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Look into his eyes.

They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.

Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend?

Cause my.

My man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh, my. Do women know about shrinkage? Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry?

It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh, my God, that feels so good. Being bad feels pretty good. Well, you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can check out our podcasts. Sign up for our mailing list, which you absolutely should do, because I actually give really good email. Like, some people send you really bad emails. Spam you get off their list. People actually love my emails. They're informative, they're entertaining. Sign up for the mailing list. Also, our podcasts. You can listen to them on the site, you can download them, but you could also just as easily subscribe on itunes and never miss an episode again, because I do. Two week. Why are you laughing at me, Anderson? Laughing with me or at me?

Did you hear what you said?

What I said?

About your emails?

What?

I give really good emails.

It's true. I meant it that way.

Oh, you did? Okay, good.

I give really good email. I give good email.

Do you receive good email, too?

No, I don't. All my email sucks, but I really give good email.

You don't. You don't receive good email?

No. No. Email is annoying.

You're telling people not. Not to send me email?

I'm kidding. Send me emails. No. I love my feedback at Sex With Emily's. I love giving email feedback at Sex With Emily's, where I love those people send me amazing emails, and I answer their questions as I will on this show. How are you doing, Anderson?

I'm fantastic.

It's great to see you. I miss my m. I miss you, too. It's been a long time.

It's been two weeks, which is too long for us.

That's a long time. I feel like separated.

My wife's been happy, though.

Why?

Because she hasn't been hearing me say, all right, honey, gotta leave. Going to do Sex with Emily.

It doesn't go over so well. I understand. Well, I'm excited for tonight's show. I really, really am, because I have a few special guests, but my most Important special guest here is Coyote from Good Vibrations.

So I need to give you. She is a.

You just heard our guests in here, by the way, by saying that. But it's okay.

Oh, no, no. I mean, like, they're special too, but like, I didn't mean that. Sorry, Ken.

They're giving you the business now.

I was a stumble. They're special too. It just seems. It seems cliche. Okay, listen, you're all special people. Just settle down. Coyote, though, is because this is what I gotta tell you. So you guys know how I'm always talking about. If you've been listening to the show for the last eight years or two years or three years. I've always talked about good vibrations. Like, go to goodvibes.com, buy your toys, buy everything there. But I don't think that you actually know like that. I have a very deep, deep personal connection with Good Vibes. And Coyote is actually the head. She's the purchasing manager at Good Vibes for more than 11 years. So she knows a lot about toys. We're going to get into trying, testing, developing toys. The best toys. That's what you do. You develop and test them. But we're going to talk about some of the latest and greatest inventions on the market. How people can bring toys into their relationships. Amazing things that we've seen in the sex toy world. But I just wanted to explain to you all my connection, because I think this is a perfect time, is that when I was coming into my own sexuality, when I moved to San Francisco and I was 22 years old, I, you know, I. There was a sex toy store in Michigan. It was like off the side of the road. It was super sketchy. It was, you know, scary. You didn't really want to go. There was like blinking lights and weird. And I think one time we all went like as a joke, was like a bunch of, you know, men in there. And it just wasn't our kind of place. But I moved to San Francisco and I don't think I had ever had an orgasm. I'm trying to think maybe one I thought I had, but it wasn't readily coming. So no pun intended. So I went into Good Vibrations because I heard about it and Good Vibrations is a sex positive store. And everyone just talked about what this amazing place was. So I figured I got to check it out. So I walked in and it was. And I'm nervous because I'm talking to them about, like, how do I talk about my orgasm? And it was the most warm, loving, disarming Experience. Because everyone who works at Good Vibes is just so well trained, educational, knowledgeable. It's beautiful stores. And they. They help you with. And it's like, matter of fact, it's like, you know, I'll have extra, you know, have coffee and a sandwich, like you're talking about that. But it's like, no, I have a G spa. I want this. That. And it was just so comfortable. And I just fell in love with Good Vibes ever since. And I think it's a great store and does good work and it's sex positive and it just always carries the best products. And I love that Coyote's here. And she was on my show first eight years ago. Like the first year I started my show.

Yeah.

That's insane. We were. It was so long ago.

I know. And I'm so glad you're here.

Me too.

Again, thank you for being in Los Angeles. So that's my story with Good Vibes. This one in the background. But of course, you go to goodvibes.com as I always talk about. And if you're ever in San Francisco, Bost. Palo Alto. Where are the other stores?

Berkeley, Oakland.

Berkeley, Oakland. You gotta just check out the store. But of course, goodvibes.com take care of all your needs. So also, I have to mention that I am.

Doing a Twitter chat every Wednesday, 12:30 to 1:00 clock Pacific Standard Time. If you tweet me at Sex with Emily and hashtag ask Emily, I answer all of your questions between 1231 on Twitter. And it's been getting. It's very popular and I've been helping people and changing them.

How do you. How do you pick? Because I would think that the stream would get pretty.

It does. I just. I'm fast, though. I'm like, God, great. I only have like 140 characters. Like, I can do that. I'm actually better at that than answering like a long email.

And then does an alarm go off right at 12:30 or right at 1 o'?

Clock?

When it ends, you just slam, slam.

No, but I don't. The thing is, I'm like, oh, but he wants to know what to do with his penis thing and that he's having issues. I gotta help him. So I actually go over. But I shouldn't say that because I don't. People be like, at 1:15. She didn't answer me. But how much.

How much of it's inappropriate, though? Like, show us your tits, Em.

You know what, it's funny that you say that. There was one. They're not. It's not that inappropriate. There's one guy's like, when we have. When can we have sex? Like, I ignore that one. But most of them were, like, real questions.

I wonder if that's the guy that wants to buy you a car from Detroit.

Oh, my God. Did I mention this on last week's show?

I wasn't here last week.

I mean. No, no, no. This happened in the meantime. Lauren, have I mentioned this on the show yet? I'm so. I didn't. Okay, so if you are listening. A few weeks ago, my brother was on the show and there was a guy that called in because we take callers sometimes in the show, and he lives in Michigan, and he said that he wants to buy me. First he wants to buy me a car. He's already called in before, and then he wants to marry me and he wants to be with me. And he was very earnest and serious. And my brother said, well, what's your. Because my brother is a money grubby.

He's very into money. Her brother.

