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Hey, everyone. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show is definitely not safe for work, but in the best possible way. I've got four hilarious ladies in the studio to talk about all things sex. And we're getting into the dirty details. Real women, real stories. Nothing held back. Some of the things we'll be talking about. You can find out the biggest mistake a man can make in bed. What do real women think about during sex? And what do women really think about anal sex? Everyone's favorite topic. Okay, everyone, so thanks for listening. Enjoy the show.

Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend?

Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean?

Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so drunk. Being bad feels pretty good.

But you know, Emily's not the kind.

Of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com. where you can check out my podcast, sign up for my mailings. Goddamn it. Have you not sent it for a mailing list? I give really good email. I mean, I have other skills as well. But I have to say that people, they like my emails. Check it out. We send them once a week. We do not spam you. And they're pretty entertaining. And they link to a lot of the great stuff at our site and which every day we're posting blogs and videos and things that will help you have better sex and relationships. Because that's what I'm all about. And I'm all about these sexy ladies here. Hi.

This is so fun. I love these shows because we. I've got these, you guys. There is nothing held back here. I know, because. Okay, so I'm gonna go around and introduce you guys, and then we're gonna talk about when we first met. Like, how I know that they would be awesome on the show. So first. Okay, so I have Grace.

Yes.

Hi.

Hi.

Hi.

Hi, Grace. Hello. So tell me. Tell me about yourself. How old are you?

Oh, my name is Grace parra. I am 31 years old. I am sassy Latina. It's not relevant at all. No, I love our conversation.

I just got a picture. Oh, there are pictures on the site.

There are pictures on the site. Great. And I'm a writer, host, comedian, actress, I guess I should say, too. Hyphenate. One of those LA hyphenates. I love this. Yeah. And I'm real big fan of sex. Talking about sex, being candid about sex. Avoiding talking about sex with my father.

That's good. That's probably a good thing. I mean, I don't know. Dads don't use your words.

Dads will get it. Moms get it a little bit. Yeah.

Yeah. But dads know.

Dad's smart.

Okay. Wait a minute. Are you in a relationship? What's your relationship status?

I am single. I am single. As the day is long. No, that's. Nothing.

Sounded so sad.

Grace does sound very sad. I'm. Yeah. Single.

But you won't be after this show.

I don't know.

Once they hear about.

I'm. But dating.

Okay. Single, but dating.

Got it.

Okay. Jennifer or Jen?

Jen. Yes.

Jen.

Hi. How are you?

Hi, Jen. I'm good.

Good to see you.

Oh, I'm excited to be here. My name is Jen Bartels. I'm also a comedian and actress and creator of Things that Are Important to Me In My Heart. That sounded cute and deep. And we actually have a show. Grace and I have this show called Lady Free Comedy that we do at UCB here in Los Angeles, that's kind of a, I guess, similar air to this show, which is us just being stupidly candid, not the most educated, but always wanting to further our education on sex topics. So, so excited to be here. And how can people find that?

Like, I just want to say that I'm honored because I was in your first show.

You were amazing.

Yes.

Our inaugural sex.

And that's how I was there. And it was amazing. It was a live show. And you guys do it how many times? Once a month.

Once a month.

Once a month. The second Wednesday of every month at UCB. Our next one is coming up Wednesday, September 9th.

You guys gotta check it out. It was really fun. And I have to say, I knew, like, walked into, like, our green room, and I think Grace was at you. You're like, can I just. You were like, yeah. So this guy. I was seeing this guy, and, like, some guy came in my chest. And then I had another date, and I didn't have time to shower, and then I went home, and then I had another guy that I'm like, wait, no shower. The concrete. He smelled the. I mean, so I'm like.

We just got right into it.

Like, literally, I don't even think we said hi.

We didn't say hi.

I don't even think I said, like, I'm Emily. Nobody came on me. Like, these girls can get down. So that was a good. That was behind the. Wait till you see the show.

Oh, yeah.

Okay.

Oh, yeah.

So. Okay.

Kim.

Hi, Kim.

Hi, Emily.

How are you?

I'm doing great, thanks.

So tell me, Kim. So Kim's a friend of mine and tell me about you. We all live in Los Angeles.

Yes.

Okay. And how old are you?

Well, I'm 42 and very single and I've never been married, so you can imagine how many sex stories I have to share.

Because you're not a virgin. You haven't been a virgin for a while?

Well, yeah, it's been a few years, so. A very long time. But no, I. It's just something I'm totally interested in. It's a big part of my life and definitely open to just, like, talking about it today and sharing some crazy stories.

And you're single now? You said single, Very single. Yes.

Okay.

I'm sorry, Jennifer, did you say you were.

I'm separated, so I'm newly single.

Okay. Separate. You were married?

I was married, and now I'm going through a divorce.

Oh, okay. And how long were you married?

I was married for two years, but I was with him for seven. Okay, so it was the same dick for seven years.

Wow. Okay, so now you're just going, we're all single.

Yeah.

Okay.

Oh, wow.

This is insane. Okay. Lori, Assistant producer Lori. Hello. Hi, sweetie. So tell me, you.

I'm 27. 27 years old, and I am single. And I'm looking for more, you know?

You want a relationship?

Well, I always want a relationship. I. Yeah. I just feel like I'm wired that way. But I also very much enjoy casual sex.

Right. It's a good time. Especially when part of her job is like, I gotta try out this toy tonight. Can you come over and. Right. Laurie's had some good stories.

I want that job, by the way.

That's awesome.

Yeah, it's actually. Yeah, we have a good time. I mean, I don't wanna tell her. I don't know, maybe she, you know. No one likes the boss when I leave. No, I'm kidding. But we have a good time in the office.

We do.

Lori had her first multiple orgasm after using a toy in the office. I just wanna just launch with that. Cause I just introduced her that way.

Now, wait, was it in the office?

Not in the office. Okay. But we've interned. She was an intern. But we've interned. Sex toy review day. We just did a sex toy recently, but she was saying the night before that she had never had a multiple orgasm. And she was trying this thing called the We Vibe Touch. We Vibe makes a bunch of sex toys, but it's a clitoral toy. And she was like, I've never had one. I said, you know, just because you never had one. Because a lot of things about sex is, we think, I can only orgasm this way. I can only do things that way. And then Lori took the Touch home that night. And I was like, well, don't limit. You never know. It could happen. She came in, we were on mic like this, in the same place. I said, so how was the We Vibe touched? And she's like, I had five orgasms. Yeah. Five in the one.

That's incredible.

Like seed in my brain, one after the other. It was like one, and then like a minute later, two right next to each other. And then like 15 seconds later, another.

So, like aftershocks.

It was like little tremors.

Like the.

Big one and then aftershocks.

It's awesome.

Wow. Yeah, I know. So it's. Yeah, it's amazing. I know. It's amazing.

I want that, by the way. I also.

Do you want the toy I. Have you ever had. Okay, so let's. Okay. So, Grace, have you had multiple orgasms?

I have occasionally, but only self inflicted.

Okay.

Never been given multiples by a man or by a toy.

Oh, really?

Neither man nor machine has been able to.

Neither man nor machine. So your fingers are typically how you masturbate?

Well, actually I do this sort of like kegelsy thing. Oh. Does anybody else do this key. This is something we talked about a little bit on Lady Freak, but yeah, I am.

You would pump the kegel muscles?

Yeah. Yeah. Like I don't use my. My fingers at all.

You don't even touch yourself.

Don't even touch myself. Which is how sometimes in the middle of the night, I can wake up midorgasm.

Wait, you hands free masturbate?

I hands free masturbate? Yep.

Have you always done that?

Always. I don't know how I learned it. Don't know how I picked it up, but it's. I've always done it.

That's amazing. Yeah, no, I've. This is what I'm saying, you guys, we talked about this intensity. We have this product called the Intensity that does your kaggle exercise. It's the most amazing product in the world and it does it for you. So your kyles become stronger. And what I'm saying is when they become stronger that your pelvic floor, you can actually walk around like aroused all the. All the time because your muscles are bigger. That's why every woman needs to do their kagalad. Her pelvic floor drops. It's not straight after, especially after childbirth or as you get older every year, you know, but we all exercise our outside because as everyone can see, no one's going. Her pelvic floor looks kind of. But I'm telling you, I love this. Really? That's it. I've never. Yeah, okay.

Yeah, I could talk about. I mean, it's great in many ways. It's a little bit difficult though, because translating that to sex.

So during intercourse.

Yeah.

You typically. Do you have orgasms, though?

It's. It's much harder for me swim in.

Only 30 can during.

Is that the official stat?

Yeah, that is most. Most. 70% cannot. Okay. Kim. What? I can. No, I can't during intercourse. Every time if I want to see. I don't know why you're here. I have a hard time having friends like this.

I have to like, think about it and really focus on it though.

Okay.

Is it a certain position or can you do it for multiple positions?

Mostly like me on top So I wish I could do it other way.

No, but still so on top. So is it G spot or clitoral?

It's G spot for sure.

