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They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.

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You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information about Sex With Emily, go to sexwithemily.com where you can listen to our podcasts. Sign up for our mailing list, our RSS feed, and all that fun stuff. So thanks everyone, for listening to the show. Happy Holidays. This is our 15 minute show. We'll be reading the emails that you sent to feedbackexwithemily.com, where a lot of people hit me up on Facebook on my fan page, which is Sex with Emily. Some of the topics include a stagnant sex life, what to do, how to last longer during sex, and STDs, and a few other things that we're gonna see what we can get to. Menace. Hi, how are you?

How you doing?

We have important biz to take care of right now.

Yes, we do.

So on the last show, we were talking about asking women out and why men don't do it and how they just need to do it. I think that men create all this drama in their head. They're like, I want to ask her out, but she might reject me. Blah, blah, blah. So Menace is gonna ask someone out right now. We're calling her.

We're gonna call.

Hope she answers me too.

Well, she usually picks up.

Cause she likes you rare from.

Well, she doesn't even know it's me.

Oh, right.

See if this works.

Uh. Oh. Aw, damn it.

Can you ask someone else out?

Huh?

Is there anyone else you can ask out?

I don't want to ask anybody else out.

I'm so sad she's not answering. She's probably like Menace Delay. Do you want to leave a message and ask her out?

I'll text her, we'll continue, and then we'll text her.

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People need to comment more. Just before we started recording this, there was a ton of comments, but keep on. Keep them coming.

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Yeah.

But go to my website and check it out.

And here we go.

And do a comment.

Okay. Here we go.

She's calling you.

Hello?

Hello.

Hi. You're being recorded.

Why?

Why is that? Okay.

Yes.

Yes. All right. I'm here doing the show with Emily, the Sex with Emily show.

Hi. Hi. So pretend I'm not here.

Oh, no, no, no. You tell her what the topic is.

Okay, here's the topic. So what we've been talking about is that men do you live in San Francisco. You live in the Bay Area. Men do not ask women out. They just don't. Not here and also not anywhere. Men get scared about it becomes a whole thing. They create the drama in their head. What if she rejects me? What if I don't say it the right way? I have need the right moment. The stars need to al. And I'm saying, guys just need to pick up the phone. Or when you meet a woman you're interested, just ask them out. That's the topic right now.

No, I agree. You definitely should, and it doesn't happen enough.

Don't you agree? You're like, this guy was totally into me. He was buying me drinks all Night. And then he was like, bye, bye. And you're like, don't you want my number?

Right, no, we were just talking about that actually earlier we're at the Apple store and my friend is getting definitely hit on by the guy working there. He ends it without saying, like, can I get your number? Or anything. It's just kind of a dead end conversation.

Exactly. He's gonna go home and he's gonna be really bummed out. And this is. I'm speaking to men right now who are like, we've all had these experiences where you, you met a woman. I think men have. And women. You're like, oh, I didn't get the number or why didn't I do it? And you beat yourself up. I'm saying, don't even. Those thoughts in your head that are stopping you, just push those aside. And even if you don't feel like it's the right moment, just ask a woman out. So. So on that point, may I take.

You out on Wednesday? Next Wednesday?

That's a week from now, right? Or no, it's Thursday.

It's a week from now.

Of course.

Is that okay?

Yes.

Cool.

Have you guys ever gone out before?

Yeah, yeah, we've gone, but never like a date date, right?

Never.

So where are you going to take her on the date?

I don't know. We just came up with this, so I gotta.

Menace. But don't you prefer. Sweetie, don't you want him to kind of have a plan? Like if he showed up at your house and he was like, hey, are we going out? What do you want?

What do you want to do now?

I already know how he is. He's definitely gonna come. He's a very well planned guy.

Is he?

Yes.

Have you guys ever fooled around?

No.

No.

Menace answered first because he was afraid that she would say yes.

No, I swear to God.

So maybe this will be your big night. No, I'm not saying you should fool around. You should not have sex right away, but you can make out. And then when you come on the show and talk about it. I think this should be a whole segment. No, no, no pressure, sweetie. I'm glad you're going with Menace. He's my favorite person.

Oh, yeah, definitely. The best part is this is all happening as I'm on the Munibus right now.

Oh, that's so great. You're on the bus in San Francisco. I love it. Have you ever been asked out on the Munibus on live, on.

Speaker, radio, bus, phone?

That's amazing. Well, you sound very Cute. I'm glad you guys are going out. I hope you have a great time.

