Sexy Playtime with Skin Diamond

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Right. That my boyfriend has a big penis.

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A lot of women, you always hear about the guys with the small penises. But seriously, there's guys who no working on Loveline.

Yeah, we get way more complaints from the ladies about too big than too small.

Exactly. Lube, lube, lube. You can never eat. You rich, too thin, or have too much lube, as I always say. How have you been, Anderson?

I'm good. How was the ny?

I missed you in New York was amazing. There was two blizzards, but it was fun. It was Valentine's Day week. I feel like Santa Claus. I feel like Santa Claus. It's like my week of the year. So I did a bunch of press and went. I was on like Fox News. I did a panel for Match.com with Patty Stanger and Perez Hilton. Pres Hilton. And we answered a lot of questions. And there's a new poll that came out.

Ball busters right there.

I know I could barely get a word at as well as I'm like, I'm usually the talker, but it was great. If anyone wants to check it out, we're gonna be doing a blog about it too on my website. And I also write for Patty Stanger on her website. But it was interesting. It was a lot of facts about, like, single people in America and lots of bloggers and people there. It's fun. And it was a really long trip, two weeks, and I got sick again.

As you missed you.

I missed it here because I do love Line after this Loveline, if you guys want to download it. It's a great. It's a nationally syndicated show, but it's also a podcast. You can listen to it. I do it after this with Dr. Drew. It's super fun. You know, I grew from Michigan. You thought I could handle the blizzards. I'm just not.

You're a very wafy little lady.

I'm a wafy chick?

Yeah. Hey, who's this sexy waify chick you got in front of you?

Oh, we've got Skin diamond here. Hello. Hi. Skin Diamond. She is so sexy and beautiful. And Skin Diamond, I actually, I first met you at the X Biz Awards. Yes. But I've known about you because you were also at AVN Awards and you won, like, what didn't you win? So she's a porn star, a nude model, born in the United States, raised in Scotland. And you won this year. Okay, so you 12, you've been nominated for 12 AVN awards, six X Biz awards, five Urban X awards, Xbiz best supporting actress, Best Surprise Female performer of the Year. So, okay, Skin Diamond, Beautiful woman. Tell me everything. Okay, so you were raised in Scotland, but your parents were missionaries?

Yes, I moved to Scotland when I was three and I lived there for 20 years.

20 years. Wow. Okay.

It was pretty amazing. I actually really love Scotland, even though I got bullied a lot when I was in school because I was so different.

How are you different?

Well, cuz, I mean, there's not a lot of people of color there, so I was usually like the only black girl in my school. And you know, like, being an American, that's also something that's different. So I used to get bullied for that and just. And I was a total Jesus freak too, so.

Because your parents. Okay, yeah. So what. When did you. Are you still Jesus freak?

I'm not religious. I'm. I'm very spiritual, but I don't believe in organized religion. I think it's too corrupt.

Okay, so how did it affect you? Excuse me? Growing up, like, you were into it, and then what was the turning?

You know, I. I remember very vividly, I had just finished horse riding with a friend, and her stepsister was in my class, and they were like part of the bad kids. You know, the kids that would listen to metal and smoke and we would go behind the garages and smoke cigarettes at school or whatever. And I remember thinking, I'm gonna not be a Christian just for a little while and see what it's like. And then I ended up never looking back after that. Not that there's anything wrong with Christianity.

No. No judging Christianity, no judge. Exactly.

But it's not for me.

But you got to choose it. So you were raised with it, and then you choose. I think that's what we all do. We're raised with certain parameters. Whatever goals our parents have for us, if it's religion or whatever, and then you grow up and you decide what works for me and what doesn't.

But my parents are really like. A lot of people ask the question, like, oh, well, what do you parents think about what you do? And you know what? My parents are so cool about it. Like, my mom's always been like my best friend, and I told her when I first started stripping and whatever, but they were so cool about it. They even came to the AVN Awards and met my agent, and because they put. They had me on a billboard outside the Hard Rock, so my dad was there taking photos. It was really cute.

That's so cool. Are they still very religious, though?

Mean, they're religious, but they. They're not. They. They're like me. They're. They're spiritual and they believe in it and everything, but they just don't like the corruption of the church.

Right.

I.

Right. How a lot of people feel so that they support you.

Yeah, they're really awesome.

It makes such a difference in the world. My. My. My parents support me differents. Like, what do your parents think of what you do? I'm like, they're fine. I'm making a living talking about sex. I'm helping people. Right?

Yeah, it's. It's. I feel really lucky because a lot of girls that do this. You know, I've heard horror stories of girls being disowned and cut off from their families entirely. And I'm really blessed to have such an amazing family that have stood by my decisions, even if they don't. It's not the path that they would have chosen for me, of course, but they can see that I'm happy and level headed.

And you know what's strange though, is they actually blindly support you because it's not like they can watch your work and say, you did a really good job there.

