7 Dec 2025 · 62 min
In this episode of "Sex with Emily," host Emily Morse chats with co‑host Menace and guest Omar about a range of sexual wellness topics. They start by testing flavored condom strips, noting the minty‑mango and strawberry flavors, and discuss how taste can be masked during oral sex. The trio emphasizes the importance of enthusiasm, lube, and communication for enjoyable fellatio, warning against the "head push" technique. A lively debate follows about hand jobs, with arguments that a partner’s hand can provide better stimulation than self‑pleasure, and they suggest mutual masturbation as a way for couples to learn each other’s preferences. They also share quirky personal habits, like Menace tweeting during sex. The conversation shifts to practical relationship advice, offering strategies for persuading a partner to try oral sex and highlighting the need for clear, respectful requests. The latter part of the show reviews popular online dating platforms—eHarmony, Match.com, Plenty of Fish, and OkCupid—comparing costs, target demographics, and matching algorithms, while also critiquing the modern obsession with constant self‑portrait posting on Instagram and its effect on dating dynamics. The episode closes with a sponsor spot for Qualia Magnesium Plus, presented as a supplement that supports sleep, focus, and sexual health. Throughout, the tone remains conversational, humorous, and candid, blending personal anecdotes with actionable tips.
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Eyes, our sacred institutions.
Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just.
Got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.
A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh my.
Do women know about shrinkage?
Isn't it common knowledge?
What do you mean, like laundry?
It shrinks.
Can we not talk about sex so much?
Are you kidding me?
Oh, my God, I feel so good.
Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.
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Happy Friday.
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We are less than 10 days away now. 10 days away from you being a super diva and a television star.
Okay, that's true. I mean, I'm not a super diva. And yet. And.
But anyways, you're going to be on a television show called Misadvised. It's your Show. You have two other co stars. It's going to be on Bravo June.
18, 10pm 10pm Everyone has to watch.
And tweet, and everyone is so excited.
Everyone is so excited. We're so excited. We can't quite believe it. And it's going to be running for eight. Eight episodes throughout the summ. So, yeah, set your DVR now. It's pretty funny. It's about three single dating experts. Do we practice what we preach?
It's gonna be crazy because we have some friends that work in entertainment and some screeners got sent to them, so we got to see a little bit of it, and it's. It's hilarious. You can see how crazy Emily is when it comes to her thoughts. Yeah.
I didn't even hear your tweet.
What?
You tweeted just now, like 10 minutes ago. You said, emily's life, everyone. Check it out. She's not normal.
Yeah, it's not normal.
Why am I not normal? Why am I not normal?
It's not.
What's not normal about me.
No. Do you know what?
Actually, normal's the wrong word. Not normal is the wrong words.
Oh, no, no. I'll still use that as the statement.
Oh, thanks.
But I think it is.
It's. Maybe you're stubborn.
I'm just unique.
Unique.
I have unique perspectives on dating.
Maybe you're a little bit stubborn.
Stubborn?
How am I stubborn?
Or maybe you should just tell people to stop giving you advice on your relationship. I don't know. Because you're not listening. People are telling you the same thing over and over again.
Yeah.
And then either you're coming off stubborn and not taking their advice, or you should just say, hey, you know what? I don't need any advice on my.
I don't. You know what I have to say? Like, I've been in a really good place right now, and I don't really need any more advice. But thanks, everyone for.
For offering. Pitching in.
Thanks for pitching in, but no. There's this. There's a scene with my brother when he gives me advice, and you're all gonna have to wait and see.
And I love It. I love it. I love your brother. My brother is gonna be a superstar.
I just, just my main thing, what minus is talking about is that I don't think that monogamy should be the only option for. And I think I bring that to the screen, to the TV set. I say, you know what, people? Everyone blindly signs up for monogamy and they never say, you know what, maybe I want a different kind of relationship or maybe we want to open it up or what happens if we get attracted to someone else? People don't have those conversations. So they're just like, yep, we're monogamous. We're together till death do us part. No other penises in my life or vaginas. Like what?
You know, what's wrong with that either?
That might be fine for like most people, but some people might want to know there's other options out there. And I try to shed light on that. So today's show, we're going to be talk giving you all the details you need to know about online dating sites, what they are. We break them down for you, what you can learn from them, which ones they offer if they're in your demographic. And we're also going to have some oral sex and anal sex tips from my new intern Omar. And he happens to be gay and he. Mendes always yells at me because I give oral sex tips sometimes about performing oral sex on a man. And he's like, you don't know gay man needs to give a tip or men's need to give it. Yeah, but men have.
Gay guys have penises too. They know what penises are like.
Just because I don't have a penis.
I don't have one.
Right. That's true.
I'm just, I'm not saying that you're not going to perform fellatio that people will not like that they will dislike.
Oh, they like it.
Yeah, I'm sure that they like it. But you don't know for a fact, for a fact that you could might maybe a little bit do it better.
I hope to learn some things from.
A guy that actually has one and knows what it feels like to receive.
I'm always to learning more and I.
Would love to hear from a lesbian to tell me how to go down a rollout.
We'll do that next week.
That's who she is.
I've got plenty of lesbians to come on the show and talk to you about. Or we've done. We've done that, but not in a while. We should do that next week.
Oh, yeah. Your favorite subject, oral sex.
Yeah, dude. Yes. And you probably need tips, so we're gonna bring in a lesbian.
Yeah, I'd rather talk to a lesbian.
Fine. Done.
Yeah.
Done and done, Menace.
And I don't think there should be anything wrong with that statement. If a guy tried to come in here and tell me how to go down a woman, I'll be like, you know what? Get the F out the door. You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, I hear you. Whatever, Menace. Whatever works for you. I just want you to perform oral sex on women. And not just. I just want you to do it because I don't think you like it.
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No.
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Yeah, all that stuff. If you're listening to xm, we want to hear from you.
Exactly.
Yes.
We want to hear from you asap. However you want to hit us up, hit us up right now. Okay. Today's show is brought to you by Classic erotica. Go to crazygirlproducts.com, use QT coupon code EMILY25 at checkout and you get 25% off. And let me just tell you this, their products are amazing. They have this pheromone infused body and sensual care for women, men and couples. And the pheromones, like sexual pheromones that it all smells amazing. They have a girls wanna. And a girl's wannabe naked intimate shaving cream. Okay. And they also have a Max for men Max head flavored oral sex gel. Anyway, their products are so unique and they smell amazing and they do great work. And so you gotta go to their website and check out crazy and remember to use coupon code Emily25. Okay, so what else going? What are you. What are you up to this weekend?
Dude, this weekend I am absolutely doing.
Oh, right, because you had a hell of a weekend last weekend.
Well, yeah, last weekend I was at Disneyland. Two weekends before that, back to Back I was in Vegas. And then not this weekend, but next I got to go to San Diego, so. Oh my God, this weekend. I don't care.
You don't care?
I don't care if the most amazing party ever is going down in San Francisco. I ain't going.
Okay?
I don't care.
I won't invite you to any parties. You already missed my birthday party. There's no other parties I have to invite you to.
All right, good.
That's cool. That's cool. I'm just gonna be hanging out. It's gonna be a beautiful weekend, I think. And I'm gonna be out with my dog who climbed a tree this morning. You liked my picture on Facebook.
I saw that.
We go to the dog park every day. The same dog park. And all of a sudden she runs up this tree. And dogs don't usually climb trees. She's a little dog, but she's Jack Russell and she climbed after a squirrel and everyone in the park out because it was very funny.
