cool. It's gonna be fun. He's cute, but he's married, but whatever. It'll be fun. We're doing it together and giving away awards, so hopefully good times. We're doing it real quick.
Did your. Did your cousin change their name too?
Yeah, and they're confused because she's like, you know, 20. He's like, 24.
That's a little young to be doing that, I think. Well, a little young.
I don't know. They changed, but didn't get the. Didn't get a penis put out or anything like that yet. Like, hasn't done the full surgery, but taking hormones, and they're just like, ah. They roll their eyes. And I want to educate them that.
It'S, you know, changing the name is almost as big a deal, though. You know what I mean?
Oh, yeah. And for the parents to be like, how parents do it to their kids. I mean, the whole thing is confusing to kids.
But the Wachowski brothers who made the Matrix, one of them transgender.
Really? Yeah, just recently.
Three, four years ago. So now they're not the Wachowski brothers. They're the Wachowski siblings.
Right?
Yeah.
Interesting, right? It's becoming more prevalent, right? It is. And the whole thing about Bruce Dunner, too, is that I think it's like. It's what they've said is that he knew when he was younger, but he was like, okay, well, what can I do to counter this? Because of course, no one's going to accept it. I'm going to become an Olympic athlete because that's the most masculine thing that you could do that would actually track and field. You're right. But still, he went for it, and then he marries, like, an alpha woman and the whole thing. Okay, we've got some great sex in the news today, too, so I would just like to get into that.
Anderson, I love the sex in the news.
Hilarious. Well, you're going to love it because there's some good ones. Ohio woman stabs boyfriend in groin for eating all her salsa. Of course this happened in Ohio. And I say of course because the Midwest is not known for their salsa or Mexican food. So Phyllis Jefferson's temper may be as hot as her salsa. Police in Akron, Ohio, said Jefferson, 50, allegedly stabbed her boyfriend in the groin with a pen Sunday evening after he ate all the salsa in their salsa in their house. Cleveland.com reports Jefferson's boyfriend, Ronnie D. Booker, told police that he and the accused were arguing about the salsa consumption when she allegedly stabbed him with a pen. The suspect then walked over the TV and threatened to knock it on the floor. According to ohio.com, ohio.com and cleveland.com sounds very busy. When Buckner grabbed the TV, Jefferson allegedly walked to the kitchen to grab a knife and use it to cut him in the stomach. Jefferson fled the scene while Buckner called 91 1. Responding officers found him on the floor clutching his stomach. He was taken to a nearby hospital, treated for injuries that were believed to be non life threatening. So Jefferson was arrested a short time. When police pulled her over on the highway, she allegedly admitted to stabbing Buckner and said she did it because she wanted to leave. Jefferson was charged with felonious assaults and she's booked in the jail. Okay, so here's the deal. Like I said, I understand this. I moved to California. I had never had good salsa from Michigan. I'd never seen an avocado. I could understand her being aggressive about her salsa.
She's not about the salsa.
Okay, fine. She was already gonna leave anyway.
Maybe she found out it was made in New York City.
I don't know. What? But she said it was an excuse. But I would just think that, you know what? It was the salsa that broke the camel's back.
Sorry, My. My drum's a little rusty.
I'm funny. No, but really, I mean, so that's what it is. But. But I really. When I first read It. I was like, oh, she really is pissed off. But, you know when you have snacks, does this ever happen? Does this happen when you get married?
No, no, no, I'm not.
You don't get bummed if your wife eats your Pop Tarts or whatever it is you eat?
Do what you want, honey. Have what you want.
Oh, you're. You're a good husband, I think.
Oh, there's a store down the street, you know.
Yeah. But you say, go get it. Like, whoever killed it refilled it.
No, no, no. I. I did that with my siblings, but not my wife.
Oh, that's sweet. Okay, Anderson, this is important.
How drunk were these Salsa eating?
That's what I want to know, too. They probably were drunk, but it's like.
Salsa'S code for something. I can't.
I don't even know. They must have been a little messed up.
Remember that. That old ad for salsa? And they'd find out that it was made in New York City, and then they say, get a rope because they wanted to kill the person? No, because you got to eat salsa. That's only from Texas.
Right, right. No, I understand. I don't. I. I think that there was probably other issues.
I would think so.
Okay. Ejaculating on your colleague's food is not a sex crime in Minnesota. What?
I'm ever moving there?
Exactly. Let's be clear. Leaving any body fluid in your colleague's food will get you in trouble. Into trouble in Minnesota. And it's ill advised. But at this point, it is unclear what charge you'll be convicted of. To that end, a man was just cleared of sex charges after admitting that he ejaculated into his coworker's coffee and on her desk at work. Don't know why he admitted it.
Was there any reason to why he did this?
A judge found that John Lynn's creepy behavior didn't qualify as criminal sexual conduct even though the victim drank the tainted coffee. Minnesota law doesn't cover indirect body fluid bodily fluid contact. In other words, Lynn's non dairy creamer doesn't qualify as criminal sexual contact because he didn't ejaculate directly onto his victim.
Wait a minute. That's D, right? It's kind of straight now. I would think it'd be considered dairy.
According to the district court judge. Whatever, Patrick. The charge in part defines sexual conduct as the intentional touching with seminal fluid. Luckily, there's a good chance that the law is about to change. Can you imagine this? These lawmakers are going back to change it because it's one case. Minnesota. Whatever bill some congressman proposed, it would make adulteration by bodily fluid a misdemeanor if a person ingested the adulterated substance. Forced felony, blah, blah, blah. Clearly, in Lynn's case, prosecutors. Prosecutors thought criminal sex or conduct was the most appropriate charge. The defendant confessed, so the facts weren't in question. But the judge had to ask if, okay, why the hell did this person admit it?
So what are you advocating? Lying? I hope somebody in Minnesota runs like some politician runs and that's their stump. Like, that's what they're stomping for. They're like, arra. And I promise, if I'm elected to office, you come on your friend's call. Coffee.
You won't be arrested, right? Exactly. We don't condone doing anything to your colleagues. Food. And you shouldn't. It's not cool. You'll be arrested, fired, a roof. But hey, until the bill's passed, Lynn's convicted. It's all gray area.