He's like, send me your bank statement.

But what kind of car?

I don't. I didn't. Haven't asked. See, that's so me. I'm not that materialist. I said.

I said, I'm picturing wood on the side.

Oh, God, no, it's Michigan. So be American car. And then here's. But here's the thing. He wrote my brother an email the next day and was like, this, and I'm gonna read it another show, because I don't. I've got coyote business to take care of. But it was the most like. And he's like, I really want to be with your sister. And I'll send you your bit. The bank statement if you still need it. And I'm serious about it. And it was like. Like really sweet. And I'm like, michael, this guy thinks you need tell him you're joking and that I'm a lesbian or something. I don't know what to say, but it was a very heartfelt.

The guy listens to the show, Emily. Every show.

I forgot. I love you.

Say hi to him.

Hi. And I love. I love the show. I really do. I'm just kidding. But don't send my brother your bank statement. He was only kidding. And I think you're awesome. And I'm not a lesbian, and I just. I just. You're in Michigan and I'm here, and I think that that will really be a challenge for our relationship.

There's always Skype and Facetime Emily, you should give it a shot.

We could Skype, though. We could Skype. I'm not ruling you out. I just thought it was sweet that you wrote my brother that email, and it was very nice. Okay. What the fuck? Jesus, Coyote.

Yes, hello.

Maybe not this one, though.

I don't have a car for you.

It's okay. But it was very nice. And I'm like, well, stop talking about the car. Just buy me the car already. No, I didn't really say that. Okay. Coyote. Yes. I feel like you're my dealer in a way. Like, all the toys that you guys hear me talk about over the years is because Coyote is the one at the other end. He's like, you got to try this. You got to try that. She sends. She tells me, like.

Yeah, I mean, I think I actually. We had a conversation once where I had to ask you, like, kind of really personal questions, because I'm like, hey, Emily, do you do it up the butt and, like.

Right.

Are you into this and are you into that?

Anal toys. But yeah. And I've evolved, though, I think, also.

Well, and also, it's, like, super intimate.

It is. We've gotten into it. Well, we. It's our business.

Well, so on the first time I ever went on your radio show, I feel like we have to talk about this.

Yes. Talk about.

So bizarre. I'd never. Well, I had been on radio shows before because my mom used to do radio, etc. But I'd never talked about what I was doing, like, buying sex toys or selling sex toys or using sex toys or whatever. And so I brought a bunch to your show, to your radio show.

And, like, it was so awesome, right?

Because we're just sitting here, like, looking at a table full of toys and having to talk about them, and it was super odd. But I brought this one called the cone, and it was huge. It was like a huge triangle that you're supposed to sit on.

Sit on. Exactly. Yeah, I remember that.

I think it was a really good intro for me.

It was.

It was like. Yeah, it was the cone. And it was something. Whatever happened to that cone? It was, like, glowed in the dark, too, or something. I sat on it.

You definitely sat on it. And they had this whole booklet with, like, all these different positions that you could sit on, like, with your legs crossed and really elaborate. Like, they really committed. I feel like the success of any product can be determined by how much the makers of that product commit to it. Because if you're gonna make a triangle, you have to really commit to the notion that that's gonna be a great sex toy and you have to really convince people how to do it. I feel like they committed.

Is it still around though? No, no, they didn't commit that much. But how did you get started then in this industry?

So, you know, I had, I was moving to the Bay Area and I had a friend. I've had friends throughout my life and people throughout my life who have known Good Vibrations or worked at Good Vibrations or been in the larger sex industry. And when I was moving to the Bay Area, I was moving there to follow a whole different path of life. I was going to be a stage manager, union stage manager for a theater company. And in the meantime, a friend of mine was like, whoa, you need a job. The Bay Area is not little Portland, Oregon. You can't live on $300 a month. And so they kind of got me in as a tempo and so I was working as a temp. And in the meantime I was, you know, putting out my resume for theater and this and that. And I really just completely head over heels fell in love with the mission of the company.

Talk about the mission for a second too, after a few, well, mission.

So I mean, essentially our mission is that pleasure is your birthright and that everyone should have access to non judgmental accurate sex information and pleasure products. Toys are going to, you know, sex toys, safer sex products. And we want people to come in and we want to revolutionize their sex life and help their intimacy and give them all the tools they need to have a just amazing sex life, whether it's with themselves, with a partner, with a new partner, with a 25 year partner.

So I just fell in love with that. And you know, I was on the phones talking to people and I was doing customer service and these people were calling from all over the world with totally different, you know, I'm a 60 year old divorcee, I'm a 20 year old, I've never had an orgasm. And, and it was just amazing because through the resources that I vibrations, whether it was our own website, our shopping guides, our information and the education that I got to be trained to, to work there, it was incredible. You were just touching people's lives and changing their lives and helping them really get in touch with their sexual selves. And it's powerful.

I mean, it really was, it really is. It's so, it's like, it's a, it's, it's important the work that there's not other stores like that that I've ever come across. So that's how you got started. It was a temp thing. Yeah. You're still there 11 years later.

I was, yeah. I did sales and then I worked my way into the buying department and just that's.

That.

Doesn't everyone want to be the buyer? I would think they'd be like.

No, I really like who doesn't want. Right. It's the best job ever. So what do you think that, that you've learned by doing this job? Like about. Do you think that your own, like when you started and where you are now, your own sex life by being there and like trying all the different toys, or were you always pretty open?

I feel like I, I had my own evolution, oddly enough, through reading books that were written by people who either work at Good Vibrations now or have in the past. Carol Queen, Pat Califia, you know, Susie Bright. By reading these people's writing, it actually helped me move into my own sexual sphere.

Right.

And then, you know, obviously having access to such a huge amount of sex education and really the non judgmental and shame free, I mean those are the pieces that I felt personally impacted me. Is really striving to, to live in that sex positive world. Whether it's about me and my own sexuality or somebody else's. And, and the whole, you know, it's just to dumb it down. It's like the don't yuck my yum and, and how to walk through the world like that. And I, I don't know that. I don't know that I'm there yet. But I really strive every day to, to be more sex positive. Because I think if we all had less judgment in our lives and really promoted people just living their true sexual selves, this world would be really amazing.

