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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions.

Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day.

Hey Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cuz my man e here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her stand. Oh, my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can listen to all of our shows. We've got hundreds of podcasts you can listen to. We've got blogs, we've got questions and we answer your. We've got question and answers. We've got Q&As. And we will improve your sex life just by listening. So please come check out our site and thanks everyone for listening to the show. It is Friday. Yes, yes. Happy Friday.

Happy Friday.

Lot of people having sex this weekend. So I thought a good topic for the show today would be the female orgasm. We're gonna break it down, we're gonna dissect it, we're gonna give advice if you can't have one. Because we got several emails this week from women. One age 16, one age 30, never had an orgasm. And I thought, you know what? That's a sign. We gotta tell women, we gotta tell men. We're gon break down the orgasm. And we're gonna be reading your emails from listeners and sex and the news. What up, menace?

What's going on? What's going on with you this weekend?

Oh, my God. I'm going to Michigan for the fourth of July.

Really?

Yes. Going to Michigan to see the fam.

You're gonna return as the superstar Bravo talent that you are, I guess. And you're gonna be mobbed by all the people of Michigan.

I don't think so. I don't know. We'll see. We'll see. I'm doing actually a special screening of the Michigan ep. If people haven't heard. I'm on the show called misadvised at 10 o' clock on Bravo television on Monday nights. And this week's episode on Monday night is the scene where we go back to Michigan is the episode we filmed in Michigan. So we're doing a big screening of the show of that episode in Michigan at a movie theater.

Really?

Yeah. Did I tell you this?

Oh, man.

So if you're listening now. Oh, you'll know. Cause you. Yeah, this is Friday bright, so you can still come Monday, man.

I Wish I was out there. I could see it.

Oh, my God, they would love it. Will you come?

I can't.

I know it's Monday. It's hard. So it's Fourth of July, though, I mean, coming up. So I figure I always go home. Every means coming up, so I always go home for Fourth of July. So it's like my Michigan thing to do. Which I love it because it's sunny and happy and warm and my brother's gonna be there. We're gonna miss you. We'll call you.

I miss your brother. I love that guy.

I know you do. So then. Yeah. How have you been? What are you doing this weekend?

I'm good this weekend. It's random. My friends are begging me to fly out to.

To St. Louis, Missouri.

And you're not coming to Michigan, but you're gonna go to St. Louis? What the. What?

I know. No, no, I'm not gonna go, but my friends are begging me to go. That. So I'm probably just gonna go to Michigan. San Jose, California.

Okay.

My favorite.

You love San Jose.

Love San Jose. Yeah. I just can't take any work off, man. I wish I could, but, you know, I do. I do radio Monday through Friday.

I know, I know. It's true.

When you're not at work, people notice that you're not at work.

That's why. Yeah, I have to be the boss. But when you're the boss, people, whatever. But okay. And hello to our SiriusXM listeners. We're on Extreme Talk, XM165.

Tweet us if you're listening.

Tweet us if you're listening. It's Sex with Emily and White Menace.

Yes.

Not together. Separately. Separately, that would be Sex with Emily and White Menace. So, yeah, what else? So the show this week, Misadvised, was very interesting. If you missed it, they're replaying it on Bravo all week until Monday's episode. And my date is a friend of men's and he took me to a strip club.

Yeah. And it ended up in the Huffington Post.

It was in the Huffington Post that I went to.

They recaptured.

Exactly. They recapped my date. But it was funny to watch. You liked it?

Oh, I loved it.

It's not that I'm not down with strip clubs, it's just that I.

You didn't seem like you were like.

I gotta be in the mood. I gotta be in the mood. You gotta be like. You know what I mean? You don't just go, like, out to dinner, like, let's grab some sushi and go to a strip club. You know, you need to, like, know that you're going to a strip club.

Yeah.

And I didn't know I was going to strip club. Not a good first day of material, but it was really fun. Love, Ray. Love people.

And people loved it.

They loved it, loved it.

I mean, they were joking around, like, really going to a strip club on your first date. Like, they just thought that was funny. But overall, the people that I read on Twitter, because the hashtag for the show is misadvised.

So misadvised.

You're on Twitter, just click misadvised. And you can just join in on the conversation about the show. And people loved your date.

I know. It was hilarious. And then this week is even different. I was gonna say even better, but you'll be the judge of that.

Okay.

You can also check out my book, which we talk a lot about on the first episode. Hot sex. Over 200 things you could try tonight. You can find all this on my website. You should buy my book because it'll help spice up your sex life.

I know. It's, like, selling like crazy now.

Sound like crazy. I love it. That's my dream. So I'm very happy that it's selling crazy. And, yeah, we got some sex in the news. Is there anything else? What else? You're being quiet today.

It's weird being quiet. No, no, no. I just. I. Man, I tired. I'm tired.

I did.

It's kind of just, you know, I. I slowed down. All the. All the concerts that I'm involved in are all, like, all done now. And this is kind of like my resting time until August where the concerts pick back up. And then.

Right.

I'll go to Chicago, to Lollapalooza, and then we have outside lands here in San Francisco.

I love outside lands. That'll be fun.

I know you love going because they have so much wine.

I just like the VIP section with the wine. Exactly. How do you know? You know me so well. I do know. It's Carmel last weekend, which was really beautiful.

Wow.

I know, because we haven't talked in a while.

Tell me about Carmel.

Carmel is lovely. Carmel by the Sea is the actual name of the town. Do you know this? It's not Carmel. It's Carmel by the Sea. Because you're by the sea. By the sea.

How long did it take you to get to Carmel?

Two and a half hours. Really beautiful. I haven't been there in years. And we, like.

Why were you down there?

Just with a friend.

Okay.

Hanging Out Little, Little Getaway.

All right.

Walk on the beach with a friend in quotes.

Do you know that they actually shoot a reality show on Carmel?

I know, I know. Have you been watching it? I saw the previews to it. Is it good?

Eastwood and Company. Oh, yeah, I love it. It's hilarious.

Is that your new favorite show? It is.

Because. Oh my God, Dina Eastwood is from the same area that I'm from. Oh, she's from Fremont, California. I'm from New York. But I did leave. I did live in Fremont, California for a while too. And it's cool because she has the same attitude as me when it comes to, you know, fame and money and stuff like that. So I relate to her a lot. Right, because, you know, there's your attitude. Oh, she's very like humble and just a conscious of like how much things cost and you know, she's like how hard people have to work and stuff like that.

Yeah.

You know, she's not just like, oh, I hit the jackpot because I married Clint Eastwood. Eastwood and now I'm just a crazy millionaire. Like, she's very conscious of everything that she's doing.

Yeah, well, once you, if you struggle and you, you know, you always do, I guess once, even if you make a lot of money, you're always like.

Yeah, but some people just like forget about everything that they came from.

I can never forget about where I came from. Yeah, but I know what you're saying about her. Like I saw clips of it, it looked interesting.

Yeah. So I really like her. She's like crazy and funny, so I like her a lot.

Okay, that's good to know.

I watch. I mean, they have a boy band that's part of the show.

That's kind of weird.

I'm not really into that part too much.

But, but the girls are cute, her daughters and stuff.