Can't believe the fun.
First of all, people are going to read this to me. Like, I'm going to go ejaculate my boss's coffee.
They got a little while before the bill passes.
This is so weird. I'm like, I thought being roofied was kind of annoying and scary. Now I got to worry about you ejaculating in my coffee.
What about if you take a bunch of roofies and then your semen becomes, like, tainted with the roofies and then it's the double. You know what I mean? Like, if the man takes a bunch of roofies and then it gets in the semen. Because there's girls, and I've heard about them that swallow their boyfriend's gum and their methad.
Meth heads.
Their boyfriends are. And they get high.
Oh, from the semen.
I blame the Swedes with all this.
The Swedes with the semen, with the.
Witch part, with the weird sex laws. Because if you remember, one of the first sex in the news stories you did was about that Sweden guy, Swedish guy who was beating off in public, but he wasn't making eye contact, so it was okay.
I know. What the hell?
And Minnesota's filled with Swedes.
I know. You're right. Maybe it's a Swedish thing. I don't know. But I decided that I was gonna get a coffee maker in the office because we haven't gotten that yet. Now I'm just gonna get a Keurig because.
But you have nothing but girls working for you. You're fine.
You're right. But they might do something else. Maybe they just pee in my coffee. I'm all anxious now about my coffee. I'm just gonna be courage. Because, you know, Kurg, you got to stand there and watch it, because you're like, when is it? When's it coming? When's it coming?
It takes a full 30 seconds.
I can't wait. It's brutal. Okay, so jealous woman plasters cheating boyfriend's car with sanitary pads.
Okay, so this woman from China, she was not going to let her boyfriend get away with cheating, so she got revenge on him by sticking sanitary pads on his car down. Do you know what sanitary pads are?
Of course I know what sanitary pads are.
First of all, who the hell has seen the sanitary pads since, like, 1982?
Are they used?
Well, no. That's the thing. They're not even used. So it looks like there's cotton ball. Like, it's stupid. Like, put a dirty tampon on his car if she can do anything. But she made a huge mistake because the woman believed her boyfriend was cheating when he went to a friend's house, didn't return later. Instead of asking questions, she jumped to conclusion, assumed he was committing adultery, and plotted a way to humiliate him. But, like, he's gonna come out and be like, oh, there's sanitary napkins up here.
Maybe it's a cultural thing. Maybe that is a huge thing.
Right? Maybe sanitary napkins are much more offensive in China. So she bought 30 sanitary napkins. Think of all the people, like, who don't have sanitary napkins around the world.
They just pads, though.
Yeah, they're pads.
Another word for pads.
We could rip off the glue. Yeah, they're pads.
There's some religions where you're not allowed.
To, you know, put the stick inside of you. I get it. Yeah, totally. She then took a photo of her act of sabotage and posted online with the caption, that's right, I did it. But as it turns out, Tan was the one who had apologized. Her boyfriend says he wasn't cheating. He'd been out all night planning a surprise party for his girlfriend.
It's a bad sitcom.
I know. I asked her what happened, and she flew into a rage. She sounds a little insecure, unstable. And this is when I always say, love is blind. Dude, pay attention to this. She freaked out and did tampon, pad, whatever, pads. And you didn't even do anything wrong. So it was a rental car.
Plus, now she's bleeding all over the place because she has no pads.
I know. And how is that humiliating? And the Weird thing is in San Francisco, like, everyone decorates their car. Wouldn't even know there was pads. But whatever. It's trying a different place.
Wait, San Francisco, people that would just like, look like a fashion statement. People.
Yeah, people have stuff all over their cars. Like they have figurines, adult figurines. San Francisco, you just spend. You've been there. But like, when you just hang out and you live in the neighborhoods, like, people have cars. Yeah, I lived in near the Castro. People will spend hours. Like every single, like figurine of a action figure is glued to the car. There's sparkles or there's paint. It's just crazy.
There's been a sane guy out here in LA for years and years and he had like, his resumes and his headshots all over his car. He even had like a giant, like paper mache bust of his head on top of his car. So. And it was all like he was trying to get acting work.
Did he get it?
I don't think so. I think he died.
He died in an accident. Because that's hilarious, though. That's smart. Hire him for business. Okay, so I have even more Sex the news because these were just so frigging good.
I wish you could do a whole show with sex in the news. We could. You should, like once a week just do a whole sex.
But here's my issue, and I want to hear from you people, you people that I love.
Peeps.
My listeners. My peeps. So I've been thinking since it's my 10th year, you know, like, we did a survey on our site, which I think is still there, but we got a lot, like 900 responses, and it was really helpful. But I just think, like, what do you guys love about the show? What don't you like? What would you like to hear more of? And I think Sex the news is really fun. But then for a while I thought, you know, people want to get more sex tips and stuff. So this is just more entertaining. And there are some stuff we could pull from here. Like, you know, if you get mad at your boyfriend, you know, maybe hold off on the, you know, pads. But it's entertaining. It is. So I do this and then I get into emails and, you know, but a whole show of sex the news.
Anderson, perhaps you got some deep, dark secrets coming up too though, right? From your listeners?
Yeah, like, I got some really good emails this week. Yeah. Feedback at Sex with Emily. So this one, I thought that Mike Catherwood would actually like this job.
I'm not familiar.
He's from Loveline. Oh, so Loveline is the show that.
Oh, is he that swarthy gentleman?
Yes.
He's always saying filthy things.
You guys don't know that. I do co host. Guest. Co host Loveline every Thursday night. And it's here. Anderson's on it too. And the thing is, when does the podcast post from the Thursday show?
I have no idea. What are you talking about?
Loveline.
Oh, Loveline.
People wanna hear it when I'm on.
Yeah, like the following Sunday or Monday.
Okay, so check it out. Loveline. We were both nominated for best podcast at the Podcast Awards.
Yeah. The ones that Emily's usually on. The ones that are dated on the Loveline homepage as Sunday release.
