Mastering Masturbation for Better Sex

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh, my, the women about shrinkage.

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com and while you're there hanging out, you can easily subscribe to all of our podcasts. So that means we do two a week. You'll never miss another show again. Just right there. You can listen to it. How easy is that? Sign up for our mailing list. Check out our videos, all that stuff. Cause it's a good time, right, Anderson? It is. Surfing the web. Good times. I do give good email. I say that all the time, though, but I really do. I don't want you guys to be like, every week she says that, but Anderson said it this time. Sign up for my mailing list. My mailing list. I've never been compliment people like my mailing list more than my show.

I think you said that last week. Why? What?

I don't. I didn't say that last week. The exact same thing. No, I didn't say that.

Oh, settle down. You said something similar last week.

No, it's just funny. People like it. I wasn't even talk about it because I'm so over it. Okay, Happy masturbation month. We're halfway through.

Do you just wander the streets like just accosting strangers saying, hey, happy with masturbation month?

Dude, Everybody's happy. Yeah, I don't have shirts yet, but I am doing the Sex with Emily shirts. I don't have a masturbation month shirt. But that's a great, a great plan. Yeah, I tell everyone I'm like, it's important because this year I'm getting passionate about it. So I'd say this is like it's been around for like.

20 some odd years since Joycelyn Elders. Okay. Do you remember this when Bill I talk about this last show. This is our second masturbation show, you guys. We're taking it hot this week. We're getting hotter. So do you remember when Bill Clinton was president?

I do.

Do you remember Joycelyn Elders was a surgeon general.

Oh, the one that got fired immediately.

Because they said, do you think you should teach masturbation in schools, the United Nations? She goes, yes, I do. And so everybody freaked out and he fired her. Clinton, who three months later had come all over some chick in the Oval Office.

So anyway, while masturbating her with a cigar, ironically.

So Good Vibrations in San Francisco, who I talk about all the time, they started masturbation day. That's what happened. Along with other people.

It took this lady to be fired.

So that's what happened. So it's a good story. But then I started thinking, you know, masturbation, really. So anyway, I've been talking, but I've been talking about it since I've been doing my show. You know, it's become gotten more notoriety. They now call it international masturbation day because why not? Why discriminate against other countries? And I just like talked about it. I was like, bo. But it really is like when I think about all the things that people talk to me about on the show, wanting to improve their sex life. They don't have a sex drive. They don't know what turns them on, their partner's not as adventurous. All the things. It all comes down to knowing your own body and like that. We're all stuck in these sexual ruts when sex is like the most amazing, enjoyable thing in the world and we make it so hard. And this is a month to make it lighter. What?

You said they make it. You make it so hard.

I know. It's so hard not to. It's so hard not to be punny.

Yeah. Sex is exceptionally important to the human species.

To the human species. They cannot just relationships, even just yourself. And if you're single, you should be psyched because this is the best time to learn what makes you feel good.

Yeah.

Spend some time with yourself, watching tv. And strange sex is just someone you love. Self masturbation. What'd you say? With strange?

Yeah.

Well, strange. What?

Strange. That's like a term.

I know this term.

Yeah. So it's masturbation month. So you can spend a little extra time with yourself. And then if you're single, you can go out and spend a little time.

Buy some nipple clamps.

Things that you learned about. Hey, how's the nipple thing coming? Em, how's it coming?

How's it coming?

I didn't even say nipple clamps because of my commitment to having a nipple orgasm by the end of the month.

Commitment?

But I made a mistake of hooking up with a guy. What, the other night? Yeah. And who I haven't met.

Where'd you meet this guy? You buy a couch off of him from Craigslist? Or was it a Tinder date? Who is this guy? Give me some background.

He's a guy that I. I met at an event at a work thing.

Was he a listener? He came up, he's like, hey, can I get your offer?

I've never dated a listener and I'm not saying I wouldn't. I'm not discriminating. I'll date all of you.

To your knowledge.

Send me your resume.

To the best of your knowledge, you have.

Don't send me a dick pic.

What, you don't think you have.

You don't think I've stuck with a listener?

You don't think so there's a possibility that somebody.

They're like, lying. Every guy I date is like, I don't listen. I don't listen. I never heard your show. But then it turns out when we break up or something happens, like, oh, I was one time I listened to your show. You said that you were, blah, blah. I'm like, whatever, dude. You always listen. I don't read social media. How come last night you were, you know, it's so funny. So anyway, what was it I was.

Saying you're talking about your nipple conquering.

I met this guy at a work. Not even like a sex with Emily thing. It was more like a. An industry. Whatever. It doesn't matter where. I met him in la at a party. So he asked me out, we went out. We've gone out like the second time and we're making out and it's getting hot. No, no, no. We didn't do it. We didn't do it. But it was getting hot and heavy. Second. Third date. Well, no third time I've seen him. No, no, no, no. First one wasn't a date because we met. Second. Whatever. Third. Third. Ish date, but it's not really date. Casual meet up. Date, I guess. So yeah, we're out for drinks.

The date, it's a date.

But it was supposed to be like, okay, fine, this is so not the point. So we're making out after the third. It is the point. I get. Everyone wants details because I don't. But see, I'm gonna start sharing a little bit more because it has to do with nipples. So we're out for a drink downtown.

But where's the nipple play occurring? That's not downtown. Is it not like in the bathroom.

That's in the car.

In the car. Is it on the street or in a lot?

It's at a quiet street.

On a quiet street. Downtown la.

No. Yes, downtown la.

Dangerous.

Kind of dangerous. But we can have. We're like into each other. So we're making out and we're just making out in the car. Nothing's happening. So here's the thing, you guys, if you missed this, I made a commitment for masturbation month because I think it really helps to have, like, just like distinct, like measurable goals. Not just like, I'm gonna masturbate more, I'm gonna lose weight, you know, like, no. What? I'm gonna run 10 miles a week. I'm. I'm gonna masturbate every once a week for 10 minutes and try something different. Okay? So I decided this month I'm gonna try to have a nipple orgasm. Because they're the second most common orgasm, they say. And I just think I've never really tried. And I. I think guys have, like, paid attention to my nipples, but they've never liked. You know, I think, like, everything takes time. So this guy, we're making out and I said something about. We were talking about something and he touched my nipples, like over my shirt. What were you talking about all of a sudden? We were. No, we were making out. And all of a sudden, he touched my nipples. And I started. I started. I said. Cause sometimes I can't stop talking.

Like, I can picture that. Definitely.

No, I'm fine. I'm sexy. I talked, you know, let's talk enough. But I started laughing because I thought, oh, my God, how funny that he's such a weight. Cause he was getting into it. And I thought, you know what? I actually made a commitment to have. I said to have a nipple orgasm this month. And I said, wait, no, no. Because I had to go. I had a big day that I'm like, no, no, I'm not saying right now. Cause then he got into it. He was like, challenge.

