7 Dec 2025 · 63 min
Emily Morse and Menace talk sex toys, listener questions, and what actually turns people on and off. They cover weddings, media, and real stories from their audience.
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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Room eyes they call them in a bygone day. Hey Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cuz my man e here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.
The girl's got to have her standards. Oh my.
The women know about shrinkage.
Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?
Are you kidding me?
Oh my God, I feel so good.
Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.
You're listening. You. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Happy, happy day, everyone. Happy Friday. It's the weekend. You're listening to Sex with Emily. And it's a good day.
It is a good day.
And the white menace.
Hi.
Hi. How you doing? Happy Friday.
Happy Friday.
It is Happy Labor Day holiday weekend.
I know, right? I have to go to a wedding.
Who the hell I know you have a wedding. You have like eight weddings this summer. So where is it again?
It's in Oakland, California.
Okay, check this out.
Hold on. Can I. Sorry, go ahead. I just want to rant. I have to go to a wedding on Labor Day weekend, so I can't do anything right. Then next Friday, I have to fly to Southern California and have dinner for a wedding that's going to be a weekend after. Right.
Why do you have to be. It's like a really close friend or something. You have to be.
I'm part of the wedding. Okay, so Southern California, a week before the wedding, have to have a dinner in Southern California.
Right?
Fly back, work all day. And I mean work all week. Then go to Sailors Obispo the next Friday for the small intimate wedding.
Oh, my God.
So there's two weddings and then the next day. No, it's a two day wedding. Next day, have to go to Modesto, California for the big reception slash wedding.
It's like a band on tour or something. That's crazy. That's like that couple we had on Sex and the News who had weddings in like a hundred weddings in different cities. Your friends are that psychotic.
I know.
Why are they doing that? It sounds awful.
He won't give me a reason.
I don't even want one wedding, let alone, like four weddings. It just makes no sense to me.
I know. I, you know, I do this music show and then in between the songs, I've been calling up my buddy all week and saying that he has the wedding from hell. And then I've just been, like, just.
Ragging on him on the show.
On the show.
Good, good, good, good. And you're like, the best man.
Yeah. No, I'm not the best man. I'm one of the groomsmen.
Are you gonna wear a tux? You're hot. And you're not bringing a date, right?
No date.
Promise.
I don't have. No, no. I mean, there's nothing I'll tell you.
Weddings are the best place to meet someone and to get laid. I think. I think the people are open to it and people are happy and looking at love and thinking about love and thinking about banging and a little bit drunk.
No, I.
Don'T like being. I. For some reason, I always find myself a part of the wedding. So I don't like bringing people with me because I feel like I have to entertain them. Entertainment.
It's the worst feeling in the world.
It sucks because this. This last wedding that I went to, I wasn't really supposed to do anything. My buddy asked me, oh, can you videotape?
Oh, that's right at the last minute.
You can videotape some stuff. So then I go, okay, well, I'm probably gonna be video taping some stuff. I don't want to bring somebody with me, cuz I get. I'm gonna have to leave them at the table. Good thing I did that because then I ended up taking over the whole production for the wedding.
I know, I know. It's crazy, honey.
I don't.
So this right. You're going. You're. You're.
Yeah, I don't. I don't. I hate. For some reason every time I'm a part of event somewhere, I have to like, do stuff. So I can never bring some.
I will never invite you anywhere where you have to do anything.
All right?
I promise. It sounds like everyone's putting you to work, but you are coming to our. Our Sex with Emily team party on the 28th.
Yes, I'm.
That's just private. But there is going to be a party on Tuesday in San Francisco for Amy Lawrence. She's going to be a guest on our show next Tuesday from Misadvised. We were just on a Bravo television show. If you missed it, you can find it on demand or on itunes. Anyway, Amy's going to be on the show. You forgot.
Yeah. I'm gonna have you on my morning show.
Yeah. On Wednesday. On the day of the party. Right. On Wednesday, September 5th, we're having a party in San Francisco. If you want to know more, email me feedbackexthemily.com so today's show, we're gonna be. We had a contest and we wanted to know what your biggest turn on is and your biggest turnoff. And we heard from everyone on Facebook and Twitter through Sex with Emily. It's ex with Emily on Twitter. And we are gonna be talking about what. And then we have like the. The actual like top turn ons and top. What are like the top turn ons and turn offs for women? So we're gonna read that going to be reading the emails, getting into some of your deepest, darkest, most interesting sex and relationship questions. And some sex in the news. Wow. Yeah, we got it. And today's show is brought to you by Max for men. You know, we love those crazy girl products. It's crazygirlproducts.com you use coupon code EMILY25 at checkout for 25% off. And all of their stuff is like pheromone enhanced. And they have this crazy girl wannabe naked shave cream. Oh, I'm going away for the weekend. I didn't tell you. I'm going to Santa Cruz. I'm going to a group. So I just used this crazy girl wannabe naked intimate shaving cre. And it's like. Because they have Max for men balls stuff too. But it's like, it's really good for your bikini line and it conditions it. It feels good because I hopefully will be wearing bathing suit.
What are you doing in Santa Cruz?
Friend rented a house. I don't know. It's supposed to be fun, I guess. Really? Is it gonna be warm? No, it's gonna be freezing.
And I'm gonna always freezing.
I know I'm not gonna be happy.
Santa Cruz.
So our contest we're gonna get into. Oh. What I want to say about our contest is that it is sponsored by Florida online. But we're gonna get on to that in a minute. Anyway. Whatever. Santa Cruz. Not going to the boardwalk. It's like aptos, like outside of Santa Cruz.
Oh, yeah, yeah.
So it's like a house on a beach with a bunch of friends.
Great.
Gay, straight, single, married, whatever.
Is it going to be an orgy?
Not going to be an orgy. I don't have typically have orgies with my friends.
Do you know?
Were you hoping that I would say yes? That it was an orgy? Would you come if it was an orgy?
Hell no. Then I definitely would not come.
Yeah, but I. I don't like group to me. Can I be honest? It's the guy that I've been dating and it's his friends, and I agreed. But I don't like being in a house with a bunch of people.
I don't either.
I don't like it. Like, it's like we have our own room and whatever. Maybe I sound like a princess now, but I'm not.
You own your own place. I know you have your own place.
And then I just want to be in my own place. Why would I share and hear snoring and sneezing and sexing and Sexting. Having sex.
Yeah. It doesn't sound like. It's like. It's not like a travel destination or anything like that.
I don't even know how I.
It's not like you're going to. To, I don't know, New York City or Chicago or somewhere far away.
I know.
It's kind of like the place that you're going is kind of like where you go for a day or something like that.
Yeah. Not for like a long week.
Not like overnight.
Oh, no, I can't get out of it. Jesus. Okay, well, let's get into some sex.
In the news, I guess so.
