Intern Sex Toy Review: Finding the G-Spot

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day. Hey Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just.

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Of girl you just play with. Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can check out my podcast. You should actually just subscribe to my podcast because. So much easier that way because then you'll just get it right there every time you post it. You'll get a new show. We do two shows a week and you can also. Oh, this is amazing. On Wednesdays from 12:30 to 1 Pacific Standard Time, we answer all your questions on Twitter. So you can just tweet me askemily. And my Twitter is sexwithemily. As it is across the board with Instagram and Facebook. You better like me on Facebook. Cause we give you tips all day long to improve your sex life and relationship, which is what I think you all want. That's why you're listening to the show. Oh, and P.S. by the way, BTW, if you do want to improve your sex life, this show is all about it. Because I've got some women here in the flesh who are going to talk to you about something that is very, very important and crucial, in fact, to you having good sex. Men and women specifically. We are talking about the G spot. So the G spot is sort of this elusive spot, right? We always hear about internal orgasms, external orgasms. Did she have an orgasm? Guys are always eaming me. How do I know if she had an orgasm? But the G spot can be a little more difficult to attain. A lot of women can have clitoral orgasms. And you all know what the clitoris is, right? You've been listening for a while. We don't think we're going to get into that today. But is that Little Bud has 8,000 nerve endings. And if you don't know that, you should rewind and listen to some other shows. But the G spot is this internal elusive zone that so many people are just women, even they don't know how to find it. There are those women who. And we're going to talk to one in a moment, who they have sex and they just find it and they have amazing orgasms that way. But this is like when People talk about vaginal orgasms or having an orgasm with intercourse. They are usually talking about the G spot. Just some background. It was named in the 50s after German gynecologist Ernest Grafenberg. So he got a whole spot named after him. How do I get a spot named after me? That'd be amazing. He discovered the zone of erogenous feeling located along the suburethral surface of the anterior vaginal wall. What the hell does that mean? It's located 2 inches inside the vagina on the top side of the vaginal wall. It's a little bean shaped pleasure point. It has a rougher texture and size and location might vary. And usually when a woman is turned on, she's already had an orgasm, a clitoral orgasm. It becomes more engorged and easier to find. And we are going to give you tips on how to find it. Oh, that was my other idea for an iPhone app. I am sitting here. My guest today, just so you. Who I'm talking to is my assistant Lauren, who did start out as my intern intern a few years ago.

How's it going?

Hi. And Carolyn, who's my new intern.

Hi, everybody.

And so I we're bringing back Intern Sex toy Review day, which was very popular a few years ago. Lauren started out on my show with her first intern sex toy review. She might have been the first one doing it. And so we get toys and they try them out in one and they. All three of my interns picked G spot vibrators this month. So we're gonna be hearing a lot from them. But they've also tried out other ones along the way too. This. This month. So we're not going to be all G spot this month, but we are going to hear from Carolyn because she tried a toy that we're going to get into in a minute. So we're going. But we are going to be also talking about. I want to hear from them about their own G spot experiences, how they found them, how they like to be touched that way. And we're going to give tips to guys about, you know, because truly one of the best ways if a woman's never found her G spot is using fingers. And using a guy's fingers works just well. Works very well. You can use lubricant and get her warmed up and we'll explain how you do it. You stick your fingers inside this little come hither motion. You've probably heard us talk about that. And everything we talk about. We're gonna have pointers on the Sex with Emily website. So you can see the toy that we talk about. And also we'll link to this blog that we have that's, like, all about how to find it. So thanks for being here, Carolyn. We're popping her podcast, Cherry Bubble today.

Oh, yeah.

Oh, yeah.

Well, thank you for having me. I'm so excited.

Yeah. And thanks for being my intern. How's it been so far? Has it change your sex life yet?

It definitely has. I love being your intern. It's so exciting. Every day is filled with fun stuff, and I'm learning so much. And it definitely has enhanced my sex life.

I love that. How would you think how I. Because people always ask me, like, is your sex life better from doing the show? I'm like, yeah, because how could it not be?

I mean, I definitely feel like I can communicate much more openly about sex and about what I want in the bedroom. I've purchased some new toys.

Right.

I have used lube.

Right. I lube. I'm on the lube. Like, if I run for president, I'm running, like, on the lube platform. Yeah.

And you've introduced me to some, like, quality lubes, which is wonderful. And my boyfriend loves using it, even though at first he was a little like, what, what's this?

Right. Well, exactly. Well, that's my big issue, which you all know, is that I hate the fact that lube has such a stigma. You know, we're gonna whip out the lube if she's dry or there's discomfort. But lube. Actually, there have been so many studies that have shown that 85% to 90% of women actually say that sex is better for them when you add lube to the equation. And so, guys, get over your friggin. I was gonna say erection. Get over your friggin uptightness. About, like, oh, I'm not turning her on enough so she's not wet enough and blah, blah. It has nothing to do with you. It's not that you're not pleasing her. It's not that you're not performing right. It's that a little slip and slide feels really good to a woman. So I'm glad that you've taken that on. That is a message I'm trying. I have my own Lube with emilyandtoni.com, we haven't released it because it's top secret, but it is coming out soon.

We've tried it.

We've tried it. It's really. It's really good. It's good stuff. So you use more lube and you More you communicate. That's good. I love it. And you're doing everything you're doing. You're kicking ass.

