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Yeah, and the best part is you. You are so wet right now.

I'm so wet. I'm so wet. I have to tell you what happened. I'm so wet, baby. It's raining and I ran here, so I'm. I'm sweating and I have water all over me.

Yeah. So if you have the video podcast.

If you have the video podcast, you can see me. So wet, baby.

Yeah. So go to sexwithemily.com.

Check that out. I am sweating. Hot. Yeah. How are you, Menace?

I'm good. How are you doing today?

I'm good. I'm good. I'm really good. Yeah. Really busy, but really frigging good. All right. Yeah. I'm so happy. I'm so good. We just got a lot of work because I'm going to Michigan to see my family.

I know.

And you sprung this on me just yesterday.

I know. I'm so sorry I didn't tell you. I'm so sorry. But we're doing more shows, so everyone has a show every day and all that stuff. So we're just busy, but we're good. And so today's. I just want to tell everyone a little bit about what they're gonna hear today on the show because we've got show as usual. We've got your emails and a lot of people. It's awesome. You're just going to ask Emily on my website. Really easy way to email me. And you are. Or feedbackexhelmily.com Topics include male arousal, dirty talk, breakups, and how to get better oral sex from your partner. Today we'll be talking about how to give. How to. How to have great sex without actually having intercourse.

Oh, yeah, we were talking about that.

I know. Because it's like, people just assume that sex. They're like, did you have sex? And they mean in and out penetration. There is so much more that people can do that doesn't involve. No. Right. But we're saying that this is. We have some specific tips for you to connect with your partner in other ways that don't include intercourse.

All right.

Special things that people can do. And then we've got. I know. We got some good stuff. We got some really good stuff. And I'm still sweating and. And then it's dripping. I'm wet. I'm so wet. I'm so wet. Oh, my God, baby. Yeah. And we did have a question about phone sex today, so maybe I can get into my. I'm so wet.

That's good.

How are you doing?

I'm good. We had a phone conversation yesterday.

Yeah.

Do you want me to do it now?

Yeah. Talk to me about it because I'm at the edge of my seat.

Are you really?

Totally. I have no idea.

So Emily and I had this phone conversation the other day. So we are doing other shows, and then later on this week. Is it Thursday? The interns will be on.

Right Again, Yeah, Thursday.

Thursday. So, you know, when I do a radio show, I want to do the best show that I can possibly do. Especially, you know, with this show, I believe it's like, you know, you got to share a lot of your life, right? And that's what I've done on other shows, and they've done really well. And I think for the past couple months, I haven't really shared too much. You know, it's like we're having sexual. Like, we should be, like, talking about sex and, like, having sex with people.

Right?

And so I kind of want to explain why I haven't been sharing too much.

Okay.

Okay. So I have to go back and let people know because, you know, I want to be out there banging chicks and, you know, totally sharing it on. On the air, like, I don't care. So I want to explain why I've been so reserved.

Okay.

Not sharing.

Okay, I'm done.

So this is the reason why I haven't really been having too much of a sex life.

Okay.

And I'll explain why I'm not having the sex life.

Why.

So we have to go back to when I was engaged, when I lost my mind.

Okay.

Okay. So I got engaged, right?

Like, about a year and a half ago.

Year and a half ago.

So before that, he knew her for five minutes.

For five minutes. And then I got engaged. If people don't know. And that lasted about, I don't know, six months, right? So that's all over with. I'm fine. Everything's cool. But before that, I was hanging out with a girl.

And this girl worked with me on my. One of my radio shows.

Okay, all right. You're, like, nervous right now.

No, no, no. I just want to make sure I explain it right, and I don't drag it on. And it just goes. So this girl worked with me on one of my radio shows. I lost my mind. I got engaged. And the girl that I got engaged to knew about this other girl, okay? So she's like.

Cause you were sleeping with a lot of people in your office at that time.

Because, you know, I always do that, right? So she's. Yeah, I don't want this girl hanging around you, you know? So I had to tell her, like, yeah, I can't have you work with me on my stuff anymore.

Okay.

And I had to like end it at that point and your friendship or end the working together, like kind of just.

Okay. Got it.

Both together, you know. So when it started getting like really bad in my relationship, in my engagement.

I started feeling more and more bad about what happened with the girl before the girl. And, and I before had a, you know, an understanding. It's like, you know, we're not gonna be boyfriend, girlfriend and stuff like that. So it's not like I broke up with this girl to be this.

Right.

This girl. The part I felt bad about is that I said, oh, you know, you can't work with me anymore because, you know, that's what she wanted to do. So I made some calls and I got her a gig.

Okay.

Like a part time job.

Right.

In the industry and stuff like that.

Okay.

To like make myself feel better.

Right.

So that happened. So then my, you know, sorry, I'm trying to get to the point. So then.

My engagement ends and then, you know, I go ahead and I live the single life. And then me and this other girl were cool again and all that stuff.

You're cool again. Did you start sleeping together again? We.

Yeah.

Okay.

Here and there. But it's not like, you know, this is my girlfriend. I'm hanging out with other people.

So we're also friends and we talk a lot. And just recently, you know, because she only had a part time gig.

Right.

She wasn't making a ton of money. And radio, you know this.

Yeah.

Don't make a lot of money.

Don't make any money.

Barely any.

So she was having problems with the place that she lived. And when I was first starting out in radio, I was having the same issues. I wasn't making any money, I was having problems. Find somewhere.

You were sleeping at the radio station?

I was at the radio station. And yeah. So my buddy took me in. He let me live that in my place until I can get on my feet. And then so basically that's kind of what I did with this girl because she needed a place to stay. So I've been letting her live at my house for like three months.

Wow.

But she just got a full time.

So what does that mean?

So that means that I can't bring over girls to my house.

Oh, because she's been saying it. You're in your studio, like in your bed.

Yeah, but we're not like, you know, you're not. Well, once in a while when I drunk. But I'm just saying, like, I, you know, I can't. I didn't want to make her like comfortable living there. Like, it's all good, you know.

So you're saying that's. But can't you. Okay, what I understand is can't you hook up with the chick and go home with her to her house, to the chicks?

I could, I could do that if I wanted to.

Right.

But the other thing is I also have to go home because I get.

Up at 4 in the morning.

Well, yeah, I get up at 4 in the morning. And also I don't give her a key to my house because I don't want her to get like too comfortable.

Like, so you have to keep constantly meeting her when she needs to get back in and stay for three months. What a nightmare.

Yeah. So that's what's been going on with me.

Okay. Do you really like this girl? You know?

No, we're like, we're really cool, you know. And you know, I would feel even worse that somebody helped me out in the same position.

Right. You gotta pay it forward. Like someone helps you. What comes around, goes around. I do that all the time. I help people. That's good. Okay, so you're not having sex because you're giving back to this woman that you sometimes have sex with. So you are having sex.

Yeah, but not like constant.

