Sexting, Cheating & Summer Flings

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Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.

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Hi.

What up?

What's going on?

How are you? Good.

What are you saying about.

I listen to everything that you tell me. So now if you go to my website, there is a subscribe thing on the banner, but now when you click on it, you can download it on Google Play, Soundcloud, and then you can also listen on Spotify and of course, itunes.

Nice. Yeah, dude, the more places available.

I know, and we already got ranked in all these places. It was just like a few weeks because I just. I want people to easily be able to digest Podcast. Yeah, our podcast. And also I appreciate everyone following me on Snapchat, Twitter, and Instagram, which is all at Sex with Emily. And I was menaced. I. I was like, I just. Follow me. It's fun. It's a good time. But then last week you mentioned the. The bikini shot.

Yeah. So if you haven't heard and people.

No, but now there's more shots.

Oh, there's more shots. Well, let's just recap real quick. So the. One of the last shows that I was on with you, I mentioned that you finally put up a bikini pic on Your instagram, which is instagram.com sexwithemily and I just slightly, you know, mentioned that, that it finally happened. For all you listeners that have been waiting for years and years and years, there is a bikini photo available again@instagram.com sexwithemily and apparently people were really into that.

They listened and they went there and you said, hi. That's fun. Yeah, that was funny. But now I'm gonna have a picture of me in a muzzle on the mic, maybe.

Oh, yeah. So that's my thing. So I've been doing the show with Emily for 10 years, and it's not just me because she always thought that I was a jerk, and I'm just making this up, and it was all hocus pocus. But to get Emily to talk directly on the mic the whole time, freaking me out.

It's hard because I move around. I forget the mic's here. So I'm, like, leaning over. My hands are talking.

If you hear the beginning. If you hear the beginning of the drunk podcast, which you can look up.

We're doing that every day now.

Yeah. The very beginning of the drunk podcast. You hear the frustration of me trying to explain to Emily, to talk directly onto the microphone. But I would love to put together a muzzle microphone for you that just.

Like, my face is just attached so they can't move. I can't look left, I can't look right. I'm just in, in, in.

And we'll take a picture of that and put it up on your Instagram.

So that's awesome. But I was saying also that Anderson was here. We do some shows with Anderson, and he was saying the same thing.

So see, it's not just me.

I know. I hear you. I hear you. And also. Okay, one more thing. When you're there, subscribe to our newsletter, because we do give good newsletters, and I think that's what I have. Oh. On facebook.com sexwithemily about to hit a million followers. Yeah. I feel like we should have, like, a Facebook party and then do the Facebook Live thing.

So that's what I really want to get you on next. So you have your own office space. You can definitely set that up.

Here we have a rockin new studio. It's banging. We should take pictures of that and put that up. Do it again, because they're trying to killer. Go ahead.

Oh, so I hear rumblings that we talk about Vegas too much. I can't help that.

I'm just in my. They're like, oh, we open up every show man school in Vegas. And you're da, da. And I'm like, what do you want.

Me to do that I go to Las Vegas? Okay, how about this? This weekend I'm going to Mexico. Is that okay with everybody?

Yeah, I think so. That's fine. That's a little different variety in your life.

I'm sorry. After I go to Mexico, I go to Vegas again.

So what are you doing in Vegas? No, what are you doing?

I'm going to UFC 200 in Vegas. But I'm going to. Yeah, Riviera. Maya.

Oh, that's awesome. Maya Tulum.

That's great.

It's gonna be fun. Like a romantic vacation with your girlfriend.

Just a fun vacation. We don't do. Roman.

Romance is. So I was going to have rose petals delivered to your room and sprinkled on your bed.

We would have barfed and knocked them off the.

I think maybe that's why you need them. But that's good for a week or something.

No, just a couple days during fourth of July.

Good. Oh, oh.

Unfortunately, since we're gonna be in Mexico, we probably won't see any fireworks.

Kids, they're overrated.

Yeah. So what are you gonna do fourth of July?

I'm going to Malibu.

Oh.

To a party. My friend has a house on the beach and we're gonna see fireworks.

That's cool.

I know. I love. I really. When we live. You live in la, you think beach. But yet when you don't live near the beach, it's hard to get your ass to the beach. It's like 40, 30 minutes and not complaining. LA, like beautiful, sunny every day. But when you get there, I was there a few weeks ago at her house and it's like, oh, my God, the ocean's like right there. It's nurturing and cathartic and all that stuff.

That's really cool.

So, yeah, it'll be a fun party. And what else am I gonna do? I'm having brunch with a friend.

A friend. A guy friend or a girlfriend?

A guy friend. Oh. But it's really a friend. He's the guy friend that. Yes, I think we made out 10 years ago, but we're actually really, really good friends. I like him, I respect him. He's a good guy. He's funny as hell. And yeah, we're having. And then what else? Oh, I have a birthday party. I have so much.

Do you know what you gave the key indicator for? Here's a heads up for guys. Oh, you know how I know it was a guy? Because a Woman will always say, oh, I'm meeting up with a friend. If it was a female friend, you would have said, oh, I'm meeting up with my friend Stacy. That's.

And what did I say? A friend. Just a friend. A friend is so elusive. You're right.

Giveaway. That's a dude.

It's a guy friend. I don't think he likes. I really don't think that he does. I think that we're past that phase. Like, he's, you know, so. But I'm going to, like, super social because it's, like, summer. I feel really good that it's, you know, it just. Even though this is my thing. So today's show, yeah, it is a guy, whatever. But this today's show, we are talking about summer. Why summer is a great time for sex, for dating, for love. Because you. Okay. And I started thinking about this madness. All you California people, born and raised, like you and Madison, Lori, like, literally all my friends and everyone who works here, you're like, big effing deal. It's the same. I got a job. Why do I care about summer? But let me tell you a little story, okay? For most of the world, we have this thing called winter.

