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Hello and welcome to Sex with Emily on 1069 Free FM. We are changing the world one orgasm at a time. It's Saturday night and we are live in San Francisco and we're on till 2am so you can call us anytime you want. 888510 69. And if you can't stay near your radio, you can listen live at 1069 freefm.com and for more information about our show, if you're just checking us out tonight, it's sexwithemily.com youm can listen to our podcasts and our mailing list and our blog and we got videos we're putting up, which is very exciting. So check it out. So tonight, I'm sorry I was out of town last week and thanks for everyone who wrote and missed the show and the podcast. But I'm back and it was good. I hadn't been gone in a while, so feels good to be back here with everybody on Saturday night. And I was thinking tonight I was excited because I realized that this is our one year anniversary on Free fm. We started the podcast about two years ago and Free FM asked us to come do a live show about a year ago. So I was thinking about it and I'm like, wow, A year of live sex, sex talk. And I want to know, are we all happier, smarter, wiser, thinner, fatter, skinnier, longer, shorter? What's your sex life? What's your life like this year? So all night long tonight we've got special guests and we've got special giveaways. But what you have to do is call and tell me the best sex you had the last year. I need to know what was the best sex you had in the last 12 months? And here's the thing, I always am confused by this question, by this answer and this question, when I say, what's the best sex you had? And then someone will say, oh God, she was the best because the way she talked dirty to me. And I'm wondering, would I think that was hot if I had sex with the same person you're talking about? Would I think that was good? And what is good sex? So when you call me up and you tell me about your the best sex this year, I need to know why it Was good because, you know, we all have those stories about people like, oh, he was the best ever. She was the best ever. I need to know what that means. So call me and tell me and we're gonna give you some presents tonight. We were giving away an oh my bod, which is the ipod, vibrator and some other things. So pay attention. Tonight, another thing is we have Dr. Sadie Allison here, which is a big thing.

Hello.

Hi, Sadie. Sadie wrote, she's a best selling author and she wrote an award winning and best selling book, Tickle his Pickle. She wrote Tickle your Fancy and Toygasms. So the thing about Tickle his Pickle, I didn't know Sadie, she's another San Francisco woman in talking about sex. And I have a friend and he was like, emily, there's this book, I had this woman and she never got creative with my penis. Let's just say that. So I bought her this book, Ticklish Pickle. So I thought, what else? You know, what can she do? I'm saying I need some help. Tickleless Pickle. And it was just sitting there on her counter. She never opened it. And he was like, you know what? Every time I go to her house, Tickle his Pickle, it's menacing. It's sitting there and staring at me. And she wouldn't read it because she just never wanted to tickle his pickle. So she had to break up with her. But it's an amazing book. I read it all. There's lots of tips. So Sadie's here talking about sex tips for the next hour. And Elizabeth's here, the original producer of Sex with Emily, the ongoing long time. Hi, Elizabeth. So glad to see you. It's our one year. I know, I can't believe it. It's very exciting.

It is. Congratulations, you guys.

Thank you.

That's really cool.

I know, it feels good. And Menace, you're here, right?

Hello.

Hi, Menis.

Hi. How you doing?

So here's what I need to know. Menace, in the last year since, you know, you've been listening to the show and been on the show, have you. Have you had better sex? What was the best sex of your life this year?

The best sex of my life this year. Well, this year just started, but in.

The last 12 months and sex with Emily years, which is a 12 months.

I think I had actually a lot of sex this year.

Right. But what was the best?

The best? Oh, that's a hard one.

Come on, Menace, there's nothing we taught you.

No, you taught me a lot. I mean, I had different variations of sex. I just can't pinpoint what would be the best.

Okay, so what have you learned?

I've heard, I've learned a lot of different terms that I haven't heard before. In other.

Like what? Anything that you can say.

The dirty Sanchez.

We won't describe that.

We won't describe that.

But then go ask somebody. Yeah. And.

Yeah. Okay. Good man. You can think about that.

You've got hours. Yeah, I need to go take a break.

I didn't want to spring that on you, but anyway, so all night long, triple 8, 5, 0, 0, 10, 6, 9. Your best in the last 12 months. I want to hear when you say, oh, my God, Emily, he was the best I ever had. It was the best night of our life. I need to know what that means. You got to answer some questions. We're going to give away a ticklish pickle too. And Sadie Allison's here to answer any sex questions we have, right?

Yeah.

But we're gonna focus on. We're gonna focus on men right now because we love men and we love their penis and the penis. And tickle his pickle is an award winning book.

It's all about pleasing the guy.

Pleasing the guy. And so we're gonna get into that in a minute. And the fun toys for men. We talk a lot about toys for women. And you've got.

I've got some self pleasurizers for the guys.

Okay. So people, they can ask you anything tonight. They, they can ask me anything for the next hour. Triple 85001069. Dr. Sadie Allison. You can find her@ticklekitty.com but first, Dr. Sadie call you Dr. Sadie. Okay, tell me, how did you get into the sex business?