Right? No, you're right. That's what we're trying to do here. I just like no judgment. Right. And it's like people always want to know, am I normal? Is it okay? It's like everything's, you're fine. You know, it's like people just, we just. Yeah, you both have the same mission.

And I think it's really important. I think it's important to understand that, you know, all these products come out. There's all these amazing products every year that come into the market. Yeah. I mean there's so many. And you know what might be your favorite might not do it for me.

Exactly.

And I. That's so great because you know, you have girlfriends and oh my gosh, you have to try this product. I love this product. It was the best for Me. And then it's like, oh, well, it didn't really work for me.

Right.

And so we're all different. Yeah, we're all different.

And so that's. That's. That's exactly it. There's so many. So how do you. Because you're the test. Are you the only one testing?

No, no. You know, we really. I rely a lot on the people in my company because I don't believe that it should just be one person.

Right. Because that's exactly what we're saying. You'd just be on.

And I do the product development, too. And it's the same way. It's all sex educators who. We look at the toys, we look at the DVDs, the books, everything. And we kind of do the best we can to say, will this, you know, influence, like, will this be good for our customers or impact their sex lives? Will it enhance their sex life? Does it. Does this product do what it says it's going to do?

Right. Okay. And so what. So there's. I want to get into, like, some of the. There's thousands of products, right. That come out every year. I mean, and everyone's probably hitting you up, right? And you. And can you tell right away when they come in, you're like, yes. No. Yes. Or do you just, like, kind of have to try them all?

I. I feel like. So I've been doing the actual buying for a little over nine years, and I feel like it's kind of like exercising, you know?

Right.

Like when you first go into the gym and you're exercising and you're like, oh, I don't really know how to do that. And that yoga stance is really weird. And.

And.

And that's how it was in the beginning, where I really felt like I had to do this crazy amount of due diligence on each and every product. But because there are so many products released every year, not all of them are feats of engineering.

Right.

Not all of them are something so unique. Some of them are just a variation on a theme. And I feel like I have a pretty good grasp at this point on if a product is going to do what it claims to do and if it's going to be enjoyable for people. And then I'm wrong sometimes. And it's always. It's always super interesting to me when I pick up a product and it doesn't do well. And I'm like, o, I had faith in you.

Why did people like you? Exactly. Because you're, like, making the decision. So what would you say like in the last, like what are some trends right now that you're seeing? What do you, what do you see happening with sex toys?

Well, I think there's a few. I mean we're definitely. It's, it's a interesting, strange time. The last 10 years have been interesting in the industry in terms of products being released. But you know, we're definitely seeing a lot more quality products hit the market straight out.

Like they're quality right away, they're just quality right away.

And we're seeing so many new brands come out, which is really overwhelming for me and for companies like mine that, you know, we don't have 50, 000 square feet that we can fill. We're not a Walmart of sex toys. You know, we have a, a curated selection of really the best.

That's what's out there. That's why I always talk about good is because you know it's going to be a good product. They don't sell like the schlocky stuff that you should.

Yeah, we really try to sell it body safe and yeah, and we want to vet it because you know, if you go into a department store that has like 26 of the same exact product, how do you tell, right. You're not going to break them all out of the packaging and test them. And we've done that for you. And so we want to. Everything that's on our shelves, we've. We've already vetted and hard because a lot of the brands that are coming that are new the industry or a lot of the products being launched, they are already quality. And so I mean trends, you know, you definitely have good materials. You have.

They're all like good material. They're all what material?

Silicone, ABS plastic. Just a nice hard plastic. You have some with really nice velvet coatings. They just feel better in your hands.

10 year. It's true. Like all those old plastic ones that were bad for you. I mean it's just changed with the porn stars on the box.

Packaging has absolutely changed. Oh absolutely.

Why were they bad for you?

Are they like leeching?

Yes. Well, I mean it's so interesting because you know, it's like chemically speaking, I'm not a chemist, but essentially there were some materials that would. They hold bacteria in and so you'd use them once and if you didn't use them with a barrier, they would kind of fill up with bacteria and then you're just reintroducing that bacteria to sensitive areas.

It's like the loneliest std.

It's the loneliest STD on the planet. You're so right, Anderson.

Not a clean toy.

So, yeah, they're all so, so, so they're great now. So I don't even like.

Well, I think it's marketing. I mean, I think. I think we're seeing a lot more products that are being marketed out of the gate for couples. And they're acknowledging now that it's not just, you know, lonely person using a sex toy alone, crying.

Right.

Their bed. It's like a couple who wants to have amazing sex or a single individual who wants to have amazing sex with themselves. But it's positive. It's. It's affirmative. It's not shaming, you know. Oh, it's shameful. You're buying this. It's actually amazing you're buying this. And, like, we're so glad you're buying this. And so the marketing and the quality and. And the functionality, I think we're seeing functionality that is just so advanced.

Right.

Even. Even on items that, you know, as an. Just an example, the rabbit habit was just re. Released. And this is the iconic, twice as nice vibrator.

I can't believe how great it is.

Yeah, it's a great vibrator. And it ends Sex. Sex in the City. I mean, since that episode, if you.

Still have the one from Sex and the City, you should throw it out.

Yeah. It's time to get a new one. But they, you know, they've just keep going back to this iconic, great item, and they keep making it better and better and better. And now they've improved the battery pack and the strength. And so it's just one of those things that you. You see this product that's been around forever, and it's been made better and better and better.

Right.

And I love that. I love companies that go back to iconic, great designs and then just keep making them better.

Exactly. You're right. And it's the. The. The new. The new rabbit habit. I've talked about that recently, and I was just so impressed. I got rid of my old one. I did it. So you should all. You know, what did everyone do with all the old rabbits everywhere, littering the streets? Don't throw it in. Don't throw it in the trash. I mean, don't throw it on the street, but. Okay, so what about.

The other. I was thinking about the other brands of toys that we talked about that we like. Like what? So we got the rabbits, the whole family of rabbits. The whole family. That's like a G spot. So if you don't know. It's like a G spot and clitoral. Yeah.

And for some of them are going to be more for G spot, and some are just going to be internal. So you're going to have, like, dual sensations. You're going to have internal and external, either vaginal or G spot and clitoral. And it's a little bit like, for some people, it's like rubbing your stomach and patting your head. It's like, way too complicated. But for other people, it's that right combination of in and out.