Okay, got it. So usually I'm on Thursday night, so check that out. And Mike Catherwood is the co host of Love live with Dr. Drew. And I read this job and I thought I could see him doing this or someone I don't know.
Listen, this is a job posting.
This is a job posting. Brothel Tester is a real job where you get paid to have sex and rape cat houses. But he might not like sleeping with prostitutes. But I just thought anywhere you get to go sleep with people and then.
Like talk about it, that's like a secret shopper. But you're a john.
Yeah, exactly. Looking for a new line of work. Want to have sex with prostitutes and get paid to do it.
What part of the world is this?
Then we Germany. Then we have the job for you. Brothel Tester, a brothel company in Germany is looking to pay people to use their services so they can monitor the quality of the work going on at their cat houses. Kind of like being a quality control manager, only, you know, you get to have lots of sex.
I'm a guy, so this sounds really appealing, but I just thought it through and it sounds awful.
Yeah. Why?
Because how bad would I feel if I'm having sex with somebody for money, as far as they know, and then I'm giving them a bad score?
I know it's bad. Hopefully they wouldn't know you were the.
Guy because you're doing the most intimate you can do with another person and then you're turning around and talking badly about them and they could lose their job, which is already like one of the worst jobs in the world. Being a whore, right?
Exactly. But here's the thing that's so interesting is that I think that one person's rocking night of sex with someone is another person's buzzkill.
It's called chemistry.
Yeah, it's chemistry. And so I don't know, like, how do you. First of all, how do you interview this job? I've had a lot of sex, and it's there for. How do you. How do you test that someone's actually good at testing sex?
Maybe it's like customer service type stuff too. Like. Like the. The girls are supposed to like, say.
Certain things like that, right? Exactly.
If you're. If you're acting uptight, they're supposed to loosen you up.
Right. It's not about the actual act, but it's more about, like, all the accoutrements around it. So this is the ad listing. See if you qualify. Cough Bitch.com is a social network for sex workers, clients, brothels, and companies in an erotic environment. With a young team, about 25 people. It's K A U F. Oh, Mish. Like Michigan cough Mish. Okay. With a young team, about 25 people, and a flat hierarchy, working conditions are very pleasant. Probably have lunch every day or something. And marked by the life of a startup. Kaufmish.com is part of an international group of companies with more than 120 employees in Germany, China, and Spain offering realistic development. Whatever. Okay, so sounds pretty straightforward. Here's the tasks. Test brothel after service, cleanliness and compliance with safe sex practices. You will learn. You will enjoy sex with various women and then create a score which is then published on their website. Also visit their website Cough. Listen to this. Cough Mitch. Events such as bukhaki parties and gang banks, which will be then be evaluated according to their quality.
I think maybe this is just like they're compiling a list of people to watch.
No, they're like, they want. This is real. Like they own all these brothels. It's probably monopoly and it's a unique job opportunity. So what are they looking for? They'd like a university degree in business, preferably the hotel industry, because it is about service. Fluent German and had experience in brothels before. So they're only taking applications at the end of the month. This is real. I don't know what to say about this. First of all, I don't know how you judge sex, but I guess if it's about cleanliness and all that, whatever. But chemistry's right. You don't like it.
Well, it's like it's be like hiring people to. To go to restaurants and post on Yelp. It's like you could already have your user base do this. That's all they're doing is they're gonna post it on their sites. They said Right.
Yeah, but it sounds like they're serious. You know, Germans, when they get into stuff, they're like, we need to AV test to make sure that all of our women are good. Exactly. Buk hockey parties, gang bangs, part of your resume. Tell your parents. They'll be really proud of you. Okay, so now we can get to some emails.
You need to bring that up on Loveline.
What?
That. That job. Okay, that's a great story.
Do you think Mike would do it? No, I'm kidding. He's not really into prostitutes. But I just thought it'd be funny that there is a job like that. I will bring it up on Loveline, but sometimes it's hard to, like, get a word in.
It really is. Mike is very competitive. With you.
With me or with everyone?
Everyone. He doesn't like. He wants. He would like to show.
He's probably psyched around that.
He doesn't like callers. He doesn't like guests. He wants the whole show to be him talking.
Well, he gets.
Yeah, I know.
We love him. Okay, so thank you, everybody, everybody, everybody for emailing me. Feedbackexwithamily.com and don't forget to include your. And where you're listening from and your age, if you can, and how you listen in your email. Easy. Just things like that. And also, so I've been doing this for 10 years and one of the things that's always like, ugh, we haven't quite got down. Is that a lot of times you send me emails and we do in fact read your email on the show, but we might not always remember. We might not always have the time to notify you and let you know. So just keep listening to the show. We're getting some new interns on board too. That. That's gonna be their job of letting you know. Cause people email me sometimes. I'm like, yeah, we answered it.
Hey, you know what? If you're stresses me out, a listener of. You'll hear. You'll hear it.
Yeah, just keep listening to the goddamn show. You'll hear it. Okay, so here we go. Mixed feelings on relationship future. Dear Emily, I love the show. I'm 27 and a recent transplant to San Diego from the great state of Minnesota. Hooray to Midwest upbringings.
I wonder if she has come in her coffee.
What? Oh, God. Yeah. Oh, my God. Minnesota will never be the same. I love living in Southern California. I've already found a lover man to explore the city with. We've been dating for five months and everything seem awesome. We have so much Fun together. And the sex is amazing. I actually get turned on just thinking about him. I know this is my hormones talking, but I am so into him. Side note, thanks for your recommendation of the Mio. We love it. That's a Zaeju cock ring that I'm obsessed with. What?
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I hate cock ring. I hate cock. I know. And I usually don't swear.
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It's. It's my favorite thing because it's a penis ring. He loves the vibrations. Plus, you just put on your clit and it feels again. I'm gonna get JJOO.com, click on the banner. My website. Anyway. Everything sounds gravy, right? Well, kind of. If I didn't have feelings.