Do they watch, I wonder? No, they don't want to watch any of your hardcore scenes.

I mean, my mom, like, like, like if she sees like naked photos of me or something online, she's like, oh, oh, well, I just won't look at that one. But she's really cute about it.

That's good. I love it. So what was like the defining moment in your life when you were like, I'm gonna get into po? You started with stripping or how did you. Was that how it started?

Well, I first started. I started nude modeling when I was 19. I wanted to model for Suicide Girls originally, and that was where the name Suits Skin came around, because I was. That was gonna be. I was gonna be Skin Suicide.

Okay.

But then I ended up not modeling for them. I modeled for this other company called Godsgirls, which is kind of similar, but cooler anyway. And so I did that for a while. Then I got into fetish modeling. I used to go to Torture Garden in London all the time and model in the fashion shows there. And I dated fetish fashion photographers. And my shoots started getting more and more naughty. And, like, I was like, treading into girl girl territory. And a company that I had posed for, Burning angel, approached me wanting, asking if I wanted to shoot a hardcore sex scene. And I was like, well, I'll shoot a girl girl scene. And it was gonna go. I was gonna go to Paris. I'm like, I, of course want to go to Paris. And I ended up having so much fun on that trip. I stayed an extra week and shot my first boy girl scenes. My first anal scene.

Oh, my God. The first movie you did or the first few scenes? Yeah.

Wow.

You were just like, I'm in it. Well, because I.

When I did it, I wasn't really thinking that I was gonna be a porn star. I was just doing it because I wanted to try it. And I figured if I don't like it, I never have to do it again.

Right?

And I'm all like, I'm already getting naked all over the Internet, so, I mean, might as well have sex.

Why not? Might as well have sex. Right?

Take the jump. And I ended up really enjoying it and I didn't do it again for like a year or something. It wasn't until I moved to LA that I started doing it full time and I got my agent.

Okay.

And that was when everything went crazy.

Okay, so tell me, when you did your first Girl at Girls Tour, are you with men and women?

Yes, I identify as bisexual.

Okay, so had you been with women growing up or was it more for porn and then you were into it after you did it?

I've always been into girls, I think before I even realized I was into girls. I remember seeing like a naked woman when I was quite young and getting. And feeling turned on and being like, oh, this is weird. And I, like, had the biggest crush on Jessica Rabbit growing up.

Right. The first one. Right.

But yeah, but I love guys too, so.

Right, I got it. So that's good. So are you in a relationship right now?

I mean, I'm dating, but I'm not in anything serious.

Got it. So, yeah, it's when. So your scenes that you do. So you've done a little bit of everything. So. And so that first thing. So what would you. What would you say right now are the best and worst aspects of doing porn?

I think the best aspect is the freedom that I have. I can pretty much just do whatever I want now because it's. I mean, I make a lot of money. I can make a lot of money very quickly because, you know, for every scene I'm getting, like thousand dollars, whatever. So, like, if I'm shooting like nine times a month, then that's a lot.

That's a lot of money.

That's a lot more than working 9 to 5. But I think the. And of course the orgasms.

Do you always have orgasms?

I do. I actually. I come really easily. It's like my pussy was made for porn.

But the. The what? The thing that, That I dislike about porn, it's not the porn itself. It's the same stigma that can come with it. You get branded as this type of person when you do porn. And, you know, everyone assumes that porno chicks are crazy drug addicts and sex addicts. And I'm actually, like. I feel like, because sex is my job, I actually have sex less in my personal life because I'm pickier. I'm not just gonna screw anybody because I'm like.

I get paid. Right, Exactly.

So, yeah, that's the only. Just the, the bias that comes with it.

Exactly. No, there's definitely, there definitely is a st to it. I understand. Same with what I do. People are like, they may be sex with Emily, you know, wild in bed or whatever. And not that I haven't tried a few things here and there, but I'm not what people would necessarily think. Sex with them, like the whole thing I get. So tell me about. So with women, you're with women. I always like to ask women, bisexuals, women who've been with a lot of women, what you find. Like, is there anything, when you hook up with women, any good tips that you have? Like oral sex tips about going down to women? I feel like women know best oral sex tips.

I think taking it slow. Lots of teasing, like not like kissing around the pussy and. Because then it's like biting the inside. Like just little nibbles and stuff. And just taking things really slowly. Like it's not a race. You can take your time to explore. If you know you're doing something and she makes a noise, then keep doing it.

Keep going with the noise. Right? She's moaning. That's a good thing. Doesn't mean she's like hungry.

Yeah, it's. I think it's. Yeah, just taking your time and enjoying it and.