Unless you got other things. Tell me, are you getting laid? What's going on? Oh, I was on the Dr. Drew show last night with Dr. Ruth and that was very. And he's got a show on hln, a talk show, a five day talk show. Five day week, which you probably know.
I know this and follow. He has. Well, he has Love Lying at Night, which is a radio show also.
Right. Where they answer sex and relationship questions, which is what we do. And we will do that. If you're listening and you're like, you haven't heard us before, you're probably like, where's the sex? We do get into sex.
We talk about sex.
This is foreplay.
It's the foreplay.
This is the foreplay, baby.
Yeah.
Follow them on Hot and Bomb.
They're really big into pumping up their Instagram, so follow them on Instagram. Loveline.
Okay.
Love life.
Nice.
But yeah, I'm really excited.
Follow me on Instagram to Sex with Emily and Menace White. Menace, go ahead.
I'm really excited that you're part of Dr. Drew's show.
I know. Have you seen it?
Yes, I have seen it. I'm a big Dr. Drew fan. He's. He could be like one of the nicest guys in the world.
He's amazing.
Can I tell you, this is something that you would never do. Not to say that you're a prima donna, but this is. So I had to go to Los Angeles once to tape something with Dr. Drew, right. For some concert, because he is on the same radio station that I am for some music stuff. So I had to go down there and tape it. And I was there with a whole camera crew of people. As we're driving to go meet Dr. Drew, there was a billboard of him on the side of a building that was over 10 stories tall. And this is just around the announcement that he was getting two television shows on top of his radio show, which when he already had another show on MTV with all the rehab. So he was like, this is. This is at a critical point where, like, almost. Almost the highest point of his career. He's like, everyone's talking about him. I'm sitting in the waiting room with the camera crew. He walks in, he goes, oh, hey, how you doing? Shakes everybody's hand saying how nice it is to meet them. And he goes, all right, you want to go tape the stuff? And we're like, yeah. He starts picking up the heavy ass camera equipment himself and starts bringing it in to the room.
That's so nice. I never did that.
Go, dude, Dr. Drew, for one. We just drove by a billboard that's 10 stories high of you, and you're like a multi millionaire. You don't need to be carrying some people's stuff.
Are you like, no, no, don't worry, Dr. Drew.
Yeah, yeah, no. But he still carried it. Anyways.
That's so nice to see you. He's not funny. Like, all the camera crews I've met, I never carried in any stuff. They probably think I'm a total ass. Like, now I feel bad, of course, because I take everything inwardly, but I'm like, I never carried.
I shamed everybody's hand from the camera crew that taped misadvised.
Well, so did I eventually, like, everybody.
Everybody on the street.
There's one person, I never knew their name. And then at the last day, I said, why don't I know your name? And he said, I wasn't allowed to talk to you. I'm not supposed to talk to the crew.
Wow.
That was his job. He was like the. Yeah, like an intern, but not an intern.
Okay.
But then we became friends at night.
I'm just saying that's how you.
You know, that's how you get a good reputation.
You get a good. Because these are the type of people that are leaking all the stuff to the. So they're gonna like, oh, yeah, she's a bitch.
I think that's really cool about Dr. Ruth. And it was awesome to be on with Dr. Ruth, who's 84.
Yeah.
And you know, I'm gonna be a doctor soon. I am going back to finishing my thing in March 2013.
It's the thing that I'm always bugging about.
I know. And I figured it out. I figured it out. So I'm going back to school. So let's get into a little bit. Sex the news. But it doesn't mean that we can't stop talking about.
No, go ahead.
Okay.
This is what People are here for.
You're here for sex. Chris Humphries sued for herpes. Did you hear this?
I heard about this this morning.
A stunning example of kicking a guy while he's down. Kayla Goldberg of LA is suing Kim Kardashian's ex Chris Humphries for allegedly giving her herpes in 2010 after a night of dancing on the Sunset Strip. Some hotel rooms goings on resulted in a diagnosis of herbies several weeks later for Goldberg, who was taking, taking Humphries to court for not disclosing his condition. Now this, this is a very interesting case. How, first of all, how does she know that it was him that gave it to her? Because it can be just dating. She could have had sex with someone the night before. She could have gotten it from that person. Like you don't know that Chris Humphries gave her herpes. You can't tell. There's not a direct line. Unless she was a virgin.
Maybe she was a virgin because it.
Doesn'T show up right away when you get herpes. Like it takes a while. Like, you know what I mean? So anyway, but that's interesting. What else, what did you read about it?
I read the same thing, that this guy, this guy just keeps on getting bad luck after bad luck.
He's not bright. Not bright. I saw like two minutes on the show of Kardashians and he's not.
I don't, I don't, I don't know if he's not bright or if he's just so aware.
That it's just above everybody's head.
No, I'm still trying to figure out. No, he's an idiot. Like, I'm sorry, he does not seem smart. He doesn't get things. He's young. He seems very young. He looks like a boy. Like, he's just. I don't like them. Okay, so kids exposed to sex on television more likely to become promiscuous. A six year study of 1200 teens has found that children who watch media with high amounts of sexual content tend to lose their virginity earlier than others. Oh no. Have more sexual partners and use condoms less than their PG13 friends. It indicates that adolescents resoundingly adopt the attitudes towards sex they see in films. And the exposure to the media increases the innate sensation seeking drive that lessons have between age 10, 15. So these, you know, everyone's always worried that sex and violence and all that's going to have an impact. And there's a saying that's direct correlation. But I mean, I don't know 1200 is a pretty significant study. I don't have the numbers here of what shows what, but a six year study that shows that they watch high sex. I guess that's what you would follow. But when we were growing up, we didn't have as much high sex. I mean now there's like sex everywhere, right?
Yeah, but I, you know, I saw porn when I was six. I knew what it was. I watched a lot of 80s movies where there was a lot of sex in it. Like Revenge of the Nerds. They had full on vaginas in it and boobs and all that kind of stuff. And I was watching that when I was a kid.
But don't you think it's different now? It's more highly sexed and more nudity everywhere and more women and even young girls at young ages are getting more.
Actually, you know what, I'll take it back because it was the nerds.
It was.
No, no, no, I take it back. Okay. So during the time when I was watching sex and, and sexual stuff on television, it wasn't glamorized as cool. Now when a chick is quote unquote out there being a slut, she's cool because she's like dating all the hot guys. She's making money for doing nothing, you know, so girls kind of see like, oh, I want to be like this chick like who, like, like, let's say even though I've met her and she's nice, I don't want to talk bad about her, but Paris Hilton is perceived as one of these types of girls, right?
Like an heiress or whatever.
Yeah. And then she dates a lot of guys, so. And then she gets to travel the world and have a bunch of nice.
She's an heiress and she has money.
Some people don't understand that.
They just think that. If they just think that when you become a certain age and you're blonde hair, long blonde hair and you get.