Yeah, her daughters are good looking. They're very, they're underage. Well, no, one of the daughters is actually.

Her stepdaughter who's her mom is like a famous actress. Oh, something Fisher, I think. I don't know.

I don't know either. I haven't seen enough.

But that daughter, the stepdaughter was the one that was all over the news. Did you hear about that? Well, her boyfriend is this famous photographer who actually used to be a famous X Games skateboarding guy and now he just does this like really abstract foot photography and he decided, oh, I want you to take a chainsaw to this hundred thousand dollar Hermes bag and set it on fire. So they did it. They did on the show.

Oh, my God.

The photos got out and, like, people were just upset about it.

I'm upset about it. I want that bag.

I know you want that bag. Not that. Not that. The bag can, you know, probably build three hospitals in Africa or something like that. No, just because you want the bag to wear it. People are upset that it's so much money that's going to waste.

I could, yeah. Purses are expensive, but an Hermes bag, you took a thing. Couldn't I just wear it one night out?

No, no, no. Well, she, the daughter, the stepdaughter who's with this guy is like, can I please just wear it around? So he let her wear it around town for like one day. And then.

That's hilarious. I think I did hear something about that.

But hey, do you know what? If you have the money to do it and you want to do it, then you know what?

She's got that much money that she can just.

No, she didn't buy it. It was the boyfriend that bought it and the show.

Make a statement.

Yeah, to make a statement.

It's a bad statement.

Whatever.

Save the bag.

You know what? Again, people can have their comments, but if he has the money to buy it and that's what he wants to do with it, it's America.

It's art.

I don't think it's art.

He's doing art. Well, that's why he bought. To make a statement. It's art. He's a photographer. But so what?

Everyone's a photographer. You got a camera on your phone.

Don't. You're a pro. But I try my best. Yeah, that's interesting. Okay, we've got our own.

You would be so pissed if that was your boyfriend.

Dude, that was my Hermes bag. And he was like, come up with the chainsaw. I'd take the chainsaw, turn on him. I'd be like, that's my freaking Hermes bag. I mean, I'd be pissed. I mean, they're like $10,000 bags. This is 100,000.

This is $100,000.

It was like gold encrusted or something.

It was crazy.

Yeah, that's crazy. Okay, so today's show, like I said, we're going to be talking about orgasms. We always answer your emails that you Send to feedbackily. Morse.com. that's the best way to email us. Emily Morse M O R S E dot com. And we're gonna get into some of those questions later. But first, we got a little bit sex in the news for you. Okay? A man threatens neighbor with gun for flatulence. Danielle Collins, a 72 year old man in New Jersey has been charged with threatening to shoot his neighbor for farting in his home. Collins claims that his neighbor cut the cheese so loudly that he heard it all the way in his home next door. He was charged with aggravated assault and making terrorist threats.

Wow.

Not sure what that has to do with sex, but I thought it was kind of a funny story. Could you imagine that loud. And he's gonna. Where they're threatening him with a gun in New Jersey. Figures. New Jersey. Everything happens in New Jersey. Oh.

Same bad things about Jersey, eh?

Yeah, I love New Jersey.

New Jersey. Figures.

Are all the weird stories. It's true. Florida, New Jersey. That's where we're going to go in.

Florida more than anything. I don't know what's going on with people in Florida. Is there like nuclear reactors?

There must be something going on.

And people in Florida. Don't get defensive. Just read the news in your town and.

Exactly. Tell us. Isn't it weird? Exactly. If you're in Florida, we love you, but you, you live in a str.

There's like websites just dedicated to Florida news. And it's not like, you know, really.

Because it's all bizarre. Yeah. Maybe it's just sunny. The sun gets to their head. I don't know.

Check out fark.com. fark.

Okay.

Dot com. And they just have a button that says Florida. And all you do is click on Florida and it'll tell you all the wacky stories.

Right. We're not just. We're not making this up. No. Okay. A waitress sues LA bar over short skirt dress code. A woman claims she was fired from Oharra's bar for complaining about a new dress code for women that required wait staff to wear short plaid schoolgirl skirts and place fans around the restaurant to blow their skirts up. This woman wrote a letter to her boss registering the complaint and it was quickly laid off. I don't know. I mean, they can do that in a restaurant, right? Like Hooters. You gotta wear those shorts and the tank top. I mean, if you work at a restaurant.

Yeah, that's required. I mean, the fans are a little bit.

That's a bit much. It's not a strip club, is it? I mean, it doesn't say it's strip club. Oharra's bar sounds like it. I mean, it might be, but that is like every man's fantasy is like a little girl, a woman in this plaid school. I think she should have stayed. She would have gotten good tips. But I don't. I wouldn't want fans blowing up my.

Again, too.

How do you do your job if you trying to deliver someone a hamburger and your skirt's flying up at your belly button?

Yeah, again, businesses, man, you gotta work that stuff out. You can't. You can't fire women after they complain about something because you are gonna pay severely, you know?

Well, it's already in the news. Yeah, exactly. Okay. Sex toy company to donate high tech dildos to military wives. So I actually know this guy who started Real Touch. It's called Real Touch Toys. They're trying to donate a thousand of their high sex toys, high tech sex toys to military families. Which is kind of like the sex toy that we talked about. The Real Touch is basically an electronic vagina that you hook up to a computer. Then you download the software, pop into porno, and the Real Touch electronic vagina synchrocizes in motion to the actions on the screen. Real Touch can sync their electric vagina to an electric dildo. So basically, what the man does to the evadge, that's the stuff that I've been talking about on the women's side and vice versa. Real Touch feels that separated military families will benefit from their products.

I don't get the whole watching a porno thing. They're rather just.

I know.

My envision is you've been talking about.

This for years and you should have done it.

It's just like a Skype.

I know.

It's just like, you Skype, you got the vagina on your side and then they got the dildo on the other side.

Right.

And you know, you could be having sex with somebody in New York.

Right?

And you're in California.

It's amazing to have a sex or masturbate.

I know. But hey, you know what, dude? You know how many boyfriends and girlfriends you could have all over?

Oh, you could have sex all over. That's true. That's a good.

Yeah.

Huh?

You're like, okay, well, I feel like you're banging my. My cyber girlfriend in Texas today.

You know, I bet you people are gonna start doing that if they're not doing it already. Exactly. It's good to have them all spread out too, so they don't all know each other. What I've learned. Okay. Man claims his genitals were burned by a urinal in Arby's. A man in Aurora, Indiana, claims his penis was badly burned while using the urinal inside an Arby's restaurant. He claims that while utilizing the urinal in the men's room, a jet of stream shot shoot from the urinal and burned his penis. Shot up in the urinal. Apparently it was a plumbing issue caused in the chicken with the chicken when the kitchen sink was in use. People are always hurting their genitalia at fast food restaurants. Like the guy who spilled the McDonald's coffee on his. Yeah, what is that about? They're just trying to like sue money. They're just trying to like get money from the fast food chains or something.

Oh, yeah, of course. But I mean, if you're. If you're really injured severely by something. Yes. Then you should get paid.

You should get. Yeah.

Conversation. But if you, you know, you barely get hurt off some freak accident, you shouldn't be paid out millions of dollars. No effing way. I'm sorry. Just have. Whatever medical fees that you haven't covered.

