7 Dec 2025 · 58 min
Emily Morse and Menace answer listener questions about sexual preferences and attraction. Menace reveals he's turned on by women in tall colored-rim socks with shorts. Emily shares a college story about using a tie for bondage, showing how everyday items become erotic props.
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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.
Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day.
Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cuz my man e here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.
A girl's gotta have her standard. Oh my.
Do women know about shrinkage?
Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.
Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?
Oh my God, I feel so good.
Being bad feels pretty good. Well, you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.
You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and Everything in between. Yeah. And today's show we will be reading the emails that you send to feedbackexwithemily.com or directly on my website. It's so easy. Now you just go to the Q and A section and there's, you can just write your question right there and send it to us. And topics on the show today include cheating and jealousy, good sex, bad relationships, sexual insecurities, sexual sex toy boxes and married sex. Plus, today's Monday, so we thought we'd talk about missionary sex. Missionary Monday. How can you spice up missionary sex? Because you know, it's kind of like we're talking about how to spice up the missionary position because money doesn't have to be boring and neither does the missionary.
What does it have to be boring?
The missionary Mondays.
I thought you said money. How's that?
Money's not boring. Money's awesome. Mondays and the missionary, neither one have to be boring?
No, they don't.
But the missionary people are like, oh really? Missionary? Da da. But I'm going to show you all these ways that you can actually spice up the missionary. So you can still do the missionary position, but you can do it with a little twist and it's fun for everyone, fun for the whole family.
That's good. Speaking about fun, what did you do over the weekend?
I had so much fun this weekend.
What'd you do?
I went. Okay. So Friday night I ended up going to this party at that new chambers restaurant bar that used to be Phoenix Hotel. So it's a hotel and there's an indoor really cool new like bar club restaurant. And then outside there's like a pool area. And it was super fun because there was three birthdays parties there that night and I knew two of the people and so it was just a great combination of people that came together. Like I knew there was a ton of people that I knew and tons I didn't know. And I actually met, there was like a lot of good looking guys there. So I met some guys. But there's one guy was talking to me and he's cute. We were talking for a few minutes and he said to me, so what do you do? And I've decided at that moment I'm like, I don't want to get into it. So I said, you know, I don't really want to talk about work right now. It's the weekend. Because I just decided that going into telling some guy that I think is kind of cute that I have a sex show, it automatically is going to, you know, change his perception as we talked about in the show. So I was like, I'm gonna try something different here. I'm not gonna tell this guy. So he's like, okay, that's cool. I get it. We don't have to talk about it. And we were talking for, like, five minutes.
He probably automatically thought you were either a stripper or a prostitute.
Why do I look like that?
If you just said, oh, I don't want to get into it right now.
Oh, you think it's worse, then you think. You automatically thought I was a stripper. Do I look like a stripper?
You could be a stripper.
You think I could be a stripper?
There's all types of strippers. Yeah.
Thanks. What do you mean, okay, well, why.
Can'T you be a stripper?
I just said, God, I'm exhausted. I don't want to talk about work. I've been working all day. He's like, that's cool. So literally two minutes later, the birthday boy comes up, my friend Joe. And he's like, hey. He's like, oh, you guys met. That's awesome. He goes, do you know who this girl is? And he starts going into. He's like, she's got a sex talk show, and it's called Sex with Emily, and she knows everything about sex. And I'm just sitting there going, I just tried to avoid this very situation, and it was not, like, two to three minutes later. So that was a little embarrassing because I was just. Because then what do they think? Like, what would you think if you were a guy? I mean, you are a guy. We were talking. You know what people think. You probably can't be objective because you've known me for too long. But anyway, so that was pretty funny. But I did give the guy my number, and I realized that I really wasn't that interested in him. But he called me the next day and asked me out. So now I'm like, that girl? Yeah.
Wow.
But I don't really want to go out with them. So now what do I do? I know. So that's what I want to talk about. I don't know, because I didn't know what to do, and his message was kind of annoying, and. And he was like, yeah, I just. I just don't know. Like, I thought to myself, I'm like, God, I give advice about this all day long. And I gave this guy my phone number, and I don't have no intention of calling him back, but I think I will text him and just say, hey, got your message. Yeah, I'm dating someone. Not really into it. Really busy the next few weeks. Stay in touch. That's what I'm do. Yeah, I've just worked it out on the air right here.
That's good.
But I was like, why did I give him my number? And then it was, like, embarrassing. And then I'm like, oh, does he just want to call me? Because it's sex shit, whatever. So I don't want to do that. And then, I don't know. How was your weekend? I mean, I got a lot to say.
My weekend was. It was pretty cool. Yeah. Friday I just, you know, stayed busy, worked. But Saturday, I called up some of my friends and I said, you know what? You know, come to my neighborhood. Let's go drinking. We'll go to the bars and stuff like that. So one of my friends who I've known for 14 years, super shy guy, you know, when ladies come around, not very talkative. And then after a couple of drinks, he tells me. He goes, so. And I would never think this in a million years, okay? He goes, so you know that chick. He told me he was going out on a date with some girl.
He.
Because I was making fun of him, he said, oh, I'm going to the restaurant. And then her and I are gonna go sailing. Like, sailing around the.
Okay.
I go, that's cool. He goes, well, I didn't tell you, but I met this girl on Craigslist. Like, what? I go, you out of all people are trolling around for jigs on Craigslist.
Right?
And I thought it was so amazing. And he started, tell me. Like, yeah, you know, you just go on there and you. You start chatting, emailing with people. But he puts time into it, like, right? He's like, yeah. Sometimes we would just chat for like a week before we even, like, meet up.
Oh, so you've done several women? He said, some. Okay.
And I go, you put in a week? Like, I can't even talk to a girl for five minutes.
I know if that.
Yeah, right. But he's. I guess he's had some good experiences. He goes, but some of them are crazy. I was like, wait a minute. A girl you met on Craigslist is crazy.
Why is the Craigslist genre of woman crazier? Because Craigslist is all the, like. What's it called? Casual encounters. Is he on casual encounters on Craigslist?
I don't know.
Does he still have that?
I don't know.
Okay. Casual encounters is a section of Craigslist where you can be like, I want to have, like, I have friends who used to do that.
I used to read those for fun because they were so descriptive.
They're so descriptive. Like, I want you to come over and tie me up and then stick a sock in my mouth.
And then my door. My door will be unlocked and I'll be waiting.
Right?
And. Yeah, it was just. It was just.
That's crazy. Good for him, though.
It was fun.
So did he leave you to go meet up with the girl on the bay?