On television, you get to go do all this kind of stuff. So then they're like, oh, I want to be like that person. That's why Paris Hilton and all these type of girls have clothing lines. Well, the people that buy those clothing, buy those clothes want to be like that person. So you can't tell me people don't want to be like them.
Clothing lines do. Well, they do enough. Yeah, yeah, they do well.
So that's why.
What happened to Paris Hilton? You never hear about her anymore.
Well, Paris Hilton's had a rough couple months.
Why? What happened? She hasn't done anything.
Yeah, well, she Was trying to make a musical comeback because she, like, a.
Couple years ago, she never even got there. To have a comeback, you have to be that. You have to.
She had a decent. She had a record that was played on the air and it sold pretty well.
Okay.
So she tried to come back and she was dating some big dj, really well known dj, breaks up with him, and then a week later, out of nowhere is in South America trying to dj and she doesn't know how to dj, so her, like, mixer was messed up and all her stuff was off. And then you can tell, like her actual mix was pre recorded, right?
Oh, right, yeah.
And then it's like it got like shot out through the Internet like crazy and people just.
It's like lip syncing, but. But it's like dj. Because a lot of DJ faking it.
Yeah, faking it. But she had like her eq, meaning, like all the bass in the music wasn't being played, so it was just like highs. And so you can tell, like, she had no idea what she was doing. And then she tried to pretend that she was mixing, but it was at, like, at the wrong time. So this traveled all through the Internet and people are just like bashing her. And then her. Her ex boyfriend, who she just broke up with, went in an interview on like, that just totally went viral, where this interviewer was like, just pushing him to say stuff. And then he finally just cracked and just went off on Paris Hilton and said like, she had no idea what she's doing. She should have never did that. And just like totally ripped her apart. And then that went through the whole Internet.
I don't even. I missed all this.
Yeah. And then. So she hasn't been seen since.
Okay. I don't know.
You know what? We can say what we want about her. She still has millions of dollars and she's living in a mansion and driving Ferraris, Right?
She's happy. She's happy. Good for her. And all because of sex tape. Just like Kim Kardashian. So that's what the girls are learning, is to make a sex tape. Do not do it, people. If you're gonna make a sex tape on this long holiday weekend, make sure you delete it at the end on Monday, okay? Come Monday evening, delete that thing. Or, you know, make sure that you both have copies of it or that you. I would just say delete it. It's safe. But it's okay to make a sex tape, right? Menace makes them all the time. And it's totally cool. We endorse that. But. But just make sure that you're responsible because you. It' a good thing you're not going to get. Okay. What are the chances? I mean, are you that hot? Okay.
If you don't want out there, you should hold on to it.
Right? Exactly. Okay. Stripper business is booming in Tampa. No one make it rain. No one makes it rain like sexually repressed old white men. At least according to a manager at a strip club in Tampa who told TMZ the club's business has doubled ever since the RNC rolled into town. The Republican National.
Oh, nice.
Yep. The managers at Skin Tampa tells us the club has been sending its hottest girls to the RNC with cards and flyers offering free entry to anyone attending the convention. And they've got a special deal and they welcome everyone and blah, blah, blah. But I'm. That's surprising. You would think the Republicans. Although you wouldn't if you were smart and you read anything. They're the ones about the sex scandals. You know that they are the ones who are there going to the store, Republican or not.
It seems a lot lately when it comes to sex, the politicians are just morons. And then they.
Well, they.
They just. See, this is what happens.
They get the God complex. They're like, I'm a politician. I can have everything. I can make the rules. I make the laws. I'm in this powerful position and now I can do whatever I want sexually because I'm living above the normal rules that apply to society. Yeah.
And then they get caught because they're just idiots and they don't know how to cover their tracks.
Exactly.
And this is a funny thing with the Republican. I'm not national convention. I'm gonna let you know right now, I'm not into politics at all. I don't. I know nothing about them. I'm not gonna talk about them.
Okay.
Right. I do see both sides of arguments.
I'll say that that's nice, menace.
But.
Honey Boo Boo, the television show that I love, beat out the Republican. Whatever the announcements that they were doing in the ratings. The TLC show that I love.
Okay. Everyone's talking about Honey Boo Boo.
Honey Boo Boo is. It's this white trash family. I can say white trash because they call themselves white trash.
They do.
Yeah.
They're self. They are self proclaimed white trash. Okay.
Yeah. And they are hilarious because they just don't care. They don't care. And they have all like funny nicknames and stuff like that.
I. I love the baby who calls herself Honey Boo Boo.
Yeah. They the nickname for the baby is Honey Boo Boo.
And how old is she?
She's like 4 or 5.
Does she talk to camera?
Yeah. Hilarious. It's funny.
Okay, I'll watch it. I mean, everyone's talking about Honey Boo Boo.
Oh, and I found a television show that you will love. It's on hbo.
Oh, thank you. Because I've been waiting for a new television show.
You're gonna absolutely tell me.
Talk to me. What is it? What is it?
Show. It's called the Newsroom.
Oh, I've heard. That's exactly what I was thinking.
You're gonna love it. How do you know you'll love it? Because it's all. A lot of. It's all about politics. And you have. Your background is.
My background is politics.
And it's. It's. It's so good.
Okay, I can't wait.
Even though me that I know nothing about politics, it is so good.
Oh, my God.
There's a lot of sex, like, scandals going on.
I heard that. It was great. And it's its first season and it was written by.
It's already on demand.
Yeah, it is. Okay, good. I've got On Demand. I've got cable.
I think, like, Christopher Nolan looks like it. He looks.
Somebody I want to say was like. Anyway, someone who's written another television series. It was very successful on hbo.
It is good. Watch it dying. It's lots of dialogue and everybody that, you know. We are a sex show. If you want to see a show.
We do talk about sex. Yeah.
I mean, that show has some sex in it, too. And it's a lot about relationships. People that have relationships in the workspace also. It's on demand. Watch it, girls.
Girls is awesome. Girls Great. And watch Misadvised on Bravo. It's also on demand. It's also about relationships and dating.
Yeah. And Emily's in there and she's naked.
I'm naked all the time.
Well, now she makes out with a lot of guys.
I make out with a lot of weird guys, including Menace. That was weird. Okay. Wanted sex in the new style. Wanted a few good sperm. Just a few. Worldwide sperm quality is dropping. What do you think? It's because people are.
You got to run it through a filter or something.
Exactly. Global baby making seems at no want for Polish with the world population at 7 billion and rising. But in reality, sperm may be changing for the worse. And the decline has been blamed on everything from cell phones in pockets to hormones and water to fatty food in the Western diet. Evidence for drop in sperm quality and quantity has included anecdotal reports from sperm banks. And it would reject more than 80% of the sperm right now. And it used to be like a lot less than that. So whatever. So spam. They spam sperm. They don't know why. They don't know why. But you better start making some babies, Menace.
Oh, Jesus. I gotta freeze it.