How did you get the dog out of the tree?
Climb down. She's really smart.
What about if she got stuck?
I wasn't scared.
You wouldn't done anything.
Everyone was scared. And like, whoa, whoa. And I'm like, she'll get down. And she did. Cuz she's perfect.
Yeah, right. That's why she's always at your house.
She is. She is always at my house.
No, she's not.
Menace. Think she's not. She was on vacation for 10 days.
Oh, 10 days.
Just with her baby daddy up at the lake. She liked it. You know, she likes lakes and fields and streams.
She sent her on a trip to Europe or something.
I know, exactly. Okay, well, I've got a little bit of sex in the news here for us today. And that is Miss Pennsylvania resigns. Claims Miss USA contest was rigged.
Really?
In a shocking blow to trashy American competitions, Miss Pennsylvania, 27 year old Sheena Monin has resigned from her post, saying the judges of the Miss USA pageant already had chosen the winners before the contest began. But they refuted her claim, saying that her resignation. She quit because the new rules that allow transgender contestants to. To take park. So she's a bigot.
Whatever.
I don't know what it says here, but she's upset. And she resigned because they are allowing transgender people in the pageant.
Yeah, yeah. Who cares about that? But did you see. I saw something on TMZ. I think Ms. Michigan or something was out partying and stuff like that. But she's trying to claim that because they got a photo of her, like, taking shots.
Oh, God. People, stop. Put the cameras away when you're taking shots, everyone, no matter what you do for.
She claims that she didn't swallow or something like that. I could be totally off, but that's the. The blurb that I read.
That's like Bill Clinton saying that he smoked and didn't inhale.
Yeah. Check out, you know, my favorite website, tmz.
Tmz, you love.
Shout out to Harvey.
Anything else on tmz?
No, just a lot of people getting married.
Miley Cyrus. Miley Cyrus gets locked down by Liam Hemsworth.
The twins.
Liam.
Liam. She's only 19 and he gave her 3.5 carat diamond. Okay. Miley Cyrus, you are too young to get married. You are 19 years old. You should be at least 30.
This is a huge business move for her.
It's very smart to make her look more mature and get more.
No, no, no, no. Not that look. Miley Cyrus has kind of peaked. Like her. She's not going to get any more famous. Nothing. She's not going to come out with another album, and it's going to be huge. Maybe she'll do a movie or something. I highly doubt it, but she is peaked.
She peaked as Hannah Montana.
Yeah, I think her popularity is peaked probably about a year ago. Okay, so her man is gonna. Is in one of the most upcoming franchises in movies. Bigger than Hunger Games. The Hunger Games. Bigger than Twilight, Bigger than Harry. Well, maybe equal to Harry Potter.
Okay, He.
He is going to be a huge, huge star. So she's locked down. This guy. This is gonna be. This is gonna be big for her.
Why does she have to get married right now? Like 19? You're not. You're a teenager. She's still a teenager.
Well, you know what? She's gonna let the. The superstar run away if she doesn't lock him down right now.
Why do you think it's gonna make her more famous? Because then they're gonna be like the hot couple.
They're gon.
Yeah, okay, totally.
That's. I mean, that's a good prediction. I don't know. I don't. I don't follow all that stuff. It's gonna keep her thinking about little Miley. It's gonna keep her being 19 years old and she's got one penis that she's with for the rest of her life if they last. I just think that when you're 19, you're not fully evolved yet. You don't know what you want. You're still growing and Learning and changing, and you should not get married. You can engage, you can live together, but don't get married.
It's gonna keep her super, super famous.
Do you think that it's all calculated?
I don't think it's calculated, but I think, you know, stepping back, thinking if it was a calculated move, it is extremely smart.
Do I think it's gonna happen? I'm assuming 90%. No. I don't think the marriage is actually gonna go through.
They're gonna break up. He's gonna get super famous. Yeah, yeah.
And they're gonna break up.
I kind of agree with you. And I hope they don't get married. And I mean, we down. There's not that there aren't people who have gotten married 19, and they're still together and they're happy. I'm just saying, typically, you should not. You should. Your 20s are growing and learning and changing, and you just change a lot in your 20s.
Do you know, I hate to say it, but see, this is how you always hating on monogamy and all this stuff.
I'm not hating on Mon. Monogamy. Yeah.
You're always a downer for people that want to be together for the rest of their life. I brought this up when the news first broke that she was engaged. I brought it up on another radio show where people can text in and give back their feedback. And I said, hey, Miley Cyrus just got engaged to her boyfriend Liam. And 100% positive reaction. I said, is it. Are these people too young to get married?
You tweeted this?
No, no, I said it live on the radio. And, like, there's a system on the show. You can text. They text me back, hey, you know, seems. Seems cool. If they want to get married, they can get married. Some people are texting. I got married when I was 17. I've been married 35 years.
There's some positive things.
There wasn't one person saying that they were too young.
Well, I don't know who those people are, but I think it was called.
The Bay Area, which is. Has 7 million people. The cum research says there's about anywhere from 800 to a million people listening at one time.
I hope I'm wrong.
So a million people against little Emily.
Yeah. Crazy.
Have faith in the Miley Cyrus.
Which is so weird because I'm right. That's just so weird that a million people could be wrong. That's just bizarre to me. No, I'm just saying if you're thinking about getting married.
So you should stop being a downer.
I'm not a downer. I'm happy for her.
She got a Don't get married, people. Be a player for life.
No, I did not say be a player for life. I said wait till your late 20s, early 30s is what I mean.
You walk up in the club with a bottle of Moet with a chain, gold chain on, and you say player for life. That's. That's what you do every time you walk into a club. Yeah, I'm a player for life.
I'm not a player for life.
Just admit it.
I'm dating someone.
I know, but whatevs. Marrying anybody.
I'm not marrying anyone.
So just admit it. I'm a player for life.
I'm not a player for life. I might get married next year. You could be invited to be a wedding. God knows what's going to happen. You don't believe me.
You'd be laughing.
I'm not inviting you because you would just get up and trash me. You know what? I'd like to give a toast and then you would.
I would like to give a toast to all the ex boyfriends who are in the room right now.
I know they'd all be there. My friends with all my exes. They'd all be in the room.
So many of your ex boyfriends, all of them at your wedding. All of them all lined up in.
The front because they were good friends. All of them. Friends. Oh, my God. It's okay. Have fun. It's just the guy that I'm wedding.
My very special day that, you know, my husband, it might be weird. He wants to spend the rest of his life with you. And you know what? All his boyfriends are there too.
You probably would marry somebody that would be cool with that.
I would have to marry someone who's cool with that because I want my exes at my wedding.
Polygamy and all that kind of stuff too.
Yeah, whatever. Polygamy, okay. There's a killer clap on the rise. Warns the World Health Organization.
Make it clap.
The U.N. yep. The U.N. health agency is urging government and doctors to increase surveillance of antibiotic resistant gonorrhea, a bacterial infection that causes inflammation, infertility, pregnancy complications and can lead to death.
Wow.
Babies born to mothers with gonorrhea have a 50% chance of developing eye infections that can result in blindness.
Damn.
Use protection, people. Put a condom on.
Put two on, you can get gonorrhea in your eye.
Yeah, you can get gonorrhea. No, they're saying that babies are born with infections.
Oh, okay.