And they took all the pain and suffering and psychological damage and all that stuff. But that's. My brother's a personal injury attorney, so.

Okay.

That's how he makes a living.

Well, I need to call him.

Calm. Okay. Elderly man calls fire department to cut off stuck.

Uh oh. A 70 year old man in England spends 36 hours stuck in a cock ring. Last week he arrived at a Manchester hospital unable to remove the sex toy from his genitals. The hospital staff had to call the local fire department to cut the ring off in the same method they do for rescue situations. He and his cock survived, but the ring died. This is an interesting story because I actually, on the first episode of Misadvise show on Bravo that I'm doing, I actually have a conversation about a cock ring with my brother. And someone said to me that was the first time it's been on national television, someone talking about a cock ring. Now I don't know if that's true. What you would know because you watch more TV than anyone.

Well, you know what? I've never.

I never really. I can't think of any time that I heard somebody talk about coffee.

Exactly. And the reason why I talk about it is because the kind of rings that I talk about are not the ones that would get stuck in your penis because they're stretchy. They're stretchy and they fit all penises and there's no way it can get stuck on you. But this is like the metal ones. Like it's like a metal. The ones that people use. Whatever. There's like the metal ones, but I like the ones that vibrate and they feel really Good for the man. They can help you stay harder, longer. And for the woman, it's got a little vibrator on the end, and it hits her clitoris in the right space. And I think everyone in the world should have a cock ring. And you could buy one from Good Vibrations, the Neo vibrating cock ring from Good Vibes. You can find it on our product page on our website, sexwithemily.com and if you use coupon code GVMLY15, you get 15% off. And you should buy a cock ring. It's a little. Yeah. What?

They have the vibrating ones, right?

It's a vibrating ring. It is a vi. It's awesome. It's the Neo vibrating ring. So it stretches, it vibrates. You won't be like this man in a hospital trying to get it off, because you can easily get it off. There's no problem there. Okay, we've got some emails from the peeps.

Good. Did they say where they're from and how they're listening?

No. Some people do, some people don't. And in fact, we've got a whole bunch of new listeners now because we're doing. There's been more exposure.

So. Okay, here's the rules for emailing us@feedbackmilymorse.com and for years, it was feedbackswexwithemily.com you can still do that. It's just we're having some issues with the sex with emily.com email, so. Feedbackily Morsemorse. We want to know where you're from. We want to know how you listen to the show. Do you listen to it on your iPhone? Do you listen to it on your computer? Do you listen to it? Whatever. We want to know. And we also want you to be brief.

As brief as you can with your. With your issues. I don't need that much backstory. But, yeah, that's that. Those are the only rules. And we try to get to every email. And if we do answer your email during the show, we will let you know. We'll send you a note. How about that?

Good.

Okay. Dear Emily.

Oh, and listen a lot on Stitcher too.

Oh, yeah, let's talk about Stitcher.

Okay, real quick. This is where we record the show every day, is Stitcher. And it's an app where you can download it for your phone. The app is free. And then all you gotta do is search sex with Emily. You can take sex with Emily on the go anywhere you wanna go.

Yeah, Stitcher's amazing.

It's for your iPhone and your Android and for your iPad and your tablet, whatever.

Right? It's a great way to listen to podcasts. It was so funny. Cause I was walking with a friend the other day, and she's like, I just. I wanna listen to your show. But, like, I wish there was a way that I could listen to it on my phone. But I don't get it. I'm like, stitcher. Like, how did she not know? And she was like, oh, my God. Oh, my God. This is the best thing ever. I've always wanted this. Like, it's just amazing. If you like podcasts, Stitcher has thousands. Hundreds of thousands.

Yeah. Oh.

Tens of hundreds of thousands of podcasts.

Crazies.

Free app. Download it, listen to our show. And we've got like 100 shows.

This is why I'm annoyed by your friends. They don't know stuff like that. And they don't know not to call you during the times that we're doing the show.

I know you hate my friends, but no one's called yet today.

Yeah, because you're doing it at a different time.

That's right. I know my friends don't know. My friends don't even listen to the show, but no, they do. They listen to the show. Whatever. Your friends don't listen to the show, do they?

Yeah, they do. They, like, quote the show and stuff like that.

No way. I swear. Oh, my God.

My friends support me, and I support my friends. That's how it goes.

Well, my friends are busy.

Yeah.

Okay, so we got your emails here, and thanks for emailing us. We love it. Go to sexthelmy.com for more information. Okay. Dear Emily, hi, I just want to say that I'm a male, 33 and straight. I think your new show on Bravo is awesome, and I think you're unbelievably hot. I wish I lived in San Fran. And I can't believe that guy you went out with.

Took you to a nasty strip club.

Anyway, it wasn't nasty. It was a classy one.

It was a classy strip club. He got a private room.

Yeah, it looked nice to me compared to the last strip clubs I've gone to.

I know. And they made it. Honestly, I have nothing against strip clubs. I just would not suggest taking your date to a strip club on the first date.

Maybe the second one.

Right. But thanks. Dude, I don't even know who that's from. Cause he didn't sign his name, so. Don't always sign your name. You don't. You could fake your name, but just tell us where you're from we don't care. Call yourself whatever you want. But it's interesting because I just got interviewed for my book publisher. I have a book called Hot Sex and you can buy it on Amazon. And they were interviewing me for a video they're doing and they were like, what's your best first date tips? Because people always ask that. And I was like, you know, or like, what's the great first date to you? And honestly, for me it's not about like, oh, he picked me up in a limo and we had roses and champagne and then he took me to this fine restaurant. I think it's all about the connection with someone. And then if you have great conversation, you could be like walking in the park. I really don't care if you spend a dime on me. I just want to connect and have conversation and see if I like you or not. So you don't have to plan anything all fancy, super whatever. Just be good conversationalists and learn to listen and learn to talk. Because girls like to talk.

Yeah, they love to talk. That's the number one thing. And just ask questions and try to have a conversation where you don't say I that much. I, you know, I know you want to relate to something that they're talking about.

When you bring it back and you.

Bring it back, it's like, oh, you're talking about Michigan.

Oh, oh, I went to Michigan once.

You went to Michigan? Yeah, I went to the. All the listen, blah, blah.

Those are called non listening people and annoying people who are always making about themselves. Yeah, I've been accused of that. But I don't think I do that as I think I've been very conscious of it in my life to not do as much earlier.

I have to catch myself sometimes because I don't want to do it to talk about myself, but I just want to do it to try to keep the conversation going.

Right.

But that's not a good way to keep.

That's not a good way to do like, oh, you went there. I loved it. Right, so don't do that. And check out the website for other tips because we have lots of good tips there. Okay. Dear Emily, I just bought my wife the form two, which she really likes. The form two by Jimmy Jane. We used a water based lube wet original. But after a while the lube gets all gummy on her hands and the toy. What lube would you recommend to use with the Form 2 that won't get sticky? Thanks, Tom. Okay, first of all, he's talking about the Form Two, which is my favorite sex toy from Jimmy Jane. Just go to my website. You can check out jimmyjane.com and they have. There's a coupon code. You can get toys there. It's an amazing, cute. It's amazing toy. I would try Sliquid Organics silk lube. It's a half water based and half silicone based lube. And so it's a hybrid. So it has a naturally silk and creamy texture. And you can get that@goodvibes.com and that's a great place to buy it. It's my favorite right now. I have so many lubes, but it is my favorite. It's long lasting and perfect for people with sensitive, with sensitivity since it also is glycerin and paraben free. That's Sliquid. Sliquid. You're not a lube fan, are you?