Absolutely. See, mine's clitoral. I can. On top. It's a surefire way. We could do it and still make dinner reservations and not be late. Because if I hop on every time. Every time. Every time. Unless I've been drinking too much. Because then that's a different problem.

Yeah, the bourbon pussy problem. The bpp. Anyway. But I wish I could come other ways, like I see in porn. Like girls, I guess, quote, unquote. I don't know if they're really coming, but, like, from the back, like from. Or the guy. Yeah.

Yeah. Oh, yeah.

And I'm just like. I don't know how that happens. They're lying.

Yeah. Well, we're anal sex, actually. Absolutely. No. Some of them important. They might not be in that moment, but a lot of women can have orgasm through anal sex because the tissues are so closely, you know, hitting up against your G spot. And it's possible. It is possible. Use lots of lube. Not for every woman, but it can happen. So, yes, you're right. That is. But you also want to be able to have a G spot orgasm, too, or can you have that as well during.

No, it's more clitoral stimulation.

And have you had a G spot orgasm?

I have once or twice, but it's a rarity. It was like a special gift.

It was a gift from God. Thank you. Okay. Yes, Kim.

I wanted to add something to that. It actually didn't start for me until my mid-30s.

Really? Yeah.

I think that there was, like, training or I had to learn my body. I had to learn what really worked.

So how did you do that, Kim?

Yeah, I was just reading. I really. I actually read a book called the G Spot, and it was really, like, inspired me. And I really, like, put effort into it, and I think a lot of it's mental.

It is. How did you. Did you. Did you get a G Spot toy? Or did you just start playing around? You just read about how to move during sex. So what did you learn?

I just learned about really getting that yourself. Really aroused, like on, you know, like, on the outside. And, like, you're. Of course. It's really helpful if your clit is.

Yeah. They say to have a clitoral. They say. I say, I know this. That it really helps to have a clitoral orgasm first. And then it's so much easier to find your G spot because it becomes more Engorged and Swiss. You're already turned on.

Yeah, but I really have to focus on it. I think I actually, like, visualize in my mind that I want it to happen. And then I feel like that makes it much easier for sure.

Before your mid-30s, had you tried to me? Because I've never had one and I try.

No, I don't.

So you.

You didn't even try?

I don't really. Honestly don't remember.

But definitely mentally, like, I have to really take myself there and I really have to be into the guy. Can't happen with just everyone. I really have to, like, care about him or have some kind of a feeling, you know, feelings of some sort.

That's so important. I can't just fuck anything. I can't just meet a guy and do it.

On the flip side, though, if you really care about somebody. Oh, my God. If you're into somebody, it's like, water works, right?

Oh, yeah. Oh, you like squishy pussy.

Like, oh, I wish I have never done that. But I'd be interested in it. Yeah, I'd be very. In fact, I had a goal, actually, before I turned 31, that I would have squirty fun before 31.

That should be the name of your birthday. You already heard. Okay. Squirty something before 32. We could make this happen for you.

Oh, yeah, Squirty Lou before 32.

Yeah. Okay. Yeah, yeah, totally. I mean, you can learn to squirt. You can learn to. So you want to say that, but you. Okay, so. And then, master, do we talk about how you do you masturbate?

Jen? I do. I masturbate quite a bit.

How I.

So I. First, the funny thing, we talked about this in the last show. I will fuck on my bed. But when I masturbate, I hide underneath next to my bed. So in case any neighbor can find a way to peek in, they can't see me.

Oh, my God. Really? Like, you're afraid they're gonna.

I don't know. I will. I can openly do things on my bed sexually, but when I'm by myself, I'm like, dirty little girl. And so I, like, go and I, like, sit by myself sitting on the floor, like, laying on the floor. It's not a cold floor.

It's a warm room.

Yeah, yeah. No, it's not. Like, it's not a cage. Like, it's that. And I masturbate and I use my fingers, but I just rub my clit. So I don't, like, finger myself directly. Yeah, like. Yeah, like I directly rub my clit.

That's something that I actually have been learning about myself directly. Stimulation to my clit is too much, right?

That's very. That's actually common. So this is why. This is why we're talking about this. Because you're gonna. We have five women in the room and five different ways. Vaginas. We're all different. It's true. We all organ them differently. And there's a lot of women who just. Their clitorises are way too sensitive.

Too sensitive?

Yeah, they just can't. They can't have a touch. They have to like work up to it so that. That makes sense. But some women are like, you know, you see porn.

This is a question with. When you have too much sex or you're like clit is just getting touched and simulated for like a few hours. Then in the morning or in the middle of the night. Once recently my clit felt like it was going on its own. It was having little seizures. And I don't know if it was like withdrawal or I had overly rubbed it. Like it was.

Did it hurt?

No, it didn't hurt. It just felt like it was like aftershocks. It was aftershocks of just little.

That's like multiple orgasms kind of.

Right. But it wasn't an orgasm.

I was just laying there and I was like. And then I always think dark. I'm like, my clit's gonna fall off.

No, your clit cannot fall off. Is that what you were asking? But you can, like sometimes, you know, with different toys you want to mix it up. If you're only using one toy, you just like anything you want. Do you ever use. But you don't use toys.

I used the rabbit for a while. Then I got so addicted to it. Because it stimulates your butt, it stimulates your pussy hole and then it stimulates your clit and that's. It was like a Christmas morning. And then when I have a real dick, I was like, this is it, right.

Dammit. What else? You don't vibrate. You don't turn around. Those little balls inside.

Did you insert it though, all the way in? Like that's.

It was.

How deep did it go?

I mean it goes pretty deep. It's like a decent sized.

Yeah. Have you received. You guys have sometimes sex in the office kids gotten some presents. You don't understand. It's a good time. The presence of the toys. So. So the. So you. But you don't have. Did you have a G spot orgasm with that insertion rabbit toy?

Yes, that was one of the times by myself. That I've had one.

Got it.

And yeah, it just. It stimulates everything. It was one of, like, the best dildos on the market for a while.

Yeah.

Because it did so much and it was just. It blew my mind the first time that I had it.

I have the knockoff, the. The gasm, the G. I thought you.

Were gonna say the Ferret.

There's so many different kinds of rabbit vibes now. Like, they make hundreds of them now with like, they just. Basically, it's insertion and then they have the little things on the outside. The vibe.

Yeah, that's what it is.

There's a clean one. Yeah. So that. That's cool. And Kim.

Yes.

Vibration experiences.

Guilty, Guilty.

Yeah.

You know, my favorite toy is. What's that little pink one that you get?

Oh, the Jeume. That's my favorite.

Yeah, you got there real quick, by the way. That's impressive. You're in a second.

I literally have three, like five thousands of toys, but that is my favorite.

That's my go to every time.

Right. It's so powerful, so efficient. So it looks like a little. I'll show you guys pictures after. You guys. You guys. If you've been listening, I talk about it for a while. It's because I've tried everything and it still is my go to. And it's. It looks like a little. Like it's silicone. It's like a little. It's rechargeable. Like a stone. Like a pebble. And you can hold it in your hand.

Well, there it is.

Yeah, it's like that you hold in your hand. It's rechargeable. And it just has these. The reason why I know the owners and the reason why I feel like I love it so much. It's soft, but it's. It's a different kind of vibration. It's a thumpy. More like a motor. You love a thump. I love a hump and a thump.

I love a hump and a thump.

And it's just. There's something about it. So that's what you used. Have you ever used it with a partner?

Yes, as a matter of fact, I.

Put it underneath the herm. His balls.

Yes. Loved it. Oh, crazy.

Have you guys ever done any ball play? Guys love that. This vibrations. We think it's for us men, you put a little something in their perennium. They're balls.

I have never done any sex toy play with a guy before. I gotta get on that.

I do too. I get scared, though. I just don't wanna, like, pop a Ball or, like, you know, hurt it. Because what ends up happening is I accidentally kick it or I do something. So I always get scared to bring toys near their sensitive ball sack.

Well, first, yeah, you don't do it the first time you're with them. But I felt that way, too. I had a really bad experience, like, in my early 20s. I think I knocked some guy in the balls or something, and I did something bad, and I literally blocked balls from my life. It was like, I, like, post traumatic ball disorder. I did not touch balls for, like, years. I, like, forgot they existed. And I was like, oh, my God, I gotta get back into the balls. And then I realized, like, the ways to, like, handle them. Like, you just hope you start really soft. You put them in your hands. Kind of like those little Benoit balls.

Yeah, yeah.

And you know, like that. And then. But then. And you can add a little lube and then just see the little vibrations on the lowest speed of any vibrator you have, and you just rub it on the balls. I'm telling you, no guys ever come complain.

They crazy guys love you.

Put in the perennium, too, really gently. Like the taint in between. Yeah, gently. And right when he was about to orgasm.

Yeah, I was just kind of like, you know, during, like, the foreplay. Just kind of heating things up. It was super hot. It's definitely a go to.

Okay, good. I think.

Yeah.

And I think it's good to talk to a guy about it.

Like, hey, you know what?

Yeah, not a surprise. Lift up your balls. Here we go.

Exactly. No, you don't want to rush it.

But.

Yeah, I. I know what you mean with the balls. I got scared. What about you?

