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Hi.

Thanks for being here today.

What's up? I'm happy to be here.

I'm so excited that you wrote and you wanted to come on the show. And you're an adult film performer, writer. You kind of do it all. You're hot. You gotta check out his picture. We're gonna post some of those pictures of you on the show.

Yeah, just don't Google me at work.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Don't Google them at work. Not safe for work. But first, let's talk about. Let's talk about what you do. So gay porn.

Yes.

Do you ever do straight porn?

No.

You can't. You would, right?

It's not that I can't, but. No. You know, I was actually asked to do it once.

Okay.

But I've literally.

You're so cute.

Thank you. But I've literally never had sex with a woman, so I didn't want my first time to be on camera.

No, no, no, no, no. No one does. Yeah, right. You'd be like.

Oh, not.

Yeah.

Not even if you're getting paid. It's kind of embarrassing to have lose your virginity on camera.

Right?

Yeah.

Okay.

Got it.

It's like a frat prank or something like that.

Exactly. Oh, my God. But that could actually be interesting. The gay man having. But that's not what you do. So what is it about? How do you prepare for a shoot?

You know, I have to tell you, it doesn't.

Cause you're naked. Like, I feel like I would tan a hundred times. I would not eat for a month.

Like, what do you do? Well, that kind of preparation. Sure. Like, you get a tan and you go to the gym? A. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you go to the gym a lot. You eat well. And eating well can be kind of annoyingly restrictive, but, you know, you do that to stay in shape. I'm not like, you can see from. You can see. I'm not like some huge, completely chiseled, buff guy. So, you know, I'm more of just a normal guy who's in shape. And so, like, I don't have to go completely crazy, but I also kind of have to work in some ways harder than those people who are just like gigantically buff and have gotten there. You know what I mean?

Right. But you must have other mad skills. No, but you look fit to me. But I don't know. So what's that like being on a porch? That you know the people before you're having sex with them?

No, you just get right into it.

So you're like, hi, nice to meet you. It's like every first day of work.

Yeah. If it's nice to meet them, you say that. No, it's always. It's always nice to meet them. Yeah, you just show up and I mean, sometimes they'll send you photos of the person that it's gonna be. I mean, you usually know who it is before you show up. So you have some idea.

Okay.

Yeah. And you can watch their movies before you show up.

Right? Exactly. And are you in? Have you ever been like, oh, God, I don't want to have sex with this person today and I have to, or.

Well, only in the sense. It's sort of like any job. Like, some days you don't want to go in, and some days you're totally fine with it. Right now there are. There's never been someone I've been like, I don't want to have sex with. There have been some people who, like, they have kind of a bad attitude and that's more of a turn off, like, than the physical, than any physical thing.

What's their attitude like?

Oh, well, just like, I don't want to be here or too aloof or not friendly or whatever. That doesn't happen very often, I have to say. But there are. There have been a few instances of that. And that's uncomfortable because you're going to be having sex with that person for hours.

Right? Exactly. Literally. I was on a porn set once, like, hours. Like, at first you're like, oh my God, there'll be sex. And then you're like, oh my God, they're still having sex. Three hours go by, like, is someone gonna come already? Or what's gonna happen?

Totally.

But so do you. How have you. How does it affect your sex life? Like, do you feel. How long have you been doing adult films?

Four years now.

Four and a half years. It changed your attitude towards sex? Like, when you're with someone that you like, A partner or something?

Yeah.

If you're with someone that you like.

Yes. I'll tell you how it's changed in a really awesome way, actually. So, like, okay, maybe you can relate to this. Have you ever been somewhere and like, some dude walks. Walks into the bar or wherever you are, and he's like, totally sort of jacked, and he has that, like, societally handsome, like, good looks and all that kind of stuff. Now, before I was in porn, I would, like, react to that. I'd be like, who's that? I would like what they call prairie dogging, where you sort of like, stick your click around. Now I have no reaction to it at all because I get paid to have sex with people that look like that. So now I actually know who I'm really attracted to. Like, all that societal stuff is out of the way.

