Snug Plugs, Butt Hugs, & b-Vibes with Alicia Sinclair

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Emily treat your backside like your front side. Maybe play on the outside a little bit. Be if you will, like ready for sex or stimulate the area of your body, your clitoris, right, your powerhouse. And be turned on and like be doing dual stimulation. Use your finger in the shower. Like give yourself some time to experiment.

Experiment even on your own before you go. Masturbation.

Yeah, exactly. Zero to penis is a no, no. And lube is your best friend. So hear me loud and clear. The only thing that makes you gay is if you're gay. These are really two different things. And I think the more and more we understand that our bodies have sexual sensitive areas that present pleasure opportunities and just see them as things to touch and feel instead of buying into a social stigma about like what touching those areas actually means, the more you'll give yourself permission to experience pleasure. And it might not be for you and that's okay too. But I think it's also like, take that off the table, like that social stigma and like, just throw it away.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. On today's show, I'm joined by sex educator and creator of BE Vibe, Alicia Sinclair. To talk about the beautiful butt and all it beholds. Topics include. So anal is all inclusive and can provide pleasure for everyone. But why is it so misunderstood? Butt stuff bundles and anal training kits. Products that will please your behind no matter what level of experience you have. Different ways to warm up your bum. Including the lube shooter. Yep. I think you know what I mean. But don't worry, we're going to explain it. And ass worship. What's that all about? Well, it's more than just what's on the inside. All this and more. Thanks for listening.

Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day.

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It shrinks.

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You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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Thank you for having me, Alicia.

I'm so excited. All right. We just had to start rolling because we were already talking about the excitement where. Well, let me just tell you about Alicia first. Alicia Sinclair is the creator of BE Vibe. She's a sex educator. She makes excellent sex toys for curious people who like sex and want to enjoy it even more. A bishop's daughter. It always starts off that way, doesn't it?

All the good ones.

Happily sexually liberated woman with heaps of experience in the sex toy space. You've been doing this a long time?

As long as it's my 17th year.

Yeah, we've been in this. We're probably 15 years, 17, old school. We're doing it. And she just essentially is using, you know, this platform she making. Probably the only one company I know that is just focused on butt plugs, anal play, and sex education around it. So. And your toys are beautiful. And people have been talking about it and we've been waiting because we do get, like, 20 pounds of toys delivered here. People always want to try things, but we hadn't gotten the butt plugs yet, and we got them, and we just had to. We were thrilled. We are thrilled. So thank you for sending everything to us and for coming on the show, because this is my 14th anal August, and I'm just like. I feel like you're here as my partner in crime and a leader in the space, and I'm excited you're here.

Welcome to the show. Thank you for having me. Yeah, it's very exciting.

So, okay, now, here's the thing. You make a few sex toys, right? I mean, you make other products, but your main focus, or where you started, right, is with our first product.

The company that I founded, our first brand is Be Vibe.

Okay?

And Be Vibe is 100% anal play products. It's. We, as I like to say, filled a hole in the marketplace we're never done with. Because up until that point, there really wasn't a company that 100% focused on anal play and really looked at the category from what I like to say is beginning to end. So, like, beginner to somebody who's what I would say is an enthusiast who has lots of experience and creates products that meet each need, if you will, or, like, satisfies each experience for more fun. But, yeah, so BE Vibe. That's what literally, from A to Z, all we do is education, create products, training programs and events. Everything around destigmatizing, creating sex positive, comprehensive education around that space, and toys that are extremely thoughtful and really focused on the consumer experience.

Yeah. Well, you've done a really great job of that. We're gonna get into all the toys in a second, but first, I'm gonna ask you a question that I get asked all the time, and I just love being able to toss this at you. How did you get into this space? How did you decide that this was the company that you wanted to do? You're like, this is gonna work.

So it's a long story, but, I mean, my first position in the adult industry, if you will, was actually as a receptionist, and I answered a Craigslist ad. Remember Craigslist?

Yes.

Back in the day. And I started as a receptionist, and I just worked my way sort of through different iterations of administration and administrative roles, and then I answered an ad on Craigslist for a salesperson for a sex toy company. I had previously been working in the content end of things, and that's really where I started. And then, you know, became a sales director, and then worked for a company that I really loved as vice president of sales, and then that was acquired by a private equity company. They let everybody go after a couple years, and I was sort of at a space where I said, what am I going to do? Do I want to continue in this field? And I really looked in, and I had seen that there seemed a huge opportunity for premium anal products. There was nothing like that. There was no high quality, rechargeable with a warranty that provided education that had cool marketing. So I saw that as an opportunity, and we created our first product, which was the Rimming pl.

Okay.

We own a patent on. It's a pretty simple idea, but was. Is super unique because essentially we made.

There has not been a ribbing plug. Do we have.

There had not been a rib. I have the petite. Yes.

Let's show the ribbing plug.

Yes.

I feel like we're gonna break this down because I believe that anal is having a moment. I mean, I think in the last 10 years, anal, I used to say when I started, anal is a new blow job. But now anal's already like, yeah, but people, we're still learning. So tell me. Yes.

So essentially, what the ribbon plug is, is like a rabbit for your butt. So what we really did was educate, because sex toy manufacturers up until this point had pretty much ignored the anal sphincter. So you would you stimulate this area through anal massage or rimming, hence the name of the plug. Right. With your tongue or with your fingers. But there wasn't a sex toy that stimulated the anal sphincter. So if you think about a vagina slash, like, you know, the entry is really sensitive. So in a typical rabbit toy, you would have vibrating beads. So in the neck and that would stimulate at the entry. And then inside you have another vibrating motor. So you're stimulating the interior and the exterior. So you're actually getting dual stimulation, if you will. And so this was just looking. Taking that same concept and putting it into a butt plug.

So it goes in. But you're showing me, you're saying that the beads that go around are the part that are teased, that are on the rib, because there's so many nerve endings.

So many nerve endings.

So this is like specifically stimulating the.

Exactly. So you're getting the entry of the bum, the anal sphincter. Super sensitive, double ringed muscle.

So you get rotating muscle.

Double ring muscle.

Okay.

And then inside is a vibrating motor. So you actually have dual stimulation. And then we paired it with a remote control. So a couple different reasons. You don't have to click your butt to change the settings.

Although you can work up to that.