Right.

Because I don't want to get in like, oh, you know, we're having sex all the time. You land in my house, everything's all good.

Right, Right. Right. Are you getting sick of her? Are you getting sick of this woman living? You look kind of like it.

No, no, no, I, I'm not.

You've only been living there for three months. Jesus. You had a girl movie?

Yeah, I was very much kind of.

Pushing it, I think. So it's comfortable.

No, no. Yeah, but she just recently got a full time gig, so it is all, it's all good. So it is just transitioning to.

Okay, got it. So, so then you're gonna be like a man let out of jail and you're just gonna banging everyone.

I, I'll try.

Okay.

Then I'll be sharing a lot more.

Okay.

So right now I don't want to make this like an everyday topic because.

Nothing'S really gonna change.

Alright, good. I want to do a better radio show and you know, we do a radio show about sex and I want to share more sexual experiences I. I'm having.

But talk about the sex you're having with this girl. What's the deal?

What do you mean?

Well, like you have sex when you're drunk. But does she want more from you? Do you want more from her? It's like, totally.

It's just like. Yeah. She doesn't, like, try to come after me. I don't try to come after her.

So just when you're drunk, you gropingly.

Yeah, you know, whatever.

Right? Whatevs.

Whatever. I'm not gonna go anywh.

Well, okay. That's true. No, Right, right. And she's there. You're having your bed, so it's awesome. Okay, cool.

Yeah. But no, it's just.

I get it. I get it. You've been going through. Just having a roommate is a lot of work.

I never.

And you have a studio or smaller place, right?

Like, I never go and, like, kiss this chick, like, every day. Like a boyfriend girlfriend.

You're not like, welcome home, I made.

You some turkey pot piece hug. Like, that never happens.

Got it. Okay, well, good to know. Madison, I'm glad to know that you're gonna be getting out there soon to feel the content of the show.

I'm trying.

And I have a date tonight with this guy that I met on Friday night.

Are you gonna move in with him?

I'm gonna move in with him next week. He's my boyfriend. He doesn't know yet. No, he's cute. He's really. He's really hot. Like, I. Well, not that. You know, it's not about that, but he was. I met him part. He was like. Like we had met before, and he said that he's had a crush on me, and he became my. He's a friend of mine.

Oh, you love that because you like the attention part.

No, I like. You know. You know what I like about him? That he. It's. Whatever. It's been three, four days, five days, is that he's just, like, cool. Like, he's like, I'm into you. I like you. Like, let's go out. He'. Games. He's not. He's like, let's go out tonight. I want to see you. He's just cool. And he's hot.

So what are you gonna do?

We're gonna go to dinner and drink somewhere. I don't know where yet. And he wants to eat my dog. And my dog's at the beach already. My dog's at Simpson beach today with a friend.

What?

My dog. It's pouring rain. Oh, that's why I'm so wet. If anyone's watching, you're gonna have a.

Wet dog at your house and try to bring a guy over.

Probably the Dog isn't gonna be around. He's like, I really want to meet your dog. But my dog is at the beach for two days.

Oh, my God.

I know.

Trying to get points by saying, oh, I want to meet your dog.

I know. He doesn't care. He doesn't give a. About a dog.

Yeah, no, that's what he said.

I want to meet your dog. But he's cute and he's like the night. And he's like the first guy I've met a while that I've been, like, attracted. I've been like, oh, wow. Like, not just he's a nice guy and I can kind of get my head around it, but like, oh, I'm actually like, think I'm attracted to him. And he's cool. That story. I'll tell you all about it tomorrow.

Yeah, I can't wait.

I can't wait either. So it'll be fun and dinner and then drinks.

You know what that leaves.

I love dinner than drinks. Drinks than dinner, or just drinks. The whole thing. Yeah. And he's. And the reason why I really like him. Okay. I think that we did this poll a few weeks ago. Like, most people meet online dating, but another way that people meet is through friends. And one of my favorite, favorite people in the city, like an old friend of mine, he is really good friends with this guy, and he's been talking about him and talking about him. He's like, you gotta meet him. You gotta meet him. And so I met him and I was like, oh, yeah, I get it. And then the fact that this friend of mine that I love, he's one of my favorite people in San Francisco. For real. I always say, I'm like, he's my favorite person in San Francisco. It's the fact that he likes this guy, knows this guy. It's like, all good. Like, I feel like he's already vetted.

I gotta ask, does this guy do yoga and all that?

No, he's like a dude.

What?

He's like a dude dude.

He's like a dude. No ponytail, Polyamory.

Nope, nope, nope.

Crazy. No, no stuff like that.

Nothing crazy.

He's actually not gonna go meditate for like nine.

No months. He's a total dude. He's like, actually a dude.

He's a total dude. I mean, I don't know. I don't know him that well, but we'll see what happens tonight. So it'll be interesting. So it'll be fun. And then I leave and then date with the guy. The blind date that Brought his mother along that I talked about a few weeks ago. The guy was in from la. I plans with him tomorrow night. He has to be here on Thursday for business from la. So he's like, what if I come up Wednesday night and we go out? But I've got this crazy thing that I. Do.

You have a book? No, I told him, and this was two weeks ago. And he's like, can I see you Wednesday night before you go? And I was like, I have this crazy thing before I travel that I love traveling. I love being on an airplane. Like, I love the whole thing. But I. I get everything done that night. Like sometimes I'm up to like five in the morning or four in the morning before a flight because I know I can sleep the whole day. And I get this. It's like I'm total add, but I can totally focus the last minute. And I love to be up all night, like not all night, like packing and working and I just like clean up my house and just. I get it because I hate coming home when it's messy. And so I have this ritual that before I go on vacation I just get a bunch of shit because a lot of people get a bunch of stuff done. So I try and explain it to them and he's like, you don't want to see me again? I was like, no, no, no, no. It's not that I don't want to see. You have to understand that I have this thing that I have to do. Does that sound weird? He's like, well, you have to. I'm asking you two weeks in advance. Can't you plan ahead to get out yourself?

He doesn't say, you want to bang somebody else. He doesn't even think about that. He doesn't think you're telling the truth. I never really said.

I'm telling you the truth. I've got this thing. I wish I wasn't like this. I wish I wasn't like the last minute. But I can get more done. I know it sounds silly, but I'm just a work obsessed and I can get more done. And he was like, I think you don't.

You should call him on it. And if you really want to see me, I'll be out of Michigan. So what's up?

It's nothing but a flight of Michigan.

That's what I always say.

No way.

It's nothing but a flight.

Nothing but a flight. Maybe my family would. I'm not allowed to bring men home anymore.

Does it get all attached?

