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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that block our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them. In a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cuz my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's got to have her standards.

Oh, my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean?

Like laundry?

It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Em, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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Whitemenis.com?

You got all your information right there.

Yeah, it's all.

I've been trying to get all my information on my website, but it's just.

I like to consolidate.

I need to consolidate. That's the story of my life. I need to consolidate. So, as you know, we're doing more shows a week, and this is a show about just one topic we're picking that I think is important because it's very timely and in the news. So we're gonna tell you about how to make a sex tape with your partner if you want to, if it's something that you've been thinking about, because first I'm gonna read you a new story here. So Kendra Wilcombs. Kendra. Kendra Wilkinson, Fantasia and Montana Fishbourne deal with sex tapes differently. Tila Tequila denies she's in one. This has been a huge summer of sex tapes. There's been like, so many sex tapes coming out. Kendra Wilkinson, who is from the Playboy show.

Yeah. She was on the Girls Next Door.

Girl next door is putting her sex tape scandal behind her. She and her husband, Hank Bassett, plan for a second baby. Tila Tequila, after getting attacked at a concert, angrily denies that she'll star in a sex tape. And Fantasia. Have you heard about this? Fishbourne, which has been all over for like, two weeks. For two weeks that hers hasn't come out yet. But she's just starts kicking off her. She's like, I'm not going to try to, like, be in movies and commercials. I'm just going to make a sex tape and get famous. So there's been a lot of people doing sex tapes. It's been in the news. So I thought, you know, are you interested in making your own sex tape? Have you ever thought about it? So here's some information. How to do it. Menace, have you ever made a sex tape?

That's a yes.

I have many, but I'm not gonna release them.

You've had made many?

Yeah.

Really? Okay, so how do you do it?

It's an addiction.

Come on.

How do I do it?

Like you do it. Okay. So are you with a girl and you're like, hey, here's my camera. What do you do?

Yeah. Do you think that people would so be so standoffish about it and then they're not at all.

So most of the girls are like, bring it.

Yeah, they're down.

Wow.

Yeah. I'm very trusting because I'll never, like.

Put it in her, even if I.

Got in a fight with somebody. That's what they all say. But I've never done that. I don't mind anyone.

Here's my question about the sex tape phenomenon. Did you watch it with her after, or did you just make it and then that was hot. Making it, or did you also watch it and then that turned you on?

Nah, I've never, like, watched it with the person I made it.

Did you watch it after when you.

Oh, yeah, of course.

Really?

So you've like homemade porn?

I have a ton, but I've been already.

I have no idea.

I've slipped it in here and there.

No, you haven't.

Yes, I have.

You've never slipped it in?

Yes, I have slipped it in many times.

That sounds kind of dirty. No, Menace. Okay, that's awesome. So it says. Okay, so tell me that you agree with this. Making a porn video with your girlfriend or boyfriend is a great way to spice up your sex life. You can make the video, very elaborate and turn into a personal porn. Or simply film yourselves having a good time. The key is to have a good time with it and not to let anyone else see it. To make a porn video with your girlfriend, you'll need a video camera or cameras. A tripod. Do you use a tripod?

No, I use.

Do you hold it?

I'm very resourceful.

What do you do? You put it like, I need Menace.

Like, tell me what there's, like, TV stands you can put it on and all that kind of stuff, right?

So you just have one shot. You set it up with one shot.

One shot. But then no. Sometimes, you know, you want to get the Blair Witch Project type style right? And you pick it up.

You pick it up. Okay. Got it. And there's so many great cameras these days. You could do it with, like, a flip video camera.

I recommend the Sony Webby. It's high def.

High Def.

It's about $220.

Okay.

Pretty good.

There you go.

Yeah, it has an optical zoom.

Really? Oh. So do you zoom and all that? Of course.

Oh, God.

Can I watch some of your sex tapes? I don't think I'm going to.

No one else has watched it.

Okay. Make sure your girlfriend is completely enthusiastic about the idea. It won't be fun or sexy if she's not having a great time. Menace has not had this problem. They've all been enthusiastic.

Mm.

Okay.

I never said. I don't think I've had anybody that said no.

Are you drunk? Usually.

Oh, yeah. Of course.

It's not, like, really a sober idea, is it? Okay, plan the plot. Decide whether you want to tell a story in your porn or whether you just want to tape yourself doing the deed. If you choose to create a story, decide whether you want to write a script or ad lib the scenes with your girlfriend. Some people might want a script.

I've never even thought of that. To actually make a movie out of.