No.

I want a lube on every nightstand. You really don't use lube ever?

No, no, no.

If I gave you some, would you use it?

Maybe.

I mean, you know, you just don't like any extra.

No, I'm just saying that I have condoms. I am not. Yeah, yeah. I'm not really dating chicks that require lube.

It's not about. Okay, I'm glad you said that. Lube is not a requirement.

Sometimes it is.

Okay, listen, lube has a bad rap. Everyone says that lube is because I was dry or like, there's a problem. So let's bring in the lube. Not about that. Lube actually helps enhances your sex life. And for women, it can just feel really good to have lube rubbed all around on your clitoris and all that stuff. So I think that lube is great to use every time you have sex. And it's fun with a sex toy, too. And my mission in life is to have lube on every nightstand in America. In the world. First America. Then I'll take over the world with lube. All right. Okay. Dear Emily, you're my absolute favorite. I'm misadvised. You are darling. And it's been fun watching the show. I just broke up with my boyfriend of two years and was feeling kind of bummed. Your show has shed some fun light for me from Lauren. Don't know where she's from. Dude. Ms.

Advice got so much love on second episode. Oh, my God.

Oh, you mean it on Twitter?

On Twitter. Yeah. It was probably 80% positive.

That's good.

Yeah.

It wasn't. Yeah, it was negative. That's good.

Yeah. The first. The first episode. I Mean, a lot of people are just tuning in because, yeah, everyone loves to hate whatever. It was like, it was kind of like almost 50, 50 on people liking it. But the second episode when I went and checked it on Twitter, it was like 80% positive.

That's awesome.

And you west coast people need to really watch too.

East Coast.

A lot of east coast people watching. West Coast.

Come on, come on, West Coast. Support us west coast people. Monday, 10 o' clock on Bravo. Misadvised. Cause we love it. We love when you listen. Okay. We love when you watch us. Dear Emily, background, 34 year old guy, virgin, never had a relationship. This is due to my practically lifelong struggle with major clinical depression. However, with the correct medication, the issues are largely resolved finally. And I feel great. So as you can imagine, I'm now out there trying to meet the right girl. Positive qualities. I'm handsome, I make $80,000 a year. I'm a graduate degree of University of Michigan where I went to school. This person's actually from Michigan.

Wow.

Good personality, responsible, good credit. That's good. We don't want anyone in debt. And he's fit. Negative qualities. Can't think of any. That's what he said.

Wow. Pretty confident. I don't know why you have a problem then.

Any ideas on the best way to address talk about the issue with lack of relationship at my age, medication, et cetera. I don't have an issue with getting match.com first dates, but getting to date number two seems to be an issue. Maybe it's just a lack of chemistry, but I'm guessing that there are some areas I can improve upon. Thoughts? Thanks be so this actually came in today. There was an article in the Detroit News, which is my hometown paper, about misadvised and the show and all that stuff. So he wrote me this morning and I just thought it was a really interesting thing. Like he's 34 year old virgin and I would just say that, wow, this is a heavy one because I'm sure there's some areas you can improve on. First of all, I would just, I mean it sounds like you're a really confident guy and I'm glad that you. I would, I would say that you don't need to spill it all on the first date. So I'm not sure if you're feeling the need to tell these women on the first date that like you've been depressed or that you're a virgin. Like I wouldn't even bring that up. I would just like, like we were just saying, ask a Lot of questions. Talk about yourself. Talk about what you love. Talk about what you're passionate about. And I know that maybe that you have the inclination that you feel like she needs to know that you're a virgin or that she needs to know that you haven't been dating. But, like, women don't want to hear that. Guys don't want to hear that. Like, just go and being yourself. Keep it positive. Talk about all the things you like. And then I think that that's a good way to start as far as things you can improve upon. I mean, I would just say. I mean, the sex thing could be tricky. He hasn't had sex yet and he's 34.

Yeah, that's a little tough. Hopefully just masturbating a lot.

I think masturbating in fantasy.

By the time he has sex, he'll. He won't, you know, take two seconds.

Right. Masturbate a lot also. The most important thing is if you do one of these dates, you get the second date, the third date, and you have sex. Don't trip on it. Women, ask her what she wants. Like, please her. Like, figure out how to please her. Ask her what feels good. And I think you will be fine. But I'm proud of you that you. Thank you for writing and I'm glad you got medication and everything. You sound like a great guy.

And his email, he sounds pretty awesome. Sound confident.

And that's what women confidence should be. If you are not a confident male or female listening to the show.

That should be your life mission is to cultivate confidence. You should learn. If you're not confident, fake it till you make it. I don't care what you have to do, but that is the number one thing that people find sexy is confidence in people. And if you don't have it, you're not gonna find anyone. I would say also there are some books and some things that you could read that would help you courses you can take on dating, on relationships. I could suggest them to you. And I will send you an email. Okay, thanks.

Next email. How you doing, manis?

I'm good.

Okay.

I was freaking out. Cause there was some garbage by me.

You hate garbage.

And I just didn't like the garbage, so I had to go through.

What do you like? Obsessive compulsive?

Maybe? I just kept on looking at it.

I was like, it's making you tense. I don't want you to be tense. I want you to be totally fully present. That's my iPhone app.

You have an iPhone app? It's called Kegel camp. And oh, see, somebody mentioned that they're like, oh, I'm going to watch Mrs. Vai MissAdvise as I'm doing my kegels. So if you don't know, Emily has this app again. Kegel Camp.

Kegel Camp. It's amazing.

And how does it go again?

It goes tense.

It's guiding you through it.

I guide you through your Kegel exercises, which are for men and women. And I'm telling you, I've had more. First of all, everyone assumes that the kegels are just for women. But I've gotten more emails from men who say they see dramatic improvements in their stamina, their ability to stay hard longer, and for women, longer, stronger orgasms. And all it is is that it's very simple. I walk you through it and it's a reminder every day. If you want to set a daily reminder or twice weekly reminder, I don't care what you do. But it pops up. It says, time for Kyko camp. And then you do it for five minutes and your sex life will improve. So download it now in the itunes store.

All right?

All right. Hi, Emily. I'm 15 years old and I have a big problem. All of my friends masturbate frequently and get orgasms almost all the time. I've never got an orgasm or ever felt any difference from masturbating and stroking your arm, AKA nothing at all. This is very disturbing for me and it would mean the world to me if you could help me out with this issue. Lots of love, Julia.

Okay, Julia.

Alison.