No, my family. So. Okay. So I've lived. I've lived far away from Michigan freaks that you. No, no, no. I don't bring over yoga freaks. They've liked the men that they've met. I've lived far away from Michigan for, like, a long time. And I. My family, they're all married. They're all monogamous. Married. My brother's married with three kids. My mom's married. You know, she's on her. But they've been together 30 years, and they're all like, happy family. So Emily has brought home in the, you know, decade plus that I've lived here, I've brought home three to four men to Michigan. But to them, that seems like so many guys. I'm like. Because they're with the same person. And I'm like, it's not so many guys. It's like the guys. Md so they're like, we don't want to meet anyone unless you're getting married. We don't want to meet anyone else. And I was like, I'm not for getting married. So how are you going to meet someone? And then they're like, well, we're done. We don't want to.

You can fly out for lunch.

Yeah, that's true. I'll talk to him about that. But anyway, I think it's funny that my family put that rule. But now they're like. Now I think they're getting worried since I said that they're like, that. I haven't brought anyone home in years. They haven't met anybody. They dated. So either they think I'm a lesbian.

Yeah.

Or I'm just. Yeah. Not successfully dating.

You should bring me out there.

Come to Michigan. You love my family.

Your aunt. I'm an aunt. Sorry. Your cousin thought she's. I was awesome.

Yeah, we all think you're awesome. They love you. And Michigan's like, my brother has a house on a lake, and it's beautiful. And we. Fourth of July, we go on a boat and do all this fun stuff. It's awesome. I know. It's really good. Okay. Should we get some sex in the news?

Sex in the news. Okay.

Okay, good. That's what I got for you. Porn star says I was Hillary Clinton's intern.

Oh, yeah. This chick's busted.

Adult film star Sammy Spades tells TMZ Menace's favorite website she was going to community college in Buffalo, New York, back in 2006, when she met then Senator Clinton at a banquet and expressed interest in a summer internship. She was accepted a 2006 summer Internet I was planning on becoming an attorney and then going to public office, but a couple years later, she abandoned politics and claimed having set a sex tape to making a sex tape to pay the bills. The star of Big Bucks, Big Butts, Like It Big Number Eight and White Bubble Butts. Number four says, I don't think Hillary would be too happy, but I have nothing but respect for Ms. Clinton.

Of course.

Whatever. That's what kids do today. They gotta get through school, they make a sex tape.

Shake is not attractive.

I didn't see the picture. Yeah, but. But she was in Big Buck Number eight. Big Buck Number eight? Like, number eight. Like.

Like, first of all, she must be.

Number three is probably. Number two isn't usually good in movies. Like number the Second.

No. Maybe they're perfecting it.

No, they're never perfecting it.

It's poor, and they can knock those things.

I like Big Butts and I cannot lie. Okay.

Please don't do that ever again.

Sorry. Okay. Big Butts. Like a. Okay. Bachelorette blog. Okay. Oh, I have to talk to you about the Bachelorette. I actually watched the Bachelorette last night. What? Have you ever seen it?

The Bachelorette? Yeah. Well, there's been all this drama. Like, they're saying that the chick is.

Stupid, she's not bright and she's. Dare I say not? I don't. I personally don't find her that attractive. Not that that matters.

I can't even remember what she looks like.

Okay, so here's the deal. I'm watching it. I'm getting my hair done because I go to my hair person's house when she cuts my hair and stuff. So we were watching tv, which is awesome because I don't have to go to the salon. I can. It's like, I can watch TV for an hour. But she's like, you have to do the Bachelorette. You have to do the Bachelorette. I'm like, okay. Because, you know, I don't watch TV much.

Yeah.

And this woman is obsessed. You'll love this menace. You've got to watch it. So she's. There's, like, you know, 20 guys that she's dating, and meanwhile, she's, like, making out with all of them. And she's. But. But there was the one guy who was playing her. This guy Bentley.

Oh, yeah, yeah. He's putting on an act.

He was putting on an act, but she doesn't know. So he's, like, talking to Cameron. He's like, yeah, she's over there crying. I'm gonna go comfort her right now, she's not even that cute. And he goes over there and comforts her. She falls in love with him over all the guys. She falls in love with him. He's the biggest jerk. She goes to give him the rose. You know, with the Bachelorette, they give a rose, and he's like, this was a few weeks ago. He's like, I'm out of here. Sorry. So he's like, didn't take the rose and dumps her. But she's in love with him. She says. She says out of all the men, she's fallen in love with him. The bad boy.

Yeah, of course.

Just like we talked about yesterday. So she's, like, crying, and she cries in every episode, like, six times. And she's just, like, annoying. And she was like, but now that I got over the Bentley situation, like, I don't think they ever fooled around. I don't think anything ever really happened. But she thought he was the one. And then he was like, sorry, I don't want your rose. Like, he broke up with her on national television. They weren't even really together. But why do women like the bad guy? The woman, the guy who's not available.

The one guy who left, and you're saying, no, no, no, no, no, no. I'm like, emily, I think men and.

Women, we all like the chase. We all like a little bit of the chase.

Hell no, I don't want the chase.

Yeah, you do a little bit with women. If a woman was just like, manus, I love you. I just want to come watch you do radio and just sit there, and you're so awesome. You wouldn't be into that check. No, you wouldn't.

I can't. Well, I just don't have too much time to put in.

We know, but soon you will.

Soon see.

You will. Okay. So anyway, so she says. She says, here we got some quotes. She said, I was burned by a boy who saw my feelings for him as a conquest. But I still believe in my instinct, and most importantly, I still believe myself hopeful of finding a man who would never make me question myself or treat another person with such a lack of regard. So she, like. And then she confronts all the guys that she's like, oh, that she flew him back Bentley. After she dumped. After he dumped her. She wanted him to come back on the show. Like, it was so stupid. And all the guys were like, you're crazy. So anyway, I hope all of them left then. They were. They did. One dude was like, I'm out. I've been sitting here Going flying around the world and you're still in love with some loser who trashed you on television. Like, whatever. You're loser.

I don't know if that's the same guy that they did a roast of her and like, was it the same guy that just. He destroyed her?

No, he was the one that comforted her for the roast. I heard my interns gave me all the updates. So apparently some guy skewered. Yeah, he did. He roasted her. Roasted, roasted, roasted. And then this guy went up to her and say, comforted her. Bentley. He's like, oh, it's okay. But he was the one trashing her more than anyone, like behind the scenes, saying she was ugly and mean.

I love it.

It's awesome. I really. And you can watch it on Hulu, right? Yeah, so I'm gonna do that. I have Hulu all hooked up in.

My television set and Fire tv.

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Right? Okay. Facial sex. All right. Can we learn from animals sex lives? It's tempting to look to critters for insight on human sexuality, monogamy especially. But beware. Fay Flam, the author of the Score how the Quest for Sex has Shaped the Modern Man. Explore sexual evolution across a species. Studying other animals shows how complex and interesting mating behavior can be. They're animals that mate for life and co parent while other species practice a degree of promiscuity. There's also a lot of variance with species and few people manage lifetime monogamy. But serial monogamy is very common in animals, more than anything. Our furry, feathered and scale friends reveal where humans as a species fall on a broad spectrum of sexual behavior. So they're saying that animals, most of them, are not monogamous, I guess is what they're saying. But we are not penguins. Not penguins and not something else we talked about a few weeks ago. I love, I love evolutionary biology and sex. Like, I love combining all those, like looking at the animals, like, are we really meant to be monogamous because you.

