Sex Toys for Penis Owners

You know, so much would happen in this world if we just get rid of all the shame that we carry around sex, like, and all the worry and the stress and the, you know, everything around toys. And I'm just here to tell you that I was gonna say I'm not a toy pusher, but I kind of am a toy pusher because I think that the benefits definitely outweigh whatever's holding you back.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sexual life is short. So why not add sex toys to your pleasure routine? Now, I know that vulva owners seem to understand this. Most pleasure products are purchased by vulva owners. But today I am talking toys for penises. Whether you have one or you want to please one, sex toys offer tons of benefits. Plus, toys are not just for solo play. They can enhance connection and pleasure with your partner. But I get it. It can be so difficult to know what to look for, how to use them, or which ones to buy, why you might need them at all. And that's why in today's episode, I'm myth busting misconceptions and sharing my top products and tips for penile pleasure. From lasting harder and longer to discovering those pleasure points a hand alone simply cannot reach. So if there's a penis in your life, I've got the toy for it. Intentions with Emily for each episode, Join me in setting an intention for the show. So when you're listening, what do you want to get out of this episode? Like, how do you think this episode can help you? What? My intention is to normalize sex toys for the penis owner in your life. Whether it's those hard to reach pleasure points or unlocking new connections with a partner, there is just no reason not to incorporate sex toys into your routine. Please rate and review Sex with Emily Wherever you listen to the show, check out my YouTube channel, social media, and TikTok. It's all sex with Emily for more sex tips and advice. If you want to ask me question, leave me your questions or message me@sexwithemily.com askemily or call my hotline for 559-talk-SEX or 559-825-5739. Just include your name, your age, where you live, and how you listen to the show. And it's totally cool to change your name or choose to reign. Anonymous. All right, everyone. Enjoy this episode.

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All right, let's talk sex toys for the penis in your life. Whether you're a penis owner or you just want to please one, toys will increase and amp up your pleasure in a really major way. I know what you're thinking. You're thinking, well, I've got a hand or I've got a partner. Why do I need to use a toy? Well, the reason why we love to stimulate all these pleasure points in our body, you know, with hands or penises and vulvas. And why it feels, why sex feels so good is because we have nerve endings all over our body. But toys will stimulate nerve endings that our hand just can't reach. So we're experiencing even more pleasure. A lot of us get into masturbation ruts. We do the same thing over and over again. Well, guess what? A toy is going to get you out of that rut. And toys can also enhance connection with a partner. I know a lot of people think it toys take away something from a partner or toys are going to replace you, but not at all. In fact, couples who use toys report that it's actually enhances their intimacy because it's something new and it's novel, and you can use them during partnered sex. So that is increasing all the novelty and enhancing trust. So toys are fun, and there's also some interesting health benefits to toys. So I understand that there is some stigma. All right, there's stigma around sex toys for penis owners. So before I get into how to use them and I get into your questions, let's just clear out the myths. Right? A lot of busting myths on this show. Okay, so there's a myth that sex toys are just for vulva owners, which I understand, because we're always hearing about sex toys, Revolver owners. And the truth is, the majority of them made are for vulva owners, and men are less likely to use them than people from other genders. And According to a 2022 research, women double men in sex toy ownership. During the pandemic, half of vulval owners said they use toys, but only 23.6 of penis owners use a toy. So here's the reality. Every gender can use sex toys, and that number is growing all the time. The other myth. I have a partner. I don't need one. And this one just makes me laugh. People say that about lube, too. Like, I don't need lube or I don't need a toy. How about you just want one because it feels so good? Toys are gonna stimulate nerve endings so internal that your flesh alone, your hand or your partner's body just can't stimulate them. But they're there. Don't you want to stimulate them? I mean, and toys can definitely be incorporated into partner sex, as, you know. You know, it is not binary here. It's not toys versus partner. And there was a study in 2020 that said that 61% of respondents said they buy toys for themselves and their partners. I love that that's changing. Ten years ago, it was only at 50%. Now we're at 61%. You know, so much would happen in this world if we just get rid of all the shame that we carry around sex, like, and all the worry and the stress and the, you know, everything around toys. And I'm just here you that. I was gonna say I'm not a toy pusher, but I kind of am a toy pusher because I think that the benefits definitely outweigh whatever is holding you back. So before we get into the specific benefits, let's just real quick go over some basic anatomy and all the places penis owners can use toys or you can use the toys on the penis in your life. All right, there's this shaft that is the long part of the penis. There's the head, the tip. That's the nerve packed tip of the penis that