No, no, no. It was just a past date that he was. But then we went out drinking and we went to bar and I saw.
Your tweets that you were, like, wasted.
I was really drunk. I ended up throwing up.
Oh, yeah.
I puked everywhere. But I mean, into the toilet.
Been.
So there wasn't really a mess and. But for some reason, there was potato chips broken all over my house and really pissed me off because I always borrow a vacuum from a friend of mine upstairs, and I just saw the day before and asked for the vacuum, and then I had to call her back and say, hey, can I get the vacuum again? She went and left for another state. So now I have to wait.
Just go buy a vacuum.
Pisses me off.
No, you don't want to own a vacuum.
I only have, like, one tiny rug.
Get a dust buster. Those are awesome. They clean up, like a thing. Anyway, I know. I saw your things. I'm like, oh, God. It was like two in the morning.
I was dead all Sunday.
And then I got a text from you about.
Oh, the cock ring thing. I was drunk and I went into the bathroom at the bar and I see this all the time. It's like a rubber cock ring with spikes that they just sell in the vending machine. Have you ever seen that before? Yeah, no, I see it, like, all the time at bars.
Spikes.
Which is weird.
That is weird. That is.
I mean, I didn't know cock rings were that.
That popular.
Popular Walgreens.
I mean, they're at the drugstore. But the thing that I thought interesting was. And maybe you've seen this before, but I don't go to, I don't know, clubs that sell condoms. In the bar, in the restrooms usually, but it was.
We've been in places that sold that stuff. You just don't know what's in there.
Okay. What? Right. So the one that glow in the dark. Condoms. Like, why would you want your penis to glow in the dark when you're having sex? That'd be kind of weird. Maybe if you were, like, on drugs. Or something, and you were, like, tripping, and you'd be like, wow, look at that. But why would you want your penis just to be the one thing you see in the room? Is that cool? You think you Want one?
Yeah.
75 cents.
Imagine if it's dark and your penis is going in the dark, and then you're. It's like magic. Your penis disappears and reappears.
Yeah, it sounds kind of cool.
Yeah.
See? Anyway, that was funny. Sounds like. Did you meet any chicks?
No, we just talked. I was mainly just, like, having them talk to girls, you know?
What do you mean you were having them? You're like, you.
Because if I go on my boys, like, I don't care. And in general, I don't go out and, like, try to hook up with chicks or anything. I go to bars because that's not where I want to meet somebody.
No.
But I'm always, like, encouraging my friends to talk to people, and I. And it's weird because I'm a lot more outgoing to talk to people because I'm not, like, trying to sleep with them.
Right.
They come over and chat. So we met some. Some cool people.
Right. Where were you?
We were at just this bar in my neighborhood.
Got it. Okay. Got it. That's cool. So, yeah. That's good, though. Like, C minus. I think you just brought up a really important point.
Okay.
Something that you do that a lot of men listening to the show don't do this, and it's that you thought, like, you're hanging with your friends and you weren't focused on the chick. Like, you were like, maybe I'll meet someone, but I'm not going to be focused on it. And you're very comfortable with yourself, so you're comfortable just hanging out, and then the chicks come to you. I mean, I'm not saying that's always going to happen, but just when you're not, like, on the prowl, like, that's not attractive, but you just having fun with your guy friends is going to be attractive to girls. Be like, oh, look at that hot group of guys over there.
And those guys are getting wasted.
That's so fun. Yeah, I got pretty drunk, too, but not too drunk, but I had a blast. I mean, it was just like, all these people I hadn't seen in forever, and it was just one of those, like, amazing San Francisco nights. Can you explain it? Yeah, it was super fun. And then Saturday, I went to a comedy show. It was Big Lebowski.
You went to a comedy show? That's my favorite.
Really? In the Mission. It was a total hipster thing.
Oh, no.
It was the Big Lebowski meets Shakespeare.
Yeah.
So they did the Big Lebowski on Shakespeare. Like, Much Ado About Nothing and Big Lebowski. But I haven't seen the Big Lebowski enough to get all the.
You're probably lying. Never even seen it.
I've seen it once, like, years ago. Have you seen it? A bunch. Is it, like, your favorite movie?
I've seen it, like, 20.
Do you love it?
Yeah, I like it.
Okay. I mean, it was. I mean, I know it's a great film, but some of it was sort of lost to me because I was like, I don't really think this is funny, but I went to a comedy show. I felt it was very cultured. And it was in the Mission District, which is like, you know, where there's a lot of hip. Supposedly hip things happening in the. In San Francisco. Okay, so then. Remember when I had that blind date a few weeks ago? The one that lasted 57 minutes, and.
I was out of there, and then the guy, he. Sorry, he emailed you and asked you out again.
And I, like, said, yes, but then I realized, obviously, I'm bad at this, but no, I said, yeah, sure, because I always think, even if I know on the first day, it's not right. I'm getting better at this. And I just thought, he's a friend of a friend. And he seemed like a nice guy, and it seemed really far away when he asked me to go out again. So I was like, yeah, two weeks. But now I looked at my calendar last night, and I was like, oh, my God, I'm just gonna go out there on Tuesday. So I'm gonna cancel. But right as I have to cancel, I got this email from him. I'm gonna read it. All right, Emily, I have some thoughts on one way. Okay, so let me back up Friday's show. We gave some tips about some fun dates and things that people can do that are different for the weekend. Kite flying. We said kite flying. Which, actually, I told you, one of my interns thought it was. Kelsey didn't go on a date once when someone asked her out to kite flying and someone else thought it'd be really fun, and Aaron thought it'd be fun. So, yes, kite flying was one of them. But he said, I have some thoughts on what might be fun for Tuesday. Let me know what you think. Number.
I just know Menace is going to make a face.
That's why he already screwed up. He asked what you wanted to do.
Ready?
You never ask a woman that walk on the beach.
The weather looks really nice this week. Beautiful today. Might be fun to pick up some food, bring it down to the beach. Pacific beach or Crissy Field and go for a walk. Wow.
A movie. I've really been wanting to see the tree of life. Do you know it? Interested? It's playing at the Embarcadero. Blah blah blah.
Oh my God.
And then we get dinner after number three. Or just keep it simple with dinner. Maybe some music. Any sound appealing? What time are you free Sign blind date. So I.
Your eyes are closed. So.
Oh, let's do something hip and cool and go to the indie movie theater.
Okay, but. But here's the point. I like that he laid out these apps. That's nice. I just knew you were going to be. That's nice.
But then you. You're not gonna make a decision.
I canceled.