You can get it. You can. You can get diseases. I don't know why people aren't using condoms. I was just listening to something the other day, and they were saying that, like, women have unprotected sex, like 15 to 20, 15 times in their life or 11 times. Like some kind of stat, like, just don't do it. Like, I know it sucks. I know it's annoying. You gotta stop the moment and you're all ready to go and put a condom on. That's all I'm saying. It's done. Okay. Talk about a smoking pair of boobs. Gun holster bra hits the market. A law enforcement supplier from Oklahoma is now selling the flashbang bra, which comes attached to a thermoplastic shell that holds one of 20 of the most popular handguns on the market. The gun hangs directly below a woman's breasts, naturally concealing it. That's dumb. How many women are carrying guns? A lot. Tons, right? Not in San Francisco. Not in my friends personally.
But you wanna women carrying guns, you gotta be careful.
What if it goes off and shoots your boobs off?
Yeah. Here in our area, San Francisco, probably not as big, but maybe Midwest, there's this television show. Oh, my God. This super hot chick. She's a little young, though, blonde. She's on this gun show on Discovery about guns. It's about guns.
Okay.
These people that sell guns and. Oh, right, they teach people how to use guns and stuff like that. Don't know her name. Super hot, but she's all into shooting guns. Like, they. They brought all these guys out to these firefighters out to a gun range and they're like, trying to shoot and stuff. She's like, oh, she. She has to be like in her mid-20s or something. Ridiculous body, right? And then she just goes like, oh, yeah, let me show you how to shoot the gun. And she's like teaching all these firefighters how to shoot and stuff like that. So there's women that are just in.
That's true. I shouldn't say that, but I'm gonna get a bra. Gun holster bra. I don't know, it's uncomfortable.
When we go to Las Vegas, I.
Want a big piece of metal in my boots.
One day, hopefully we'll do oh, my God. Podcast from Las Vegas. That'd be amazing. But I'm gonna take you to the place called the Gun Store.
Oh, good.
And you can shoot some guns. I'm telling you, you probably get super horny. You love it. Because every girl that I take with me, they, like, not really into it. Whatever but then you hand them like a AK40 or AK47 or something. Or a little 9 millimeter. Oh, my God, they're so into it.
And you said they get horny. Do they start giving you blows?
I guess. I don't know. Immediately. But immediate blowjobs immediately. My. You know, you see my assistant.
Yeah.
She's like. She's like five foot. She loves shooting guns.
Really? Yeah. I'm sure. I wanted to try it when I was in Vegas, but I didn't have time because you told me about it.
Yeah.
And I would. I would do it. I would do it. But I don't know if I'm not.
Gonna have you stay at the Stratosphere.
Yeah, I am gonna stay at the Stratosphere. Oh, I stayed. I stayed in the worst place. I don't even want to talk about it. But it was cheap, and it's how it works.
No, you can't do it like that in Vegas.
I know. I up. I fecked up.
Fracked up. We're on exa and we can say the F up.
You're right. That's true. So I'll say the F word, but I don't really feel like it right now. We've got some emails from the people from the weeples. Thanks, everyone, for emailing us. At feedbackexwithemily.com we try to get to all your emails. We can't get to all of them, but we hopefully will answer a question that's relevant to your issue. Or we might. Sometimes we do read your email. We email you when we answer your questions. What am I saying? No.
Are you drunk? Do you have some shots before the show?
I wish I was drunk. No. Just kidding. Okay, so, yeah. Feedbackexveilmy.com hi, Emily. Just want to show you a quick email saying thanks for mentioning the email on air to Menace. Kind of bummed we never got to meet him. Oh, these are the people that wanted to meet you in Vegas.
Sorry.
Let's do a public apology. But, hey, I'm sure he was having a blast getting his drink on. Anyway, guests will just have to listen for when you guys either travel to Maine or New York or New Jersey to ever meet one of you. Thanks again. Your lawyer listeners, Scott and Lisa from Maine.
Dude, I totally know what happened. I was gonna hit them up.
Right?
This is what happened.
Okay, so that's you drunk?
Well, no, I got. Well, I did get super wasted, but I was gonna hit them up later. What happened is I went to Old Vegas. There's Fremont street, and I Was there freaking wasted with all my friends. And when I got back to the Strip, I was gonna hit them up, but there was a freaking parade for the residents that went through that stuck.
And you had to walk, right?
Yeah. And I couldn't get a cabin. And so I walked through the freaking desert of Las Vegas. Like, seriously, there's no like, buildings, nothing. Just desert. And a. In a street. Trying to walk back to the Strip sounds so sad. And I got, I got a little confused because I thought I was walking to a building that was this place called the city center, but I was actually walking the wrong way.
Yeah, you can't get a drink and walk in the streets.
It was a hundred like degrees, no water, nothing. And it was like 45 minutes to an hour we're walking. Me and my buddy were walking without water, without water, nothing. And then finally we get to the building and it wasn't even the building that I thought it was. And then we had to walk more and then finally find a cab. And then by the time I got to there, I was like asleep in my hotel room until late at night.
And then I tried to go, we're sorry, Menace couldn't meet you. He was lost, drunk and dehydrated in the desert.
Yes.
So that's why he couldn't meet you. But he wanted to.
Yeah. I apologize.
Okay. Next time when we're gonna come to. They don't live in Vegas, but we're gonna New York.
They're in Jersey, right?
They're in Maine.
Maine, okay. Nah, same. Well, it's a little far.
It's a little far. We'll do a show in Maine one day. We'll just show all over the friggin world one day.
I would love to get a tour bus like Bethany had on her show.
Oh my God, me too.
On Bravo.
I would love that too.
She had an amazing tour bus where she just took a tour bus and.
Just the skinny girl margarita.
Yeah. And she just did speaking engagements all over the place.
Why don't we do that?
Well, get a sponsor who wants to.
Sponsor us to go across the country and educate people and do podcasts and help people have better sex. Which is what we're all about is improving people's sex life. And we'll call it the Sex with Emily sex drive. And we'll drive across America.
That would be amazing.
I know, Donna, we've been talking about that. We'll do it. It's coming up. Okay. Dear Emily, how about Oville to refer to a climax and refer to pound Town as a particularly vigorous trip to Oville. Maybe it's a stop on the way.
Dude, people are taking off with the pound town.
I know.
I'm getting tweets about it. Yeah.
Another one I've used to. I've used is you used to say you're taking a road trip or that you're. Another thing he's heard is taking a road trip or that you're taking the Porsche out of the garage. Dan from Denver. Oh. Cause Magnus always says, going to pound town.
Yeah. Let's recap real quick for the exam listeners. So we just like saying, are you gonna take her to pound town? Meaning, are you gonna have sex with her?
I hate that.
Pound town. Did you go to pound town?
It's just. You know what? Okay, keep going.
And then I'm telling you, people just love picking up.
We don't love it because guys should never pound.
Oh, God. It's just a funny saying.
It's not, but. But I feel like you're going to pound town with it.
I'm gonna take this biash to pound town.
Yeah. Don't pound on her. You know what you're gonna do? Jackhammer sex with her. That's gonna be really rabbit.
Rabbit style.
That'll be the last time I've ever pounded anything.
Then I' my loads in 15 seconds, and then I'm gonna go to bed.
Yeah, exactly.
Sounds like a dream, doesn't it?
No, I hate pound town. I. But I like.
You love pound town.
You bring it up sometimes, but I just do it funny.
Why do you hate all my little sayings?
Because they're annoying. No, I'm kidding. What are your other sayings? Pound town and then pound town. You have a few of them.
I don't know.
I can't remember. But. Okay.
We're drunk already.