What's your.

I kind of fell into it because it was a hobby of mine to give advice. All through high school and college, I was called the little Dr. Ruth. And I taught my girlfriends how to orgasm. You did. Over and over by telling them just some basic things like, this is what the clitoris is about. This is how it works. Here's some lube. Here's how you can touch it. Go home and try all this. And so time after time, I changed all my friends lives. And they were like, wow, it worked. It worked. And I said, you know, I should just write a, write a little pamphlet and give it away for fun and who knows, maybe it'll grow into something. But I want to help more women. And so that idea evolved. Three years later, I came out with Tickle your fancy.

Okay. And now that's like the men's. The playbook for the other team. We're going to talk about that too.

Yeah. Tickle your fancy, A woman's guide to sexual self pleasure. So it's for. It's an empowerment book for women that teaches them it's okay to touch yourself. You know, women who grew up thinking it's wrong and it's bad and you know, it's a taboo that's all done and passed. We're in the new millennium now and it's, it's okay. And it's part of our natural birthright. We're born with the parts. It's pleasure. It's okay to touch yourself and it shows you how to do it.

That's a good book. I read it. I actually. I masturbated twice today. I read your book today. I did. Well, I was prepping for the show. I know I don't need to share that much.

Never.

That's the most. But I gotta tell. Well, because that's.

I was signed of a good book.

Because it was new tips and I like that they're so.

Oh, you're trying.

No, because of Sadie's book.

It's because of me that she was messaging.

I was prepping for the show. I read Tickle his pickle. I didn't have a chance to practice Tickle his pickle yet because I didn't have a pickle around.

And he'll be happy when she does.

But tickle your fancy. I was like, oh, there's some really good ideas. It's like pocket sized book.

It would fit right in the purse.

Everyone should read this book because I. Okay, so you were the Dr. Ruth. Because I had friends. I didn't have the easiest time in the world having orgasms either in college. And I had friends like you that would kind of.

There's always that girl in the clique that talks about sex out loud.

And that was that one.

I was the one. I was uninhibited. I wasn't shy. I was sexually explorative. I didn't have boyfriends much. So that's why you're beautiful, smart woman. Thank you.

You didn't have boyfriends?

I always. I just was going for the. The wrong kind, right. You know, looking for love in all the wrong places.

But maybe not boyfriends that you like. Serious boyfriend?

Something like that.

And you live in the Bay Area as well?

Yeah, yeah. I'm here in San Francisco. Native.

And you've been on a million television shows and books and you've written books and you've been on radio shows. So you're a pro. Thank you for joining us.

I get out there.

I want to start with. I love this Tickle. His pickle.

Okay.

I can't say that enough. Your Hands On Guide to Penis Pleasing. So why do you think that women need a book like this?

Well, because we're never really taught how to have good sex. When you go to school, you know, high school, college, you learn about birth control and STDs and maybe a little bit about the anatomy, but they don't teach you how to have an orgasm, how to give pleasure to a partner, how to receive pleasure and feel comfortable being naked. And just a lot of the common issues, and no one ever addresses that, and your parents certainly aren't teaching you. And, you know, your friends might be giving you tips, and the guys don't know what they're doing. They're fumbling in the dark. So where do you ever really learn how to give pleasure to where someone can really enjoy it. And also, everybody's so different. What works on one woman or man won't work on the next.

Exactly.

So you really have to be coached.

And you never run out of examples here in Tickles. But there's like, oh, I've never done that.

I know. And there's a ton more that didn't even make it in this book.

This is what I. Okay, so I understand that, too, because I think, and I've talked about this before, is that we do. We all get set in our ways. We're like, I do the same thing. You know, this every time I maybe touch a penis or am near one. I might do the same thing over and over again, and men the same thing. But you gotta mix it up. And there's actually. What I like is the manual stimulation part in here. Using your hands, but women using their hands. She's got like, diagrams and, like, eight different kinds of just the grip alone.

Just the grip.

The sausage wrap, the Upside Down.

Okay, I was like, like grabbing my. I was like, okay, wait. The sausage wrap and the. What are some other ones in here that I like? The basic grips, The Old Faithful, the Twister, the Pumper, the Turtle, the Cigar roller, Pleasure Tunnel. I like this.

They all. They love this.

So how did you know, though, what men liked? How did you know?

Well, a lot of it's based on personal experience. I practice what I preach. So like I said, I was single for a long time and I got to explore and was uninhibited. So that Allowed me to learn a lot. And then I also do a lot of research. I mean, I talk to hundreds and thousands of people throughout the years, and I do surveys and I give seminars. So I get a lot of feedback from people. So I'm really hands on, if you will.

Hands on.

That's good.

I mean, I want to know, okay, so what do you think the biggest complaints that men have about women? When they're tickling.

When they're tickling his pickle.

