Sex Toy Secrets with Sunny & Chad

Okay, so let's talk about one of my favorite ways to upgrade your solo or partner play. It is the Hera by Jeju. It's a sleek, powerful rabbit vibrator that's basically the best of both worlds. It's incredible for internal stimulation and those rumbly, mind blowing clitor vibes Jaejoo is known for. Here's what I love. The external ears are powered by the same motor as the Mimi, which you've heard me rave about before. I love the Mimi. And the internal arm delivers deep, deep, satisfying vibrations right to your G spot. It's super soft, ultra quiet, and it moves with your body. So whether you're using it solo or with a partner, it has this feel like it's made just for you. And honestly, it's kind of a no brainer. Everyone loves the hera and right now you can get 20% off the hera using code emily20@sexwithemily.com hera that's emily20 for 20% off@sexwithemily.com h e r a so if you've been looking for a toy that delivers powerful blended orgasm with thoughtful design and serious quality, this is it. So go treat yourself. You deserve it. Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show we have Chad and Sunny, the hilarious host of Playboy radio's Ask the Doc podcast. They're joining me in the studio to swap secrets from the adult industry and share sex toy hacks. Plus, we'll be answering some of your emails, so thanks so much for listening. Okay, everyone, you know I've been talking to you about my candles for a while now. My Emily Tony candles. And if you have not tried them yet or if you don't even know what how a massage candle is, they are amazing. Truly. And it's not just because they have my name on them. But the truth is I had tried massage candles before and they were like, okay, I love the concept of a massage candle. I love the fact that a regular candle, you can pour it on your partner and give a massage. That's all great. But the other ones that existed I just felt were kind of like sticky and didn't make you feel good and didn't smell good. And so I made these candles that are, are like vegan except for the beeswax part, but they're coconut oil and soybean oil. They smell amazing and they feel amazing. And the feedback from my listeners have been great, like people, because I eventually changed their life. And I got a listener who just emailed me and said my girlfriend was skeptical at first, but agreed to try the warm oil on me first and gave me a back rub. Then I reciprocated, and we had amazing sex. She cannot stop talking about how good the candle smells and how great the massage oil feels. And I'm convinced that the scent and the candle helped us through some of our barriers to sex we face lately.

Yeah. And in general, it's just a great candle. Anyways, here's the thing.

You don't have to give massage. I'm doing a massage every night. I, like. I let it when I get home because it's aromatherapy. She's not getting happy.

Didn't your assistant Madison, like, give a candle to her boyfriend's parents, but took.

It out of the box so they wouldn't know that it was a massage candle? And then they, like, googled it or something? Right. Madison.

She accidentally stuck her finger in the wax.

Oh.

And then she knew she.

So she accidentally, like, stuck her fingernail.

In the wax of the candle, and she, like, was rubbing. It was like, this isn't wax. What is this? And I was like, it's not massage oil. And she starts rubbing it all over her arm. It's not even lit yet because you don't even have to light it for that part of her. She goes to her husband and starts rubbing it on him, and I was.

Like, oh, my God, I'm gonna die.

Like, this is so awkward. But they invited you back, though, so.

It'S just a good candle.

It's a great candle. Okay, so now you can get a full size Emily Tony candle for $28. We just. We're having special names right now on the site emilytoni.com. and I think you use code Emily still, and you get percentage off. Super awesome.

It's good for Thanksgiving Coming up.

Okay, everyone, thank. Oh, yeah, it's great for Thanksgiving.

Just put it on the table with the turkey.

Totally. And then everyone gives a massage there afterwards. My family all sit around on Thanksgiving and watch the Kim Kardashian sex video.

Oh, I thought it was a good time. Your mom's sex video that she put out.

Oh, my God. Dude, we're gonna talk about it. Okay, everyone? So thanks for listening, and check out the candles.

Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.

Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day.

Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh, my.

The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh, my God, I feel so good. Being bad feels pretty good.

You know, Emily's not the kind of.

Girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com, where you can check out all of our podcasts. Sign up for the mailing list. Sign up for the goddamn mailing list if you haven't already, because, like, our emails kind of rock. And thanks, everyone, for listening. I appreciate it. And we have some special people here in the studio. We have Menace.

Hello. Hi.

Hi, Menace. So good to be with you.

Nice to see you.

Per. Huge. And we also have Chad Breiverman and Sunny Rogers. They host Ask the Doc on Playboy Radio, which is also a podcast. Correct.

Podcast.

And.

And it's live.

And it's live.

And it's live.

I know nothing. Sunny knows everything. I just. They just drag me.

You guys are such a cute little pair on your show. You're like, you know, we got a.

Little thing going on.

I know. I love it.

Okay, so she keeps me in line.

That's good. Yeah, that's what keeps me good.

Nipple clamps are for.

To keep you in line. Are you wearing nipple clamps right now? Cause you seem sort of tame.

I took them. I took them off before we came in. I was nervous.

You know what? I'm excited about having you guys on the show. There's a lot of things. But I was thinking about it because I was actually listening to your show, and I was thinking, like, so I have a lot. We talk a lot about toys on my show. Some, you know, I think you've heard it. Yeah, I mean, we do, like, a lot. And it's not just because, you know, people sponsor me, whatever. It's like, I just think that toys are, you know, they're a huge part of expanding your sex life. But what I love usually, you know, it's a lot of women talking about toys, and I'm like, menace, please take the Fleshlight home and try it. Like, please. You know, he's like, not as into it, which is fine. But I love that you're straight. I think I believe you're a straight man. I'm not.

I think so. Yeah. No.

Okay. So far that you've actually. I'm assuming I didn't listen to all your things. But you. You have had. And your family started that, started Doc Johnson, which was, you know, which is amazing sex. You grew up with sex toys.

Thank you.

But not only that, you, I'm assuming, use sex toys with women.

Yeah.

I mean, and I've never had a guy who was really that well versed on the show that wasn't, like, working for. I guess you do work for a company, but you're also, like, a dude. You seem like you would give tips and, like, talk about your experience, like, how you feel about using toys with women and, like, what's been your experience. Cause I just feel like we haven't had a lot on the show, and I just got really excited about other things you talked about. But that's just really cool.

