SWE: V-Day & Night

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh, my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God. Feels so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com. listen to our shows, watch our videos. Join the club. Become a Friends with Benefits member, please. It's Valentine's Day. It's a great time to do that. We appreciate all of our Friends with Benefits members. We get more shows a week. You get your emails Answered right away. You get small special tlc, tender loving care from us, but you all do. So we appreciate all of our listeners. And happy Valentine's Day to everybody. It's our special Valentine's Day show. We're doing lots of fun stuff today. Hey, Menace. Happy Valentine's Day, my sweet.

Happy Valentine's Day. Sorry, I'm a little thrown off.

I was looking at by the audio. Okay. So. Yeah.

So, yeah. How's your Valentine's Day going so far?

Oh, my God, it's awesome so far. We had a little. We have cookies in the office and treats and balloons and fun stuff.

I was bringing you some cupcakes, but we were here at the Stitcher Studios. That's S T I T C H E r Download the app. And I wanted to bring them cupcakes, too, you know, because in my family, actually, Valentine's Day is, like, bigger than any because my mom and my aunt are florists, and my grandmother makes cakes and all that stuff, so I didn't realize how many staff members they had here.

But that's so sweet. They can cut them in half and whatever.

Yeah. Yeah. So I. I would have had a cupcake for you, but I just. I gave.

No.

No worries. I think you. You would think. You don't like Valentine's Day anyways.

I do like Valentine's Day.

It doesn't matter.

Do you know the woman who every morning I go to the same coffee shop, Martha's Coffee. It's my favorite coffee shop in the city. And this woman who gives me my coffee every morning, her name's Jasmine. She's awesome. She's like, why don't you like Valentine's Day? Like, apparently she listened to the show. I. I never said I didn't like Valentine's Day. I just said it's not my. I just said it's not my. It's not. I just think every day you should treat like Valentine's Day when you're in a relationship. Blah, blah, blah. I just don't like the pressure. I feel like if you're in a.

Couple, you don't like the pressure because you don't want to cook. You can't cook.

I can't cook for a guy. I can't. I never cooked in my life.

You don't want to spend any money on a guy? Because that's ridiculous.

I'd spend money if I had it on a guy. But, no, I think Valentine's Day, we're giving you lots of. This is what I decided to do today. Today's a really special show today. We are going to answer, you know, we get hundreds of thousands of emails from listeners. The email is@feedbackexwithemily.com and there are some common questions that we get asked. There are some common themes. And so I've chosen a few of those questions that we get asked, like five of them. And I'm going to give the answers to those questions. Everybody, there's some sex tips. We're going to get into some sex today, like, enough chocolates, whatever. We've talked all about foreplay and what to do on the date, but I'm going to give some serious sex tips about what people always ask about and just have it all here. Neat, wrapped up and tidy. In our Valentine's Day show, we're also going to be talking to Carol Cardoza from Lifestyles. She's from the VP of Global Communications from Lifestyles. Condoms, They've got new condoms out. We're going to talk about condoms, tips and what you should know about condoms. Just because we can talk to her for a few minutes today. And it is still not too late to join our enter our Spread the Love Sexual Emily Spread the Love Valentine's Day contest. Because we're giving away so much stuff, we're still letting people enter throughout the day. So just check out our website, sex with emily.com and click on the banner or the red banner and you'll see what to do. Tweet us, follow us, Facebook Sex with Emily.

Sweet.

So wheat.

So I have a couple stories to share.

Oh.

So.

I think that any guy who sees a hot lady on Valentine's Day should approach her if she's alone. Because I have. I have fallen into that theory that sometimes, you know, girls, beautiful women get a lot of attention, but guys are so scared, like, oh, she's way down my way out of my league. She'll never go for me. So the guys never take that extra step. Right? So just, just as a nice thing, I see one of my friends online. She's a beautiful girl, totally cool, not a bitch at all. And I go, happy Valentine's Day. And she's like, you know, you're the first person to tell me that today. And it's like, it was already, like, because she's like, on another coast already, like, really late in the day, you know?

Yeah.

So I was just thinking, I was like, man, like, a lot of guys out there are just afraid.

Exactly. They're afraid of the approach. They're afraid to approach women because they're afraid of getting shut down and being hurt. And I think you're right. Today's a great day just to walk up to any hot chick you see and say, happy Valentine's Day.

Yeah, it's do or die tonight.

Drinking. All week long, we've been talking about, like, things to do on Valentine's Day. What to do if you're single, but if you're out tonight, like, anywhere. Like, I don't care if you're at the movies, at the Laundromat, or you're, you know, at a bar. Talk to the hot chick tonight. Wish her happy Valentine's Day.

Do it, man.

Because I'm telling you, you got nothing to lose.

You got so much to gain today.

There's so many single chicks, hot chicks, normal chick, whatever. It doesn't matter if they're hot. Just there's single women out there all the time that are doing anything for Valentine's Day.

Yeah. So I decided to get somebody a Valentine's Day gift. You know the new rule. We're not going to ask who. But.

I just wanted. Just. I just wanted to do something, because I don't. Because it's a big holiday in my household again, right?

You grew up.

So I got to do something for somebody, right? So I go.

I won't take offense that it wasn't me, but go ahead.

So I go to Macy's to get something wrapped, right? Because I didn't want to spend the time wrapping, right? So I go there, and people start leaving in front of me while I'm in line, right? Then I realized that these two ladies are just taking forever. Forever. And they're just, like, chopping it up. Blah, blah, blah. I counted at least 15 people left.

