SWE: Initiating Sex

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.

Eyes that Mock our sacred institutions.

Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh, my.

The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels. Feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of.

Girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can get all your sex questions answered. And learn more about sex and relationships. And I swear to God, your sex life will improve for listening to the show. So today's show, we're gonna talk about a lot of things. Sex and relationships, and specifically how to initiate more sex. And this is geared towards women because one of the biggest complaints men make is that women don't initiate sex too much. So we're gonna give you some tips on that and some sex mistakes that women and men make, and that's what we're gonna do. And I am here with the white menace.

Hello. How are you doing?

I'm great.

How are you?

Well, it's just been a whirlwind since this time we've talked. Your show debuted on Bravo. Misadvised.

Misadvised. Yeah, exactly. And it was very exciting. I was in Los Angeles for the premiere with our executive producer, Ashley Tisdale. Threw us a big party in la and red carpet, paparazzi, the whole thing.

That's insane.

It was totally insane. It was like. It was the real deal. And it's. People seem to really like it.

Yeah, it's. Man, it's just. It's just crazy because, you know, with online now, you get instant feedback about every little single detail. And I don't know if you saw this, but on the Bravo website.

Your brother was rated four and a half out of five stars.

He's hot.

Like, people.

Really? I didn't see that. I didn't see that.

You know, I. I read it. I read up on all that stuff.

I know, I like it. Did you see my album through the years? And all my boyfriend's faces are whited out, blurred out. Isn't that funny?

Are they embarrassed? They don't want to be on?

Well, I. They never asked me. They said, can you give me pictures of you? Through the years with, like, ex boyfriends. So I gave a bunch of photos and they never even tried to get them to release it. They just blurred out their photos. But the funny part is this is all on Bravo TV dot com. I think it's slash misadvised. You'll see photos of me when I was a baby and then growing up through the years. But they. They said, we want ex boyfriends, but they never asked them. But the funny part, a lot of these boyfriends. Ex boyfriends are my friends on Facebook. So I posted the album today, and I wonder if they're going to peruse the album and recognize their face as being whited out.

Yeah, they're like, oh, that bitch.

That bitch post. No one's going to know. Except for there's one. My prom photo. Did you see my prom photo with my big 80s hair? And he. That. That one's not blurred out enough.

No, but they're going to say that. That you wanted them blurred out. That's what I'm thinking.

Oh, no, no, no. It's same thing for other girls. Same thing. So it's really funny. They did a lot. So if you guys got to check out the misadvised page on Bravo tv, it's pretty funny.

Cool. And then you did a whole recap. You wrote the recap.

I wrote a recap. Bravo blog every week. And so the show is. If you haven't heard about it yet, Ms. Advise. 10 o' clock Monday nights on Bravo. And it repeats all the time. And it's about three relationship experts. Do we practice what we preach?

And for all the international listeners that can't watch it, you can actually download the first episode for free on itunes.

On itunes. Do that now.

Yeah.

Tell your friends you'll like it.

Out of the country that wanted to watch and they downloaded it off itunes.

I love that. It was awesome. And apparently so, since Ashley Tisdale is executive producer. Do you know that it got retweet. She tweeted about it during that night. It got retweeted 227 million times.

Insane.

Have you ever heard of such a number in your life? No, I know, it's amazing. So you can follow me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Sex with Emily and Menace is white Menace.

Yeah. The listenership here, we're at the Stitcher studios and on Stitcher, the app where you can listen to it on your iPad, your iPhone, your Android, whatever. Our listenership, like, almost tripled.

Are you serious?

Yeah. So thank you to all our new listeners.

Hi, new listeners. We've got 400 something shows right now on the website. I think we've got 200 shows you can subscribe to. And then we'll be adding more on sexwithemily.com on sexwithemily.com. yeah. Isn't that funny?

Thank you.

It was really fun. I wish you were in LA for the premiere, but I think the first episode went well. Did you enjoy it?

I did enjoy it. I'm really. I mean, we can't give anything away, but did you get the second episode yet?

I'm supposed to get it today, but something's wrong with their thing. So I get it tomorrow. I get it tomorrow.

I'm very excited for the second episode.

Just because Raylove.

Hey, I didn't.

I can say that. It's on the television premiere. I go out on a date. Yeah, it's on a date. It's actually on the website. There's a teaser of my date with Raylove.

There is?

Yeah. I didn't even know this. Oh, yeah, they put it up.

The show. I don't watch it.

No, no, no. I'll show you. But it's a really funny date that I go out with one of menis friends and that's all I got.

There's a teaser on the website. You didn't tell me.

Well, honey, I thought you like live on bravotv.com.

I do, but I only. I analyzed stuff about you, which you love. I just analyze, you know, feedback about you. Oh, see, you start twirling your hair.

I know.

No, just, you know, I check every little thing, all the numbers, blah, blah, what people are saying on Facebook, stuff like that.

I didn't know our number tripled. So does that mean that stitcher, where you can listen, they got more like people are listening through stitcher, the numbers tripled or just overall listening through Stitcher. Okay, got it. Because a lot of people are hitting me up and saying, how do we listen to the show? And this is the best way.

Even on my other. My other radio show where I just do music, I don't talk on there about it, so don't worry about it. But people were hitting me up and texting into my show and saying, you know, how do I listen to the Sex with Emily show?

Oh, that's awesome.

I told them sexemily.com and stitcher and all that stuff.

So that's nice. Well, welcome, everyone, to the new show. Yeah, it's an old show, but it's a new maybe.

Yeah, maybe new to you. And we're on XM Satellite Radio.

We're on XM. So, yeah, serious. We're on XM Extreme Talk 165. So hello to all of our SiriusXM.

Listeners across the country.

Across the country. So that's all the stuff. Today's show is brought to you by Good Vibrations. One of the funny things is that I actually got a few emails. People were like, good for you for bringing up a cock ring on national television. My brother actually brings it up and says to me during the first episode, what do you want to talk about cock rings or something? And then I said, you should try a cock ring. So if you've never used one, it's because I talk about them a lot. And you can get the Neo vibrating cock ring from Good Vibrations if you use coupon code gvemily15. You get 15% off every anything from goodvibes.com. and you can get lots of other things there, too. But cock rings are awesome.

Yeah. That cock ring scene with your brother is just amazing.

Everyone and.

People around my office, like, even the guys are like, oh, yeah, you know Emily's brother. Solid dude.

Yeah. You're like, I partied with him.

I was like, that guy's awesome.

We had the last one.

I've been wanting to talk to him ever since.

I know. Do you want to call him now?

I want to call him so bad. Yeah. And ask him how much of a rock star he is back in is receiving answers. Yeah, let's try it.

Okay. He doesn't always answer, but people, like, everyone was like, you and your brother. Oh, my God. You and your brother.

He got four and a half out of five stars.

I know. It wasn't even a date. None of the other dates did.

Oh, no. They're like, ranking, like, two stars.

Well, because we know Amy's date. Everyone agrees Amy's a douchebag.

Douche. A douche. But she's a typical woman. Doesn't listen to anybody.

