Thanksgiving Throwback: Sexy & Thankful

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh my. The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good. Being bad feels pretty good.

Well, you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com, which. Oh, my God. This is the week that you have to go because it's so exciting. It's the holiday season. Happy Thanksgiving to everybody. I'm grateful for all of you. We're gonna get into that. Tonight's show is about how gratitude will really help. What is that noise, Anderson?

It's a turkey.

That's a turkey. I didn't even get that was a turkey.

Because you just eat them. You don't hear them before they die.

Oh, now I'm not gonna eat that turkey this year. Thank you for nothing.

Turkey is it.

It's absolutely a turkey.

You're right. Happy Thanksgiving.

Happy Thanksgiving to you, Em.

I'm grateful for you.

I'm grateful for you.

And this is also. We're gonna get into that because here's the thing. One of the biggest complaints from couples who are in relationships or just people in life, like at work, Anderson says this all the time. They don't feel appreciated for what they do. They don't feel grat and they don't express also other people gratitude to towards their partner in work and in life. And a lot of us just feel that we go through life and we don't feel appreciated and we don't feel grateful sometimes. And it goes both ways. No, no. No one's perfect. But in a relationship, it's so important. Or even with your friends or someone you're dating or even somebody one night stand with, you know, being grad. Being grateful and appreciative is important all around. And we're going to give you some tips and tricks to, you know, improve it because it'll help your relationship.

Are you going to tell us how to be grateful to when it stands? Because that's something I could have known to deal with.

Be really grateful, but don't be a douchebag at the end of it and be like, I'm never gonna call you. Just be like or be be you do be. That was a really fun night. My intentions are right now. I'm not actually looking for a girlfriend, but I had a great time. Don't let her sit around and obsess about you. And like, is he gonna call? Just let it be known. That's a way to be respectful towards your one night stand, don't you think?

Yeah.

Be honest with your intentions.

I was always, like, really uncomfortable and like, I've had like lunch, like literally two years later because I've made Like a friendship out of the one night stand. Because I felt bad. Yeah.

Wait, you made a friendship out of.

Him, right after a couple times. Yeah. I got, you know, we want to talk for a while, but then just like phone conversations, then I'd be like, their friends. That's cool because they weren't people that I wanted to see in the morning.

You just felt guilty. So to your. Okay, that's odd. So you know how you could have saved yourself? You could have been clear with your intentions. But the problem is, I suppose, is that often or tell me this, Anderson, when does the one night stand bell go off? When is it? Like, I know this is a one night stand and I know that it isn't. Because the reason why, maybe you don't know how to end it because you're not sure if you'll see him again or by the time it ends.

You're pretty sure by the time I'm like sobering up usually.

So it's always just a drunken one night stand.

A lot of time. Yeah.

But what if it's a drunk or.

Like, if she's like doing things with me in the backseat of my friend's car? Like when I'm not even asking for it, like on, you know, and I just met her that night, it's like, oh, okay, so I'm not gonna see this girl hopefully after tonight.

What, because she's.

Because she's a little too aggressive.

So girls should not be that forthcoming on the. For on the date. I met with many men. Now, a lot of people have slept with women, men and first date and get married. And I don't advocate it just because.

Just don't advocate marriage.

I've never had marriage. Think that it's always better if you always ask me, like, what's your, you know, think about, is there. How many dates should you wait or whatever? No, there's no rules. I'm not saying you should wait three dates before you sleep with someone, but I think that when you do have sex with someone too soon, it becomes a sexual relationship right away if they ever call you back. That goes for men and women. Or it's better to get to know somebody and then you like. And the best part about sex, as we know, is the anticipation and the buildup, the anticipation. Why not make that last, get to know that person. Because you have sex on the first date, then it becomes a whole sexual thing and then you don't really get to know.

Every now and again, though, there is that immediate connection. And like, you feel like you've known the person for years after the first hour of meeting them.

Yeah, you really need to bone that first night, though. Can't you just feel her boobs or something?

Right. Can't you just pinch the boobs?

You just like, you know, rub her over her panties or dry hump.

Just light a candle and massage her down.

I'm not telling these. These people, you know, me, guy friends are like, I got laid by your candle last night. I'm like, I know, it smells amazing and you got laid.

Are you suggesting they bang the candle or they get laid?

Because they light the candles. And he's like, look at my Emily friend. Emily made this really cool candle. And then they like, here, feel it. Because you just like, I use it. Oh, here's the other thing. I use it every single night. I wear. I. We blow it out. I light it when I'm getting ready for bed, blow it out, and I pour it on my body as a moisturizer because it's coconut oil and soybean oil and all natural, and it's moisturizing. So I don't have a goddamn person to. I was gonna say masturbate.

To massage you.

To massage every night or to massage me many nights? Most. Okay, let's just say this. Most nights I don't. But I use it every day. And I smell and feel amazing. And soft.

I just light it. Like three or four of them. I put them on my windowsill and women just come over.

They do.

They smell it.

Yeah.

Like down the street, like the fat guy in the cartoons with the. The bacon.

I bet they do. Everything's bacon.

They just float in. I hate bacon.

There's like, bacon condoms. Okay, here's the thing.

So bacon condoms.

Oh, yeah. There's bacon lube. And you know that there are awkward questions also coming up over the Thanksgiving holidays when you go home, like, what are you doing?

I'm splitting it with the two crazy families, my wife's and my own. Yeah.

Is that. Do you like them? Good times.

Yeah. It's gonna be a lot of insanity.

Okay, I get it. You know that the in laws. But there are some awkward questions, like, why are you still, you know, who are you dating? Why are you still single?

Why is it not a baby?

Right? That's the worst. You get asked that question. You must get asked that all the time.

My friends, my parents and in laws don't bother me at all.

I think that that's a really bad question to ask someone no one wants. Okay. I don't know anybody who wants to be asked that question who's trying to have a kid or is not? Because they don't know when they're having it. They're gonna figure it out when they do. And they don't want goddamn pressure because all my friends who are married without kids complain about the same thing. So there's a tip for you guys on Thanksgiving dinner or like if you.

Have a pushy mom in law and just be like, hey, no, my mom in law is not. But you could say, hey, I've gotten your daughter pregnant three or four times. She keeps aborting. It's not my fault.