Although. Right. If that's your jam. Yeah. No judgments. But also the remote control makes it really fun for couples play. So you can trick, you know, like with a partner and like, you know, let them be the co pilot, if you will. So in any case, that was our first product. It was hugely popular. We now make it in three different sizes. Everything from.

I'm so proud of you.

Thank you.

I'm really proud. That's amazing. Of course it was popular because it's like, this is. I've never, you know, I've never seen anything like this.

This is one of the products that, you know, you read the reviews and it's like, wow, I had an orgasm literally just from this product inside my body. Like it's that powerful and provides that much stimulation.

You said you get that from a woman or a man. Your clothes are non gender. Your toys are nonbody.

Let's say that everybody has a butt.

Everybody has a butt. Let's just talk. Everybody has a butt. So your toys literally for everybody.

Yeah, it's one of the Cool.

One of those toys. Correct. Or do.

We don't have toys that are specifically marketed towards the prostate, but a lot of our products do stimulate the prostate. Right, right. So they're not like, for example, designed with that curved feature that's like really angled specifically for the prostate, but our products do. There are specific ones.

But what I'm saying. Yeah, I mean, it's.

Yeah, I was gonna say there are specific products that you will feel prostate stimulation. Pretty much all of them to some, to some degree. But nothing that's made specifically for that.

Right. We know what I love. So anyone could, you could share them. Couples get them. Totally.

100%. Yeah, 100%. These. All of these products are literally what I love it totally non gendered. Doesn't matter what your orientation is. What we've always tried to illustrate is that this is about what size works best for your body. Not necessarily like any of these products are gender specific.

Right. Which I think is great because it's really open for everyone. Yeah, easy entry. Let's just back up for a minute. Because I feel the reason why I'm so. Well, there are many reasons why I'm excited for you to be here because I want to get into all the products. But first is like, I feel like anal gets such a bad rap. Like it's had bad press. Meaning. Meaning like everyone has a really bad first time experience. Or you hear oftentimes it was really bad or my partner did it wrong or oops, wrong hole. And then they're like, no, I am never doing an anal again. Or they're just terrified of it. They really. There is zero instruction. So you're talking about butt plugs of yore with like bad instructions. They didn't look so great. They weren't body safe materials. But now, like to make anal pleasurable, we really do need a little bit like it's a sensitive area. We don't want it just so I. Yeah, time. It's very misunderstood. So I feel like it's a great time to be here in this space and I love that you are providing this, this kind of education. But why do you think it's so misunderstood?

A couple things. So kind of my go to. Because I would imagine you're referring to sort of the common narrative specifically around CIS heterosexual women, which is they did this for their partner and maybe had a glass or two of wine and like no lube, no experience, put a penis in their butt, it hurt and they never want to do it again. And that's a really common scenario. And also like pretty much all the wrong way to experience anal play. And I think what happens in my mind is we treat our backside in a completely different way than we've treated our front side. If you think about most people's experience with, you know, say playing with their vagina or their vulva, it was a really long lead time. You know, maybe you humped a pillow, you played around with your fingers, you pressed your vagina or excuse me, your vulva, like you know, up against something you rubbed. You sort of had a real. Then maybe your first experience was fingers, then fingers with a. So you had this really long lead time that could have actually taken a decade before you ever actually thought about putting a penis inside your vagina. The butt on the other hand gets like a 10 minute prep time. If that, if that, if that. With no education, no playing around. And also you're, you're probably experimenting the first time with a partner. So if you actually do it, like what I say is treat your backside like your front side, right? Play on the outside a little bit, maybe like also be, you know, if you will like ready for sex, like, or stimulate the area of your body, your clitoris, right, Your powerhouse and be turned on and like be doing dual stimulation, you know, like I think there's. Use your finger in the shower. Like give yourself some time to experiment.

Experiment even on your own before you go for masturbation.

Yeah, exactly. Zero to penis is a no, no. Like that's the my biggest rule. Zero to penis is a no, no. And lube is your best friend.

Lube is your best friend, right? Lube is always your. Let's just be honest. And even in the shower using your finger, it helps to use lube.

Yeah, absolutely, always. The anal canal does not self lube or cakes like the vagina.

And I always say silicone lube.

Silicone lube.

With the toys though.

Yeah, silicone lube. If. So this is like where we get into. It's a lot of detail and I don't like to make it complicated for people. So my one easy answer is a water based lubricant that is called something like gel that has those words because.

A thick viscosity Joe makes one of those. They make a Joe jelly.

A lot of them even sometimes say like anal lube. But you want to make sure water based works with everything. So that's kind of my go to easy recommendation. But if we want to start getting into particulars and especially because water based is compatible with silicone toys, silicone lubricant is great if you're having anal sex like with a penis because it doesn't absorb into the body and it lasts longer. And really what you want is, is you don't want friction, right? So that's what happens when it's like skin to skin. You think about a rug burn. That's why anal sex tends to hurt a lot. Aside from that like super strong muscle that you have to like relax before you get into.

Yeah, turned on already, right?

That's the easy answer.

Right? Exactly. That's a great answer. A lot of women might have this experience where. Right. It went wrong. And then there's also the experience of men also. Let's say penis holders. Having penis holders being like, oh, it doesn't make me gay. Like, I'm straight. I'm a straight male. But if I. Yeah.

So hear me loud and clear. The only thing that makes you gay is if you're gay.

Right.

Also, you know, to give a really easy analogy, the restaurant that you want to go to has nothing to do with the person that you want to go there with. These are really two different things. And I think the more and more we understand that our bodies have sensitive areas that present pleasure opportunities and just see them as things to touch and feel. Instead of buying into a social stigma about, like what touching those areas actually means, the more you'll give yourself permission to experience pleasure. And it might not be for you, and that's okay too. But I think it's also, like, take that off the table, like that social stigma and like, just throw it away because it's really irrelevant.

Sex act does not make you gay, Right? Correct. Only you know, you know that and we're not judging. What about women who ask? I get a lot of women who are like, well, I tried it. It wasn't great. Like, I'll try it again, Emily. But I, you know, will I have an orgasm? Will it feel good? I mean, have you found that using. Using some of your products or the feedback you get from people, from women in particular, that they were able to do exploring? Because again, it is a journey. It's not a first time thing. But they were like, I didn't think I had pleasure and now I do because I feel like I just think that people often haven't given themselves enough time. Like, you're like, I can only have one orgasm. I'm like, have you ever tried to have two orgasms? You know what I'm saying?

