No Shame in a Bigger, Sexier Brain with Jim Kwik Part 2

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Eyes that mock our sacred institutions.

Bedroom eyes, they call them.

In a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend?

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Being bad feels pretty good.

But, you know, Emily's not the kind.

Of girl you just play with.

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Okay, so let's jump into the mechanics. How do you do these things? How do you learn faster? How do you read faster? How do you remember more? Right? And so the goal is to be the best version of ourselves. And it starts with our mind, because our mind controls everything, right? Our brain controls our relationships, our career, our health and everything. Our habits, everything. So there are four keys to learning any subject or skill faster. What I want everyone to do right now is to think about a subject or a skill. It could be making love, it could be Mandarin, it could be music, it could be martial arts, it could be marketing. Anything that you want to learn faster. There are four keys to learning any subject or skill faster. And I want you to remember this fast. F A S T. I'm gonna go through this rapid fire. All right? So the F stands for forget. And you're like, jim, I'm, you know, you're a memory expert. Why are you telling me to forget something? One of the reasons people learn slowly is they feel like they know something already, right? And you know this, right? This is coming back to a beginner's mind. In order to learn something faster, you have to Empty your cup so you can learn something new. Because it's cliche, but it's true. Your mind is like a parachute. It only works when it's opened. All right, so temporarily forget about what you know about a subject. And so you know, if you're listening to a podcast and it happens to be on one of your you subjects that you're talking about, then if someone knows about that subject, temporarily forget about what they know so they can learn something new. The second thing I would forget about are situational things. So the reason why I say this is like remember, we can't multitask. So if you're trying to listen to a podcast and do five other things at once, it only gives you about 20% of your resources to be present. People don't learn faster because their attention is split. So you don't want to do that. The third thing I would say to forget and something you could do is just if something comes in your mind, just write it down. You know, you think about the dry cleaning, you think about the client stuff, just write it down because you don't want to try not to think about it because what you resist persists. If I tell you don't think of a big pink elephant or a polka dot giraffe, you're going to think about it more, right? So don't try to fight it and just write it down. So forget about situational things. And the third thing you want to forget are forget about your limitations. And what I mean by that is all behavior is belief driven. And a lot of us have this negative self talk. We say, oh, I have, I'm getting too old, I have a horrible memory.

But I always been able to in the past remember.

Exactly. And then so like I'm horrible with names, but I always tell people if you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them. Right? If you love that, if you argue for your limits, they're yours, right? And so you want to be very careful with your self talk. You know, I remember I was preparing for a marathon, right? And so my last name really is Quick. I didn't change it.

I love it. K W I K. People are like, that's not his name.

Sorry, I didn't change it. It's my father's name, my grandfather's name. But my life was pretty much planned out. I had to be a runner back in school, which is a lot of pressure. When it says Quick right on your shirt.

I had to, because what if you were the slowest?

Exactly. And then so I have to Be careful when I'm driving because the worst name to have on your driver's license when you get pulled over for speeding is the name quick because you're not going to talk your way out of the ticket. And I get to do my mission, which teach people how to learn faster. But anyway, I was preparing for this marathon and part I was reading this book and one of the chapters was the psychology, the mental training part of it. And I remember reading this verbatim. It said this word for word because I'm a memory expert. It said your brain is a supercomputer and your self talk is a program that will run. So if you tell yourself you're not good at remembering names, you will not remember the name of the next person you meet because you program your supercomputer not to. And that's why I think it's really important to get rid of your ants. Automatic negative thoughts. Kill those ants. Automatic negative thoughts.

We all have them and we do.

We do, right? And so part of it is just like what you said. Either just go on like a little fast, right? You know, negativity fast or whatever people call it in terms of the complaining that we do. Adding even a three letter word, very simple word, like, yet also changes the meaning for things like I don't have a great memory yet, right? Or something. Something simple like that.

I still say things like this. Obviously I don't think they ever truly go away. But I'm so much more conscious of it now. Like I've been trying that in the office with saying I'm sorry. I reflexively say I'm sorry. And it's like about everything. Chicks do this, I think more than men often like I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Like and so then I started saying I'm sorry, not sorry. So even when I'm in public I'm like, oh, I'm sorry, I'm not sorry. So now at least I'm noticing it. I think I am saying I'm sorry a lot less. Cause I've trained my brain. So whatever your negative thing is, it's okay if you say it as long as you, you don't have to publicly take it back. Cause I'll be in weird places. Like I'll be with the waiter. I'm like sorry, not sorry. And I'm like what? I'm like, it doesn't matter. But I think that just recognizing even if you pick one negative thought, usually there's an umbrella negative thought. And there's a lot of other little ones beneath them. But I think that's how I've gotten rid of them, is by being very clear what they are now.

Yeah. And I think at the beginning of all change is awareness.

Awareness, right.

And so even when it comes down to food, right, if you're, if you're eating a very clean diet, all of a sudden you eat something that's unhealthy, it just stands out, just like our negative thinking. And so I would, I would be just as concerned with you put in your body as we are concerned with what we put in our body, what we put in our brain and our mind. And so keep it positive. Right?

Circuit rid of the ants.

So you get rid of the ants. Automatic thoughts, automatic negative thoughts. And so you want to forget about these limitations because it's like, you know, it's like the, the what they talk about with elephants. Like, you see an elephant at a circus and you wonder why it doesn't just pull its way off, you know, that rope and that stake in the ground. The reason why is since that elephant's been a baby, it's been tied to that same rope to the same stake in the ground. And in the beginning, it would try to, you know, make its way free. It would pull and pull and pull and struggle. But after a few days, maybe a week or two, it learned that it's helpless. So even when it grew into incredible, you know, animal that could pull down the whole circus stunt, it still doesn't because in its mind, it's still that weak. And so that's learned helplessness, right?

And we learn that too. A lot of times it's negative, you know, things that we've heard from our parents. And that's what carried my life.

Negative self, body image or even, you know, when it comes, when it comes to any of these topics, whether it's sex or scholastics, it's all the same. We all have these negative beliefs about certain things, and all behavior is belief driven. And so we set the thermostat that we talked about earlier that a certain level, and it just reaches that. And so you want to forget about those things. The A and so F stands for forget. Forget about what you know about a subject, forget about your. What's going on situationally, and forget about your limitations. The A in fast stands for active. And this is, this is huge. All right? If you want to be a better learner, if you want a better memory, if you want better focus, you need to be more active. And what I mean by that is if you are overloaded with too much to learn, too little time. It's because you and I and most of our listeners, we all grew up with a 20th century education. You know, 20th century education prepared us for a 20th century world which at the turn of the century was working in, working out in farms, working in factories. And it really was like an assembly line, it was like one size fits all. Sit quietly by yourself, don't talk to your neighbor. You know, and it just, it was cookie cutter approach to learning. And now we live in a world that's so different right now. Right? We live in an age of autonomous electric cars and spaceships that are going to Mars. But our vehicle of choice when it comes to learning and education is like a horse and buggy. And that's why we use it's true change it. I know, I don't know how, but one of the reasons why is 20th century education was so passive. It was like you're being lectured to and you're supposed to just consume information. But the human brain doesn't learn by consuming, it learns by creating. And so the human mind, it doesn't want to just consume and be lectured to. It wants to create because we are all creators. And so how can you be more active? So active would be, for example, taking notes. Active would be asking questions. Active would be sharing this information and teaching other people. Because here's the thing. Learning is not a spectator sport. Learning is not a spectator sport any more than lovemaking is. Right? And so it's not a spectator sport.

Well, it depends if you're into that kind of thing.

But right, so you want to get, you have to roll up your sleeves and you have to get involved to get the benefit. So you want to be active the s and fast. We already talked about that state, right? And so if you want to learn faster, all learning is state dependent. I would never want to learn something in a dull, bored state because you're not going to retain any of it. So whatever, you could do the up the emotion either physically or mentally. And one of the best ways is just monitor your self talk, right? Or change or put a smile on your face or get fascinated. There's a roomy quote that says sell your cleverness for bewilderment. Like when's the last time we felt bewildered about something, you know, playful about something like when even play, like who are the fastest learners? You know, children, right? Children can learn music. How fast can they learn a musical instrument? How fast can they learn a second or third language? And I think one of the reasons why, you know, is because they play all the time. But as we grow older, we stop playing. And I don't think it's because I.

