7 Dec 2025 · 61 min
Emily Morse and Menace talk sex and relationships, taking listener questions about faking orgasms and other bedroom concerns. They share stories from music festivals and cover sexual health news and giveaways.
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They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes they call them in a bygone day.
Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.
A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh my.
The women know about shrinkage.
Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.
Can we not talk about sex so much?
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Everything that happened with sex. It's just, you know. What?
Tired?
Are you a homeless wino? What's going on?
It was a long weekend, dude.
Really?
Yeah, I mean, you know, madness was like, over time, like. Yeah, I shouldn't even Complain about me being tired, like.
So what happened this weekend? There was a big music festival.
Yes.
Big music festival called Outside Lands. Some of the headliners were Arcade Fire, Muse, Dead Mouse. I can't. There was. There were so many bands.
Right. Shins.
The Shins. And it's about maybe four football fields long.
Yes.
And maybe it could be even more. I don't even know.
With hills.
With hills and dirt and dust and hiking. Nature.
Yes.
And.
And you're constantly walking back and forth and back and forth. And I'm here, I'm over here and trying to meet friends and the cell phones aren't working and blah, blah, blah. We want to go to this show, we want to go to that show. Oh, and I'm hungry. Oh, and I got a pee. And did I mention I need a drink? Like literally it was like a round of just like drinks. Peeing, concert music. Walking, walking drink. I mean, it's fun, but it's kind of exhausting.
That's why I've been dead. Because it's the same thing at Lollaplooza in Chicago, which I just did the week before.
Oh, dude. How did you do both of them?
That's crazy.
You must be beyond.
After this, I'm going to bed.
Do you see anything weird, Crazy sexy at the concert?
Crazy sexy.
Any hot backstage actions?
Hot backstage action? No, I was kind of dead this year. But I did enjoy like the first day. There was already this girl like puking at like 1pm and the thing started at 12.
It started at 12?
Yeah.
Oh my God. She was probably doing some day partying, had little mimosas with her breakfast or something.
But there was definitely. I. I kind of knock this area saying, oh, where are all the beautiful women at? But then they show up at the concerts.
At the concert, I believe. I thought there was a hot. I thought it was a good looking crowd.
Yeah, there was a really good looking for sure. Yeah.
But I didn't meet anyone.
You didn't meet anybody?
No.
What were you doing these days?
Waste of time. Walking in circles looking for people.
Seriously? That's it?
Yeah, it was fun. No, I was listening to music, hanging out with friends. I went with vip, which was awesome for three days, which was great. And because you can kind of get away from the people, the masses, the commoners. The commoners, exactly. And it was fun, good music. I just, I was a little tired. Like you got to get out there and then you got to get back and it's all those miles to get there. But I went. It was Fun. My friend had a ride. The food's amazing. Did you get to eat any of the food? Oh, I think it's great food.
Oh yeah, I didn't have anything classy, but I had like.
You're like tater tots.
I had tater tots.
I knew you were gonna say tater tots. I knew you had the tater tots.
Oh, I did have something kind of. I had. Was it. I had sliders, but it was flamingon. Oh, sliders and. Yeah, but we do we get free beer backstage.
Oh, that's kind of cool. Oh, so you.
Beers and ice cream. There's this guy called the ice cream man and he travels to all these music festivals and he's sponsored by like Ben and Jerry's and all he does is hand out free ice cream.
Oh, I missed him. I would have been so happy if I saw him.
I see him all over the country.
Wow. I didn't know. And then I lost my phone. No, I lost my phone, but I got it back.
Was that because you were wasted?
Yeah.
You're one of those girls that are wasted.
I've never lost my phone because I was not in the best state of mind, I have to say. And I got there Saturday night late because I was. I was to get there earlier and this whole chain of events happened that prevented me from getting there.
Those chain events. Chain of events sound interesting.
They were. So you want to share them? Yeah, no. I was making out with this guy in Dolores Park.
Okay.
This guy that I'm dating. Whatever. It was fun. So I was late meeting with my friends and I was in the sun in Dolores park, which was actually sunny and really, really nice because the rest of the friggin city and where this park is, is cold. Where the outside lands. So then I was drinking, hanging out the park. Dolores park is this really fun park on the weekends in San Francisco. And I was like, oh, gotta get concert, meet all my friends. So I got to the concert and I. I couldn't find my friend. Like, I just couldn't. And they were like, we're at Lands End. And I just was messed up and couldn't find it. And I was walking in circles and I was like, oh, I think I'll have some pizza though. And then you got some calamari. And then I was eating food trying to find him. I know, I'm super fun. And then I. And then I. And then I finally found my friend at the very end who had a limo, which was the perfect time to find her because getting out of there was a cluster f. And I. And so she took me home. And it was really fun. So getting home, no problem. But my phone. So I don't know what I did. Like, you know me, I'm phone obsessed. Like, phone is right here. Like, it's never too far away from me. And then all of a sudden, I was like buying food and it was gone. And I had one of those purses with like 100 zippers in it. So I sat down on the floor, methodically went through the floor, I sat down on the dirt, and I methodically went through every single zipper. And just to find it was gone. So when I ran into my friend Lindsay at the end of the night, she goes, oh, my God, you lost your phone. He called me, the guy who has your phone. Cause she was the last person I talked to, blah, blah, blah. I got it back the next day. But losing your phone just sucks.
Yeah, it does.
And I had plans to meet up with people later in the night and never got my phone back the next morning. So whatever.
That's terrible.
It was terrible. It was terrible. But we missed you on Friday. Intern's gone wild again. When you're not here, you miss it.
Oh, real quick, though. But if anybody want to see a bunch of photos I took, oh, go tell them. 2000 of them and it's up on my blog.
You took 2000 photos over the weekend? What's your blog?
White Menace.com.
White Menace.com.
Just go there and you'll see all the stuff.
Are there any pictures of you?
No, there's just pictures.
Pictures of you.
Pictures of the band and stuff like that.
F the band. I want more pictures of Menace.
Oh, no. Oh, can I, Can I, Can I pimp something out? It's not. They're not a sponsor. I don't get paid by them or anything like this. But they're in a few major cities around the country. And it's amazing. It's how I got home okay? Because right now.
I'm sponsored by Scion, where I get a car through Scion, but since the Japan earthquake happened, the new car that I'm supposed to get, I don't have it yet, right? So I'm like a month without a car right now.
Got it.
And I had to get home. And my house is so far away from so far away, and there's thousands of people and you, like, you can't get a cab unless you want to get on a bus that's just jam packed with people and it's terrible. So what there is, there's this service called Uber. You go to uber.com and it's an app that you can down for download for your phone, and it uses GPS for where you're at. And you go, okay, pick. Pick me up. And you just click a button and a private town car comes by.
No way.
Pulls up right in front of you. Just take the town car home.