People are limited.

So it just fel. Or, you know.

Well, I mean, to use another quote, like, I mean, if you put, you know, any limitation you assign to yourself, you therefore create, you know, but you.

Get to your limitations. Correct?

Yeah. Argue for your limitations and sure enough, they're yours. But the reality is, yes, if you've had a negative experience and you go back and try things, what I would say is, I don't want to say like the correct way, but like the way that I would recommend or that I think many educators or like great retailers would recommend, which is really starting the slow. Starting with something small, like your favorite sex toy or finger that happens to be free and attached to you, and then maybe working up to wherever the sizes that. That feels comfortable. Being aroused beforehand, having lubricant, like, these are all the things that you need to create the perfect recipe for pleasurable anal play. So if that is something that you want to go on a pleasure adventure with, like, yeah, definitely try again. And I would say, like, I always like to recommend solo before partner, unless that's your jam. And then. Cool. Like, be sure that you've negotiated and that there's a lot of consent around. Like, what is the perfect dynamic and where you're gonna start and end, Right. And don't make it like, you know, it could take a week, it could take a month. Like, don't set, like, you know, don't create goals around it. Just go with it.

My partner wants me to do anal. It's gonna be the event. We're doing anal tonight. It's like, can you. That's. It can be. It's the journey. Like, try. Start out slowly with a finger. But I like the way you're saying this because it's really. It's. You just. You don't jump right into it. Speaking of beginners starting out, I feel like going through your anal training and education set, which is essentially the beginner's guide, the beginner kit.

Yeah, this is really everything.

This is beautiful.

A to Z, right? So what I've really tried to do here is provide a total anal journey. And what I mean by that is if you're looking at it from the basics, right, like plugs. So when we talk about anal training, that sounds like, what the heck does that mean? Anal training is to boil it down, giving yourself the time and the resources, the correct products, if you will, to experiment with what works really well for you and take your time to get to the right size that will prepare your body for anal penetration. So the way you do that is through starting with smaller products and working your way towards larger ones. But what we've also tried to do, and I think was my goal was to give you also different experiences. So most training sets are like three plugs, one, you know, graduated sizes. In this particular set, you get three plugs, but you also get three different sensations. Okay, and why? Because, you know, it's amazing, right? It's a journey, right? And you also want to experiment and see what really feels great for your body. So, like, plug Number one is about the size of a finger and that's a simple silicone super flexible plug. So you want something that bends in your body, right. Especially if you're new and it's going to be. Your body's going to get used to this really quickly. Like newsflash, you know, what goes in or what goes out can go in.

If you will. And so like this is about the size of a finger. You start with this one. Get used to the sensation, wear it for 15 minutes and you can do.

Like so, like, let's just talk about it like, so it goes in. You don't have to put the whole thing. People like you don't even. What I love about all of your products is that you even have the basic guide that comes in every single toy. The little instruction.

Yeah, the guide to anal play.

The guide to anal play. Because it's like you really, you put it all. This could just be how much you put in the first one. Absolutely. I mean this is all training, just the tip, right? Just the tip, right?

So if you start with the first one right, about the size of a finger and like you said, you can experiment with just the tip in there first. And then when you feel comfortable, kind of like, you know, if you will bear down a little bit, right, Let it go inside the body and just see how it feels. Like that can be like destination number one, nothing else, period. Just see how that feels.

So people like often want to know, but okay, now I got the plug, you're telling me how to use it. Should I be on my back? Should I be on my knee? And I know everyone gets to decide, but let's talk about some options for people if they're really starting.

I mean, I guess it totally depends on again, like there's so many. This is a really choose your own adventure, right?

But people don't even know where to start on the adventure.

Okay, so if you're really starting with this one, it's your first time, I would say do this alone. Put it in before you're getting in the shower. You know, like just to see how it feels in your body.

So put it in while you're in the shower or just while you're in.

Put it in before you come. Like go in the shower, take your shower. You'll be in a nice relaxed environment, you know, see how it feels at the end of your shower. Pull it out, wash it off. See how that went?

I love. See, this is what I'm talking about.

Totally non sexual experience.

Buy toys and they don't even know the journeys to where to turn it on or what to do or where to start.

That's really the most. Honestly, I have to say it's the most exciting part. You only get to do this once.

Yeah.

So go on this cool road trip with your body and give it, give yourself some time to like experiment with each of the, each of the stops. You know, it's fun. Anyway, so I love butt stuff. So anyway, like that's product one and then product two is medium size. So if you look at like fingers, right. Let's say you like. Okay, you know, one finger. This is about like two and a half fingers. Depends on your size. Two, two and a half fingers. But what's cool about the second plug is that it vibrates. I like vibration for two different reasons. First thing is it relaxes the body. So if you're gonna. If you start with plug number one, you get used to that sensation. You're like, okay, I can do this. That wasn't. I actually like that. It was kind of fun. And you know, side note, put this plug in while you're masturbating solo. You know, it really feels pretty amazing to have that added pressure. Your anal canal and your vaginal canal, they're next door neighbors. Put something in your butt actually shortens your vaginal canal so it puts more pressure and so it feels really amazing. So just, you know, a lot.

And that means that there's a lot of women that can actually have internal orgasms from that because.

Absolutely.

Popping up against their G spot or whatever. Internal spot.

Especially if you're taking something like a wand vibrator and you're putting that on your clitoris at the same time or your partner's playing with your nipples or kissing you or like anal play can be a lot more things than a penis and a vagina.

This is why I love that we talk about that today, is that people just think it's penis and vagina. But no, it's a whole world that you have experienced.

Oh, no. Yeah. You're really like missing out if you think that that's the only way. And also on your own pleas opportunities. Because you can do this outside of your partner relationship. You know, some days if you're having a really hard time, you know, you can't, you know, like reach that orgasm. You know, put a butt plug in your butt. You would be surprised how. How much quicker you reach orgasm.

Yeah, yeah.