Thank you.

Yeah. Okay, so intern sex review day. So we go to goodvibes.com, as you know, is my favorite sex toy place to buy toys. And I have them pick up. And also when they become interns, you can attest this. I say, you don't have to do it. You can write about. Because also, she actually wrote a blog post about this, so it'll also be on the website. But I don't force them to do anything. I'm like, you could do, but she'd like that. But I always appreciate it when they do want to come on the show and talk about their experience, because it's not, you know, always easy to open up and talk about your sex life for the first time. And using a vibrator.

Yeah, it's not easy, but it's really fun. And I definitely jumped at the chance to try out a vibe and write about it.

So tell me. Okay, what did you pick?

So I picked the silky, G waterproof G spot vibrator. And I picked it because I'd never used a G spot vibrator before.

Okay. And had you ever had a G spot orgasm before?

Oh, yes. Oh, yes.

Okay. So you often do during intercourse?

I often is a loose term. Right. Because it's not every time. But I do have G spot orgasms.

I think I would have a G spot orgasm more often with a partner than I would clitoral orgasm, which I don't know if that surprises you.

No, it doesn't. It doesn't surprise me. The clitoral orgasm is more easier for women to achieve. I guess most women not. I guess it's true. But many women, especially these two women here, have had an easy time having G spot organs. I did not, I will admit. So I don't know. You know, the Claire S. People say it's the better one. I don't think that, you know, it's like Woody Allen said, like, okay, sorry to quote Woody Allen. I know everyone hates him now because of, like, the molestation of his daughter, but he made amazing films in the 70s, and I love Annie Hall. So anyway, there is no such thing as what? Like orgasms? Like, bad pizza? Or like, there's no such thing as bad pizza.

Oh. Even when it's bad, it's still good.

Even when it's bad, it's still good. Right. So I'm not gonna judge your orgasms on a hierarchy here or anything, but but you see, you can have them with a partner, but on your own. Was this was the first time you're trying?

On my own, this was the first time I was ever attempting to have a G spot orgasm.

Okay, and tell me about the vibe first. It was called the Silky G. So.

The Silky G is again, a waterproof G spot vibrator. And it's great for external stimulation as well as internal stimulation.

Okay, great.

Yeah. And it's shaped like Emily mentioned earlier, it's shaped like the kind of like the come hither finger.

Right.

Because if. If, I guess if positioned upwards.

Right.

That finger will put pressure on the G spot.

Right.

It's made of hard plastic, which might turn some people off right away. But I actually loved that it was made of that material, not the silicone. Yeah. It was so different from anything I've experienced. Let's see, it has a little dial. And you can choose from a scale of one to four as far as. As far as how fast it goes and how much it vibrates or pulsates. So, yeah.

Okay, so you liked it. So you were masked. So you went in your room, I guess, and you had some lube, maybe juice lube.

I actually didn't. I went to my room and I was like, I'm gonna. I'm gonna use this toy, and I'm just gonna take note of how I'm feeling, and I'm gonna write this. This blog. It's gonna be the best blog ever. And, yeah, I just used it. And I mean, I just used it externally at first.

Yeah. That's good. To warm up.

Yeah. To warm up.

Yeah. I didn't. You know, I can't see because personally, just that a lot of women need to have a clitoral orgasm first before they can have. Or at least be aroused enough, because that's when the G spot tends to, like, engorge a little. And you can find it more with some women. So it would make sense that you'd, like, warm up. Yeah.

I think naturally your. Your mind and your body is like, okay, we're gonna warm up a little. So I used it externally, and I mean, I didn't use lube, but, I.

Mean, you get a little.

Yeah, you get a little wet.

You get wet yourself, right?

Yeah. It's just like. I know why they call it the silky G. Okay.

Yeah, got it.

It feels really good.

Silky. Right. Okay. And then. And then when you're masturbating, do you, like, think about things or do you watch porn or do you.

A little bit of Both. I. I definitely probably think about things more often than I actually watch porn. Although I totally watch porn.

Right.

Okay, good.

Online once in a while. But I mean, cheesy. I think about my boyfriend.

No, that's okay. No, I do. Women do. We do that. Guys are thinking about everything but their girlfriend usually. But that's not true. Sometimes they do at the beginning. But women, we like to think about, like, what do you think? Like, kissing last time you saw him or.

I mean, yeah, I think about, like, the last time or one of the, you know, the. Like some of. One of our good. Our good sessions. And I think about that and, you know, I might think about him going down on me and, like, that's. That could just.

Right.

That could just do it for you, you know?

That's right. That's why, you know, me too, guys. You gotta. You gotta go down there. Okay.

Yeah. I think, like, I feel like I have a very vivid imagination and a good. A good visual memory. So that served me well. You know, other times, maybe if I'm single, I think about, like, you know, a certain celebrity or something.

Do you do that? See, I don't do that. Do you, Lauren? Do you think about celebrities?

I don't think about celebrities. I used to when I first started masturbating as, like, a teenager, but now it's like, what is it?

What do you think about?

Oh, my. Well, first, sometimes I list I watch porn. Good Vibes has a great.

Oh, my God, I'm obsessed.

I usually watch the tube sites, but I actually started watching a lot more porn now that, you know, we have access to that. Because they're so good.

Right.