Look, I love balls. I. My favorite thing about. Well, I love the. Okay, I should say I like the scrotum in particular. I like to, like, hold them. And then I like when your hand is a different temperature than their balls. And then the scrotum like, like, moves and you can feel it moving. Like, I get a big kick out of that.

Yeah. And you find that some guys, though, there are guys like, do you ask them for you gentle start, gently, or they were like, no, don't touch my balls. Have you ever had that?

I. They usually ask me to. To, you know, access their balls at some point. I go for the blowjob pretty quick. I usually go for a blowjob. And then I feel like, I don't know. Nine out of ten times I'll hear like, oh, touch my balls.

Yeah, you're right. That is, you know, that's a nice transition. Let's go into blowjobs for a minute. Oh, I want to know, how do you. How do you guys feel about blowjobs?

I love them. I love them. I love, really genuinely enjoy giving them. I like. I like the feeling. I like the taste. I like the power.

It's powerful, right?

Powerful.

Yeah.

It's fun. It's really fun. I think it's. I probably. I think I might enjoy giving blowjobs more than I like receiving oral.

Really? Okay. You have the sensitive clitoris.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

So that makes sense.

Yeah, I like. Yeah.

Wow, that's good. Because there is blowjobs. Gets a bad. Or men give like the women stop giving him. They don't really like it or there are a lot of women.

I don't understand that.

I don't either. But you were. Okay, let's move to Jen for. Who's Jen? Yeah, you were married. Yeah, seven years.

Yeah.

There's a. There's a myth and maybe it's a wives tale that when you get married, you stop giving blowjobs.

Oh, sex went. I mean, this is sad, but it's the honest. Yeah. Sex, it just went downhill. I mean, everything, it just. Sometimes it works. And you can make it work. And then sometimes you become so comfortable with someone that it's not, you know, it's. It goes a little.

Falls by the wayside.

Falls by the wayside. And then it's just like life gets in the way. And so that's like my big focus now is like, that's not gonna happen with whoever I end up with next. But I do like giving blowjobs if I like the person. And I've gotten big on this thing where I like, even after he's been inside, then like when he's right before he's about to come, I'll go back down and take it.

Take it. Come. Right. You're like. They come in my mouth.

Yes. And it's so fucking hot. Can I say the F word?

Yeah, it's fine.

Okay. And I've just. It's been something. I'm like, I'm surprising myself. I'm like, oh, okay. It's powerful. But it's also like if you like doing it and you know, it feels so wonderful to them. It's like a little mission I'm going on. I'm like, here I go. And I kiss my way down and then we go.

Wow, that's hot. Okay, good. Okay. Well, Kim Box fan. Yes.

Huge fan.

Huge fan. I mean, I would give them all Day if I could.

God. See, and I love this, you guys, because I have friends who are like, no, women don't really like them. They lie.

I have friends like that, too. And I'm like.

And some of them don't look out my friends. Exactly.

And I think there's a lot to it, though. Like, the hygiene aspect, liking the person, connecting with the person. I'm not just gonna, like, suck any dick that puts his dick in my mouth.

Right.

You know?

Do you feel like you. Is it the kind of thing that you would do, like, on the first date?

Yeah, totally.

Sure.

Totally.

If it was a good first date.

Sure, it was a good first date. I mean, what makes a good first date good enough? That he gets a bullet. You're connecting.

Oh. I mean, I think, like, sense of humor paid for the bill. Wasn't, like, weird about it. Like, you got the French fries, and I got the.

And you ought to be gone.

French fry. Fred is french fried.

That guy's a jerk.

Okay, so, Lori, blowjob.

I do love giving blow jobs. I feel like it's almost like I think I'm good at it. So it's, like, showing off when I do it. Like, are you ready for that?

What makes you think that you're good at it?

Feedback.

Feedback.

You always do great forms, effort.

When we did the blowjob workshop or the oral sex workshop, and I was, like, watching through the PowerPoint, and I was like, yep, I do all of that.

Oh, good.

Like, those are all things.

Okay, good.

Except if it's, like, super, super large, then I get scared.

But we gotta get into that large pieces. Yes.

Kim, think that you're, like, if, you know you're good at it, if you're really passionate about it, like, if you're into it, the guy's gonna be into it no matter what.

Enthusiasm is the number one thing.

But I have an issue when it comes to eye contact. I never know how much to give.

Just a little glance that the whole time.

No, that's so creepy. Cause that's happened to me where guys, like, going down on me and. And he's, like, looking up at me all the time, like, for approval. And I'm not, you know, this guy. And I'm not. I'm just not into it. It's just, like, too much, man.

Well, you almost feel like it's a show at that point. Like, it's, like, not real because you're like, how do I look? Do I look like I'm liking what I'm liking?

Right, Exactly. Right. Right. I think you just gotta give em a little furtive glances every once in a while so they can kind of like remember in their spank bank.

I don't know.

Right.

Yeah.

Okay. So do you guys have any blowjob tricks? Like your face? Do you have like a go to weird?

I was just gonna ask that question. I was just gonna be like. Well, no, I was gonna ask.

I was like, ask me for blowjob tips.

Yeah. Anybody here? I was like, are there any cool tips? I have big lips. I like to engulf as much as I can. Let's not use those teeth. And then when it's in my mouth, I'll use my tongue to kind of swirl around. Swirl around. So it's like a double thing. So you're getting in my mouth, but then I'm using my tongue to, like, kind of go around the tip? Yeah, the tip.

And the frenulum, which is the most sensitive underside.

Yeah, the underneath of the disc. Yes, that's what I read about.

Nice. Okay, good. Any blow job tips that you think have worked?

Well, if you are like me. This is so unsexy. Let's get unsexy for a second.

Yeah, why not?

If you're like me and you have.

Acid reflux.

Oh, deep throat.

Well, I like a deep throat. I do like that. But I have a combination of acid reflux and post nasal drip.

Oh, gosh.

Which is a great thing, though.

It's so hot.

It's so hot. Here's the great thing about post nasal drip, though. There's always a little extra accumulation of, like, fluid back there.

Oh, so you can make it wet?

Yeah, so I'm constantly making it wet. Like, there's. There's just like. It's a never. I never get dry during blowjobs. I can just like. There's just like this barrel of.

That's amazing because really, it's like, number one is enthusiasm. Number two is, like, making sure like, that it's super wet and slippery. Three is, like, enough pressure. So you got it with the wet.

The wet.

That can be hard for me. Sometimes I just like, I need to take more water.

Lube?

Yeah, lube. But I don't like tasting lube.

But there's some good tasting lube.

Don't they have, like, really cherry ones?

Well, I have this new trick. Wait, Kim, let's get to you first.

Well, I have one little one that sometimes it's like my magic trick that I'll pull.

Oh, magic trick. A magic blowjob trick.

So.

So I think it's kind of, like, interesting. And maybe I don't even know because obviously I've never had a blow job, but I've actually taken my finger and put it inside the corner of my mouth and kind of swirled my fingertip around while I was back up.

You're giving him a blow up? No. His penis is in your mouth.

Yeah. And then I'll take my finger and then kind of touch the tip with my finger. Just to create a different. We're all doing this.

Can we get a picture?

Just to create a different sensation on him. Like, not on me. I'm sorry.

Well, his.

It's in my mouth, but it goes like this. And then I touch a little bit on the side with my finger. Does this make sense?

That is genius. I'm doing it right now.

It's pretty hot.

I know. Is it. How far in is he? And then your finger, you know, like.

The whole head is in, but then my fingertip is kind of swirling around a little because it just creates a different sensation.

Yeah, that's not expecting it. Exactly. It's the whole thing of, like, the. What they don't expect.

Yeah.

Okay. That's a good tip. Lori. Any good blow job tips?

Always use the hands on the shaft.

Yeah.

I feel like. Just make sure there's coverage. And I feel like for a little while in my blow job career, I had neglected the whole suction part of it. Like, I was. I was inserting and everything, but I wasn't like, sucking at all or there was no tight vacuum around it.

Right. You want to create that vacuum.

You just got to implementing that. Then everybody was like, you got to.

Think that you got to mimic, like, a vagina or an ass, whatever they're into. And in their hand, that's the tightness you want. So if you can make your mouth create that.

I try to do that. Sometimes I don't use my hand because I work. I do mouth play. And I'm like, oh, no, I'm going to. My mouth will feel like my vagina. I'm going to do that.

How do you. So you do the deep throat, too?

I'll do deep throat, but it's really. I mean. And it's not constant because if I do it, you'll just hear lots of.

Is that attractive to guys, you think?

I mean, I'm sure some people might be attracted to some like, oh, she's about to choke. Yeah, I'm good.

I'm good with, like, filling up my mouth as much as I can, but also keeping that friction like you said.

That tightness, like right at the very bottom then. So your mouth is going as down, but you're still kind of using your.

Hand a little bit. Like I might cup the base, but then it's just more about like with whatever I can comfortably fit in my mouth that I know feels good.

Depending on the size.

Yeah, depending on the size. Like, that's another thing.