Yeah. No, only women can. I don't know, maybe I can freeze their sperm. But you don't have to friggin freeze your sperm. Women have to freeze their eggs because they can't get pregnant.
What do they do with sperm? They just like.
No, men are constantly producing sperm that is viral and that can get a woman pregnant when you're 80.
But like when you donate, they freeze it, right?
Yeah, when they donate, they freeze. Yeah, that's true. But men don't have to do that because you can father a child when you're 70, which you might at this rate. Wow.
Right now you're approaching the nesting area of the Mongoose, the most dangerous blue.
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The Mongoose have been known to tear men apart at the slightest provocation.
What is that?
It's getting Hodgkins.
Is that a Jimmy Jane form three vibrator?
I told you to leave that at home.
But Mercutio, it's so perfectly designed and powerful. And my wife enjoys sex so much.
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Run.
Run. They've got me. They've got me. My God, they've.
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Okay. Dildo down the pants prompts riot police raid. A British man sparked an armed police. Why are people always well in public? A British man sparked an armed police siege after residents reported seeing him brandishing a firearm when he was in fact carrying a sex toy. Ian was reported to police by panicked neighbors who called the police claiming he had a pistol tucked in his pants. But he was carrying a dildo and they didn't say why. So they Thought it was a gone, but it was a dildo in his pants. Someone took my dildo and I want it back. Like, if you think it was like his girlfriend's dildo, he's just, like, walking around. I don't really get it, but that's the deal. Okay, we can move into some emails.
Oh, can I tell you, there's. There's another television show. It's related to this. There's another television show. I don't know when it's on. Sometimes I just catch it. It's called the Thousand Thousand Ways to Die. And it's just random ways that. There's random ways that people have died. Like, off the wall stuff. And there was this one where this guy died because he wanted it to seem like he had a huge package. So he tied a dildo around his leg, like, so tight that he cut off the circulation. And what he was at, like, a nightclub. He wanted to rub up against a chicken, against chicks and have him think that he has.
Oh, my God. And then he died.
He died because he cut off the circulation.
That is hilarious. That's sad.
How hilarious?
I mean, he's trying to make his penis look bigger in a nightclub, but he doesn't know. He's probably on drugs or something. How do you not know that something's cutting off your circulation? You're about to die?
Well, I don't know. Yeah, you could be drunk or something. You don't have to be on drugs.
Drunk or drugs.
Do you see the T shirt that I'm wearing today?
No, I was. Look, I was trying to. Pugs, not drugs. That's cute. It's a little pug.
It has a little dog on it. Where'd you get it? It says pugs, not drugs. Like a little pug dog.
I love pugs. I have to get that for my friend who has pugs.
Pugs, not drugs.
My dog just went away with her baby daddy for the weekend. I'm so relieved. No, she was with me, hopefully for good. No, she's not.
Hopefully, Forget.
It's just. I'm glad I have a baby daddy. That's all I can say. And I think every woman should have a baby daddy with her dog.
If you want to see this shirt, I have it up on my Instagram. It's White Menace.
It's really cute.
White Menace. And if you want to purchase it, it's @urbanoutfitters. Urbanoutfitters.com.
You went to Urban Outfitters and bought it?
Yeah.
You walked over to the Urban Outfitters and Bought a shirt.
Yeah, pugs, not drugs. I haven't had time to do laundry, so I had to buy.
Seriously, you're one of those dudes. You got to make guys do that stuff. I know. Guys do that stuff all the time. So you're listening to Staggers with Emily, and we are you. We have hundreds of episodes you can easily listen to on our website and itunes through Stitcher, which is an amazing app. You can stream S T I T C H E R. You can download it for any smartphone or your iPad. And you can easily listen to the Sex with Emily podcast. We've got hundreds of them for you to listen to.
It's free. Free, too. And then you just type in sex and it pops right up.
Exactly.
Check this out. Also, every Tuesday, west coast time, 6pm or maybe 6:15 now. I don't know. You had a big issue, maybe 6, 10.
We're doing a video version of this show where there's five different cameras and there's actually some visuals. So last Tuesday, we did this show, and you were showing all these different visuals of sex positions.
Right.
It was crazy. You went through, like, six or seven different ones.
Exactly, because I'm always talking about them. But now you could actually see the beautiful people having sex.
Yeah. And then you shared some other videos where you. You visited some. What is it?
The Sinclair Institute.
Sinclair Institute, where people actually have sex. And you talk to the people. It was. You looked really good as a host.
That's so nice. I really appreciate that. Menace gave me a compliment. I was hosting. So Sinclair Institute, which you got to check out, just go to my website, sexemily.com. you can click on Sinclair Institute, and they make these Incredible instructional, educational DVDs for men and women to learn more about sex. And one of my interns asked me about oral sex, and so I gave him a Sinclair Institute DVD to go home and to watch over the weekend and report back to me. It's like teaching you how to perform oral sex on a woman. And so I'm gonna. He's gonna come and talk about it next week. So you could learn from a DVD how to perform oral sex. You could learn anything you want at Sinclair Institute. So if you've been sort of like, your sex life's been waning, and you're kind of like, I'm not really sure what I'm doing there. You can. They have a dvd. They've got something that you can watch on it.
So your sex life, if you want to watch the video version, the replays are at sex with emily.com but if you want to watch it live and call in again Tuesdays, 6pm West coast time, visit T radio v.com SF will be right there.
Right.
And I think the last time we did the show could have been the dirtiest show that we ever done because of you and your filthy mouth.
No, it wasn't. Was it the last one. Because I have one thing I said.
So what happened was she was showing all these different sexual positions, and then she got to.
I got the reverse car girl, the reverse cowgirl.
She got to a picture of the reverse cowgirl, and I was just cracking jokes on all these different positions. And then we got to the reverse cowgirl. And I said, that could be a little bit dangerous. And you're like, why? Because the reverse cowgirl is where the girl is not facing you, right? And her butt is, like, kind of in your face. And I said, oh, that can be kind of dangerous. And you go, why? I go, maybe she, you know, went to a taqueria that day. And then. What did you say?
I don't remember what I said. What did I say? You repeated. I'm not repeating it because I don't think I said it like how you.
Think it's on video.
Oh, damn. I hate that they record everything I say these days. I said something about her. You thought she'd go to the bathroom on you?
No, it was way dirtier.
It wasn't dirty.
Okay, we won't repeat it on here, but if you. You gotta go watch it.
Go watch it. SexEmily.com it was pretty funny. Okay, let's. We could get into some emails from the people.
I love talking to the people.
So thanks for emailing me right through my website, sex with emily.com or you can email me feedbackswithelmily.com I try to read all of your emails and answer them with great enthusiasm and information. Okay.
You answer them with ease.
By the way, I Instagram what?
You answer them with ease.