She doesn't. I tried to give her advice.

She won't listen.

He never answers. He's a lawyer. Whatever.

He's got a lot brother.

But we could get into.

Baby's too busy now.

He's just, you know, fielding phone calls.

Yeah, he's just getting invited to all these galas and all this stuff.

We're actually doing a big screening if you live in Michigan. We're doing a screening in Michigan on July 2nd.

Oh, man.

I was there. Cause I'll be there. He's not answering. Okay, we can get into some sex in the news. Unless there's anything else that you need to share with me? Have you had sex? Anything? Girls, what's going on? You get a lot of girls hitting you up now that you're famous?

No. Well, yeah, yeah. I mean, I had a lot of past people that I've dated hit me up saying, oh, you look cute on the show. You look good, blah, blah. I was like, oh, no, I think I look extremely sloppy in the one scene at your party.

I don't think so. It's my brother.

Oh, love this guy.

Michael Morse.

Hi.

Hi. You're live on the radio right now.

Oh, okay. Thank you for having me.

Well, Menace loves you. He's like having a man crush on you, and so he just wanted to talk to you for a second.

Dude, everybody. Everybody loves you on the show.

Everybody.

Think of the show. I'm curious.

Well, I thought you were amazing on it.

Well, thank you. The whole thing.

The whole thing. A whole thing. I mean, I love the show, of course, but I mean, what are your thoughts on it?

I love the show too. I thought the other two women, of course, my sister was the best, but I thought the other two women were great. I want to, you know, I don't watch reality tv, but I do want to see what happens. I'm gonna, I'm really gonna watch it. Even if Emily wasn't gonna be on it, I'd watch the show. So hopefully they'll gain a bunch of viewership and it'll be a big success.

Do you realize it that you have four out of five stars? Four and a half out of five stars on Bravo TV.com right now. That's.

People are rating your photo, Michael, because you're so cute.

That's weird. That's weird.

Yeah. You got four and a half. And the other girls dates did not get that many stars.

They got two stars.

And you're not even my date. You're my brother.

How many, how many people voted?

Like two? No. Just kidding. I don't know.

No, a lot of people.

A lot of people voted. Mikey, you're famous. Are you walking around?

I'm trying to get a lot of people here in Michigan to like you guys on Facebook. Trying to get that number up. Over a thousand. So hopefully that'll get going.

Nice.

Yeah. Good job.

Michael, have anybody recognized you in Michigan from the show yet?

I have not gotten somebody come up behavior the dude from Bravo because I actually advertise on tv, so I get that.

I've had. I had an old girlfriend today. Email me that. She was just watching the show. Thought that was my sister and freaked out. When I came on, Emily in the radio show said, you know your girlfriend Allison or Allison from Philadelphia?

Yes. That was 20. So, yeah, she sent me out the.

Night that she saw me on your. I mean, I'm getting weird emails like that. I'm sure you're getting a million of them.

I'm getting them too, from, like, every guy I slept with. You can imagine.

Just kidding. And people love that. We brought up. Talked about cock rings on national television.

Yeah, I didn't love that. I wish I didn't use that.

You brought it up, Michael. If you watch the scene and you rewind, you said, what are we talking about? Cock rings.

I watched it again and I thought that actually the second time around was better. And that segment was actually really funny. And the way the talking thing came up was funny. And I wish it wasn't said four or five times. And everybody's asking me, oh, Shay, I know what to get you for your birthday.

I'm bringing one home for you, Mikey, for our big screening July 2nd in Michigan. All of our Michigan listeners can come.

We gotta talk about how we're gonna do that.

I know, we'll talk. I'll call you later. I mean, we need to talk about some stuff anyway, but Men just wants to have you. Yeah.

So how does it feel? You're back from la.

I'm back from L. A. I just got back late last night and it was a really fun premiere and. Yeah, we had a great time. It was. It was great.

I saw your pictures with all the girls and Ashley Tisdale, she's. I think she's cute.

Yeah, she's cute. She's like 20, but. No, she's like 27.

Yeah. Was she nice?

Yeah, really nice. Everyone was really nice. She threw the party because she's the executive producer.

Do you think she watched any bits of the show before Nana? Like, do you think she had any hand?

Yeah, I talked to her mom for a long time. Her mom had saw it, so I'm sure Ashley did.

Yeah, I was just curious how that works.

Yeah, she watched it, so. Yeah. Mikey, anything else? Any sex tips for our listeners?

So I'm in the. So people are asking me. I'm in episodes two and three.

You're in episodes? I think just three. One and three. I don't think you're in the second one. I don't think so. Unless they continue. I haven't seen it yet. I get it today.

No big deal. Is menace in it? Is menace in two and three?

Oh, Menace is in every episode, fortunately and unfortunately. Yeah, it's awesome.

You get a lot of. A lot of feedback.

Yeah, sorry, I'm on the other side.

Yeah, he's on the other side. He's getting a lot of feedback, but we gotta go. Mikey, we love you.

I love you guys.

You've got lots of fans here in San Francisco. Okay, bye. Okay, that's my brother. He's. I mean, literally everybody talk to him. Everybody said to me, love the show. Your brother's amazing. Like, that was the thing. Like, it wasn't like, you're great.

It was like, you're like, oh, yeah.

My brother's gonna get his own show.

They're like, yeah, that's great. You're on the show. But your brother.

It's so true. Okay, let's get into some sex in the news. Here we are. A sex talk show. We don't just talk about television.

Okay, good.

Okay.

Kinda.

Kinda talk about television because it's exciting.

Do you know? Okay, we're talking about sex in the news.

Yeah, but go ahead.

Okay, so sex in the news I just saw on TMZ before we got here was now that Chris Humphries has, like, this crazy new ex girlfriend that he dated after Kim Kardashian that apparently was trying to extort him for money and all this stuff. Now she's saying that Kris Jenner, the mother, was the one that came up with the idea of the sex tape for Kim Kardashian and Ray J.

No way.

Saying that Chris Humphries told this crazy new ex girlfriend that. Yeah, they. Ray J shot it once before and it wasn't good enough. So then they redid it again.

I don't believe that for a second.

Because the only thing is, you know what's never been discussed? How that tape even got into the world.

No one's ever discussed it. I thought it was Ray J, that.

Ray J just put that out. Yeah, no, I don't think so.

Yeah, I doubt that she wanted to do a sex tape. I mean, because that was even before she. Well, Paris Hilton became famous because of her sex tape.

From a sex tape too. And she was best friends with Paris Hilton.

You think she was like, oh, I'm gonna do a sex tape to become famous? Like, I don't know who would do that.

I mean, but how else would she would have been. Would become famous at that time?

I think she was already doing the Kardashian show when she.

No, she wasn't. No, no, she wasn't.

Okay.

I don't know she got the Kardashian show, like, a couple years later after.