What'd she say? Ah, to feelings. He is 36. He's been pretty clear with me about never ever wanting to have kids or get married. I've always pictured myself doing both things at some point in my life. My question is how? I let go of my urges to think about the future and just live in the moment. I enjoy my time with him so much, but should I be dating other people as well? I'm trying not to get too emotionally involved with him, but honestly, it's too late. Emily, help me love like a man and help me love like a man a little more. I know you do this well. She's been a listener for a long time. I need help. Thank you in advance, Amy. Okay, Amy, here's the deal.
I'm not going to tell you I didn't try set out to try to love like a man. Here's the thing. Before you start trying to figure out is, is he the one to love? Like, you're not playing any games here. But there are certain things when people say they make a list, they decide what their deal breakers are and what their requirements are for relationships. So, you know, some people make 100 point list. Some people just know. I absolutely want kids. I want to live in the country. You know, all this stuff. If marriage and children are definitely in your plans, you need to date with that in mind, because that might be something that you regret. Now, if this guy. It's been five months, you're 27 years old, you just moved. So he's probably, you know, it's that extent when you move to new city. Like when I moved to San Francisco, I felt like I was on vacation for a year from Michigan. I was like, that's so fun. So. And you're young. And I just think that, who knows? I mean, how old is she? She said she's 26. He's 36. It's new. Have fun. Hang out with him. If you can do that. I can't teach you how to have emotionally detached sex, which I'm really good at. It's kind of a natural skill that I picked up. Not that I don't have emotionally attached sex, but. So I can't teach you that. But you have time. It doesn't mean you should throw yourself into a relationship with someone whose ideal future doesn't align with yours. But it's fine to have fun and live in the moment. But you also need to know that this may affect the way your future plays out, because you're already emotionally invested in him, which means you have a decision to make. Do you want to stay in the fun, presently fulfilling relationship that isn't going to take you where you want to be? Or do you want to start pursuing the life you've always pictured? Because when we date people that are just kind of filling space, or we go back with our example. The truth is, whatever time you spend with him, three hours a week, every night, you're not allowing new people into your life. You're not gonna meet anyone new. Cause you're caught up on him. Even if you're not with them, your brain's thinking that, you know, you're giving out this vibe that you're taking. So I think it is a good idea to probably step back and date other people. It's only been five months. I don't know why people rush into monogamy after five months. I don't think you have to just use protection. And so once you meet up your mind and what you want, you have a better idea of how to proceed. So just step back and be honest with them. And honestly, I. When you are honest with him and you say, listen, kids, for me is a priority. And so I think we should take this slower. Might be interesting what he does. What do you think?
Yeah, there's a good chance that he'll. He's 36. So if. If you are a possibility of being the one. When you're. When you're dating people and you're a guy, you always lead with, hey, by the way, I'm not trying to get serious. No. Very few guys go, hey, I really hope this turns into, like a family. And kids, we always play it off. We always play because we want to play the field. But if you. Because you're 27 and it must be really hard for women. Because if you want a Family. And you want kids. I mean, time is of the essence, right?
Exactly.
Start getting going. And I wouldn't even say, like, break up with them. I would say I, you know, I. A family is really important to me. I don't want to, you know, close myself off from that possibility. So I do want to start seeing other people because I feel like that might not be a possibility with just you. And I betcha there's a good chance that he's gonna start rethinking things.
Exactly. That's what I'm saying. I'm saying don't break up with him, but just be honest with it. That's exactly what I said. Did I say break up? No, I said talk to him. And then he's probably gonna come around and be like, wait. But at 36, do you think that, you know, if you want kids.
I was late. It took me a long time. And did you think you did? I was like, 37 by the time I finally said, I think I proposed by the time I finally.
And you know that your wife wanted kids?
Well, no, she. I mean, people change. She said that she never wanted to be in a relationship. She said she never wanted to be married, never kids. And now we're married and trying to kids. So people change.
Dude, would you just get pregnant already? Not you, but her.
It's hard.
Be so funny.
Finish in the mouth. It's tough. Okay. I mean, never. I never do that with the wife. I'm kidding.
You never finish.
God, if she ever hears this show, she doesn't listen.
But I should send it to her.
No, you should not.
I love your wife. Why can't we all hang out and be friends? Okay, so when I come back, we're gonna talk about some condom concerns. Condom troubles people have gotten into. It happens with condoms. And I'm gonna teach you how not to. But first, a word from the amazing Emily and Tony candles that I made. Gosh, I hate to, like, toot my own horn, but they kind of rock. I have explained them to you what they are. They look like regular candles. They're beautiful. They. You can leave them out on display. You can light them, and they're aromatherapy. They're relaxing. They're beautiful. Like I said, they're from France. Beautiful region in France. It makes sense. They're quality. They're high quality. However, Anderson, you light them and they turn into the most luxurious massage oil, should you choose. You can also just light them and not do a massage, but then you could pour it on your partner. It's Warm, luxurious, sensual. And you'll start having rockin sex from this. Because slippery is so much better during sex, and it's not hot. You're not gonna burn their skin or anything like that. And I created these candles so you can have the best sex of your life. So go to emilyandtoni anytime. Use code sex with Emily for 20% off your first order. But now until April 12th, you get 30% off all Emily and Tony products. With code March30. That's March 30% off.
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That can't. Really drains a lot of people when people say can't.
What? Can't.
Significant.
I can't. If you said that part. Yeah. I could see how it would really take the wind out of your head.
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She's trying to open a bottle of.
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Seems like it's a mighty big task.
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It's looks like you just went down to the pond. It's almond milk with this green powder in it that's like vegetable Y powder. And then chia seeds and almond milk.
Who sold you on that?
It's my nutritionist. It's like, gives me stuff that I need. Flax oil.
Ever talked to Drew about that? Make sure it's good. End up being sold.
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You know.
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Better than Carl's dream. Okay. Condom troubles. Hey, Emily. I'm Benjamin from Mexico. 23. Love your show and your Kegel camp app. It's great. He's at level seven.
Are you the one who is passing around videos of women lifting weights with their vaginas?
No, we were talking about it. Whose mic was probably passing around. What?
Okay. It came up on Loveline because they're kaggle exercises. Yeah. We had some fitness guru in here last night, Tate, and he was like, emily sent me out. I didn't know if it was you. You were the Emily, but it was all about Kegels, and these women are actually lifting massive Amounts of weights with their vaginas.