You don't want to go anyways. Yeah.
So I emailed him back and I canceled.
Even if you were into this guy and he gave you those options, you wouldn't make a decision.
What I would choose? I would choose the dinner.
Dinner because you don't have to do.
Anything or the movie. I've never go to movies. I need to go to more movies. I really want to see like a million movies right now. So I would have chooses maybe a movie that. But I could. I can't do it Tuesday night because I have a class for sex school that I have to go to.
What is your response?
So I said oh my God, they all sound awesome. But I have to cancel.
Cancel with no further.
I have a sex. No, I have a class to go. I'm going to a class on polyamory for sex school on Tuesday night that I have to go to.
I bet you'd love that topic.
I do love polyamory non monogamy. I want to learn more about it. I do. So it's class experts teaching. I'm go with some sex school friends and maybe some interns, you know. So it's at Good Vibrations. Yeah, I think it'd be interesting class so that I just thought I'd read that because it was very funny that he brought all those examples after we were just giving examples and I thought those were very clever. And I feel bad because he really thought it out and then I can't.
Really beach movie and dinner.
He was like so descriptive. Is that bad? Okay. So anyway that was. That. That was. And then there's no other guys.
So you don't want to Go anywhere. Unless you're going on a zeppelin. That's what you should do next time.
Really?
The zeppelin? They have those zeppelin rides. You can drink champagne inside a zeppelin.
Really?
Yeah.
Can we do that?
Costs like a grand, though. I ain't taking you. I need to get laid if I'm taking a lady out there.
Dude, whatevs we've had. We have so much fun together. So anyway, that was my deal. Let's get into some. Okay. We got sex in the news. We've got emails. We've got sex tips. I think we should do a little sex in the news.
What do you got?
Dating site for beautiful people. Dumps 30,000 people for being too ugly.
Dating.
Wait, this is that. Was this the, like ultra beautiful people.com? yeah.
Okay, so they were hit by a Shrek virus, allowing tons of people of average or below average looks to join the service, bypassing the usual screening process. So then they had to let them go because 30,000 people joined and they weren't allowed to join. So they had to give. They had pay $112,000 in refunds to 4,500 of the 30,000 who had paid.
Why don't they just keep that money?
They said we have to stick to our founding principles of only accepting beautiful people. That's what our members have paid for. We can't just sweep 30,000 ugly people under the carpet.
Wow.
How bad is that?
That's classy.
That is classy. So 30,000 people signed up thinking, oh, I can get on this site. And then they were like, sorry, you're ugly. That is so mean. Don't I feel bad about this site? Like, I think that's. A lot of people are like, I wasn't hot enough to be on beautiful dot com. I feel really bad about. People already feel bad about themselves.
Yeah.
So that was bummer. Okay. Music producer threatened to give Shaquille o' Neal sex tape to NBR NBA star's wife. So music producer Robert Ross was kidnapped and beaten three years ago. Said he threatened to give an alleged sex tape of Shaquille o' Neal to the NB star's NBA star's wife. It's like every week another sex tape surfaces. Why are people.
But this is.
People. Put your cameras away. Like, don't film yourself having sex.
This has been in the news for.
I know, but now it's sick, right?
But yeah, it's now sure it exists. They say it's coming back because the guys that beat him up are gonna finally go on trial.
Right.
And yeah, but Everyone knew this is. This was a new knowledge, that Shaq was cheating on his wife.
He didn't hide it all, really. I don't know that he was. He was just sleeping around.
Yeah.
Does everyone know that but me?
Yes. Cool.
How curry. Okay, so that's. Everyone knows that, but just. We have to talk about sex.
Taste. Yeah.
How curry? Herb. The curry herb can spice up your sex life.
Okay.
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I know curry is.
I don't like curry.
It's a hip thing to do, but I just can't even get close to it.
I don't like it. So you won't be taking this, but you probably don't need to take it. So that's a good thing, right?
I got tequila, man.
Tequila. Did you drink tequila this weekend?
Yes.
Is that what you.
This is probably why I carved.
Yeah, I did dirty martinis, which is my favorite Erection boosting condom. We talked about this a few weeks ago by future medical nears EU approval. So the Viagra condom came another step closer to popping up on store shelves and in bedrooms on June 20. So it was recommended for EU approval. The European Union. So it's a gel. It has a. So it's a prophylactic condom that has a gel in it designed to help men's erections last longer.
That's cool.
That is cool, right? So you don't take a pill. You can just have it in the condom.
I'm sure those are gonna be selling off.
I know. We should get them as a sponsor. Once they approve, they'll be our advertiser. That would be awesome.
I bet there's like, so many other companies trying to keep stuff like that down, though.
What do you mean keep it down?
Just trying to get it not approved.
Right, you know? Yeah, exactly. No, what? Well, because like, Viagra, powerful. And they're like, we don't want you to do that.
Yeah.
Yeah, I could see that. Okay, that's. I got for Sex in the News. Cool.
Emails. My favorite.
We got email.
Gotta hear from the people, see what they're coming up.
Like I said, it's gonna be missionary Monday. If you just started joining us, we're talking about new twists on the missionary position. Oh. First I gotta do the poll. So our poll last week was, how do you feel about hair below the equator?
So here are the choices. Trimmed, please. Brazilian wax, no hair. All natural is best and no preference. So what do you think the winner was? Menace out of those choices?
No hair.
You're wrong. The winner at 48% said trimmed, please. 31% said Brazilian wax, no hair. 12% said all natural is best. So 12% is pretty significant.
All natural. They want the bush and probably our older audience.
9% no. 9 said no preference. 9% no preference. No preference. Some people don't care. Men and women. I mean, this poll, they don't care.
I care.
I know you do. You would have said Brazilian wax, no hair. Yes, But I like, 48% is like, trim. So I think that it is sort of going towards that right now that the Brazilian wax and the bare no hair. I think that there's a trend moving towards just slightly trimmed.
I. It's funny because I hear out there, like, women trying to rebel and say, oh, I don't want to look like a baby, or blah, blah, blah. And then they go, I just, you know, wear it all natural. And then the people that are, you know, listening to them talk are just laughing and saying, why? Because men making fun of them.
The people. Oh, because they're saying that. Yeah, but women always do backlashes like that. But I could see the pain. It's, like, hard. It's literally a pain. Like you can't get them waxed off. Oh, you do know.
You do.
What? It's like. Okay, so that was the poll for last week. We have a new poll up now. We want everyone to go vote sex with emily.com. what are you thinking about during sex? Here's the choices.
Transformers.