She never should have married that dude. It's just gonna be bad news. Like every week you're gonna get some bad news about that, okay? Sexy seances Land psychic and slammer. A young woman told a jury today how a psychic tricked her into performing like a porn star in the hope of getting in touch with her dead grandfather. What an idiot. Medium Carl Lange is accused of persuading the woman, 26, to strip naked during a seance because it increased her powers to contact the sp spirit world. The court heard Lang had also warned the brunette not tell anyone about his training methods because he was the reincarnation of Jesus Christ. Okay, Are people just dumb? Where'd she find this guy? Was she really, like, in a trance or something? He asked her to dance around naked to read her whatever. That was stupid. Okay? Chinese news goof says mystery mushroom turned out to be a sex toy. The villagers of the village Luo Kunbo in central China were rightfully surprised to find a large, mysterious mushroom shaped object called Digging their new well. Television journalists arrived to the village reporting that it was a type of mushroom known in mythology as a secret to longevity. Well, it wasn't. Viewers of the news program wrote it wrote the correct. Wrote into correct reports pointing out that the object was actually a double sized masturbation sleeve, complete with a vagina and anus.

Yes.

The news organization apologized and blamed the reporter for being young and unwise. Clearly they need to start tuning into sexual.

Oh, they just blame it on the reporter. Like there was the anchor, like going to the reporter and talking about it. Yeah, I dying laughing because I, I saw the original news report on how they're all like, holding it and looking at it.

I think it's a mystery mushroom. Well, mushrooms are like, psych. Are like, you know, have powers.

And it looked like it did look like a mushroom from the side, but when you flip it over and you see the holes, it looks like a vagina, like, immediately.

Really?

That's so funny. Chinese people love it. Love China.

Need more sex toys over here.

They need more sex toys. Okay.

Well, actually, no, because there's like, they're.

All made in China, a lot of them. So many, so many sex toys.

The population over there is crazy. So they're banging like crazy over there.

Exactly. Okay. Hotel hallways, balconies. Top places Aussies have sex while holidaying. Australians. A survey of more than 5,000 Australians found that even when abroad, Aussies are going down under every place they can from pools and saunas to the fire escapes with their hotels. Many showed a marked lack of patience, saying they'd whip out their wallabies in hotel elevators and hallways. 36% said they would consider renting a hotel by the hour. And 5% admitted to cheating on their ex in hotel, which may indicate that even larger percentage of Australians are fibbers. So their top places are balconies and hotel hallways. I've had sex in a hotel balcony. Have you?

Yes. Cosmopolitan Hotel, Las Vegas, Nevada.

Last time you were there?

No. Well, those three times ago that I was there, yeah.

Nice.

Very nice hotel.

I didn't spend a break in high school.

Very large balconies.

Large balconies, yeah. That's nice. My hotel room didn't have a balcony last time I went to Vegas.

Well, you're staying. Ghetto hotels, it was.

Honey, I didn't have the money. Whatever. Ghetto hotel, maybe you can get. Why are the Aussies always. They're crazy sexually, the Aussies.

Yeah, definitely.

We've got lots of Australian listeners. Hit us up. They always.

There's a lot of hot Australian women out there too, man. I'm sure there's hot Australian men. I don't. I just don't pay attention to them. But the. The women out there are pretty hot, man. Pretty hot.

It's true. Pretty hot.

Google it.

Google. Google Australia. Google the Australia. Okay. New Swedish iPhone app lets you test sex with fantasy characters and Facebook friends. Do you ever wonder what it'd be like to have sex with a demanding film director, A snotty socialite, rough construction worker, A guy who does the voiceover in movie trailers, or one of your Facebook friends? As always, there's an app for that called test Nookie. The app was created in order to promote condom use. Right after people select their virtual partner, they are asked if they want to use a condom, then record their own moaning and groaning, which is then mixed with the sexuality ecstatic voice of their character of choice. Do you know that people who suggest using condom are seen as confident and considerate? That's why the message is that it says, okay, that's what we got for you for sex in the news. Do you have anything else to add?

Nothing.

There is TMZ wanderings.

Yes, there is something. I. I was googling it while you're talking about who released the sex tape. And everyone's blaming it on Kim Kardashian, which was.

Now they would blame it. I doubt that Kim Kardashian.

These are like, reports I'm looking back, that are in 2007 and.

Oh, is that how long ago it came out?

Yeah, they're like saying they're blaming.

And her mom said, great idea, honey. Good.

Well, that's. That's what the. The current ex girlfriend of her ex husband is.

Okay, that's like way too many people. I don't understand.

Yeah.

The current ex of her ex husband who wants to get in the news and be famous. And the only reason she dated Chris Humphrey. Because he's. Idiot. Probably because she thinks he's famous because he's Kim Kardashian's ex. Of course she's. I don't believe any of it. Yeah, she's totally been discredited in my book.

So I looked at it, and then there's this hilarious photo that's been floating around for a while too. You guys should get on the Google and find it. There's a famous photo of the whole Kardashian family, and they're on the steps of their house, like inside the house. You know, it's a whole row of them.

Right?

And then there's Photoshopped. In front of them is Ray J. And his arms are crossed. And it looks like kind of like a cover album cover.

Right.

You know, one of his CDs. And on the text it says, I made this whole Fame family famous with my dick.

He did.

He did. He did.

My sex tape's coming out, but not until July.

He made.

That family. Not that they didn't already have millions of dollars, but he made that family millions upon millions of dollars.

But they would have.

With his dick.

With his penis.

With his filming. With the power of raging penis.

Think of what you could do. Are any of the girls that you have sex tapes of famous now? Could you do anything?

No. None of them start sleeping with famous people.

You should. I can introduce you to some. Damn it. Okay, we've got some emails. We're reading your emails that you sent to. It's actually. We are changing the email. It's feedbackilymorse.com M O R S really? Really? Just. Just right now. That's what we're doing.

Really?

Is that. Does that just blow your world? Because usually you could still write to feedbackextextwithemily.com.

It'S been years.

I know, but I can't remember why. There was some reasoning so. Feedbackily Morse M O R S E.

Well, there's a brand new website. Sexwithemily.com.

There'S a brand new website and all of our shows are free. They weren't all free for a while. And now they're all free, so if you missed any of our past episodes, they're all up on the website. Not all of them, because we've got some old ones that we are going to release.

Yeah, oldies but goodies.

We're going to do like a throwback Thursday.

Really?

Because that sounds fun. And then we're going to post some of the old ones of menace getting like bikini wax and all that stuff. Those were good days.

Wow.

Okay. So you can email me your questions@feedbackmilymorse.com or sexthelmy.com either one's fine. Hi Emily. I've been listening to Dan Savage, who's great, but was looking for some female perspective on my relationship and a good podcast with a straight female's perspective. I'm listening to the episode from September 2, 2011, Understanding Women. And it's awesome. I'm a 30 year old man dating a 45 year old woman. She was a good friend of mine about a year ago. My friend and I have gotten, have gotten through this issue, but I still have some problems that I can't seem to get over. I drive myself crazy. Oh, she was dating her, his friend. I drive myself crazy thinking that I'm not as good as my friend. I can't stand to even think of her with him. I want to be the most incredible lover she ever had. We've been together six months. I know that she loves being with me. She's responsive and reassuring and I'm a really good standup guy. But behind the confidence, I have so much insecurity in mind. Fucking. It's totally crazy.