Oh, what?

And we even have snow.

No.

And I grew up in Michigan, where it was, you know, you get like 20. So college, for example, my prime dating years, you know, when I go there and it's like, you. It would be like, you know, 20 inches of snow for like, six months where I couldn't find my car. I would have to walk to school, like, down these, like, streets that they just dug tunnels underneath. And I'm wearing layers of clothes, right? And it's freezing all year round. But then summer comes along. It's like May right on campus. And it's like the first day of summer. A snow is melting, and it's like 60 to 5 degrees, and everyone's outside. Because all summer long, winter long, you don't see people. You're, like, rushing by with, like, I've got, like, masks on. I've got, like, long underwear.

Not sexy.

You don't meet anybody. And then there's this one day every year and you're outside. You're like, wow. Like, the sun is shining and everyone looks so cute. Like, the guys are in shorts, the girls are in sundresses. You're like, where have these people been? Oh, my God, I'm so. And you just feel good because the, you know, the sun is good for your, like, serotonin. It's good for Your brain.

Yeah.

And everyone just happier when it's summertime and you have. The days are longer.

But isn't. Isn't there like a term they use on the east coast or something like that where people hug up for the winter or something like that?

Yeah, like, people shack up for the.

Yeah, like.

Like the winter boyfriend or something. Yeah.

And then they're sing single in the summer.

Yeah. Well, that's what I'm talking about. This show is all about why I. And I started thinking about, like, it is great to be, you know, single in the summer because there's so many more fun things to do. We're outside, we just feel better about ourselves. We're like, exercising. We, like, have friends or, like, having barbecues, like, and being outdoor. Like, the weather does make a difference. Like, that really does impact. And I just wanted you all to know that, all you California people, because I am a California person. Now that we've suffered and there's a lot of people, like, it's a huge thing.

Yeah. Oh, well, they should just come to California.

I know. We're really lucky, though. I just want to tell you about my suffering and why it still is a big deal.

Well, you love it here now, right?

Totally.

Has it helped you, though, in the summer to date?

Oh, yeah, for sure. No, I mean, even living in California. Okay. I'm saying that it's. It's just. It is true. Like, I. And also I feel that this is.

I feel like there's a huge fight in America. I feel like we all really wanted to stay on the couch most time. I think that that's the pull. Like, if we have a choice, usually, even if it's a fun party, we're like, but I really just want to stay home and watch Netflix. That's the easy thing. That's the default. And in the winter, you can do that or when it's not as warm. But this time, like, everyone's having parties and people are inviting you to things, or you can have people over, go for walks, do things like that. And it's just. There's just more opportunity to be social. And I find myself sometimes even having to push myself. But I realize lately when I do go out, I'm always glad that I. That I do. And especially just the last. Even the last few weeks, because it's been warmer here at a night that I. I've met a lot of people, and it's just that I've met a few guys and I feel like every time I do it. So I'm Just trying to urge people too. Like, I don't want to go out a lot, but I do it. And I actually am always glad that I do and just get off the couch on people because it's just, it's. That person's not gonna just like drop down your chimney.

Uh huh. Oh, and then also a trip to Vegas never hurts.

No.

It's funny.

Transient. You need to hook up with some guy. They're talking about meeting someone in your hometown who also likes outdoor music festivals in the summer, who also likes going to those, you know, the summer concerts. Like everyone has like park, you know, somewhere in the park or Shakespeare in the park. Like even if you don't freaking like Shakespeare, like sit outside with your friends and have a bottle of wine, like do that. That's where people are.

Look at you pushing the, the relationship. Like meetup. I'm saying long term.

Yeah. Nothing about going to Shakespeare in the Park. Am I saying you should be walking down the aisle?

I'm saying, I mean, I want to go to Shakespeare in the park to save my life, but it's fine. But I pay attention.

I'm just like drinking and eating.

Yeah, but if you want to go hook up and have some fun, go to.

Disneyland.

No. So no, I just. See, you got me all tripping off the Vegas thing. I'm sorry. Talking about Vegas all the time. But then, so I was just there recently and then. So the guy that I was hanging out with, it was one of my co workers. He opened up Tinder and he just like swiped and like, I serious, I caught it on video within 15 seconds. Had a match.

Yeah. No, it's true. It is the dating. The dating.

One of my other co workers went. Was walking to check out, right? And he was, he was on the app and then he got a match, went back upstairs, got a blowjob, and then came back down.

The person was in the hotel?

Yes. And then checked out. All within probably an hour.

I don't understand. What did she get out of it?

I don't know.

This is just my thing. Like, I'm not saying a lot of women don't get pleasure. I'm sure I'm hookup and probably could have been very exciting for her, but I feel like women just like give up blowjobs. And I was like, candy.

Yeah, that's awesome. Don't, don't.

I'm just saying. Did he go down on her for 25 minutes?

I didn't ask.

Probably not.

It's a great story.

Did you go down on her Vacation.

Hookups are very fun. What vacation? I've just never been the. Like, I'm gonna give you a random blowjob, girl, because I know that it would blow their mind. And I know that, like, I don't just give it to anybody. Like, just friends, people I know, people I love I'm not just gonna like or people I am attracted to or know more than five minutes. Yeah, I gave a killer blowjob. Anyways, I. I first tell you what I don't do well, and there's like, so many things that would take up the entire show, but that I'm pretty confident. Okay, so we've got that. We're gonna get more into summer stuff because I've got some clever ideas. Cool.

Tell me.

Not yet. We have to do sex in the news first. What are you. Why are you moving me along? You're being so making me so anxious.

My bad.

Because I was not anxious today.

Let's talk about Vegas more.

Dude, I want to go with you to Vegas. No joke. But no one will let me talk about it. Okay, Menace. Yeah. I've talked to you about something.

Tell me.