Oh, my God. That's crazy. Do people know what your kegel. Exercise their kegels. And they think they're only for men. But you women. But you realize they're for men too.
I've heard things.
So it's those pee. You know, those pee stopping muscles. So when you stop and start the flow of urine, like if someone's knocking on the door and you're like, oh, gotta stop. You just tense and relax those muscles five minutes a day. What?
Why would you stop? Because someone knocks on the door. I'm gonna continue.
I'm just trying to think, to explain you when you're gonna stop. When would you stop?
Is if a cop's coming up, I'm drunk in an alley.
Oh, right. You get illegal tickets for that. I always pee outside. Okay. So anyway, I like to sweat you always. I'm a camper. I'm like, I can just do.
You do the thing where you lean against the tree and they pull your. Yeah, your belly up.
I like to kind of risk it. Like in Israel, my nieces, that's why they think I'm a Martian European.
Outside in Israel, is that elite?
Just once or twice, I had you.
Peeing on the wall at the West Bank.
No, I didn't pee on the Western by the wall. No, I didn't do that anywhere. I was like, I'm in the wilderness. I was on the border of Syria. I heard bombs. Right, right.
Sounds super safe.
It was really safe. My nieces were freaked out. I'm like, whatever, dudes. It's just possible.
Just people dying.
It's fine. Isis, whatever. Okay, so I love your show. Okay, so first of all, my app, and I just want to tell you about this. Is that men? So he's at level seven. When I first launched this app and I just relaunched it, so you should all download it. Kaggle camp. I only had 10 levels. I thought, who's gonna even get to 10 levels? Well, then soon after, people were like, give me 20. So we totally improved the app. We redid it. You can set. So the. The thing about it is that men, they have stronger orgasms. Ejaculatory control. Women, you do them, you lift weights with them. Now you barbells. But it also helps you with your orgasms and just enjoy sex better. And urinary incontinence. After you have children, sometimes things get a little looser. The point is, this app has the 20 levels. My voice walks you through it. You get a reminder every day. It's like, hey, like, time for cub camp. Whatever. Try it. But my friend who did it, who's a dude, he got to level 20. He and his girlfriend were competing, and he said when he got there, his ejaculate shot across the room. Like, he was 19. You don't want to hear about another ejaculate. He's just looking in the sky.
Okay, anyway, so what happened with the condom? How's this tie into the condom?
I don't know. I was just excited about my app because it just took us forever to update it again. I've just been. I'm just like, sorry, guys. Talking about myself.
I thought maybe someone's girlfriend. Kegels.
Actually, it's my app, but we're going back to condoms. Sorry, I'm a little off track.
Rip the condom off, people.
You're used to it. I've been. Okay, listen, it's just been a few months since I started my sex class.
Are you. Wait, wait, are you big on the Kegels? Like, could you capture someone's penis? Like, let's say you and I had sex.
I'm gonna ring this bell here with my vagina. Yeah.
That was pretty impressive. If you and I were to have sex and I'm like, all right, I'm done. I want to get up, but could you, like, hold me?
Could I clamp your penis so you could move? Yeah, I've never tried.
You should try that and get back to us.
I will. I'll definitely work on that. I'm practicing. Okay, so it's been a few months since I started my sex life, and here's my situation. When my girlfriend and I are having sex, the condom breaks. Specifically when we're doing dogging position. Doggy position. It's happened twice. I know I must be doing something wrong, because in these times, condoms are high quality. Thanks for your. Thanks to you and your coach workers. Okay, so here's the deal. First of all, congrats on wearing a condom in the first place. You're clearly ahead of the game. Do you know people don't wear condoms? I was out with friends outside. She's like, nah, don't. Don't ever wear them. I mean, people always say this, and you guys just don't realize you're gonna either get someone pregnant or you're gonna get an std. What have you got to lose? The condom's breaking. Usually if a condom's breaking, it's for one of a few reasons. Number one, wrong size. So if the condom's too big or too small, it can move around or be stretched too tight, which may cause it to tear. So you might be one of these guys who has to upgrade to a larger condom. I love the skin S K Y N large condoms. Or you might want to downgrade to just one of the regular condoms for a snugger fit.
Also, there might not be enough lubrication. So if there's friction, like you should try to get a condom with lubricant in it. Or all you do is you put a little lube in the tip. Right? You pour it in the tip. Have you done that? That?
Yeah.
What do you. How do you expect? You just drip it in the tip and then you pull it and then.
You pull it down and it's already. And then when you use your hand, it kind of goes over the whole.
Exactly. So you want to make sure. Because friction will cause even the strongest condom to break. So use a lubricant to discrete the friction. Friction and increase the pleasure.
Which is exactly why you don't want to do what a lot of people do. And that's double up. Because for sure both will break. Then do not.
Oh my God. Do not double up. That's like. That's like. Like double protection means like double. Double. It's not gonna work. You could also be using the wrong lubricant. If you're using latex condoms, make sure you're using a water based lube. Because silicone lube, which is the more. Silicone lube, which is slipperier, lasts longer, but it breaks down latex. So people don't realize that latex condoms are the most common. But again, I'm obsessed with skin condoms. S, K, Y N. They're polyisoprene, not latex. And they are thin but strong. And they. You could use whatever lube. It doesn't break them down. Here's another thing. Storage shoes. Are you keeping them somewhere that's hot. He lives in Mexico or can be exposed to heat like your glove compartment or your back pocket. It damages them. So just these are all the things.
He lives in Mexico.
Yeah.
Or New Mexico.
Mexico.
Mexico.
Yeah.
Huh. Interesting.
Hola.
Hola.
Do you speak Spanish?
No.
I meant to. So those are the deals. Condom stuff is really important peoples. And also these lifestyles make. Makes these condoms too. That not just the skin line, but they have like boxes that you can buy that are like. Like variety box where you get like fun bumps and you get like different flavored lube or you get the warming. You could try a bunch of different ones and see what you like?
Well, it's always something new every time. Yeah. Might be the same partner, but back.