Guys, nipple play is something that I get into when getting flow jobs. By the way, you got one hand on the shaft, mouth around penis, and then with the other hand you're playing with his nipples. Yeah.

Okay. See, I've always found this fascinating because some men are like, I feel nothing, but some guys like it. So have you found that more men are into. Because I. Actually, that's the other thing I forgot. I don't do that as often anymore.

Yeah, a couple guys have been really into it and then they ask for it.

So you squeeze it, do you?

No, I mean, like, I'll rub around it. Rub around it? Yeah, and I'll kind of like tap it lightly because it's very sensitive. And like, nipples get erected during. For men, Nipples get erect during. During sex stuff. For women, my. I feel like my boobs get like a cup size bigger.

Yeah, no, it's true. You get, you get.

You do.

You get.

I don't know what the science is behind that. Is that true? Like, our boobs swell when you get erect.

Yeah, they can. When you're turned on, you're. Your nipples swell and all that.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, yeah, that's fun.

Okay, Little nipple play there.

What about butt stuff?

Like, let's get into that.

Well, like, I guess so. I mean, I don't mean to have such a direct segue, but when you're giving a blowjob, there are some people that I know who have said, oh, yeah, my husband or so and so likes when I touch his asshole a little bit.

Right.

How do you get into that without being like, I'm about to touch that asshole?

That's a great question. Okay, so, right. Because a lot of guys.

They really believe that if they have any anal play, anything in their butt whatsoever, it'll make them gay. Let's say if they're a straight man, that they won't like it. But a lot of it, the fear comes to, like, it's gay. It's not. Right. There's something taboo about it, which we all know. Anal sex is taboo across the board. However, there is like, the male prostate, which they call like the male G spot. And I'm telling you, not every man, but many men, they do. They do like that. Like, you put a finger in, but you don't want to just go right in. So, like, what I just tell men, too, about anal sex with women is that you never just want to, like, stick it in. You got to play. So what I say is, like, use some lube. I'm a huge. You guys are lube fans?

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Like, my dream is, like, lube on every nightstand in the world, that you just take a little lube, maybe make sure you could, you know, put your fingers wet, and then you just start, like, rubbing around it with your finger. Like, around his anus, maybe when you're giving a blow job and just see how he reacts. And you can just start, like, tapping up into it with your finger. And then if he doesn't, like, freak out, then you can just kind of, like, stick a finger in, see how it feels, you know, See if he goes, ah. Or, you know. But I think that a lot of guys are kind of, like, into it. Sometimes you do it right before they come, but you never want to surprise them right away. Just stick the finger. What's been your experience, Kim? Because you were nodding over there knowingly.

Well, I just experienced this last week.

So she had anal sex just in preparation for the show, Right?

What a good student.

But no, with the whole, like, touching, like, during, like, the blowjob thing. And it wasn't even, like, something I had to ask. I just, like, slowly kind of made my way there and did some of that, like, tapping and touching, but definitely with lube, because it's not even, like, cool. There's, like, hair, and it gets kind of gnarly, so it made it nice and easy and smooth. And I mean, he went crazy. Amazing.

Okay, and then was this when you were blowjob giving him blowjob?

Yeah, it was.

Yeah.

And did you stick a finger in or.

I didn't go in because he's kind of new, and I just kind of felt like that was crossing a line. Maybe I wanted to get.

Yeah, you get to know him better. You don't just, like, rush into the anal. I mean, some people do, but.

But it was still, like, really hot. I know it really turned him on, and I definitely know it made his orgasm, like, way harder.

Yeah, you put a finger in there. Some men have, like. It's like, the best orgasms, really. Even. Even rubbing the perennium, you know?

But you should be careful with hygiene. I have a story from a long time ago with Fingering a man's asshole. And I just don't. Because some dudes are just, I mean this isn't just dudes, but this could be anybody. Like, you got to prepare for that. You can't just go to Sizzler and then let's meet up later and then I'm going to stick few a finger in your cuz I'll throw off. Like I can't do it. So I, I don't know, it's like this whole kind of setup of like you want to make sure everyone's clean and comfortable with what's about to happen, but then you don't want to be like, I can't wait to stick a finger in your ass tonight. Like, you can't. So it's just, I feel like there's a lot of little.

What was the bad experience?

He so I, yeah, yeah, I, I, I stuck it in and he loved it. He would love when I did it. And I was like, okay, that's fine. And then too many times, it was just like, I take out my finger and I was like, I'm going to throw.

Was it like in your nail?

Yes, it was like I had to scrub off my finger and like soak it. Like a shoe. Like a shoe that stepped in dog poop. It was disgusting.

I don't like that.

This is a note. Who was ever listening? Just pay a little extra attention to your asshole if you think something might happen.

Right.

And your junk, by the way, clean.

Yeah.

What were you saying? You clean junk. They're balls.

Yeah, I'm into clean balls. I'm into clean balls.

Well, it's funny, it's funny that you should mention that. No, it's so Kim. And I know Kim works in the beauty industry. And I have a product that she knows very well called down undercomfort, which I will give you guys some samples of it. Kim, why don't you talk about what Down Under Comfort is? Because she talks about it. I've been taught it's called Emily and Tony.

But Kim, you do an amazing job talking about it.

But she was like, it's my product. And you just talked about it so much better. We were at a party last week.

So it's like this lotion that you rub on like your balls or anything.

Sweat, women like boob sweat.

Even like, like me, I put it on like hot days and it basically instantly dries down to a powder and it turns into a powder, but it's invisible. So when you put it on at first you can't see Anything. But if you touch something black, you would see, like, tapioca starch, like, powder over. Yeah, it's all natural, but it also has a really fresh, clean scent. So if you're getting hot and sweaty down there and you want to be fresh for your next, you know, surprise.

Hookup in between my sessions a few weeks ago.

I know. I'm gonna give you some. I swear.

Genius.

And so, yeah, it's true. And I always tell guys, like, guys freak out because they're like, I'm a baby powder guy. Well, baby powder is messy, gets all over the place. And if you just. It's like deodorant. If you use it in the morning, your balls will be fresh and dry all day long, or your boobs or anywhere. So it's pretty. It's an amazing product.

I also think this is just a personal opinion. Should guys be, like, shaving their balls?

Okay, well, let's talk about that. What about grooming in men?

Go.

I think that just should be, like, a standard.

They shave their balls.

All men.

I don't even notice what they do.

I just don't like hairy balls.

Yeah. Yeah.

It's gross.

Yeah.

Yeah, I know what you mean. I feel similarly. But here's the thing. I don't like fully shaved balls. I like for there to be a little bit of hair. I don't. And honestly, it's the same way that I feel about pubic hair on women, too. I don't really.

Yeah, I don't want to look like I'm nine years old. No, me neither.

I don't. I like there being a little bit of a landing strip. A little bit. I mean, like, I don't worry, guys. I get up there and I shave that puss. Do not worry.

Good.

But there's a little. But I leave a little landing strip. I like that in guys, too. I like a little.

It's so hard to Landing strip, and I'm just, like, lazy. I'm too help. Yeah. Because I got it lasered. So, like, most of it's off, but I left landing strip because the bush came back, and I'm like. And then I have nothing because it's all gone. So then I still get this little bit, but I'm not really good at crafting it. So then I just shave it off.

No, I'm very bad at crafting it. But I. It's like a. Like, it's bad, but I think it's.

Like, we're doing it, and I think as women, a lot of women, there's this, like, this idea or this pressure or this, like, social thing to like, keep your vagina clean and trim. And I feel like the same should go for men if you're gonna, like, you know, thanks for kissing and touching and doing this. And look what I've done to respect my body and you touching it.

Right. Spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on a baby max.

Yeah.

Just a lifetime.

Yeah. And I feel like, the same way, like, men should just trim. Step it up and trim and just, you know, or trim their pubic hair.

And their ball hair.

Yeah.

And I don't even think that men even really realize that how much better sex feels when it's all smooth, because it does. For me, the smoother it is, the better it feels. And I think that they may not even realize, like, all the benefits of the fingers and the tongue and all the other sensory experiences going on right.

When you move the hair. That's actually. Good point. Yeah, that's a really good point. What do we think?

I like pubic hair.

I'm. I don't know. Like, I like a full facial beard also. And I feel like for the same reason, I. I don't like to see. Like, I appreciate it to be trimmed because, you know, when you're, like, blowing someone, it gets, like, in your nose, eyes, or whatever. Yeah. But I. I don't like there to be, like, too much trimming or shaving.

I agree. I agree.

I like it, too.

Yeah.

Don't be landscaped.

Clean up. It's like, clean up your room. Little, like, swipe down, make sure everything.

And with my own vagina, I wax it myself and I leave a landing strip also. But because that's the part that's the most painful.

Right.

On the monos pubis above the clitoris. So I won't take that off because it just hurts the most out of every other area.

About the beard thing, though, by the way, the sensation of having a guy go down on you when he has a beard, I love.

Yeah, me too.

I love.

Yeah, I can feel good scruff, but not if it's too newly scruffy. That could be.

It has to be. So it has to be, like, a little bushy scruff.