And you could again, it could be something really small. Anyway, back to this one. Um, so the medium size Vibration, It. It's relaxing. So, like, you've experimented with plug number one. Cool. You like that. You want to graduate to set to plug number two. Um, so it, like, this is great. So if your end goal, if you will, is. Is going to be anal penetration, this is a fantastic plug to put in like, you know, 10, 15 minutes before, as you're playing, relax your muscles, get ready, prepare yourself for penetration. If that's your ankle. Also what's great about vibration is it feels really good. So you're getting the added benefit of it, like feeling really great in your body and also relaxing you. So that's plug number two. So you get to experiment with simple silicone, super flexible. Something that's still flexible but vibrates. And then plug number three, which. This is something that I feel like we need a lot of education about.

Yeah, we do. Cause you're like, oh, whoa, whoa. It's big, right?

So it's big. But it's about the size of an average penis. It's definitely not our biggest. It's about the size of big butt plugs.

You guys.

All butts deserve pleasure.

They do.

So this is like about the size of a penis. And. But it's also weighted. So what do you. So if you're familiar with a product like a metal or glass product, that sensation like this is really fantastic. Because now you're gonna feel a little, what, number one, size wise, but also weight what it feels like in your body. So here you have these three different products, each with a different sensation. And all the while you're sort of preparing your body. You're getting it used to this sensation of having that anal sphincter open, right?

Yeah. It's like every one of those, like a two, like, you're. You're playing with the different sizes, but then also different sensations.

Absolutely. And you get. Which is. And we have all these different. We have all these products in, you know, solo, with remote control or indifference.

But this is the latest thing that I saw and I was like, you got to come on the show and talk about this, because I just.

Of everything, if you will. Yeah, this is like really the best of everything in creating a destination. And then what we've also done, because.

Everyone'S going, yeah, but what if I'm not clean? Okay, so hygiene, Hygiene.

That's a huge question. Like, you know, what about poop? Like, so, number one, you waited 20.

Minutes to answer my number one question. That's. Everyone's thinking, what if there's poop? Okay. They're like, yeah, let Me ask it.

Right back to you. It's rhetorical. What if there's poop? Yeah, I don't know. Let's prepare for all of that. Like, buddy poops, you're putting your penis in a butt or you're putting a dildo in a butt. There's a chance there's gonna be poop. So let's all just, like, accept that and, like, remember that, like, it's just a body. Like, get over it. But if it is really a hang up, and I totally hear that we include. We include an enema. And I'll be really honest, Like, I do think enemas are. They're not requirements, but they do make you feel a little. They give you a little bit of peace because it is like you're having sex and it's this. It's your, you know, sexy time. And then like, okay, poop. Like, it kind of like, can, you know, that's it, you're done.

So poop can be a universal buzz kill.

It can be. Yeah. And if it makes you feel more comfortable, I say an internal cleanse or an enema is what can really help with that. So a bulb enema is what we include. This is a really simple reusable.

And just you put warm water in it.

Warm water, nothing else. Don't put vinegar, coffee, or anything like that.

I always say, well, if you go do it, you can buy the one at the drugstore or get this, but. But dump out the vinegar. Just use one, right?

If you buy the fleet enema from Walgreens or wherever, dump out. That's laxative solution. That's actually gonna make you poop. So you don't want that. You want to pour that out, rinse out the bottle, and just fill whatever. This is a reusable silicone one that we include. But like I said, if you're gonna buy whichever product you use, just fill it with warm water, test it on your arm. You don't need. You don't want to burn your body. And all you literally do is, is put it inside your butt, lubricate the nozzle, put it in your butt, squeeze in the water. You're gonna remove it. You'll feel the urge to go to the bathroom pretty much right away. Sit on the toilet, let it come out. I like to repeat it one more time and then when. Because the water will run clear. And that'll give you a bit of like, okay, I'm good to go here.

Just gives you that peace of mind.

Yeah. And also Recommend Doing it 45 minutes to an hour beforehand. Because sometimes water can get stuck in the fold. So you want to just have, like, a little bit of a gr.

And, like, you know, not eat any kind of foods that might irritate your stomach beforehand. You know, kind of like basic common sense stuff. But just. Just a reminder. But yeah, do it about 45 minutes to an hour beforehand, and you'll have.

You'll.

You're internally cleansed.

Break it down exactly. Like, this is just busting away all people's concerns here.

Yeah.

Okay, so. And then let's talk about.

Okay, so I love a loop shooter. Yeah, I love a good lube shooter. So lubricant, right? That's. It really is your best friend. Like, I can't say it enough. Like, lube.

Lube, Lube, Lube, lube. Like, leave whatever you need to do.

If you think you have too much lube, use.

It's better to wipe lube off.

Exactly.

Yeah. I'd rather have more lube. Put a towel down. You know, like, that's kind of like an easy way to just create a sense of security. Put a towel down, that way your lube and, like, you know, possibility of poop is sort of alleviated in some way. But back to the simple. Lubricating inside the body is something that could really facilitate a better experience, because I always call this the squeegee effect. So sometimes we put lubricant on our toy or. Or on our penis, and then as it goes inside the body, that strong double ring muscle, kind of like a squirrel. Like I say, like a squeegee sort of like, almost like takes all the lube off. So a way to help prevent that is by using lubricant applicator. They're also called shooters. They literally just look a little bit like, you know, like a very simple. Like they look like a medical device, really.

Exactly.

And they're.

But you make it look cute.

Yeah, they're super cute. It's very easy. Like, you literally just put it in the loop. You know, pull up, right. As much lube as you want. Like I say you go on air on the side of too much.

Right.

Lubricate the end a little bit, right? Put it inside your butt, and then just press.

Press.

Yeah. And that's gonna put all the lubricant inside the body. So you have, again, like, a slippery experience. And that friction, which is what causes the heavy.

You have to wait. You wait for it to settle. It's already in there.

No, it's already in there.

Yeah.

Go for it, you're good to go. Like lubricant, the outside, lubricate whatever's going in, like more lubrication. But, but I would say this is going to help, like really facilitate a positive experience. And what's also wonderful is if you use lubricant vaginally, you can also use it on your front side. So. Yeah, yeah, double win there.

Hello. Yeah, you. I didn't know you could just shoot all the way. It doesn't matter where.

Absolutely.

Right. I guess that makes sense.

Yeah, absolutely. And then, you know, to talk.

I'm going to get like a monogram lube shooter.