Exactly. That's a good one. That's a great one. That would be great conversation for Thanksgiving. My family. One time at Thanksgiving dinner, my brother whipped out the Kim Kardashian sex video like at dessert. Is that in a.

Like on his phone or popped in a dvd?

He was like, no, he, like, it was not. When it came out, he's like, oh, check out. Have you guys seen the Kim Kardashian? My family's so.

And did everyone crowd around?

Yeah, it was kinda funny.

That is such a typical sex with.

Emily Thanksgiving family's all sex crazy. I just had that flashback, but usually I go home to Michigan. This year I'm not, but I.

Good. Cause last time you went to Michigan you almost died. So don't do that.

I won't do that again. Exactly. So yeah. So good. Be awkward. So good luck to everybody about that and just be yourself, be open and have a good time, Relax. Thanksgiving is time to be grateful and happy. So also, you know how I'm always talking about how important it is to mix up things in the bedroom. Well, Hustler Hollywood stores, which you should check for a location near you, they should be your main destination for the best toys, erotica, the sexiest lingerie, and most of all, the easiest way to find the answers you've been looking for and how to enhance your sex life. Unlike other adult novelty stores which you've been to, Hustler Hollywood is an experience in itself. It turns shopping for sex toys into an enjoyable and enlightening experience. Don't believe me? Take your partner there on a date. Let's say you want to spice things up in the bedroom. Say, hey honey, let's get a little shopping here. It's a beautiful store. They have about 12 stores around the country and they're filled with attractive eye catching displays. The top intimate products on the market. Everything you hear me talk about. And their staff is so knowledgeable and friendly. I was there the other night, and they were showing me, like, hacks to toys that I loved. Like, did you know you could use it this way? I mean, they're super cool, and they're here there to help with any questions you have. You can shop with a partner for yourself. And, you know, if you just want to take your sex life to the next level, Hustler has all the toy products you need to get you there. So if you're not sure where there's a Hustler store near you, visit hustlerhollywoodstores.com and find it. But also, Hustler Hollywood Store loves my listeners. So all you gotta do is when you're checking out, say at the checkout, say, sex with Emily sent me or sex with Emily. I love sex with Emily. Whatever you do. Sex with Emily, 20% off. How's that? Love it, right? So check it out. And also, also follow me on Facebook and Twitter and all that stuff, because you should. And Instagram, I know that you all are. Everyone's on Instagram. Like, that's the thing. So if you're on Instagram and you like me and you, like, listen to me, don't you think that my Instagram sex with Emily is awesome as well? And I'll have pictures and funny things that will make you laugh and think about funny things that have to do with sex sometimes in relationships, you should do that and Twitter sex with Emily. Okay, so here's the first thing. Today's show, like I said, we will be talking about appreciation and gratitude. Get to some of your emails if we can. But first, I wanted to say that Thanksgiving is.

A very important time of year because we really do stop. And we are grateful for what we have in our lives because honestly, we have a lot of gifts and blessings. We do, right, Anderson? Like, you and I, we sit around like, this is hard, and that is hard, but it's important to, like, you know, we're lucky we're here, we're healthy, we're happy.

You gotta appreciate what you got. Put things in perspective.

Gotta. Right? We have so many wonderful gifts in our lives. And so that's why, like, with my meditation that I'm doing now twice a day, I always have three minutes of gratitude at the end where I'm grateful for things, and it just makes life a lot better. So I have to say Happy Thanksgiving on my listeners. I'm very grateful for all of you, really, for listening and for supporting the show and being a fan. And I could cry.

I just don't Cry, please. It's getting uncomfortable here. I just learned today, actually, that it was a lady. I can't remember her name, but she was actually one that petitioned the White House for Thanksgiving to be held every year. And it was kind of in an effort to heal the wounds of the Civil War. And it was Lincoln, President Lincoln, that put it into law. Back then, there was only a couple national holidays. It was George Washington's birthday and Thanksgiving, I believe.

Wow.

It might have been one other one.

That stuck in my mind for the Civil War.

It was shortly after the Civil War. There was still a lot of strife, and they. They wanted to create. She wanted to create a holiday that's just about people getting together.

Yeah.

And being thankful for what they have.

Exactly. Because we all, you know, our mind, you know, we tend to go to a lot of times, and this is the way we're wired to go towards what's bad or what's wrong. And I think a lot of humans, we sort of suffer with that fact that our mind just has that, you know, that way of going. What is it called? Like, just the negative.

Easy to get in that negative hole.

No, but like, the Buddha said, like, there's a universal law of suffering, so we all suffer in some way. We all do. But, you know, as long as we can just, you know, try to be grateful and happy or, you know, happy challenge sometimes, but be grateful for what we have. So I'm thankful for many things, and I just wanted to say that I am, like I said, thankful for my listeners because it's been a lot, almost 10 years. Like, I have to do, like, an anniversary show or something. But I'm thankful that I actually got to.

Have a career doing what I love, like, actually make a living and pay my rent.

You deserve it. You work really super hard. A lot of it involves, like, pleasure and sticking things inside yourself. But you work very hard.

I do. I do work hard. And it's because it actually. It was like following your dreams. It was an idea that I had about helping. Like, helping myself, really. Which is something I'm writing about right now. But how it got started for Glamour. I have a common Glamour, by the way, on Sundays. But it's talking about how I started the show. One of the reasons it inspired me was because everyone kept talking about what great sex they were having all the time. Having the best sex of my life. I'm like, what the hell does that mean? So, I mean, you guys, I don't know if you know the whole beginning story, but that's How I started the podcast because I was like, I don't think I've had the best sex. And I don't think that everyone even knows what good sex is. And then relationships and the whole thing. So it was hard and it was a long road. It's probably been about you know, seven. I feel like it wasn't even make any money for the last few years until the last few years. So it was hard and I had to give up a lot because I love you all and I love doing it and it all happens. So stick to your dreams is what I gotta say. And I ask people for advice more often who know things more than you do. Okay. I'm thankful for the perks of my job because I get to meet and learn from so many interesting people and guests. We have good guests on the show. People with, like, alternative lifestyles, sex experts, occasional porn star, whoever. Who was your favorite guest? Who's your favorite guest? Who'd you learn from?