I wish. Friday tjf, baby. Okay.
Oh.
Can I ask you something?
Yes. Ask away.
You're a white girl.
Yep.
Why?
Why is it that white girls, every time they see each other, have to scream like, oh, my God, like, every time they, like, see each other? And it could be like, oh, I haven't seen you, like, an hour. Oh, my God, every time the door opens? Why. Why is white girls just white girls? Why are you screaming all the time?
I don't. I don't even know what you're talking about.
You should watch this TV show. It happens a lot.
It happens on the TV show. Do I do it on the TV show?
I haven't seen you done it, but I'm sure you do it.
I do it. I do do it. Oh, my God, you're right. It's a white girl problem. It's a white girl problem. I don't know why. Because we're so excited. I scream when I see you every day. I'm like, manis. And I give you a big hug. I think it's really friendly and it's nice and it shows love.
Wow.
Do all your friends. So you're saying that your friends that are like Asian or black or Indian or whatever, they don't. Mexican. You're saying that they don't scream.
The girls don't scream.
I don't believe that.
That's why I love them. And I'm not hating on white women. I still date.
You are hating. You don't date white women much.
Not much. They're just not on top of my list.
But I get in your ear. Yeah.
I mostly grew up with all Latin females. Mostly.
And you still like the Latin.
And I love Latin.
Love females. I'm telling you, Latin females, when they see their girlfriends, they scream, too.
They don't.
Yeah, they do.
Hell no, they don't. I'm around them all the time. They don't do it. Get a white girl in there. And I'm just saying, maybe it's not hindering you from getting laid, but it was just an observation.
I went to Pound Town recently.
Oh, really? Tell us about it.
Tell us about the last time I Pound Town. No.
Break down. Pound Town.
You know what? It was my birthday and I was a little drunk.
Oh, the best.
It was like menace sex. I was, like, drunk and passed out.
Yeah.
It was a good time, though. But I'm trying to think what I did. I didn't do anything that special. Although I do have a new.
Favorite sex toy. That is the.
Shoot. I'll come back to it. It's by Lilo and it's. I think it's called the Siri S A R E. It's a S I R I. It's a great sex toy to use during sex.
Oh, Speaking about white girls, though.
Oh, no. What did we ever do to you?
Oh, nothing, Nothing. We had Maggie Mayhem on the show the other day.
She's awesome.
Yeah, She's Aggie Mayhem on Twitter. She's a porn star, which she's bisexual or something like that. I fell in love with Sex Hacker.
You did?
I knew it.
She's adorable.
She's super cute. She's not like the porn stars that you see that's all tan boobs and blonde hair. Blonde hair just like, ridiculously looking. She just seemed like a normal girl, which. Those are the type of girls that make a ridiculous amount of money in porn.
They.
You know, the girl next door, she.
Had the girl next door look.
Yeah, she was totally cool. Loved her.
Loved her, too. Yeah.
I don't know. I would be afraid, like, the way that she was describing her sex life.
Oh, right. She's an open relationship with her husband.
Yeah. It's crazy, but. And she was, like, ridiculously smart, which I was intimidated by. She's like. She was breaking down how she makes circuit boards to figure out how much blood flow goes in your vagina.
I know. I didn't even know. Plasmomats or whatever.
Yeah. With her and her fiance who went to Harvard.
Like, I know they make this machine.
They're just on another level.
They're on another level of intelligence. That's true. But that's really cool. They made this thing where you can monitor what the orgasm looks like for a male and a female blood flow. And she was explaining it in ways that menace's brain froze.
I just. I can't.
But you can check out that show. You know, if you're listening to us on SiriusXM, we have got hundreds of podcasts at the sex family site. And you can check out the show with Maggie from the other day.
You can download Stitcher. That's the studio that we're in right now.
That's awesome.
Stitcher S T I T C H E R. It's a free app for your smartphone. Just download it. Search Sex with Emily. You can listen to us right on your phone.
So easy. What else you gotta do? Okay. Hello, Emily. Can't thank you and Jimmy Jane candles enough. I bought the gift set with the six candles, and we are not even through one yet. And I'm massaging and having slow sex. They are effing great candles.
Okay.
Do you know what?
What?
You gave me that Jimmy Jane candle and you're like, oh, you don't use it. You don't use it. Well, I used it the other day just to have a candle on in my.
Did you. Doesn't it smell amazing?
Yeah, I just.
You could use it as a lotion. It's amazing.
Yeah, but I didn't do anything with it. I just had it on. It smelled good.
It's amazing. So the afterglow gift set from Jimmy Jane, they have three natural massage oil candles with body brush. And let me tell you why. I was just being interviewed yesterday by someone for about a sex article that they're asking me for advice, how couples can keep it interesting. And the thing about massage candles, if you've never used one, they burn cooler than regular candles. So the wax, you can pour it on your partner's body and it doesn't turn waxy. It turns into this. The most delicious massage oil you've ever smelled. And it smells just like the candle. And it's not messy. Men's thinks everything's messy. It soaks into your skin and you drip it over your partner and you give them massage. And it's just a hot thing to do to spice up your sex life. And if you want to go buy one, you just go to jimmyjane.com, use spring code spring for $25 off your purchase if you want to get a Jimmy Jane candle. So I am obsessed with them. I feel like they should be. Like they should name one after you.
It's no joke because you actually been talking about the Jimmy Jane candle for years, ever since I've known you.
Yeah, I love them. I need more. So they're great. So check those out. And it's a great way to spice up your life. Sex life. Okay. Hamley. Love the show. I listen to it whenever I have any spare time, which is limited as I lead hiking tours around the US and I'm constantly on the move. My question relates to my work, actually. I'm leading a five week tour through the southwest right now, driving a van filled with 12 foreign travelers. Two weeks into the trip, one of my passengers, a 42 year old lesbian from Germany, confided in me that she wants to spend ze nights with me. Yeah, I told her I was flattered, but straight. But she kept coming onto me and leaving me presents in the van. I have to put up with three more weeks of this. She has a partner back home in Germany and I have a feeling she's going to snap soon and ruin the trip for everyone. How do I turn down her vans without causing tension for the next 20 days? Van driving Vixen, Iowa so this is a woman who's being hit on. Okay, got it. So I thought it was a man initially emailing and saying the woman hit, but it doesn't matter either way. This is your job. You could tell her that you don't hook up with your passengers with the people who are participating in your trips. You could tell her that you are just not interested and just be very clear. Like, I don't mix business and pleasure. And I mean you just gotta be straight and you can't be flirty and you can't lead her on. Cause it sounds like you're afraid she's gonna explode and be dangerous. You just gotta be straight and not give her any flirtation. Like you might not even realize that you're doing it, but just be like, I'm straight. Or tell her. Tell her that you're dating someone. Doesn't matter. But just. I would just say that you've got to just be clear and on message and just don't give in just cause she's on your tour.
Or, you know, just take a couple tequila shots and try it out and.
See what she thinks. She's not into it. She's a vixen. She's a van driving vixen in Iow. And yeah, she might be into it. And the truth is, I mean, if she was into it, she would probably tap it.
I can't go back to Iowa. Wanted there.
Yeah, that's right. For a speeding ticket, right? You never paid that ticket. No, honey, you got to pay those tickets.
But when you're rich and famous, you can loan me some money to pay for that. I will.
I promise I will pay. I'm gonna. When I'm rich and famous, you'll be rich and famous.
Take care of all my legal troubles. People are. We didn't even talk about this on the show. But let's just bring it up one more time because I'm getting tweets right now as we speak.