Yeah, No, I mean, for me, like, I grew up in the business, you know, my family talk to me about that. I mean, just something that I just haven't been, you know, it was never taboo to me. It was always like, this is what we did. Like, this is our family's business. You know, this is. I don't know what affords us the opportunity to, you know, this is how you go to school. This is how you do this. This is how you do that.

Right. Daddy makes dildos.

It's sex toys. It's dildos.

And I love that.

I think when we were younger, obviously, obviously there was like, you know, kind of like the fodder for, like, you know, my friends and whatever. Like, oh, he makes fake dicks and like, that type of stuff.

So his dad started Doc Johnson, which is for how many years?

40 this year.

Well, that's amazing.

2016 is the 40th. We're just getting excited for it already.

So was there any point, like, in your. I mean, like, was it a little bit embarrassing and then it got funny or it was just always.

No, I mean, so I think when.

I was 12, it might have been embarrassing if you knew about that.

I think that there was something for me, I mean, I've told the story before, but I'll tell you, I mean, you know, I didn't know what my family did. It was back. I mean, I'm 33, so when I was growing up, it was very taboo. And like, my dad, Ron, he didn't tell anybody what he did. It was, you know, the company was health devices. It was like import, export, Very, like, hush, hush. And my dad's a big guy. And, you know, I thought. I honestly probably grew up thinking, like, he was kind of like, mob Related or something, because he just, like, kind of looks like it. And so they just never told anyone what we did. And I just. I went there one time, like, take your son to work day. And my mom was like. My mom was like, don't take him anywhere. Like, we do not want him. I don't want him walking around. He has to stay in your office. Like, that's that. And my dad obviously just proceeded to, like, parade me around the entire place. I was young. I was like, I don't. I always say I don't know how old I was, but I knew. I knew that I had a dick. And I knew that my dad had a lot of them. There was just dicks everywhere. That was what I knew. That's all I knew. And I also knew, though, like, not to say anything. Like, I didn't, like, rat him out to my mom. Like, I didn't tell her. Like, I didn't tell anybody. And probably six, seven, eight years later, I actually found out for real from an older stepbrother. I was telling a friend, like, what my dad did. Like, whatever the bullshit story was of the day, you know? And my stepbrother was like, that's not what your dad does. And I was like, what's he do? And he goes, he makes fake dicks and pussies. And I was like, I swear to God, I was like. I knew it. Like.

It actually was, like, a huge burden off of my shoulders. And I actually didn't have a choice in the matter. Cause one of my best friends was there. We were probably 13 at the time. I mean, he went the next day and told everybody. So I think maybe there would have been that, like, lag time of embarrassment or, like, what do I do now? How do I head off this storm? But the truth was, when I got to, like, school the next day, like, it was just. It was known. All of a sudden, everyone like, look, I think my teachers knew, obviously.

Yeah.

And it never wasn't kind of cool. Like, even at that young age. Like, my friends were just kind of like, well, you're Chad. We love you. Like, this is cool. Your dad's cool. And, like, so then for me, it was just your parents super cool.

Like, was your dad the cool guy?

Well, I mean, they're. Yeah, they're cool people. I mean, then obviously they're super, like, you know, liberal. And just, like, you gotta be. It wasn't. You know. I mean, like, my dad always said, like, he didn't tell people what he did because he thought I'd be Judged. But the truth is, they probably kept the most kosher house of all my. You know what I mean? Like, it's always the people that are kind of, like, doing it that are, like, not super crazy. Like, he's not having Eyes Wide Shut orgies at his house every weekend.

Well, not when you were there.

Not when I was growing up, but maybe now.

So this is a good intro to you. So you go, okay. And, Sunny, how did you get involved with all this? You also work at Doc Johnson and do the show together? I do. Okay.

It's kind of funny. I've been in this industry for 15 years now, and I started. I answered an ad, and I was working for. It was an aerospace company that made inertial devices, and I did their licensing for DoD. I got high security items out of the country, and so I answered an ad for looking for licensing, and this recruiter actually placed me with an adult company, and it was licensing adult names. It was Playboy, Hustler. It was like, brands, licensing brands. And I went, well, this is more fun than aerospace.

Sex.

Trump's everything. Okay. It's true.

Yeah. So that was exciting.

Okay.

I was exact opposite of Chad. I grew up. My dad's a total hippie. Grew up in downtown San Francisco.

Oh, okay. That's where we're from. Cool. Yeah. I moved here three years. We both moved here three years ago.

So you understand.

Totally, totally.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And my mom was exact opposite of my dad, so it was 12 years of Catholic girl school with the uniform and, you know, my mom with the twin set and the pearls, and we don't talk about sex. And then as soon as I got into college, I became a fiend. I was like, oh, my God, what have I been missing?

This is what happens. They don't realize that they're making you wear the skirt. The Catholic school girl. It's all gonna go bad. It's all gonna go wrong.

You know, try to shun them from all that or, you know, hide them from all of it. And then, boom, Once they get out in the real world, we just had Moxie Suicide on the show Suicide Girl, right? Yeah, a couple weeks ago. And she. Same thing with her. She was, like, all buttoned up, family. And then the moment that she got to go out in the real world by her, by herself, then it's just like.

Yeah, exactly.

You know, just opened the floodgates for everything.

Yeah. So this was the perfect storm, but.

Sunny's like, the crazy one somehow, and I'm the tame one. I grew up in it. I feel like I'm the tame one in the relationship.

Really?

Oh, yeah.

What do you. Do you have a boyfriend now? Are you married? Yeah, husband, actually.

A husband. And Friday, this Friday is our 16th year wedding. Oh, my gosh.

Happy anniversary. That's great.

So what a good one.

That's awesome. Okay, so why is she. Why are you the crazy one? Why does he say that?

Because I'll try anything several times.

What's the most recent thing that you've tried? Because you think. Yeah, most recent thing you've tried?

Well, we challenge each other on the show, and my latest challenge was to wear Benoit balls longer than 10 hours, because that was my previous record.

Personal record.

Fenimore balls are kind of like Kegel exercise. They exercise your.

