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It's not a sex toy.

No, it's not a sex toy. But sex toys have changed my life. Okay? So I am obsessed with magazines and I just got back from traveling, I went to New York and what I realized was once when I first started talking about this next issue is what I'm telling you about. It is a magazine subscription. It's kind of like the Netflix of magazines. So you don't have to buy magazines anymore because you get them all and you can read them on any device across five devices. So if you and I shared one, you know, you could read them. So I have this habit. I get every magazine in the world, they all just get sent to me and I never have time to read them. So I go, usually take a trip and I bring like 25 magazines on the airplane. I literally need another bag. And I end up like I always have. Like my shoulder hurts whenever I land. And I realized it's because I'm always carrying these magazines. So I know with my family on a trip a few months ago, I brought them all like to Israel. And mom's like, what are you doing? I'm like, oh, I gotta read em. I gotta read them. So just now I went to New York and I realized my carry on's really light. And it's because I have Next Issue, which gives you unlimited access to all your favorite magazines. So easy. It's summer, I know you're all traveling and now like you're hanging at the beach. You want something interesting to read you. You don't want to carry out the magazines. Next Issue delivers all the best publications to your fingertips. It gives you access to the most popular and trusted magazines anywhere. Tablet phone. Best part, it's like $9.99 a month and you can share it again on five devices.

Sweet.

I know, it's awesome.

I need to get that. I know because I have. Where am I going? Boston, New York, London. In the Caribbean.

Yeah, there you go.

So I have like three long trips.

And you know when you're abroad, you're like, oh, I wish I had more magazines. You can't buy them. They're like 15 bucks for like Us Weekly. No, they're so. They have espm, Sports Illustrated for Men. Obviously these are the men stuff. I don't know, Ski that, Surfer for Women, Fashion. They got allure, Vogue, Elle, Cosmo, 19 others. And then they have like US Weekly, People, National Geographic, Consumer Reports, Just like there's nothing they don't have. One subscription gets you magazines for as little as $10 a month. Like I said, use on 10, use on 5 devices. Share it with your family and get this menace. You can do this too. Get a free 30 day trial. Nextissue.come that's nextissue.come and get it. Now read up. And read up on all your interests and have a great trip. Thanks for listening.

Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes they call. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cuz my man E here, he just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standard.

Oh my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh, my God, I feel so good. Being bad feels pretty good.

You know, Emily's not the kind of.

Girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can check out all of our podcasts. Sign up for our goddamn mailing list if you haven't done it yet, because we give really good emails and also our website is constantly changing and we are updating it every single day. So if you love the podcast and you want to have better sex and relationships, then you should definitely check out our blogs and our videos, which will just be a nice little accoutrement, little accessories, little addition to the podcast. So check that all out. I would appreciate that. And I'm here with menace.

Hello, Emily.

How are you?

Good, good. We've. We talked about all your New York adventures last time.

I've not gotten my ass kicked since.

Yeah, so you have. If people miss that podcast, they definitely have to go back and listen to at least the first 10 minutes because it was an epic fight that Emily got in your. Your very first fight. So.

Ever, Ever. I'm a lover. I'm a lover, not a fighter, so that's never happened.

I got in a fight in, like, high school. Right, but you are, you know, I know I'm like a full grown adult.

But it was funny because half the girls I was with, I was saying, was from New Jersey. They're like, I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you. It's about time. Like, they all got in their ass kicked.

Everyone's very tough and straightforward in the east coast, you know?

Exactly.

Here everyone is so passive in California.

Apparently not me. And it was my fault in a way. You shouldn't film drunk girls fighting, so.

But it was good content for your website.

That's why they're like, what are you doing? I'm like, it's content.

Yeah.

I'm all about content. Okay, today's show, I'm really excited to welcome my guests to the studio because you hear me, I give a lot of advice on the show. We answer a lot of your emails, your questions. But I want you to hear it from the people. I want you to hear it specifically from women who have had various sexual experiences. I've never met. I met one of them before. I know Harriet. The other two lovely women here, Atara and Chloe, have not met. Which is even better because it's like we just can get into it and we're gonna be asking them questions about their sex lives and what turns on men is too. Cause I'm sure you've.

Yeah, definitely. I'm happy that you allowed me to be on this podcast with you guys. I want to, you know, give a male perspective and I have a ton of questions.

I know. I'm sure you do.

Honest conversation.

Exactly, exactly. Oh, and one more thing. Speaking of New York, I will be in New York again for the sexual Health Expo September 18th to the 20th. So if you live in New York, I won't kick your ass, I promise. Or if you live outside of New York, anywhere. Tell your friends. Come, come, come to the conference. It's gonna be. It's open to the public for educating you to have better sex and see the latest and greatest toys. It'll be awesome.

Sweet.

Okay. Hi. Okay, let's start with Harriet.

Hi, I'm. Yeah, I'm Harriet.

Hi, Harriet. Talking to the mic. Oh, you can just like lean to. You guys are gonna be sharing. Okay.

Yeah, don't be afraid.

Okay. Hi, I'm Harriet. I work in entertainment PR and I'm 28.

28. Okay. And. Okay, let's just. We'll get the names out of the way. Atara. Sorry.

Yes. Hi, Atara.

Okay. And you are. Right, we won't say your age, but like, right, different ages. I'm ageless, ageless and fabulous. And what do you do?

Well, I do two things. I work in movies and television as a costume assistant, costumer, personal stylist. And then by night, I am the lead singer of the band Plastic Rhino.

Cool. Sweet. Okay, great. That's awesome. Okay. And Chloe.

Hello, I'm Chloe. I'm 25 and I am a. I work in reality TV. I'm a producer slash casting director.

Okay.

And then by night, I'm actually a comedian.

Oh, got it. So this is gonna be funny. Maybe you'll sing and God knows what. Okay, well, and Menace is here. You can find him across the board. Listen to his radio show, the Woody Show. He's on the Woody Show? Do you guys on the Woody Show?

Oh, yeah.

Yes, very cool.

See, he's on billboards all over. We had a listener on the last show. Like, Menace never talks about the fact that he's on. Which we. Every friggin week.

Yeah, the Woody Show. It's a morning show in Los Angeles. All 98, seven, Monday through Friday, six to 10.

But he started with me.

That's What?

I did radio before YouTube. I know, but yeah, it's also podcast. The Woody show on itunes.

Right. So we got that down. Let's just freaking get into sex. All right. It looks like. It looks like we're having a slumber party in here because there's also, like, women, like, spread about, which is awesome. Okay.

I'm the only guy in Menace's dream.

It's kind of good, right? Okay, so I'm just gonna throw this out there. At which point did you become. Start becoming sexually active? Who would like to start the question at the end of the question? Go, Chloe, go.

I was a late bloomer. I grew up Mormon, so we weren't allowed to have sex before a marriage. Still not. But I lost my virginity when I was 22.

Okay.

So only a few years.

Were you in Utah?

Actually, I was living in Tennessee at the time.

Not every Mormon lives in Utah.

I'm just asking.

From Utah. Okay, From Utah.

I mean, they at least have. They have. At least have links in Utah.

It's totally true.

So you grew up. So your family was like. Like you just believed the church? Did you do a mission and all that stuff?

I did not. My sister's on a mission right now, so my family's still very active in the church, but I. Wow. Found my own way in life.

Okay, and did you. Did you ever masturbate growing up, or were you told that was wrong too?

Well, we were told it was wrong.

I'm sure you were.

Yeah, yeah, we were told it was wrong. And I think the first time I, like, attempted, I was maybe, like, 17, like, late, very late in life. And then I did it, and I was like, wait, that's great, right?

You're like, how did I do this before?

Yeah. So, yeah, we were taught not to.

So I was okay.

Yeah, but, Emily, you didn't start masturbating until 20.

I never even occur. See, I'm the one woman I never occurred to me. Didn't even know there was an option to masturbate. Like, I don't even know why. No one was like, hey, by the way, I think I was super stressed out. Nothing's changed. Okay. So, Atara. Yes. How about you?