I answer them with ease. Exactly. Speaking of ease, dear Emily, what are your tips for anal sex? My boyfriend really wants to try it, and for so long I've said no, but now I feel as though it's something we could try and it could be new and different for us, but I'm scared it will hurt me or that other weird stuff could happen. I can't ask my friends because they have never done it, and I feel like I would get farther if I asked a sex expert like you. I love your podcast and the show, Ms. Advise and I was hoping you would have some tips for me if I were starting to experiment with this. Thanks, Emily. By the way, I listened to your podcast on my iPhone. Love, Brittany. Okay, Brittany. All right. She wants to get in some anal sex action.
Wow, that's weird that a woman that would be emailing about that and welcoming it.
Why is that weird? You think that most women don't want it?
No, because 99% of the emails on this subject that we get are from guys like, how do we. How do we get women into this?
She's a dream for someone. So let me tell you this, Brittany. So first of all.
Make sure you didn't have taqueria that day.
Don't make sure you didn't have taco. Make sure that you use lots of lube. So that's the first thing I always have to start with. And we've got a new sponsor that I just love their lube Nature Love and lube. And it is actually they have a lube that glows in the dark, which is amazing. But it's all made of great ingredients, and they donate 5% of all the sales to the Human Rights campaign. And they've got a special lube club pride, whatever. But it's a really great lube. So you need lots of lube. You have to start to. You can start with some fingers. It helps opening up the anus. You want to start out really, really slow and let the penis ease its way in. Now, you don't want to go. You don't want them to, like, put it right in. You have to relax. So it can be much. It's so much less painful if you don't tense up. I would definitely prepare. I would try not to eat for a few hours before and empty your bowels. And then you just wanna make sure that if you had a taco or something. And again, you just. You wanna take it really, like, all I can say is start slow. And you can also start with a finger. You don't have to start with the penis. Or you can start with a sex toy. If you want to start exploring how it just feels to have something. They make things like butt plugs. They make things like just your, like little vibrators that you can stick inside just to start to feel experience. Or your boyfriend could just use his finger. And then when you move into the penis, again, slow, lots of lube. That's what I gotta say. And you gotta relax. You should take deep breaths because you're gonna naturally tense. And you don't want to Be tense at all because that's when it's gonna hurt. You have to concentrate on relaxing. So I would say relaxing, relaxation, lubrication. And what was the other one that I said? And go slow. Slow ification.
Slow vacation. And a little tequila might not hurt.
Tequila. This is one time where I might be down with you for the alcohol, I would say, but I never recommend that you drink or anything to have a better experience.
Yeah, but medicine, maybe a nice cobble.
Waba Cabo Waebo. You love that tequila, right?
Oh, well, I have. I love a lot.
You love a lot of tequilas. You drink that tequila?
Yeah, there's one. I don't know if it's. If it's available nationally, but check your bevmo for Silver Trace Agaves. Really good.
Really good.
Put it right there with Patron.
Is that what you were drinking when you blacked out last week? When I saw you, Menace doesn't remember, but we spent last Saturday night together and he does not have any recollection.
Of it at a bar.
And I knew when I posted that picture of you on the Interweb, on Twitter and on Instagram that that was the only I knew that you would wake up the next morning and go, oh, wow, Emily. I was met up with Emily and her dog. Cause I knew you were in a blackout.
No.
Yes. Tell me that didn't happen. I'm like, I'm glad we have documentation. Okay.
I just, Yeah, I just woke up the next morning. I'm like, why am I holding a dog?
Did you not even recognize a dog? But you saw that I didn't.
No, no.
You knew my dog. Okay. Dear Emily, first off, congrats on the show. I've been trying to keep up on the radio shows and absolutely loved misadvised. I really hope there's a season two.
I really hope so too.
On Bravo. You can watch it on demand right now.
What's going on with that?
So getting to the. You know what? We haven't heard yet if there'll be a season two. We hope that there will be a season two. If you are a misadvised fan and you're listening to the show, please tweet Bravo tv, Bravo TV or bravoandy and tell them that you love Miz Advised and sex with Emily. Okay, first off, okay, congrats on the show. So getting to the point, I need some dating advice. I'm a 21 year old female who's been dating for the past year or so. Recently I've been dating this one guy who came out with a big secret that I'm just not sure about. He really wants to make me his girlfriend and I'm really debating the situation. He's 26 years old, has twin daughters from a one night stand, baby mama drama. And there was a lot of girls wanting him because he basically used to be a pimp. Girls used to pay him, pay him for him to treat them well and give them what they want. He says he quit his ways about six months ago and he just wants a girlfriend to dedicate himself to. I'll admit I do like him and he treats me well. I just feel like he comes with a lot of baggage. What should I do? Please help Melissa. Okay, Melissa, I'm not feeling great about this guy. He's 26, which is still very young and he's got twin girls and a baby mama drama and he used to be a pimp. And I want to know, I'm not going to judge him on his past, but I want to know if he's telling you he's dedicated to changing his ways and wants to be there for you, blah blah blah. But I want to know, is he changing his behavior at all? Is he doing anything different? Is he as he displayed? I mean really, like you have to see over time, like is he making efforts? Like why was he a pimp? Like what happened? I just, I want to understand this. I want him to treat you well. I understand that other girls want him and that can make you feel more attracted to the guy. You know, if you're kind of into the bad boy thing, he was a pimp and he's got baby mama drama and you're into the bad boy thing, I can understand that, but I just. You should trust your gut on this one. It sounds like you're emailing me and you ask me does he have a lot of baggage? I say yes. And I would say keep looking or keep dating and don't settle down with a 26 year old. In fact, I don't know how old are you? You don't say how old you are, but you shouldn't even settle down with anyone before you're 30. That's what I got to say. What do you think, Menace?
If he's telling you all this stuff then man.
Why do you even need an email? Like seriously, this is the thing that bugs me about women. What if he let, alright, if you really like this guy, let him have some time to get all this stuff together and then maybe pursue a relationship so you don't get sucked into all that kind of stuff.
Right.
You know, that's what I don't get where women wanted. I mean, maybe she's like, I like the bad boy typer.
Right. He quit his ways six months ago. He said six months ago he was a pimp. Six months ago.
Well, yeah, I think he needs a little more time to get his.
Like in February, he was pimping and now he wants to marry her.
Yeah.
I'm just not feeling great about it.
You know what? It's your own life.
I love a man, believe me. I want a guy to treat me well and buy me nice things, but.
Man, I just don't want to say flat out no. Which I just actually, I really do want to.
I know. And I'm not usually. Usually I'm like, well, I'll give him a chance, but I'm not feeling good about it. I read it and it was good.
I would stand at a distance, let him get all his stuff together and then pursue it.
Yeah, and I would still keep your options open. So I would still date other people and don't wait for the change.
Emily always keeps her options open.
