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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh, my. Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, that feels so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sex with emily.com, where you can listen to all of our podcasts. Sign up for our mailing list. Do it now if you haven't, because we will give you a free report. The five biggest mistakes Men are making in bed and women are making in bed, which I. I'm not saying you're making a ton of mistakes. I'm just saying you might want to spice up your sex life a little bit and make sure you're doing things a. Okay. Also, we've got amazing blogs that will teach you everything you want to know about sex and fun pictures to look at and videos. Just check it out. Hi, Menace. How you doing today?

I'm good. How you doing, Emily?

I'm good. I just wanted. I wanted to tell people because people, you know, listen to our podcast. A lot of people go to itunes and they download it and they're like, oh. Like, I want them to see that our website is rocking out right now.

Yeah. Every single day you update it.

Correct, Correct. And. And also Facebook, Twitter sex with Emily. We do a lot of fun stuff there. We are changing people's sex life every single day, including Menaces. But he won't tell me much about it.

For real. No, don't put her on. Emily, what's going on with your sex life? Jesus H. Don't throw that at me.

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That's what's up.

That's what I gotta say. Dude, did you. Did you see me on Kris Jenner? Did you know?

Well, I saw your photos and stuff. I didn't get to see the episode, though. But I don't get to watch a lot of TV these days, so don't feel bad.

I don't feel bad at all. It's cool. It's online, though, on YouTube. But anyway, Kris Jenner show. It's on YouTube and I have a clip I can send you just of my segment. But it was so funny. So Kris Jenner, whatever, Kardashian mom. I went, she has a talk show. It was like A trial run for like two months. And I menace. Kanye west was there that day, but not on my show. But he was recording, like down right next to me.

Me.

What?

I know you would have had fun. And then the Jenner sisters were there. The little with the long legs.

Yeah.

What they were doing. They were on my show.

Damn it.

What?

I wanted you to come. Whatever. So then I. It was cool. So it was a fun show, a fun segment. I basically, it was about the power of touch. And it started out, I was saying, you know, studies came out that show that couples who aren't touching and who aren't intimate to each other, with each other, you know, they lose everything. They might be fighting about different things, but really it's like the power. Touch is so important to connect with your partner on an intimate level. And I talked about the power of massage. So that was my segment. Power of touch. Power of massage. I brought in a few products to demonstrate on Chris and her co host, Carlos Ponte. Do you know who he is?

No. Well, she changes up coasts every single.

Right.

Yeah.

Some Carlos. So anyway, first I showed him a few fun products. Good Vibrations. I showed her the little chocolate body pens I drew on her. She tasted it. Chocolate. Then I showed her the warming massage hearts from Crazy Girl. And then Manus. The best part. So you people can check this out on my site. I launched my new product line.

On camera. And I gave everybody a candle in the audience.

Oh, is it available now?

People pick it up. This is my. Okay. This is my first official. This is my first official show. I've been doing this for eight years. And I have a true product that I want you to buy. Go to emilyandtony.com and we made. We launched an intimate care line with the best ingredients. And a massage candle is one of them. And you know that I'm obsessed with massage candles. And they basically, it burns. You could give a little. So I was doing this on Kris Jenner. I'm like, give me your arm. And you pour. You let the wax pour. You pour it on your partner and it's like a little sexy, kinky thing to do. And it turns into massage oil, not wax. And they smell amazing. Our candles are like the most delicious smelling things. So everyone in the audience got a.

Candle from Emily and Tony that is amazing. And all the info is at your website. Do you have like a separate.

I don't mean to go off. Yeah. Emilyandtony.com Sweet.

I know how long you've been working on this actual product itself.

Two And a half years.

Wow. Two and a half years.

So here's the deal. I don't want to be too like whatever about me right now. I know it sucks that me but I just want to say that it was so cool because we did a big launch party in New York last week because all the editors are there, magazines and newspaper, all the media. And we did a big event and we were telling our story about how we met. And Anthony, Tony, he owns one of the biggest men's care line. So skincare line on The Planet. Number one seller at Sephora. It's called Anthony.com. anthony's Skincare for men. So Anthony is my friend from. Since I was 8 years old when my parents bought his parents house and we became friends. And then we lost touch. We went to summer camp together. And then we lost touch. We had dinner in San Francisco two years ago. And I said, tony, I think there needs to be a lubricant on every single goddamn nightstand in America because most lubricants are not good. They enhance your sex life. And I want to make a really good lubricant. So he's like, let's do it. And then we launched with three products. So that's our whole story.