So it's changed who you're. So what kind of guys are you attracted to?

I like all sorts of guys. I don't really have a type. There are certain features that I sometimes find myself attracted to. Like, I like when guys are a little chubby.

I know you were saying menace. Sorry, Menace. Yeah, he's a little chubby, but he's losing weight right now. But he thinks menace is cute.

Menace, don't lose that weight. I like, you know, big ears that stick out. I kind of like that someone who's, like, a little goofy. Like, I kind of like that. Not goofy, the character.

Right. Know what you mean. Like, not like, classically good looking.

Yeah, exactly.

So did you have to learn, like, other. Like, have you always just been really good at sex or did you learn different tips, like, different positions and things? Be in porn?

Yeah. Well, I mean, being good at sex is not the same as being good at porn. I mean, you should be good at.

Exactly.

But it's. And people don't. I think, you know, it's like, people don't necessarily make that connection that being in porn is performative. And so, like, it's actually kind of athletic. It's not mechanical. It's like being able to play a sport really well is like, I'm gonna get my body to do this thing. I'm gonna think about it and not think about it at the same time. I'm just Gonna perform, show up and do my best. That's what porn is like. It's like playing sports, right?

Yeah. No, that makes sense.

So that's different skills than being good at sex. But I'm pretty good at sex.

How do you even try out for porn? Do they just have you on the set and then just do it and then they see if they like you and they.

Yeah, I mean, you send in. Often you just send in applications or. I mean, sometimes people are dis. Like that's sort of what people think happens. But usually more often than not now people send in applications, which I think is really cool because it sort of gets rid of that image of people just sort of falling into porn or being sucked in or whatever. It's like now for the most part, if you're in it, it's because you wanted to be in it. You applied, you like sent off information, you really tried for it.

Okay, that makes sense.

Yeah.

So what do you think about porn? Like you were saying that it's not. I mean. Well, kind of. I was talking about it being a. What have you learned about sex? I don't think that porn is the best place for people to learn about sex. I always say that, that a lot of people watch, a lot of kids, young kids today, that's their first entree into sex is watching porn. And I feel like a lot of times, right, you're doing a shot because it visually looks pleasing on camera, but maybe it's not a position that necessarily feels good or.

Yeah, yeah.

I mean, is this same in gay porn, you think?

Yeah, I mean, I think just for all porn, like you shouldn't hold yourself up to, to the standard of porn.

Right. People do though.

Yeah, totally. And that's messed up. But you can learn a lot from porn. You can get inspiration from it, you can get turned on by it. You can think of new positions and all that kind of stuff. But to hold yourself up to the standard of it is wrong because we spend hours and hours to make a 20 minute scene so you don't see all the work that goes into positioning, all that kind of stuff. I mean, if you did that in real life every time you had sex, you'd be really bored.

Really bored and exhausted.

Yeah.

Sleeping all the time. That's so true. What do you think about a lot of straight women liking gay porn?

Yeah.

What is that?

What do you think that's about Interesting to me. That just came up. I just did a new now next show on that with a female gay porn director. So I Asked her for some help. And we sort of just came up with the fact that it's like when we watch porn, it's not that we want to see the kind of sex that we're having.

Right.

It's like certain visual cues, like, turn us on. Like, you know how like certain spaces can turn you on? Or like someone dressed as, like in a police officer. Traffic can turn someone on. Or like a classroom, like when you're. Because it's like relating to being turned on as like a horny teenager or whatever. So it's like when we watch porn, it's kind of the same thing. So I think for women, when they see two guys getting it on, there's like some sort of cue there for them that's exciting. I mean, guys who are listening, straight guys who are listening to this, like, you watch two chicks.

Two chicks, right? Same thing, right? I mean, in a way, that's what they. That's what they like a lot of guys watching it. So I was thinking for a lot of our women listeners, our female listeners and, and our male listeners who can write in and disagree if you don't agree with him, but I'd love to hear some oral sex tips. Menace has this theory on the show that whenever I give oral sex tips how to perform better oral sex than a man, he's like, only a gay man's gonna know that because you don't know because you don't have a penis. That's what he says to me. So what would you say are your, like, top three tips for performing, like, good oral sex?