I actually saw a porn on there. It was so good, I stopped Mad masturbating. And it's probably one of my. It's actually a really good movie.

You stopped it for the plot?

Yeah. And it was like. It was. It was made in, like, the 80s or something.

Yeah. Okay, so she's talking about. Good Vibes also has a video on demand program. So if you go to sexthemy.com and again, I was not to bring up another ad, but really, if you click on the banner, you can buy minutes. But they have the best curated collection of, like, porn through the years. Like, best for couples. So if you want to listen, watch porn with your partner for singles, for lesbians, gay, straight.

Like, it's really classy porn.

It's classy porn.

It's classy porn. Yeah, you're not gonna get that whole.

So good that Lauren stopped masturbating. To watch the end of the porn.

That's pretty amazing.

Wait, honey, I want to see how it ends. Yeah.

Which is, like, funny, because, like, when I. When I have this, like, fantasy that I realize really gets me off fast, which I would never do in person. I'd state that first.

Okay, what's the fantasy?

But I have this fantasy of, like. Like, being, like, taken in front of people.

Oh, okay.

As, like, have you. Do you ever watch Spartacus?

No.

Or any of those hot, sexy, like, 300 type, like an orgy?

Kind of.

Yeah. But, like, where there's people, like, slaves, like, who are, like, doing it in front of you with gladiators. I don't know that that gets me.

That time. That time. I like that, too.

A historical fiction fantasy, Right.

It's true that a lot of. A lot of things that women and men fantasize. I'm always saying, talk to your partner fantasies, but it doesn't mean that we all want them to come true. Yeah.

I would never like to have a glass.

She doesn't want to have a gladiator in front of. Not yet. Not yet. She's only working for female, but. Right. I get it. So that's what you think about.

Okay.

To porn or that. And then. Okay, so your G spot. So then how was silky G? It was a good experience.

So, yeah, I think as an external vibe, it was great. Again, like, the material, I did not expect to be so pleased. Like, in a tactile way, it's so different. I used to use the Rabbit Habit vibrator.

All right. That's a great one, too.

How long did you have that one? I was curious.

So that one got me through graduate school.

Okay.

So I had it for about, you know, I had it for a little while, but it was really my first real vibrator. And so it was. It's made from elastomer, I think, which is, like, similar to. Is that similar to silicone?

Yeah. Yeah. It's, like rubbery silicone. Right. Okay.

It's, like, bendable and rubbery and I don't know. Just with this. With the plastic of this lg. It's hard, but it's so smooth that you know, if you're wet or if you're using lube, it's amazing.

Right?

It was great.

A lot of women like that. Yeah. I mean, I have a friend who uses her electric toothbrush because of the plastic. She's like, I just like the hard plastic. I just like the hard plastic. It's true.

I had no idea. I did not know that I would be stimulated in that way. So then when I tried to use it as, like, an internal vibe, it just wasn't happening for me. And I really think it's because I used the rabbit habit for so long.

And you gotta step right for years.

Yeah. That I just was. I was like, what's going on? Because I usually. Especially if I'm masturbating, I can have an orgasm in, like, less than 10 minutes. I mean, we're good to go. But this one took longer.

Okay.

Yeah.

I just. I guess I really realized that you need to kind of have different kinds of sex toys and experience different sensations.

Well, I love what you said in your blog, which was comparing it to, like, if you read a good book, it's that gonna be. You're keep reading that book over and over again. You're gonna try to read another book. So I think it's kind of like having a new partner, having a new sex toy, because you gotta learn how it works. And the great thing about having a sex toy collection is that you can explore these other erogenous zones and play with toys. Hit your. Your G spot. Because the G spot really is an extension of your clitoris or some. Are you. It's all connected in a way, the nerve endings. And, like, if you, like, put your. Your vibrator on, Nicole, your interior, well, you can play it all. There's all the anterior. There's all these different spots that you might not know. And every toy can reach you in different ways. But it might happen the first time.

Exactly.

I've had that too, with toys. I'm like, God damn it. But you got to keep trying. And then you get, like, amazing. Yeah.

I mean, I felt. I felt like a brat because I was like, I didn't. I use this vibrator once, and it didn't work. Like, you know the whole saying, if it's. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. I mean, I took that to an extreme, and I used the same vibrator for years, and it was great. But now I really want to. It's just like a partner. I really want to try different vibrators. I want to try them with different material. I want to try ones that pulsate or vibe. I want to try silicone. I want to try plastic.

Oh, the thrusting one by Fun Factor.

That one's amazing.

What's the. The Zwe, The Dre?

The Zwe and the Dre.

Those are amazing.

From Fun Factory.

Yeah. Well, tell me about your experience, because those Are G spot, too.

Yeah, that one's intense. It's actually kind of like I'm. I have a collection, thanks to Emily.

Okay. Yeah.

And that one was the only one that's actually been intimidating to me because I actually put it on the table on a piece of paper because they told me to do this at the. We went to an expo, and it moved itself across my table.

It thrusts. It doesn't vibrate. And this is my fun factor. You can get these all good vibes. It's so. It's the zwei or the dre or all of them.

Thrusts are just different shapes.

Right. Okay.

Which. Yeah, Like, I think you have one that's a little more slender, which I think when I first tried it, I was like, oh, this is fun. But then I tried it with a partner, and it became really fun because.

Like, he could move it. He use it.