How? Because all the people. Wasn't everyone like, oh, that's my town car. That's my town.
They know your name.
I've heard a lot of people talking about that. Yeah.
And you just pay through your phone and everything. It's.
Wow. Is it? They charge you more, though.
They charge you a little bit more.
It's worth it. Because you cannot. If you've never been to San Francisco, there's a few things you need to know. In the winter. I mean, in the summer, it's freezing. So, like, we're all at the park and we're freezing. I have a cashmere sweater, hat, and gloves, and my nose is running because I was so cold.
And.
And the other thing you need to know is you can never, ever get a cab. And if there's a concert with 40, 50,000 people, 90,000 people, not going to be the day that you're going to get a cab.
Yeah. It'll take you hours to get anyone.
Hours. So thank God, my friend, she came like a beacon of light and said, we have a limo right over here, Emily. And it was perfect. And they drove me home.
Nice.
I know. And the first night, my friend was a vendor because his restaurant was there. So we got to. He had a perfect parking spot. Cool. Yeah. So it wasn't too much of a. It wasn't too bad. So. Yeah. Any other good stories?
Not really.
Okay.
Honey, just to people, this. I've been dealing this, dealing with this my entire, like, ever since I started doing, like, media coverage at, like, concert events. What do you mean we can't hang out? You don't have. I'm like, no, I can't hang out.
You work the whole time. I know. I texted you. I was like, where are you? But I didn't think I'd really see you.
Yeah, but remember when we were. The day before it happened, I showed you my schedule. Like, my schedule was down to the minute.
Yeah, yeah.
The entire time, bitches.
I'll hang out with you another time.
I know, but I just like, oh, man, it's so rough. Like, no one. They don't understand. Like, even they go, oh, yeah, okay, cool. Yeah, whatever. And they go.
And they were mad.
They still get upset. Like people. Just like a lot of people get upset.
That's not the friend. I would never get upset with you. I understand that you're busy, but I still did text you to see where you're at. Okay, some. Okay, we're going to be reading some. We've got some good topics today. Okay. Emails.
Topics include overstaying your welcome at someone's house, sexy voices, reverse cowgirl and female hand jobs. And the teaser for today's show is the topic is why do we cheat? And can relationships survive an affair? And we just posted on Facebook and someone wrote, we cheat because we are all horny bastards. Some guy just commented that menace doesn't cheat, but that's what they say. So we're talking about cheating. How to deal with it, what to do? What are the signs that someone's cheating? Which comes up a lot because people. People are cheating all over the place.
Can I ask you something real quick, please, before we get into all that stuff?
I just wanted to tease people so they know what's going on.
You mentioned that it was an intern Friday thing and I wasn't here, so what the hell happened on Friday?
What the hell happened on Friday? Well, it's our free Friday show and my interns went speed dating and they talked about their speed dating event, their speed dating adventures. And speed dating is really cool. They went to hurry date event because here's the thing about speed dating is that everyone's dating online now. But if you go speed dating, you. You got an hour and you meet 20 people and then you go home. Like, otherwise, you got a date with one person and that's that one hour at least that you got to spend with the person. Unless you're me. And I got it in 45 minutes. But if you're with them for an hour, you might as well meet that many people. And you. Five minutes. So the girl. So the woman sits at one place and the guys rotate around you. And then you have five minutes. They ring a bell and you talk. So my. So they did that. They went speed dating and they had some matches. They had fun. They didn't. They didn't meet like the guy of their dreams, but they had good times. Trying to think, what else happened? What else? Anything else? Crazy.
It was too crazy.
No nudity.
I just said something that was terrible.
Does anyone say anything? I think. Well, I think. Well, here's the problem. The guy in the Bart. Oh, they were talking about how there was no cute guys or Something. And then the guy in the Bart was sitting right next to them. That was bad. Oh, man, he was. Dead girls are so harsh. But the problem is I also got them a little drunk before they went because it was one of the intern's last days and her birthday.
Yeah.
So I got him some shots, and the bartender was buying them shots, so they were a little wasted. So. But, you know, I had to go speed dating a few years ago for work, and I did some research, and I liked it. I actually did. I think I had a boyfriend at the time. But I was doing it for work. I really was doing it for work. But I remember meeting a few guys that I thought were really cute. So I was gonna go. I am gonna go at some point. Just do it for fun. But that's. We talked about and, you know, various other things. You'll have to listen to this.
It's a lot more tame than last time, it seems.
Yeah. Like, no one got naked and crazy. Not that they got naked last time. They just talked about all their sex life. It's amazing. My interns really. It changed my life. They have.
That's good.
They got all those great stories. They learning stuff, you know, you see, it's like having children. It's like, you see, like what? You know, and then they come in and then they learning all the other stuff on their own. And it's like expensive exploring and growing and changing and all that stuff. Their sexuality is expanding.
The sexuality.
It's amazing to see. It's amazing to watch. Okay, sex in the news.
What's in the news?
Here's what we got in the news. New birth control rules may shake up behavior. You heard about new birth control rules that Obama has said that we are now going to be paying for contraception. Health plans will have to cover contraspect contraception and seven other women's preventive care items. Okay, so half of all U.S. pregnancies are unintended, a rate that's unchanged in 30 years. And about one in three women will have an abortion by the time she's 45. So teen pregnancy has gone down considerably. The unplanned pregnancy rate among their older siblings has remained high. About seven in 10 pregnancies among married women in their 20s are unplanned. So next year, it'll be interesting to see what happens when they have, like, the methods approved by the US Food. Like, they're going to pay for this. This is huge. They're going to pay for birth control pills, patches, injections, implants, vaginal rings, condoms, sterilization, IUDs and emergency and morning after pills and all that shit we had to pay for before. Yeah, that's a lot of stuff that women have to take.
I fully endorse it. I just don't know where the money's coming from. And people. Are people going to be complaining about that?
I don't know. Men get everything else for free. They don't think men get like Viagra free or whatever.
I don't know. I think I definitely know.
So anyway, this is a big deal that this is finally happening because it just makes sense. Okay.
But yeah, I fully support it. Oh, mind my tax dollars going to that because that's nice if you really. If it's preventing a lot of stuff people don't want to bring into the world.
Right, exactly.
I have to pay for that anyways.
Exactly. And a lot of women have cited that it's just expensive and that's why they don't get birth control. So now it's all going to be available. This is just major, major move forward. Okay. Scientists develop straw that detects date rape drugs.
So Israeli scientists have developed a new device that looks like a swizzle stick, but can actually detect date rate drugs that might have been put into your drink. The device, which goes on sale this month, is able to pick up on traces GHB and ketamine, two of the most commonplace date rape drugs. Using a chemical reaction in the straw, a red light comes on alerting the user that their drink has been spiked.
Wow.
Can you imagine if you're like about to dive into your martini and it was being spiked? That would suck. Have you ever been date raped? I was once.
