7 Dec 2025 · 23 min
Emily Morse and Menace discuss sexual wellness, pleasure, and relationships. They cover practical sex tips, product recommendations, and share personal stories about what actually works in the bedroom.
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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that Our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.
A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh, my.
Do women know about shrinkage? Isn't it common knowledge?
What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.
Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?
Oh, my God, I feel so good.
Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.
You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information about Sex with Emily, go to Sex with Emily dot com youm can listen to our podcast, sign up for our mailing list RSS feed. And there's so much fun stuff to do. And there'll be even more fun stuff to do because we're relaunching our website, which is very exciting. I'm here with Menace.
Hi. How you doing?
I'm great. How are you, Menace?
I'm good.
It's good to see you.
You too.
It's always great to see Friday tgif, baby.
I know. What are you gonna do tonight?
I'm going to a birthday party. Yeah? Actually, the guy I've been dating, it's his birthday.
Really? What did you do for him?
I. Wow. What did I do? Or what will I do? What will I do? I will do him.
That's it.
Dude, I'm good in bed. No, I'm gonna get him something after the show.
No, really.
His birthday is today and you're gonna get something after the show.
His birthday was a few weeks ago and I actually.
Good luck with.
I'm busy. No, I didn't. Yeah, I'm gonna work on that.
You're so bad.
I'm the worst girlfriend in the world.
No, I'm not a girlfriend. I'm not a girlfriend. I'm not the best girl. I didn't say girlfriend.
I'm the best girl that's a friend.
I'm a girl that's a friend that I'm not a good girl. It's so funny because my ex boyfriend, I saw him and he's like, you were the worst. He's one of my.
Wait, you had a boyfriend at a time?
Yes, I used to have boyfriends until I realized that they did not work for me. Yeah, I hate the term boyfriend. Girlfriend makes me.
Yeah. You know why put a label on it?
Why'd you gotta label me, man? Why you gotta Box me in.
You know?
Why you gotta do that stuff?
I still want it out in the open, you know, it's just my personal business. I don't like to let people know what's going on with my life.
I want everyone to know it's not it.
That's what it is.
So not.
It's just be real. And I guarantee you it will. It will open you up to new things.
Yeah, I guess.
Just throwing it out there.
So I'm gonna go to a birthday party and then I'm going to get wasted. Maybe.
Hell yeah.
Hell yeah. What are you doing tonight?
What's today, Friday again? Sorry.
Yeah. Remember the part about.
Oh, I want to see this movie called Take Me Home Tonight?
Oh, what's it about?
It's, you know, I love anything 80s and it's just a movie that's based in the 80s.
Oh, cool. Are you gonna go see it?
I might go see it with it.
With a little cute hottie, maybe a.
Young tenderoni, as they say in the. In the hip hop scene. Yes. I educate you every day.
I know you do. I know you do. We've learned a lot from each other.
Yes.
Okay, but before we move any, you.
Learn more than from me, honey.
You've learned a lot from me. I've. I've. You. My tutelage. You've. I've raised you.
I learned. I learned so many things that I don't like lingerie, hand jobs, women that drink wine.
I've molded you. You were like a lump of clay when I met you.
You made me realize all the things I hate about women. And I. And I like to thank you for that.
That was not my goal. That was not my intention. Oh, no, you were just this little kid. I mean, I could tell stories about Menace when I first met him, but I won't. Can I say one thing that's gonna embarrass you right now?
Go ahead.
When we started the show five years ago, Menace, I remember you not knowing what cunnilingus was.
I thought, she isn't she like, work with George Bush or something like that?
Cunnilinga's rice, right?
He was like, we can't say that on the air. I'm like, it's cunnilinga. It's oral sex, people.
Yeah, but I didn't know if that was a medical term or not because, see, you're very sneaky. See, the thing is, like, we were on terrestrial radio when we first got together, and I was the guy that controlled the dub bun because I was the Guy that would save us from the FCC and getting fined. So here's, you know, Emily asking why we can't say blowjob on the radio. Because FCC doesn't like blowjob on the radio.
Right.
And then so Emily would come up.
With, like these crazy slang terms that I. Fellatio crazy.
That I didn't know before. And I didn't know if it was safe to say it on the radio. So to be safe, I would hit the dump button. Sorry, people. I don't want to get sued for millions of dollars. Okay.
Yeah. All right. Okay. Good story.
You always give me crap about that.
I'm like, so cute.
Because you never read the FCC manual.
Yes, I did. I had to take those exams online.
Yeah, you just clicked the buttons and you never read it.