Yeah. What do they do? How do women. How do we mess up?

Okay, well, number one, the most important thing over everything and over any technique that men really want the woman to have is enthusiasm. Believe it or not, guys would much rather have a woman who's not so great at it, but really into it, doing it, than a woman who can knock it out in two minutes flat, but she's just like, you know, doing the deed, you know, and then finished. That's not as fun than someone who's really into it. So they want you to.

How can they tell if you're into it?

You got to express yourself.

Oh, okay.

You read Tickle his Pickle and you learn all my tricks. But just off the top of my head, I can tell you that they like to hear sounds. Men love hearing things, and men love visual things. So just right off the bat, you want to make those little noises, you know, the sucking sounds and the spit and the little mmms and ahhs and all that little stuff. And you want to position your body in ways where he can look at you and get off on that, because.

They want to see it.

Men are visual. So maybe if you're on your hands and knees, you can lift your butt up and kind of like show parts of your bodies that you think is more attractive and kind of flaunt yourself and let him see your curves, because women are beautiful with our curves. So all of these things together, along with what he's feeling, really enhances it and makes it a really good experience.

Do you think that some women then don't. They're more covered up or they're like, oh, I don't want him to see me.

Oh, yeah, they won't even. They won't even turn on the lights. There's so many people still that like to do it in the dark because they're so shy and insecure about their bodies. Or, you know, it's very. They're not sure if they're doing it right. So just the whole thing is frightening to begin with. So it's really good to get some.

Show your body, make noises. Okay, so what else. What are some other of the main tips that women. How do we mess up? No teeth. No, I know that.

No, some guys like teeth.

They do.

Oh, yes. That's the one cool thing about, about sex is that there's never a. Nobody likes this type of thing. There's always going to be someone that likes this and someone that doesn't. So it's all about finding out what your partner really wants.

Okay.

I know guys that like teeth. It's.

Yeah.

How do you figure that out?

Well, you gotta talk. That's. That's the other thing that, that you gotta do is you have to communicate because you can learn by kind of their reactions and you can kind of guess. It looks like he likes that I think he's getting. But if you just ask or, hey, baby, does this feel good? Or do you like it when I do this? Or do you like when I do this and try to different, you know?

And you think most men are honest enough, they'll say, yeah.

They won't say, well, yeah, I like it.

Even if they don't just be polite.

I think that if you exude that energy that you really want to know and you're trying.

She just goes, don't you think if they like it, they just lie and go, yes, honey, I don't know.

Especially if you're enthusiastic, they don't want.

To burst your bubble.

Right.

Well, there could be those guys that don't want to hurt your feelings. But I think most guys, if they see that you genuinely want to know and you want to care and it's all about what's going to feel best for you. Oh, they'll jump right on and tell you what they want.

That's good. See? How do you want your pickle tickled? Triple 8, 5, 0, 0, 10, 6, 9. We're talking to Dr. Sadie Allison and we're talking. She wrote this book for men. I mean for women and men, how they could learn different ways they could ask their partner what they want. So I want to hear from women. What have you. Have you found that pickle likes to be tickled? And men. You know what we're talking about? Triple 8, 500, 169. It's sex with Emily at 169 Free FM. We'll be right back.

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Hello.

It's Saturday night and we are having fun. Just few girls here sitting around talking about the penis. If you're driving around in your car, men Women, we've got to hear your tips. What do you like? We have Dr. Sadie Allison here. She's the author of several best selling award winning books. But right now we are focusing on Tickle his Pickle. So any calls that you have or any comments. She's a sexpert. 885-001-1069 so tickle his Pickle. As you can imagine, here's what she says in her opening here. I'll show and tell exactly what most guys want, hope and dream you'll do and a few things they pray you don't. And then she goes on to say, what if the centerpiece, what if you start dazzling him with exotic new strokes, touches and licks that render him speechless with mind blowing orgasms? Would you get his attention? Do I even have to ask? Because here's the thing. We do give lots of tips on this show. We have experts, but we all get set, we do the same things over and over again. And I actually read several of her books this week and I'm armed with some new information.

I've learned a lot in the last 20 minutes.

Elizabeth producer. Elizabeth, what'd you learn, baby? Well, you're gonna give options to your boyfriend? Maybe.

Yeah.

I mean, this lubricant, we were just talking at the break about the Slippery Kitty lubricant, which is specifically for oral sex.

It's for sex in general. It's water based. It's actually a lube that I put together.

Tickle kitty.

Yeah. Ticklekitty.com and it's strawberry lust flavored. So what that means is that you can drizzle big basket of strawberries when you're doing your thing. And it's especially good for women who are hesitant to do that because of the taste down there. Oh, wow. That's one of the number one reasons women don't like to do it because of the taste. Because the taste. And the other ones because of the smell. So shower and shave.

Shower.

Shove them in there. Hey guys, if you want to shower and shave. Hello.

Because men don't. I feel like. Yeah, I guess that that happens.