Yeah, we probably will, I'm sure.

Oh, good. Thanks for saying yes because I would have to nurse him back to health if you said no.

Okay, awesome. Thank you.

Bye.

Okay, bye.

Okay. See, it's that simple, people.

That was cute, Menace.

Just get it done.

So why. What's the deal with you guys? You've gone out a few times, you've never made out. Unless you're lying to me, which I can see that happening.

I swear to God on everything.

They've made out.

No, I swear we haven't.

So what are you waiting for?

She sounds cute.

No, we've always, you know, got in the friend zone. Friends and then, you know, just lived in different areas, dating different people. And then I finally. I think I had like an opportunity, but this is where I was. I was drinking too much and I just.

And you've stopped drinking now. So much. I'm so proud of you.

I can't. I can't remember last time I drank. Probably. I can't.

Wow, that's great.

I know I have, but it's.

Maybe you're better without drinking that alcohol. Some blur.

Yes.

Okay, let's get into some emails now from listeners. Emily, I know you hate long emails, so I'll keep it short. My wife and I have been married for 15 years and together for 18 and our sex life is stagnant at best. We're both in our upper 30s and my libido is just as strong as it was when I was in high school and hers is nearly non existent. I thought I would try to spice things up a bit and try to introduce some toys. I would love any suggestions you can give. I know you've recommended vibrating rings in the past, so what kind would you recommend and how exactly are they most effective? She had a vibrator in the past and it was too strong for her. She had a very sensitive clitoris, so anything so strong won't work well. So could you suggest a vibrator that you think would work for us? Lastly, do you have any suggestions for other toys? She loves it when I hit her G spot, so anything along those lines would be great. Thanks so much. I love your show and listen to it on my ipod all the time. As for the great handjob debate goes, I'm squarely in menace's corner. No thanks. I might as well just do it myself. Yes, a lawyer listener who prefers not to be named. Okay, so sex toys. So she. Her sex life is Non existent Hers. It's stagnant, it sounds like. So suggestions. If you want some suggestions, there's these vibrating rings. They're called vibrating whatever. The man puts them over his penis. And new ones. Yeah, have a little mini vibrator on it. So the vibrator, I'm telling you, men have reported that the vibration feels really good on them. And it's placed in such a way that it directly hits the woman's clitoris so she's getting pleasure. And you know what the good thing you said she doesn't like. A lot of women don't like a lot of intense pressure on their clitoris. And some vibrators can be too strong. Typically, since this is a small little vibrate, it's a small vibration. It's not too intense. Plus she can move it from side to side and adjust it so it's hitting her in the right place. And this is great because I think it helps everybody, helps the man. It can help them stay harder, longer. And it can also. It also feels good, the vibration. So I recommend that. As for G spot vibrators, I would just go to AdamAndEve.com and I would look under actual G spot vibrators. There is a whole slew of vibrators that are just for the G spot and read the reviews and see what people say. But I've had those. I've bought them. They were, I mean, some of them are really good. And you. They hit the G spot, they have a little curve on the end.

I'm a little afraid of overstimulation. What do you mean on the, on the guy's perspective that I am gonna be ended up being a one minute man, you know that I'm gonna get there too fast.

You get that you are afraid of that a lot.

I'm afraid with, with these type of.

Things that, oh, with the ring, like, it'll feel so good.

It'll feel so good. Then you know what? 30 seconds later, it's over.

Right? I don't think that that's the case. I think it's just an extra. I know exactly what you're saying. That there are some things that happen during sex where men are like. Like usually when a woman starts moving faster or she starts saying things that really turn you on, but I think with this it just kind of feels good. It's like a little added. It's like a little, you know, it's like if someone's giving you massage and then they add some really cool oil to it or something.

It's like, what the hell are you talking about?

I'm talking about the fact that the vibrating ring feels good. And then it's like, oh, a little vibration. That feels nice too. But it's not. I don't think it's. The vibration is the kind of thing that's going to send you over the edge and it's just a nice bonus. Like, oh, I've never. My balls don't usually vibrate like that. That's kind of cool. And I think that a lot of men have experienced that. The fact that a lot of pleasure.

A nice little treat.

It's a nice little treat. But you're afraid. But, yeah. But the good thing about the ring is that the reason why they invented these rings before they made them, now they make all these rings that are stretchy and that have the vibrator on it for the woman. But the reason why these rings were invented for the man's penis is because. Because it helps him stay hard longer.