And they're amazing.

And they.

The lubricant is like the best lube we tested for two and a half years. And it's the best lube out there.

Wow.

And it enhances sex. Yep. That's all. You know, I'm excited.

It's crazy. Yeah. This crazy. They finally launched it because. I know. When did I see you in la? Like months ago. You're just showing me just some demo photos of the product and I can't believe out.

I know. I'm gonna send you samples of the products because the one that I didn't mention yet is the down under ball cream to powder for men so their balls don't sweat. And I want you. Will you try it? Like it makes you fresh and dry all day long. It's like deodorant for your balls. If I send you a whole care package, will you. Okay, that's.

It's for sbs. Sweaty balls.

What's that? Sweaty ball syndrome? No, but some men have issues with hygiene down there. Women are like, oh my God, high fiving me because a lot of men don't think to freshen up that area. And they use talcum powder, which is not good for you. It's carcinogenic and it's messy. Okay. Another thing I want to tell you is that I'VE been listening to Stitcher a lot.

Oh, thank you.

I love Stitcher. Stitcher is an app for your iPhone. And I just have been listening to a lot, so a lot of different podcasts, which is funny because I never listen to podcasts. And I know Madness is recording from the Stitcher studio, and I just been meaning to tell you, it's free app for your iPhone, smartphone, anything, and listen to any podcast, including ours. But I'm, like, in LA in traffic every day, and I'm thinking, what the hell? I should listen to Stitcher. And now that's all I do. Change my life.

Wow, look at you getting into things.

Well, I've been dying to talk to you. I haven't talked to you in, like, a week. I just have so many things to share.

Yeah. So you. You were on tv. You went to New York for a while, right?

I went to New York for, like, three days to launch the product, and we did a big party. I was on. No, I wasn't on any press, was I? No. Oh, it was on the Kris Jenner show that aired, but then New York was just meetings. We went to People magazine. Like, we dropped off products for everyone. Because the thing is, like, it doesn't look. It's Nothing's like, nothing like our products exists out in the planet right now. They're very unique.

Crazy.

So, yeah, New York was fun.

What about you?

You've been to, like, 18 festivals, like, in the last five minutes.

Yeah, I think I already talked about. I was in Chicago, then I was in Monterey this past weekend, which is beautiful, like. Monterey? Yeah. Monterey is about an hour away from Santa Cruz, California, which is a big surf town. And it's just. It's a nice, cool place to chill. And the people that put on Coachella decided to throw a music festival there. And I went to that, and it was really cool. And then this weekend, going to Philadelphia for the very first time. I. I'll be honest, I never even care to even look up Philadelphia on a map. And I realized that it was. I always thought, you guys, you're gonna think I'm the biggest idiot in the world, but, like, if you don't, you know, if you had never planned to go to Philadelphia in your life, why.

Would you look it up?

Why would you. Yeah, why would you even look where it was at? And for some reason, I thought it was, like, parallel to Chicago, and it was, like, down south somewhere. Like, maybe, like, New Orleans area and.

Right, right.

I found out.

Oh, dude, you thought it was in the South?

It's just right by.

We really. Are we really having this conversation?

Honestly? I swear to God, everyone's gonna think I'm smart.

You're smart. I mean.

Yeah, yeah. But I just never, ever looked in going to Philadelphia, and I mean, there's nothing really in my daily life that brings up Philadelphia until I actually looked the pat. The A few days ago to see where I actually was going and realized it was right by New York.

Right, Exactly. You can even go into New York for the day. You could take a train.

Yeah. And. And just to let this planet. Yeah. And just to let everybody how. How dumb I am when it comes to geography, that I just found out that Cancun is by the Gulf of Mexico. I thought it was. I thought it was by, like, San Diego.

You Cancun. Have you ever been?

No, I've never been there. I've never been there, and I never get out. I never. I never been to Mexico. So I always thought it was, like, right by San Diego or something, because everyone from the San Francisco Bay area always go to. Goes to Cancun. Cancun's a big spring break area, so I didn't think it was that far away. And then I found out that it was by the Gulf of Mexico. You learn something new every day.

Every day you learn a goddamn thing new. I'm trying to think what I learned new today. So far, I don't think I've learned anything yet.

Oh, man. What's going on? Okay, you're on. You're on. I get to hear you as I'm on the radio in San Francisco on Loveline, which is pretty cool. And then it. It's. It's funny because, like, somebody else is, like, monitor. Monitoring the. The Loveline show as I'm on the radio. So when I go to commercial break and I'm walking by the studio and it's playing, I hear Emily this, I hear Emily that, and I even hear them talking about you when you're not even on the show, which is crazy.