Didn'T think about that. I was like, what happened to recess? Like, there was a reason why we could. I always tell them, I'm like, go walk around the block, Jamie. I say that to her all the time. Like, just. She's sitting at her desk and the place. Mark's moving around a lot, the office. But you could walk, too. But Jamie, it's just sitting, like, right? But when we had recess as kids, we played, and you come back in.

And even as a kid, it's like, you know, you want to go outside and play, and later it's like, oh, do you want to go out and hang out? Or whatever. We change even the words so and so as we grow older, we stop playing. But I don't think it's that way. I think it's the opposite. I think it's. We grow older because we stop playing.

You know what I mean?

It's not like. It's not like we stopped playing because we grow older. Maybe we grow older because we stop playing.

I think so, too.

And so add play. That's a state of mind. And when you're playful about something, you're more active. And finally, the T in fast stands for teach. And this is a huge one. If you want to learn something faster, learn with the intent of teaching somebody else. You know, we've all heard that phrase, those who can't do, teach. You know, and I never thought it was a negative, like, those who can't do business, teach business. Right? I actually thought it was like, oh, if I can't do something, let me teach it. And then by teaching it, I'll learn how to do it. And so let's say, like, you know, we're going through all these brain hacks right now, but let's say you're listening to this and you're thinking about somebody you wish was listening to this podcast right now with you. Like, think about right now as you're listening to this one person you think could really benefit from this, right? And so what I would say is imagine yourself having to give a presentation in front of that person tomorrow. You know, would you pay attention differently? Would you concentrate differently? Would you ask better questions? You know, would you take notes differently? Of course you would. Because here's the thing. When you teach something, you get to learn it twice. When you teach something, you get to learn it twice. So now, why not learn with the intent of teaching it. So that's fast. Forget what you know about a subject. A, be active. S monitor your state T, learn with the intention of teaching somebody else. So what I'm going to share with you right now, seven keys for remembering names and faces. I'm going to teach you seven keys to remembering names and faces. And then I'm going to teach you the 10 things you need to do to unlock what I call your quick brain. Because really this is not just about mental intelligence. Yes, you'll learn facts and figures and formulas and your friends names faster. But really what I want people to do is not just be more mentally intelligent. I want them to have mental fitness. People don't know this, but 1/3 of your memory is predetermined by genetics and biology. 1/3 of your memory, 2/3 is completely in your control.

So we get to. Right, it's not about my family.

Activate. Right, so it's genetics when I'm talking about. So independent of your age, your background, your career, your education, your financial situation, your gender, your iq. But let's go to names and faces real fast. Here's a quick brain hack. So when you're out there, because I see you, you're on stage and afterwards you're mobbed with people, right? And they introduce themselves. How do you remember all those names? Right? So what I want you to do is I want you to be suave.

Be suave.

Be suave. So you're looking in the mirror, you're checking your makeup, people are checking their outfits and everything. And you say to yourself, I'm gonna be suave next time you're out and about and you want to remember names. The B is believe. Because if you believe you can or believe you can't, either way, you're right.

I will believe that I can.

Right? And so you need to be able to believe it to be able to achieve it. And that's really the thing. It's not, it's not you'll believe it when you see it, it's you'll see it when you believe it, right? Because success is an inside out process. So that's the B is believe. Get rid of the negative self talk. The E stands for exercise, right? And because the bad news, it takes effort, the good news, it doesn't take as much as you think. So I'm not saying it's easy, but I'm saying it's going to be worth it. Because remembering names is so important. So practice makes progress. Now the suave, the S. First thing you do is you say the name. So you just literally repeat the name back to them. So common sense, but it's not common practice. But the reason why you say it is because you want to make sure you observed it correctly. So if a person's name is Ted, you don't want to say it at the end. You don't want to say goodbye ed. You know, 30 minutes later, you want to get corrected up front. And because lots of times there's ambient noise and you're at an event or whatever it is you say the name. The U is you use the name. Now notice you use it, you don't abuse it. Right. Emily, it's so good to see you. Emily, you want to grab lunch? Emily? Emily, we want to talk about being abuse. Right?

Right. Abusive. It's slightly creepy. Right?

Right. You want to use it three or four times in the context of the conversation. Right. The A is you ask about a person's name. Right. And so this is really neat because, you know, you're mentioning, you know, people's names are pretty common, right? Mary, Ted.

Yeah. Or like most a lot of men's names, one syllable.

Yeah. And they're just weirdly hard to remember. And so asking about a person's name. So when you meet. The rare times you meet somebody and their name is unusual, different, maybe 10, 20% of the time. Afzal Ridiger. You know, you meet somebody with a different kind of name, then you ask about what can you ask about a person's name?

I'd be like, oh, that's interesting. Is your fan for exactly the name from. Exactly.

Yeah.

I haven't heard that before.

What's the origin? Or who are you named after? How do you spell it? What does it mean? Like, you could, you know, you could ask all these questions, and that's what I would do. If somebody's name is. You haven't heard before. So, like, because what's everyone's favorite subject?

Themselves.

Right. Exactly. Right. And so the people are flattered. So I was doing a training and sex. Exactly. I was doing a training at the. The country's largest life insurance company. About 100 people in the audience. And the training director's name was Nankita. Nankita. And I was like, wow, it's a beautiful name. How do you spell it? Where's it from? What does it mean? And she paused. I was like, what does it mean? And she said, it means graceful falling waters. And I was like, wow, that's kind of interesting. And then, you know, her co workers kind of made A little noise. And I was like, how long have you worked here? She was like, you know, five, six years. I'm like, with everyone here, she's like, yeah, a lot of good friends in my wedding. I was like, raise your hand if you knew that's what Nankita's name meant. Out of a hundred people, how many people raised their hand?

None.

None.

Right, Right.

And remember, a name is the sweetest sound to a person's ears. So you ask about a person's name, right? And then finally the V and the e in suave. The V is visualize the name. Right? And so I bet you're better with face. I bet most people are better.

I am. I remember. I just. True. I'm.

You go to somebody, you say, you know, I remember your face, but I forgot your name. You never go to someone and say the opposite. You never go to someone, say, hey, I remember your name, but I forgot your face.

Right?

That would make any sense because you have your visual cortex. Is large, is. Is. Is larger than the other areas. And so we tend to remember what we see. There's a Chinese proverb that says, what I hear, I forget. What I see, I remember what I do. I understand What I hear, I forget I heard the name, I forgot the name. What I see, I remember. I saw the face, I remember the face. And going back to doing and practice exercising. I understand. Right? And so if you tend to remember what you see, then try seeing what you want to remember. So this is really easy to do with those single, like those single syllable names that you mentioned. You know, you mentioned someone named Jim. You just imagine them literally just at the gym. And it sounds so silly in third grade, but again, children learn fast, right? They have imagination. So if a person's name, for example, is Mary, imagine you meet someone, Mary. Right?

Right.

And then all of a sudden you imagine like two lambs underneath her arms and just like. And it makes you laugh.

But even if, right. So I'd be like, oh, Mary too. And then the next time I saw her, like in a month, I'd be like, that was Mary.

So watch, watch, watch this. So long. There's a difference between long term and short term, right? You want to make sure you get the short term. Because my. My goal with you right now is to overcome what I call the six second syndrome. Six second syndrome is you learn something. Somebody gives you a passcode, right? They give you their phone number, they give you their. Their name. You have six seconds to do something with that name. Otherwise, what happens? It's like gone in the ether. Right. And so you need something to be able to capture it. So if the person's name is Mike, imagine them jumping on the. On the tables and singing on a microphone, and you're like, well, that's very childish. Yes. And that's why children learn so quickly, Right? How many people had their name, you know, made fun of growing up as a kid?

Right. A lot of kids.