Because then you feel that when you're with men, do you feel. I'm sure you're probably with men who are more experienced in porn, but in real day to day life, do you find that men. A lot of times I was trying to say, this is my guy friend. The day he's like, what do you mean guys aren't good? I'm like, there's a lot of men who just don't. They don't get oral sex. They try or they're not into it, or they don't really know what they're doing. I think because every vagina is different. So you have to learn, you have to pay attention. You have to like focus on is she moaning, is she moving, how's her body changing? You know, and they just don't pay attention to it at all.

Well, it's, it's even. Even guys, like, every guy likes it a little different, right?

Same, same.

So I, I think that's, that's the key. You have to take it slow because you have to read the person, right? Figure out what they like. And then once you know, then you can just like the, the next time or whatever, you can just go for it. But especially the first time, it's like, it's So I. That's why I love sex, because it's different with everyone.

Right.

So it's. It's always new, it's always fresh.

Exactly. And it should constantly be that way. That's what, you know, I'd say one of the main points I make on the show over and over again is that your sex life should be expansive if you're in a relationship, if you're in a committed relationship, it should be something that's constantly growing, that you're challenging, that you're challenging each other and you're doing new things and you're raising the level. And I don't mean raising the level to craziness. I just mean you're trying new things, and it's exciting and it's. It's like this beautiful thing, and so many people have so many troubles with it, and they just kind of get stagnated. And it is a beautiful thing. And we're all like, we wouldn't be here without sex. It's a miracle.

I think one of the easiest ways to figure out is, like, just dirty talk. Now I know the guy that I'm dating, like, he really wants to have a threesome because, like, I'll talk to him about it during, like, when we're together and be like, oh, so you want to see me and, like, buried in another girl. And he loves it. So now I'm like, well, now we have to have a threesome.

Are you going to.

Yeah, I'm going to find one of my porno friends.

Oh, my God. That's just so fun.

I know so many.

I'm sure he's never done a little bit. He's never had a threesome, so he'll be his first. Yeah. Oh, my God, that's so fun. Do you like having threesomes?

I do. I think they're always a little bit trickier, though, because there's the danger of someone feeling left out.

Exactly.

So I actually prefer orgies because then there's more people to play with. If somebody's feeling left out, you can be like, oh, well, I'm gonna go over here.

Exactly. No, it is true. It's so true that I always say it's almost better when you have a threesome if you're not all attached. Like, if it's a couple and then you bring someone else in, it can be awkward, tricky, because who's gonna cuddle with at the end of the night or who's gonna finish off or, you know, I mean, there's a lot. There's A lot. I mean, just. That's just one of the minor things. But it is true that it can get sticky. Like couples who think we're gonna have a threesome and it's gonna save our relationship. No, you have to have, like, a really solid ground, really great communication before you bring in a third partner. So I wanna go back to you orgasm quickly, because I don't. I orgasm, but not as quickly. And I'm very envious of people like you. So have you always, like, when did you start masturbating?

I remember masturbating with. Remember those little braiding hair braiding, twisty devices you would get? I remember masturbating with that because I would turn it on and it would vibrate a little bit, so I'd use the handle.

How did you know, though? Like, how old were you?

I was young. I must have been like. I don't know, like, 11.

Right.

And you just knew that I was. I saw something I may maybe shouldn't have at a very young age. So I. I already had the.

Sex. Yeah. But I just, like. I remember the first time I, like, masturbated with just my fingers and, like, I had an orgasm. And I was like, first time, and I was. And I was like, oh, was. Was that it? Cause I wasn't sure. I mean, when you first.

Yeah. You don't know. So is it clitorally or G spot or everything? You orgasm?

It's a little bit of everything. I can. I don't know. I have really strong Kegel muscles too.

Right. Do you? Kegel exercises?

I've been doing those since before I knew what they were.

Wow.

So, like, maybe seven. Because I would. I was young, I used to have this weird complex about peeing. And I would always hold it because I'd be playing or whatever, and I didn't want to go, so I would. But by holding it, I was, like, strengthening my Kegel muscles. And then I noticed that if. If I needed to pee and I, like, worked my Kegels, I could actually have an orgasm without having to touch myself. So, like, I'd be on the bus or whatever. Just, like, silently, really.

Happy bus ride home. Well, Kegel exercises are so important if you don't know what they are. I have an iPhone app, actually, called Kegel Camp.

Oh, really?

Yeah. And every day it pops up on your phone. There's like, a little reminder, and it says, time for. You can set it any time of day. And it's five minutes a day, and it's my voice that walks you through it. And there's 20 levels. So people get to make it harder and harder levels. And people get to level 20 and like men, women, and they have stronger orgasms because of it. I'm like, everyone needs to do it. They don't understand. But I love that you naturally did it. So you just naturally born for this. It's true. Do you do them during sex?

Yes, I do. That's how when I'm working, if the director is like, okay, we need you to have an orgasm, usually the girls have to fake it because, I mean, who can come on command if you're a woman? But for me, it's. It's a lot easier because I can just work my Kegels and I can kind of force myself to come.

