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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our secret as bedroom eyes. They call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standard. Oh, my.

Do women know about shrinkage? Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good, but, you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, sex, relationships, and everything in between. And there's so much in between, Right? Thanks, everyone, for listening to the show. Happy masturbation month. We're about a week in. How's it going for you? How is that masturbation going for you? Anderson, I love you for so many things, and one of them is your ability to pull out the exact right sound effect at any moment.

That was a filthy one. Does this microphone work? That was filthy.

I have no idea.

I don't like to put fluids. I. I apologize.

You love bodily fluids. We were just talking. What? I do, dude. You do. Cause you're a dude.

I do not love bodily fluids.

Let me tell you how men and women differ. There's a lot of ways they differ, obviously. But one major way they differ is in their sense of humor around, like, men are like, fart jokes, poop jokes. Women do not find those interesting at all.

Yeah, no shame.

You just made a cum thing.

Yeah, that's totally different from pooping, dude.

I'm saying any women don't find that funny. No one's laughing. Women are going, gross.

It's masturbation month.

No, it's cute. I like it. No, I was actually speaking. Started out complimenting you and your ability.

To just nail it. Yeah. And then you said you're a chick and you don't like that kind of thing.

No, I don't like bathroom humor is what I'm saying.

I'm with you, sister.

Okay, whatever. I guess I'm thinking like my cat, the White House. I hate the scat.

Hate it.

Okay, so here's the deal about masturbation month, though. I actually made a commitment on a show a few weeks ago that I was explaining the purpose of masturbation month. If you've never heard me talk about it, it's every May. You're like, whatever. You know, I've got my hand. I've been using it since the third grade. What the hell? And women are like, yeah, I know how to do it. I just go, and it's done. And it's what? Well, I said, well, why do I need this month?

What do they do?

They go, here, I got my orgasm. I touch my clitoris. I do whatever. Stick my finger. Yeah. Everyone's like, oh, done, done, got it. Okay, like, what's for dinner? But masturbation month is time to explore yourself and figure out what. Like, there's so many other ways that you can feel good on your body that you don't know. So, for example, I committed a few weeks ago that this was gonna be my month to explore. Explore my body and try to have a nipple orgasm.

You're also going to get a unicorn as a pet.

I mean, you should. You should aim high.

Why? No, dude, because, listen, let me tell you something. You've heard me tell the story about my friend, masturbated every day for 30 days, didn't have an orgasm to, like, the last day in college. And that's how she learned, I believe that nobody spends any time at all challenging themselves sexually about the pleasure they can feel like. I'm not saying challenge yourself to see how many, like, math problems you can do. I'm saying, what if you could have orgasms in different ways? Like, what if you can move your hand in a different way? Anderson, that felt amazing that you didn't even know. Cause you always do it the same way. Our bodies have unlimited capacity for pleasure. Why not have this month to make it happen?

Yeah.

And I've never committed. I've never committed to the nipple. Okay, so it's the second most common orgasm. And I feel like I like my. I could do it. It'll be fun. What do you think that's not gonna happen. Am I embarrassing you that you're angry?

Your face is.

Am I embarrassing you?

No, not at all.

Okay.

No. What? Are you kidding me?

I never thought I could.

Come on now. Now are you gonna be honest? Look at me. Look me in the eye.

Yes.

Are you gonna be honest if it happens, Are you gonna like play it up?

Yeah, totally. I'm working. No, I'm committing to like 31 days. Putting in moments of. I'm putting in days. I mean, I can't do it every day. Cause anytime.

Thank God it's a 31 day month and not like that hellish friggin April.

How cool will it be if you actually break through on the 31st?

It'd be amazing.

Yeah.

And so all I'm saying is there's been certain things in my life where I have thought that this is what masturbation is. A mouth is. I thought I couldn't have a G spot orgasm or I couldn't do this during intercourse. There's just ways a lot of women, only 30% say they can. So you conquered the G. I learned myself. No, but I'm saying I taught myself.

You did conquer the G spot though.

Totally. I conquered it all. But it didn't come naturally. So what I'm saying is I had to try.

Exactly what else did you defeat? Overcome everything.

How much time do you have?

All right, well, anal orgasm. Ever have that?

No, I haven't worked on that one. That's like not top of my list. It's on my bucket list.

What kind of things you get to implement for the nipple achievement? You get to use clamps. You gotta use like feather dusters. What do you use?

I'm just gonna send out everyone. So no matter what you wanna find out, like also, all I'm saying is orgasm shouldn't be the goal. Like I found other parts of my body that are really sensitive that I didn't know were through this process of touching myself and self. Love, sex, masturbation.

You wash your hands a lot?

Totally. Dude. I don't even do it enough. It's on my calendar schedule now. It's like masturbate pops up. That's fun in a meeting when you're plugged into a PowerPoint. So anyway, I. Yeah, so I've experienced like different toys too that I use. Like hit your labia in different ways that feel good. Like they. Because the, the clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, but they all stretch down. There's like nerves.

Way too many.

We're so lucky. It's double that of the penis. So we. It's these roots. It's these deep roots that you could feel so much like women. You could. They can have multiple orgasms, but they just think one stopped. You know what? If you could have multiple. It's so limit. It's such a limiting belief by women because they've never had it through intercourse or through masturbating that they can't have a multiple orgasm. For example.

Why not? When a guy orgasms, though, there's a very good possibility he's creating life. When a girl orgasms, it's like, oh, good for you. Isn't that cute?

Yeah, right?

Really kind of pointless.

What do you mean? You're creating life if you're alone.

Oh, yeah. No, no. Oh, well, not alone, but if you're having sex, yeah.

Yeah.

Well, like, our orgasm, like, creates life. Like, makes the species move from.

And what is ours? Just a waste. Oh, you're saying ours is useless? 8,000 are a waste. No, because women have really hard in life and we should have something that's just like, really fine. Those heels. Oh, dude, don't get me started on that. You know what I'm saying? But I'm saying for guys, too. You're like, well, what can I do? You know, I always talk about, like, the Fleshlight. It's not just because, like, I work with them as a sponsor and they love the show and I love them. It's because I know guys who've tried it. They're like, oh, that's pretty cool. I've been using my hand forever. You could explore your anus. Whatever. We don't get into it all. But what I'm telling you is I'm teaching. What? The point is, I'm teaching a masturbation month workshop at Hustler stores, May 15, 7 to 9. And last workshop was so cool because I don't do a lot of workshops and I. I really enjoyed it because I got to meet all these listeners, you know, like, you do your after disaster live show.