I like that guy that you had on a couple weeks ago.

He was awesome. David Lay?

Yeah.

The myth of sex addiction. Yeah, he was amazing.

Because I was worried about that. I thought he was gonna come in here and go, hey, man, you know it's not an addiction, man. And, like, fight with Dr. Drew when he came in here later. I was, like, uncomfortable and worried.

Me too.

And he kind of ignored me in the hall when I walked by. He was just talking to you. So I didn't like him. I hated him. And then within, you know, first 10 minutes of the show, I'm like, this guy's awesome. I like the guy a lot.

He just turned right on. He was great. Oh, my God, that was a great show. Go check it out. David Lay. L E Y Another perk is okay. So, yeah, I get to meet all these people, and it's inspiring. We get a lot of. Another perk of courses that I get. Like, my job is all about pleasure. Like, I can experience pleasure, so I can teach you all how to experience pleasure. And it's reciprocal because the reason why I wanted to, you know, again, do this is to help everyone have better sex, which is, like, the best thing in the world is sex. Really? Truly. What else is there? And I get sex toys, lubricants, every other sex product. You should see my office right now. Pajour, which is my new favorite lube set me 100. Like, I can't walk through my office.

Bring some in. What? You bring some in? Yeah, I did.

Do you want a bottle?

Yeah.

Do you need some?

Why wouldn't I?

You're gonna. Okay. I actually need you to test to test some of it and see what you think.

I use it on my tires. It makes my tires more efficient for gas.

No, you can't friggin sail my really nice pajour lube. Pjur lube. It's amazing. Check it. And no.

Helps me slide down the road.

Dude. That doesn't help me. So I test them all, you know, so you don't have to because I only tell you about the ones you've tested and that I think are the best. Also, I'm thankful for my team. This is really what I'm most thankful for. And then we're gonna get on with this stuff. It's a freaking. I have a lot to say but.

Really, this is really tough for me because I'd. Thank yous make me uncomfortable.

No, no. But I am so thankful for you, Anderson. You're so awesome. Like, I didn't know. We didn't know this would work. I'm like, hey, we do the thing and I love you and you've been.

Awesome and you put me before that.

I always liked you, but we'd never done like this together. And you've been awesome and my audience loves you and you just have great insights and advice and you always show up and you're cool and you don't need that. And for all everyone that you hate and get mean to all the time, I feel like I'm at the bottom of that list if it ever does happen.

Yeah, you're right at the bottom. You're still on the list, but you're at the bottom.

I know, but I like that. Like, I know that I'm not the first person that you're gonna hate and I'm actually so honored that you liked me because I know you don't like most people. So thank you.

And you r couch from my wife once or twice a week. And it's really annoying having to leave my wife. But I. You would be the one of one of the very few people who I'd be actually excited to jump off the couch, leave my wife and come work with us. We always have a very good time.

In a good way. Like, not in a way that would make.

Totally true.

Got it. Thank you.

I've been ripped off my couch by many people in this business and did not enjoy it.

That is a very high compliment, especially coming from you. I appreciate that. And also I have to thank my team. That is amazing. Again, been doing this for a long time and it's 50. We've been going. I was gonna get to the topic is that it's taken a lot. Right. I could add interns. I've had amazing interns over the years, but, like, I didn't really have, like a staff that I could again to start up. I'm trying to do this thing and now I feel like I have the most amazing team. Kimber and Madison, who you've met, who have two have been on the show a little bit. Kimber hasn't yet, but they're just amazing. And I feel like my whole. The whole thing is just. This is gonna be an amazing year for us because we are going to be doing so many things that are going to even blow your minds and our minds as well. So. So. And I want to thank my intern, Ruby and Anderson and Roon, who helps out with the show and Madness, who does the show and of course, my friends and family, you know, like, that. I was gonna get into all these things about sex, but I don't know where I'm just.

Thank you for the clitoris.

Thank you for the clitoris and thank you for the testes.

Thank you, God, for the testes.

No, I was just gonna say this really quickly. Is that things in life. I wasn't getting on that long. Is that sex is something that we should all be thankful for because sex gives you orgasms. I'm gonna do it quickly. Sex makes you happy. This is if you're not having sex. Here's the thing. The brain releases all these feel good chemicals like endorphins and serotonin and dopamine. And when you've decreased stress because we're all fucking stressed, you're like, oh, this is a good day, so have more sex. Sex burns calories. So you don't have to go to the gym. It's like a treadmill. Okay?

You still have to go to the gym.

I'm kidding. Go to the goddamn gym.

Don't drink that water in the mic. What are you doing? You're drinking in the mic. Stop it.

Oh, my God. Okay, so I can't cut myself off here.

Can I continue? And then we'll come. We'll sort of.

There's a reason why we just did that. Okay. So it makes you happy. It does. It's like Prozac, but you're just having sex. Okay. Burns calories. Like running on the treadmill or something. You can have like an extra piece of pumpkin pie because you just had really good sex. Helps you fall asleep. Everyone takes friggin sleeping Pills. Who does not have a sleep problem? Raise your hand. Nobody. Right? You probably do. You don't have to talk about it.

I take pills.

Right, exactly. So if you have sex, it helps you fall asleep. So you're probably thinking it's like your computer screen or there's something else. Collective stress in the universe, why people can't sleep. But you have sex, don't you fall asleep more readily?

Yeah. And you don't like it. Oh, not that that sounds wrong.

But you don't like it when guys have fall asleep right afterwards because you want cuddle time.

I just need about 10 minutes of cuddle time.

You cuddle while falling asleep?

Yes, absolutely. I don't want to stay up and I just want to cuddle for eight to 10 minutes. Sex gives us something to talk about with our friends, especially women. Like, what would you do in your free time? I think if we're not thinking about what girls are thinking, Zac Efron looks like naked. Not that I do that, but my friends and I talk about sex and relationships and we talk about what would you do? How do you orgasm?

What's the first question you ask when you find out a good friend of yours is hooking up with a new dude? You kind of know of the guy and you know that they had sex last night. What's the first question you ask?