Yeah. So, so you can use this during intercourse, but it's great for, for oral because you just put a little bit of this on it and you can also use it with your hands. And that's, that's where I know we're going to go into that pretty soon here. And that's a great.

You've got this. I've never seen, I've read some books about, you know, the penis all that stuff. She's got whole things here about manual stimulation, about women stimulating men with their hand. You know what I'm saying? Okay. You know what I'm talking about? Because they do it on their own. And why not have a woman help? But here's the thing. She's got like 10 different. 10 different kinds of positions and hand moves. I mean, it's like. It's gonna keep you busy for years.

It's a science.

It is science.

You wouldn't think you can do so many different things to the penis to please it. That's the world of pleasure that we're talking about. And people just. Because usually with a guy, he's pretty. Usually he can climax, and it's not so hard. It's like he wakes up and he's ready to go. The wind blows, he's done. So it's pretty simple to do. But we do get into a routine of doing the same thing for him. Granted, it feels good still, and he still finishes off. But when you come in on Valentine's Day and maybe red tickle his pickle and you start doing some new things that he never even thought he would ever do or never even thought of himself, that's when you're going to totally shine.

What are some new things that you could just teach? I'm not that. I don't know. I mean, I don't know about how. What's the word? I'm like. I'm not that kind of clumsy sometimes, you know, I gotta. What are some easy things to.

Okay, well, here's a huge, huge tip. Now, a lot of women get this one already, but some never really thought of it like this. You gotta use your hands at the same time.

Use your hands at the same time.

Yes. A lot of people don't realize that our hands and our ten fingers are some of the best sex toys in the world. And they're attached to our bodies. They can do wonderful things. And when a guy is receiving pleasure from you in this way, the more feelings and pressures and touches he's getting at the same time, the better it feels. Just like you think about it on the receiving end.

Okay.

When a guy is doing the same thing to you, he's giving you oral pleasure, you're feeling the main thing, of course. But then when his hands are all over your body or he's got his hand on your butt or your breasts and he's doing all these other things and there's so much more enhancement around the whole thing that really makes the whole experience better.

So Women we should employ because some of these things. Now for the upside down sausage wrap, the two Fister, the pumper, the twister, the turtleneck, the V spotter.

What's the turtleneck?

What is the turtleneck? What's the turtleneck? Page 71 of your book here.

Okay.

No lube necessary. Okay. You can read it.

You want me to read it? Yeah, I'm still.

Can we. Okay, I'll read it. You'll read the next one.

Grab him.

This is in Dr. Sadie Allison's book, Tickle his Pickle. No lube necessary. Grasp him firmly, just under the ridge and stretch his skin.

So basically, traditionally, you would see a hand going up and down, and that's your basic technique. But this is different, where you kind of hold onto it in one spot and it's a firmer grip. And then you're just kind of like going up and down in mini strokes and not really going through the whole extending of the whole penis. And there's. There's a diagram here, too. There's. And it's. It's like. It's such a simple little thing, but there's. You just try all these different variations with your hands and your mouth, and it feels different for him.

Okay. And then women. Do you feel that women don't really do this enough with their hands? They don't. These are complaints in all you guys do.

Guys don't touch women enough in this way either.

Guys don't. That brings us to say, self pleasure.

And women self pleasure. But we got to use our hands to put pleasure each other. I even encourage couples to not have intercourse all night or anything else except manual stimulation for each other. And that includes all over your body, too.

In your book Tickle your Fancy, you talk about how women. This is like a men's playbook.

You say it's the other team's playbook. Yeah. Because it's a book written by a woman for women on how to touch themselves. So if you're a guy out there and you're looking for the new techniques on how women really like to be touched, read this book.

So what are the other. So if we could say any points in here, we asked this about what women aren't really doing for men, what would you say that women want more from men?

Well, aside from passion and romance and affection and all the normal stuff, I think women want to be touched more naturally because people forget all of the foreplay, the kissing, the kissing, all that. All that normal stuff, but they also forget to use their hands, and hands feel so good. I mean, when was the last time you really had a good manual stimulation experience from a lover where you said, wow, I don't even need to have intercourse now. Let's go to sleep?

I can't answer that. Elizabeth, can you answer that question?

I can't.

See. See what I mean? Where are the guys?

Menace. No. Any manual stimulation from. No. I have to say that you do once you get. No, because I think that they're nervous and they just want to have sex. Well, we're gonna have sex. We might as well just jumped it out. Why do I have to really use my hands and warm you up? Baby, rev your engine.

So forget those guys.

So forget those guys. Not that they say that, but they could say that.

You know what that's just occurred to me is they. I think a lot of women stay away from manual stimulation for men, because that's what men do to pleasure themselves, and they feel like it's hard to beat them or do any better.

And now you can't beat them.

Well, you're not trying to beat them. You're trying to join the party. You're just one of the team members. And believe me, when someone else is doing it for you, it's. It's always gonna be better than doing it yourself, so long as you're doing it relatively good.