That's why. Yeah, exactly. You just got to try it out. And the thing that I like about the right habit is that you can turn off the outside or just use the outside or just use the inside. So let's talk about that, though, because I do think, you know, since I believe it was even since I've started this the last eight years and you've probably seen this last 11, that there was, like, some study that came out, I think it was probably about three years ago now, that said, like, over 50% of all women in America have owned a sex toy. And of those 50%, 75% use with their partner. And so I just do think that it is becoming more acceptable. We still have the people who, you know, their men are offended by other partners are like, that's gonna replace communication and education.

It is changing. I mean, I think you have.

A lot more media are talking about vibrators. You have television shows that have vibrators, whether it's Cougar Town or.

That New.

Jersey, I can't remember. But yeah, and they're so discreet now, too. It's like. It's not like this big scary thing. So let's talk about, like, if someone. I always get asked these questions, like, Emily, like, I've never. Oh, I'm actually gonna jump to an email from a listener right now that we can help answer. So. Dear Emily, I love the show and I'm taking your advice on introducing sex toys into the bedroom with my wife. I told her that I wanted to visit a sex shop and pick out some toys. And she said, who are you and what did you do with my husband? What toys do you think we should try first? This is from Adam. So what would you say he wants? I get this all the time from men. When they want to start out, they don't know how to introduce it. Like, I mean, I just would say, like, go to good vibes, peruse. You could look for couple toys, but it depends. I mean, a couple's Toy doesn't necessarily just have to be the we vibe. Like what would you suggest to add?

Well, I think, I mean I. Everyone is so individual and so what I always suggest is especially when people are coming in our stores. But if they can't come into our stores and they're going on the website. Sure. Look at, you know, couples toys in terms of very typical like the we vibe, which, you know, vibe. It goes inside the vagina and stimulates the clitoris and then the partner can penetrate beneath the partner.

You can wear it while you're having sex. You can wear it. Yeah, exactly.

But I also think that it can be really sexy for couples to like have a partner hold like a clitoral vibrator for their partner while they're either engaging in oral sex or penetrating with fingers or penetrating with their penis. Like I feel like that type of connection.

Right.

Especially if they haven't used toys together. It's really great to get something that's more interactive. Either it can be a vibrating penis ring, something that he wears and then stimulates them both during penetration.

The penis rings with the vibration. Which one's your. Which one do you love right now?

Oh God, there's so many. But I really, you know, I am a fan of the MIOU and I also, I have to say I do love the screaming O rings. I think they're so great because they allow people to experiment without kind of sinking in substantial financial.

Exactly. That's two screaming oh ones. You're right. Because they last for, you know, 40 minutes or.

Sure. And there's even some that have re.

Reusable batteries, right?

Yeah, exactly. But once you know what you like and oh, I really like this. Well, great. Then you buy one that's like a little bit more durable and longer lasting because you don't want to keep going. You know, it's true.

It's expensive to go in, so. So that would be a good one. So. And I love. We said that like holding like I think that a lot of people who are, you know, let's say like heterosexual couples, men's never had a. Used a vibrator. I think that, that men get a thrill. They don't realize this, but it does not. A big huge penis doesn't like your own. It's a little clitor. It's going to help you get your. Your. It's. You're going to see how much you holding that against her could make her feel so good. You're in control of it and you. It feels like you're gonna it's gonna make you feel good that you're. She's feeling good. And men also don't realize that if they take that and she can also use it on him. Men like the vibrations on their balls too, sometimes.

And that's the thing is that, you know, sex toys, vibrators, they don't have to be you or me, Right? It can be. I mean, how exactly thrilling is it to watch your partner become aroused and have an orgasm? And. And that whole process can really be from you holding a vibrator on your partner.

Right.

Or vice versa. We have this fantastic penis toy that called the Pulse, and it has this oscillating pad that like, stimulates the area under the head of the penis. And it's not necessarily something he has to use alone. He. She can use it. A partner can hold it. Like anyone can hold that product. And so it becomes another way to. I mean, it's. I don't want to make it sound all heavy, but you. It can be a power thing or like, hey, I am holding your pleasure. I'm the one who's giving this to you, right? I'm holding the vibrator and so I'm bringing this pleasure to you and we're connecting.

Exactly. And you really are connecting. It's not like this disjointed, disconnected experience when you are holding. I just am always trying to tell. And I love that Adam's doing this, but there's still a lot of women too, of shame around her. They don't want to share it. And I think once you just have the conversation and you start doing it, that it's. I've never heard anyone complain. Like, I've never, I've never gotten the email. We use sex toys. And I'm really upset about it. It really ruined our relationship. Absolutely. Ever. It's always the fear before. And I just realized that like, no one's ever been like, we use toys. And I'm pissed off. It's ruined our, like, sex life. It's like, oh my God, you know, what can we do next?

Well, and that's about sex negativity and shame as well, because we, we think that it's, you know, it has to be the. The body part. Body part. Put those together and tada. Fireworks. But that's not really how it is. And so. And we're not really taught to like, take our time and to just have fun and frolic around and experiment. And I like to, you know, sex spearmint. It's like, I love sexpirimentation. Like, how does this feel on you? How does it feel on you? Let's have a long.

It's like, makes it fun. It's not like it's a. It's not like it's a. It's an alternative. It's adding to the. To your relationship spice. Sex life. But that's, I think, what a lot of people don't understand, which I try to tell them.

Yeah.

So that would be some good places for them to start. Okay, so go for it, Adam. Do it. Do it, Adam. Okay, and then what about going back to just like. Like clitoral vibrators? Like if, like, let's say starting out. For a woman who has never bought anything before, what would you say?

Yeah.

For first time clothing, the bullet or the pocket rocket?

Yeah, I was gonna say we have this little bullet called the Pleasurette. That's just like a little vibe. It's super cute. Discreet. So small. A couple speeds on it.

Right. It's really speedy and good.

Yeah, it's great.

I mean, pleasure at. Okay.

Yeah.

And.

And I like to recommend that as a entry level because once you get that, then you can kind of. Oh, yeah, I really like. Oh, mama loves this. Let's move on to one again that's a little bit more expensive, might last a little longer. If you spend $20, you're getting $20 worth. If you spend $80, you're getting $80 worth. So, you know, if you haven't used a product before, start with that entry level and then move into something that might be longer lasting. You don't have to replace something that's rechargeable.