Did you know that if you send dick pics, you're probably insecure?

Well, how.

I guess I'm not insecure because I don't send dick pics.

Well, there's a new study, and it says while some of us enjoy the art of sexting, others attempts at virtual foreplay come off more humorous than sexy, and others stay out of the game altogether.

We've mentioned this in the past couple shows. Somewhere we had a conversation. Who were we talking to?

I don't know.

I asked.

It was like in Vegas. I think we were underneath.

Yeah, Circus.

Circus.

No, the thing was, I. I asked, has that ever. No, no, no.

Oh, yes. Ever.

Words. In the history of dick pics.

I mean, was a woman ever, like, I'm on the fence. I don't know if I'd like him. He was really sweet. We had a nice kiss, and then boom, there's a dick pic. He's like, he's the next. He's my next husband. No, it doesn't happen. I think maybe there is never pushes.

The needle 1% out there.

Maybe.

I think. I think you have a better chance of getting laid saying, hey, do you want to go see a movie tonight? Or just sending of effing dick pic.

I think you're right. Yeah, but there's more to dick pics.

All right, tell me more. Science.

Okay, so they studied college. College students. Where it's all going down about their sexting habits, how they behaved in their romantic relationships, including how scared they were that their partners were going to leave them and how much they feared their partners weren't happy with them and how stressed out they were about dating. And their sexting reflected that. So people who send sexts, nudes, pictures of video or. And videos of themselves in lingerie and other suggestive photos, I.e. dick pics.

Felt less secure in their relationship.

God damn. Right, Right.

So they're doing that to like get their.

How much do they waste money on that study? That's obvious even. It doesn't even have to be sexually lingerie. It can be the constant effing selfies that people put out on the Internet because they're insecure and they need people, you know, to say, oh, you're so good looking and make them better.

Because I actually wanted to take a selfie right now and put a lot of things. I mean.

No, no, no. I mean, I'm looking at your Instagram. It's not like that. I'm saying. But some girls that are. I agree, five a day.

No, I know, I know, it's a whole thing. But what I'm saying is there's nothing wrong with that either because. Let me continue. Avid sector, avid sexters sex with the goal to attract or keep a partner. And those people also, you know, mean they have your walls up and so they're like, I'm way, I'm gonna send you my, you know, penis. So feeling insecure about your relationship may be unhealthy, but sexting in a relationship is actually very healthy. So if you're in a relationship with somebody, it actually can help improve your relationship. You. They show. Studies show that people who sex with their partners more often and they can send the dick pics in laundry if your partner would like that. They have sex more off more often. They have more motivation, they're more insightful, inspired. So, you know, it can help within relationship. But if you're in a relationship that's unstable, needy, or you're just dating and you're randomly sending, you know, crotch shots.

Yeah.

Might not go over well for you.

We're getting pictures taken of us right now.

Blowjob spray, Madison. What kind of pictures are you taking?

Probably terrible photos of me and awful. Yeah, so.

So what? What? Well, here's a takeaway from this study. Is that again, and I'm not going to say that just. Women give up. Men do things too sexually. I was talking about the blowjobs earlier, but I do feel like There is this thing that, that women and men think, well, if I send this photo, I do this thing that they're gonna like me more. And I just think, you know, why, why show all your cards at the beginning? Like, what. Why do you need to like be sending all this stuff to get. Just to have the person, like you get to know you in person, whatever. And then like when you're dating, it's great to send something like that, but I just think that just randomly sending him out to the guy you met at the bar, and then you get home and you're drunk and you send a sexy photo, I'm not sure if that's doing for you, except for saying that, hey, you know.

Yeah, you're kind of implying, oh, hey, I'm. I'm easy. And then you might do the thing where he goes, oh yeah, this girl is easy. And then he'll be like super aggressive, just trying to get into your pants. And you're like, wait a minute, that's not what I want. You know.

Right. I'm just saying why lead with sex if you don't have to? And I'm not like a puritan. Okay. I'm not saying that I didn't feel like you said love is sex. We've been married for 10 years. It happens. I'm just saying that if that's not what you. You don't want someone just to be thinking. We're already thinking that the reason why you probably gave the person your number is because you're gonna bang at some point. But like, you know, like we have like build up. Have some appetizers first.

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I feel you.

You feel? Okay, so that's all I got for sex and news. Cuz we got a lot of good stuff today to cover.

What's happening? Tell me everything.

Single for summer. All right, that's. That's really.

You're single for the summer?

Dude, I'm single for the century.

You need to go on a world tour.

I'm actually on this whole new. You know, I really truly am inspired by. By you living in la. It took a little while to kind of get my groove going. I moved here works and so busy and you moved here and you had a girlfriend. Like you were like. You had your U haul of clothing and you had a girlfriend next to you in the car. Like, that's. You're done. But I moved here. I picked up and a few friends here and there. But you know, I moved here for sex with Emily and It's been amazing, but I wasn't, like, out. It's hard to do it. All right? So now I'm, like, in this place where things are good. We're sitting here in our studio, and I'd like to, you know, start to go out more and meet people.

So if you want to go out with Emily, hit her up on Instagram.

Yeah.

Sex with Emily. I have guys that hit me up on my Instagram trying to, hey, put in a word for Emily. I'm like, go hit up Emily yourself. Like, what the f do you want me to do?

Really? They do? Are you. Like, you don't want to go down that road?

Save yourself some trouble, bruh. No, I'm just kidding.

No, but I'm into it. And it's funny because I was also out with a friend last night, and she was like, you know, here's something I need a name for, because obviously, online dating, if you are single right now and you're like, I can't meet anyone, but I won't date online, I just think that's silly to me. It's like saying, I really want to lose weight, and I've done everything out there, you know, Like, I. I eat. I cut back on what I eat, and I'm not drinking soda anymore, but I won't exercise. I won't. It's like, you got to do it all.