Not Julia. Allison. She's the other woman on the show. Okay, you're 15 years old and you have a big problem. This is not a big problem. Sweetie, I'm so glad that you wrote because I'm curious. First of all, you have got to work. You've got to figure out your own body. So I'm glad that you're doing this now. And maybe you're not touching yourself in ways like that make you feel good. So you need to, like, really experiment and not be all caught up with having the orgasm and sitting there in the moment and thinking, I'm not having an orgasm. I'm not. Because if you're in your mind about it, it's not going to happen. So really just a matter of, like, taking the time to explore your own body and what feels good to you. A lot of women can easily have orgasms. I'm not one of those women. I was not one of those women who, like, was riding a horse when I was 8 and had an orgasm or was, you know, in the bathtub. Like, there's a lot of women who just, like, had an orgas. And I found those women annoying, just like Julia, because it's like, why can't that happen to me? I would also say if, you know, I would say, commit. Do my friend's test. Commit to 30 days of every night you're going to masturbate, and you're going to do it for half hour and you're going to try to figure out what makes you feel good. You could also, if none of that works and you touch yourself in all these different ways, buy a sex toy. Vibrators can help you have orgasms.

Yeah. I saw the sex toy called the Anal Ripper. First sex toy I've ever seen in my life when I walked in the sex shop.

That was the first one you ever saw?

Yeah.

Years ago.

Was the Anal Ripper.

I'm sorry to hear that. It doesn't.

I wonder if that's still around.

You gonna look it up?

Yeah.

I should never, ever let anybody look at my phone after looking this up, so.

I know. So, Julie, I would say that it sounds like you said that. That it says it's. Since you feels the same as stoking your arm, I totally get that. I've had that. Like, I was like, why don't I feel anything during sex? And I really had to work on understanding my body. Like, maybe your nipple. Like, you need to, like, touch yourself all over your body. Like, take a bath, spend a night alone. And just, like, keep working at it. Keep going for it. And then again, you could also try sex toy. But it is not lost. You will have an orgasm. I promise you. We'll keep working on it. Let us know how it goes.

Oh, my God. Trying to find the Anal ripper.

Does it still exist on the planet?

There's so many different sex toy websites. I can't even tell.

If you want to buy a sex toy, you should just go to my website, sex with emily.com, sexwithemily.com.

What'S on the products page?

We've got amazing products, actually, we've got.

You just revamped your site. I haven't spent much time.

You haven't gone to the products page. It's amazing. We have stuff From Good Vibes, GoodVibes.com sells amazing toys, and we've got a coupon code there that you can use. And I actually have a page on their website. It's an amazing store in San Francisco, but they also have a great website and I think a good beginner vibrator. I mean we give a bunch of toys that we feature. I have my own page thing, but I think the pocketrocket is a great first time vibrator. It's small. There's also ones that are discreet and quiet. Like Julia's a 15 year old girl. She might not want her mom to hear, I don't know. But you could sort by like discrete vibrators or I want an insertion vibrator. A lot of women need clitoral stimulation. Most women need clitoral stimuli. We're getting into orgasms later. This is all about orgasms. But. And then I've got the Hitachi magic wand. Of course on my website I've got a cock ring because I think those are important. I'm going to change the world with cock rings and lube. And I've got a lube and I've got a bunch of stuff. Check it out. Okay, we've got another one from a woman who has not experienced orgasm either. And that will get us into our orgasm show. Hi, Emily. What are you laughing at?

I'm just.

Do you know a bummer, like men are just like, you have orgasms. Like when the wind blows and women can't have orgasms. Women have a harder time.

This is how just nature sucks, man. Seriously.

I know, it's so unfair.

It's just like why, why did they make it that way, make it so hard for you guys to do that? I don't know.

It sucks. That's my life purpose though, is to help people. And because it's.

Nature is sexist.

It is, seriously, like men have a penis. Like you guys can just. You never like, oh, what if I don't have an orgasm? You don't even worry about that.

I had to give to you because, you know, you guys gotta have kids, you gotta go have, you know, having your periods and stuff like that. You gotta go through a lot of crap.

Yeah. Have some compassion.

Maybe that's what makes you so effing crazy.

Well, the hormones of when you. Seriously, when we're menstruating as women, our hormones, like literally.

It'S insane. You, you are going insane.

Like, no, like, like one day I'm fine, happy picking roses. Next day I want to chop everyone I know into small pieces, including you.

It's like, but how do you not notice that?

You do. You switch, your brain switches and you're like, I'm now a serial killer and I can't do anything about It. Yeah. Yeah.

But how do you not notice that? Okay, I am just being a crazy person right now.

We do notice it, but we can't help it. You can't help it. You just get crazy and. Yeah, it's not fair. I'm not saying that women are crazy.

That's the need to administration island. There has to be, like, an island.

There is. There are places in different cultures that they send women when they have their period. Like the red tents.

Really?

Yeah. That all the women get together and, like, probably sit around and eat chocolate chip cookies and eat ice cream and, like, just bitch about their assumptions.

Where do I go?

I know.

Check that place out.

Okay. Hi, Emily. I wrote you yesterday on Twitter about never experiencing orgasm on my own. I'm a comedian. I have many jokes about this issue, but really. But the reality is, it's true. I'm 30 years old and have never had an orgasm. Sex and masturbation feels fine, just not great. It doesn't hurt. And I'm able to get very turned on, but there's never a release. And I have faked it every time I've ever had sex. I've tried many different vibrators and clitoral stimulation. I've tried muscle relaxers and alcohol because close friends have told me I need to relax. Nothing seems to work. I've never experienced any kind of sexual abuse in my past and I'm comfortable with my body and far from a prude. I'm worried that my vagina is maybe broken and that getting to that experienced orgasm is completely hopeless. I thought maybe if I had a partner who knew what he was doing and got to know my body, that it would happen. But I've been with the same guy for eight months and it never happens. And he is a very giving lover as far as foreplay and oral is concerned. I have faked it every time with him and don't know how to tell him that I simply can't get there. I've grown to resent him for having to fake it. Even though it's my fault for not being honest with him. I just feel like it's too late and would ruin his ego. I also feel like telling him it would be pointless. And so since I feel like it's a physical problem with me and not his lack of skill, please help. Any advice you give would be extremely helpful. Sincerely, Tricia. Yeah, she was Dming me or imming me, whatever. On Twitter. She was dming me. I was like sending an email. Like, it was like, all this stuff. Okay. First of all, you are not broken, Tricia. I think your vagina is totally fine. And I'm curious how much time you actually spend masturbating. And it says you've masturbated a little bit.

Well, tell her the story about your 30 day in Arizona.