Top, top three tips.

Wow.

Okay, so I think first is. I mean, guys love to be deep throated. Like, that's just.

They do, right?

Totally. So learn how to relax your throat. I mean, this is like, what do you learn?

What do you do? Exercises?

Yeah, you just do that classic. Usually gag reflux is more, I think, psychological. You know, it's like you get anxious about choking.

So you just teach yourself to think about it differently as you're doing it. Like, you just breathe through your nose. You make sure you're breathing. Yeah. So breathe as you get that all the way down your throat.

I think the other thing is every guy is.

Every guy has a different part of like, sensitivity. Like a different part of his penis is more sensitive.

Right. Every guy, like some people are like the tip. Some people like the rim, the perennial. I mean, not the perennial. Well, and the perennial or the frenulum anyway.

Or even, like, even some guys like having their balls licked or like their Paint licked more than they like having getting heads. So I mean, I would say just pay attention to that. Like, that's a huge tip that people like talk about the mechanics of oral sex, but I think actually just paying attention to the response that you're getting from your partner, you have to, you.

Have to pay attention. Right? That is such a good. That is a great tip. And we always talk about that in the show. How you just find yourself doing things that we're so in our own head, like trying to figure out, am I doing this right? Am I doing this right? But we're not paying attention to our partner. It's like this one way street and you should pay attention. Like, are they happy or breathing? Are they like, look excited? Are you.

Yeah.

Are they squirreling in pain? Do you even know?

Are they screaming in pain?

Mean.

Yeah. And I think, like, because some guys, like, if you suck on the head of their penis, it's so sensitive that they can't stand it. And other guys, they don't have as much feeling there.

Right.

So you want to find like where they're the most sensitive. Yeah, totally. Listen to them. And I think that, that it's like if you, if you tried to kiss everybody the same way, it's not gonna go down. No, you have to meet someone halfway.

Right.

Because it's about their pleasure and yours.

Exactly.

So that's tip number two.

Right? Tip number two.

Tip number three.

Sorry to put you on the spot here, but I figured.

No, I mean, I think it's pretty simple as don't forget the balls, you.

Know, but don't, don't forget the family jewels. Right?

Yeah, but don't. But don't suck on them too hard like you're trying to, you know, because again, you don't know how sensitive your partner is there. I have another tip though, that's even better.

Give me four. Give me ten.

Oral sex tip marathon. Which is when you're, when you're sucking, don't just like put it in your mouth. Like actually suck on it. Like as if you were. Suck. Like if you stick your thumb in your mouth and suck on your thumb, that's why it's called sucking. It's not just called like putting it in your mouth. Actually suck on it. And that creates some pressure and some friction, but it's all lubed up because your spit is there. So that feels really, really good. And while you're doing that, you can move your tongue around while you're doing that as well.

Yes, yes, the tongue move around that's a good one. And what about hands?

I am for myself, I prefer hands free, both giving and receiving. But some guys usually like the hand. Now the thing is, I think guys that like the hand are often their partner isn't sucking hard enough when they have it in their mouth. So, like, the hand compensates for the lack of pressure.

Oh, so if you sucked hard enough, then you won't. You're kind of falling back on your hand.

Yes, totally.

So it's sort of a cop out for me.

It's a little bit. But I actually think, I think that like, to bring somebody to orgasm, a lot of times you need to use your head. Yes.

Yes. Okay. Those are good tips.

Yeah.

I appreciate it.

No problem.

Okay, that's awesome. And then I was gonna ask you. Okay. So you also answer sex questions as I do for Logo.

Yeah. For their new Now Next website.

New Now Next website. So what are the common sex questions that you get asked?

Common sex questions. So I get a lot of stuff about people. I get lots and lots of questions about what it means when someone doesn't want to have sex with you. About rejection, about, like anxiety, about sort of feeling abandoned by your partner.