Behind me because they were wrapping the gift so slowly.

So slowly, as they sees. Yeah. Taking their time, right? Then finally I get to the front, and the lady goes, okay, what kind of wrapping would you like? And I go, oh, I want a number five. Because they have them all numbered, right? She goes, okay. And then some employee comes over, interrupts.

Her and, oh, this is dry. I'm already getting. My blood's boiling.

Interrupts her and is like, oh, yeah, can you sign off this thing? So she. She walks away, signs some paper, and then she goes, so, what number did you want? I go, I want number five. She's like, oh, okay. So she turns around, and then some other employee goes, oh, you have a phone call. And then she walks over the phone and go, hold on, I gotta go. I gotta go. She's like, oh, hold on, I gotta take this call, she goes, this is my doctor. I'm like, oh my God, lady, you were right.

This is your one job is to wrap presents. Wrap my friggin presents.

Yeah. And she's like talking for days on the phone and then she finally comes back and she says again, what number did you want?

Oh, I'm crazy.

For the third effing time I could have went to jail for murder yesterday, Emily. You never saw me again.

Oh my God. So what, did you finally get it done?

Yes, I finally got it done.

That would make me insane. I can't stand when you're in a restaurant or I mean you're in a store or anything with employees and they're like on the phone or taking time or like checking their thing. You're like, hello, Hello.

Yeah. And I've worked in places where you do customer service. I've worked at grocery stores, I worked at electronic stores. Like, I've dealt with people.

Me too.

You don't do that kind of stuff.

My first job was gift wrapping in high school.

Are you serious?

Yeah. That's so funny that you're saying that. That was my first job was gift wrapping at this super fancy women's store in Michigan. And I.

So you're a good rapper.

I'm actually an amazing rapper. So when you start telling the story, I was like, you should tell me. I love wrapping presents. Like, I actually love it. I've tons of wrapping paper and bows and things like that. Because it's what I one thing I know how to do. Yeah, yeah. Oh, I'm sorry you had that. But what did you end up.

Do you want to share what you were 40 minutes.

Oh my God. You should have called me. I could have been at your house and back home again.

Do you want to share what you bought?

Oh, no, just nothing.

Just a little thing. That's nice. Just have something to open. No, no, no. No rings. Because we've got some stuff stats here on Valentine's Day 2 that we're going to read because like, I don't remember what I'm going to get to in a minute, but like some amazing percentage of people expect to get engaged on Valentine's Day as well. So.

Are you serious?

Yeah, like it's. I'll tell you. 4 million Americans are expecting to be proposed to or are proposing today. It remains to be seen if this will include large number of the millennial generation. So yeah, 4 million are expecting it. I am not one of those.

You're not?

I don't think I'm gonna be Proposed to today.

You don't. Why not?

Oh, I doubt it.

Who's gonna email us? Feedbackexwellamy.com Would you be amazed if I.

Came in tomorrow with a big fat ring and I was like, oh, menace, I was wrong. I'm getting married.

I go, cool, if it's a big fat ring, I go, thank God. Then I can. Maybe they're well off. I can sleep on the couch when I'm out of work.

Yeah, honey, totally. You could always sleep on my couch. Although my. Yeah, exactly.

Your dog craps all over it.

I know, My poor do. So I just want to give a shout out to. I know it's kind of late to order stuff right now, but AdamandEve.com is awesome. They get 50% off most items, free shipping, free gift, and the Kim Kardashian sex DVD if you enter coupon code Emily at checkout. So even tonight, if you're single and you're alone and you're like, surfing the web and you're like, hey, I want to buy a vibrator for myself. I think that's a great thing to do. If you're single and you're like, that's. I'm going to buy myself a new present. Just go to Adam and Eve and do that today. And you could also go to Good Vibrations in San Francisco. They're great. They have stores. And you can also order on their online website and you can use coupon code GVMLY15 for 15% off. Because you know what? If you don't have a date or love tonight, buy yourself something special, like a vibrator, something like that. I think sex toy, something fun like that. So I've got some emails that we can get into. Is there anything else that you'd like to share about your Valentine's Day? Do you have, like, any. Do you have any good Valentine's Day memories?

Yeah, I mean, I always bring up. I did the trip to New York and I think I've done Las Vegas before. It's kind of. I mean, it's not too memorable, but it's. I mean, it's fun. It's definitely a fun time.

Yeah, it is fun.

I wish that I was celebrating love.

It is celebrating love. And I just think that if you are single on Valentine's Day, it is, like, no big deal. You should just, like, love yourself. Go home, masturbate, take a bath, do something for yourself. It's kind of a day that we can all celebrate loving ourselves, which is the biggest problem. I think that we have Is that low self esteem? I think that's like a killer. Like you always reading stuff and they're like, oh, I'm premature ejaculator because I have low self esteem or I don't want to have sex because I have low self esteem. Like love yourself. Today is all about love. So you should direct the love inward because the more that you love yourself, the more you are able to love others. And if you don't love yourself, it's going to be really hard to have a relationship with somebody.

Yes.

Don't you agree?

Who are you tweeting right now?

No, I'm not tweeting. I'm reading up on your proposal thing and it's actually, I'm reading weddingbee.com. they're not supposed.

Oh, 4 million people.

People are. People posted like, oh, I thought it'd be fun to hear everyone's stories tell, tell, tell. Oh my God.

I'll bet you tomorrow there'll be a lot of celebrities that are engaged and stuff, you know?

