7 Dec 2025 · 64 min
Emily Morse and co-hosts Michael and Menace discuss oral sex techniques and sexual wellness products like Bathmate pumps. They cover Emily's new skincare brand and her recent TV appearances in a casual, conversational format.
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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.
Our sacred Institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day.
Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cuz my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.
A girl's gotta have her standards.
Oh my.
Do women know about shrinkage?
Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.
Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?
Oh my God, I feel so good. Being bad feels pretty good.
But you know, Emily's not the kind.
Of girl you just play with.
You're listening. How's it gonna pick up for you?
We're talking about sex, relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where your sex life will improve just by going to sex with Emily. And it happens all the time. We love hearing from everybody@feedbackexonemily.com. or you can just easily email me right through the website. We are here to make your sex life and your relationships better. That's our purpose on the planet. That's why. Right, Menace?
Yeah. You almost missed your cue. So I was like, what?
I know. I was just talking to Kelsey for a second. Okay. I'm here though, and it's. It's Friday, so. Happy Friday, everybody.
You hear and you're stressed.
I'm a little anxious. Just because you have to catch a flight. I have to catch a flight. Going to la. Recording the Doctors TV show.
Yeah.
I'm not sure when it's gonna air. I'll have to let everyone know. But I'm going on the Doctors to talk about 50 shades of gray.
That's awesome.
Yeah, so that'll be fun. And gonna see my agents and my LA peeps and it's 90 degrees there and I'm very happy about it. I'm excited. What are you gonna do?
What is going on in your life?
Oh my God, it's been crazy since we had the misadvised finale on Monday night.
Yeah.
Ms. Advised is the show. I've been on Bravo Television and that has been exciting and sad. Kind of bittersweet.
I know it was.
I'm sad that it's over.
Yeah.
But I think we're gonna get a season. The ratings were great.
Yeah, well, I mean, you don't wanna knock on wood.
Knock on wood. Whatevs.
Whatever. Something happens, it happens.
Yeah.
But feel free to tweet Bravo if you guys are listening and say that you want a season two of misadvice.
Yes. @ Bravo TV and at Bravoandy and say we love Emily, we want a season two. That's all you gotta do. And you can also tweet me examily. And menace is.
Ytmenace. Yeah, a lot of. A lot of Sex with Emily. Listeners hit me up on the.
Twitter. What do they.
Say? They just joke. They just like, quote me on a bunch of things that I say because, you know, I say a bunch of ridiculous things on the.
Show. Right. Like always. That's what I count on you for, the ridiculousness of it all. So you finally watched the finale.
Episode. Yeah, it was just a day.
Later.
Right. And I watched it and it was.
Awkward. It was.
Awkward. It was.
Weird. Yeah, it kind of make. It took a turn.
Huh? It was.
It threw me for a.
Loop. Yeah, it was confusing.
Right. Can we explain what happened? So the episode before that, it was you and the guy that you were going right out with to this. They were all at this, like, bar and we're talking, and then this guy brings up he wants to take you to Napa. So that's where the last episode picks.
Up. Exactly. You and Napa with this going to.
Napa. And then you have this dinner and you go on this wine tour and you're all lovey dovey. But then the conversations just start getting weirder and.
Weirder.
Right. And then the next day you wake up because you went to bed, supposedly did not have sex, fully clothed, wake up the next day, and then you're at this very obscure, like, brunch, and the most odd conversation happens. Can you break it down for.
Me? I'm gonna break it down for you. Yeah. Okay. So we're sitting there and so what happened was we drank a lot. We were drinking a Napa. Of course. So that's what you do. And we woke up in the morning and we were having breakfast, and he started to talk to me about the fact that we're not supposed to be monogamous. And then he said something about, yeah, you know, strange puss. Like that's what everyone's after is strange puss. And then he said something to the effect of I can't even remember now, but just like, let's not talk about this anymore. I don't want to. Really. I don't remember what it was. And then it just turned out. And then he's like, well, let's just talk about sports. And I'm like, I hate sports. And it just turned awkward because he was like, if I'd slept. Oh, here was the kicker. If we had slept together, I probably wouldn't be sitting here right now, meaning that if we had slept together, he would already have left or. And he said, don't most guys want to just leave after they have sex? And I said to him, no, most guys want to have sex again, which has been my experience. I haven't had any guys leave my bed. Let's just say that. All right. And then it.
Ends. Yeah, but do you think that was a fair representation of that conversation? You know, do you think it was that? It.
Was. It was a longer conversation. Obviously.
It's. It's.
Obscure. It was. It was edited, obviously. It was an hour long breakfast. That was for five minutes. But I. And I like David. I think he's a really good guy. I just think some of the comments weren't. Weren't great. But I think that I, you know, kind of dodged a bullet. I'm not gonna start. Who am I to get in a long distance relationship right now anyway? He's not my guy, and I feel good about.
It. Well, who are you to get into a.
Relationship? I'm not loving relationships. I can't. It's so much, so much. Takes so much time, and I'm so.
Busy. They want to hang out with me all the.
Time. I know, I know. They always want to hang out every day. What? Who set that rule? Like, who. Who made that the thing that if you're dating someone, you should try to spend as much time together? I think that's what kills those.
Relationships. You want to be with each other. You want to hang.
Out. No, you don't. You do for the first six months, and then it becomes a habit. And then you're together every day, and then you stop having sex. I think you need little breaks. You shouldn't see each other every single day. Like, I don't know, I mean, maybe you're living together. I get. If you're married, but at the beginning, whatever. So that's just my thing lately with relationships. But today's show, I'm gonna tell you what we're talking about. We've got fellatio tips to the people from the people. We had a contest sponsored by Masque. M A S Q U E. Your masque. We're gonna be talking to Michael, who invented Masque. They're basically like these Listerine strips that mask the taste of semen. So we're gonna get into that more later. But anyway, we asked people, what is your best oral sex tips for fellatio? We did. Last week we did cunnilingus tips. So these are some tips from the people. And then we're also gonna Talk about facts. 10 facts about orgasms that you did not know. And I found them to be quite fascinating. And then we're gonna read the emails from the people, get a little sex of the news if we've got time, and just have some good old time. But first, I gotta give a shout out to our sponsor, Adam and Eve. Adam and eve. You get 50% off most items. And for a limited time, you can pick three adult DVDs with your order. Use coupon code Emily at checkout. And if you've never had a sex toy, it's a great, great site to go to. And they have good prices. And you can buy yourself something. You can buy something for your partner, like a rabbit or a pocket rocket or there's so many different sex toys. Just figure out, you know, it's a great gift. And you can buy DVDs, lingerie, all that stuff. So check out Adam and Eve to.
And do that. Use coupon code Emily. Okay, so we can. What else? What are you doing this.
Weekend? I am going to the Outside Lands Music.
Festival. It's this.
Weekend. San Francisco?
Yes. Outside Lands is this.
Weekend? Yeah. What the hell? Oh, you usually go all VIP on.
That.
Yeah. Wait a minute. It's this.
Weekend? It's this.