That you really would. They say about me when I wasn't on the show?

They're saying something like, about, like, Howard Stern or something. They were going to, like, email.

Oh, yeah. Oh, I'm going to be on Howard Stern. Exactly. I'm going to be on Howard Stern in the next month or so.

If you are going to be on Howard Stern, I swear to God, Emily, we can't be friends if I just can't go with you and wait in the green room. You know, how much. How. How many years Have I been sending you clips of the Howard Stern Show? How many years? Forever.

Forever.

Hold on. I just have to do something technical, technological, right now.

Hold on.

Sorry. I unplugged. I unplugged my. Okay, Menace.

Yes.

You have my word. You have my word. I'm making this on air. If I'm on the Howard Stern show, you can fly to New York and come with me into the lobby, into the green room.

In the green room.

If I'm allowed to bring somebody to.

The green room, I will. I would die. I know.

Okay?

I know.

Would you be nice to me? Would you not make fun of me?

I wouldn't make fun of you. I would help you. I know every single person's name on the show, even the people that are not even on air, the people that work behind the scenes. I'll give you the rundown on everything so you'd look inside.

I feel like that's the least I could do for you. Okay, so I'll let you know what happened to me. You know, nothing's like 100, but it's like, I was just there last week. I was going to be on. But he's on hiatus. All the shows I'm going to be on, Bethany and a bunch of talk shows, but they're all on hiatus. So you come with me, honey.

I will.

So. Oh, but I forgot to tell people you've been listening to Madison. I chat, and you're like, what the fuck is Sex with Emily Podcast? And you're not talking about sex at all.

Sorry.

Today's show, we are going to be reading your emails that you sent to feedbackaxwithemily.com because we are getting so many amazing emails from our listeners. And, you know, I have, like, listener email guilt that I want to answer every single one. And so I'm trying to. And they're all really good topics. We picked out topics that from emails that seem to be common themes of what people have been emailing about a lot. So I think that one of your answers. We're talking about the side effect. Masturbation. What do you think? You know, does your partner masturbate too much? We want to know about a woman whose husband wants anal butt play and she's not sure that she does. Another couple, great sex life, but guess what? They're no longer into sex. So we've got all these topics and then another one. We've got more than that. But also squirting. People love to talk about squirting. So I'm gonna give you some tips. A Woman has a question about squirting, and then we're gonna answer her tips with how you can make your partner squirt. It is possible.

Even though Menace doesn't believe me.

Okay.

Do you.

No. What. Can we talk about some sex scandals? Like, what's going on?

Yes.

In life.

Yes.

Go ahead.

All right.

Oh, my God.

What. What do you got for me?

No, I've got a good one, but you go, I wonder if it's the same one.

So it's out in the press. It's out in the press. So you know that Khloe Kardashian was getting that she got married to Lamar Odom super quick. Right. And then there was, like, just recently, there was, like, cheating rumors, all this stuff. Now they're saying that. That he's been on crack for two years.

Right. I saw that.

I saw that.

Crazy, I hope.

Is it confirmed?

But what's weird about it? It's not confirmed. Totally. But what's weird about it is, like, if it's not true, why don't they just, like, coming out and saying it's not true? You know, why let.

Right. Exactly.

Go crazy.

Had you ever heard. Has everyone heard, like, murmurs before that he's been doing crap? Has that been, like, a. No.

No.

I've. Yeah. That's a pretty strong allegation if it's not true. But I'm sure it's true because why would they be saying it?

I love Lamar, too, so I hope he. If he does have a problem, that he can get over it quickly.

I hope so, too. I think it's such a set. It's so hard. But I guess, you know, from what I've read, like, t. I think I did actually go to tmz, Menace. I'll just have, you know. And there was something. Yeah.

Why did you hear about the Miley Cyrus sexually charged performance at the VMAs?

I. Not only did I hear about it, Menace, I saw the Miley Slyers performance.

Look at you.

I did. I was at the gym, and it happened to be on. And let me tell you, I didn't, like. I didn't think he was even sexy or hot, like, either. Do the thing with the. Do the hand thing with the foam thing and stick out your tongue, but don't do it all like, it's distracting. It just wasn't. I didn't like it. I didn't think it was hot or sexy, but I'm not her target audience. What did you think?

I think it was awful.

Yeah, it was awful.

The thing Is she.