Yeah, well, there's people like replying, no, not this year. Maybe next year. Oh my God.

Okay, so that's a big future brother.

In law is proposing to his girlfriend.

Really?

Yeah.

Your future brother in law.

That's what I'm reading on this website. Like people responding.

Which website is it?

Weddingbee.com.

Okay, I received so many. Maybe I'll get into that first. Before the emails, I just got so many. I got like deluge with.

Probably like, you know, a hundred different emails from people who were pitching me Valentine's Day stories and stats. And most of it was crap, but some of it was good. And I just want to share a few little stats on Valentine's Day. So 27% of men resolve to have sex with the lights on this Valentine's Day. So is that something that I want to understand this. Do men prefer to have sex with the lights on and it's the women who want the lights off?

Yeah.

So you would rather have sex with lights on?

Yeah. Doesn't matter. Dimmed.

But do women, do you feel they want it dark? I want to be able to see the person. I don't want bright lights. Like, I like candles every time I have sex.

Yeah, but you got that man mentality about sex.

What do you mean?

Which part?

I mean, yes, probably, but which part of it?

I don't know. But I mean, you. I don't know. Sometimes you have a guy's perspective on things.

Yeah. Yeah.

Not. Not a romantic.

I'm not a romantic. Damn. Okay, 37 of men would be willing to gain 10 pounds to enhance their sex life, but only 10 of women are willing to pack on those pounds. That's not surprising. Guys, like, guys can gain and lose 10 pounds in, like, a day. Like, women, like, struggle their whole lives to lose 10 pounds. Okay. Only 21% of those born between 1982 and 1995 are married, and a whopping 75% have never been married. Some 15% of adults younger than 35 said they've postponed marriage because of the recession.

Yeah, that's a good idea.

40% of women want to try something new and kinky today. So we're gonna. Later on in the show, we're gonna give you some tips on how exactly how to do that. 40%. So if you're banging this chick that you're buying a gift for, she wants to go kinky tonight. Menace.

She wants to get crazy.

Do you want to come to the office and pick something out of our treasure trove of stuff? Do you want like a whip or a chain or a tie or a blindfold?

It's not like that. No.

How do you know? 40%. She might be. Want to go kinky.

Do you know what's really weird?

What?

As he deflects from me talking about his sex life. Go.

I just. There's nothing to share. That's why I don't want to keep on pressing on it. But the. The funny thing is, you know me, I'm all about celebrating love. And I was trying to think, because we had it, you know, do our blog post today at work. I was trying to think, what should we write about today? And we did top reasons why you should break up. And that's really weird. Why. But it was, it was pretty funny.

Break up on Valentine's Day.

Break up on Valentine's Day. You like, we found out, like, oh, you find out that the person's really high maintenance. You know, they really expect a lot when they shouldn't.

Then, you know, financial reasons you don't have to spend so much money.

Should break up the day before then, not the day of. No, but that's a good. Yeah, that's true. Do break up.

Yeah, it was really.

That's funny. I want to check it out. Where is it? Where can you find it?

Whitemen.

Whiteminutes.com. okay, so I was just gonna say something about breaking up. Yeah. It is a big. It is a big breaking up holiday, that and Christmas.

Why do you think?

Because people don't want to spend money and they don't want to deal with the whole friggin Valentine's Day thing. I actually have.

Yeah. But I think some women, they definitely. I. I've witnessed somebody freak out before. I was with my buddy and I guess he didn't do enough right. For her or something like that.

Okay.

And it was just like she was already in a bad mood and we're all going out to like some stupid thing. We're gonna go like do carts and golf and all this stuff, right.

And he was driving and he like, was driving her car. It was like brand new. And she, he like pulled forward in the parking lot and he like kind of bumped the. The wall.

Okay.

With the car. And she freaks out and leaves us all there. Right.

Oh my God.

And we're like, okay. And then we get in a car, we go back to his house and the like stuffed animal that, that he, that he got her was all ripped up and had a note and it said, fuck you.

Oh my God. She like put a knife in the bear or something and ripped it up.

Yeah.

Sounds like it's not good, you know, that's a good sign. She showed her colors and he should dump her. Hopefully he ran for his life.

That's funny.

Okay, so think beyond chocolate and flowers, Menace. You'll appreciate this. 74% of women said they'd be excited to receive the latest technology product today.

Hell yeah, I would. That's what I want more than anything.

I know that's what you'd like, but women want to receive it too.

Technology.

They want to receive technology. Yeah, I know. I'm trying to think what I want. I've got my iPhone now, so.

Yeah. I know a ton of women that would love some technology in their life other than the vibrators that you have that I shell. They would love like, you know, computer stuff, ipods, phones.

Phones. People still buying ipods. I'm just curious.

Yeah. For like working out. It's hard to work out.

I wanted a little one that I can work out with. That's what I would like. Okay. If the world were to end tomorrow.

Yeah.

32% of men said they'd like to have sex compared to 16% of women. So all of a sudden like Armageddon world is over. 32% of men said the number one thing they would do is want to have sex.

Yeah.

But 16% of women said, what else.

Would you want to do? Hang out with your loved ones?

Yeah, I want to see my family, my nieces.

I want to see their little faces.

I'll say, what's up to them and I'll look at the clock and I'm like, look, the world's ending. You know what I'm saying? I. There was so many chicks out there I wanted to bang and I didn't. And now I probably have an opportunity, so just. Can I. Can I go now?

Can I go bang?