Your PR.

Yes, yes. And so I wore them for 12 hours on Friday and Saturday during our show. I was. Sorry, it was. I was a little frustrated the whole show. Saturday, they were a little sore. But I swear I felt like Superwoman. I actually felt like I could put a champagne bottle down there and just pop the cork. Not a problem.

Because you think it's strong?

It was, like, strong.

Which. Ben, which is the. Greg, which ones did you use?

I used the black rose. They're a little weighted and they've got silicone and I'm a big fan of silicone.

Okay, right. And have you. Do you always do your Kegel exercises regularly?

I do, and I love Kegel waggle wands because they're so fun. You can just put like, the little tip in and hang and really show how strong you are and, like, whip it around and stuff. It's totally important.

It's so important for women to do them. And I talk about it. I have an iPhone app called Kegel Camp, and it reminds you to do them every day. Yeah, I know. It's one of my things that I. Yeah, really? Because it's so important.

Now you. You tried out some balls for a while. Yeah.

Yeah. I used to wear them around all the time. But then now you're off the balls. Well, now I have this new thing called. I have this amazing. Have you guys heard of the intensity? By intensity, it does your Kegel exercises for you? No, it is the most. It looks like a rabbit vibrator and it's.

Oh, it's the cow item, right?

The what?

It's a cow item.

It was for like, five minutes, but now.

Oh, it's not anymore?

No, they tried.

Doesn't it, like, electrocute you too?

No, it has electrostimulation that stimulates your kaka muscles. No, it's not electrocution. It's not the, like all that, like, Jimmy Jane. I love it. So for five minutes a day I do it and it's like actually really relaxing and zen and it's the most like. I just. I have to say, like, it's. It's changed because I remember to do them sometime, the app. But now it's like. It does it for you and then you have like an orgasm after. But we did a show about it. Everyone in my office tried one. All the girls. We were all in here. And Manus wasn't invited that day. No, but they were like, oh, I had the orgasm before and then I did it, you know, I was like, oh, I warmed up for it. But like.

Tightens and it. You can fit your size. Like you squeeze this. It's hard to explain. It's so hard to explain in the show. So it tightens around you and right around for your muscles. And then you do it for five minutes, put the electro gel on it and then it's a rabbit vibe. It's awesome. But any.

Either way, you don't do your kegels.

Unfortunately, I. Oh, man.

You got to.

Then you won't be a premature ejaculator anymore.

I know, right?

Just kidding. I don't know that he is. I've never seen his penis. That's all hearsay anyway. That's cool. But you could use balls. Anything. It's so. Balls. I love talking about balls.

Have you seen the ones that are actually made of stone? They've got crystals and. Are they like geodes?

Do you guys make.

No, no, we don't make them. But they'll ground you. Like, there's different ones. Crystals have different energies and so you can put in whatever you need and it actually grounds.

Is it like the stones that you put in the scotch and stuff? That type of stuff?

Kinda, yes. Kind of. Sweet.

I just heard. I was at the sexual expo in New York and they were. There was a woman there, had all the crystals. She gave me some like. She's like, this one's for that. I'm like, well, everyone's calming and relaxing.

Sounds like a fish concert.

And then she. And then, yeah, she gave me some crystals, but I didn't know that she had the kegel balls there for that. That would make. That's like the perfect storm of vaginal pelvic floor.

Yes.

Call me. Relax me.

Amazing. Real quick. So you guys also do a radio show. What time is it on? When is it on?

How can we Find you every Friday. Every Friday from 11 to noon. And that's Pacific Standard Time.

All right, sweet.

And what. What do you guys usually cover?

We cover. Do you want to talk?

Oh, man, I was going to let you go with this cover.

Sorry. Playboy Radio Live.

It's live.

You have to have SiriusXM or.

I think it's Playboy Radio. It's playboy radio dot com. It's available on SoundCloud. It's available on itunes. It's called Ask the Doc. I mean, basically, the concept of the show kind of started very organically again with Sonny and I, with our back stories and how we got into the business and whatnot. Like, we find, as I'm sure you guys do with this, Like, a lot of people will talk to you about sex. Like, not necessarily, like, in that sort of environment. Like, it could be at a dinner party, it could be anywhere. They find out what you do, and all of a sudden we start getting a lot of questions. Our questions definitely more so with sex toys. But that does get into relationship questions and sex questions in general and all this, really. We have a educational program at our company called Ask the Doc, which is different educational, like, pamphlets and stuff. So, like vibrators 101, like analplay 101, like, that type of stuff. Just the very basic, like, layman terms of, like, what this means, what it is, what type of item is this, you know, what type of material is it made out of? We just kind of took that concept and like, translated it into a show and just we answer a lot of questions. Like, the meat of the show is the Ask the Doc segment, which is people.

People call in with questions, call in with questions, write in with questions on your show.

I think the biggest for us.

I hate people ask me that question, by the way, but I'm asking it to you.

No, you get. I think the biggest thing right now, I think that I hear all the time is just like, I want to bring, like, I want to do something with my partner, sex toy related or not. And I don't know how to talk about it. Like, I think the community. Yeah. Are they afraid to.

So hard to, like, just break through.

Someone wants to bring a vibrator in, but they don't know how to tell their boyfriend because they're afraid their boyfriend's gonna be, like, crazy about it. Or their boyfriend wants female play and they don't. They don't want their girlfriend to think that they're, like, gay because they want, like, angel.

Oh, prostate, pleasure.

It's all these things that I think, like, we can recommend toys. And there's things that are great for beginners. There's things that are great for you girls who are walking around San Francisco with kegel balls in.

We both did that.

And then, you know, there's there's the like kind of just things that sometimes it's like, okay, you got to talk. You got to talk about it. About like what you want to do. Because if they don't want to do it, and that's just steadfast. You have a decision of like, is this important enough to you to want to do it? And maybe you need to find someone who's just kind of into that sort of thing with you. Or it's not. But if you don't talk about it, it's like it's not going to get on anymore.

