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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions.

Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day.

Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standard. Oh, my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks. Not talk about sex so much.

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good. Being bad feels pretty good.

You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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Exactly. We love it. We'd love to hear from you on itunes what you think of the show. And we also still have that survey up on our site if you want to tell us a little more. Because you love the show, but you're like, God, I wish that Emily would slow down. I know. I'm working on it.

Talk about this, talk about that.

Tell us what.

I rip you apart, though. Oh, my God. I get on the daily.

Really?

Yeah.

Where?

Oh, because I do the morning show. Morning show, morning talk radio and all it comes from. Everything comes from Twitter. It comes from text messages, it comes from emails. Just People just love to dissect you. And it's funny because, like, one thing that one person dislikes, another person absolutely loves.

Absolutely.

Yeah.

And that's why you can't. I mean, I love hearing your feedback. It's true. But some people. Yeah, you hear different things all the time. And it's hard when you're in this business because you're public. So people are gonna be like, oh, I love this. And you gotta then, like, take all criticism or all the advice. Then you, like, check in with yourself. You're like, what feels right to me. Yeah, maybe they're right about this, maybe they're wrong about that. But really, you know. But I listen to you all. I do read you. But if a lot of people say the same thing, then maybe you listen to that.

Yeah, I don't know.

No, you're like, I don't give a. I don't care.

I just do what I do.

I know.

Well, you're very good at doing what you do.

Thank you.

Check out his show, the Woody Show.

The Woody show, yeah. It's in Los Angeles, Monday through Friday, 6 to 10am Such a bummer because.

I wake up at 10.

Yeah. On alt98.7. But they do podcast the Woody Show. It's not about sex, so you're not gonna find.

You always say that, but my listeners have other desires and interests. I mean, barely. Right, guys? You're all nymphomaniacs.

Oh, what a great. Another sex podcast. No, it's not. It's about pop culture and topics and.

Pop what? Just kidding.

Pop culture.

No, yesterday. I know pop culture. I've heard of it. But yesterday I was on Ross Matthews podcast.

Oh, yeah?

Yeah. He's fun, Ross. He's been. He started out intern Ross on Leno and then he had his own show, and now he has a podcast here in our studio.

He's on Chelsea, a bunch of stuff.

Yeah, Chelsea lately. He's awesome. It was so funny, but I'm like, oh, my God, he's so pop culture. Like, and I'm getting better because I live in LA and it's like I don't speak the language. It's like I'm in China and I'm trying to ask people for directions and they're like, oh, yeah. Like, really here? Like, at the dinner? Like, it's so funny because my friend said me the other day, she's like, you're the only friend I don't talk about television with. I'm like, yeah. Cause I don't watch it. But I'm working on it, so. But it was really fun.

I've been telling you that for years, though.

I know. You told me that in San Francisco. And you guys do really want me to sit here and break down the Kardashians? I mean, yes. Like Bruce Jenner. That's relatable. I mean, that's relevant. Cause of the transgender, you know, I get that, but really. But also, I'm just saying, you say that for the show, but now just being a person living in la. Yeah, I gotta watch House of Cards.

I know.

Or whatever it is.

Well, then there's people in the building or walking by the building or walking outside constantly. And they're like, who's that?

And I'm like, I know.

Freaking.

Blah, blah, blah.

I know the biggest celebrity in the world can be sitting next to me. I'm like, who are you?

Pass this off just right before the studio. Rob. Not Rob. Dee Schneider was here. And Sebastian Bach were here, like, half hour before.

Really?

Yeah.

That's amazing.

Now name where they're from.

I don't know. But that was fun. So his podcast is really fun, and it's coming out, I think, like, this week. So check out Straight Talk with Ross Matthews. It was a fun show. And then tonight, I'm actually doing a live show with Lynette Carolla. You guys admit this when you're hearing it, but it's March 12th. Lynette Carolla, she's awesome. She has a podcast, super cool. Yeah. Called for crying out Loud. And we're doing a live show in Hollywood at Tinhorn Flats. You can check that. March. But the March. OR Sorry, dude, May 12th. Where am I in March?

So I want to make sure I need a dude.

It's tonight, May 12th. So I'm so excited. And then my other exciting thing is. Oh, have I mentioned it was masturbation month? Yes, I did. I am teaching a workshop at Hustler stores in Hollywood on May 15, which is this Friday night from 7 to 9. And don't worry, my friend, I was telling her last night, she's like, do I have to masturbate? Like, get on the floor. I'm like, no, we're not actually doing. Unless you want to. We're not doing live masturbation. But it's really just gonna be fun. Champagne giveaways, just little tips and cheats on how to, like, get yourself there if you don't normally get there. And then I'm gonna give you, like, show you all the stuff that I talk about, like cool products, the best lubes and the champagne. Did I mention champagne? And giveaways. Good times. So come join us. RSVP at HHRSVP@LFP.com that's LarryFrankPeter.com or Larry Flint Productions dot com.

Oh, nice.

Limited seating, so check it and be there. I want to meet you all. It was so fun. Last time I taught a workshop how to blow his mind, and it was like, so many listeners came in because we're in here, we don't get to meet him. So, dude, can I just ask you this on the air, for reals? When are we gonna do our live shows? We could do it.

Yeah.

Would you guys come? Email me if we did a live show, would you come? If we built it, would you come? Yeah. Feedbackexwithemily.com how have you been?

I've been great. I'm leaving for Vegas. I'm gonna go to Rock and Rio, and we're gonna be there at the same time.

I'm leaving it. Okay.

So what's your plans? What are you doing?

I'm hanging out the Hard Rock. There's some event. I'm going with Lynette and Adam.

Cruella.

There's like a Mangria thing.

Oh, nice.

Yeah. I'm welcome to bring people Saturday. Saturday.

Okay. I'm gonna have to finish.

We'll talk about this after.

Cause I have to. I have to work.

You're busy. What up? I'm working, too.

Rocking roll. I'm working.

Drinking really, really hard at the rehab party, whatever it's called. You know that rehab.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

It's for fun.

That's awesome.

I know. I'm so psyched. I mean, I can't wait. I've been traveling a lot, and it's. You know, I realize after all this time, I can actually take time off and things are good, and I'm actually better for it. Don't you feel that when you rocks?

Yeah. You have a great support team.

Oh, my God. Awesome. Madison, she rocks. She's here. Hi, Madison. Hello.

Yeah, so you can.

You know, I know it's weird, though, but you've seen me for 10 years. We'. Okay, here's another thing. Menace.

Yes.