Okay, you wouldn't want to, like, you wouldn't want to bang? No. Sex with.

Bang on the.

Sex with Emily. Sex with Emily.

No, I want to bang.

Want to bang. On the last day on earth, I'd.

Want to cuddle a lot and bang.

Oh, God. I mean, like, we're wasting so much time right now. Why with the cuddling?

You're like, the world's dying.

The world is effing.

The world is ending and Emily just wants snuggle. I love cuddling, but I like sex too. But I would like to. I would go see my family and then I would have sex.

I'll give you a hug and be like, all right, it was nice. I gotta go right now.

Right?

There's something going on.

Exactly, Exactly. The world is ending. I'm like, can we just snuggle for another minute? Okay. This is a poll that also came in. Ten of the biggest deal breakers on a date. So this is just tonight. If you have a date plan and you're going out, this is an order.

Ready? Poor hygiene.

Using a mobile phone. Too much menace. Being rude to the server, hostess or host. Talking too much about an ex. Flirting with the server Hostess. Aggressive driving. 49%. No one would want to drive with me. Not offering to pay for the whole date. Being too expensive of a date. Talking about your potential long term future together. Using Facebook or Twitter to find out more information for the date. So Those are the 10 biggest deal breakers.

Yeah.

Yeah.

What about. What if a guy that you really like. I know it's weird concept, but you like a guy and he's. For some reason, he's never taking any dinner. But you've gone out before.

Okay.

And it's Valentine's Day, and then he takes you to the Red Lobster. What are your thoughts on that?

I don't even think there is a Red Lobster in San Francisco. So he's taking me over the bridge.

He's not taking me over the bridge because there's actually a Red Lobster 10 minutes away. Right south of the city.

Well, I have a little secret for you.

It's in. Where is it? It's in San Bruno, California.

Okay, well, I have a little secret for you.

Okay.

A little thing. A Little window into my life that when I was a little girl and I was like 8 or 9, I all of a sudden became obsessed with lobster. I had had it, like, somewhere.

Yeah.

I used to make my dad take me to Red Lobster.

Yes.

Because I loved the lobster and the crab and all that stuff. So it, for me, it might be a little nostalgic and I might not be a snob about it. Like you thought I would say.

I thought you would be a snob.

I was like, daddy, can we go to Red Lobster? Like, I love lobster. So, dad, then I'm taking you.

I'm taking you to Red Lobster.

I swear to God, my dad died. You know, like, it would be nostalgic.

I would love to take you to Red Lobster.

I want to go tonight.

You want to go Red Lobster tonight?

No, I actually have a date tonight.

Really?

Yeah.

And you're just sharing this 20 minutes into the show?

Is it 20 minutes? Yeah.

Where you going?

We are going to foreign cinema in San Francisco. It's a mission F. Is that you've never been to foreign cinema? Mission District. It's a really cool restaurant in the city that has outdoor seating, but it's like heat lamps and it's had. They play movies on the wall. You'd like it. It's cool.

Oh, I think I heard of that place.

Yeah, it's cool. It's been around for a while. So I have a date. A special date. He asked me to be his Valentine.

That's cool.

I know. I'm very excited.

I'm very excited for you.

Thank you. Honey, I'm not gonna participating in the holiday, so don't you say that. I'm all anti Valentine's Day. There's. You're spreading rumors. Seriously.

For some reason, you forgot who you were and now you're into it.

No, I like it. I just don't like it if I'm not like, I don't want to be. I don't. I don't know. I just feel like, the pressure. I don't like the pressure. It's the same thing I feel about Christmas. Even though.

What pressure do you have? You're a woman. You don't have to do. Okay.

Oh, my God, I'm so glad you brought up this point.

Is Valentine's Day only for the woman?

Yes.

So a girl. If you're in a relationship with someone, you don't expect a woman to buy you anything on Valentine's Day.

I mean, I would love for them to buy me something, but they don't.

Have to so you wouldn't feel bummed, though you would love it. Of course. Who wouldn't love a gift? But you're not bummed if she doesn't.

No. Because I'm a guy and all I need to do is get laid afterwards and I'm fine.

Okay, so she gave you great bj. You'd be like, I'm good. Okay.

That's it.

I was wondering. I was having.

Good to know. Because you're like, man, I really don't want to buy this guy something tonight.

Exactly. What do I. I didn't. I didn't get him anything.

You don't have to get him anything. I mean, if he's expecting something and he's disappointed that you didn't get him anything other than a blow job, then tell him to remove his tampon because he's a fucking pussy.

Oh, my God. Okay, we've got a call. We're going to make a phone call now.

We are.

And then we're going to get into. Okay, as I said, I get asked. You know, I get thousands of questions a year. And so what we did is we rounded up the top sex questions we get asked and we are going to answer them for you. We just kind of compiled them together and we're going to answer the questions that you are thinking right now, the sex questions that you would like to ask. So we are going to call Carol Cardoza from. She's the VP of Global Communications from Lifestyle Skin condoms they sent us. Oh, that's why I should have brought you.

You never gave me one.

Can we make a note that I owe. That I have to bring Menace like a bunch of condoms? Because we're giving them away to people during our Valentine's Day contest. But I think that you could also use them.

I want to make an entire rubber suit out of them.

Okay. So I'm going to call here on our. You're going to make a rubber suit?

Yes.

You're hilarious. Okay.

I like filling them up with water because they get humongous.

What are you, 12?

Yes.

Throw them off the roof.

Yes. Well, now, since I'm older, I filled in with champagne.