Weekend. I'm gonna be in la. I get back Saturday. When does it.
Starts? Friday. Friday, Saturday.
Today. Okay. How did I not. How did I miss this? Like, usually I'm. Who's the big headline? It's a great concert we have in our.
Park. Yeah. It's basically like Lollapalooza in Chicago. Oh.
Yeah. Are you working.
It? Yeah, I'm working. I gotta do interviews. I can't get you in Sunday. Sorry. I can't get you in. They have like a.
Whole. I know the deal. I've gotten in for free every.
Year. Okay, good luck. This year they changed up the whole.
Wristbands. F. The.
Wristband.
Yeah.
Okay. Do you know who I am? I am Emily. I am on Bravo Television. Let me.
In. Yeah, let me in. Let me in. What is the problem? I love that show, but they.
Have. This year they have Stevie Wonder, the Foo Fighters, Jack White, Beck.
Justice. They have. It's just like a ridiculous.
Lineup.
Fun. So you're gonna be working Black Keys. I think too will be there. Yeah, I'll be there. I have to do some interviews on.
Friday. That sounds like a good time.
Menace. It should be.
Good. Maybe you'll meet some nice.
Chicks. Maybe. Or maybe I'll be working and not caring about that kind of.
Stuff. Oh, but I think that people will come up to you and stuff because you're so.
Cute. I'm gonna be.
Backstage. Okay, forget it then. And then. Yeah, well, I'm just gonna go to LA for a few days and then I'll come back and crash the. I'll throw your name around and see if I can get in to the show. Okay, so let's. We can start with a little sex in the news and then we're make our call to our special phone call about oral sex. So there is sex the news Free vibrator alert special. Hot dog carts hit Manhattan. So New Yorkers are constantly being given free food on the street. But what about free vibrators? Now there are hot dog carts decked out with slogans like get your vibes here and relish the moment. Get it like relish like hot dog. Trojan will be handing out 5,000 of its Triforia sex toys. A retail value of 40 and another 5,000 of its Pulse toys. It's the biggest vibrator handout in history. Okay, so that's the section the news story I got first. But the second one is that it was cock blocked in the Flatiron district. It went terribly wrong after they launched it today. And minutes after give the giveaway, a representative armed with a clipboard said the mayor's office is closing them down. Why are people so anti vibrator? Half of all Americans have owned a vibrator. That's what studies.
Show.
Vibrators are.
Scary. Oh, they're not to males. Have you really never been with one turned like you've never been with a woman who used a.
Vibrator? Not when we're having sex, no. It's a really fun addition brought into. Yeah. For.
You. For me it's good times. And it feels good on the man's penis. Some men like the vibration on their penis. I'm just saying. But that's how I feel about that. Okay. You can't hand out unauthorized condoms in the Olympic.
Village.
Really? Yeah. Olympic authorities are investigating a bucket of unapproved non sponsor condoms found in the.
Village. Oh, that's.
Nice. Unapproved condoms. Kangaroo condoms from the gland down under. Thousands of athletes from around the world living the. Have you been reading all this about all the sex.
Happening? I have not. That's going down at the.
Olympics. Yeah. With all the people there at the Olympics had lots of sex. They're ban. Yeah, they're banging. When you. It's kind of exciting. I haven't watched any of it of Course. Have.
You? Yes. Watched it a little.
Bit. How do you have time to work and watch.
Tv? I put a television on while I'm.
Working. Oh, in your.
Office? In my office and at.
Home. That's smart. Yeah, that's really, really.
Smart. Let's keep it on in the background so I know what's going on in the.
World. I need to start doing.
That. Yeah. I watched Michael Phelps swim and become the biggest gold. He won all the gold medals ever and all that kind of.
Stuff.
Wow. What's wrong with me today? It's.
Friday. I'm.
Tired. Because you got a new radio show. If you guys are in San Francisco, listen to menace on Live 105 Monday through Friday. From what time to what.
Time? 6am to 10am.
Yeah. It's too bad I don't get up till 10, but I swear to God, I would try to.
Listen. Thank you. It's not about.
Banging. It's not about.
Sex. It's not about.
Sex. Is it hard for you not to talk about orgasms on the.
Radio? I think I get enough of that with.
You. I love that you got your new show. I'm very proud of you. I want everyone to listen to Menace's show and. Okay, let's call our.
Guest. We.
Should. Okay. This is Michael from youm Mask.
Hello.
Hello. Oh, hold.
On. He sounds like he's outside lands already this.
Weekend. Hi, Michael. It's Emily Menis from Sex with.
Emily. Hey, Emily. How are.
You? I'm good. How are.
You? I am doing wonderfully. Sorry about that. I just had to dash from a little dinner I was telling you.
About. Oh, I know. Well, thank you for stepping out to talk to.
Us. We are so. I'm so excited to talk to you.
Today. I know. We're happy to talk to you because we, you know, you guys sponsored a contest we did with asking people for oral sex tips, fellatio tips and cunnilingus tips. Last week we did the cunnilingus. Now we're doing the fellatio. We got hundreds of responses from people and we're gonna pick some of the winners. It's so great. And I was just. I be talking about Mask all the time, but how did you come up with the idea of creating.
Mask? Actually, I'll be honest. It was indeed. We had a founder of Splendor who. The story is actually kind of cute. Three couples in their mid-50s at dinner one night and they have had a few drinks. They start talking about sex, as people tend to do. And one of the men turns to his wife and says, how come you don't perform oral sex on me anymore? And she said, it tastes terrible.
They get into this conversation, and he leaves. The gentleman who came up with the idea was, if you can make it taste like chocolate syrup, I'm back in the game. And so we spent the last two and a half years trying to make it taste like puppies. Chocolate.
Syrup. Right. I love it. I always say it's like. It's like oral sex. It's like. Tastes like a milkshake or something, is what I say. Yeah, exactly. It's chocolate. It's strawberry, mango, watermelon, chocolate. So what's the response been? Like, I'm sure you've probably heard from people who are like, oh, my God, my wife never would perform oral sex, and now she won't stop because I taste like a milkshake or.
Whatever.
Right? And we love that. You know, a lot of people look at it and think it's just a bunch of guys that have created this product, that they get it more. But what. What we love to hear is we get a lot of emails from both sides of the couple. He'll say, oh, my go, this is the greatest thing in the world. She's doing it and everything. But then she'll tell us, you know, a week later, oh, my gosh, he's back in the game. He sent me flowers for the first time in five years. Or, you know, and she says, I can't say it's all about masks, but I have a feeling it's a lot about.
Masks. Right, Exactly. That's what I think. I think that they're awesome. I think it's a. It's a great idea. Because, I mean, okay, what do you think about this? Do you hear this, Michael? That women. I don't know if this is like an urban legend, but I kind of think there's some truth to it, that once you get married, women stop performing oral.
Sex.
What do they say when the ring goes on? They're.
Done.
Yeah. We have talked to, you know, we've obviously marked down a thousand people. The record for me for a married couple is that I've personally spoken to is 14.
Years. 14 years that.