Also, you haven't done everything.

If you don't act, if you don't.

Move your body, I mean, you definitely have to do online dating. Because I think people. I mean, at least in on the west coast, people have become less and less approachable. Like, why is this person even talking to somebody in public? People are thrown off saying, okay, this person is weird. And it sucks because, like, I don't know, 20 years ago, like, everybody would be open to have a discussion with a random person. But now, like, we're so effing shy, we have to talk through cell phones.

No, that's true. I do believe that. Especially, you know, we're, you know, younger generation maybe, who didn't ever have to develop any of those skills about talking that it is harder. But I do think that. Yeah. So the dating online thing. Let me. Let me just close that. Is that that bracket is that she was like, well, why don't you. Because I feel like I need to term all my friends, like, four of my single girlfriends. Yeah, they get on Bumble, they get on Tinder, they get unhinged. And then, like, two. Two months later, they're like, I Deleted all the apps. I couldn't take anymore.

And then it's probably too much.

I see them again. They're like, I'm back on Bumble. And I'm like, what is this? I need a name for people who go off and they go back on. They go out and they. They literally, like, delete the app. And they. So I was like, you know what? She's like, but why don't you do it? I'm like, well, I meet people, which I do, but I'm like, also, I haven't been looking. And I thought, you know what, though? While I am going to get into some things that I am doing this summer, that you all should do that. You know, I think that it's great opportunities. Well, why not just have a profile up? Don't get obsessed with it and crazy. But there could be people you wouldn't normally meet.

I do want to ask all these people that are on these apps, what. What is your end goal? Like, so your friends, what is their end goal?

It depends on the friend. I mean, some of them just most, I guess they'd like to get into relationships.

They do.

Yeah, they do. Like, you know, I think my guy friends more just want to get laid, but my friends, not all of them. You know, it changes. I would say people want a relationship, but why are you asking? Because it seems like this end. Because in a way, it shoots itself in the foot. Because you're thinking, oh, my God, there's all these people. But then that whole bigger, better deal thing kicks in, and you're like, this girl's amazing. I could see her, the one I walked down the aisle. My mom's gonna love her. But wait, another match, Another one, right? So, you know, you really just have to decide what. What you want. And I think a lot of people date with knowing what they want, and which I've done a lot in my life. Like, I think I just didn't know. And I think I knew what I wanted, a person, but it was like, I didn't. You know, I've never looked at it. Like, I want the marriage and the. The traditional kids, but now I would like a partner, you know, because I.

Don'T want people getting off these apps because it's. They're constantly just talking to too many people, and it's taking up too much of their time. I want them to get off the app because they've actually found somebody, you know, and then it's just, are you talking to all these people? Because you'd love the. The attention and it gives you something to talk about, you know? Are you actually really, truly looking for somebody?

No, no, they're looking for somebody. But I think what happens sometimes is, you know, there's no perfect science here. You go on a few bad dates. I think it can get overwhelming, too. Like, you get. And they're like, I'm just gonna meet, you know, and then they just kind of get. But I think if you don't take it too seriously and get too caught up in it. Like, we get obsessed with text and just like, check it every few days.

Let me find something.

Oh, my God. I've not been on my Tinder in so long.

Let me open it.

But the point is, she's like, why don't you do it? I'm like, you know what? I'm gonna fire that bad boy back up. I don't even know if it's open. Jesus. I haven't opened it in so long. Yeah, I can't. I'm not even logged in. Why am I letting you do this?

Because it's so much fun.

Dude.

I want to see who's nearby. No, because I never get to see Tim.

Oh, my God. Now I'm authorizing it. Oh, my God. This is so dead. This is like the dead. Is that coming up? I haven't seen this in years. Okay, this is happening, cuz. What I'm saying is putting myself out there.

Yes, we're doing it right now.

He's cute. Oh, geez. Okay, don't do anything.

Wait. I swipe right if I like somebody. No, this guy's a douche.

No, he was cute. Now they're gone forever when you swipe away. I'm so nervous for you doing this right now.

Hold on, I'm checking.

But there you go.

Sunset, some rainbows.

Maybe I'll be going to South Africa with him.

Barf. Madison, how do I get rid of this one?

Come here. Come here. I've never Tindered before. Let me see.

Let me see. Damn it. We wait. No, I got it. Don't worry, Emily.

Okay, fine. You do that. But the other thing is, people are just in a better mood in the summer. Like, I feel like I. I feel like the longer days, it's warm. You don't have to worry about stuff. There's. You don't worry about, you know, scraping off your car. You don't wear it. Working jacket. You feel freer. It improves your mood. Vitamin D from sunlight, major spike in serotonin. It's not just orgasms that give you a spike in Serotonin. And also, like women, it says that we secrete. Okay, so here's the deal. Not only does it give you, you know, make you feel good, but vitamin D, spike in testosterone for men, yeah. For women, they secrete a hormone that stimulates sex drive. That stimulates their sex drive. So it's called msh. So truly, like, when they talk about Seasonal Affective Disorder and all that stuff, this makes a difference. So we're feeling better. You're going out there, you know, you're exercising more, you'll feel better about yourself. And there was a Match survey. And, you know, match.com doesn't lie. I can do Match. You want to get on my Match next? I haven't been there in 16 years. 73% of people find others more attractive during summer than any time of year. Okay, so don't blow this summer like sitting inside doing what you were doing all year round.

Oh, my God. Women are more likely to respond positively to flirtation and give out their phone number on sunny days. This is all true. So how can you really take advantage of this summer? How can you seize this summer and make it like, the sexy one, the sexiest one? Like, what are you people? Good, because I'm going to do stuff. I'm going to come in here every week. Madison, what are you doing in my Tinder? What? Nobody has my phone in their hand that long ever. Except for Madison, maybe.

Cancel.