I was also a late bloomer. 19.

19.

Saving myself till marriage. And then I gave that up when I turned 19.

Wait, did you have a background? Upbringing. Upbringing that was like a religious background? I mean, I thought it was the right thing to do.

I was raised Jewish, but.

Oh, yeah, we're not.

No, no, I think that's the one religion where they're kind of like, go for it.

Right. That's why I was, like, pissed at my mom. Like, why didn't you tell me to masturbate? Okay. But you said you thought you were going to wait, and then.

Yeah, I was saving myself. And then I gave up on that dream.

Right, Got it. That dream when you're 19. Okay. Masturbation.

Oh, well, that's a. That's a whole other.

What time? When did you start? Like, three? Were you one of those, like, in the shower?

I was a very hypersexual child, like, from since I can remember.

Okay.

And I. I figured it out pretty young, I think younger than most people. Figure it out.

Like, how old? Just like. No. So I've heard. I've heard five. I've heard, you know, everything.

I think I was maybe six or seven.

Okay. And you were like, what, touching yourself or in the shower?

Shower, water.

It's always the freaking water.

It's the water.

I took a million. I was a clean child. Like, I don't know why the house. It never hit me in that way. Just pisses me off.

The stream just didn't hit.

You didn't. Okay, got it. And Harriet.

So I'm gonna pull the early card here. And it was about 15 and a half, but it was with my boyfriend. We took each other's virginities. It was all cute.

Okay.

We both had no idea what we were doing, so it was pretty funny.

Yeah. No one does. Right? I'm sorry, do you guys mind saying where you grow up, too?

Cause I grew up in Scotland, and then I moved to Texas when I was about 14.

Okay, got it.

Basically the same thing.

Yeah. Scotland, Texas.

Right, Absolutely.

And I'm just wondering, like, coastly, where you. Where are you from? Atara.

Born here. Los Angeles. Lived all over.

Okay, well, born here in Anaheim. Moved to Utah when I was like, eight.

Okay.

So I was pretty much raised there, and then I moved here, like two years ago.

Okay, got it, got it, got it. Okay, so let's just go. So relationship status.

Definitely. Single.

Single. Okay. So how are you? Are you.

Me?

Are you dating them?

Yeah, I mean, these girls know me pretty well. I go on a lot of dates.

I hear it. Okay.

Yeah, I use the apps a lot. Like Tinder. New app happen. I'm kind of getting off of Tinder.

Tinder guts.

It's disgusting.

Yeah, let's become like the Walmart of.

It is exactly right. We're moving on to a new app, Dating, I think in Los Angeles. It's. It's A whole interesting ball game.

It is. Do you ever hook up with guys that have one night stands on these apps? Cause that's what I hear from my guy friends.

Well, I mean, I. Well, being honest, I mean, I've gone out for drinks, and then, you know, you get carried away and like, whatever. But I've gone on a few dates, and I've actually gone on dates to where guys, I was like, this isn't working out. Let's be friends. And I am still friends with some of those guys three years later.

That's great. But you might have slept with them. Like, you don't on the first or.

I think two of them.

My friend actually calls it Tinder a blowjob dispensary. Because she's like, every girl just gives them a blowjob right away. I'm like, so I wouldn't stop Tinder, though.

Yeah, I would live on it. Unfortunately, I've been in a relationship for way too. The entire time that Tinder's been available, so I know nothing about it. But I encourage. I encourage my buddies to get on it, and then we'll be sitting at a table. I'm like, dude, you're not on Tinder yet. Let's get you on.

Right?

And then. So, like, oh, and then I will, like, sit through the account and get him on, and then, like, swear within, like, five minutes, he's getting a blow job in the car, talking to somebody and getting a blow job.

It's awesome. I mean, it's not.

It's crazy.

Use protection. Okay. Tara, what about you?

I am currently in a relationship, so I'm also missing the Tinder bandwagon for a while. Three years now.

Okay.

Sucks is they made it so easy before, like, you know, either on MySpace or, like, friends or Facebook, whatever.

Or you had to, like, pay for.

Any, like, yeah, match.com or something, all that stuff.

But it wasn't. Also, what made it hard was you didn't know how far you're away from each other. You know, with these apps, you're like, oh, I'm like, five feet from somebody I can hook up with.

Your penis is practically in my mouth. Right?

Yeah, that's the part that Your penis.

Is 0.2 miles from my mouth. Yeah, that's a good opening line.

Oh, that girl lives in the next city and I don't even drive. I'm too young. Right, I get it. But now, like, oh, there's a girl at the same bar. She's willing to hook up.

Right?

You know, kind of cuts out the whole weird conversation part and get straight to the point.

That's true. Okay. So you guys have been together how long? Your boyfriend? You said three years. Do you live together? We do. And how's your sex life? Do you still have sex?

Oh, yes.

Good. Often? All the time.

Oh, yeah.

Good sex.

You have to.

You have to. Right?

Sleep, sex, water.

Right. And how. So tell me, like, how is the sex? I'm sure he's not your first. No, no. You've had sex with people. But. So tell me about your sex life. What would you say? Is there anything you guys are into that is, you know, been interesting?

Well, I can say that you really got to keep it interesting.

And how do you do that? Give me example.

You can't be lazy.

You just give them a blow job on that. Right. Six hours for guys.

Yeah, you gotta still, like, six hours for women. Keep putting in the effort. Like, you know, get dressed up from time to time. Get into role play.

Because how do you get into people? Make. They're like, my boyfriend would laugh if I came home and said, hey, is that a pizza? You know, like. Right. So how do you do that, really? I mean, it's not for everybody, but I like robe. I like it.

It was so funny. I was watching, I don't know, some. It was the Jenny McCarthy reality show. One of the guys from New Kids on the Block.

Yes, yes.

And one of this. One of the scenes where she was. Had all these candles laid out and she was dressed in, you know, in lingerie and all this stuff. And he opens the door and there's rose petals everywhere. And my girlfriend and I are watching it together. She goes, you would totally laugh at me if you walked home to that.

You would. And you would.

It's like. I would.

I know, but that's. So you like menace.

I know, but I'm just saying maybe.

You'D laugh and then. Then. Right. It's not for everybody. True.

Yeah. I mean, laugh, but then get into it.

But then get into a menace.

So she's laughing, but you're like. You think that would suck?

Yeah. Because couples, like, we're together too long. Like, people make so many excuses about why they can't spice it up because they've been together a long time in my apartment. So what if somebody laughs? Then you move past it and you start banging yourself.

I support it. I think it's awesome.

I'm calling a girlfriend.

I want to hear. I want to hear, like, some of the setups.

Yeah. Like, give me an example.

Batman and Robin.

Like, his favorite is like, nurse patient.

Right. So what do you do? Do you have like a nurse.

Have the nurse outfit? You know, so do I.

Okay, tell me. I need some leg dialogue, though. Actually, I'm sleeping with a doctor. One of the guys. But that'd probably be so lame because he fucks nurses anyway. It's not committed, but whatever.

I'll still dress up for him, see what happens.

As a nurse, though. That'd be so lame. When am I. The office.

The sexy nurse outfit.

Yeah, but. Okay, I can't even tell me what you do. Put the nerve.

Put on the outfit. You set the scene, right? I mean, usually. Obviously happens in the bedroom, but, you.

Know, make it work. Are you like, hold on. I mean, I really want you to like, oh, oh.

I mean, yeah, you know, obviously sharing the apartment, you know, it's like, hold on, give me 15 minutes. I'm going to run in there and do something and then come in in 15 minutes and you're not going to know what it is. Ha ha. You know, but right.

And then. And then you're like, doctor or like, what do you do?

He's usually the patient, so it's like, oh, patient.

Right.

Feeling what hurts. How can I. How can I make feel better?

Right? What? Okay. And then that's hot, right? And you have like. Do you have, like the high boots, the short skirt and stuff?

I do do the stockings and the garter belt.