They. Since she's done it at.
All. Oh, my.
God. But I thought I talked to hundreds of couples where it's mostly a birthday slash anniversary type thing. And most of it, you know, again, the goal of this, you know, some people look at mask and they think, oh, it's all about swallowing. Of course, it's not the biggest Problems that they have is kind of during the act. His act of lubrication, his, you know, Seminole release during the act is where the bad flavor comes. So it's not all about the end result. It's about just making it better for both parties. Of.
Course. Right, Exactly. I think that's cool that you've heard from all these people. I mean, I think. I think it's a great product. So we've got. We are trying to pick out the winners here, and I thought maybe you could.
Help. I'd love.
To. Okay, so here's some of the ones that we've got so many here. So, okay, I'll read you a few, and you can pick which one you like. So. And Menace always says. He's sitting here. He always says that I give a lot of oral sex tips on the show. And he always says a woman shouldn't be giving oral sex tips because guys know better their own penis, blah, blah, blah. But I still think I know how to do it pretty.
Well. Gay guys should be teaching people on how to give oral.
Sex. That's what Menace thinks, the gay men. But these are what the people said. Okay, here's one. Make sure there's lots of lubrication. Don't just bob it in and out of your mouth. Mind the teeth. And use a little tongue swirling around the tip, a little bit of licking down the shaft. Suck on it like it's the best damn lollipop you ever had. Use hand movements up and down the shaft. Don't forget to lick, kiss, and even suck a little bit. Fondle them. Fondle the balls gently in your hand. That's one we have as a possible.
Winner.
Yes. That kind of covered a.
Lot. It certainly does. It certainly.
Does. Okay, so then we got. While performing oral sex, you can add chocolate body paint, squirty cream or ice cream. Then spend time licking and sucking it off. Or try flavored lubricant. And I was thinking here, insert. Try flavored mask.
Strip. Yes. Yes. There you go. I was gonna say the ice cream may hurt the mask a little bit, but. Yeah, no, I like that one a lot as well. I think I'd still go with the first one just because it was so.
Compreh. Okay, well, here's a better. Here's another one. Here's a third one that I'm just. These are the three that we thought. Okay. Always play with the tip with your mouth and tongue. That's where they're most sensitive. While one hand. While one hand plays with him and the other Hand is playing with his balls. The wetter the better. And suck, kiss and lick every part of him. Not missing anything. I've never had a.
Complaint. That's pretty darn good, too. I've got an idea. Okay, we think all three winners and we'll send some more stuff out to the other.
Two. That's awesome. That is awesome. They're all winners. Then everyone's a winner. We're going to read more of.
Them. Everyone's a.
Winner. Everyone's a winner. That's good. We love all of our mask stuff. We wear mask T shirts and the pens and our whole office is like masks stuff all over.
It. I love.
It. We will put together some great swag bags with a lot of product for them and send a bunch of samples so they can share with their friends as.
Well. That is great. I think it's a great thing to share. We've actually eaten them during the show. Haven't we tried them during the show.
Menace? Yes.
Delicious. And you loved every moment of it. So anything else that we need to know, Michael? Anything else about anything else? New products coming out or excited? Exc. Exciting things.
Happening. Well, for your global customers, we are about to sign a deal for European distribution. And then tomorrow I leave for a few days in Los Angeles and then I'm headed to Hong Kong to start negotiating for Asian.
Distribution. Oh, that's great. I love it. We have a lot of international listeners, actually, so everyone can get.
In. I know, I know. It's exciting. And so we'll be in Australia, New Zealand, and some areas of Asia, hopefully within about 60.
Days. Okay. I think you'll do well in Australia. We hear from a lot of Australians, they love the.
Sex. Oh, yeah. We actually get a lot of people that will pay to order it to be shipped from the US To.
Australia. So that is really cool. Okay, well, thank you so much, Michael. I'm going to let you get back to your party. We love your mask. It's sexual flavors dot.
Com.
Thank you, Emily, so much. We love. We love our relationship with.
You. I know. It's been really fun. Have a great dinner party. Talk to you soon. Okay, you too. Bye, Michael.
There you go. Now we can get to some more of the oral sex tips. We already picked some winners, but I think. And these are from the people Menace. So you can't say that they're from me. And I'm not giving you.
Good.
Okay. Okay, go ahead. Okay, so. Oh, here's one. First one. As a gay man, I can say a little tongue swirl around the head gets them going. So you respect that tip because it's from a gay.
Man. Yeah. A guy knows what it feels.
Like. Okay. You can't neglect the balls. Oh, this is another one. You can't neglect the balls. Always use a little hand motion and keep it wet from the base up. And show them. Show them love to the tip. What do you think about the.
Tip?
I think you should just get the job.
Done. What do you mean? Give me your best.
Tip. No, the job. I mean, don't, like, play around with it, you know, talk to it like it's a microphone or something like that. Just don't do any of that kind of. When you're trying to be sexy and go super.
Slow. Do you laugh at women in their face when they do stuff like.
That? I hold it in. I hold it in because I want them.
To. But aren't you just happy they're, like, sucking on your penis that.
You. Yeah, I am. But you know what? I'm not impressed by you trying to act super sexy. Not. I think it's.
Ridiculous. I don't know what you're talking about, but I think a lot of guys. I've heard that my best oral sex tips for women is to be enthusiastic. So you want to look. You want to be into it. You want to look like you are eating a lollipop, sucking on a lollipop. You want to be enthusiastic. And it is a little bit about technique because you want it to keep it wet. You want to keep your mouth going. But you also have to learn. Every guy likes it a little differently. Different. So it's passion, it's enthusiasm, technique, and how. And another guy told me this. He said how she looks when she's doing it. That's another tip. That she's got to look good when she's doing.
It.
Yeah. Cause you're visual and you're.
Watching.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah. Are your eyes closed? You're not.
Watching? No, no, no. Yeah, no. She has to look good when she's doing it. Yeah, that's good. But not, you know, again, just trying to take your time with it and all that stuff. Guys just want you to complete the job, you.
Know? Right. Okay, fine. All right, here's some more tips from the.
People. All.
Right? I've always found when giving a BJ on a guy, stick with what they like. No guy wants you to surprise him. At least the guys I've known be consistent with the stuff they like, and they'll enjoy it more. All right? So be consistent what they like. How do you find out what they like? Do you ever verbally tell a woman, like, you know what? Slow down. Go faster, go slower. I think it's in the guy's duty to. It's the guy's man's duty to tell instruct if it's not going well.
Like if a blowjob is going.
South. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You gotta stop.
It. You gotta stop it and say, no, go faster, go slower, slow down. I've had guys say that very rarely, but I do get feedback. Okay, this one tip just says swallow. How do you feel about.
That? I totally agree with.
That. What if they don't.
Swallow? I mean, it's not gonna hurt my.
Feelings. No, you won't be.
Offended. No, but I mean, if you really love me, then you will.
Swallow. Oh, that's not true. Some women don't like it, but if they had a mask strip on their tongue, they might not care because it masks the taste of semen. Get it? Okay. A lot of tongue work and a little nibbling always works.