People wait so long to talk about things. We were just, you know, and Oliver, we always hear like, I've been with my boyfriend for two years now and I've had this vibrator sitting in my drawer. And I don't know, and I need a better phrase, but it's like ripping a band aid off. You just gotta do it. You're not gonna die. You always say like, you just gotta ask, you know, hey, so I think this would be kind of fun, you know, just kind of bring it in. And maybe nothing too intimidating, you know, but something smaller. Like I was gonna say my first vibrator was the Pocket Rock. Do people tell you this all the time?

Yeah, I mean, that's what we recommend. I mean, that's what we recommend. It's the best.

You can't.

It is still. Yeah. I love it.

You have to have it.

You have to have it.

It's one of those items where I'm just like, you just have to have it. Like it's gonna get you off. It's gonna work. It's non threatening, it's discreet. If someone's a little.

It's a clitoral vibrator.

Yeah, I feel like that with doing the show with you. I've heard that. And then the magic wand, the most.

Right. Probably over 10 years, I would say. And now the magic wand is unplugged, as we know. I know you've been so excited. I have one in my car. You do?

Me too.

I always say that. I'm like, you guys, you can bring your car now and be like, you're masturbating your car. I'm like, well, you just could. Now I have the option. I don't need a Fucking plug.

Totally fine.

I do it every day.

Don't tell me Sonny's in Santa Clarita area. Just get off the. If you're there, she has, like, five vibrators in her car.

I have three right now.

I have, like, a hundred. I mean.

Oh, you go to her house, you can't even walk out.

I just got a Sibian. I mean, I don't know what to do. I need to move out.

Have you tried it yet?

Have you used it?

Yes.

Okay. What do you think?

If you haven't tried it, it's kind of amazing, I have to say. And it is the kind of thing where I had to. I was at first, like, I got it in the first month. I was like, I think I got a Sibyl. I don't know. Like, I've had everything else, and it's really not as intimidating as you. And I talk to them a lot. Like, how to use it in the show. And, like, you sit on it and there's like, the dial and like, 10, 20 levels. And I've just used the flat top. I haven't, like, done the insertion part, but. Cause the old. The thing about the Sibian is it's the only toy that actually mimics like, you're having sex, you're in the position. And I had some. I had a crazy work. I mean, I'm telling you, it was. You do have to kind of get comfortable with it and figure out your spots. But I'm pretty good at knowing what feels good. And I did that. It took me about, like, take some time. Take weeks. I'm like. It took me like, five, seven minutes, and then I was totally comfortable. And then I had, like, this. This was this amazing orgasm that, like, my whole body was vibrating and it went through. It was a different. It was amazing through my entire body. Like, my nipples had orgasms. Oh, I finally had my nipple orgasm. I swear. It was crazy.

You talked about me using toys like, this is when I get vagina envy, because I will use anything, but we just don't. Guys just don't have this type of thing. I don't have a Sibian, you know, Like, I've used all of our masturbators here and there when we do different internal textures. I'll try it out. I've used other competitors, masturbators of. Played with prostate massagers and things like that. But we don't have. We don't have Sibiosis.

I know.

We don't have a magic wand that plugs into your car lighter. Like, we just don't have this. We can't masturbate in a car.

But you can masturbate your hand flashlight.

We don't have necklaces with vibrators, though.

That's true. You know the best verb? I crave?

Yes.

Do you have one?

Not yet.

Oh, I should have brought you one. Oh, we'll send you one. I know. Sorry. Seriously, I'm like sex toy Santa. I know. I love giving away toys to people, so. As you probably do as well. I just. It makes me so happy.

I give it to everyone.

Like, how could you not be happy? But I love the vest. I'm usually wearing it. I love it. I know. I wish I wouldn't. I think I actually have one in my car. I'm not kidding you. I like it a million times in my car. But I was gonna say. So back to you working with. Using sex toys with women. So can you explain from, like, a male perspective when you're with someone, are you in a relationship now?

Yeah, I'm married.

Okay, you're married. Okay, perfect. So there you go. That's really. You guys are both married. That's great. Or not. What?

Oh, no, I'm just saying, we're puritans. I've been trying to get her married for years, but.

Yeah, I just don't. I've never wanted. I've never been on, like, on the bucket list.

I haven't known her to have a boyfriend more than a month.

That's not true.

Oh, maybe like, three months.

No, I had for, like, a year. No, I've had boyfriends for longer than that. Before I knew you. I'm not into the relationship thing. It's not like my mo. But the point is, with your wife.

For example, we're both right.

We're both right.

You and, like, us and you.

Yeah, whatever. Floats.

Like, it's all working for me. Like, we're all happy. We're all having great sex. Like, to me, that's the blue that makes. That makes life great. So talk to me about, like, maybe some experiences you've had or how you've used it with. If you. If you're comfortable with that, with your partner, with your wife. And I don't know, what toys do you use or what's been a cool experience?

Yeah, I think, you know, again, just with my background, like, I was always just. I always brought toys into the bedroom with, you know, previous partners, like, before I was married, college, things like that.

You just had a lot of babes.

Was it?

And you're cute. Too. So, like, Jesus, yeah, you're gonna make me blush.

So, I mean, it was something that, again, I think that I was on that forefront of, like, this is what I'm into. This is what we're gonna do. Are you into it too? Oh, you're not? Okay, then we're probably not gonna, like.

Be with each other for a while.

Cause, like, this is just kind of my thing, and this is where I'm at. And then the people that are, like, into it, and then you're like, all right, cool. I found someone that's. And I knew my wife, you know, before we got together. We were at the same school together and we were friends and stuff like that. So she knew me, she knew what I did. And, like, I think in the beginning it was just something that you bring in and you talk about it. And then as it sort of progresses and I started to work for the company and we come out with new toys. It's.

Give me an example though, like, of you guys sitting down. How you. How it feels to you to use a toy on her and, like, how that feels from a male perspective. It's not like you feel like, I don't know how you feel. I want to know from a male perspective who's used a lot of toys on women. Doesn't your wife or whoever? Like, what is that feeling like you're turned on. You're not.

For me, it's a turn off.

Waiting for all to be over so you can get a blowjob. I don't know.