Exactly.

There's lots of great products. You know, there's the girls from Vibratex. So cute.

They come in a little pink zipper pouch.

Yeah, I love them. I think it's just like a complete package. And they're rechargeable, which is so nice.

I know. Charge them in your laptop.

Yeah.

Which we do all the time at work. I think in most workplaces you might not want to do that, but.

Right.

No, the girls are adorable. And they're great gifts, too. I would think that they're just their clitoral libraries, but they're all different. The little. The pink and white.

I love them. And I also really like the Tango by Levi because it's super strong.

Oh, I've seen that one. I want. Okay. Coyote. Yeah, I want that. Okay. I want one right down. See, she's my dealer. Okay.

So I got that for you, Mama.

Yeah, you're loving your topic so is there anything that you. Okay, so we got couture. What about. Let's get into a little bit of like, anal toys. Like the. For men and for women.

Yeah.

Male prostate. We always talk about, you know, that guys should just take a gander experiment if they haven't, if they want to, if it's their thing. Well, I think there's also, there's health.

I mean, you can't talk Right. Like this industry, it's always hard to talk about the health.

Right.

Parts. But I think it's pretty acknowledged that prostate stimulation is healthy for men who have prostates. And I think that I would always recommend something slender and small, like a, A narrowest product to kind of try it out. And once you, you know, because I feel like you want to ease yourself into it. And then once you do, you can get something like the black pearl that vibrates and is really strong and it's going to kind of heighten that sensation, you know?

Right.

And I feel like that heightened sensation is something that you might want to do after you've done some experimentation and said, oh, yeah, right.

So it's all like taking this, this path, like, like starting. You don't want to like, get the, maybe the vibrating eel toy if you've never done it.

But I mean, you could. Because the nice thing about vibrating anything is you don't have to turn it on.

Right. You turn. You don't even have to turn on.

You don't have to turn it on. You can insert the black pearl, which is.

Oh, I see. Oh, right, right. You don't have to make it right.

Right. And then you can say, oh, this is a perfect fit for me. I really love how this feels. Let's try some vibration now. I mean, the best thing with like, the most important thing with any type of anal plane, especially for people who, again, you're having to move through some social stigmas. You're going to have to move through some self shame, potentially, is take it slow, have fun, try it out and use lube.

Okay. Lose lube. Great. When we come back, we're going to talk about lube and we're also going to have our other amazing special guests come in. But first, a word from our sponsors here. Again, everyone, thanks for supporting our show and listening our sponsors and listening to the show. I have to tell you about Promescent. Did you know one in three men suffers from premature ejaculation? But now you don't have to, because Promescent is a quickly absorbing delay spray that allows you to have the sex you want. You can focus on your partner's hot body, especially now that you have the time to make them orgasm. Also, promescent closes the arousal gap between men and women. You might get there faster than she would like. So it's not even if you're like a premature ejaculator. Maybe you just want to last double the time. So promescent helps you last twice as long. Thousands of urologists are recommending promescent, the only FDA approved treatment for premature ejaculation. Go to promescent.com to find out more. That promescent, it's not rising to the top. That's a challenge. It's staying there. And also, I need to tell you about Good Vibes. One of the reasons you're able to listen to us is because of the incredible people@good vibes.com they carry all the best toys. Get the Vibratox Dahlia. That's another new one. Coyote. We didn't talk about 20 off. When you use coupon code Emily, you can also get the strongest, most orgasmic vibrator of all time. The magic wand. Go to sexthemily.com, click on the Good vibrations banner and see my favorite toys, because you know that I've tried them all. Use coupon code GVMILY20. That's GV Emily. 20. And that's what I got to say about that. So we've been joined here by some other guests. Really special guests. I didn't mean that you guys weren't special guests as well, Ken. Really.

I know.

I was just starting the show, and.

It was when we were late. I appreciate it.

You were late. I'm glad you guys are here because of me.

Hi, I'm Hayley.

Hi. Haley.

Hi.

So nice to see you. And Ken and Hayley. Okay. Oh, they're here to talk about something very, very special. A new thing that we're embarking on. All of us here together. Let's talk about it. So from Bocce lingerie, and they have these amazing. Let me see some of them. Tell me about this new lot, the Dreams line. Okay.

Ooh.

These are hosiery items from our dreams collection, which has been around for a while, but this is the first time we're releasing companion hosiery to the costumes.

Okay.

Dreams is the costumes line that Bocce.

Want all the costumes.

Yeah, no problem. And we'll be the other dealer. And this is the first time that the companion hosiery has been released to market.

Okay, Got it. So that's okay. Right. So this is the first time. And then so people can get the costumes or just wear the hosiery because they're super sexy. Wear it under your like day to day clothes. So. And tell me about what. So what's, what's your favorite one in here, Hailey? Do you wear them all the time? Every day. Are you wearing them now all the time? No, not today. It's kind of hot in LA right now. Right.

My favorite ones are the ones that go with the cop costume because they have little handcuffs, little metal handcuffs.

That's what I want.

I love those.

I love that you didn't bring the cop with the handcuffs.

Lauren, call Veronica.

Let's talk about this thing that we're doing together, this contest, the selfie contest. This is such a cool idea. Okay, okay, let's talk about it. Tell me the deals.

So the premise. Are you sure you don't want to jump in on this?

Oh, he'll jump in. Ken jumps in.

What are you saying?

He's so cute.

I love Ken.

I love Ken too. I love Ken. So we're all in town because we're having a conference this weekend. So all my friends are in town. Yeah, it's a sex conference. And you all wish, I know you wish you could come, but you can't. Go ahead.

So we're calling it the bocce selfie contest. The premise is that you put on a pair of hosiery stockings of your liking and you wear them with your day to day clothing. And so it's up to you to kind of decide how much are you going to reveal and why. And the whole idea behind it, which I really love, is that you should be able to be who you want to be. And who I want to be Monday is not necessarily who I want to be Sunday.

Right.

And so these different stockings can really play up or play down to that whole thought or that fantasy.

So the selfie contest is really. So it's. People are going to submit photos. So I want my people on Facebook. So they have to go. They go to bocce.com and pick out. They go to the Dreams Hosier and they pick out a few. And what are the price points on these.