A, my technique. B, what I need to do later. Like, my job. Three, someone else. The lover that I'm with. What are you usually thinking about during sex? Someone else.
You gonna ask me?
Yeah, I'm just curious.
What am I thinking? Performance. Mostly performance.
Yeah. You're like, am I doing it?
Yeah.
I don't know what I'm thinking about. I don't think I'm thinking about anything.
Just hanging out.
Yeah. No, I'm. I'm I'm just in the moment. I'm in the moment enjoying myself.
See, that's a problem. Then you probably wanna talk and stuff.
I do wanna talk a lot. I wish you could talk to her. I wish you could carry on convers. Like I love talking. Like I can't wait. I'm thinking, I can't wait for this to be over because I've got so much to talk to you about. Just kidding. No, I'm not like it's a nightmare. Not a nightmare. Okay. I mean, maybe because I like to talk. You remember my ex boyfriend who said like, can we not talk before 8:00am and after 8:00 clock at night? Wow. Yeah. He's still one of my best friends and he lets me talk. Okay. Dear Emily, I came home early recently on a Friday at 3pm to find my wife being eaten by my best friend.
Oh, that's nice.
Now I can't even think of giving her oral. What should I do? Chris St. John.
Well, Chris, you should have left that bitch right at that moment.
Well, maybe he's. It's his. Maybe it's his wife. It's his wife. So he's trying to work it out. So I would say you've got bigger problems. I'm thinking he's got bigger problems than going down on his wife again. Yeah, I think he might need to some relationship building and counseling to heal the pain and the sex life. And trust will have to slowly rebuild because after you are caught cheating or you catch your partner cheating, it's really hard to get those images on your mind. You've got an anger and I know that there's some couples I know in you menace. If a woman cheated on you, you'd be like, done. You say this, that you'll be done out of there.
I say this, I know this.
Okay, you know this. But a lot of people are married, who knows if they have kids? And he's like worried about going down on her again. And I'm thinking there are couples I know personally who have cheated and they just kind of brushed it under the rug. Like I know a woman who cheated on her husband and he was like, that's cool, as long you don't do it again. And they never talked about it again. Which I think is really unhealthy because I don't think that no matter how stoic you are as a man and you're like, that's cool, whatever, I'll be fine. Or if you're a woman and your husband cheated on you, I think it's going to bring up issues that are going to be there for a while. So I do think you guys want.
To go so in depth and talk everything out. What is it going to change? It doesn't change.
It can change a lot. Maybe they're having issues in their relationship and their stuff they can work on.
It's not going to change what happened. I'm sorry.
It's not going to change what happened. But I think that he probably doesn't want to have sex with her right now and that's totally normal. I mean, I think that they would be hard to go down on her and to do that right back, I want to see what do you want to know?
We're going to email him if he's thinking of leaving her or that he's just with her and okay, staying well, email today.
Well, obviously he's think he's staying with her because he's concerned that he can't go down on her. And I'm like, you got bigger fish to fry, buddy.
I'm wondering if he's trying to just work it out and stay with her.
Or I think he's trying to work.
It out or if this was cool with her.
I think they need therapy. I think to deal with a cheating that you have to, you have to deal with it. You have to deal with the issues. And I'm not sure that he's. I mean the fact that that was his question, I just think he's got bigger problems.
I think you get somebody new, there's no baggage.
Okay. Hi Emily, I've been listening to your show for a couple months and appreciate all the good advice, great sex tips and the very helpful Kaggle Camp iPhone app, which is my app that I mentioned earlier. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and although she tells me that she only wants to have sex with me, I can't help but wonder how I measure up considering her very promiscuous past. Let me give you some background. I'm 30 and I've only slept with 10 girls. Although your Kegel app has helped me hold out longer, I still have a hard time making my girl orgasm through intercourse. I routinely go down on her and that helps. I know she has had bigger and it makes me wonder if my lack of size is part of the problem.
Ladies, never tell your I know, I.
Know, I know, I know. I'm very competitive and want to be the best she has ever had for my own self confidence. What I know about her past experiences leave me feeling very Lacking in our relationship. She is awesome.
Why is he discussing past?
Okay, I know. Can I just finish the letter? I love her and when I don't think about it, we have a great time together. An honest, objective response from both your perspective as well as menace is greatly appreciated. Befuddled in San Diego. He's a premium member. Thank you so much Befuddled in San Diego for being a premium member. And you know, if you're a premium friends with benefits member, you get all your emails answered. And we also are doing special video answers for you. Okay, first of all, I would say yeah. What do you do when talking about this stuff? I don't think that couples should share their past sexual history. I think that it's never good to talk about the number of people you slept with. You know, no guy wants to hear the last guy you slept with had a big penis. That you've been with many met people. I just think that it never. If you can find one situation where it bodes well for the relationship, let me know. But otherwise it's a bad thing that doesn't help the situation. And I think that for Befuddled that he is going there in his mind and I think that his biggest problem is his mind. Because he's saying that, he's saying that when I don't think about it, we have a great time together when I'm not thinking about it. But he's thinking about it during sex. He's not pleasing her. And so I don't even know for a fact he's thinking that it's because of his size that she's not able to orgasm during sex. But what I'm curious about is does he know for sure that she was able to orgasm with these other men during intercourse like a lot of women can't? Only 30% of women can have orgasms during intercourse. So I'm pretty surprised. Like I'm not even sure. Like he might be in his mind making it to be a bigger thing like that he's not pleasing her in that department. And maybe she's just hasn't been able to before. But I for most women, and I've been doing this for a long time now, I've never gotten an email from a woman that said, my penises partner, my penis's partner, my partner's penis is too small and therefore I can't have an orgasm. I think that is one of those myths. I mean, sure it's happened like in the history of the world, but I doubt that is the issue. And I Think that, see by hearing all this information that she told him is in his mind playing and he's totally overthinking it and he's got to put it out of his head. And he's got to either talk to her about it because I, I think that they also need to talk about it because I think that he's jumping a conclusion here. I think he's saying that she was able to with all these other guys and not me. And I actually don't think that's true because most women, if you're able to with one guy, you can do it with another guy.
Yeah.
You can have that orgasm.
I think that. Why do people not listen to us about talking about past relationships?
I know. Never do it.
Why? There's no, there's no better thing you will gain from it. Nothing you never do. I will break up with somebody before I tell them how many people I've been with. Because it's not. That information is not going to be useful for anything just to be used against you.