Okay, this is how it goes down. This just happened to me yesterday. I'm like, okay, so how's sex? Really good. I'm like, do you have an orgasm? She's like, well, yeah, I actually always orgasm my orgasm really easily. I'm like, oh, okay, you bitch. That's cool. And then she said that he was very generous, which means that he performed oral sex on her and she really liked it. And she said that she liked his penis, I think his penis. She said that? And she said it was really hot and he was really sweet and she liked him and it was good sex.

So penis was third. Took you three things.

Only if there's a penis problem, I would say, or like a remarkable penis, does it come up. It depends which friend I'm talking to.

What is remarkable?

You know, like, oh my God, it was penis. It was black as big. It was the biggest penis I've ever seen. Or it was a curved shaped weird penis. Or he wasn't circumcised. Not that that's a big deal. Or he didn't have condom. He was like, I don't know.

If it wasn't run on the mill. Right, Right.

Yeah. Something wrong? It had strange rash all over it. No.

Smelled like cheese.

Right? Smelled like cheese. That was weird. Okay, so the penis. No, didn't. But that's what I asked him. Or I mean, it's my best. I'm like, how's the penis? Yeah, no, that's usually what I ask. Like, was it good? Was it whatever? But a lot of times, the first time you have sex with someone is not always the best. It can only get better. Also, sex is usually free. That's one of the things I'm grateful for. Unless you pay for it online.

You probably shouldn't pay for it anywhere. Okay, so I wanted to talk about, which I am already, how to appreciate your partner.

We're not gonna talk about the water.

Okay, back up. So when I get to emails.

I had a listener. So I get, you know, you all email me, which I love, feedbackexwithemily.com you can send all your relationship and sex questions, and I try to answer them on my show. If it's. You know, a lot of times your questions might have been answered before, you could definitely Google that on my site. But the point is. And sometimes people just want to tell me what they like about the show or what they don't like or whatever. I'm open. So I got an email from a listener today, and she said, I will skip down to the email portion of the show. She said to me.

Hi, I love, love, love you and your podcast, but I can't stand when you take a drink of water on the show. It drives me effing crazy. Just had to say, mackenzie.

Thanks, mackenzie.

So I realized that I get really. First of all, I'm a thirsty person. I don't know what. I talk a lot. And so there is something called a cough button in radio. And whenever I have a guest come in, I'm like, there's the cough button, however. And I used. I used it during Loveline. I use it all the time. But for some reason in this chair at the Loveline studio that I'm in, I didn't know that the cough button was right in front of me and not right next to me on the table where it usually is. So I came in tonight and I said, anderson, I got an email. She's pissed that I didn't. And I know it's annoying because I do it. And normally I'm trying, where's the goddamn cough button? And then I looked, and it was right in front of me.

I love how she started off with the. I love, love, love, though she let.

Yeah, she's Like. But I see. And I love, love, love that. I love that.

And then you're just waiting for the other shoe to drop, which is the butt, which you know is inevitably gonna be there and then there. Did you put a comma before the butt at least?

No.

Okay, then she's. Yeah, let's not drink right into that mic. There you go, mackenzie.

I just did it for you, mackenzie. I'm gonna start using the cough button.

And then now, just to let the listeners know the cough button. All it does is just kill her mic. And unplugging the mic would do the exact same thing, as well as just turning off the mic, which is the exact same thing, which is right in front of.

But you can do it with just turning off the microphone, too.

Dude, whatever I wanna say is, I love MacKenzie. Here's the thing. I. If you like my show. But there's one thing that drives you crazy. You're like, okay, I hate when you say you're gonna cover something that you don't, or you ramble or you cut off your gas. These are things that people complain about. You talk too fast, you cut off your guests. You. I don't care. Most. I'd say 99.9% things are positive. However, I might not agree with you. I'm open to feedback, so I don't care. I'm confident enough. I know people. So if there is something that you think could help improve the show, Might not agree.

Careful.

Or that you're like, God, I can't listen anymore with the bleh. Do whatever it might be. I might take an advisement. Or I might tell you to fuck off. Just kidding. I wouldn't. I'm too nice.

You are. You'll have one of your interns do it for you.

Yeah, they'll do it. They're actually. Hopefully, I'm gonna train them to be the mean, bad cops. Yeah, Clem, too. Nice. Here we go. So appreciate. Yeah. Where the hell was I?

Appreciating your partner.

Okay, so, like, I don't remember you made me talk about water.

Appreciation is something that a lot of people, like I said, couples who are together for other. Like, they don't feel appreciated. And I think in very different ways, men and women don't feel appreciated. So do you ever feel like in your. Either your current relationship or past, that you feel that's a familiar feeling that you can identify with, that you just don't feel appreciated?

Yeah, for sure. But at the same time, I've been, like, extra appreciated by people who were not right for me. And they were, like, so goddamn codependent that that's one of the reasons why the relationship was bad to begin with, because they were always doting on me and filling their entire life with, like, what I was and what I was about and didn't have any. Never mind. I'm going down a different road.

But that's unhealthy as well.

Right, right, right. So it can be good and bad.

Right. So you need to. Healthy, like, everything in life.

Yeah, I've been. I've been, you know, underappreciated, and I feel like in my. In my current relationship and we talk about it.

So can you give me an example? Like, just like, you can make up, like.

Like, I'm always getting the food and making sure that, you know, like, I will be at home and she's hungry, and I'll go out and get food just for her. And, like, that's never happened for me. Something like that.

I see. Okay, so that. That makes total sense. And does she say. Does she. But when you come back with the food, she says thank you.

Oh, yeah, yeah. She always says thank you. And usually I get to watch whatever I want after that for at least a half hour while she's eating, that kind of thing.

Got it.

So I'm making it sound like our entire relationship exists on the couch. We do tons of stuff.

I do. I'm. They have sex on the couch. But. But what I'm curious is that. That's. That. See, that is the kind of thing that could fester for so long. It does.

And always. And I'm like a chick, too. It always comes up when we get in fights.

Right. So did you ever. And then have you. So if you said to her, babe, hey, it'd be so cool if one time you could just offer.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And then. Did she get upset about that? Was she like, I thought you liked to do that.

Usually when we get in fights, I'm like, I'm not doing it anymore. And then, like, I'll go maybe two days without doing it. And then. But I love to do it. You know what I mean?