Yeah, we've done a couple of them.

Right? And people come and they love you. They buy a T shirt. Like, I don't. So this was fun.

One girl fainted. She met you because she met us. Yes.

See what I mean?

And fire department had to come.

I, like, sit in a room with you doing pocket. Really?

It's a true story. Yeah.

When she met you.

Us, mainly Mike Corona, to be honest, but yes.

Oh, my God, that's hilarious. See, dude? So rock star. You're a rock star.

We're like the Beatles, pretty much.

You are modern day Beatles. I'm gonna do it. Last time it was so fun. I got to meet a lot of people. There was like 200 people there. We have champagne. What?

How many? Percentage wise, how many of them are creepy?

None.

And here's the weird thing.

Come on.

Come on, dear listeners, there's gotta be a percentage.

See? Okay, can I just tell you something that is one of the complete, like, misnomers. Yeah, misnomers, I guess. Or that's one of the myths about my. People think that there's like creepy guys like that are like sitting up. Maybe they are sitting up, jacking off, I don't know. But when they come to my events, everyone's like, really? Like, there was men, women, couples. Like, there was no creepers. We didn't have to call the police.

You didn't see them. They're hiding in the bushes.

You can see them. It's a bright. It's a huge store and people. It's bright lights and there's security. And if they were like jacking off in the corner, they'd be kicked out.

I can see. I mean, it makes sense. The After Disaster, the Film Vault. Those shows are not about sex. And we have, I'd say conservatively, 20% are creepy, creepy listeners.

But you guys are creepy.

No, we're not creepy at all.

Oh, okay. Well, then I'm not.

Just we're open and honest.

Well, so am I. But you're right. And my topic is about sex. So it's ironic that my listeners are normal. I mean, not normal. I hate that word that my listeners don't seem creepy.

Well adjusted.

They're well adjusted people who just want to learn about sex. So the last workshop was fun because Hustler Hollywood, if you haven't been. It's a cool store on. It's legendary. And it's. People think Hustler. I think like porn magazines.

Yeah. It's still got that image.

It's a classy store. I got it. They've got every toy that I. So I'm gonna do that, teach a workshop. I'm getting into it. I have a vulva puppet.

What?

A vagina puppet.

Does it have a name?

You know what I should name it?

Viola the Vulva.

Okay, email me feedbackextwithemily. What should I name my vulva puppet? But it's cool. Cause I'm gonna get into like these different parts of your bodies that you didn't know existed for pleasure. And then I'm gonna walk you through all the fun stuff, toys I talk about. After I give my workshop about the toys you might like to buy the ones I talk about, you can actually see them. And champagne and giveaways and good times. RSVP H A R S V P@LFP.com.

What day of the week is that?

Larry flintproductions.com? what?

What day of the week is that?

It is a Friday night.

Oh good.

It's May 15, 7 to 9.

Right across the street from the world famous Whiskey Ago.

Exactly. Let's all go for drinks after, masturbate or have a. Be appropriate.

That probably would not be appropriate, but you could leave it out there for possibility.

Okay. Will you come? I see. Tell jokes. Okay. There's one more thing. Okay, you guys, I'm trying to like not talk about this stuff at the beginning of the show. Cause I really just want to get on with helping you through your sex life. But the one more thing I have to mention because if I don't Now, I'll forget May 12, which is before this, which is a Tuesday. And it's the day after Anderson's birthday. Correct.

Good memory, kid.

I want to buy you a drink. And I'm doing a. You know, like when you listen to podcasts, you go see Anderson's podcast. Someday I'll do a Sex Elmy podcast. I'm going to be a guest, for crying out loud. Lynette Carolla's podcast. And it's gonna be live May 12. Tinhorn flats in Hollywood off Highland Avenue. Doors open at 6. It's 8pm it's free admission and you can't even RCP. So just show up. It's gonna be awesome. Cause she's hilarious. It'll be a good time. I'm the guest on the show. Love it.

She's such a sweet lady.

I love her. She's hilarious. Her show's so fun. I know. Love that woman. It's gonna be really fun and funny and just let's hang out and have a drink. Okay, today's show, we got a lot to cover. What?

She's overcome some crazy sexual stuff as far as she actually has sex with Adam Carolla. And she's even procreated with them. I mean, can you imagine? You're trying to find the nipple orgasm. She found the Corolla orgasm somehow. I, I, that's, that's a dude.

She loves him. Find some sexy. But she was on my podcast. You guys should all listen to this podcast. It was awesome. It was a very popular. It came out a Few weeks ago. And she said, you know what her. One of her secrets is in this month?

Closing her eyes and pretending it's someone else.

She never says no to the blowjob. Married for 20. They've been together 20 years. Never, never. And I agree with her.

I worked with Carolla for years and years and one of many funny things. But one of his funnier things that he'd go to often is he'd explain to the lady listeners and callers that he receives really good oral. He gets. He receives it really good. He would show his style, how he would do it. See, I like to put my hands behind my head and tilt back.

He did. This was years ago or years ago.

Yeah. He would always talk about what great oral.

He's clearly funny. Right? And she. Whatever. And she talked a lot about their sex life. And her, she's just fucking hilarious.

I love her.

So the show will be fun. So everyone may just show up. Tinhorn Flats. I think it's on my website or it's my Twitter. Sex with Emily. You can find it. Okay.

I've got some sex in the news for you, Anderson, and I'm glad you're here because I think this is like a really important study that came out and I'd like to talk to you about it.

Let's do it.

Men like morning sex, women like it late at night.

That is absolutely true, don't you think?

But there's scientists who spend good money and time actually proving it. Now I just thought so weird. Who knows Universities, I'll tell you. So I think it's obvious. Like, men wake up with a boner and they're like, oh, okay, yeah, let's have sex. Isn't that, like, why you have that? You're like in the morning, that you're like, this would be natural. I'm already hard. Let's go.

For me, because it's a good motivator to get out of bed. It's a great way to start your day. And a lot of the time I'm go, go, go. I would think that you are too. By the end of the day, it's just like, I'm really fucking tired. I don't want to do a bunch of work right now.

Right. And it feels like work to you at that time?

Sometimes. Yes, I get that.

Because you feel like, I gotta do this, I gotta do that. I don't wanna do foreplay.