In the day, new things, new things, that's all we want. Back in the day, it was like, one condom. Like, how do you know what condoms to buy?
I just like, whatever I could steal. To be honest, I was very embarrassed.
How could you steal the. Used to have to unlock them.
No, no, I'm. I'm old. They were out. I used to pickpocket. Not pickpocket. I used to shoplift all sorts of stuff.
Yeah.
Everything that they wouldn't let me buy. I felt, well, then I have a right to steal it if you're not.
Gonna let me ever get caught.
Yeah. Yeah. It all came crashing in one night. Yeah, it was bad, but, yeah, I used to. Condoms, no. Dos, cigarettes, booze.
All those pertinent things that you needed.
Because of kids like me. Now they lock all that up. I mean, there used to be, like, at my local liquor store, like, we could actually walk into, like, the. They stored the liquor. My friends and I would just go in there, close the door behind us, and we just sit in there and get drunk. Like, at the.
In the store, there wasn't, like, the. The cameras everywhere.
It was in the storage area, so it was dark. We had to use our lighter to see what we were doing.
Where did you grow up again?
Like, out here. LA area, LA.
People.
Los Angeles.
Yeah, I got it. I. You know. Did we steal? We didn't steal. I once stole the chocolate bunny. Easter's coming off happy because you're Jewish. I know. And I was like, I never got the chocolate bunnies, and I love chocolate bunnies. But then they found I tucked down my pants.
They're a rip anyways, because they're always hollow. You think you're getting bad chocolate, and.
It'S like, really, like, here's a really big, really bad chocolate. Right.
Why has it got to be doggy style? They're going back to this guy. Well, also, there's be animal style because all animals have sex. Doggies.
I know. That's just how it got, you know. He's talking about the back, you know, I don't know. Why does that bother you?
I don't really like the doggy style.
You don't like the position or you don't like the name?
It's fine. I think the position is actually how we're intended to have sex. I think missionary is. I like it, but I don't think that's the way that we're supposed I think that we're supposed to have sex like the rest of the animals do.
Which one feels best to you?
I don't talk about this kind of. I'm a married man.
Boring. Okay, so married man. So I think that a lot of guys. That's their go to ejaculate that they know. And. Is it because of the way it feels or because you're looking at the ass? I'm just saying, hypothetically speaking, from what your friends have told you, I think.
That a lot of guys. I. I always relate everything to movies, but, like, there's a scene in American Psycho where he's having sex doggy style, and he's watching himself in the mirror. I think that it's like an animalistic. Yeah, guys love watching guys feel like they're really dominating. And I think a lot of guys don't like to look at the girl's face, you know, during.
Why? Because it's so intimate.
It's too intimate for a lot of guys, I think.
I just think that they just want to forget who they're having sex with so they can imagine someone else. Just kidding.
Not that I think that is. That is the case.
Some of it can be.
Well, yeah. Yeah. There's this great movie called I wish.
You could read a man's brain.
This boy's life is Tobias Wolf's life story and the author, and it starred Robert De Niro and Ellen Barkin. And like, they're. You know, he's courting her, courting her. And then they finally get married. Robert De Niro plays this horrible, horrible son of a bitch. And then their first night of marriage, they're having sex, and he flips her over and she goes, no, I don't like it that way. He's like, no, only from behind. And he just bangs her from behind. It's a very animalistic male.
I. It is a male thing. I took it.
But I know how a lot of women really like it, too.
Women like it, but there's nothing wrong with liking it. I think that a lot of women, you know, I wasn't saying historically, but still feel like it's degrading, really.
Those women are uptight.
You got a little uptight, dude. There's women who don't like anything different sexually. I mean, there's someone who's rid. I don't remember it's on this show or one of these groups that we get this email all the time that, like, I've tried to talk to my girlfriend about.
I want to watch her masturbate I think that was my last show. Like, I'd like to watch her play with herself. I'd like to watch her undress. I'd like to watch her in the nude. The lights are dark, so there's, you know, a lot of things.
I remember I tried to get my high school girlfriend to do that, like play with herself. And we weren't together very long after this. Her exact words were, no, I'm not gonna dyke out with myself.
I'm like, ooh, dyke out.
Yeah. She was so anti lesbians that she felt like she was being a lesbian if she touched her own vagina.
Oh my God. I'm telling you, mutual masturbation is so underrated. Do people understand that? Part of the enigma of sex is when you're with a new partner and you're trying to figure out their body. So a great shortcut when you start dating is being like, babe, I wanna watch you touch yourself. That's so hot. So then you get to see how does she touch herself? Does she play with her clit? Is it fast? Slow circles? You learn. Cause every vagina is different. And then watch him how he does it. He touches balls. Mutual masturbation.
Chances are he'll go up and down a lot.
Yeah, but guys, I gotta tell you something, Anderson, because I've had some experience with a few penises in my life. It's a little different, a little bit different. And there's little things they do where I'm like, oh, you put your thumb over the tip.
I've seen more penises. You or the average gay man in San Francisco.
Dude, I'm insulted. Me.
The average gay man. Okay. Hey, Emily, I'm six foot one and I'm seeing a really cute girl named Lily. She is tiny, literally up to my elbows, which means I have a problem. My penis when erect is 7.1 inches long and 6 point inches around.
Measuring tape?
Yeah. Will I hurt her? Like are our bodies not compatible? I really like her, but a voice inside my head is telling me she's too little. Thanks, Flynn.
Flynn.
No, you're fine.
Oh, his name is Flynn.
His name is Flynn.
That's like a, that's like a Red Bull can.
What? Yeah, no, it's big, but. But here's the thing. A little girl does not mean she necessarily has a little vagina. That's one thing. And women's bodies could take a lot. They have full on babies coming out of it. So what I would say is that I love that. Lately I've been getting emails with exact penis Measurements. I really appreciate that. Cause it really puts it in context here. Should totally be included. Emails. So, like I said earlier, I want your name, your age, where you're from and your penis size. Just kidding. You don't. Okay. Contrary to what many of us learned in the schoolyard, general size is not related to height or you know, they're men's shoe size. Same with the vagina. What? Hands.
You always hear that?