I'm like, no, this guy's wood.

Yeah, not now. Right. But I just brought it up. Cause it popped in my head. And I said, that feels really good. And by the way, I'm trying to have a nipple. Or. Okay, but I gotta go.

I gotta go.

Then I made him stop completely. Cause I already ruined. But then we made out more and then we left.

But then what happened? And then you made out?

And then we made out and then we went home. But it was funny that I brought. But then just now when I was talking about nipple clamps, I was not thinking about the nipple organism. So how it's going is I feel like I'm having, like, more sensation. Okay. I've always known that, like your nipples, if you squeeze your nipples, it's like has.

It has nerves in it that are.

There's nerves everywhere.

No. Right. But it's also got to connect it to your clitoris. Like, it's all connected. So there's like sensations that you can feel in your nipples that are also in. So it's all. Your whole body's connected.

It's like the clitoris is like a train.

It's like a direct line.

It's a voodoo doll for the clitoris.

Exactly.

Creepy.

It can be for some people. They're sensations. And so what I'm saying is. So I'm just like, you know, playing around more and I'm feeling more sensations, more things. It's exciting. I'll let you know. I've got two more weeks. Exactly. We're halfway through. It's May 15th.

Oh, yeah.

So, yeah, that's the deal. So it's.

How long was the makeout session? Was it like five homeless people? Six homeless people worth.

No, they couldn't see us. I would say the makeout session was. Is this. I would say it was probably about 10 minutes.

Your car?

No.

Okay. Cause you Got a small car? Yeah, you got it back from the shop?

No, his car. I hate driving. I will not. I hate driving. What? Yes. I got back from the shop, then end up back in the shop the next day because I left the lights on. Oh, dude, I'm the worst. You know what? I just don't want to drive. So if I ever make like a lot of money, the first thing I'm gonna do, I don't care, like if I have to go homeless or live in a tinier house than I already live in. I want a driver.

Gotta have priorities.

I shouldn't be on the road.

Hey, you could be practicing your masturbation in the backseat while you get driven around.

It's a great friggin idea. Okay, so that was really interesting. How's your masturbation month though? You didn't even share. So today anyway, you're not gonna tell me anything cause you're married, which means you masturbation more than ever. Okay, so sex and the news a little bit and then we're gonna get.

Into jumping to conclusions there.

I assume you do Miley Cyrus. Did you hear about her comments?

I heard she bought a house. That's all I know about her, dude.

Of course, a ranch house, like a million houses. But her comments about gender identification sent. They send an important message. She just made these comments. So you think you know Miley Cyrus? The first you think you know Miley Cyrus and then she says this. I don't. I didn't want to be a boy. She told out magazine of the time she spent confused about gender expectations. I kind of wanted to be nothing. I don't relate to what people would say defines a girl or a boy. And I think that's what I had to understand. Being a girl isn't what I hate. It's the boy. It's the boy that I get. Put the box that I get boy box very close. Oh my God, it's the box. That's a weird glare. It's the box that I get put into.

She's been kind of dressing like a.

Boy for a while. I know, right? She says. And then she was on Instagram angry. Nothing can define me. I'm going to be nothing can or will define me. I'm free to be everything. So you know, she's not the first celebrity to talk about openly about being like nothing. Non binary gender. But her comments probably have a positive effect on her fans because she's paving the way for greater understanding and conversation. Not everyone identifies with gender norms. Whether you want to be transgender, whether you thinking you're born in a woman's body and you're really a man. She's not even saying that. And she's young and she's trying to figure it out. But every. A lot of people have. I'm not going to say confused because that's the wrong word because it sounds so negative. A lot of people are trying to figure themselves out throughout their lifetime. Poor Bruce Jenner. He tried, but, like, it was not the right time. This is the right time for people to figure out who the hell they are and what they want.

Better time now than ever before.

Exactly.

In the history of humanity.

Okay. Americans are cool with all kinds of sex, just not the extramarital kind. There was a study that came out, right? And here are their findings.

Oh, I know where you're going. This is good. I like this.

You do?

I think so. They're gonna be cool with gay sex and this, that as long as you're not adult cheating.

Yeah, but they're all cheating as well. But they're not cool with it.

Well, yeah. I mean, the entire nation, I think human beings as a whole, we're also.

We're just not everybody. You guys, don't write me an email. I never cheated. I don't mean that. What?

Extraordinarily hypocritical. And people usually are loudest about the things that they have.

Exactly. So that's why I. Every study I refute, I read every single scientific or whatever study I read, I'm like, there's. There's the 16 reasons why it's not a conclusive study at all. But between sexting hookup apps and dating sites for people seeking affairs, yes, really, it's easier to cheat now than ever. But while we seem to be more open about infidelity these days, does that mean we're officially cool with it? So here's a setup. The researchers at the General Social Survey, a longitudinal study, survey 33,000 adults between 72, 1972 and 2012. They asked them about sexual norms. They were like, do you think it's right or wrong if a man and woman have sexual relations before marriage? What about early sex? Blah, blah, blah. So what they found was, while people have become significantly more tolerant of premarital sex, adolescent sex, same sexual activity since 1972. It seems that people still aren't open minded about extramarital sex, defined as sex between a married person and someone other than his spouse or her spouse. So we've become less okay with cheating over the years. So the 4% respondents say it was acceptable in 1973. 5 to 9. Whatever.

Well, 73 was free love. Right. That was kind of a different time.

But in 2012, only 1% say the same, which is crazy. It might be easier to find sex outside, but we're not okay with it. But that doesn't mean that we're not cheating. So that's just saying. Do you think that in a way, they're saying that.

Cause no one's. Because the people. No one's okay with it. No one's gonna be like, I think it's right to cheat. Cause I don't think it's right to cheat.

And who cares what the population thinks? It's what the other person thinks who's being cheated on.

These are different questions. Here's the thing.

But is it open marriage or is it cheating that they're.

These are like, there's nothing wrong. Like the fact that no one's okay with cheating because you're lying to your spouse that you love committed till death to his partner. Right.

It's like, are you okay with stealing?

These are like apples and oranges. Study has nothing to do with that. So of course you're not okay with it. But people are still cheating, but you're not okay with it. See, I hate this study. Okay, but 75% of men would turn down first date sex. The survey reveals. Let's see where we can poke the holes in this one.

Wait, wait. How many percentage?

75%.

75% of dudes would say no to first date sex. I got a problem with this one.

Only dudes who take surveys, right?