You're tweeting.
Okay, there's a commercial, a promo for the TV show that you're gonna be on misadvised. We've already went over this on Bravo, June 18th. Watch it, everybody. But there's a promo where you and I are kissing and people are tweeting. I know, like, tweeting like crazy. But do you know what? There's some tweets.
That will feed your ego, which you love.
Tell me.
There's people between. Oh, I saw Menace making out with some hot chick on Bravo.
Oh, good.
Oh, see how you lit. See how you just lit up?
And I'm not gonna tell you.
Everybody, she's like, so happy. She. That's. You know. Hey, fellas, you want to get in the pants? Just give her a couple compliments. It doesn't take that much.
I love compliments. Seriously, like, forget the roses and the chocolate. Just give me three compliments and I'll be down on my knees.
Just eats off it. But yeah, they're like, oh, I saw Menace make out with some hot chick.
That's so funny. You Just got that tweet. Yeah. Menace and I do make out, and I'm not gonna give you any backstory as to how that happened, because we are. We are co hosts of the show, and we are buddies, and we don't normally make out, and I don't know what the hell happened that day.
Yeah. A lot of tequila.
Pay attention.
Check it out.
There was no tequila. It was during the show. It was very funny. Very funny scene. Okay. That's what we got for emails from the people. From the people. Why don't we bring on our special guest?
All right.
Okay.
Omar, Omar, Omar, come on in.
Okay. Omar is my new intern. And literally day two.
Oh, day two, you already have him on the show?
Oh, yeah.
Day two, he's on the show. And I thought because he's bringing so many interesting topics up to the show, and this is something that we've been wanting to talk about. So, Omar, tell us, okay, how do you. How are you sexually oriented?
I'm gay.
Gay. Okay.
Just straight up.
See?
See? Because Emily always brings up somebody that's like, so, are you gay? They're like, no, I'm. There's, like, so many different.
Maggie. I'm. As a sex hacker.
Oh. I'm not gay. I'm a sex hacker. So I don't really identify with just being a lesbian. And I'm like, what?
What?
Who do you sleep with?
Right.
No. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So Omar sleeps with men.
Right.
How long have you. Can we get a little backstory? Sorry, Backstory?
Yeah.
How long have you had it out there that you're.
Since 16. But I always knew, like, I was. I was in questioning for the longest, but 16 is, like, when I fully came out.
Yeah. And how'd that go over?
It went well.
It went good.
I had a lot of people supporting me. I didn't have a lot of hardships.
Yeah, that's good.
And I think it's. It's just more and more these days, people that come out are not having as hard of a time. Believe me, I know there's a lot of people that have a.
Like, it still happens. Like, the whole bullying.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
It still happened. Like, the whole stigma. The stigma against it. But I feel like the gay is becoming more of a trend now, so it's like. It's more accepting.
Yeah, yeah. Because my buddy is. My buddy came out and he. We're like, dude, why don't you just tell us? Like, so much. Like, no one cares. Like, okay, great. Yeah. You're gay.
We live in San Francisco Too.
Yeah.
So it's very different here because we are so accepting. I'm like, really? It's still an issue, but of course it's an issue and people have problems with it, but. So I'm glad you had a good experience, Omar.
So then when did you have your first experience?
My first sexual experience?
Yeah. After. Was it before coming out or.
It was before coming out. It was really before coming out on the under.
Yes.
How'd that go, DL? It went bad.
Yeah.
What happened?
It went bad because I'm a bottom.
Okay.
And so my first experience, like, I'm inexperienced, so I don't know, like, the preparations, the do's and don'ts and stuff like that comes along with bottoming. And so my first experience, like, I had an accident.
Yeah.
And so what I mean by accident was like, I pooed.
Yeah.
Right, right. Which is, like, everyone's biggest fear about email sex. Yeah.
Yeah. And it was, like, so embarrassing. I didn't do it for, like, two years. After that, I transitioned.
Well, that's why he's here is to give good anal sex tips and oral sex tips. But, yeah, because you should empty yourself. Right. You learned that. So it was a bad experience. It wasn't a bad experience.
It was a bad experience.
You waited two years to have sex again?
Yes, I was so. I'm so scared.
I know I did.
Wow. Did you read up after that? Like, what to do?
I know. I just started being more out with my. Started hanging out with more gay people, getting gay friends.
And they give you advice?
They give me a lot of advice.
So we are gonna. I think this is a little anal sex 101 tip segment here. Anal sex 101. So how would you then prepare?
Prepare preparation. I would say the first thing, you have to be mentally ready for that and know your sexual partner. It's not something that you just spontaneously do. I feel like you want to know the person you're having anal sex with. B. I feel like being in a relationship with them is not like somebody you just do, like on a first date, second date, third date, third date.
Something that you write.
Yeah. It's very intimate to me.
And this is for gay or straight, too.
Yeah, gay or straight or whatever. But I feel like the first thing you want to do is be mentally ready. The second thing you want to do is also be thoroughly clean down there. Because now.
How's that?
How do you do that? How do you make sure you're thoroughly clean?
Well, me personally, what I do, I drink apple juice.
Oh, okay.
I Drink apple juice to make sure I use the bathroom two hours prior before anal sex, because I feel like it cleans out your system. You don't have to think about it, worry about it while you're having anal sex. And so this is a good conscience to have.
Right?
And then y' all should want to be shaved down there. I feel like everything just, like. Just your whole butt. Just your whole butt.
How do you shave your butt?
How do you shave it?
I use clippers. Like hair clippers?
Yeah, but okay, maybe I don't want to know, though.
You want to know, like, how?
Like, how do I see? How do I look?
How do you shave your own butt?
It's a whole project. It's a whole project.
There's, like, a lot of mirrors involved.
Yes.
I commit one day of fully grooming.
Wow.
Nice.
Nice. I commit one day of fully grooming down there. And so I use the bathroom mirror, and then I get my full length mirror and I hold it in my left hand. I have my clippers in my right hand, and I like, try to get. Make sure I get everything.
Wow.
You waxed?
I waxed before. I didn't like it.
You didn't like it?
I didn't like it either.
It hurt.
It was like the most painful thing I ever experienced besides anal.
Yeah. Emily made me do it one time. Never again, ever in my life will I ever.
Do you know that I'm posting that show?
Yeah.
No, that's not gonna happen.
I didn't release it.
I had. Menace, we had a bikini waxer in this.
I'm calling your brother to be my lawyer and not get that posted.
And Menace, I had. I said, well, men get wax, women get wax. So we had a male and female wax see who could take the pain. Menace had his pubic hair wax. Not your butt, though.
Oh, your pubic hair.
Yeah, yeah.
And he was, like, in pain and he had bumps and he wasn't happy.
It was terrible.
They said, like, the best thing to do with waxing is shaven before. Like, with some clippers. Then go get it wagged. Yeah, maybe the longer it. The longer it is, the more painful.
Let's do it again. Menace. So it's not as bad of a experience.
Maybe I can get my butt hairs, like, threaded. You know, the threading that hurts worse.
Really? I just read it.
Well, I heard it hurts. I heard it hurts, but it probably does a better job.
Yeah, it's more precise.
Yeah, yeah, but you can't thread your own butt. You need someone else to thread.
Yeah, I Go to the threading spot. I'm like. And I turn over, I go, yes, the butt, please.