Yeah. Plus I don't, you know, half ass it.

How about the weekends?

Weekends is like whenever it goes.

Okay, so listen, women are night owls when it comes to passion in the bedroom, while men favor the early morning approach. I'm like, no shit. But a new study has shown that women most desire sex. And this breaks it down to the times of day at 11:21pm but men's optimum time for passion is more than 15 hours earlier at 7.

This is terrible news for me.

Why?

Because my wife is never with me at 11:21.

Never. You're on Loveline every night till midnight. Well, you know, I'm glad she still loves you.

Not cool.

Despite a busy day in the office or running errands. The fairer sex are most likely to feel passionate between 11pm and 2am While men are far more inclined to feel sexy before midday, though with the preferred time slot of between 6am and 9am don't wake my ass up, like, if I'm sleeping still. Just have sex if you're going to work. You know what I mean? I, I, but I actually, I like both, I gotta be honest. But I don't like when, if I don't want to. You guys wake up, it's like the dick in the back. You've heard of that?

Yeah, I've heard of that. You don't. You don't.

But I usually, I'm easy. I'm just saying, if I'm sleepy. You know what? I actually don't. Can I be honest? This is really revealing. I like morning sex too. I don't like to say I like. I can get into it.

We're assuming.

Yeah, but like, no, but honestly, you guys, there's something that I don't like, but I'm actually into it. I'm like, you know what? Why not start the day with it? Like you just said, right? Great way to start the day.

Do you like it when you wake up and it's happening?

Yeah. Yeah, totally. That's so fun. I'm like, great. I'm in.

Some of the best sex ever is like, when you're both asleep and then you both kind of start happening. You know, it starts happening when you're kind of.

That's hot. I love that. So I'm saying is I love it. It's kind of like I wish, like I always say that sex is like, you don't go to the gym, then you go and you're glad you went. Like, I wish I could wake up and my workout's over too.

Like you said. Yeah. You said you've never had sex and then regretted it afterwards.

Ever.

I mean, you deal with strangers a lot.

Yeah. When I sleep with my creepy listeners sometimes that's really weird.

On the couch.

On my couch. Exactly. So it's no wonder that couples can struggle to maintain a healthy sex life. They feel frisky at different times. Is this the solution? This is the thing that's gonna change lives. The difference in sex is optimal moment for passion is revealed in a new survey. 2,300 people looked at the sex drives. So just let's see what it see desire levels for women throughout the day reach their peak like I said between 11 and 2am okay.

Is that daylight savings time?

Yeah. I don't know. 68% of women and 60 I wonder if there is like a moment in daylight. No, there is no overlap. Maybe when they travel abroad and they have jet lag. 68% of women and 63% of men have dated someone whose sex drives were different from their own. Which is totally common. And it's not even about times a day. But it's just even, you know how often you want to have sex and stuff. So there's difference how couples sex drives vary over week. They get they the encouraging part of the study. This is not going to be a bummer. Many men are ready for sex just before breakfast whereas women most on passionate last thing at night. And what is encouraging Most people tend to find sexual happiness in the end with a partner with similar needs. So I don't know that's like they're saying that you gotta find a night owl. If you're a night owl or you just compromise. You're like three nights a week we'll do in the morning. You know what I'm saying? Like what do you do?

I change clock like I change her watch and her bed.

But don't you think it's about. I don't think this is gonna be like the deciding factor in a relationship.

But especially if you're married.

I think it's more important if you don't like doing the same things. Besides like if you don't have the same rhythms as far as just how you move through life like you like to.

That's every relationship though. And it sucks when sex is sex.

Low does that mean is a bummer when there's a problem with the when.

You don't line up sexually. Even if it is. And there's so many different ways to line up or not line up sexually. But what. Yeah time is a big factor. I mean I've experienced it.

I'm experiencing it now most people that is one of the biggest killers. So what I'M saying is either how can you. Was it.

If you're a guy, was it like.

Since the beginning, so that you do have sex then when you don't want to.

Yeah, again, I get that. Safe. That's when it's. And she doesn't like to do it in the morning. She doesn't feel sexy. A lot of women, she say no.

I know, but I say women just go for it sometimes. Like, I think if you. If you give in every once in a while, then you're getting the variety of having sex at different times.

There's really never like a no in our relationship. We'll do it, but we don't. You know, that's the key to a lot of relationships as well, is you do things you don't necessarily want to do. And then like Emily says, once you start, you're happy.

Right. Okay. And I'm gonna put this on my website so you can all read the study because it's interesting, because it breaks.

Where does the study come from? You gotta cite these fuckers.

No, dude. Okay, so love Honey, which is the biggest sex. Like, sex research Distribution. Sex toy distribution company. So I will put it up there. But it also breaks down to like 6 to 9am, 9am to 1pm like, the best times of day. You should all. Whatever. So, you know, it's just interesting because mismatched libidos, different times a day, couples have. You know. Let's try to work this one out one problem at a time. Pornhub. This is a funny one. Did you hear this? Buys guy a new laptop after he smashed it to hide porn from his mom.

How did they find out? Were they watching?

Check this, Denzel. Michael was browsing pornhub when it froze just as he heard his mother coming up the stairs. He claims he had no other recourse than to smash the laptop. Smash it. But now pornhub is offering to buy him a new computer because he posted it on Instagram. Although the sticker covered laptop is a joke because it's a picture of the laptop they're sending him. They're serious about getting Michael a new laptop, which we appreciate his loyalty as well as his clear sense of judgment in picking our site as a digital destination for some adult. Whatever, dude. I'm sure his parents are gonna be thrilled.

I don't think they're gonna be reading about pornhub.

Who knows? As a result, he's kind of an idiot, though. Why? Because he smashes it.

You close it. You just close it?

No, but this is the thing. Let me tell you why I thought the same thing they wrote. As a result, we would like to send him a brand new laptop alongside some awesome pornhub swag to use for his continued pleasure.

Here's the thing. A lot of parents stalk their kids phones. Like there's parents who do checks like once a week on their kids laptops. Like maybe he's got these serious. Yeah, just close it. But what if his mom was like, oh, let me see. Who knows.

Yeah, that's bad.

No, I hear about this all the time. They check it every night. They know the.

I used to have this whole system where like I had like a. Like a very innocuous website at the bottom minimized. And then if anyone would come in, I could easily just like open that one up and you know, full screen it.