Exactly. Which is a great tip for women. If you do have a hard time orgasming during intercourse, I'm telling you, download my app or just do it yourself. I think just the thing about my app that's unique is that just it reminds you because they say, do them at a traffic light. Do them where you go. No one remembers.

So it's like, I'm doing mine right now, right?

And just five minutes. And you will see like within a month that you are having sex with orgasms. And you can do it during sex. But for me too, when I feel like it's coming. But it's, you know, when you feel like you're about to orgasm and you're not like, I just do my Kegels and it's like, boom. And it happens.

So you know what else is a really good trick? Well, this is this. I. I do this accidentally. I hold my breath when I'm coming, but it's. It's almost like a form of breath play. Because when you're light headed because of the air deprivation, it makes the orgasms feel even cooler.

Oh, wow, that's a good one. I like it because a lot of women hold their breath the whole time they're having sex. And I often think that, that, that prevents them from having orgasm. But you do it right before.

Yeah, I do it as I'm coming and which is why I think I'm always so out of it after sex.

Because I'm like, right, you're like, I.

Come so many times. I always do. It's weird. I'm very, very loud. I realize that.

I'm very loud. I kind of want you to leave right now, but. So do you ever use sex toys?

I pretty much use a Hitachi religiously. I actually just recently broke mine. I Need to get a new one because I use it so much. But I think every woman should invest in a hitachi. They're like, 40 bucks, and there's two settings. You plug it in. But it is the best vibrator.

It is the best vibrator ever.

And you can get the attachments for it.

The attachments are amazing. I love. They've been sending me the attachments, so I know, like, the rubber ones. You do the G spot thing. It's like. Oh, my God. It's like a million different things, like Legos. You just keep building onto your tattoo. Yeah. You guys have all heard me talk about it. It's actually not called Itachi anymore. It's now just called the Magic Wand. Hitachi went away, but it is the Magic Wand. And you can go to sexwithemily.com. good vibes. Use coupon code Emily. And you get 40. You get 15% off your purchase. And I just say. I mean, I have a lot of great toys on that page if you go there. But Hitachi, every woman. I mean, I have it, like, permanently plugged in.

Me, too.

I don't even. Right. Right.

Right next to my bed.

Me too. Always. It's always there. In my last house, people listening to the shows told me have heard me say this, but I had a nightstand, and it was like a smaller, older apartment. I couldn't get. I didn't want all the plugs everywhere, so I drilled a hole in the back of my nightstand. I could plug it into the wall. It was like. It was like an old night. It wasn't like that nice of a piece, but still. So it was always plugged in, ready to go. But it is true. The Hitachi's like, it's the sure thing because you just. It just happens in, like, three minutes, and it's amazing. And I can have, like, multiple, multiple, multiple. Sometimes I'm like, oh, God, I'm late. I'm so. I'm wondering if, now that you are a porn star, do you think is experience of having sex now different from when, before you were porn star?

I think it's definitely changed because I feel one. I feel more experienced because I've. I've gotten to experience a lot of things that I would have never experienced had I not done porn. Like, crazy beating things that maybe I wouldn't have felt safe doing, but because I know that I'm working with professionals, I'm in safe hands, so they can get crazy. But I think I just.

I know good sex better. Like, I know that it's passion is everything. Whereas, you know, when you're young, you're just like, I want it hard and fast all the time. But now it's a little bit. It's different. It's a little bit like I actually, I don't mind it when it's slow and romantic.

Slow is nice. Exactly. I always tell you, you just gotta mix it up. It is true. When we're younger, it's like jackhammer.

Yeah, you want it. You're like, it's a race to have an orgasm. And now it's more like, no, I want to take it slow, really enjoy it.

I love to like make out when I'm having sex. Sometimes in the middle, the whole thing.

Oh, the whole time. I love kissing.

I love kissing too. It's so intimate. Yeah, it really like heightens everything that you're doing. So I think, I think that's great. Slow it down. So your sex. So it is. It is better now. And I feel like same with me, like doing the show. Like, I feel like I've learned so much more. Like, how could I have bad sex? You know what I mean? Sometimes I do, but only once with someone. So would you say if you could direct your own porn scene if you were a director? Do you ever want to direct? Maybe.

Maybe. I mean, I've thought about it. I've always thought that maybe I wasn't ready myself to be in charge. But I'm actually leaning towards. More towards wanting to direct now I have my. I direct stuff from my website.

Okay.

So that's like my.

Tell me your website again.

It's Skin Diamond VIP.com.

Hot pot videos and everything. People check it out. Pictures.

Pretty naughty.

So what would go down in your dream sex in your dream porn scene? Well, Skin Diamonds fantasy porn scene. What happens?

I like, I'm a kitty a lot.

Really?

I have this thing, it's like puppy play, but kitty play. And I have a kitty butt plug tail that has a pink bow on the. On the end and a bell. And then I have matching ears and a collar.