See, I have a few friends, and they're like, whatever happened to that when women just doing the manual job. Why does. You know, why don't. Why don't women do that enough? Because they do, Elizabeth, to your question, they. They do it themselves. And I think that they really like it, but women just think, oh, I have to mimic exactly what you're doing. But men want it to be, I think, different. Yeah, they can do it one way. Like, you'd have two hands. They, you know, and you do it.

Yeah. Oh, yeah.

You could do just the fact that.

You'Re doing it all. They'll be. They'll be grateful. They won't even be comparing it to themselves. It's not like that.

Yeah, so what else are they complaining? Okay, so these are tips for men now. And tickle your fancy. What are. Okay, so women, they want to use the hands more. What are some of the specific things in this book that you have found women can show their partners to do that they wouldn't normally know? As far as having women helping them get orgasms.

Well, if you go to page 38 in tickle your fancy 38, I have clitoral stroking styles. So this whole chapter is dedicated to the clitoris, which.

I read this today. Yeah, yeah.

And let me just. Let me just reiterate there. There's still people out there that think that penetration is what makes a woman climax. And it's not. Most of the time, it's. It's direct stimulation of some sort of clitoris anatomically. Our bodies aren't made. Some women can, of course, but most women don't. And so while a guy might be trying all night long in missionary, that's not gonna make her orgasm. You have to use your hands at the same time on her clitoris or provide oral pleasure before, during, or after. And you have to do something or even tilt your pelvis in a certain way where it's putting pressure on her clitoris while you're doing your thing. So that's really important to keep in mind. And if you look on page 38, there's all these different ways that you can touch her.

Yes. I figure this.

And it was very up and down, side to side. Some women like the clitoris to actually be kind of held between the index finger and the thumb and kind of wiggle. There's all kinds of fun little things you can do to that little girl.

Right. And I think that, again, with men, too, there might be one thing that they always thought worked. And this is some other inspirational.

And here's a tip that's huge that guys got to know. You've got to have her wet when you're doing this. You can't touch her. Dry down there, right? Doesn't feel good. It can hurt even. It's very sensitive. The tissue's very thin. Yeah. Spit or start doing your thing. And it's not wet.

Right.

Please.

I think there's also some insecurities.

I'm speaking on behalf of all our lady listeners.

There's some insecurities to men. They're like, oh, she should be turned on, and she's not. If she's not naturally wet, that means I'm doing something wrong.

Some will think that, and maybe Buddy's.

Different, but it's okay to grab some Tickle Kitty lube.

Oh, yeah.

Another thing that I want to say, talking about this again, is that we later in the show, we are going to be reading letters from listeners. And like we said, it's our anniversary show. We've been on this station for a year, and we were trying to pull themes about a lot of the things that come up. And one of them is men asking, how do I please my partner? What can I do? What are some tips? Why can't she have orgasms? So if you keep listening, we're going to be talking about that throughout the. The night. These are some good tips. Your book, really? I was like, I, like I said, I was inspired when I was touching myself. So we're gonna take a call right now. We're gonna talk to Sarah. Thanks for calling 885-001-1069. Hi, Sarah.

Hi.

In Moss Beach.

How are you?

I'm good. How are you? Happy anniversary.

Thank you.

I'm proud that it's been our year.

Thanks for calling Sex with Emily.

So my question is to do with the ejaculation scenario when I'm wondering how much of a difference there is between a man's face.

Oh, okay.

Well, talking about men are visual. She caught. Okay, so how about that?

We don't know those things.

Yeah. So men. Okay, what about with men? The visual. If they. How much do men really like that?

Well, a lot of men are visual creatures. Yeah, they are very visual.

And what I say to women, though, is that if your guy wants you to do that, like, definitely try and be open and explorative with your guy. The more you can give to him, the more he'll give back to you sexually. So you always want to try and accommodate if you're gonna be okay. So this is something that you can. You can actually be okay and do if you decide to. But on the other hand, if you're just really not into it, then just tell them, no, I don't want you to do that. You're lucky you're getting oral pleasure in the first place. And no, please don't pressure me to do that. I'm not interested.

We wanted to be enthusiastic but not grossed out.

You were saying go as far as you're comfortable.

Okay. Thank you for calling Sarah. Thanks for calling Sex with Emily. And we have Suki on the line from oh, my bod. We're gonna talk to her in a minute. Cause we are giving away oh, my bod. But first we're gonna talk to Marvin in San Jose. Hi, Marvin. Thanks for calling Sex with Emily at 885-001-1069. Marvin.

Hey, Marvin. Marvin, hey. Hey. Thanks for calling Sex with Emily.

Hey, how's it going?

Good. How are you?

Let's see. I'm okay.

So what do you need? How can we help you tonight? We've got Dr. Sadie Allison here.

Well, actually, I heard the topic that you people were discussing for the last few minutes.