Yeah, everybody does. Or they make, you know, like, they make fun of your name. And now, like, David is in therapy because he was called David. The David.

Right.

He doesn't even know what a David is. And he's in therapy for like 10 years.

Exactly. Sticks with you. Right, Right.

And that's. That's how. But that's how kids remember things they make fun of. They use their imagination. And so what I would say is it's memorable. So meet someone named David, for example. I mean, someone named David.

Everyone's name is David.

And I imagine myself literally just taking a slingshot and just hitting him in the nose. Imagine every time you met a David, you would just put a sling, you know? Now, Dave, why would I use a slingshot? David and what?

Goliath?

David and Goliath. So that would remind me of that. And so every single time you're like, yeah, now, but this is.

Do you ever go Goliath, I mean, David to them?

So you're. True. Then you would have to go through a totally different training. But. But here.

Here I need a different training.

But your true memory knows the difference though, right? You just need something to focus.

So do you do that automatically? Is it automatically?

Automatically. But here's the thing. You should do this. First of all, when I'm hitting fun.

Like, I'm excited now.

When I'm hitting David in the nose with a slingshot, I'm doing this in the privacy of my own mind, right? I'm not sharing this with David. And so when I'm at a party, right, you and I see each other at a lot of gatherings and stuff like that. I see Mary holding lambs. See David like that. I see Bob, bobbing for apples. I see all. I see carol, Christmas caroling.

So do you, for these names, you do have Matt. What do you do for Matt? Because every guy's name is Matt, right?

And so this is a doormat or something. So imagine meeting Matt and you're using their tie for a doormat, right? And so here's the thing. It's always one to one. Whenever you meet a mat, you always use Doormat. Whenever you meet, you know, someone named anything, you meet someone named David, I always use a slingshot. Whenever I meet someone named Mary. Mike, microphone. Right. I always use the same thing. Right? But you never want, like, so. So a person's name is John. You could picture what bathroom. Okay, great.

Yeah, I don't know.

Yeah, that works, right? Okay, now in your mind, so anytime you meet John, that's what you always dissociate. And then here's a magic, right? Once you know their name, it's only a means to an end. Once you have the end, which is knowing their name, the means disappears, the pictures disappears. It's just meant to get you to focus on the name and the person.

That's good. I see it.

And once you know it, you disappear. And what I would recommend people like, well, how do I hack that and make it even better? What I would do is I would go, because I know you have listeners all around the world, I would go on, you know, your government census bureau find that the most used names, like, and, you know, they list all the hundred and top, most popular baby names, everything for that year or whatever, and just come up with pictures for the top hundred. If you did that, for example, in the US and you just look at all the top, you come up with a picture, like 10 names a day for 10 days, right? And for male names, if you come up with a picture for those names, like James is Jam or whatever, then you have the pictures for 60% of the male population in the U.S. i mean, that's just smart, right?

Right.

For, for female names, top hundred is like 40% because there's, you know, more creativity and such. But that's, that's working smart. And then every time you meet somebody, you use those pictures. So that's visualization.

That's, that's.

And then, and then finally, the E in suave stands for end. End, meaning you end the conversation using their name. Right? Because if you could walk into a room and meet 20 strangers and leave saying goodbye to every single one of them by name, who do they all remember?

Right? You, you're the good guy. They didn't even know who you are.

Right.

I remember.

That's a standout skill. Because before you sell anything, what do you sell?

Sell yourself. Yeah, no, I get it. That's. That is like, that could just have saved me. That is helping me a lot. I see that. I go to conferences, I do things. I'm like, what's their name? And we've all been out with like our dates Our friends were like, you whisper, like, introduce yourself. Because I can't remember their name. Like, how many love doing that? Like, you got to tell your name. Right? So, God, if we could solve this problem.

Yeah. I'm saying to be better with names. Remember, Mom? Remember?

How about facts that come in randomly? Like, I have this obsession, but I gotta write everything down. And then I forget where I wrote it. But, like, you're saying, like, in relationships, we're saying if someone says. Because one of my big things when it came out in a relationship. I'll give you an example. I was dating someone years ago, and I said I would get the cake for his birthday. And I was in an email with 20 of his friends.

Yeah. I'll tell you.

And I emailed. I said, you guys, I got the cake because he was my boyfriend. And I was like, great. And then I remember the day before we were going to the beach in San Francisco. We were going to Stinson Beach. If any of my friends are listening or this. You guys all know this incident. It was a very dark time, but we were going. And I'm like, oh, but I gotta get, like, a bikini wax for it. Cause we're going to the beach. I'm like, oh. But then I got to do this. It's not because I'm a selfish girlfriend. I thought I'd get the cake after the bikini wax, and then after Charlotte wanted to stop at Walgreens, and then whatever. And then all of a sudden, we're on the road to go to the beach. I'm like, my mind's going, oh, shit. I didn't get the cake, even though it was on my mind for two days. The cake, the cake, the cake. And then we're driving there, and there's no turning back. I'm like, okay. At dinner, I will run out and get the cake. So anyway, he's like, my therapist thinks you have add. How did you forget the cake? So how do you not forget? And that's a really extreme example. I can't. I still feel bad now. If I tell you I'm gonna get the cake, you probably need a backup, but. And I loved him. It wasn't that I was trying to be passed. I'm like, I was. I love John.

Yeah. I mean, it's just we weren't taught how to do this, right? And. Because nowadays we don't have to because we have smart devices and everything. And when you're driving, a lot of times you can't write things down because you're driving or you know, you're in the shower or I don't know why people would call you in in the shower. But it's the same kind of thing. You, like, you go to the grocery store to buy one thing, you come back with two bags of groceries, but you forgot that one thing thing that you need to do right? And so we all feel absent minded. I'll give you. Actually, I'll give you a solution for this. I'll give you one tool, like one quick tip.

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All right, so I'm going to give you a tool, a memory tool right now on how to memorize speeches and facts, like, really fast. Okay, so this is attributed to Simonides 2500 years ago in ancient Greece, they didn't have teleprompters and smart devices and printing presses. They had to have a great memory. And so he was giving a poetry reading, and when he was done, he left the building. Something really tragic happened. The building collapsed and killed everyone that was there. And he was a lone survivor. And as being the lone survivor, he had the responsibility of helping the family members identify their loved ones. But he was able to do so because he remembered where all of them were sitting. And aren't you like this also? Can't you remember, like, at dinner, like, who was sitting to your left, who was sitting to your right? Because human memory, we remember things in locations. We remember things in time and space. Because back in, as a hunter gatherer, you didn't need to memorize past codes and numbers. You need to remember where things were. You need to remember where's the clean water, where's the fertile soil, where's the enemy tribe, where's the crops and everything, right? Because that was your survival. So we store information in space. So watch. Watch this. I'm gonna take a place that. Oh, okay. I could fix your list back when you're going back there in terms of getting a bikini wax and then also the cake. And also, Charlotte, you remember all this?

Yeah.

Right. I'm gonna show you how to be able to memorize the to do list. I'm also gonna show you how to be able to memorize the speech without notes. Because it's the same exact technique.

I need this so badly.

So this is called the loci memory. Okay.

Loci.

Loci. Loci meaning location. Meaning we store information in spaces that we're familiar with. So what this technique is basically saying is take your home, a place you're very familiar with your home, your body, your office. And why not, since you're so familiar with it in your mind, store the information you want around those places. So take the first piece of information stored in the first place, the second piece of information in the second place, the third piece of information in the third place. By the way, have you ever gotten an argument and go, sorry, in the first place this, and the second place that, and third, that's where it came from, that language and came from that 2500 year old memory technique where people used to store information in imaginary places inside their mind. Now that technique has disappeared, but that language and the linguistics is still there. Let's do this actually interactively. Sorry. So everybody, right now we're going to go through an exercise. It'll take a couple minutes. So we're going to go through it. A quick visualization exercise. So I train a lot of actors, a lot of the top TED talks, I train them on how to get give a speech without notes, right? Now you don't want to know a speech verbatim, right? Because you want to sound authentic, you want it to sound natural. But you want to know the key points to your speech. Because you know this, right? If you're going through points to your speech and then somebody asks a question, you go to answer them and you come back, you're like, just like, you know, like, where was I? Right, but here you know exactly where you are. So we're going to take 10 points to a speech and we'll put in 10 different places.