Right, right. You've heard this, but when I was in college, I had. My best friend had never had an orgasm, and I hadn't had one either. But this is before I knew her. Anyway, she was like 19, and she went away to Colorado for the summer. She had an internship doing something, and she decided that she was gonna spend every single night for 30 minutes or an hour or whatever until she had an orgasm. And she touched herself here and there and everywhere. And finally, by like, the third week, like, she literally didn't feel anything. She had an orgasm. And to this day, she's now, like, has three orgasms every time she has sex. Now, let me tell you something. It's about understanding your own body. So that notion that we think that a man is gonna all of a sudden have the skills, I've actually decided that it's not. I mean, sure, men can have mad skills with their tongue or their hands or whatever, but it's the responsibility of the woman to claim her own orgasm and to show a guy what feels good and to move in a way that makes it feel good for you. And so since you haven't ever had an orgasm, you don't know what to do during sex. And you keep thinking, oh, he's going to do something right this time. He's going to do. He's going to move to the left or the right. But you haven't made it happen for you yet. And I guarantee you, the first time it happens, it's probably not going to be with a guy. So you say you've tried a vibrator. I'm wondering if you tried it once. You know how it is. You say, like, oh, yeah, I tried that. I went to therapy. I went once. Like, whenever people say that, like, that doesn't count. Like, trying a vibrator once, twice doesn't work. I mean, you need to make this your life mission. You should go to your doctor, of course, and get a checkup. I don't know if you're on any medication. You didn't say you were. But if you are, if you're taking antidepressants, that could absolutely have an impact on your ability to have an orgasm. But your vagina is not broken. Your friends are right that you need to relax and you need to masturbate. You need to dry yourself. A bath. You need to get out of the bath and just, like, touch your body and figure out what makes you feel good. But I would also, for sure get checked up by your doctor. Talk to your doctor, Talk to your physician and tell them the problem.

Yeah, I mean, I always say tequila, but she said that she's already tried alcohol.

She tried alcohol, which is baffling to me. It's baffling. Menace always has an orgasm when he drinks. But no, I would just say that. Yeah. Well, we're gonna move into the orgasm show right now. So this is gonna help all these women who can't have orgasms, which is really frustrating. Can you imagine Menace if you have 30 years old and you never released?

Yeah, that would be like.

You'd be like, yeah, it's. I feel sad. I'm sad for her, but I'm gonna help her right now because we are gonna get into orgasms. All right, but what were you gonna say? Tell me what.

Tell me about your first orgasm.

If you can remember.

I remember.

It was in college. It was amazing.

Okay, so descriptive.

I was on top and he was on the bottom, and I don't know what happened, but was, like, lightly, like, rubbing against him. I was. And all of a sudden I felt it. Felt it, felt it. And it came, and it was. It was. It was amazing. But it didn't happen, like, very frequently after that. And I have to really, like, I am not an easily orgasmic woman. Shock. But I'm not. And so I just. I. You know, a lot of women need to use, like, sex toys during orgasm. They need clitoral stimulation. But that. My first one was in college with a boyfriend, and I was like, thank God. But it didn't happen a lot with. I think it only happen once with him.

Was there anybody that you had it a lot with?

Yes.

Oh, man. Happens all the time with this person.

Yeah, there was. There was.

Why do you think that was?

He was hot. He was. This was a long time ago.

Oh, it's all about.

It's not that he was hot. That was stupid. I feel like. Like, can we just strike that from the record? That said he was hot. He was hot because. No, but he was hot because he was. He was so sexual, and he so opened up my eyes. This was, like, in my, like, early 20s. He. He was just really experimental, and I love that. And I learned a lot about sex through him. Like, he did things like, you know, we watched porn together, and I'd never Done that before. He bought me a vibrator. I had never had a vibrator before. And he was, like, very patient, and he was very into sex. And I. And very, like, found me very attractive, was very affirmative towards. Made me feel very sexy. And so with him, I could frequently, but not every time. These women who have said orgasms every single time, I think it's amazing, you know. So that's what it was. Yeah, I think it was the guy. But I want to say one more thing about this last email that I didn't because it was a long one. And I just wanted to say that.

You don't need to tell him. She's feeling guilty now and resenting him. And I just want to say you don't need to tell him. You can still work this out on your own. He doesn't need to know that you've been faking it, because would you want to know that a woman has been faking it for eight months?

Oh, hell no.

Right. Okay, so the female orgasm. Let's break it down. Okay. If you can, I can. Okay, so what are some of the obstacles to achieving orgasm? It can be a number of things that prevent people from experiencing them. And the first thing, number one thing, what do you think it is?

Money.

No.

Money. They don't got enough money for an orgasm. I'm broke. I can't get myself an orgasm.

No, I can't, you know, give a woman an orgasm because I can't give him $100,000 Hermes bag. Please tell me.

That you would have an orgasm if somebody bought you.

I might. $100,000. I might have one right now if it walked in the door. Yeah. But the first. Actually, the first problem. Obstacle. Obstacle to choosing to achieving orgasm is the mind. Our mind can actually trick us. The mind is. The brain is the largest sex organ. And so our mind can actually trick us out of orgasmic meaning. The way you think and feel about yourself and your body can hinder your ability to orgasm.

Of course.

So if you're in your mind and you're tripping out and you're like, oh, my ass looks fat and these pants, whatever it is, or you're worried about your life, you're worried thinking about your to do list, you are not gonna have an orgasm. It's in your mind. So you have to get to a relaxed state where you're just focusing on your breath or your body or wherever it feels good. But don't be thinking. Don't be thinking, am I gonna have an orgasm? Am I this or that that is the number one hindrance. And I wanna say that these are not anorgasmic women. We'd like to say preorgasmic because maybe they haven' orgasms yet. So it's still helpful. The next most popular thing that prevents people from having orgasms is medication. So antidepressants, like huge. And I think it's like, I don't even know what the numbers are now. Like one out of every whatever with five women or whatever, people are taking an antidepressant. So it sucks because you take an antidepressant because you're depressed and you need it, and then all of a sudden you're feeling better and then you can't have an orgasm. It's like, hi, here you go, we'll make you happy, but we're gonna take away like the best thing in the whole world from you.

Or you can just go forever, but then not orgasm.

Right. It's a bummer. So I would say that. Talk to your doctor. If you experience sexual side effects, you can oftentimes offset the problem with another medication or specific exercises like Kaggle exercises. They can help you have intense orgasms as women. Five minutes a day. Kaggle camp. Download it now. The other most. One of the top reasons why people can't achieve orgasm is sex beliefs. Many people's beliefs around sex are influenced by their family, their friends and religious institutions. A lot of people are raised that sex is shameful, that, you know, they'll go blind or whatever it is, they're embarrassed about that and that they. These beliefs can also hinder their sexual satisfaction. So like, I know that I was dating a guy a long time ago who, family was like super, super religious and he grew up literally like, like terrified to masturbate. Never masturbated, was a freak, you know, went to his religious institution every single day and was just told like, sex is wrong, it's bad. And as an older guy, you know, he was like, it was still in his 20s, wreaking havoc on him because of the messages that he got from his family and his religious institution. And you had some of that, right? No, no, no, not religious. But you were afraid, you had messages from your family.

That if I had sex, then I would get a girl pregnant.

Right, right.

And then so that's why I held off until I was like 18.

Right.

Which was good. Anyways, I don't care.

You don't care, cuz now you don't worry about it.

Yeah.

It was funny. I was watching Clerks 2 the other day.

Oh, I love it.

Love Clerks 2.

Love Clerks 1. But I don't know 2.

Yeah, 2 is pretty funny because in. In 2, there's a guy that they work with that's super religious, and they're like, oh, co workers. Ask him, so have you had sex with. With your girlfriend yet? And he's like, no, I can't. He's like, why? Because. Because she has a troll down there. We're like, he's a what? He's like, yeah, there's a. There's a troll in her vagina. And if I.

If I have sex with her, it's.

Gonna eat my penis.