Dude, the dudes that are on the other end of the line that say, yes, I do have two minutes of my time to give to you, stranger.

Yeah, no, exactly. They're trying to have sex on the first date with someone. They're trying to fuck some girl right now. They're like. They're on Instagram.

No, they're turning it down. Three out of four of them are turning it down.

No, the guys taking the survey are not on Instagram or texting or sexting a girl right now. But the guys not taking the study are.

I see. Yeah, I'm sorry. I don't have time for a survey. I'm banging. Thank you.

A survey consisting of 2,000 participants found that 75% of men would turn down sex on the first date. The poll, conducted by sex toy company Lovehoney, revealed that three quarters of men would reject first date sex, while a quarter would be uncomfortable with kissing on the first date, on the other hand. Yeah. 15% of women said they would sleep with someone on the first date, with 72% being comfortable with the idea of engaging in a first date date kiss.

50% of ladies would like to bang on the first date.

Yep, exactly. 15%.

15.

15% of women said they would sleep. So here's the thing. In terms of romance, the men who were surveyed were found to be more willing to let their prospective partners than they love were more willing to tell their partners that they love them within a month of dating. Who are these dudes? 25% of men said that they dropped the L word within the first month compared to 16% of the women. So men also revealed to be more keen to introduce their partners to their parents. Majority claiming that they'd arranged the uncomfortable meeting on the eighth date. 27% who are. Okay, so this is just speaking of the results. They say that men are keen to tell their partners they love them, but also to outwardly recognize this commitment by changing their face. Okay, so men are also are more likely to change their Facebook status more than women.

I would never have guessed.

Who are these men?

They're survey takers, dude.

You know what? I did a survey and it's still on my website. You guys can take it. And I got like, good. Okay, that's different. I guess this. But you always have to think about surveys. Like, who the hell is gonna take a survey? Like, I'm so glad you all did it. It was two minutes. You could win.

You're gonna prize. You're gonna be completely different from this.

Okay, right. But just in general, you're a procrastinator. You've got two minutes to take a survey. Who do you think it's helping? It's not like giving you anything at the end of the day. And where'd they find these people?

I think a lot of people you can sign up for services and you get paid.

I don't know.

I believe so. But I do know about that. Heck. Can I ask you a question?

I don't even know what.

Have you ever said I love you to a significant other first? Yeah.

Never.

Never. When you did say it back, you felt obligated.

I've done it in both ways. Well, I've done all the broad. I've done it. I've said it. No, you know what? When I don't feel the same way, I wait until I do or I say, oh, it's sweet. What's for dinner?

So what should we watch tonight?

Have you ever said it by mistake.

Kind of under my breath. But he didn't hear. Like, during sex. By mistake. Maybe once, but he didn't hear me.

I think, have you in a relationship once. And I said it by mistake. Like, I was leaving. I'm like, all right, see you. I love you. Oh, like, my mistake. And then it just became a thing. Like, then she said it back. And then we said that for, like, the next six months of the relationship. But I never really meant it.

How long were you dating?

Like, a couple years.

Okay.

No one should be saying bad times. And I didn't mean to say it, but.

No, no, wait, wait. You said it after a couple years of dating.

I said it probably six, maybe a year in, like, we had never said it.

Okay, no, that's true.

We were pretty casual.

No, but, dude.

But I didn't want to say it. It was a mistake.

It was a casual. Because this is saying that dudes in this who sit down and take studies that. That they'd say it in a month survey. That's lust. You would say, I'm so in lust with you, but you're not in love after a month. But anyway, you said it by mistake. And then. And then she kept doing it. That's hilarious. I've had it, guys. You know, I've said it. I mean, then I've also. Yeah, I think you gotta be ready. But I've never said it first. I've never. But I've also not done a lot of firsts that typically I think. And I don't think that there's a reason why women shouldn't. Although. Have you ever had a woman say it to you and you didn't return it?

I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.

Really.

I think that I would have to. I'm one of those people that has.

To say, sorry, but women typically don't say first. But I'm not saying they shouldn't. Okay, so let's talk about masturbation again.

Let's do it.

But this is not just, like, if you're like, you're all gonna get something from here, and you're all gonna Better sex in two weeks, because you have two weeks left of the month, but you could still keep having. I don't care. Like, if you take it into June, totally cool with that. That's my birthday month, which I also like to call masturbation month.

Jiggle month.

It's actually sex month. Maybe I'll have sex. I'll have sex in June.

Jigglin Joselyn. June.

I'm ready to have some more sex in June. Okay. First, let's talk about how people masturbate. Just some, you know, stats, what people are doing. 86% of adults admit to masturbating. That I believe. I believe it's high. The number's higher, but I like that it's not like 20%. Majority of them are in relationships. Who masturbate most frequently? 40% of men and 30% of women in relationships. 72% of married men. 68% of married women masturbate. Do you think that's true?

I'm surprised. What do you think about high of people that admit it? To be honest, especially women.

I want to. I like these people.

These are good survey takers.

Yeah, totally.

Okay.

It's from Adam and Eve. Yeah.

68% of married women admit to masturbating.

Yes.

So the number's probably higher than that.

Yes. Or they say they do and they wish they did more, but they don't.

Now, where do these women feel guilty? Are these customers of Adam and Eve? Because that might, you know, skew it.

I don't know.

Or they're just like, they did not.

You know, there's probably more to find out about this, but I would hope they would reach out their demo. 4 out of 10 women prefer masturbation over sex the partner.

That's sad.

45% of men claim it's easier to orgasm from masturbation than sexual intercourse. This is shocking.

No, it's not.

Well, I just know that women feel that way, but I never, ever see the stats. No, I agree that all of us have an easier time alone because you can do it quicker. You know what? You're in, you're out.

It'd be like trying to make yourself throw up as opposed to somebody else sticking your finger down your throat. A lot easier.

But you always see the women thing. Anyway. I love this. Two out of three women who engage in solo sex do it three times a week. Some women can climax without even touching themselves. That's my next year's goal. A lucky few can actually think their way to orgasm. Some of them get it while exercising. I actually do have orgasms while exercising when I use this machine at the gym.

Which one? The elliptical?

No, no, no. But I don't use it anymore. I gotta join a new gym just for this.

Like the Thigh Master?

No, the one where you sit down and you can change it. So you're going inner thighs, outer thighs. Yeah, Yeah. I used to have orgasms all the time on that like, every morning.

I see ladies on that thing all the time, and now I'm gonna see them in a different light.

Exactly. You're not.

How many women do you think are just climaxing galore while they're on the StairMaster at the gym? I don't know.