What?
I was in Indonesia. I was traveling alone and I got. I was on a little island in Indonesia, this tiny island, and my friends and I got. Not date raped. I didn't get raped, but it was a date rape drug. Like we were, we were totally knocked off our ass.
I haven't been date raped, but I.
Definitely like, I've never been date raped.
Let me just say that I've definitely blacked out where it seemed like I was right. I always wake up the next morning with so much business cards. I'm like, I don't even remember talking.
Exactly. That's when you throw them away because they won't remember you either. No, but I was like, in Indonesia, we were like, thought we were gonna like take some like psychedelic mushrooms or something, but it ended just knocking us out.
That's bad.
It was really bad. I didn't My eyesight was gone for like two days.
I was traveling alone, 25 years old, in the middle of friggin nowhere.
And your mom lets you do that? That's crazy.
Yeah. This was before. Before, like it was easy to make phone calls from other places. Like you didn't have your own cell phones and stuff like that. It was very sad. My mom didn't care. She doesn't care. Can you tell why? The way I am. The way I am?
Yeah.
She's like, whatevs, have fun. Write me a letter. What were you gonna say? Nothing.
Just like, I don't know.
My mom was. My mom was worried. She was worried. She should have been. Okay. Follow up story. This is a follow up story from last week. Sex scandalized Airline cancels Ill timed ad campaign so I don't know if you were here, but there was. I think this is the same story as the two people. The pilot who was getting oral. Getting oral sex from a flight attendant. And so. Okay, so while he was flying. Unclear. It was not clear at first. I know.
Hong Kong. Yeah. Roadhead can happen in the air. Okay. Hong Kong based airline says two of its employees who were shown in compromising positions are no longer employees of the company. The advertising campaign with the slogan claiming the airline is the team who goes the extra mile to make you feel special was canceled yesterday. Imagine that. This pilot was like, yeah, getting oral sex in the cockpit. Now maybe it was his lunch break, but you still shouldn't be doing that shit and taking pictures of it.
If he was doing it in the air, I would give that guy a high five.
No, what if you are? Exactly. But he's like flying this plane full of all these people. Okay.
He hasn't crashed any planes, has he?
So we'll never know because he was fired.
Weak.
Weak. Okay. Could put. Could porn help prevent rape? A new report suggests that pornography could deter sexual violence. The study says that porn could actually lower the amount of sexual violence. Some experts of the report believe the consumption of pornography may actually reduce the desire to rape by offering a safe private outlet for deviant sexual desires. The report also cites a professor of psychology and criminal justice who says that the low porn is more available now than it's ever been. Rates of rapes and sexual assault in the US are their lowest levels since 60s. But how are they tying that into porn? Why? Why? Is it because. I don't know if it's because of porn that the rates have gone down, but I guess there was a study. Maybe some people are getting there. They're like oh, I was gonna go like rape and kill this woman, but instead I just watched porn about it.
I found Teen Bangers 9 exactly.
I think I'll just watch some pervy stuff on my Internet here. Yeah, that's good I guess if the rates have gone down. But I don't know that that's why. But porn preventing rape. I think if you're someone who's gonna rape someone, you're probably gonna rape someone. But let's hope they're right. Okay. Taco Bell worker.
Taco Bell worker Jason Dean allegedly handcuffed himself to women who refuse dates.
Oh yeah, I heard about this.
Desperate. Can you say desperate? A Taco Bell employee came out a bit too strongly when he allegedly handcuffed himself to a co worker who rejected his romantic advances for weeks. Jason Dean's overtures were meant to be were met with repeated rejection from his would be sweetheart. Identified only as Rebecca. 18 year old Rebecca even scheduled her work hours to deliberately avoid overlapping shifts. She told police she was leaving for work when Dean showed up wanting to talk. When she refused, he cuffed his wrists to her. A trio of Taco Bell employees saw the commotion and demanded he release her. He was arrested at his home two days later. That sounds crazy. She's working with some crazy people. I have to say if men who's wanted to date me, I've never had a guy like handcuff himself to me.
Well, what I heard from the story is that he kept on asking her out and then.
Instead of her like saying something, she just asked to be changed shifts.
Right.
So when she changed shifts, that's when he got upset and then he just showed up until when she was getting off work and then he threw the handcuffs on.
Is he thinking that the handcuffs is gonna be some somehow like great. This great fact that she's gonna turn over.
She's like oh my God.
She's gonna be like oh my God. Like you know, handcuffs. That was a good move.
You are the one that I've been waiting for my entire life.
Great move with the handcuffs. A sly little dog.
I feel so connected with you right now.
I know. God, what an idiot. Okay, we've got some more penis mischief. We've had a few penis stories in the last few weeks. So some guy last week, were you here when the guy shot his penis with a pink pistol?
No.
Yeah, some dude shot his penis with a pink pistol this week. And this week. Penis mischief. There were some genitals set on fire when a 20 year old man exposed his penis To a woman at a bar. She set it on fire, as all good women should do. The woman says, he's not. He not only exposed himself, but groped her. Various reports that she splashed the man's penis with sambuca, then used a lighter to set it on fire. Wow. The man is recovering from secondary second degree burns on his chest and abdomen. Okay, dude, stop showing your dicks.
Like, I don't understand. I don't know. I don't understand how guys get off on that. Where they just like the whole flashing thing.
I know. They're like, she's gonna cuz. Because you know what? It's a numbers game. They're like, some woman's gonna find that hot.
Some women encourage it.
No woman, I'm not encouraging it.
Gonna find that hot. Like, oh my God, I want this guy now.
I'm not, I'm not.
I hear about stories on public transit all the time of guys whipping out their wieners in front of chicks.
Exactly.
I don't get.
I don't get it either. I told you, it happened to me a bunch in New York that one time.
The thinking, like, the thinking behind that, I don't.
It has nothing to do with a person as to their own, like, fetishes, like their own, like outdoor, like their own obsessions with. With flashing people. Sick.
Do not try that with me because I will murder you violently.
You'll pour sambuca on their penis and light it. Light it aflame. Okay. NASA must study SpaceX scientist does. The Journal of Cosmology has published a special issue detailing the mission to Mars. In a chapter titled Sex on Mars, the author discusses everything from the social conditions that would push astronauts to have sex to the possibility of the first child being born on another planet. The chapter details the possible effects of anti gravity on menstruation and fertility, as well as significance of a child born on Mars. On Mars, the light's gonna be different, the gravity will be different. It's a completely different atmosphere. So if you put an infant on Mars, they would adapt to that varying degrees of the new environment. So they're talking about having sex in space and kids in Mars.
We're not even going to space anymore though.
Why? Because all this messed up stuff, this costs so much. I know, I know, but they're studying it. Maybe they should be studying other stuff. I don't know, but that's what's happening with that. Okay, so I've got some emails.