Careful what you asked for. Christmas is coming.

And then the last thing. And I really like, I say last, but this is really the thing I'm most proud of is the book that comes with this set. This is the complete guide to anal play. And this is really, if you, if you Visit our website, bevibe.com There's a section called Anal Play Advice. Every other week we have an article that supports that entire section. It's filled with information. Every like literally A to Z, everything you could think, positions, how do I talk to my partner, consent, so on and so forth.

And that's just, that's Be Vibe. B is a. But BE vibe dot com, which I love. I mean, I'm so into your site because I love that. Yeah. You have so much education on there.

Yeah.

All the questions you guys have will be answered and then in this book.

Right? So this book is the guide for how to get started, but it also addresses every single product that's included and teaches you how to use each product.

All right, guys, we're gonna take a quick break. And we come back, we have more with Alicia from BE Vibe.

We get questions even though, because with porn, we know porn came out porn, you know, 10 years ago when people started seeing more and more. And then there's been more anal questions. But people are. The education has not met the level of interest in anal.

Well, we have to, we have to remember that porn is, it's acting.

Right.

It's a fantasy.

Right.

And like there's a lot of preparation that went into each of those experiences.

Show the like butt massage beforehand and the warm up. We had a guy called.

That'S not how. Like, let's cut the enema scene. And the porn that wasn't sexy. Viewers didn't like it because someone called in. He goes, well, my wife has a yeast infection or a uti. We had sex and I went back to front. I went from her Anus to her vagina, because, you know, that's how they do in porn. Like, he literally. I was like, yeah, take a breath. I'm like, well, that realized. Is that real? So he's like, oh, my God. Yeah. I'm like, why don't. Why do they do that then? I'm like, I don't know.

Well, that performer might have gotten a UTI also. We don't know that. We don't know that. Yeah, we don't know what happened.

Missed the part of all of it. So what about preparing for it? Even just the foreplay part of it before, like, butt massaging and preparing for it?

Um, I would say, like, the thing that I would. Would always recommend is to have a conversation outside the bedroom before that experience begins. Um, so I think, like, consent and negotiation, although those sound like really, like, boring words, actually facilitate, like, super positive experiences and create and build trust, which therefore enables more experiences. So I would say, if you're thinking about it, you know, have a conversation over a glass of wine or dinner or something like that, where there's not. You're not in the bedroom and there's not pressure to perform at that specific time and then talk about what you're comfortable with. So, hey, I want to get into anal play. Oh, anal play. Oh, maybe. So let's start with a finger. How about, like, one finger?

One finger, right?

Like, how about we just put a finger and, like, start from there and then I think go to the next step and, like, talk about. And it doesn't have to be boring, you know, like, consent can be really, really sexy. Like, would you like me to put my finger in your arm? That can be really sexy and super consensual. It doesn't have to be like, hey, I would like to get your consent on. It doesn't have to be like that. Like, we can be creative, right?

We gotta get more creative and, like.

Make it, like, sound like dirty talk.

Who would say no to Alicia saying that, right?

I mean, who wants a finger in their ass?

Would you like a finger in there? I mean, really. It's just. That's it. And the more you have these conversations, the more comfortable it comes in your relationship, and the more you'll realize that you'll actually look forward to them and they actually make it hotter. I know that's what you're saying. You guys might not believe me because I could never say that. Try it. It. Just try it and you'll be so happy. Let's talk about ass worship. I was looking at some of your blogs. Oh, yeah, Ass worship.

Yeah, that's.

Tell me all about ass worship. Ass worship is literally anal play and ass worship. I guess.

So ass worship is more like. It kind of exactly what it sounds like. Worshiping an ass and it's, you know, involves oftentimes people, you know, loving their, I guess, a specific ass so much that they want someone to sit on their face or they just want to admire it or they want to. It's a very different thing. Like anal play is actually the physical act of playing with your anus, if you will, or unanus, where ass worship is more like worshiping, you know, like a specific ass or ass is in general.

Okay, good to know. Thanks for that. Yeah.

Although it is like mixed with pornography quite often as titles of production.

That's why everyone asks anal sex.

Yeah.

Because I have some more questions. What if you have acrylic nails?

Okay. I would say like my most simple go to answer is gloves, because gloves will protect. You know what I mean? It's. If you have really long acrylic nails, I would say that like a finger and a butt might be a challenge.

Yeah. Let's talk about why. Because you could also rip the anal canal. I mean, you could rip the tissues. It's very sensitive.

It's sensitive. Yeah, It's. If and if you have acrylic nails and you also have a vagina, you could probably relate to like the same thing. Like, there's reasons why some people don't have acrylic nails on specific fingers on their hands.

Right, that's exactly why. Right, right.

That's exactly why. Because we want to put fingers inside bodies and we want to create sexual pleasure with them. So if that's your goal, I would say probably not the best option to have long acrylic nails. You might want to think about using like a tool or taking off specific fingernails.

That's how you do it. And always, anyone who's venturing into any anal anus, make sure your nails are trimmed and clean.

No hangnails. Yeah. You know, moisturize your hand. I like specifically like getting back to like lubricant. If you're just playing with fingers and an anus, I really love something very simple, like woo, for example. Oh, woo.

More. Yeah.

The coconut lubes are amazing. I love that. That's actually my personal. Yeah, my personal lube specifically for that.

I love them just for your fig. For playing around with fingers.

For fingers, for glass, for metal toys.

Yeah.

For anything that's like non. It smells so good. It like lasts it's like, feels like it moisturizes the body.

It does moisturize the body.

Organic.

I know. We love Woo. I love Woo.

Yeah. So like, that would be my go to answer specifically for, for like fingers and a butt.

Okay.

Especially if you're gonna like put a mouth down there too, because it's like, it's yummy. It's vanilla. Yeah.

I feel like we're getting a lot more questions about that too. Eating ass, you know?

Yeah, there's a lot of questions about that.

Yeah, it comes up every single day. All day.

Yeah.

So you started be vibe about how long ago? Three or four.

We released our first product in 2016.

2016.

January 2016.

And so tell me, what have you learned between then and now? Like, did you feel like I thought I knew some things about anal, but now you must be like, yeah, right.