Yeah.

So then I would.

Everyone's got their systems like Sesame street or something.

You know, something very innocuous like horses and then. But I never came to that. Clear browser never came to that because you heard people coming and you just.

That's true. But now these. I don't know how old he is but how many other men now are going to smash their laptops to get free? I don't think they're going to do it all the time.

No. Obviously pornhub just wanted the story to continue so they came with a response. And they were giving him a laptop and they're getting a bunch of free publicity for it. Pornhub never.

Now we're giving them free. Oh, you do? Can I ask you a question about that? So when you're surfing for porn, would you say that you regularly like it's always the same thing that your go to like on this day that. Or is it more like you don't even know what you're gonna look for when you get sit down.

Or when you get to my age, you kinda like.

Are you planning it on your drive home?

Very few photos.

I might search for white.

I'm not on my way home.

So. Right when you get to the. I wanna know when the decision process is what you're gonna watch that night.

I just recognized this the other day and God damn it, my wife, she will kill me if she ever hears it.

She doesn't listen.

No, she doesn't listen to my shows, so.

Right, totally.

I don't know about you but like there's certain bars that I go to and whenever I go to that bar I have that drink.

Right?

Like this bar, I only drink beer. That bar, I have Jameson's. This bar I always order a 7 and 7. The only time I ever have ginger ale is when I'm flying on a plane. I don't know why, but that's different places in the house, different devices that dictates what kind of porn I'm looking at. I don't know why.

Like when you're on the iPad, you blink.

If I'm sneaking around, the wife's asleep, you know, late at night, and I'm on the couch, I'm going to look at certain things. And if I'm in the back guest room, which I never do to my feel safer. I'll look at different stuff. I don't know if it's safer if I'm looking on my phone. I'll go to this. You know what I mean?

Well, like, give you an example. Like, different, like anal is worn here and threesome is more on that kind of thing.

It's always amateur variety.

Always amateur variety.

I can't stand women who get dressed up to look sexy and then have sex on the camera. And they're looking at the camera. I hate it. I can't stand it.

It's the amateur stuff, which there's so much of it, right?

Amateur stuff's awesome.

It is still.

Even though a lot of it's fake, right?

Exactly. These days. But you know what? Who cares? They're not gonna look good, right?

I told you. The wife, she looked at the browser history. She was looking for something. Actually, she was totally innocent. This was years ago when we first started living together and she found amateur facials. She was typing in something in the computer. And back before I really knew my way around a computer, this is like six, seven years ago. And it would type up, it would auto fill whatever was most recently looked at. And she, like, her heart was like, oh, that's so sweet. He's looking up ways to give me a spa treatment.

Oh, my God, it's hilarious. Buy me a spa treatment.

Yeah, but she thought I was writing, like, looking for amateur style, like how I could do it on my own for cheap. And then the site actually popped up and she realized it was far from that.

How many women have been in that position? I always say that. Clear your browser histories, people. Okay?

Just use Chrome and go incognito. You don't have to worry about anything. It's fantastic.

Okay, that's great. You know, that might be the biggest tip of sex tip we've ever given to anyone.

Chrome browser, incognito and Bing is actually not a great search engine for many things, but it is the best for porn.

Who the hell uses Bing?

No one. Porn users only for porn. I read an article. I saw an article, and they were talking about how Bing became capitals of porn. And they're right.

You know what? They're probably happy. They're like, what the hell? We weren't doing well. You know what? Sex sells.

You got to go where.

You got to go where the money is. All right, all right. Bing. Because I was like, what the hell is. I even hate when Bing just. I'm like, I didn't want to know about you. Bing.

Bing tried so hard. Remember when they were trying really hard? How do you Bing? But they'll have, like, thumbnails, and then you put the cursor over it. And most of them will show you a little preview. Preview without actually clicking on it, which is so cool.

Only on Bing. Dude, you're like a Bing.

Bing is pretty great.

I didn't know that Bing is turned for porn. But you know what? Eventually we all turn to sex anyway. That's great. Good for them. Great business model. Okay, let's get into some emails.

This is all secondhand information my friend tells me about, by the way.

Dude, that's good to know. If I was. I just. I really do. I am going to be watching more porn than I am watching nipple going.

You're going to have to do something.

I know. You know what's funny? I wouldn't even have brought up the nipple thing, because you know, when you're doing a show that you often. Sometimes when you're in the moment, you don't really remember. I mean, the show, I know I'm in the zone, but sometimes you leave. You're like, I don't remember what happened or what.

No idea what happened yet.

Right. Everyone agrees to this. Who's on the radio? So my new intern today said to me, Lori. She was like, oh, so we're talking about masturbation month in the office. And she said, oh, so, right, you're gonna get your nipple orgasm. I was like, what? She goes, yeah, you said it on the show, like, two weeks ago. And I was like, oh, my God, I gotta follow through with that. So thank God they listen.

Yeah, I get such strange. Remember when you were talking about how whales without legs look like penises? I'm like, nope. Look like sausages. No, I don't remember saying that exactly.

I'm like, anything's possible. I might have, but I don't remember. Okay, so everyone, I. We've been getting. We've been getting a lot of great emails lately because I love hearing from you and I read all your emails. Feedbackexwithemily.com and a lot of them we answer and we're just getting a system in place. We're actually going to be. We don't always we want to let you know that we read it. Hopefully you're just listening to the two shows a week that come out, but believe me, we've probably answered it. If you've emailed us and we're trying to get to them all until I die, I will answer every single one. But before we get into the first one about what the hell to do about your missing sex drive, I need to talk to you for a second about something that's super, super important and it's beyond masturbation. It has to do with toys. Oh no it isn't. It actually works with masturbation. Good Vibrations, you guys.

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Yeah, good vibes Emily GVM GV EMILY20 and just go to sexemily.com love you all. Mean it. Thank you. Okay. Missing sex drive feedbackexwithelmily.com thanks for emailing Me. Hi, Emily. My question is about my sex drive. I've never really had one and was wondering if there are ways to increase this. I'm 25 and sometimes I feel like I should want sex more than I do.

I've tried masturbating more, and as I never orgasmed before, my friends convinced me to buy a vibrator, which has helped a lot. Although I still have never orgasm during intercourse or even when I masturbate without my vibrator. Also, when I'm having sex with someone, it takes me a little while to get wet. Even when I masturbate, I have to always use lube. Is this normal? I've asked my doctor about vaginal dryness and she just brushed me off. Any advice or help you could give me would be greatly appreciated. Celeste, why are you laughing?