All right, what do you got?
Well, this is what I've got.
Do they Say they're where they're from. I like when they say where they're from.
Yeah. If you write us an email, say that where you're from. Just say where you're from and you can change your name. We don't care if you want to change your name, call yourself anything you want, but we just want to know where you're from. Here's our new poll on sex with emily.com. it's very simple. Have you ever had sex with a co worker? Yes or no?
That's it.
That's it. We already know. Menus. Answer. He slept his way halfway around the building.
So yes, I aim to please. I go the extra mile.
I know. You do or you don't because you just date the women who are right there. You're like, hey, you sitting next to me in the cubicle, let's bang.
What's wrong with that?
Nothing wrong with that, dude. I've done it. So I did talk about that on Friday. Was that Friday? I talked about the sex in the office. I talked about having sex with this guy at this job I had, like, a long time ago. But we closed his door and had sex in the office. No one knew we were dating. It was fairly scandalous. You missed that story on Friday. So go vote@sexwithelby.com and do that right now and send us your questions. Any sex questions you have, we will answer them right here. Sex and relationships questions. We've got them. Hi, Emily Menes. I have a relationship question. My boyfriend of a year and a half seems to be. Seems to overstay his welcome a lot. He knows I don't want to live together because I'm not ready for that big step. But he has stayed in my house for about a month straight, slowly moving little things in, and it's driving me nuts. I recently told him not to come over one night and he had a tantrum asking me if everything's okay, are we breaking up, et cetera.
What a vagina.
I'm feeling smothered and it's making me question the relationship. What should I do? FYI, I've had the talk with him numerous times about needing space. Thanks, Michelle from Nottingham, Maryland. Maryland. Okay, dude. Michelle, what do you like about this guy? I'm not clear. He sounds sort of like a drip. He sounds sort of like a vagina. Like Menace Said. Not that I label people, but. No, really. Like, you asked him not to stay. You've had the talk with him and he's still staying. Does he not have money? Does he just being a deadbeat. Does he not have a job? Is he. If he stay, he's a cleaner. If he's staying with you for months straight, is he offering to pay things and do things around the house? That's one thing. He should at least be very grateful. But you also told him that you're not ready for that step yet. So I'm surprised that he's not moving out. So it sounds like there's probably other. He's not hearing you because he's like, is he in a desperate situation, which also is not attractive, or is he in love? No, he's not in love. He's being a deadbeat. She told him to move out, basically. What should she do? She's had the talk with him numerous times about needing space. I think you need to spell it out. I think a lot of times. Let me just say this, Michelle, is that a lot of times people think they're having the talk and they're not having the talk. So the fact that you've said you've had it several times, and you seem like an articulate, smart woman to me, you haven't really had the talk. You haven't had the talk that you've had with me saying, I don't want him here. He's smothering me, and it's making me question the relationship. That's the kind of talk you have to have with him. The kind of stuff that you think that you're probably like. Well, you know, it's been a month, and I'm just wondering, when do you think you might be moving out? No, no. That's probably the contact you're having. You're not saying, not cool. We live together. I mean, I'm not ready to move into each other. What's your plan for moving out? So that's what you got to say to him or just end the relationship. He's just being. If he's sucking the life out of.
You, say deuces, man.
What do you think?
I think he's just disrespectful. You got to give him a. If you. If you already told him to move out, you got to put a time limit.
You got to put time limit on this day.
I need you out.
And I think that's great. I think it's like, what month is it now? August. You could be like, okay, by September 1st. I hope you have a place, because I really don't think that he's not listening to you. And that's the first time. Like, where else is You. What else? I want to know, Michelle. Where else in the relationship is he not hearing you? I think you should look at that too, because usually it's not just an isolated incident. Hi, Emily. I was listening to an episode recently where Menace was gone and one of your interns was kind of sitting in for him and co hosting the show with you. I kept thinking, wow, she has a really cute and sexy voice. And then it suddenly hit me that she sounds amazingly like the sexy voice I heard in a podcast that I used to listen to a few years ago where the woman would read sexy erotic stories. So I'm just curious, is this the same girl from that podcast? Maybe. Keep with the great work, D. From Cincinnati. It is not. As far as I'm concerned. It was either Aaron or Kelsey, I think, and they both have super sexy voices. Kelsey's a little whisper when you say Kelsey's a little like, has a raspier voice. And Aaron's like, really sweet and sexy. So I'm not sure who it was, but no, as far as I know, they have not been on other podcasts whoring themselves out. Just here. Okay. Yeah. Emily. Dear Emily, you miss it. Just a thought. On Reverse cowgirl, my wife gets very frustrated when we are having sex and she is on top. Because with a woman on top, I rarely achieve a finish and she thinks it is something wrong with her. One night a few years ago, we tried that reverse cowgirl position and the finish hem came quicker than expected. I think she may have gone to the bathroom and high fived herself in the mirror afterwards. Peace, Scott. Okay, this is interesting. So reverse cowgirl is when the woman is like, she's on top but she's reversed and she's facing your knees. That's the way to put it.
Right?
So she's not looking at you, she's looking at your feet, your knees, and you are able to look at. And the reason why you probably were able to go so quickly. Peace, Scott. Is because when a woman this pop. This position is very popular, I think, for men because they love watching their penis go in and out and you can see the woman's ass going up and down. And it can be kind of hot for a lot of men, maybe. That's why. And so she high fived herself because she's like, wow, I was finally on top and he was finally able to have an orgasm. That's good. That's awesome you found reverse cowgirl. But the thing that I have to say is that your wife is getting frustrated that she's on top and you can't finish. That is something not to get frustrated about, because we all have our ways that we can finish, and a lot of guys can't finish with a woman on top. Many men can't. Many men can. Maybe you can learn it. But if that's not how you finish and you gotta roll over and get on top or do whatever you have to do, I don't think she should get frustrated that she's not turning you on. A lot of guys can't.
Yeah. Just let her do her thing and get to her point and then go into a different position.
Yeah. Well, I don't understand. I'm not sure why bums are out, but I guess I'm not the chick that gets bummed out about that stuff. And I get that women do because they feel like, what the. One of the biggest issues women have during sex, that they're insecure across the board and they overanalyze it and they're insecure. Well, same thing as being insecure. They're overanalyzing. They're insecure. She thinks, oh, my God, I probably looked fat when I was on top and it wasn't turning them on. Like, that's probably what's going through her mind. And so. So you just have to reassure her that it's, like, nothing to do with her. She totally floats your boat, turns you on. But you just need to be on top or wherever you need to be behind her. That's how I feel. Hey, Emily. Menace. I like how you two talk about what really happens in real sex life and the tips you share with us. What do you think about the hand job performed on women? Jose from Mexico?
The hand job performed on women?
Yeah. What about performing? What about, like, fingering a woman? What about performing? What about using your hand on a woman? What do we think about it?