Wow.

Is there any advice about just being present and dropping all this mental shit that just gets in the way? Do I need to be her best lover? Is there always someone out there she will remember more than me because they were so much better? Woody from Boston, Massachusetts.

Wow.

Woody, Woody, you gotta let it go. You can't go there in your mind. I know that. First of all, one of my rules that I always tell people is do not talk about your past. The past has passed. Do not talk about it in a relationship. And the fact that you know that she's up with your friend does not help. It's not like she told you, but you already knew that. But I mean, as a woman, I never, I do not compare guys that I dated. And I don't think that women sit around there and go, oh, this last guy and his penis was like this. He did that. If she's telling you that you're a great lover and you guys have a good relationship and you're together. I think that you are mind tripping. You 99% of the suffering that comes in our lives are from our head, our own mind. We make ourselves crazy. And I think you just gotta let it go. You gotta. You can't future trip. You can't mind trip. I'm sure you're amazing in bed, too. I don't even know if this guy was amazing. But you are telling yourself stories that aren't true. And if you want some, he said, is there advice about just being present? Yeah, that's my advice to you. Be present. Be with her. Be in the moment. Don't bring up the ex. Be confident when you're having sex with her. And confidence is the most sexy thing. And you have to cultivate that confidence because it sounds like you're being really insecure right now, and that is not attractive.

And, you know, it's easy way to fix that. You just don't sleep with any chicks that your friend slept with.

That's true.

I know.

That's another great way. I never do that. You just don't do that.

I just don't do that.

But do you ever worry about that when you're with a girl? You were like, God, you know, she's this last guy. Or I'm not that good. Or. Do you guys worry about that a lot?

I mean, I honestly, I assume they do. I date girls that tell you you're the best. No, they don't tell me the best. But I just. They're not. There's not, like, in my circle of friends and stuff like that. I just don't, you know, the girls that are in my circle of friends that's hooked up with past friends of mine, I'm not. I'm not ever going to hook up with. It's just not going to happen. Because I will be in the mental state that this guy's right.

You'll be like woody with. Without a Woody.

Yeah. And I'm just not. I'm just not going to do that.

So just don't do that to yourself.

I always date outside my circle.

Okay. That's a good advice too. But I would also say that, that Woody is that when you think about. I just had a really, really, really good thought. It escaped me. But there's just that women are so insecure too, around sex that she's probably thinking the same thing. Like, oh, he's 15 years younger. He could be with a younger woman. So she's probably got her insecurities too. I'm just saying that women get insecure, men get insecure. And when you're having sex, the most important thing is to be present in the moment. And that helps women have more orgasms and. And have better sex when you're connected and present. Dear Emily, foot fetish. I'll try to explain it from my perspective.

What? We have been trying this for how many years?

Many years.

How many years?

Seven. All right. We want to get a foot perspective from a man.

Yeah. We've always asked what turns you on about the foot.

Right.

You know, why does this happen? Why do you get obsessed with the footage? And we've never able to have somebody fully.

We've had a few people, but they.

Couldn'T really explain it. They just said, oh, I think it's hot. Why do you think it's hot?

This is when we get into it.

Here we go.

First off, look at a woman's foot versus a man's. They're very different. Women's feet are, in general, smaller and more slender. In addition, toes are tactile and the only other body part than hand can grip weight, and the only other body part than a hand that can grip, grasp, et cetera, which allows for one's mind to push fantasies a bit further. Toes are also one of the few parts of the female body that one can suck and nibble on, so it can be furthered by an oral fixation.

There is also an appeal to those men with a submissive streak. It's hard to think of yourself above the woman if she's standing upon your genitalia. Lastly, the calf muscle tapering to the ankle is essentially the last curve of the woman's body. A pleasure foot massage that for many is one of the next highest forms of touch, pleasure after sex. Anyway, take all those with a grain of salt, as this explanation is based merely upon my meditations and constant thoughts on sex for the 30 years of my life as a virgin.

Jay from somewhere, Pennsylvania.

That absolutely explained nothing.

He's a virgin and he.

I know, but that did not explain the whole thing about the foot.

He kind of did that.

He tried to explain, like, oh, there's sexy.

Women can kick you in the balls if you want to be a submissive man.

We're not monkeys where we can, like, grab bananas with their feet. Some people can, like, does he have a fantasy? Like, he wants a woman to try to jack him off with his.

Yes.

With her feet.

Yes. I think that's what he's saying, that.

The feet are like the hands the feet aren't hands. They don't grip as much. You want to talk about a crappy hand job, try doing it with your feet. Okay, you can't. You can. You can barely pick up anything with your feet.

Some people have amazing foot strategies. Feet, feet, feet.

Okay, so let me just make. Make it super complicated.

You know what I mean?

Let's just make it super complicated on getting me off by using your feet? That's not sexy.

I know, but it's just that women.

Imagine all the corns. The corns.

I get pedicures. I know that's. You gotta shower first.

Cracked heels.

But there's a lot of men that find women's shoes sexy and lingerie, and there's nothing wrong with that. But if you have a foot fetish, email us feedback at Emily Morrison shoes to Emily Morris. I'm a size seven. Oh, dude, I gotta give a shout out to soulsociety.com. they actually soly. They sponsored our party. And I got four new pairs of shoes.

Oh my God.

I came home with the coolest shoes. And they're really reasonably priced, so everyone should check them out.

Soul society.

Soul society. Okay. Hi, Emily. I found your show on itunes and I started listening to it before going to sleep, but it didn't work because I would just get wound up. So now I listen as I cook and walk, et cetera. Anyway, my question is a dating question. A few months ago, when I was visiting a friend, I met a guy at a bar and had a one night stand with him. Sounds typical, right? However, we ended up going on two dates and I at least had a fantastic time. He walked me home after the second date and we made out a little bit in the street. But I wouldn't let him come up to my apartment because of our initial meeting. And I really liked him. I never heard from him after that. Now a few months later, he ran into my sister at a bar while visiting his friend again.

Yes.

Asked about me and sent me a picture of them. Should I contact him or wait for him to contact me? And if I contact him, what do I say? From Hani in Cambridge, Massachusetts. Um, I. He texted you a picture with his sister. I would wait for him to contact you, honey, because if he was in town, he'd call you.

That's him reaching out. That's him. That's his way of.

He was in town again. They had a one night stand. Why didn't he call her?

He texted her. I mean, you could text him back and be haha. But he should make the move and ask her out. He blew her off after they slept together. They went out twice. Then she never heard from him again. Months went by.

Well, she didn't bring him back upstairs. Right.

So what a dick. So he didn't call her because she didn't bring him upstairs. That's all the more reason not to contact her.

Maybe he just doesn't want to put the work into it.

Right. Exactly. Another reason not to go out with them. Any guy that doesn't call you because you won't sleep with him again is not the guy for you.

Don't get some dick who cares. Move on.