I love the idea of a doctor just brushing her off after she asks. It's probably a very uncomfortable, hard to ask question.

Well, you know the thing that most medical doctor, like your gynecologist, whoever you go to, I mean, I've heard they have like one class on sexuality. Like really, like it's one class maybe that they skip. Who knows? And they don't know how to talk about a lot of them.

And how is that allowed?

Because, you know, they're learning about how to give you open heart surgery. I don't know, but they don't get trained in, like, how do you sensitively. How do you talk to sex?

A gynecologist would know a lot.

Okay, maybe your guy knows better than your. Your general practitioner.

I can see the general practitioner.

Okay, sorry, I shouldn't say your gyno. I should say your general practitioner. Your gyno probably knows more than most. But here's the thing, and I think the gyno should try to bring it out of you that if any doctor does, it does. But for men not going to a gynecologist, it's really uncomfortable to talk to your doctor too man to man to bring it up. And then sometimes when you do, they're kind of like, I don't know, take this pill or whatever, you know, it's.

Just I have a really attractive doctor. Oh, no, she's Russian.

But you don't want to tell everybody your sexual dysfunction.

No, I don't. Well, I don't have any yet, but I'm worried about that. I'm worried about the prostate exam.

Yeah, exactly. Are you worried about it or you, like, counting the days?

Part of me is like, hey, I have a little bit of an issue I'm gonna go make an appointment. Whereas, like, if it was just some old man with bad breath, I don't know if I'd make an appointment.

Everybody, they don't tell the. Yeah, I use condoms every single time I. You know what I'm saying? People lie. Yeah. So they lie to the doctors or they don't want to talk about sex with their doctors. Although you are looking forward to. You have a hot rush. That's not a good idea.

Hot Russian doctor.

Is that why you go to her? No, she's really good.

Sometimes I go a little more often than I should, but I think it's good. I think it works out right. It's like when I was a kid, and I wouldn't want to do it.

But do you get a bone? Like, is it the point where you get erect?

But she did spit a little bit in my mouth.

Making out here, she was talking to.

Me, and she was looking in my mouth. I had my mouth open, and she was talking to me, and a little bit of spit flew out of her mouth and went into mine. And she was mortified. She was so, like, worried and upset and scared.

Did you, like, lick it and say, I will taste this spit forever.

I have not eaten anything or gargled since.

Exactly. It's been like a year and a half. Okay, so why the hell. Oh, doctors. Her doctor brought. No, I'm like, where the hell are you? The doctor brushed her off. And I think that, like, she's like, oh, you're fine, or whatever. I just think also, doctors are busy these days. They see. Always. But, you know, they got a patient going, and they often don't take the time. Which is why you should listen to my show. Email me, go see. You know, try to find some good resources. There are people who can help with questions, like me and others in your world. And it might not be your doctor, but you should try anyway. Whatever. I don't know. I'm saying. Let's answer your question. Here's the thing, Celeste. You have to stop shoulding all over yourself. She's shoulding. She's shoulding. I should do this. I should do that. Why don't I want this? Why don't I want that? Shoulding.

I've never heard that. I'm not sure I'm a fan of it.

I should do. Why? Because it sounds like something bad. Oh, it's like the potty joke. Well, here's the thing. Putting unnecessary pressure and stress on yourself does more harm than good. We all know that. So just chill because having low sex drive is the most common sexual challenge that most women face. Are you under stress? Are you taking medications? Any depression, anxiety, self confidence issues? All these factors affect your sex drive. Having issues with your spouse, it happens. Happens to men too, right, Anderson? Sometimes you just don't want sex. Or that never happens, not at night. I don't like it happens with women more, I gotta say. So you gotta figure out, you gotta get to the bottom of it. You can go to your doctor, get a checkup. You know, if you find out that it's meds, you could get them altered. You can just try, you know, different like estrogen, testosterone therapy. But you're only 25 years old. So here's the thing. I think that you're really overthinking this and worried a lot about it, where I think you're completely. You're still exploring your body, which I love. It's totally acceptable that you had your first orgasm with a vibrator and you haven't been able to orgasm with someone else. Welcome to the club.

That's most women, right?

Yeah, it's totally fine. You're on your sexual way. Happy masturbation month. Go to it. So use lots of lube, right, Anderson? We love lube. Lube should be on every single nightstand. Lube can help you have orgasms in your masturbating, it can help enhance the experience. You don't get as wet. Okay? That is completely normal for women. And fine. Using lube is highly recommended.

That's why there is lube.

That's why lube exists. But you know, my baby, there's a.

Lot of lube out there.

Exactly. And my reasoning with lube is that a lot of women feel shame because there is a stigma attached to it where they think, well, he's gonna think I'm not turned on or there's a problem and I don't want to hurt his feelings. So therefore I don't want to bring out the lube.

And the guys, they're fine.

They do though. But the guys don't want to pull out the lube because they're like, oh, I'm not making her wet. And I don't want to even recognize that's happening. But let me tell you something, Gu. There's certain times a month where women will be really turned on. Doesn't matter. Same thing. Having sex. You did the same thing this time. And then a week later, she's not. Our bodies change over time. Our bodies change from week to week. And so just use friggin Lube. Here's the other thing. If you're using your toys, water based lube is always best. And another thing, maybe you're not getting enough foreplay. Finally, like, I mean, I get that you're not wet, but have you ever thought, like, are you warming up? Is he going down on you? How's the foreplay going? Figure that part out too. So there's lots of things here. Don't trip on any of this. You are exactly where you need to be. Just keep exploring, having fun, use lube, communicating, good times, sex drive. We're going to get it back, figure out all those things and go see your doctor. We should check it. Check out if you haven't. Okay, Emily, if a girl has sex with a guy and she thinks it was horrible, what are the chances of her doing it again with that guy?

This is obviously from Joe.

Oh, yeah, I also want to say, when you email me, please tell me where you live and how you listen to the show and how old you are. Yeah, definitely. Okay, Joe, I got good news for you. Women are not as worried about it as you think. The first time is. The first time really that great with anyone? Usually if it is because, like, it's the newness or you wasted or whatever. But really the first time is not as good as like the first time.

It's just more about the act actually being completed.

It's more like the anticipation.