What do women think about it?
Yeah. What do. What do we think?
I'm not a woman, so I can't. I can't.
But, like, what do you think about doing that to a woman? I think it's. They're awesome.
I think it's perfectly fine.
I think it's great. A lot of women get off that way. A lot of women need finger stimulation. Or you can stick a vibrator in front of. In charge.
Some.
Areas, like locations that you have been finger banged.
I tried to come up with the different.
But you couldn't. We're real tired today. No finger.
Classier way to say it.
But, yeah, you just couldn't get there.
So.
Yeah. Finger banging is what they call my question.
You blew.
Oh, what was the question? How?
Locations, where, when?
Oh, well, it's interesting. So lots of. It's different for every woman. I know, I know. I have a friend who loves being fingered. Like she just takes guys fingers and just shoves it up there. And she's like, I want all of your fingers, not fists, but like, she's like, I want three fingers, I want two fingers. Some women like one finger. You could put it in and out. You could do with the G spot thing where you're fingering her and you're also trying to reach her G spot, which is if you stick your finger inside of her and you use this come hither motion towards her with your fingers towards her belly button, that's where you can find a G spot. Some women just want it really, really deep. So they want your finger just really deep. Some women like it shallow. The outer 2/3 of the vagina are really sensitive. So maybe you could just kind of spend some time in there. I think there's all different ways you can do it. You could disrupt her clitoris, for example.
You still haven't answered my question. What are some incidents that you could.
Remember when I was. When a man's fingers were inside me. That was good.
Yeah, but like just random locations. Not at your house location.
Oh wait, where have I been? Oh, and you're saying, you're saying where did the act happen? Not like, where was his finger?
Because. Because that, that can happen.
It's awesome. Oh my God. It happens.
Because guys love doing it and they'll do it anywhere.
Do they love doing it? Yeah, I love when guys do it. That's so good to know. I've had guys do it in the car, in movies, in concerts, at a restaurant. I mean. Yeah. In my lifetime. At a wedding.
Cool. In the back room, in the middle.
In the bathroom, at a dinner table. It's awesome. It's so hot. Guys should do that more. If people like exhibitionism or having sex outside, that's a. Or sex in random, risky places. A fingering is something that you could get. You could do that. Not a lot of people could see airplanes. What do you mean?
Hand massages?
He called it a hand job performed on a woman, which I like.
Yeah, I'd never heard that before.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I've kind of really.
It is a hand job. And I don't think that like a lot of guys think that women like it as much. I think you have to ask for it.
That woman has to ask yeah, Like.
I think a lot of guys, Some.
Guys think that a guy tries other than touching your boobs after making out.
He goes, boobs. He goes to finger you. Yeah. But sometimes he doesn't do it right. It's different every woman. So you just got to show him. If you're a woman, show him what you like. Take his fingers. I'm telling you. Like, show him. Like, I want this finger. I want that figure. I want three fingers. I want your pinky. Like, show him you want. Because guys don't know a lot of times, because every woman's different. So his last girlfriend liked his thumb, and you want his three middle fingers. He doesn't know. How the hell is he supposed to know? Show him.
Don't you have, like, a guide or something like that you can share?
Oh, do you want me to make another app?
Yes.
How many fingers do stick inside of me? The hand job.
You should just make an app where you can just build out a profile of things that you like. This is me. And then you can send it to somebody. See? Giving you more ideas.
Here's a questionnaire of things that I like sexually. And then you're able to email it to the person that you're dating and then the conversation you never have again.
I know, but they do that on a lot of those, like, adult friend finder sites and stuff where you, like, are into fetishes or you're into different. You have different sexual equities.
I'm just talking about basically. Basically, I like it when I know you go down on me after we did such and such.
I know. I wish that people would have these conversations. Why don't we create a form, put it on the website that you could just send to someone. They have all these forms now. Like, here's my STD test. You might as well be like, here's my STD test. And here's what I like sexually. This is not a bad idea. Write that. Write that down. Hey, Emily. I love the show and I listen to it as a podcast on my Zune before I go to bed on most nights. I go to college in downtown Chicago and I'm 19.
Chicago.
Oh, love it.
Tried to own downtown.
Okay, this is from a woman.
I have Dunkin Donuts and I thought about you every time you did.
I love Dunkin Donuts.
I tried to take a good picture, but there was so much glare because all the glass.
That's so sweet that you thought of me.
I was gonna send it to you.
Okay, so she's 19. Let's see, she listens to it. In Chicago, sex is becoming a more common thing among young people than it used to be. And I only have a couple of friends who are virgins, which actually surprises me, as I expect pretty much everyone my age has had sex by now. I think it's also common that many girls of this age are not having orgasms when they have sex for various reasons. I definitely have this problem. I think female masturbation should be discussed because I'm not sure people my age always think it's an okay thing and they should be encouraged to try it. I just need some advice in these areas and I bet other people wouldn't mind some either. Thanks, Amanda. Amanda, you are preaching to the query. You are 100% right. This is what we talk about on the show all the time. That a woman is not going to likely not gonna have an orgasm at 19, 20 at an early young age if she has not masturbated. If she has not masturbated and figured out her own body and what makes her feel good. And I mean, not just one night you're gonna try. I mean spending several nights, several for months at home exploring your body. Like, take a bath when you get in bed at night. Experiment with a vibrator. There's like a clitoral vibrator or a bigger vibrator that you can insert inside you and you can look for your G spot. You are not probably going to orgasm with a man until you do this. Women have got to do the masturbation work. I really think, I agree that there's not enough information out there on the female orgasm. I've often said this on the show that I never even occurred to me to masturbate. Like, didn't even. And that's kind of messed up. We could analyze that for an hour, but we're not going to. Like, why wouldn't I ever think to touch my vagina? Like, there it is. And I'm not prude about sex and my family talked about it all the time. But I just. I think I was busy.
I just busy.
I was just tired. I get in bed, I'm tired. I wasn't like touching my vagina anyway.
There's so many objects you guys can use. It's not for you.
I know pervertibles is what they call them. Home things like a carrot don't do that. Get a vibrator, like go on to AdamAndEve.com and you can get 50% off most items and three adult free DVDs and a free gift. It doesn't say Adam and Eve, so your parents won't know whatever it is that you're. When you're getting it. But I think you should just get like a basic vibrator. Get like a pocket rocket or.
No, you should go all. Or nothing. Just the biggest thing they have.
No, no, no, no, no. But I'm not sure how you orgasm.
So.
Amanda, I think that you need to tell your friends they need to masturbate. I think that it has to be discussed. And the common girl, I mean, she's so right that girls at her age are not having orgasms. But I, like, I thought something. Remember, I think I said this on Friday, but I thought something was wrong with me. I said this recently, but that. This guy that I dated, I actually want to call and apologize because I remember dating him for three years from 19 to 22, and I never had an orgasm. And I was one of those women who blamed him. Like, in my mind, I was like, it's his fault. It's his fault he's bad and bad, but it was totally my fault because I didn't know what the hell. So I'm sorry, blankie.
