Mixed Sex Signals & Missing Orgasms

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend?

Cuz my man E here, he just.

Got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh my. Do women know about shrinkage? Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com. we can check out. Oh my God, all the things happening there. And I'm actually launching a new website very shortly, so stay tuned for that. It's gonna be so much better than it ever was. I always thought my websites were pretty damn good, but this one's gonna freaking rock your world, Anderson. Can't wait for you to see it. Sign up for my mailing list and follow me on Instagram and Twitter and Facebook and Snapchat. Now it's all Sex with Emily Anderson.

Is Snapchat the one that like, disappears?

Yeah, it disappears. And we're just starting. I'm just starting it. It is kind of shady. I'm just gonna do like my nipples, like kind of half. You know, I've been waiting for a reason to just do like a one second. You know, maybe every day. Like a body part.

Snapchat, Your thing you've been waiting for.

We'll see. I'm just saying that. So, Anderson, I haven't seen you since your big premiere on Saturday night. I'm really, really proud of you.

Thanks, kid.

Yeah, Anderson had like a sold out crowd at Busby's Each, which is east, which is a really cool bar here in la.

Too many people. There's a bunch of people that were there that I didn't even see there that, like, I know. I found out that they were there afterwards. It was like. It was bigger than my wedding. I didn't have that many. I didn't invite that many people in my wedding. But yeah, it was essentially capacity crowd. And unfortunately one of the two AC units was broken. So it was a hot crowd. And I actually am kind of happy about that because it's. It was hot and miserable in there, but people still stuck around and enjoyed it.

No one else left. People didn't even go to the bathroom. They didn't even get drinks. No. I was really proud of you got up there. Anderson. If you guys have been listening for a while, you know that he's. You know. You've been a student of film for a long time.

I will always be a student of film until I lose my mind or die.

We should all be students of whatever we love. Like, I'm a student of sex. You've always studied films, so. But you released a bunch of your films, your short films.

I showed like the four or five things that I did before last year, and then I showed all the five that I really poured my heart into last year. And it was. It was a success, I guess. And what's interesting is, like, everyone had different favorites, which was. I was hoping and kind of thinking that everyone would be like, oh, this one's my favorite, or that one's my favorite. But everyone across the board, it's like, different. So I can't get a good read on, like, which one's the best to submit to festivals.

There's no such thing.

Yeah, I guess not.

Yeah. Why can't you submit a lot?

Everyone likes different ones.

Why can't you? Do they charge you a lot? Right. How much do they charge now to get in?

25 to 55. As high as 70 bucks for some.

For short. Do you think they cut it in half?

No, they don't.

Jesus, you got. You know what you got to do. You got. I have an idea. We'll talk after. Make friends with the people who run the festivals. Because I used to that. And we'll get.

That sounds like a lot of work. And I don't want to. I don't like.

No, no. I mean introductions. Forget it. The point is, you're really talented. I was so proud of you. You got up there as a big.

Some of the movie.

Yeah. I really liked your movie. You know what I loved? I actually know this is cliche, but I. Well, I love Stanley. The one I love.

The one that I made for free at my house.

Yeah, with your walking your dog.

See what I Mean, yeah. That one I made by myself just.

Because I love Stanley and your dog and I feel she's. He's close to my heart. But I love the one that you want. Okay. I felt. I never saw Film Festival 1 because I had to leave.

You had to leave?

And I loved it. I love that.

The one that won the award.

I love how it shot everything that went by.

The pedophile.

Exactly. I really love that one. I love seeing Dr. Drew cameos from, like, years ago. And you even credited me in one, but I wasn't in it.

No, you were. That's Mormon. That's my. My. I call that my red balloon. There's really no dialogue. It's a Mormon going door to door, doing his, you know, thing as Mormons do. The elders, they go knock door to door. Exactly.

Which I like that one, too.

And I love that one. He was getting rejected left and right. And that was you. I don't know if you realize, but the door opens, you can just hear a woman's voice saying, I'm a Jew. And then it slams in his face. That was you?

When did I say that?

I had you say it in here, like, months ago.

All right, here we go.

Wait, let's talk. No, no. Can I tell you what's so funny? I was watching that, going, oh, my God. I do that all the time whenever. Like. Like religious. I'm like, I'm Jewish.

Do you say that?

Yeah, but I thought that I cast you perfectly. So then I'm like, why is. That's really funny.

You didn't recognize your own voice?

No. You're like, I was. Yeah, but I'm like, that's exactly what I say. But I don't say that aggressively. But it clear. Apparently did.

Apparently I directed you this. Okay.

Sorry, you guys. I just wanted to. But here's the cool thing. I really enjoyed meeting a lot of listeners, and there were several listeners there who said they listened to Sex with Emily and then they became an Anderson fan listening to the After Disaster and Film Vault. And they were there. And I met several people like that. And that made me feel really good that people are listening to all of our shows and spreading love.

And if we have any youngins listening, I'm gonna do another one in the next two to three months. Cause that was 21 and over. And I know a lot of people couldn't come, and they wanted to come, but they weren't old enough, so.

Okay, got it. Well, it was a good.

Thank you very much.

Let's talk sex, baby. Well, Happy podcast day. Hashtag.

Is that what that is?

It's. Or just hashtag podcast day. It's trending today. I didn't know. Like, I looked at Twitter this afternoon. It was, like, trending today. Today, Today, today.

Really?

I'm like, why didn't I get the memo? Like, right? I was like. I thought. I said. I tweeted. I was like, I'm confused. I thought every day was today's podcast day. I thought every day was podcast day.

For smart people, every day is podcast.

Well, for the last 10 years, I realized my 10th year, it's been 10 years of podcast. No, but I'm glad. You know, what if it makes people wake up to watching podcasts? Everyone always blames all these holidays on, like, Hallmark, but I don't think that had anything to do with Hallmark. But I'm glad that, you know, we got a holiday for what we do for a living. And my podcast also, Anderson, a few weeks ago, which was very exciting news, made it to 69 in iTunes.