Well, I like keeping my option open. You know, why should you put all your eggs in one basket? And this basket doesn't sound that stable there. Melissa, thanks for writing. I'm so glad you like misadvised. I love when we get new listeners from the television show Feels Good. And from Sirius XM, if you're listening on SiriusXM, it's great to be here on 165 Dreamtop. 165.
Hell yeah.
Okay. Hey, Emily. Love the show. Cue up the good work. My question is about orgasms. I can never seem to orgasm while having actual intercourse, but I, by myself, can do it just fine. What is wrong with me? And why can't I orgasm without my hand? Signed, Anonymous. Okay, the thing is, you're probably not getting enough clitoral stimulation while you're having sex. Up to 75% of women require clitoral stimulation. So there's. There's nothing wrong with you wanting to use your hand during intercourse. It's actually really common that a woman you like. If you can orgasm fine with your hand during masturbation, I'd say put your hand or your boyfriend can use his hand and you can have an orgasm. And it would be. I don't think there's any. I think people actually. When I was on Dr. Drew show last night with Dr. Ruth, someone called in with the same question and said, what is my problem? That I can't only orgasm alone. And it's like do what you do when you're masturbating with your partner. They're not supposed. Men's penises are not necessarily developed in the way to make all women have orgasms because all women are different. And so I would say there's different things you can try. You can get a vibrator. There's the We Vibe 3. It's a couple's vibrator from Good Vibrations. It's the number one couples vibrator right now. And it's really easy to use during intercourse. So visit my website, my products page if you go to Good Vibe. If you go to sexthelmg.com my products page, you can see the we vibe and the other vibrators that I recommend. It's a great couples vibrator that you can both. That you can have clitoral and G spot stimulation. I can't. It looks like a c. It goes in. It's amazing. The We Vibes. Check that out. It offers simultaneous internal and control simulation. 75% of women need their clitoris is rubbed in a certain way to have an orgasm during sex. Is everybody paying attention?
Wow, you're very passionate about that last statement.
I mean really, it's hard for women. Like it's not so friggin easy and it's not your fault, guys. But just understand that if she's got to use a vibrator during sex or she's got to use her fingers, or you got to use her fingers, your own fingers. Or you have to go down on her for an hour, fine, you might have to. It is difficult for women to have orgasms. Sometimes challenging. And it. I wish I had a penis, believe me.
What do guys get out of.
I would jack myself off all the time. They love seeing a woman turned on.
Madness doesn't get the whole feedback cycle of seeing a woman. Doesn't it make you hot to see a woman have an orgasm? Don't you think that's a turn on that you there's a woman having an orgasm in front of you? No, no, you. That really doesn't turn you on.
It's just all about you.
No, I don't know.
Oh, we're gonna be talking about your biggest turn ons and turn offs after we read your emails.
Okay, good.
Okay. I'm glad you're not answering that question. Hi, Emily. I listen to your podcast from itunes. I'm a new listener and have a question for you. I'm 27 and about to get Married to the love of my life with twin girls. I would like to know what you think about my issue today. I've been masturbating from a young age, very young age. But I think I masturbate too much. I find myself at least having. At least having sex, but also masturbate two to three times in the same day. I think and feel that my girl is threatened about it. We have an open communication and I do talk about it sometimes, but I don't want her to feel that way. I don't want to stop, but I also want to have more sex. Is there some advice you can give me, Gabrielle? Okay, Gabrielle, I don't. You're 27. And I really don't think there's anything wrong with masturbating two to three times a day. And here's the thing. This is what I have to ask you. This is how we know if it's a problem. When I can tell you that you need help. Is it interfering with your work and your day to day life? It sounds like you're holding down a job and you sound like smart guy, but it is wreaking havoc in your relationship. So that's when it's a problem. Now that's the only reason it's a problem is because your girlfriend fiance is threatened by it. And I want to know. I don't understand. But women who are threatened by men masturbating a lot of times the more sex men get, the more they want to masturbate. Um, it's just the same women who are threatened by porn. This is the way guys work. This is what happens. They masturbate. It happens. I don't think that Gabrielle, you should worry. Now you're saying you want more sex too? Like is it is three times a day enough? Are you feeling compulsive? It's when it to comes, you know, it's a problem again, when it's compulsive, you can't live without it. It's wreaking havoc on your life. And it sounds like right now your girlfriend doesn't really understand it. So that to me seems to be the only problem. I mean, do you think three times a day?
Have you ever done that three times a day?
I mean, he has to. I don't know. I don't want to label him a sex addict.
Three times a day, every day?
Sometimes.
Sometimes.
Is it seven days a week, three times a day?
Yeah.
Is it just a few days a week, three times a day?
Yeah. Sometimes you get extra horny that day.
You get horny. It's fine. I mean, I'm telling you, it's only a problem when it's a problem. But it sounds like she's threatened.
Did it say his age again?
No, he's 27.
Oh, 27. Okay, 27 three times a day. Not that bad.
It's not.
But still, when you hit, like, 30, something a little past 30 does have time.
I don't have time. I've got a house full of vibrators that I need to try out, and I don't even have time to masturbate.
Yeah, I would say not that bad.
But you don't wanna stop. And you said you also wanna have more sex, so I would say, you know, you could also go talk to a therapist about it if, you know, you said you were masturbating since a young age. I feel like you think that you have a problem, and I think that you sound totally fine. But if you wanna get it checked out or talk to a therapist about it, if it's something from childhood. I'm a big fan of people going to therapy, as you know. I would check it out, Gabrielle, but right now, I'm not gonna label you, not gonna say anything's wrong, and your girlfriend. And women need to understand that men masturbate. The more they have sex, the more they wanna masturbate because they're turned on. Sex is in their bones. It's moving. There's nothing wrong with it. You should not feel threatened by their masturbation. Now, if they are not having sex with you and only masturbating, then you can have a concern. But otherwise, I don't want to hear about it. Have you had a woman mad at you for masturbating? Menace.
I'm sure it's common, so it's fine if you have something that you have, because women are under the notion. Under believe the preconceived notion, that is. I don't know if this is where this. Where women learn this, but that. It just. It's rejection almost for a woman. It feels like, oh, you're. Oh, you'd rather have sex with yourself than with me. That's what women feel.
Yeah, but that actually got brought up in. You know, I like comparing everything to movies. The last American Pie movie, the married couple were both separately masturbating.
Right. That happens to married couples. They were separately masturbating but not having sex.
Yeah.
Yeah. And then in, what, like the eighth American Pie movie this was.
Yeah, well, the most recent one.
Was there really eight of them? There was.
Yeah, the American Pie reunion. And you saw that the movie started.
Off like that with them masturbating because they've been married separately and they had a kid probably, and they didn't want to have sex. That happens sometimes.
Couples.
You have to work at your sex life. You have to, have to, have to. You can't let it get really bad. So you're not connecting. Couples need the intimacy of being together and connecting sexually to have a healthy relationship. A relationship is not healthy if you're not having sex.