Yeah, that's probably happened. But threading is this process that they use to remove hair. They take a piece of thread and I do it on my eyebrows. Yeah, yeah. So you could do it on your butt, but that'd be kind of awkward. Okay, so what's next? So you drink apple juice to clean out your system. Because this is again, tips. Anal sex for tips for men, women, anyone, to have sexual.
It's for general. If anybody wants to have anal sex, gay, straight, trans, which is a big deal.
Listen, listen, straight guys, you all know you want to try anal sex.
A lot of straight guys do. Yeah, they do, but they don't ask friends. And they always come up to me, like, how do I get my girlfriend to do anal sex?
And I say, tequila.
Now what do you say? Don't say that. Menace. Menace. That is not the answer. What do you say?
I just tell them, like, it mainly starts with foreplay.
Exactly.
Just foreplay. Just make sure she.
A pinky goes in there first.
A pinky first?
Yeah. Fingering? Yeah, you want to start with fingering. Loosen up that area. Is this mainly foreplay? Make sure the anal place is very wet and moisturized. Keep it very wet. Lubrication and condoms. Always safe sex.
Always safe sex. Always. Lots of lubrication. We cannot emphasize the importance of lube.
Lots of lubrication. Like lube.
Lube.
Lube. Lube. Lube.
Lube. Lube. Lube. You can never. For too much lube.
You ever see one of those gas trucks that go by, like, full of gas, just like that much lube?
Right, like one of those big gas trucks.
Yeah.
Okay, so what else. What is next? So then you start having anal sex. And then you. How do you start? You got like.
Once you start, it's like you can't. Like the. Just. You just can't pound it. I'll go to pound town.
You can't do that.
Straight up, pound town, everybody. That's what women want you just to just pound it right away for the first time. They're gonna enjoy it.
No pound town for anal.
No pound town for anal. Slow.
You have to go really slow, very slow and steady. Like when you first, like, you want to just let the penis ease its way in, right? Like you don't want to rush it or nothing. Just ease its way in.
And guys, we just want to force it in because we're like, oh, my God, we're going to get it in that's why it doesn't work out.
That's why Omar's telling us what to do. Slowly.
Just forcing it is very painful. And it's like the receiver is gonna have, like, a bad experience.
Right, Exactly. And then we do it again. So what do you do? You go slow.
You go slow.
Tip in.
And then. And as you going in, like, kiss her on her back. Like, whisper stuff in her ear. Just, like, massage her back. Just loosen her up. Just make her feel comfortable and relaxed.
Right.
Cause, like, that part is very sensitive. You're very tense down here.
Yeah.
So you wanna be.
You have to relax your anus. Right?
Right.
Okay.
And then after that, once the penis has fully entered in, a good thing to do is take it out and lube up the area once more. And then put it in.
Okay.
Put it back in.
Great advice. Lots of lube. Lots of lube. And move slow. Check in with your partner.
What about. Are we gonna switch to fellatio?
Yeah, we switch to fellatio tips.
Fellatio.
Oh.
You can take a sip real quick. Now, this is a debate we already talked about, but if people are just tuning in right now on xm, I've been saying for years on this show that.
I'm a straight male and Emily's straight, but she always claims, like, oh, yeah, I'm gonna go to this seminar where this woman is gonna teach all these other women on how to do fellatio and stuff like that. I'm like, no, you should go to a seminar where a gay man is teaching women how to give fellatio. Because a gay man has a penis and he knows what feels good.
Right.
And now we have a gay man in the studio.
Okay.
That's gonna tell us about fellatio.
Fellatio. What are your. What's your top fellatio tips to teach women? To teach women or men.
Whoever.
Listen. Whoever wants to get a penis in their mouth. Yeah. If you want to put a penis in your mouth, listen up. What should you do?
I'll say the first thing is make sure you keep it wet. A lot of spit. You could spit on it. You could deep throat it. Just make sure it's wet. Second thing is no teeth.
No teeth. Right. Teeth is a no. No.
Yeah.
And third thing is a lot of noise. Like, a lot.
What do you mean by that? A lot of noise?
Noise of the mouth. Like, a lot of. Like that. The. I don't know, like slippery. Like the slight. Like the.
Because it's hot. Right. To hear the sound that someone's making it's very sexy.
Okay, now, should I tell her to take her dentures out or should I have her leave them in?
She's old.
But what else? There are some other things that you surprised me because we were talking about this in the way over, and he said no hands.
Yeah, no hands.
What? I like Steve. Amanda, you've had oral sex performed on you, I'm assuming.
Yeah.
Do you like hands this last week.
For the first time? Yeah. No, I like. You don't like the hand job?
The hand job in like. Yeah, that's one of them. That's like another, like, oral sex position or whatever you want to call it.
So what are you talking about with no hands?
No hands, like, once it's fully, like, ejaculated, like, a lot of. Well, me personally, I like it with no hands because I just feel like it gives you more access.
It gives you more access to deep throat.
Okay.
And so, like, with hands, it's like you kind of like, stopping at a certain point.
Right, right. That's true. So you love deep throat.
Yeah.
Do all guys love it? Because my interns have been asking me too. The female interns, they're like, why are guys obsessed with deep thro?
Like, they just want to know how far it can go in. It's not like it doesn't really do anything right for them.
No, it doesn't feel better. It feels good, though.
It feels good. It just feels good. It's more like pleasurable for the guy.
Right.
So.
Right. Okay. Okay. Well, this is something else that I wanted to bring in here. I've got these. Okay, so let's say if you are listening and you perform oral sex, man or woman, and sometimes you might, you know, you might not love the taste of semen or the taste down there. And this is all. You can also use this when you're performing oral sex, sex on a woman. But it's called Masque Sexual Flavors. It's M A S Q U E. And their website is actually sexualflavors.com, i believe. Or you just look up masque M A S Q U E. And what you gotta do is. They're these list. They're like Listerine strips, basically. Aren't they cute?
They're very cute. They come in, like, nice packaging.
Beautiful packaging. It's your mask dot com. Y O U R M A S Q U E dot com. And they come in mango.
Mango.
There's chocolate, strawberry and.
Mango chocolate strawberries that we got here. And then what's that one in your hand? Watermelon. Oh, watermelon's amazing. So they're all taste really good. You put your mouth and lasts for 15 minutes. So I think we should all take one right now.
I'll try the strawberry.
Try the strawberry. I'm going to try the mango. So if you. This is your issue. It masks sexual flavors. And I'm not saying that sexual flavors are bad. You might love sexual flavors. I like sexual flavors. But there's. I know that, for example, there's a lot of women who don't like to perform oral sex because they don't like the taste of semen. So that is your prerogative. You don't like semen, that's fine. You could try a mask strip. So Menace is trying one, too. And aren't they cute packaging? Look, I'm showing it to you.
Very well done.
Very well done.
Very classy.
Okay. I'm just ripping it open.
Like, I'm, like, having.
Like, I can't.
Oh, yeah. Okay.
We're opening with our mouth and we're trying it. So it's just another alternative. A lot of people say they get married and their partner starts. Stops performing oral sex, maybe. Or they have issues with it, with the flavor.
Okay. They don't want to do it no more. They got you locked in. They got your paper.
I'm having a smoothie.
They got the codes, so they don't need.
Hold on.
We're all opening them right now. Which are.
All right.
Sound good? This is good radio.
Yeah, hilarious. All right.
Taste it.
Okay, now what? What? Do you. Do you not mind the taste of semen? I don't know what it tastes like.
How do you feel about the taste of semen?
I don't. Personally, I don't like the taste of semen.
No?
No.