You probably wouldn't like the nibbling. You always say nibbling. No.
No. Okay, guys call it.
Grazing. I think some guys like nibbling. Okay, here's another one. Eye contact when you're sucking. And make sure those eyes are filled with emotions. Lust, hunger. Or play it coy if you're role playing. Guys like eye.
Contact. Yeah, they.
Do. Okay. And then there's the next one. Eye contact. Also, use hands simultaneously and don't actually blow. I think women might think that you're really supposed to.
Blow. Yeah, yeah, don't.
Blow. Didn't you have that happen to you once? Was that.
You? Not me. The funniest thing I've ever heard with one of my buddies is a girl threw up on his. On his.
Weenies. Oh.
That'S. And it's funny because I brought that up and some other guy in a group of friends was like, oh, I had that happen to me.
Too. Right. When you're drinking too much, you're.
Drinking too much, and then they gag and throw.
Up. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. That is awful. But I'm sure that happens all the time, especially in college.
Campuses.
Yeah. Yeah. I've never thrown up from drinking, so I can guarantee you I've never thrown up on a man's.
Face. Never thrown up from.
Drinking. Not once in my entire.
Life. Then you.
Never. I've never gotten. I never know I've gotten drunk, but I've never. I have something. I'm. A fear of. A fear of throwing.
Up. You should Drink this drink called Cisco. It definitely would be a drink that would make you throw.
Up. I don't want to drink it. But you know what I like. I was. It's.
What? It's.
Wine. Oh.
Really?
Yeah. I don't want to throw up. I mean, I've gone this far, but without throwing up. But you know what made me reminiscent Reminisce? When we were watching the Ms. Advise episode last episode or two episodes ago when we were having our panty dropper drinks.
Together. I.
Know. At the Dubliner, and it's a bar in San Francisco, and we never go out for drinks anymore. And I liked. I was drunk that.
Night. You're always out of.
Town. You're a superstar now. I had. I had two panty droppers that night. What's in them.
Again? It.
Is. I kind of want to order them when I go.
Out.
Lemon. It really is a panty dropper. Because I'm a really bad drinker. Like, I can't. Not that my panties dropped for you that night or anything, but I think that it was something that very rarely do I find a drink that I can actually drink. Yeah, I don't like the taste of most alcohol. I had two of them, no problem. So I think that's a tried and true thing, and we should bottle.
It. All.
Right. Okay. So. All right. Give it. Okay, here's some more oral sex.
Tips.
Okay. Give it all attention from tip to balls. And don't just go for the big O, but savor the time down there and make it last for him. Okay, next one. Don't be afraid to explore. Stroke, lick and suck on his balls, thighs, tummy, ass. Use your fingers at the same time using your mouth. Make it messy sometimes. He'll appreciate that you're more concerned with his pleasure than the drool. People are really graphic here. Use your hand. Find a rhythm. The wetter the better.
Use hands with a good grip. Twist as you approach the head. And don't forget the wetter the better. Nice and sloppy. Everyone says that it should be really.
Wet. I believe.
So. You don't want it dry like sandpaper. Tongue going up and down. Ah, that would be.
Bad. Yeah.
Yeah. Okay, lick front to back and suck the area between aggressively as you stroke the shaft and insert a finger into the.
Anus. Into the.
Anus. That's what these are from the.
People.
Our people are pretty.
Freaky. No, they're not. Our people are pretty mainstream, I think. Okay, don't get boring. Get dirty and enjoy it. Lick and suck the balls and make Eye contact. Eye contact. I've always heard that you gotta make eye contact, and sometimes I forget you need to do that. Okay. Suck like you're sucking on a straw. Creates just enough.
Suction.
Mm. What about that tip? Okay. Those are all the tips we're gonna read. You're not even engaging with.
Me. What I'm engaging is it's about.
Penises, and you don't want to hear about penises besides your.
Own. No, I'm just, like. I'm just taking in all the tips that they're.
Saying. I know. I love hearing from everyone. And we have a new. We have a new. What'd you.
Say? They're not my own tip.
So. Well, give me a tip. Give me a tip. For women listening, since you think that men are the experts on their own penises, what is your best oral sex tip? And then we'll move on to another.
Topic. Stupid teasing thing that you women think is so sexy. That's what I've been trying to say. Just get to the.
Point. Some men like.
Teasing. Some men, yes, because they're gonna email and say, oh, yeah, I like to be teased. No, it's not that they like to be teased. They like women touching their penis. So of course they're gonna go through this process to get a woman to suck their penis. I'm sorry. That is the truth of.
It. That is not the.
Truth. It is.
True. Men like to. Some men like to be teased. We've talked about this. We've had callers. We've had people say that. So I'm just not even gonna.
Get. They're just happy that someone's touching their penis. I'm.
Sorry. You just need to have more playful sex.
Seriously.
Some men like teasing. I don't think you should. You menace does not like teasing. There are men who like a little, like, she goes down on you a little bit, she sucks a little bit, then she goes back up and does other stuff, and then she goes back down again and leaves the room. But. No, just kidding. But, you know, prolong.
It. Yeah. And then random. Okay. And then.
Random. Random acts of.
Blowjobs. Yeah. Random acts of blowjobs are.
Amazing. Right? Like when you walk in the house and she whips down your.
Pants. Yeah. Why can't you just do.
That? Why can't. Why can't women do that more.
Often? What the.
Hell? I don't.
Know. I mean, we pay for.
Everything. No, you don't.
So. All.
Right. In some relationships, I would love to have a woman that just paid for.
Everything. Me.
Too. I'd love to have a.
Guy. You want to talk about me going down? I would go down all the.
Time. If you had a woman who was bankrolling you, you would go down on her all the.
Time. Yeah, to show my.
Appreciation. Some men go down on women because they actually enjoy.
It. Maybe I would enjoy it. But I'm just saying, either way, even if I didn't, if there was.
Dollar signs in your eyes, you'd enjoy.
It. But even if I didn't enjoy it, and that is something that she wanted, and that would be a way that I can show my appreciation on how she takes care of me. Why can't a woman give fellatio even though she doesn't like it and a man is taking care of her? Why doesn't. Why can't she just do.
It? I don't know. You know, I think that what a lot of women.
Do. Place.
Emily. You know, there should be more.
Blowjobs for around, I think. And I. I'm not trying to take. I'm not trying to be sexist. I'm saying this goes both.
Ways.
Yeah. Show your.
Appreciation. Show your appreciation for your lover and go downtown.
Tonight. If that's what they.
Want. If that's what they want. A lot of people want that. What am I saying? Okay, let's get into some.
Emails. All.
Right. Okay. And then we'll get into our topic later. We have another topic besides oral sex tips. We're going to be talking about.