Oh, I saw that. Actually. You put that on the old Instagram there.

Yeah, on Instagram. I was, like, really proud. You know, like 200,000 podcasts. It was 69.

Was that. That's why you put it there? Because it was the number. Like, if it was 68, you wouldn't have been like, check it out.

It's boring. But still, I don't think it's ever been. Anyway, it was number two. You know, happy podcast is. The thing I want to say is I love. I love all my listeners. Without you, there would be no happy podcast for me. There'd be sad podcast for me.

What does that mean?

It would mean that I couldn't.

You'd still do it if you had no listeners?

Well, if nobody listeners to. Okay, here's the thing. If nobody ever listened to my show and I just did it, and it was, like, one download, like, every Tuesday, I would probably, like, start another career, and I wouldn't have been able to do what I love. And my goal in life was to sit out and help the world have better sex and relationships.

I love that when people say that, they're like, we couldn't do this without you. It's like, shit. Yeah, I know. But I like the idea of somebody saying, you know what? Even if you didn't listen, I'd do this.

No, but see, I like that I didn't. Here's the thing. I started it thinking no one was listening. And here's the other weird thing, Anderson, that bought the other night is that and this happened to me at my Hustler thing. I know this might sound weird, and maybe you get this too, but. Yes. We're sitting here in a room, just you and I talking, and I'm not thinking, like, right now, there's millions of people listening. Right. So every time I meet a listener, like, this couple came up and they said, you really helped us with our. They told me about their relationship, and they were. I'm not gonna say their names, but their listeners. And they said, there's. At your premiere in the hallway. They're like, hey, so we're waiting to have sex till we get married and we listen to your show.

Oh, that's Brittany and John, the Clousons. Yeah.

Okay. Okay. They don't care if you say their name.

I made all of that.

Oh, okay. Got it. So anyway, the sweet thing was that they were just like, yeah, you know, you. You've. What did I say? Oh, yeah, you really, you know, helped our sex life and our relationship. And I thought, you know, we're listening to your show, and I thought, well, that I'm grateful that. Why? Because it my dream to save the world. One orgasm at a time is working. Go ahead.

Did any listeners try and take you home?

I've. No. No, I don't think I've had a listener try to take me home.

Really?

I know I should really sleep with your listener.

You shouldn't say that. You should not say that out loud.

No, I haven't. But I was at Hustler Hollywood at the. At the workshop I taught. I'm just telling you guys, it was so cool. It was called Back to Sex Ed Basics. And so I really broke down, like, all the things that you wish you learned. Sex ed, which, you know, they teach us, like, anatomy, and they just, like, don't get an STD and wear condoms. But this was about, like, yeah, anatomy. They showed you in sex ed class. But this was like, here's these hot pleasure points on your body that you didn't even know about, like, the way certain body parts work. And I went through, like, you know how to really touch someone the best. Manual stimulation oral sex. I touched a little bit on everything. A little bit on everything.

You can do it. You can say.

But the thing. A little bit on everything.

Your tongue all warmed up.

But there was these women who came in who'd been listening to the show for a while, this one woman, Kirsty, and she brought, like, 10 women. This energy was amazing. It was like their girls night out. They drove in from, like, orange county for the night. They were. Most of them were blonde, hot chick. There was a brunette. I was like, all these hot girls. Nothing to do with blonde. But it's funny because I posted on Instagram, so I was like, oh, brunette, blondes. Anyway, they were so sweet. They were so open. They really wanted to learn. And it was funny, like, because at first, you know, when I do these workshops, I'm thinking, do people, you know, do people know this or not? And it was just such an interactive crowd. Everyone asked questions. They learned a lot. And it made me think that I really want. This was a great one. And I felt that it helped a lot of people in ways they need to, and I'm proud of it. And I would also like to take it on the road. And so if anyone wants me to come speak in your city, let me know. Because it was like. It went on and on for two hours. People had questions. And then I took everyone shopping, helped them buy vibrators. It was a good time.

Really up and down the aisles. Really up and down the aisle.

Oh, yeah, dude. I'm like the sex toy with you. Like, if anyone's like, I have a tilted cervix, and I can only orgasm, you know, leaning on my left elbow, I'd be like, this is the vibrator for you.

This is what you do.

Exactly.

Did they have the Jeju Mimi?

They did. They did, and I loved it. I was like, here's my favorite. And it was funny because there was, like. My listeners were like, oh, you talk about that all the time. There's the Crave. Vesper's cute.

If you ever do want to, like, pick up on Emily at one of these events, what do they have to do? Here's what you do. Here's a perfect line. Just go up to her and say, hey, will you show me that at home?

Right.

Can you give me a little lesson at home?

Can I come over and check out my Sibian? Yeah, that's right. It's not gonna happen.

You got a Sibian at your house?

Oh, yeah. What I didn't tell you.

Is it, like, furniture? Like, do you say you can sit on the love scene or the Sibian?

I have to tell you, this is gonna be. I mean, okay, Sibian. I.

You know, Those are like $15,000 auto.

No, no, no, no, they're not. They're like. They're like. How much are they? I don't know. They're not as much. No, they're like a thousand something. But here's the thing.

A lot for an orgasm.

It is the. No, no, no, no, no. It's not about an orgasm. It is about retraining your body sexually. And lear.

And how to have the most incredible pleasure of your life that you'd never be able to experience without experiencing this toy. Because it's the only one that's set up. It's kind of like a. Like a saddle. It looks like it's not, like, big and intimidating. It's the most powerful, like, toy. And you can sit on it. Yeah, you mount it like a. Like it's the only one. It's the only product goes inside. No, no, no. That you can mount it like you're in the cowgirl position. So then if you. For example. So let's say you have never had an orgasm and you're, like, not really comfortable with it. You can, like, try it out and see. Like. Yeah, you could rub on it. It vibrates. You know, obviously it's. But you could also have the attachments. There's, like, different dildos that attach to it. Bigger ones, smaller ones, and then you learn to move. So, like, if you've never had a cheese spot orgasm, you can, like, you can do that.