Okay?

Then I'll walk you through. Now remember I said in the beginning, I said one third of your memory is predetermined by genetics and biology. But 2/3 is in your control. Let me tell you the 10 things that are in that 2/3. There are 10 things that activate what I call your quick brain. All right? So I'm gonna go through them really fast.

Okay?

So if you want a strong memory, without even using technique, do these 10 things. So number one is a good brain diet. So there's certain foods that are really good for your brain, certain foods that make you spastic, you can't focus, it makes you have memory lapses. But there's certain foods that are really good for your brain. Avocados, blueberries, broccoli, coconut oil, eggs, green leafy vegetable, salmon or sardines, you know, turmeric, walnuts, dark chocolate, all good for your brain, right? So good brain diet, you are what you eat, right? Number two, killing ants. We talked about this the second Thing you want to be able to do is get rid of negative thoughts because it's not good for your brain because you're, you know, we talked about. Here's the thing. When you say when, remember I was saying you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them. When you're saying, oh, I'm too old, I don't get this. This runs my family. I'm just so forgetful.

Whatever it is, I'll never do it. I always failed.

Right? All of that. Your mind is always eavesdropping on your self talk. Your mind is always eavesdropping on your self talk. So you want to keep it positive. So number two, killing ants. The third key to activating your quick brain is exercise. All right? Because anything good for your heart's going to be good for your head, blood flow and everything. Oxygen to your brain. So people who move more physically will always. Research always shows this. They'll have better focus, mental acuity, they'll do better on memory.

Oh, it's true when I don't work out before a show or any day. But if I don't work out every day, day, I truly feel that difference. I used to run marathons. Like, I need the intensity of it. I need to move every day.

And that's what exercise is. Key. The fourth key to unlocking your quick brain are brain nutrients, and that's supplementation. So if you're not getting it from your diet, because if you could do everything and a technique, it might not work because you just. You're short on DHAs, you know, omega 3s, right. Or B vitamins. So supplement on top of that. Number five is a positive peer group. Right. Because who you spend time with is who you become. Right?

So true. The five people you spend time with.

Yeah. We are the average of the five people we spend time with going back to those mirror neurons. Because it's even our habits. They'll say it's not even like, like whether or not you smoke or not has less to do with your biological networks and more to do with your social networks. So it's not just your neurological networks, but it's your social networks. It's like, does your friend's friend smoke? That's more likely to influence you. Right. Because who you spend time with is who you become. But you know this, you know, even, you know, whether it's it's dating or it's our social circles. It's just some people are, have, they're encouraging, they're challenging, they're kind, you know, they're cheerleading for us and other people are like energy vampires.

I want to tell people to really, this one, I think is very important because if you have a lot of friends or people around you and you're like, why is it so toxic? Or my work environment's toxic, I'm not saying necessarily to get rid of everybody, but it's important to look at because you might be part of the problem too. If you're seeing a lot of things come up in your life, or if you're just people and you might outgrow people, you might keep people around because they're family. But I think that that is something that's so important to really pay attention. Where you spend your time, who you look up to. That's just something.

Because those marineurons again, going to, you know, brain is. Is we start imitating them and we start adopting their habits and their beliefs and then their values in terms of what's possible. So it helps to be able to come out of it there. On a side tangent, there's a book called the Structure of Scientific Revolution that basically says all innovation comes from somebody outside the industry. So it is, whether it's Elon Musk looking at automotive or fashion or technology or something it takes because it. Because if you grew up in an industry, you also have the same limitations and limiting beliefs that come with it. You so usually take somebody from the outside, be like, hey, why aren't we doing it this way? But a lot of it is who you spend time with is who you become. So a positive peer group. I think people are basically, you know, some people are batteries included, but there's some people, batteries not included, and they. They steal your batteries. And that's the challenge. So that's. Number five is a positive peer group. It's good for your brain. Number six is a clean environment. That's huge, right? Your offices are amazing. I love it here. It's inspiring the great light here. Because, you know, you clean because your external world is a reflection of your internal world. And you know this, like when your desk is cluttered or your laptop is, you know, all like full and everything else, you have a cluttered mind also. But when you clear it out, you have clarity also. So success is sometimes the outside in process also. That's number six. Number seven is sleep. This is huge, right? Cause there's this sleepless epidemic. And the reason why sleep is so.

Important was this sleepless epidemic. Well, it's an epidemic now, but I don't feel like people are always complaining.

About sleep and I think a lot of it has to do with our digital devices.

How about caffeine? The fact that we never used to drink as much caffeine.

Yeah, you're not supposed to have caffeine past 2 2pm but like we used.

To have one cup in the morning like 30 years ago. Right. And there's Starbucks and now everyone.

Yeah, I know, I agree. And digital, everything digital. I think the world we live in right now, the amount of electromagnetic fields that are out there, it's just there's so much stuff that are vying for attention. And so what I would say is sleep is so important because number one is where you clear out plaque out of your brain that leads to Alzheimer's and dementia. So that's important. Number two is where you consolidate short to long term memory. So all those all nighters aren't helping. It's better to get sleep. Third reason, as I talked about before, is remembering your dreams because you need.

I want to hear more about that.

You need to be able to sleep to get in. You need to be able to get into that REM stage where you're actually dreaming but you're not getting it if you're short changing your sleep. And so make sleep a priority, like literally.

Side note, do you remember your dreams every single night?

I, I don't remember all my dreams, but I still remember one or two. Yeah, I do a process. We, the next episode we put putting out is one on lucid dreaming. And this is where you could actually control your dreams, where you're actually lucid, aware that you're dreaming. And that way you get the physiological benefits of sleep, but you can actually do stuff inside your mind that's really cool.

That would be on the Quick Brain podcast. K W I K. Yep.

So sleep is so important for all those reasons, you know, for health reasons, for long term memory, for your dreaming also as well. So, but you have to make sleep a priority like because if you're not sleeping, you're not at your best. Like literally you have to sleep your way to the top because that's, that's, that's the goal because you feel like you could do everything else right. But if you're not getting a good night's sleep, how are you? How's your mind the next day? How's your focus? How's your memory? You can't solve problems.

You can't do anything. No, you can't. It's terrible.

And so, you know, so for me, you know, you want to go to bed at the right time. You want to be able, you know, in the early. Before midnight. It's always better because it counts to get deeper, deeper rest that way. Blackout curtains because you're, you're, you're. It's not just your eyes, it's also your. You have photoreceptors on your skin too. So even any little bit. Ambient lights could throw you off also as well. They put like little like red lights behind like somebody's kneecap and they'll, It'll actually affect their sleep. I mean it's things really.

I'm working on that. Blackout curtains.

So the blackout curtains are really good. Get rid of the digital devices. That's a big thing. Screens, right? Anything with a screen that's emitting blue light is really bad because it stops the secretion of melatonin, which is. Helps you to relax and go to sleep. Sleep. So when you're looking at your phones, your iPads.

How about not looking at your phones and iPads before like an hour before.

Sleep or two hours, a couple hours beforehand because. Or if you're going to use your computers or something, then use like the, you know, a lot of your phone has that dimming devices or flux on your computer. Something that gets rid of the blue or. Where are the, the, the blue block glasses?

What about those glasses?

Yeah, they do. I do.

So when you wear them at night.

You wear it nighttime. Especially if I'm on a digital device. Because you want to train your brain and so anything. We did four episodes on hacking sleep because it's such an important topic and you've had.

Jim, you've come through a lot of things.

Yeah, I've had some serious sleep issues, sleep apnea. And I've tried everything. So like this is make sleep a priority. And so that's number seven. Number eight for quick brain is brain protection. So basically protect your brain. It's very fragile. You know, it's just like all the concussions people get, the accidents, they're not wearing their helmets. Especially for your kids do that.