Keep on trying to prove that you're not.

I don't think that we really are. I know that you think that we are.

No, I'm just saying there's no problem with it. I don't know.

You think.

You're not gonna know naturally. Are we supposed to be with somebody, buddy, forever? I don't know.

That doesn't feel. It never felt right to me.

Yeah, never did.

It always made me itch.

It doesn't.

The thought of it just makes me. Gives me tics and stuff.

Oh, my God. One person forever.

Really? That always made me feel tense. But I hope I meet someone and I'm like, oh, yeah, me and you fore done forever. Like, what?

When did you start getting the itch? The itch? Always.

Always what? The itch to what? No, when does it make me itch? When they talk about being together forever. I used to get uncomfortable. When does that happen? When I was like 19.

Since you're 19. Before that, you were in love. Who did you dirty?

No one did me dirty. No, I did get my heart broken. I was 16 by Lance, and I loved him.

If I could find a DeLorean and go back in time, I would fix you.

You'd fix me? DeLorean? No, I don't think it was because of Lance at 16, but I do think it was family stuff. Yeah, but I've worked it all through. I just think I'm a different kind of woman. We're gonna put it. We're gonna leave it at that because I think that's just what I am. But. But wouldn't you be psyched if I came in here one day, I was like, oh, my God, Menace, I'm madly in love and I'm getting married. Wouldn't that be great?

I would love that.

Wouldn't that be cool?

I would fully support it.

Right. And so it could still happen.

Yes. Or better have a good reception.

Dude, my wedding would be so awesome. But planning wedding seems like a nightmare. And I just want to tell everyone that we're having this best. If you send me, email me your best sex tip and you might win a prize next week. We're giving out a prize. So email me you think is your best sex tip or the best sex tip you've ever gotten or the best thing anyone's ever done to you. You can email that feedbackexwithemily.com or on my Facebook page, you can post it if you feel like it. With sex with Emily or Twitter.

Yeah, we've been. We were talking on the phone last night about trying to come up with more giveaways.

Yeah, hopefully we'll be doing a lot more giveaways.

Don't name anything.

But every week we're gonna.

We are working.

We're working. We want to bring all of our friends with you to be a friends benefits member, though. And we'll give you.

We want to hook you up.

We want to hook you up. Every week we're gonna give away awesome toys, and eventually we'll be giving way more. Not just toys, products. And we'll be giving away a lot more every week. So then you have more of a chance of winning because it's all awesome. Should we get into some emails?

Yeah.

Oh, my God.

I want to hear from the people what the people have to say.

Here's what the peeps have to say. All right, Emily. We have our own version of the exotic erotic in here in Portland, Exotic Erotic Ball, which is this crazy ball they do in San Francisco. But I've always wanted to come to yours in the Bay Area. Have either of you attended in the past? And would it be worth the trip down? Thanks, Frank. Yes, Frank, I have attended in the past. I don't know what you're into and if it's worth the trip down, but I do know that it was canceled last year, the day before, because they had no money. So I don't you. I would check your calendar. It's this crazy ball they do in San Francisco right before Halloween where everyone's dressed up and everyone's just being crazy and naked and running around in this huge cow palace and.

Yeah, it's definitely past its heyday.

It's been around for, like, 30 years or something. It was like the 25th year last year. It's like, last time I heard it.

Was cool was maybe the late 80s.

Yeah, exactly. But now, Frank, I wouldn't make a trip here. I'd come here to San Francisco because it's awesome. But don't come for the Exotic Erotic Ball.

Let's go to the Power Exchange.

Let's go to the Power Exchange. Yeah. They're gay pride. That just happened. There's lots of fun things happening, but I wouldn't say Exotic Erotic Ball is my favorite. I'm gonna be honest.

I don't even know if it'll be a lot.

I went. I met, like, remember I went a few years ago and did a video, and you might not remember, but. Okay. Dear Emily, I've been relieved to hear that I'm not the only Bloke that has more an on dead button in regard to arousal.

On what?

Like he's either turned on or turned. He may. Well, he's. He's from Australia, so he says. On dead on off button is what he means.

Okay.

I'm not the only bloke who has an on off button in regards to arousal. So either he's really turned on or he's really turned off. The way I perceive the situation is a volume knob. It doesn't take much to turn on. But there is a whole world more flirtation techniques than just lying in bed naked. Yes, this is my wife's practice. She just lies there naked. Love the show. Hope I'll be courageous to use a lubrication of communication with your encouragement and technique and advice. Also, I want to know how to. I want to know how to talk dirty. I grew up very conservative and really have no idea. Embarrassingly so. Regards, Ben from Yeppoon, Queensland, Australia.

What up, Ben? Okay, so I know what you mean about the on off button arousal. Women have that, men have that. But let's talk about talking dirty.

Okay.

I tell you how wet I was today.

Give me some more examples.

I just did. That's it, Ben, I'm so wet. No, I'm wet because I got wet.

How wet are you?

So wet.

Menace, how wet did you get?

I got so wet that I was dripping down my chest and there was like droplets of sweat between my breasts. All right. No, Ben, really, a good way to talk dirty is to describe a situation. Because we're not gonna say you jump in and be like, you know, you're my bitch or my whore, whatever things you want to use. I would start slow. I would start slow and I would say that you should start describing scenarios of things that feel good. Or say, how do you, like when I touch your breasts? Or it feels really good when you put your hand on my penis. Or you might want to call it something else.

My hot dog.

My hot dog. You might want. It helps to describe situations like, this is just a way to start saying, like, you know last week when, like, think I would imagine in your mind a time when you guys had sex and it was awesome and it rocked your world. And then I would describe that situation and I would say, remember that time when we were in the car making out and you got naked and came over and climbed over on my seat, whatever scenario you remember, and start describing that scenario. And that could be another way to get going. And also just talking about very specific things like, do you like it? When I touch this. And does she did. Telling her what you like.

Because that's very easy way to start.

Yeah.

What are you laughing at?

You know, I always have flashbacks when you're talking.

Yeah. Flashbacks to why?

I don't know why I had it on tv, because I was making dinner. Sex in the City was on.

Okay.

It was on the background. I don't know. I was watching something before.

Okay.

It always comes on after.

And you know, closeted Sex in the City lover.

And it was all about how the guy wanted to pee on her.

Oh, I heard that. Yeah, yeah, I've heard about that. I've never seen. I've never seen all the Sex in the Cities, believe it or not.

Really?

No. I've seen like a few of them.