It's grown out enough, so it's, like, bushy stuff.

I kind of like it a little bit.

See, we're all different. I love that.

I've gotten beard rash down there, though. I had to, like, do A and D ointment for, like, a lot of days.

I've had that. Yeah, I blocked it.

Okay. So that Was good about balls manscaping. Okay, when we come back, we're gonna get hardcore anal. But I have to just take a moment here to talk about some of the people that we love in this show that help keep this show free and exciting. We've got. Okay, do you guys know about the Magic Wand? Have you heard about the Magic Wand?

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Oh, I might reveal myself to be.

The most inexperienced. Actually, I've never had anal. I've had some fingers up there, which I don't mind, but I've never. I think, like, it didn't really enter into my world until after. Like, probably in, like, only in the last maybe three years has it been a thing that people are really talking about. And it's never kind of naturally come up in conversation with guys that I dated prior to that.

Okay. So they weren't even. They weren't like, hey, baby, I wanna.

No. And like the last year it's been definitely, definitely more prominent.

Okay.

With fingers and so forth. But I've never had full. Now I would, I totally would. It's not something that I'm dying to have because of the poop issue that we discussed. Yeah, I also.

Okay, well, I poop a lot though. I know, but you could do a water based enema. I always say no enemas, but I'm actually. I taught a sex toy. No, this is the workshop is. No, the workshop on the 25th. Okay. So I just taught an anal sex workshop.

Oh, yeah.

No, but I did. And I really think that so many people are interested in learning about it because they are very confused by, you know, how to keep clean. Do you have enemas? I was like, no enemas. You don't want to buy like an enema in the store. But you could do a water enema, like just by the enema thing, the squeezy thing, and just put warm water in it and you like flush through three times and it would Just to make sure that you're ready and you're not worried about the poop thing.

Sure.

Because before that I always said just don't have a large, don't. Don't go out for Mexican food in aveno. But really you got to make sure that you're like emptied out. And that is a way to do it.

To me, it feels like a new frontier of intimacy. I have yet to find the person that I really want to be.

No, right? No. It's a big thing. It is a big thing. You know, there's a lot of taboo. There's a lot of intimacy, psychological, emotionally, like just someone going in your ass. Totally. You're like there. You're like. So. Okay. What about you, Jen?

Well, I have a. I like a good finger in my butt, but not. We don't need to shoot it up there real quick and just.

No, it never should be right.

It should be like. I almost just prefer like when I'm on top, just like you can touch it and just put it in a little bit. Like a little like worm going into a hole. But I like that. And so it's made me want to do more anal stuff.

Okay.

I've done anal once and it lasted like two minutes and we. I was very drunk on tequila and it felt like a Reversal poop. It felt like poop was going back into because like, you know the feeling when you poop and the poop comes out. It felt like the poop was going back in. And I was like, what's happening? This is the wrong route, you know. And it just felt weird and rushed and not the best experience, but I'd be down.

Well, that's okay. So what I want to say to you is that it's so common that women like anal sex just gets a bad rep because a lot of people just don't know what they're doing. And first time experiences for many women is that they're with a partner, they're drunk. As I always say this in my show, they're drunk. The guy just puts, sticks it in without prep. Cause prep takes. You gotta warm her up. You want to use your fingers, you want to make sure she's relaxed and use lots of lube. Like when I say lots of lube, like you can just keep pouring on the lube. And so women have experience. I just shove it in. It's painful because the problem, we're so nervous, we clench. Yeah, well that's the worst thing you can do when you're having. Cause you're like scared. So you gotta make sure that you're really relaxed, that they've already started to like, you know, do like maybe like a little massage around your anus, play with some fingers lube. And you just gotta keep breathing and breathing and make sure that he goes in slow. But so many women like don't know this, or guys don't know this. And then they're like, it was horrible the first time, I'll never do it again. So I'm here on the planet so people can try this and maybe have a good experience. Have a good experience next time. What about you, Kim?

Well.

Looks like I'm the anal slut here today.

I love it. Everyone needs anal slut. Okay.

No, not like seriously, I think it's my age. I've, you know, had maybe more partners, but actually I don't even think I really got into it or even enjoyed it or got much out of it until maybe in my early 30s because was kind of weird and when I was younger or whatever. But definitely something that I like to share with like somebody that I'm really into. I like to feel really safe and comfortable. It's not like, hey, let's just hook up and have anal tonight. It's definitely something that I think is very exciting when it's kind of spontaneous and it's actually, once you get into it, it's like. I mean, it's hot. No, no, no. Well, no, but I get really turned on.

Especially, like, because they're so turned on too. Yeah.

And especially if, like, you're to trying touching, like, your clit while they're back there. And like, there's just so many, like, things, like, you just. I don't know, it definitely takes things to the next level.

So what anal. What positions do you like for anal sex?

I'm just like, you know, like, the guy behind is obviously, like, probably works the best. But I've actually been on top before too.

Right.

And like, squatting and like, facing, you know, away.

Yeah.

Like reverse cowgirl anal, which is super hot too.

But.

But just like you said, Emily, you have to, like, start out with just, like, the tip and then you have to breathe and then you have to, like, really go. You have to, like, inch your. Your way in, like, very slowly because it is kind of painful at the beginning, it feels like.

But then it's right. But if you breathe and you go slow that it's almost like you guys breathe together. Like, you breathe in and then when you breathe out, he puts in a little more. So it's like you're really, like, synchronized. I mean, it sounds a lot more difficult, but if you just do that and you're relaxed and you keep breathing it, it actually is a lot less painful. And it can feel really amazing. Once you get that relationship, it just.

Sounds, like, intimate and wonderful. I know. I'm like, I wanna dip.

Do it. Tonight's Friday, baby. Let's all go have anal tonight and then go out for drinks before or after. Lori, what about you?

I've had a lot of anal.

Oh, good.

Always in a serious relationship. Because I think, you know, being able to prep for it is really important. Like, I like to have a shower. I have done, like, water enemas when I was nervous about what meals I had had that day. And it is really intimate. So I. I have to have someone that I know is gonna, like, listen to me when I say, no, that hurts, or whatever. The first time I did it, I was, like, really drunk and on my period, and I was like, let's just use the other hole.

You know, you're, like, innovative thinker.

And I was so drunk that, like, at the time I was really into it. And I woke up, like, in kind of in pain the next day because I didn't do it right. And then in the next relationship that I did it in, we took Every step and every precaution to make it feel good. And like I was psyching myself into having it feel good. Then one time we did it and I was on top like normal cowgirl, and it just like felt amazing. It was, it was like, oh, man, this is the, this is the first time I've ever done it that it feels, I think, better for me than it's feeling for you.

Wow. See, and I've been chasing that, Chasing that anal high. Yeah, you will get it again, I promise. That's the thing about sex is that, you know, that you. We do get so limited to the way we think that we can enjoy that sex. And my whole purpose, you know, on the planet is telling people that it can expand and grow. And actually there's. Our bodies have so many nerve endings that feel really good that we don't even know about. And it can constantly get better your sex life and expand and grow and have different sensations all the time, which I love. So you guys. Okay, so anal. Any other tips for anal? Did we cover that?

Do's and don'ts? I mean, how about like toys with anal?

Yeah, toys. Butt plugs or vibrators you can use.

Yeah, you can use your vibrator while you're having anal. And your clitoris or inside.

Inside. That's analytic.

That's true.

Double penetration.

I mean, tried it?

Yeah, yeah, You've tried it? How was it? Yeah, no, for sure.

I think that's what I was thinking about starting.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I would start there. Like either a toy or something that just kind of preps my butthole for future use.

Little beads.

There's anal. Okay, so butt plugs. Here's another great thing for. Okay, go back to masturbation for a minute.

Yeah.

If you're not used to like having anything in your butt, there's some great butt plugs that you can get, like silicone butt plugs and that you could. There's different sizes, there's all different stuff. And you just use a little lube when you're masturbating next time and just try sticking it in and seeing how that feels. So you get used to the sensation of having something inside you. It's great. It's a great warm up and it's a great way just to know, like how you like it. And a lot of you wear butt plugs. Like if they don't want to have anal sex set with someone or just as, you know, mix it up, they'll wear it during. During sex. Butt plug.

You wear. You Wear. So you keep it in the whole time?

Yeah, you can keep it in. You can wear it during foreplay.

I've done anal beads before, actually.

I'm remembering this time I talked to you about that.

And it was. It's really wonderful when you're right before you're about to come. Like, I was on top and we used anal beads, which are little beads.

That go in and you pull it out. You feel the.

And it's just this sensation of. Just like it was at the same time, which is so important. Timing of. Of course. And it was like he came as I came and we. And then he. As he pulled the little beanies out, and I was like, oh, my God.

Wow.

Because it really was stimulating. So many things. It's hot. Yeah.

Yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's really hot.

Maybe I should do that. It's been a while since I think.

You should do it tonight. Let's.

At what point did you put the beads in?

Before?

Yeah, like, so, like, as we're starting to fuck or I'm on top. We lubed up the beads, I believe. I remember there wasn't like a long string. It wasn't a pearl that went down. You know, it wasn't six yards.