I had a dream last night that I was on a bike. I just remembered I was gonna say. And I was not wearing a helmet. And I was like, it's cool. I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna fall. Anyway, no one cares. I really feel the dreams. But anyway, I was in LA riding a bike with. Okay, go ahead.

No, I'm so glad.

I thought you were my dreams.

There you go.

Thank God. Okay, good.

So the. So wear a helmet. Number eight. Number nine is new learnings. And so if you want A quick brain. Dedicate yourself to lifelong learning. It was interesting. It was on the COVID of Time magazine. They did this study on super nuns. Not like super nuns, super nuns. Like they were living. They were just long. It was a longevity studies. Women were living 90 and above, and they wanted to find out what was the key to them living longer. And they said half of it had to do with their gratitude and their. Their faith, but the other half had to do is they were lifelong learners. Like, literally, they were learning every single day. And because of it, it added years to her life. But not only just years to their life. Added life to their years.

Yeah.

You know, because that's what you really want, right? You know, the goal is not to just to grow older, is to. Is to maintain your vitality, your cognitive abilities and so on. That's number nine. And finally, number ten. This is a big one. This is stress management.

Oh, yeah.

All right, because. And I put that out there because it's like the, It's. It's the elephant in the room. Because we don't realize. It's really like fish in water. We don't see the water, right. Because it's there all the time. We don't realize how much stress we're under on a chronic pain.

We normalize it, right?

Right. Until we're on, like a beach somewhere. We don't. We're getting a massage. We don't realize how much tension we have, you know, in our mind and body, because it's just there all the time. And so do you have coping mechanisms to get out of stress? You know, whether it's meditation or it's massage or it's red wine, whatever it is that sex, whatever gets you sex.

And red wine feels good out of.

Out of stress, because that is it. That'll. That'll kill your cognitive abilities.

Anxiety is one of the biggest killers of our sex drive. But the more sex you have, the less stress you're going to feel, guys. So just think about that choice. So when you're thinking about not having sex right now because you're too anxious, when you have sex, you'll be less anxious, right? Okay.

I love it. So those are the. So Those are the 10 keys for unlocking your quick brain. So imagine this combining everything we talked about, the power of teaching other people, giving a speech without notes. Imagine now you had to give us a TED Talk, right?

Which is on. Which is on my bucket list, right?

Imagine you had to give a TED Talk. Specifically, though, on the 10 things we. We just learned, right? Because Most people right now, they're listening to this in the car, they're at the gym. They're like, oh, I wish I would wrote that down. Now, the reason why I went through this is not quiz me now notice. Notice.

Yeah, don't quiz me like Bill Clinton's grandpa right now, because I'd be so.

That was really good. So. So the whole thing here is people. It's in one ear, out the other. It's just like, you know, our significant others, we're dating. Everything else, you're like, oh, do you take out the garbage? Like, in people?

How do you not remember my friend Jenny? I told you about her all the time.

All the time. And on the. They posted on, like, we have this private Facebook group for our podcast. People post questions and a lot of women will say, like, how can I trust a guy who can't remember to, you know, to take out the garbage? How can I trust him with something actually important or whatever it is? And so that's why memory is so important. But here's the thing. There is no such thing as a good or bad memory. There is no such thing as a good or bad memory. There's just a trained memory and an untrained memory.

And I think most people are untrained. I'm not even trying.

You're learn teaching. A memory is not even something you have. A memory is not something you have. It's something you do. It's like this. You don't have focus. You do focus. You don't have creativity. You do creativity. You don't have a memory. You do memory. Just like when it comes to love, like, you don't have love. You do love because it's an actual process, right? And so when lust is not what.

We'Re talking about, that's not a process. Love is a process.

So when you take it and turn into a process, it becomes. It becomes something that's living and it becomes a recipe. So you could duplicate that. So it's like when people get like, stuck and they're like, oh, I have writer's block, or I'm just not feeling creative or motivated. You don't have motivation. You do motivation. And so that's why I love Intern. When it comes to learning, it's a verb and it's not a noun, right? And so the goal here is to change, turn things into processes and step by step, strategies. So let's come up with a process for memorizing a speech. Let's say you need to remember these 10 keys that we just talked about. Most people don't remember it because they are working out or they are listening to this and that. I, A lot of people, like, listen to probably when they're taking a bath. Right.

Or when they're at work, which always amazes me. I'm like, is that a really good day or is it a distracted day?

Exactly. And they can't write it down. So how would they retain this information? So this is. We'll teach you what you asked for, how to remember facts, and also how to give a speech without using notes. Right. And so this is the location method that we talked about. You know, this Greek order 2500 years ago would store information different. Different places. So this is what you do. I'll walk you through. Because everybody would normally use their home, but since we're doing this all together, let's use my office.

Okay.

Okay. So we have an office. I'm here in la, but we also have an office in Westchester, New York, which is a suburb of New York City, right north of the city. So I would imagine everybody do this. If it's safe for you to do, just, just take. Close your eyes if you can. If not, then keep your eyes open. Obviously, if you're driving or something, don't.

Close your eyes if you're driving.

If you're on a treadmill, do not close your eyes. But just imagine that you're on a plane and you're going to Westchester Airport. You land, and even if you can't imagine this, imagine, you can imagine this, okay? You land in the airport. Car picks you up, you're in the back seat. You go to my office, and it's a big glass building surrounded by trees. All right? And when you get out, I'm going to name 10 places in my office, and I'm going to put the 10 keys for unlocking your quick brain, one in each place. So you get out in the first place, the parking lot. So, and just repeat after me as you're listening to this. What's the first place? It's the parking lot. Good. And that's your verbal memory. And when you get in the parking lot, I want you to imagine the first brain tip, which is a good brain diet. So I want you to imagine all the brain foods waiting for you in a buffet there. And you get into a big, like, brain food fight. And you're throwing avocados and salmon. And, you know, like, I pictured a.

Bunch of broccoli and avocados. Like, when I pull up, it's a green dry. It's A green parking lot.

Perfect. Whatever you picture and everyone can do.

Yeah, you guys can do your own. I don't want to. Perfect.

So every note. No, it's great. So you have lots of different, you know, creative answers here. So just. You have the good brain die waiting for you. You walk over the second place. It's a bridge. It goes over, like we have, like, this waterfall, creates this moat around the building. But the second place is a bridge. So the second place is what? Bridge is the bridge. And I want you to imagine, as you're crossing the bridge, the second brain tip. Killing ants. So I should imagine. What are you doing?

Oh, I'm stepping on the negative. Automatic negative thoughts.

Right. And you're stepping on the ants. You would never do that. No, it's gonna help your brain. You get into the building, and you get into the third place, which is the elevator. So everybody, not just Emily. What's the third place?

Elevator. Elevator.

Right. And you get into elevator. And the third place? Exercise. So I just imagine you, your trainer, is in the elevator with you. You're doing your hot yoga, you're doing your crossfit, whatever. You're lifting weights, calisthenics.

I'm jumping on it to make sure it's changes, right? Yeah.

And whatever you're doing, just imagine that exercise. You remember exercise number three. Get out of the elevator. Fourth place is the hallway. What's the fourth place?

Hallway.

And you want to remember brain vitamins. So I want you to imagine just all these bottles of brain vitamins coming at you, and you're like Lara Croft or Indiana Jones just jumping over the brain vitamins. So ginkgo biloba, vitamin B. You know, you have your. Your. Your DHAs, your omega 3s, your. You're jumping over brain vitamins. Okay? You open a door to my office. Immediately to the left is the fifth place, which is the closet. What's the fifth place?

Closet.

Closet. And inside the closet are your positive peer group, your happy friends. I want you to imagine all your happy friends are in the closet. All right? And then you're like, see all your friends? All your happy friends, they're celebrating in the closet. You see that? All right? You leave the closet, you go to. The sixth place is the receptionist. What's the sixth place?

Receptionist.

And the receptionist is. Cleaning the environment. Clean the environment. Mopping. Like vacuuming. Bleaching. Everything. Clean environment. Everything has its place.

Yep.