is typically the most sensitive. And then there's a frenulum. And this is just a band of tissue that connects the foreskin to the head, if you have foreskin. And if not, it's just the part where the foreskin was. Okay. So it's essentially the spot on the underside of the penis where the shaft meets the head as you make your way down. We have the testicles and the scrotum or the balls. These are just two small organs responsible for making sperm, also responsible for producing the hormone testosterone. Then we have the pelvic floor, the perineum. And just remember, the pelvic floor is just those bowl of muscles. Yes, we all have pelvic floors that sit at the base of your torso and they are the ones that spasm during orgasm. So those are the muscles responsible for orgasm. And then we have the perineum, also called the taint, that is the skin between the scrotum and the anus. And that area also offers indirect stimulation to the prostate. So let's talk about the prostate. That is the internal walnut shaped gland accessible via the anus. And only penis owners have a prostate. Now, there is a misconception that the penis owner's enjoyment of stimulation of a prostate is connected to their sexual orientation. But this is just not true at all. And it can feel amazing when stimulated. So I encourage all penis owners to explore their prostate. Toys are a great way to do it, or with a finger or with a penis. Now we've got the basics out of the way. You can picture the penis in your mind. Let's discuss the benefits. All right, here are the benefits. Number one, like I've said, but I'm going to break this down for you. Sex toys stimulate nerve endings in a very specific way that like a finger or a penis or parts of your body just won't be able to reach every time. And your hands don't vibrate. Right. So it just feels different. So this really diversifies and amps your pleasure. For example, like the perineum. The perineum again is that area that's in between the butt and the genitals. Right. And you can stimulate that area indirectly from the outside. And there's a nerve there called the pudendal nerve, and that nerve is related to orgasm. And you're indirectly stimulating the prostate and you can stimulate that with vibrating toys. And that can feel incredible. There's also the frenulum which is that little area on the underside of the penis, the under the tip of the penis. Toys can also stimulate these pleasure receptors. And that can feel incredible as well. And I think that when I tell a lot of penis owners, it's like, oh yeah, that's the area I always focus on. Well, there are toys you could use to stimulate that area. Another benefit, they just help you break out of the rut. Penis owners often report to me that they can only orgasm in one way. They're like, it has to be very specific. I need to grip my hand in this way. I can only do this rhythm or I can't orgasm at all. So using toys can help you mix up your masturbation routine and find that there's other paths to pleasure. Because there are many paths to pleasure. What I love about toys, they help you get there. So the stimulations we get from vibrations are positively correlated with increased desire and overall sexual pleasure and function. So when you are adding a little vibration to the mix, that is stimulating blood flow. And blood flow is what's responsible for erection and eventually for orgasm. Like without blood flow, you're not going to get erect and, and you're not going to have an orgasm. But when you use a vibrator, it just helps the whole process and feels incredible. So what the study said specifically is increased genital blood flow and sensations provoked by a vibrator use are interpreted positively by individuals, thus enhancing desire. And let me just say this. Whenever I have faced resistance from penis owner and I've said, just this is my personal experience and I've said, try this. How does this feel? They all love it. They're like, bring that toy with us every single time. So however you can get your partner to, you know, or yourself just to kind of experience it and try it out, I think you're gonna like it. Okay. And for Volvo owners, if you are sharing your toy, the penis owner, sometimes Volvo owners like toys on a really high setting, the most intense setting. But when you're using this toy with a penis, you want to use it on the lowest setting and go from there, test it, see how it feels. People with disabilities, you know, you might have challenges using your hands and there's a lot of hand free toys that will help you out and feel incredible. Another benefit is they enhance our connection with a partner. And you can use most, if not all these toys I'm talking about during partnered sex. And that definitely increases the novelty because a lot of us just get bored doing the same thing over and over again. And Toys help you discover new pleasure spots. So this is really useful data for when you're having partnered sex. Like maybe you used a toy, you explored your prostate, or use toy around your balls, or you're playing with your perineum and you're like, oh, I just found this new spot that feels great. Well, that's when you get to transfer this information to a partner. So it's almost like we're learning, we're writing our own owner's manual and then passing that off to a lover because they don't always know what to do. How great if we show up fully educated and the experts of our own body and our own pleasure. And lastly, there are a lot of benefits to using sex toys. There was a study in 2018 that said that vibratory stimulation has evidence based support for the treatment of erectile dysfunction, ejaculatory dysfunction, and inability to orgasm. I want to remind you that regular masturbation also works out the pelvic floor