But that's why, you know, that's why I'm in good shape, because you have a lot of orgasms. So. Okay, so here's the interesting thing here. Back up to this. That 4 out of 10 women prefer masturbation over sex with a partner or with a partner, not with their partner. So. Because I remember this, this kind of depressed me. But I understand it more that. Long time ago, in my early 20s, I had a guy who I was dating. I was dating him a long time ago, but he was older than me. Anyway, all of his friends were, like, in his late 30s, 40s. And he was like, you know what, Emily? He's like, all my friends would rather masturbate than have sex with their wives. And I thought that was the most depressing thing I'd ever heard. But I think that variation's important. I do. And I think that couples who can keep doing what they're doing at the beginning and keep growing on their sex life, and they might not feel that way, but do you think that your guy friends would feel that way?

No.

Good. Same. Me neither. I don't think it's universal.

Passionate guy friends.

Good.

Adam Carollin back in the day used to always say he had a very funny line about masturbation and sex. And he'd say, yeah, sex is great. It's just not as good as the real thing.

That's very funny. I love Adam. And I do love Adam. Yeah. Because. And I'm friends with Lynette, and I have to tell you, Lynette and his wife and we're going to Vegas for a mangria, because they're showing. They're. They're. The only place they're serving it in Vegas right now is at the Hard Rock Hotel. So we're going to pool party. But Lynette listens to the show, and she loves it. And she was like, oh, Anderson's awesome. And all that.

When did. When are you going to Vegas?

We're going to Vegas this weekend just for fun. You want to come drinking at the Hard Rock?

I'm going to Palm Springs with my mom.

Oh, you are?

Yeah.

That sounds fun. We're going to party. Okay.

So anyway, that's how it's masturbation month.

Yeah. What'd you say yeah. Okay, so. So where do people masturbate? Dude, we gotta get to the stuff here, the meat. But do you want some more stats?

Yeah, okay.

No, this is where people masturbate. One more thing.

Can I take a poll?

Boring.

Yeah, I'm gonna say no.

I'm moving on, you guys. I'm boring myself. Okay, Tips to take it to the next level. That's what I wanna talk about. Cause this is what it's all about. We're taking to the next level.

I'm all ears. I wanna know how to get sexy.

Set the mood, make a sexy time playlist. This is like how you're taking. I don't care if you're alone. This is masturbation time. It's okay. Dress in your sexiest lingerie or whatever makes you feel hot. Light candles, dim the lights. Just because you're reaching climate, you know, reaching the climax solo style. It does not mean you should ignore outside aspects that will enhance the experience. Like your goddamn cell phone. Like the lights. Like, I need quiet. I turn my cell phone off. Really? Like we are so friggin distracted. And the reasons why people don't have sex is because they're distracted and because they are, you know, have body image issues or a thing, or they're anxious. So these are the reasons. But usually it's they're distracted. So make it so you're not distracted. Turn off your phone or put on.

Like some white noise so you like drown out your sexual sounds.

Everything. Most people, if you're worried about your.

Neighbors, a lot of people listen, they live in apartments or like houses.

Like, great idea, why in the house?

But my, my, my neighbors could definitely hear me.

Everyone can hear me.

Probably.

I don't, oh, no one can hear me where I live.

Why is that?

Because I live in a little house in a little back. No one can hear me. There's no one around.

You picked it on purpose so you can masturbate.

Louder. I can masturbate. I can allow it. Sax. It's awesome. I do not want anybody talking because I'm already loud. Just in life, because I'm on the phone. Yeah, okay. Also try variety is not only the spice of life, which we say, have you heard that? Variety, Spice of life.

Why is that strange?

No, getting strange is the spice of a flesh.

Yeah, but it's a variety of your sex life. So even the kind we have with ourselves. So guys, there's different hand movements you can do. And I know guys are always like, oh yeah, get a flesh ache. Different Hand movements. My hands. Fine. And I don't know why guys get your hand feels good. But what if you did two hands lubed up? And here's a tip for guys while you're standing. This is called the swivel and screw hand move. Okay? Do you want to practice?

I want to hear about it. It sounds very. A lot of effort.

All I'm telling you right now is to stand up.

I'm standing, you're standing.

Twist your lubed up hand. Whichever you're most comfortable. I got some lube in my back. Whichever you're most comfortable using. So that your thumb is against your belly button.

Okay.

He's doing this while you. Okay, you wrap your. Okay, so wrap your hand around your penis. And rather than stroke with your hand, move your pelvis to pump in and out of your hand.

Oh, so you're like banging your hand. Banging you.

It'll make sure, like, this was gonna happen. It'll make you feel like you're actually penetrating a vagina. Do you think it's close?

Yeah. I bet they do it in prison a lot. See, they don't have.

Whatever they gotta do, right? Get it? So try that, guys. See how it feels.

You ever heard the one where, like, guys lay in their hands for like, five?

I love that we just broke that down because I would have talked too quickly and no one got it. Say this.

What about makes perfect sense what you just said?

Thank you, prison.

No, I'm. I'm off. Prison where guys would lay on their hands and so that it falls asleep and then they. They masturbate so that it feels like. Like a stranger is, like, touching them because their hand is asleep. So it. You know what I mean?

Oh, my God.

I never heard that.

Yeah, send hack rings to prisons because that's my next tip.

That's not prison necessary. No, because I'll just use it on each other. It's not going to be good.

Oh, you're right. I am not encouraging sex in prison. I just want to have better sex. I'm like, I'll send him some flashlights. Okay?

Listen, go use them to escape somehow and you'll be implicated.

I think I'm the. I'm totally not sending flashlights. They'll get so mad at me. No flashlights to prison. Okay, but vibrations are not just for women, as I've talked about on the show. Is that like truly. Truly every guy. And I've given like, so many vibrating rings because it's a great gateway for men to feel vibrations on their penis rather than Being like, here's my vibrator. He might be like, my balls are going nowhere. Don't touch. But when you wear a vibrating penis ring.

They work so that you wear it on your penis. One size fits all. And it feels good in your penis.

Two balls with one stone. It's a good. It is.

And it's got a little vibration on the end. It hits your clitoris, but the vibration is also on your shaft. You can wrap. Flip it around so it hits your balls. Guys like this guys are like, wow, I've heard things.

I've heard things, right?

So what I'm saying is, have you ever tried that when you're alone? You can get one. I'm telling you. Get the we vibe. The what do I love? I love the the Mio by Jae Joo. But if you want to get one that's like a cheapy one, just to try it, Lifestyles makes ones that they sell like the drugstores. Okay, you get the disposable ones. Do that. Just try the vibration for a second, guys, this month. And you're like, holy moly, that feels awesome. Okay, bring your balls into play. The next time you're masturbating, you feel as though you're about to ejaculate. Try this. If you haven't put your. I know, I don't have a penis. So, Anderson, you gotta tell me what you think about this. Ready? Get your hands. Put your. Pretend you're about to ejaculate.