Because I read, you know, all of the articles that we source and we've done a ton of events and obviously, you know, funny enough, I've now become like, you know, the person. Yeah, like the anal queen. Yeah, go figure. But I would say, like, the things that I've learned are, I think, you know, when we came out with our first product, it was, you know, a large size plug and everybody said, it'll never, it'll never sell, it'll never sell, it'll never sell. Like, it's too big, it's too big, it's too big. Word to the wise. Like, it's not too big. People like big anal toys and there's like nothing wrong with that. We actually now make even bigger toys than that. And I would say that there are a lot more beginners or people that have zero or bad experience than I really ever realized. I mean, in my personal life I would say that my first experience was not great and that like, I had, you know, like, I didn't even know to buy a butt plug to prepare for anal play. Like, no one, no one knows. There was no resource.

There's millions of people learning it right now.

Most people don't know. Yeah, like you would never think like, oh, like it just doesn't come natural, you know, like, you don't need that to have vaginal sex. And so it's not something that maybe you would have thought of if you have a vagina.

Right.

So in any case, yeah, I think that there's just like a lot and there's just so much misinformation and so many people who want to do it and also so many like really incredible stories of people that like Want have gone on that adventure and had a lot of success. And I don't know, I just think it's. You must get such a bad rap.

You get stories when people were like, I was, you know, an anal. I was like, no to anal. And now I've like graduated throughout.

You must get such cool stories we.

Get from just overall sex education.

Yeah.

But I feel like it's such a great place. People could just gone along your journey with it with you the last few years. And yeah, like literally for you, they're like, you're my first butt plug and now I want the big one. I just feel like this is the year. I mean people, this is the time.

The year of anal.

The year of anal. Well, I feel like two years ago we said it was the year of anal rimming because we got so many questions about it. I was like, that's the year. But this is like, I feel like this is, I'm just seeing this shift from people call, like even men, now straight men are calling in and asking on their own, like their partners making them do it or like they're like, I'm really curious. I feel like men are curious about the prostate. How do you know? And they, they have never played or they've never even gone back door.

Yeah. And I think, I mean I shift.

So a big shift.

I think it's becoming, I don't know if I would venture to say socially acceptable, but I would, I'm not there yet. Right. But I would say that it's, it's, it's more of an open conversation than it has been in the past. And that people I think are recognizing that it's just another option that you can put in your like sexual portfolio, if you will. And there's a lot of, you know, I would say mainstream if you, you know, broad city and you know, all these different. I can, you know, coming up now. Yeah, like all these different conversations about like people putting things in butts and you know, like having anal sex and pegging and like all these things are like, you know, there's all these conversations that are being had and like recognized.

But I love that you're doing and I love that you are a, a woman owned company, that you started this, that you're passionate about it and that I think it's so empowering because I think there's a lot of women who feel like, you know, hetero, you know, speaking heteronormatively that are in relationships with men and felt very pressured and they always thought anal was for Them. I'm gonna give it up when we get married.

Yeah.

And so I feel like just by even hearing this conversation is what I'm thinking, that there's a lot of women who might think, oh, like, there's pleasure in it for me. Like, for the first time, they might be realizing that it's not just about learning to tolerate a penis, but this might become part of your masturbation repert. I'm always saying, you guys know how important it is to expand your sexual repertoire that we just. We're so limited by just going to our clitoris, even, and we forget about our nipples, we forget about the nape of our neck, and we might have never even looked at our anus. We never even thought about it. And I think that what you do here at Be Vibe Alicia is that you really give people not only permission, but you make it safe. And you actually provide, like, really smart education that's easy to digest and easy to just to understand and to feel like it's not so shameful in the way you just. It's fun. It's like it's a butt plug. Like, it just. It's like the Disneyland of butt plugs. You're just like, totally. Yeah. And so I just feel like, well done. Like, I sent you an email today because we've known each other for years, but I was just like, now that I've gotten your product, I'm just so proud of you too, because it's not that easy in our industry. There's a lot of men. I mean, there are more women now, but, yeah, mostly. You know, it had, like, everything. It's been more men, but seeing a woman and you stand by it, and it just keeps getting better and better each year. It's only been a few years. Like, it's going to be taking over the world.

They'll have a butt plug machine at lax, maybe.

Fingers crossed. Thank you.

Now, I have a few questions that came in from listeners that I want to ask you that just keep coming in. Where is the prostate? Someone has asked me where once. My finger is rimming him. What do I do next?

Okay, so my really like, basic go to answer is, do you know where your G spot is? Okay. So it's kind of in the same location inside. Inside a body with a prostate. Right. So it's literally like a hook, right? Two or three inches inside and like hook upwards towards the belly button. Right. Feel around walnut size, you know, right towards it.

Just like you would. Correct.

Almost like I would say, like, if you're. If You've found your G spot. And if you haven't, like, no worries, like, no pressure. We have an article for that. We have an article for that.

Exactly. Podcast on it.

Yeah. And I can, we can certainly send, like, I'll send a link. We have like a little diagram. It's very simple. Yeah.

How to find your prostate promise right now. So you all have to hold me to it. But I think that in your. Um, we should. Well, we'll definitely have links on our site, but if there's any articles that you think would be useful, we could post on our site.

Yeah, but that one specifically, that's one of our most read articles is how to find how to find the prostate and how to give a prostate massage. Those two are like. But, but to. To simplify the question, literally two or three inches in. So if you're rimming. Hey, would you like me to put my finger inside you now? Yes.

Great.

Okay. And then we put our fingers in and we hook up. And then we reach towards the belly button. So if you're in a doggy style position, then you're. It's gonna be hooking down.

Hooking down. That it's not to come. Because we always. You come hither with the. But yeah, you're going down towards the belly button.

Yeah. Or up, depending on what position you're in. But I would say, like, if that's your. If your end goal is prostate stimulation and you're going to play with fingers first or you're going to play with your mouth first or whatever the dynamic is, you know, put a pillow under somebody's butt, put a towel over the pillow and then prop them up so you have easy access.

Right.

And then I personally like to say, like, play with the penis too, or the testicles. Again, same thing, same concept. Concept is playing with the clitoris. And then, you know, like, whenever you're ready, just reach in and hook up and then start like rubbing, massaging, tapping. We have actually a couple different finger movements, so I'll send you that link also. But you can try. It's going to be different for everybody, but tapping is typically something. You can try tapping circles, but you'll feel it. It's like a little like, you know, like a little bump.