Oh, that's so sexy. Is that on your website? Can people see you with the kitty butt plug?

Actually that the scene that won AVN was my blowbang scene. And it was. It was all my idea. I was super excited that it won.

Oh my God. So you kind of interrupt it. Yeah. Really? So what? Okay, tell me about the scene.

So it was a blowbang. To those that do not know what a blowbang is, it's like a gang bang, only it's all oral Sex. So I think there was like nine to 12 guys.

Who remembers these scenes? Nine 12 guys. And you.

And I was the kitty. And it was my idea to pretend to be a cat the whole time while I'm, you know, getting banged in my face.

And then at the end they all came in a little kitty bowl and then I lapped it up.

It was really fun. Creative scene.

It was super fun. I'm so glad it won that.

I mean, like, that's amazing that you did just direct. You literally, that was your idea. Were you like, hey, director, come here. I got this idea.

Yeah. Because I already had. Because I'm into kitty play in my personal life. So I already had all this stuff and I was like, well, wouldn't it be really cool to do this scene where I'm a cat and it's a blow bang and instead of milk it's come.

That's really sexy.

So check it out. It was my Elegant angel movie entitled Skin.

Okay, Elegant angel people can find. Where can they find that?

Just elegantangel.com.

Okay, that's cool. So what award are you most proud of that you've won in the porn? Is it that one?

That's definitely in the top one. The movie for Elegant angel actually won three awards in total. I also won best Double Penetration Sex scene. And the movie as a whole won best Gonzo release at xbiz. But I also won Female Performer of the Year at Urban X Awards last year.

You did female. What was that for your Female Performer of the Year?

Well, that's basically just like the highest award for porn girls. It's like, you know, just for everything.

That you've done this year, right?

Yeah.

That's big friggin deal. And you're in LA area. Okay. Do you ever go to any of the like sex clubs in LA or parties here or do you just.

Not so much anymore. I used to go to fetish clubs a lot in Europe, but see, I'm spoiled. And the fetish clubs here, I'm like, they're not as good.

I know. Cause you have it all. That's so true. I'm just curious because I'm actually doing a segment tomorrow for television. They're talking about these underground scenes in la, which I just moved here from San Francisco, so I haven't experienced them yet. But I would like to. I know, yeah.

San Francisco has some crazy.

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Let's do that. So, Anonymous, hey, you're on with Sex with Emily and Skin Diamond.

What's going on? Anonymous, are you there? He wants to know how do I get my wife to open up about her fantasies? Let's try to get this going. Hello? Hi. We want to talk to you.

Maybe they got shy.

Oh, we could just answer. How do. How do you think? I mean, I talk about the time. What would you be your advice to a guy who wants his wife to open up about her fantasies?

Maybe he should try telling her one of his freaky fantasies, and that way she'll feel more comfortable opening up about hers.

Exactly.

Maybe right after sex. Because, you know, everyone's in a great mood after sex. That's the best time.

It is a good time to talk about after, not during.

Well, sometimes during, but it depends. On what? If it's really freaky and you don't want to spoil the mood, then maybe wait till afterwards.

Right. But a lot of women, I find, don't. Or they're not. They probably do have fantasies, but they're not necessarily aware of them or they don't think like men. A lot of men are, like, have a million fantasies. So I also say sometimes a good way to, like, ask yours is to say. To start it slow and say, what's your most memorable time that we've ever had sex together? What's your favorite time that we've ever had sex together? What's your best memory of our sex life?

Life.

And maybe that's a good way. If she's like, God, that time you, you know, threw me on the bed and ripped off my clothes, well, then, oh, no. Okay, so she's into something a little more aggressive. Or she said that time you came home with flowers and chipped them on, you know, you. You dropped rose petals on the bed. You know, it's. Whatever it is. Then you kind of get. You know, you kind of can see into her mind and what she's thinking, and it can help open up the dialogue. Because so many couples just don't talk about it. They've been together forever, and they don't talk about their sex life.

Yeah, I think a lot of people are saying, scared that someone's gonna think they're weird. But honestly, like, everyone has some freaky fantasies, right?

It's so true. Do you think you've lived out all your freaky fantasies?

I think I've lived out at least all the ones that I've thought about or seen in porno's that I wanted to experience myself.

Like what? Like, can you name1?

Getting DP'd. Double penetration.

Is that amazing?

It's so good. I actually prefer it better than anal sex because it's best of both worlds, Right?

Exactly. And are you attracted to the men that were doing it always or not always.

I mean, I always try to find something about them that I like. Even if maybe they're not my type. Cause my type of guys aren't really the kind of guys that you would find in porn. I mean, it's a really like down to earth, like regular guys.

Right, right.

Whereas porno guys are usually super buff and whatever.

Right.

But yeah, I just try to find something about them that I like. Like maybe I have nice eyes or maybe they're really funny and they make me laugh. Or maybe they're super strong and can just throw me around. That's always amazing.