Right.

But. And then we put them in. Just not even all of them. Just a few of them in me. And then right before, I was like, I'm gonna come. And then he took them out, and that kind of helped me come. That's the thing, too. This is a tip for. I think most men. I don't know if they know if you are willing to touch a girl's asshole. You know, it's clean, it's good. Maybe she's on top. You're grabbing her ass. Touch her asshole. If she's about to come, and she will come. Like, to me, it's the cherry on the. Like, if I'm like, oh, there. Oh, no, there it goes. Just like an activation button, right?

Or how about spanking your ass?

Oh, I love spanking. I love being spanked so much. I love. I like handprints on my ass. Next day, what the hell?

Love it, right?

I don't know why I got so.

Staccato there, but some guys don't know. I like. I love. I love your delivery. It was very strong.

You know, I think that, like, spanking and touching, like, your bum. I think these kinds of things. Actually, what they do for me is they bring me. My mind wanders when I'm having sex. Sex. And they make you more present. Yeah, it brings you back into like, what's happening with the person. Because I think that I'm guilty. My mind wanders. I'm thinking about, like, things I have to do or whatever. Not that I'm not enjoying it.

Right.

But it really snaps you back into reality and then you're like, wow, this is like really happening. And that can push you over the edge to have your orgasm.

Yeah.

Just feeling a little different, not expecting it. What do you think, Lori?

I like to play the submissive role in bed, so I'm totally into being spanked. And also with anal sex, I feel like I'm totally submitting like this. I could get hurt if someone were to, you know, be too rough.

That's sexy.

That's hot to me.

Yeah.

Do you ever use handcuffs or any sort of like.

I've never used hand ups? I've been tied up once, but it was kind of like we were both laughing about it. That never ever really went successfully.

I like being tied up.

Yeah.

It's happened a few times actually.

I like it too. Yeah. And there's so many great things you don't need. Like, like the handcuffs and they have like Velcro ones, they have bondage tape. It's really easy. I have these restraints because I get all this stuff sent to me and so I have these restraints that just live under my bed. It's my sport sheets and they just live under my bed. They're on both sides. They're for hands and for. But you can't see them. So my housekeeper comes. They're like lying on the floor. I'm gonna tuck them underneath the bed, but they're always there. Like I always have restraints. I have to say I haven't used them enough.

But do you use them on the guy or do you let.

No, I, I'm. I'm submissive. But I would, I would. I haven't had experience because I think.

There'S men that like to be.

Oh, for sure. A lot of men like to. Have you guys ever had experience where you dominated a man?

Yes.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Tell me about that.

Oh, God. Let me think if I can. I mean, I, I enjoy, like, I'm kind of a smaller person.

Smaller. You know, you're little. Like a spinner.

Yeah, yeah.

A total spinner.

I like climbing on a guy and like, just like splaying all of his, like, legs and arms out and then telling him what to do and telling him like he. You can't use your arms, you can't use your hands, you can't use Your legs right now. Just deal with it. And then like having my way with him, just like licking where I want to lick and.

Right, that's hot.

And like, like he can't touch his dick either. So like sticking it in when I'm ready for it and kind of grabbing his face and like slapping a little bit that I don't like to be slapped, but I will like lightly slap a guy.

And if you were to guy be like, oh, I don't want that. Or they're like, whoa.

I mean, no, no.

Well, who direct you look at all these hotly. I'll do fucking whatever you want. Want to tie me up and stick something banana in my butt. Don't stick a banana in your butt. Don't do that. Okay, so what about fantasy when you guys are masturbating? Do you guys think about some things when you're masturbating? And if so, what kind of things do you fantasize about?

I think my thing that I've noticed and I've been more open especially since we've started doing our show. And also as you've gotten older, like you said, you just become more comfortable in what you like and being open about it. And I'm really into. I can't fantasize or watch or think about like a dude fucking a girl. It's like, well, that happens to me. That's a real thing. So I'm really big on girl on girl. Even though I've never gone down on a girl or gone all the way with a girl. I've, you know, done some stuff, but nothing crazy. And then gay sex. Watching two men.

Yes, A lot of gay sex. So common. Those are the two most common for women is gay sex and women watching women. Even if they've never. Women always email. They're like, it doesn't make me gay. I'm like, no, just what. What turns you on? It's beautiful. Seeing suit Two. Two women together. Yeah.

Yeah.

What do you got? You? Kim's been.

Wow, I'm not the guy thing. I've never been into that. I saw it.

Some gay porn, you mean?

Yeah, I mean, as a woman, I just thought that just, I mean, does nothing for me.

Right. But it's very.

Yeah, it's cool.

I know. It's so common. That's like.

Yeah, but.

Yeah, that's so amazing. You know, I. I just cheat every time. I just cheat.

Oh, porn. What kind of porn do you watch?

Everything.

Like what? Like, how do you know when you go to YouTube, you porn or whatever.

I just kind of see, like, what's new, what's streaming. It doesn't even take long. It's just, like, I cheat. I just need that stuff. I need the visual stimulation. I can't just, like, you're not creating my head.

Lori's like, I got some pornography I think about.

Almost exclusive. All right, so try not to get weirded out, but I almost exclusively think about women I know.

Oh, wow.

That you're not even. Wow.

That you're not naked, like, having sex with one of the women that I know in my life. Not necessarily that I'm attracted to or anything. It's just I've gone through all of them.

Like, have you been with a woman before?

Yes.

Okay.

So I'd say I'm, like, 35% gay. Oh, so, like, I don't know. I also thought it was 30. I was 35.

That wasn't on your resume. No, we've talked about everything.

I gravitate towards men. I've never been with a woman. I've wanted to, but I just.

So why would you.

No, I mean, I've never been in a relationship.

Oh, got it.

But you've hooked up with.

I've hooked up with a woman and, like, had, you know, flirtation. Dating situations with women, but not as often or as successfully as with men. But when masturbating, I'll even, like, go into it trying to think about a guy that I know, and it'll switch at the end to a girl that I know.

Just every time. Well, I. I don't think about women that I know. But I love boobs and I love thinking about boobs. I like looking at pictures of boobs. And when I look at porn, it's all about women with, like, big tits, right? Big, real tits, ideally, but there's some I don't know. And, like, I've never been with a woman. And do you want to be with.

The woman you think at all? Is that the bucket list?

I wouldn't say no, but I don't, like. I don't know what. I don't know what to do with vaginas.

I know. You just gotta get down there and get into it. Well, you do know, because you have one.

I do. That's true.

Oh, but you don't love a man performing oral sex. And you see.

Well, I like it, but I don't. I think that I enjoy giving more than I enjoy.

It's funny once you get the vagina, because I've been with a few. I've had a few Experience. I've dabbled. You just kind of know. I don't know. It's like riding a bike. No, I'm kidding. It's not the same thing because I never did it before. But like, you have a vagina. You're like, oh, I kind of know.

Yeah, Yeah.

I think of a good analogy if I had to like, curl your hair, Kimberly, because you can curl hair. I can curl your hair. Stupid. But no vaginas. You kind of get it. Yeah. I mean, yeah. A few times I'm like, oh, okay. I think I can just get in, right?

Yeah.

Like what you would want because, you know. Yeah. Like, I just think about when someone's going down on me. How do I like it? And then I just would do that.

Right, right.

And I usually let them go first.

Oh, really?

So that I can see, like what the woman. The woman. Yeah, like what their style is. And then I'll just copy smart.

Okay, so what is the. So we're talking about fantasy. And then I want to know what is. What is the one thing that a guy can do? Is there anything that's your go to that will turn you on every time? Like if he nibbles your neck or if he. Do you love oral sex? Does he have to talk dirty? Anything comes to mind?

There's a couple things to me. One is anything in my neck, ear area. It is such an erogenous zone for me. And like. And that's why I like. I actually like doggy style a lot. Because when the guy's behind you and he's just like kind of whispering or like licking that area, I mean, it just. That turns me on a lot. I would say that. And then also, like licking my nipples. Not doing anything hard to them. Not squeezing. No. I don't even like squeezing. I don't like pinching. I don't like any of it.

It almost makes me nauseous when someone overly pinches my nipples. It's almost like it makes me nauseous.

Yeah.

Weird.

But rubbing is so tantalizing.

Yeah. Rubbing in my socks. Like going around circles, feeling. It's great. Again. Another great place to have lube.

Yes.

Yeah.

Yes.

Okay. So that's a big turn on nipples. Anything else for you guys? The big turn on ears.

I think ears is a big thing. Like that little, like that breathy S. I love it. Breathy S After one glass of wine and it's like, we're going home. Because I also don't want to be too shit bomb drunk. I want to enjoy the sex with you?

Yeah.

And then talking dirty. I'm really into that. I think that's just something. I just like it. I like when it's. I like. I like eye contact. And sometimes you got to force yourself because you're, like, closing those eyes and you're trying to get there. Or you're, you know, you've been with someone for a while and I'm just. I'm really trying to learn, like. No, I'm going to look at you and you're gonna look into me and, like, we're in each other right now the whole time.