Okay. Okay. Emily, I was wondering if you've ever done a show on sex and astrology. I'm a Scorpio woman, and my sex life definitely represents that. What are you in Menaces? Signs. Michelle from Baltimore.

I'm a Scorpio.

You're a Scorpio?

Yeah.

Scorpions are supposed to be the most sexual sign, which I think is funny. That you're a Scorpion?

No, I. I am very sexual. It's just. I'm not like you or, you know what? Going. Getting tied up and.

I'm not getting tied up all the time.

Burning candles and pouring wax all over people and putting nipple clamps on and using the rock Box freaking vibrator and just. Not that, but I'm really into Rock Box yet. I'm really into the banging. You know, the whole. The whole thing that we've been doing for, you know, thousands of years. I'm really into doing it that way, which I feel. I know that you feel. That is boring. You know, I just want banging. No banging in. I believe in a natural way that.

What do you think I'm swinging from the rafters every time I have sex?

I'm just saying. Have you. I mean, how many times have you done it lately without having an extra device around?

A lot.

Or, you know, oftentimes being tied up or being whipped.

I never get tied up. And I would like it more often. I'm just saying. But I'm a Gemini.

Meeting a Sunday at the same time, all kinds of stuff like that.

That'd be good.

A Gemini. I know nothing about Gemini.

So we are twins. We are like two personalities, they say.

Two personalities. No way.

Do you think I seem like I have two personalities? We are, like, flighty, kind of. And know a lot about everything. A little bit.

A little? Yeah. Like ethereal. And we flit from one thing to the next. We're sort of air signs.

So you're not dependable Exactly.

All right, now, I'm dependable when you say.

Let me tell you something. Okay, Let me tell you.

Sex and astrology. Years ago, when we were live on cbs, we did that. Yeah.

Let me tell you something. This is why. I know that sign is the whole flighty thing.

What?

This is what happens all the time. I'll be like, super busy at work, but we have to do a show. And I'm like, oh, I'm running late, blah, blah. And he will always offer. Always offer, like, okay, well, do. Do you need me to pick you up? And I go, okay, yeah, that'd be great. And then you go, well, I don't know, because then I gotta, you know, figure out parking, how to park.

It's hard to park here.

Just never offer. Just don't offer once. No, every single time you offer like, well, I can go pick you up. You want me to pick you up? I'll pick you up. And I go, okay, yeah, pick.

I'm sorry. I just did that once.

You don't do that once. There's been multiple times.

Do you want me to pick you up more often?

No, it's fine.

But I'm just saying it's good exercise.

I know, and I know this, but I'm just saying when I'm telling you that, oh, yeah, I might be late. Don't offer to pick me up if you're never gonna do it.

Okay, I'm sorry, but it's hard to park around here. So I say it because I want you to get your ass to the studio, but I don't really want to park down here because it's hard.

You're like, oh, would you like an option to get there faster? Yes, I would like an option to get there faster.

I'll pick you up tomorrow.

That's great that you want that option, but you know what? I thought twice about it, and I'm not gonna provide.

Are you saying it's because I'm a Gemini that I don't drive?

Yeah, maybe.

I don't think so.

Little flighty.

I used the wrong adjective. I don't think it's flighty. I think it's more like. More like. Yeah, maybe it is flighty. What's a better word for that? What's the positive word for that? Oh, I got called. I don't even wanna get into it.

Oh, are you been reading the reviews? What did they say?

What was the review that said I was the most. Oh, I told you this. The word. It was because somebody told me strident. I was the most strident of the three women, which I thought meant like confident. Whenever. When you look it up, it's not good. I mean, I know what strident means. I mean, I've used the word strident, but it meant like, break it down.

For the dumb people like me that.

Don'T know strident means.

Google it.

Google it. Steve Intern. Steve, can you Google it for a second?

Yeah. And then come over to the mic and explain it for us.

And then the definition of strident.

So also a friend of mine in Missouri said that he was reading the New York Post and some biatch in the New York Post was talking bad about me saying that I should be fixing PCs.

Yeah. Really? I didn't see that. No, you shouldn't be.

It's not like I don't care, but I just thought it was hilarious. That's actually my second time in the New York Post.

Really?

Yeah. That's crazy.

Should be fixing PCs.

I should be fixing PCs instead of.

Or Macs. At least. I mean, not PCs.

I was offended by the PC comment.

All right, don't you know I have an iPhone and a Mac? Okay, read strident.

Definition, Adjective one, loud and harsh. Grading two, presenting a point of view, especially a controversial one, in an excessively and unpleasantly forceful way. Okay, now I have to look up what grading means. I don't even know what that means.

Grading means like annoying.

Oh, damn. Are you serious? Yeah, damn.

But I thought it was a good compliment and then it was. And then it was like excessively annoying. I don't get hurt by reviews. I don't give a shit. Because you know what? These people, they don't know what they're talking about because the show is awesome. It's so good. And I'm telling you, our show, misadvised on Bravo at 10 o' clock at night on Mondays, is going to take off. So I don't give a shit what.

It'S going to say. Yeah, if you have Comcast, it's on demand too. But tune into the live stuff so you can see it first.

It's Comcast on Demand.

Yeah, I just found out the other day. My friend told me they watched it on Demand.

Okay, that's cool.

I'm gonna look up some more reviews while you talk.

Oh, Emily, are you gonna trash. Are you gonna trash me?

No.

Just to read the good ones.

Okay, I'll try to find some.

So what our topic is. So one of the number one complaints that I hear from men is that women don't initiate sex as much as they should have you. I know it's been a while since you've been in a relationship menace.

Yes.

But would you say that that is true, that women that you initiate more than the women you're with?

I believe it's the other way around. Because I'm not the. I'm not the type of guy that just like, constantly just wants to hook up. No, but you think it's weird because I. But I. I have been in relationships.

Why am I even asked why I've.

Been in relationships where I was initiating more than the other person?

Okay.

But I think in my most recent relationships, after the past couple years, I think because of, you know, this work and things like, that I've been the one not initiating as much. But I think I'm supposed to be the guy.

No, but I thought your deal was that you don't initiate the first move, that you always wait for women to know.

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. I thought. I thought you first.

No, I'm talking about. I am talking about sex. But. But I.

No sex. As a guy, you have to initiate the first move. But I'm talking about being in a relationship for a while, and when you.

Were in a relationship for a while, the woman you were with initiated it more.

Yeah.

That's interesting, because that's not common as common. That is like the number one complaint by men.

So they want the dick thrown at them.

They want the dick thrown at them. Women do.

I started saying dick on the show because of the whole Ray J thing. I made this family famous with my dick. So I want to use dick a lot more just on the show today.

So the guy I've been dating listen to the show and now he's using the word. Now he's using pound town.

Pound town?

Pound town's awesome.

He's like, do you want to go to pound town? I'm like, oh, my God.

I thought you bound the. You banned the guys from listening to the show.

I did, but he was doing something on my website and he heard it. He does. He hasn't seen the show yet, so if people.

Great, great.