Does it have, like, a little door on the side that you can push and it opens and the attachments are in there?

Yeah, exactly. Oh, my God. Dude, I got the cabinet. Because here's the thing. I got it and it's. It's just sitting out at my house. So I was like, okay, I need some way to, you know, I gotta cover it up. Cause my house is kinda small.

It's not a transformer. It doesn't, like, become lazy.

It becomes like a couch. Right, Exactly. No, but what happens is they sent me the cabinet, so now it looks like one of those ottomans, you know, that you can take off, store things in. So it's great. I need it anyway. It matches my house. And also, here's the other thing. It's not just for women. It's for couples. So it's. Think about it. You know how I always talk about how, like, mutual masturbation is a really hot thing, don't you? Like, you're not gonna freaking answer this. Would you say the typical man likes to watch a woman orgasm? Masturbate?

I know there's a lot of that on the old Internet, Sarah.

So let's say it's your partner and she's, you know, you're touching her, you're kissing her. Like, you could even climb on it too. And, like, you're crossing her, touching her.

Enough Room.

Totally enough room. So it's like. And then you transfer that, and then you have sex, but she's getting off. You can. She can give you a blow job while she's on it. And a lot of couples, like, learn how to actually have sex on the Sibian. I'm gonna. This is not my first time talking about it, but I have just mounted it. Let's just say that.

Okay.

Congrats on that, and thank you. I broke my Sibian bubble. No, people keep asking. I broke my Sibian bubble. I don't want to get attached to.

This is like having a 3. Him with an ottoman, essentially. Now, your family could come over. Your mom could throw her feet up on the. The. The chair, Right? Yeah.

No, no, it's leather. It's really nice. All these. I think men can use it for prostate.

It's actually the coolest thing I've ever seen, and I think it's worth the investment. How long ago? Oh, yeah, Okay. I got it probably about a month ago, but I didn't. I didn't use it until I got it a few months ago. I gotta be honest. And I really like part of it. I was like, oh, this is gonna be. You know, I was really excited about it because, you know me, like, try everything once I'm a trisexual.

Thought, you know, it's going to be this thing. But really, I took out of the box, I plug it in, it's ready to go. Like, I thought it would be more complicated with all these parts and stuff. And then it's like, take some time on your own. Like, figure it out. And then it has these really cool dials. It's 30 years old. The Sibian.

What?

Yeah.

But not this model. This model.

No, it has not changed.

What?

Yeah, it's got, like, dials that created it. No, it. No, the most amazing thing. This guy created it.

Was he trying to, like, make a weapon?

No. He came to my sex school when I was in graduate school. Okay. And he invented the Sibian. And he's like, you know, probably. I want to say that he's probably about, like, 75, 80 right now. And he invented the city Sibian.

Please tell me. It was, like, by mistake, though. He was trying to find something that could, like, buff out your shoes, polish your shoes for you.

His name's Dave Lampert. And I don't want to say. Actually, I don't remember the entire story. I can look right here. He printed his lady. I don't talk about the whole story because I'm Actually going to get into it more, and he's going to be on the show. So he was speaking in my sex school class. He lives in Ohio. His whole family's involved. Like, they're so into. And. And this was like four years ago in grad school. I was like, wow. And I talked to him after, and he's just a lovely man with this great story about, like, how this is, like, he wanted invent something that helped couples. It wasn't like the salacious, you know, thing. And because people, you know, it can get a bad rap or it seems weird, but it's like the family business. And he's from Ohio, like, a nice guy from Ohio. Anyway, so that's how it got. And that's how I met him. So I met the people from city, and they're like, we'll try it out. And so I was a little intimidated, but I just. But then I pulled out. It was so easy. And then it was like it has these dials. So, like, it's like. Like a spaceship. Two separate dials. One's for the vibration, and then one's for the. If you have the attachment inside of you, the silicone attachment, you could start to rotate that, like, G spot. You could figure out all these things about your body. I didn't go into the attachment part yet.

Not yet, anyway.

To be continued.

You're not there.

This is going to call the Emily Sibean Chronicles, because I'm telling you, it's getting.

After three months of dating, perhaps you get to that point, right?

But I couldn't believe how easy and great is. And then I got the thing, the ottoman. It's changed my life. I'm never leaving my house again. So, yeah, it's been a big week for sex toys and sex.

You're just kidding. Emily shows from this point on. Welcome to Sex with Emily.

No, it's not. It doesn't have to. Yeah, I'm gonna tell you more about it another time.

Let me ask you a quick question.

Please do.

What happened to the vibrating beds?

What do you mean?

The beds? Like, I'd always seen them in movies where, like, you go to a sleeping hotel and you put the quarters in and it vibrates like.

I think that's a really good question.

What happened to those? I missed that window entirely. I've never seen those. I can't imagine what they would do. What would they do for you?

I don't know.

Is sex good when earthquakes are occurring? I never understood. And I never got to try one out.

No one's going to come in two seconds. During an earthquake, Maybe the aftershocks.

I think they probably give you a little more than two seconds.

Well, the earthquakes only. You said during an earthquake. Earthquakes last like six seconds.

Freaking out, taking COVID 19 minutes or 30 minutes or something.

You see people had orgasms. They're like, let me get on the ground.

That's what I'm saying. I don't get it. I don't get that vibrating.

It was like in movies, only movies at like CD hotels in Vegas in the 60s. But vibrating beds, it's funny because they have had all these smart beds lately. Do you remember that bed? It was a sex and the news story that was gonna measure. Like how often you got busy.

You guys haven't banged in two days.

A nagging band.

I need someone else. Yeah, I need that. Okay, let's get into a little bit sexy. Oh, I got one more thing to say. Yo, listen to this people. I'm going to bring you the call in show that you've always wanted.

Colin Farrell.