No. You know, I wish it were true.
Big shoes.
I went off on that before. Doesn't work. Lucky you. You are tall and also well endowed. But that does not mean that she. That a shorter guy could not be packing some serious is, you know, this.
Is the dumbest reason not to try and sleep with a girl.
I know. Am I saying. All I'm saying is your new girlfriend's petite size does not automatically rule her out of sex partner. So let's talk about vaginas because I feel like a lot of guys are confused by this. Vaginas are naturally elastic. They're meant to expand and then they return to their original state. Also, a lot of vaginas, they expand during arousal. So this is an evolutionary thing. Vaginas are meant to facilitate reproduction, so they need to accommodate penis of all sizes. And it's true that some women, women are born with shorter vaginal canals and others. But this is something you'll find out the first time you're with her. And you can't judge a vagina size by its cover.
Plus you can put throw on a couple C rings and like grommets and make it so it seems like. So you'll stop it.
Exactly. Like a stopper. That's totally true. If you like her and things progress and you want to have sex, take, take it slow. I mean, first of all, when you start having sex with anyone, you should always take it slow. My top advice to men, Go five times slower than you think and make sure that you are performing a lot of foreplay. I mean a lot of foreplay. Because women, we say the vagina, it engorges, it swells, it gets lubricated when she's turned on. So lots of foreplay. Give her a massage. You can use a massage candle. Get her relaxed and use lube. I cannot emphasize enough how important lube is in this situation because we don't want her to have any tearing if there is a problem. And I just think if you go slow and you pay attention to her reaction, you're going to be just fine. So go solely don't hurt her and I think it's. I think it's a great question.
Five times slower than you think.
That's what I always say.
Guys have a hard time with that.
I know, but why is that?
It's because you're.
I know.
Especially the first time. And I can speak from experience. It's like you're kind of in disbelief. Like, wow, she's. She's a lot.
It's.
She's giving me an opening.
I know.
I'm gonna really. It's all go. Okay. Before she changes her mind. And, like, you know, you're trying to.
That's what I think. I think guys are so. So used to being shut down that they just are like, oh, my God, I've got the green light, my pants, my dicks are at the harbor before.
They close it down.
They have to. What?
You got to get into the harbor before they. They shut down.
Exactly. And then women are like, we need to be turned on. Because when guys just try to shove it in and go so fast.
What if we came up with, like, a new standard sexual rule? Like, it was just the new rule where you put in the constitution or something. The girl has to. For the first time, she always has to take grab of the unit. Unit. And she's the one who puts it in. Like, that should just be like a rule, like, a known thing. Everyone should know it.
What do you mean? She grabs it. She puts the condom.
If. If you're gonna have sex for the first time with somebody, it's completely up to the woman. No. No. Yes. No. No. You know, no. All this. Yes means no.
Oh, have her decide.
She actually takes it and she guides it in. So she puts it in at her own pace. She decides that it's going in.
So men don't get.
Men don't. For the first time. It should just be like a couple code.
This means I'm down kind of thing. But women like men to take charge.
Yeah, they get that the second, third, and 100th time. But the first time, like, nothing's going.
They can do it together. Do it together.
Unless she's guiding it.
Can't they both hold it and guide it in?
No, because then he's gonna start jamming it harder.
Don't jam it harder. Slow it down.
You don't understand.
I know I don't. I wish I had a penis for a day. What could I do? I want to. Like, it is an itch that you can't. But what if. What happened? Does sex feel good when you go to.
Yeah, it's Fine, it's fine. But I'm married. I don't talk about it.
Just so fucking boring.
Sex is fine, whether it's, it's, it's hard and pounding like you don't like, or it's slow and sensual.
I like how to impact. No, here's the thing. Don't get me wrong. I like hard and pounding. I like a variety. Variety is the spice of sex. And life doesn't rhyme. It's the spice of life. Variety is the thing that you all crave. The reason why your relationship might be getting a little dull, a little boring after a while. It's biology. It happens. You're doing the same thing over and over again. And the more you can mix it up, the better it will be. So if you slow it down, you know, just like, try that, like, don't always do the same position. Buy my book. Oh my God, I don't even mean to be plugging all my stuff because you guys all get friggin annoyed for.
What you're talking about.
Talk about it.
And I see your face and I can tell that you're like, oh no, I don't want to plug something. But it just works. I mean, so you're helping your listeners by letting. Because I think I told you probably like over a year ago that I have your book and you gave it to me. And it's a great book. It's a beautiful book and it has all sorts of pictures and every single page is a different sex position. And that's what we would do is like, we'd be like, all right, what are we doing? We open the book. Whatever picture you land on, that's what we're going to try tonight.
Yeah, exactly. It's a great book. It's called Hot Sec. I mean, I think, I think it's a beautiful book and you'll like it. It's pictures, a lot of pictures. I mean, there's words too, but you should open it up. It's called hot sex. Over 200 things you could try tonight. And if you want to buy it, buy it from my website because then you click on the Amazon thing. It's all cool. A few things I need to say is that need interns. And email us feedbackexwithemily.com we have social media, marketing, production, internships, video editing, audio, all that stuff. It's really fun. Our office is in Hollywood and. But if you'd like to write for us remotely, we're looking for some seasoned sex and relationship writers. Feedbackexthelmy.com cover letter, resume. Love it. Love you do that. Also.
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How many likes do you have?
Like 250,000.
How many likes you have? 250,000 likes on Facebook.
Yeah, totally.
That is a lot.
Oh my God. Maybe more like today. And I have like a hundred thousand Twitter.
Oh my God.
At Instagram, I want to grow. So you all look like my Instagram page. And I know I put your boob on Ex with Emily. Now they take down your boob. Don't you know the whole free the nipple movement? No, Instagram takes down your boob. They take down nipples. Even the suggestion of a nipple. But whatever.
There needs to be an Insta.
Ma'.
Am. And they allow boobs. You just make a new app called Instamamam.
It's true.
Like mammogram.