I was gonna say Madison. I was gonna be like, you called me Madison. So. Okay, so Menace and I, I've been doing this show for 10 years, and it started as a podcast in my living room. Just a little background. If you didn't know this, I just, you know, I had not had the best sex in my life yet. And I thought I Want to find out from other people how you have amazing sex? Cause people were like, I had the best sex. And also relationships. So I invited people over, had a podcast in my living room. Six months later I get a call, which is like a dream for anyone that doesn't. Nothing like this has happened since. I've had some good stuff, but it was CBS Radio in San Francisco Free fm and they said, hey, we love your podcast. Come do a live show. So I was like, holy moly. That was six months in. I do a live radio show. Menace is assigned to my show as the board engineer.

Yeah.

Like, so we didn't really talk.

Nah. I mean it's a little bit.

It was 2005. Yeah. And we just met. But at first we didn't really. Weren't really friends as much. I was like talking and trying to figure out radio.

God, man, this chick's driving me crazy.

Ran on the radio. But I learned a lot and Menace has always stuck by me, like seriously. And then the show is off the air. Cause they got anything. Radio is a tough business. But I've always stuck with the podcast. I've got 2000. Menace has been on many of them. And I just, I appreciate you. I thank you. It's 10 years. I think we have to have a blowout live show.

That'd be fun. It'd be great.

That was just breaking it down for people why it's important and why you need drive cross country. And I love you and I appreciate you. I don't know if I tell you that enough. So. Okay, we have a lot to cover because here's the thing. You might be thinking like masturbation month. Like every guy tell like today I was just on a a radio show. Mike Catherwood, who hosts Loveline, has a morning daytime show filled in for Drew and he was like, well, every day's masturbation. That's what every guy says to me. Every day's masturbation day. Okay, I get that. But I'm going to break down for you today, like why it is so important, especially for women too. If you're with someone and you're like, why isn't she orgasm or what, why doesn't she tell me what she likes? This is for her too. So we're going to get into the nitty gritty of how it will blow your sex life through through the roof. If you just take some time diddling.

Your body, that'd be great.

And I've got some sex in the news.

Uh huh.

And I know. Did you have something that you were excited about to share first. Yeah.

Sex in the news. There was this.

I love when you're excited.

This story out of Florida.

This couple, always out of Florida. Weird.

Yeah. This couple. Well, one of them, the male might get 15 years because they had sex on the beach. They had sex on the beach.

Does everybody have sex on the beach in Florida?

I guess it was out in the public. The guy had some. Some prior record or something like that. So he might get 15 years. And then also the chick that's involved might get some time too for having sex.

Was it daylight?

It was daylight on the beach. And like, naked with Andrew. Blanket or indecent exposure type stuff.

And sex on the beach is so overrated, btw, because you get sand in places you don't want it at all. And it's fun at night maybe. Okay, don't do it because obviously it's legal. But, like, if no one's around and you're on a beach chair and you've got plenty of towels. Oh, my God. Were they drunk or were they.

I. It didn't say.

The cops come up and they're like, hey. She's like, he's. She's like, I'm almost there. One minute, officer.

Calm down.

Oh, my God.

15 years.

15 years.

It's a beach. It's Florida. That's stupid.

Yeah, but I thought.

But it is illegal.

Yeah, I thought that was crazy.

That is crazy. But always the crazy sex stories come out of Florida or Texas.

Yeah, but it was so funny because we're reading all these stories at the same time. So this guy is like, almost facing 15 years, and then we read stories about, like, horrific things and people get like, two minutes.

Yeah, it's terrible.

It's terrible.

So we had sex outdoors. You buy a little buzz going. Yeah, I mean, I don't recommend it. There's kids around. It's not so great. But 15 years, you're gonna waste taxpayer dollars on holding him because he was like, got a little rand. Randy outside?

Yeah, it's ridiculous. But okay, exclude all your, you know, wild sex orgy parties and, you know, situations that you might have been in. Have you ever just, like, walked up on somebody having sex randomly out in public?

You know what? I don't think I have. It's so funny. I don't. I've definitely run into people, like, mashing, hooking up, craziness, but not, like, actually going at it.

Have you?

Yeah, I have.

I. Beside your parents?

No, I was in. I was in middle school. I was probably Fifth or sixth grade. And I was going to summer school and it was like recess or something like that. We go out there and these, these teenagers are out in the middle of the field during the day having sex in the middle of the field. And then like hundreds and hundreds of kids come out onto the ground and they're still going at it. And then. So like they called them yard duties, right? The, you know, the people in charge had to go over there and break them up.

Oh my God. Was that the first live public sex act then you ever saw?

I think so, yeah. I mean, like I saw. When I was six years old, I. I saw porno by accident.

Oops.

Yeah. Live actual sex. That's what I saw.

I did. I think the high school is a popular place for people to have sex because when I graduated from or when I moved to San Francisco after college, I had a boyfriend and I brought him back to Michigan to meet my family. And we were out at night and I was like, oh, you gotta see where I went to high school. So I drove him to my high school. We park. It was like a Saturday night and I'm like, let me walk around. And then we went into like the football field. And then we started fooling around. We weren't having sex. But then the cops pulled up.

Oh no.

And we got like, they were like, you have to leave now. But I didn't get arrested, so I think I might have had sex. Cause it seemed kind of fun, you know, I was like, high school.

Oh man. I remember one time this girl and I were dating and we, we went out somewhere, I forgot. And they're like, oh, you know you want to. There was this like man made lake where I lived. It was in Newark, California. And they called it the Lake. So we pulled up to the lake and it's like 2am and she was driving and for some reason we're at like a dress up thing. So she had like a lot of makeup on. And so we're making out and suddenly this car pulls up. The lights shine onto the car and as a police officer and he comes and he taps on the window and we're like, oh crap. And like he's checking our IDs and all this stuff. And then I'm like talking to the officer, you know, and he, he was cool. He let us go, right? So I get home and I immediately, I go into the restroom, I look in the mirror and like she had so much eye makeup on. Oh no, it looked like I had a black eye.

Oh my God.

So I was talking to the police officer with a black eye the entire time, full of makeup.

Oh, my God. That's hilarious. That is so funny. We're not doing anything, Officer. I just have makeup mascara all over my face. Okay, let's get into my Sex in the News today. All right, that's our Sex in the News. Get some more stuff. Okay, this is interesting because actually, a few people texted this to me today. My best friend in Chicago was like, did you see this? Okay, it was a study that came out. Baby boomers and Gen Xers had more sex partners than millennials.

All right, let's break that down.

I'm not sure about this study. Okay, so here we go. The general theory now about is that millennials are more open about sex and have more sexual partners than any generation before them. But according to a new study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, only one of these theories is actually true. So via time.com included 33,000 people and found that premarital sex is more accepted than ever, with a whopping 58% of respondents in 2012 saying they thought there was nothing wrong with sex before, compared to 44% in 2004. So, whatever. We're all into maritals. I don't understand people who aren't into premarital sex. Cause we'll get to that in a moment. But anyway, Wait, you're saying.

So the younger generation right now is having less sex?