She's getting all this fake hype, and, like, so she's super confident that she's trying to act like super. They call it ratchet, like, ghetto. Right? And then, so, like, all these super ghetto rappers are, like, behind her and supporting her. Of course, like, people don't understand, like, why is the. The, you know, the hip hop community supporting her so quickly and not calling her out for being a phony is because everybody, Miley Cyrus is worth $165 million. She's worth more money than your Justin Bieber. She's more. She has more money than Kanye. She has more money than any of these rappers out there. So of course they. They want to be friends with her so they can make a song with her and it will sell and they'll make money so that, like, people don't understand why they're, like, supporting her being so. So ghetto.

And thank you for breaking down the economics of it.

Yeah, it's all about money. Because people. Common people, like, I don't understand why everyone's supporting her doing this. Because everyone wants to take advantage of her and take some. Get some profit off it. That's why.

That's this.

I don't think she knows this. I think. I think she thinks that she's taking. Being taken seriously.

Right.

Terrible.

I think you're right. Yeah. Totally terrible. And then the other scandal. But this is more of like, a. A JV scandal. Like a junior varsity, who cares Scandal. But last night. So I do Loveline radio show with Dr. Drew and Mike Catherine every Thursday night. But I've actually done it three. Three nights this week. I just fill in when Dr. Drew's gone. And so we were supposed to have Steve Ward. Do you know who that is? He's the matchmaker on VH1.

Not really.

He's the. He has a show called tough love on VH1.

Oh, yeah. Okay.

And he's got, like, slick back hair, and he's kind of a douchebag. I'm gonna be honest. I was on a talk show with him. We were on a panel together. It was the Jeff Probstow. And, like, usually you're on a panel, there's three of you out. We were, like, debating, you know, dating and sex and all that stuff. So beforehand, you say, hi, we're about to go on air. You know, we're sitting our little couch, and he just, like, has this douchey, like, his hair slick back. Barely make eye contact with me. So then I just, like, fought with him the whole time. I was like, we totally disagreed. Anyway, he's coming into Loveline last night, right? And Dr. Drew's like, oh, good, Emily should be there. And I'm like, I'm gonna take him down. We were joking yesterday. We get an email, and he's like, he can't show up for his performance. So for further notice, he will not be available. Come to find out. Huge scandal on the Internet that he had sex with. He's a girlfriend. He had sex with a prostitute. It's on tape. Promised her that she could get a position on his show. Could be, like, on his television show as one of the dates or something. And he told. Scandal broke loose last night.

What?

Yeah. See, I just told you something you didn't know. It's kind of stupid if you don't know him and you don't care, but he's kind of douchey.

Yeah, no, it's. It's all on the Internet right now. I'm looking at it. So, yeah, Tough love. Host. The show is pretty popular a couple years ago.

Good for him.

His show's coming back, and I'm sure he's a very nice person. And just when I met him, not so nice, but whatever. That could be his Persona. I have no idea. I've never seen the show, and I don't plan to.

Damn.

Damn, man. Damn. Okay.

He would always have his mom on the show, too. Damn. You're looking.

I think she's still on it. What?

Yeah, no, it's all good.

Yeah, I think she's still on it. So. Yeah, we can get into some of the emails from the people right now if you want one more scandal.

What do you think about this? What do you think about the whole Simon Cowell thing? Did you know? You know about that? So, Simon. Yes, he impregnated his best friend's ex wife. Now. Now he's all up on the beach, making out with her in photos. It's all over to him.

Best friend's ex wife.

Yeah, well, they're in the middle. They weren't divorced yet. His best friends.

They weren't. Yeah, completely divorced yet. The paperwork was still going through, and he got her pregnant. I don't think they're fully.

Oh, my God.

Fully divorced yet.

So is that still his best friend? What about bros before hoes?

Yeah, he broke. He broke the bros before hoes code.

Man, oh, man, that is such a code. But people. But now he's stepping out with her. What is she. What is she like?

She.

She, like, cute, Older, Younger? What?

Yeah, she's older. But extremely good looking and yeah, I don't know. Broco Testament, Freaking. I don't know.

But yeah, he broke the Bro code. I'm not down with it, but it doesn't surprise me. He seems sort of smarmy. And I also remember in the very recent past he had a huge wedding in Northern California that like I know people who went to his wedding, like remember like probably four or five years ago.

Really?

He got married? Yeah, I think so. I think so. Unless I'm totally wrong. I could be wrong.

I don't think he was.