Hold on.

Okay, look at me.

Okay, I'm there.

Okay, now that's okay. Put your other hand over your scrotum and lightly squeeze and pull it down. Or more aggressively, if you like that sort of thing. Some guys say this move intensifies their orgasm. It's worth a try. I've heard that before too. Pulling down.

Have you ever tried that?

But like, it could intensify orgasm. Have you tried that?

No.

Okay, what if I told you that it would totally intensify your orgasm? Would you try it?

Hey, if I was at home right now listening to your show, I might give it a shot.

Okay, good. Everyone should do it.

Okay, ladies, go back to the playlist real quick.

It's kind of.

It's kind of hard sometimes.

Oh my God, it's so hard.

But here's a little something that immediately popped in my head. And I've done it before. Actually is is especially if you've been in a long term relationship. If you're married, you've been with somebody for a long time. Go back to like the Stuff that you guys were both listening to when you started dating to begin with. Oh, just like, like if there was like a certain album or like a number of like hits or something that you guys listen to in the car a lot or was on the radio at the time when you guys first started dating. And that as we all know, music brings a lot of things to the surface and takes you right back somewhere.

Help you connect again.

It'll make you feel like you, you're like, it's a new relationship again.

Do you do that?

Bang. Yeah, I've done that before. Oh. Every time, like a certain band comes on, there's a certain band that's like our band and.

Jesus getting really intimate, asking you like if you went down in your way. I love the Postal Service.

And they were like, that was the band that came out when we first started, like, you know, getting to know each other. And then I listened to. That was our song at our wedding. That was our first song.

Which one?

Such Great Heights. And actually I got like, I found somebody else who sang like an acoustic version of it. So we played it for our first dance.

I love the acoustic version of it.

And then here's a. This is completely off topic a little bit. But we got super lucky because Postal Service is not even a real band, right? They're like, they, they, they call themselves a postal Service because there's two different artists and they were mailing demos back and forth to each other.

I don't care how they did it.

And then they went on tour like almost 10 years later. And they only made one album. They went on tour 10 years later and they never toured before. And they played a show at the place where we got married like a year later. So we went back at the Madonna Inn and we went and saw them play there. That's where we got married and they had a show there. 10 years later.

They can have another one.

No, it was kind of a one time thing.

Dude. I love Postal Service, but it was.

All like the line.

If you guys don't know, it's a very. I love that. What is one album? What's it called? Like the translation Transelect?

No, postal.

Trans. Isn't it called like trans.

It's just Postal service, I think. Okay, you could be right.

I think I am right. Look it up. Okay. Kkis. This is for guys. Ladies. Okay, so ladies, I banned in college because I took a woman's studies class. But then like my, my assistants, my interns are like, ladies are fine.

Are you. What do you mean? Band.

I said women, chicks or guys. But ladies is actually okay now. And people don't get mad. Women don't get mad at you when you say ladies. You couldn't say girls. Really?

What is this, like the 60s, dude?

I don't freaking know. Okay, so first, before I get to the tips for women and couples, I'm going to. Oh, this is a perfect tip for women and couples. Massage candles. So here's the deal. I made these massage candles. Emily and Tony. And they are the coolest things because. Not just because I made them, they actually serve a purpose on the planet to make your sex life better. That's why I invented them. That's why I live and breathe. Breathe. To make your sex life better. So I made a product that will blow your mind. Every time I show these to someone, they're like, holy. Did you make this up? How'd you know? This is the best thing ever. Can I get another one? Massage candles. They look like regular candles, right, Anderson? Beautiful.

They're fantastic.

They smell good. They're aromatherapy. Like, they. They're great. You light them for a few minutes.

It's a quality product. Quality product.

It's high quality. It is. We got them.

Actually, my wife was just asking. She's like, do you get some. Get some more candles?

They're my car. Totally. Okay.

They're not going to melt in your car when it gets hot?

I don't know. In la.

No. Oh, yeah. LA gets hot. Jesus.

They've never melted so far. They're wrapped up. Okay, so listen. So anyway, these candles, they. They melt the most luxurious massage oil. But the oil is not like wax or, like, get all over your bed. It's. It's luxurious, like coconut oil. So, you know, moisturizing and it feels warm and soft in your body. So your wife liked it. I'm so glad. On your body. You should always give your partner massage. Because also, like I said earlier, stress can kill a relationship when you're not in the mood, when you don't have the ambiance. We don't have the playlist going. We have our cell phones going off. The second you. The second this oil touches your partner's body, they will be so relaxed and so ready for sex and anything you want. Even before that moment.

Even before that. Because it smells so nice.

I know. The whole thing.

Bust them out of the box. They smell really nice.

I know. Your whole house smells good. It's like one of those candles that, like. Not like the cheap ones that you buy for $5, but, like, they're one of those candles that actually make your. It's like two for three for massage candle. So emilyandtoni.com if you haven't bought any of our products yet, you can use code sex with Emily and you get 20% off. So thanks everyone for supporting them.

Were you talking about a three way or a menagerie life or something?

Oh, so sorry. We have a brand new. So the candles, they come in big sizes. My favorite. I love Fougere. That's a great scent. And vanilla and coconut. The other three, we now make little mini candles. So if you travel menage a trois.

You make limited candle.

What? Mini.

Mini.

Oh, menage a trois means three in French.

I understand what that means because I'm a boy.

Menage trois. And so.

You know where I Learned.

That was 3's company when I was like a 6 year old little boy watching it. I'm like, hey mom, why are they talking about menageri trois?

Hilarious. You're trying to learn French. So anyway they come now you can buy all three. Try them out. And they're great for travel, which, let's be honest, a lot of times you're traveling with your partner sexy weekend.

Let's just be clear. These are special candles designed and created by Emily for massage. I mean that's one of their many purposes. It's. They smell good and you use as a body moisturizer. Don't try this with a regular like candle you put in your jackal winter.

No, do not.

You're going to get fucked. Don't do that. No, these are like, these are made specifically for massaging. Can you imagine someone going like, I'll just try it with the skin.

Yeah. I mean some people who are into pain do use the wax. It's not like they use it, but.

Then like you're trying to massage it and it's drying up and getting sharp.

It's the best gift ever to give people anyway because my friend told me she gave her friends. I'm freaked out. Okay, so ladies, we're talking about orgasm for you now because here's the thing.

Can I go to the bathroom?