muscles, which are important muscles to strengthen. They can help with erectile dysfunction and urinary incontinence. And when you use a toy like a stroker, it helps to engage the pelvic floor muscles and engorge with blood more quickly than with the hand. It just sort of speeds things up. And to me that's not a cheat, that's not a weakness. That's like, I know that this stroker that vibrates is going to feel incredible and it's going to get me there. And even can help train your body as well to understand your ejaculatory control, to understand your body better. And over time, this can help make orgasms stronger and harder and improves the vascularity of the penis, which again is all about blood flow. The other health benefit is massaging the prostate, which helps to release excess seminal fluid. Now, seminal fluid is fluid that mixes with the sperm to create semen. But the problem is seminal fluid could get backed up in the prostatic duct. So the benefits of this release is that it helps to ease inflammation of the prostate. It helps reduce the risk of prostate cancer and other prostate conditions like prostatitis. It can help with erectile dysfunction and can make ejaculation less painful. So get to know your prostate. So let's get into some tips and techniques before I get into your questions. So I think you all understand now, there are some benefits here to using a toy if you have a penis. But let me break them down specifically, like, now that you know this how we use them. So I talked about strokers, a Little bit masturbation sleeves and strokers are used synonymously, but they're a little bit different how they're built. So there's textured tubes, and these are made of stretchy porous material that wraps around the penis to simulate penetrative sex. Now, some of these sleeves, which you may have seen can resemble a vulva or they can feel like an anus. They can resemble an anus, they can be more abstract. They might not look like a vulva. Some do. And it can come in a tube or it can be egg shaped. Those are the sleeves. And essentially use that when you're masturbating. Or partner can use them on you when they're masturbating. And it just feels great because again, it's not your hand and the material that it's made out of just feels really great against all those nerve endings. Sometimes they're vibrating, sometimes they're just contoured. Either way, they can feel great. Use these strokers on your own when you're masturbating. For many, I recommend edging. So if you ejaculate before you want to. Sometimes called premature ejaculation, this is a strengthening technique of edging, of masturbating until you get to the point where you're about to ejaculate and then you bring it back down again to like a 7 or 8. So if you think of the scale of 10 is where you're going to ejaculate, and one is you're just not erect at all. You start to masturbate until you're about at 8 or 9, and then you bring it back down to about a four or five, and then you go back up again and you repeat this a few times and you'll have a more intense finish. Your orgasm will be a lot stronger when you edge and you tease yourself. And a stroker is a great way to do this. Also, you can use a stroker during partnered play, which is really fun to use this for mutual masturbation. I love using a stroker and you always want to add some lube to it. Feels amazing. Tenga makes a really cool toy, which is the Flip zero masturbator. And essentially there's soft ridges inside of this toy and there's these strong vacuum sensations. All right, so your penis is put inside of this masturbator and it delivers suction and like a forced stimulation and it can feel incredible. I'm just saying. Gotten great feedback on this. And don't forget, you need lube for all of these Toys. Definitely. Don't forget the lube. Never forget the lube. Just have the lube on your nightstand. So let's talk about penis rings, AKA rings. There are two different kinds essentially, but they fit snugly around the base of the penis and they help keep it hard. So there's just the ring that doesn't vibrate. They can help penis strengthen their erections by promoting blood flow. But these days, vibrating rings are also really, really popular again because vibrations feel amazing. They can be great for hand free stimulation of your penis if you're using it on your own or with a partner. Because with a partner, a lot of these toys, the vibrating rings have clitoral stimulation. So if you're having penetrative sex, you have this ring at the base of your penis. Not only will help you stay hard, but it's providing this clitoral stimulation. Most vulva owners require clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex. It can help a lot of vulva owners reach orgasm during sex penetrative sex with the use of a penis ring. There's different variations of penis rings. You know, most of them are one size fits most or one size fits all. So for some, before you're erect, you want to stretch around the penis and the testicles. Because once you get erect and the penis is already snug in place, it can feel great to stimulate testicles and your penis. So again, a lot of these are made for solo and partnered play. I really love Jaejoo has a Mio cock ring. I've had this one for years and it is the top one that I use. Jaejoo. I don't know if I've talked about them to you guys lately, but they are a luxury sex toy company. They've been operating now for nearly a decade. I have to say that JJOO is one of the companies that actually launched my whole passion for sex toys. They sent me one called the Mimi that I talked about in a show about 15 years ago and people like went crazy and bought this toy. But their cock ring is epic. Jeu products are known for these deep rumbly sensations. These