Right. And you go slow and you'll check in with your partner and see how they feel. But I love that even, like, because I think that we really do need to get that specific. And people often want to know, like, what is the best. Yeah, like we talked earlier, the best positions for like, Even masturbation. But what about positions for anal sex even?

Yeah. So I think a really big common question, and I hate to keep going back to it, but because a lot of the questions do really revolve heterosexual couples. So say it's first time. And the question is always, like, what position? And I would like. I always say cowgirl position is the best because that allows. So if you have the anus that is being penetrated, when you're on top, you can control the depth and the frequency of how. Like. Right. The movement, if you will. So when you're on top, like, that allows you to decide how far. Once you're. Okay, tip is in. I'm glad. Okay, I got this.

Cool.

I can take a breather. This feels good. All right, I'm ready. Let me go up and down. Let me go. Okay, I need a breather. So that puts the person, the rider, in control. So that's my go to position for first time analyze. Great.

There's different. Because there's different theories. And I always tell people, you got to try. I can't tell you, but that's a great suggestion.

Well, doggy style is also something I think people assume.

Doggy style, I don't know. That's always the easiest.

It's easy for access, if you will, but you're. It's. And you can also do the same thing and say, I'm going. You know, if you're the beat. The person being penetrated. If you. If you're the receiver, you can. You can. You can say, I'm going to back up. I'm going to be in control of the movement. That can be part of your negotiation process.

Process.

So that'll put you in control if you're the receiving partner.

But.

But otherwise I would say cowgirl, because again, you're in control of the movement and the pressure.

Yeah, all that stuff.

Yeah.

And then also, spooning can be a good. A good fun position. Totally could do spooning.

Yeah.

But I like cowgirl. I just love that you're here because I'm like, how. How would Alicia say this? I love butt play, but my partner does not help. Like, they've sworn it, or they never tried it, or they don't. They say they don't want it.

That's a tough one, because, I mean, we're doing, like, a little bit of balancing act. Right. Like, respecting somebody's. Respecting somebody's. Boundaries. I would say, you know, maybe examine why and, like, dig deeper. So, like, don't put pressure on actually having the experience. Like, dig a Little deeper as to like, where is there, was there some trauma experienced around anal play in the past? Is there like a negative connotation or like something that they've read? Like, what's the reason why they're so reluctant to go down that adventure? And are they. And also there's so many dynamics. Were they the receiver, are they the giver? Are they, you know, like. So I would, I would have to like, really dig into that a little bit, but I think trying to find the source of that is probably like, you know, and being very, very non pressure. Like, I think it's really important, you know, to say, like, hey, I hear you, that you don't want to experiment with that. And I'm just really like, totally no pressure. I'm just wondering why.

Right, Tell me what. Yeah, exactly.

And then when you find out the reason, you can dig deeper around that reason. Like, well, I'm afraid I'm going to hur you or I'm afraid to be hurt. And then we can say, oh, I heard about this cool, this cool company BE Vibe, who has an anal play by section. And you can read all about, you know, or find an article, do your own research and that like specifically addresses that and then say, hey, we talked about this thing and I want to go back to that because I found more information and I'm wondering if you'd explore it with me. It has to be an invitation because it demands.

Correct.

And you really just like, don't want to put pressure on people? Because I think that just like, eventually that's not a good sexual experience for anyone.

Not a good sexual experience. And you're not going to get what you want when you're putting pressure. But to make someone interested, like, why would they want to be curious to, to read some of the articles to, to do your research? I mean, research, you know, education is knowledge. But also a lot of couples love to listen to this podcast together. So I think this would be a great interview if you're on either end of this where your partner wants or doesn't listen to this one.

Yeah.

Because I think it's, it's gonna be very inspiring for many people who maybe have had their back door closed.

Totally.

Alicia, let's talk about safe sex and anal play. What about condoms?

Well, if you're not fluid bonded with a partner, meaning you both know each other's status and you're having sex exclusive with each other or being really open and honest about who you're having sex with. So I think obviously, you know, it's really important. Just like a vagina. There's a huge chance of STIs, so. And we want to be careful with that. So. Yeah, obviously wear condoms, especially if it's somebody that you're. As I said, you're not fluid bonded with.

Right. And then also if you use those condoms, you can you switch them if you're going from back to front, change your condom?

Absolutely, yeah.

Anything.

Anything you're using. It's totally okay to go front to back. It's just not okay to go the other way.

You can't reverse.

Exactly. Okay. And make sure if you're. I mean, we know all the things, but like, don't use oil based lubricant with. With condoms. Don't you. You know, like the. Some of the things that we talked about, like if you are playing with fingers and you're using something that's oil based, you probably don't want to use a condom afterwards. Like there's all these things that we need to. I can't send an article.

Just get. You guys. You got to check out. Just get one. I mean, her. Her guide for anal comes in every toy you have.

Yeah, we have a guide to analyze. I call it the Cliff Notes for all things, but.

Yeah, the Cliff Notes for all things. But let's. I want to go back to another thing we didn't go into as much and that is female pleasure and anal. So we're talking about, you know, women who haven't really experienced it or they've heard different mixed things from their friends. I mean, I. It's not. Not every woman is gonna necessarily have pleasure with anal. Like, even if they do it. All right. They follow every single instruction.

Yeah, yeah, that's totally true. I mean, everybody's not. Some people like rabbit vibrators and some people like glass toys and some people like suction toys and some people like wands and some people. And that's just part of.

But would you venture to say though, that even if you think that a lot of it could be. Definitely. Maybe you don't want penetration, but to maybe take a visit around even the room, the double must. What was it? The double ring muscle.

Yeah.

I think with lots of nerve endings.

Yeah. There are a variety of ways to experience anal pleasure. There's not one. So one of them might be your jam and another one might not be. You know, you might really enjoy rimming and anal fingering and never want to have penetrators.

Exactly. There's like everything.

Totally. You might love anal beads. I'm not an analyst or not plugs.

Exactly. Let's talk about anal beads for a minute, too, because that's. I always get questions. What's the best. What's the difference? What, you've never used one that's like an anal bead.

Okay? So the really simple. This is funny because I ask this question a lot and most people don't know this answer. What's the difference between butt plugs and anal beads?