I think you would be all about it.

I would be all about it, but I just would need to get.

Yeah, just. And then it reminded me when I was younger that there was this chick that she. Her and her boyfriend were really into it.

Oh, a lot of people are really into it. Urination. Yeah, it's very, very common.

Dude, it was. You had your friend Sarah that was in here.

Yeah.

Not to get super graphic right now, but it was on a past episode.

Right.

Where, what's that? When was she in here? Last week sometime.

Yeah. Yep. It's a Friday.

She was talking when we first had her on the show, she was talking about how she was peeing in guys mouths.

Oh, she does it all the time. She's dominatrix. Men love it. Some men who are into that domination, submission, men who want to be submissive and want to be dominated by a strong female would like a lot of them request to be. To. For urination. To be urinated into their mouth. Urination to go into their mouth.

You can't pay me enough money.

I know, but a lot of guys, they get off on the submission part. They're dominant in every other part of life. Maybe they're a certain CEO of a major company and they've got a wife and three kids and they got a lot of responsibilities and this sex is one place where they can totally let go and be dominated. And for some men that includes like having a woman like pee in their mouth. That makes that totally turns.

Mom, what are your, what are your thoughts on that?

My thoughts on that are that it's really common and that it's. There's nothing wrong with it.

Also, if a guy said I personally.

Don'T would not be down with that.

I'm not saying you have to receive.

But you would if a guy was like, will you pee in my mouth?

Yeah.

Um. God, I mean, part of me feels like I should just for the experiment. Experience. Like, I feel like I should try everything once.

Yeah.

To be. To be honest. But I can't quite try to see how it all goes down. How drunk am I? No, that's a total minus answer. I think that. Yeah. I mean, I never say never.

He's like, emily and I might fall.

In love and have a wedding one day too, and I might pee in some guy's mouth. I have no idea. But I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

We had this contest, but I've never done it.

And I've never had anyone proposition me.

People ask me if you would do this. We had a contest where we were giving away a Cadillac Escalade and there was five of us on the show and we had all pee in a cup. And the guy had to. Just to get into the main contest, he had to drink all of our pee and he did it.

Are you serious?

Serious.

Just a random dude.

Yeah.

Like a contest. Like he wanted to win a contest.

He wanted to win the Escalade.

How much? How much urine?

Like the Styrofoam cups.

Ah.

And he did it.

Were you grossed out?

Puked. Yeah, of course. Automatically.

To win tickets to a concert?

No, to get the Escalade.

Oh, yeah, the Escalate. Sorry.

But then he didn't end up even winning the Escalade.

Why? Because he threw up.

He had to do that just to get into the main contest.

Oh. Oh, you boys. The new shows. I would never, ever do that. I would never want my listeners to send me sex tips. I'm not gonna have them, like, urinate, defecate.

Wow. But that is a very common. Sarah was on the show again on last Friday and talked about the same thing that, like, she's done that a ton and people are really into it. Yeah, I don't think. I don't judge. I cannot believe that that guy did it and threw up.

Oh, yeah, he.

Was he in your office?

Yeah, he was in the studio.

That's friggin crazy. You boys are crazy. You're crazy boys. That was when you were doing your morning show, Emily, a few shows ago. You asked for stories of people who've done or said weird things in bed or something to that effect. I have to share with you the story of one particular guy I dated briefly and slept with a couple times. When he had an orgasm, he would literally yell, like, scream, and then she has it spelled out phonetically here, how he screamed.

Lots of A's, lots of U's, lots of G's, lots of H's. Not like calling out sexy things or moaning loudly, just, oh, yeah. Aside from the fact that it was weird for me, it was also super awkward for his roommate whose room was the other side of the wall. I heard she moved out shortly after he had me over that night. He hadn't dated anyone before me for over a year, so I guess that's why she lasted as long as she did. He also lied about his age and dyed his chest hair. Needless to say, it didn't last long with him. My friends and I still laugh about the screamer. I don't have any ill will towards him. I just hope he finds a nice woman who doesn't mind him yelling at the top of his lungs when he orgasms and him dyeing his dress hair. Love the show, Heather. Oh, Heather, that is hilarious. I've had guy. Well, I'd rather have a guy go, oh, yeah, but did you.

You used to complain all the time about a guy that would just go, yeah, yeah. I'm like, did you.

Did something just happen? Like, you wouldn't even know that he orgasm. You'd be like, exactly. He's like. Or like. It was more like a. I guess I'm like, did you. How do you orgasm and not make any noise? Men don't. I think you guys are trained. I think because you're trained to masturbate in silence when you're younger that you learn not to say anything. But I think it's super hot when men, you can hear them, like, orgasming. It's so freaking hot.

Yeah. I mean, I would do. I would definitely make more noise if I was at like a house.

Right?

But when you live in apartments.

Oh, my God. My apartment building, as I've talked about in the past, is mostly lesbians right next door to me and right below me. They hate me because I wear heel 5 inch heels all the time. I take them off now when I get home, but they have like, crazy. I think the couple below me is into bdsm, bondage, discipline, Sadomas, masochism. So I've heard like whips and stuff. And they like. I've heard them having, like, longest orgasms ever. And it totally turns me on. Like, it's kind of hot. Not the whole. Yeah, the whole thing. I say. Not the whole, like, whipping and whatever, but it's just hot to hear them orgasm. And they go on for hours because you know, women can have multiple orgasms. And if you've got two lesbians, you've got like six orgasms to be had. It's like a whole day. Like, sometimes they're done there for like two hours and it's going and going. And then the ones next door, I don't hear that often because they're probably already experiencing lesbian bed death syndrome. Maybe. But the ones below me are like so into it.

And you're like, those bitches. I hate you.

I know, I know. I hate them for all your multiple orgasms, so. And then if I have a dog now, they're gonna hate me even more.

But the guy, yeah, he could have tone it down a little bit. I wonder if she said anything like, hey, are you all right?

I know.

Are you okay?

Exactly, Exactly.

See, I guess I would be embarrassed because my apartment is. The walls are so thin that people can hear. But I'd rather have him make a noise than nothing. That's all I gotta say. But women can be screamers too.

Oh, yeah, definitely.

You've been with women who are like, too loud. And you're like, but is it too loud because it's. You're afraid what your neighbors people are gonna think are too loud? Cause it just like made you uncomfortable. Like, did you think it was hot?

It's only neighbors.

But don't you think it's hot when a woman can't be loud?

Yeah.

Good. Right answer, Emily. I'm a 29 year old virgin. I'm turning 30 in a couple months. And I got to thinking, ever since that Steve Carroll movie, 40 Year Old Virgin, I think a lot of people think that it's okay to laugh at people being a virgin if they're a little older. It makes me Wonder, is a 39 year old version just as funny as a 40 year old version? I think it probably is. So my question is, how far can you roll it back? I think being a 30 year old virgin is the turning point from being somewhat normal to being a loser. Do you agree? Am I doomed if I don't get laid in the next couple weeks? Or am I already five years overdue? Joshua from Calgary, Canada.