You love to do it. That's what I'm asking you. So in her mind, she'd be like, anderson loves getting out of the house. So it's just that you want her to offer, or do you. Would you like her to do something else for you? I'm just.

I think I just pick fights. I pick fights sometimes.

Yeah, but you don't really. You wouldn't like it. If she got up and went to.

Subway for you, I'd feel guilty the whole time she was gone.

Okay, so this.

This is like a weird genetic thing.

Okay. So. So. But how would you. Okay, I get it. Appreciate it.

But we got. We got off the topic of appreciation.

I'm sorry, but you're saying you'd like to feel appreciate. Would have shamed. But she does say thank you. So you've got a whole nother issue going on. I know, but I get what you're saying, but do you know how you need to be.

Yeah, she's very appreciative. I. I feel guilty even bringing any of this up.

Do you? No, no, I get it. That's a whole other issue. Do you feel like you appreciate her?

Yeah, I'm kind of forced to, because every time anyone meets her, like, my friends meet her, they're always like, I don't understand why she's with you. Why is she. She's so much better than you. That's what I always hear. So, yes, I definitely appreciate.

Right. Okay. But that makes her feel good, because other people kind of. That's what I was gonna say is that a lot of people like to be validated. Compliments make people feel really good. And women. And men. I think some guys, either they don't like. Do you like getting compliments, Anderson, or do they.

That makes me uncomfortable.

Okay, here's my question for you. I know that compliments make men uncomfortable, but does it make you uncomfortable, but you'd rather get them than not get them?

I'd rather hear about them secondhand. Hey, this person said this about you. Oh, cool.

Okay, so I think that's true.

Or maybe if someone looks me in the eye and says, I really appreciate you for it, makes me. I get very uncomfortable here.

Okay, so it's an intimacy issue. So. Okay, so here's my question.

You should see her. She's, like, sizing me up. She thinks she's, like, making.

But no, I think a lot of men feel uncomfortable by it, too. And it's probably because of intimacy. Because I know that women, we love to be complimented, told that we look hot or pretty, or we do something.

Special, but at the same time, careful. Because just last week you were saying, never use that as a pickup line because they always hear, oh, I'm talking.

About in a relationship.

Right, right.

Don't use it as a pickup line unless you're really hot. No, I'm kidding. Don't use a pickup line, but with your partner. I think that women, a lot, are in relationships where they don't feel sexy or beautiful to their partner, and their partner's thinking, oh, she knows I think she's hot. But if you're thinking it, just say it or, like, your haircut or something. Because women, we do a lot of crazy crap that you guys don't have to do to. To look a lot. So if you recognize it or appreciate it, we appreciate it too. So. But for men, compliments. I hear what you're saying. So what I'm saying is, like, what if you guys were out to dinner, right? And, like, the four of you with, like, another couple? And how about this compliment? Like, there's a she says, even your wife. Or says at the table, oh, my God, Anderson got, like, the. Did the cool. His film just got it, which it did. Just got into two film festivals. How cool is that? Like, would that make you feel better? Because I think men kind of like public appreciation. Like, do you think that that would make you feel better? You. Would that make you uncomfortable, or would that make you feel good?

Initially? Make me uncomfortable? Then if I went to actually logical questions and I could actually speak to.

It, there's other people around to witness what you'd just done as well. I feel that men like to have that affirmation kind of more in public sometimes as a. You know, just more of a. Like, it's like they have that validation. It makes him feel like a man. I don't know if you're wrong, but I think. I think I'm not wrong because I'm never wrong. Okay? So, no, I'm wrong a lot. So here's the thing. So no matter what you do, big or small, reinforce the positive acts, and you'll get more in return. So just say thank you. They walk the dog for you, or they took you on a vacation away, there's a lot of couples who. They never appreciate me. I don't feel thankful. Also, you have to listen. Okay? Listening is a great tool for couples, and I think that you might think that you're listening. But this goes for men and for women. And there's something to be said about having your partner's undivided attention. Like when they put down their cell phone, they put down their iPad, and they're like, hey, babe, what do you need from me right now? I'm here to listen. Even if it's 10 minutes in the morning or you need 10 minutes after work, and you just want them to listen, and you both need to vent, and you need to connect, and it can be intimate, but Your partner always seems distracted, and they're not really listening to you. It makes us feel unvalued and unimportant and not special. So if you do pay attention to them, they feel the opposite. They feel valued, they important, prioritized and special. So stop what you're doing and try to connect with your partner, like even five, ten minutes a day.

She's using her cough button, everyone, to drink her water.

I'm gonna get trained. So.

For men. Here's the thing. For men. So, you know, it's typical that when a woman opens up to a man about things. Like, maybe I came in from work and I had a bad day. Probably had this happen with your partner, and she's like, honey, this and that. And maybe it's even something you've heard before. My boss was such a jerk. And then this thing happened, and I might not get this raised, but I tried. And this other bitch next to me wants. You know what I mean? Women go on sometimes about, oh, yeah, I've dated those. They're hard or don't. Just. When a woman has a thing and men, naturally or preternaturally are fixers, you just want to fix it.

Yeah. And you guys don't want to hear a solution. You just want to unload.

Exactly. So they want to help you in distress. Like, that's part of being a man. It's your biology. It's how you're wired. But a lot of times we don't want that solution. We just want to process. So that's how we want you to listen. Just process with us. Babe, I'm so sorry. That sounds really hard. That sounds like. It sucks. Even if you're like, I've heard this eight times. And then in another moment in time, we'll be like, you know what you should do about that thing? But in that moment, not in the.

Moment, it's really frustrating. As a guy, I can tell you. It's like watching you guys do a crossword puzzle, and you're like, it's seven across, and it's like a president's name and a word for a penis, and I don't know what it is. And, like, we know it's Johnson, but we're not allowed to tell you in that moment. We have to sit there and bite our tongue.

It's tough. I know, but. But, you know, it makes it. It makes it. It makes it all flow.

It makes it all. It's. It's one of the little courts.

No, what I'm saying. But this is what and also, I'm talking about, like, biology. Or like, men, you want to fit. Like, it's just our women, we are naturally born conversations. But even with our girlfriends, we communicate, we listen. We're not trying to. It's how we're wired. So that's why.