No, we're gonna get to that in a moment. That was the headline. But now, that's the thing about this article. There's a headline. That's headline.

I have some theories about that.

Okay, me too. But we're talking about that. But first of all, they're just saying that Americans were more open to premarital sex, which, duh, thank God. Because you don't want to think, like, I really love this person. So that means our sex life is gonna be awesome. Let's get married, walk down the aisle and find out that it sucks. So no premarital sex. That's great. You know, a lot has to do with religion and all that. And that is compared to 44% only in 2004, and then 28%. So anyway, we're all feeling good about that. So also, it seems logical by this data to assume that millennials are also laissez faire with their number. What does it say? Sex partners?

It doesn't even talk about the sex. Furniture. Whatever. Okay, so this data, it says millennials are laissez faire with their number of sexual Partners, people assume. But according to the study, the baby boomers. I can't say the word. Baby boomers and early Gen Xers born in the 50s and 60s have had the most sexual partners, an average of 11, followed by those born in the 40s or 70s, who averaged about 10 partners. Millennials born in the 80s and 1990s have an average of 8 partners. Okay, so although millennials are more tolerant of these behaviors, they're not taking that license to sleep around. She noted the decline has more to do with increasing information about HIV. STDs.

That's what I was gonna say.

Yeah. And millennials have never known a world where premarital sex was a taboo, first of all. So that makes sense.

But.

Okay, let me tell you why this study makes no sense to me. Millennials, they're in their 20s, their numbers are still climbing. So yeah, maybe they've had eight now. But I think since people are delaying marriage, no one's committing or getting into relationship. Not nobody. But it's less typical for people in their 20s to be striving for relationship or marriage before that. So how does this study even make sense? If their numbers are at 8, at 25, what's gonna be at 35? So this study is kind of like, I love it, 33,000 participants. It's legit. And then can you imagine, like I said, not having a premarital set? I mean, what do you think?

I understand what, what you're saying, but I also hear like, there's so much more information, like the older generation, oh, free love, you know, it's all right, let's just hook up. It wasn't as a big scary now.

Yeah, it got scary like right around the time like I started having sex was like AIDS and all that. Like, use protection. And so I hope that that's the case. Like, I hope that people are being scared and you should all use protection because I feel like it's just everyone knows it. And you hear me saying this, you're like, I always do. And then people get drunk, a little buzz, they don't have a condom. Women are ashamed about carrying on condoms, which they should. Like you should throw that friggin lipstick, that lip gloss, your id and a condom when you go out at night.

Yeah. It's funny, I know this couple from New York and they were telling me that they have guy friends who say that the women never bring up protection ever.

Really?

Yeah.

They're like, oh, it's cool unless you do. Right. And I don't understand why, because you Know what it is. And I've been there, okay? I'm not always a saint. Haven't been in my past. But you're in the moment. And we all know it does feel good to get that penis, you know, feel that penis in your vagina. And then you have this moment where you're like, oh, it's okay, you know what? And then I even hear people rational, well, I know him, so we can't have anything wrong. It's like, dude, I don't care who you know. People can have stuff and you can't see it on their penis, and so don't trust them and don't let that moment slide. Like, don't. You're like, it's new and it's gonna be exciting. And it could also mean that you have herpes. So I'm just saying, carry condoms.

Yeah. Oh, do you know what's funny? Well, it's not funny at all, but.

I hear all my friends are like, oops, I didn't have. I'm like, really? Okay, go ahead.

Oh, so we're talking. I just brought up, like, oh, 15 years, you know, having sex on the beach, and then somebody getting six months. And now I remember what we were comparing it to when we're talking about the news story. The six months thing was a story out of San Diego where a Guy knowingly had HIV since 2007, and he was dating a guy in 2012, and he didn't disclose. And the guy was like, oh, you know, he was asking him like, oh, do you have anything? Blah, blah. And the guy was saying, no, no, no, I don't have it. But there's a law in California. If you knowingly give, you know, something to someone, any kind of stuff, it's a. It's only a misdemeanor, though. So the guy got six months.

That's it. Right.

And he's not gonna do six months.

Right.

But. So this guy gives somebody else HIV and gets six months while a guy is having sex on a beach.

Consensual sex, free love.

Yeah. Is up to 15 years.

Exactly. I don't understand. Really? I mean, that's crazy. So people just. And then people don't want to admit it because they think someone. And it's the same thing with herpes. So now it's, like, so common. What is? Like one out of every, like, three or four students or people have it and they don't want to talk or a lot of them don't know. But if you do know, and we've talked about This a lot on Loveline, maybe not as much here. And people just want to know, like, how do you bring it up to your partner? And when you do, you don't. I don't know. I'm going. It's not even about the show. But it's not like you're have a death sentence. You're not gonna die. You are hopefully taking meds that will suppress it. And, you know, you can still have healthy sex. You should be using protection, a condom anyway, which is very, you know, which is a great way to protect someone from transmitting the disease. And you just say, hey, listen, so I have herpes. I just want you to know that. And I was diagnosed and I've taken precautions and don't make it like the whole, we gotta talk about it. And hopefully you'll be with someone who's cool with it. Don't trip. Hey, happens, everyone. Here's another sex line. What were you gonna say about that?

No, no, no, you've heard me. Yeah.

Okay. Women fight back against revenge porn sites by copyrighting her breasts. Revenge porn sites popping up left and right. Victims are forced to take extreme measures to protect themselves from potential online harassment. For a woman named Hillary, not her real name, whose ex decided to post topless pictures of her online without consent, took an.

Unconventional approach to protecting herself. She decided to copyright her breasts and force the images down based on infringement was an easy process. Though. Hillary made three different registrations for over 100 R rated images. While her pictures weren't put up in the Library of Congress, her real name and the titles of the images do appear in its public catalog. On the upside, Hillary has way more rights than other victims might because she took the photos of herself. So thanks to this copyright process, she was able to get her pictures taken down from some websites. Sadly, some keep popping up. So what do you guys think? Would your copyright your body parts if they showed up on a revenge porn site? Like, what do you think about this? I just think. Well, I'll tell you what I think first before I want to know what you guys think too. But people and I know that men, this is very unpopular and you're gonna be really upset with me for this, but this is to the women. Listen, I know you're dating a guy and it's socially acceptable right now, and he's probably saying, hey, I want to see a picture of you so hot last night. And you want him to like you and you want to be like your friends and you send him a photo. Just know that once you press send that that photo has a really good chance. And I would even say upwards of 97 to 98% chance that that dude, no matter how great of a guy is someone else is going to see. It might just be the friend he's sitting next to. Or it might be a revenge porn site. Okay, take your pick. Either one of those things are not good. So if you're trying to get a job one day, whatever, your breasts are now for public consumption. So I know guys, you love getting these photos, at least chop your head off. But still that's like a better move. But just don't do it. Like I don't know how else to speak it because it's the norm now. And you almost. Guys might be like, you know, you would say guys pressure sex. I think guys, guys pressure women for pictures too.