deep rumbly sensations feel great on the penis and also in the clitoris. And here's something awesome. Jiu is currently offering a 30% discount to sex with Emily listeners. Plus you get a free tote bag. Oh. With every Hera and Juno purchase. So the Hera is their new toy, H E R A. And it is a rabbit style vibe. It's like a dual stimulation toy. And I fraking love it. Just use code EMILY30. That's EMILY30 at checkout@jew.com that's j e j-o u e.com. check out all their toys. I literally cannot recommend them enough. I'm a huge fan. All right, let's talk about wand vibrators for a minute. All right, so wand vibrators have a long shaft attached to like a bulbous vibrating head. They're really versatile. They're for external use. However, you can really effectively use it externally on the shaft, the perineum around the anus, opening, et cetera. Great for indirect stimulation. Love a wand vibrator. So you want to definitely start in the lower settings and build up. And you know, your nerve endings just might want to adjust the sensations a little bit. So you don't want to go too hard too fast actually with anything with a sex toy or with a partner or with sex at all. Like always go slow. Like that is my very best advice. Go five times slower than you think. You need to go with everything sexual. The magic wand is the legendary original wand style massager. They released it over 50 years ago and these are really fun toys to play with for partnered sex. They have several different models right now. I am obsessed with their mini, but I love their magic wand rechargeable. This wand is cordless. It's convenient. It's no longer plugged into the wall, but you could still buy their magic wand original. And it's variable speeds, a silicone head multifunctions. You will love the rechargeable. There's a great article on my site about all the ways to use a magic wand that you might not have thought about. So check that out too. It's sexwithemily.com magic wand. So then we got prostate massager. So prostate massages are specifically designed to stimulate the prostate versus butt plugs which are for all butts. A prostate massager can either be vibrating or non vibrating. And what I love about these are they are very specifically fit into the prostate. So you just insert them through the anus. You can use them a alone or you can have your partner use it on. You use a lot of lube and these are great, you guys. The results of prostate stimulation is a really deep, internal, incredible orgasm without penile stimulation. I mean, you could be stimulating your penis, but you don't have to be. Okay. So I liken this to the G spot orgasm. For vulva owners, you sort of fight it in the same way too. It's about an inch and a half inside. You could use a Finger in a come hither motion going towards your belly button. But you could also use a toy, which is why prostate toys just, just fit perfectly and they're amazing. There's also, like I said, butt plugs and anal beads. The butt plugs also stimulate deep internal nerve endings in the anus, but not quite the prostate. And anal beads are just really fun because the fun part about anal beads is they just stimulate the surface nerve endings and it just feels different as you pull them out slowly or quickly. They have just a different intensity. Again, we're talking about different ways to play your nerve endings. I love lube. Again, use lube. A lot of these toys are made of silicone, so you want to use a water based lube. I'm obsessed with playground lube, you guys, because with silicone toys you have to use a water based lube because silicone breaks down silicone. It is a body safe lube. They use really quality ingredients. They help increase blood flow. They have ingredients in there that just help with orgasms. They have great pop top bottles that you just leave on your nightstand. I partner with playground to offer you 15 off your first order. Just use COD Sex with Emily@helloplayground.com prostate massagers. You want to use a toy that is specifically for the prostate. And I am obsessed with Aneros. Aneros has been. They're all about prostate toys. Like, that's what they do. They have so many different kinds. They are so specific and they really care. They really care about your prostate. They're designed to be more comfortable. When they're inserted, you can move them laterally, up and down, in and out. If you want to play with the prostate, check out Aneros and then delay sprays. All right, I know delay sprays are not a toy, but they do help you stay erect longer because many penis owners, they orgasm before they want to for many different reasons. You might even have an overgrowth of nerve endings. Well, delay sprays just help calm down those nerve receptors so your orgasm doesn't happen as fast. Now this can be a game changer for penis owners who just have, you know, unpredictable ejaculation. So you just simply, you spray this at the underside of the penis. You wait like 10 minutes and you're good to go. It doesn't go transfer to a partner, which is incredible. You can also, for example, use it with a vibrating penis ring. You might think, oh, well, a penis ring is too stimulating. You could use the delay spray, then add the ring, wait 10 minutes, please your partner at the time, and you Are good to go. I love promescent delay spray. Their technology ensures quick absorption. Definitely won't transfer your partner and they are just the best in the business. So if you want to check out promescent, it's long lasting, easy to use. Been talking about them for years. Just go to promescent.com emily that's P R O M E S C E N T. Again, everything I mentioned is in the show notes. I'm gonna take a short break. When we come back, I'll answer all your questions on sex toys for penis owners.