Okay, so maybe you are the perfect mass candidate. I'm putting on my tongue. So this is mango.
It's like minty. It's kind of like. It's minty mango.
Minty mango.
I'm like, having, like, the.
Oh, I see what's going on. Open. You have to. You have. It opens like this. See, we're dumb.
Oh, duh.
All right. There you go. Sorry. Anyways.
Anyway. So what else? What else? With fellatio. So I always say same thing. Keep it wet. Enthusiasm is very important. Women, men, got to be into it. Even if you don't want to be down there, act like you want to be down there or, you know, or don't do it. But don't you think that enthusiasm is important?
It is, yes.
Like, you don't want to seem bored while doing hands.
No, you don't be like, oh, God.
That'S like the most complete turn off.
I know. What do you think about hand jobs?
Hand jobs. I love hand jobs. Good hand jobs. I like the best.
I know, I agree.
But not with a dry hand.
No lube, always. I think the theme of today's show is like, lube. Lube. Lube. Like, you gotta use lube all the time. Yeah.
You love handjobs. Why? Because you're getting hand jobs by another man that understands how to give a hand job. That's why we have a fight.
Magnus and I have been having a fight for 10 years about hand jobs, about hand jobs.
Because a woman can't give a hand job to a man as good as a man can give a hand job to himself. And Emily's like, oh, no, no, no.
I disagree, because you don't have.
I like, I couldn't. I couldn't.
But it's different. It's. You got it. You got the strawberry.
Okay.
That's the strawberry one, huh?
Yeah.
We're playing with mask strips. I couldn't.
Like, they finger you better than you probably can finger yourself.
Yes, you could.
There's no way.
Yes, you could.
I'm just saying that the hand is.
It tastes good.
It tastes good, huh?
It tastes good.
It's like minty strawberry, right?
It's like mint. It, like, sticks at the top of your mouth.
Yep. And then it masks the taste of. So next time you're performing oral, you gotta try it.
I have to try this.
I know. I love them. Okay, so the thing is, is that the hand job debate. So what I always say is that hand jobs, sort of like. I feel like they don't happen that much. Like, you go right to fellatio. But a hand job, a woman giving man hand job, or a man, whoever giving a hand job. Yes. You know how to do it because you have a hand and you know your penis. But it's just a nice little mixture. It's like a nice thing to throw in a nice little extra. Extra something that you could do. Use lots of lube and. And give him a hand job. Like, I'm not saying that I'm doing it better than you. It's just something different.
Perhaps hand jobs are much better done by the opposite person. Yeah, it's like. It's something I love. Omar, I hate.
Like, Omar's on my side.
I hate doing my own hand jobs.
Hand jobs by a man who understands how the hand jobs work.
But I understand how it doesn't back.
Up the argument at all.
No, it does. It does.
It doesn't.
Mutual masturbation is a great tip for couples to do. To do mutual masturbation because you can learn what your partner likes and then you can give him a hand job.
She's not listening to the facts right now.
That's all I'm saying. I'm listening to the facts.
But hand jobs, I feel like hand jobs are more like when you're 14.
But that's why I wanna bring him back if this all started, because I was gonna start a movie when you're.
Too afraid to give fellatio.
I was gonna put handjobs on the ballot, actually, and have, like, bring back handjobs to the American.
I hope you don't lose too much money on that campaign.
Yeah, I probably will. So that's what we like. That's good. Okay. We can also get into our. Anything else about. Anything else about oral sex. Any other tips come to mind?
How do you talk somebody into.
Oh, how do you talk somebody into oral sex? That's a good one.
Because we've also got another topic here that we can get over.
That's the number one question, guys. You want to know, how do you.
Talk them into giving oral sex?
How do you talk somebody into oral sex? What do you think, Emily?
I think that you talk. I mean, I don't think that you talk someone into them. I think that you perform oral sex on her first or him first. And then.
So for your example, menace, for your question. I think that you get what you give. What comes around, goes around. You go down on her. She might go down on you. Or you could say, might be really nice. I'd love for you to put your mouth around my penis, but I feel like you can't push her head down there ever. Never do the head push. The head push is a friggin nightmare. And I had that. Like, I thought that was for high school kids or something. But like, I had a guy a few years ago, which we brought up on the show, he did the head push. I was, I was. I was shocked. My mouth was agape. I was like, I'm leaving this room. Like, you're pushing my.
Yeah, like the head.
I'll be a penis.
The hand push, the head push. I don't get that. Like, I don't do that when I'm receiving head. Like, I don't.
No. I'm like, I know that you have a penis and it's probably hard and I know the Option's there. I don't need. You don't need to push my head.
I need my extra hand to check Twitter and sex. Like, I don't need to push down on the head.
Menace is on Twitter. Menace tweets through sex. You know, people, like, do live tweeting, like baseball games. Menace likes tweets during sex.
I've tweeted in text while receiving fellatio.
I think that's hot.
You do?
I think it's hot. Like, I'm. I like quirky, like weird things like that.
Oh, my God.
Roll. You know what I'm saying?
Menace once called me when he was having sex.
I did that, too.
Oh, no, I don't like that. I'm almost too far.
I'm a multitasker.
I was like, hey, I'm having sex right now. Because I think. I don't remember why you were like.
Saying for, like, I don't know. He just kept on getting on me on how. Saying that I thought he wasn't getting late.
And then he called me. He's like, I'm having sex right now. I'm like, okay, I believe you. And then I'm driving along. It was like Saturday night at 11. I'm like, okay. And then I hear moans. I'm like, I don't want to listen to Menace having sex.
Yeah, she does.
Yeah, I get off on that.
She recorded it.
But I think a good way to lead somebody into doing oral sex is just kind of like let your body do the talking.
Yeah. Or, you know, throw hundred dollar bills at them.
Or that.
If you're in a relationship with someone, let's just say the same. Create a scenario here that you're dating someone and you've been together a long time and they've never performed, let's say, fellatio on you. I would say that if it's been a few months and something that you really like, that you bring it up. And you don't bring it up in the bedroom, you bring it up the next morning, or you bring it up at night and you're like, you know, it'd be really great. I love oral sex. Or maybe you've been. I mean, but if you've never gone down on your partner and you're expecting them to go down on you, that might not happen. But if you're constantly going down on your partner and you're not getting it returned, I would say you can have time for a chat. You should always ask for what you want. Maybe bed.
Look, I'm telling you this Right now, though, if I'm dating a chick for a couple months and we're having sex and she hasn't given me fellatio, that means she's not into fellatio. There's no way where I'm just gonna.
That's true. Some women are not into it, but.
Maybe she had a way that a woman that. There's no way that a woman that's in deflatio would not give you.
Has that ever happened to you?
Has that ever happened to you that you've been with a woman for months or you wouldn't stay that long?
No, I've been with women that are like, oh, I'm not into play show, and then they end up doing it anyways, or, oh, we just don't date long enough.
Oh, yeah. You're like, I'm done. Well, I've been with men who don't like oral sex, and that's. You know, I've been with them once.
If I really love. If I really love, loved, love.
I had that experience. I've dated a guy that didn't like. Or sex.
He didn't like receiving it or giving it.
He didn't like receiving it or giving it.
You dumped him. Yeah, dump them. I mean, like, that's so. To me, so core and so primal. Like, I have to be with the guy, but those are the guys. I'm always like, you don't like the vagina? Like, you really don't like my vagina. Like, you want to stick your penis in something, but the fact that you don't want to get in there and get messy. Nothing wrong with you, but you just don't like the vagina. You don't want it. It's. You're not my guy.