I was gonna. Yes, people don't know.

So the kind of basic answer is that a butt plug is, you know, it goes in and stays in. Right. If it's shaped properly. Right. So you wanna have a flare here, a bulb, if you will. And then that's because the muscle actually closes around this part and the plug stays in. So that's fantastic. You set it and forget it, if you will. And it actually provides pressure and it prepares your body for penetration, if that's your end goal. Uh, the difference between a plug and beads is. Beads are almost the exact opposite. They are meant for movement to stimulate that anal ringed muscle, that double ring muscle. Excuse me. Um, so, like, that's. And it. And you hear that. It's a muscle. Right? So as beads move in and out, they actually create sensation, like a massage. And it feels really pleasurable.

So you just pull it in softly.

Pull it in, push it out. The really common story that you will hear is like, to pull it out during Oregon orgasm. And that will intensify your orgasm, which is totally true. But, like, don't treat it like a lawnmower. You know, like, be nice and gentle. But, yes, that's coming. Right? Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly.

A lot more. I get it. All that makes sense. So.

Yeah. So beads meant for movement, plugs go in, stay in.

They just. They stay in.

Okay, that's right.

Now, what about wearing plugs throughout the day? People always say, can I. What about plug. Can I wear it throughout the day? I want to wear it to work.

So if you want to wear a plug. If you'll pass me this one. So, snug plugs. Yeah, Hence the name. Right? Snug plugs. Unfortunately. Unfortunately, this one's closed.

Oh, we can open it.

Yeah.

Are you gonna. I mean.

I mean, we can talk about it.

We'll talk about it.

So basically, let's open it now. Yeah. The. So these plugs were specifically designed for long.

These are your latest babies, right?

Those came out last year, but they've been hugely popular. We just added a series with vibration. Yeah, we just added vibration to them.

I Love it.

So these have pressure, which is incredible for sensation. You're gonna. As you move, you'll experience sensation. I could go into a whole story about this. This is probably one of my thoughts. Thoughtful, well designed plugs we've ever made. I mean, they're all great, but like this one really specifically becomes. It comes in so many sizes, and because it's weighted and it has a really long thin neck that's 1cm in diameter.

You make butt plugs sound so sexy. Well, they are and they are. You've made butt plugs sexy?

Well, honestly, like, shouldn't they be? I mean, when I, I'm a consumer, so like, I think I always look at products like, if I was buying this, would this appeal to me?

Right.

You know, that and a toy that.

You don't want to look.

Right. And a small, like. And not to say there's anything wrong with small glitt pink butt plugs, but like, I'd like more options than that. Thank you. Yeah, like that and like a big black one. Like, can we have some in between? Exactly. So this was, you know, so in any case, stud plugs. Yeah, they're really. They have a soft gummy base. They're shaped a little bit like a torpedo in the bulb. And as you move. So as you sit, as you like, move your body. If you have penetrative sex, if you're exercising, they move. And the larger the size, the, the, the more weight they have of. And you feel more sensation. So it feels actually pretty incredible. If you think about like a Kegel.

For example, I have the weighted Kegel balls I wear.

So it's the same concept, but in a, in a, in a properly designed product.

That's just amazing to me. So what about the question about like getting stretched out if you wear it too long or get it or having.

Too much in your body? Yeah, well, it's muscle, right? Like, this is kind of the same question about the vagina, right?

It is.

And I think that's, it's unfortunate because that's a really like, negative connotation about bodies and sexuality. Um, but the reality is it's a muscle. So for example, if you anal train, right, you go through these three different steps of size plugs, and you don't play with your butt for a month, you'll have to start all over again. Yeah. Because your body, your, the muscle will condition itself back to its original state. If you are really specifically concerned about the strength of your Kegel muscles and being, quote unquote, stretched out, you can do Kegels in your anal. In your anal canal. And the same that. That is an entire. That's like a hammock shaped muscle. Um, so actually by. You can literally put one of these snug plugs in the larger size, larger weight. Um, and you can just squeeze. And actually it will tap. If you have a prostate, it will tap right on your prostate as you squeeze. So you get like double win exercise and pleasure. Um, and then, you know, essentially you're strengthening your muscles. Also really fabulous to do Kegel exercises while you have a rimming place plug in. Because you are essentially like, you're like grasping the muscles around that rotating motor so you're like amplifying the sensation over and over again.

That makes so much sense.

Feels so good.

See, this is just a wealth of activity. I've never been so excited to try anything. Really. I mean, I think it's. We just got them all here, so.

Yeah.

Wow. Really good job. So that's. That's a stunt plug. I feel like I have so many great answers for people now because I'm just really. I know these are all, like, well made.

These are perfect for long. They are really designed for comfortable long term wear.

Okay.

And pressure and sensation.

Happy anal sex month.

Hey, right back at you.

Thank you so much for being here. I'm so thrilled for you. I'm excited for all this information for people to have. Now they can just even go to your website, be vibe.com and just kind of peruse you guys, browse some of your questions answered and check out BE Vibe. Okay. I have questions for you, Alicia, before you leave that we ask all of our guests, what's your biggest turn on? Hmm.

I think I really enjoy being tied up.

Okay. Oh, good. I bet you do, right?

Yeah. Thank you. I bet you.

Poppy.

I love loss of control. I feel like there's in a really safe, consensual environment.

We're business owners too. We're women.

We're like, we're talking about making decisions all day long. Always in control. Yeah.

Okay. Biggest turnoff.

I mean, I guess it would be sexism. You know, like, I just really hate being lumped into a category or like being told that I should like something or having to identify a certain way that I think is like, so ridiculous. Like, there's no reason why women can't like butt toys and like, it just. Anyway, I know that's my biggest turnoff.

What's your biggest dating deal breaker?

Someone who's not interested in my intelligence.

Yeah.

Like, if you need me to be dumber than you. Like I'm over it.

Right? Exactly. It's not going to happen. What personality trait is the most important in a partner?

Trust.

All right, Alicia Sinclair, thank you so much for being here. Great interview everyone. Check it out. Everything be vibe.com and you could also at be Vibe underscore social on Instagram and the rest are all, you know, Facebook. This will all be in the show notes too.

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Okay. Thank you for being here. I appreciate it.

Thank you. Blast. Total blast.

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