Exactly. And like especially men, I think it's hard for women, but men never get over the fact that there was like other penises in your life. And I think they're honestly like in their brain. They're like, wow, she said there's penises everywhere. Like just picking you and penises. Like I think that this is image is just bad. Like just don't talk about the number. Don't talk about you sleep with. Don't, don't ever talk about like other penises that you've been with. Like just pretend it was the only. His penis is your only penis.
Yeah.
Like this penis here and now in front of me is the one penis that I care about. And that's all correct. So we agree. I love it. Emily, I really enjoy listening to your show and the variety of topics. Keep it up. I know you've had a relationship. I know you've had a segment on. See, I think we read this. I forgot to take it out. Good. Good relationships, bad sex. Did we talk about this? If you have good relationships and bad sex last week.
Yeah. Yeah.
Okay. Emily, where have you been my whole life? I discovered your show this past weekend and I'm so thrilled to have found you. I'm 6 foot tall, slim, athletic, creative, honest, 33 year old woman. And while I've never felt entirely confident in my appearance, I'm constantly complimented on it. I was raised in a conservative Catholic family where the topics of sex and sexuality were considered taboo. So much so that they grew to be issues that I feared. I finally lost my virginity at the ripe old age of 28 to an amazing man who I've shared three happy years with. When we broke up, I swore I wouldn't revert to my old prude ways. Two years now. I'm still single, dateless and sexless. I can't help but think my hidden fears have returned and might be repelling men. On the other hand, I've not met a man who interests me enough to want to spend time with. Am I denying myself or just waiting for Mr. Right now? I catch guys watching me all the time, but they never approach me. When I approach men, the majority look surprised or even scared. Is it my height? I'm tired of being alone. Can you help? Thanks in advance. You are like the best friend in high school I never had. Warm wishes, Ellie. She's a premium member as well. So thanks, Ellie, for becoming a friends with benefits member. And okay, there's a lot in this.
Where's she from? Does it say?
It doesn't say where she's from. Everyone tell us where you're from. We want to know where you're from. When you send us an email, say where you're from. So does she say it? No. Okay, so here's the deal. If she really does have these hidden fears, I mean, people who grew up in strictly religious homes, we've talked about this, have really can have severe, severe sexual issues around sex. They feel like. They feel like it's wrong. They think sex is only for procreation. I mean, in their mind, they don't really believe it, but that sex is only for procreation and that, you know, that it's just wrong and evil to have sex. Like, that's if that's the message they were getting. So I think that that's something that I would again, I would like work on and work on your issues. Maybe go to therapy. If that's. If she. Because she thinks that this is what she feels, she's emitting these signals to guys. It says she's prude and has these issues around sex. So I would say if you really feel that they're still ruining your life and it's still taking over, you should kind of go work on them because that stuff's not going to go away.
But I would say that you're tall woman. I think that's amazing. Like my. One of my best friends, six feet tall. Like, I don't think that men are intimidated or scared, but I think.
I don't think so.
I Don't think that's it, right? I mean if you hot six foot woman or any woman. Do you?
No, I don't, I don't care. I do believe though that in my mind that tall women want to be with taller guys.
Yeah, some do, but some don't. Like my friend who's six feet tall. She always loves short guys. She loves the short guys. So it's like, it's so funny because I, I always like tall guys and I'm short, so whatever. But I would say that just keep going and doing what you're doing, sweetie. Because I think that it's great that you are so conscious about your issues and that you're so open about them and that you seem to write this very eloquent email and I think that you just got to keep doing what you're doing, keep approaching men and keep just putting yourself out there. And maybe if you are these issues, the religious stuff are coming from your background are still hindering you, then go.
Get a little therapy or just go sleep with somebody. It's called the slump buster.
Slump buster. Just having sex because you've been in a slump.
Yeah. And then just have sex with somebody and then I'll get you back in the bed.
She's going to return to being a prude again because she was a prude in her past. It's funny, most people, a lot of you I know are like, oh, I'm afraid I'm gonna be a slut again. But she's like a prude again. I think that we carry stuff in our minds and we still think of ourselves as a certain way and we're no longer that way. So I would just start thinking over your. In this new way, this beautiful 33 year old woman who has your whole life ahead of you and, and you have, you know, you're healthy and you've traced out attractive and smart and it's gonna happen when it happens. But sometimes we all just takes a little while to meet that person.
Yeah. Get to the bone in already.
Get to the bone. And she's going to, she's going to. Have you met women who are like, I think that's interesting. Like I think that you're prude. Like if you are prude and you're trying to like give that up. Like you're trying to like usually hear the women who were like crazy in high school, they were like Catholic school girls and then they, you know.
No, it's weird. I don't.
The women that I know that are actually prudes don't get off. Give off the prudish vibe. They act like the biggest whores, but they don't. They don't give it up at all.
I think. Yeah.
Funny, because I watch guys waste their time on them all the time, and.
You can tell their friends ears, and you're like, dude, she's not gonna give it up.
Yeah, she's not going to.
I was a total. I was a. Believe it or not, I was approved, like.
High school and college. I was really concerned. I got over this, but I was concerned about what. I think. I just. I was concerned about what men would think about me. I was, like, so concerned that they would judge me and that they would talk about it and they'd be like, oh, I had sex. Family.
Yeah.
And. And then they would. So I was just. And I think I just didn't know that much about sex, and I was just kind of prude. I was. I mean, not. Not that I wouldn't have sex, but I was very, like, I'd be careful and wait. And only dated one guy. I was a serial monogamist.
Yeah.
And then I changed completely. But I'm not a whore, if that's what you were gonna say.
I wasn't gonna say that.
Yeah, you were thinking it.
I wasn't thinking that. I was thinking about, when are you gonna start reading the next email?
Oh, stop. You. I swear, Emily, I love the show. FYI, I've had my best success in breaking the ice on sex toys by asking the simple question, do you have a toy box? If they do, they will happily admit it. Then you can easily ask which ones and go from there. If not, then you have to find out without it being a big deal. Also, if the toys the other person have are too wild for you, then you know in advance not to go there with them in your next sexual encounter. Keep it coming. Paul from Marin county, which is in San Francisco. That's a great question. I've had guys say, like, so do you have any toys? Like, that is great, because a lot of women don't. They don't want to whip out their vibrators unless they know because the. Because a lot of men have issues with it. They're intimidated by vibrators. They think it's problems. So I think that's great just for a dude, just to be like, so you got any toys? Because that totally opens it up. And if she does, then bonus. And if she doesn't, then you know that that's not her thing. And fine. So I think that's a great tactic. That guy should ask because the girls are sometimes shy.
Yeah, if you're into that, go for it.