I love when guys throw me around. I know. We're small too. How tall are you?

I'm five foot five.

Okay. Yeah, you're skinny. You're little. Yeah, I'm five foot one. So we actually. Oh, he is. Okay. Should we talk? Well, we already answered. Okay. Hey, are you there?

I'm there.

Hi. Okay. Did you hear? I don't know if you can hear what you're saying, but you want to get your wife to open up about her fantasies.

Yeah, you know, I think. I think we've just hit a little bit of a plateau and.

I feel like I've tried to say a little bit of mine and then try to pull out a little bit of hers. And I feel like that she's just not.

I don't know, she's not open to it.

She's just thinking. Thinking other things at this point.

Oh, wow. How long have you been together?

What's that?

How long have you guys been together?

We've been married for five years now and together for like 10.

Okay. And what did you share with her? What was your fantasy?

Well, actually, like, one of mine is and something that she shared with me before was.

You know, some tea action.

And pee, like urine.

And I'm okay with that. Like, I want to hear more about that.

Can you back up? I don't know if I heard you correctly. What kind of action?

Some DP action.

Dp? Oh, double penetration. We were just talking about that.

Yeah.

So you would want. You would want another guy in the room or you'd want to use Like a dildo.

Well, she. Another guy.

You'd be okay with her with another guy.

And I'm up for that.

Oh, that's hot.

Yeah, that's so hot. So she wants that.

She mentioned it before, and I try and, like, pull it back out of her, and I feel like she's just.

Well, I mean, things like that. It's. If somebody's never done it before, it's gonna make anyone feel a little bit nervous. And maybe she just has stage fright.

Right, Right. And maybe you gotta ease into it. So maybe if her fantasy is double penetration, maybe you could buy, like, a great dildo or something, like a butt plug and start, like, experimenting so she knows what it feels like. And then you bring it up. Bring someone into the room, maybe.

Plus, if you have sex with her while she has a butt plug in, it feels really good for the guys, too.

Yeah, the butt plug feels good to the guys because they can.

They can feel the butt plug rubbing against.

Exactly.

Vibrators. Guys don't realize that the vibrations feel good on them as well.

Oh, totally.

Yeah. So I think maybe you got to change your tactics how you talk to her. Like, I don't know if you heard what I was saying earlier, because we couldn't. Couldn't hear you, but I was saying sometimes a great thing to ask her is to say, what's your most memorable sex experience that we've ever had? What's the favorite time in your. When you think of our sex life? What's the greatest sex memory you have? And if she explains it to you, you know, that time you. You know, you. You ripped my clothes off in the alley, or we had, you know, sex in the car, or you put rose petals on the bed or whatever it is. Then you'll know, like, what, in her mind really turns her on and what's memorable. That could be a softer way to get it going.

Or, like, whisper something dirty in her ear while you're inside of her.

Yeah. Does she like dirty talk? I know. I do, too. Does she like dirty talk?

Yeah.

I appreciate it. Yeah.

Okay, well, good luck to you. Just keep talking. Keep trying. Okay. Don't give up on it. You just gotta find the right way to communicate to her about it. It's hard. Okay. Good luck to you. Thanks for calling. Sex with Emily. It is hard sometimes. I'm sure you don't have a heart in your relationships, talking about what want and what you need.

Well, I mean, it's. When you do porn, you almost, like, forget that regular people aren't as Open. Like I'll be talking about anal sex really, like blah, blah, blah. And then this happened. And with someone that's, that's not in the industry and their looks of shock are always really.

I know, exactly.

But I don't know. I've always been really open sexually. Like, I remember the way that I found out that I was into breath plate was because I was a teenager. There was this boy that we always used to flirt. We never did any, we never went the full shebang. But he mentioned that he really liked to choke girls during sex. And I remember getting so turned on when he said that, just from him talking about it. And then after that I really wanted to try it. And so I think it was a while before I actually did try it. But like, it's funny how like just one little word will set something off.

Exactly. Yeah. A lot of people, women are inside of the choking and it's interesting, the part about the breath that helps you with orgasm.

Oh, it's so good.

I mean, don't do it too hard, guys. You don't have to.

Oh yeah, yeah.

Start slow.

You have to be careful because you can't crush the windpipe. There is a way you choke, right?

How would you describe that way you choke? No, but you have to try to try it soft and see how she reacts. But you don't want to go too hard. Yeah, that's true. So I'm wondering, when you do start dating someone, do you think that they do treat you differently when they know that your porn star, you just date these down to earth guys that are pretty cool with it? Do you think at first there's like expectations, it's funny, like a sex thing, A stripper pole in your room. I mean, maybe you do.

