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That was an older one, but yeah. Do you like it?

It was really interesting. I watched it.

Yeah, it's on my way. It's on my homepage right now. It's. I went to Mitchell Brothers and I, which is this, like, infamous strip club here in the city, and I interviewed these strippers and they taught me how to dance and they dressed me, and it's a funny little video. Yeah, yeah. And so I have. Those are some old ones. I got a bunch of new. But if they're new to you, if you haven't seen them. And every week I'm gonna be doing more where I'm reading your letters, actually, I'm answering some and I'm giving sex tips, and I'm also reviewing some sex toys. That's what's going to be on the YouTube channel. I like it, so please subscribe to it. That's what I got to say. Also, one more thing I'd love you to do is to review and rate us on itunes. And that would be awesome as well. We'd really appreciate that. And you can also find me on Twitter, Emily Morsemorse and on Facebook, my Sex with Emily page. Menace, where can we find you?

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Perfect. Okay, so as you know, we're doing three shows a week. Three to four shows a week. And this show is. We're talking about bondage today. Bondage.

Bondage.

Menace just gave Me a look. How. Yeah.

Much have you delved into this realm of Personally?

Yeah, I personally. Not enough. Let me tell you, when I've been tied up by a guy, like, I think it's the hottest. I think it's really hot. And I'm not talking that you need to go out and get some serious, like, whips and chains and the big buckles and all that stuff. That's, like, crazy. There's, like, beginner bondage kits you can get, like, if you go to AdamAndEve.com, they have. You know, when you put an Emily at checkout, you get a discount. Or Pleasure Galaxy is another one. And you also put an Emily at checkout. They have these beginner that are, like velcro straps that you can very easily just, like, bind your arms or do, like. It's. It's simple. Have you ever done it?

I. When I get a little intoxicated, I like, tie chicks up.

Do you really?

Yeah. And they like it.

Oh, my God, it's so hot. I like it. And I'm telling you, not. Men do not do this enough.

Yeah.

In my life, in my history, I'd say maybe once or twice. But it's just. There's something so hot about being, like. First of all, like, I think everyone should try being both dominated and the dominator, like, being dominant and submissive. Because I know you're probably thinking, I don't want to ever be tied up. Are you thinking that you don't want to ever be tied up? Me? Yeah. Or no. Would you like it?

Yeah. No, I don't want to be tied up.

Okay.

Because the place can catch on fire. The chick can steal my money, you.

Know, Depends what kind of chicks you're bringing home.

Yeah.

But the beauty of bondage is that. Okay, I've got some stuff here that I want to read to you. So the submissive can't move or fight off the sexual feelings that she or he will be having. It's a very powerful and erotic position for the dominant to be in. It's also exciting for the submissive. I think everyone should try both of those. So once your partner is tied up, this is a unique opportunity to experiment with a wide range of sensual touches. So you tie your partner up. And again, I recommend one of these, like, beginner bondage kits that have, like, Velcro. It's so easy. You don't have to, like, deal with snaps or. And you could probably get out of it if there's a fire.

Yeah.

So feathers or silky fabrics are Very sensual tools in bondage. They tickle, they excite, they make the skin's neurotransmitters go crazy when they're passed on along the skin. It's an amazing sensation to be tied down and have a feather scarf, silk run up your, right up your thighs and around your breasts. So that is the thing like just when you have tied your partner up, put you know, feathers or something, fabric.

You're talking about something so, so sorry, I just hit the microphone. You're talking in a way that it's so tame. But when people think bondage they think like full on leather suits, right? Whips and bats and, and chains and all this stuff.

This is not that. This is like Bondage 101. This is Bondage 101 beginner bondage.

Am I tiptoeing into the full leather suit and the zipped up?

You might menace, you might soon. But for now I'm talking like you put your, your, your boyfriend's necktie around his eyes and his air around his ankles and his hands and it's like easy bondage.

There's no ball gags involved.