Behind the receptionist is the seventh place is the fish tank. What's the seventh place? Fish tank. Very good. And the fish, they're sleeping. That's to remind you get sleep. So I want you to see Nemo Dory.

They're dead. But they're just sleeping.

They're sleeping. The fishes are sleeping.

No dead fish in the breakfast.

Yeah, Nemos. And their is in pajamas in bunk beds, snoring. Just, I mean, just build it out, right?

Okay.

And notice like you don't have to repeat it. Like traditional learning in school was like repetition. It's like over and over. You repeat something 50 times. You just see this once, you'll remember it. Okay?

Yeah.

And then from that, because you're using a power of your imagination. The eighth place is the door. So what's eighth place? The door to the classroom. And the door is locked. So you put on a helmet that reminds you to wear a helmet. Brain protection. Protect your brain. And you headbutt the door open and it splinters and shatters open. You never do that, but it reminds you of brain protection. The ninth place is the whiteboard. What's the ninth place?

The whiteboard.

Great. And I'm there and I'm writing the ninth tip, which is new learning. So I'm literally writing the words new learnings on the whiteboard in your favorite color marker. What's your favorite color? Say it out loud.

Green.

Great. And whatever your favorite color. Listening. That's fine.

You guys can choose your own.

Right? New learnings. Right?

New learnings.

Learnings. And then finally the last thing is on the side of the classroom, I have all these bonsai trees, you know, these Japanese plants. And so bonsai trees, number 10, I want you to.

Bonsai tree.

Stress management.

Stress management. Oh.

So imagine, imagine you're meditating. Imagine you're getting your best massage on the bonsai trees. The best massage of your life on the bonsai trees. Right. Whatever gives you gets you out of stress.

Okay.

Love making on the bonsai trees though. All right, you see that? All right, now everybody, you are on stage. You're on the stage of your life. And you need to remember. Oh, what were the 10 keys for unlocking my quick brain? Just walk around my office. So what was the first place in my office parking lot. And what was there?

Eating? Healthy, healthy food. Brain food.

All the brain food. That's perfect. Number one brain. There we go. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

This is my next speech.

Good. The second, the second. The second place is you walked over the what?

Bridge.

The bridge. And what did you do?

Negative thoughts. Automatic negative thoughts.

Kill those hands. Automatic thoughts. Very good. In order too. The third place is you got into the. You get in the building. You get into the what?

Elevator.

Elevator. What do you do in the elevator?

Exercising.

Exercise. Third brain keys Is. As your body moves, your brain grooves. Exercise. You get into the fourth place out of the elevator is the. What?

Receptionist? No. The receptionist. No, sorry. Hallway. Hallway.

Nice.

And I'm jumping over the supplements for my brain.

Yeah, brain supplements. That's number four. And then you open the door to the classroom immediately to your left. Is that. Is the. Is the what?

Is that the receptionist cleaning? No.

I don't know. You tell me.

Yeah, I think to the left of the.

When you walked into the office, immediately to your.

What was the whiteboard. But you're going out of order because I think the receptionist was before that.

I don't know.

I think it was not to. Not to.

No, no.

The receptionist. Maybe not, but I feel like she was outside her office.

What was before the receptionist?

The hallway. The hallway. I jumped over brain vitamins.

And you opened the hall and you went into the.

But you know your office better than I do. So I walk into the classroom, and then there was the whiteboard that says keep learning or something.

Yeah, it does. It says all that. All right, let's.

Yeah, we keep learning. But then the receptionist thinks, God, she cleans.

What was after the.

She's cleaning my environment.

Oh, the closet.

All right, great. So number five.

All the happy, supportive friends.

Right. Number five is your positive, supportive friends. Very good. And then from there, after the closet is. Who. Who's. Who's after closet?

Who's at that? There's a receptionist.

Yeah, receptionist.

Oh, the receptionist.

And the receptionist with what?

She is cleaning. Making sure there's a clean environment.

Yeah, clean environment. And that's good for your brain. That's number six. Wow. We're more than halfway through at 60%.

This is the most I've ever.

Behind the receptionist is what? What's right behind the receptionist?

There is. Oh, this isn't the bonsai trees, because those are outside. But there's something else behind her. Oh, fish. Dead fish.

Yes. You had the fish tank. Very good. What are the fish doing, Emily?

They're dead. They're sleeping.

They're sleeping.

They're not dead. You cannot have dead fish. But they're just sleeping.

They're taking it out just to remind you to get sleep.

To get good sleep. You guys, sleep is so important.

Yes. And sex helps with sleep.

Sex helps with sleep.

It does. Okay, so that's number seven. After that, you get to the eighth place, which is the door. And how did you get inside the Door.

I kicked it open. No. Oh. Oh. With. With my helmet.

Yes.

To protect my brain.

Yes. You kicked it open with your helmet. Awesome.

This is so fun.

Yeah. So that's brain protection. And then from there in front of the. We're almost done. Number nine is right in front of the room is the ninth place is. What? What's right in front of the room?

I got a little.

I know because. Because we're. We're at the tail end, and I.

Was saying in terms of the 9th was.

You said it already.

The bonsai tree. The whiteboard.

Yeah, whiteboard.

Oh, the whiteboard was learned. Always.

Yeah, Keep learning. Always be learning all the new learnings. So that's number nine. And so nine is always. Keep learning. And finally, number 10 was the.

The tree.

The bonsai tree.

Management for stress and anxiety.

Yes. Very nice.

Actually, I did it.

That's very cool.

Oh, my gosh. Okay. Right.

This is good now, by the way. Now. So that's how you memorize a speech. You want to capture the keywords because you know your stuff. You just need the keyword to prompt you of what you need to remember. So you take it. Turn into a picture, because we think in pictures. Remember? We turned names into pictures. It's the ultimate tip tip. Turn into picture because we remember what we see. And then you put it in the place, and then you remember, because then your home becomes a filing system for the things you want to remember. So you use your home. You go from, you know, the. The kitchen to the dining room to, you know, you can go room to room. I mean, unless you're in it, like in New York in your studio apartment. Like, you just go, room.

Or your body. You said you could use your body.

Perfect example. Example, right? Let's say we have this sex with Emily party, you know, for a barbecue at your. At your home, right? And you're really excited about it, and you call Larks. You're like, can you please pick up these 10 things? Or no, she calls you, but you're. But you're driving, right? And you can't write it down. Or you're in the shower, right? And you can't write. I don't know why you'd be picking up your phone in the shower, but we're somewhere. You can't write it down. And she's like, Here are the 10 things we need for the barbecue for a party for a team party, for our listener party, our fans. And can you pick up these 10 things? So instead of putting your home. Or my office, put it on your body. So 10 places on your body. You ready? So one is the top of your head. So just do this with me. Just touch the top. All right, so, Racha, watch this really fast, okay? We're gonna take 10 places. We're gonna take 10 places on your body to help you remember your grocery list, okay? Right. And this happens all the time in relationships. Hey, can you go to the store and buy this? Right. Number one is top. So do this. One is top. Two is nose.

Nose.

Three is mouth. Everyone do this with me also as well. Three is mouth. Four are your ears.

Ears.

Five is your larynx. Right. That larynx is your throat. Right. Your voice box. But your throat, that's five. Six are your shoulders.

Shoulders.

Seven collar.

Collar.

Eight are your fingers. Fingers. Nine is your belly.

Belly.

And ten is your seat. Seat. Right. Your rear end. Right. So let's do this again. Everyone listening all this. Let's do this also. One is top.

Top.

2 is nose.

Nose.

3 is your mouth. 4 are your ears. 5 is your larynx.

Larynx.

Your throat area. 6 are your shoulders. 7 is your collar. 8 are your fingers. 9 is your.

Stomach. Yep. Your belly. And then finally, 10 is your butt. Seat. Right? Right. Now watch this. Now, let's say they're 10 things you need to buy for your party. We're gonna take each one and really quickly put the 10 foods on your 10 places.

Okay?

Watch it. Just in your imagination, not in reality, right? So Lark calls you up saying, hey, the first thing you need to get are, these are all good for your brain.

Okay?