I get it. Like ma', am, should we ring the joke bell again? Okay, here's the thing. Also one more thing. Remember the Sexual Health Expo? I did Sexual Health Expo in Los Angeles. I am now doing it in Phoenix, Arizona. So join me April 25th, 26th for a weekend of sexual wellness, education and fun. And here's the thing. I'm giving away free tickets. Email me feedbackexlme.com why do you want to go? And we'll send you a 2 for 1 promo code. It was friggin mind blowing. Here 2, 000 people. We have amazing sex educators teaching like all day long. All the latest and greatest toys I want to see there. And that's what I wanted. Anderson, so tell me about you. I have to admit that I. There was no WI fi on the plane and I actually caught up on movies and I thought about you because I used to love movies and I saw three movies and I. And I want to know I saw because Anderson has a podcast, the Film Vault.
We do the Film Vault every week and it's a service because we see a lot of movies and people kind of get to know our tastes. We have different tastes and you get to figure out like what's worth seeing, what you should avoid, which is just.
Smart service for the world.
And it's entertaining. It's a little, you know, harsh sometimes I'm a little bit mean to my co host. But we have a great time you guys are helping.
Hilarious.
We've been doing. Coming up on our five year anniversary. And we were doing it for like years before that. Even so, like in a different form, but five years of podcasting.
Well, I. I was thinking about you because I have really gotten away from anything else but sex.
Yes.
So I watched Wild. Is that what it's called?
Yes.
I liked it.
Did you?
You didn't like it?
It was okay. I liked it because I didn't like seeing her poop.
Oh, why? It was a gratuitous.
I didn't need to see the poop.
Didn't use the poop. Yeah, but.
But it's a true story of her walking through the Pacific Trail for, What.
Was it, 3,000 miles? Three months.
Something insane.
And I did that. I mean, I didn't do that, but I went backpacking. Cathartic, in a cathartic way when I was 25 to Southeast Asia by myself. My dad died when I was young and I. And it was very like, I was.
Just trying spiritual thing.
It's a spiritual thing, so I got it. I really did. And I just thought it was you and nature.
Just you. Who are you? What are you doing?
Believe it or not, peoples, but I love having everything.
Emily blows our minds every now and again. She'll come up.
You're like, what?
Like she. You went to like, that. That Buddhist.
Yeah, that's where I did a 10 day satisfaction. I liked it. And then, yes, it was amazing. And then I also saw.
Oh, Whiplash. Oh, you loved it. And I remembered back to you telling me about it, like months ago. I'm like, yeah, like I'm gonna see.
I saw Whiplash like three times in the theater.
It was so good, but it was so disturbing.
It's intense.
But what's new out right now? I'm obsessed now with seeing movies again.
I keep saying obsessed movie that I absolutely love. This is a movie I shouldn't love. It doesn't make sense that I love it, but I love it. It's called Danny Kong Collins, starring Al Pacino. Al Pacino's playing this, like, old, aged rock star who is that kind of like a Barry Manilow type guy, right?
Okay.
He used to be huge. He's still really big. He, you know, money's not an issue, but it's based on a real, actual event that actually happened to this folk singer where he got this. This actual folk singer in real life.
Okay.
Got this letter from John Lennon, like almost 40 years after John Lennon wrote him the letter. John Lennon heard him in or read an interview with his folk singer.
Okay.
And the folk singer was worried that he might, might fame and fortune might ruin his career and his inspiration and his artistry. And John Lennon said, you know, I'm going to write this kid and let him know that that's not the case. And the guy never got the letter because he sent it to, like, the record executive who was in charge of the guy. So the record executive sold it and it was like, you know, a collector had it for years. Collector finally gave it to this guy, and he's like, oh, my God, my life could have been so much different. Had. Had John Lennon's phone number on there. So they based the entire movie around that actual, actual piece of reality.
That's amazing.
And, and then, you know, the Al Pacino character, he decides to make amends and he changes his whole life. And it's very sweet, it's schmaltzy, but it's R rated. And, and that Benning is in it and she's fantastic. Al Pacino and that Benning are fantastic. And it just, it really got me. And this is a movie I shouldn't like, I could have seen it.
Why wouldn't you like it?
Because it's just, I'm edgy and I'm hard, you know, And I, you know, I like independent cinema. This is a big, It's a big Hollywood movie.
Right.
But by the guy. Crazy Stupid Love. The guy that wrote Crazy Stupid Love wrote that and wrote this one and.
Directed because I actually feel like I.
Grew up with Fogelman.
Okay, got it.
But Danny Collins, I. I love it. It's in theaters right now. I could see it being a little sleep or surprise hit or people are just gonna write it off. I think it's a really hard movie.
What's a good indie film Now I'm starting to ask you back. I'm sort of like, decided, like, changing a new leaf. I, I. Turning.
Turning over. You turning over a new leaf. Yeah, if you have HBO and HBO go the, the Going Clear. Everyone's talking about that. The Scientology documentary.
Oh, I'm phenomenal. Can I see it?
Yeah, if you have hbo.
My mom does. Can I borrow hers?
Yeah, you could. You could steal it. They're actually fine with you stealing.
That's awesome.
That's what I've heard.
I really, I've heard it was amazing because I'm. They don't let you film it, right? That they don't.
They got tons of inside footage. And you. And, you know, I was on the Scientologist side. I talked all about this on the film vault.
Okay.
But.
Okay.
I can't on their side for the first 30 minutes because I feel like they're an easy target. I'm sick of everyone, you know, going after Scientology. And most people don't know about Scientology, but they're going after it. And then after about 30 minutes, they're doing that. But Tom, cruising it, they never, they never try and bang. Which usually those kinds of organizations, they always think, you know, sex is always at the center of it. So.
So no one bangs there, that there's.
No allegations, tons of allegations, but no allegations of unwanted sexual contact.
So, yeah, that's good for a cult.
Good for you guys. Just the way to not rape a chance other.
We feel good about that. Okay, Anderson, thank you.
Yes.
Thank you for being with me. I love seeing you. And thank you, Madison, for preparing the show. And thank you to Kimber, Madison, thank you to everyone for listening and yeah, follow me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram because it helps me helps the show and I give you good information. So check it out and thanks for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackmily.com.
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