Guys love the garter and the stockings. That is. That's a win. Win.

Absolutely.

Okay, so you guys do that kind of thing and.

Yeah. You got to put on the heels, too. Heels are very important.

Heels. Leave them on. Do you leave them on during sex?

Absolutely.

I know. I hate when guys take them. Like, leave those on. Take everything else off.

Not those I paid a lot of money for.

Those are really expensive. Don't come in my shoes.

Okay, but guys should always take socks off.

Always.

Always. Yeah. It's the biggest turn off.

It's awkward.

If they lose my boner, I'm like, why? If I had one, I always lose my feet.

Some guys don't want to take off.

Their socks, get a pedicure. I dated a guy with bad feet once.

Okay, but also, like, if your socks are off, I'm not looking at your feet. But if your socks are on, I'm looking at your feet.

That's such a good point, Chloe. That's such a good point. I know.

I had this radio DJ friend and we. His, like, girlfriend brought it up to one of us, like, off the air. So Then we brought it up on air and we're like, dude, we hear you never take your socks off. What's going on with that? And he had. We finally like, convinced him, like, just show us your feet. What's going on? And he had, like, the craziest, like, ingrown toenail.

It happens.

It does happen. You can get it. You take pills for that. Guys, if you have those crazy feet, I don't mean to be like, it is solvable problem. Go to your podiatrist.

No, but also, like, we shave our legs. We get pedicures and manicures. We do all these things for you. If you have ugly feet, you can do that one thing.

Right, Exactly. Imagine all the money, like, go get a pedicure. You don't do any of that.

You'll thank us for the pedicure, too.

Let's not forget about the waxing.

Yes. Okay. Let's talk about the waxing. We do. Exactly. Okay. Can we get into. Grooming is a great topic. What do you guys do? Do you wax, shave? Nothing.

I usually wax and I have just, like, a landing strip.

Okay.

But at the same time, I want to do, like, what they want. You know what I mean? Like, if I'm dating someone and they have a preference, I'm like, okay, Chloe.

And you're in a relate. You said you're dating.

You're single for days.

Single. Single for days. So. So you have a strip, but you were like, how do you like the strip? And then he's like, I would prefer nothing. You're like, hold on.

Yeah, I can take care of that.

Right? Okay, take your socks off.

I can take care of that.

Right, Exactly. As long as your socks are off. Okay, got it. So what do you prefer in men, though? Do you prefer they trim?

I don't like nothing. Like, I don't like buying out.

How much time do you spend doing that?

Right, exactly, exactly. I prefer just like, manscape. Definitely manscaped trim.

Yes, absolutely.

Same with you.

I agree with the manscape.

Tara agrees. And what about shaving trip?

Oh, wax, absolutely.

Nut bare all of it. It's kind of just easier than having Lambstein because I just. I'm like, oh, I gotta trim the thing off.

Just get it all off. I'm there. I'm doing the pain. Just take it all, please.

Right. It's easier. Okay, Harriet.

Absolutely. Same with the taro. Take it all off. Wax it off.

Don't you ever, like, look in the mirror maybe? This is weird. You look in the mirror and you're Like, I look like a seven year old.

Never.

I think the first time I got it done, I was like, oh, this is weird. But after a while, I just got used to it.

Apparently, I have to get used to it.

No, I get it. And then you're part of. You can be like, you're the feminist and you be like, that's what men.

Right.

But yeah.

All right, I have two questions. Not about hair. Go number one. Because you guys seem very adamant that I know I'm single. Like, is there something going on there? Like, you do not want to be in a relationship at all?

No, no.

Chloe and Harriet, that's a good question.

Are you very, like, anti relationship? That's what I'm trying to say.

No, in fact, I'm focusing a lot on my career right now, which is good for me because I can just bang people and be like, bye. Like, focusing on work. No, thank you. In fact, that did just happen. I ironically had sex with a man in an alleyway just a few weeks ago. And he. I'm not kidding. He, like, became attached every day.

Like, I mean, sex in the alley, like, who wouldn't fall in love with that?

Very valid. No, but right at the time, I was starting a new show and I told him, I was like, hey, I'm actually moving, you know, 30 minutes away, but I'm moving for two months. And he was like, what? What am I supposed to do without you? And I was like, whoa, boo thing. So, like, just right now, I'm like, not in a place for a relationship. I'm like, I just would run.

But do you. Do you let the. And you're meeting guys through apps and stuff, and I get so sick of.

Apps, I'll delete them. And then I react to.

Right, Everyone deletes them. It's like throwing away your alcohol, cigarettes. You're like, wait, and you go buy another pack.

Damn. Now I have another question.

Go.

Now I have so many questions. Is it a turn off now that a guy is super into you and he expresses that? Is that like, oh, why is he, like, so obsessed with me?

For me? No, it's not a turn off, but it's also like, I am very blunt about it. Like, if we're gonna sleep together, if we go on a date, I am like, okay, I'm not looking for a relationship. We can have sex, we can do that. But I'm not looking for relationships. So then if he becomes like, oh, but are you sure, like, you really don't want one? I'm like, I told you from the beginning, you know what I mean? Could be not the right people.

Because you hear about those games, like, oh, guys don't. You know, they can't tell a girl that they really like them because then a girl knows that she's in control and blah, blah. And then they become disinterested.

Yeah, no, I see. I see that. But I'm personally not that way. I'm. In fact, I'm sometimes more of the man in the relationship where I don't call them, they call me.

Yeah, I totally got it. I've been. I've been there, and it is kind of like the thing and it's. You want what you can't have.

Yeah.

And I've always been like that. It wasn't a game. You know, I've never really wanted the relationships that I've been in. I spent half of them trying to get out of them, and so. But then you find that the guys always want more, right? Yeah, Because I focus on my career.

All right, now, what's going on with you?

Me, Guys?

I definitely, you know, I'm open to the relationship. I date around. Usually the second date in, I just. I'm so bored. The conversations dull. And then they, you know, they become needy. They call you and text you, and it's like, what? And I just. I can't handle it. I'm very independent.

Is it because you use apps and you pretty much know everything about them already and you already have the preposition.

You Google them and stuff? Probably.

No, I don't Google.

You don't Google before the date?

No.

Do you guys google before?

It depends. But here's the thing with a conversation where you feel like it's dull. That's the bummer of dating apps.

Yeah.

Is you're. You're just chatting. You're chatting, you're chatting. You know everything about them before you've even met. That's why I really love it when a guy, like, you're chatting maybe a day, and then the next day he's like, Friday, seven. Be there. Like, yeah, let's make a plan.

Right? Let's make a plan. I agree. I don't think that you should chat for more than, like, a day or two without me. I don't. I hate the check. Two weeks of text.

Oh, it's just too much work.

That just sucks the life right out of me.

I know. I was one talking to a guy from Tinder. I'm not kidding. Like, three weeks. I happened to be out of town when we met, so when I was coming back, we were gonna hang out. I didn't want to. When I got back, I knew everything about him. I was like, what is the point? So we still have never met and like, I just, I didn't see the.

Point because that's kind of the fun. The newness. When you meet someone, you want to ask the questions. You're like, I already know how many sisters you have. I saw your trip to Hawaii on your Facebook page. Like, it doesn't matter. So another question.

Okay, the other question is, and I think this would really help a lot of guys because this is like the holy grail question for every guy offline. When you actually see a guy in a bar or maybe you work side by side with them, what is the indicator that you like them? Because guys are totally stupid and they don't pick up on any signs. What are the signs that you're giving that you're into me?

I think it's different.

Well, be really overly talkative. Obviously. Girls. Girls aren't like shy like guys are. Yeah, girls are. Will be. Will be forward. If a girl likes a guy and she's into a guy, you're gonna know.

But how are you telling me without saying that you want to go out.

With like what, like, what is her body language?

So yeah, there'll be some like, you know, like nonchalant.

Yeah.

Touching of shoulders.

See, guys are so dumb. They're like, oh, she's just really nice to me. She doesn't really.