All right. So these are my top ten brain foods.

Okay?

Number one are avocados.

Okay?

So you put it on your first place. What could you imagine?

Avocado. Like, avocados in my head.

Right. Everybody imagine making guacamole on the top of your head.

Okay?

Everybody do that. And you can't just listen to us doing it. You have to do it.

Yeah. I'm like, okay. No, I pictured. I'm driving and larksic avocados.

And I'm like, okay, I'm talking to our listeners.

Oh, listeners.

So guacamole on the top of your head. Good. Second place on your body is. Is your what? Nose is your nose. And I want you to imagine the second brain food are blueberries. So blueberries coming out of your what?

Nose?

Your nose. You're just blowing blueberries out of your nose. I call them brain berries, but they're really good for you. But you see it, you feel it, and you smell it. The More senses you use, the more you're gonna remember. Two is blueberries. All right, Everyone do that. Third place is your. What?

Mouth.

Mouth. I want you to imagine a big stalk of broccoli. Broccoli is good for your brain. So broccoli big. But not just you chewing broccoli. Cause that's. You might have done that last night for dinner.

Got big like a broccoli. Right?

Picture that.

Now, fourth piece of stock of broccoli.

Number four are your what?

Ears.

Ears. Coconut oil. Imagine coconut oils. So it's good for your brain, cleaning your ears with coconut oil. Or coconuts coming out of your coconut for everything. Yeah, coconuts coming out of your ears.

Okay.

All right. Number five is your.

I can't hear you. There's a Cochrane in my ear. Your larynx.

Larynx. Your throat. And I want you to imagine eggs. So eggs are really good for your brain. If your diet allows, you're eating eggs, Omegas and everything. So instead of an Adam's apple, imagine you have an egg there instead.

I got it.

All right. Eggs. Maybe it's scrambled or it's sunny side up. Whatever, Eggs.

Pick up it. Yeah.

All right. We're halfway through, by the way. We're halfway through. What was number one?

Guacamole. Avocado.

Yeah. Number. What was the second food?

Blueberries.

Very nice. What was the third?

A phallic stock of broccoli.

Number four, Was it coconut oil? And number five?

Eggs.

Dude, I'm okay. So let's. We're halfway through. We're not done yet. 6. 6 on your body is what?

Shoulders.

Shoulders. I want you to imagine green leafy vegetables. So imagine collard greens, spinach, kale. On your shoulders.

Yeah, I pictured like a nice plume of my shoulder.

See it? Feel it. Everybody do the same thing. Great. Number seven is your what?

Your throat? Chest. What'd you say? It was you called?

Number seven is your. Your collar? Your collarbone. I want you to imagine salmon. So that's the seventh brain food. Salmon. So maybe. Yeah, maybe a necklace. Made out of what?

Salmon.

Salmon. Wild salmon. Good for your brain.

Pink, I like. But the salmon.

Fishy, but. But imagine the smell.

Yeah.

Yeah. See, the thing is, you don't have to repeat. Notice we're not repeating it over and over again.

No, we're just saying it once I see it.

Because we use your imagination.

So cool.

You got it. That's seven. Eight. Are your what?

Fingers.

Fingers. Eighth. Brain food. This is. I just added. This is turmeric. You know what turmeric is? You Cook with turmeric. It's like that. That powder. It's. What color is it?

It's brownish orange.

Yeah, like oranges. It gets all over your fingers. Imagine that's really good for your brain. I make like a. Like a turmeric tea every morning. Like, it's like a. Like a golden milk with almond milk and turmeric. You put some pepper in it. It makes it very absorbable inflammation in your body, and it's really good for your brain. So turmeric all over your fingers. Imagine you can't get it off of your fingers.

No.

All right, so that's eight. Number nine is your belly. What's the ninth brain food? Are walnuts very good for your brain? So walnuts, by the way, notice certain. Certain foods actually look like the organization it's supporting. So like a walnut looks like what, like your brain. Yeah, it does. Right?

Yeah.

You know.

Right.

A carrot. If you cut a carrot in half and you look at it, what does it look like? It looks like a human. Human eye. Right. So there's. There's a signature that sign. Nature's really cool. Right? Signature. Like a sign of nature.

Okay. Yes.

You know?

Okay.

So it's whatever. Whatever the food. Like an avocado.

Because overall, all these foods are good for you.

Yeah. In general. But I'm just saying there's certain foods that are really good for the. Or like an avocado looks maybe like a female reproductive area. Like, it's actually really good for it also as well. So a cucumber could be good for, you know, your whatever.

Right.

So that's number. That's number nine, walnuts. So imagine walnuts coming out of your belly button. Can you imagine that?

I can imagine.

Now here's the thing. If you just go. If people just say, oh, yeah, yeah. But if they don't know, I'm picturing it. So walnuts literally coming out of your belly button and you're eating them like that.

Yep.

Okay. And finally, number 10, what's the 10th part of your body? Your seat, if you will seat your butt. Okay. And I want you to imagine dark chocolate.

I don't even want to know.

I don't even want to know what people are picturing.

That's good.

Whatever everyone's picturing.

Everything on my seat coming out is brown. Got it. Okay.

And that's dark chocolate, which is really good for your brain.

Okay.

That's what you're thinking is dark chocolate's really good for your brain, basically because it puts you in a good mood. Mood Anything. You know, it's good for your mood. It's going to be good for your good.

True.

Okay, great. Now, you. You arrived to the health food store, right? And Lark gave you this. Like these 10.

Okay. But when I'm done.

Watch this.

Okay. You want me to do it?

But you can do this, right? You do this. Now you're in. You're in aisle one. And you don't even have your grocery list because even if you write your grocery list in triplicates, you probably left it back at home.

I did. How do you know? I do that all the time.

Now you have your list right on your body, right? And so you're in aisle one, and you just. What's the first thing you need to buy at the grocery store? Avocados. And everyone should be doing this with us. Number two is.

What's the second?

Very nice brain. Berries. Blueberries. Number three. What's the third thing you need for your party?

A phallic stock of broccoli.

Good memory. Number four?

Coconut oil.

Coconut oil. Your ears. Number five, what are you replacing? It's not an Adam's apple.

Oh, an egg. An egg.

An egg. Very good. That's halfway through. Number six.

Leafy greens.

Good. Green. Leafy veg. Yeah. Right on your shoulders. Number seven is your collar. What's on your collar?

This weird salmon necklace.

Salmon. Like wild salmon. Very good food.

No one wants to talk to you. Whenever that.

Number eight. What's on what's old?

Turmeric.

Fingers on your tum. Wow, that's very good. Even faster than I. Number nine.

I'm a quick learner.

You are a quick learner, but I just.

Oh. I didn't mean to steal your old brand.

Quicklearning.com Kwik, 9 is your. Is your what I am.

Okay, Your stomach.

Yeah. And what's coming out? Walnuts. Very good. And finally, number 10, your chocolate.

Your poop. Dark chocolate.

Very good.

Yes.

Nice.

Dude, this is amazing.

But when you want to see something more amazing, watch this. Watch. Watch how amazing your brain is now. Because, honestly, how long would it take you to remember 10 things perfectly?

But if Lark was, like, avocados, like. Wait, wait, no, no.

Because it takes more time to say everything because, you know, we're doing what they're. But watch. Watch how amazing your brain really is. Can you do it backwards?

I could.

Can you start with your bud and go backwards?

Yeah, I could.

All right, tell me, what's this number 10?

Dark chocolate.

Dark chocolate.

Dark chocolate.

Walnuts and walnuts.

Walnuts. Turmeric.

Very good.

Yeah. Salmon necklace. That weird necklace.

Yes, that's. That's very. That's very good.

Then I've got leafy greens on my shoulders.

Very good.

I've got eggs on my.

Yes. And she's not. You're not even writing this down. There's, like, witnesses in the room. Everything.

I've got coconut oil in my ears.

Yes.

A stock of broccoli, blueberries, and avocado.

Amazing.

Yeah.