They do pressure them. I mean, yeah, they, of course they're gonna ask for other guys. What do you expect?

And every single guy that I know that I'm sitting with at dinner or whatever, good guy friends, tons of them, they're like, hey, look at this, look at this, look at this one from last week.

Well, you hang out with sleazy people.

Dude, you have a friggin library of sex.

Have I ever showed you anything? No, see dude, I'm just saying is closed balls.

No, but what do you think about her? Like, do you think it's good to be in your smart?

It is, it's. What's great is the guy who had like one of the biggest revenge porn sites out there is going to be doing a ton of time.

Like in revenge porn sites are people just send in photos of like, hey, here's my ex.

Yeah, here's my ex. You know, she's a bitch, whatever, blah, blah, here's the photo. And what was crazy is the guy who had like one of the biggest revenge porn sites out there is doing so much time is because he also had another site pretending to be like, oh, I can get your photo off.

Revenge porn sites if you pay this fee. So he's basically like just blackmailing a terrible, terrible person.

He should go to jail. He should go to jail for 15 years.

I think he is actually.

So like the bottom line is just to like just. Yeah, don't take it. I know in the moment you get caught up, he's like, let's make a porn baby. Like you should then delete it after make watch him delete it. Cause I'm all for like, you know, it could be fun photo, you know, taping yourself having sex. But Then just crush it. Delete it. Now. You don't have to. Like a tape. You just delete, delete. That's what you do. Okay, Menace.

Yes.

I think that we should get a little bit into some masturbation month right now.

All right, let's talk masturbation.

Okay.

So there's so many tools now for masturbation.

Oh, my God, they're endless.

Crazy, right?

They're endless. Wait till you see. Oh, did I bring the floss? I meant to put in my card for men. It's the Fleshlight. Ah. I think it's in my car today. I carried out of the office yesterday. Yeah, you did. I think it's in my car. So the launch. Yeah. But anyway, there's amazing tools, like, amazing. And. Which I've talked a lot, and we're doing another show about, like, the specific products and all that. But let me just tell you how it started, because people think I, like, made it up, which I did not. But our good friends in San Francisco, the Good Vibration Sex Shop, were the ones who started masturbation month in 95. 1995. But tell me if you remember this. It was a response to the firing of Then Surgeon General Dr. Joycelyn Elders, because she suggested it was under the Clinton administration. I remember I was working in politics at the time, so I remember this whole thing. She suggested that masturbation be included in youth education programs. Completely agree with her. But everybody went crazy. And they were like, oh, my God, that's terrible. Don't talk about masturbation in public to kids. Which, by the way, is what I think sex education should be teaching so you understand your body. Not only were people so pissed, and it was at the UN Conference, it lost her the support of the White House, and she was fired by Bill Clinton.

That is weak.

Right. Who was ironically getting a blowjob in the Oval Office three years later. Okay. So they started.

I think if that happened now that, you know, people wouldn't go that crazy over there.

No. You know, well, they would know five minutes earlier. And you wouldn't need, like, 12 months.

Of testimonial in masturbation. And all the kids that they said that they're gonna teach these to, they're.

Like, oh, you're saying if that happened. I thought you meant Clinton getting impeached. You mean Joyce and Elders?

Yeah, yeah. Like, if she brought this up today, I don't think it would be a big deal at all. And probably the young kids would be like, I have Snapchat. I already know about all this.

Exactly, exactly. Or they think they know, but. Right, exactly. So you know, and I love that it was. It was Good Vibrations who started it, which. And if I mention any toys today or anything, just go to my. Our code is Emily or GVEMILY20 for 20% off. Anything I answer, talk about GVMILY20 is the code. But if you go to my website and you click on the Good Vibes banner, you can see like I have a toy store. I have all my favorite toys there. So. Anyway, but first I'm gonna take a quick. Before I get into the tips of masturbation month, that was just some history for you. I'm gonna tell you a little bit about.

Oh yeah, go ahead.

The flashlight.

Oh, yeah, What?

Yeah, the flashlight. So. The flashlight. Okay, you guys, speaking of masturbation, number one sex toy for Ben, probably the only one you want. And we were talking earlier about the launch pad, which is actually a device that you can put in your. So you stick the flashlight, which looks like a flashlight, and you can take it. It's a masturbation sleeve. So you put it in there and you can attach your iPad to it. So let's say you're having phone sex. Phone sex. You're watching your, you know, partner, you're doing some Skype sex, or you're watching porn. You can actually be using the machine up and down in your penis to make it to masturbate. But anyway, Fleshlight also makes amazing toys with.

Are you gonna make a launch pad video?

I should. Well, I'm bringing it to you to give to. You wanted it for your show, right?

Yeah, but we have one. We're talking about it.

Yeah, I've got one. But they also have all these really cool things and these flashlights are. I mean they for men and for masturbation. If you want to last longer in bed this month, maybe that's your goal. Maybe sometimes you just don't last as long. Stay on a training unit. It's awesome. It helps you practice lasting longer, becoming a better lover. And you'll experience some of the most mind blowing orgasms of your life. So I've heard. And the material. Cause I don't have a penis. But the material is made by NASA patented material. It feels like the real deal. Looks and feels like the real deal. I was actually invited to the Fleshlight headquarters to watch.

Yes.

Because a lot of. There's porn stars. There's a lot of porn stars too. If you like porn stars, which you might. She might have her vagina molded and it might Be an exact replica. They're not all like this. And they wanted me to come see next week, but I can't. I couldn't go. But I'm gonna go another one. So go to sexwithemily.com, click on the Fleshlight banner, use code Emily, and you get a free bottle of their award winning flesh lube. So check that out. Do it now.

That's awesome. I was listening to Howard Stern and he had, like, these porn stars that were leaving his show and going to get that done where they were gonna have their.

Yeah. By Fleshlight.

Yeah.

Yeah. Molded. Yeah. It's awesome.

So you're gonna do it, right? That's why you're going.

You know what? I don't think that I want my. My vagina for public consumption.

Oh, what?

Yeah, that's not my gym. I think I would have done it by now or never done it or I think it's not me. Just, like, naked photos. Yeah, I'm not gonna do a naked. I've never sent a naked photo in my life. And I'm not gonna start molding my vagina either. Nothing wrong with it.

Well, you're no fun.

I actually found a statistic today, guys. I have this fact on lockdown. It costs, I think, five. I'm pulling up the factory now. It costs $5,000 per vagina mold.

Wow.

Yeah. Like, it costs a lot of money to get your vagina molded.

Yeah.

$5,000 for one mold. That's either lady parts or behind parts.

Wow, that's a lot. Yeah. I mean, when I was at the AVN show a few years ago, they had them just standing there with the. With the stuff in their vagina molding.