What? It's on the bottom. Yeah, yeah. There you go.

We're still trying to figure out our.

Our phones.

Our phone situations. What are you doing?

I'm looking. What do you mean?

Huh? As person's.

Turn it around.

How's that? Is that better?

Yeah.

They dissed you.

Wow.

Wow. I hate those ones that. I know what the phone number is because I effing dialed it. Effing voicemail. I hate when it reads it back to you.

I know. Okay, let's make sure I did it right.

I had the best voicemail.

Talking about something that I. That I care about.

I had the best voicemail of life.

Your voicemail is the most annoying voice.

Because I try to make it so long that people won't leave messages. Because what's the point of leaving a message? I saw that you. That you called me and you. Then I will call you back.

Menace, you don't need to sleep.

You don't leave. You don't need to leave me a message. And I'm so pissed if you leave me a message and you say call me back.

Okay, let's just give people background here. That menace has a 25 minute voicemail message that you have to listen before you can leave him a message. And you can't skip it. So he does that purposely so people don't leave him messages. So I just don't leave you a message. And it's an annoying message.

You know who still leaves me messages? My mom. She doesn't get it.

Oh, your mom. I feel bad for your mom. I hope you're being sick to her. Did you wish her Happy Valentine's Day?

No, not yet. Today. Because she's busy. She's a florist.

Oh, my God. That's right. I knew that. Okay, okay. Let's get into pornography. Pornography. Oh, funny. Well, before we get into our top sex tips, I'm gonna read a few emails because actually there is a question about pornography. Okay, okay. Which I'll read first, since you just said that. Hey, Emily would like to know any type of porn movies where you don't have to get the actual movie. As in a streaming type deal. Thanks, Justin. He's from Chandler, Arizona. He's a premium Friends with benefits member. So I think what he means is this is what we think. Go online and there's tblop, the big list of porn. And it lists all the sites. Is that tblop.com? okay, t as in Tom B. The Big. It basically stands for the big list of porn. Tblop. And it lists all the websites. And then there's YouPorn and you jizz.

You jizz. Oh, that must be. That must be a classy one.

Hey, that's what Justin wants. And he's a friends with benefits member. And we treat them right. We give them the answers they want.

Okay, I wonder if I type in you jizz at work.

Dude, your business won't let us pull up sex With Emily, so I doubt they do you jizz. Is that a joke? You're being funny. Okay, so anyway, I'm reading your emails that you sent to feedbackexwithemily.com like, hey.

Honey, I want to do something really special tonight. I'm gonna make you the most delicious dinner ever. I'm gonna give you a dozen roses, we're gonna drink champagne, dim the lights, and I'm gonna stream you jizz on the big. On my big flat screen tv. Yeah, I'm gonna make you feel like a classy woman.

That is classy. I went out with a guy once and the first date I went to his house. He was having a few friends over and he was playing porn. He had huge teeth. This big beautiful loft. And he was like kind of a douchebag at the end of the day. But porn playing all over, like just, just. But didn't mention. It was just kind of like trying to be kind of cool. Like let's see if this, these girls could handle it because I brought over a few friends and he just had big like things. But it wasn't a party party. It was like five people, but he just had porn playing in the background.

Wow, that's kind of cool guy.

He was not a cool guy. Okay, not that I'm against porn, but just like that was my first entree into him. And of course I went to date him for six months. That should have been the first sign. You know what my mom always says this is another thing I should give you. I should give you the tips that my mom always tell me is that the issues that you have on the third date, you have forever. So this was the first friggin date. Like he was a douchebag and I dated him for six months. Like why didn't I look at those signs?

You're like any other chick out there.

I know. We don't look at the signs. So anyway, thanks everyone for emailing feedbackseedllie.com we will answer your emails, your questions, your concerns. Okay?

I want one of the cupcakes that he left.

Oh, go get it. I want one too.

You do? Okay. They're like good ones.

You gonna go now?

Yeah, I'll go now.

Tending out in the middle. You gotta listen. Just. All right. Unless you really want it.

No, I'll get it.

You just had like a total. You need it. You need it. Okay.

No, it's fine.

Emily. Listening to back shows, catching up in the one night stand. One show. You mentioned if a man finishes early. But to me that doesn't mean you're done. He should keep going manually getting his partner off. He's only a failure if he stops at that point instead of focusing on his partners to get her instead of focus on his partner to get her there too. Damn, Dan, you're so friggin right. That's actually one of the question what's one of the top emails I get asked is what men who finish feel like they finish too early. What do they do about it? And you know what you do? You make sure that you finish off your partner too. Make sure that she is so you. So you came too quickly. As long as she gets off, you can use your hands, your fingers, your mouth, whatever you want to do. Your mouth, a vibrator. Get her off. It's fine. And I think you're so right, Dan. You're. You're a stellar man. I appreciate it. We appreciate it. Okay, this is from another Friends with Benefits member. Dear Emily, I'm a 31 year old woman. I can have an orgasm on my own. But now with a significant other I have recently gotten to a relationship and we are very vocal in speaking up in the bedroom regarding what we like. However, still no O. I think sex toys could be the answer, but they aren't. But they aren't currently in our budget. I've been hearing you are living in a warehouse of sex toys. Any chance you could spice up our Valentine's Day with a toy? I keep hearing about the WE Vibe and it could be the answer. Desperate for a no from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. She's a premium fence with benefits member. Okay, got a few things to say about this. I know a lot of women who never had orgasms with their partner until they started using vibrators during sex. The WE Vibe is a great toy and it is actually like award winning right now. And it how it looks like this. So how do you explain this? It looks like a U. It's a U shape and it stretches. You can stretch it around. And the reason why it works is because you can get internal. You can stick it inside you so you can get internal stimulation and external stimulation. The WE Vibe. We should post a picture of this during the show and it's and you can get it at Good Vibrations or Adam and Eve. We've got coupon codes at both those places which are Emilydam and Eve and GV Emily 15 at Good Vibrations wherever you want to buy it. And the reason why the WE Vibe is so popular because it's really easy to use during intercourse because it's a Thin little U shaped that goes inside of you and then the other part is on the outside. I'm not explaining well, go online and Google we vibe. But it's actually the most popular vibrator right now for couples to use. Now I've heard mixed reviews on it. I've heard that sometimes it moves around a little and it's a little hard to stay in the right place. So what I would recommend for you is just like a bullet or a pocket rocket that you just hold on your clitoris and it's really easy and unobtrusive. You can and it's really good like when you're on top or when if he's doing you from behind. Doggy style. Doing you from behind. I didn't know what to say.