No, I mean, for me, it's a turn on. You know, like, even if I'm just watching her use a toy, you know, because I enjoy. I enjoy watching her being. Feeling good, being pleasured. Like, to me, that's the ultimate turn on. Like, that's probably the hardest thing for me is, like, you know, if she's gonna orgasm and like, we're having sex or whatever, it's like, if I know that that's happening, like, I can see it, I can sense it, I can feel it. That's the biggest turn on for me. That's probably when I'm gonna become, like, much closer to, like, my orgasm or possibly, like, lose it before I want to. Because I like to see that. Like, I like, I like to watch for get turned on. And I know that vibrators, like, they help us. I know clitoral stimulation during, you know, with penetration is like the ultimate for some people. So, like, it's. To me, it's like, it's an additive. It doesn't take away from me. It doesn't take away from the experience. Like, it's just an additive. And it gets you to where I would hope that you would want your partner to be.

Exactly. Right. Right. And then so it's really about watching. Right. Like, a lot of guys get turned. Hopefully that's you'd hope. Or the men I'm with are like, where's your toys? Where's your toys? Like, let's grab this, let's grab that. And the guys I'm with are like, oh, I'm not into it. Are like, I'm like, I'm not that into you. You can, like, step over toys walking my house sometimes. Like, if I don't know, someone's coming over every outlet, they're, like, charging now. I have an office filled with them, too. So it's just a problem.

But she's running out of storage.

I am. Well, when I first moved to la, I had a storage unit. Just, it was all toys. I'm like, I'm spending, like, hundreds of dollars a month to store anyway. Got an office. But I get it because I just think a lot of men are just like, I. I hope that it's changed. Like, I feel like in the 10 years doing this show that I used to, when I first talk about toys, have to always be like, okay, just so you know, like, it's not gonna replace you. Like, it won't go with her to the farmer's market. Like, it doesn't, like, cuddle. The sex toy. It's fine.

Not yet.

Right, right. Do they. Well, that teddy bear. You see that teddy bear vibe?

Yeah. That's creepy.

He gave me one at the show and someone stole it. There's a vibrator that looks like it has the nose as a vibrator. And he's like, and then you can cuddle after. I'm like, oh, okay.

Did you see? Well, they were dressing them up, too.

Yeah. Like different outfits.

Yeah. Yeah. But some.

There was this teddy bear.

There's certain things I'm still not into.

They had it at my old radio station. In the radio, like, in the studio.

Right.

And it just looked like a normal teddy bear. And, like, so people would pick it up and stuff like that. But you could actually have sex with it. It was. It was pretty disgusting.

Have sex with, like, stick your penis in. This is just for general simulation. Like the.

No, no, no, no. It looked like a legit teddy bear, but you could stick your penis in it and then people would figure it out after they picked it up.

Okay. Yeah, that sounds like a. Yeah, this toy.

I know if you're into that. Having sex with teddy bears. That's available.

Yeah, check out the Teddy bear. It's called like the Teddy Bear.

I'm sure it's on Amazon or something.

Okay. We have to just give a big shout out here to Fleshlight because we love them. You guys have your hand oftentimes and maybe a vagina or a anus. But really, the thing is, the Fleshlight is the number one male slang sex sex toy for men because it's this masturbation sleeve that mimics the sensations of actually. Well, you're telling sex.

You're telling me. They're doing all these advancements with it. Yeah, the key before it was just a thing that you stuck your penis in, but now, like, well, there's like this Internet stuff and.

Oh, the Kiru, where you can actually, like have interactive sex where they make a Fleshlight that's you can masturbate, which.

I think they took on the show because I was talking about it like 10 years ago on the air. Like, wouldn't that be cool? And you're like, I don't have no idea what you're talking about. I go sex through the Internet. It's gonna be a thing. And then 10 years later, here we are.

Who would have thought that you'd be the innovator?

Dude, I'm totally the innovator.

I know, it's amazing. I know you are, but you won't try Fleshlight. It's cool. So anyway, you guys, check it out. You guys have heard me talk about it, and I'm telling you, there's never been one person. I know that a lot of people from the show have bought them and used them. And no one's ever said, like, why the hell made me get this? They're like, should I try? What should I try next? And our intern Eddie wrote a great blog comparing a bunch of them on the website. So go to sexwithemmy.com and while you're there, click on the Fleshlight banner, use code Emily, and you get a free bottle of their award winning Fleshlight.

Aren't you molding your vagina for them?

Oh, hell no. I'm not doing that. I'm not doing that. But I am going to Austin to watch some vaginas being molded. But I'm actually going through the music festival as well, the Austin City Limits, so that's gonna be the highlight. But maybe also watching vaginas being molding.

I'm sort of that. But I'm gonna be out.

Why are you going? You should go. Anyway, so back to you guys.

Back to Sunny and back to Chad.

Yeah, Chad.

You guys are awesome.

So what is. What is the best item out of your arsenal that your company brought?

Oh, you guys brought me toys too. What is the best arsenal? Did you bring me the best one?

What's the best.

They did it.

It was producer Ryan.

I mean, you know, for us, the pocket rocket, obviously probably still number one. Just vibrator.

How do we explain the battery?

We have the I rabbit, you know, which obviously has just been for like the last 15 years, you know, one of the best selling items.

And then we have a lot of mail items, like a lot of our mail items and just sort of like classics like our butt plugs and our dildos and a lot of our pocket pussies and things like that. Those are all number one sellers. We've worked with some of the best talent ever, like Sasha Gray, Belladonna, Jenna Jameson. All not in the industry anymore and still like perennial bestsellers.

Right. Josie Andrews.

Yeah.

How do you so you like so cock rings?

I love cocker.

Right, right.

They're amazing to the girl over here.

Yeah, they're great. You don't love them.

No, I love them. I use them. But she's like, vibrating cock ring.

Oh, tell me, Sunny. I like them too.

That's my answer for everything.

When anybody I know, you're like, vibrating cock ring.

I'm like, you're getting a divorce.

You need a vibrating cock ring, right? What?

It's your first date. You need a vibrating cock ring.

It's like a win win for everyone now.