Call in. Call in. Call into my show on Wednesday, October 7, 1:30pm to 2 Pacific Standard Time. You gotta call in with the number one question you've always wanted to ask me. You won't be there. I'm sorry, but we're doing a call in show 10-7-and all you gotta do is follow me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or follow my newsletter. I'll give you the phone number before October 7th and I wanna talk to all of you.

Enjoy that show.

I'm sorry you won't be there. You can come. Aw, that's cute. You're gonna come to the 10 year reunion, you and me. I still love each other.

Okay.

Okay. So what'd you say?

I will fight.

He will not.

I will challenge him to a duel. I will slap him with a white glove.

Well, you guys will be cute. It's gonna be the best. We're talking to the improv people.

Quick question. Who's menace?

You're so funny. He's not. He. It's a one way battle. Okay, so here's the deal. This is our first sex in the news story that I'm gonna break to you. And I've mixed emotions about it.

A man molds his junk into dildo for his wife as gift. She gives it to her sister.

Oh, Christ almighty.

You gotta hear the details. So have you ever heard of the clone a Willy? They sell it at sex toy stores.

Yes. I didn't know that's what it was called.

It's called Clona Willy. And they sell it like good vibrations. You know, if you use coupon code Emily, if you want to get clona Willy, you mold your penis and then you give it to your party. You make a dildo.

Here's the interesting thing.

Oh, you sell on ebay, but here's the interesting thing. Here's here. This is from Reddit. Reddit was the infamous today effed up story. They have like that on Reddit. I guess this is his. His words. Okay, for an anniversary gift, I bought one of those Clone a Willy dildo maker at the local adult store. I molded my junk, gave it to my wife as part of her gift. I never told her it was molded after myself. My wife is unapproved, however. She never used it or never admitted to it. My wife's sister was over for dinner tonight. Like this is like real time tonight. Her husband is out on an appointment. So she comes over a lot, we're having conversation, and she tells my wife she's getting lonely without her husband and can't wait until he returns in five months to get laid again.

Oh, hold on, I got just the thing.

Yeah. So she says, oh, I got just. She goes go to an adult store. The sister says, oh, I can't, I'm nervous. It makes me anxious. She says, you know what? Wait a minute, I got something for you. She goes upstairs, brings it down, says, here you go, sis, here's a dildo. I never used it. What'd she say here? And she said, she runs upstairs, clamps it back down, puts the molded dildo on the table, and says, as you can see, never got around to using it. Sister in law takes it. Are you sure? And leaves the house. Right? So the guy's saying, my sister in law left two months ago with my dildo. I don't want to do. I'm never gonna tell. But here's my first of all, how bizarre is that? Why would he go through all the trouble of molding his penis?

Did he get embarrassed at the last second? And does she not notice the similarities?

Somehow similar, but she never used it.

Story's bullshit. I'm calling bullshit.

I don't think so. Like, I could totally see this happening, but I don't under. Maybe it was in his mind. He's like, yeah, I want to give her a sex toy, but I'd be super jealous if it was anything that could have been it.

That is a very long story.

Bottom line, he's in a pickle with his pickle. And that's a story. Okay, yeah, I'm gonna tell you one more thing.

What can I tell you?

One clone jewelry once too. And it got stolen.

The movie guy. I got the film vault going on over there. And I watch a lot of movies. There's a great movie called the Final Member. Have you heard of the Final Member? It's a documentary.

No.

And it's about the one and only, thank God penis museum that's actually in Iceland. And they are looking forward. The whole documentary is about. They're looking for the final member. Because this guy has penises of all across the animal kingdom. The one penis he's missing is human, right? So it's the movie is it's documentary. Real life. The quest to find a actual human penis. They get an old guy who's like kind of like known as a Coxman in Iceland. He's kind of like a famous dude. He's like in his early 90s, right? And he's like, as soon as I die, you can have my penis. And they actually do a mold of his penis. But it goes terribly wrong, right? So they got footage of this poor old man having like plaster being beaten off his penis. And then they come across an American who wants to give his penis while he's still alive because it means that much to him. It's a great documentary. It's called the Final Member. It's on, check it out.

The Final Member where this guy, you know, he has two members now. So anyway, that's one thing. The other story. You didn't like that? I thought that was funny.

No, I like it. It's just disturbing.

Why is it disturbing?

Do you think that he beats off thinking about his sister in law using his penis?

No, no, no. I think he's gonna have to let it go and block it. He's gonna have to block it. But I'm just again, I'm just confused why he went through all that trouble. And that's my story. So. Okay, here is another thing I gotta talk to you about. The best sex positions for women. These are ranked. Okay. Remember Joanna Angel? She's been on show events.

Yes. I watched her pee on a man once. It's true.

Exactly. She did pee on a man. And she's been a guest on this show. She's got a website. Joannaagel.com. cam girl. She's like a suicide girl. Ish. You know, but before suicide girls. Cool chick. She did this thing for Thrillist. What?

While they were still alive. The suicide girls. Before they were suicide. Before they killed.

They did not kill. I just had. Oh, I Had one on my show a few weeks ago. Sorry you weren't here. Moxie from Suicide Girls. It was an awesome show, so if you guys didn't miss that podcast, you should check it out even though you weren't here.

Did she have tattoos?

Yes.

Shocking.

Okay, these are the bottom three positions. Okay. This was from Thrillist.

This is the worst. The ones they like.

These are, like, the least ranked. I'm not reading them all because it was a list of 20. This is the bottom of the barrel, and I agree with some of it. 69, number 20 out of 20.

Yeah, but ladies don't totally agree.

It is the worst sexual position ever.

Can't multitask.

Yeah, I know. Exactly. I can't multitask when I'm gonna have an orgasm. I want to lay back and do it. I going down on you.

Right.

But I can't do it simultaneously, like, at all. I can fake it, but I get guys like it. Right.

I've heard.

Because you're like, my dick's guy. I can multitask my dick. Saying, like, I could, like, you know, do, like, complicated math problem.