I like a little bit of. I like using it in the back door when he's in the front door.

Oh, interesting. The Fun Factory.

Yeah.

Oh, nice.

Yeah.

Okay. You use it in the back door. You thrusted it in the back door.

And it does its own. It does the work for it. So. And then he can feel it, and it feels awesome.

Right? He can feel it because he's inside of you. And the vibrations and the whole.

It's just. Yeah. It just makes everything really tight down there, and it's. I love it.

See, I've only been interning for a couple months, so I'm just thinking about expanding my sex toy collection.

Oh, yeah.

What will I learn?

I'm telling you guys to come over to my goddamn house and just go through my garage. I'm serious. I know everyone's gonna email you for toys, but I can't give them all the way to you all. But my interns. I have to.

She's giving them to us.

Yeah. But, yeah, you expand it right to. Who would have thought? That's. That's amazing.

This is what Emily's done to me.

I'm so sorry. Okay, Lauren, I got a Note. Is. She's 25. 24.

Almost 24. Yeah.

I'm only 23. Okay. She was 19 when she was that legal that you were my intern at 19. I was like, you're really. She's always been very mature. This is in San Francisco. And she did her. What was your intoy. Do you remember what your sex toy review was then?

My sex toy review was the rabbit. It was this enormous rabbit, and it was terrifying. Like, I know I said the Zwe or The dre was terrifying and intimidating. But like this, as my second sex toy.

I don't know why you got that big one. That was a mistake.

It was the first day I got there, and she pulls out this rabbit from her drawer, and she's like, here. Kelsey thought it was too big, right?

Right. Because one of my other interns thought it was too big for her. So Lauren's like, I'll take it. Right?

Yeah, that one was fun. Good times.

We're all so brave in here. Okay, so I wanted to go back to the thing that Lauren said that's interesting is that. And I always tell guys who are still intimidated by using a vibrator because just like the lube, I'm not pleasing her. There's something wrong with my penis. I don't turn around enough. No. In fact, you should look at toys like, thank God she's got a toy because it cuts on your work. And half your. The work that you physically have to do in half, plus the vibrations feel really good on your penis.

Oh, yeah.

On your balls. Guys love it. They're like, where did he. Did you put it on his balls and stuff?

See, I think it's really interesting. He's the one who goes through my sex toy drawer now. And he just digs through then. Now that he knows where it is and just picks things out, doesn't know what it does. Let's use this. Let's use. Because he used to be one of those guys was like, I don't know. And then now that he's extra experiencing it too.

Exactly.

He's so into it. And I'm a multi orgasmic girl, so, like, it just.

Oh, my God. You're fired now. Are you. So he's. That. That's so cool. No, I can. I can too. With a lot of the vibrators. I can have clitoral. I know my G spot experiences have not. It took me a while. Like, I needed to go through some of the tips that we're going to talk about of, like, really using my fingers, exploring with the. The com. When I talk about the common Hitler motion. It's like you stick your finger. How do you. 2 inches in. Up towards. Towards. In the vagina. Towards the.

Top of the top of the vagina. Yeah, the pelvic floor. Like, so you're going towards her pelvis muscle. Pelvic muscles. So they come hither and you stick your fingers inside and you play around. You gotta find it. But I was doing that on my own for a while. Like, I bought a book at Good Vibrations 20 years ago. How to find the G spot. Imagine that. And so I was. Yeah, I was exploring for a while. I mean, I found it eventually, but it wasn't like through sex. It didn't just happen. So I'm saying it's not like. And believe me, I wasn't a virgin, okay? I'm just putting it out there. I had sex with many different kinds of penises. Shapes, sizes, and it just wasn't happening. So some women, it happens. Some women it doesn't. But you gotta do, you know, for some women, you gotta. You gotta do the work. And not all women like it either. Not like some women just. Or they can't have one, or they don't, you know.

Yeah, they can't have one or they don't like it. I personally prefer G spot orgasms.

How would you explain the difference?

I had this conversation with one of my lesbian friends at a bar the other night.

Love it.

She asked me, what does it feel like to have a G spot orgasm? She's like, I'm not sure if I've had one. And I tried to explain it to her. I feel like a G spot orgasm is deeper. I feel like it's more of like an full body rumble.

It's deeper.

It's definitely deeper. It's deeper and longer. It feels longer, right? Lasts longer. It's like your whole body. Lauren, how would you describe it? The G spot orgasm?

Like, I can have clitoral orgasms and keep going and keep going. G spot orgasms. I have to take, like a moment and be like, okay, hold on, hold on. It's like a full body sensation. Whereas the. I think the clitoral orgasm is very kind of shallow. It's on top of the body.

Right?

That's how I feel.

It's true. It's true. So can you. And then when you have sex, would you say intercourse with the guy? Would you say you mostly do have the G spot before the.

When I'm having sex, I definitely will have a G spot orgasm a hundred times more before I'll have a clitoral orgasm. Because when you're having intercourse, I mean, it's just so rare that a guy's gonna hit your clitoris.

That's the point. That's why we talk about all these toys that women can use during sex. Or they should at least be rubbing their clitoris if that's the only way they can orgasm. Because the penis, unless you're doing certain positions, which we've talked about, it's not gonna Hit or clitoris in the right way to have one. But if you rub it against him or if you or her, whoever you're with. But you know, and you use certain positions or a toy like, you know, I love the Jeju Mimi and all the other things I love. Like, but, but oh, and the girls by Vibratox, which are really cool little ones. Like these are little things you hold in your hands and you can put it on your. On your clitoris and have an orgasm. If you can't have a G spot. So orgasm. So you typically can have the G spot all day long.