It's gonna eat my penis. And so I have to wait until she's 18 and then the troll dies. And I was like. And then they're like, well, you make out with her. He's like, oh, I can't make out with her. And they go, is there a mouth troll? And he's like, yeah, there's a mouth troll.

Oh, my God, that's hilarious. That is funny. I'd watch it now.

Yeah, it's pretty funny.

But it is true that people have these beliefs, like, crazy, crazy, crazy beliefs. So get rid of all those stuff. If you got to go to therapy and you believe sex is wrong or bad or evil or you're gonna go blind or get someone pregnant. Yeah, let's go work on that.

There's, like, people that eat tiger penis because they think it's gonna help them perform better sexually. You know, it's just like, there's so many crazy things out there that people.

Crazy. I know. Crazy, crazy things. But we're here to tell you that it is not beyond your reach to have amazing sex. Okay? So this is my advice for women. Like, these are the two women you just wrote in who can't have an orgasm. I don't believe that a woman can truly say she can't have an orgasm unless you put in amp figuring out your body. So, like my friend who spent 30 days doing it, you might have to spend 60, you might take you a week. But it's just like everything. It's like going to the gym. Like, you have to exercise those muscles. You have to figure out what makes yourself feel good. And you just have to try it. You got to you. No guy is going to come in. Like that whole theory that someday my prince will come and so will I. You know, some guy's going to ride in and you're going to have. Not going to happen. You need to spend time alone. So how do you experience a More fulfilling orgasm. One of the most important things about having a more fulfilling orgasm is breathing. Do you know that a lot of people hold their breath during sex? And it's actually the breath that helps you have a fulfilling orgasm. So you can like breathe in and breathe. I feel like I do that too sometimes. Like during sex. I feel like, oh, my God, I'm not breathing.

Yeah.

When?

Even if you're in the gym, you gotta breathe.

Yeah, you gotta breathe when you're at the gym. You gotta breathe when you're having sex. Breath plays a huge role in orgasm. But many women and men automatically hold their breath without knowing it. Sexual energy travels through your breath and it's through the breath that we feel. So make sure that you. It's like meditation. It's like anything. Also another thing you can do, prolong foreplay. Haven't even brought up foreplay yet. It's been like a while in the show and I haven't even brought up foreplay. I know.

You used to promote it so much. You have to make out for at least three hours before you penetrate.

Touch her left nipple for six and a half hours before you move on to the right. Just kidding.

Yeah. And then you wait eight and a half hours till you can even pull your penis out.

Right.

That's how you talk.

No, I don't. I think that I just said 40 minutes of oral sex is nice.

What? And no one agreed with you?

I know, 20 minutes. Okay. Prolonged foreplay can enhance orgasm because you are building up, like, for women. Like, it's like that build up, the build up, the buildup. So, you know, go down on your girlfriend, your partner, your whoever for a while, you know, 10, 15 minutes. It just might even get her warmed up, up. But women can't go from 0 to 60 like men can. We can't get as turned on. And you need to do that. You need to have touch other erogenous zones and get her turned on. Vibrators can also enhance an orgasm if you've never had one. Like I said, the pocket rocket or the small bullet vibrator for clitoral stimulation is great. And if you've never had one, you've tried everything and like, nothing has worked. You got to get the Hitachi magic wand.

Which you have just been promoting since I've known you.

It's kind of an amazing vibrator. You plug it into the wall. It is the Mac truck of all vibrators.

It's not even a vibrator though, right?

It's like a massager. A Body massager. That's what they sell it. You get. It does actually help your back. It will feel good if you rub it on your. And your back if you have tight or your. Your arms or legs.

And it is made by the same company, Hitachi, which like makes my television.

Yeah, yeah.

Which is crazy.

Yeah, it's crazy. I wonder if you can sink. Because they.

Because they don't. They don't promote it as sex toy like we just said.

Right? They don't. They really don't. Because it actually can be used like that way. But my other favorite.

What's it supposed to be for?

Right, exactly. But there's also other like great orgasms that you could use for. There's great vibrators that you can use during intercourse that you. That are like, are kind of. They're discreet and you can just hold them on your clitoris because that's how most women need it. And they can just, just like you just hold it there and you'll have an orgasm.

From the Real Housewives.

Yes.

She has bedroom candy and she has that one clitoral thing. It looks like a lipstick. Not lipstick. The one that looks like, you know, you powder your face.

Oh, yeah, yeah. Compact.

Compact.

Those are awesome. You can buy if you want to. If you watch Candy Burris on Real Houseway of Atlanta, you can go to my page goodvibes.com, go to my website and you can search for candy stuff. And they sell all her products there. And they all look like makeup. Yeah, they look like compacts. They look like lipstick.

They're selling like crazy.

They are selling like crazy because people are like, oh, cool, it's lipstick. No one will know that by vibrator with me that they're actually lipstick. One is a really good one to use during sex. Yeah. Because you wouldn't know.

I felt bad. I was actually watching Annie Cohen did like a top 20 reunion moments.

Okay.

And I forgot, but her, her fiance passed away all of a sudden like a couple years back. During the first couple seasons. Yeah. Then she was like really emotional in there about it, talking about it.

I didn't know that.

She's immediately like. Yeah. She was saying how she was on. She just saw him and then she said like within an hour she got like a call saying there was like an accident or something.

Oh, my God, it's awful. I didn't know that she was on the show a while back.

Yeah.

That's so sad.

It was very sad.

Oh, did you watch that whole Countdown 20 things?

Yeah, I did.

I saw it But I didn't watch it.

Oh, you don't watch it?

I need to watch tonight.

You don't even watch your own show.

I do watch my own show. I watched it this week. Everyone turn into Bravo. Tune into Bravo 10 o' clock Monday night.

And if you're international, because we have a lot of international listeners, you can download it from itunes.

You can download it from itunes.

Search Misadvised In a pop show.

Misadvised. The first episode is free.

Yeah, yeah. I had friends from out of the country downloaded and watching.

Really? What'd they say? They say you were hilarious.

Of course. No, they really liked it.

That's good. It's just coming up.

They should like it.

They should like it. Cause it's a great frigging show and you should all watch it. Misadvised. Okay, so here's some advice for men to better understand the female orgasm.

Okay.

Cause I know it's confusing to you.

It's not confusing. It just. I just gotta put the extra effort to make it happen.

Okay? So men, number one, you need to learn to be patient with the female orgasms. One of the biggest obstacles for women is concern that they're taking too long to get there. We're worried about it too. I know that you're annoyed. Guys are like, oh my God, how long is this gonna take? But believe me, we are 10 times more conscious of that. So if a man is stressed that she's not getting there and that there's a lot of worrying about orgasms, that will thwart the entire orgasm plan. He's worrying, she's worrying. The number one thing to do is to relax. Studies have shown that relaxation is the single most important factor to bring a woman to orgasm. So give her a little back massage, rub her down, use a massage candle, whatever it is.

It's like we're in our mind and we're having sex right away. Like after work. You're stressed. You have. It's like if you're not relaxed, especially as a woman, you are not going to have an orgasm. And I think that's why I didn't have an orgasm for so many years, because I was a late bloomer, orgasm wise. Because I'm a stress case. Like I was in college, just like I am now. Like, I'm always obsessing about work. And in college I was obsessing about my work. I. I was obsessed then too about like, oh my God, I have so many papers to write. Like, I think I didn't know how to relax. And if you don't know how to relax. You should take a meditation class, buy a meditation cd, like, learn how to relax and employ those methods during sex.