Okay? Come on. Wait, dude, what are you doing?

Guy, he wants to go to an outdoor. I found one out of like, 45. Who is he?

Oh, and he matched with you How?

I haven't been out in a year. Okay, dude, what if I know him?

He matched. He knee matched, too.

Okay, wait. Send message. I don't want to send a message.

Yeah, you do.

He likes you. Oh, dude.

Dude. See, I already hooked you up. There's your future husband.

He's got a picture. I don't know what happened. I can't do this now. Keep going, though, because I won't do it right now.

All right.

Okay. So free movies in the park. Do you ever go to those free movies here in la? They're so fun. They have them everywhere, too. They used to have them in six months.

They look fun. But no, because.

When you're, like, slightly overweight sitting on the ground, effing sucks.

Bring a comfy chair. Bring one of those lounge chairs. So, music festivals so many go to. I mean, every time, too, is the country fairs. They've got the farmer's market.

I always like meeting people through friends, though.

Right. So that's why you should have. So here's the thing. On Facebook, do you get invited to like a gazillion events on Facebook? You probably have a lot of friends on there.

Yeah, all the time.

And I think people invite you to things and I don't even. Often I forget to look and look at those invites and be like, you know what, I met this person at a party a year ago. I know them through work. I'm gonna actually go. I don't know any of their friends. And I'm just going to bring a bottle of wine and see who I meet. Because you're right. One of the best ways to meet people just like Tinder, what you're doing there. Apparently I have some connection with them, usually right through Facebook. Or that's Hinge.

That's Bumble, right? Oh, Bumble.

I haven't done yet. That's so. So that's what my friend was doing on. But she's on Bumble and she was like, why aren't you on Bumble?

Because it's. Yeah, because I.

Women get this. Bumble is the dominating app right now.

Oh, really?

As far as swipe apps go. And Bumble is an app where they have it every city that it's just. You match. You just have to put your age, your range that you're looking for, geographical desirability. And also.

If you match, you both like each other. The woman has to send the message first, but she only has 24 hours to do so or he's gone.

Oh, wow.

However, one time you can extend it. I know this from my friends. You can get a 24 hour extension and then they're gone if you don't deal. So in a way it puts the power back in women's hands who feel like maybe there's a lot of people reaching out to them that they're not into. So I know a lot of people like it.

Dude, my hand hurts. There's so many douches.

Did you match me?

Nobody gets.

You didn't match anybody. Just that one. Just that one guy on my hands.

Now, see, I'm way more picky.

Let's set up my Bumble after. Okay.

Yeah.

So, yeah, I mean, I think that you're right. It is. I've met most people I've met either just. I've met them just out and about. My last boyfriend I met like looking for apartments, but typically it's through friends of friends. Even if it's like an event that a friend is throwing, like there's you know what I mean? You're like like minded people you'll meet at parties and stuff. But if there's something like that you've always wanted to do in your town, you're like, like last, my last summer was the Hollywood Bowl. I was like, I'm not been to the Hollywood bowl. Like, and so, you know, went to a concert there. So like have your personal bucket list of what you want to do online. Every city has its, like, every city has something.

No matter how it tells you everything town is.

And then if you, you're like, yeah, but no one will go with me. Find a friend right now and like, have them hold you accountable. Like my friend Anna, we're going to see Rick Springfield at the Hollywood bowl. And like a month ago, because she's way more on top of it than I am. She's like, do you want to go to Rick Springfield on like July 27th? I'm like, yes, I do. And now I have that plan. So if you are looking at stuff, you're like, you know what? I'm gonna lock it down because it keeps you accountable. You've got, you've got things to look forward to. And I'm telling you, you can find some fun things that are.

We always talk about, you know, doing the drunk podcast, which we talked about for years. And I go, emily, set a date and time and then that's when it's gonna happen.

And then we did it.

You can't just leave stuff open ended. Like, oh yeah, we should hang out sometime. Make a date and time.

It's true for everything in your life. And so I work on that. And so I'm doing that now. We, and we did make a date for another drunk podcast.

We did, we did. And the thing is, again.

I've met the some of the coolest people in the most random place. Like where like the laundromat. My co worker met his wife at the grocery store because he wasn't afraid to pretend that he didn't know anything about fruit. Oh, which one do you think is would be the best? Blah, blah, blah. And then they struck, they striked up a conversation and they ended up, you know, dating.

And then he did the pretend I don't know about fruit thing. Yeah.

And it worked.

Mangoes ripe.

And they were married for years.

That's good stuff.

It's that easy.

And then it is that easy. No one, because no one really does talk to anyone anymore.

No, they don't. And especially extremely attractive women because people are so. Guys are so shy to talk to them.

Is that what's happening? Why no one's talking to me?

Yeah.

Just kidding. Yeah.

I don't know how it is for.

Guys, but the other thing is your body. Here's the deal. It's like your body language too. When you're out, are you on your phone, are you open to like, you know, meeting people? Are you like, look like. Just think of it this way. It's kind of like a little meditation when you leave your house next time just to go like, I don't care if you're picking up your dry cleaning, you're going to the coffee store, you're going wherever. Staples, I love staples. Office wise, just say, you know what, I'm going to leave my phone in my bag and I'm going to or wherever my pocket. And I'm just going to like for the next hour that I'm running these errands. I'm not going to look at my phone or I'm sitting in this wherever I'm going and just like see what happens. You're going to have to like make eye contact, look around and your body language will be much more open rather than being like hunched over. And I realize that even though I'm always telling people we've done, you know, a lot of dating tip shows, but that, you know, that's why it's important to make commitment to do things. Because if you go out, for example, like during the week, you're like, but I always like, I go to a different lunch place for work every day or my co workers and I go out and do. No, you're in work mode. Then like you're, you're also rushing around. You got that tense, you know, maybe you're, you know, late, whatever. But on the weekends or when you have an intention of going out with friends, like you put your phones away and you like make yourself just more open and available rather than like if you're like, oh, I never meet you all, but I work all the time. Well, this is like when you're out, make that I'm here. I'm putting my phone away. I know you're not because you're take selfies. But most of the time just make yourself like your body language. Look around. Smile huge. Huge. Who smiles? Nobody say hi, but do you know what I'm saying? I just realized that too, because I was like, I'm at work events, I don't meet people.