Yeah, I think like Lauren, I need to have a little recovery period because like I said, there's so much deeper and longer and wonderful. But definitely if I'm on top too. That's how I discovered my G spot is by being on top. Right.

Okay, so that's people. A lot of women are more easily able to have a G spot orgasm day. But Lauren, is that true for you too?

On top that actually on top? See, I can only have a G spot orgasm when I'm on top. If I'm. What's it not going up and down but kind of grinding backwards.

Grinding.

That's the only way I can have G spot orgasm on top.

Okay, but what about on the bottom?

On the bottom there's some positions that like. I know for sure. Like my go tos I can. Like where you have your legs over the shoulder.

Right.

That's super easy for me. I can't. I have a. I have problems having G spot organs with new people.

Oh, interesting.

Which I. Yeah, it's.

Is it because you're not. You got to learn their P. Kind of like she has to learn the.

Silky G. Yeah, I think, you know, you gotta.

You gotta learn his silky D. His silky D.

You gotta learn his silky D. And it is true. So that's a great point too, Lauren, that you brought up is that when with new partners, guys don't assume. I mean, every time she's not gonna have one. Especially at the beginning. Unless she's super verbal and knows how to move around. We don't know each other's bodies at the beginning. I mean, it's exciting and the anticipation of having a new partner is thrilling. And so the sex feels amazing and all that. But. And we might not have orgasms right away because we just. We don't really know how to maneuver around.

Yeah. And it can still be great, but you might not have an orgasm.

Right. It doesn't mean that you suck. Okay, so don't beat yourself up. But it takes a while to get to know someone sometimes. And the more you. Sooner you talk to your partner about sex, the better. So. Okay, we're going to come back to more talks about the G spot. But first I have to give you a quick word from our amazing sponsors who help keep this show free and available to you. And so I can do two shows a week, which I actually would like to do more. So support our sponsors. Okay, peeps? Okay. So I want to just again, thank you for listening to the show and I love being able to help you with all your sex and relationship problems. And I just want to know, have you ever heard of a massage candle? Looks like a regular candle that instantly turns into massage oil. In fact, it's sort of like massage oil that's a candle. Like, the massage oil is this great thing. So why do you need a massage candle? Because massage gets your partner in the mood. How many times you've been like, hey, babe, you want a massage? And then you got laid. The warm, luxurious oil feels amazing when you pour it on. It's your secret weapon in the bedroom if you want to spice things up, get your partner in the mood and have incredible sex. So. And it looks like a regular candle. It's not like it's some scary thing. They're beautiful candles that you can just leave out and light them around your house for ambiance. And the feedback has been outstanding. These are from my Emily and Tony candles. Dear Emily, I bought a candle. My girlfriend was skeptical at first, but agreed to try the warm oil on me first and gave me a back rub. Then I reciprocated and we had amazing sex. She cannot stop talking about how good this candle smells and how great the massage oil feels. I'm convinced that the scent and the candle helped us through some of the barriers to sex that we have faced lately. So, as you can see, I created these candles so you can have the best sex of your life. Go to emilyandtoni.com use code EMILY for 20% off. That's emilyandtoni.com Use code EMILY. I know a lot of you out there live in the LA area or you come down here often. The Hustler Hollywood store should be your main destination for the best toys, erotica, the sexiest lingerie, and most of all, the easiest way to find the answers you've been looking for to spice up your sex life. I know we had fun there, right, girls? We did a little field trip to the Hollyhouse or Hollywood store. It's the perfect date night spot. If you're in a relationship, you can browse their section of sexy products, see what both get you get get you both turned on. And this way you can avoid any awkward conversations about sex and go right to the source to fulfill all your sexual desires. And if you're single and just want to have more fun during solo play, you have to see this amazing store. We were blown away with the best products on the market today. And if you want to make your sex life better, whether you're single or in a relationship, they're offering a 20% discount if you mention Sex with Emily when you visit this legendary store on Sunset Boulevard. And also I am teaching a workshop. So you all know on July 16, right. How to blow his mind. It's called. Right, that's what it's called, how to blow his mind. And there's also a Facebook page that you could go to and what's the.

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Oh, yeah, definitely. Why is that?

Because of your G spot. Because you press it and, you know.

I want to try this.

What?

Yeah, like, I naturally. And the guys I'm dating see that I Dating, sleeping with, whatever. No, see that I do that. And they push on it, too, because it's pressuring the G spot through your interior, through the outside.

Mind blown. Because I do that. I do that because I've noticed it over the years.

Yeah. Oh, my God. That's why. That's why you have the G spot.

Secrets of the G spot.

The secrets of the G spot. So if she can do it, you can do above the pubic hairline. You can just apply soft pressure there, and that will also help. But if you're playing it solo, you can invest in an awesome G spot toy like the Silky G. I love the. The G key. That is by jiu. I believe it's G K I. I. That's a great one because it has locking adjustable joints that can be angled up to 60 degrees. So it's, like, made to your jeep spot. That's what I have in my garage for you, Caroline, if you wanna try.