Emily would say you're like, I don't know, 12 years overdue. Other than five, no.

Josh is totally fine. I just want to know more. I want to know why Josh isn't having. Why he hasn't had sex yet. But I think 30 years old, I mean, I don't think that's bad. I don't think there's A problem. And I don't think you're a loser at all. I just wonder what has been holding you back from having sex. If you've had, like, sexual relations with women and you just haven't taken it there, or if you're just kind of shut down in other ways. I'm just wondering what, you know, if. If you are having active sex life, but you've been holding out because you want a way to have sex, or if you just haven't had opportunity. I just would like to know more about that.

Gotta do the slump buster, dude.

The what?

The slump buster.

What's that?

That's when. If you haven't had sex in a long time. In his case, a really long time, or ever have sex with the.

A.

A random person.

A slump buster. Oh, you're in a slump, and she busts your slump.

Yeah. And then you're like, confidence, and then you're getting laid.

I hope I've never been a slump buster to a guy.

Oh, I don't know. I can't tell you.

I'd be a good one, though. I'd be like. They'd be, like, psyched. They'd be like, out of the rut. They'd be like, no more slumps. I would say, joshua, you're not a loser. Don't beat yourself up. And the more you think about it, like, oh, my God, I'm a virgin. Oh, my God, I'm a virgin. You're gonna be a virgin even longer. So you have to just stop thinking about it and obsessing about it, because that's where you're at right now. And if you really do want to meet someone and you want to start having better sex, then I would start making those efforts. Like, do one thing a week. Like, sign up for an online dating site or talk to that cute girl that you're attracted to every day that you see at the coffee shop. I mean, do something different to meet people if you're not right now.

So I'm really supporting that improv class idea that I had. What was it again last week where I had to say, to build your confidence, just go take an improv class.

It's amazing. And you can meet lots of.

Sound corny. Like, I would. I did take an acting class is, like, absurd to me, but I really think it would really help to build confidence.

Really? It seems absurd. Yeah, I think so too. I've taken it, and it did give me a lot of confidence. And I remember it's funny because I took it before I did the radio show. And not I'm. It wasn't related, but it did. It does open you up. You're like, I can't ever stand in front of people and do this really weird thing. And you do it like weird contortions with your body or your face or you say things. And it's great for you, improv, because.

At least in that. In that atmosphere, people are gonna be doing the same thing, and they're not gonna be judging you even if you're thinking about it, right. Oh, this person in the class is gonna think I'm weird, right? Like that. They're like, no, they're all together. They're all doing the same thing. And then I guarantee you, and I said this before, if once you get out of that class and you go out into the real world where people are not even on your level because you got all this ammo of being in an improv class, you're gonna just, like, destroy it. You know, you're gonna.

I think it's just anything that's a confidence builder.

I think having chicks give me hand jobs all the time. Crappy ones, but you'll still be getting them.

Menace. Menace. Menace in the hand job. I think. Yeah, that's great. Take a class. Do something that's gonna introduce you to women. Go hiking, whatever your interests are. Joshua, I wouldn't say, like, you should go out and start taking a cooking class if you're not into cooking, but start to think about the things that you like and do some activities around that.

Yeah. No hiking.

No hiking. Bin, listen. No hiking. Is that what you said? Yeah, I know a lot of people have met during, like, Sierra Club hikes. Like, single hike. Don't roll your eyes. People like nature.

Been listening to the show for over.

I'm so happy there's a video podcast because you can see all the dirty looks that you give me. Every single show.

You can break it down, Break it down, Break it down. Do I give you a lot of dirty looks?

Oh, my God.

The entire time I roll my eyes at you too. Yeah, Menace, I do that.

You give me pissed off looks all the time.

You love it. Been listening to the show for over a year. Used to love listening to the show about Used to love listening to shows about relationships and sex while in high school and found yours by browsing podcasts on itunes. What a find. Question me and my girl on a break. We still talk and are planning to work things out once I return from school. Although the point of the break wasn't to hook up with other girls. Is hooking up while on a break cheating? What do you think I should do? Like I said, I do see a future with this girl, but I want to do some things on my own, so I'm sure of her. Thanks in advance, you guys. Rock and roll. B from Edmonton, ab. Alberta. Another Canada. I guess Edmonton. Isn't that probably. Yeah. Well, anyway. Okay. I would think that you need to talk to her about what the break means. I think you just need to have the conversation with her. A lot of people have breaks. Sounds like you're in school.

Wait, wait, wait, wait. Is he in school? Yeah. You're young, so I would say, yeah, you're on a break. You should be sleeping with other women. But if you feel insecure about it or you're not sure, I would have talked with her and just say. I just want to be clear that while we're on the break, we are going to see other people. I think that a break means that you see other people. It does. But if you're worried and you think she's the one and you're gonna be with her in the future, which you probably won't be, but I know that you're thinking that. I'm just saying because you. You just got a high school, you know, whatever. Maybe you will be. Maybe she is the one. But I think that if she is or if she isn't, either way, it helps to be honest and just tell her that I plan on seeing other people. So you're not playing the guessing game.

You really need to make a pact, too, about this, because this is. Let's say you take the break and then you decide, oh, you want to be back together. She might have slept with somebody. You might have slept with somebody. And that conversation should never come up and say, hey, so how many people did you sleep with?

Yes. Do the replay.

That's just gonna destroy any chance you have of getting back together.

Exactly. It's very tough when you guys get back together to be like, so, who'd you sleep with? What'd you do? Just. Just decide that you're gonna see other people.

It's not gonna benefit anything.

No. It never helps talk about your past sex life. It just never does. And I would say that. Just agree that I think you got it. I mean, so much about relationships are setting boundaries around this stuff. And so if you're being honest and just saying, we're gonna see other people, but you can even say at this point and be like, but I don't want to talk about it, when we get back together, I don't want it to discuss it. When we're back together, we're back together. Don. Do. Never review your past.

And if you can pull that off, then you'll have a great.

Well, I went, you know, when I was. When I was 25, I went backpacking through Southeast Asia for a year. I think I've told you this before, Menace, but I didn't even know it was a year.

Yeah, I know you.

I didn't know you then.

No, but I know you've done it.

A ton of times. I went back. I went once for a year, and I went backpacking by myself. And I. But I was dating a guy for six months when I left, and I was like, we should just kind of be open and do whatever. And I did. Was open and did whatever because I was gone for, like, it was like, nine months. I was gone. But then I left again and went back. Whatever. So I came back and he was like. And I kept emailing him because I was feeling bad because I was hooking up with dudes.

Yeah.