Facts about orgasms. And it's an infographic. It's really interesting, and it's going to teach you a lot about the female orgasm. Okay. Dear Emily, or actually says, okay, Emily, like we're having a conversation. I met a guy at the bar the other night. We really hit it off, which isn't the case for me usually at the bar. I'm very picky. Had a sleepover at his place. No sex. It was a great time. He told me that night that he was leaving two days later to film across the country for two weeks and that Ann Arbor is his home base, but that he's gone frequently to film, which is a total bummer. The next day he texted me, and it went back and forth all day and into the next day when he left. Do I try to keep this thing going while he's gone in hopes that when he is home, we can try out the dating thing? Or is it just a lost cause given his career and his lifestyle? Thanks, Amanda. Well, I'm not sure how far. Okay, so Ann Arbor is there okay, you're probably from Ann Arbor, where I went to college. Yeah, it's my college town. Okay. So, I mean, there's nothing wrong with keeping okay. It sounds to me like he. People show you who they are. He told you up front he travels a lot. He's not that available when he comes town. I'm sure he wouldn't mind taking you to pound town, as Menace says. Do you believe I'm now saying that? But I don't think this is a guy that you're gonna turn into a relationship man. At least not yet. If he's telling you he's traveling a lot. And I think that women need to pay attention to what men are telling them, especially early on. He's saying he's traveling when he comes down. I mean, so, yeah, keep it going. If you guys are gonna be texting for the next whatever until he comes back. But I don't think that you should try to have a relationship with him. If he travels and he speaks, sounds like he's like a cinematographer. He shoots in something. Right. Not a good sign like traveling in and out. I personally me, I like long distance relationships. So I'd be like, cool, let's bang. When you come town and you come back in three weeks, we'll bang again. But Amanda, if you're looking for a relationship, I don't think you should try out the dating thing. I think he. Maybe he's a booty call and we put him in that category. Yeah, that's what it sounds like to me. I don't think you're going to.
Convert this one because you're just going to be wondering what he's doing when he's not in.
Town. Right? Exactly. And then you're gonna get attached. So I wouldn't even recommend if you can handle the booty call aspect of it. I know you didn't have sex with them yet, but there's nothing wrong with these guys. Like, I've had, you know, men like that, that come in town and you do whatever, but if you can handle it, some women are not good. They get too emotionally attached. So just pay attention to what your needs are.
Amanda. Yeah.
Okay. Hi, Emily. So I started by watching your new TV show and think you are absolutely wonderful with the advice you give. I have an issue I've asked girlfriends about, but still not sure. It's really not. It's really not a big deal. But I met this guy. He's a little younger than me, but drop dead gorgeous, athletic and just a good man. Well, I found out he was a virgin. I don't have any issue with it, but I have never slept with a virgin. The time might be coming and I do not know how to handle it. Please, please, please write back and help me. Thank you, Jillian.
Okay, Jillian, so I'm wondering how old you are. Not that it really matters, but I'm assuming that you've had sex before and he never has. And I would say don't make a big deal out of the fact that he's very. He's a virgin. I mean, he told you he's a virgin. And I would just take it slow and do lots of foreplay and just let it happen naturally. I think that if you spend too much time thinking, I mean, he's just going to be psyched that he's. I mean, he's going to be psyched. Right. Even though the first time has never liked. Right.
Amazing. Like, it's never gonna be.
Good. It's not gonna be his best sex ever, Jillian. And that's not because of you, but I think that you. There's nothing you can do. You get on top of him and you move around. I mean, I think anything you do, actually, you ask me, you don't know what to do. Just do it. Like, have sex with him, move around, do what makes you feel good. He's gonna freak out and lose his mind. You're probably a hot little thing. Get on top of him. There's like. Right.
Virgins. I mean, what are you gonna know any.
Better? He's not gonna know any better. I would say that you don't like. You can't hurt. Like with women, it's a little trickier because orgasms and insertion of a penis for the first time, there could be blood. I think with guys, it's just like the Holy.
Grail. They're just.
Happy. Yeah. I think that you should just. And I don't think you need to play like, you know, teacher student. I think that the first time can just be again, I'm assuming that you've already been intimate and you've already fooled around a little bit. And I would just take it out of your mind that it's the first time and just go into it and have a good time. And I think he will be psyched and you will not. I think first. Being someone's first is kind of a good thing. That he has nothing to compare you to. Not that men compare. Some men compare. I'm not a.
Comparison. Guys, if you want to know how a woman is not a.
Virgin. Oh, God.
What? This is how you know when you're younger. She knows how to grab it and put it inside of her.
Virgins don't know how to do.
That. What are you talking.
About? That.
If a woman knows how to guide your penis into her with her hand, then she is not a.
Virgin.
Okay. Which is an instant.
Giveaway. But isn't that just obvious that you just guide a.
Penis? Not if you're a.
Virgin. So she might. Jillian might have to do the guiding though, because he might not really know how it.
Works. Yeah.
Yeah.
Okay. So that's just a little inside info.
Guys. Well, she wouldn't know to guide a penis into her vagina. Like that's where it.
Goes. No, no, no. But I'm just saying to. That's just a little inside tip when we're talking about virgins.
Here. Do you know that I've.
Received. It's funny because when I was younger, when I was in, in, you know, my teens and stuff like that, that was just like a dead giveaway that a chick was at a virgin, you.
Know?
Right. But nowadays, you know, when you're older, it doesn't even.
Matter. I don't even think about that. But it's good to know because we need to do. We're gonna do a Virgin, a Virgin show coming up because I've received hundreds of emails. You know, we always receive hundreds of emails, but even in the last few weeks just from virgins. And I think the show misadvised, exposed a lot of new listeners. So we got to take care of the virgins and tell them what to.
Do. Hell.
Yeah. Hell yeah. It's important. Okay. Dear Emily, I am 33 year old single mom. I currently just ended a four year relationship with someone who I've known since I was 15 years old. He's also a single dad and I love his daughter and treated her like she was my own. My ex boyfriend basically became very distant and didn't seem to care about our relationship. He has depression and stopped getting help for it. Since then. He just does things to make himself feel better and it pushed me and my daughter out of the picture. I'm having a hard time getting over this because I wanted him to just be honest and tell me that he can't be that guy I want. I honestly feel cursed or something when it comes to relationships. I need to know the best way to stop thinking about why he changed and just get over this process. Please help Christina. Okay, Christina, here's the deal. I think that a lot of women there's Sort of like cycles of breaking up with someone. And a lot of women get into a relationship with a guy hoping that they're gonna change them and nobody's gonna change unless they wanna change. So I think that you're beating yourself up right now cause you're like why did he change and what did I do? And how you get over it is you just have to change your thinking. You need to stop obsessing over this relationship and move on. He's depressed, he's not getting help for it. Depression is a serious disease and if he's not help for, he can't be available to you. Because actually depression is a very self involved disease that when you're a depressed person you can't fully. Even if he said he wanted to commit to you, he probably can't fully be there for you if he is seriously depressed. And I worry about your daughter and I think that you just have to stop, you just can't. You just have to like move on, talk to your friends about it, keep a journal and keep switching those positive, positive thoughts in your head like you know what wasn't right for me and move on. Like you, you just have to literally when those thoughts are coming up, can I get em back? Can I change? And we change. He showed you who he was and the depression. This all worries me. And I would just say you've got to do your best to. You're not cursed. And you will find another guy, I promise you. And all I can say, you want to know the best way to stop thinking about is why changes. Stop thinking about it because it has nothing to do with you. That's not a thing. You're probably blaming yourself that you had something to do with this situation. And I think that you had nothing to do with it. The guy's depressed, he's got a disease and he became distant. He wasn't there for you. Like it should be so obvious. Like read, read what you wrote me. And that if you would you tell your friend to date someone like that. No, you don't deserve it. And you shouldn't keep obsessing over this guy. You just gotta move on. And it is about changing your.