I have tried that one.

Oh, yeah? What'd you think?

I. Okay. So that's. I actually wanted to bring this up when Carolyn was talking about her. She didn't really understand it at first because that's how I felt about the G key. I was so excited it's like this really nice toy.

Higher price.

Yeah, it's very nice. And so I started using it and I was like, why?

It feels good, but I feel like I could be getting a lot more out of this. And then when I started playing around with it, started, you know, trying it different ways, I was like, okay, this is actually really fun. That's actually a great partner toy too, right?

That is a great partner toy because a lot of guys get into it like once. Okay, guys, once you get over your hump, like we're saying, of being intimidated by some toys, you're gonna friggin. That's what my guy does. He's like, what are you bringing tonight? Or when he comes over, he goes digging through my. I literally got over there with like two suitcases and one's filled with toys and like clothes and like, that suitcase is much smaller. So it is fun to play with. And. And guys, you'll get into it like sticking this in and out of her, like, right? They love being in control and seeing getting turned on.

I think that's one of the reasons why the guy I'm hooking up with at the moment loves the sex toys. Because it's like he's in control. He's got the power. Like.

Yeah. They use them on you, so it's.

Like at first they're a little intimidated.

Yes.

And you have to be the one.

To bring it in. Right. Okay, so women. Yeah. And that's. You have to. I think a lot of times women just have to say, babe, this is gonna be really fun. I want you to see my, you know, my, my toy. If you want to bring it in or if you're a. Ask her. Say, you know, hey, do you ever use any toys? I think that'd be really fun. And just experience it. Try it once. Get out of your head that it means you're not pleasing her. It's just. We're telling you, we're three women who can have orgasms without toys. But toys just add a little something to the mix. Especially if you're multi orgasmic or you want to try different positions. It's just fun. They're fun. Like, why should sex. You know, the number one question I get asked, how do we spice it up? How do we keep it interesting? I mean, it doesn't. It can be a toy, it can be bondage tape, it could be like, you know, restraints, whatever it is, it's fun to bring other things besides your goddamn penis and the vagina into the bedroom. That's what we're saying. And it is true that men who think they're losing control of the toys. You're gaining control. I mean, you really are. Like, you can be in control and put this toy in and out.

Oh, yeah. You're adding elements, accessories into the genre.

You have more strength. You're just doing it from a different angle. I like that. The G. Yeah. The G key has the different.

Yeah, you can, like, crank it in different positions.

It's cool.

I thought I broke it the first time.

That might come next. So also, there's the dildos. The njoy pure wand. Have you heard about this? It's. It's. It's. It's this shiny dildo. It's. It's. It's made out of. I want to say. I don't want to say it like. Like, it's a steel.

I think it is a stainless steel.

It's stainless steel. It's N joy N J, O Y. And that is an amazing G sprat dildo. It's hard. It's like cold. I mean, it's like. But it's. It hits it. It's like I could start to cry right now. I've had such good experiences. I know some people talk about it. Yeah.

Some people like to put their.

Dildos like that either in, like, hot water.

Hot water. And boil it. Yeah. I was saying you put it in the fridge. You can make it cold or hot.

Yeah.

You can boil it. Yeah, I have one of those, too.

I'm learning so much.

I know. I love it. She's still learning all the time, even on the show.

This is amazing.

And then another thing about the G spot is that if you. If you start feeling like you have the urge to pee, don't panic, because that is actually a sign that you're getting closer to having the G spot orgasm. You're not going to pee all over your partner. And if you do, who cares? Because you're going to have a killer orgasm anyway. But you're not going to. But that's. That's also. Do you guys have that pee feeling?

Yes, definitely. If you can't laugh in the bedroom, too. Like, if you end up peeing on him. If you can't laugh in the bedroom, that's a problem.

If he ends up peeing and he's like, these are supposed to thread couch sheets. Guess what? Like, bye, honey. Have fun doing laundry.

You're not going to do it. You're not going to pee on him. That's for sure.

No, I highly doubt that. That would Happen.

But that is, that is, that is one of the. One of the signs for the G spot orgasm.

One thing I might add.

Yes, please.

Just because I had a friend who went on a date with a guy, went home with him, and he. He tried to give her a G spot orgasm with his fingers, but he didn't give her any warning and there wasn't a lot of foreplay. And next thing, I mean, she's in pain, they're kissing, and yeah, she's in pain. And she could not believe it. This guy just tried to stick his fingers, you know, and stimulate her G spot orgasm. But, you know, I really think that if a guy's gonna go hunting for that G spot. You're amazing and good for you, and you're wonderful. But you should give your partner a little bit of warning. Like, hey, babe. Like, I'm. I wanna.

Was he just fingering her or was he trying to find it? Cause some guys just stick to finger. And first of all. And they don't lose lube when you're not warmed up yet.

Yeah.

And it could hurt, you know, like.

Years later after hearing the story, I really think he was trying to stimulate her G spot.

Okay.

She said he was.

He was given. It is all right.

Sometimes you got to slow down because it's a two person experience. You got to look for her feedback. I mean, it's all about communication. And I've had guys just go in. I don't know what they're looking for, but they're like hammering away their fingers. I'm like, really? And it can hurt. So guys. Also, another thing to remember is to cut your nails. Have you guys ever had that?

Oh, my God.

Have we all had that experience?

Yes. Women.