Okay. This is from Ryan, 34, in Arizona. Hey, Dr. Emily. My wife is 36 and I've been married for 13 years now. Our sex life has been a roller coaster over the years, but I feel like it's certainly on the up. As you say, communication is the best lubrication. We've really been openly talking about it as of late. However, I can't seem to break the barrier of sex toys in the bedroom. That might seem initially like one of us want to start using them and the other one doesn't. No, we have a good sized collection for both of us. The part that concerns me and I've tried to broach the topic with my wife is she really seems to enjoy when I pull hers out for use, but mine are collecting dust. We haven't used any of mine and I couldn't tell you how long. She just tells me she doesn't think about it in the moment. I try to hint at pulling them out and she seems to ignore that I said anything. I could really use your help. I don't know why she won't use them on me anymore. Hope to hear your insight. Enjoy listening to your show. So, Ryan, thank you so much for your question here. Okay, so just to recap, you're saying, like, you guys have great sex, you communicate, you've been together for 13 years. You guys are so many toys that you've picked out that you both love. You're all about using hers and she's just not pulling out yours. So here's a question for you. Are these toys clearly like, like in a place where she can easily access them? Meaning, like if you've got a whole drawer of toys and they're all commingled together in the moment, is she gonna be able to be like, that toy is for Ryan and you know, is it charged and all the things. Because I have to tell you that I someone who is challenged around organization. I've had these challenges where I, as you can imagine, have so many sex toys. And they're all. Before I had help organizing them, they were all in a big drawer. And, like, sometimes they were charged and sometimes they weren't. And then I got frustrated and, like, I just really needed help saying, like, these are the three toys I'm using this week, this month. They're organized, they're ready to go. I'm reminded of them. They're sitting out, and they're clean. Cause what I can't imagine is that's just my. Like, maybe she needs help. Either it's that, and I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt that she just needs help, you know, saying like, oh, yeah, these are the ones you want, and here's where they are. Cause sometimes also, we're caught up in the moment. Like, you're using toys on her. It feels incredible. She's having pleasure orgasms. So maybe her brain isn't thinking about, like, where's that toy? And I have to find it. So maybe you could help facilitate that process. Now, the other thing here is that, like, okay, let's say you're right. You're saying to me, well, she just cares about her own pleasure. And what you're thinking is, like, is she ignoring me? Does she not care about my pleasure? And it just. It doesn't sound that way to me. So that's what I'm saying, like, the best thing you can do is outside the bedroom rather than just, I'd love you to use toys on me as well, because we know that didn't work. You could say, I really want to talk to you about something. I just want to, like, talk about our sex life. You can use a compliment sandwich, which is where you are, you know, giving some advice, and it's surrounded on both sides by some compliments. So essentially, you're saying, hey, you know, sex has been so hot lately when you. I love watching you orgasm with that toy I've been using. And, you know, I know I've mentioned that I want you to use toys on me. And I'm. I'm wondering. This is the. Ask the middle part of the sandwich. Like, I've noticed that sometimes it's not happening. So I'm wondering if. If there's a reason why it's not happening. And. Or is there anything I can do to kind of help make that happen to facilitate that? And then the last piece of that would be. Because I really hope if we both use toys, our sex life's going to be even better. So you close out the sandwich with another compliment, right so it's. It's a compliment. It's a request and then a compliment. Okay. Then you'll find out if she's like, well, you know, I just don't think your pleasure is as important as mine. Or, yeah, I actually don't like those phrases. We're going to find out what it is. But I can't imagine that she's purposely thinking like, I don't want Ryan to have as much as pleasure as I do. So let's do a little bit of problem solving, a little bit, you know, more communication around this and see what happens. Okay, Ryan, thanks for your email. Okay. This is from Julie, 42, in Houston, Texas. Hey, Dr. Emily. I have another question about toys, so welcome back, Julie. As mentioned in my previous message, my boyfriend. I are novices in toy exploration. I find it overwhelming when I look at toy stores, even your site, because there's just too many options and I don't know what is best. Totally relate to you, Julie. That is a real thing. I was given a recommendation to look for one, a masturbation sleeve. There was one recommended, but it's crazy expensive. Would you know any cheaper racks? And