I'm just telling everybody, put yourself out there. Nothing bad is gonna happen to you. So you're going Rick Springfield, right?

I'm going to Rick Springfield.

Anna, Remember Anna? That was an awesome show.

Is Anna the one that's in the other bikini?

Yes.

Okay. So Anna, it's. I seen. It seems like you're going out there and you're hanging out with Anna and like going and doing fun things.

We are. We're doing. So we went to. Yeah, we went away to Palm Springs. We are going. We're doing a lot of fun. Yeah. Well, you said we're going to party in Venice this weekend. See, and Malibu.

It's cool. You need like a.

A wing single pos. Yeah, I do.

Everybody needs a wingman.

And she's dating online. She's like on the apps and stuff and. And she meets people like wherever. But I was the reason why I was saying this is because I. This. I noticed this out with the girlfriend last night. That it was a warm night. It was my intention. I did. I was like open and looking around and talking about it and like we met people just at the table next to us and I realized that I'm often more in my head over during the week. Even though it was during the week, it was like a. It was a date with a friend. And that's. That was my point. That's where I wanted to finish. And yeah, Anna's my. She's my. She's my bitch.

Dope. I love it.

Okay, we're gonna take a quick break and be right back.

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That means. That means like I can't get laid, right?

No.

Thirsty. Horny.

Yeah, horny.

I hate that word. I've never. Yeah.

I hate the word horny.

I hate thirsty.

You hate thirsty.

I don't hate it. Like desperate. Thirsty? Is that what it means? I have a match on Tinder. Dude, I'm not desperate.

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Can you see if you wrote me yet? Okay. Write him. Just kidding. Okay. Dear Emily, I just started going out on a few dates with this new guy who my friend introduced me to. He's 28 and I'm 22. The six years age difference doesn't seem huge, but in my 20s, it still feels pretty far away. He's very casual, introverted, polite, and Seems like a gentleman because he's only ever kissed me goodnight and never got handsy or anything like that. Somehow I feel like I want to take a different approach when it comes to dating because honestly, I kind of suck at it. Is there a recommended timeline that you go by when getting to know someone new? Like the sexual partners talk religion. When he gets to see you drunk. I know she's just thinking a lot about how to date. Right. You know she wants to do it right. And how soon is too soon to get in bed with him and if I do, does the age difference mean that he is more mature about these sort of things? When does a 28 year old guy, what does a 28 year old guy expect from a 22 year old girl? Jasmine from Peoria, Arizona.

Jasmine, Arizona in the house.

We got peoples all over.

I love it.

I love it too. I love it. See, that made us so happy, Arizona to know that. Yeah, I feel so connected. She doesn't suck at dating. I think you're being very thorough, Jasmine, so don't beat yourself up. We all, whenever we're trying something new, we all think we like, we beat ourselves. It's so hard to get through those voices. They're like, I suck, Warren. I better this, you're 22, so no, you don't suck. And I like that you're being thoughtful about it.

Yeah, yeah.

What's your thing? You're like, he's 28, she's 22. She wants to know what's it like?

What is guy thinking as a 28 year old man? It was easier to have sex so he might expect having sex sooner than maybe than you want. Because I remember when I was 22, it was like, oh, we had a date for a while before we had sex. But by the time I was 28, it's like, oh, we have already been hanging out for week, right? You know, three days, two days.

But do you think that's the age thing or that things have time changing?

I think also you become less shy as you get older of just putting out there on what you want, you know, or having the confidence to go and do what you want.

But what about 28 year old like, but she's 22. So I think that like 22 is.

Much different than 20.

Right? Exactly. But do you think that this guy's thinking, oh, she's, she's wondering what he expects of her? What I think is we get this question all the time from women and we get it from everyone actually. People want to know what is the recommended timeline, like, when should I sleep with them, when should they meet my parents, how many times a week should we having sex? People want all these numbers around sex to make them feel normal and doing the right thing. But I'm going to tell you, the only right thing you can do is listen to yourself and what truly feels right to you in the moment. So I'm not going to give you like a magic number, because it's different for every person in every relationship.

So you don't feel that you're ready to have sex with them. Then don't have sex with them. Not have sex with.

The first question. Did I hear that right? She says, when should I ask about number of sexual partners?

Oh, I was going to get into that effing.

Never.

Never. Exactly. I was like, okay, never ever. I see. This is actually a public service too, honey. Don't ever answer that question. Don't ever ask that question. How many people have you slept with? It means nothing.

It means like nothing for you.

I mean, it's like it's. It. It never serves you. I, I don't think. I think it is sort of a 20s thing, maybe in terms of people keep asking it, but it's like maybe just lose count when you get older. But the point is, it doesn't matter because it's a lose, lose conversation. Because for women. And again, I'm going to be like, I'm going to use some stereotypes here, but typically their number, if it's too low, the guy could think she's gonna be judged. Right. People are using that to judge. They're never going, high five. It's gonna be like, you haven't slept with a lot of people or you slept with too many in your study. Like, no matter what that number is, they're gonna. No one needs to know this. And for guys, oh, he's a player. Oh, I'm not experienced enough. That's what the woman's gonna think from his number. And oftentimes you tell a partner and then they throw it back in your face and they like you both and they don't. They can't get out of their head.

Or a guy just. So what I'm saying about penises.