Dudes dig it.

Yes. Yeah. But for me, it's like, relax. I don't love it. I don't want to be like. I don't want 69 being shot.

I like the standing up 69. That's a fun one to watch. It's funny.

I want to put the person's upside down and they're, like, sucking it. Yeah, that's like an acrobatic move. The other one that I disagree with is standing up. This is the bottom two. Standing up while having sex. When they grab you for a second, it can be really hot. Not the whole time, not the entire sexual endeavor. But sometimes if you're, like, against a wall and a guy, like, slides you up the wall and you wrap your legs around him, I think it's hot. And this says if you're able to do it, it involves her arms wrapped around his neck and he hoists her up and involves leverage and a chair and blah, blah, blah. And she's wondering if she's too heavy. Oh, that's it. She's wondering if she's too heavy.

I never think I'm doing it all stuck in your head. I wonder if I'm slipping.

No, I'm thinking this is hot. Cause his chest is bulging.

Because you're anything but heavy.

That's true. Sorry. Okay, so here's the.

Drawn to you so you don't, like.

Should I take a quick break and come Back and tell everyone the top two.

I feel like that's good. Tease.

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Nothing.

You look like, scared.

There's some activity in the hallway. I was trying to figure out what that was.

Where's your dog? I wish she was cuddling with me.

My stand man. Yeah, my Stan. I know you called Stanley she twice.

I do that a lot. No, I always. I always use dogs.

My wife's mom is like that. Like, she calls all dogs all animals.

She.

And it's like. Or maybe she calls them all.

People think I like, don't really like their dogs, but I don't mean it. Okay, so here's the. Here's the top positions. Ranked girl on top.

Girls like that. Because you guys like to control.

Yeah, exactly. So it's one of the perfect positions because it gives us all the control. We have the switchboard. It's like we could be like, I'm going to move up, I'm going to move down. The pace, the depth, the speed. I can rub my clitoris however I want it against you. And he certainly. Men can certainly contribute to this because they like, you know, grab your hips, pull you forward, all that stuff. So yeah, girl on top is a good one. Number one, missionary. Missionary gets a bad rap.

Boring.

But it is the most popular because if you're always doing it missionary, like anything else, it could get missionary, solid.

I mean, if missionary didn't exist and if you invented it, it'd be the.

Greatest thing ever since you just want a little missionary.

It's a weird world where missionary doesn't exist. But I mean face to face, right?

In a world where nobody get a.

Missionary, everything, you know, for that scenario to take place. But like, it is, it's solid. I mean, it's, it's, it's made fun of a lot. It gets a bad rap. I think it is the go to.

But there's some little like, hacks. You can do it too. I mean, I think the reason why we all like it, men and women, is because like, he's still being like kind of dominant. You're feeling like his body on you.

Face to face is nice too.

Yeah, you're face to face and you can. And like she can also though start to do her things where she like she grabs his hips, opens and closes her legs, puts her knees back, wrap her legs around his back. Like, woman's got to participate. She can't lie there. Like it says here, like a starfish.

Fish always get a bad rap too. Fish. The fish in my world are constantly moving. They don't even sleep. I don't know, Joanna.

I wouldn't say star, but I'm saying if you don't want to just lie there, be like, oh, but you know. Okay, that's all I gotta say about that. That's what I gotta tell you all about the top positions. If you didn't know.

Interesting. What country was that? La, you know, Thrillist, Louisiana.

It was Thrillist. La. Probably la.

Oh, I'm a dumb person sometimes.

You are a dumb person sometimes.

Hey, you were supposed to say.

No, you're not. You're so smart.

Thank you.

What else? There was something else I was gonna tell you, but I'm just gonna get. Oh, thank you, everyone. Oh, you know what? Sweet emails. But there was a woman last night who I said. She said I answered one of her questions on the show and it was really helpful to her.

What was her name?

Her name was Kirsty.

What was her question?

Her question was about.

I'm joking. We shouldn't do that.

Oh, dude, I don't wanna do that. Okay? But she's awesome and she was so sweet and she brought all her friends and I love you guys. Big kisses to you, amazing girls.

Big kisses.

Big, big fucking kisses. Okay, mixed signals. Oh. First of all, emails. Feedbackexwithemily.com I read all of your emails and I try to let you know when I answer them. That's a new system in place and we want you to know that we try to answer them all.

Somebody reads them all.

Yeah, we all read them all. So the other thing is that when you're emailing me, it's great to tell me your age, where you live, how you listen. Thanks a lot. Okay, sex. What?

Well, what your sex is.

Oh, male, female.

Sometimes it's a bit confusing.

Yeah. Okay. Emily. I've been married for 20 plus years. We divorced for two years and then got remarried again about a year ago. Our sex life has always been great. Recently, she's not been very forthcoming in a prudish way, if that makes sense. She says she wants me to be more aggressive, but I don't get that vibe from her. She seems disinterested about sex most of the time. We communicate great, but I hate having to bring up sex all the time. I need a little bit of help. I hope this makes some sense. Thanks, Sean. 48, Washington D.C. suburb. Okay, so I read this and I'm thinking, okay. And then I had to reread it again and he's like. I'm like, back up. He's been married. He was married for 20 years, divorce for two, another back together. First of all, that's interesting.

That happens more often than people realize.