then number two, a prostate massager. We just started exploring anal plugs. Is there a massager for him? That's the least overwhelming. Great questions you have come from to the right place. I also have an article on the site called how do I Buy my boyfriend a sex Toy? That might help you and anyone listening. If you want to look into that article, we'll put it in the show notes. Okay, so let me tell you the masturbation sleeves that I'm into. So there's two kinds. There are masturbation sleeves that sort of vibrate, and there's ones that don't vibrate. So there's a sleeve that goes over your penis that kind of helps with masturbating, or you could masturbate them. But I recommend the fun masturbation sleeves that vibrate like the hot octopus. They have the Pulse 3 Solo and the Pulse 3 Duo. Essentially, it's a sleeve, like think of like a hot dog bun that goes around the penis and it vibrates and the duo just has vibration on the outside. So while you're using it on your partner, you could sort of ride on top of them and that could hit your clitoris. The duo. But either one of them are great masturbation sleeves, and they have a little oscillator. It's like an oscillating vibrator. It goes around in circles and targets the Frenulum. So that's one kind of sleeve. And the hot octopus, they're good company. I love them. They care a lot about penises. They're always trying to innovate. The other kind of sleeve is like a flashlight. Like that's a classic, been around for a long time. They have a masturbation sleeve and they're the ones that get actually looks like a flashlight, but it's a flashlight. Get, it's a flash flashlight, but you open the lid and then inside of it is there a material that sort of. They always say like it looks and feels like the real deal. Meaning of it kind could look, if you choose like a vulva, like a vagina, like an anus, and then you put his penis inside of it. And it has like special ridges that like just feel really great against all of those nerve endings. Right. So that's why we like to use a masturbation sleeve. For a silicone sleeve, you definitely want to use a water based lubricant because it lasts longer. Those are fun masturbation sleeves and those are both priced around $100. Now a really inexpensive option, the Tanga Tanga makes these eggs and those are just like fun. And they also have ones with ridges and they have ones that you can dispose of. So prostate massagers, if you want one that doesn't vibrate, that's just a great massager. I recommend Ineros. Like I said, they are in the prostate business and their toys are just made for stimulating the prostate. And if you want a really cool prostate massager vibrating toy, I highly recommend the Hugo by Lelo. So this can be used for coupled or solo play. It has two vibrating motors. One's in the base and one's in the tip. It's medium sized, so it's great for all levels of experience with prostate play. It also has a remote control, which is really cool because your partner can control it from that same room with you like hands free. Maybe it's in your pants and they're controlling it. I mean just, just go crazy. Use your imagination, have fun with the remote and have fun with playing with your prostate. And Lelo makes really beautiful toys. So I think this is a wonderful gift. My listeners right now can get 25% off their entire order at Lelo, which is pretty awesome. Just use code Emily. And that's@lelo.com l e l o.com use code emily. Get some fun toys. All right. Thanks for your question. Appreciate you. This is from Pamela. Hey, Dr. Emily. I appreciate your podcast and resources it's helped me a lot lately after so many years of my husband complaining me not being interested in sex. We've noticed a lot of beautiful things these days. Well, I have a toy which he got me and I want to give him one to see how pleased he will feel since I love mine. I have two already, but they did not fit because he's a large size do recommendations for a large penis. All right, so any of these sleeves I talked about would definitely work on a large penis. If you're looking for a vibrating ring, like a cock ring, which is just for some reason, I have a sense that that's what you are looking for here. Fun Factory has a really great one called the Nose Nos. And what I love about this one is it's large in size and it has two little like. It's like the ears of a rabbit vibe that stimulates the clitoris. So this is a win win for the whole family. So I love this one. You could check that out. We can add a link in our show notes and also if you want to just try and find his size. Screaming O is a brand that makes a bunch of cock rings and they have ones that are disposable and they have ones that are all different sizes. So then there's also the We Vibe Verge, and that's a cock ring for perineum Pleasures. So it sort of goes around actually when he's more flaccid and you stick the penis. His penis through, you can also put his balls in there and it stimulates the perineum and that is called the verge, the We Vibe Verge. All right, so start with those and see how it goes. Thank you so much for your question.

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