We've been there now we've crossed that threshold and now we get to move on and actually do things and, you know, try different things.

Exactly.

The first one is just getting across the line.

Right. It's not even. It's not often that great for anyone. And if you challenge me on this, I'll say, you know, like, you know, maybe you were drinking or. Yeah, it was sufficient.

The first one has to be great, is if you know it's gonna be the last one. You know what I mean?

Right. Like if it's a one night stand.

Make sure that it's really good.

Like a buzzkill. One night stand. If you, like can't get it up or something and you're afraid they're gonna like put it out on Twitter or something, it's a problem. I wouldn't do that. Okay. So don't worry about it. Women are far more lenient than you think, Joe. Like, we're not thinking, like, even if you like, ejaculated too quickly, I don't know why you were bad. Actually, this is what of want to know what he did? Because he didn't Tell me. Like, like, I'm thinking, like, women are pretty forgiving about sex, you know, unless you insisted on, like, trying on her underwear or something or, you know, called her by the wrong name more than once. That, you know, can't. We're pretty lenient even if you can't. Don't you think?

Yeah, yeah, I think that ladies are very.

Some girls might be turned on by the end of our. We're really. We're super lenient and we're cool about it, so.

But you guys do talk more about it.

We talk about it. But here's the thing. If she likes you, she was in bed with you and you didn't do anything that was super offensive. I'm sure it's fine. Do you have a history together? Yeah. Well, was she laughing at your junk and then she laughed? I'm just kidding. I mean, what happened? I think it's fine. Don't overthink this. You're totally tripping on it. And so, you know, it really depends, you know, and also, like, how she feels. Ask her out again, but don't worry about it. And also, I was gonna say, if she's willing to try it again in the bedroom, let her take the lead, pay more attention this time. See what she wants, move slowly, all that stuff. But I think you're gonna get a second round. Guys, we all worry about this stuff, but believe me, we. I mean, yes, five times. It was really bad. Then, you know, I'd say it's time to call it quits one time. Don't trip. Okay. Non latex condoms. Dear Emily, I listen to your show frequently and I have a question. I'm gonna hook up with a girl who's allergic to latex. I've heard you talk about your favorite non latex condom. What is it? Thanks, Glenn. Well, Glenn, I'm gonna tell you. It's skin. It's Skyn condoms. And they're made of polyisoprene, which is a non latex material, which is, you know, super durable. And it actually, like, they come lubricated, they come in a bunch of different kinds, but they truly, like, their tagline is like the closest thing to wearing nothing. And literally, they actually feel like you're wearing nothing. And they feel really good and they're durable, and I love them because the thing about latex is the more you're exposed to latex, you could actually develop a latex allergy over time. So just go safe and get skin. I think they're great. You can get them at, like, drugstores and all over.

That's strange that the more that you're.

Exposed to it, the more like doctors.

And stuff usually like it's the other way around. Using latex gloves.

If you ease your way into something, your body gets used to it and builds up a resistance to it.

But latex, not latex. Yeah, and they also have. I just like the way they're packaged. They have larger ones for the larger male. They have lubes, all that stuff.

One of which sells best. I bet the big ones sell best.

Do you think guys just lie and then they like cut them? I mean, but the thing is, what if you bought those just to look tough? That is. We were talking about this. My friend, she's like, you know what really pissed off her new boyfriend. Oh my God. Was this Brandi Glanville? Maybe. Oh, Brandi Glanville. Do you know she is from Real Housewife. She was on my show last week. Oh, so funny. She was like something about. She's like her new boyfriend found condoms in her drawer and she was like, you know, he wasn't so pissed about that. He was just pissed that they were Magnum Biggs. Yeah, that's always a bummer for a guy who's like, oh, that actually won't fit me.

Do they sell like small condoms?

Like extra small?

No, those would never ever sell.

Micro phallus penises out there.

Dude. You don't want any condom that's this small anywhere around it. You don't want a book that's as small around you, but nothing on your nightstand that's a small.

Ex girlfriends that would love to buy them as parting gifts. Parting gifts. You know what I mean?

Mail them a box of really tiny little, little condoms I got.

Girls from like my past would probably love to send me some small condoms just as a fuck you every now and again. Like on my birthday.

Because you have a small penis or just to make you.

No, just to be bitches.

Yeah, exactly. Remember, that's what they do. They go right for the penis. So check those out. Okay. Emily, Emily, Emily. I'm 27 year old male.

I'm listening from Wollongong, Australia.

Well done.

Thank you. I've been listening for about six months now. I love the show. I think you're doing a great job. My question is in regards to lack of sexual experience. I was with my high school sweetheart for seven years, closely followed by another long term relationship for three years. My only other sexual experience being a single one night stand. I'm currently in a year relationship with the girl of My dreams. She got pregnant the first time we slept together and our daughter is now three months old. We had committed to each other before we found out she was pregnant. So we aren't just in it because of that. My partner has a lot more sexual experience than I do, ranging from sex with multiple people to bisexuality to many different scenarios, I. E. Threesomes and stuff and alike. He actually said. And while I don't care that she has experienced this, I'm rather glad she had the chance to. I find myself jealous that I haven't had the chance to try any of this myself. I should also say that I consider myself bi curious though. Never had the opportunity to go any further than fantasy. I know, Anderson, it's getting, getting hot in here. It's getting building here. Our sex life is great otherwise. We own a few sex toys, I.e. vibrators, Fleshlight, basic bondage, and plenty of lubes. We are very open with each other. She knows all this. She doesn't like the idea of non monogamy, so that's out of the question. My question is, does this jealousy I'm feeling. Pass? Is there pass? Is there a way to get past it myself? Or do I just have to suck it up and deal with the everlasting curiosity? Would love any comment you have on my situation. Cheers. Be thanks for an amazing show. Okay. What? What? Your face. It says it all.

Yeah, that's a tough one, dude.

There are so many multilayers here. So here's the thing, B.

How old is B?

People tell me how frigging old you are.

Australian 27.

He told me he wins. You win, B. He's 27 and told me where he lives in Australia. I love him.

That's plus 10 years, though, because Australian life is tough. So 37.