I guess it was kind of like. So I'm thinking, like, maybe they're probably in their 50s or like late 40s, mid to late 40s. So if you're just getting back together, it's like makeup sex, like on crack. I would think, like you're like, oh, we've been apart and stuff like that. And they always had great sex. So I'm curious what's going on here. She could be having some medical issues. She menopause, perimenopause, she take medications, whatever it is, because we always have to Rule that out. Now, if you never had sex issues before, that's why I'm thinking that it could be something to do with something medical. However, if there's still resentments, if there was some cheating involved, if there was any just unresolved issues that could also be holding her back. But really what you got to do is just talk to her about it. I mean, you guys are back together again. You know, it's so interesting because when couples, you know, he's like, I don't want to talk to her. When a couple is having an issue with their sex life, no matter who's having it, one partner is having it. It's both of your issue to deal with. So you need to just talk to her about it and be like, let's get to the bot. You know, is it that you're not into it? Ask her some questions about it. She wants you to initiate more. So, I mean, I could just go off and say, you know what, she wants you to be aggressive. She wants you to throw her on the bed, try something new, seduce her. But you're saying she's prudish. I'm confused by that part. I'm saying, just don't overthink it. One you plan a sexy night. You must know after 20 years what turns her on. Maybe she likes a massage. Maybe she likes going to a dinner. I would plan a night that revolves around her. And maybe she likes lots of foreplay. I don't know what your wife likes, but you do know. So just don't overthink. She's going to reject you. Just try to bring that back. Try to think back to all the great sex you had. Think about one of the most memorable times you guys are at sex and try to recreate that, see what the hell happens.

And the foreplay begins when you open the door for her at the car on your way to dinner.

Foreplay begins after the last orgasm.

That was.

But you're right, I don't know what she's into. So this is why it's.

But it sounds like, you know what? Make it all about her. Like, that was a great.

Make it about her. Yeah, make it about her and worshiping her. Don't make her feel bad because he says, he says here that he, you know, we communicate great. But I, you know, he goes, I hate bringing up sex all the time. So when I hear that from a guy or a woman, oh, how are you bringing it up? It's all about your tone, your timing. Are you saying, babe, you never give sex anymore? That's the last time she's gonna have sex. So you gotta re. You gotta, like, reconnoiter. Reconnoiter. Reconnoiter.

You making up Yiddish words as you go.

Reconnoiter. You gotta. You gotta figure out the right way to talk about this. And be straight. Be real. Don't make her feel guilt or shame.

Yeah.

I'm having a hard time speaking today.

Johnny Carson.

Do you know why? Because I talked for four hours last night straight in the workshop. What'd you say?

I think Johnny Carson got married to, like, divorce and married back to the same woman. It's three different women. I think at least two.

So of his, like, seven marriages, maybe more than that.

But, like, yeah, he'd get. He gets divorced and then they get remarried. Like, that's a person addicted to their.

Wedding and then divorced again. Right, Exactly. I don't understand that. I really. I actually am always skeptical. Skeptical of what happened. I don't know.

You just said skeptical, and you felt raked out. You looked at me.

No, I'm like, my nose is stuffy.

You're doing fine. You're doing fine.

So my. I'm skeptical always of people who get back together after breaking up. Right now. Sometimes it's great. It works out if there's a confident Jesus moment. But you worked on things. But oftentimes. Yeah.

What's that?

It means, like, that moment where you're like, okay, let's, you know, either we're gonna make this work or we're not, or you haven't come to Jesus. It means that the moment of truth, when you have a revelation, you think, you know what?

Clarity.

Clarity. This is the person. I know I'm Jewish. I'm saying, Jesus, this is the person I want to be with. And, like, it's amazing.

What, he was Jewish.

I know. I get it. You can't do those things when I'm talking in little things.

I can't?

No. It's heart gets me. Because me, I get anxious.

Because you're a lady. I know.

My point is, is that typically you. We tend to put our exes on pedestals. Sometimes we have this euphoric recall.

Idealize them. Yeah.

Pedestals, idealize. Same thing. So, yeah, yeah, yeah.

We're on the same page.

So we tend to have this euphoric recall where we think, God, it was so amazing. And we remember all the good things. So I'm often worried about people getting back together when you're just remembering the good stuff. Now, if you also acknowledge there's some things that Weren't so great, but we're working on those. We have systems in place to deal with whatever it is, our sex issue, our money issue, then you might have some help. But if you're just getting back together. Cause you missed each other. Not a great idea.

Yeah.

Okay. Moving on. So good luck to you. Yeah. What? Oh, yeah.

Good luck to you.

No, Sean, seriously, I'm so glad that you listened. I'm so glad you emailed. And maybe you guys can listen to this together. You know, it's also interesting. A lot of couples I've met lately are like, we listen together and it helps us. And I love it because people especially.

Awkward conversations.

Yeah, no, it's like. It's kind of like I'm like the third party. Like, they're like, you don't want to look, you don't want to have it. So just be like, listen to this. And they talk about it after. It's like a book club, but it's a podcast club. Happy podcast day, by the way. For the second time. Okay, ready?

PC day. Go ahead.

I know I wasn't invited, but I'm glad that it's happening.

I think everyone's invited when it's a meme type. Hashtag bullfrig.

I just think I would have gotten a memo.

Happy blowjob day again.

You think I'd be told?

Yeah.

Okay. Hello, Emily. I'm a new listener and trying to find tips on how to orgasm. I've been married for a little over a year now, and I'm 24 years old. I've never been able to experience one. My husband and I are not comfortable with sex toys, and I've tried doing research on different ways to orgasm. I read that as he is. I read that as he is fingering me or inside me. You like that word?

It's just.

It's a little graphic to tighten my muscle until I really intensify it and then release. It's definitely helped the pleasurable experience, but I don't know what an orgasm feels like. In order to figure out what I'm feeling or looking for, any help is welcome. Belinda. Parenthesis. Fakening. Carla. Belinda, this is an awesome question because it's actually one of the top questions I get asked is how the hell do I orgasm if I've never had one before? But there's always different scenarios. So that's why I love answering this question, because it's really important and you need to take measures into your own hands, Belinda. So you gotta take some time, some time without your partner. Because what you're doing now is. Which is great, you're doing what we're calling. You're called. What.

Is she doing?

She's doing what we call her Kegel muscles. So she's squeezing and relaxing.

She said muscles.

Now, let me tell you. Oh, she's clenching her PC muscles around his penis, which is a great thing to do during sex. A lot of women have orgasms when they have strong PC muscles. And have you ever had a woman clench at your penis when you're having sex?