No ball gags. We're not, we're not getting there. We could go there another time maybe in our Bondage 102 course. But right now this is just like basics of bondage. Like it doesn't have to be a whole production. You don't need to go to the store and buy all the leathers, whips and chains. I mean, you could use a silk scarf, you could use a regular scarf. You could use a necktie. I mean, I'm not, you don't even have to buy anything to do bondage. So that's what I'm going to cover on here. Just like little things that you can do like just bind the wrist or, and use a blindfold or something. So no, I'm not talking crazy bondage. So you should turn out, turn this off right now and you know, no, this is stuff that everyone can do and should try because I think you'll think it's really hot. All right, okay, so let's talk about oral sex and bondage. So the tongue is a wonderful thing. It can bring such wonderful sensations to the neck, ears, face, mouth, chest and of course the clitoris or the penis. During bondage, kissing, licking and sucking on your submissive is an absolute must. So oral sex bondage is extremely powerful experience. The power involved with oral sex is one that many women still don't realize they have. So when the dominant has oral sex with the submissive, the experience is completely different. The submissive feels vulnerable and helpless to stop the pleasure. But as I mentioned, it's a good thing. So imagine this. You're tied to. You're restrained, but you're getting pleasure and you can't really, like, stop it. And maybe you're even blind. I love the blindfold. And it's just hot because you don't know what the person's gonna do next. And you can't touch. You can't do anything. You're like, bind and you have no control, but you're getting this pleasurable sensation.

Yeah.

With your tongue. Wouldn't that feel good?

Yeah, it would feel awesome.

So maybe you would be tied up, then. You'd like it, wouldn't you? Like if a woman went down on you and you were. Your arms were tied and you're blindfolded. How blindfolded?

Blindfolded, I guess.

What if you didn't know what she was gonna do? Like, but it was. Everything she was doing was hot. Like, she was sucking you, kissing you.

Of course, if it's hot, then yes.

No, this is all hot. I'm giving you all hot, hot suggestions here. Okay, so what do you like?

Let's go over it again.

What do I like?

Yes.

What do I like? In detail?

Yes.

If I like the teasing. Okay, so here's the thing about bondage. It's all about teasing, right? It's all about, you can't have me yet. So if it's. So, let's say guy tied me up, for example. I love the teasing part. Like, that I can't touch him, that he might touch me. He might make me wait. Like, make me beg for it. Like women. The number one thing that women, and I'm putting myself in this category, complain about or say that is their biggest turn on or they would like men to do more is teasing. And you've made fun of this before. But yeah, teasing is so hot for women because it's the foreplay and it's the anticipation and it's the buildup.

Well, teach guys how to tease. How should they tease?

Okay, so for example, let's say I'm tied up and I have a blindfold on. And you like, my hands are tied or my legs are tied together or tied to the bedpost. If you have a bedpost. They also have under bed restraints that you can use, by the way, if you want to get technical. And let's say. Oh, my God. How do I describe this? Let's say he. He is teasing me he's not quite going for any particular. He's not going for my breasts. He's not going down there. But he's kissing around different areas. So he's teasing me. He's, like, kissing my neck. Like he's. He's, like, getting close and then pulling away. And, like, he's about to touch me. Or maybe he's about to put a finger inside me, but he doesn't. Or he's about to lick me. Or he'll do it a little bit and then he'll pull back.

Okay.

The back and the fourth. Or like. Or just like, till you want to. Like, you want her to beg for it or him to beg for it. I have a lot of friends who tie up their partners, and men really get into it. I think there's so many things that men think they wouldn't be into, and if they just tried it once, they would be like, holy shit, this feels so good.

Yeah.

Like. And I think men would like the teasing, too, even though you.

I'm not a big fan of the teasing.

Right. So I think that that's what I would like.

But if a woman wants it, I.

Would give it to her, and I'd like to be, like, tickled and. And just. I don't want. I want to be like, have it build and build and build the sensations to build. Does that make sense?

Yes.

Okay. Did you.

I took notes.

Okay. So another thing would be. Okay, so you could also use a warming gel. Like, with oral sex. Like, if you're blindfolded, you don't know what sensations you're gonna have. So if you use, like, some of those, like, warming lubes and stuff, and. Or use ice cubes. Oh, this would be really hot, too. So I've done this before. I had blindfolded somebody. Oh, this was really hot. Okay. I use bondage tape, which you know that I love bondage tape, which is, like, the sticky tape that you can.

You should have your own brand.

Shouldn't I? It says Sex with Emily all over it. Yeah, that's a great idea. Okay, so I tied up this guy I put with bondage tape around his eyes and around his hands. And then I went to the kitchen and I had a bowl of ice cubes, and I had just, like. I think I had, like, feathers. And I had maybe some massage oil. And so, like, I put in my ice cube in my mouth, and I would, like, tickle it down, like, drip it down his back and down his front, like, flip him over and then, like, put the ice down his butt. It feels really good. Yeah. Do you know that when you're performing oral sex at a man that like to have like an ice cube in your mouth or something minty really feels. Can feel good. A breath mint Altoid. Remember the whole bill thing with Monica Lewinsky? So an Altoid, a breath mint. And so you're blindfolded, so you don't really know what sensation you're gonna feel. And it feels hot. This he. I think that he lost his mind. I made him feel so good.