There's so many different ones now, I believe. Right. There's like Trojan makes them.

Everyone you can buy disposable whatever.

What do you like?

I like her Optimail. It's men's health and wellness line. It's silicone, which I really like. And it's this. It's just really stretchy. It's got a good strong vibration. The vibrator comes off and they have a double vibrator so you can get, you know, a little ball action.

Yeah.

And clit action at the same time.

Right, right. I love it. So it stretches. It's one size fits all. So let's talk about men. Let's talk about vibrations on men's balls and penis.

Yeah, you can go first.

No.

Yeah. Chad.

Chad.

I just feel like. Let's talk about your vibrations. I just feel like.

I feel like a lot of people listen to this show. A lot of men have not experienced it. And all I know is that whenever they do, they're like, that's freaking awesome. How come no one ever told me that vibrations are for men, too? Or for my balls and my. My penis?

Yeah. I think the best way to start is definitely. I mean, you know, is definitely a vibrating cock ring. Because, I mean, I can only speak for myself personally, and then obviously other men that I've spoken to. Too much direct vibration, for me, actually can be a deterrent. It's something that I know men will experience, like, loss of erection with because of it. Especially because we haven't had it too much.

Oh. It means if you put the Metroid.

On the top down or even, like.

Even, like, the bullets sometimes, like, if they get, like. If you're really, like, forcing it or trying to get it, like, really right on, like, your balls or something like that. I wouldn't go that direction. I would definitely go with, like, the transference of vibration, which is felt very indirectly through a vibrating cock ring. You put it on your shaft. You. If you're a little bit more advanced or if you're wanting to get the full benefits, you can loop it under your balls as well, and the vibrator sits on top of your shaft. And again, while you're engaged in having sex, you just don't feel it as much as the woman might feel it. So it's just a very good intro into vibration. That's a much better way to start and then see, because I'm not going.

To put you on my Civian. No.

Some men use the magic wand, like, on their. Like underneath their balls.

Sonny can come over on my Civian bed. Yay.

I'm excited.

No, but you're right. That is a great thing. I want to use the civilian that's actually been.

You can.

They have prostate. They have. I have, like, every attachment that's, like.

A little bit above me, probably. I'm not ready for it.

Be fine. Don't come over to slumber party.

Yeah, you can miss the simian party, man.

I am having a simian party, and you can come. You don't have to participate. I don't force people on anything, really. Okay. So that's great with the cock ring. So it is true to six people. Explain it that you wear it. You know, it also can help men who are, you know, have a hard time staying hard, have a more challenging time staying hard. And what we're saying is the woman's on top, you're wearing it, and it hits her Clitoris just like how we like it. We need it. We need extra clitoral stimulation during sex. So any new toy, exciting things coming out that you're excited about or like, anything changes that you think or the market? What? Tell me. She looks excited.

Yeah. You look excited.

So excited. I do.

It's not coming out for a couple months, but I love this name. It's the mangina. And it's. Whoa.

Dildo. I don't know how if I love it yet. I gotta try it on for a minute.

It's her Mangina has been around for a really long time, but they're actually coming out with something called Vangina.

It's a dildo and a strawberry.

Not just they, us. Wow.

It could be a top.

Oh, Doc Johnson. Okay. That's where they find it out. Okay.

Isn't that amazing? It's not out yet.

So it's a stroke.

Okay. Don't go get it yet.

And it's a dildo.

What if you already have a mangina? I have to see.

How many can I give you that you need? Two.

I have to see how this even looks.

Looks.

I think we have to send one.

I actually like what you said the other day. I saw something on one of our social medias. You guys said like, half stroker, half poker. Yeah, I liked that. That was cute.

That's good.

You guys didn't tell me that ahead of time. You should have done that.

Surprise.

That item got a lot of play at the last show when we debuted it. I mean, it's something different, it's something interesting. I think it's definitely. It's a little bit more of like a fetishy item. It's definitely for people that are kind of into a little bit more kind of your freaky, fetishy stuff.

And we have a new, you know, we produce.75% of our products are made in America, which is in North Hollywood at our facility and our new house.

Mendes. Do you want to go?

Yes. Dildo Tours.

Dude, you gotta come.

You have to come.

Sweet. I'm down.

Where are you? In the NOHO Arts District. You look like you're in the fancy part of NoHo.

I do live in a nice neighborhood.

But no.

So we make. We make, like I said, 75% of our products in America. And about five years ago, we started making health grade silicone, which was a big move for us, you know, especially in the industry as well. And we just developed a brand new, like, lifelike material for Siliskone. For Siliskin. It's called Truskin and that's something that we debuted at the show and that's coming out like when the. In the next couple of months.

Awesome. Okay, that's awesome.

So that's what I'm most excited for because I love to see like the new stuff happening like in our facility. That's cool.

That's cool. Yeah, you guys can. Cause you're there on the cutting edge. I want you guys to help me answer a question from a listener. Is that cool?

Let's do it.

Of course. Okay.

Okay. This. Thank you. Okay, first of all, thank you everyone for emailing me feedbackexwithemily.com I love hearing from you and it's awesome when you include your age and where you're from and how you listen.

Age, sex, location.

Age, sex, location. Thank you for breaking it down.

Old school.

I need a translator. Okay, so. Hey, Emily and Emily's wonderful team. I'm a 23 year old family female New Yorker and I listen to you all through itunes. I've been dating my also 23 year old boyfriend for four months now and he's wonderful. He's the kind of person that brings a girl flowers and cookies if she's having a bad day and won't ask for anything in return. He says women hate that.

Women love it.

F you.

They say they love him, but watch, watch. Keep on reading.

Shut up.

He's so great. He does everything for me and you.

Know, I couldn't ask for anything, but okay.

He's so boring. I need a guy that's been in jail or something.

He's sensitive and thoughtful and is all in all a great person. The sex with him is great, except.

No, go for it.

I really do not enjoy putting my hands on his really hairy back. Not what you thought menace. It's a complete turn off and I'll lose whatever we work towards if I touch his back during sex. I don't know how to tell him. I'd like you to wax or shave his back because I don't want to hurt his feelings. He has no problem with puberty. He has no problem with pubic hair at any state of growth. I have no problem with pubic hair at any state of growth. I'm a little body hair adverse and I'm pretty diligent with lady scaping shaving legs. Thanks for your help and thanks for being fantastic. All the best. Tea.