You know me with facts. No, I think he did get married. Am I crazy? No. Whatever. I might be, but not because of that. Okay, so let's get into some emails. We can still talk. I love talking, you menace. Okay, Madame Emily, how are you? Hope that you will be fine. I like sex very much. Madam, can you please tell me are there any side effects of masturbation or not? And also if you can send me sex position, do you have any sexual video of you or can you send me a link? I'll be waiting. Oh my God. Okay, I don't know where he's from, but I would like to help him because I get a lot of emails like this from people who are not from this country probably and they don't have a lot of access to sex information. And so I want to tell them, go to my website. I do blogs about sex positions every week. I just did a blog on sex sitting down sex, sex standing up, doggy style and Pal driver. So check out my site, sir. He called me madam and he wants a sexual video of me. Oh, you will not find that on the website. There are no naked pictures or sex videos of me. Even though the name is Sex with Emily. We.

Yeah, no, I'm just kidding.

That's what we got for you, Madam Emily. That's funny. Okay, cool. Dear Em. Okay, wait. Dear Emily, When I am in the house or outside, my husband loves to tap or poke my vagina and butt. He loves to play with my breasts. I don't mind the tap on the ass, but the rest annoys me. I talk to him, but he doesn't get it. What can I do? Signed Aaron. Okay, Aaron, what can you do?

He loves to tap or poke my downer butt. He loves to play with my breasts. Okay, here's my question. I need a little bit more information. Do you never like these areas touch your vagina, your butt or your breast? Is it just the way he does it? Is it because you find it to be Offensive because you're not warmed up yet. Like, I have questions here. I don't really understand it. And you said it annoys you and you've talked to him, but he doesn't get it. You need to talk to him in the right way. So you probably said it in a way that wasn't his language. Hence, men are from Mars, women are from Venus. We have different languages.

So.

So, Menace, how do you think a woman can effectively, without insulting you, tell you that she does not like something that she is doing sexually, but it's.

Just in public, right?

Yeah, yeah. No, when I'm house or outside. She said, when I'm in the house or I'm outside, he pokes her vagina on butt. Now, personally, I would find that annoying if I was, like, sitting in the kitchen, like, doing the dishes. Not that I ever do, but. Or if I was just, like, getting dressed and he came up and he was poking my butt and annoying me, I was like. I'd be like, I'm getting ready. Like, this is not the time or place. But if it was, like, sexy and he started out by, like, kissing my neck and getting me turned on, and then he wanted to, like, tap my butt, I'd be like, into it. But this is what we talk about, is that women need foreplay. We need to be warmed up, we need to be ready for sex, we need to be ready for action. So it's probably bothering you because he's just acting out his sexual impulses and you're like, what are you doing? I just got home from work. I'm not even turned on right now, and I'm hungry. Yeah, but Menace, if a woman, if you were doing something to a woman, which I'm sure has never happened to you, but if you, let's say with your girlfriend, there was something you were doing, she didn't like the way you nibbled on her ear, for example. She loves everything else, but not how you nibble on her ear. How would you like to be told?

How do I, like, just be straight up. Just tell me, you know, I don't know. There's no easy way around it. Don't you think? Just, just go for it. Like, hey, look, you've, you've, you've touched it enough, okay? Get over it.

I think you gotta sandwich it by also saying, baby, I love when you kiss my cheeks and my face. I love the way you kiss my neck. Sometimes when you start to tap me and in those places it's uncomfortable, but so sandwich with what you love, start with all the great things he's doing and then say, you know what? But I'm not loving it when you're tapping my butt and I'm just coming home from work or whatever it is that's. You gotta do it. Okay.

Emily.

I'm 22 years old. I've never had a boyfriend. I've had one guy interested in me, but I'm shy and they end up thinking I'm not interested. A lot of the time it's just like they don't even notice me. So that makes me feel worse. What can I do to be less shy and get guys to notice me? Love, Tanya. Tanya, the first thing I read your email and I just thought to myself, confidence, self confidence, self esteem. That you have to make it your life work to cultivate confidence. So I think it's an insecurity and so she thinks that men aren't interested in her. This is what she's going to keep telling herself. Men don't like me, I'm not attractive.

I.

Because she doesn't feel good about herself. And once you start feeling good about who you are and what you look like and whatever your insecurities are, then you're going to be attracting people who will be attracted to you because you're attracted to yourself. Which is easier said than done, right, Menace?

Yes, of course. And maybe just maybe change your, change your look a little bit. Do something a little bit crazy. Dye your hair.

Ask your friend. Yeah, exactly.

Super blonde or super red or you know.