I'm working on a toy called the dump truck.

That sounds hot. What is it? You're kidding.

It's in development right now. I can't tell you everything in the development.

You're hilarious. Okay, so yeah, the dump truck. So that's what I would say. And you know what? We are having a big contest right now and since you're friends with benefits member, I'm going to try to send you something just because I'm feeling it in my heart. I want to have an orgasm. I really, really do. Okay. So.

Also another good. Oh, this is some other things I had written down here was cock rings are a great idea. We talk a lot about cock rings. Because you love cock rings. I love cock rings because they go on the man's penis. They restrict the blood flow, they help them last longer and they have a little vibrator at the end. The screaming Ock ring is only $6.95 at Adam and Eve and the bongo cot ring is $12.48. The mini Wenatchee vibrator is $19.95 at Good Vibration at Adam and Eve. And the Adam and Eve silver bullet in shape of a heart for Valentine's Day is $9.95. Good vibration has a lot of those toys too. You can also try rubbing your clitoris during sex or have your partner rub it. If that. If that. You know, if you're not having an orgasm. And there's also different positions that stimulate the clitoris too. Like the cat position or women on top and the cat position.

You Google it.

Cat. I've talked about a lot on the show.

Those are some answers. I just want women to have orgasms already. Jesus Christ.

Right?

God damn. It's so hard for you guys.

It is so Hard. Can you imagine?

So much work.

Does it make you exhausted just thinking about it?

It does.

I know.

It was like, fellas, if you find a woman that can orgasm, like, within a minute or two of having sex, marry her. Marry that biage. Like, put a ring on it within.

The first.

The best things in life are worth waiting for.

Are they?

Yes. It's true, though. It's hard. It's hard. It's hard for women. We've got a lot of stuff going on. It needs to be like, the right temperature, the right wind can't be blowing too high.

Yeah.

The wind chill factor factor is huge if we're gonna have an orgasm or not.

Yeah.

Okay, so those are the emails. I'm gonna get into some top sex tips.

So this is the top question. One of the top questions I get asked. These are no particular order, but I'm going to just give you some answers. What?

Why you like?

No, you're like, this is the top questions I get asked. And I remember you. You asked me what's the top question that people ask about. About me to you. And I go, remember what my answer was?

No. Do I want to know publicly, what is it?

It was like, oh, do you take it in the butt? Remember?

Why does everyone want to know that I know? And how the hell would you know?

I don't know. That's what people want to know. I mean, maybe you shared it with me on the show before, but people, they're like, you say that she feels.

So good, not like what she liked.

To work with, like, oh, what's her personality like? Blah, blah. No, none of that. Does she take it up the butt?

That's it, dude, you're hanging out with losers.

No, I don't. I hang out with some very successful people, but the thing is they.

Yeah, they sound classy.

They want to know, does she take.

It in the butt?

That's it.

They're never going to know. I can't believe that's what they ask you. That's the only question. And what do you say? I don't know.

I just, like, change the subject.

That is so lame. I hate your friends.

Why? Okay, it's not just my friends. It's just people on the street ask me.

People on the street swear. Okay, that really makes me feel good. That makes me feel great about my public image.

What? It's some part of attention. I didn't think you would. Why would you be against it?

Shut up. Okay, these are some of the top questions.

Happy Valentine's Day.

Happy Valentine's day, everyone. Okay, I just touched on this in an email, but how do I last longer in bed? We get asked this question all the time. So why you last? Why are you laughing? I don't know about in the butt.

I'm just thinking about crazy stuff right now. Tell me, how do I last longer? And I was, you know, I was like, oh, dip your penis in tequila. I don't know. That's how you numb the pain is.

Your favorite sex answer. Master masturbation. Masturbate with a woman's orgasm in mind and not your own. And so this is how you work up. You take your time, work up to 15 minutes, bring yourself close to orgasm, but to the point of no return. You recognize that point of no return, and then you stop. So don't let yourself ejaculate until time is up. So you. You practice it at home without the woman. You can also sexercise a Kegel exercise, or Kegel, however you want to say it. Kegel is.