Or is it at some point during sex?

Oh, yeah, at some point during sex. Not like I'm staring at him like a murderer, but, like.

Yeah, but dirty talk. I agree. I think. What do you think about dirty talk?

I love it, love it, love it, love it. But I have to answer the question that we were talking about.

Yeah. Thanks.

Things that turn me on. I really love it when I'm, like, totally, like, in it, like, having sex. And, like, we're like. He's in me and we're, like, going at it, and I love, like, mixing it up. And I like him to go down on me for, like, to break it up so, like, we're doing it and then he's, like, going down on me.

It makes.

Because it just gets so overstimulated that, like, brings me to, like, it heightens my orgasms, too.

So you like, okay. Oral sex when he goes down on you and can you.

While we're having sex or he stops.

And he goes down.

Yeah.

That's awesome.

Yeah, that's like.

I love that.

Amazing.

The longer you can go down on me and prolong it, take breaks I don't care about. Come back.

It builds it for me. It allows me to build, like, my whole orgasm.

Right. And that's what sex should be about. Building the orgasm, building the arousal. Ideally, yes, Totally.

Second, the ear thing. Like, the ear thing is huge for me, but I also. Hair pulling and ass grabbing will always.

Get me hair pulling. It's all those nerve endings. And here's the thing about the neck. We all said this. The neck is one of the top erogenous zones for men and for women. There's a lot of nerve endings there. So that's why it feels so good. And I just. And don't you feel. Have you had this experience when you're with someone at the beginning and they do it like, once or twice and then they just, like, forget about your neck?

Oh, yeah. I hate that.

Can you Just kiss. I feel like I put like a little. Little bullet tie here. Like kiss the neck.

That happens a lot in general. I think it's about trying to like, keep it fresh because it will. It will never. I mean, it's like a psychological study that after the first three months, a lot of things can fall by the wayside or it can get monotonous and just biology.

It's true. After a year, year and a half, it's like we, you're, you're, you're bonded. The oxytocin, all of that. And then after all this takes the dive and you gotta. That's why couples have to work on bringing it back up.

This is why I. I don't have relationships.

Because it does.

Now I'm teasing.

No, I get it. It's exciting. The newness of sex is, you know, there's nothing quite like that. You don't get that. But the thing about being with someone committed is that you just. Then it's fun that I always say sex is fun. Like, work on a way to keep connecting and changing it up and trying different things. Okay, biggest. Did you answer your biggest question? Yeah. Oh, yeah. Hair pulling. Forget. Okay, so what about turn off? Like, is there anything. A guy, everything's going great and he does something and you're like. Like uber, you know?

Oh, man, I gotta think about this.

During kissing, if you rush and if you keep your tongue stiff, you know, like.

Like a pencil kissing. Yeah, like a.

Like a dark Kissing's so important to me. You're like licking too. Just like. I like it to be wet, but like, you can really screw up.

I have a similar to that is one time I dated this guy who would finger me, but his way of fingering was to insert his finger and then just leave it there. I called him dead finger. It just. That is guys, I love being fingered. Like, to me, one of the sexiest things is being fingered under a table or at a bar. And by the way, that's something I also like.

Oh, public sex.

Public sex. Love it. So like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So that like kind of like, you know, getting fingered when you shouldn't finger be. Getting fingered is great, but the worst thing you can do is just stick it out there and then not.

It's like a turkey thermometer.

It's so bizarre. You're like, what? Shake it around, shake it around. Something turn off.

I'm like, I think that's such an individual thing. There's not one thing.

No. I guess having a guy doesn't try to please. So do we all like oral. Oral sex perform?

Oh, man. I had a guy that, like. I call him Big Dicks. He had a big dick, but.

So that's a good way to remember him.

Big Dick was like. I was like, why don't you go down to me? Like, I. And he's like, I don't do that. And I was like, why? What do you mean you don't do that? He's like, trust me, you won't need it. I'm like, no, trust me, I do need it already. Oh, he was awful.

Guys. Some guys. Do you ever find that. So you were oral. You like oral sex performed.

And you can love it.

But I just had this happen recently where this guy was like. I was like, okay, my turn. And he was. He was like, no. And I was like, what, are you kidding me? I was like, so, like, this wasn't.

A yes or no?

And he was kind of like, well, you know, I like to do that with girls that I'm, like, seeing or dating.

And I'm like, you already given.

Like, you just saw my whole body. What the hell? You know?

But yeah, I don't know.

We'd messed around, right? But I was still expecting it because it seems so normal to me these days. It's just like kissing somebody. Like, go down on me. Like, if you're.

Exactly.

If you're getting intimate and taking off your clothes, I think you should be happy having oral sex.

I mean, come on. What about. You guys like oral sex?

I like oral sex. I think it's good. I don't need it done for an hour and a half. Like, I get in my head. My head goes a mile a minute. That's just my brain. So I like it. But then it's. For me, it's more just foreplay until we're ready to.

That's how I. That's how I feel too, because I love leading up to penetration.

Penetration. But we also don't want to go, right? We sometimes do on a quickie, but typically we need something. So as far as oral sex, since we're all pretty much fans, although you.

Said, well, I do like it. I just think I enjoy giving it.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So. But is there one tip you think that guys, if you could tell men in the world, a big message right now from you to guys, what is the one thing that you wish they knew about oral sex? Or it can even be, if you don't have an answer, that it could be about sex in general.

I think that for I mean, maybe it's just my body or what I love, but I don't really get a lot of satisfaction from oral sex unless he's touching my G spot.

Okay. With two fingers. One finger.

One or two, depending on how big his fingers are, I guess. But there has to be some pressure on my G spot while he's, like, licking my cloth.

Okay. Otherwise you won't have an oral. I mean.

No, Absolutely not.

Nope.

I'm totally opposite.

Yeah.

Like, if I'm. I really love getting oral sex, but it's almost like if I'm about to come and he'll put fingers in me, it'll stop my orgasm because it'll, like, bed of nails effect, I guess, like, split the sensation.

I agree. See, it's to every woman, but I've talked about it. So that's why guys, when you call, they're always like, I think I'm bad at oral sex because my recent girlfriend can't come. I'm like, just because your last girlfriend liked it a certain way. We're gonna show you right now that we are all different. So what about you, Jen?

Oh, no, it's the same that recently has happened where it was clitoral stimulation with the tongue. And it's like a nice swirling motion. Not just like, give me some tips, like, use your tongue and find the clit and really use some sort of swirling motion to activate it and to start, you know, to make it feel good. Don't just go down there and lick it. Like, it's a cone like that. To me, that's not eating out. That's not oral sex to me. And then I also like one or two fingers, which hasn't always happened. And then as of recently, I was like, whoa. And it just. It was another.

In the vagina.

In the vagina, but it, like, deeply going in there.

See, I was gonna say. Say what I like about oral sex is it's when a guy.

You're the kegel girl.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So the deeper he can go in with his tongue, the more I like it and almost like drawing out the juices. That sounds gross.

Oh, no, but that's that kind of.

Come hither thing where he's like. Like lapping you up. I mean, that I love. Like a guy with a. With a long tongue. I love.

Wow. I wish. Do they ever say that dating sites like, I'm four, like, went to Princeton and I've got my tongue is 4.5 inches of rack.

Wish they would. I think that a long tongue is underrated.

That's how I. I've never even, like, thought about it. I mean, I just think if they're good or not. But I'm like, maybe you have really stubby tongue.

Yeah, you might.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I actually want to know, how do I do it? Am I doing it right? And I always say, like, go slower than you think. Because guys, sometimes they go right to it. And if we are sensitive, like, I like when guys tease and they like your inner thighs and they take their time. Like, the ideal situation is that I think that we. We're begging for it, we want it.

We can't say, like, lay off the clip for like the first three minutes. Don't even touch it. Yeah.

Also ask guys, like, if you're down there and you're kissing my vagina, then we're in a moment together. So feel. Have that confidence, which I think is a real turn on in general is confidence to be like, what do you like? What do you want? How am I? Like, you know, and make it sexy, but, like, do you like what I'm doing? Or, I don't know, like, talk about it. Talk about it.

Have you guys ever. Has there ever been a way that you communicate? Like, you thought, God, this guy, it's never gonna work. He's a bad kisser or he's bad this. But then you had to talk and then it turned around. The sex life, or is it just like, oh, he was. Tell me, dude.

I had my. It was my boyfriend. And he. I felt like when we were kissing, he would never open his mouth enough. Like, it was like he was tight mouthed. Like, I couldn't get in there. And I know why.

Yeah.

Big Dick Harry French Fry Freddy comes.

Back, like, in a totally neutral setting. I was like, hey, why do you. Why do you kiss like this? And he's like, oh, I just have, like, an insecurity about my breath. And I'm like, dude, your breath's fine. It was always fine. It's. It's never been alarming. And then after that, he just started opening his mouth and it would.

It changed everything.

Great. That's good.

See, but I had no idea he was thinking. I thought that's just how he kissed.

But he was thinking, like, oh, my gosh. Maybe he had someone tell me that.

Yeah. At one point, like, he was traumatized or something.