I mean, some people, they have, like, this. These creeps, I think they're from, like, Sweden or something. And they do, like, edible. They have a website called Edible Anus.

Oh, yeah.

And they, like, mold your butt hole area and then they make chocolates out of them.

No, thanks. That sounds not good. But we do have chocolate penises in the office, which I've been snacking on lately. But chocolate buttholes don't sound good. Okay, so why do we need a month dedicated to masturbation?

I know, right?

Cause you're thinking, I've been doing it since third grade. I know it feels good. What the hell? Because masturbation is more than just an instant relief. It's also about your sexual health and wellness. Because actually, the more you masturbate and you release your semen, for example, it's good for you. It's Good for your prostate. And in any relationship that you're in, if it's sexual or otherwise, you need to know and love yourself before you can have someone else do the same. So a lot of us have self doubt or body image issues. And it's just a great way to learn your body. And especially for women who get into relationships. And I hope this is changing with millennials. I don't know for sure.

Is there robots yet that can get you there?

Almost.

Seriously, we're very close. But figure out where you like and you know, figure out what feels good to you. Because like I've said, you know, I was raised at least that it was about the man's pleasure. And that the second I have sex I'll have an orgasm because he knows what to do. And it just. Penis goes in vagina. It's like key goes into the ignition and the car starts. Yeah, penis goes in the vagina. Even orgasm. Like that's what I thought. And so then I thought something was wrong with me. Well, there was nothing wrong with me. It's that I had to take time to really. I wasn't one of those women who just had it. Some women do right away. And I had to like master. I had to like work on it. I had to walk into Good Vibrations when I moved to San Francisco, like from Michigan off the boat. And I was like, hi. And they're the friendliest store if you go. And I was like, hey. Cause they're also online but a store. I was like, hi, I have an orgasm. And they're like so set up for me. Like hi. Okay, so here's your clitoris. Like they're showing me that. Here's the toys. And like for sure enough bought a toy, bought a book. And you know, I was on my way and so it didn't. But I went after it. Cause I wanted to experience it. And not only that, if you already have great sex and great orgasms, you can learn more ways because our bodies have so much capacity for pleasure. And speaking of like, like I was saying, there's benefits reduces stress. One of the biggest killers people's sex drive is stress, anxiety, all that stuff. Because you have an endorphin release when you have an orgasm. Like you actually have adrenaline, the excitement, endorphins reduction of prostate gland infection for men. So you gotta masturbate resistance to yeast or pelvic infections for women. So if you're prone to those, it helps with that. And it's an excellent cardiovascular workout. I sweat sometimes during masturbation. Like I've been like, oh my God, it was so hot.

I pulled a muscle for sure.

Did you?

Yeah.

Happens, right? So women who mast. Here's another thing though. So another I said the big killer of sex drive or libido or why you don't want to have sex is stress and anxiety. Another one, body image issues, not feeling great. Ross Matthews was talking about this podcast. He's like, I think I waited too long to have sex because I'm ashamed about my weight. And so women who masturbate regularly are more likely to feel positive about their body because they feel in control and they know their own body. And it's shown to actually cause higher self esteem and sexual confidence in women. Because when you know what makes you feel good and you realize that your body is this amazing capacity for pleasure, you'll be more confident.

Yeah, definitely.

Yeah.

So I, I wanted to ask if this thing was invented yet.

Okay.

If you're going to, if you're going to talk to the Fleshlight people, you know, I've been talking about this for about 10 years now. Have something or like a Fleshlight that a male has sex with on one end and then it's like USB to Internet. And then on the other end somewhere.

Another can get in her vagina.

Yes.

It just came out. It just came to our office today. It's called the Kiryu.

Yeah, it arrived today.

Literally arrived today. And it is the coolest friggin thing I've ever seen that I talked about 10 years ago. You've been talking about it forever.

You said that I was insane.

Yeah, I didn't get it, but I get it now. Dude. Okay, so this is, I think, I don't know if it's for sale yet.

It is for sale. It's like five. I think the price point on it is like $500.

Okay. It's called the ki. I wanna say it right.

It's K I I R O.

Okay. Right. So check this. So like Mena said, it's a flashlight and you put your penis in it. But while you're doing that, your partner on the other end at our house across the country, doesn't matter, has a dildo, the vibrator that she's sticking inside of her. And you guys are connected. So when it goes inside of, let's say I'm domestic, we're doing it together for a moment. Don't get grossed out. So you're putting it in my vagina and how I'm feeling it, like if I'm tightening or Whatever. You're gonna feel that same thing. Cause your penis is in a flesh, like, that's connected to everything. And I'm gonna feel you're thrusting, and it's like we're having sex. And did you see it?

The picture?

I'm looking it up right now.

It truly just came today.

What?

I know. It just. I've seen it at the trade shows.

I think it's K, I, I, R.

R, O, O, O. Yeah. Q, R, N on the flashlight. And there's a video and stuff. I mean, it's brand, literally. Like, I think I got, like, a. A sample model. Like, it's.

Whoa. Yeah.

Dude. Is that what you were talking about?

That's what I've been talking about for 10 years. Why didn't we make it?

I don't know, honey, because we've got a lot of ideas that. Like your dump truck idea for the vibrator, which is a terrible name, but we could have done it. No, but I do think that. Yeah, it's amazing. Amazing. And I've heard, like, virtual sex stuff is gonna, you know, rocking people's world.

I know, right? There's.

No one's gonna leave their house. That's the point.

There's the Oculus headset, which is basically. It's 363D type of. Type of stuff. And they're starting to make porn with that, so.

Oh, my God. No crazy, please. We already have enough.

Yeah, but. No, but be cool is like, if they had this and then you had Oculus thing where you actually can see the person, that'd be awesome.

Dude, that's, like, worse than people's addictions.

Yeah, but you know what's.

That's just gonna get people. They will never leave your house. They'll never have normal sex. They won't have Talk to people in public.

People are never gonna want to have normal sex ever again. Like, why would you need to. Like, I don't need to get sweaty. I don't need any of this.

Oh, what? Okay, so then there's. There's a gay version where there's two guys that can use this thing, and that's actually more money than the one with the. The female male.

We should give one away if they're open to it. I'm not gonna say it right now, but we'll talk to them about it. Okay.

Pretty cool.

I know. Okay, well, I have a menace. It could have been called the menace. See, but now it's called the Kiwi.

You know, everybody and I give you the ideas, but you don't run with.

Them, dude, I'm busy. Okay, listen, in my opinion, you guys.

I'm gonna be on a private jet right now.

My private jet is coming. Menace, I will have a. No, I don't know, you guys just keep listening to the show and, like, supporting it and send me money. No. You know, if you like our sponsors, you could buy some of the products and then I'll have a private jet and I'll drive you all, fly you all around the world.

Sweet.