You're right. That's true. I didn't read it, but I did pass. Okay, so today's show, this is a shorter show and we are going. This is just straightforward sex tips because it's obviously sex with Emily, and I just feel like I want to just get into some, like, hardcore. Just. Just give you some tips. Just straight. I got little bitty tips here. We're just going to run through them and also if you want to. But first, I got to give a shout out to our sponsor, tune up media. Tune up media is the number one selling plugin for itunes and windows media player. It offers must have digital music management and music discovery features. So you know, like your itunes, how it's all messed up. I assume that everyone's itunes is mislabeled like mine. It has those annoying track 01s, those unknown artist. You have band spelled five different ways. Tune up goes in and it literally just cleans up all your itunes and it's all neat and perfect and it all just looks beautiful and it's uniform and you would love it. You will love tuneup. And what I want to say is that you can try tune up for free by downloading tune up lite. And once you see what it does to your music library, you're going to want to get 20% off tune up gold with promo code. Sex with Emily. You get 20 off tune of gold. You got to use sex with Emily, your promo and code and you will love it. It'll change your life. Now for some sex tips.
Oh, really? What are you gonna teach me today?
You're making me feel like I. I feel like I. I am just playing with you. Okay.
Don't get all butt hurt.
Okay? Butt hurt?
Yeah.
Is that a sexual thing?
Yes, it is a sexual thing.
I hope I get butt hurt sometime.
Maybe you'll get butt hurt tonight.
Maybe tonight I'll get butt hurt. Probably not.
Well, you know. Enough martinis. Maybe.
I love martinis. Do you know that I drink martinis? Are you just saying that because a lot of chicks drink martinis?
I know that you drink martinis.
We've never drank together. That's not true. We have. Once. You tried to kiss me once.
No, I didn't.
Yes, you did. I just had a flashback.
I didn't try the Christmas party.
You kind of did.
What Christmas party?
Exactly. It was like five years ago.
Are you talking about the. The cb?
Yes.
No, I never tried.
I kind of did.
What are you talking about?
I think you did. I just had a flashback of me driving you and you were like, hey, you were drunk. Are you.
You're medically insane.
Maybe.
Because.
That is a separate fact. That is a separate.
Did not happen.
Okay, whatever. Maybe he didn't. Maybe that was someone else.
It probably was.
Okay, ready? Sex tips. Sex isn't a race, so take time to explore her. Focus on her thighs and lower belly. Make a mental circle two inches around the outside of her vagina. And don't cross the line while you kiss, lick and caress. Okay, we've talked about this before. Don't go right for the jewel. Spend the time on the outside. Okay. Just do it. Okay. Make a fantasy lottery. Both you and your lady. Write five sexual fantasies down on five separate notebook cards. Then head to a restaurant where you can get a booth and some privacy in a public setting. Over dinner and wine. Pull out the cards and make three piles. Yes, maybe someday and not in your life. Put the possibles in a shoebox and once a month, pull out a winner. I just think couples need to talk about their fantasies.
Why do I have to go all the way to the restaurant to make the notes?
You.
It's just. We're just saying that you could, but you don't have to go there. I'm just saying that couples.
I think that part's unnecessary and cost.
Me money, especially if I got to make a reservation.
Yes.
Listen, couples have been together for years and they don't talk about their fantasies. Yeah, and a lot of women don't know what their fantasies are. And they don't. That's how you're going to enhance your sex life, is you're going to talk about fantasies. So if you got to write it down and make a piece of it.
What about if a guy had a fantasy? He said he Says, I want you to masturbate me with your feet like a monkey. Would you do it? I'm just throwing it out there.
Judge make monkey.
He wrote it on his little post it note that he put in the shoebox.
Do I have to have to make monkey noise?
Like maybe.
Really?
Maybe. I just want to see which one you're open to.
I'm open.
You're open. Okay, cool.
Yeah. I'm curious about the noises and I don't know. Okay.
Ready? Give her the perfect compliment. Oh, God.
This is never gonna happen.
The best compliments are the ones that involve multiple senses. You have beautiful breasts. Is nice. However, you have beautiful breasts. They feel so soft and warm in my hands. Is much more intimate. Oh, intimate. Intimate. We all want intimacy. The women want intimacy. Okay. All right. Give her a voice to increase clitoral contact. When she's on top, make a V with two fingers and place it so the point of the V just between the two knuckles. I'm trying to do this here. Is directly over her clitoris. Your finger should come down on either side of your penis as she rides you. So this is when you're having sex. This will stimulate the clitoris, inner labia, and urethra as well as add intensity for you. Do you get it? Kind of.
Yeah.
You're like, yeah, whatever. I'm not doing it.
No, you're just giving me like the peace sign, like you're Richard Nixon or something.
Okay.