The most important exercise. It's a sexercise that men can do. I have an app for it in the itunes store, and today, ironically, it just got updated today. I've got hundreds of emails from people who have bought the app and they wanted more levels. The app is doing really well. Kaggle camp. Check it out. And it's selling amazingly well. And we've gotten most emails from men about it because it really does help you with premature ejaculation and kaggle exercises. It helps you tighten the muscles responsible for ejaculatory control so it directly works with those muscles. So become familiar with them by cutting off the flow of urine and then starting and stopping it repeatedly once you have the exercise down. Practice your Kegels anywhere at your desk when you're driving. Tighten and hold for a count of 10, then release. You could do it once, twice a day. You could do it 20 times a day.

And this isn't hocus pocus, everybody, because I saw on the Kardashians that the doctor recommended Kegels, so you know it has to be true. Yes, I've told you.

You told me this before. We just said before. I don't remember things like that. Okay, how do I last longer in bed? That's the question we're answering. Okay, show a little courtesy. Ladies first. If you know you're gonna blow your load right away. Yeah, go down on her first. Make her orgasm. Pull out her sex toy. Use your fingers, use your mouth. That's what you should do. You know another recommendation, which I don't like to whatever. But this is something that comes up a lot is ask your doctor about Prozac. I sound like a commercial right now. A recent study showed that 73% of men who suffered from premature ejaculation either were cured or improved after taking 20 milligrams of Prozac a a week and 40 milligrams thereafter.

Yeah, my buddy told me he just. When he was taking Prozac that he would just go forever. But the only thing is, he'll go forever. But it would.

He couldn't orgasm.

Yeah, he couldn't orgasm.

Yeah. That's the biggest bummer.

Okay, so you can be a champion in bed, but never orgasm.

I know, it's a bummer. And you can be really happy, like on Prozac. Like, he's gonna be so happy, but he can't have an orgasm. That's the downside. A lot of women.

I mean, it's crazy how the drugs affect.

I know. Why? Why, why? Why do these drugs have to affect your sexual functioning? It's like so many people are antidepressants, and it's like you're on an antidepressant and you're gonna feel really happy, but you're not gonna have the most pleasure in the world. Okay, go for a second round. Shrug off an early admission with some extra attention to her arousal. So shrug it off. You came. So what? Go for it again. Okay, number two question that we get asked. What are the best tips for tips for giving oral sex to a man and to a woman? So for a woman in Metis, you might want to chime in since you think women don't know jack about giving a man of.

I'm looking at the ceiling right now. Listening.

Okay, so if I. So for a woman performing oral sex on a man, use lots of tongue, lots of saliva, find out what he wants, how much pressure, if he likes. Deep throating versus using hand and focusing on the tip. Guys are a little different. Like that.

Yeah. Don't go soft, but don't use teeth.

Enthusiasm. And look as if you're enjoying it even if you're not. Men are really into. And use lots of saliva. Don't you like it to be wet?

Yeah.

Pretend that it's a lollipop.

Yeah. An ice cream cone. Like, they're really good ice cream cones that are, like, dipped in chocolate.

Exactly.

So good.

Yeah. Pretend it's an ice cream cone and you can't get enough of it. And it's a really hot summer day and the ice cream is melting and you're trying to catch all the drips before they come off. That's how you should give a large job.

That's disgusting. But, yeah, just do it like that.

That's a good example. Do it like that. Okay. For men, if you're performing oral sex on a woman, start off slow, slow. This is one of my top sex tips all around. Men, slow down. Do everything five times slower than you think. You should. Move your tongue freely from her inner lips to her outer labia on one side. Once you've done that, draw her lips into your mouth and massage them with your tongue. And since the other side will probably get jealous, move on to the other side. Afterwards, pretend her vagina is an ice cream cone or a peach and eat it. Get it in your face. Get dirty, get messy.

I hate the peach analogy. I'll tell you why. Because.

You know, Nicolas Cage was in a movie and he, like, referenced like a peach. And like, he did in such a creepy way. So every time you say that, I just think of.

I'm sorry, I'm not channeling Nicolas Cage right now. It's just a sex tip. But I do think that you should. Yeah, like, get into it and vary your pressure between fast and slow. And ask her what she likes and pay attention to her body. If she is reacting to something you know, is she, Then keep doing it. But this is something that you shouldn't do, men. When you're performing oral sex in a woman and she's like, that feels good. Don't go faster and harder because men think, oh, it's good. I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do a lot of it.

I'm doing really fast.

It totally throws our game off. It. Because you should keep doing it as you're doing it. It doesn't mean go faster. So that. I think that's the biggest mistake that men make with oral sex. So tip for both men and women is to look into their eyes sometimes flick the. Don't you like when a woman's performing oral and she looks up at you?

Yeah, yeah, whatever. As long as she's sucking my penis, it's all good. You can look wherever you want.

How are you.

My partner? I don't understand why. I don't understand. Okay.

You just want me to say, oh, yeah, you know, I'm all about the woman. I celebrate everything you do. I just. Whatever, you're sucking my penis. Watch the TV while you do it. I don't give a. You're sucking my dick. That's how guys think. I'm sorry.

Guys, like, lie to you and say how amazing and everything, blah, blah. They don't care. You are sucking their dick. They do not.

But what if they're doing a bad job? They do care.

If they're doing a bad job, then, yes, they do care. Okay. Yes.

Okay. The next question that we get asked, most common, and actually this ties into the 70% of women. What is it? Or 40% of women want to do something kinkier tonight on Valentine's Day. How do I get my partner to be more adventurous in bed? We get asked that question a lot.

Ask her if her best friend will join.

What?

Ask her if her best friend will join.

Oh, my God. That's the next post. Popular question is how to have a threesome, but we're not covering that today because it's Valentine's Day.

Keep it pretty.