Okay, so listen, here's the thing about masturbation. You don't need a partner to do it. You don't have regrets in the morning because you're feeling kind of, like, bad about yourself because you had sex with somebody, you don't know their name. Take as long, as short as you like. And it doesn't matter if your apartment's messy or someone's coming over, you can still, you know, you're home alone. Doesn't matter. You can just do it anywhere, anytime. Okay, so here's the recipe. So you all have a perfect masturbation month.

You need to practice.

So I am not gonna tell the story again about my friend who masturbated every day for 30 days until she had an orgasm. And it wasn't until day 28, because I've told that story a lot. But all I'm saying is, how many people have committed to your sexual expansion, to learning your body and to knowing it makes you feel good. Cause you probably already think, I know. Like, I get on top. If you're a woman, I have an orgasm. This way, guys are like, whoosh, I use my hand. So what if I told you that your body could. That's great. I'm glad you get off and you know your thing. But there is so much more. Like, it's like we use 10% of our brain. I think we only know maybe 10% of what makes us feel good. You know, people can have orgasms and pleasure in so many ways. So for men, this month, you gotta practice. That's my first tip. So I just think that for men, again, if you maybe wanna last longer in bed or just feel something different, try the Fleshlight Stamina training unit. Because this is the best sex toy for men. And it turns out it's also multitasking. So even if you just not saying that you have a problem, but if you just, like, want to last longer. And it's really important for guys to learn their arousal cycle and to know when you're about to ejaculate, when you're about to go over if you want to have more control and it helps you and it frigging feels good. And, you know, 20 minutes. That's it. That's for men.

Yes.

Do you want one? I tried to give you one years ago. You came to my office in San Francisco. I was like, do you want one? You're like, hell, no.

No.

Oh, you know what? It wasn't a flashlight. It was a cheap knockoff.

Yeah.

It wasn't as cool as a flashlight.

No.

Okay, I'll give you one.

It was like some weird things.

That was a weird thing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It was totally a bad one. Sorry about that. Okay. For women, you guys, great. You gotta. You gotta practice and you gotta learn about what you like and how you like it. Because whether you're with someone or you're single and you are gonna get in a relationship, this is such a great time for you to like, okay, I'm not in a relationship, but I'm gonna get my sex on anyway and figure out your own body. So.

You might already know and you might say, well, I just, you know, reach for this vibrator, and this is what I do. Try not to this month, like, for at least one of the days, say, you know what? I'm gonna start giving myself a little erotic touch. So what does that mean? You might want to set the mood. You might want to light some candles. You might want to turn on some music and just start touching your body all over with your hands. Use some massage oil. One of my Emily and Tony massage candles. Do something like that and explore different parts of your body and see what specific touches and pressures and movements feel best. And once you figure that out, then you can bring in your toy again. But, like, I've discovered there's certain toys, for example, like the magic wand that you or that use certain ways. I'm like, okay, it's easy, it's quick, it gets me off, whatever. But then I was like, you know what? I have so many toys as you know, and it's part of my job. I've discovered so many different personally, like, over the last. Even though now that I'm actually spending time and think using them a lot over the last five, 10 years, five, six years, that, like, I've. I'm not just saying, like, you should like, I've learned that there's parts of myself, like labia, inner part of walls. I didn't think could have as many orgasms. And my clitoris. So 8,000 nerve endings. 8,000. Okay. So nothing else has eight, penis has 4,000. And the only reason exists is for your own pleasure. So the clitoris, you might know, like, oh, I touch it this way every time in round circles. But maybe touching the side of your clitoris and not going directly for it could give you a completely different sensation. But you don't know. Why don't you try that one night and then be your go to take 10 minutes exploring that and, you know, just figure it out. And then once you figure it out, you'll be like, oh, I can do this during sex, or this move and this will feel good intercourse with my partner. Or just keep getting it off that way because do you feel menace, like, in a relationship with someone that you kind of know what gets. You do the same thing kind of.

Every time, just do the same thing.

Right.

Because you know that will get them to where they need to be.

Right, Exactly.

You don't really explore anymore. No, you know, all the exploring is like in the beginning of the relationship. And then you kind of just.

Yeah, you're like, this is it. We have no time. Blah, blah. And that's what. That's why. Honestly, that's why I do the show. That's why I.

People like.

Do you ever get tired of it? I never do because I know that sex is one of the most pleasurable experiences we can have on the planet. And it's free most of the time. Unless you pay for someone, it's so enjoyable and it's. Our bodies have this amazing expanse of pleasure, capacity for pleasure that we never tap into. So I'm like, I want people to do this. I want you to see that you can have multiple orgasms if you never had that. You can orgasm from anal sex, for example, if you're a woman and you like that kind of thing. I'm just saying, don't settle for what you know. Now it reminds me of, like, you dropped out of school in the fifth grade or something. And then you're like, oh, I only know this, and this is how I read this level. But there's so much more out there. It's almost like you stopped having sex when you met your partner or, you know, in high school, people learned certain things, so that's. That's why it's important. It's my soapbox. I feel really strongly about it.

You do?

Okay. So no matter how great sex is, though, between you and your partner, I'm saying you need some me time this month. And it's funny because, you know, don't you sometimes wish that, like, when you had a new partner, it came with, like, an instruction manual. Like, I like this. I like to the left. I like to the right.

Because.

As a guy, you're having sex with somebody that you like, and you're like, man, I wish I knew everything. Because a guy, you're always worried that you're gonna suck, and then she's not gonna come back.

Right?

You know?

Are you in your head? Are you thinking it the first few times?

Yeah, I gotta be really good or she's gonna, like, never come back, you know? And I want to continue having sex with this person, so it'd be kind of nice to have, you know.

I know. I was thinking, you know, Mads, I shouldn't say this out loud, but I kind of think, like, it could be my. My next iPhone app, because you fill out your sexual preferences. Like, maybe you do it there together, and then you exchange it, and then you already know what the other person likes, and it's like your sexual roadmap.

Awkward conversation.

I don't know. Maybe it's a funny sex questionnaire. Bucket list.

My sex map or something.

My sex map. There you go. Okay, so because everyone likes something different below the belt, and no one knows your body better than you, so when you're with someone new, you can start to tell them, and you can even do mutual masturbation. That's a big one. Watch how each other touches all that stuff and have some fun this month. Okay, so next, you want to discover your hotspot. So this one is for the ladies. So here's the deal. Clitoral orgasms way more popular than G Spot. But everyone says G Spot's like the Holy Grail. Do you know the difference? After 10 years, yes, you do. So. But there's a lot of women who just say, oh, you know what? I can't have a G spot orgasm. I've never had one during sex. I've been with my partner for 10, 15 years, or I've had a lot of sex. I have clitoral orgasms. Game over. Guess what? Not necessarily true. You can learn to have a G spot organ. Most women are capable of it, but they don't get it with just a penis. Maybe your G spot's in a different place. So, you know, if you want to find it, this is the month to get in there and figure it out. So if you don't know where your G spot is, it's located to. And you can do this with a partner. In fact, fingers are the best way to find it. So if you're in a relationship, I have no problem with you at all saying, hey, buddy, let's come tonight. Give me your hands. Two inches inside the vagina on the top side of the wall. And it's actually easy to locate when you're already aroused. So it helps if you're making out, kissing, maybe even down on you, or maybe you even already have a clitoral orgasm. Because a lot of women need a clitoral orgasm before the orgasm. So anyway, it sounds. It's like a rough bean. It feels like a rough spot inside. Do you know what I'm talking about?