Thoughts. Like literally it's a waste of.
Time. I know I say this all the time and it's almost like meditation, but it's, it's cognitive psychology. Is that how you change your thoughts is literally when you have that thought and you, you have to replace it with a, a positive thought or a mantra. I am lovable. I am worthy. I am Whatever. You can laugh at me. Madness. But seriously, every time, if you trigger in your brain when you have that negative thought about him and you replace it with I am lovable, I will find love or whatever makes you feel good, you can train your brain to send positive message to yourself and it will change.
Everything. Yeah, it reminds me when you're saying that about that life coach or whatever he was, that was with Julie Allison on the misadvised show on Bravo. Who, What. What was.
He? He was like a happiness.
Coach. Happiness.
Coach. What did he.
Say? He was just, you know, just giving out positive vibes and, you know, looking at Julia's life and what's good about it and all this stuff. And I was like, man, I wanna. I wanna talk to that.
Guy. Yeah. Oh, you liked.
Him. Good. I liked him a.
Lot. Yeah, they brought him back twice on the.
Show. Yeah, he was really cool. I liked.
Him. It is true that it's all in your mind and that we are all responsible for our own emotions and how we live our life. And it's. It's. It's. It's. Literally 99% of suffering comes from our brain, comes from our own minds. We create the suffering in our life. Yes, there's bad things. There's death and disease, and I know people are sick and things happen, but most of the time, it's our own thoughts that we're getting in our own way. And you just have to learn to get out of your own way. And it's because your thoughts. And if you don't learn to control your thoughts, you're not gonna be able to control your.
Life. That is.
True. Damn it. All right. Dear Emily, I loved watching you. I miss advised. You are just beautiful and seem so confident. You are a woman that is firm in knowing what she wants. And I love that. I also love your unique sense of style that you wear so confidently. So I was wondering, what gives you confidence and what things do what. What things do to keep that confidence? What do you do to keep that confidence? Do you ever feel self conscious during sex? What tips can you give your female listeners that would help them exude the confidence that you have, especially in the bedroom? From Cali. It's from a woman. Okay. How did I become a confident female? Well, I have insecurities just like everyone else. But I think that I have done a lot of work on myself, meaning therapy, emotionally, like soul searching. And I think you just have to start celebrating all the good things in your life. Make a gratitude list every night when you go to Bed. If you're in a depressed place, just be like, think about all the things that you're grateful for. I think you have to just be honest. Surround yourself with positive people, good people, people that love you. Be a loving person. Be a good friend. I don't know. I don't know why I am. I haven't always been this. I don't know. It's just like growing. Like, just life is too short not to be.
Confident. So it's your surroundings, too. I found with me that I just made my circles smaller and smaller and.
Smaller.
Yeah. In this, I was only around people that wanted to go do things and do things bigger, you know, not the people that were depressed because nothing happened for.
Them.
Right. And I kind of get got rid of all those people in my.
Life that just bringing you.
Down. Yeah. I just, like, I can't hang around these people that won't take the extra step to better their lives. I can't do.
It. Right. You have to make it your life work to be healthy, emotionally, mentally. Like you really. I don't know, I think I just have spent a lot of time. You just. You have. You literally, like, there's nothing more important. People are trying to get in relationships when they're like, you know, half a person, and they think someone's gonna complete them and they haven't totally done their work on themselves. And then you're attracting someone who's attracted to, like. And you're gonna try to make a whole when you're not whole yet. And you need to fill up that emptiness in you. I mean, everyone has it and everyone has to work on it, but you just have to know that you deserve all the best things in life and just believe it and tell yourself how amazing you are, because you are, too, Kelly. I don't know how I got that way, but I don't. I don't.
Know. I don't.
Know. Just.
Me. Just me. I mean, did you hang out with free.
Loving? Free loving, positive. I don't. I don't have negative people in my life. I did the same thing. Menace weeded out friends. I think you change, though. Like, you do change. And if there's friends that aren't serving you anymore or people in your life that are holding you back, I don't know. A lot of times you feel like there's an allegiance, like, oh, this person. We've been friends since we were 10 or whatever. But people change. And if they. If they have negative energy and they're not that positive influences in your. They make you feel bad about yourself. You shouldn't spend time with.
Them. Also, your priorities change too when you get older.
When I was young, I was like, ah, you know, I want a nice car. I want a nice place to live. And then I, I did all that and then, and then all that went away. And I was like, I'm happy without that kind.
Of. Exactly, Exactly. I've had money, I've lost money, I've had no money. The whole thing, it's not about the things in life that you think are going to make you happy don't make you happy. You have to work at, like, feeling good about yourself. Because a lot of people think they need the boy once they have the boyfriend or the girlfriend or the house or the car that they're gonna. Everything's gonna be perfect. And to live your life thinking that there's some kind of something over the horizon that's gonna make everything better is a total fallacy. Yeah, you just gotta love yourself every day. Oh, my God. Okay, left him in her text. So anyway, you can email me feedbackexthomely.com you can also just go right to sexwithemily.com and send me your questions because I do try to answer all of them. All right, here's some facts about orgasm that we actually got from Jimmy Jane. We love Jimmy Jane immensely. They make the most amazing vibrators, massage candles, and pleasure kits that blend sex, art and design. So I am in love with their products. You use coupon code summer for $25 off purchases of $100 or more. And you can visit my Emily's Picks page and see my favorite products. And we. Yeah, you should try the Form 2 vibrator. You could try their massage candles. It's a great way to spice up your relationship. Just go to jimmyjayne.com, use coupon code Summer. Okay, so these are some facts about orgasms. Ready?
53% of American women have used a vibrator. That's a.
Lot.
Yes. No one that you've ever been with, but okay, of those women, 79% of those women use vibrators with their partner. That's a lot. That's a high.
Number. So half of the people use.
Them. And then, and then 80% of those people with vibrators bring it into the.
Bedroom.
Wow. Because women need, a lot of women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. And so they're. No matter how great you are in bed, how big your penis is or thick or whatever, small. I don't even care it's not going to do it. Like you could have all the tools in the world in your penis and it won't work. They need a vibrator. So don't be upset about it. It doesn't mean that they don't love you and your penis. The tip of the Clitoris contains approximately 8,000 nerve endings. Almost twice as much as the penis. I've always loved this fact. Did you know that it has 8,000 nerve endings just in the.