He doesn't want to.

I don't suggest he watches his.

I don't suggest he watches because I.

Don'T think that you'll be dating a guy anymore. If he watches, it's a problem.

I might. I might actually end up alone.

I think, honestly, you could, because.

For.

One, even if he doesn't watch it, you know, there's a bunch of people that know him that are watching it and they'll be like, oh my God, I saw your lady making out with this nasty ass guy. Which is true.

When I make out with. No, I'm not gonna.

Don't point out which one.

Okay. I do make out with a guy that is not that attractive. But I had to. And you'll see why in upcoming episodes. No, but I wasn't dating them. Whatevs. I had a past. Just that my past happened to be on television now.

Jesus, you're gonna get dumped so quick. How much you wanna make a bet that you get dumped?

Oh, no. That's so sad.

Before the season ends.

I've never been dumped.

You never been dumped? Well, get ready for it, okay? Embrace it.

I'll be coming crying next week. Okay. I know. So I think that for women, by.

What episode do you think you'll get dumped? Third episode.

Should we make a bet?

I think I'll say fourth episode.

I get dumped by episode four. I actually.

Episode four, because I'm thinking of the timeline. I'm saying episode four because by that.

Time he doesn't want to watch it though.

It doesn't matter. It's gonna get back to him. People are gonna comment, people are gonna watch it and tell him what happened and then he's gonna go onto his On Demand and he's gonna stream it for himself to see it.

It's not so bad. It's television. Can't believe everything you watch. So for women initiating sex, I don't know, I think that women just want to feel wanted more than men. And men are typically in that position of having to make the first move. So some things women can do is they can set the stage and menace. I don't want to hear any wise ass comments from you, but lighting candles is a good first move. Like lighting candles and setting the stage. I recommend the Jimmy Jane afterglow candles because they're my favorite and I'm obsessed with them. Go to jimmyjayne.com get a massage candle. And that is our next thing is that you could start with a massage. They are. They add these candles add great fragrance to the room and they can be used as the most amazing massage oil. And they don't. They're not waxy and weird and you pour it on your partner's body and they burn cooler and they're awesome. Yeah.

Actually, this is the thing that you've promoted the most since I've ever known you.

I know because I'm just such a fan. I love him. Buying new lingerie can also appeal to his eyes and make him feel good and make you feel good. So lingerie, even though menace isn't like lingerie, and some guys might not feel great about it or not really care or not really notice, it makes a woman feel better and sexier. And if you get new lingerie, you might feel like, okay, I'm gonna make a move. So next thing you can do is you can offer to give your partner a massage.

Rub his back slowly. Work your way down his butt, thighs, calves, ankles. Allow your breasts or other soft spots to touch his skin. Do you ever got a massage from a woman?

No. I need a chiropractor, man. Like, they. They try to, like, massage me, and I'm like, no, you got to go in deeper.

Yeah, yeah. You got to go deep.

Yeah. But, you know, I usually date women that are not, you know, very husky. They're like little petite, and they just don't have enough power behind them, you know, really? Maybe I should just date a big.

Girl that can really give you massage. Yeah, like a twofer.

Twofer.

Then you need to go to chiropractor. A good way to get him aroused is a little rubbing of his inner thighs. It's a sensitive area and close to the penis and balls. While massaging his thighs, try playing with his balls. Not menace his balls though, because he doesn't like his balls touch either.

Don't write that.

Okay. Tip for men. If she's into. You might want to trim or shave. Right. A good product to use is Max for Men. Balls and all get 25% off coupon code Emily25. At checkout, we've got all these amazing balls. It's from Max for Men balls and all. And the website, I will tell you, is crazygirlproducts.com and Max for Men. Shave your balls with that. You should use something special when you're shaving your balls.

Yeah, I kind of just do whatever.

What do you do?

Kind of shave them with.

With shaving cream?

No.

You don't use any cream or soap?

I don't use even shaving cream when I shave my face.

Do you soap? You use soap so when you shower?

Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I just, like, shave. I don't know. I'm. I'm weird because, you know, I grew up with my mom, so my dad wasn't around to show me how the shave.

Is that why you don't shave now?

Huh? I tried to shave last night in the middle of the night when it was dark, and I did not do a great job. But I just. I dry shave, which people Were like, oh, my God.

So. But can I give you all these products? I have Max for men. They're amazing.

But I'm just so used to dry shaving, I don't even know how to give you honey.

That's not good for your skin. I'm going to bring you.

I have immaculate skin. It doesn't matter.

It makes it tough. I want some tough skin, you know?

No, no, no, no. I gotta give you product.

Can I tell you something about a review? Because we were. I told you that I was gonna Google reviews while you were waiting. And this is actually one of my favorite ones. It's not. This one's not really directed towards you. It's directed toward the whole show.

Okay.

And it's hilarious because I haven't even heard about this website in so many years. But they used to, like, get shows in trouble all the time. And because it was. It's basically for parents to let parents know if the show is safe or not for your kids.

Okay.

And actually, they weren't too brutal on you. Right?

Okay.

They. They gave the show three out of five stars.

Wow. Good.

They gave the recommendation age 15. But here's the categories.

So each star tells you, like, how much is in it. Okay. So it's out of a five star rating. Positive messages, zero.

Positive role models, zero. Now this part I don't get, but it gets a. It gets a one star. Is violence. Was there anybody, like, hitting each other? I know Julia Allison. She's crazy. She's, like, hitting people and stuff like that. What part does the violence come from? Didn't she, like, slap a guy? I don't crack. No, no, no. And then sex. Three.

Of course. Talk about cock rings. Language. Three. Because of you again.

No, I didn't swear, did I?

But, yeah, but you're talking about, like.

Cock rings and stuff like that are important.

And then consumerism, meaning all of America.

Went out and bought a cock ring after they saw that.

Oh, of course. Consumerism. Is that. Is that basically like, you know, products trying to be hawked on the show?

Right.

They said three, which I don't. I mean, what was really being promoted on them?

Promoting anything.

I don't know what that's from. And then drinking, drugs and smoking, too.

There were no drinking, drugs or smoking. That's a stupid website.

Yeah, but I think also this might have been in the promos of the actual show. Like, stuff that's coming up. So there's parts where people are having drinks and.

Oh, right.

I think. I think that one star for violence is when Julie Allison like slaps some guy for kissing or something. I don't know. You call that a kiss or something?

Does she slap someone?

Oh, yeah, remember?

But that's an upcoming episode.

Yeah, yeah, but those clips are in the show, so maybe that's what it's called.

Right, right. Okay, good to know. We're talking about Misadvised on Bravo at 10 o' clock on Monday.

Yeah. Which you star in. Which you're just tuning into XM right now.

If you're just tuning into. Yeah, you're on. If you're on xm, you're listening to us on xm, Tweet us.

We just want to know that you're listening.

Oh yeah.