Yeah.

I called in your phone answer. You know, girl seemed to get a Little nervous. She wants me to kind of try to clean this up.

Okay.

So, yeah, I've got a suggestion of a technique if anyone's interested out there.

Okay. A technique, just. Yes, we.

Yeah, let's see. That was. Yeah. Spending time with.

Okay. Yeah.

With my ex girlfriend one time.

Yeah.

And she was sort of interested in, you know, trying that.

I was helping out. So, like, I was, you know, kind of doing it.

Okay.

You know, like on my own.

Okay, Marvin, we gotta hurry it up real quickly. So what was the technique?

She did like an external prostate massage type.

Oh, okay.

Yeah.

Really, really intense, actually.

Wow, that's good. Anal play. Okay, thanks.

Thanks, Marvin.

That's good. We're going to talk about that. Thanks for calling Sex With Emily.

He was actually talking about external prostate stimulation. And there's a section on that in Tickle His Pickle as well. It's similar to, like, the hidden G spot type of thing. It's a pleasure spot inside there that if you stimulate in the right way, he can actually orgasm from that.

I've heard about this.

Or you stimulate him there while you're doing other things and he's just like, oh, my God. Because it provides so much extra stimulation. And the way to massage it from the outside is. Which is the taint. The taint. This, the taint that is right in the middle.

Right in the middle. Okay.

Yeah. And all you can use kind of like the flat of a soft fist or the tips of your fingers. And you basically just push up.

Rather miss it, though. I kind of know what you're talking about. You can't miss it, though, right?

You know you're not gonna miss it. But if it is too slippery under there, you could end up in a dark.

Please. On that note, how are we going to tickle his pickle and other accompanying areas? Okay, when we come back, we're going to talk to Suki from oh My Bod. It's the ipod. It's the vibrator for your ipod. And we're talking to Dr. Sadie Allison. You're listening to Sex with Emily on 1069 Free FM.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. It's Saturday night in San Francisco.

We're live.

We're tickling your pickle. We're talking to Dr. Sadie Allison. It's Sex with Emily on 1069 Free FM.

She's got some toys here for me to look at, too. She's got these masturbation toys for men. We're always talking about vibrators and toys for women, but these are Some toys for men, which I've never actually played with up close. We're gonna get to that in a minute. Dr. Sadie Allison@ticklekitty.com thanks for joining us. We are first going to talk to, though, Suki at oh My Bod. Hi, Suki.

Hello.

Hi, Suki.

Hi.

Thank you so much.

Thanks for having me on.

Of course. Thank you for sending me the wonderful oh my Bod vibrator for our ipod. For my ipod.

I hope you had a chance to use it. Did you have a chance to check it out?

I have to say that I did and I really liked it.

Awesome.

Yeah. I mean, I've got like a car adapter for my ipod. I've got like a radio adapter for it. I've got a charger. But now I've got a vibrator and it's like, what else do I need?

Exactly. The ultimate ipod accessory.

It is. It is the ultra.

Tell me about it.

Tell me about the oh mybod and how this came about.

Well, oh My Bod actually is the first insertable music driven vibrator. Basically how it works is you plug it into your ipod.

When you buy the oh mybot. It comes with the splitter. So you plug the splitter into the top of your ipod or the bottom, depending on what version of ipod you have, because it works with any ipod and you connect it with a five foot freedom cord to your vibrator. So you plug that in, the five foot freedom cord into the top, the splitter, and connect that to your vibe. And then the other side of the splitter is for your earbuds and you just plug your earbuds in and you can listen and jam away and it.

Vibrates to different songs. So I mean, I've seen some people like playlists for different songs that, you know, kind of brings you up to a certain climax and then you come down.

Exactly. It vibrates to the beat and the rhythm of the music on your ipod. And it's that simple. The volume wheel in your ipod controls the intensity of the vibration. So the louder the volume and the more intense vibrations become. And basically the idea came about, roughly, I'd say about four years ago. My husband bought me kind of my two favorite stocking stuffers, if you will, which was my ipod mini and a Pearl Rabbit vibrator.

That's a good one.

It just seemed. Well, first of all, I saw obviously that music played a huge part when I was pleasuring myself. And oftentimes I had my ipod in and that sort of thing and it just seemed like be really cool to connect the two and kind of have this new experience where you kind of fully feel your music, if you will.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

How it came about. I'm a gadget galaxy and worked in the high tech world. I actually worked for Apple for about eight years.

And I'm wondering how does Steve Jobs feel about this, you think?

I'm sure he's aware of it. It's not something obviously that.

We put in Apple space. Apple is a very.

Brand oriented company and they of course don't acknowledge our presence, if you will. But they know we're out there.

They probably need one. That's why they're avoiding it. If they had an oh my, you know, everyone would relax. Right?