And it's so funny that the. Also in the movie, the wife says, I knew about you masturbating. All this stuff. He's like, how did you know? Because, you know, guys are stupid, right? I know this is not real life, but this would totally happen in real life, right? She's like, every time I try to go to Amazon.com it automatically start popping up Asian. Like, Asian porn or something like that.
That's hysterical. Right? Because it recommends you might like, yeah.
Guys are like.
So you got to clear your browsing history.
Yeah, man. Yeah, clear that.
Do you clear all your. But you don't share any of your computers with anyone, do you?
No, but I still clear it anyways because I'm super paranoid. Oh. Do you know what's crazy?
What?
Dude, I think my phone is hacked.
You think your phone got hacked just now?
Check this out. This has been. This has been going on for the past couple days.
I'm scared. What?
This is, like, really trippy. Like, like ghost type stuff.
Okay.
Right. So I don't know where I'll, like, look at my phone, right? And a full text message will be written. Something that I didn't even write.
It's probably the voice memos on dictating.
No, it's not even, like, a conversation I even had or anything like that. It'll say, like, okay, go with it. Fine. Whatever you want to do. I didn't ever say that. I never wrote that.
Who are you writing a text to?
It'll be like, a random person in my.
Does it send? It's already sent.
It doesn't send. It's just, like, sitting there like, it's gonna get sent.
That's scary. That's like a ghost, right?
And then today it was a full conversation written about, like, New York and meeting up in New York City at a street in. Blah, blah.
Have you googled it to see if other people are having the same issue on the.
On their phone? I haven't had time, but it started like.
And you have an iPhone started blowing my mind.
I'm like scaring the hell out.
I just got chills that I'm like, yeah, okay, we're gonna talk about the. We had a contest sponsored by Florida Online. Now Florida Online is you got F O R T A. It isn't just for people who have issues with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. It's for an enhanced sexual experience. Forta for men is a new fast acting, all natural sexual enhancement product that makes the most of your natural potential. It's 100% organic and will not lead to addiction. Once it's been consumed, an erection usually takes place within 45 minutes. There's also Forta for women which enhances desire, orgasms and overall sexual appetite. So anyway, we thank Ford Online for sponsoring our turn ons and turns offs. We heard from people on Facebook, we heard from people on Twitter. People email me. I wanted to know what's your biggest turn on, turn off. We have to pick a win or two menace. So I'm gonna read what the prize is. We're giving three people each one 10 pack of Forda for women and for men. So. So it's. Here we go, here's the submissions and then we're going to give you some real tips about what people have said their biggest turn ons and turns offs are. So you'll know if you are doing this thing, you should stop doing it. Okay, turn on. These are just some quotes from listeners. A girl I met in Vegas one week did the simplest and hottest thing, at least to me. I ended up putting my right arm around her and she put her left arm along my lower back and then weaved her left hand behind my arm and my body, placing her left hand on my forearm. I don't know why, but I loved it. That extra point of contact of intimacy got me all kinds of stoked. It's totally 100% nonsense since it's not really any sort of intimate spot on the body, but it definitely got me going. I don't even understand that. It's like some weird. Did you get that she put her arms through his. Two arms.
Yeah.
Lower back. Then weaved her left hand between my left arm and body placing her. Yeah. Okay, good. That turned him on. Okay, top turn on is hearing my husband say, I'm so hot. After being married six years, it still turns me on to hear him say those exact words. Oh, that's sweet. See, I always like to hear that I'm hot. Every single day, every moment. You need to tell the person that you are dating. That she is hot or attractive or beautiful or smart or whatever. Every single day. I used to say 10 times a day, but Menace thinks that's too excessive. But I'm telling you. Or at least every time you see her, you look beautiful. I'm so attracted.
Telling you she's gonna get bored with it and she's gonna leave your ass to somebody else.
No, she's not. She loves it. Okay, so biggest turn ons. A lot of foreplay and kissing. Said another. Another guy. Said, a woman in T shirt and no panties. These are the biggest turn ons. T shirt and no panties. What do you think about that? What's that called again?
That's a man.
What's it? When a man wears a T shirt, it's like a penis. Penis, but it's not penis.
Like an elephant. What? I don't know.
Something's shirting.
I never heard of it.
Okay, there's something when a man's wearing. Okay, my husband watching me perform.
Here's some other turn ons. If we already are in the bedroom. The sound a girl makes when she's turned on. If we're already in the bedroom. If I'm just meeting someone. Butt boobs and a sexy voice.
Mm.
When my husband kisses my neck. It's simple, but gets me every time. I agree. Why don't every guy. I don't care. Like, some random stranger could kiss my neck and I would be turned on. Like, why don't guys kiss the neck enough. Kiss her neck tonight.
Yeah. Feel free to kiss Emily's neck.
Do you like to have your neck kissed, Menace?
Yes.
Does it turn you on? Really?
All this stuff doesn't turn me on. I don't understand.
Nothing turned you on. Really?
Yeah. I mean, make the act of making out and stuff like that turns me on. But there's not, like, visuals that I'll see.
No, but what if she kisses your neck? Does that feel good?
It feels good. But then, I mean, we're gonna have to do more, you know, for me to actually get turned on.
Okay, but I just want to say then as a woman, I enjoy when man kisses my neck. And I think a lot of men, like, they're having their next. Next.
You always, like, try to break it down in single acts. Like, I need a whole, like, performance.
Okay.
You know, now you want a performance? No, that. Oh, the act of seeing a girl getting off. No, I want to be involved with the girl getting off. You know?
Okay, that's fine. You can do that. But what we're saying is, what are the moments? Like, what are some things? Like I can remember every time a guy kisses my neck, I'm like, purely like, I'm like, oh my God, that is so hot. That feels so good. That turns me on. Like in that moment, I remember that moment. Okay, more turn ons. Role playing while teasing. Like, you're not going to get any. For example, my girlfriend gave me a Brazilian the other day. She was acting like I was a stranger she wouldn't sleep with, but purposely being provocative. By the time she was done, I couldn't take it anymore.
My girlfriend gave me Brazilian. Like a Brazilian wax.
Yeah, that's lesbian couple. Yeah, that's funny that that would be part of the act.
Exactly.
I don't know who you are, but.
I'm giving you a Brazilian and you're not gonna get any. But they said teasing, so it's like, you're not gonna get any. And playing that she was acting like I was a. Do you know the stranger scenario? That role play that you can do with your partner if you want to spice things up, like you don't know each other and it's the first time you met. And I know that might sound cliche and cheesy and you've seen it in movies or whatever, you've read about it, but there is something about that unknown feeling that can reignite those butterflies or the spark that you had when you first met. So why not pretend you're strangers for a night, have a cocktail, go out, pretend you're strangers. Okay. Nothing says I love you and turns me on like a solid open palm spring slap to the ass. Throw in a little neck nibbling, and I'm on my way to a very happy place. These are all from our listeners. A sweaty man. Yum. A woman in heels and fishnet stockings. Do it for me. Turn on is a woman in a T shirt, no panties. My top. Turn on is a man who knows his way around a woman's body, enjoys it, and knows what he's doing and isn't afraid to try new things. And finally, someone who enjoys sex. Not just someone who has sex, but someone who wants me and requests acquires it. I like that. I think I want that to be the winner of the turn ons. We have three winners. We can pick someone who enjoys sex, not just someone who has sex. I think you just have sex. Menace. Do you enjoy sex? Because it never seems like you do. I do.