That kind of stuff.

Do you get a lot?

Yeah, I do. I do. Anxiety about being abandoned, that they're afraid someone's going to leave them.

Yes.

And yeah, I get some of those. Yeah.

But also, what does it mean when someone doesn't want to have sex with me? What does it mean when I don't want to have sex with them? Because people think that, like, we're supposed to be on all the time.

Yeah.

And it's just, it's just not. And also, like, we're not. We don't have to like every single moment of every sex act. Like it's not going to be totally perfect all the time. And once you let go of that, makes it a lot more enjoyable, right?

Absolutely. Yeah, that's a good point. That's a good point. I get asked, you know, about orgasm. Usually. It's. It's usually like a lot of men, I would say, lately. Or it goes in trends. I mean, there's trends in our emails for some reason. I don't know if it's like, what's going on in the ether. But like, a lot of men are like, why won't my wife have sex with me?

Yeah.

Or why won't. So it's sort of the same thing, like, why won't this person have sex with me anymore? And I think it's like mismatched Libidos, things change, you get older, hormones, all those things.

So there's so many different things.

A lot of people not having sex. Yeah, it's very sad.

Or feeling bad or maybe feeling bad about not getting sex and maybe like pronouncing it a little bit more than it is, you know what I mean? Like, and I think like something I get a lot is why won't my partner initiate sex? And I've tried to answer that and it's like, well, why do you want your partner to be the one? What does that saying about you exactly?

You're insecure and feeling like you're the one who's always doing it. Why aren't they doing it back? Yeah, I've gotten that too. I've gotten that from men, whoever. Like you don't initiate. But I'm like, well cuz you always do. So it's good, it's fine. But then people want to feel needed and they want to feel like you want them just as much as they want you. And then I get it.

Yeah, totally. And I think, I think you are in a little bit of a different position. I try not to answer actual sexual health questions because I'm not, I'm not a sexual health like practitioner, whatever that. Whatever the actual title would be. So I always try to answer questions that are about perspectives about sex, about what you're thinking about when you're in the bedroom, what your feelings are like when it comes to love and sex and that sort of stuff.

Yeah, that's important.

Those questions don't get answered enough, I don't think.

No, you're right.

Yeah.

A lot of people are just confused by it and. Yeah, that's good that you focus on that sexuality. I guess I focus on a little bit of everything.

Yeah, you do everything.

I guess so. Yeah.

You're very promiscuous.

Very promiscuous. I am so promiscuous now that I'm here in la. No, I haven't done anything. Okay, Okay. I want to look at one of your essays. You've your prolific writer, you've written a lot of stuff.

What's your.

Let's. What's your website? Real quick, people can find you.

The website for my writing is just conorab.WordPress.com so that's.

And we'll have that on my website as well. SexWithemily.com is where you should all go and check it out. Talk to you about cruising rest areas. Did you cruise them yourself?

Yep, that's that whole essay.

First Salon, which Is because that's like, a known thing. Does that still happen? People are.

Oh, yeah, totally. So that. Yeah. So that's in best sex writing 2013. And that. That essay caused kind of a shitstorm. I wrote it for Salon, and people freaked out because there's this long tradition, I mean, it's been going on forever of, like, gay men meeting at rest areas in public places and having sex. And it stems back to the time when gay people couldn't just have sex in their home so they went out, but this sort of cultural holdover. And so I wrote this essay about, like, well, what might be good about this instead of just thinking, that's gross, that's screwed up. Like, what are the sort of. What can we empathize with? Not to say it's right or wrong, but what can we see in this that might tell us what it's like to be sexual people and sexual human beings?

And what did you conclude with that?

Well, I think a lot of it has to do with this sort of honesty of an encounter. It's like, okay, so men have this huge desire to have sex all the time. Like, a lot of men, not all men, but. So something that a lot of the way society works is that sex isn't provided for them as much as they need it, as much as they want it. And so these sex, these rest areas, at least for men who are comfortable having sex with other men, I wouldn't say they all identify as being gay.