I don't know.

Oh, Jesus Christ, I need another goddamn penis.

The pelvic floor.

Yeah, it's the pelvic floor muscles. She's tighten it and yes, George Carlin.

Has a whole bit about this.

Okay, I'll list it now. It's a great way, Belinda, on your road to orgasm, to do Kegel exercises. The thing is that you need to have some time alone.

Because he's not gonna figure out it for you. A lot of women think someday my prince will come and so will I. You think that your husband that you're with, you gotta figure it out. Like a lot of women do. That during intercourse is when you have your first orgasm. But for many, many, many women, most.

Women by yourself, ladies.

Yeah. So a little time without him, you don't want the pressure. And you really just have to start getting to know your own body. So get. So usually that starts with like a night where you, like, lock the door or I don't know, where you have to go take a bath. And you, you seduce yourself. You do all the things that make you feel relaxed and calm. Light a bath, have some candles, play.

Some door for yourself.

Yeah, Open the door for yourself to the bathroom and then lock it. And then you just want to start touching, getting familiar with your body. So take orgasm off the table. Like, I'm getting this sense here, Belinda, that you. That you might not have spent a lot of time just like, letting your fingers run, like, run all over your body. A lot of it. Women, don't let instinct get your nipples, like, run, like, take a bath. Use some lube. Get in bed, like, just touch your body, your stomach, your inner thighs. Like, tease yourself, okay? See what feels good. Pay attention to, like, what sensations feel good, what don't. Then you get to your clitoris. 8,000 nerve endings. There's a lot of ways to touch the clitoris, okay? That's where a lot of women start. So you want to make sure that you use some lube. It's great to use some water based Lubricant and just start touching yourself again. No expectation. Flat fingers. Massage circles it. You might want to put fingers inside and just start exploring because the more you get comfortable with this and the more you do this, you will be able to orgasm. But here's the other thing, Belinda. It is not an overnight thing. First of all, you've got a lot of probably thoughts in your head about like, it hasn't happened. Why isn't it happening? And I have a friend who did this on her own. Never had an orgasm before. We were in college and she was like, I'm doing this. And she spent 30 days, every single night, Anderson masturbating. And she said, I'm gonna get there if it kills me. First week, no orgasm. Second week, no. But she did it. She tried. Third week she had an orgasm. She figured it out. She like explored the fingers. Who puts that much time in a desperate woman? But now she had an orgasm. Until this day.

Yeah. She hasn't left the room.

No. She's married, kids. She has multi orgasms every time during intercourse, thriving. Because I believe she spent that time. So I'm saying spend this time. Now here's the other thing. I'm not saying that Belinda, it's gonna. You could just do this stuff by yourself, try it a few times. But then it's okay to bring your husband in, show him what you're learning even before you get to orgasm. But you just. All this is gonna happen on your own at the beginning and then no problem bringing him into it. Have a good time, figure it out. And also go to my website, sexwithemily.com because we've got tons of blog posts on there about masturbation.

She loves her research. Who does Belinda? Here's what I'm hearing with Belinda too is like the fake name. She said research at least once, maybe twice. I mean, it sounds like I'm picturing her with like a. A chart on the wall and you know, trying like mathematically solve the. The orgasm.

She's been researching what she rewrite.

Yeah. So I know you're probably gonna disagree with me here. Em, she's 24. Glass of red wine, listen up.

A little funny.

She needs to get in touch with me.

She needs to chill out and let her.

I think she's a little.

Why kept saying, relax it right down to the.

A fake name. Belinda.

I mean, who's gonna name. Yeah, Belinda, but we wouldn't have known.

No one's gonna know. That's a really good point, Sarah.

Intellectually going after a Physiological experience.

Absolutely physiological.

So you are intellectually trying to tackle it and that doesn't work because I tried that too. I had my other. My own orgasm issues.

So clearly.

Oh my God. I didn't even know they exist. You've all heard me. Tell me this story. But I didn't orgasm either. And I started having sex.

You were the woman, huh?

For 30 years, I was that one.

You were the one?

No, my best friend. I wish I did that. I never had that much. I'm not great with routine. You know me. I was like, I'm before a day. But. But I really like. I started reading about it. But what you realize is that it's not. You could read. You put a hundred women in a room and they're all going to orgasm different. They're all going to masturbate together at.

The same time with each other.

I'm going to do that. That's going to be my next short film.

Where can I find that?

But what I'm saying is they all touch each other differently. So as much as you research and I get it, you like research. It's going to be all about your body. And all the research you need is. Are in. Is in your own hands right now.

Absolutely.

In your bedroom.

All the tools you need. Find out. Jeju Mimi would help you.

I'm not sure why you guys are opposed to toys. I'm not gonna go there right now. But all I'm gonna say one thing about it. I'm gonna say one thing about toys in the bedroom. We use technology in every single areas of our life to enhance it, to have a better experience. Everything, Almost everything. Think about how technology has not.

I'm trying to think of something.

Okay, so why not bring something that's battery operated, rechargeable into the bedroom? That could enhance your experience. Doesn't replace your experience. You know, Just because I'm on the Internet doesn't mean that I'm not interacting with Anderson right now. Because I'm looking at my computer. It adds to it. I'm not printing out and wasting paper.

You're not?

No, I'm just saying people are opposed to it. It's like, why don't you just try a vibrator and then we'll talk like.

Like a dude that masturbates by himself without a flashlight or anything. That's one of the only things that technology. If you're not looking at a computer, he's just using his brain old school way. That's like one of the only things you can do in the world. World that doesn't involve some kind of man made technology.

That's true. But now it does because everybody is surfing their computer most. But I mean.

Surfing the web. That's true. Sometimes you use your imagination.

I feel like I'm gonna, I, I'm.

And not all women use toys either.

You know, I think that the next generation of kids that are coming up today, they're not gonna be nearly as creative or. Or tell good stories because they weren't creating things in their minds when they're beaten.

But here's exactly right. We are. We are the last of the great.