Right.
You know, so I get it.
Yeah. But no, I'm saying if I really, really loved someone and they're not into it, then I'll just have to deal with it. I would. I wouldn't, like.
You wouldn't be brought.
If I loved them.
Would you marry. Would you marry a woman who would not perform oral sex on you? Would that be a deal breaker?
If I'm totally in love with them, yeah. But if I'm just dating them, then. Nah.
See, I couldn't marry someone who wouldn't perform oral sex.
Hit the dough.
I would be like, you're done. I'm like, you know, oral sex. Like, I could. I couldn't. Because that would mean that I'm committing to life, to not having oral sex. Do we have time?
Yeah, but it's not like you'd ever get married to somebody that you wouldn't be able to have sex with other people.
Menace, we don't know what my future's gonna look like. He thinks I wanna marry somebody.
I have the crystal ball in my hand and I. I see it, Emily.
He thinks that I want to marry somebody who does not want. Who will allow me to have sex with other people, but that I don't want him to have sex. That's not true. I would want him to have sex with other people as well. We'll see what happens with that. Hey. Hey. Okay, well, we've got some online dating tips, too.
All right. What are they?
Okay, let's go from anal to online dating.
Can I say something real quick about online dating? Because I'm sure it's not in the there.
How do you know?
I just. I just.
Go ahead.
They never bring it up. I am not gonna date you if you post self portraits every five minutes. Okay, I'm not gonna do it. I'm not gonna date you. If I'm dating you and then you eventually are posting self portraits every five minutes, I'm gonna dump your ass on Facebook, you mean? I'm sorry. Just like. No.
On any online Instagram.
It's like, it's an epidemic. I think it's just women looking for attention. And it's. I know women that are like, on, like, Instagram, they say, I met my soulmate. I'm with the person that I love. Then why the f. Are you posting self portraits of yourself?
I know it's sort of. Sort of an obsession.
Attention from other people.
Men do it, too, though. The gay community. Remember when Oscar was on the show?
Yeah.
On Instagram. I got on my Instagram.
Yeah.
And all my gay friends. I see self portraits, self portrait, self portrait. I'm like, I just stopped following them.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Sometimes I stopped following them.
Menace. Just post pictures of tacos and I. I'm gonna stop following you guys.
I masturbate through those.
No, but I would say that there was a guy, Oscar, on the show, and he was talking about this trend within the gay community that they are using Instagram as, and they're just posting, like, self portrait, self portrait, penis pic photos, everything, right. To date. So it's kind of in the gay community.
It's like a new online dating.
Have you been using it for that at all?
I don't use Instagram for that.
No. No.
You know what I clicked in my head? I was like, how do they even use this as a Dating tool. Like, how do you know the guys are gay and stuff like that? I just figured out how they do it.
How?
Like, okay, let's say you're out in the Castro, right?
Right.
You're at a club or whatever. You just take a picture of yourself. You check in at that place, then you can just click location and you can see all the photos that are taken at the location. And if you see some hot guy that's at a gay club, you know.
They'Re in the Castro district, that they're.
No, I'm just saying if you're like at a gay club or a gay bar and you see a guy with a location like, oh, that guy. I'm gonna start following him. That how they hook up. Because I couldn't figure it out.
Couldn't figure it out.
I know now that's crazy.
I never thought about it, but it.
Is sort of an epidemic. I know what you're saying. I know a lot of women and men who are constantly posting photos of themselves. And it is sort of this ego, me, me, me, look at me, look at me, look at me. Culture that we're in. And some guys might be totally turned on by that and be like, she's so hot, he's so hot. I love the pictures, love that. But you find it annoying.
I find it annoying as well.
Yeah, I do too.
Totes.
I don't post enough pictures of myself.
And the dudes that are with their shirts off looking in the mirror.
Bad.
Like, dude, don't you look like a douchebag. I don't even know how many. I've never met a chick. Maybe I just don't hang out with chicks that are into that kind of thing that think that's cool. Like a guy with a shirt off in the mirror.
I don't think that's cool. So some popular online. We're just trying to do a little bit of this here.
Yeah, yeah.
Popular online dating sites. Eharmony. We went through the popular ones because we want to kind of break it down because they say like two out of every five relationships now start on online right now. Or maybe it's even higher than that. Eharmony is like the most popular site. It's for a mixture of people. It mainly tracks serious relationship minded individuals. Members can only see other members that they match. With secure calling, you're able to call another member. It costs 59.95amonth for one month, 39.95 for three months.
That means people are really serious though. That's good.
Yeah. Those are like, for, like, serious relationships.
Kind of like that, though. Like, if you're looking for a serious relationship, then this is. That would be the site for you it relies on. So the deal with eharmony is it relies on the compatibility, matchmaking, and pairs people based on a detailed questionnaire that members fill out upon joining the site. The downside, the only fallback is that joining the site is a bit on the pricier side. But for those looking to get serious, the money may be worth it.
Yeah.
And do you know what's so funny?
What?
Because, you know, I've gone on eharmony before just for research, of course. Just to see, like, how it worked and everything like that.
I got my clitoris rub for research too, but go ahead.
Okay, well, that's you. So anyways, I type in all the information, but, you know, I would just be honest about myself and, you know, some parts I'm really like, lazy. Oh, do you like to go rock climbing and stuff like that? Hell no. Ain't on there. But then the people I got matched up were just with were just more like super lazy people.
Well, that's right. Madness. There you go.
But it's just like, I don't want to be with a super lazy person.
You want them to do the rock climbing for you?
Yeah.
Or I want them to motivate me to go do things like that.
Right. Like the things that they match you on might not necessarily be the things that you're looking for someone. Oh, you like to climb? I like to climb. Let's be together, you know?
Yeah, yeah.
Okay. So match.com similar to eHarmony, but more of a younger crowd between the ages of late 20s, 30s, 40s. It's for singles who want a lot of options. So each day members sign in. They have their daily five, which are people who selected their members by matches. Proprietary pairing technology. They have a profile pro to help spruce up your profile. It's free to browse, search and post a profile. However, it's 29.99amonth. Okay. The downside, one could easily get overwhelmed by the large amount of users. It is so popular. I have so many friends who've used Match, I don't know how.
Do not bring up a friend that got 20,000 winks.
My friend, her profile picture, she had it viewed like 260,000 times. She was on it for a while, but she like a year and a half between, she's like. And I didn't get that many emails. And it just kind of makes you feel like Seeing. I hate that.
That's my one pet peeve with online dating.
I know. I don't want to.
It's like you see all these viewers and like, no, my mailbox ain't. Doesn't look the same.
Blowing up.
And then another really popular one because we've just got a few mentioned is plenty of fish for busy. For busy professionals. This super popular one, plenty of fish. It's free to join if you're. If you're free on a particular night, you can add yourself to the list of available singles looking for a date that night.
Wow.
Then we've got OkCupid is for young people who want to have fun.
I know a lot of people.
Okay.
I just downloaded Cupid as an app.
It's a good app. People love OkCupid. That seems to be like the most like trending one right now. And I love their questions. They have a form that you fill out and they ask you really good discerning questions to match you with.
People just look out though, because I know a bunch of crazy chicks on that.
Oh, no.
Like this batish crazy that you don't get.
I think every chick is crazy.
Nah. For reals.
For reals.
Yeah.
I know that a lot of people found people on OkCupid. So we love it. So that's why we got time for today.
Wow.
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