Guys are that dumb.

I'm pretty sure this usually, I mean, sorry, you were. We used to know a lot of guys. We used to talk about the show, that they're not great at reading signals from women.

I would say also it's like, all right, then if you're a guy and you go for it and they happen not to be into you and they are just really nice. You know what? You're not going to die. Nothing bad is going to happen to you. So you should go ahead and take the shot, you know?

True. Cuz guys, the guys look maybe together.

But I would like, you know, some clear signs. And if you have clear signs that you can share with us, that would be awesome.

Well, what for you would be a clear sign.

Get on your knees and put on.

You're gonna need me to just bend over like right in front of you.

I don't know like how maybe. I mean, do you ever say like, hey, we should go out sometime?

Yeah. Do you guys ever ask guys out?

Oh, you do?

I never have.

So offline though. Without an app because it's much easier to do it online instead of face to face.

Actually, Chloe and I have a funny story from the other night. We were having a glass of wine at the bar, and I was like, oh, Chloe, that guy's really cute. I was like, I think he's really cute. Might have had too many glasses of wine, but.

Glasses of wine.

So Chloe.

Wine goggles.

Yeah, exactly. So Chloe wrote me, and Chloe wrote him this little, like, cheesy little poem. And just like, our friend who's a bartender, like, pass it over to that guy. He read it, looked at us, and just did not know what to do.

I know.

Walked and smoked a cigarette, especially because.

There were two of us. So that was intimidating.

But he just did not know what to do. And so later on, I was like, hey, did you not get that note that we sent you? And he was like, oh, my God. I thought you, like, were just. Just kidding. Yeah.

I thought you were like, you're messing with me.

No, I do it all the time. I think there's something to be said about a girl stepping forward. And, like, if I like you and I'm giving you the signs and you're not getting it, like, okay, here I come.

Okay. You know what I mean?

So I. A lot of the times out of our cute, flirty. I'll put pen. You know, pen to a napkin, write a little poem, and be like, that's a great idea. Either, like, find me on. Find me on Instagram, or if I'm, like, really comfortable with it, I'll leave my number, like, multiple times. I'll just be like, save this for a rainy day. And then leave my number.

Have they called? And some have called.

I would say. 90% of the time, I get a phone call because it's something different.

Right. Because most girls don't.

And it's blunt. You know what I mean? Like, they know.

Totally support that. Obviously, more women should do that.

Yeah.

Because I get it.

I agree. We encourage it. I encourage it all the time. It's on my bucket list. I'm gonna write a poem.

There's a bunch of guys that want to talk to you, but they're just.

Like, yeah, the terrified. Yeah.

Well, especially if we're in a group of girls. That's hard to approach, so.

But there are the guys out there that prefer to do the chasing. And if a girl is too forward with them, it's like, you took away my hunt. Yeah, exactly.

I agree. Okay, I gotta get into sex here. Cause we promise. Dude, enough of the dating? No, no, no. I wanna know sex.

I'm just trying to help some guys out. Jesus.

No, we talk about the dating. Can we just get into sex? I wanna know about your orgasms, okay? I wanna know who orgasms during intercourse.

Okay, so, Chloe. Hey, I have only had an orgasm through sex.

Twice. In your life.

Okay, in my life. So that's why I turned to masturbating. Because I'm like, I want an orgasm.

You know what I mean?

But I also think I'm not as experienced as a lot of people. I don't really have time to experiment, that kind of thing. So that's like, on me, I really honestly wouldn't.

But how. Okay, so when you masturbate, do you use a vibrator or do you use your finger, your hands?

Some of both. In fact, like, a couple weeks ago, my vibrator broke and I was like, well, shit.

Oh, my office. Hello.

Done.

I hate, like, that's so sad. That's like hearing like, about, like an abandoned child or something. I want to save you. I want you to come to my office and take a vibrator.

And because I'm working so much, I don't have time to get another one. So. Okay. Last night I was like, I just want a vibrator. And then I didn't have one.

Go to my trunk.

Or I guess.

I guess. Hop on, Tinder.

Here's my question. During Airburst so that you don't have one. What about. What if they go down on you?

Yes.

Every time they go down on you, you can. Or finger.

Yeah.

So you can. You have a. Do you have a G spot orgasm? A clitoral orgasm?

I think it's more like clit orgasm.

Okay. Yeah. During intercourse, do you ever just take your fingers and like, put them on your clitoris? And then you could have an orgasm.

That way a couple times. But I'm not gonna lie. Like, when I'm in the moment, I'm, like, enjoying it and I'm okay.

You're okay when you don't have one?

Yeah.

Do you ever fake it? Absolutely. Okay. Because it is true. When you're newly with a partner, it's harder for women to orgasm with a new partner. It just is. Like, we're not gonna orgasm with you on the first night. And if I ever have, I'd probably fake. I don't fake it anymore.

But it's.

But I probably.

It's not a bad thing. It really is just our body, like, getting used to. For me anyways. I definitely hold back in that aspect. There are a lot of people where it's like, oh, no. First time every time, that person. No matter what. But.

Right. Some women are just more orgas. It's true.

Get used to that person.

That's true. That's true. And guys, don't trip on it because. Would you guys all say that sex is still good but you don't have an orgasm or not?

Oh, absolutely.

It's still sex. And what about you, Atara? You've been in a relationship for three years, and what's your orgasm? How do you orgasm?

Dramatically.

Loudly.

Very, very loudly. Unfortunately, that's not.

Unfortunately.

Well, the neighbors don't like it.

Yeah, I used to clamp on the walls.

No.

You know, what do they do?

You live in Los Angeles. There's a lot of neighbors around, and.

You walk out to the mail the next morning and they just look at you a little bit weirder.

And do you during. During sex?

Yeah. Yeah. Both.

Easily.

Yeah. Not. No. I wouldn't say foreplay. G spot is not an easy task.

That is not an easy. That's a whole rigmarole.

It's. Guys don't get that. It takes work.

Which is why it's not a bad thing that we don't orgasm.

Right. But the clitoral one is easier. It's not bad. It's not a bad thing. No, but easier.

But at the same time, it's. It can still. Because girls get too heady. We get weight. Our heads get in the way of what's going on.

Absolutely.

So as soon as that happens, it's like, oh, shoot, I've lost it.

Right. And it's like a disappearing orgasm.

Do you talk to guys right away and just like, give them directions on do?

Well, I do because I'm in a relationship.

Yeah.

So are you like, to the left, to the right? Yeah, up and down. And so when you're right. Right. Oh, wait. So let's talk about foreplay then. So do you require. I'll require foreplay pretty much.

I think foreplay is the. One of the most important things a woman needs to do before having sex. Otherwise, it's just not. It's.

It's like he's sticking his dry boner. You're like, what? I didn't even.

Where. Where the head also gets in the way. It's also beneficial in that regard. I think that one of the. The biggest things women forget to do and is. Well, you know, you don't even need the guy. Just do it yourself and then go in and you're ready to go. And then you're gonna have such a better sexual experience.

It's true. Because it's hard for us to switch off our minds like that because our brain is the largest sex organ, which I've said in every single show. But it is true that if he just comes, guys are ready. We're not foreplay. It's not, like a suggestion. It's a requirement. Yeah, it is. I think you don't feel like it should be. It should be a law. So every time you're with your partner, 3. It should be a law. Yeah, I'm gonna pass that. Let's put on the ballot.

I'll see what I can do.

On my poor plate. Like, who's the mayor now in Los Angeles?

Let's talk to the creator of Tinder.

Seriously? Yeah.

Push notification to all the apps.

It should definitely be a Tinder law.

Yes.

Yeah. Tinder is gonna rule the world.

So.

But do you find. And then do you find that you had to talk to your boyfriend about it or. He always kind of knew, because some guys don't know about Forbes. Like, I. They come around or they don't know.

Luckily, mine was good right off the bat. But you. There's past, you know, where you're like, hi, I'm. I'm here.

And is it oral sex that you like, or is it.