Well, now that you're pro, maybe you can make some kind of maybe.

I did go to film school.

You did go to film?

I don't know why I never even thought about that.

Yeah, exactly. We're actually gonna have a porn director on the show soon, and he made this super successful porn that's out right now. I'm not gonna. I can't remember the name of it, but it's amazing. Gotten all these rave reviews, and he's gonna come on the show and talk about it. It was like. It's like a huge orgy scene. Anyway, speaking of scripts. Okay. Choose the props and costumes. Even if you're not telling a story, you'll want to decide what you and your girlfriend will wear and whether you will use sex toys. So you probably just get naked and start filming. But you could, I mean women like you want. I would want to. If I was doing a sex tape, I'd want to make sure I look good and wear something.

Would you want to make a full on movie?

No. No, I would not make a very.

Anti sex tape anyways.

I am, I am, I am. I've never made one. I've had propos I've been propositioned to, but I never have. I just feel like I don't really want to say see myself having sex and I'd probably just be watching my butt the whole time being like really? It's shaking. I don't know, I don't think I'd want to do it, but a lot of people do. You know, my mother did.

Yeah, I know.

My mom was on the show like four years ago. You can check this video out on my website under videos and you'll. You scroll down and it's really funny. My mom like admitted on the show that she had made a sex tape because we were talking about it. That's really funny. She and my stepdad.

And let me tell you this, my sex tapes would never get released because I don't want to see any. I don't want to have other people see me naked. So you know, it's safe with me.

Okay, that's good to know.

It's totally safe.

So these girls feel safe about that?

Yes.

So it's interesting. So you guys don't watch it together, but you, what, you have like a whole library. It's like sex lives and videotape that movie. You have like a whole library of all your. Are they labeled by the girl's name?

No, no, but they're like labeled like. Oh my God, I can't believe I'm giving this away because I'm afraid like somebody will find my hard drive. So like I label them like air, like air file or something. Like you know, something where it just like. Oh, you don't want to open that because it looks like it's bad.

Exactly. So funny Menace. I had no idea. Okay, pick a location. Choose where you'll be filming the porn. Make sure the background color complements your skin tones and if there are any distracting patterns.

Lighting is important.

Lighting is huge. No lighting is huge. I've been filming a lot of videos lately for my YouTube channel. I really have you my YouTube channel. I'm clothed. I'm fully clothed for now. Who knows? But make sure the background. Yeah. Okay. Prepare the cameras. With a nightstand or dresser can hold a camera. You'll get more porn like angles. If you use a tripod, do some test shots of your girlfriend to make sure you've angled the camera the best way possible. If you access to more than one camera, you can use both. And then edit a great video on your computer.

They're editing now.

You don't edit yours now?

I can edit, but I'm just saying.

Apparently if you want to make like a serious cool porn.

I thought this is just making a sex tape.

It is, but we're giving it to you.

There are going to be sex tapes that have editing scripts and props in them.

But this is like the whole. I'm giving it. This is for the professional or the amateur now.

Okay, let's just say. Let's just say by miracle that you are going to do a sex tape. Okay, what's going to go on?

I think that I would be wearing something that I felt very sexy in. Why are you laughing at me? That I felt hot. Like maybe some lingerie. God forbid, Menace hates lingerie. But something like not cheesy, red, lacy, whatever. But like something that I felt sexy.

Now would you dance in front of the camera?

No, I don't think I would. I don't think I would. I'd have to have a few drinks and then maybe I would, but.

Would you talk into the camera?

No, but I talk during sex sometimes.

Would you say, do you like that, big boy?

Yeah, exactly. I call him Daddy. No, I don't. I would. I would probably just. I don't know what I would do. I would probably just have sex and, like, form oral sex and do different things and I don't know. I've never seen myself. I mean, maybe I should.

Maybe I should do a sex tape. Maybe I should watch myself and maybe I'd learn a lot and be like, oh, you know, you watch yourself. Like if you're a pro football player or something and you watch your tape back from your game and you learn a lot.

Maybe you can get one of those pens so you can write on the video screen. Like, okay, I didn't like to see exactly.

Like, maybe I could be doing things differently sexually. So maybe I should do it as an instructional video for myself.

You should.

Maybe you could shoot it.

You can.

I actually had friends that wanted me to do that, though.

They wanted you to shoot their girlfriends.

A couple and they wanted me to shoot them having sex.

And what did you say?

I said, yeah, whatever.

It never happened.

It didn't happen. They end up breaking up. But I. I don't think it's a big deal. No, I would have done it.