First things first, it's impossible to have great sex if you don't feel sexy. So treat yourself to blowout. To a blowout. Or some new lingerie, whatever is needed to put the va va voom back in your step. Flirt with each other. Make a habit of sending playful, sexy messages throughout the day. Make them salivate with anticipation by telling him what you're wearing and what you want to do to him later. This is all building up to the adventure. Okay. Set the mood. Light some candles. Yeah, I really think candles are important in setting the mood. You walk into, like, a guy's house all messy and the lights are on and he's got all his dirty socks around. Like, I'm not gonna want to get adventurous and kinky, like, clean up the place.

Sounds sexy.

Sounds hot.

What are you wearing?

Okay. Something you could do is.

Do you have that mascot outfit that I buy you of? You and the seal outfit.

Oh, my God. Are you wearing your. Your tinky winky outfit tonight?

Are you wearing. Are you aware. Are you wearing the Teletubbies outfit that I got you? Please.

Whatever turned you on. Menace. Menace has a Teletubby outfit. Are you gonna whip it out tonight? Valentine's Day?

Oh, no, that's for special occasions.

Okay. Some other things you could do is.

We're at Disneyland.

Yeah. Oh, yeah. When you going back?

Next weekend.

Oh, that's your big dinner?

Yes, my fancy dinner.

Right. Don't wear any underwear and let him find out. Would you like if you were this for a woman?

I thought you just said don't let him wear.

I'm not wearing any underwear.

No. Any new underwear?

Oh, no. Let him wear. Please wear new underw. But, like, Tell them, say, I'm not wearing any underwear. Like, don't you think that's hot if a woman's not wearing underwear or not?

Yeah, it's cool.

Okay.

Am I gonna get an erection when she tells me? Probably not. But most men probably would, right?

Okay. You're not like most men. Watch an erotic film together. It doesn't have to be porn for it to be sexy. And especially for women, like, what gets them turned on. Some favorites are Body Heat, Belle de Jour, Last Tango in Paris. Like Water for Chocolate. That was a hot movie. Like Water for Chocolate.

Do you ever see it?

No.

Amazing. Play an adult game again. You can go to AdamAndEve.com, use coupon code Emily. They have amazing adult games. Discover a new position. You can check out my book. I don't mean to be shilling all my stuff here, but hot sacks. Over 200 things you can try tonight. There are over 200 things you can try in that book. And try a new position. Just like, say, tonight, it's Valentine's Day or whatever. You want to get more adventurous. Try something new. And also share. Why are you laughing? Share your fantasies. Talk to your partner. Once and for all. Ask her. And ask him, what. What's your number one fantasy? And see if you can play it out. That's how you get more adventurous in bed. That's what we're talking about right now.

Adam and Eve has those cards, you know, things that you pull out the card and you have to do that thing or it's like dice or something.

Exactly, the dice.

I love that one.

It's like, kiss butt, whatever you want.

Can you talk to them and have them come out with the menace version where it would get me horny? Like, she pulls out the card and says, oh, clean the kitchen.

Right. Exactly.

Like she pulls out the card.

Refrigerator. Beer.

Yeah.

Yeah.

That would be amazing.

Yeah. You're such a dude. Okay. Share your fantasies and get out of the bedroom. Sometimes you need to have sex outside the bedroom.

Yes.

Different locale. Okay. I can't orgasm. Number four question I get asked. And then we've. We actually already answered this. So this is. We answered this in an email previously, but this isn't a number. Top question I get asked is, I can't orgasm during sex. What should I do? So I already answered that. That. So hopefully you're listening to the whole show. I already answered what you should do if you can't orgasm during sex. Get a vibrator. Try different things. Touch your clitoris. Okay. And number five, we get A lot of emails from virgins. So how do you make someone's first time a positive experience? So I would say, first of all, just to destroy the whole. Just to. I don't mean to shatter anyone's dreams here, but the first time probably is not going to be so amazing. It's probably not going to be the best sex you ever had. It certainly won't be. But I would just say again, go slow, use lube. Lube is your friend. Lube is not just if you're really dry or there's a problem. Lube is awesome. And just talk it through. And just be supportive and be communicative about what feels good, what doesn't. If it hurts, you stop and make it a special night. If this is the one night to go cheesy. Like, if you know that it's someone's first time, you should clean up your place, wash the sheets, light the candles, have some chocolate in the freezer after some ice cream or something. Like, make it a night, a chick night if it's her first time.

And that's what we got for you. That's the top questions we get asked. And some sex tips.

I liked it all.

Did you?

I enjoyed it. There was nothing really, I was really against.

Yeah, you just like talking, talking, talking. Okay, everyone, Happy Valentine's Day. I hope everyone has an amazing night tonight. And remember, like, masturbation is sex with someone you love. If you have to masturbate tonight and you're alone, do that. Do it in a loving way. Do whatever you want. Do something loving for yourself or your partner. I hope everyone has a great Valentine's Day.

Drink some tequila and champagne.

Tequila.

Or do a new thing where you put vodka in the champagne. That's pretty good.

Oh, I've never done that. Oh, I could probably drink more vodka that way because I'm not a great drinker and I need, like a better taste.

Actually, you don't even taste the vodka.

Is there a name for that drink? Vodka?

No. Vodka and champagne.

Never heard of that. Yeah, it's good, but I don't know that much about alcohol.

You put some vodka first and then some champagne on the top. It's good. It's good. You won't even taste the vodka. But just don't drink too much. And don't drive.

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