I do have a stripper pole in my house. But I mean I'm always, I'm always upfront about what I do. Usually guys, like, they know me as a porn star when they meet me. Guys always think that dating a porn chick is super cool. Like the idea of it's really cool. But I mean, it does get hard because guys, the jealousy guys are like, oh, well, you're going to work and getting banged by all like you. It's hard to be like, oh, what did you do at work? Oh, I got banged by five guys.

Exactly. I lapped up the calm of nine.

Yeah.

So yeah, it is hard. I find that too. Men. It's very hard to find a man who's not threatened by what you do. Yes. Or not jealous that you're having I mean, you got to find a really confident. Which is sexy anyway. Yeah, confidence is the sexiest thing, I think. And somebody's confident himself and he's like, I'm cool with that. It's your job.

I love you, you know, because it is a job. At the end of the day, I'm. I don't want to. Like, most of the guys that I'm banging on camera, like, I'm not gonna like, hook up with outside. I love them on set, but that's.

That's the end of it. So are you. So I want to talk about anal sex. Now that we touched on that a little bit. It seems like that gets very common, like even the last 10, 15 years. Like, I think it's because of porn. A lot of people, young kids growing up or whatever, they see it. A lot of guys want to try it. And I feel like a lot of women have bad experience, first experiences, because guys just try to like shove it in or they don't prepare them.

Yeah.

And so. So what would you say are the good do's and don'ts about going through the back door the first time or if you want your partner to do it, if you want a woman to do what you're with, what would you suggest?

Well, if you want it to be super magical, I would suggest that the girl clean herself out beforehand to avoid any sticky.

Go to the bathroom or like.

Yeah, enema. Enema. A little bit. Just, you know, lots and lots of lubes. Silicone based is better because it doesn't dry out and get sticky and weird.

Go super slow, especially if he's girthy.

Right.

Uncut guys are a lot easier to handle. But yeah, just lots of lube, go slow. And like you said earlier with guys, for guys with big cocks, if she's on top, then she can control.

Exactly.

And I love anal sex on top because especially like Lexington Steele, who's my arm. I like to go on top of him.

Right, right. You got. It's true. When you're on top, women on top, or for through anal sex, you can. You're in control. And again, use lots of lube, go slow. And again, if you're with a partner who you really want to try anal sex and she's scared about it because she just thinks, oh my God, it's gonna hurt. And what I was saying at the beginning is a lot of women have bad experiences because guys just shove it in no loop. So go so. And even start with your finger. Even warmer up with your finger.

They also have anal training kits that you can get that are. It's like a set of butt plugs and they start off super, super small, and then they get bigger so you can actually stretch yourself up. I always stretch before a scene because, you know, I'm used.

Stretch your anus before your scenes. It's stretching before you run.

It's like stretching before a run. Because, I mean, some of the guys that I do, I mean, they're huge. That's why they're in porn. And so I have a dilator kit that I always stretch beforehand because there's also.

How long beforehand do you have to do it?

I mean, just right before. For like a few minutes. And I'll usually, like, masturbate with a vibrator at the same time because I find that if I have an orgasm while I'm playing with my butt, then that's because you want your butt to loosen up so that you don't exact hair. That's always the danger. If you try to stretch it too fast, then you might tear something and that's when it's super painful.

Exactly.

And you know, you can have problems.

So that is a great, great tip. Okay, so what about when you are performing oral sex on a man? What are some great tips that you. I know everyone. That guy's different.

I love giving head. It's actually one of my favorite things to do.

You're like the dream woman. She orgasms all the time. She loves giving head. Okay, so tell me. I know. I like it. So many guys, that's their biggest complaint is that if a woman just seems enthusiastic about it, they're happy, but a lot of women just aren't. So what do you love about it? What do you do?

Well, I'm a. I'm a big pleaser. I love knowing that I'm making someone, like, if someone starts shaking and like, moaning really hard or whatever because of something that I'm doing, then it makes me wet knowing that I'm getting it.

Totally. Yeah. It turns you on?

Yeah. Like, I mean, like, I don't know. When I suck cock, I just. It's like when you're licking a pussy, you know, you don't want to just do the same thing over and over again. Mix it up, like, see what he likes. Maybe just, like, suck on the head for a little bit and then while you're jacking it off. Or maybe like, flick the tip of it with your tongue while it's in your mouth. Or put it right to the back and suck really hard while it's all the way inside.

Yeah, the Deep Throat. Exactly. Just keep mixing it up and then when you find something. And I also say another great way when couples first start dating or people get is mutual masturbation. Like, watch each so hot.

And plus you can figure out how he likes.

You're like, oh, this is what he does with his hand. He goes really fast at the end or whatever it is, and you learn and he can see how you do it. It's like. I think it's like, I don't. I think it should be like. Like a requisite for couples. Do it right away. So I was gonna also ask you if you.

Do you have any advice for people you've had such a successful career so early on? Like, do you have any advice for someone who wants to start a career in porn?

I think for most men they should probably have second thoughts because being a porn star for a man is a lot harder than it looks.