But the things that you try to point out. Oh, does that make you hot? I don't know, I can never agree with you because you know, I. Different strokes for different folks. You feel me? Do you understand?
I hear you, I hear you. But your strokes are just.
I like getting my, my strokes in a different way.
I hear you.
So I don't know, I, I like the Brazilian because you know, that's something we never heard before, right?
Exactly. Though that could win too.
Yeah, but you can get three winners, right?
Three winners. But no, I'm not done yet. I have to read the turn offs now. I'm done with the turn ons. Okay, so let's go to the turn offs real quick because there's not. And then we're going to get to the. What people are saying are there. Okay. Turn offs. This is from the contest keeping your socks on. Turn off. My number one turnoff, bad teeth. You can't have a semi crooked nose, eyes or a little more hair than others. But if your teeth are bad, huge game changer. So you can have a semi crook nose and eyes, but bad teeth. Game changer. Another person says if he degrades me in any way, turn off. Planning sex or the other person always wanting you to make the first move all the time.
My top turn off is someone with bo. Some people really need to use more deodorant or shower before sex. Another turn off. Stink attitude. Another turn off the thought of a golden shower.
You smell stuff though.
That's big.
We talked about that.
People always talk about that.
It was weird because.
I remembered that I was in a. I was at an event and this girl kept on asking me like it was trying to ask me something, right? And I thought she was trying to ask me if this guy doesn't wear a deodorant because I could like obviously smell him, right? Like this guy like stank, right? And eventually she got the courage to ask me. And when she was asking, trying to ask me, I said, oh, no, no, he doesn't, he doesn't, right? But at the end of the night, she was trying to ask me if he had a girlfriend, but I was, I thought she was asking me if he doesn't wear deodorant because it was.
So who was the guy? He was a friend of yours.
It was so apparent. No, it's just some guy that I know.
Okay, got it.
And I was like, what?
Oh, but does he have a girlfriend?
So then you said, yeah, because we've heard this many times before with, you know, musicians and say how, oh yeah, I get more chicks if I don't shower and things like that.
Right.
And you said there's at your, your gay gym where there's a lot of gay men. They're. They're really into this.
Yeah, they are. I mean, they don't need wear deodorant in my gym, which is really troublesome at my gym for me.
But some people, it's like a natural pheromone.
Pheromone aphrodisiac. Some people like it. So it's true. Some people do. Like that smells like homeless people. So here. Yeah, I don't love it. But you know what? There's something for everyone. They don't. They don't. There's something for everyone. So here's some turn ons from just some regular people that we think that these are some common turn ons that we found nibbling on the earlobe is like. Again, this is just from surveys that were done. A man in a suit noticing the little things. These are from what would turn women on. If the object of your affection says she likes a certain movie, then rent a DVD in the same director. If she mentions a favorite band, then makes a CD with similar songs. Noticing the little things is a huge turn off for women. We want to know that you're paying attention. I know we're talking a lot, but are you listening? Are you paying attention? Are you going to do something about it and do those little things that make us feel good? And turned on.
Also? And then some. A handyman. That's another turn on. Men fixing broken things, Light switches, toasters, clogged toilets. And a tradition that dates back to a time when men did things besides nod, point and hand other men their debit cards reverting to almost caveman. Like behavioral sex.
I agree. The guy I'm dating fixes stuff. He fixes things. He's got power tools. That's really hot.
You need it.
Okay. Common turn offs in life. Okay, so someone glued to their cell phone. Men and women say this is a big turn off. Any person who can't go two hours without checking his friends, his job or family comes across as insecure or prioritizing everything else except you.
Insecure.
You are so attached to your phone. Do you ever put it down? Do you ever have a night when you just don't look at it? Do you ever have five minutes when you don't look at it? Your mask has been on his phone the entire time.
We watch out when I'm asleep. But you're on the freaking phone the entire time.
I know, but I.
You just picked it up while you're waiting for something.
I didn't. I didn't care what you say. That's why. Yeah, okay. Being too clingy. This is a huge turn off. I think this is my number one turn off. Each person in the relationship should have his own life. If he needs you by his side every minute of the non working day, well, this guy is worse than static. I'm telling you. I cannot. It goes both ways. I do not like clinging. I don't like guys who. Where are you going? What are we doing? We're never gonna see you. Are we going out? Da da da da da da. Like, watching me and like, oh, it's driving crazy. Being too cocky or arrogant. So telling someone how much money you make or how much you've accomplished is not a turn on. On a first date, it's good to talk about what you're passionate about, but bragging about accomplishments makes you look insecure. Stop bragging, ask questions. Also, most of the big talkers are all talk, no action in reality. This is funny. This is actually a scene from Misadvised. Amy was going to be on the show next week. Do you remember when she's on the date with that guy and she's like, don't talk about your apartment that you own or your building that you own or whatever within the first date. Like, women don't want to hear what you own and what you're doing. Okay, Bad food etiquette. Guys are women who just. What?
What's the bad food etiquette?
Okay, girls typically eat slower than guys, so he should never make you feel rushed or comment about the rabbit salad you may be choosing. Or if you sway in the other direction with a burger. The hearty appetite should not be commented on. And weight, definitely a no. No. Never comment on weight. That is a no. No. But I've had guys be like, oh, I love that you're eating a steak. Like, they think that's hot. Because I eat more. I eat more than you would think for being a small woman. So that's what we got for you today. No. No confidence. On the other hand, someone who's overly self deprecating because you could be too cocky or arrogant if you have no confidence, that isn't attractive. Because confidence is like the most important thing, I think.
Do you think I have a happy middle? I like being self deprecating.
Yeah, there is a happy medium. I think I'm self deprecating, but I'm super confident. I think. I think it's. You have to be able to laugh at yourself. But I think people who don't laugh can't laugh at themselves. Like, I can't relate to them. Like, I don't even understand people who can't. Like, I could tell you a million things that you could laugh at me about. And you and I make fun of each other, but we love each other. So I think that's a great if you take yourself too seriously. Not hot, not attractive. So that's what we got for you. Today on Sex with Emily. I want to tell you a little bit about my book. It's called hot sex. Over 200 things you can try tonight. Go to sexalemly.com click on it and you can buy it. Or you can just go to Amazon. And it's two. It's a beautifully illustrated book. It's great gift.
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