One of those, like the bottom of your tongue.

Yeah, exactly.

Or the right.

Or like an apricot pit. They say whatever. Smaller, though. The size and location varies, but you'll know. A bumpy walnut. Like texture too, they say. So next time you're treating yourself to some self loving, try inserting something new. Like try inserting the fifi by jju. There's so many great G spoit. G spoit G spot toys. Now G spot toys out that you could actually have a clitoral orgasm the way you do. And then stick that in there and start poking around and feeling it if the figures don't work or if you just want it if you're alone. And I'm telling you, I'm gonna be honest, I said this a few weeks ago, and that's how I had my first one. Like, I really thought that I couldn't. And it didn't happen the first, second, third, but I was like, oh. And you clench your muscle and you figure it out and then you can have one and then you translate that into sex with your partner. And the fifi is great because it was designed to help you achieve this G spot orgasm. It's perfectly contoured, insertable shaft has flexible ears because it also has the clitoral. It's like a little rabbit. It takes something familiar. Clitoral stimulation. Mix it with something less familiar. G spot. And then you can have the blended orgasm.

The blended orgasm, yeah.

Have you found that women you're with have more G spot or clitoral? Do you know she's just riding me?

Yeah. No, mostly clitoral, then. G spot.

G spot is elusive and scary.

It's work, man.

Well, it doesn't have to be.

It's just less accessible. I think it's like people want to go right for the. The button that's right on the outside. They're like, all right, let's just focus on that.

As a guy, it's Hard, hard for them to hold it in. You know, they're like, they go for the quicker, easier options.

Exactly. And there's a lot of women that know, like, oh, I just move this way and it hits a spot. Like, honestly, your G spots are in a. You're lucky they're in a certain place or however you move, but you can get into those positions that would allow you to have one. And I was gonna say that. Oh, and when I went to Good Vibrations when I first moved there, I did buy a book about the G spot. But like, I never read it. I just used the clitoral vibrator and it took years later. So I'm saying there is a book called, like, there's a million of them. Find a G spot. Okay. So also, here's a thing about masturbation month that you can do. Take your old favorites to a new level. So if you have your favorite masturbation device but you wanna upgrade it, you can do that. Because we get into a sex, right? People ask me all the time, they're like, I only use this vibrator, I only do something else. And if you've had your vibrator for like 5, 10 years, and a lot of my good close friends who have money to spend, they're like, now I've got this old. I'm like, you cannot be friends with me and have that plastic janky thing from China with phthalates in it that are gonna blow up your vagina.

Yeah.

Like, there's so many beautiful sex toys on the market that are like waterproof and like rechargeable and good for you. So, like, go shopping, go to your local sex toy store, ask some questions, upgrade it, Buy yourself something, you know. And also I have to announce that my favorite toy, the magic wand, which plugs into the wall, is coming out as the rechargeable magic wand cordless this month.

What?

Unplugged? Big deal. Big deal for masturbation. It's the mascot of masturbation month this year. Lubricant is my final point because lubricant is amazing for sexual pleasure. So if you're masturbating and during sex.

You might not be wet right away. So add a little water based lube, which is great to use with toys and start to like, touch it. Women research studies show over and over again that women who use lube regularly during masturbation and sex have more orgasms and more sexual satisfaction, even if you're already wet. And the stigma with lube, which I've Talked about is that like it's dry discomfort. The guys feel bad. I did something wrong. I didn't turn her on. Do you still don't believe that anymore, do you?

No, no, no.

You're so mature for that. So get some lube. I recommend I love System Jo. They have water based lube for women. It's amazing. Or Pure Pjur has a silicone based lube for extra slippery sex with your partner. So do that. Those are my masturbation month tips. But don't worry, that is not all. There'll be more coming. But I hope I drove it home. And I think in the past years I've just been like, get this toy, do this. But I really wanted to get home like that. If you really think this month you could do some different stuff and take your sex life to the next level, do it like there's no downside to this, right? No, negative. Okay. What are you gonna do this month? I committed to that. Trying to have a nipple orgasm.

Oh, a nipple orgasm. Oh, I knew somebody that could do that.

Yeah. Did you?

Yeah, I did.

How was that?

Hot.

Hot.

She's told you about it or you were the procure of it?

Procure. But she's had a.

Boob job since, so I wonder. I wonder if it still happens.

If I friggin had nipple orgasm potential, I would not get a boob job. That'd be so risky.

Yeah, yeah.

But no, it's popular, so that's what I'm gonna do. What are you gonna do?

I should find out.

You should buy. Do you want a toy for your girlfriend?

Uh, she'd like it. Whatever it is, we talk after. Come to the trunk. Your friends at Hustler like sent like five bags full of sex toys to my office.

They did. Hustler Hollywood.

Yeah.

Why are you making a. Did you take any?

No, I'm sitting in my office. I had to like cover up stuff so when people walk in the office they didn't see a bunch of sex toys all over the place.

That's hilarious. Yeah, well, you know, have a good time. There you go. Tell your buddies at work that it's masturbation month, dammit.

Oh yeah.

Okay, so we're gonna get in some emails.

All right, cool.

Thank you everyone for emailing me. Feedbackexwithemily.com Love hearing from you. Okay. Dear Emily, what is the protocol with bringing sex toys from a past relationship into a new one? Obviously, case by case. But generally speaking, is it an acceptable practice?

I know what you're gonna say, but I Know what I'm gonna say?

Sorry, you gotta throw out the old rabbit. She left your house. Or the pocket rocket. No way, dude.

Burn it.

You do not a woman just thinking, oh my God, there's a pubic hair on it. Like, whose was that? Like, do not. You have to get rid of them or give them back to your exhibits.

Don'T cost a ton of money.

No, they don't replace them. Yeah. Her first reaction is like, where's that bin? And where's the front door? Yeah, that'll be your second reaction. Don't do it. And now if you're in a relationship, you can buy toys together. So take her if you're into toys. Go sex toy shopping. Go to your local store, order some stuff.

Yeah.

What were you gonna say?

No, Wipe it off. I was looking over to see if you were wearing your necklace.