Okay. This is. We're talking about why women should initiate sex more. And just Menace doesn't have this problem, but a lot of men do. So I'm just giving some tips for women. So set the stage with Cand. Give him a massage. I think massages because a lot of women also men typically are more. I'm not saying women don't want sex as much as men, but men get turned on like when the wind blows. And women need more of mood settings. So if you light the candles, you start giving him a massage, you make it turned on, you rub your body parts all over him and then kissing. Some French kissing or nibbling on his ear is a great way to get intimate or set the mood. Your mouth can definitely work wonders. It's the start of great sexual experience. And at the end of an awesome orgasm, kissing your partner in a sensitive areas can spark up sexual fantasies such as oral sex. So women shouldn't be afraid to go down on their guy in the beginning of having sex. Some women want to save that for the big finish because of the master taste of semen. You can also try mask sexual flavors if you want. Those Listerine strips that we all tried, they're like Listerine strips. They're strips for you to mask the taste of semen. Masq if you want to check them out. But just start kissing your partner. You can start performing oral sex. If you're not in the mood yet. Maybe you will be once you start. Women do get turned. It's a little. Women need to. I feel like I always need to start doing it sometimes to get turned on. Like it's not as common. Like you guys have men of a thought and they're turned on. But women not as much, right?

Oh yeah, we gotta do everything. We gotta take out dinner, gotta buy crap, gotta clean and fix things.

Fixing things is hot.

Yeah.

The guy that I'm dating is a fixer. He, like, knows how to fix things.

Then we have to talk to you for like an hour after sex, and then we have to make out with you.

Yeah, making out.

We get to have sex and cuddling. Ridiculous.

You don't do anything. You don't like anything that has to do with sex. You don't paws touch. You don't like cuddling. You probably don't like kissing.

I love the banging. I love going to pound town.

Going to pound town. But that's it.

These things that you're into, I'm just not into.

I know that's a problem.

I'm sorry. Then I should just sit here and agree with everything you say you should.

It'd be a much better show.

Oh, really? Oh, my God. Grabbing the balls is amazing.

Most of the time.

I know there's a lot of men out there. I think you're not representing them.

I think you had your. I think you have some early age ball trauma and that you actually might like your balls touched now, later in life.

I'm trying to think if I ever got hit in the balls.

Did you think about it? Let's do some, like, psychic going back in time or something.

No, no, no. I can't.

I don't believe you.

Oh. But do you know what I was talking to you.

About?

Balls.

No, no, no. About my family and like, you know, issues that I had. And you're always. We always talk about this on the show. You're like, oh, you never call your mother and blah, blah. And I finally, like, broke it down. We didn't really get to talk about this.

No, let's get into it. Yeah.

So anyways, I also have a stepmother who was married to my father for. Since I was 8 years old. And then they recently just got a divorce a few years back. And we haven't really talked, but I, you know, me, I haven't really even talked to my family in the past couple years. And so she got wind that I was gonna be on that. On the Bravo show, Misadvised. Watch it. And so she watched it and blah, blah. And then she reached out to me and in her email, it kind of. She was suggesting that.

She thought that I, Since I did radio and all this stuff, that I thought that I was too good to speak to anybody. I had like this big ego trip because she didn't know, because she didn't talk to me. So she. This is what she assumed because a lot of people do that Too. Believe me, I've been around them where they just, like, get some kind of fame. They just go insane, right? And they forget about where they came from, who. Who. They're a part of it, whatever. And. And then I email her back and I said, no, that's not. That hasn't been the deal at all. I go, the deal has been. It's like, I talked to my family, and every time I talk to them, we go over the same subjects. Like, they don't know the area that I live in. They don't know what radio station.

Where's your dad?

My dad lives like, like half hour away from here.

Okay.

They don't know what time I'm on the radio. All this stuff, you know, and just like. And mostly it's me reaching out to my family and I just. Eventually I just got. I just got annoyed. It's just like, okay, are you not cry? Why?

Because I want them to love you and reach out to me. They love you, but I want them to love me.

But it's just like, you know, at least remember one thing that I tell you about something about my life. So then I was just like, at a certain point, I was just like, look, I'm just going to focus on my own life by myself. Try to get somewhere where I'm comfortable. Because every time I also did talk to them, they would focus on the negatives.

Right? Right. They bring down, man, I went to.

A really expensive school for college, which also, they give me crap because I was like two classes away from finishing and I never finished. And, you know, oh, you know, I'm still in debt, paying school, school loans off many, many years later. So this would be the only things that they would focus on, not, you know, things that I accomplished.

Right.

So eventually I'm like, yeah, I'm just gonna get my life straight, fix all the other stuff that they try to bring up negative. And I'm just. I'm just not gonna, like, reach out as much anymore.

Okay.

And then. So, like, she totally understood and it was all good. It was cool.

Oh, did your mom reach out to you too?

Yeah, my mom, but my mom is still in that thing where she.

She has llamas.

She.

My mom has llamas and sheep, and that's what she cares about, growing tomatoes and stuff like that. But again, she's like, I'm talking about my family as a whole. I'm not singling out my dad.

Right.

You know, and just saying, hey, none of these efforts can ever remember anything that I do in My life, you know? So, like, why am I putting all my effort to hit them up? And anytime I do hit them up, it's negative.

Right. Doesn't sound good. A lot of people have that with their families, that they only know how to reinforce the negative, and it can be destructive. I think it's healthy to pull away if it wasn't positive. But maybe now you can rebuild again as an adult and you can maybe even confront them. Maybe. I'm gonna send them a copy of your show.

What?

I'm gonna send them a copy of this show and so they can.

My mom doesn't even know that I'm on television.

Really?

Yeah.

Someone will tell her.

Yeah. Somehow I'll get back to her.

Okay.

Yeah. But it's just like. Yeah. So that's.

God, I feel like we just had therapy.

Why?

I don't know. It's just intense.

I feel like I just want to.

Give you a hug.

That's why I told you I never have to go therapy.

But I don't remember what you say. Why do you still like me? You probably don't like me. Oh, yeah, I remember what you say.

But you halfway remember. You actually remember more than they do.

Really?

Yeah.

Okay. Well, I don't know.

At least you know the building that I work in.

Yeah, I do know. I was gonna say the address. That would have been so stupid. Okay, ask. Okay, so we're talking about women. We're kind of talking about women initiating, asking for it. Asking for sex and what you want during sex is another major turn on for men. Some ladies are shy by the initiation or gesture, but it's about how you go about it. You don't necessarily have to be aggressive, but it's good to be direct sometimes. So I think that a lot of. There's a lot of men who are saying that women don't initiate sex enough. So if you just ask for it, you're like, I really want you right now. Or you make the first move that a guy is going to find that very attractive. And when he's upset or stressed is not the best time to initiate sex. Although I'm not sure sometimes it is good. A lot of times when men. Men are stressed, it manifests in them not wanting sex. Or if you're like, in a sexless relationship right now and he's initiating and you're not initiating, Sometimes stress can kill men's libidos. So I would say that you might have to be the one that makes a move and pull them out of that.