Clitoris? Well, I always know that. You guys are more complicated than it's.
Complicated. We've got 8,000 nerve endings like the double of the penis. People think the penis is a mighty powerful God. The clitoris is where it's at. Eight friggin thousand. Okay. It takes the average woman four minutes to orgasm through.
Masturbation.
Jesus. Versus 10 to 20 minutes through intercourse. Don't you wish it was four.
Minutes? Yeah.
Yeah. It's 10 to 20 minutes through intercourse. And sometimes it's even 30 minutes. I've heard it is true though. During masturbation it's just easy. I wish you could just bring it into sex. It takes a long time for some women, but nothing wrong with that, right? You're where you gotta be. You're having sex. Enjoy it. Okay. 33 to 50% of women experience orgasm infrequently and are dissatisfied with how often they reach it. So 33 to 50% don't orgasm. That's a lot of non orgasming women. That's a lot of non orgasmic females. Pissed off women bring a vibrator in the bedroom. You know what is a great one for partner sex is since these are tips from Jimmy Jane. The Form 2 vibrator is like fits and it looks like a tongue and it fits in the palm of your hand and you can just put it on your clitoris while you're having sex. It's in your hand and it's vibrating and it's amazing. I'm just telling you I've done that. I'll admit it and I love it. Okay. 48% of American women say they faked an orgasm versus 11% of American men. Half of women. So that is the good chances are you say no woman's ever faked it with you. I'm sure they.
Have. No, I never said.
That. You haven't? No, I thought you have. I assumed that's something you would say. That to me is an assumption that would be a menacism. A menacism. A menacing. We need a.
Good. Yeah, we need a good name for that. That would be an ignorant ewild. Now I can't even say.
It.
Ignorant.
Ignorant. That would be an ignorant statement.
I'm sure not many have faked it. I faked it, but I will not fake it ever.
Again. Oh, do you know what? We haven't even mentioned we're on XM radio right.
Now. We're on SiriusXM165.
XM165. Because when I really stumble on my words when we're outside of our podcast, I get upset when I know that we're on XM.
Radio. Oh, well, we are so happy to be here on xm. If you're listening, tweet us, email us. Sex with.
Emily. Every.
Friday. Every Friday. And we just. We have hundreds of podcasts that you can easily download from itunes from the RSS feed on our website, and you can listen to us every day. A lot of people do.
It. And you have new content.
Up. Every new content on our website. We've got blogs, we've got information, we've got videos. We've got a lot going on.
There. There's a new video show on sexdealing.com where it's a video version of what we're doing right.
Now. Right T Radio V on Tuesdays at 2 o'. Clock. We've got so many different ways that you can listen, you can watch, you can masturbate, whatever you want to do. Okay? Up to 75% of women who have orgasms require clitoral stimulation to do so. So 75% of women who have orgasms need their clitoris rubbed in a way that sometimes the penis can't, which is why you might need a vibrator. But sometimes the penis can. I'm not saying that, but 75%, like, they need that. Like, if you're not touching her clitoris, she's not gonna get.
There. So I need a.
Rockbox. Oh, my God. I still haven't used it. It's the most powerful vibrator on the planet, and I was given one at a show I went to, and I haven't tried it yet, and I'm afraid of it because you should see the electrical cord. It's like a power.
Drill. No, thank.
You. I'm gonna show it to you. I'm gonna have a party soon at my house. We're gonna have an intern party, and you should come and we'll do it on a Friday and I'll show you the.
Rock. We always do parties.
During. We're not gonna do it. No, no, I Just decided we're gonna do it on the weekday. You have to be there, because when you're not there, people get.
Upset. All.
Right. Okay. 70% of men and 34% of women said they think about sex every day. Okay, so this isn't a. They always say men think about sex like 100 to 300 times a day. Are you that guy? Do you think about sex all the.
Time? No. Which is unfortunate. It's usually in the morning and in the evening. No time during the.
Day. You don't. It doesn't even pop in your head. Not even when you see.
Me? Not even when I see.
You. That's interesting. Okay. They think about sex every day. I don't think that. Well, I mean, I think about sex all the time, of course, but it's more for work. But I'm not thinking.
About. You have. Has the word sex in.
It. I know. Every single one. But, yeah, true. That's double, though. The amount of men that are thinking about sex all the time. Okay. A woman is 30% more likely to orgasm if her feet are.
Warm.
Warm. So keep her feet warm under the.
Covers. What should I do? Should I put her in a hot.
Tub? I don't know. Yeah, put her in a hot.
Tub. I've had sex in a hot tub before. Does that.
Work? No. Sex and water is actually not a lubricant. It's not a lubricant. Water's not a lubricant. And it just. It's kind of more like a novelty thing. But I don't think that you can actually have amazing, like, orgasmic sex. At least I haven't in water. And it's been a really long time since I have had sex. But I know that I, like, have fooled around in a hot tub. Have.
You? No, don't do.
That. I think I've had sex. I can't remember. Okay. In a hot tub, but. Or like a pool. But I remember it always being, like, a letdown because it just feels different with the water and all that. But if you've had.
Amazing.
Aquatic.
Sex. Aquatic sex. Let me know. Feedbackexwithemily.com okay, we've got some more talk about orgasms here. If you're not.
Man. If you're taking good notes.
Here. Okay, here's a couple of different kinds of.
Orgasms. Kinds of.
Orgasms. There's different.
Kinds. This is.
New. This is.
New. This is new information. You're telling me that there's different.
Kinds? No, you know this. Internal versus external. Most women require external or clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm with thousands of nerve endings. The clitoris is said by many sexperts and sexologists to be the female pleasure center. However, there is a minority out there, less than a quarter of all women who can climax through internal stimulation alone. That is through intercourse or other types of penetration. So there's the like. That's what they're saying is like the G spot orgasm, the internal one and the external one. Some women, and I hate these bitches experience simultaneous internal and external.
Orgasms. Oh, I know these.
People. I am not that person. I would like to be that person in my next.
Life. How could you train. You just can't train yourself to do.
That. I can. I gotta work on it. This is called a combination or a blended orgasm and it requires clitoral and vaginal or G spot stimulation at the same time. So you can, you could buy a vibrator for. If you want to do it on your practice on your own. You can buy a G spot vibrator that just targets your G spot and then put another one on your clitoris. You don't have to do it during intercourse. You could do this on your own through master and then see what happens. See if you can do it that way. That's I've.
Done.
Yeah. It's a lot of tools going on down.
There. I took a tour of the Jimmy Jane HQ and they had like so many different kinds and shapes. It's. It's crazy. You're gonna find one that's gonna work for you, you.
Know?
Right. Didn't they have one set where it had all of them in it like that? The at home set or something like.
That? Yeah, probably they.
Did. They had like one thing that had like a bunch of them in one bundle, I.
Swear. Oh yeah, they had the classics. What are they called? The Pleasure.
Sets. The Pleasure sets, yeah. But it was just.
Like. Or the iconic collection of like the Rabbit and they had.
The. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yeah. It was all.
White.
Yeah. Yes, they.