Oh, yeah, yeah. But fingers great, too.

Fingers great, too. Okay.

Toys are great, too.

You okay. And Harriet, you should have more than.

One toy, by the way. Chloe, I'm sorry.

Yeah, Chloe.

I'm working on it. I'm building up my arsenal. Toy repertoire.

Emily had to get storage.

I had a storage unit when I moved here. Just all sex toys.

I feel like I need one.

It was swords wars, by the way.

That would have been fucking funny.

They were pretty shocked when they opened.

You didn't even hear the story about my housekeeper. But, hey, go ahead.

I definitely think foreplay is a must. And I think, you know, guys automatically expect girls to know how to give an amazing blowjob and, like, totally treat them well. But it's like, sweetie, you don't even know what you're doing when you go down on me.

Let's talk about that. So then what would you tell them to do?

I tell them, like, hey, you can use your fingers, too. Like, don't be shy. And I. I totally direct them. I'm probably.

Give me an example. Give me. Because everyone was different, too. So, like, like. So give me an example. What you would do when you're with.

Someone for the first Time when what?

I was like, when you're with someone for the first time, he's going down on you, and it's like he's like going really fast.

Or he's like, yeah. I will literally be like, hey, it's okay. You can use your fingers, too. And they're like, what? I'm like, yeah, go for it. Like, do it.

Do you ever. Do you ever say, like, oh, too fast? Like, go slower?

Yeah, totally. It's kind of like coaching.

But, yeah, most men, they go a little fast. I always say go five times slower than you think and you'll be good. Because guys go really fast because if you start getting trying, they're like, oh, that's what they want.

Yeah, the jackrabbit.

Yeah.

Usually they're too hard. Like, it's a nice soft area. You know, you got to be gentle.

Right. Tongue lick. Any good.

Be gentle. Take your time. Yeah, it's not.

It's not a race, Right. So any good oral sex tips that you have for men.

Just do it. Go down on women. I'm not kidding. Like, I had this.

I think they should just do it. And then a woman should really just give them direction so they're not wasting their time.

It's true.

Yeah.

I mean, I agree with women.

We.

We are expected to give blow jobs, so we obviously get pretty practice. Guys aren't expected to give oral in return, so they're not as practiced. So I would say just do it anyway. Even if you're, like, really afraid or embarrassed that you're not going to be good. Because yes, some girls might not say anything and they'll just keep you down there for two hours, you know, and you're like, well, I don't know what's going on, but most girls are going to tell you what to do, right.

Or throwing a toy or your fingers or show them what you like. That's what I'm saying.

And I think it's huge. Like, if. If you're going down on a girl and she seems like she's not into it, you think you could do better? Ask her.

Yeah.

Because then she'll be like, oh, my God, he cares. You know what I mean? It's that kind of like, thank you for, like, taking my feelings into a pit, you know?

Exactly.

Putting that into play.

And to menaces Great point. Is that the vagina is the Rubik's Cube of life and every woman is different, so how are they supposed to know?

Right?

So it's an impossible. How do you guys feel about blowjobs.

I don't mind them.

Oh, great.

You love it. You love gay attar.

Oh, yeah. I'm. I'm a.

Well.

Oh, geez.

But you're good at it.

Opened up that door.

You did.

Let's just say I like the penis.

And you never like it.

It's a beautiful thing. It is.

It's not.

It is ugly.

See, I think.

I think it's a beautiful orgasm. I mean, organ organism. Like, the way that. The way that it works.

Right?

That's what it looks like to me. No, like, I think it's a great thing, but also, like, it's a scary thing.

Scary how?

I don't know.

The blowjob scares you.

See, sometimes it does. Cause I'm like, I'm kind of the same boat where, like, am I doing it wrong?

Oh, I get it.

Like, could I do better? And it's not quite the same for a woman to ask, you know, how, you know, am I doing okay? Because he's like, I could just find the next bitch to do it better.

Oh, we gotta talk about this. Well, first I gotta take a quick break here, but when we come back, we'll go blowjob tips and you'll come to my next workshop. I just had a killer blowjob workshop, I gotta say. Now we'll get back to that. Okay, so this is what I need to. Oh, I'm so glad you guys are here. This is my new favorite sex toy. This is called. It's not even. Okay, it is called the intensity. Check this out. Okay, do you see that looks like a rabbit vibrator, right? And do you guys know your Kegel? Do you guys ever do your Kegel exercises?

Sometimes. Yeah.

Yes, I have your app.

You do? Yes. Do you do? Okay, so I have an iPhone app called Kegel Camp, and it reminds you to do it. Stop.

Yes, I'm getting it.

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Oh, next time.

And then did he do better next time?

I tried to take it very, very slow.

Right.

No over excitement.

So we sound like the first time you kick him out. But if it's chronic, like it's every time or he just doesn't ever last long enough. Because how long would you say it takes you to orgasms?

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I don't like during sex. Like I haven't enough to know my body.

But seriously just depends on what.

Okay. What's going on? Yeah, okay. About 20 minutes.

Maybe it can be 45.

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And that happens a lot, does it?

Okay, let's get back to that. Before you. Yeah, they finish before you. Right. And then they don't care.

Then they don't care. They're like, oh, I'm Done. No, no, no, buddy. I'm like, I might as well just take out my vibrator. I get to town by myself.

Okay? So that. Right. So that's my biggest pet. That's one of my biggest pet peeves are guys who just have no concern. They're like, I came. She looks like she was having a good time. What's for dinner?

Right?

So you've had guys do that?

Yeah, I have. And I. They're like, oh. And I'm like, well, you can, you know, finish me off or I'm just gonna, you know, you can leave and I'll like, just go grab my dinner.

Do you do that? I love you, Harry. Do you really?

Do I have done that before? Yeah, because. Oh, I finished and I just stared at them and I was like, well, listen, buddy, I think there's two people involved in sex.

So how do guys not know that? I mean, younger guys, maybe. What's the age of guys you're with?

I mean. Oh, currently I don't date anyone younger than me, so I'm 28 and probably 28, like 40.

Okay. And you feel like it just no matter what? Some guys know, some guys don't.

Yeah. And also, like, let's talk about the maturity of males. Like, come on.

Right?

So they can be 28, but have the maturity of a 21 year old.

Most of them do. That's why most of them don't really mature until they're like 40.

And I think it was especially guys not caring if girls got off. I think that was really predominant in college.

Yeah, absolutely.

In college, to be fair, they probably even know.

They didn't know. Men didn't know about oral sex. They didn't know about pleasing women. And women, at least I was socialized that it was all about pleasing him, like making him feel good and how do I look? And it was. Had nothing to do with my pleasure, which is why I try to tell. Which I do tell women all the time. And my first sex talk I had with my niece, who is old enough now, I was like, listen, this is gonna be a quick talk, but it's not about the guy. It's about you feeling pleasure. And maybe you masturbate, maybe don't, I don't know. But figure out your body, figure out what makes you feel good.

I would have hated to be my daughter.

My brother wasn't there. He'd kill me.

How old is she?

She's 15. So yeah. I mean, even hiding like I was on a freaking reality show, my brother, my whole family Was like, never talk about what I do. I'm like, you people, Really? I have three nieces.

No, you got in trouble that one time she went to. And she found all the sex books.

She did find all the sex books. She's like, mommy, why does every book on Aunt Emily's shelf have the word sex in the title? And then she started reading. She's like, cunnilingus, lesbian, whatever. And I was like, oh, God, they never let her come over again. Okay, what other pet peeves do you guys have about men? Like, is there anything that guys do that you're like, don't do it.

Oh, my God, the list is so long.

Go, go. This is so helpful, you guys. This is the public service announcement. It is.

Listen up, people.

I don't know.

Where would I start anything?

The socks thing, definitely, like, take your socks off. I can't stand that. And I don't even like feet, but I like the socks to be off.

Right.