There's so many different ways. Okay, so you get set in your like masturbation ways. Especially women. Because we know first of all, the female orgasm is like the Rubik's cube of life. It is not so easy, like for men. That's why you're like, whatever, Em, got my hand. I'm cool. Maybe I'll try your swivel screw move. But maybe not. But for women, it's like, you guys figured it out a while ago, and it's always like, you're gonna. Have you ever masturbated not to completion, Anderson? Yeah. Because someone came home.

Yeah. Usually it's because of interruptions.

Women.

It's not because I was like, oh, actually, no. Well, I mean, I did a lot of drugs for a while.

Okay.

Yeah. And then a number of times, no drugs, no interruptions. I'm going to bed.

Imagine if you sat down. Orgasm. And sometimes you just can't. You'd be like.

That would be brutal, right? Yeah.

It's like blue balls, but for women. But typically, we find our way and we know and we do it and we do it. That's how we do it.

Do you guys, like. If you can't, though, do you go, like, eat ice cream instead? Sometimes.

Totally full pint of Benjamin.

Seriously. I'm being serious.

And then we, like, call our exes.

And stuff like that and cry and cry. Look at your yearbooks.

Don't you love me anymore? Why don't you love me? Yeah. I was so cute. So here's the thing. Let's say you typically stroke yourself in a diagonal pattern. You move your fingers across your clitoris side to side. Someone do that.

Zigzags.

Zigzags. So try varying your stroke this time this month. So, you know, caress it. You can use an up and down motion. Use some lube. Always add a little bit loop. So what if you. Have you ever tried up and down? When was the last time you tried going up and down? Because the clitoris is 8,000 nerve endings, and the only reason it's on this frigging planet is for pleasure. So do you see what I'm saying is that there's all these ways it can feel good, and just because you discovered one way. Try that. So try it. Different circles. Run. Put circles around your clitoris with your fingers. Try not touching your clitoris directly. Some people like indirect pressure, indirect touch. The nerve endings will be indirectly stimulated when you don't touch it. When you're, like, outside of it, which helps build up a lot of tension and excitement. And then you go. So you're, like, teasing yourself this way, and then you can orgasm that way. And then it's like. Feels amazing.

Dudes could. Could. Could tease themselves, too.

They don't, because dudes go way too fast.

Let's just get it done and get all of it. Dude.

To go slower with everything in life that has to do with sex, and that includes masturbation. Because I think that that's where they learn to be so fast. And being with a woman, we want you to slow that. Slow down. We want you to go five times slower.

Five times?

Yeah, because they're only gonna do three. So I'm saying five. Okay.

Hey, and if you're a lady and you have, like, a crush on a guy.

Yeah.

You spell his name out while you're masturbating on your clitoris. And it's like a spell sometimes that makes him like you back when you're.

Wait, he should.

What if you're a lady? Like, let's say you like a guy named Bill.

Yeah. You move your finger in circles, but not circles, the Alphabet.

Spell his name.

A, N, D. Anderson.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. You'd spell, like, A on your clitoris and you could try that. Yeah. Give it a shot.

Try anything. Try two fingers. Here's another one. You might have tried this. Place one on each side of your clitoris and rub up and down. You can also try side to side. You can tap your clitoris with one or two fingers. Do you ever see that in porn?

Tapping? Oh, yes, I have, actually.

It actually feels really good.

It's not tapping. It's like they're slapping.

Yeah, don't. Yeah, you might be into slapping, but start with. I always say start slow for the cameras. Try light touch. Like, the lightest touch possible, like barely touching. And then flick over your clitoris with one finger flick. Try light, light, light, light.

Flip it.

Keep your underwear on. Underwear. Like I told you, that's how I had my first orgasm.

Yes. You like it through the clothes?

Yes, a lot of them do.

And you're trying new positions in the car with this guy a couple nights.

Ago, over my nipples. It felt really good. And then I had to start talking. Yeah, for sure. Try the nipples over your clothes. Like, bring your nips in. People like, why your nips feel so left out?

It's a triangle.

It's like the triangle trifecta of hotness. It is like, pay attention to the goddamn nipples.

They're pissed or they're neglected. They're little orphans. Up.

I have vibrating nipple clamps that I might decide I have to whip out.

Have you cracked them open yet?

Dude, I have so much shit I have to crack open. I have a goddamn Sibian. I have a goddamn Sibian in my house. A Sibian.

If you can't get your nipples going while sitting on that Sibian, do you.

Know that my guilt. Like, you have guilt. Like, I haven't called my mom. Like, I Haven't gone to the dentist. I have to pay my bills. I have guilt that, like, I haven't set up my sibian yet, and I haven't tried, you know, vibrators.

It's big.

It's a whole ordeal. Like, I need to build a whole wing. No, it's not that big at all. It's big, but I have a little. My house is perfect, but it's awesome, so I need to try new toys. Okay, how do we get on the sibian? I love it. That's why. Okay, so for many ladies, here's the thing. You. You might always lay on your back, lie on your stomach. Because lying on your stomach increases blood flow and your body weight. What happens is it provides more pressure. And so when you provide more pressure, it amplifies the intensity of vibrations from any sex toy you might be using. So if you're using a toy, can you so still imagine this? You usually do it on your back. This is actually great because, first of all, a lot of women always only masturbate on their stomach and some only on their back. So I'm just gonna say to both of you, flip around. Try the other. Try the other way.

But if you're using a vibrator, lie on your stomach. Get it? Vibrations more intense. That's a great idea. Work on your Kegel exercises. I always talk about the benefits of Kegels, and it's because your pelvic. Pelvic. Pelvic floor muscles, it's so important that you continue to keep them strong because it helps, like urinary incontinence after childbirth, lots of things. But also it helps you have stronger orgasms, more intense orgasms. Women who've never had orgasms do their exercises five minutes a day.

Why are you looking at why five minutes a day?

That's it.

Women who never orgasm do it.

No, I'm saying is women who have never orgasm can start doing them five minutes a day and then have orgasm. I cut my own self sometimes. I do that because I think faster than I can talk.

Yes, I've noticed that.

Oh, I have an iPhone app, Kegel Camp, that you should download because I got interviewed by my app today about my app from Women's health magazine today because we were talking about the importance of pelvic health. There's been so much more studies about it for men, too. A lot of men use the app as they should. And she wanted to interview me about why I created the app. And it's because frigging doctors tell you all the time to do it. And no one ever remembers to do it. So my app reminds you. Awesome. Okay, you can try Kegel balls. These are my new favorite things too. I've got been talking about these again for a while, but I've been wearing them more regularly. Kegel balls that you wear inside you? Yeah.

You got kegel balls inside you right now?

Not now.

Okay.

I wish I did. I'll wear them next week.

Are they like Benoit balls?