And then you come to the same. We all come to the same conclusion, just at different times.

Exactly. So for men, for women, when you have a problem and he offers advice, like, even if though we told him not to, don't immediately object him. You can listen to it. And you can also thank him for it. Make him feel like, you know, I so appreciate your opinion about that, because he just wants to fix it up, but then say, but I gotta tell you a little bit more. And I would just appreciate if you would listen. And I think everyone who loves you can take that advice. Doesn't have to blow up into a whole thing. And the more you confront these things in the moment as they're happening, the more likely they're not gonna fester and get angry like Anderson does. Like, why don't you get my goddamn Pizza Hut this time, bitch?

I would never get Pizza Hut, but she loves it, and I get it for her all the time.

Okay, fine.

You know what a really good compliment is?

What?

You look at your partner and you go, you know what? You're so lucky I don't care about looks. You're such a cool person. Looks don't even matter to me at all.

Oh, my God, that's the worst.

How about, like, I've said that a few times, but I was joking. I think they knew that I was joking.

You think if they never called you.

Again, you're lucky I don't care about looks.

Go way into her looks if you can. Like, I've had guys like you. I have the best. This guy was dating recently. Like, you are the coolest chick. Like, I have the best time with you that I've ever hung out with. You're so cool. But, like, that felt good. But I'm like, but do you want to bang me?

You know, this is before the bang.

No, it was after the bang.

Well, then, yes, he wants to bang you.

I know, but he was talking about how fun I was. Cool.

Oh, really? You take it that way because that's, like, the greatest compliment you can get.

No, it was awesome. Like, he was like, I actually never want to hang out with anyone, but I want to hang out with you. No, it's really nice.

That's what he's saying is, like, you're Even if you were a dude, even if I didn't want to bang you, I'd want to hang out with you, which is a huge compliment, right?

That's true. Okay, so I guess that was a compliment. I felt really good about it.

Don't guess.

It was. It felt really good. Okay, so for. Here's the thing. So also gre. Here's another thing. This is huge. Greet your partner with enthusiasm. So when they walk to the door, instead of simply glancing up like, oh, it's you again. I see you every night. Make it a deal. Like, hug him, kiss them, say, hello, how was your day? And I know you think sometimes that could be impossible. You're in the middle of something, but, you know, you're happy that they're there. And even if you saw them eight hours ago and talked to them the whole ride home, you know, it means something to touch.

It's that rhythm. It's that rut. You gotta be careful.

Do you do that? Do you kiss each other like hello?

Yeah.

Yeah.

I get up, help open the door, that kind of thing. I. You know, she's coming in the door.

Keys.

Well, no, there's like, she comes in through the. Through the backyard. So I see her coming across the grass, and I get up and open the door. I even pause the hockey game a lot of the time.

You pause the hockey game?

I pause it, yeah.

That's really sweet. Turn it down, stop and ask her about her day. Or do you go right back to.

The hockey, like, hey, how are you? And then I tell her the score and I told her to zip it up. It's time for a little hockey.

Women, guys. A lot of guys just want men to stop talking. Women want. Guys want. Women. Women.

She's quiet. I'm lucky.

That's good.

But yeah, a lot of time, it's just unload time when people get home from work and they just want to, like, go right into all that. Yes. And it's tough, but you got to sit there and listen patiently.

That's how women sometimes want and men. But. And I do guys who are just like me, but most of them aren't, but they want to talk about everything and process, you know? Okay, so. And okay, we come back. I'm going to give you some more tips about that, about how you can make sure that you're doing the right things. So you continue to have amazing sex this year. It's really, really easy stuff to do. Okay. But first, I talk about products all the time that will improve your sex life and Now I have to tell you about a product that has improved my sex life and changed my life. Seriously. Not just sexually, but has extreme health benefits as well. Okay. Have you ever been at the gym, on the treadmill and thought, you know, it would be great if I could be eating pizza and exercising at the same time or even, God, I wish these push ups would at least give me an orgasm. Unfortunately, we rarely get to experience pleasure while maintaining our and well being. Until now. This product is one part genius health invention, one part vibrator, and it will strengthen your pelvic floor and give you an orgasm. Now, if you don't already, you should be doing your Kegel exercises. You hear me talking about the benefits of them all the time. But how many of us really do them? And even if we do them once in a while, like at stoplights or while you're waiting in line, how many of us are doing them correctly and seeing the benefits? Well, now there's a product that actually does your Kegels for for you and gives you mind blowing orgasms at the same time. What if I told you there was a product that actually does your Kegels for you and gives you mind blowing orgasms at the same time? That's probably an exercise routine you'd remember to keep up with, right? Intensity is a revolutionary intimate health and stimulation device that takes all the confusion out of Kegels. It may resemble the classic Rabbit vibrator, but let me be clear, this is no ordinary sex toy. It's both a vibrator and a Kaggle exerciser. Intensity is the only device that combines pleasure with pelvic floor toning, giving you a workout you can actually look forward to. It perfectly targets your G spot and clitoris while using gentle electrostimulation to contract your vaginal muscles. And if the instant orgasms weren't enough, Intensity can actually improve your overall sexual satisfaction. Intensity has been proven to tighten and tone your pelvic floor muscles, increasing the power and intensity of your orgasms and heightening intimate sensations for both you and your partner. Experts are calling the Intensity the only intimate health product every woman needs. I felt the same way. If you want to know more about the Intensity and how it can change your sex life, check out our latest sex toy review podcast. Sex Toy Review Intense and Unplugged. To find out more about this orgasm game changer, visit pourmoi.com that's P-O-U-R M O I.com that's the intensity. Check it out. Back to the show. What Anderson What? What do you want? Do you want. What do you want from me for Christmas in your stocking bottle of booze? I always get you booze.

I know you do.

Like.

Thank you very much. I like Crown. I like Jack Daniels. I like. I like all whiskey.

Crown's better, right?

I'm Canadian.

I went to the Half Canadian. I went to bedmo and the guy thought I was, like, had some learning disabilities or something because my knowledge of alcohol and like, how old I am. Like, I think he thought, I don't know the difference between scotch and whiskey.