But it's a good story because it can turn around.

Were you gonna say something?

Nope.

Okay. I have a question. Have you guys ever had a threesome?

Oh, no. No. And I've been thinking recently that Maybe that I would. That I would be into it.

Okay.

And the reason is because of this boob thing. Because I'm like, if I like boobs so much, why don't. But I know that I love a dick, so why don't I.

Why not have boobs and dick?

Why not have both?

Right. It's a sure thing with a threesome. Yeah.

Because then it's like, I know what to do with a dick. And then I, like, can maybe play around with boobs and see what happens.

No expectations. You can just play around, see how it goes.

But I do have this of kind concern. I think I'm very, very selfish. Like, in bed, I want all the attention on me.

Right.

So I don't actually. That's been a. That's been a bit of a turn off for me when I think about threesomes. I'm like. I don't like. And I think, as a result, I don't think that I could have a threesome with anybody that I'm in a relationship with or that I care a lot about. I think it has to be somebody that I'm a friend of and somebody that I like, but not somebody that I am super emotionally connected to. Because seeing a guy that I'm emotionally connected to having sex with somebody else.

That's true.

I mean, typically the best threesomes are. Or my best threesome experience, and this also is confirmed by other people, is that when it's been someone that I know may have casually dating, we're not committed and there's another woman and, like, there's no feelings. And there's no. There's feelings. I like the guy enough to sleep with him, but I'm not. Like. We're together. You brought a third in.

Exactly.

We're all unattached, but we came together for this beautiful night of threesome. Okay. Threesome.

Yes, but with two guys.

Oh, nice.

I recommend it.

Yeah.

Yeah, no, it's on my list.

What did they do to each other?

Nothing. It was all about me.

Okay.

That is what I mean. Well, but I like a dick, though, so maybe I just go, you know.

Double Ds, Dick's on parade.

I have no. I would do it, but I'm very big on what you just said, which is the idea that, like, it would be casual, it would be respectful and friendly, but I don't know if I fall for somebody, if I could see them around.

It's really hard to. Right.

I just. I mean, I'm cool. I'm not that cool.

Right.

Yeah.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I've never had a threesome. I had a little bit of a lesbian orgy in sixth grade, but I've never. Yeah, it was not.

Best quote of this lesbian orgy in sixth grade.

Straight up. Like, it was. It was nuts. But having an adult threesome is definitely.

When you're out of middle school. Right?

It's definitely probably one or two on my bucket list. Like, I really would like to.

It's not hard to find, is it? I don't know.

Lori manifests tonight. You will have a three seconds Friday night.

What dynamic do you want? You want another guy? Two guys?

I would like another girl.

Okay, okay.

Or maybe two other girls. I don't know.

Oh, right, yeah.

Oh, three girls. Right. Cause you're 35% left. Maybe if we go up to 45 by the end of the month, who knows what's gonna happen? Okay, you guys, I think we gotta wrap this up. We got it all in. You guys are great. Thank you so much for being here.

Amazing.

You guys are amazing. This was a dream. I gotta have you back. I think I kind of asked this, but there is one last question. I kind of. Is there any one thing I guess I just said about men that you just think that if you could talk to every man. I was thinking about oral sex, but is there anything that you just wish that men. You think that's very misunderstood over and over again by men sexually.

I mean, we've talked about this a bit at Lady Freak and I think, I think it was during the show that you. You were on Emily, where the men are just so. They're able to so easily disconnect emotionally after sex. And for women, it is. At least in my experience, it is much harder, especially if there are like actual deep feelings involved. So I would just caution men to be cognizant of that, to be aware of the emotional side of sex.

Because we have the oxytocin after orgasm, we feel connected. And you discover. Fell asleep.

And you just fell asleep. And then even like in the. In the. The days after, you know, there's just like, you can move on with your life and not think about it. But here I am thinking like we just had this. We just shared our physical juices together.

And you were in my stomach. You were lapping up my juices.

You were lapping up my juices with your six inch tongue.

And now you're texting me like, hey, yeah.

Or not even.

We didn't even get it. We're gonna do another dating show with you. But I want to get to sex. What? Anything that you'd like to impart, Jen?

I think just be vocal about what you want, what you like, and what the other person wants and not be afraid to do that. I think as I've gotten older, it's not dorky to be sexually open to get that pleasure that you want out of your partner and to try new things and to keep it spicy because I'm getting out of something where it could have been a little spicier. And so now I'm excited.

Now you'll never go back there to the unspice again. Spicy, spicy. What about you, Kim?

Well, this isn't really all about sex. It's more about just sex and relationship, but just being like upfront with what you, your intention is and what you're there for, you know, like if you just want to hook up and have sex, just say it because there are a lot of women that will give it to you and you're gonna have better sex than if you're, if you're not like being authentic.

Don't pretend that you want a relationship and just be like, what are we about? You mean?

Yeah, don't be like, I'll make plans like, oh, I want to see you next, you know, whatever. Just like be up front, tell somebody what you're up for and just be authentic.

Yeah, it's great.

Lori.

I would say sexually with guys, like to make sure there's always a crescendo or a build up to tease. Yeah, the teasing thing and the foreplay and building. I just think I can't like tell enough guys this. Like you have to. There has to be something before something else.

Foreplay is a suggestion. Foreplay is a requirement, not a suggestion.

Yes.

Okay, guys, well, thank you so much. And is there anything, how can people find you find your show? Twitter, all that stuff?

Well, yeah, Jen and I have our show. Yeah, we have our show@ladyfreakcomedy.com so you can go see info about us. And then my Twitter handle is racepara360.g r a c e p a r r a360. Instagram is the same too.

Okay.

Yeah, hit me up.

Yeah, Lady Free comedy every month at UCB Sunset. My handles are Jen B. Giggles. I'm on Snapchat now. I'm doing a marvel job at it, but. And you can watch my sketch show on True tv. Friends of the people that comes on every Thursday night at 11.

Okay, cool. And we'll have all this at our site as well. We'll be taking some pictures if you want to see how sexy these ladies are. Kim, no one can find you because.

You can't find me anywhere, right?

Exactly. Yeah, it's cool. Okay. Lori.

Yeah?

Sex with Emily.

Yeah, Sex with Emily. I'm there.

She's there. Okay, you guys, you're wonderful. Thank you so much for being here. This was really a fun show. And I'm trying to think, is there anything else I need to say? This is a. Okay, so come to New York. I'm doing the Sexual Health Expo. I will be there from September 18th to the 20th, I believe. Right, Madison? Yeah, 18th, 20th. It's called the Sexual Health Expo. And there's going to be the top sex educators in the world. There's teaching you for two days. And when I say teaching, this is like the most fun teaching you've ever had. Like, the best ways to communicate with your partner, how to get into bdsm, blowjobs. And then plus, we'll have booths set up with, like, the latest and greatest products on the market. And it's just a place, a safe place you can go. And it's lots of fun. Lots of people talk about sex. And I'm giving the keynote, I think, on Saturday. And even if you're listening to this and you don't live in New York, but you have friends that you think in the New York area that would love to go. Yeah. Tell them to hit it up. And we are giving away a free ticket. So email me feedbackexwithemily.com and thank you, everyone. Thank you, Madison, for producing a great show. Thank you to Lori, and thanks, everyone, for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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No, I haven't, but I'm very interested.

Okay. It's called the Intensity. And literally, like, because I try to do my Kegels, when I've done them for a month at a time, I feel so great, but then I forget, so. And actually I have an iPhone app, Kegel Camp, that remind you to Them And I still was like, so this, you just lay back on your bed. It does it for you for 15 minutes, 10 minutes and 5, 10 minutes. It's so relaxing. And then it turned. It's a rabbit vibe. So then it has a vibrator on it and you have orgasm. It's like. And it's amazing. And after just two weeks, I have seen an improvement in my, my ability to orgasm. Also during intercourse. Internally, externally, the whole thing, walking around, I could probably. I'm almost with you with the. No, with the touch of orgasm. It's called the intensity. It also if you, if women, you know, after childbirth, you have urinary incontinence. Just makes you tighter down there. Like it's any other muscle that you have to exercise. Do this. Check out the intensity. You can go to Pour moi, go to my website, Sex with Emily, and click on the banner. And then also one more shout out to Promescent. Any of you ever been with a guy who didn't last quite as long in bed? Premature ejaculator.

Oh, yes.

Okay. And how was that for you?

Horrible.

Horrid. He felt really bad about himself, right?

He did. Right. And you kind of like let it go once or twice, but then you're like, this is a thing now, right? It's a thing. Okay. So promescent is not only the only treatment for premature ejaculation, the only treatment, pre treatment for PE by the FDA. It also just for guys who just like lasts four minutes, maybe last five minutes, maybe last eight minutes. And you want to last 16. It doubles the time you last in bed. It is. You put on your penis, you wait 10 minutes for sex and it's a delay spray. So it just helps you last longer. There is an orgasm gap. We know women can take a little bit, a lot of it longer to take orgasm than men. So check out promescent. It's awesome. Promescent.com and thanks for listening. Love you.

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