Yeah, that's badass. But let me show you. Watch. Watch this. Do you remember the 10 brain tips backwards? Do you remember, like, going back from all the way from your office, the parking lot to the bonsai trees? Can you do that?

I could do that.

What's on the bon.

There was some disagreement there. I do think that's.

Let's do this. Let's try it.

I do think your receptionist is cleaning. Or the whiteboard, because.

So let's start with bonsai trees.

We have some loose looseness here.

Yeah, let's see if we can remember this backwards. Number 10 is the bonsai tree.

Okay. That was dealing with anxiety. Managing stress.

Anxiety. Yes. Stress management. And then number nine on the whiteboard.

Keep learning.

Yeah, keep learning. Number eight was the door.

The door was all my friends. That was a closet. The door. Closet. My friends are in the closet. The door was. Oh. Hitting my head against it. Protecting my brain.

Yeah, protecting your brain. That's number eight. That's your TED Talk on, you know, like. And number seven is right before that.

Was what I think it was. That receptionist that never cleans. Or she should be cleaning.

No, it's right between the two.

Oh, stepping over the brain foods in the hallway. No.

Okay, now you're not either. Just jumping everywhere. Okay, well, right. Right behind the reception. Right.

Oh, the dead fish.

Yes. And what's the sleeping fish? Sleeping fish.

Sleeping fish. Sleep is really important.

Sleep is very important. And right before the fish.

Right. For the fish, was that would have been the receptionist, and she was cleaning my environment.

And what was right before the clean environment?

The elevator. Okay. Jumping in the elevator. The friends in the closet.

Yeah, the friends. The closet. Right before. Because you're in my office. And that reminds you of positive friends.

Love my friends. Supporting me.

So do I.

They're such good people.

They are really good people.

I wish I didn't only have sex toys in this closet. I wish my friends were always in this closet.

Maybe that's why they're so happy. Right before that. You have the hallway.

I have the hallway. And that's where I'm jumping Over all my brain supplements.

Okay. Brain vitamins.

Good.

And then right before the hallway was what?

The elevator.

Elevator. And what are you doing? The elevator?

Exercising.

Exercise. That's. That's number. That's number three. Before the elevator was, what was I.

In the parking lot?

Oh, no, no.

The bridge.

The bridge.

Stamping out those goddamn ants that have been plaguing my entire goddamn life.

Automatic, automatic negative thoughts.

Stamping those.

Yes. And what was right to me. They are dead.

I hope they're dead to you and everyone who works for you.

They are. And Right.

Including the fish.

They are.

And I hope they're not dead. Just sleeping.

Just sleeping. Like the fish sleeping with the fishes. So the. Then the number one, the first place right before the bridge is what?

Avocados.

You're actually right. Is the good brain. Is all the brain healthy food? Yeah. That's very good. Okay.

Okay. Wow. This is a good time.

So everybody could do this. You could use your body, you could use your office, you could use your home and really create a list for anything. You know, our life, it's not about, like the haves and haves not. It's really now more, you know, those who know and those who don't know. That's why I find this podcast so valuable. That's why I find reading so valuable. You know, people committing themselves to concepts, constant education, lifelong learning. And we talked about how it adds years to her life and life to their years, but it's so important to integrate every single day.

It's true. And I'm never. I feel like I. You know, you're never done learning. There's a lot of limiting beliefs I have around, I think my ability to focus and to learn and to read, and there's no time and. But I. And I also know that I can do anything right? So it's.

Notice what you just did. Like, remember, like, if I told you before we started this conversation that you would be able to memorize a grocery list forwards and backwards after hearing it once, or memorize like a TED talk, like 10, you know, talking points.

So I don't get how I'm going to do my TED Talk, because that seems like that's so many more. I'll have to practice it enough.

Literally going through and coming up with 10 or 15 talking points and turning each one into a picture. Like, even when you had your to dos. Like, remember when you. When. Remember you're telling that story, you know, like earlier, about all the things that you want to be able to do and you want to get A bikini wax.

Yeah.

And you want to be able to get the kick the cake, you know, and then also pick up Charlotte. But imagine that you just imagine you just using your body. Imagine. Imagine literally bikinis on your what, on your top of your head. Right. Or cake being smashed on your nose. Or Charlotte, you know, but this also takes time.

I would have had to stop.

But you know what takes time? You know what takes time is like rehearsing cake, right? Repeating things 50 times to yourself, or forgetting where you put things, or forgetting a name like. So, you know, the bad news is it takes a little bit effort, but the good news is not as much as people think, you know, and so there's no magic pill, like no magic memory pill. But there is a magic process. And that's what we're doing is we're taking just like with what you do with, with love and communication and sex and relationships, you turn it into a process, right? So it's not like, oh, I hope I have romance or I hope I have an orgasm.

You gotta make yourself the best version of yourself, right?

And you turn into a process so people don't have to feel bad if they're not in, if they're not getting a response result in their body or in their relationship, because it becomes a recipe. And that's what we're here to do. And when you're talking about even that negative self talk, you know, I believe our life is like an egg. That if an egg is broken by an outside force, life ends. But if it's broken by an inside force, life begins. And all great things begin on the inside. And I believe everyone who's listening to this, you have greatness inside of you. You have genius inside of you. And now is the time to let it out.

Thank you, Jim. Thank you, Jim Quick, thank you for teaching. Thank you for all of this. This is amazing. Very inspired by you and by everything you have to say. So everyone should check out Jim Kwik, Jim Kwik Kwik. Check out your podcast, take some of your courses, all your things.

I mean, honestly, if everyone just like, the best way of people doing this is so I would love right now is everyone goes on social media. Take a screenshot of this episode, post on social media, tag Emily, tag myself, and tag your big. Actually share with us your big Aha.

Yeah, that would be fun. I feel like, because my whole. I have six people sitting through it now, and I feel like everyone's really moved by this.

So I'm saying, like, that's why take a screenshot of this episode. Share it on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, whatever. Tag us both and post your big takeaway. Remember I talked about one of the keys to learning faster is teaching. When you teach something, you get to learn it twice. Share it on social media. Share your big aha. And then. Or your big question, because that's.

Yeah, we'll answer it. That's good.

You're so good. Because I think questions are the answer. So I'd be curious, like, what is. What was your big. Like, you know, kind of your big quickening. Right, like what. Just like what was what activated your orgasmic brain of you? And you know, would really like. Because that really like if you're gonna stimulate any part of someone's body, like I would start with the brain, but.

So brain is the largest sex organ and the brain has to be healthy. It is the way we think.

But it doesn't come with an owner's manual.

No, nothing comes with an rsi and.

It'S not user friendly. So I hope that this kind of gave some people some perspective.

It does give perspective, because I think a lot of us have so many limiting beliefs about what's possible for us. And I think that the way you teach and the way you talk and the way you. You continue to learn yourself just really inspires people to realize the life and the brain they're living in and the way they've experienced themselves is not how they have to.

Exactly. People got some. A little bit of growth here. Just focus on that. Because how you do anything is how you do everything. And, and success breeds success. And really, when it comes down to it, if you, if you really want to be fulfilled, it just comes down. For me, it comes down to two things. What I love about the show is you help people really understand themselves, understand their body, understand their mind, understand the relationship. Because you need to have the courage to know yourself. And most people don't have the courage to do that. So if you're listening to this still, you know, we applaud you because you. You're doing, you're going deep, right. And so have to have the courage to know yourself. But then also once you know yourself, you know you need the courage also to be yourself.

It's true.

Right. So you have the curiosity to know yourself and the courage to be that person. And then remember the life you live are the lessons that you teach. So, yeah, I would love to continue this more. Another conversation and then just search my name on your phone's podcast app and just enjoy.

Yeah, we'll do it. We'll all do it. I love your podcast. They're perfect for me because they're short 10 and you get so much. They're so good, Jim. Thank you, Jim for being here. This is really helpful. I can't wait to hear what everyone thinks of this episode. Yeah, I love when y' all follow us on social media. For me, it's all sexwithemily across the board. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, all those things. And you're Jim Atra Quick Kwik. That's got it. Okay, thanks everyone. Thanks, Jim.

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