I think if you're. I think communication, that is the one thing that is important. Even in bed, if you're dating someone or whatever. Tell me what you like. Tell me what you don't like, and I'll tell you the same. Like, I'll tell you my likes and dislikes. I think it's just as easy as just being like, hey, I really like this, or I really like, you know, whatever. Just tell me. And so then I know. I know what to stay away from. I know what to like.

Like balls. Like, if you. Yeah. Or like, do you find most guys like, their balls touched or not?

Like, I have been with some that super enjoy it. And then I've been with other dudes that it was just way too sensitive, and they were like, no, stay away from there, because I'm gonna, like, go immediately.

You're like, cool, I'm out.

I'm like, awesome. So I know if I'm, like, getting bored with sexier, I just play with your balls and then you're done, Right?

Exactly. I can go back, put his finger on his perennium, like, in the middle. Exactly. That.

I do do that.

You do that. It's hard. Tell me.

I. I do.

I do.

And it's.

It.

Well, current one loves it, so it works.

Okay, how about in the ass? Do you do it in that? Oh, no, no. But just the premium, which is, like, the taint. Like, not the not.

Yeah, like, right behind the balls.

Just push up a little. Push it. Yeah, he'll come right away if, like, for your blow jobs that you don't like, giving me a road now.

Like, give me a road now.

I taught it, I have to say, just because I've never taught a blow job workshop. But I did teach one recently, and it was. And I had to do, like. Cause I feel like this show's teaching, but when you're teaching, it's very different. I really had to, like, get into it, and it's really. Yeah, I mean, I've done. I've talked about it a lot, but it is true that it's enthusiasm is number one across the board. Being into it, making sure that it's wet and having enough pressure. So, like, you never want to be like that. You want to make sure it's like, you always have the pressure, it's always wet, and you're mixing it up using your mouth, your hands. We'll talk off like that.

I feel like I'm pretty good at giving blow jobs. I haven't had any complaints, right. So I feel like I'm okay, but I could definitely get better. You know what I mean? Like, I gotta always get better.

Okay. I've got a whole thing. We'll talk after. Okay, well, but what is your pet peeve then? Is there anything that guys do or they don't do that you're like, why don't they blink? Like, I feel like kissing for me, when guys stop kissing after a while, when you're dating for a while and they just go right for the sex, or even if you just started dating them and they don't even touch your boobs anymore, I feel like they go right for your pants. I'm like, what? Yes.

What?

My nipples, they're sensitive. These feel good. And they go. Start unzipping my. I'm like, really? Like, don't you want to see naked? That's what we like. I don't know. I like, that goes back into the foreplay thing.

Mm, no. I think one thing for me too. Like, while we're having sex, like, okay, make out, kiss. Get into it.

Yes.

And then foreplay. But while we're having sex, especially if it's a long period of time, if the guy just does not kiss me at all, I'm like. I'm like, I still have a face. Boobs and a vagina. You have options here, right?

You have other things.

Just go vagina or whatever. And I feel like that's the only focus. Like, once I get on that track, it's like, you have so many options.

Like, right, kiss.

I feel like we should get a guy's opinion on this.

Oh, no, and the kissing and the boobs and the stuff.

Why do you skip all that and go straight?

Oh, because I think, well, it depends on how long you've been hanging out with each other throughout the night. Because guys, they have no patience, you know, like, okay, this is my chance, I'm gonna go for it now, you know, and they feel that they might mess it up between now and then of, you know, doing foreplay and stuff like that. You become disinterested.

Yeah, I can agree with that. Especially because like they do just. Are there one track, Find it and it's penis. And so, you know, once they like get into it, they think, okay, she's into it, let's just do it. Like, I'm hard, let's do it. But I mean, I think it's very sexy for a guy to like care about again, like my boobs and kissing me and my neck and all that kind of stuff. And so it's gonna get me more turned on. So I promise you're gonna stay hard.

Exactly, exactly. You could even be touching his penis at the time or like really grinding up against it. You know, it's not like your penis is being like in the kitchen making a sandwich. Your penis is there.

Guys like, dude, you guys need a pre game. You need to like masturbate before you go on like a first date. And you think that might lead to sex because again, you're gonna be like a one minute man, right? There's no way you're gonna last.

That's pre gaming.

You'll be way too excited.

It's true. That's a good one.

And what about like eye contact? It creeps me out when guys just constantly give me crazy staring eye contact throughout the entire thing. And I get so uncomfortable and I'm just like staring over here. I'm like, I don't know what to do.

Really? They stare the whole time? Yeah.

I've had a couple of dudes like right at my eyes and a lot of guys here.

I like it every once in a while, but not the whole time. I would be like, guys here.

Like, that's what you guys want?

No, but it was like solid staring, not even looking away. And I was. And it was so distracting, I couldn't even focus on, you know, feeling pleasure.

I was like coverings of you.

I was like having to look away, like just. I don't know. And then I did.

But when the guys had the dead eyes, you know, where it just like.

Or like the attempt of bedroom eyes where they just like awkwardly like, gaze at you and you're like, okay.

And I had that one guy I dated for a little bit and he, every time we had sex, he would say, I love you and be like, give me eye contact. And I was like, I think I ran away. No. Went to the bathroom and called Chloe and I was like, I don't know what to do.

This is really weird. I said, get rid of him.

I'm just kidding. Yeah. If he prematurely escalates the I love you and stuff.

But the eye contact thing is weird. Just don't constantly stare. Like, stare for a little bit and then look away.

Because then it's blowjobs meds type of question. Because guy we always look at, like one of the blowjob tips is like, look, guys want to see you. And like look up at him, but not the whole time. So it's kind of like, I. You don't want to look.

No, no, no. I. Jeez, let me see.

He has his own thing.

I already know what he's going to say.

No, I don't think that guys even care about that. They're just happy that you're giving them.

That's not true. I had a guy to spell out his fantasy to me.

The effing guys you hang out with are disgusting.

Can I tell you?

No, they're not.

I'm saying the normal day to day guy, they don't care. They're happy that you're giving. Look, they're happy I'm giving your channel guys with freaking.

That's such a lie.

Ponytails and leather pants. He's lying.

I've never worked. We've all been.

This is like the weird, creepy swinger sex guy.

I've never dated a swinger. You just mixed your whole menace. Does think that every swinger has a ponytail, which is partially true. But I've never been with a swinger.

I know, but I'm just saying the type of guys are having conversations.

Okay, but can I just tell you something really funny? On our last show, this just popped in my head. You were saying to me.

Did you. When I was in New York, you're like, did you have cook up with any exes? Did you have sex I had to think about for a minute?

Yeah.

I did not. However, I have a friend that I used to sleep with in San Francisco all the time who now lives in New York. We don't sleep together anymore. I've known him for years and I saw him. Chloe sort of reminded me our friend was like, did you guys ever have sex? I'M like, we did have sex, didn't we? Like I kind of. I knew we had sex, but I remember he goes, you don't remember when we had sex in the alley on Mission street in San Francisco? And I was like, see, apparently it's.

Life changing to them. And we're just like, it's another day in the office.

We've been friends for like 15, like we are still good friends. And I for like, I know we had text a few times. He's like, and in my office in the elevator, I was like, whoa, I totally spaced. So yes, I had text in Allie too. And it was hot.

It was hot.

Apparently I forgot cause I was hot.

She's like, punch in, punch out, you know, for her.

Do you.

Right, yeah, exactly. Well, right. Do me. Speaking of do me.

It was an amazing, amazing experience. Real quick. You didn't cut me off. He didn't even let me answer the question. I think it was just like with a guy's blow job. A lot of the guys that I talk to are happy that you're just giving them blowjobs. So they're not really tripping that you're looking up at them while you're doing it. Okay, whatever. But the other thing is just, it's suction, you know, like, yeah, when you're. You just actually just have it in your mouth and it's floating around there.

Like vacuum.

Yeah, it's just like that's the pressure.

Part I was talking about. But that's a better way to put suction.

Like.

Yeah, just some suction. That's it. And then everyone.