Yeah, do something. Do what? Do you have any friends that you admire their taste? Be like, hey babe, I love your haircut. Where do you get it cut and then go get a crazy haircut. Sure. But also you have to know like what your strengths or what are your weaknesses. Do you have unreal. This is the things that contribute to low self esteem in a lot of people. You compare yourself to other people. You have really high expectations, which I've gone through being a perfectionist and like thinking that everything has to be right and you just always feel down on yourself. You know, if I get lose five pounds, if I get all A's and then you never feel good and your confidence is low because you have these unrealistic expectations. So just learn by like loving you who you are and where you're at in your life and maybe get a cool haircut and a nice pair of shoes.

Yeah, just a thought.

Okay. What?

Some Yves Saint Laurent ys, Saint Laurence.

That's what I want so bad. I want a pair of. Okay, if Any listeners would like to buy me a pair of YSLS size 7 heels, I would be honored. Thank you. And you could come. You could. You could come on the show, actually, and talk about whatever the hell you want. Just buy me a pair of those shoes.

Nice.

Okay. Dear Emily, I'm. What? Okay. I've always been curious about having sex with a girl who will use a strap on. On me. My girlfriend thinks I'm gay for wanting it. Why or what would make me want this signed? Jack, you know that I love this question.

Yeah.

Especially because it's the end of Anal Pleasure Month, which is actually sponsored by Good Vibrations and we love goodvibes.com.

They declared it Anal Pleasure Month. So it's almost over, and I think it's a great time to answer an anal sex question. So basically it's simple, Jack. You have a fantasy about being dominated. And maybe you think that it would feel really good if your ass got penetrated. There's nothing gay about it. Sex is all about different power dynamics. And if you want to feel like you're the submissive while she penetrates you, that's fine. But also if you just want to know if it feels good. A lot of men, a lot of straight men say that they experience amazing pleasure from anal play. That it's actually the male G spot in there in your butt. It's the prostate. And it feels amazing to many men, not for all men. Okay. But it does not mean that you're gay at all. Women give blowjobs, men give blow jobs. Like men like it in the butt, sometimes women like it in the butt. So if you're interested in a strap on, you can also check out goodvibes.com. they've got everything you need for entry level penetration with your anus. Use coupon code Emily for 15% off anything@good vibrations.com. so, like, I'm always talking about how men. I feel like it's kind of a bummer. I always say with sex, try everything once that interests you once, because life's too short. What if anal play is the most amazing thing you've ever felt in your entire life? And I'm not saying you need to go to with a strap on. Maybe your partner sticks his or her finger in your butt and you want to know if it feels good or they touch it lightly on the outside. I'm not saying you got to ram in a thing. I'm just saying see if you like it. Menace, are you gonna do that tonight? Now that I've. I've inspired You.

I, I probably wouldn't do it tonight, but I do suggest there is a movie that I've brought up on the show maybe a couple years ago about this very subject that it is a big part of the movie. It's called Road Trip and it's a, it's a comedy and it's hilarious. But it's all about anal stimulation in certain scenes of the movie and it's pretty funny. So.

Okay, you can laugh about it too.

And they highly recommend it.

Right? Okay. So you can also go to my website and I don't know, I don't like whatever you can search anal, for example. And there'll be lots of helpful and useful articles and things you can read on there too, blog posts and use a lot of lube. Use my Emily and Tony lube, actually, which is amazing. I used it for the time. First, first time yesterday having. Actually I was not having sex. I use it during my own self pleasure time.

I was a virgin to my own lube and like I hadn't tried the final. Final is what I'm saying. Out of the bottle. Wow. Yeah, I loved it. It's amazing because I knew what I wanted in a lube. I wanted the perfect lube. And it's vegan and it's not animal tested. Whatever. You're gonna get it all Menace and you'll try it. Okay. Dear Emily, two questions. First of all, do you know how a woman can squirt? My fiance loves it when it does happen, but it doesn't happen enough. Any suggestions and what I can do to help it along? Thanks. Signed C. Okay.

Female ejaculation is what we're talking about. There's lots of, you know, debate people say doesn't even exist. Menace always jokes that it's really urine coming out of her when it's not.

And it's been scientifically proven that it is. God, whatever.

It's not. But what do you really think that.

They had doctors analyze it and say that it was indeed urine?