Look at your hands, right?

Oh, yeah, yeah.

You can just clip them, file them. But if you're gonna be going and doing some interior work, make sure that they're clipped and make sure that you use lube again a little. If she's not. If she's not wide enough and you're just searching for. Hunting for the G spot lube is amazing.

Lube. I cannot believe you don't use lube when you masturbated. That one time I was about to be like, I get so messy.

Well, next time I will and I will.

What's the good lube that I gave you that you liked?

I've tried silk lube from. From liquid silk. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And that was great. And I've tried a couple others. I can't remember. We have so many samples and Little.

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Oh, yeah, Shitty lube is shitty lube.

Shitty lube is shitty lube.

I know that now.

Yeah, there's a difference.

I think on like the third day, Emily asked me what kind of lube I use, and I said, okay, why? And she was just like shaking her head.

I was like, astroglide or something.

Yeah, something.

Yeah. Because that's what you buy a while, you know, you know, it's, it's not good. And you want to make sure that you use a lube that makes, that is all, you know, paraben free and just get infections and invest in some good lube and some good condoms. That's what I got to say to y'.

All.

Okay, so what else here, guys? Should we talk about the bouncy house made of boobs?

Definitely.

Well, I was gonna actually bring this up to you the other day, and.

I just realized maybe one of the reasons why I don't like clitoral orgasm so much is because I've realized recently in like, I've been having sex for a couple years now, but very recently I don't like when a guy goes off super fast, like on the outside.

Of my vagina, like goes off super.

Fast with their tongue, with their fingers or their tongue. Like, I cannot stand it. It's almost too much. And it's not a good too much. It's like an intense, like this hurts too much. Even if I'm stimulated and even if I'm wet. But now, like, I've realized I really do love it. It's just, they just. I love and it's slow, right? I cannot stand it when it's being fast. Like when someone gets hammered away at that like that. Like, maybe in the end when you're.

Like, right also going down, most women want you to start slow. It's true. And do you know what else though, though, Lauren? Is that a lot of women who are multi orgasmic and really sensitive, they, it really, they don't want their clitoris touched. They might not even want a guy to perform oral sex because they are multi orgasmic and they, they don't, they don't like it. But it's true that if you like everything go three times slower than you, then you think you need to. Especially when you're going to clip. Don't go dive into the cliff. Start rubbing it. I know.

And I mean, I've. There's been times where, you know, someone. You know, you're really excited. Someone is, like, you know, going down on you or something. And in. And maybe you come. And then they keep. Do they keep going? And you're like, stop. Like, right? I mean, it's too much. And I feel like some guys are like, yeah, like, I'm the king of the castle. Like, I'm gonna keep going. It's like, no, stop.

Right. Because it hurts. Or something's right. And then you can go again. Those are like. Women have a shorter refractory period. Like, maybe you can have another organ.

So much has to do with, like, the guy paying attention to, obviously, the words you're saying, but your body language.

Right.

Yeah.

When she's, like, writhing in pain, that's a good time to stop, pay attention. Exactly. And talk about it if you're not sure. But again, like I say, always start slow with anything to do with the female body. Like, I mean, not that you don't ever want to rip her clothes off and throw it out on the bed. I'm not saying that. But if you're going into, like, oral sex and the whole thing, you just. I think even the great thing about it is the tease. Like, play with her thighs for a while. Like, lick around her clitoris, around her vagina. Play with her, like, inner thighs. Massage them. The labia, you know, there's just so many other parts that feel really good. And then go in for the clitoris. Because, Lauren, you're one of these women. It's true. There's a lot of women, like, no. Because guys have done it in the past too aggressively.

Yeah. I loved that whole sexual breakdown you just did. I got kind of turned on.

Talking about all of the. You know, you don't go straight in.

No.

I love when you guys, like, make you, like, you want her to be begging you for it. You want her to be like, babe, when are you gonna get to the clitoris? You want her to be like, I cannot wait for you to touch my clitoris. That's what you want. So if you have to kiss her breasts and go down her body and, like, make everything else feel good, and even if you touch it for a second, but then you move back, and then you go towards it and you move back, and then you go for it, then she's gonna be ready. But just these guys. Or how about the Ones who just go, right. Like, you're fooling around, even for the first time, and they stick their hand on your pants. You're like, first of all, what about my breasts? Because we're already making out. What about everything else? And then what do you think? We're gonna have sex and you're gonna go right down. I just. That just drives me crazy. Yeah. Huge pet peeve.

There's so much to be said about the anticipation and the, you know, the, like, waiting for it. And I'm not talking about, you know, waiting three dates, five days, eight dates, but waiting five minutes during the session, eight minutes, you know, Like, I really like. Like leaving clothing on. Like, no, I really like leaving clothing on during sex. No, I really like leaving, like, shoot, like, my shoes on. I really like leaving, like, my skirt on or my bra on. What about leaving, like, your underwear on? And he can just, you know, do his thing down there. Like, you know, kiss I love you. And then it's like, you're the one that's trying to rip your underwear off, not him exact. It's like, you just can't wait.

So I totally agree with you. I. I'm 100. I love leaving the underwear. Even if you. If you lick or vibe or touch over the underwear, it can feel really good because the fabric feels great against the clitoris.

Women spend so much money on their underwear. We were talking about Agent Provocateur the other day. I went shopping and bought and bought a bunch of beautiful bras yesterday.