I was traveling. It was super fun. And I'd be like, you should date other people. He's like, no, I can't. I can't. I'm like, you really, really should come back to find out that. Slept with his entire office. Which I couldn't be upset with. He's like, you. But I couldn't be upset with them because I was like. I was sleeping my way around. I was. I was like a little mini UN conference. Like, you meet guys from all over the world. It was like, guy from Germany, guy from Israel, whatever. But it kind of bummed me out because I knew they were all here in San Francisco. And he'd be like, this one, that one. I kept finding all these remnants, like cards they wrote him. I'm like, you slept your way around the office. And it just didn't. I just wish we were more honest or more. We just kind of. It was. It was too murky when I left and we took the break. Like, we needed to have rules. And then everything I found out, I kept obsessing about, and he would obsess, and it wasn't healthy.

Yeah.

Okay, let's get into some sex tips.

All right, what do you got?

This is what I got. This is, like, one of my favorite. This. This is my favorite topic. This is the most important topic. Foreplay. But. But foreplay on a different vein. I mean, foreplay. Foreplay in a different vein. Foreplay. When you. Okay, this is the Deal that so much about sex, you think about, like, did you have sex? When you have sex, you have penetration, right? You think about in and out penetration.

Yeah. Penis, vagina, hot dog and bagel.

Exactly. That's what you think. But there is so much more that you can do. And sometimes if you're the reason we're talking about taking sex off, taking intercourse off the table. And all the fun things that you can do that incorporate that are intercourse, that are foreplay tips and tricks without having sex, or try to delay intercourse for a night, have one night where you don't have sex. Or maybe you have it at the very end because sometimes it's really hard to hold out. But I get that. But people put so much pressure on just like, we have to have intercourse and maybe they're having issues or a lot of women, only 30% of women can have orgasms during intercourse. And I just think it's important sometimes to be like, let's just not have sex. Let's just not have sex, intercourse and do with these other things.

And then also I wanted to bring up it's. I'm not against foreplay, but it's just sometimes you don't have that great connection of kissing. Can you go back to all your past relationships and thinking and like, I can have, like, I have, like, two people that just stand out. Like, I could make out with them right from the sun up to sundown. It was like, really.

Right.

Like, it was the best person to make out with. And it's funny because those two people aren't people that actually really had like, heavy intercourse relationships with.

Oh, you didn't. You just kissed them?

Yeah, no, I. I mean, I had sex with them.

Right. You really liked making out with them?

I really liked making out with them.

Right. And only two.

Only two that I can think of, like, through my whole history.

Wow. So you're wondering some tips for better kissing or.

No, I'm just saying I want to ask you if there's anybody that really stood out, because that's what makes it really hard if you don't have that make. I mean, like, you might have great intercourse. Right, Right. It'd be amazing. But like, when you go to, like, just make out with them, it might not be as great as the intercourse.

Yeah.

So that's why you want to skip that because it's, like, awkward.

I've had bad kissers. I mean, I've definitely bad kiss, but I've been with guys who are amazing. Like, I just love just lying with them, fooling around cuddling and touching and all that stuff. Yeah, I've definitely had men who I'm more connected to in that way. And we could have, like, these epic long nights where we don't have sex and we're just fooling around and doing everything. Yeah, I've had that for sure. Not in a long time. It's been a while.

So that's why I'm thinking, like, that's why I'm always cringing when you go. Oh, that's why I want to know how long the session needs to be of foreplay.

You always want to time the foreplay.

Because what about if I don't know that saying we have amazing sex?

I think that you don't know because you haven't even tried all these tips that I'm going to give you to have better foreplay.

Teach me.

I think that you haven't tr. And you don't know that this person isn't good. Just maybe you kissed him once and it wasn't great. So you're assuming this person isn't great. But sometimes kissing can get better. You get into the groove. So let me tell you some things that you could do. Let's talk about kissing first. Start slowly and let it progress. You can use your hands while kissing. It's important to, like, don't look. Okay.

My beard is too long.

People simply.

Is it? Yeah, they waste. Okay, so they waste their hands. Like, they waste it. Like, they're, like, making out and they're kissing. But, like, use your hand to, like, rub the scalp and rub your ears and, like, neck and grab them. And there's. You can make kissing, like, super, super hot. But it's hard if you're with a bad kisser. And we've talked. We've done shows on kissing before, which we could do again. Which we should do again. Talking about if you're with a bad kisser, is that a deal breaker? Like, there are ways to teach each other how you like to kiss. Take your time and just enjoy the act of kissing. You can make it last hours. Like, do you remember those first nights when you're with someone, when you're like, so into someone and you do just kiss all night before you have sex? That's kind of what I'm trying to channel here. I'm trying to channel that first. First, let's say there is people that you have had great foreplay with. Think about those people, those nights, those, like, before you have sex. Like, that amazing buildup to the sex. Like, we're trying to get that back. Because maybe you've just been having intercourse and you have the same way every time. You can have a night. This is a way to, like, spice it up for people in their relationships or people who are just starting out. But these are just things that you could do. So extend the kissing longer and, like, do different. Like, you know, play with your hair, ears.

Do you think you've had amazing emotional connections with the people that you had the best foreplay with, or can you?

I think I have.

You have really good foreplay without having an emotional.

That's a great question, Menace. I think you absolutely can have four good foreplay. You can just be really, like, have great chemistry and not be really intimately connected. But I think that mostly I get very connected to people. So people. Like. I get very emotional. I get. I get connected. Yeah, I think I usually am when you have that great intimate. Because this is all about building intimacy, too. Foreplay is more intimate, which is why I think a lot of people shy away from it. Shy away from. I mean, I know women like, you're like, what do women want? Foreplay. Like, this is such an old thing. But it's like, there's really reasons why women want it. I mean, just the reasons. And men should want it, too. And I think that men can learn to enjoy it and not see it as a chore and that women actually need it to feel that connection and to be turned on and to get to where sometimes some women won't be able to have an orgasm. So this might be the only way that you can have one. So. But I think I get very. I'm very good at. Not very good. But I connect with people. Like, I think most people I've been with, I have some sort of intimate connection with. Like, it's not just. Not just sex, although I have just had that. But it is hard to have these languid long sessions with someone that you're not at all intimate with emotionally.

Yeah.

Okay.

So sensual touching. We talked about massages last week, but massages can be done with your hands, but you can also use other parts of your body, including your mouth. Generally slow and sex. Slow movements are key. Oh, my God. Did this not print?

Oh, no.

This happened again. This didn't print out.

Oh, no.

Yep.

Emily did a cringe right now because she went to go open up her more sex tips, and it's all blank.

It's all blank.

It's cool.

Yeah, I did that. That's cool. That's cool. But so anyway, so what I'm trying To say is. I know exactly what to say is that there's things like, you know, there are like, massage and kissing and then there's like, oral sex is something that you should definitely spend your time on. Like, 10, 15, 40 minutes. That's what Sarah. You were. You would have laughed during the show on Friday when Sarah was like, I need a man to be in there for 45 minutes. And I was like, menace would be having a heart attack right now.