It's the same chemical construction as prostatic fluid. So it's not. It's different fluid. Like scientists have studied it. It's not, it's just, it's just totally. It's not urine at all. It's like male prostate whatever, ejaculate or whatever. But it's fluid and that's what it is. Back to the story. Back to a. Back to, back to squirting. Turn her on first. So women have to be like very turned on for them to squirt. So do it however you want to do it. But just make sure if you are her partner, that every cell in her body is completely turned on. So it won't work if she's not turned on. The next thing you have to do is find her G spot, because that is where all the magic squirt, all the squirting magic happens. So you got to find her G spot. If she has not ever found it or you guys haven't explored it, it's sort of a fun exercise you could do together. Hey, what are you doing Sunday? Let's explore your G spot. Feel the front inside wall of her vagina with a lubed finger or two about one finger length up. The G spot has a different texture from the rest of the vaginal muscles. It may feel rough or raised. So you can kind of feel in the front of the vaginal muscles where it is and you just keep pressing. So you focus on the front wall of the vagina. You explore it with your fingers as they're lubed. Push on her G spot. See how it feels to her. It might feel like she needs to urinate when you push on it. So make sure her bladder is empty before you start. It might feel like she needs to urinate, but if her bladder is empty, she can be sure that it won't happen and what she's feeling is normal, which is kind of a bummer for a lot of women, including myself. You just want to go with it, but you're like, I'm going to pee all over this guy. But you're really not. You're really not going to pee. So don't try to stop it. Keep going with it. And then you can introduce toys or use your fingers. You try to induce the female ejaculation at this point. So maybe she's had a few clitoral orgasms. So keep her aroused. Keep firmly stimulating her G spot with your fingers or a toy. Goodvibes.com has tons of G spot toys you can Google like G Spot Toys on their site. She'll probably feel the desire to urinate, remember? But once she's at this point, she feels a very intense sexual feeling. She's feeling alive. She keeps going. She might be ready to ejaculate. So she needs to keep her muscles open, relaxed, let it flow. Deep breaths, and it'll help if she pushes with her PC muscles, which are her pelvic floor muscles. Sometimes I do that too, like when I'm trying to orgasm. Sometimes you just push your PC muscles. It helps. Do your Kegel exercises and Strengthen them and. Am I going on too long? I've got more. I've got one more step.

No, go for it.

Can you believe me now? Okay, so. So once she starts to ejaculate, a clear fluid will squirt. You'll probably see it, like, squirt or sprinkle out of her urethra. It can be about a lot. Like, a lot of times it's a lot.

It's like.

It's like a quarter cup. It's like a river. It's like you need to. You need to, like, call, like, the 911 or something. Because, like, not 911, but. Who's that fired? Yes, because they might. You're flooding. Seriously. Like, there have been some instances where it's just. It is a lot wetter than anything, and so put a towel underneath. Put a towel underneath. Whatever you have to do in your bathroom. You need scuba gear. Exactly. Oh, my God. It's true. It's also possible with clitoral stimulation. So if you want to skip all the G spot stuff, I recommend using the Hitachi, the magic wand. Actually, it's no longer Hitachi magic wand. It's the original magic wand, which I can tell you from personal experience and from many of my friends experiences. The magic wand is the Cadillac of all vibrators. And it can really help you have a G spot orgasm and have an orgasm just using your clitoris. But also, if your partner's stimulating your G spot and use a magic wand, you might even be more likely to squirt.

Use coupon code Emily for 15% off, because I know you want to buy everything that I talked about@goodvibes.com so I don't know. Medis, do you ever get into the squirting thing, like, with women? Has that ever happened to you?

It happened, but I thought I was being peed on the whole time.

I know. And then you left, Right? And then you thought she was stealing your wallet. Okay, so. But she wasn't peeing on you.

Yeah, that's what you say.

Does it turn you on now that you think that she wasn't peeing on you, rather she was female ejaculating on you.

That doesn't, like, turn me on, but it's not gonna stop me from having sex.

I don't get, like, you know, I know. It gets people. Some people super horny. Oh, my God. I can't believe it when she squirts. Oh, I got the biggest, hardest boner on the planet. But it's just. I. I don't And I don't think every man on the planet feels the same way and.

Right.

You know.

I think in this topic, if you did a survey, I think it'd be maybe 50, 50 on people if they find it hot or not. Maybe you can, you can put on it.

Why don't we start? Let's listen to our listeners feedback at sex with emily.com. do you find female ejaculation hot or not? Great question, Menace. I mean, I'm actually putting another survey.

I think a lot of people are going to put in. The effort of sending in an email is going to think it's hot. But I think if you put it.

You'Re already, you're already trying to defend yourself because you're going to lose.