Yeah, they're like that. See? Okay, so 50 shades of gray, Christian Grey. Like, sticks these balls in his mouth and makes them warm. He sticks them inside or something like that. Takes them out of his pocket, and then she, like, wears them all day and she jingles around, has orgasms. Good for you. Anastasia Gray. Anastasia Steel.

However, there is many women do not have orgasms from wearing these Benoit balls. But they can. If. Maybe if my partner was playing with. I'm not. I've never tried. Partner. What?

They're kaggle balls.

No, but they're also. Yeah, but these have a string and they have weights. And these ones that I love are by Jew. They're Ami Am I. And you can buy them at good vibes.com GV Emily 20 is the code if you want. And so they're really cool because you can wear them and do your exercises or you can just walk around for an hour. And they're naturally. Because you're keeping them in, working your muscles.

Do they have any of the squeaks?

You'll have stronger orgasms. What?

Do they have any of the squeak or like, you like, the harder.

That'd be funny. Like a duck noise. Like a rubber ducky.

Like a dog toy. And then you know that your kegels are getting really strong because it's like when you start, you can't squeak them.

But it's funny you should say that because I found out about the most amazing, uh.

Oh, I have no idea where you're going.

Oh, my God, dude, I don't even know what to say.

She's getting emotional.

No, I found out about this medical. Oh, another thing I have to try.

Okay.

My entire house is sex toys. No, but I know I always say that, you guys, but now it's getting to the point where it's like, getting to be a problem.

Like, picture like making a cake and just using a dildo to stir the batter. Like, everything you use.

There's boxes, but they're all bigger. So there's these medical devices that your doctor can prescribe them. Insurance pays for them, and they send these pulses through your vagina. They naturally help your pelvic floor muscles and they send vibrations. They have biofeedback. You can feel yourself squeezing and inflating and you use it for 10 minutes a day and you have an orgasm. And doctors prescribe it and women need women who've never had orgasm having orgasms by these crazy. These are amazing. And I'm gonna give you the name soon because it's brand like, it's not on the market. No, they are on the market, but I can't think of the name right now. I don't feel like googling.

Son of a bitch.

If you guys want to know, email me. But they're like, they just sent me two.

That sounds awesome.

I don't bring them in. Next. I kind of wish I wasn't going to Vegas this week. Oh. Oh my God. I'm going alone. I'm inside my own room.

Oh, it's gonna be a wild.

But I always have my own room and I always travel sexways and I never make time to masturbate. This weekend I don't have to. I. And.

I want to see what they are.

Dude, you're gonna die. Okay, so dude, though, here's the thing, ladies. Oh, here's the nipples thing. Stimulate the same. Okay, so when I was talking about the nipples and whatever, how it connects your clitoris.

When I'm asking you guys, women, men, explore your other erogenous zones, the penis and the vagina. While that feels good, they're not your only erogenous zones. If you didn't know it, your body is like a wonderland. Your body is a treasure trove of these not obvious parts. Okay? So for example, you could just be missing out on hot spots. So here's the deal. Touches to your nipples stimulate the same area of the brain as a clitoris. So that's what I was trying to say earlier, however, I said it was like the nerves. It's similar like that, your brain. So just do it. Touch your nipples. You can stroke them lightly, you can pinch them, tug. I don't know. I don't know. What feels good on your nipples? What feels good on your nipples? Might not feel good on my nipples. That's what's so amazing. Go find out. Finally. Switch up your friggin breathing, okay? A lot of people hold their breath.

It's natural to do that, I think.

Yeah. During sex, do you think you hold your breath or you breathe?

I don't know.

Before orgasm?

I don't know.

Will you pay attention?

I will.

Okay. Pay attention. So the simple act of deep breathing can enhance your entire sexual experience.

I don't think I breathe. Yeah, I don't think I do.

A lot of people, like, hold their breath. And when you hold your breath, you're actually restricting. Like. Okay. It can help some people orgasm at some point, like right before. But if you're not breathing the whole time, you could be not having orgasms because of that reason. So here's the thing. If you breathe deeply into the pelvic area, using your stomach muscles to pull air down into your body, your own knot hurts. No.

Okay, please.

Like they might tell you to do if you take yoga classes. I did a lot of yoga when I was in Mexico.

Okay. But honestly, just now, listening to you, I thought you meant breathe into, like, her pelvic.

No, no, this is a lie.

If I thought that. I'm not. I'm not alone.

Okay. Before gently exhaling through your nose. So breathe deeply into your pelvic area. Ready? Do this with me.

Pelvic. And then gently exhale through your nose.

And make sure you know your partner pretty well if you're gonna be doing this.

No, this is alone or with your partner eventually.

But this is during sex. Because if you're having sex with somebody for the first time and you start breathing like that.

I'm just saying people hold their breath during sex. They also do during masturbation. This creates oxygen. Do you feel more oxygen? And increases blood flow in the pelvic area. Do you feel your pelvic area sort of erupting with blood flow right now?

Yes, but I'm sure that it's all, like, psychosomatic and placebo effects.

Who the fuck cares?

Okay. Yeah, it's true.

I'll take psychosomatic.

However you get there.

What the hell does it matter? Okay, so you recognize it's happening. And then breathe slower. This alone will delay your orgasm and result in a more satisfying climax. Whenever you delay anything in life, it's more satisfying. Agree or disagree?

Absolutely agree. Like if you gave you. If you cut down on what you eat, you only eat, like, half portions. You're going to appreciate that food so much more.

Or when you miss your partner.

Or when you miss her. Yeah.

Or when you delay anything. Like, you give yourself a reward because you did something. Or how excited, like, every week. If I saw you every day, Anderson, I wouldn't be so excited when I got here. But I don't delay your orgasm. And then we'll talk May 30, May 31, and you tell me how frigging Great. Your sex is.

You better be honest about your nipple. Concrete.

You know what? I made a public commitment to my audience and I feel like, mm. I feel like I gotta be honest.

Yeah, you have to be.

Okay. Watch porn.

It's okay if you fail.

What?

It's okay if you fail. We won't judge you.

I feel like a lot of pressure right now. I know you do, but I also know that I have the equipment and the stamina and.

Get out of your head, man.

The dedication, the commitment. Do it.

Get a little tipsy in Vegas. Go back to your room alone.

I'm totally getting drunk. I need to get like drunk and dance by the pool and hook up with a random dude.

Just for fun. Not have sex, make out and have him give me nipple orgasm. Why don't I find some random dude in Vegas to give me nipple orgasm that I never have to see again?

Good luck with it.

He won't know who I am.

I think that's what Vegas is for.

For a lot of people I know. Should I post something?

Nope, don't do that. Don't do that.