Can I just.

It's a hairy situation.

Can I just answer? Yes, you just tell him like, hey, can I shave your back?

He's A guy.

If he's tripping, you gotta be.

No, but if he's. You can't just say you have to be subtle. How would you answer that?

I would say, back me up on this.

He's a guy.

He doesn't care.

Dude.

If it's a woman. And he's. Because there's a lot of women out there that have hairy lower backs now. Now that's the touchy. That's a touchy situation.

Who did he just out?

I'm like, do I. No one tell me.

Okay, there's a lot of them out there. Now that's a touchy situation. How to get around that conversation, but with a guy.

No, no, that's not true though.

No, but there's guys, because he know.

Okay, yeah, go, Sonny. I love that guy.

I would say.

And you chat too.

Thanks for having us.

Oh, my God, I love it. It's the best time ever.

I love you. I would book a spa day for him and say, hey, I'm working out some treatments and they have this and I. I don't know, would you be up for that? You know, maybe get your hair on your back.

That's just too much worry.

You just tell them to shave back.

If nothing else, it creates an open community.

They're lock you in every room with these two women that don't speak English, and they're gonna pour out wax on your body, rub it off.

How long do you think it's gonna take him before he realizes every two months you're booking spa?

Yeah, I know. Come on.

What is it?

Yeah, two second conversation.

No, but then when you have sex the first time and you're like, oh, my God, your back is so good.

I mean, I think I've got a great idea. You give him. Get. Get it like a massage, candle, mass, whatever, massage oil, massage, and be like, oh, honey, you know, it'd be so much better without your. Without the hair. I think you could really feel it in your skin. Let me go get the razor. I'll be right back. And then you shave it in the.

Shower, and then you roofie him and then.

Yeah, exactly. But I think wouldn't guys. I don't know. I know a lot of guys who get lazier to get wet and they're down with it. I think you just gotta. Again, it's just like talking about sex toys. Just be like, babe, I think it. You know, let's just kind of get rid of this.

Yeah. I think you just have to be gentle about, like, she goes into the fact of like, that she loses all of her, like, build up. Like, don't go there, tell him that.

It'S turning you off.

Just talk about it in, like a much easier way about, like, possibly, you know, how he feels about it. Like, have you ever thought about getting waxed? I mean, start the conversation. Because at the end of the day, like, I mean, for me as a guy, like, I agree with you. Like, I probably wouldn't care. It just depends on how much I'd be honest. It depends on how much back hair I had. If I had a lot, I might just be like, we're just not gonna go through this all the time. It's too much of a hassle.

I feel like you do it, just shave it off.

I'm gonna laser, get it lasered. But I think that you just can't be, like, it's a turn off. Like, you never wanna tell either part. You know that something's a turn off. Like, it just. You never get past it. But it's like the whole compliment thing.

And she also has to kind of have some sort of finger on, like, how he feels about his body hair.

How does it not come up?

How many years is he completely comfortable with it? Is he. Is he semi comfortable? Like, does he show it off?

Does he have, you know. Yeah.

Like, is he manscaping other areas of his body? Cause if he is, then he's totally fine to shave his body.

Yeah. She said here that he is, right? A little bit. I don't know.

He can't see it. He doesn't know a Hospital.

He's 24. I think she's like, babe, I gotta tell you, our sex is so hot. I love having sex again. Don't have it in the bedroom when you're naked. Never have these conversations, but it's like next time you're out and you're like, you're changing, babe. God, you know, you're so sexy. I think it'd be hot to kind of like see your whole back and give you massage. Like, let's shave this hair off or get waxed. Like, how I do. I can wax my legs. Maybe we could do it to get you get home waxing kits and just make it light. All these conversations you want to have at light.

And if he has a good body, you can definitely say that it would, like, look better without hair. Which is true.

That's a good point too. Sadly, I don't know what he looks.

Like, but if he has a good body, then you can definitely go that route.

She could say, I Find back muscles really sexy. But I can't see yours.

Absolutely. Like, I can't see yours.

I can't see yours through that forest of hair. Yeah, yeah. There, we've got it.

Perfect.

Okay, explain to me how as a guy that I can tell a woman to shave her back hair.

Chad, that's more of a walk, huh?

There's more of a story.

No, no, no.

I have a current girlfriend. I'm not talking about her, but I'm talking about there's definitely a lot of women out there. If you just really look at.

You buy her gifts. If you get a spa, same thing.

I'm telling you, they're out there. Ladies, you should, you know, take a mirror and look because it's not be an offender and you don't even know it.

Yeah, that's true. The back, you can't see it.

I mean, doing a public service right.

Now for some women, some men, they might not care at all. But for. You're saying that some men have a problem with it and women might do.

But they don't know how to have the conversation. Like, oh, you know, you're kind of. You're wearing that crop top and like.

Yeah, this is how not to do.

I don't care at all.

You don't care. See what I'm saying? This is good because menace is like, I'd rub it. That's sweet. So you're not judgmental at all. But I guess all we're saying is that women should get take a look and see how they feel about it. If you have. This is like, this is. It's a public service announcement in the way that you might not know you have back hair. And if you do, you can take a look and see how you feel about it. But how should a guy do it? I mean, if he's turned off.

Oh, suddenly I'm an. Because I'm talking about a woman.

That's not why you're an asshole.

Maybe you should call it the happy.

For so many other reasons.

Yeah, I know it is tough, don't you think? Is that a man? Has a man ever said anything to you that you were like, ah, that's offensive. Like, you know.

Yeah, I think they're afraid of me.

Most of them, I'm sure. Probably. You know, I'm trying to think if I was ever like, offended.

It's hard to, you know, I have dildos and I'm not afraid to use them.

Exactly. Right. Exactly. Okay, so I've. Did we answer the. When women to the man is tricky you got to see if she's hungry with it.

Just don't be afraid. Just have the conversation. He's a guy.