Just making out for 45.

Oral sex. No, going down on her for 40 minutes.

Oh, damn.

Yeah. So, like, there's no.

There's guys that will do it for like 10 hours. It don't matter. I'm just saying. Mm. I really have to be in to that person to be down there.

I totally get it. I told. I know, I know. But have you ever been down there for 45 minutes?

I've been down there for a while. Yeah.

Yeah. Okay.

I don't know. I don't never time it right. Yeah, I know. We go, all right, I already been down there.

But like, the requisite, like, one minute thing, like, we were talking the other day, like, that doesn't work when a guy's like, oh, I did it for a minute and we're not warmed up. So it's just. It's all about, like, the connection, the spirit. Like, you could do role playing. You could. I mean, role playing is a whole other way. We're gonna do a whole show on role playing in next week, but on, you know, dressing up in costumes, like, sexy stuff. I mean, these are just all different ways that you can connect. I mean, like, don't you think that's hot? Okay, I know you don't like lingerie, but if she was dressed up like a. I should do this to you now.

Okay.

I don't know. What's your thing? Like a start?

Like, what do you mean? No, I was thinking of more like, obscure thing to see if you would still.

I know, but I don't know what. Okay, but you wouldn't be down with anything. But what if she looked really hot and she was dressed as like some. What are you into Star wars characters or something?

Star Wars? No.

What would you be into?

But I'm saying there I. I have seen like, super hot chicks dressed in Star wars outfit. But I'm not saying that's what gets me off. Remember I told you I like the girls with the high socks.

High socks. I want to know what else. What else besides the high socks? That can't be the only thing Sundresses Yeah.

Girls look good in dresses. I like girls that are dressed really well.

You like.

Like, I really respect. You respect a woman who, like, spends the time to. To look good, you know? Mm.

Okay.

Got it. So. So role playing. Slowly undressing your partner. Like, I cannot put enough emphasis on this. Like, how you have to slow down the process. Like, I just think that the fact that. That. I mean, especially for a woman. We like to be undressed. We like to. To someone. Take the time. I talked about this, like, a few weeks ago, and the guy was dating. The time was there a few months ago was like, I don't undress you slowly. Why'd you say that? But it's true. Like, guys don't. They're just like, take your clothes off. We're taking our clothes off. We're just having sex. We're talking about the process of, like, removing clothes. Like, leaving her bra and panty panties on when you're in foreplay. Like, leave it on longer. Like, leave it on and touch her over the material. Like, sometimes when a woman. When her bra or panties, that material touches her skin. Like, it feels amazing. Like, it can feel so good for a woman to, like, leave those clothes on.

Yeah.

What?

No, I had a question. I know this is gonna be weird asking. It's coming from me, but what kind of conversation can somebody have in this time but without trying to be a really sexy.

What do you mean? What kind of conversation? When they're undressing you. Yeah. Kids be kissing and talking and being like, you look hot, or you look amazing without going, oh, you look so hard. Yeah.

Without that.

Without that.

Yeah. Can you have a.

You mean, like, so what do you think of the giants? That kind of thing?

No, no, they're saying, oh, I think, you know, you look really good right now.

Yeah, you can totally have a conversation.

But the part where it just comes cheesy to me is like, oh, God, he looks so good right now.

Why can't you?

Is that necessary?

Totally necessary. I think so. I think that all women need the affirmation. And men don't. You want to hear? I guess men don't as much, but I always tell guys, like, how hot? Like, oh, my God, you're so hot. You're so sexy. Like, I always wanted. Because I think it. Like, when I'm with someone, I'm like, oh, my God, you're so hot. Like, don't you just want to say it? Because there. But you, in your mind, think that women all want to hear compliments.

I Don't think that. I don't think about that. I just think I sound ridiculous, right?

No, you don't. See, you over. You. Because you're insecure about some of these things. And you over.

I'm not insecure about it. I think it's hilarious. I think it's funny.

But I think if you're feeling it in the moment, like, she looks so hot. I mean. And there's games you can play too. Like, I love all of these. We're talking about foreplay, and we're talking about different things you could do. Like, there are these amazing games that are like Icebreakers. Like, we were talking about, like, the dice or the games that ask you questions about what turns you on, and you each write down a fantasy. I mean, there's. There's just, you know, I mean, there's so much that isn't intercourse. And we just think, like, did you have sex? We had sex. We banged. We did it. It was in and out. And I'm just trying to say, like, we should expand it. So start with massage. Start with kissing. You could do role playing. You could play games. You could just, like, play strip poker or whatever. Take off clothes slowly. There's. Especially for women, and I'm saying maybe guy. But I think a guy can get into this too. Like, I think that you think they would take a lot of the pressure off the table too, of, like, performing sexually. Like, I think, like. Does foreplay scare you a little bit?

No.

None of it?

No.

Okay.

I'm just saying if I don't have that connection where I think it's awesome, I just don't really want to do it that much with that person.

But then why. But you still. Okay, so this is what I understand. But you still want to have intercourse with them, but you just don't want to make up.

Yeah, the intercourse can be way better than the foreplay. But if the. But there is people out there that you can. I believe that you can have amazing foreplay with.

Right.

And then have intercourse.

Right, Exactly.

You know, but if you're not really. What the hell is that noise? Like, it sounds like a bird, but I just don't. Is that your phone?

No.

Okay. Sorry, people. But I'm just saying that.

I just don't want to spend that much time on it. I don't want to sit there and go through the motions just because I know it's gonna lead to. And you're.

Because you're not in check. Because you're. Right. Because you're being of the woman that you think is a good. But I'm not sure that you've pushed this woman enough to know that she's not good at it, that she wouldn't be good at intercourse. I think everyone there's. I'm talking about opening up parts of your body, opening up parts of yourself that don't include, like, that. That you wouldn't even know because maybe she was a bad kisser the first night you were together, but maybe you could really be into her in another way.

Yeah.

Yeah, okay. Yeah, that's what I'll tell you. Okay, we're gonna get into this more next time because I didn't print out, but I think I gave you a pretty good overview.

Yeah, you did.

Yeah, I did, didn't I? Yeah.

And what's today? Tuesday?

Yeah, today is Tuesday.

All right. Tomorrow's gonna be awesome show, but I'm really excited about Thursday.

Let me tell you about. Oh, I don't have the thing, but tomorrow show. What's tomorrow's show again? Thursday show is gonna rock with the interns talking about their online dating, their online dates. They're like the little sex with only guinea pigs doing amazing stuff. And they're gonna talk about that. And then tomorrow's show. Role playing. Tomorrow is role playing. Yeah.

So, you guys, I think.

I think that all the interns and myself are gonna dress up in our sexiest outfits.

Attire.

Attire.

Sweet.

You'll be here then, right? You won't be late?

Yeah, I'll be here.

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