They don't. Right. There's a lot of people on the.

Wedding rings, all that kind of stuff. Yeah, down low. That's right.

So you show up and you show up, you meet someone in the middle of the woods, or you meet someone literally. Literally, and you have sex with them, and then you go back to your life. And so I think that those kinds of areas, those kinds of spaces, those places where people meet and have sex and then go their separate ways, there's something really honest about that. In a weird way. It's like. I mean, in some sense, it's dishonest because those people are deceiving their wives.

And stuff going on their way and.

Not being honest with themselves.

Definitely showering first. Yeah, right.

But the encounter itself is really honest. And it's like, I don't necessarily advocate having sex at rest areas. It can be fun. But I think, like, that kind of honesty about, I'm here because I want you, you're here because you want me. We want sex. We have this need, we have this desire. Let's do something about it that could really bring something, but it's just like.

Strangers, like, you pull up and there's a guy. It's a. Scott. The gay community is so different like that.

Right.

You just pull up. Like, we don't need any whining and dining. You don't need any foreplay.

Yeah.

Like, we're doing this Valentine's Day contest, like the 14 days of foreplay. We're giving away stuff. We talk about foreplay ad nauseam on the show. Because it's important, but not forgetting that as much.

No, no. And I think.

Not that it's not ever important, but really not.

It's important for sure, but it's not. It's. There's also the understanding that sex. That sex with someone that you don't know very well, at least for right now, that's still like, that's okay, you know? And when people are going through the whole HIV thing, like, there was an epidemic that, you know, is dimmed a bit in the United States, at least. It's like they.

It still kept happening, but it was like. But be safe about it.

Right.

And so that. So it changed in that way now with gay marriage and now that gay relationships are getting a little more sort of standardized, it'll be interesting to see which way it goes.

Exactly. You know, I think so, too. What about monogamy in the gay community?

I think it's. I know I get a lot of crap for this.

Yeah.

I think it's impossible.

Okay. Really? Why? I mean, I think it's impossible being a heterosexual.

I think it's almost impossible being a heterosexual. But you have so much social pressure to do it that I. Sometimes it keeps. It's sort of like. It's sort of like smoking pot. It's like everybody wants to do it, right? Well, not everybody. I don't smoke pot. But a lot of people want to do it, and people do it anyway. Even though there are laws in place. Not in California laws in place to tell you can't do it. But there are some people that will not do it because of the laws. But mostly that's not the case. I think the same thing for monogamy and straight people. It's like straight people don't really love monogamy. It's like. It's torturous in a lot of ways, But I think the social structures sort of keep it in place for you guys. We don't have that as much, so it's even less common. And then the people who think they're being monogamous I read all these sociological studies that said no, they thought they were, but actually one partner was not being monogamous.

Right. It's always like that. So how do you. Why do they even agree to it then? You know, think a lot of the gay couples is because they feel like they society or they want to.

I think people don't like to. I mean, in general. Same thing for straight people. We don't like to face our. We don't like to face the things that we're doing in a compulsive way. It's like, I think monogamy is great if you've made a real intentional decision to be monogamous.

Right.

And I think open relationships are great if you made an intentional decision to be.

Right.

But most people are monogamous because they're afraid they're going to lose their partner. And most people are open because they're afraid of commitment.

Exactly.

So we shouldn't be doing things out of fear. We should be doing the things that we actually want.

Exactly. Like, you should know judgment on it. Like, you should just do what you want to do. Like, I've been toying with. Like, I have been in committed relationships, but I never. It never has felt right for me personally. Yeah, I've done it for a while, but then I'm like, I don't want to be with one person. I think I should be a gay man in my next life or something. Well, maybe in my previous life.

Well, you kind of are. I think that. I think that the pressure on a woman to be monogamous is insane. Like, I can't even.

I know.