Are.

Gosh, you're putting me on the side.

It's okay, don't worry about it. But there, I mean they're not gonna break the bank. Like you can still.

They range based on.

But they're sexy. And the thing about lingerie that I think is so like you feel sexy even if you're Wearing it for yourself, like, that's the thing. The point is that you wear it yourself.

Right.

And I think for. For me, that's one of the important things I heard Coyote talking about sex Positive. Is that. Yes, I love that because I. The concept for me behind lingerie is it's for me. I'm wearing it for me. If I'm choosing to share it with somebody, that's. That's my choice.

Right.

If I want to go to work wearing, let's say, the naughty school girl.

That'S always a favorite. Oh, let me see those.

I can wear them with a pencil skirt or just a skirt. Nobody. They don't necessarily know what the real idea behind it is, but I do.

Right. And you feel good, right? Exactly. And you feel sexy. And this is. I love this with the scene. I'm taking all of these home. Okay, so how do people enter the contest? And how we get. How do we. What do we tell them to do?

Ken, that's on you.

Okay, so we'd like you to select the dreams hosiery of your choice.

Okay.

Once you've got yourself into normal attire, we want you to show how you're wearing it.

Take your selfie.

Take your selfie. And you're gonna go to the bocce Facebook page, and there'll be a contest entry point.

Right.

From there, you'll be able to submit the photo. And the cool thing is the winning selection, which is going to be judged by our Facebook following and hopefully yours.

Yes, ours. Well, my Facebook page is having challenges.

Well, we can talk about it. But the one that gets the most likes is going to win a $500 shopping spree on our site.

Oh, and you guys, your site is amazing that you guys have such beautiful things. Okay. And we're launching this.

We can. We can expect to launch it essentially as soon as this airs.

Okay, great.

People can. People can start buying it online, and it's gonna run through August.

Okay, that's fun. Like, it's such a fun incentive. And even if you, like, have a partner, like, have them take pictures, it's just. It's like, go online with your partner and be like, I think that would be really sick because people. Couples are always emailing me, like, how do we spicing things up? How do you make something interesting? Go to your website and start thinking what you book costume outfits, do role playing. It doesn't have to just be for the contest, but, like, buy some sexy things together.

Sure. You could also just buy a group of friends.

Yeah, exactly.

And go out for the night, wear your favorite pair. Take selfies while you guys are out having fun or going to the movies or going out on a date. I mean, there's so many places you can do this and just have fun.

Exactly. Because it just. It does. It's true. Like when you're wearing, like, your good underwear and your good bra, your good thing, like, you just feel sexier. Yeah, I love it. Okay, so your, your page, facebook.com bocce and this will all be on. I'll have all.

And they can Access everything from Bocce.com. there's, there's, there's links to. There's links to.

I think it's a great idea. I can't wait to have these sexy people doing this contest.

It's gonna be great.

It'll be great.

And we brought you plenty of stuff.

You did. My office is so excited for you to come. They really, they really were excited. And we're gonna do some costumes with it too. We're gonna, we're gonna be entering as well. Myself and all the women in my office. We're going to be submitting many selfies.

That'll be cool.

Yeah, I can't wait. Well, thank you, guys. So it's bocce.comb a c I correct. And there'll be more information on my site and we'll be talking about this for the next six weeks. And what's the final date to submit?

Yeah, we're gonna. We're gonna go to the very end of August to be able to submit your photo. Obviously, the earlier you get your photo in, the more likes, the more chance of, you know, accumulating some likes. Unless it's really crazy on the last day of August and you win and.

You can get your friends to, like, whatever you want to do.

Absolutely, absolutely.

Okay. I can't wait. And we're gonna be doing well, but we're gonna start. We're gonna have. Now that we have them, we might have to do, like, start tomorrow in my office. Yeah, it's gonna be a fun day.

Ask me if I'm gonna enter the contest.

Yeah, right.

Do I need to shave my legs?

I mean, look at them. You did. You're in la, right?

No, I didn't. I mean, well, maybe the dark ones would. Would cover whatever you're into.

Ken, we don't judge.

Nope.

You can pick whatever you want.

Best part.

Okay, good. Well, thanks, guys. So I'm excited and I'll be talking about this when we come to come. We'll bring you new Updates. We'll be like highlighting stuff off in our page and stuff like that.

That's fantastic.

Thank you very much.

Thank you for having us.

Yeah. So fun. Good to see you. Applause, applause, applause for my very special guests. Okay, so we were talking about going back to Coyote if we were talking about lube. Oh, yeah, we touched on lube before.

We touched on the lube sponsor.

So I would like to talk. You know, I feel very strongly about lube. Like, I just think that people don't understand the importance of, of using lube. That there's still a stigma in many people's minds attached with lube. That it's. You bring it out if she's dry or there's discomfort or there's a problem, better get the lube. But lube actually enhances the experience sexually for women and men. And I think a lot of people don't realize that. And when you're using a toy or just having sex, they just add a little lube. It can make it a lot better. When there's studies that show that like 98 of women said it was better when they added even if they're already wet.

Well, because there's already friction. You're having friction with any type of sex play, whether it's external only or internal or with a toy.

Exactly.

And when you have friction, no matter how wet you were to begin with, you may not actually be able to sustain that, no matter what. Everyone's body is different. What right time of the month is it for you? How old are you? What time of the day is it for you? What have you been eating? Are you dehydrated? Like, I mean, there's so many factors that can play into it. And so, you know, the whole wetter is better is absolutely true. And why not have extra moistness and lube down in any area that you're playing in just to make it a more pleasurable, fun, wet, slippery experience.

Exactly. So which lubes do you recommend? The. The. I know there's so many.

There's so many. And you know, we carry a lot of really great lubes. I really love the Please cream. It's one of my favorites. Just because it has. It's a water based natural lubricant, but it has a drop of silicone in it, which just lets it stay a little bit slicker a little bit longer. We don't carry a lot of lubricants with glycerin, which is an ingredient that actually helps it stay slicker longer. And because of that, just because some Folks have sensitivities to it. We do. I do like the ones with a little drop of silicone, because it's going to help. And then, you know, for anal play, because. Which is why we brought up lube.