Whiskey better.

I don't.

I don't. And I'm probably an alcoholic in most doctor's books and I don't know the difference. So don't feel bad.

I felt really, like, ignorant about it and I was like, well, I know wines.

You're such a sweet person. She just brought me in a big bottle of boozes. Thank you for. For everything you do for me. That's very sweet. What do you want from me? What do I get?

Oh, nothing. Oh, God, nothing.

A Bible. You need a Bible there in your life. I think I should.

No. Yes.

Want a Quran?

I need some more religion. I've. I. Or some. No, I've been pretty spiritual.

Spiritual.

I hate. Anyone who says they're spiritual is not spiritual.

Anyone who says they're sexual is not sexual too. I'm a very sexual person. No, you're a very beautiful.

What if you forgot how funny you are?

I am so funny. Everyone laughs behind my back all the time.

No, but that's. You can't talk about it because then you're. No, it's not. Okay. So greet them with enthusiasm, which is important. And think about your partner every once in a while because we all have needs need to be met, which is why it's so important to be self and cater to your partner every once in a while. So do the things they love to do. Make their favorite meal, put on a movie they like. Even though you really wanted to watch the hockey game, you know, like, if you really hate it, you hate it. Whatever you can go with, turn on your iPhone and start texting your friends. Little tiny sacrifices will make them feel like a king or queen for the day. So it's worth it to think, like, when was the last time I made a little compromise that really isn't a big deal to me that would make my partner happy. Do you have an example? And also, this extends to, like, even people you're dating or in work or life. Any little sacrifices you do that you Think makes your partner happy?

Yeah, it's a constant. I mean, I'm one of those ones that I get happy by making other people happy. So it kind of comes naturally. But also I got to get, like, creative because I have one of these strange people that doesn't. I'm married to a person who doesn't like to go out to eat.

Oh, that's why you're always getting up.

Doesn't like to go see movies much either. So it's kind of like, what else.

Do you do, like, in the movie business?

That's all I want to do is, like, see movies and go out to eat.

What does she like to do? She doesn't like to leave.

She likes to see. So I. It's forced me to, like, find. Now I'm lucky enough that we live, like, in the metropolis that is Los Angeles. So there's always something. We were both born and raised here, she and I. But there's still so many things we haven't seen. But I'm sure that most people listening to this. There's cool little things in your little town that you've never done. We went on a tourist bus a couple weeks ago. We got la. Like, we got a tour of Hollywood and we lived here. You know what I mean? But it was still cool.

That's really. Was that her idea? So she'd rather do things like that? Maybe. And you'd rather go to movies?

I'm much more traditional. I'd just like to try a different little hole in the walls and this and that. Like food and drink. But she doesn't drink. She doesn't like food much. She eats fast food. So it's a challenge. But you find things.

But then every once in a while you get the fast food. Every once in a while you do something fun. Exactly. So it's not that. And you know this when you got together with this person or sometimes it's just. It doesn't have to be deal breakers that you can compromise also participate in their life, like outside of your. Like something like outside of the shared interests. So if it's like guys or sort of fantasy football, which I find so boring, but whatever. I can try to pretend that I care. Or you can sit with them, you know, favorite video games, exotic cars, whatever. Ask your partner about it. Like now, would you appreciate it? Do you ever feel okay, you don't even talk about your wife? But, like, in past relationships that you like when the person you're dating shows interest in what you do?

Yeah. At least they have to have interest in something.

Right. But what about. What if they never asked you, though? Hey, Anderson, tell me about your podcast or listen to it. How would you feel?

That's a little scary.

Like, so he's got after disaster, which is a great. Oh, also, sorry, I always. Film Vault, amazing podcast. They both are about film and. But what if you date. Were dating. Because this goes for dating. I'm just curious. And you were dating and she never said to you. So, like, how'd you get into, you know, talking about film? Why do you love film?

It'd be a little scary.

Would you be like, she doesn't care about me.

Yeah. Like, I'm just kind of a placeholder. Like, she just needs, like a guy in that position in her life and it doesn't really matter who it is.

She's not making an effort to know.

More about you, which obviously doesn't care. Right.

Well. Or she just is self involved and doesn't.

Which translates to, I don't care about you because I only care about me.

Right, exactly. So I would say that typically, though, even if you're in it, to continue to ask about those things too. Right. But no, you're right. There are people who I know a lot of guys. Well, it goes both ways. Yeah.

You know what? People are weird though, too. Like, I'll talk to people who have been work. Like, just recently, I went to this restaurant. It was really cool, is really old, had been there forever. I asked the guy how long he'd worked there. He said, like five years. I was asking some basic questions about the building. No idea. So sometimes people just don't think to ask questions about things that are around them, including their others.

But he probably appreciated interest.

But he was just like, he was.

Well, that wasn't a good example, but that was.

Yeah. Terrible example.

But I'm saying, I mean, no, but I think that everyone likes the people who. I mean, I've always been someone who grills people. I probably go overboard. I ask a lot of questions.

All right, here's a better example. I was dating a girl for probably six months, and I have a film strip tattooed on my arm. Right? Goes around and it looks a little bit like a snake. Some people think that this girl, five months into the relationship, somebody talked about the film strip on my arm. We were out in public, and she goes, oh, that's what that is. I always thought it was just like bracelets or something.

I'm like, she never asked about your tattoo.

She never asked about it. She just made an assumption. And it Was a wrong assumption.

And then did you dump her or. No, not like that.

Bang for another couple weeks.

But it's like taking interest. Like you put this thing on your body that you're gonna for the rest of your life. You just think that someone who wants to get to know you.

Like, I knew her tramp stamp was a butterfly. I could tell that should be your.

First time that she had a tramp stamp. But you know, did you ever talk about her stamp? Like, when did you heard? Did you ever say.

I asked her. Why? Many times.

Really. Right. But she never asked about yours. It's just interesting. So you just want to listen. You just want to like give and take. And also like, you know, for women, like if there's something that your partner, for guys that your partner is interested in that could seem trivial to you, just make the effort and ask anyway. We all want to feel like the person that we're with cares about all aspects of our life and that you are listening. Also praise their accomplishments. I think that everyone has a deep rooted need to be praised and feel like their efforts are recognized. And I think that a lot of people are withholding from that. They might think like, oh, if I praise my partner too much, she's gonna get a bit. This is like early on. This is what Menace always says. But he's just young. But no, I think you think so if you tell a woman too much that she's whatever, she's gonna think she.