I mean, with a guy, it's like, well, guys cheat, you know? But the attitude about women being monogamous, I cannot even understand how much pressure women must face. And then if someone says something like you're saying, you're sort of branded as, like, well, she's not. She's not relationship material.

She's not somebody I could hear. Right. Totally. I'm not relationship material. Everyone depending on you're listening. I'm definitely not relationship material.

She definitely is. You just have to appreciate her for who she is.

Exactly. That's exactly it. So tell me about your book. Everything you're not supposed to know about sex. What am I not supposed to know? I thought I knew everything.

Yeah, well, that's the working title for my book that comes out next year. From Disinformation. And this is actually the first announcement I'm making.

Oh, my God, I'm so excited.

Just got the deal. All Sealed and everything. So that book is about sort of cultural and historical stuff that you've never heard about sex and that you don't know. So it's not just stuff you could just look up on the Internet.

Okay.

You'd have to do some scholarly work, which is what I'm doing, to find it out. Like, why do people demonize masturbation? Where does that come from? Well, we just assume it's the church, but actually it has a much weirder origin.

Oh, really?

Yeah, which. And there's a chapter about this guy who is friends with Abraham Lincoln, who is in all this sex, occult practices and stuff like that. That's not. That's public record. It's not like some conspiracy theory. What is the most searched for porn term in the world?

What is it? What is it?

Oh, you'll be. I'll tell you this one because it's in somebody else's book. So I'm just taking answers.

Can I guess? Yes.

Gay.

Single.

Most search for a term, it's either fisting or rimming. No.

For all porn.

I don't know.

No, Mom.

Mom. What do you mean? All porn? People search for mom.

So.

So MILF porn.

Milf.

But the. So MILF porn is the highest search for porn. But this term, mom and porn, like, they're searched for together, like, more than anything. So people want to see moms. Like, basically they want to see older women having sex. That's what's going on right now.

Really?

Totally crazy.

Well, it's funny because I was just at the sex convention last week and they had. They were giving awards. It was the X Biz Awards. Do you know about this? And they had the milf, the actress who won, who was like MILF of the year. And I was laughing so hard, I was like, okay, there's the category of everything. I did not know that.

Yeah. So there's. There was all this research done on that by these two guys. And gosh, I'm doing them a disservice by citing their research and not remembering the name of their book. But I think it's A Billion Wicked Thoughts is the name of the book. I might be a little off on that, but the one, it's. It's Gadam G A D D A M and Oghes O G A S. So they're. They're the names so you can look it up. But they did all this, like, research on Internet searches for porn, and so that's to collect information about sex.

Right? That's what they came up with. That's so interesting. Where do you get all your materials for research and stuff? Just online or.

No, no, I read like. Like 700 page books.

Yeah.

About this kind of stuff. So I'm just. I'm deep in the work, you know, because a lot of it's, you know, I don't want to just do stuff that you can find on the Internet. It's not. It's not fun for me. Then why would you buy a book?

Right. No, that's true. That's true. I'm doing this for school. I'm getting my doctorate in March and I've got like a stack of books over there that are like 700 pages.

Yeah.

Hard to get through.

They're hard. They're mind numbing.

It's important. It's mind numbing. But it's like the real, like sex stuff, like where it's happening.

It's the real work. For sure.

It is the real work.

Just what you look up on Wikipedia.

Exactly. Okay.

Okay.

So coming up, you're Speaking at the MoMA.

Speaking at MoMA PS1 on January 27th in New York. In New York City.

Okay.

So there's an event. I was just. There's this big profile on me in this magazine called Badoon and they have an event at moma. And so I'm one of the speakers there. And so I think it's gonna be. It's gonna be awesome.

What are you gonna talk about?

I don't know yet. I think I'm gonna talk about sex and spin. Spirituality. Because that's a big intersections.

So.

How so Especially like. What do you mean, sex? I mean, I know it's actually. Yeah. How does it with you?

Well, for me it's not like when most people say that they mean like the Kundalini or. I'm not interested in that. I'm sort of interested more on. Yeah, yeah. And I think that stuff is cool, but that's not. It's like. It's kind of been done.