Yeah. I used to say this. If you say, I've slept with eight guys, all he's gonna see is like, eight penises standing behind you now when you're going down in them. I mean, I'm just trying to.

Maybe it's just real.

I'm trying to put the picture in her head that it's not. This conversation doesn't get you anywhere and it only elicits really like controversial emotions and feelings in people. So what I suggest you do, if someone asks you that question ever, you say, you know what, all I'm thinking about now is that having sex with you, which is really awesome. Done. The only time you should talk about your sexual past is if you have an STD or an sti, let them know that that's it. But also she wants to like, you know, alcohol wise, when does she get sloppy drunk? And I like this because most people get sloppy drunk, many on the first, second date. And I think if you can, it sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders. You know, two drink minimum for you or one drink, whatever your limit is. Because what happens is we drink a lot sometimes and we make poor decisions that we might regret. Our inhibitions go down. We're like, I'll just have a little sex here and little blow job, whatever. Which again, no judgment. If you feel great about that, you're like, I was into it. Why not? I'm so great. Do that. Like do what feels good. But again, if you have a history of you wake up in the morning and you feel bad about it, I wouldn't recommend it. So I think just take this slow. You're going to know what feels right to you, Jasmine. You just will. And I'm not going to give you any rules just. Just to figure out what feels right and the age difference. I don't know. He knows you're 22. I don't think that's I get in your mind. It seems really old, but who cares and who you know, My thing is who the hell cares what he's expecting? Like there is no like she's 22, therefore no just be you don't worry about it. Hey Emily. I love the show. 36, I live in the Chicagoland area. Sounds like Disneyland. Chicagoland saw one word. And I've been happily married for over 11 years. For the fast past few months, however, my thoughts have been on another woman.

Oh no.

This woman graduated from the same high school class as me and we initiated some friendly chit chat in a Facebook group. Facebook.

Older people dude.

Facebook 20 year reunion.

So scandalous. I mentioned this on the show. We have a lot of new listeners but I had a really good friend, an amazing guy, married two kids, awesome house, awesome job and his effing wife one day comes to him and says, I reunited with my high school boyfriend on Facebook and I'm leaving the State to go be with him. I've heard this too, and I'm telling you, it's always. The grass is always greener. It's enticing. It brings up all the old good memories. You never think of the bad ones. On why you broke up with this person.

Don't do it. I mean, if you have an amazing life right now, stick with it.

Stick with it.

And then forget about this person. Why destroy everything that you have for somebody that you're talking on Facebook with?

Right? Exactly.

Not worth it.

Because Facebook is. You're looking at their life and they have everything you don't. Because the grass is always greener.

That life is edited on Facebook. They show you everything that's great and they tell you everything that's great on Facebook. Not the bad things.

And it's also just the titillation of like you're with your. Let me finish the story. Okay, okay. So. But it's part of it. So he's in a Facebook group because it's a 20 year high school reunion. This went on for a week. They were flirting when. When she on more than one occasion mentioned how she was divorced, didn't have kids, and was actively looking for the right guy and the guy she described sounded a lot like me, I realized I developed quite the crush. I decided I wasn't comfortable feeling this way about another woman, so I stopped talking to her.

Good.

For a couple weeks. It worked. But then the feelings resurfaced and they are strong. Like I said, I'm happily married and love the sex when it happens. Which is only like once every couple months.

See, that's why you're enticed by. Exactly. Enticed by the person. You should be focusing on what's happening in your relationship. You know?

Dude, that's it.

This thing is just drawing you away. Who? Dude, you know, how many guys and girls are out there, you know, doing it doesn't matter.

Right? Exactly. There's. You're gonna have the same issues and the same problems. And this sexy, you know, cheerleader you remember from high school is not gonna. Might not be having sex with you in three months either. Like, I'm just telling you, there's issues with everybody, every relationship, but it's not even. You're not gonna have sex, though. Anyway. I'm just saying we always think that it's going to be better, it's going to save us, or it's a distraction from whatever we're not dealing with in our life.

Yeah, okay, but it also goes the other way. Let's say, let's say it's a totally different situation. Maybe you, you have a miserable life and you, you found somebody through Facebook, then cut it off immediately with that person that you're with. Because you only have one life. You only have one life. Why are you wasting every single day being with somebody that you don't want to be with?

If anything, this could be like a great wake up call. But let's finish just real quick.

All right?

I'm sorry, but no, I'm getting very passionate about this. I know.

Because I don't like people messing up their lives for some honey, some shiny object online, right?

There's always going to be a bright shiny object. There's always going to be going to be something that seems to be more enticing. The bigger, better deal, the better option that's going to give you everything. That whole, you know, that whole, that deep thing inside of you that can't be filled. Guess who has to fill it? You with love, self love. And there's not gonna be anyone else that's gonna make you feel better than you already do now. Because you got to work on yourself and your relationship. But that's a whole. That's back to this. So he's only having sex a few times a month and he thinks this has probably contributes to him thinking about the other woman. I agree, but I don't want to do anything that'll ruin my marriage. So my question is how can I forget about the other woman? I've never met her in person. So if he doesn't even know it in high school, knows her in the group. So physically I haven't made, I haven't made and won't make any mistakes. I'm not okay with idea of emotionally cheating. I want to forget, go back to my wife. Thanks for your advice. Keep up the great work, Jim. So I think Jim sounds like a good guy because he caught himself early. He's actually emailing saying that like, I don't want this to go on. And I think you gotta cut off all contact with her. Don't be friends with her on Facebook, seesaw conversation and take all this energy that you've been like using to obsess about this woman on Facebook and channel it into the relationship with your wife and like heal that. Having sex every three months, not okay. I'm gonna say that number is not okay because couples need the intimacy. Like you need to be connecting on that level. And like that's a number that's just like, then what are you guys doing and have you talked to her about it? It's great to like whittle away hours on Facebook of seeing what could be when you've got this relationship here that needs some repair. And relationships are about repair. They are about rebuilding all the time. So it's okay. Sexual frustration, all this stuff. That's why she's appealing. So tell you to forget about her is every time you're thinking about or think of what can do. I appreciate about my wife. What can I do for my wife right now and how can we work on this? Because if you don't take action now, there's going to be another woman, you know, who pokes you on Facebook.