You don't want it to be guys are happy floating in your mouth. They want to feel it. Cuz you think about it, you want to mimic their hand or your vagina, right?

Yeah.

The tightness of that.

You can't mimic my vagina. It's literally perfect.

You can make a fleshlight about it.

And then the one last thing on a guy's point of view, the only thing that I think is pet peeve, and it's not even a sexual thing, is at least on the coast, I think women are kind of rude.

Compared.

To like when I travel through them. I always say about the Midwest, like when you travel through the Midwest or the middle of the country, it seems like even if you're not like trying to hook up with a girl or anything like that, they're just nice to have a conversation with, you know, I find on the coast when you're just being nice and cool and trying to say hello to a woman or just have a conversation because you're in the same space.

They.

Some of them can be extremely rude. And it's like, blow.

You're just saying in general, like, if.

You'Re like, the eye roll and just, like, walk away thinking that immediately the guy wants to get in your pants. Like, no. You're like. You're five feet from each other. You're trying to be, you know, nice.

That's so funny, because I know I'm the person where, like, if I'm out and I'm walking and I'm passing somebody.

And I'm walking on my blanket statement, that's like, all women.

No, no, no, no. Right. But. No, but I feel the same way. Like, for me, I smile at people as we pass by the street, and I get the weirdest looks.

Yeah.

But I'm not. I'm also not from here. And so I feel like my. I do. I go out of my way to be nice to people, and I feel like people just look at me weird. So I'm like, oh, okay, never mind. Yeah, so, no, I do. I do understand what you're saying.

Yeah.

So girls should be nicer.

Just be nice. If a guy's talking to whatever. I mean, if he's, like, being creepy and rude, then definitely, like, blow him off and give him the eye roll. But. But if they're just, you know, striking a conversation with you, there's no reason just to go straight to sex.

Yeah.

Just. Just walk away.

All right.

And not say anything to them.

Yeah, I see.

Okay.

That's good. Good advice. Everyone should be nicer to everyone. Can't we all get along? Jesus. What were you gonna say? Atari? Look, if you had something I said.

I think it really depends on where you are. Like, if you're at the coffee shop and some guy's just like, hey. And you're like, oh, hey. If you're at a bar and some guy's like, hey, how are you? I'm pretty sure that the bar situation. That guy has sex on his mind when he's saying, hey, how are you? Whereas a coffee shop, it might just be like, oh, what's going on? Do you have the time? Or something?

Even if he does, are you. What, you just want to shut down immediately or what?

See, that's the thing. Like, girls get into that mindset when they're in those kinds of situations. So, yeah, you probably are gonna get shut down if the girl's not into it right away. And don't take it personally. It's just the situation where you are and the interaction that's going on. And obviously, you know, a dance club, a bar is a, is a.

It's hard not to. When guys are coming up to you, you just want to like that girls.

You know the drink that they offered you and then tell them, we obviously get dressed up.

I mean, drink day.

We look a certain way. When we go out to those kinds of places, we know the kind of tension that we're trying to attract. And then when we finally get the attention, we're like, oh my God, what the hell? Yeah, girls are crazy. I know, I know, we're crazy.

What do you guys think? Right?

Yeah, I was gonna say, I don't know. I'm super chilled out. I talk to everybody. Even at bars. These two girls know me and I'll be like talking to a guy or a guy will talk to me and I'm just chilling, chit chatting. Most of my friends are guys, so I'm very comfortable. And these two will be like, you know he was hitting on you, right? I'm like, no, he was just being nice. Like we're just having conversation.

Even if they're hitting on you.

See, I do that too. I'm always really nice to guys. I'm from the Midwest.

Conversation.

Yeah, I talk to everyone too. And then.

Yeah, I mean, we're all nice people in this room. I'm just saying. I'm just saying there's a lot of girls out there that will shut you down immediately. Just don't take it personal.

Yeah.

Okay. I have a question on masturbation. Do you guys fantasize or during sex or masturbation? Do you guys have fantasies that you think about?

Oh, yeah. Yeah.

Tell me. Go, I want to hear.

You wanna go first?

No, please, go ahead.

Well, I will either like have fantasies or I'll like watch porn and get in the mood.

Okay, both. Let's talk about the porn you watch. Either fantasy first.

Okay, Fantasy first.

When you're not watching porn, I probably.

I think the one is just like a guy coming in and just, you know, throwing me up against the wall and like pulling my hair and you know I don't like something, right.

Being submissive because it's that feeling the guy wants and has to have you so bad. Just like throw you on the bed.

Yeah, yeah. That's what guys wants me around.

They don't know that you want that.

Just do it. They don't like auto erotic. I don't fix the. Don't. What is it?

You gotta see how she's feeling, though.

Yeah.

But I often feel that guys, when they, like, meet a very strong, independent woman, they're like, oh, this girl wants to be in control in the bedroom. Bedroom?

No, it's.

And a lot of times I'm like, no, I'm controlling in my life and I'm very outspoken. But in the bedroom, I want to feel like a woman. Like, I want you to pick me up, throw me around, and just like, do whatever.

Right.

Fantastic.

I totally think a lot now. Now when you're doing that, are you picturing the face of someone that you're into that you've been with, or is it like a blank?

It is just a mask canvas. Like, that's right. You know, it's whatever. I'm feeling like that day I could have just, you know, watched a movie and I'm like, oh, well, that.

That actually put his head on.

Put his on this body and like, whatever.

And then what up? Porn. What kind of porn do you watch?

I usually like, just like, watch it on my phone because I'm too lazy to get out my computer and like, you know, do that whole shame.

Right, but what do you like? Yeah, what scenarios?

I think pretty much like, everything. Like, anywhere from like, threesomes to like, even like, girl on girl, like, whatever. When I first started watching porn, I was like, oh, my God, this is so weird. And I felt like, really, like, dirty. I think the first time I watched porn, I was like 20 too, and I like, had to like, ease into it. And now I'm like, oh, that threesome looks fun.

Whatever.

And I'll like, just click it on and watch it and it turns me on. It might not necessarily be something that I'm into personally, but watching it, I've been like, okay, is it usually two.

Girls and a guy?

Yeah. Or the other way around.

Have you had a threesome?

No.

Okay.

Do you want one?

No.

Okay.

No.

Atara, what do you fantasize about?

I liked. So I think because I was allowed to watch inappropriate movies from a young age.

So I got.

So I got introduced to, like, sex scenes in movies. So I'm very turned on by sex scenes from movies. So I will go back and like, replay, like really hot sex scenes.

In your mind?

In mind. Or I'll find them, you know, or like, so actresses, actors, full frontal stuff. Like, I will go find that.

And that's like, can you give me a scene? Classic scene or something.

Well, Ava Green, do you know who she is? That stunning. I don't know any stunning, beautiful, British.

I don't fit in.

Actress. She was in a movie a long time ago. Oh, my gosh.

What was it called? It's.

It's set in the 60s. Anyway, she's full. Full nude. There's a lot of sex in it. I think it's called the Dreamers or something like that. It's absolutely amazing and it's a great movie.

Have you been with women before?

I plead the fifth.

Okay. And so you think about you. So you watch, like, romantic, like women. Like, we like the plot. So it's not porn necessarily. Or do you also watch porn?

So no. Yeah, I'll tune into porn. But I think. I think I like the storyline that goes along with it, which is why.

I think I like to find the movie female friendly. Porn is like the plot. Right.

But there's, you know, guys too. Michael Fassbender, full frontal in his movie. I mean.

Yeah, no, that. I do know who that is.

Hello.

I need to watch your movies.

Hello. And then are there fantasies that you. You have had that you want to try that you haven't yet?

I. Well, so porn wise, I'll go and I'll watch, like amateur orgies. And I think maybe it's because I kind of want to, like, be in an amateur orgy. Maybe one day.

You could totally do that. I get invites, like every day.

I don't know if I'm ready.

She hangs out with orgy guys.

Apparently the ponytails are like.