Oh, really?

Yeah, he did. He was like, holy shit, no one's ever done this to me.

Yeah.

So that's the kind of thing you can do.

Wow.

Wow. Do you not teach?

I think there's a lot of men currently masturbating.

Some people do masturbate to this podcast.

They do?

Yeah. People have emailed me and said that. I think. I don't read those letters.

I read them. I don't read them to you. Maybe one or two. I don't know. Do you think they do?

I don't know. Yeah, I'm definitely gonna get some emails after this. Yes, I currently masturbate to your podcast.

Okay, so toys, another fun thing to incorpor into your bondage. And again, we're talking like light bondage of the wrists and the eyes. I'm not talking about heavy duty. It's sex toys. Because sex toys make a noise. So when they're turned on, the person who's like, submissive hears the noise. And there's like this anticipatory thing, knowing that.

My feeling is fear.

Skinny, if you were to. Yeah, you'd be fucking. You'd be frigging afraid. I'm swearing a lot today. You'd be afraid. Okay, so toys allow the dominant person. So that's like if you were tying me up to tease all parts of the body with the vibrations, which also, again, all these ice vibe, you know, vibrators, it feels really, really good. And so it kind of like builds and builds the excitement. So you're just teasing. A lot about bondage is teasing and not quite giving in. And if you're. If you revere, if you're reversing the roles like the dominant and the submissive. So I'm submissive to you and you're dominating me. There's just something hot about. It's hold power play and it's like, I can't escape and you're gonna do what you want to me. And it just. I don't know, it just feels really hot. You've never done anything.

Seems like you're really into this.

Really? Yeah. But I have to tell you that I guess I am and it turns me on. But I've probably. Few times in my life have I had, like, done this and had good experiences with it, and I think I should have more and everyone should have more.

I think you should delve into it.

So men, though, don't have to be left out. So if the men's being the men is submissive, there's massagers that can be used on his nipples, tummy, his balls, shaft, penis to accompany as much pleasure. You'd love that. No, just kidding. Of the erogen stones. I think you might like the way a vibrator feels on you. Menace.

Where?

On your penis.

Okay.

A little bit of vibration on your penis feels really good.

Okay.

Have you ever experienced that?

I have not.

God, I gotta give you some stuff, okay?

I have not. Because people are gonna say, oh, he hasn't tried anything. I go because it goes back to the debate that I've had where you get the sensation where you can't go back to just having normal sex, but you can.

I've done this a few times.

It's like a drug, you know? It's a gateway.

Why do you think that? You think we're dressing up with those furry costumes soon and everything?

We're gonna be at furry conventions, you and I.

You think all this is a gateway. You're wrong.

Okay?

That's just how I feel, right?

I'm just one man.

Does any of this seem hot to you, though? Like not knowing what comes next?

Yeah, but I don't know. Just me being tied up, it freaks me out. I'm afraid. I'm afraid. I can admit I am afraid.

You're really afraid the house is going to wear down and she's going to steal your wallet? Yes. You got to start dating different kinds of women.

Okay?

Okay. So what else? Okay, you can step it up if you're comfortable to go beyond teasing, because again, everything I've been talking about up to this point is teasing. There's whole other levels of bondage to explore. Sex toys, like I said, bring an element to it. And you can also, you know, have. Have sex if you want. You can have sex while your partner is tied up. Like you could tie your partner up and then have sex with them. Once you tease for a really, really long time and she's begging for it, or he's begging for it, then you finally have sex. Maybe you don't untie them, or maybe you untie one arm and you actually go ahead and have sex. So that's some stuff you could do with bondage. And there are some safety tips I just need to mention. This is not something to try with someone you've just met, Menace. You really don't know whether they are trustworthy or not until you know them better, however charming people might seem at first. So there's definitely safety issues. Talk about it beforehand, discuss what you plan to do, at least generally say what you will or will not allow. And these are rules and limits that are sacred and shouldn't be broken. So just discuss this stuff if you're weary about it. You know, Menace, maybe they'll give you the extra key or something. Or your phone so you can call your mommy if you're scared. So that's just some bondage for you. Everyone, thanks so much for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com thanks for listening to Sex with Emily.

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