Oh, great. Back to the anal.

Gel is really great. Some people like silicone just because, again, it stays very, very slick for a very, very long time. But any kind of cushiony, extra cushiony gel is just great.

Okay.

And I just feel like, why not, you know, why not have it be extra cushioned, extra slick, extra fun.

Right. And if you don't like it, you don't have to do it again. I'm just like, try it, try it out.

Yeah. And I do feel like there are people who are definitely like, I just really have enough. And I feel like that's great. But don't count out that, you know, or discount that in a few years or next month.

Change.

They really change.

Yeah. You have to. You have to, you know, be prepared and know that. Yeah. Your body. And it's not about, you know, a lot of times people feel like their partner gets upset because they feel like maybe they're not turning them on.

Yeah.

That's why they're not wet.

Yeah.

It's not. That's not the case.

And again, that's about not having body shame and not feeling bad about like, oh, well, my ex was so wet all the time. You're not. And it's like. Right. Because I'm not your.

Exactly. Right. Right. And then nothing to do. And we know your ex, she's your ex or whatever you bring that up. We're all different.

We are all different.

That's why with the toys, it's hard because you just. Because I recommend something. Yeah. Like, people do, do love the JJU Mimi, which. Well, I mean, yeah, it's a universal. But I'm saying just because I love some people might not love everything.

When I'm in the stores or even when I'm with friends or, you know, anywhere. I always say, like, this is what I'm going to recommend to you. But what looks good to you? Because if it doesn't look good to your eyes, then it might not be a fit because you have to be kind of attracted to it. You have to be like, that looks like a nice toy. Oh, I can see how that would feel really good.

Right? Exactly. And if you're okay. So what about back to the. The. We did talk a little about the prostate. What about for just regular anal toy for men or for women? Not vibrating.

Well, I think that for a more of a plug like, or kind of non vibrating, you know, the Booty from Fun Factory, the Dawn one from Pleasure Works, that's more of like a bead, which is. Can be really fun. It's like three little olives stacked in a row.

Right, right.

And that's going to force some opening and closing of the anal muscles and that can feel great. The Booty is really cute because it's just itty bitty tiny.

Right.

And so I always recommend people start with it because what I have found is that people who are looking to experiment with any type of anal play, they'll be like, oh, I don't know, I don't know. And they get something small and they're like, huh, yeah, I'm ready.

Yeah, it's a good gateway if you just want to. You're not ready for anal. You know, speaking of anal sex, I have to ask you a question. Now that we talk about.

Yeah.

Is that anal sex is a good topic. I used to say when I was starting, I was like, anal's the new blow job. I swear to God. Like, everyone's like, what's trends and sex, what's. I'm like, I just think it's anal. Like, everyone talks about anal, but now I think squirting is the new anal.

I feel like squirting was the new anal. I feel like, yeah, I feel like we have.

I can't get away from it.

Like, yeah, no, everyone wants to know. I feel like anal.

I feel like anal is still coming into its own. I feel like it's in the.

It's.

It's still, you know, pegging is a lot like women penetrating their male partners. I feel like prostate pleasure, prostate health. I feel like you have a lot, lot more products that are coming out for the anal market that are marketed to mainstream and they're quality because again, you can't just put anything in the anus because there is bacteria just like any other part of the body. And so more quality products are coming out now. Squirting, I feel like it's the, this mystery of the G spot. And I think squirting almost has like a bad reputation of like, oh, you can't squirt. You should be able to.

I know this is what I'm saying. I'm getting. I think it's from porn. People are seeing it, they're just like, what can I squirt? Can you teach me? How can I do it? Can I do it? It's like all the, like, wherever I go yeah.

And I feel like your answer should always be like, maybe, Right?

Maybe you can maybe, like. I can't say. I mean, you could try and so. Yeah.

And how fun would that be again? Sexploration, like exploration.

Never stop sexploring by yourself or with your partner. That is just the bottom line in life because that's when you're gonna. It's all gonna get boring for you and stagnant and you're just gonna watch a lot of tv. Not for.

Don't judge. Don't judge nothing.

Watching tv. But you're not gonna be doing anything else if you don't. It's gonna get. Everything gets boring if you don't expand and try things like squirting. But what would you recommend if they so wanted to.

Right.

To try. Is there like a certain toy or certain, you know, fingers in the little come hither.

Point them towards you, Push them in, Point them towards you.

Right. So I hit their motion.

Yes, Come to the motion. I feel like with the whole exploration of the G spot in general, the most important thing is to start out with that exploratory, you know, we're gonna explore because again, it's just like that. Yeah, with the exact fist up.

No, but it's funny because it is true. Like, like, let's make it like a fun new thing that we're gonna try.

Together and not make it goal oriented. Because the last thing that anyone needs, whether whichever partner it is, is this. Like. Well, did you score it? Did you score it? Did you score it? Did you square? I didn't. I didn't. I didn't. And so the pressure is not what you want. You don't want pressure around accomplishing anything in sex. And so what I would recommend is from finger motion with a come hither motion. Does it feel good? Some women do not like G spot pleasure or pleasure. They don't like G spot pleasure. They don't like the pressure. It doesn't feel good to them. And so that's the first thing to figure out is does it feel good to you? And then if it does, you can go into some toys. Like, the Pure wand is really great. It's a firm metal. It has a weight. It has the. The tugging, pulling. I like the G twist is a vibrating version. It has a lot of texture. So it's kind of doing grab, grab, grab.

Those be some good toys to explore with that.

Absolutely.

Okay, I like that. All right, that's good. Now what about. Let's talk about exploring and like, never, never, never stopping. Okay. So what about now? A lot of toys are waterproof.

Yeah.

Which is great because you could wear them, use them. Yeah.

People really a lot. There are a lot of waterproof toys and a lot of splash proof toys. And I think that people. If you're like a bath taker, you need waterproof because a lot of products are meant for, like, the shower because they're splash proof so you can wash them.

Right.

And a lot of people, really, that's enough. They just want to masturbate or have sex in the shower. And that's totally great for folks who are like, no, I want this submerged in my bathtub, swimming pool, Jacuzzi. They need to get completely sealed. Waterproof toys.

Okay. Which one would you recommend?