She's 19.
Yeah.
Okay, when she's 21.
Throw in some tequila in the mix and you'll be good.
Great, Menace, thanks for that. Okay. Just love your little alcohol suggestions with everything. Okay. Hi, Emily. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now and everything is going well. Except for the sex part.
Uh.
Oh. He isn't very well large. He doesn't burn, he doesn't mind, and neither do I. But when we have sex, it's hard for me to have an orgasm with him. So I find myself going home and doing it myself. Oh, biggest nightmare for a man right now. I get really horny and he turns me on just fine, but my body just won't orgasm with him. He doesn't know about any of this and I don't plan to tell him. So I just pretend to orgasm. But I don't know what to do. Please help. Tips or anything will help, Taylor, you.
Know, I don't suggest this.
God, what Menace?
Well, I'm gonna throw it out there.
Sex drive.
Sex toy.
Were you really.
It hurts my heart to say.
Oh my God, I love. That's exactly what I was gonna say.
If he's not, well.
Oh my God. We are one mind now, Menace.
No, I not endorse. I'm not on here endorsing this. Throw in sex toys in the mix. But if. If it's gonna help the situation, then.
Yes, it will help. So most women, Taylor, need clitoral stimulation during sex. So he could use his fingers. You could use your fingers. You could also use. I'm not sure how you orgasm, but a lot of women even can't have, like, a clitoral. A G spot orgasm without having clitoral orgasm. So there's great vibrators that you can use that are great for sex. There's the little clitoral bullets, and that might just get you there. Like, you can hold it on your clitoris while he's going in and out of you, and that might make you have an orgasm. And just because he's a small penis doesn't mean he can't hit the G spot either, if you know where that is. Like, sometimes size doesn't have to matter. So I'm just wondering how well you know your body and. But it sounds like you go home and you finish yourself off, and I bet he would find it so hot if, however, you masturbate. Like, why don't you just masturbate while he's. You're having sex with him? Why don't you just touch yourself the whole time and bring yourself to cut? I don't think a guy would mind that. I think guys find that really hot. Don't you think, when a girl masturbates?
No, I'm like, I'm happy that she's.
Helping, but even if she didn't use a vibrator, she could use her hands.
Yeah, yeah. No, I totally support that.
Okay, good. You wouldn't be like, if she was like, go, do.
Make it happen. Whatever you got.
Yeah, I got to go to bed then.
It should also suggest the whole thing that I say throw maybe a Chanel bag at her, a couple hundred dollar bills, and then.
Doesn't work.
She would get super horny and taken care of.
Huh?
It doesn't work.
I don't think so. Although, I mean, I'm open to anything.
I get 40% off coach now.
You do?
Yeah.
Why?
If you know somebody that needs a gift.
I don't know. I might. That's good to know. You never throw bags at your girls, do you?
No. No.
But you're just hypothetically speaking, a bag.
For a girl that I've dated for a long time.
Right. That was nice of you. I've had that, too. Okay, we are going to move into cheating, because cheating is a huge topic that comes up all the time. We see it in the news, we see with politicians. We see it with Celebrities. We see marriages last not at lasting. We see where you're going with this. What do you mean?
I know exactly where you're gonna. Your responses are gonna be to this. I know you so well.
You're already cutting me. I don't even know where I'm going with this.
I know.
And so did you say.
What are you gonna say? Yeah, you're gonna say that no one is supposed to be with one person for the rest of the world.
I'm not saying that.
Blah, blah, we're not built like that. We're supposed to date other people and experience other things and blah, blah, blah.
I'd say that's what biology says.
F marriage.
I'm not.
My name is Emily Morris.
Do you know that I've never ever said F marriage. I've never. In fact, when we were researching this. Imply it.
You imply it.
I imply it. I agree that I imply it. But some say monogamy does not come naturally for humans and biology predisposes us to seek multiple sex partners. Some say. I'm not saying that. Everyone says that there are happily married monogamous couples who don't do this. I'm just saying that for a lot of people, the theory is in biology that it is not natural. Okay.
I wish I could do this with lottery numbers.
Predict me. Okay, so we're gonna be talking about why do we cheat? Cheating stats. Reason why men cheat. Reason why women cheat. Signs that your partner's cheating. Confronting your possible cheating partner is cheating at a bachelor party. Okay. The healing process of cheating in nine steps. Take after an affair. If we can get all to this today, but I don't know if we're gonna get to all of it. We don't get to all of it. We'll do the rest of it tomorrow. Okay? So good stuff. Okay. So yeah, it's true. Why do we cheat? Some say monogamy is not natural. I'm not saying. I'm saying that some say it's not natural. Animals are far from being 100% monogamous 100% of the time. The only completely monogamous animal scientists have been able to identify is a tapeworm found in the intestines of fish. The male and female worms fuse together at the abdomen and never separate afterwards. I thought there were birds that mate for life too, though.
Penguins.
Penguins. But apparently they don't, because that was. Did you hear about the penguins? It's. It's. It's what? They cheat. Penguins cheat.
Those bastards.
Okay. People who enter into long term monogamous relationships and really keep their promises tend to be very healthy mentally. Yeah, Endorsement.
See.
So you can be in a healthy monogamous relationship if you're very honest with your wide.
With your wide eyes and yelling into the microphone. I don't know if you're meant to least able to have people.
Me, it has nothing to do with my mental stability. My mental stability might prevent me from other things, but it won't be that. People who cheat are called pursuers, also known as womanizers, when they are men.
I know why it is. It basically is we're going to get into the stats. We're going into the stats. I'm just giving the names. Pursuers tend to require great numbers of conquests and they perceive them as conquest. Pursuers often have a narcissistic personality disorder. We're not saying all of them, just some. They crave and demand affectionate attention, but not able to return it in kind. It is true. There is a genre of cheaters who just constantly need more and more affirmation because they feel bad about themselves. And the more women or men they conquest, they feel better and their ego's boosted. And it can be kind of a narcissistic thing. So the cheating statistics. Some say that as many as 50% of women cheat on their husbands and 70% of men cheat on their wives. These studies have been coming out for years. But all I can tell you is that you never know exactly what it is. Maybe women are more likely to tell the truth or men inflate their numbers because. But all I know is that I've been reading these stats for 10 years and that the numbers are getting closer and closer. Men and women are getting to be the same. It used to be like 25% of women and 50% men. According to a survey, the longer men live, the more likely they are to cheat. 37% of men ages 50 to 59 have had an affair while only 7% of men, 18 to 29% have cheated. You've never cheated, right?
No, I don't. My philosophy is you're going to cheat. You just break up the. You're obviously not happy with the person that you're with.