Exactly, Exactly. Well, that's what we were kind of hoping. Also when I came upon this product, I didn't come from the sex toy world. I obviously I came from just mainstream high tech world. And part of the idea behind this was to hopefully bring vibrators more mainstream, you know, and my packaging and everything about who we are is about just a sophisticated, approachable toy for a novice to an aficionado.

Right.

And it's got a nice pink, the nice pink cover and it's sleek and silver and I like it.

Exactly. We actually purposely made this one. You know, it's a non phallic vibe. So it just has this cool, sleek design to it. It's a slight smoothie and that way somebody who might not be that comfortable with themselves or with vibrators would feel comfortable picking this up.

It's not offense. Yeah. It's not offensive. It's sleek. It can just go in your little. Your ipod. You can have a case for it and everything. Like this rubber cake. I'm trying to think of my ipod case. I was just at Mac World last week. They gave me holding this in my hand. They gave me like five iPod cases and I'm like, this would be a nice little.

Exactly. Well, actually, what, what comes with an oh my bod is a great little privacy pouch. So it's a little velvet pouch. You can store your oh my bod in there.

So what are the songs that you like to listen to with your oh my bod Suki?

I have actually several. I kind of. Of course I have several. I do lots of testing, but one of my favorites is I have a playlist actually posted on the iTunes Music Studio.

Okay.

It's an iMix. I have a couple. But one of my favorites is full of soul. I love R and b. And the old school rb.

Okay.

And so I, of course, have the likes of Marvin Gaye and Isaac Hayes and Bill Withers and, you know, Earth, Wind and Fire.

And there's different, like, discernible vibrations that you feel when you're playing your music. You're like, oh, I'm getting to this certain level and I'm gonna put on, you know, this song and it's gonna have certain vibrations.

Oh, totally. Yeah. That's part of the fun. Makes the experience a little different because, you know, you can put a playlist together and you find out what works for you and what doesn't. And it's kind of just an added additional fun thing, you know, when you're, when you're thinking about, you know, creating a list for yourself.

Well, I like it. I think it's so fun. Yeah, why not? I got my iPad with me all the time.

Regards to partner play is a lot of women or partners, they maybe aren't gadget girls like me and their spouses or their partners manage their playlists for them. And so this is like an extra level of intimacy because that other individual is kind of creating, you know, might play a part in creating your playlist for you. So it just is kind of another for Valentine's Day.

It's a great Valentine's Day gift too.

Exactly.

I think it's great.

And one of the other great things is.

You know, I've gotten kind of emails from customers and a couple will write me and say we'll never listen to music on the radio in the car again. You know, the same way. Because they hear a song and they're like, exactly, exactly.

No, that's exactly how I felt. I was playing with it over Christmas. So we're gonna give one away tonight too in oh my bod.

Awesome.

And it's our one year anniversary. We've been on the station and we're gonna be giving away for people who have the. Whoever had the best sex in the last 12 months, they have to tell us why. And we're gonna give them an oh my Bod.

Oh, that sounds great.

Yeah. Suki, thank you so much for calling in. I know it's late where you're at now. On the East Coast.

Yes. Yeah, I'm on the east coast.

Well, thank you for everything.

We're fans of the. Oh, my bad. We're gonna keep talking about it and.

Awesome, awesome. And for your listeners.

That if they come to our website, which is ohmybod.com they can receive a discount of $10 off.

Oh, great. Okay. We also have a link on our website as well.

It's. The discount code is Sex with Emily.

Sex with Emily. Okay, good. And you can get that from our site or ohmybod.com, o h m I b o d dot com. Thank you, Suki.

Thanks for having me.

Have a great night.

Suki. Oh, my God.

Isn't it pretty?

It's very pretty.

Okay, so we're back to Dr. Sadie Allison. Thank you, Suki, for calling. She's got, like, three books here that I want to talk about all night. Tickle your fancy, Tickle his pickle, Toygasms. But then she brought these. Dr. Sadie Ellison. These masturbation toys for men.

Right.

Let's talk about these wonderful, slippery things here.

Spongy, lifelike feeling soft things with holes in them, which is pretty much what they are.

Okay.

Just like there's thousands of vibrators for women out there. But there are toys for men. And a lot of people aren't aware that there's a lot of toys for men these days. And these are some of the most popular toys. I told you, I cleaned the powdered stuff off it, so don't be alarmed.

Okay.

So that one there is called the head honcho.

The Head honcho. Okay.

And it's made of a silicone stretchy material, and it's really soft and spongy. It's not like what you would think of the traditional toys. These are, like lifelike feeling materials. And that particular toy has ridges on the inside. Oh, see? And there's. And you're putting your fingers in this toy.

Oh, that's good enough.

You just use some slippery kitty lubrication. You put it. He puts it on himself and on the toy, and he uses that in the palm of his hand to do it. It's very stretchy.

Okay.

And you see how the top is not open? See, at the very.

So it's a masturbation sleeve is what they call it. Right?

Okay.