There's so many. I mean, there's like, the Jaeju toys are waterproof. The we Vibe toys are waterproof, and there's just a ton of them out there. I mean, you can. You can even get an inexpensive $20 vibrator that's waterproof these days.

I know. It's that stuff so amazing that it's all. It's all changed so much. It has. And there's one more thing that I do have to say. Bocce people sitting here. Ken and Haley, this is what I failed to mention about your contest because we only have a few more minutes left, is that we also. I forgot to mention that they could look at the pictures in Instagram. Your Instagram.

That's the plan.

I wanted to give out your Instagram handle.

Thank you.

There's a handle still?

Sure.

Boccilanderie. And then also, it's your Twitter is Bocchikiss.

Thank you.

And then, yeah, Facebook. Is facebook.com boccebrand for the contest. I just needed to say that.

Thank you.

Thank you.

I wanted to say that because I was like, I didn't want to say the wrong.

The wrong Facebook page, but I have them all here. And then I saw that I had them all here. There's a lot going on today. There is, but Veronica would punch me.

In the face when I got home.

No. But. No, I think it's great that you guys are on a mission to celebrate every woman and the. The brand. And that's what this is about. Making women feel good. So we're gonna. And we'll be talking about it more in weeks to come.

Thank you.

So thank you. Okay, Coyote, we have a few minutes left. Like what? Our roundup. Like. Okay. So we're gonna be doing some video. Okay. So Kaido doing videos.

So I'm here For a trade show. It's the adult novelty Manufacturers Expo where I get to go around and with a bunch of other people and see the newest products are being released. It's great because essentially we get to plan the next six to eight months of our inventory.

Right.

There's a lot of great products being released. I haven't seen a lot of them. I've seen a few that I cannot talk about, but they are beyond exciting.

Okay.

I saw one today that I think is gonna really be great.

It's a whole new.

It's a whole new.

Can I see it? Will I be able to see it on Saturday? Because we do videos. You guys gotta check it out on my website. And YouTube, we'll tweet it, all that stuff. And we've done a lot of videos.

We do. Yeah, we have a. We have a good time doing videos.

Oh, bocce booth. Yeah, we're coming there. We're gonna come check out your booth. We'll do a video.

Oh, that's awesome.

Oh, yeah. Oh, we're gonna do some. Some stuff. It's gonna be a big sex weekend. I actually never have sex with these things, by the way.

Right. I'm just saying it's actually business.

Well, there's people around. It's a public place.

Just think I'd be having. You know, everyone's in the mood. There's toys, laundry.

It's really just widgets.

People think people are always dooming.

When I say sexy it. But you know, it's like Tupperware.

Yeah, I know. To us. Is that sad?

So just in brief, what people can look forward to though, there is a product coming out next week that is out app controlled and wi fi. So you can control it over with an app.

Okay.

Or you can control that's so cool over the computer. So long distance intimacy.

So if you're in a long distance relationship, your partner, you both. You have the toy. Your partner, as the app can. Is controlling it. The. The speed.

Yeah. And it can be across the room or they can be on a website across the country or across the world. So I think that's the future that we have to look forward to is increased intimacy even no matter what the distance between people. So people who have partners who travel a lot, long distance love affairs, folks who are stationed elsewhere in the world. There's just a lot of great options for people coming down.

I know, I'm excited.

There's a lot of products that are coming out with apps. It's actually the new frontiers.

Okay. I've Heard about.

I haven't seen it.

Harder and harder to rationalize cheating.

That's right. That's right.

You'd be like, but we had the app, honey.

Yeah. You didn't have to do that with that strange woman.

Exactly. I know. Exactly.

And plus, there really is no reason to cheat because you can have million different ways to have sex and different sex lives. You can put on your sexy lingerie. You can put on your sexy lingerie. Anderson, I have a pair for you.

Yeah, yeah. We got some of our answers.

There's a million different ways to be different people at different times and places.

Exactly. Let's have fun with this.

Absolutely.

Don't be so uptight and keep doing it the same way over and over again. You just got to try. We've talked about a lot today. Gave you a lot of good ideas. So thank you, Coyote, for being on the show and everyone as they know. Goodvibes.com. i can't say it enough. I know. And thank you. Bocci. Bocci. And in coming weeks, we're gonna have some sexy, amazing photos for you, including from my. My girls in the office. Women.

Awesome.

Can girls. Is it coming back? Can I say girls are. It's still offensive, I think.

Depends on who you ask.

They are younger. They're so cute. And girls. But they can be your girls. They offended Anderson. What are you looking at me? We gotta go.

I didn't realize that girls is offensive. I call my mom.

I think. I think women studies in college. Like, you can't say girls.

Well, I mean, I was walking down the street today over in the Santa Monica, and someone's over, like, hate girls. And I'm like. I turn.

You guys are such a pain in the ass.

Can I just say that?

Well, here, here. I want. I want boys.

Yeah, okay.

Yeah, boys is fine. Really?

No, but girls, I feel like is still. I still have a kid issue. I don't know why it's from. It's like, hey, lady.

My wife has a. My wife has an issue with the lady.

What about lady Lady?

Because when my assistants, they're writing and interns, they're like, ladies. And I'm like, I. Ladies. Feels like that's.

I know I've emailed all of you and said, hi, ladies.

And I. It doesn't bug me because I realized it was something in women's studies class that it was like, ladies and women.

That's why people shouldn't go to school.

Exactly.

I think that's. That's the real moral of the story here.

I can Be a lady. I can be a woman, but I feel girl. I've not been a girl for a very long time.

I agree with you, Coyote. I act like one, but I'm actually.

Definitely act like one.

Bummer. Okay, everyone. Anderson, what's up with you? How's your latest podcast?

Time to wrap it up, girls.

Okay, you don't want to say anything about your podcast? Fine.

Oh yeah, yeah.

Film Vault.

What's up? And after disaster, everything's going good. We're obnoxious over there, just like I am here. Sorry.

I love it. You're not too bad. Okay, everyone, thanks so much for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedbacksexwithemily.com.

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Okay. Jordan, do you know that couples that play together actually stay together?

I think I'm just gonna leave this totally intact, by the way.

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Okay, what does that involve?

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Okay.

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Right. You just be super honest with it.

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That sounds extremely boring, but I think the other ones sound a little more promising.

I think you're right.

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