How about, babe, I think your back is really sexy, but I can't see it with that hair there. So let's go waxing. Okay. One more question there. Our next show here. Can we go one more? I don't know.

One more.

Okay, why not? Hey, Emily, can you please recommend a quiet, discreet vibrator I can use with my husband during sex? I can only orgasm with my vibrator during masturbation and sex. But the one I have now, the rabbit, is too loud and distracting. I'd love to be able to use it every time we have sex. Thanks so much. I love your podcast. I'm a huge fan. Sincerely, Jessica from New York.

Yay, Jessica.

Yeah, I mean, rabbits can be great. You know, they're not optimal, though, like, for partner plays. So I think, like, a clitoral vibrator is great. I always love the Jimmy James form, too. I love the Jae Jou Mio I think is not. That's a cockroach. The Jaeju the Mimi by Jae Joo. Like, a great clitoral vibe that you could stay in your Stays in your hand doesn't move around in silicone. What do you guys recommend? You guys probably have something great.

I like the pocket rocket or the iplate.

We always recommend the pocket rocket. The iplate from Icon Select.

Right. Is the iplate like. It's like a we vibe kind of thing that goes in your. Or no. Oh, it's a clitoral.

Yeah, it's just clitoral.

It kind of lays on your mound a little bit and hooks over to your clit. And so it's really nicely ergonomic. It's about this size, and just so it might not get in the way.

I think you just want to stay.

She wants discreet and quiet, and she does. Obviously, she loves the rabbit, but it sounds like that if she wants to have it during sex, that she needs a clitor. Something powerful.

Yeah, you need something. You need something much smaller and, you know. So, I mean. Yeah, I mean, for us, we always. In that regard, I would always recommend the pocket rocket. It's easy. It's so simple. And he can use it. She can use it, and it's very powerful, and it's very quiet.

Right.

Or vibrating.

You don't think so?

Vibrating cock ring. Well, here's the thing.

I love that vibrating cock ring.

I haven't had one. A new one. I haven't had a. The. I Don't want to say it's the. The pocket rocket, like a new one. And like, you know.

Well, I would tell her to get the I rocket, which is from I Vibe Select. It's a brand new line that we have.

And I love. I like the. I just. I can't, after all these years, still the Mimi by jju because it looks like a little stone, you know, pebble, and it stays in your hand and it doesn't move around and it's really strong and it has a rumble and not a vibe. I like the motor in it. And I just. You just hold it and it works well. And it's. And it's flat, so it hits like your whole pubic mound. All the, you know, you can put on your labia. I love that part of it. I love. Because it's like your clitoral legs. All that gets stimulated. It's got really turned on. Okay. So. Yeah, but I love it, you know. Yeah. But the rabbit vibe is tough to use, I guess, during intercourse. And that's the deal. That's all we got time for. You guys are awesome.

That's it.

It was fun, you guys.

You guys are so fun. Okay, tell us all your social media where we can find you. Ask the doc. Then tell me.

Don't look at me.

Yeah, I know I've got it all here, but I'd rather. Your voice is so sexy. Sunny. You say it.

Thank you. It's AskTheDoChow on Twitter and on Instagram. You can also find us@askthedochshow.com we're building a new fan site.

Love it.

On Playboy radio shows. Ask the doc.

Okay. And we'll have all this on our website as well.

Yeah.

Who knew?

Thank you.

Yeah, you can check on Playway, but really, if they go to a website, they'll find it out. They can listen to it live. They can listen to. To the podcast, you guys. And on DocJohnson.com.com. totally. Okay. And you can find all these toys.

See, I knew one of them.

You guys are awesome. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you, Ennis. Across the board, I am on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, all that is ensexwithmelly.

Snapchat.

Snapchat. We're starting Snapchat today. It's gonna be a big day. Okay, thanks, everyone, for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com okay, everyone, thanks for listening to the show. I have to tell you about a lot of you guys write and you're like, you Know what? I wish sex lasted a longer My partner doesn't please me. It takes women we know some anywhere between 20 and 40 minutes. Orgasm. It can take men six to eight minutes. Too quickly, you might come too quickly. Try it. Permethin. It's the only approved treatment for premature ejaculation. Or if you just want to last longer in bed, it is promescent.com youm gotta check it out, you guys. They've been with me for two years. I've been talking about it and I know that it's changed thousands of your lives because you've all emailed me about it. So if you want to last longer, bed it's something. You don't take a pill, you don't do anything. This is like a topical treatment. You pot your penis, you wait 10 minutes, change your sex life. So check out promescent.com and thanks everyone for listening. There's one overlooked mineral behind better sleep. Sharper focus, stronger muscles and a healthier heart. And at least half of us aren't getting enough. Most people don't realize they're running low on one of the most vital minerals for human health. Magnesium. And here's the thing. No single form of magnesium can deliver all of its benefits. That's exactly why Qualia Magnesium plus was created with 10 highly bioavailable forms of magnesium plus over 70 essential minerals. It provides total magnesium support, helping you sleep better, think clearer, move stronger and feel your best every day. And honestly, when you're less stressed and more energized, your intimacy and desire naturally benefit too. Sure, magnesium can help you sleep, but Qualia Magnesium plus goes beyond that. It's a whole body nourishment for how you think, move, connect and feel. More than just a sleep supplement. It's a foundation for daily well being which absolutely supports a healthier sex life. Getting enough magnesium from food alone is harder than ever due to depleted soils and chronic stress and our body's reduced ability to absorb it as we age. Well, Qualia's Magnesium plus formula is non gmo, vegan, gluten free and designed so all the ingredients work together for comprehensive magnesium support. And personally, I've been taking Qualia Magnesium plus in the evenings and I really noticed calmer nights and clear mornings and just feeling more grounded in my body, which always makes intimacy feel more accessible and enjoyable. It's become such an easy part of my nightly routine. Experience the most trusted magnesium for your purity, potency and performance. Go to qualia life.com sex with Emily for 50 off and here's a bonus. Use the code Sex with Emily for an additional 15% off your order. That's Q U A L I a life.com sexwithemily thanks for qualia for sponsoring this episode.