Dude, you can't do that. Okay? You need to ask yourself, B. Do you think you'll ever be able to accept the fact that you are. You aren't able to explore these curiosities? Because then you'll have to make peace with it. In my opinion. I don't think these feelings will ever completely go away until you have the opportunity to fulfill the desires on your own. Like, I think he's not going to be. And if you're a bisexual, can we just get to the bisexual part? I mean, if you think you're bisexual and you've never tried, I mean, let's look at like, Bruce Jenner, for example. Transgent. Came out as transgender. Did you watch that whole thing? I can't believe you had Even talked about it.

I watched the interview. I mean, which was not my style but I'm like, you know what? Everyone's gonna be talking about this.

I'm sorry, I can't believe we didn't friggin talk. I feel like such a. We have to. Here's the point. Everyone else, everyone else has you guys, you all know. But what I'm saying is these kind of things, like you're young, you're. Oh, I in what I know from, you know, the work I do is that typically it will not go away. You might repress it for a while, but it's something that you want to experience.

So you know, what with the bisexual for guys. Em, I don't know if you agree with me here, but maybe this is wrong to say or think but I think most guys that consider themselves bi, they're gay.

Yeah. Or they're whatever. People don't believe in bisexuality. There's some exploring.

I think that women can love. Be attracted to other women too. Because you guys are the attractive species. I mean attractive sex.

No, typically on the spectrum. Like if you look at like the Kinsey spectrum, the whole thing. I mean women are more fluid in our sexuality. We're like the spectrum. Men are usually in the Kinsey of sexuality. One to ten, you know, the whole scale. Men are more like one. Women can be like three, four, five, like we're flu. Men if you're batting, are good looking, right? No, it's not. It goes deeper than that. That's like surface level. But listen, I think this isn't going to go away. So I think. And you said you tell her everything. Did you tell her that you think you're bisexual? You said you wanted to have some of these experiences but have you told her the bisexual thing? So you got to get on that. Regarding the jealousy. Not sure this is going to subside either. If it's not just jealousy and I want to know is it just jealousy or you really want to try these things? Because that's totally different. If you're just jealous. Like there's some guys who are like, I can't believe you slept with all these guys and you had all these penises in your mouth and you're given 62 blowjobs or you're jealous because you're like, damn, I want to experience that.

He's jealous on both sides.

Yeah. So it's like all of it. There's a lot going on here. And so I just think you have to his wife. He's got to communicate with Her. But I don't trip on the fact that you don't have as much experience as her, but just trip on the fact that you look at the fact that you actually want to try these things and there has to be some serious communication going on with her. And I would just bring it up. You've got nothing to lose. You guys are married, you're together and time to do it.

Right?

She's married, right? Yeah, totally. Okay, whatever. Your long term relationship, you gotta talk. I don't even care if you guys have been together for one night or. Okay, let me put it this way. If you've been together for three months, you should be talking about your sex life. You should be talking about your desires and what you want and all that stuff. So people wait way too damn long.

And you gotta figure it out for the kid. For the kid's sake. You gotta figure it. Even if that means therapy and totally being open and honest, you gotta think about the kid before your sexual charges.

Yeah, I was just looking. I was like, wait, were they married? Yeah. You have the kid. Exactly. I mean, so. Yeah.

Because God obviously approves of your relationship. Cause first time sex, right?

So congratulations. We were just talking about first time sex. Sometimes it's bad. Sometimes you have a baby. Yeah, sometimes for the sake of the.

Kid, you gotta do whatever it takes.

You do have to do whatever it takes to make this work. And I'm telling you, it's not gonna go away. I want you to stay with her and I want you guys to maybe get some sexual things. You know, you can see a sex therapist. See a relationship therapist asap. Okay, Here's a woman who has a hard time with doggy style.

What's hard about that?

You know, doggy style position.

I'm familiar with it, yes.

You know, it's funny. It's men's favorite. I'd say it's like the top position that men can finish in most easily. Would you agree? Or top three.

I don't know.

Not for you.

It's okay.

Okay. A lot of men love it. A lot of men think it's just because you can get the deepest penetration in that position. So a lot of men like that. But here's Sarah. She's got issues with it. I love your podcast. My boyfriend and I have been having a hard time doing it doggy style. He's having a hard time staying. Staying in me. We have both done it before with other people. And I'm sure what the problem is, he's on the smaller side and I Do have a booty? Could that be the issue? Is there anything you could suggest to help us? I hope there's hope because I do love being in that position.

That poor bastard.

Well, okay, so there's an issue here. It's the combination of size and technique. So, you know, a Weller endowed man can hammer away in doggy style.

Weller endowed?

Weller endowed. He has a full range of motion. You. He's more of an anchor inside you. But a smaller penis can still make doggy style work. So do not be. Do not fret, Sarah. It's very pleasurably, I might add. But there needs to be less vigorous in and out. So he can't do the in and out. Totally fine, let that go. But what caused him to. Cause that's what's causing him to slip out so frequently. So instead, suggest to him that he uses more of a hip movement. Have him swivel his hips while he's thrusting, keeping his pelvis closer to your back end. Does that make sense to you? Another good. Does that make sense? Have him swivel his hips while he's thrusting, keeping his. So just don't let him go in and out, but he's more swiveling. Okay. Another good position. Lay flat in your stomach on a bed or surface. Have him lay on top of you. So this limits his range of motion, so he'll have an easier time. You can also put that way. What, he's more anchored. Yeah. But you can also put a pillow underneath you, underneath your pelvis. So you still have that angle but.

You'Re lying flat that she was talking about. That's getting in the way.

Exactly. So just put like a little pillow under it. So. And the reason why, you know. And also another thing that you can do is. No, that's what. That's. I'm not even gonna go there with this one. I just think that you should use a pillow and lie flat and that also. Yeah. Limit his range. Oh, here's another thing. The position, that position that I just talked about, laying down creates a tighter space. So what that means is there's more friction for him and then there's a better likelihood. Likelihood of him hitting your G spot. Here's the other thing. One more thing about doggy style. I was just talking to Playboy magazine about this today is that the thing about doggy style, for a lot of women, they can't have a G spot orgasm until their clitoris is stimulated. And so this is a great opportunity for you to use a little clitoral Vibrator. He can use his hands. Use your hands with lots of lube. Don't be shy about touching yourself and rubbing yourself. Because for a lot of women, it's actually, they have them at the same time during this position. So it can be so much better. So try some of these tweaks and let me know how it goes.

And don't look over your shoulder and go, I think it's because you're too small. She already knows were bigger and it stayed in.