I didn't even think about it. Okay, another thing. Here's the thing. You guys watching porn? So according to WE Vibe, who I love WE Vibe. They make amazing toys. Recent MASTURBATION survey Did you know, Anderson, that 53% of respondents said they preferred their imagination to porn while self loving. This is women, not men.

Yeah, that makes perfect sense.

But here's the thing, ladies. Your imagination, it's shirt's super sexy. Got a lot going on.

Weird is what it is.

Why not give it a break and enjoy some background and then you don't have to do all the work. Like erotica. Find what turns you on. Find a website. Find a good vibes after dark. There's a lot of great. Like Erica Lust has a great site. Find erotica. It's not what your boyfriend was searching for. Like you know, 14 year old bear pussy. I don't know. What are you looking for?

14 year old bear pussy. I'm kidding.

What are you looking for?

Jesus Christ. The NSA is gonna come in here next week. Who is the nsa?

I'm kidding. Not whatever you. Because Madison on the show Madison, my sister was talking about her boyfriend was searching for like pink pussy.

Pink pussy. Pink. Don't team.

I'm just saying, just because your boyfriend.

Is searching, that's what he was looking for. And then he tried to get out of it. He's like, oh, that's the title of a movie that I like. That I was looking for.

Clear your browser history. I'm just gonna make T shirts to say, clear your browser history. Because we'd all be Fedefine.

I gave a bunch of relationships.

We'd all be married. Still.

I gave a bunch of good tips on that last week, if you recall. And what on clearing your browser? Actually going to a setting where it's never even gets cached to begin with?

We give you technical help.

I do.

It's like Best Buy last week. It's like the geniuses what use Chrome.

And then go into the incognito mode.

Oh, Bing.

And Bing is a great search engine for the adult variety.

Chrome isn't great on Mac, though.

I just learned I use Chrome on Mac. I think it was made for Mac. What do you think?

I know exactly. That's why it's sort of.

You're a crazy person. I use it for my Mac all the time.

Sounds good. They messed up. In fact, I'm so disappointed with Apple right now. Okay, here's the thing.

Jesus.

The strong. What?

What's wrong with Apple? They don't make a good enough sex toy? No.

No. They don't make enough browser for me. I think that the phone. And I hate the autocorrect. I hate that I can't write it. Still makes it say ducking when I want to say something else.

That is kind of annoying. But you know what I'm like.

I never wanted to say ducking. That's not even a word. No, I want to say fucking.

Sometimes ducking is a word and then it goes duck.

Ducking. You gotta change it three times. I know there's. What are you writing?

Fuck. So much for Emily. What's wrong with you?

I'm not. But every time it happens, I get like. A little. Part of me gets angrier and angrier.

I wish that it would learn our filthy. The filthy people.

There's other issues, like updated every five minutes. Do you know that every time there's an update, I feel like my phone's gonna die? Because that's happened and everything gets erased. I don't wanna do it.

Yeah, I think it's just settings. Yeah. Have your assistant help you with it.

Yeah, I have a new assistant coming.

Okay, good.

And my whole life's gonna be crazy.

How pissed you gonna be though if she has a nipple orgasm before you?

I hope she does. Do you know that two of our interns had never had orgasms before they were interns?

Yes, I do. I've told you that you should only acquire virgins. And they Say you will be a.

I'll give them punch off of that. Virgins wanted. Like, I already sound bad enough. Sex with Emily, not bad, but like threatening enough to parents and whatnot. Where's your job this summer? Oh, sex with Emily. She's teaching me about orgasm.

We were talking about pink teen pussy last night.

Exactly. Yeah, you should hear the things you're talking about. So like, you guys, the deal is that masturbation month, test your limits. Like edging and teasing, all that stuff.

Edging?

Yeah, like edging. Like that means.

I haven't used that term yet.

Oh. Edging is like when you get yourself to the point of masturbation and you go back. So kind of that's what edging is. When you get there and just draw back a little. And I know it's hard because once you get there, but like we said, anytime you have the anticipation and delay, like you delay something, it feels even better. So just try it. You know, try principles of teasing. Apply it to your soul sex routine. Apply it with your partner and it builds up tension that you have. You can create the greater sensation will be. You can also do this with your sex life. So, you know, just enjoy Masturbation month, guys. And you know what? It's not even about orgasm. Here's another thing. Have a good time. You might not have an orgasm right away. Like, I'm not gonna have a nipple orgasm tonight. Although you might. You never know.

Don't say that yourself. Off.

You know what? I'm actually really inspired. I hope you are too. And yeah, thanks everyone for listening. Anderson. What else? How's the film vault this week?

Film Vault's good. We did top five classic westerns. Finally. It was what the listeners wanted most.

Did they really? Listeners.

Five year anniversary, we let them pick. What? We haven't done a category we haven't done yet. And they came up with Westerns. They want us to do the old Westerns. Yeah. Reviewed a few good movies that are out now. So it was a good, good episode. Good episode.

You. You. Would you recommend to my people a good episode? Film Vault. Check it out. Podcast. I know you like podcasts because you're listening to this. Okay, everyone. Oh, here's what I have to say. I'm wrong. One more thing.

What? Huh?

I just want to say that I love all my listeners.

You do?

I do. Like, I really would be nowhere. I honestly, the fact that you guys, like listen to the show and then you email. I love hearing from you. Just put the cord. Just weird. Did it again. That's never happened. The whole show.

I don't hear anything.

Okay, here's the thing people. I just want to thank you for writing and for listening and for supporting the show for 10 years because I've been very nostalgic lately and I realized that if, if people didn't listen and weren't learning and changing their lives and also like having better sex and telling people, then I would not be here. It's a valuable show and I love doing it and I love helping you and I. Yeah, self service. So thanks everyone. Also like me on Facebook if you really like me that friggin watch. Also review us on itunes if you like the show. And finally, please, please follow me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram. It's all sex with Emily.

That's what I gotta say. I just love you. Thanks for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

Okay everyone. Oh, oh, oh. Have I mentioned it's masturbation month? What?

What? Since when? This month?

Two weeks ago? Yo, yo. Yeah.

Really?

Yeah.

I'm being sarcastic because we talked about it for an hour just now.

I know, but did I tell you about the flashlight? I mentioned it.

We did talk about.

Do you know one second of my.

Life is a bad idea?

Not one second of my. Not one day of my life goes by when I don'. Talk about the Fleshlight. Like when I was in Mexico, I uncomfortably made people look at the Fleshlight website, but it wouldn't come up.

Strangers.

Well, there are people we met at lunch and they had a phone. I'm like, try to google it. The Internet's bad here. And then it came up and I'm like, well, because they were trying to understand the Fleshlight, I really hope that.

They had the plan for using their phone down in Mexico because if they get charged $3,000 for ship looking up.

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