Keep contact indirect. The nerve packed clitoris actually extends several inches under the skin on either side of her vagina like a wishbone, which means you can massage it without direct pressure to the bud. Because guys go right for the bud. They're like, there's a clitoris that doesn't feel good. Trace the extensions with flat, wide, extra wet tongue strokes or slow finger zigzags. Don't forget lube. Then rub a slow spiral around the top, drawing closer with each pass. The combo of anticipation and indirect contact will bring her pleasure centers to life.
That's what I do.
No, you don't.
I'm just kidding.
You should.
I need a diagram on that one.
Well, it's just we're saying don't go right for the bud. We're saying don't go right for the clitoris. Go rub the areas outside of it.
Yeah.
Do you get it?
Yeah, I do. I get it. You should give me the hand motions and everything and show me how to do it.
Yeah, that's good. Call her within 48 hours. A beautiful woman gave you her number. Use it within 48 hours. Otherwise you look scared or stupid for resorting to high school mindset.
I thought it was the three day rule.
Now it's two day rule.
It's two day now.
Yeah. I think two day you met a girl you like or you asked for a number. Just call her. Yeah, that's something we talked about in.
Last show, is that you call her within five minutes.
Don't call her within five minutes. I think you should text her psychotic pictures. And then with your penis. One with your.
Why do guys do that? Why do the guys text pictures of the wiener? Why do you go? Have you ever been to the roulette? It's the. I forget. It's like webcam roulette or something like that. And if you go there, you're supposed to like just click it and you have your webcam on and then you'll just go and another person will pop up and can just talk to them.
Oh, roulette. Chat roulette.
Chat roulette, yeah. But chat roulette sucks because every single other person is a wiener.
Guys just like showing their wieners the whole time.
Oh, really?
That's what they do on chat roulette?
Yeah, it's just a wiener fest the entire time.
I'm never gonna do that.
No, it's not fun. You can't talk to a wiener.
No, you can't talk to a wiener. And you don't want to see a random penis that you don't know. Like, a penis is a nice thing when you know who it's attached to. But if it's just a random penis, like a woman's breasts, I think are beautiful to look at a woman's body, even if you don't know who it is. But just a penis sitting there in the middle of the wilderness.
Yeah, just a trunk out there by itself.
Just a trunk. No, thank you. Put your penis away. Okay, another tip here. This is my favorite one because this is something that I've been dealing with and it's really important. This isn't necessarily trunk. No, this is a separate. I'm moving along here with sex tips. You're talking about penises. And Chatroulette flatter her five times a day.
Oh, my God. Are you compliments?
Yeah, dude, I know you always talk about. That number is low. Low.
Are you serious? Five times a day?
Ten times a day. But I'm gonna say five. Compliment her at least five times a day. It'll make her feel special, appreciated, and closer to you. And the more connected she feels, the more Sexually inspired. She'll feel.
No way.
I've talked about this with my girlfriends a lot. That, like, I can't be told enough. And this is gonna sound like I've got some ego problems or like, I need to be like, I'm insecure and whatever. No, I think I'm attractive. I know that men find me, like, guys I'm with. They think I'm attractive. I want to hear it when I walk in the door. Be like, you look hot, baby, or, you look sexy, or, I love your whatever. Like, I like how you do that. We women want to be told that we're beautiful and attractive and that you find us desirable all the frigging time. So five times a day is fine. Ten times is better.
No way.
Women. Men don't do it because they're like, she knows, and she's gonna get a big head. No, no, no. We're gonna like you more if you compliment us.
No, you're gonna walk all over us more when I compliment us.
You're so wrong with this that I'm telling you because I was having this issue in a relationship that I was in, and I was like, I don't even know if this guy likes me. Like, does he like me? He's never told me I'm hot. He's never told me that he's attracted to me. And I didn't even know if he liked me or not. And I. So I polled my girlfriends. I was like, don't you want to be told that you're hot or tactive? They're like, all the freaking time. They're like, 20 times a day. I swear to God. There's not one woman that I asked, so medicine. You can be.
No, they just start. Women start using that to their advantage.
I'm not saying, like, mean their advantage.
Advantage, meaning that they start taking you for granted.
Dude, separate issues. Not true.
How's that not true?
Oh, he thinks I'm so hot. So therefore, I'm not gonna. What?
I'm just gonna.
Oh, I know.
I. I have him.
You're wrong.
I have them in the back of my pocket.
You know, honey, this is exactly what I'm trying.
They shouldn't do that.
They absolutely should. Women don't. We don't.
I'm not saying they should never do it, but ten times a day is ridiculous.
So five. I said five times a day.
Ridiculous, too.
Honey, when you're with someone that you like, don't you just walk in the door and you're like, you look sexy, baby.