If you're into that sort of thing, Menace would be like, you got a toy box? I'm out of here.
No, I'm just saying just keep it on the shelf, that's all. What?
What?
I'm not speaking for all men.
I know, but I think that you. I think that sex toys can be your best friend. A man's best friend. Yes. They help. They help with sex lives. Okay. Hi. I would need some suggestions about how to have my wife. I. I need some suggestions how to have my wife to feel desire again for me. I've been married for 12 years and I'm 46 and my wife is 52. I like to make love. At lately, I'd like to make love. And lately even more so my wife has lost a spark. Do you have any erotic medicine? Lol or any suggestions? Thanks, Mario. And he's a premium member, so thank you, Mario, for being a premium friends with benefits sexual family member. Okay, first of all, the first thing I have to always say is, she's 52 years old. She might be going through. I mean, she might be past menopause already, but women's sexual libido, it changes during this time in her life. So has she been. Has she been to the doctor? Has she gotten checked up? Is she taking any medications? That's always the first thing that we have to clear with someone because she could be taking medications that are inhibiting her sex drive, her ability to orgasm. So get that checked out. If the answer is no, then there are some things that you can look at in your relationship. Has there been a lot of undue stress lately? Or has there been anxiety or is there pressure? Have you guys been having some conflicts? You know, I always say communication is lubrication. So a lot of times women and men withhold sex from each other when they're having issues that have just piled up over time. So I'm just wondering where you guys are at on your communication level. And then I would just think about talking. To talk. I mean, I don't. You don't say if you've actually approached her about it? Because I think a lot of times men or women going through this won't want to bring it up, but it's just an issue. Like, it's like. It's like the elephant in the room. Like, we haven't had sex in whatever time in six months, but no one talks about it. So I would Say that you need to have a conversation about it. And ask her, you know, is it just that she's not turned on? Does she have issues with you? You have to have a real talk. And I know this seems really basic, but. So couples don't talk to each other about sex.
Yeah.
And then there's always the things you can do to spice it up. I would plan vacation, take time away, bring in sex toys, tell her how beautiful she is, buy her something sexy.
Or just start accusing her of banging somebody else. You know, just for fun.
Just for fun.
See, I know you're sleeping with other people because you ain't sleeping with me.
Yeah.
And just start messing with her.
Yeah, that'd be fun. Menace, thanks for your advice. Okay, so that's what we got for emails and thanks, everyone. So please email me and you can find me feedbackexthemily.com or you can find me on the website sexily.com, which is a very easy way to just send an emails. And again, a lot of these people are premium members. They've joined, they become friends with benefits, which is like you want to become a sex family friends benefits member today because you will get. Be getting so much for that.
Yes.
Lots of shows, lots of things. Okay, we'll move into some sex tag because it's missionary Monday. Did I tell you that?
How's this work?
Okay, Mondays in the missionary position, both have a bad rap for being unexciting, but we're gonna make them interesting. Missionary position is. They do missionary position.
What's wrong with missionary?
Exactly.
That's your problem. No, nothing is wrong with missionary.
There's nothing.
In fact, what we are giving all.
You just dissed it right now. Well, see, that's your problem.
No, it's just that missionary position is the default, the most common position.
All right, what's your favorite?
Man on top. What's my favorite position?
Yeah.
I don't have a favorite position.
You don't?
No. Do you?
Maybe just a woman on top.
Right? So you don't do any work?
No, I still do some work.
But you like it because you. Because she looks hot and you can see your breasts. Is that right? Why do you like Michelle?
Yeah, of course. Because I want to celebrate her body.
Hearing Menace say, I want to celebrate her body is like, oh, my God, he's been sitting across from me for way too long.
No, I'm just building her ego.
It's hot. No, because it's hot.
It's hot. And. Yeah. And of course I got to do less work and then I can last longer, too.
Oh, really? You last longer that way. Okay, True. A lot of men do last longer in that position. So face to face. So here's some tips about the missionary and reasons why we like the missionary. And there's some great techniques in here that will improve her ability for orgasm as well. So here's what we got. Missionary position is face to face fun. It allows for. For easy entry and deep penetration. And it's one of the more enjoyable positions for couples who take pleasure, intimacy, meaning like staring into each other's eyes. I'm sure you do that when you're having sex, right, Madison? Just stare into each other's eyes, of course. And try also some of our. So here. But here's some twists. So people, that's why the missionary is good looking to each other's eyes. It's intimate. It's, like, easy. It is, like the easiest position. So the first thing you can do is lift those legs. Have your partner lift and bend her legs a little, resting her feet flat on the mattress. Most women find this position much more comfortable than the usual missionary position. It allows for greater access to the vagina. I'm getting better at saying that word. And both partners will enjoy more intense stimulation. So just have her lift her legs up because it has. It's more comfortable for her. Yeah, right. So we all know that. But just reminding you, lock is key for deeper penetration. Have her raise her legs higher and lock them around you. Have you had a woman do that? She locks her legs around you. The reason why is this adds a pleasant feel for the woman as her partner, as her pubic bone gently rubs against her clitoris, as his pubic bone rubs against her clitoris. So if your legs are locked, your pubic bone is. Your clitoris is rubbing against his pubic bone. So it's like more direct contact. Yes. She can add to your leverage by squeezing you close to her or even just hold you with her thighs. The higher she raises her legs, the deeper the penetration. So how you go up, you can put a pillow underneath you. We're going to talk about that in a minute. Okay. Over the shoulders. This position allows men to attain the deepest possible penetration. But be careful. It's possible to get in too deep, which can cause her pain. Okay, this is one that I like. This is very true. I personally close those legs. When her legs are closed, the vagina tightens around your penis, ensuing more intense stimulation for both of you. This position also forces you to enter from a sharper angle towards the Clitoris. A lot of women to orgasm need to have their legs closer together. And it's.
Wait, what do you mean? Close your legs?
Like, you can close, like. Okay, so if you're having sex, let's say I'm on. Well, it's missionary, so I'm on the bottom. You could still be sliding in and out. If my legs are like, tight, but I'm squeezing. Do you understand? Like, so my legs are. I'm like, trying to describe so my leg. So.
So you're just laying flat and your legs are close.
I'm laying flat. My legs are closed.
Okay.
Okay. Does that make sense? Yeah, kind of. It's kind of weird, but if you like. It's easy to do. Like, a woman can just close her legs sometimes and then it feels good to you because it's like clenching around your penis.
Yeah.
Okay.
Got it.