Right.

So like, for me, it's like, how. How does sex intersect with like spiritual. Different spiritual traditions, different religions, that kind of stuff. And what can it tell us about the human spirit? Basically. That's interesting.

Oh, that's really interesting.

Yeah.

Okay. I love it. That's what you should talk about. I think that's interesting.

Thanks.

Well, thank you. Is there anything else that you would like to add that we've not hit on?

I'm trying to think.

We covered a lot. Oh, I. Oh, before you leave, I have to give you a screaming o Vibrating ring. Okay. I asked him when he came in, I was like, connor, have you ever used one? Everyone should check out Screaming O. The coupon code is Emily. I believe it's Emily. If you go to screaming go.com or you go to my website and they're vibrating rings, and they're great. You've. If you've ever used a. I've.

A rings.

Right. But these rings are more like. Well, they. They have, like, vibrations, which a lot. Have you ever used a vibrator or vibrating anything on your testicles or.

Never. No, just a tongue. A lot of.

Right. A lot of people like the vibration. I mean, this is a lot of. It's for straight couples, too, because it's got a vibrator on it. So he's a woman's clitoris. But they also feel really good. I've got so much suffering from Screaming O. So if you guys are interested, Screaming O makes every single kind of vibrating ring that exists in the planet. And you can just go to screamingo.com or go to my website and check it out.

And I just want to say, like, this is, like, not a BS thing where she's just support. She's like. She's actually giving me one because I'm really excited to try.

I know we're going in my. Yeah, like. Like my entire front room over there is filled with Screaming O toys that I want to give away to you. I want you to use them and maybe you could use them on a set or something.

Yeah, if somebody. If someone lets me use one on a set and I like it, I would definitely.

Okay, I'll.

I'll vibrate it.

You'll vibrate it?

Yeah.

And then I got another thing to talk to you about real quick before we go is masks. So the. The Listerine strips. I wish I had one on me, but they're like Listerine strips. But here's my question for you. As a porn star, would you ever. Is there ever anyone. Semen or penis that you don't like the taste of?

Well, we don't really do that. Well, it's becoming more common. But the porn idea. I'm sorry. So we don't. I mean, we don't use condoms for oral sex, but we don't do a lot of oral contrast.

Right, right, right, right.

But we've been starting to do that, venture out in that area.

You could try some.

That could be. Yeah. So is there anybody whose taste I don't like?

Has that ever happened to you? Historically?

Yeah, sometimes if people eat like a Lot of jalapeno peppers.

Yes, yes. You just need papaya and pineapple. And there's all these things, but these strips you put on your tongue and they come in four flavors. And so it masks the taste of semen. Like some women, for example.

Got it.

You put it in your tongue and you don't like, like. So then it's like the next time you form oral sex at a guy, it'll taste like a milkshake or something.

I think that's awesome because if there's something I guys like to come in people's mouths.

Yes, they do. Yes, they do.

Just prohibit that. Just because, like, there's some sort of, like, gross factor. Because the weird thing about sex is like, if you think about any of it, it can all be gross if you want. If. If you think about it the wrong.

Way, you just gotta get into it and not worry about the gross. And I don't care about semen. I've never had any semen. I've never, like, kicked any semen out of my bed. But, but, but, but, but it's some women, like, for example, and I'm sure there's some men who like, will not perform oral sex because they don't like the taste. So anyway, that's one of those things. So that's what we got time for today. Connor, thank you so much for being on the show.

So awesome. And it's so great to be here.

Oh, my God, it's so fun. And you can find out all your information. You give us your website again. But we'll also have it at sex with enley.com.

Okay, great. And my show is on new now Next. So if you want to see that.

New now Next. Okay.

Yep.

And you got your show and then Twitter. Do you do Twitter?

I do Twitter. It's just on our Habib and I love talking to people through Twitter. I love Twitter so much because it's introduced me to so many great people.

Oh, cool.

Yeah, Just. I love it. So.

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