I was wearing my vibrator necklace earlier. Yeah. No, I was wearing it yesterday. Mean. And it turned on in the middle of the Ross Matthews show. He's like, what is that? I was like, I literally leaned up. It was before I even talked. I'm like, oh, I'm wearing a vibrator. He's like, how did you get so comfortable with sex that you wore a vibrator around your neck? He's like, I don't understand people like you.

I haven't seen those things pop up everywhere.

Now where are people? It's called the Vesper by Crave. If you want one, tell them Emily sent you.

Like, oh, like one of Paris Hilton's like best friends who's like this really well known photographer. I follow her on Instagram. She was like posting having one.

Yeah, yeah. It's amazing. I mean I get. First of all, the best part is I wear it all the time. I get compliments just cause it's a cool necklace, but it's like a super powerful vibrator. So. Chris, throw them away. Throw them away and get some new ones. That's all I gotta tell you about that.

If you want to get, you know, do the classy. The classy one. The necklace vibrator, do it.

Yeah, exactly. If you want. Yeah. No matter which one you want to spend. Or you could even get a bullet. You could have like. Oh, like menace. You could be like, I got this at a party. They make these little bullets and they're like 10 bucks at stores, like screaming O makes them. And they're really powerful because bullets are great for clitoral stimulation. And you're like, oh, look, I got this at a party. If you don't want to be like, oh, I have a toy full of sex toys. A drawer full of sex toys. But they come, like, wrapped, like in cellophane. They're 10 bucks. So get that. If you're really down with it, Chris, and you want them.

Wow.

Yes. Okay, next email.

All right, but I'll get into this one. Dear Emily, I had a hysterectomy in August of 2014. I still have one ovary, so I don't have any major hormone issues, but I have a scar on the inside of my vagina and no cervix. I'm very self conscious about sex now. Can a guy really tell that I'm different from a woman with a cervix sign?

Andy.

Okay, Andy, this is a really popular question because women do get concerned about this, and they want to know if guys, their partners can tell if they had hysterectomy. And most guys will not be able to. And many women report they even have stronger orgasms. And men feel like they can go in deeper. This would also be a great time. You can practice your Kegel exercises. I have an iPhone app called Kegel Camp that can increase tightness and you can practice tightening your muscles. But it's really common. And I found this really interesting because she has no cervix. So people would say, oh, this is an empty hole. And guys are like, I can't feel anything. Which isn't true. So if you had a bowl of spaghetti and let's say there was like a large meatball in the middle.

Delicious.

And then someone ate the large meatball.

Yeah.

The space where the meatball formerly occupied would be replaced by the spaghetti. So no one would know the meatball was ever there. So a woman's pelvis is like a bowl filled with bowel. The spaghetti. And if the uterus. The meatball is removed, the bowel falls into the space formerly occupied by the uterus, and there is no empty space.

Wow.

Yeah. How about that? That makes sense. Everyone.

Dude looks really hungry. Now.

Look at the analogies.

I know, but look at that. So also, people think their vagina is gonna feel different than her husband. And studies show, and they've talked to a lot of guys. Every single man who returned the questionnaire said their wife's vagina felt exactly the same as before the hysterectomy. And the majority felt that their relationship did not suffer. So there's a lot of myths and questions and concern, and so I totally understand you're feeling this way, but don't let this Andy get in way of your sex life and insecurities. There's already enough stuff to worry about and you're totally fine.

Yeah, and since we're talking about meatballs, there's a meatball spot in front of the Britney Spears theater inside Planet Hollywood in Las Vegas. Just FYI if you're into meatballs.

Really?

Yeah. So have you been to her show?

Little note? Yeah, I've been in her show.

Was it good?

I was just there. Just recently we talked about on the podcast.

Jude, you know, I don't remember what happens in these walls.

Why do you hate me so much?

I live for you. Okay, so hey Emily, I heard you on the Loveline PODC and you told the caller that there is a remote control vibrator for women that the guy could control with his phone. Is there anything like that for gay couples?

I'm sure there is.

Well Bert, funny you should ask. There is. They. I think I was probably talking about the Dua by Jaejoo, but now there's the Nuo and it's an anal toy. For him or for her? I would recommend that one. It can be controlled with a discreet pinch. It's like a pen shaped remote and it has an app. So on your Bluetooth, like on your phone with Bluetooth you can have sensual long distance play and intensifying foreplay, enhancing pleasure during sex. So you can basically say okay babe or you can even use the duo. You can use any of these because I don't know where you get turned on. I know that you're saying gay, so I'm assuming this is an anal toy. So I'm making that assumption that this one you'd like the Nuo n U o by jju. But there's a lot of them out there. Now there's one by oh My Bod. But that's like more clitoral. But so let's just stick with this. But here's how they all work is that you download the app from JJOO on your phone. So let's say your partner is somewhere. You know, you're like hey babe, let's have a sex date at 8 o'.

Clock.

You could even take it on Skype, FaceTime and he could control it for you. So he can be like, okay, right now the vibration, you're like I got it on. And then you're controlling it. It's like, how cool is that?

Super cool.

So if you're a long distance relationship or you just want to like, you know what else is fun? I think because there's actually a physical remote control too, that you could go out to dinner and have him wear it.

You tried that once.

I did try that once. Do you remember? I went to a party with a guy, this was in San Francisco years ago. I had the remote control panties, and I was wearing them at this party, and he had a little remote control in his pocket. And it was super fun. It was like total foreplay all night. Cause I would be, you know, me at parties, whatever. I don't talk to the person I'm with. Typically, I move around and I'd be talking to someone else and be like, you can't hear it, though. And I'm like, wow, that's so hot. And he was like, can you turn it all? This stuff is fun, you guys. This is what I'm saying. Like, sex is fun if you are having sex the same way. Like, go buy some freaking vibrating panties, call it a day.

Yeah. What?

Have Whatevs, dude. So that's what I've got time for.

Menace, it was great seeing you.

This was so great seeing you too.

No, thank you to all the listeners. They tweet. They tweet me all the time.

I love our listeners and I just thank you. Yeah, no, I really, you guys, I would not be able to. To do this without you. And I love hearing from you and how it's changed your life. And I do appreciate you all every single day. So thank you.

Yeah. And if there's anywhere that you listen to the show and you can review or comment, even if you're like, tell your friends. Great show.

Just do it. Yeah, tweet it. If you're on Twitter, you're like, emily, I loved your last episode.

Tweet me.

I would love it. I'm on Twitter and Facebook and Instagram. It's exwithemily. And Facebook is sexwithemily. And also, we're looking for interns. Always looking for interns. Social media, marketing, production. Got some good people coming in. We're looking for, like, one or two more. So email me feedbackexwithemily.com and yeah, you can find Menace.

Menace. Just M E N A C E on Twitter and Instagram.

Love it. Okay, everyone, and thanks so much for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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