Sell. So what is.
That? Okay, so they sell these best selling vibrators. So like you know how like the rabbit and the pocket rocket and a cock ring, they sell like. They're called the. I want to say they're the classics. The iconics. The what? The Usual Suspects. They're called the Usual Suspects and Jimmy Jane and they look really great. And they have the Rabbit and they have the. My first vibrator, the pocket rocket and they're all amazing. And Also the Form 2, like I said, is good for clitoral. Stimulation during intercourse. And if you want to.
I. Yeah, I'll keep going.
Okay. All.
Right. Alternatively, you can make your man or a vibrator designed for internal stimulation twice as nice by adding. Oh, this is about the iconic ring for clitoral stimulation. So if you're someone who can have an internal orgasm but you still need clitoral stimulation, you can buy the iconic ring from Jimmy Jane. Just go to my website and click on the Jimmy Jane banner. It's really easy. And I gave one to Andy Cohn from Bravo when I was on his show. And it stretches so it fits any penis. And then it has a vibrator on it that hits the clitor so it works like that. Okay. Single versus multiple. Single orgasms can last anywhere from a few seconds to a.
Minute. Uh.
Huh. Mine are not a minute long. But there are like courses like that you can take that you can learn to have like hour long orgasms. I know these people. I should take those.
Courses. You.
Should. It's on my list. Okay. Unlike most men who require a refractory period, anywhere between from minutes to hours to recover between orgasms, some women can have multiple orgasms with little or no pause in between. I can do that. Do you care? I'm proud of.
You. How many do you think you've.
Hidden? Multiple orgasms come in two forms. I'm gonna give you. How many have I had in my life? What are the most.
Amount? Yeah, like in one.
Session? Like.
Nine. Nine in one session. How long of a time period in between? Like how long was this.
Session? Well, like once you have one, it's easy for me to have more. So I would say 10.
Minutes. Nine and 10.
Minutes? Yeah, because they just keep.
Firing.
Really? Yeah. I'll break it down for.
You. Wow, I hope you got that on.
Video. No, I do not videotape myself orgasming or doing anything else except for. Well, that's not true. I guess I do. Okay, here's the deal.
Sequential. Okay, so multiple orgasms come in two forms, sequential and serial. Sequential orgasms are orgasms that occur one after another within a few minutes in between. Additional stimulation is often required to get from one to the next. But there is no limit to how many you might have during one counter. Serial orgasms are one orgasm experienced immediately after the next and the next and the next. This is a wild ride for those who can actually achieve it, which is not many. I did not have serial. I had sequential. So I did not have like boom, boom, boom. I had like, you gotta do it again and again. And again. But if you just keep firing, that's gotta be frigging amazing. Can you imagine? Okay, so I've gotta just. And then we've got real versus fake. Studies indicate that 80% of women have fake an orgasm. There's many reasons from wanting to boost our partner's self esteem to feeling bad about being unable to achieve orgasm or just being too tired of wanting to call it a night. Which is all the reasons why I've cheated. Why I've.
Cheated. Oh.
Really? I've not cheated. Why I've cheated my.
Orgasm. Yeah, well, that's probably heard it before. Gone to rose to the occasion because I'm so exhausted I don't.
Even. Yeah, I know. Honey, you gotta get more rest. You've probably heard it before, but it's worth repeating. Nobody wins when you fake it. And then I gotta say, if you are interested in these sex tips and you're curious about how to learn how to learn more, we are starting a new contest. Okay? So first of all, Sinclair Institute, they're amazing. They make these. You can just find their banner on my website. They make these amazing DVDs better sex video series that it's not porn. They're DVDs you can watch with your partner. And you could break it down into better sex, Better sex guide to oral sex. 32 ways to please your lover. And these videos actually DVDs show you how to do it. So. So we're having a con. Oh, and if you use coupon code Emily50, you get 50% off any one item at the Sinclair Institute. Just check it out on my website. So we're having a contest right now that we just launched today. What do you wish they taught you in sex ed? Email me feedbackexwithamily.com the prize is a gift basket from Sinclair Institute including a bunch of DVDs and toys. We saw it today. It's amazing because they sell toys as well. And it's a huge basket that we're giving away to someone who tells. What do you wish that you do? You wish you learned in sex.
Ed?
I tried to explain this to you the other.
Day. You didn't have sex.
Ed. No, I had sex ed. I tried to explain to you the and you totally got upset the moment I said.
It. Oh, you're gonna say it again? Piss me.
Off. What is it that. The. The cost of having.
Sex. What are you talking.
About? Because when I think of sex, I think of sex and having. And being in a relationship. Not just like random hook. So the whole. The whole Process of getting to the point of having sex is, you know, you have to court somebody and.
You don't have to do all that.
Stuff. Eventually if you want to be in a.
Relationship. Yeah, you do, but it doesn't have to cost money. Go to the park, go to.
Museum. Eventually one day when you're in a relationship, it will. You're gonna have to do a lot more things in order to have sex. I'm sorry, that's just how the world.
Is. Okay, for men, maybe some.
Men. For men, maybe.
Yeah. That it's expensive because you mean you have to buy them dinners and.
Shoes. You have to buy them dinners and take them out. And then eventually when you do end up living with somebody, then you got to take it care. You got to take care of a bunch of stuff in the house. You know, you can have an argument over something and then you're not going to.
Be. Change the light bulbs and.
Stuff. You know, you got to do a lot of work for it to happen. I'm not saying that women are not doing any work to make it happen either, you know, But I'm just saying men have to go through a lot of process to be a nice.
Person.
Right. In order to have.
Sex. I'm saying it makes them better.
People. Yeah, but I'm just saying you could. I mean, you can have random sex here and there. It doesn't.
Matter. Right, but you're saying in a relationship it's expensive. It's like saving up for kids, college education. You got to save up for your relationship. You must be saving a lot of money right now because you haven't had a girlfriend in.
Years. I know you must have a.
Really hefty bank account, just.
Like. I don't know. Because if you. Yeah. If you are broke.
It causes rifts in your relationship. I'm sorry. It does. Everything comes down to money. You've said this before. It was one of the biggest problems in relationships is.
Money. Money and sex. Yeah, because. Because of the way we have to actually have to wrap up. But it's the way.
People. No, we have a little more.
Time. We do good. It's the way people deal with money. They don't talk about it whether you have too much or too little. Couples spend money in different ways. So that's where it becomes a.
Problem.
Yeah. So when couples don't talk about money and they like. A woman has an expectation that he's going to pay. He thinks that she spends too much. Whatever it is. Couples have to talk about money and sex. And if you don't talk about money and sex. Your relationship is going to be.
Over. Yeah. And I think that should be a part of the sex ed. I'm.
Sorry. Oh, money, interacting and sex. Talking about. I think communication, talking about what.
You like, it is part of communication. You can take also, you can take the money factor out and just being like cohabitating with people and, you know, dealing with somebody else's.
Personality.
Right. How to compromise and stuff like.
That. They should teach that and.
Stuff. They should totally teach.
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