I mean, I've been on a porn set before and whatever. I wasn't shooting, but I was on a porn set. And it's after a while, I think.

All this like, type of stuff. I think it's funny. I would probably be laughing if.

What?

If I had to shoot that kind of.

I know how. Because it's an intimate moment and they're your. Your friends reaction. Having sex. And like there's menace, like with the camera. Yeah, that would be awkward.

I. I want to be awkward about it at all. I'd just be laughing the entire time.

Have you watched a good sex tape? Like all these celebrity sex tapes? I've never seen any of them. Which ones? No.

Well, like one of the biggest ones has been, well, Paris Hilton, but that one was terrible.

Right.

Then the Kim Kardashian got famous and that's why the Fishbourne chick wants to do it from her sex tape. Like people knew of her, but then. Yeah. And then they saw.

Why Was her sex tape super hot? She's hot.

She's super hot. And then. Then everyone got to see. And then she just got famous.

But what she. What was she doing in the sex tape?

Just being hot.

And was she having sex?

She was having sex. Yeah, she was having sex, giving oral.

She was like 19 years old.

She was doing everything.

Really?

Yeah.

Wow. And she looked hot.

Yes. Okay, so that's how she got super popular.

Got it. Maybe I should do a sex tag. I don't know. This is interesting. Okay, so. Oh, this is. You'll like this. Pop a cork. A glass of wine or tequila shot before sorobing can help you relax. But don't overindulge. Too much booze can lead to either passing out drunk or engaging in embarrassing behavior. You don't want to record.

Little tequila. Tequila is like Viagra for women. Do you ever notice that?

Or crazy juice.

It makes some women crazy.

Yeah. I know some people that they're totally fine drinking any other alcohol, but once they drink some tequila, they go insane.

Yeah, totally. They do. I can't drink. I don't like the taste of it. I mean, I'll do shots. Sometimes you gotta do patron.

The silver.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. The good stuff.

Yeah. But not.

I could do that. A few shots of that. I would for sure want to do A shot if I was doing a sexy tape. Okay, moans are fine. Lots of chatter about how your workday went. Are attempting to mimic what porn stars sound like is unnecessary, unsexy, and likely to make you cringe when you hear it later. Less talk, more action. Okay, here comes the important part. Protecting your tape from prying eyes. The safest approach is to watch the tape once and then delete it. But if you're going to keep an original, it's in your best interest to maintain possession of the tape. Store it under a lock and key with a note that says, private, please destroy in case you get hit by a car and your grieving parents come to clear out your stuff. That is so true. Like, I would die if my parents. Although my mom made one. She couldn't really talk. But if your parents saw sex tape or anybody saw sex tape, who cares?

You're dead.

Yeah, it's true. But really, you don't want that. And then it talks about the breakup. If you and your partner split up. The right thing to do is delete the tape and any copies, which we told you not to make, but burn it, stab it, run it over with your car. Just don't throw it in the trash. That's it.

Yeah. I think the guys that, you know, they're so butthurt that they broke up with their girlfriend that they put that kind of stuff on the Internet. They're just douches.

They are. I mean, it really. It's so. It's so disrespectful. Like, here's someone that you loved and you're in a relationship with and you make the sex tape and then you're like, I guess they make a million dollars, though. Like, no. Yeah. The Kim Kardashian tape.

Didn't she make about the common man?

The common man, yeah. Doesn't write. That was.

It's just not. You're just a douche if you do that.

Yeah. You know, true. But men do it all the time.

It's stupid.

I know. That's why I'd be. That's why I'd be so. I'd have to be in so. Such a trusting relationship. And this is our thing about this. Like, really don't do it on a one night stand. Don't do it with some guy or some woman you just met. Like, I think this is something that you do when you're with your partner for a while and you have a level of intimacy and trust, and it's something that you want to try to spice up your sex Life because it can spice it up. I think it can be really hot. Like, I like mirrors when I'm having sex. Like, I think it's really hot to look in mirrors if they're. And so I think that that's hot. So I can imagine watching myself having sex, maybe on video would be hot. Do you like mirrors?

Mirrors?

No. No mirrors.

No mirrors.

You don't want to look at yourself?

I don't want to look at yourself.

But don't you think it's hot looking at yourself having sex with her in the video? In the mirrors? In mirrors.

In mirrors. No, I'm good.

I'm a mirror girl. All right. Okay.

So that's.

If you want to make your own sex tape now, you know how Emily's.

Going to make one by the next time we do a show.

I'm going to make a sex tape this week. Absolutely.

Okay, good.

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