So another advice, piece of advice for men to understand the female orgasm is to women who are worried about the way they look and especially down there, are less likely to orgasm during sex. So guys, she might feel embarrassed or ashamed about her body. You've been with a woman like that is like, leave the lights off. Leave. She leaves her shirt on.

Yeah.

So you gotta flatter her. You gotta tell her how hot she looks. I'm sorry, but women need to hear that menace.

I usually.

Flattery will get you everywhere.

In this case, you used to say that I had to compliment a woman 20 times a day, 10 times a day, but still, that's way too much.

5. No, I don't know any woman who'd be like, no, that's too much. It might just be like, like I was so healthy. I was recounting that. I was recounting.

It's not healthy.

It is healthy.

No, it's not.

Listen to me. I was recounting.

It's a relationship one sided.

I'll compliment you back. I like your glasses.

That's great.

Listen, women get insecure about these things. Men do too. And so if we are not feeling like adored, like you asked me, why was the sex so good with that guy in my. That I dated like years ago? It's because he was. He made me feel sexy. Like I didn't know my own sexual energy and power. Like I felt, you know, I was attractive, whatever. But he made me feel like sexy. He was like, I could. I knew that I turned him on and he let me know that. And he told me that and showed me that in different ways. And that gave me a lot of confidence.

What happened with that relationship?

He wanted to move in together.

Really?

Yeah.

And then what happened?

And then we broke up.

People.

Emily has never lived with somebody I know.

Is that crazy?

Is that.

Well, how many girls have you lived with? And what happened to those relationships?

I lived with like three girls.

That's a lot.

Yeah.

What happened?

Well, they wanted to cuddle. One of them wanted to cuddle. The other one wanted to touch her balls.

She wanted to go party more, remember? And I said, you know, I gotta focus on work. And until we broke up then. And the other one was just like, ah, it was just. The relationship was too crazy. And then. I love living with people. I love cohabitating. It's. It's awesome.

I think I would be more Open to it now.

I feel like a team. You feel like a team?

Yeah. Cuz someone takes out the trash.

Well, you're getting things done together, you know. But you, I don't know what's so scary about that to you?

I just wasn't ready. I was.

Not ready.

Okay. You're talking about when. How old were you?

I was like 25.

Wow.

I just wasn't ready. But he was adorable. And we're still kind of friends, but yeah. Okay.

Terrible.

What?

You should have did it.

I should have did it. And then so I could just. Only so I could be splitting up. Book collection or something like. I think it's good that I haven't. I've lived with. I had roommates, but never a man. Okay. The next thing for guys to understand about the female orgasm is to pay close attention. If you finally hit a spot on a woman and it's working for her, don't change up positions. This is like one of the biggest mistakes that guys make. When she. When you notice that she's like getting there, you go faster. Guys go faster and faster. Faster. They're like, oh my God, she's gonna get there. No, do exactly what you were doing. Keep doing that. Not faster, not slower. Keep doing that. You have to vary the technique, of course, at the beginning, but stick with it till she gets there. When you change the move at the wrong time, you put the whole kibosh on the orgasm. She's like close. And then you like went too fast, too slow, whatever. You like, did something. You got so excited that she, she was excited. And then you. The whole orgasm and it's like the lost orgasm. It's very sad. So don't do that. Why do guys do that?

I don't know.

You don't know?

No.

Okay. So that's just about paying attention. So pay attention like to where she is and where she's getting and if she's getting there or not. Because don't just switch it up at the wrong time. Don't change horses in the middle of the stream.

Yeah. You know you have another app not to plug things, but it doesn't seem like you give it love that much anymore.

I don't give my other app. It's called 101 Sex Tips from Sex with Emily. And it's really. It's a really good app. And I don't know why I don't. I forget to plug it a lot.

Yeah, because you have a book that has like similar type of name. That's why.

Maybe it's A really good app. 101 sex tips from sex with Emily. Download it now and then. Also buy my book, Kaggle Camp, by my other app, Kegel Camp, and my book, Hot Sex.

Hot sex over two things.

You get over 200 things. You could try tonight.

Okay. Is it for the Kindle yet?

No, they're not doing it. We just had this talk because.

Why are you not doing electronics?

Rules about, like. Because it's so graphic, the book. Like, there's really beautiful illustrations in the book and there's like a problem getting it through itunes or something.

Well, itunes, that's never gonna happen because they don't. They don't let content like that.

But yeah, I don't know why they don't do it on the Kindle.

Yeah, they have Kindle Fire, which is color. And your. Your book is very colorful.

It's very beautiful.

Yeah. Let's break it down again.

You.

You actually took photographs of people having sex?

Yep.

Not like porn.

No, not porn.

And then they illustrate them in such a. Such a way. I'm trying to see if there's like, a movie that I can explain how they do it.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's like a movie.

Yeah, kind of. Kind of. Sort of. If anyone saw Sin City a little bit like that.

Okay.

That's the style of the imagery. But I think, you know, the Android, they're down with the porn.

Right.

You would think it would be down. Will work on a tablet. And then Kindle Fire, which is color.

I should talk to that. We just talked about it.

Apple. Apple's. Apple is my number one product, but I know them very well, and they're not gonna push something like that.

I know, but I don't know why he was so. Because, yeah, I guess the Kindle. But what do you release it through then? Like, what's it called? Just like, the publisher can rely on whatever. But yeah, you could buy the book.

My buddies are beautiful. So much money on books now through just digital.

Really? What kind of books? What are their books about? They wrote a book.

Yeah, they wrote a book.

Like an ebook?

Yeah, but no, they have hard copies too, Right?

I know. Yeah, I know. I would just like.

We gotta figure this out. If anybody knows. Any suggestions? Because the only thing is the.

Graphic nature. Yeah, it's beautiful, though. It's a beautiful book. It doesn't make you offended, like, literally. Oh, did I tell you that? My friend said to me that. She's like, oh, my God. My husband and I, they've been together eight years. She's like, we used your book last night and it was amazing. I was like, what?

How they do it.

I was like, what did you do? Like, there's 200. Like, I'm dying to know, like, what position. She's like, we gave each other foot massages and she's like, it was the most intimate thing that we had done because we hadn't been intimate. Like, there's a difference between having sex and being intimate. But it, like, brought them closer together because they were, like, touching each other's feet and, like, massaging and, like, they got into the whole massage and she's like, we had amazing sex. And she goes, and I feel so much closer to him. You know how good that makes you feel? That's why I'm on the planet.

Yeah. Well, talking about marriages, I was just showing you a movie trailer before the show started.

Looks good.

People gotta watch it. It's with Meryl Streep and it's called Hope Springs. And it's about a couple that's been married forever and they just kind of lost the spark.

Right? Okay, check it out. Hope Springs. Check it out. Hope Springs. Okay, everyone, well, have a great weekend. Be sure to check out Ms. Advise on Bravo TV 10 o' clock Monday night. And thanks for listening to the show. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackmilymorse.com thanks for listening.

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