But it's like, no, like she's gonna think what?

Like she likes. She's. This is like early on when you're dating. But I guess. But if you tell a woman that you're really into her, that you think she's really beautiful, she's gonna know that you're really into her and then take advantage of you.

That happened to Menace. That must have happened to him once or twice. Yes.

He's like a douchebag. It's one of those.

What?

No, I'm not. He's not. I love Menace. What I'm saying is there is a school of men, a school of thought that think that you have to be kind of douchey to be kind of aloof.

You have to be able to hold your own for sure. I mean, you have to. You can't just be like a pushover and constant like fawning over something.

Right? But I think that probably Menace or hurts. I think that this people do think this way. But all I'm saying is that we all the deep rooted need to feel like Our efforts are recognized. We do. No matter what we do, Work, life, we're proud of it. Right. And we want to feel like our partner sees our skills and talents and is proud of us. And I really think that that's true. Like, if your partner even they don't have a traditional job or you know, your husband is a stay at home dad and he just built a new deck and you think it's awesome. Like you could say, like, how did you do that? Or if she's home during the day with the kids. I don't know what. Not to be stereotypical, but you think people stop talking once they're together and it's just to show interest in what your partner likes makes them feel good as well. So. Right. Don't you think?

Yeah. Even if it's not something directly that relates to you.

Right, exactly.

Them as an individual.

And I think for men, like, did he just do, like, if you talk about, like, did he do something great at work recently or did he put up a new bookshelf? Like, don't just like thank him. I think that men want to be praised bookshelf. And then they want to be bragged about to friends and family. So if you're Thanksgiving dinner and your guy's probably not going to speak up and talk about the fact that he just got a raise or he won an award at work, it would probably make him feel good in front of his family. And women too. Some. If you brought it up. I think men like that more. Do agree or disagree.

I do. But I'm stuck on bookshelf.

It makes them feel validated or preserves their ego. Hey, I'm sitting the bar low.

You know how we call the glove box? The glove box? Yeah, because people used to put their gloves in there back in the day. That's what bookshelves are gonna be. Cause there's not gonna be any books in the near future.

That's true.

And they're still gonna be called bookshelves. Like our kids. Kids are gonna be like, why do they call them bookshelves? What's a book?

Exactly.

That's gonna be awesome.

Well, maybe those changes like store your store.

No, they'll still call it like they do a glove box. I love that. I never thought of that before.

I never thought that either.

Off roaded genius.

Off roading is totally fine. Because I do that.

And you know what? If it's. If this isn't coming naturally to you either and you. Maybe you should take a look at your relationship. Maybe you just don't care about the person sitting across from you much.

Exactly.

If you don't even ask what. What their tattoo means.

It's so true. This is. This is all like, really, if you. And this is good for. If you're just starting a relationship, too. So the next time you go out, you know, ask. I think a lot of people. I think they might not do it for several reasons. I think on the first date, a lot of people talk about themselves a lot because they're nervous and they don't. You know, I've got.

People love to talk about themselves because they're an expert.

So if you're a guy or a woman, whatever, who's anxious or anxious, like uncomfortable dating, and you don't ask questions. Where'd you from do brothers and sisters? I mean, you can go on and on. I do this all the time. It's not even because I'm nervous. I'm just actually really curious, so. And, you know. Yeah, ask questions. It's good. Makes them feel validated.

And you get to know the other person sitting across from you, too. If they just take the ball and run with it, and they're just. It's an hour later, they're still talking about themselves. Hey, look at that person. That's what they are.

Exactly. And then you know all the answers like, don't, don't play coy, and don't. But you must really be interested if you're sitting there like. And also, you never know what you're gonna learn from someone either. So look at this opportunity to learn. If you're like, I'm not interested in this person. Just make sure there's a natural balance, like a give and take when you're on dates and stuff like that. And also notice the small things. So like making a cup of coffee or remembering to TiVo your favorite show. TiVo. Isn't it funny? People still have TiVo.

I still have a TiVo, so it makes sense.

You do?

Yeah. Yeah.

Do you use it?

Yeah. They have an option with DirecTV. You could get. You can still get brand new TiVos.

I love them.

I love TiVo more than TV.

My TV thing gets filled up because I never watch TV.

But why do you even have one? Just get rid of it. Put a dildo display case where your TV is.

I already have dildos, like, all over in other places that they shouldn't. Wait, I was gonna say something else about my oven, but I don't have dildos in my oven because I don't have an oven.

But last, that's where I keep your.

Sex book in your oven.

Yes.

Cool. So wait. I was gonna say that. Tiva. Wait, back up. So can my directv. Can I get more memory on it?

I don't know. This feels like we're way off road now. More than the bookshelf.

Okay, so also, here's another thing.

I guess there's many. Like the genie. You should maybe look into the genie.

Okay. If you. So again, you guys, Holidays are coming up. Thanksgiving. Be thankful. If you want to appreciate your partner. You know, just think about some of these things, like, I haven't told her lately that I appreciate this or that or, you know, ask them some questions about things that you. Because a lot of times I think, again, making assumptions, we make assumptions that they don't want to talk about it, so we don't ask. Or we make assumptions that it's something that's too intimate, but I don't know, they'll let you know if it's too intimate. But I think a lot of times it can be seen as not caring. So it's. It's good to just ask questions. So how are we doing, Anderson?

We are doing fine.

I think there's more stuff that you could do now to appreciate your partner.

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. I mean, I like. And it works for both ways, too. You can figure out by, you know, using some of the tips you just gave if the person sitting across from you is wrong as well. It's not just about, you know, making your relationship better. It's maybe figuring out if the relationship's right.

That's true too. God, we learned a lot tonight. Okay, Anderson, thank you so much, and I'm thankful for you and happy Thanksgiving and thank you, everyone. Remember, go to my website, check it out, and look at all the great deals that I have and all the fun things happening. Sign up for the mailing list. I love you all. Grateful for you. Thanks so much for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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