Okay?

So in a way, the vibration and the helping stay hard longer. With the ring around your penis, you might be golden.

It's the ring Viagra.

It's the ring Viagra.

Oh, I saw. It was so funny. I saw the movie Little Fuckers, and in the movie, well, I shouldn't give it away, but there's a little situation where he's taking pills. Okay, that's pretty funny.

I'm dying to see that movie because Meet the Fockers. I think the first 20 minutes of that movie are some of the funniest, best cinema I've ever seen.

Really?

It's hilarious.

Nice.

Yeah. I could quote it, but I'm not going to right now. Hey, Emily, I'm a new fan of the show, couple months now, listen to all the podcasts and recently think you're. And really think you're great. And I look forward to the podcast. My new BTP boyfriend type person turned me onto the show and we listened to it together. Keep rocking. I'm also spreading the word to my clients and everyone around in New York City to get on board and download your show. So I want to say the reason why I read this is because it's awesome and I love when people love the show, but I've had a lot of people tell me that they listen to this show with their partner because it's a way to bring up a lot of topics that you are already. Issues, perhaps, that you're having with your partner. And it's a way, like, I'm going to bring it up for you like if you're listening to me and I'm like, men really need touch breasts. Touch women's breasts more, for example. And then she could say, yeah, I kind of agree with Emily. Or he could be like, I touch your breasts all the time. And she could say, no, you don't talk about touch my breast all the time. It just can stimulate conversation so you don't have to do it yourself, because I know it's really hard to talk about sex. So, Nerissa, I really appreciate your email, and thanks for telling your friends and everyone who's listening. If you love me and you love the show, email it out to 10 friends tonight.

Yeah. Post it on Twitter.

Post it on Twitter. Be like, I'm listening to Emily Morris right now. Sex with Emily. With Emily and Menace. And they rock. We'd appreciate that because we don't do any promotions really.

At all.

None, actually.

It's on the list of things to do, but I haven't done it, so. Yeah. Okay. Thank you. All right, one more.

Okay.

Hi, I've downloaded. This is for you, Menace.

Oh, no.

Oh, no. Don't, don't. We've actually. We've actually gotten asked this question a few times, but I feel like it's a good one because it comes up a lot. And, Menace, you're the man for the job.

Okay.

Hey, I've downloaded all your podcasts, and I just reached episode 111. In this episode, Menace casually said that when he's having sex, he can stop when he wants to, insinuating that he can go for hours. However, he didn't break down how he does this. How does he do this? Teach me, Dan.

Maybe I haven't reached.

They haven't. He hasn't gotten to the show yet, so I figured you could just say it again because this comes up a lot.

Well, it kind of has to do with alcohol.

For some reason, people have, like, the.

Effect where the opinions of everyone on the show do not necessarily reflect now.

Yeah, like, for some reason, I don't get the thing they call whiskey wiener, where you. You're not able to get it up after drinking.

But you've also talked about pre gaming.

Pre. Yes. Okay. All right, here. Here's the whole situation.

Break it down. Break it down.

You pre game, which pre gaming is you masturbate a good. You know, good. I would say three hours before you go out on date.

Three hours.

Okay.

Then you.

Then you consume a lot of alcohol before the date. Before the date?

What are you talking about? Don't do this. I'm sorry. Can we edit this?

Yeah. You know why? Do you know why I'm slowing down and thinking about what I'm saying is because you know how I just asked the girl out on the podcast?

Yeah.

She's totally gonna listen to this. So I'm screwing myself. But anyways.

Or not.

Then, you know, you consume some alcohol on your day and you're able to last a lot.

So you're saying that men, if they're having sex and they're worried about ejaculating too quickly, if they masturbate at home that day. Yeah, they're set up. That's like a known. Like that's kind of known.

The more the alcohol just kind of enhances it.

What if you're not a drinker?

Then you're not a drinker. Then seeing. See if pre gaming alone just helps you out.

Yeah, pre gaming can help. And there's also exercises you can do. There's breathing exercises. I mean, there's a lot you can do. I think we did a show on this a few months ago about how men can last longer.

Yeah.

So you should go look for that show. Okay. That's what we got time for right now in our little quickie show.

All right.

Okay, Menace. Happy, Happy Almost New Year and holidays and all that stuff. Who knows when this will post, but.

It will be after New Year's. But that's cool.

It'll be after New Year's.

Happy New Year.

Happy New Year. Okay, everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at Sex with Emily dot com.

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