Get on your knees, boys. Kneel and sit on your ankles between her thighs. Her bottom and lower back should be elevated while her ankles or lower legs rest on your shoulders. You can place a pillow under her lower back to help support her in this position. You can apply clitoral pressure with your hands as she can massage her clitoris with her fingers or. Yeah. The best part of this position, where you can watch yourself going in and out of her. A lot of men like that, the watching the in and out. But here's something that I brought. This is an inflatable position master.
Inflatable position master.
It's a pillow for all the people.
That are not watching. What? It's a.
It's an inflatable position master from Adam and Eve. And it's like a pillow, but you can use it in all these different ways. Like, it has, like, ties on it and stuff.
Wow.
They just sent this to me, and.
It'S like a sex wedge.
It's like a sex wedge. And Adam and Eve is a great place to go for sex toys.
Wait, so it has like.
That is like a souped up pillow. Because it's always great to place a pillow under her butt while you're having sex because it elevates her. Her pubic muscles so she's closer to you in her clitoris. And so that's just one you can just keep under the bed and whip it out when you're having sex.
It looks like some guy's doing ask the mouth on here.
Really?
Yeah.
I didn't look at it that closely, Memphis, but it's.
It's very interesting.
Really?
Yeah.
Awesome.
Even though they're all wearing underwear that's Funny.
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They're really. They're really liking you over there. A lot of people have been enjoying the Adam.
I know, I know. And we. Oh, we have two new videos. So if you're a friends benefits member, you also get to see all of our new videos. And we have a really funny video that we're posting tomorrow or later on today about sex toy day at the sex family office. When the sex toys arrived. And this was in the box and a lot of other things are in the box. And we're all. We have sex toy reviews coming in the next few weeks from the interns. Yeah, it's exciting.
Do you think when man was evolving, what was the. The primary position? Do you think it was a missionary or do you think it was doggy style? Because a lot of animals do a doggy style.
That's a great question. Well, if you look at, like the Kama Sutra and stuff, I mean, there are a lot, a lot different positions that have existed. I wonder, then, what was the primary. What was the primary early evolutionary position that people were having sex? I don't know.
Might have been something crazy.
You should look that up.
Oh, yeah. How many positions does the Kama Sutra have?
A lot.
A lot.
Hundreds.
That narrows it down. Hundreds, I think.
No, maybe 50. I really don't know. I've studied. I've done shows on tantric sex, but not a long time. Maybe we should add it to list tantric sex. I'd like to take a tantric sex class. I feel like I should by now. I should have done that after my polyamory class on Tuesday night. That tantric feeling. The next one. Okay, kneel down close to her butt. Hoist both of her legs onto one of your shoulders and let her glide. Let her guide you inside of her. Because the penis ultimately massages the side wall of the vagina, which usually doesn't get much tension, she will find this quite pleasurable if you want to massage the opposite wall of her vagina to shift her legs to the other shoulder. So hoist both of her legs onto one of your shoulders. So instead of just having both, they're on the other. Oh, that's kind of cool. Like, that is cool because you could see different angles. No, they both are both on one shoulder, but it's kind of like they're both on one shoulder. So you're hitting her at a different angle.
Yeah. That's a new one.
That is a new one. You've never done that, have you?
No.
Okay, this is one. Next one is one of my favorites. Are you gonna try any of these? Are you taking notes?
Yeah, I'm taking notes.
Oh, good.
I'll look@sexemily.com later. That's when you're gonna post them later?
Yes, we'll post everything at sex with emily.com, which is your new favorite website, if you didn't know. And Emily Morse. You can also get it through Emily Morse. If you're in your office and they won't let you access Sex with Emily, you can do Emily Morse M O r C and. Okay. Cat position. The coital alignment technique.
The cat position. All right.
I love this position.
Explain.
I know it's hard to explain, but, like, I want to give people sex, but it's also harder. Like, I feel like I need a whiteboard. Yeah, to explain. But this position allows sexual pleasure to build slowly, resulting in an intense and intimate clitoral orgasm. So here's what happens with the cat. The guys slide 2 to 4 inches forward from the typical missionary position and cup your arms around her shoulders so that your body falls flat against her hers. So you're on top of her, but you're up further. So instead of just being like that, you, like, slide up, like, a few inches more. So you're like. I guess you're. Yeah, I'll explain this. Both your spine should be straight, and the base of your penis should rub against her clitoris. Both your legs should be straight out and touching while she pushes her pelvis upward 2 inches. You should push down gently to give a slight. A slight counter resistance. There shouldn't be any in and out. It's more of an up and down movement. So you're not going in and out. It's like you're up and down since you're on. Like.
Like.
Does that make sense? You're out more. And since the genitals are sharing such close quarters, it should be pleasurable experience for both of you. I. This. This. This is my book, actually, that's coming out. This technique, it's a very popular one, especially for women who have a hard time orgasming during missionary position. The cat position quote alignment technique is your new. Your new best friend. And if you just add some little quirks to missionary position, you'll find that your partner will suddenly find sex not only more enjoyable, but also quite variant. That's what I got. For sex tips. For sex tips. But then tomorrow, I think you're gonna have to start. You're gonna have to get comfortable with tomorrow's topic. So I'm just gonna give you a little teaser. It's. Let's play ball. Tomorrow we're getting in depth about the likes and dislikes of playing with his testicles in the background. It's testicle Tuesday. Yeah, but I know you don't like that. So you see, that's what we're gonna talk about. Because a lot of people have like, women have like ball phobia. Like they're afraid to touch the balls. Like, I remember. I was like that when I was. There was guys who I remember hearing once, like, you shouldn't you have to be like, so careful? Like, that's your first message about balls and testicles. Growing up as a woman is like, don't get close to them. Like, you're gonna hurt him. He's gonna freak out. So I think that I, for a long time, never even, like, just totally pretended they didn't even exist.
As you should. No, no.
But some guys are into it. Some guys, you gotta do it. Yeah. So those were some missionary things and tomorrow's testicles. And we've got a really fun show this week.
So what happened? We were doing the 20 question thing.
We are. We were gonna do it today, but we're doing it tomorrow. No, we were never gonna do. We are doing it. We're doing it tomorrow.
I don't know I was ready for that today. That's what I was waiting for.
Oh, well, we're doing that tomorrow, so. Okay, here, we gotta. We gotta plug that again. So. Because we got. We got. We got actually a bunch of questions. So we were playing. We got some really funny questions.
Is there one that we can do today and do some tomorrow?