Yeah, I see. The top is self pleasurizer. Okay. And then these are all self pressurizers for men. See, men. Men are always saying, we're talking about toys. We're talking about toys for you tonight. Okay? So pay attention. This is the same thing, Same type of thing.

It's a different material here.

Elizabeth, would you like to touch?

Okay.

So are they one size fits all?

They are, but different toys come with different sizes based on the design and the style itself.

Is it one size fits all?

But, yeah, it is one size fits all because they're all very Stretchy.

Most. I'd hate to be a guy who's.

Like, oh, it didn't fit.

But don't tell us if it didn't fit.

That one is. Is made of a material called UR3. It's very easy to clean.

Okay.

And it's very snug.

Play with it.

Yeah, and they're real easy to clean, too, because you just turn them inside out. You can use them in the shower. And the greatest thing about these is they're not just for guys to use. They're for the women to use on their guys.

So they put it over him.

Yeah. So, you know, we're talking about manual pleasure earlier. Well, this is another way to pleasure him. And it's all about varieties of spice of life and doing something different and something fun. You don't have to use these every time, but once in a while, maybe Valentine's night, pull this out from under.

The pillow and it's got the ridges on the inside, so it just feels.

Like extra stimulation for him.

Extra stimulation. Have you ever seen this, Elizabeth? No. They're great. Can they get these on your website?

Yeah.

Okay. Ticklekitty.com and how do they know? I mean, these are. I don't think that men don't buy. This is a great Valentine's Day gift, too.

Yeah.

Most men don't know these exist.

I don't know that they exist.

Really?

I've heard of them.

Guys that know have a closet full of them and they're all in the.

Shower because they do the same thing over and over again with the lotion and the thing. Or sometimes menace. Would you use one of these? Would you use a masturbation thing?

Yeah, why not?

Yeah, exactly.

Do you want one for Valentine's Day?

Especially if nobody would know.

Would you really, though? Like, I think men are more like, I got my hand, I got my towel, I'm done. But this is good.

Or a blow up doll.

They'll try it.

Menace, do you want a blow up doll? Whatever you want, baby.

No blow up doll. But that looks a lot more fun than the normal.

You can touch it at the break.

Okay, I'll check it out.

Okay, cool. So, okay, we're talking. Marcella, thanks for calling 885-00-1069. It's Sex with Emily on 1069 Free FM. Marcella.

Hey, guys.

Hi. Hey, Marcella.

How you doing this evening?

Good.

How are you?

Thanks for calling.

Thank you.

Oh, I'm so excited. Okay, so my fiance and his crew from the kitchen are all listening.

Okay.

I wanted to call in. Because my story is I was deprived for three months without my honey.

Oh.

And when he and I got hold.

Of one another.

Oh my God. And everything under the sun.

Okay, so what happened? What made it different?

What made it different was the passion we felt was like for three months it was built up and then it went kaboom. It was fantastic.

And it was. Was it worth the wait then?

I wouldn't ever want to go three months without you around.

Was there anything different that time besides the wait? Was there any new moves or movement that made. We're talking about the best sex in the. Everyone anyone's had in the last 12 months tonight. Because we're giving away gifts and things.

Okay.

So I had never done anything before. And it wasn't until I got with him that I experimented with roadside. You know, daylight roadside.

Oh.

As we're driving, stuck in traffic, I pull a blanket or a coat over me and he puts his hand over in the area, you know, and that was amazing. And it was such a rush because I had never experienced that. So to me, for someone who's very not so experimental.

Right.

That made it amazing.

Ah.

Because it was like out of nowhere.

Thanks, Marcella. That's a good story. I'm going to put you on hold. I'm going to get your information. Jenny Lee is going to take your email address and we're going to be emailing winners at the end of the night.

Thank you.

Have a great night. Thanks for calling center family. I want to know tonight because it's our one year. We've been on the show. We've been doing the show here. What. What's the best sex? It's one year of live sex on the radio. What's the best sex you had in the last 12 months and why? That was a good story. Okay, back to your toys here. Dr. Sadie, Allison, tell me.

We love those toys. That one there that you were just flopping around.

Yes.

So it's big. Yeah, it's bigger than the rest. It's thicker and softer. But that particular one's called the maven, and it's a phthalate free material which is safer for the body. And if you notice, the top of it does not have an opening. So when the man finishes, it's inside, which is easy to clean. But what that means is that while he's enjoying himself or she's doing it for him, he's feeling the inside like there's an end to the tunnel. So he's getting stimulation. Stimulate him. Okay.

Dr. Sadie, Alison thank you so much. Thank you for joining us tonight.

You're welcome. Thanks for having me.

Yeah. This is so fun. Tickles Pickle Award winning author Tickle Kitty.com youm're gonna have to come back because we got so many other. So many other things to talk about.

I feel like we just started the ticket iceberg. Yeah.

Come back. You'll.

Yeah, I'll come back. We'll have fun.

Okay.

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