I agree.
And then you should just break up, right?
Here's some reasons why men cheat.
Okay?
People always want to know if you're going through this. They're like, why, why, why did he cheat?
Because you're a high maintenance bitch. That's why.
Because they had the option. Men don't get offered sex as. Which is what you always Say men don't get offered sex as often as women do. So when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down. And if you're someone like Tiger woods or whoever who's like hundred, literally, you could sleep with any woman that walks past you, what are you gonna do? They have the options.
You're married and you have a kid. That's what you should do.
Whatever. It's boost their ego. I mean, I get what you're saying, but that's. Yes, he should have had the morals to say no. But women are literally like, bang, bang, bang, bang. Like, imagine like choo, choo, choo. Imagine like a. Imagine like a video game with women just like throwing themselves at Tiger Woods. Like, I imagine at the bottom and there's women dropping from the sky like hot blondes and brunettes and things here.
See, that's the problem with guys. Guys are so effing stupid. Like, they fall bend over backwards for any hot chick. That's the problem with this world.
They shouldn't bend over backwards.
No, they shouldn't.
Okay, that's the problem. Here's another reason. It boosts their ego. Sometimes men don't feel like they're attracted to the opposite sex anymore. And when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may also allow her to stroke his ego more. That's true for men and women. I think a lot of times we just want the attention and it boosts our ego. Okay, another reason. Men cheat. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn't have as much in common as you thought. He's met a woman who has more in common with him. He may check out if he's compatible with her under the sheets as well. I think that happens a lot. You're together with someone and you know, we don't ever marry someone who has. Who you can check all the boxes of your desires off. Like, I want someone who's this, this, this, and this. So let's say you're with someone. You're like, I love funny guys, but the man I marry isn't funny. And then like 10 years later you're out and you meet this hilarious guy.
This is.
I've heard friends cheat this way. And they're like, but he's so funny and my husband's not funny. And you're trying to make up for all the things that are lacking in your relationship with someone else. It's not the right way. This is not the right way to do it. But that's why People do it. You grow apart. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner.
Number five, he's fallen out of love. This is why men cheat. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don't know how to get out. They say that women leave more than men and that men are just kind of like, uh, I'm in it, I'm gonna stay.
Or they just take off.
They cheat, but they don't leave. Okay, number six, Your sex life sucks. If a man is a disinterested partner or isn't getting enough sex to fulfill him, there's a good chance he'll have an affair. True.
Yeah.
To get revenge, a man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. Number eight, it's new, different, and exciting. Men don't necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners. They just want something different. I think that is, like, number one. I think that is so key to why men cheat, which is different. We're going to get into why women cheat in a minute. But I think that men, they're able to compartmentalize being with different women. They want the variety. So, like, they could be with the hot. You know, like, find me a hot chick in the bar and I'll show you a guy who's tired of fucking her. You've heard that saying before. I think it's because men, and I don't even know if it's more than women, but I think it's a little more than women that they can find. Like, it's not that this woman's hot or that they cheat on you with it. It was just variety. It's variety. Variety, variety that men's minds typically just want more women. They just want the variety, and women don't as much. So to me, I think that's huge. Okay, number nine. To see if they can get away with it. If a man has the attitude of what she doesn't know won't hurt her, he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. And number 10, because you've allowed it in the past, if you forgot, if you've forgiven a cheating man a couple times, the more likely he's going to cheat again. And you're an idiot for staying in the relationship.
Hell yeah, you are.
Hell yes.
Why are you saying this now?
What do you mean?
Because all the times you said that I found out if somebody was cheating on me, I said I would dump them instantly. It doesn't.
Yeah, but a couple of times. I'm saying one time. You shouldn't dump her right away.
I'm done.
I understand. We knew you were gonna say that. Want me to say what you're gonna say? She cheats on me. Once I'm out of there, it doesn't even matter. She shouldn't be with me. With the relationships she over. She cheats once we're done.
Yeah.
Yeah, done.
I'm not gonna deal with that.
Okay. Reasons why women cheat. Familiarity has bred indifference. The most common justification for a woman's infidelity is that they feel taken for granted. So they feel like their husband's just not appreciating them. And there for them, you're leading parallel lives. Number two, why women cheat. You used to travel the same path side by side, but lately your interests have diverged. Number three. The passion. Passion has fizzled. A casual affair may put some zing back in her days. Your ego needs a boost. Sleeping with someone else is an easy way to remind yourself that you're desirable. I think that's huge for women, especially as women get older and they have kids and they're like, am I still desirable? And then they find a guy who finds them attractive. Like, women want to feel attractive all the time. And if their husband's not complimenting them ten times a day.
Oh, God. Ten times a day?
Yep. Five times a day. Once a day. Hey, baby. You look beautiful today. That's all you need. But if he never says it, and I can't tell you how many women are with guys who have never told them they were attractive and they found them attractive, and it is a problem with every single one of them. I joke that you should do it 10 times a day, but it's not really a joke. But once I said it, it's.
10 times is ridiculous.
10 times is a lot, but it's awesome. Okay. Number six. It's payback time. Same thing. If she finds out her significant other's been cheating, she may have sex with another man.
Okay.
And I think actually that's fine.
What? Revenge cheating.
If your person. The person that you're with is cheating and you're a dumbass and you're not dumping them.
Right.
Then I think it's.
Have you ever had a woman cheat on you? Not that you know of.
I know where I was getting out of a relationship, they started talking to somebody else.
Right? Right.
It was already right.
You know, and I've said this before, that I have cheated in my past.
Yeah.
And I'M a reformed cheater. I did cheat in my past. And. And I. It was never an ongoing thing. I never had, like, great affairs. But I used to travel a lot for work. I was an international political consultant, and I would travel to a lot of different countries, and this is usually when it happened. I'd, like, meet some businessman in Singapore in a hotel. Not proud. Had a boyfriend, so never got caught, but, like, would stop doing that because I felt like, I'm not gonna commit and have sex with other people. But I'm just telling you that I am. I've cheated and I'm not proud.
Hurts my feelings.
I don't do it anymore, though. I never would do it again because I don't think it's.
I mean, you don't travel as much.
And I don't commit as much. Okay, before you make a move on someone else, ask yourself this. Picture your partner doing the same thing and ask yourself, would it upset you if she was flirting with another guy at a bar? Would I be upset if he was dirty dancing in a nightclub with another girl? Would I think he was cheating? 74%. If guys think cheating starts with a kiss, that most women believe cheating can start before a kiss.
Oh, the emotional cheating.
There's the emotional cheating. The emotional affairs. Okay, here's some signs that your partner is cheating.
Okay.
Okay. What?
No, I want to hear them. What are the signs?
He or she says something to the effect of, I love you, but I'm not in love with you.