Remakes that can't tell good stories. They're remaking movies over and over.

We're the last.

Absolutely.

The last of the Mohicans. Okay, but there's one other thing I want to say about that is that is about the technology part is that it's not that you like need toys. It's just that they. Since only 30 of women actually orgasm during intercourse. And even of those women it's probably half the time they actually do orgasm. So it's not of any lack. Nothing to do with your partner. It could just be. It could be a million things time a month, Month. Your. Your mindset. So having a toy there is to help you get there can is great. It's a little added bonus. Plus toys enhance your experience. Meaning you might already have orgasms, but then you have like you have one on your nipple and then you've like a nipple and a clitoral orgasm. Or you have one like, you know, you put it on his shaft or enter his balls and tickle it and he has this crazy. It's like. It's for both of you and it just like. It's like going to the movies and then getting popcorn.

It was great. But when you got popcorn, something better that I could say that that's the first thing came in my head. Okay.

Going sober, not being drunk while watching a movie. No, I don't. I refuse. I hate that I'll never see a movie for the first time while intoxicated on anything.

It's really.

I'm not allowed to talk about a movie if I saw it drunk. I have no valid opinion. You know what I mean?

Don't you think sometimes you're. But then maybe it's not bad. Yeah. Okay, I get it. How about if you were like. And mushrooms.

Furious was awesome. It was so good because I was drunk. You know what I mean?

Yeah.

I'll go see a movie like for the third or fourth Time for sure.

Drunk for sure.

Or on mushrooms.

I was wasted at your movies. I actually don't remember any of them.

Oh, you.

I'm just kidding.

I saw not yout Born Killer is like, while on acid. Bad times.

Yeah, it was bad.

Bad times.

It's a waste of time to do it. You're right. Do you watch tv Drunk?

I don't really watch tv.

Me neither.

Yeah, it's on my list. Who has time?

Nobody has fucking time. I don't know. People have time.

Okay, one more, one more, one more, one more.

Email.

M Mail. We should go.

Okay. Let's go home.

M. Mail.

Okay.

M. Yeah, it's like email, but it's M Mail.

M. Mail. You're right. I'm gonna rebrand it. Okay. Threesome troubles. Emily, my girlfriend and I, also a girl, have had three sims with another girl numerous times. It's my girlfriend's fantasy. Anyway, I want to have one with a guy, but I remember talking to my girlfriend in the past about it, and she said, no way. She's no desire to watch me or have sex with a guy. This is my fantasy and I really want it to happen, but I'm just not sure how to convince my girlfriend to go along with it. It should. I just forget about it. Thanks, Stacy. Lesbian couple. They have threesomes with girls sometimes. But Stacy wants to be with a guy. She just wants to do it. So here's the thing. You're in a committed relationship, and it's all about agreements and negotiations and relationships. So some fantasies. Some fantasies that we have have to stay fantasies. So if you're truly okay just, like, letting it go, I would say maybe you guys can just kind of start role playing, you know, during talking about it and seeing if it gets her turned on. Like, that's happened a lot of couples being like, I'm imagining a guy right here, like, with you, whatever.

That could ease her into it.

Yeah, ease her into it. She could also use a strap on. You know, you could do something where, again, role playing. Strap on. It's okay. You know, what was I gonna say? So it seems like.

She has to figure out what's more important.

Yeah.

Having a threesome with a dude or this girl.

Well, that's the thing with relationships. I know. Well, it's not like it's.

How important is it?

Right. So if it's not that important, again, it's all about compromise. So you could say to her, you know, or just. See, maybe it's. I don't know if you just brought it up. Because sometimes seeds have to be planted. People need to think about it for a while.

I know a lot of lesbians, though, and a lot of them hate the idea of penis anywhere near.

Right. Oh, I wonder how she'd be if she was with the guy. Without her around, she's just like, I don't care. I just don't want to be able to see a penis with you.

Perhaps, but. But perhaps that's a huge violation.

I wouldn't push it. If she's telling you she's uncomfortable. Let it sit for a while and then try to do some of the other things I talked about. Role playing, enhancement, bring it up again, get to the bottom of it. See it maybe, you know, never say never. It doesn't have to die, but it is negotiations and decisions we make in relationships, we all make sacrifices and compromises. Unless we don't get to relationships and then we don't have to. Okay. Anderson.

Yeah. It was really good to see you again. Do a show. I feel like we haven't done a show in a while. I know it's been a while.

I know. Know it's been like a really long while.

Has been a long time.

I just. I just wanted to say one more thing here.

I know, I can tell that you're looking. You're searching furiously through your fake brain, which is your computer looking for.

No, it just something just shut down. Tell me something else. What was your podcast about this week?

Oh, Film Volt. Yeah, I'm glad you brought that up. We did top five movies that are. Didn't like the first time you saw them, but you ended up loving after you went back, which is rare. And it's hard to like, think of movies like, well, if I didn't like it the first time, why would I see it a second time? But there's a pretty decent, healthy list there. Actually, my list, my number one lines up with the listeners list because we always do a top five listener list as well, where our producer stockpiles all the answers. Submissions from listeners. Also, we talk about the new movie Sicario Sicilyo Sicario, which is gonna be a big movie that comes out this week. And we'll talk about that.

I love that. You do. I gotta listen because I never. I've been seeing movies lately and I need to.

I yell at my co host quite a bit Bald Brian from the Adam Carolla show. I, I pummel him and scream at him and he, he. He defends himself.

Then he doesn't see movies.

Oh, I got really mad at him this Week.

Why?

Because he wanted to talk about the end of Sicario and it comes out like today.

Oh, you can't ruin. You can't.

We'll talk about it at the end of the show. I'm like, no, not even that.

Do that. You guys. It's a very delicate art there to review a film and not give it up. You know this.

I know how to do it. He can't.

Okay, well, you got to teach my bald friend.

No, but I always, guys, I always guard him. I make sure that he doesn't give away anything to mask.

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