Yeah.

P.S. people still poke on Facebook. Do you get poked?

Do I don't even look at that.

Right. Well, I don't either, but sometimes no, but like I'm not looking for pokes. But then when you go to your thing it'll be like so and so poked you. Not every day. Once every three days. They still have the poke. Ready for another email.

Are you sure? Did you just want to.

No, I'm down.

Okay. Hi, Emily. I'm 24 years old and I've never been in a long term, supportive, genuine relationship. I would really like to be until someone comes into my life in that capacity. My goal is simply to meet and date people casually. I was overweight and had hair terrible acne as a kid. So my confidence is shaky at best. This is my biggest issue when it comes to approaching and talking to guys I think are cute. I'm not into the bar scene, don't know where and how else to meet guys. I'm worried if I'm not putting out the fuckable vibes, for lack of a better word, and I'm 100% willing and able to. I won't get laid. So she's willing to it but she thinks that she's got to put out some certain vibe. What advice do you have for both meeting guys and. And striking up a conversation? Aliana Elena. Elena. ITunes Subscriber 24 from Texas.

Nice.

So I am not a fan of the term like affable vibes. I'm not going to swear again on the show. Profanity is wrong. No. Yeah, I'm kidding. But if you're trying to like if what you're saying, Elena, is that, you know, you're trying to put out there like I want to get effed, you know, that's a whole. A whole bunch of different issues because that means that you want to feel desired, right? Now that you're not feeling like you're enough and that there's some way that you gotta act or move in the world, that's gonna make you feel better about yourself, and that's not gonna happen. What you are talking about, though, is confidence. And that's something you need to be able to put out there because in your mind you still have these limiting beliefs that you'll always be the overweight girl with pimples and that everyone else is gonna see you this way. And. And this is what's holding you back, is that that's how you're still seeing yourself. And you're like, well, I gotta put myself out there as like, this sexy woman. So you gotta change the. Your own narrative and the story that you're telling yourself about yourself and how you build your confidence. And so much of it has to do with those negative voices in your head, those stories in your head that are like, guys don't like me. I'm not walking on like that, you know, and so, you know, and we don't even realize it until we. Until think about it. You're like, wow, that's really negative. You know, and you can catch yourself in that moment. And this takes practice. But like, in the moment, if you say something negative or you're thinking of self, you know, defeating thought, say something positive. Like, God, I'm really glad that I have, you know, these shoes, these great new shoes that are allowing me to walk to my car right now. Or, you know, I have this great friend I'm having dinner with. Like, be grateful and affirmations and also say good things about. What do you love about yourself? There's gotta. We all have things that we don't like. That list is often longer than the things we recognize we love. But maybe you love your sense of humor. Maybe you love the way your. Maybe you love the way your tongue can slide across your lips and you do this sexy smile to a guy.

Yeah, but it's. People always overthink things on everything.

But what I'm saying is maybe you don't do this menace. Like, do you ever beat yourself up or have things in your head that, like, defeat? Like, what defeats your confidence? Confidence?

Do you think.

What I mean? So many things. I mean, daily.

But how do you get over that? But mostly you don't come. So how do you move? Like, when you hear those thoughts or whatever it is that makes you feel bad, what do you do?

I. I think about everything that is good.

And let me tell you this. An emotion like A thought. It only lasts a minute and a half, but so many times we get caught up in it, and it could take us down for days, like. And this is all about practice. So, you know, you don't necessarily go. You don't need to go to bars for, like, the opportunity to meet someone. There's single men everywhere. So, again, this is about practicing talking to people and just that. Just that skill of, like, having practice.

Having conversation, telling stories with people that you're not necessarily, like, looking to have sex with is a skill that you build over time. And it's practice. So practice all this stuff. There's a lot of single guys everywhere, and just get comfortable talking to people. You're 24. You probably live in a very populated area for some reason. I was reading this email. I'm like, madison, she's from El Paso, and it doesn't say El Paso anywhere. Oh, really? And I don't know why. I don't even know where that is in LSD Trip. But I was like, are you in El Paso?

Are you in El Paso?

So, like, what are your hobbies? This is for everyone.

Do you read minds?

Maybe? You know, dude, I'm like, she's in El Paso. Madison's like, where did you get El Paso? And I'm like, you're right. So find something that builds your confidence, and we can look her up.

Just put her email in Facebook.

I don't want to stock the list.

I'm just saying, maybe let's see if you're right.

Oh, dude, we'll do that after the show for sure. But anyway, I. I hope that, you know, I know that's helpful. So, like, just, you know, you got this. Okay, cool. Practice. Love it. This was good.

I love it. It's always great being here with you.

So great being with you, too.

I. We do appreciate the listeners. Thank you so much for listening.

I hope everyone knows how much, like, I, like, in my heart, like, every day, this is when I'm feeling, oh, you know, my car is broke down and my. Whatever's going on in my life, or I'm sad. I think I am doing, like, something that I've always. That I want to do. And I love that I can, like, help people with their sex lives and that I hear from you all and you're like, it changes your lives. Like, I was out the other night meeting a fan who's like, oh, my God, I listened to your breakup show, and I finally had the curtain. So this is why I do it. And so I love you all And I'm grateful. And thank you for listening and telling a friend about the show and just.

Yeah, that's great.

Faithful. Love you. Thanks. Thank you. Thank you, Madison. Thank you, Lori. Thank you, Jamie. And thanks, everyone for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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