This is one of the most interesting things a cheating partner will say. Your partner may have a deep, loving bond with you, but intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your partner to lose sight of his or her true feelings.
You say that when.
People are trying to get.
When you're trying to break up, trying.
To get a relationship with you or something, it's not really midway in the relationship.
I guess so. But if someone said that to me, I love you, I'm not in love with you, I'd be like, we're done. If I wanted to be loved by them. Okay. Signs your partner's cheating. Number two, we are just friends. If your partner is spending more and more time with this new friend, then there's probably more to it than the mere friendship. If he has a new friend of the opposite sex and they're together all the time, that could be a sign that he's thinking of cheating or having an emotional affair.
You guys go crazy over that. The problem is, I'm friends with more.
Women than guys I know I'm friends with.
Why?
I got both. But you're right. I could see women. Yeah. You have dated women who go crazy.
Yes, I have.
Right. And you have, like, random women sending you, like, lingerie and birthday cakes and when it's not your birthday.
A woman asked me out today. So what are you doing when you get off the radio? Oh, I'm going to bed.
Right.
I'd rather go to bed.
Okay. Signs your partner's cheating. Number three. A sudden need for privacy. If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private. He puts a lock on his phone, for example. Pay attention because something is probably off. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your partner. So if all of a sudden he's, like, locked down, like, has a lock on his briefcase, has a lock on his phone, like changes his passwords can be some change. Or she.
It's.
I don't mean he.
I know it seems weird, but even, like, in relationships, like, I. I'll get messages from people and I'll just delete them because they can be twisted around.
Wait, what do you mean? If you. If you're in a.
Like, I'll get a message like, oh, hey, what's up?
Love you, miss you. Right.
Missy and Stu. And I'm like, delete. Because I don't, cuz.
Why?
Because the person I'm with.
Oh, if you have a girlfriend, I.
Don'T want them to see that.
Exactly, exactly.
I'm never gonna cheat.
I mean, if anyone looked at my phone, like, if I was dating them, they'd be like, what the fuck's going on?
So I just need to, like, hide my phone from everyone. Just keep it with me all the time. Yeah. Okay.
My phone needs to be buried in the desert somewhere.
For sure. Oh, my God. Okay. Signs your partner's cheating. Number four. I need some space to figure out my feelings.
Oh, God, you're done. Relationship is done.
Many women, men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space. Time alone away from the family. This can be a sign that there is someone else in the partner trying to figure out ways to have more freedom.
Yeah, I need space because I just.
Need a little bit of space up in Mendocino or something.
I have to wine the country, have sex with somebody right now. So I'll be right back.
Okay. Regular work habits change. Working late, going to work at odd hours, putting in More time than is normal. And work related issues can be indications that your partner is cheating.
I would always. See, that's.
That's up to you. Because you work all the time, it doesn't mean you're cheating.
I'll get in trouble for that all the time. Because. See the problem?
The.
The worst person in life for a woman is their best friend. Because their best friend Will is doom and gloom. Will, like overanalyze everything. Oh yeah, he's cheating on you. Oh, where is he at? Blah, blah, blah, blah. Like in her ear. Like destroying a relationship is the woman's best friend.
Right.
And the woman's best friend will also give you a blowjob.
What?
She might.
She would, you know, the devil. Didn't you know this?
No, honey, they're not gypsies.
Fixers and cheaters.
Nice.
It's cool. But you gotta live with.
I love your misogynist side when it comes out. It's hot. No, it's just the truth.
But you still gotta live with them anyway. So you just gotta deal with. With it.
Right?
That's all.
Exactly.
Nothing wrong with that. You don't have. You don't have to treat them like crap. That's all.
No treatment. Like respect.
Yeah, respect.
Gotta understand that they're crazy and they just want Gucci bags. Don't I? Yeah.
And if those start cheating on you.
Then kick them to the curvy, you know, whatever. Who are you?
What?
Nothing. Who are you?
I'm just being real, speaking the truth. You can say a million things.
How's your relationship going? Oh, that's right, you don't have one.
Because I don't want to be in one. I could be in a. I would love to be actually be in a relationship. I would love to be in love. I would love to do that. I'd be cool. I'll be happy.
I know you were happy when you were in love.
Yeah, but just like right now, I gotta find somebody that can just deal.
With, hang with you. Right. I get it.
And shut.
Me too, dude. It's hard. What'd you say and what?
I go and shut the fuck up when I want them and shut the.
Fuck up and have a friend. Gimme head all the time. Okay. Spending a large amount of time on the computer. In today's world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn't have to leave their home. If your partner's online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites, you can be alarmed. I don't know about that. Everyone's on porn.
The Facebook. The Facebook is secretive.
Phone calls and more time spent on the phone. Obviously, if you see them sneaking away and they're on the phone.
Yes.
Problem behavior that just doesn't add up. Not being where he's supposed to be, missing times they can't explain. Being caught in little lies or the details of the day. They could be cheating. Okay, here's how you confront. Oh, we don't really have time. I don't think we're. Kate.
We got a few minutes.
We got a few minutes. We got a few minutes.
Two minutes.
Okay. Confronting your possible cheating, possibly cheating partner. This is how you confront them.
They're never gonna cop to it.
Oh, my God. We've got so much here. Okay. I love all this. We have to continue this another day. For sure.
I'll say 80% of them won't cop to it, but go ahead.
Right? I agree. They always say no at first.
Yeah.
If you do decide to confront your spouse, you need to do it in a place that will provide you the most safety and comfort. Don't surround you with friends. That would definitely change the power dynamic. Your partner could be exceptionally angry at the accusation, especially if the accusation was true. Have proof. If you decide to confront your spouse about his or her infidelity, have proof. An accusation without proof is only accusation based on a feeling. So, like lipstick on the collar. Text messages that he could probably erased.
I don't know.
How do you have proof? Whatever. Whatever your proof is, it's pretty easy to prove. I know. I've had some good proof. Okay. I caught a guy once, and it was so easy because he wrote it down. He wrote a story about it. Okay. Idiot. Have support. When and if you decide to confront your partner, realize that it may be the end of your relationship. It's possible that your spouse will beg for forgiveness. They always do. It is possible that your partner will look you in the eyes, admit that he or she has had an affair, and initiate the breakup. Whatever the case, you should have emotional support at hand. That's what you should do. Forms of cheating according to women. Let me just read a few of these. Okay?
Okay.
Confiding in other women. 36% of women think it's cheating. So if you've got a BFF and you're like, oh, yeah, today Marcy and I were, dah, dah, dah, dah. She's gonna think you're cheating.
Whoa. Dancing closely. Dirty dancing with another woman is like a form of sex. 41% think that's cheating. What I bump and grind with people. That doesn't mean that I'm cheating.
What the hell?
Everything you would say would be I'm not cheating.
I'm not. Okay. Getting private dances at chip joints. 79% of women think it's cheating.
What? Yep.
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