Yeah, we took it. What was the. Okay, yeah, we could do one. But let me explain what 20 questions is again. So 20 questions is just email me or on Facebook. You could do it on my Facebook page, sex with Emily. Or you can email me feedback. And we want to know, are there any questions that you have for men sri about sex or about anything that you've been wanting to know? And we will answer. We will Answer the question. And the best question wins a special sex prize. A sex toy gift. So, Kelsey, can you remember one of them? One of them was, have you ever had sex with.
Have I ever had sex in the rain?
Sex in the rain. Are you going first?
I guess so. Have I ever had sex in the rain?
I don't think so. I've had sex on the snow.
Yeah.
On the ice. Ice skating on the ice, but not in the rain. Have you?
No, but I was in a limo and it was raining outside. Does that count?
That does count.
Okay.
I guess so. That's perfect. But I love having sex inside when it's raining outside.
Yeah. There's nothing else to do.
Right.
But it's.
But there's something about the rain, like, especially in Michigan, where I grew up. And you'd have those thunderstorms. Do you know about thunderstorms?
Yeah.
Have you experienced them? Because people in California don't.
No, no, no. I. Every time, for some reason I go to Wyoming or Idaho, there's like lightning and thunderstorms like crazy.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. So. Right. We don't get. I miss that here.
Yeah, we don't have that here.
I'm going home to Michigan and I'm going to experience those. I hope I love it. And have sex and thunderstorms.
Yeah. No, there's. What was I gonna say? There was the thing that over this weekend, the eco. The eco sex convention, you didn't go, but it was all about people that.
Were, like, marrying the.
Having. Not marrying. But a lot of it was just like having sex in nature. And they get off on that. Like going to the woods and having sex in the middle of the woods, right in the middle of fields.
And I know I have some friends who went to that. My friend from sex school is going to be on the show next week, and she's going to probably talk about that going about the eco sex thing, because they all went and I just couldn't make it. I had to go to this party on Friday night.
Okay.
But there's lots of sex classes and stuff that I'm doing in the next few weeks, so I'll be sharing all that information with everybody.
That's fun.
So what were some of the other. Well, we should do malware. Do you remember one more?
Do we have any fetishes? That was another question we're going to pick. And again, the best question you can email us today. We're going to be deciding tomorrow.
Who the winner is for the best question. And you're gonna win a Special awesome sex toy sex prize. Okay. Do I have any fetishes? I don't. I wish I did, though. Like, I always wish that I had a fetish because people with fetishes seem so. Like they specifically know exactly what's gonna turn them on every time. And, like, you know, they have a fetish about feet, for example, or. Yeah, anything. There's a million things you fetish about women's lingerie. I do not have a fetish. Really? I wish I don't. I'm working on it.
So lame. No, there's one thing that really turns you on. Yeah. That I think is really sexy is, you know, when it's hot and everyone starts, you know, wearing shorts and stuff like that, the girls will wear the. The tall socks with the. The rim. The color rim around it.
Oh, you like that? Like basketball. Like the basketball socks.
The big tall socks, Right? Yeah. I think that that's. That's cute.
With shorts?
Yeah. With shorts. Yeah. I think that's hot. Yeah.
Oh, what else do you think is hot that a woman wears?
I think. No, that's the number one thing.
That's number one thing that was kind of like trendy for a while. There was like a restaurant in the city where women did that. It was too freaking hot to wear the socks today. Today it's like 75 degrees. It's amazing.
Crazy.
I know. I love it.
And then I do, like, you know, every guy likes high boots, but I don't like the boots that are so high that they go over the knee.
Me neither.
I don't like you are going fly fishing.
You know, I agree. I have a pair of those and they're not attractive. I put them on. I'm like, they're not cute on me. Like, I thought they were cute. I should give them my answer and see if they like them because we all wear the same size shoes.
We decided you'd also know Elsa's like, big with ladies.
I think I like them too. Short.
That's not attractive. Is the high waist pants.
Yeah.
That's not a good look.
Love that. But I'm sorry, but they're not really.
They're not really. Well, I guess they are kind of in style. Yeah.
If you're like, they're really hot like a year and a half ago, but now. But people, like, are trying to keep them around and they're lucky.
Do you like the women who wear, like, the lower, lower pants like that are like. You could remember that was really insect like.
Oh, you can, like, see more of their Navel and stuff? Yeah, yeah, whatever.
I like men in suits.
Men in suits.
I think that's hot because you don't see men in suits that often.
I see them every day.
Oh, at work. You do See. I don't. I see him walking around here.
I mean, laugh at them. I always go. I always pick, like, the worst, like, retail store and go, oh, so what, is there a 2 for 1 deal on your suit today?
That's nice.
Or I go, do you have a court hearing today? Like, what?
Do you have any suits?
I did. I used to have. I used to dress. I used to be a manager of a wireless store. So I had, like, a bunch of. I had a. Like, about 45 ties and had a couple suits.
45 ties?
Yeah. I was really into ties.
You know, ties are good for bondage.
Really?
Yeah. The first time I ever had a guy tie me up was in college after a formal. We went to, like, some. I was a sorority girl.
Yeah.
Shock. We went to some formal event, and he took his tie and, like. And it was. I always think of ties as bondage material. That's just. My brain goes there.
And then he had his way with you.
Kind of. But we were so drunk and nothing really happened. But it was, like, a good concept.
It was a good. It was 21st birthday. It was his birthday.
Yeah.
You didn't give him none.
Oh, I did, but I think we were so. You know, in college, you just get so drunk. Like, we rented a hotel room. I rent a hotel. It was so nice to me. This was his 21st birthday. Rented a hotel room, Got, like, him, like, a cake and everything. And it was, like, a really big deal. And the cake was in the closet because I had gone to the hotel room early and set up this whole night. But then we were just too drunk to do anything. And I forgot about the cake and. Yeah, forgot about the cake. I mean, like, the next morning I was like, oh, yeah, I got your cake and I did all these things. We forgot. You're just drunk. You just get drunk. Just wasted. Good times. College. Okay, so that's what I got today. Do you have anything else to add to the equation except tomorrow's test for Tuesday?
Have the questions ready for tomorrow.
I will for sure. We just wanted to get. We just. I know we said today, but today was mass. Today was missionary Monday, so we just didn't want to do that. But we wanted to give people another day to send in questions. And we got some really funny ones, and we. And medicine. And I will answer all we will. We were going to answer them all. We're going to pick, pick 20 of the best questions and go through them tomorrow. So you have to be ready to answer this.
I'm ready.
Because there's some serious, you know, serious stuff.
I'm down.
Yeah.
All right.
Love it.
Yeah.
Okay, good. Thanks, everyone for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.
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