It's like, okay, slow down and notice.

Let's use this beautiful underwear to our advantage and leave it on for a little longer.

Exactly. Leave the clothes on. Leave them on for a while.

You went to. You went there yesterday?

I did. My guy bought me some beautiful stuff.

I drove by there yesterday. I thought of you.

The one in Melrose. I mean, he's not my guy. I shouldn't say. The guy that I see sometimes. He'd bought me, like, eight months ago, some stuff, and then we didn't see each other. It was in his trunk. I'm like, what about that Asian racoteur stuff? So we went there, and it fit me. It was beautiful. We were trying out. It was.

I love shopping for underwear.

I know they're not a sponsor, but I wish they would be.

I wish they would be, too. So. So. But here's the thing. Is that. So. Yeah, notice it. Like, tell her. And then also tell her she looks beautiful and hot. And, like, you recognize that she tried to match her panties and underwear, which Is not always easy because then the bra's dirty and the underwear unclean. Like we thought about it and so recognize it, like worship it. And just again, like, take, take your time. And so the key to one of the main keys to having amazing, long lasting, really good sex is the anticipation, the unknown. That's why early on sex is so good with someone is because there is a weight and there is a tease. And so wherever you are in your relationship, if you could still kind of bring some of that back and incorporate it into your sex life, it will be just magical. I think the waiting, the slowing down. That's why we talk about foreplay. Like I tweeted last week, I was like, this cantium I like. Foreplay is not a suggestion. It's like it's a requirement for women, I think a lot. And for men. And I'm not saying every time has got to be 45 minutes. Remember, Menace always says to me, how long do I have to do it? How long? When you say foreplay, how long? 20 minutes. No, but just like it's more so than not. Like you should know that. It's. We actually require it to get warmed up because we are not. When you just walked in the door, it didn't happen that way. So we were not like, you're turned on cause you saw us. Cause you're visual. And we need a little more touching and feeling.

Yeah. And it's. It's also like a physical experience too. Because when you're not. When women aren't turned on, our vaginas are actually smaller.

Right.

And then they expand as we. So if you just shove it in.

It'S gonna hurt, right? Exactly. We do expand. Have you ever watched we should like a time elapsed. They must have time elapsed with a vagina opening on one. They do, they do. But really like it. You'll see like it flower. If you spent any time looking at the vagina, which I hope you have have when you're down there, it opens up, it expands like a flower. But it blooms.

Yeah. And I mean, and so much of it is like, I mean, the five or 10 minutes before you're even touching each other, I mean, it's like, right. Are you being kind to me? Are we laughing? Are you complimenting me? Not even just about complimenting me. Are we, are, are we, are we vibing? Yeah. Is there some good energy going around and then you can start getting physical? Yeah.

Right. And we want to made to be felt good. When like people have been like, oh, compliments I don't just mean that. This is what you have to understand is that the men are visual. Like I said, you walk in the door, you see us, you want to have sex. Our brain is our largest sex organ. So that's why guys decide in 20 seconds if they're gonna sleep with someone. Women. Men can kind of grow on us because we meet you and not. Not. Not that we're not talking about your penis, but it's an intellectual thing for us. Sometimes you might say things that we, you know, we can. Words turn us on.

Seduction.

Seduction. Seduce us. Send a sexy text. Talk to us.

Yeah. I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone yesterday, and at the end of the conversation, I said, well, tell me something sweet. You know, we'd been talking on the phone for, like, an hour, almost two hours, and I hardly ever do that. And he said. He said, do you want me to, you know, do you want 10 minutes of me telling you something sweet, making some, you know, like, you know, blah, blah, blah? Or do you want two hours of us talking about our days and talking about, like, our goals and talking about, you know, the things that go through our minds in these days? Like, he's like, I just gave you two hours of, like, intimacy. And. And I said, oh, yeah, you're right. You're right. You're a smart guy. You're smart. He's a good talker, right? He's a.

But then, did you get the little sweet thing at the end?

I did.

I did. See, he thinks he. I let him think he runs the show, but at the end, he was like, you know, I miss you. Da, da, da, da.

Yeah, sometimes. You want that?

Yeah. So I. I get. Get the sweet side, and I get, you know, the intimate conversations.

I love it. So how long have you guys been dating?

We've been dating for, I don't know, almost six months.

Okay.

Yeah.

So getting. It's a good. Getting better.

It's good. Yeah, it's. It's. It's definitely good. I'm really happy, and I like it. But, you know, I'm, like, single.

I'm.

I'm single all. I've been single for a long time. And so when you actually meet someone you want to date, it's just. It throws you through a whirlwind.

You. It's.

It's challenging.

Right? Exactly. Have you used the toys with him?

Yes. Yes, we have. I've, like, yeah. Like, we've done. We've used a couple toys. We've used lube, and, like, it's been me introducing them, but he's always really excited about it, you know, afterwards. So.

Okay.

Yeah, good. It's been good.

I love it. Well, thank you so much, Carolyn. And you can, everyone can check out. It's been so wonderful having you.

Thank you.

On the Sex with Emily team and thank you for coming on the show. And the name of your blog, we could just find it. It's the. So the name of the blog, Intern Sex Toy Review and it's called get.

Out of youf Sex Toy Rut with a G Spot Vibe.

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