Yeah, exactly. And he opens the door and sees the Magnum. That is a bummer. But you know, she loves and wants to work with it. I love it. Those are some good tricks. What's it called? What's it called when you. Tricks, like in video games? Like, you learn that. What's it called when you're like, cheats. Cheats. These are like, cheats on how to have it better sex. Cheats. That actually should be my next book.

Not bad.

Okay, how we all doing here?

Good luck. We're good. Good luck with the little peen and the big butt there.

Good luck, dude.

It's a tough one.

Do you have any friends who have confronted you and said, like, I'm worried about my penis size.

Mike. Catherine. Every night.

Oh, dude, you're right. On Loveline. I'm on Loveline, you guys. We do Loveline. If you know what it is, check it out. It's a podcast. It's Sunday through Thursday, 10 to midnight. Check for your local affiliate. How do they find their local affiliate?

A lot of our markets actually are Monday through Friday, 10 to midnight.

Okay. Lovelineshow.com but if you ever have.

Yeah, lovelineshow. No, I think that might be a little dormant right now.

Okay. Whatevs. Don't do that.

Turnover and this and that. We're getting that, but we're on Twitter and all that you can find. It's lovely.

What are you gonna say?

It's like legendary show. It's been on for over 30 years.

30 years. Dr. Drew. We have a good time. I'm on Thursdays who Live the Friday.

Podcast for guys that think that they have small penises. I direct you and everyone's seen the movie, but to the Hangover with Ken Jeong, who is a doctor. He's actually a real life doctor. He's as smart and as schooled as Dr. Drew. Actually, I used to have him fill in for Dr. Drew on a daytime show that I produced with Dr. Drew back in the day, as well as Loveline. He filled in a few times.

Super Nice guy. Really great guy. But Ken Jeong does have microphallus and he shows it in. I believe it's a hangover. I'm like 90% okay.

Like, it goes back to very small.

It's like, it looks like a thumb. It looks like a baby's thumb. It looks very small. Anytime you're really feeling bad about yourself, look for that. You probably find gifs of it online. There are people.

And you'll feel much better about yourself. Women are not as concerned about it as you are.

Plus, yeah. You're not my. You're not junk.

No. And also, like, I talked about this in the show a few weeks ago, I believe, or all the time. That women study came out that showed that 80% of men are like worried about it. It's like one of their top concerns about their penis.

It's much deeper.

And only 40% of women care at all. If you're worried about it, can you guys just listen to that? Whatever. Do we need to get through analytics? Do you need some visuals?

But if you're worrying about your penis, chances are you're worried about something else and you're just kind of blaming it on the penis.

You think they're using the penis as a scapegoat?

Absolutely. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Huh.

Interesting. About their penis and the size of their penis, there's plenty of other issues that you're just avoiding and just focusing on.

Just transfer to another issue and then you'll have better sex. Because you know what? Again, that we talked or the woman on the who called him. We should take frigging callers who wrote about their sex drive. Is that that our body issues and body image and worried about, like, how we look in bed, how we look naked are one. Another big killer of our sex dress. Emily Anderson. What?

You're a well traveled sexual woman, right? How many times honestly, have you been really disappointed by the size of a penis?

Well traveled. Hilarious. I was like, you mean my trip to Vietnam?

How many times in my life have I been disappointed by the size of a penis? Like.

Like, like where you're seeing it for the first time or you're feeling it for the first time and you're like, ah, shit.

You know, not. I can't even remember any time.

Yeah, see, guys, settle down. No.

And I was trying to think because I wanted to be really honest with everyone. So there was one guy who was small, but there was way other bigger problems. Well, it's a bummer. Yeah. So it wasn't about that. So, Anderson, tell me about film Vault.

This week, do you have a small dick and you're a selfish guy in bed?

Exactly. That was his thing. So I was like, ugh, why am I putting up with this? And you're not even like, you know, here's the thing. Small penis too. You're known for a lot of them, really great oral sex and pleasing a woman.

Yeah. You got accomplished. You gotta overcompensate in other areas.

Okay. How are you watch. Tell me about Zumba.

Last week, actually, we just did our five year anniversary episode, which congratulations the listeners, the longtime listeners, I think they enjoyed it. We did a retrospect. We looked back a lot. Now we're back to the meat and potatoes. What makes the show. And this week we did top five summer movie previews. So there's 140 movies coming out this summer in between now and then.

What's the one you're most excited about?

And I went over, I think around 10.

Oh, my God.

Yeah. So we, you know, I scoured all the, read about all of them, looked up everything. This is the winter preview and the summer preview, the two that I put in a ton of research.

But you obviously can't see them yet. So you're just reading and then you're predicting.

And we're predicting because we, you know, we see who's in it. We see with the caliber of writer, director, you know, the track record. So usually we're pretty good. We're about 80%, maybe 90%. For me, sounded like a humble brag. But the movies that I actually recommend, summer movies and winter movies, turn out.

To be like the Movie Whisperer last.

Year, Guardians of the Galaxy, which no, other than the actual real Comic Con nerds were excited about it. That was my number one most anticipated movie. And it ended up being like smash hit of the summer. I didn't like it as much.

What a skill. What a skill.

Yeah, yeah.

Okay, so check out the film vault. Check out Anderson and Anderson. Okay. Comes you guys again. May 15th, hustler, Hollywood. What?

And we talked about Roar. Roar is this crazy movie.

What's about.

It's about 120 big cats and they actually like Melanie Griffith's in it and it's from 1981 and they actually like maimed 70 of the cast and crew. There was like over a thousand stitches.

Administered, being re released.

Roar. It never got released in the, in the United States and now it's just, just seeing the light of day. I went into depth about Roar.

Okay. I love when you do that.

Okay.

Okay. Love it all right.

June, the 15th. Go see Emily.

Oh, yeah, yeah. It's all my. Well, it's kind of on my website, social media. Follow me on Twitter, Sex with Emily, Facebook, Sex with Emily, Instagram, all that stuff. Just do it. If you like the show. It's kind of like you get me during the day. You get some funny little information. You get blogs, you get good shit. Okay, so everyone, thanks for listening to the show. Oh, we need interns. We're hiring. Be an intern. It's super fun. You get lots of sex toys and good times and free sex toys, tips 24 7. Thanks so much. And also, yeah, do you like the show? Tell your friends about it. Like, friends don't. Friend don't. Friends don't let friends not have the best sex of your life. So tell them. And thanks for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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