So I Would also say, let them know your sexual fantasies. We talk about that a lot on the show. That women, I think that women and men need to share that. If you're in a long term relationship or even a few months, it's never too soon to share what, what turns you on and what you really want to do. Share fantasy. Let them know you want to be tied up or whatever your fantasy is you should share with them when you find that hot. If a woman was like, no, you wouldn't see, you're so what? I can't talk to you about it. I need to call someone up. Because you're going to say, no, I don't want to do anything weird.

No, no, no.

But not that our fantasies are weird. She wants to address him slowly. She might want him to light candles and massage her body.

Yeah, but you know what, we always bring this up.

I always ask you, you know, how far would you go for your man's fantasy? And you shoot down a lot of the ideas.

Because I'm not gonna dress up as a Hamburglar.

I'm shooting down ideas from McDonald's the hamburger.

Why is my guy into the Hamburglar?

Are you serious?

Hamburglar? Why did they bring back the Hamburglar?

Because they, it's this whole issue.

Have you been inviting McDonald's as well?

No. You know I'm down with Taco Bell. Taco Bell tweets me sometimes on Twitter. Yeah.

Oh my God, that's amazing. Menace is obsessed with bringing back the four alarm. Four alarm double decker Taco Taco.

Yes. I want to bring it back.

I want to bring it back to. For you. Wouldn't that be a great birthday present?

Oh my God. Hey, hey, Menace, I just want to let you know this is the CEO of Taco Bell over here and he has agreed to bring back the four alarm double decker.

Rename it the Menace. Four alarm double decker. And do you know what's friggin heart attack?

I would die. I would, I would be so happy. It's funny because listeners of the show are friends with me on Facebook and they post stuff about Taco Bell on my Facebook. And like they found some picture of. He's like, oh, I want you to check this out. And it's like all these hot chicks that are dressed up as different Taco Bell sauces.

Oh my God.

Because you know, the packets, they're all dressed up in packets. Oh my God, it was amazing.

That sounds really hot. So if you have a sexual fantasy like that, you might want to share with your partner. They let Them know that you're interested in things you can always incorporate into just your talk. It might not actually happen, but like, baby, would you think that was really hot if I right now dressed up as the Hamburglar and I'm picturing that. Or you just need to talk about it.

Here's something I just thought of.

Oh, no.

If the four Alarm Double Decker could come back and somehow you're involved with it, or even the listeners somehow knew somebody up in the ranks of Taco Bell. I would be willing to give up sex for one year. What would you be.

That wouldn't be that hard for you.

Yeah, but what.

It's already been a year, hasn't it?

No, no, no. It's only been a few days. Now, what would you. What would you like to receive in your life that you will be willing to give up sex for one year?

Oh my God. I mean, I don't have any hankerings like you do for the four alarm double decker.

But discontinued in 1997, by the way.

I don't think there's anything that I want that bad.

What about. They say, okay, we're going to put.

6 million in the bank for you.

Oh, I would give up.

Give up sex.

I don't think I would give.

They would totally just take away all your money if they found out if you had sex. Because I know that you would try to cheat.

I think. Does it mean that I can't have intercourse or can I still have oral sex?

No, no sex.

Can I make out with anyone? Can I cuddle?

No, you're asexual.

I don't think I could do it.

For a year for $6 million. Six million.

That would be awesome.

I'll go a year and a half for 6 million.

I know. Can you imagine? Yeah, I think that I would be. It'd be very hard for me to give up sex. Who would I. What would I do? Although I'd be very productive with work, I'd have no male distractions in my life. Maybe I should give up sex for a year. I gave it up. Remember when I gave it. I was at my manatorium and I gave it up for a couple months. Few months.

Yeah.

I should do that again. Actually. When I get dumped in three weeks, I should probably give it up for you.

You're totally gonna get dumped in three weeks.

Do you think I will?

Oh, yeah, for sure.

I doubt it.

If. Maybe. I don't know. I don't know if your man is having issues now, but if there's any inkling of Issues now. Then you're definitely getting dumped in like four weeks. Done.

Will you be there for me when I come over crying?

Okay, you're not gonna cry.

I would cry. No, I would cry. Okay, for a half hour. Another thing, for half hour, I'd be like, okay, time for dinner. See who I can call. Okay. Order porn film. Flipping in one of your favorite porn films allows you to get aroused at the same time. So watching porn with your partner could be a way to initiate sex as a woman. We're talking about women initiating sex. And then you can sext him. That's another way to ask to it. If you're too shy to speak it, sext it. Let him know how you're feeling sexually and what you want him to do to you. Tell him what you want and know exactly and he'll know exactly what you like.

I fully support that.

Sexting is a great way. I mean, that's what kids do today. The kids, everyone. You sexed it. I mean, if you're like thinking about sex. I know. Don't you think? If you receive a text from a woman and she's like, I'm thinking about you and how hot it would be.

If you love that. Love it. Love that stuff.

Guys love it. So do that. I mean, somebody said, we've got sex it. Ordering porn film. Let them know your sexual fantasies.

Women.

These are for women. Initiating sex, kissing, a massage, set the stage with candles. So that's what we got for you. And we have some mistakes here, some other mistakes that women make. We're not trying to bash women, but I was saying that one of the top one is not initiating sex enough, but the other one is worrying too much about what you look like. What do you think about that?

Annoying.

Do you find that women that you're with worry too much, does my ass look fat in these jeans kind of thing?

No, I don't. I don't really get that. But I do have female friends that constantly obsessed with.

What about during sex? Do you remember women who were like, oh, turn the lights off. I don't want you to see my ass kind of thing?

No, but I heard about that from friends.

That happens. A lot of women worry about it. And you're not gonna have an orgasm. You're not gonna have good sex. If you are worried about your body image, because body image is really big for women. And just if you're a dude and you're with someone, tell her she's hot. Tell her she looks great. So it doesn't help. There's a lot of women who just feel insecure, but they've got to cultivate that. It doesn't matter if like a hundred guys told them they were hot, they'd still think they were fat or ugly or whatever. But that's getting in the way of women having amazing sexes when they're so worried about. Because I don't think guys worry about it as much. They might worry about their penis size, but you know.

Yeah. And I'm gonna tell you this right now, ladies, even if you think you are the most heinous woman on the planet, you can get laid.

Oh God, menace, this again.

I don't know.

Now I go take Any woman can get laid.

Any woman can get laid. I don't care if you think you are the ugliest woman on the planet, you can get laid. You will be able to find a man. This is what you do, you know, if you just want to get laid, you don't want really want to find a man and you think you're the most heinous woman on the planet. Check this out. Take a nap. Set your alarm for 1am show up to the bar, and by 1:30 you're going home with somebody.

Man, this is not a good message for women. Yeah, when everyone's really drunk at the bar, you can get laid.

I'm just saying. I'm just saying if you want to.

Get laid, anyone can get laid. We gotta wrap up. Not as much as women, thank God. No. Thanks everyone for listening. Thanks to our sponsors, Good Vibrations, Jimmy Jane mask and classic Crazy Girl products. Classic erotica. We love all of them. We love everyone for listening to the show. And thanks for checking us out@sexwithemily.com Was.

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