Yeah, you gotta bring a lot of hair, rubber bands and stuff. Freshes orgies. Let's work on that for you, Chloe. Fantasies, porn.

You know, I don't really have any. And I think.

Okay. A lot of women.

Yeah. I think it's because I'm not experienced as like I should be or that I want to be.

Don't shit all over yourself.

No, listen, I have shit to learn, okay?

It's true.

But growing up, Mormon porn is like. No, like, porn ruins marriages, all that stuff. Actually, like, had a personal experience with it ruining something.

And so, like, what, like at the. He watched too much porn. A guy you were with?

Family.

Oh, family. Yeah. Yeah.

But what's weird about it is now that I'm like, discovering porn and watching porn and I like it. I don't feel bad about watching it, but I just discovered it later in life. I think it's a very natural thing and I don't think. I also think it can help you in relationships. You know what I mean? Like, find out your fantasies, watch porn, and then be like, bro, boyfriend, let's try that.

Exactly. I tell couples all the time, just sit down, grab a seat, watch some porn together, like. Or lay on the bed and see, like, that's hot, baby. Let's try that. Because couples have such a hard time communicating with each other about sex that I'm always like, bring in a third party couple, listen to my podcast together. Or they'll watch porn, they'll buy, book, whatever it is.

Oh, man. It's funny because she keeps on bringing out the Mormon stuff. So half my family is Mormon. I. I just never been really close. Not my. It's like my extended family.

Right.

So it's never been really close. But my. My best friend, high school, was Mormon. His dad was the bishop of the Mormon Church. So anytime they got in trouble, I would just take the fall for it. So.

Because you were the non Mormon.

Yeah, I was the non Mormon.

So it had to be your fault.

Yeah, it was always my fault. So one time they got caught with the Pam Anderson and Tommy Lee sex tape. And of course, it was my tape, even though it wasn't right. So I had to sit down with the bishop and talk to him on how it was bad to bring that over to the house, even though it wasn't mine. And then one of them, like, dropped a condom in the house, and then that was mine.

I had.

I'm like, dude, I can't keep on taking the fall on this stuff. It's terrible.

Hopefully you don't anymore.

Hopefully.

They were banging. They were banging left and right, and I wasn't even getting laid.

It sucked, dude. I know. We've made up for it. Okay? Do you guys have any. Oh, I have a question for you. What? What, what do you wish, guys? Is there any one thing that you wish guys understood about women that they don't? Or if you could tell them one important thing about sex, what would it be? This is the public service announcement part one.

Important thing about sex or about women. Don't make a big deal out of it. It's just sex. Have some fun.

It's a good one. Atar. Thank you.

Especially because I think now in this day and age, like, I can. I really can have a sex with a guy and have no feelings for you.

You.

And a lot of guys are like, oh, we just. I rocked her world. She's in love.

They always assume that every girl's attached, right. That she's like, like, like planning the wedding.

Yeah. Especially because I'm a very blunt person, and I will go into it just saying, like, I'm not that into you. Like, we can have sex or whatever. And then it seems like they're like, wait, are you sure you're not into me?

Like, it's always the guys that you aren't, though. What about. Have you ever had gone out for the bad guy that isn't into you and then that hurts.

Oh, yes.

I don't think I have, actually.

But not this relationship, right?

This one finally stuck around.

That's good. That's really good. Okay, what do you say? Any messages for me? You're like, why does this keep happening? Guys should know this.

First off, I think that guys should not be intimidated if a girl's friends are majority guys.

That's a.

Girls and guys can totally have platonic friendships. And it's. You know what I mean? That really bothers me when going to.

Have been an alley every once in a while. But yeah, you know, you're not best friends.

But I would say, like, tell me what you're into. Like, if you want to, you know, you're like, oh, I saw this on a porn. Or I saw this. Like, I really want to try it out. If we're close and we're dating for a while, like, screw it. Let's like try it. And if it like falls apart and it doesn't work, we can sit back and laugh and have a funny story out of it. It doesn't have to be like fully serious all the time. Like, have fun with it. Exactly. Supposed to have fun.

That's great. That's. Those totally.

And go down on me.

Go down on me. Don't be scared of it.

Don't be scared about it.

I totally do.

Don't worry. Emily preaches that for you ladies. Every single podcast, every single day.

That's all. Okay. And then any favorite. Wait, how we doing here? In time. Are we. We gotta. We're good. Okay. Any favorite, like sex toy or product or. I know we gotta get you some.

I gotta learn.

Okay. Any sex. We said you use toys.

I mean, the rabbit is, you know, this standard. Been around.

This is your new rabbit. The intensity.

I'm gonna get you guys one, right? You like the. Because it has clitoral stimulation. Angie Spot.

Yeah, definitely. I have one little ball.

The intensity.

It's like a little bullet. Is it bullet? I think that's what it's called.

Little bullet vibes. Those are awesome.

Great for travel.

Yep, those are awesome for travel.

Yeah.

See, I do like my rabbit. I definitely. And then I have the little egg thing and it doesn't require batteries. You just charge it and it's perfect.

It makes it. It's a little.

Like the little egg thing. It looks like a little egg shape.

I heard those battery. I just have, like a string with a thing like roll.

Like, just like plug it on a charger.

Oh, it's probably Jimmy Jane.

Think so? Yeah.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

And that's great. You can, like, charge it up and then if you're clitoral.

You guys are clitoral girls. Oh, wait. G Spot, real quick. Quickly. Do you guys G spot orgasms?

Yeah.

You said you do.

I've had them.

Utara.

And you have had them. Few, but I've had them.

But you can, like, work on it, too. The thing is, don't be afraid to bring your G Spot toys in and show them what you like. And then you can move around and penis. That way perhaps it'll happen. It didn't happen. Well, no. And I think.

I think that that's a great thing. Like, I think guys would like that. Like us going into the room and being like, this is what I want. Let's do it.

Yeah.

You know, just take control.

Okay.

I remember the. When the first time where I thought I got the G spot orgasm, it was really confusing. It, like, the first time it happens, you're like, did. What was that? I'm not sure, because it's like this whole other sensation inside that. And you're. And you're like, wait, but. And. But it's not as intense as the clitoral. So you're kind of like, was that it or did I need to keep going? It's kind of confusing.

It can be. You got to work at it. It does. Some people comes naturally. Some people. You got to work at it. But it's worth the work. Okay, you guys, thank you so much. Harriet, people can find you or we're not gonna get into that because.

Yeah, I guess just my Instagram, I think it's at Harry Duncan 87. Harry as an H A, R, R I.

Okay. Not as in Harry. Harry. Okay.

Plastic Rhino. At Facebook, you can like our. Our page.

They're all fan. Okay.

Yeah, the band page. Personal stuff is personal. But you can like the band page.

Okay, great.

Or if you go on my Instagram, you can find her on there.

Okay, perfect. And Chloe. Chloe.

I just have my personal Instagram, but I'm trying to get more into the comedy thing, so that would be fun to follow and see what happens. It's just my name, Chloe, but with no e, so it's Chlointhedark.

Okay, got it. And we'll have this all on the website. Sex with Emily. You guys, thank you so much for being so candid and open and honest. I love it. This was so fun. Super fun, super fun.

Do more shows like this.

We will. I've been trying. This is what I love. This is. I think this is really helpful and from our listeners, like let me know what you want to hear and what you think of the show. I feel like people used to give us more. Like now we just get hundreds of questions a day. But also like what shows do you like? Don't you like what you want more?

I love shows like these. I mean you and I together. I mean I love it but let's do it. Having, you know, more conversations. Maybe we should bring more guys too, you know.

I know know it's real. No, but that doesn't mean.

Yeah, do one of these with men.

We will next time see how much.

Guys that she likes.

Or what if you had guys versus like women on the show?

Yeah, we'll have a whole friggin debate. I love it. Okay, thank you. Find you at Ennis.

Yeah, just across the board on Instagram. M E N A C E. And then you know my baby.

Yeah, my dog Churro. Is that what you say?

Yeah, my dog Churro, he has a.

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