I. I Don't say it five times a day. Maybe once every other couple days.
No, no. But not. Not the same.
And I don't say baby either, by the way.
Not the same compliment. It could just be like, oh, you look hotter. You know you look. That's so funny. Or I. Or things that you like about them. Like, you know, I really attracted to you.
I think you're talking about a fantasy world. We're talking about Disney and everyone's in love and there's princesses and a prince and everyone's lovey dovey and you're so beautiful in that dress. That's not the real world.
Yeah, it is. Yeah, it is. Yeah, it is. It's not. We just. We just want to feel desired. We want to know that you find us attractive. I'm not going to argue with you. That I can't even believe. Just take.
No, it's called the. It's called the game and it sucks. And I hate the game.
It's not a game. We want to feel desired and we want to feel attractive. I know you want to know that you find us attractive.
I know you do. And yeah, I totally agree with you. But I'm just saying it's. It's not going to work to the fellow's advantage, that's all.
You're so wrong. I'm going to have to.
Last question. We're going to have to agree to disagree.
Fine. Okay, next sex tip here and then we'll wrap up. We got two more. Start sex in a new place. Start sex outside the bedroom. The same old place leads to the same old pattern. So explore some new erogenous areas. The kitchen, the bathroom, Quebec City. Your bodies will be in new places, making it unlikely that you'll follow old routines. This is just for couples who've been together. Just have sex in another room. Have sex in the car, have sex in the.
In the limousine, in the limo.
Have you ever had sex in limo? Yes. Me too.
Yeah.
No way.
Was that you?
I don't think so.
No, we'd remember.
It was Ms. Latina.
Somebody emailed me. Someone tweeted me, you can find me at text with Emily on Twitter. And they were like, did you give Menace that hand job yet? Did you see. Did you.
Oh, yeah, I saw that today.
Right. Which I didn't.
No, there was no hand job.
Giving.
But okay, let's always. I always forget the spot you say a crazy spot that you had sex with.
The craziest spot that I've ever had sex. Yeah, I'd have to Say on the chairlift, on the gondola, the.
Oh, yeah, okay. Yes.
In California ski place. Like, we were up in the mountain section. The mountains.
That's cool.
That was pretty cool. And then one time on the ice, like, on a pond that was frozen, but my butt got really cold.
Yeah.
What about you?
I think the craziest time was there was this giant, like, concert venue, like, 22,000 people, and I was backstage. But it wasn't a concert. It was a comedy show. Like, a giant comedy show.
Okay.
With like, 15 comics. And David Alan Grier was there. You might know him. Like, I think the most notable. He's done a bunch of movies and stuff like that. He was on early, so he left. And he left his dressing room. So I just, like, got in his dressing room with some other chick, and I locked up the dressing room and hooked over there and. But that was the same chick that I hooked up with on the way back and in the. The limousine, too.
Yeah, it was a twofer.
Wow, that's awesome. I had sex. I just remember this. I totally space at Coachella music festival backstage.
No way.
Yeah.
I swear to God.
Backstage. But, like, back in the.
Beyond, the backstage. Like, where it comes up against the woods.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Like, in the woods.
I'm going to Coachella this year. You're gonna have to give me a.
Map of where I had sex.
I don't remember.
I was a little effed up.
Nice. Was Wilco Wilco playing? Because I know you love Wilco.
I love Wilco. I don't think they were playing that. Okay, here's another sex tip, and then we'll. Okay. Give her a proper warm up. Clitoral contact, in particular, feels abrasive without a proper warmup. If a woman yips or inhales suddenly when you go there, instead of purring or moaning, you've jumped the gun. Give her a proper warm up. All right, that's a lot of clitoral talk, but it's all really important. Okay, everyone.
Are you. You seem upset with me now that I didn't agree with you on everything.
Well, because I think that you are. Because I think you're wrong.
Okay.
No, I'm not upset at all. I love you. I'm not upset. I just think the compliment thing. I know because I've done polls. I've. I've.
You've done polls, huh?
Yeah. Informal.
How many polls have you done?
Informal polls. Because I was having this issue, and I asked my friends, I was like, don't you want a guy to be like, you're amazing, you're this, you're that. It sounds like it's an ego thing, but it's just like we want to feel loved and adored since the beginning of time.
I understand that.
Send me a letter that you guys.
Don'T feel that way.
We do. And you think, oh, then she's gonna think she's got me around her finger. And that's your own issue. Okay, let's not talk about my own issue. I'm gonna have last word on it.
Fine, go ahead. I'm not gonna fight you on it.
I feel like you're my brother. Like, he'd be like, not it. Last word. Touch to last. Okay everyone, thanks so much for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.
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