Well, I think in an email, in an email sense I believe that, yeah, I probably would lose. But I believe if you actually just put a survey on sex with emily.com it would be 50, 50, because people, people are kind of lazy these days. I admit it. I, I put off days to write a freaking email. So I'm sure whoever's going to write emails be passionate saying that they like it. That's all I'm saying.

Okay, well, put it on Facebook.

Put it on Facebook.

I don't think, I think I'll get kicked off Facebook for talking about female decoration. I'm serious. I got kicked off once before. My fan page, my sex with Emily page, which you should. All motherfuckers go like it now. Sorry, I don't swear, but like, if you're listening to my show, the least you could do is go to Facebook and be like, oh, I like her. And I give you interesting tidbits on Facebook that will change your sex life. So why not do that? Because you know, you're on Facebook all day long anyway. Yeah, that's what I gotta say about that. Okay, so wait, what will you just say and follow me on Twitter? Sex with Emily and Menace is menace. All in Instagram and Twitter and Facebook. He's just Menace and he's amazing.

Menace.

Yeah, I got a quick question for you.

Yeah, go for it.

What'd you say? What do you think about when you. Instagram is where menace is king.

Yeah.

Okay. If you, let's say you don't want to orgasm when you're in bed with your, when you're having sex and you want to think of something. You know, every guy like has the thing that he thinks about, like his third grade teacher with the mole or whatever.

Yeah. What do you think about to make me Not.

Not orgasm.

There's nothing that I can think about that would not make me. Because you just. No matter how much you try to put out your mind, you just can't. So you got to change position. You have to break for a second and change position.

Okay, got it. I'm just curious because a lot of guys think of something.

Yeah, I mean, I. People try that method, but I think there's like, you try to think about it, try not to think about, oh, I'm thinking about. I'm thinking about it, and then it's over, you know?

Yeah, that's true too. But a lot of guys have the power to do that. But I was asking because we're actually doing a survey on our site about the length of sex. It's not up yet, but it will be soon. Like, do you think sex lasts too long, too short? What? Would you like your partner to do more of all this stuff? Because I want to tell everyone if you feel like you don't last long enough, we have a whole new blog on this that you can check out. And sexwithelmy.com, but also a lot of guys want to know, like, how do I last longer? And there's this new FDA approved desensitizing spray. I can send you some menace called Promescent, that's P, R, O, M and E S, C N T S, C E N T. You can check out our website. And it's a desensitizing spray that you put on your penis. It does not transfer to her. Her vagina will not get numb and men don't have orgasms as quickly. So it's really cool. But we want to find out more about facts about, like, just. I just want to know about people's sex life who listen to the show. And so I have some really interesting questions to ask you. So check it out on my website.

Menace. I'm gonna come to San Francisco, I think in a few weeks, and I'd love to, like, hang out and do fun stuff.

Yeah, that'd be cool. I like doing the shows. When we're face to face, it's a lot easier.

I know. I miss you so much and it's really been great to talk to you today.

You too.

And I always love you. I know. Anything else I need to know in the world?

That's it. Download Stitcher. It's totally for free. I'm at the Stitcher studio.

Oh, my God. Obsessed.

You can just type in sex and sex only pop up. You can check it out on your desktop. Your tablet, your Android card, your car.

No, I listen to it when I'm driving now on my cell phone. I'm just like Stitcher. And then I search for all these different podcasts, which is. Actually, I just listened to ours because I never have ever in eight years listened to it. But no, we sound good. And then I listen to a few more. But yeah, it's any pot. Like, how many pocket. I think 10,000, right? 20,000? A million.

There's about 18,000, I believe right now. Anywhere between 20 and 18. But the. There's another thing, too, if you. If you want to hear me talk. I rarely do it, like maybe once every four months. But there is a. There's a thing on there if you. If you search Stitcher presents. I'll like, interview random people on there, but it's not.

Oh, you do?

Yeah, but it's not about sex. It's just about.

It doesn't have to be about sex.

Anything about.

About dot coms, to radio DJs, to musicians and stuff like that. But I. I don't do it that often.

Okay, but you will.

You'll get an alert when it's updated, so just add it to your playlist.

That is a draw, though.

Yeah.

To listen to you menace more often.

I know.

Which we don't get to. Anyway. Well, I hope everyone has a lovely week and enjoying your summer. And I love you, Menace.

All right, I love you too. And we'll have even more shows two days a week, right?

Yeah, more shows two days a week, baby. That's what we're doing. Okay, thanks everyone, for listening to sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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