Tell me why.

Because think about it. You gotta get hard on command in front of a big group of people who all just wanna go home. And then you have to come on command, right? And if you can't, then people are going to be starting to look at their watches and gonna put you off more. And so it's a lot harder. And plus, you have to have insane amounts of stamina and you can't really fake it. And yeah, with men you can't really fake it.

Right, Exactly.

Like if you can't come, then the whole scene is ruined and everybody hates you.

Exactly.

There's a lot of pressure with girls. I think that a lot of girls think that they can't say no to things and that's. They get pushed past their limits and that's what gives them the bad experience. I think a lot of girls, because they're young and like their agent is telling them, like, oh, you have to do this. Or the director's like, oh, it'll be so much better if you do this. But unless you're comfortable, don't force it.

Right.

And always like, you know, do your research. Try to find the best agent that you can. Someone that's going to look after you.

Right. It's so true. To have good management, especially in this business, it's very hard.

Absolutely.

And so my other questions for you. God, we've covered a lot here. Is there any other, like, top sex tips that you have for people that you think they don't already know? Like, what have you learned? We talked about oral sex, we talked about anal sex. But like, anything Just like, overall, that you think is like a great tip for everyone to remember about sex.

I think that the main thing that people should keep in mind is don't take it too seriously. It's sex. If you end up, you know, trying a position and you fall over, it's not the end of the world. Just laugh about it and try something else. It's just keep experimenting and have fun. It's playtime for grown ups. This is like our. What we get as grown ups.

Exactly. I know. It's like the best thing in the world. It's free most time unless you pay for it. But, you know, some people do. But I'm saying it's just, it's something that you should really just work on and enjoy. How do you feel about massage? Do you like massage?

Oh, I love massages. Who doesn't?

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Nice.

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Thank you.

I mean, I brought you one. You're smell it. It's amazing. So I mean, it looks great. And the thing is about the massage candles too. Like, it looks great in your home. And for guys, I always, I know it's amazing for guys, I have to say. Like, I've tried other brands. I'm like, I wanted to make the perfect massage candle, but they're like all natural ingredients. And also I always think another great tip is that, you know, if you're a guy and you gotta like, light the candles. First of all, I have three scents and they all smell amazing. And you don't have to have a massage with it. You could just put it. It could be your. It could be your centerpiece at dinner. But then you could be like, oh, hey babe, I just got this new thing roll. You know, guys always like trying to give you A massage for women and say, I'm gonna give rub your back and like she's putty in your hands because it just. It feels amazing. So if anyone wants it, they go to Emily and Tony.com use coupon code Emily and you will get like 20% off, I think, or something. So if that's for you, you'll like it. Thank you. And yeah, you're awesome. So where can people can find you? What's your website?

My wife says skindiamondvip.com and you can also find me at Twitter skindiamond.

And what about your singing career? Can we talk about that for a minute? She was singing before we went on the mic. She started singing. I'm like, you have a really good voice.

Thank you. I'm actually working on music right now. I shot a scene as a music video for a porno and that kind of inspired me to be like, oh, well, this was really fun. I'm gonna keep going with it. So I've been writing so and working on all that.

I love it. You have so much going on. You're so active and you're wonderful. You've great personality. You really seem just happy and centered and you love what you do. Thank you. And I love people who love what they do. And you're doing well at it, probably because you love it so much.

I do love it.

You gotta be passionate about what you do. People find your passion in life. And I so appreciate all your sex tips.

And Anderson, don't take this the wrong way, but I just thought of a gimmicky thing that you might be able to do to sell out.

What?

Has there ever been a musician who's recorded an entire album while having sex?

Oh, I don't know if I. I.

Mean, if you just sit on top of your boyfriend and sing into the microphone, you know, I mean, and it's like this entire album was recorded while Coital was in process.

That's kind of hot. Or at least. How about a music porn video?

Oh, it was it. Well, because you know how there's always like a tease premise to pornos. Whatever. Well, this one particular director, Brando, approached me saying he wanted to shoot the tease as a music video. And then I said, well, I want to write the song. So I went with my friend and we wrote a song together, and then we used it and shot the whole music video. And then you can watch the music video and then it turns into a sex scene.

Oh, my God, I love it. I love it.

Where can people find that brazzers.com.

Okay. Browsers.

Brazzers.

Brazzers. Okay. Well, you're awesome. So, everyone, you're gonna check this out and check out my website because we're gonna do a little video right now just to you can check her out. And we're gonna give you some highlights of the show. And yeah, thank you so much for being on the show. And Anderson, thank you for having me. Yeah, you're great. I want you to come back again. And Anderson, how are you doing? Tell me about your show. Everyone can check out.

Yeah, yeah. The Film Vaults is doing better than ever. We're doing. We're fantastic. We talk about new movies, old movies. Film Vault. The Film Vault. It's a good show.

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