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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend?

Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh, my. Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Be in bed. Feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can listen to all the podcasts. It's also easy to go to itunes and subscribe because I do two shows a week, and you'll never, ever miss a show again. I've got hundreds of them on itunes. You can also get a report. If you just put in your email address, you get the five biggest mistakes you're making in bed, whether you're a man or a woman. Because, Belita, we've all made some mistakes. I've even made some mistakes, so you gotta check that out. And also, the first thing I have to say is that I'm so excited. Oh, I'm here with Anderson. That should be the first thing I say.

Yeah, that's why you're so pumped.

He's got a lovely haircut.

That's why you're so pumped out.

I like your haircut. You look. Your eyes, you're all. You look young and happy and fresh.

Why, thank you. Thank you very much.

Having a good week?

Yeah, so far, so good. The Getting the haircut was kind of a pain in the ass. I had to schedule it in. I'm so busy. No, my lady, the girl that does mine pretty slow.

Really?

Yeah, I think she smokes weed. She likes to take her time. She likes to talk. It's like I'm. I'm, like, seeing her hands come off my head, and she's like, you know, use them to explain a story. I'm like, all right, great. Why don't you.

Dude, this happened.

Get the scissors back to the head there.

Oh, my God. That is so funny, because I hate that. I got my hair cut yesterday, and she was, like, telling me a story. She goes oh wait, she's blow drying my hair.

She listen to the show?

No.

You sure?

Well, I just met her yesterday.

Okay.

She's like, no, I love her. I love her. Brittany. Jim Wayne salon. Awesome. You awesome in Beverly Hills.

Well, now you're putting her on blast and giving out her info.

I love her. But she knew I told her this. She put her phone and she's like, oh, let me show you. Because I get very, you know, I love hearing stories. And she was telling me about a dating story. She goes, wait, I'm just gonna show you the text. And she stopped, put on her phone. I'm like, can we just keep blow drying?

There's no time for that.

No time.

I'm busy. But she's awesome. Look how good my hair looks.

Looks fantastic also.

And Wolf there does great hair too.

Wolf does.

Wolf. His name's Wolf.

The guy's name is Wolf?

Yeah, he's awesome. They're all awesome. And so anyway, today's show, like I said. Oh, this is exciting because. Exactly. Today's show is exciting because this is the second.

Does Wolf like guys? I'm sorry.

He does.

He does. Yeah. Okay, makes sense.

Yeah, he's gay.

Is his boyfriend Coyote?

No, but good question. I don't know his boyfriend's name.

He.

He's friggin awesome. But this is what I want to tell you is that this is the second time that you can watch my show. Streaming, live streaming. So if you're doing it, you can check it out@sexwithemily.com hopefully it's working. Roon is setting it up now. You can check out Rune. He's also got a podcast. Pretty oddcast. And Anderson has a podcast as well. After a disaster and the film Vault. But now you can watch me. People have been like for years. And if you do miss it though, if you. It's 8:30-9:30ish Pacific Standard Time on every Thursday night. But also if you can't watch at the time, it becomes live pod. It becomes a podcast. And you get a video podcast living on my website or on ustream. And you can watch if you're interested to see what is going on in the Loveline studio.

You can see our lovely haircuts.

Yeah, exactly. I think mine looks good. I'm very happy.

Ruhn wants to talk about how he has a haircut too. Okay, Rune, thanks.

He does have haircut. I'm sorry I didn't mention that. Rune. I noticed that today's show we are going to be talking about a lot of things you know, I get a lot of emails and I read them all and I love hearing from you because without you, I'm nothing. Feedbackexwithemily.com do you read them all?

What about the one? Do you get those crazy ones that are like nine paragraphs long, like four or five pages?

I'm so glad you said that because it's best for me if you just keep it short and sweet. A lot of people do give me a lot of background and I get it. You're like, Emily, you won't understand if you don't know that the first time we met, this happened. And the second time, you know what? Let's just cut to the chase. What is your real question and how can I help you? And I also get the people, like, I want sex you. You know those people, but I want sex you.

You know, people say cavemen text you.

Yeah, cavemen text me, email you.

Real quick update. Ustream is up and running, so go check it out.

Awesome. Okay, everyone. And it's from my website.

Yeah, from. From Emily's website. So go to sexwithemily.com and she is beginning to disrobe at this moment.

I'm getting naked. Yeah, I am, actually. So that's pretty exciting. And then also. Yeah. So we're talking tonight, reading your emails. Some of the topics include oral sex, how to give her multiple orgasms, online dating, and also what to do, like, how do you date multiple partners. And also, big announcement for me that I'm going to be in San Diego. I've never been. This weekend I'm teaching my Hustler workshop. I taught it in la. It's the Hustler Hollywood store in San Diego. They've got 11 stores in the country. And the first workshop was a smash success. And I was very excited that so many listeners came to meet me that I had never, you know, they drove in. It was exciting. I don't do a lot of live events, which I will be doing more of. And then this is in San Diego in the Gas Lamp quarter on Saturday, October 25th from 3 to 5pm and it's like a party. Like we're having refreshments, drinks, giveaways, and I'll be telling you how to blow his or her mind in bed. It's free. And apparently the Hustler Hollywood store in San Diego is even better than the one in Hustler Hollywood. It's like three stories of madness. It's like amazing sexy stuff.

Not better for Larry Flint.

Why not better for.

He's in a Wheelchair.

I know. Maybe they have an elevator for him. And also you get 20% off if at. If you that day. And also any house or Hollywood store if you tell them that Emily sent you.

How have you never been to San Diego?

Em?

Okay, so this is what I don't understand.

It's like down the street.

Well, I just moved.

Well, it's filled with college folks. Good looking, attractive beach types.

Maybe I'll get laid this weekend.

Oh, you could have all sorts of college dudes all over you.

I think there's some good stories. I think college dudes are sort of not my thing right now.

When are they going to be your thing? Ten years?

They're not. I think they were my thing. And also I want to say that. Oh yeah. I don't know how. I've never been there because to be honest. Well, I moved to Southern California almost two years ago, so I like Northern California. I can tell you anything. Southern California.

I've been really busy since I got any extra time when you're down there.

Yeah, totally.

You should go hit Tijuana.

No, I went there.

What? No, you gotta go to Tijuana.

Why is at least once scary?

Oh, it's terrifying. Yeah. Take some college guys you meet while you're there. Go see the donkey show. Ping pong show.

I want to go to the beach and chill. You can do that because I'm staying for two days and I haven't had a vacation in 8 million years. And I want to run on the beach, get a tan. I don't know what.

Gas lamp, quarter run on the beach.

I run.

God damn. Just settle down, honey. Go to the beach and lay down.

That's how I relax.

You relax by running?

I'm going to run and then lay down. Okay, but speaking of relaxing, I'm glad you brought that up because I might.

You almost call me menace just now. That was dirty.

No, I didn't.

You're.

Like I was saying, speaking of relaxing. But I do do shows with menace still. Don't be mad. He's jealous of you, you're jealous of him.

I'm not jealous. I'm fine.

I'm kidding. So listen, I've been meditating a lot the last few weeks. I've. I've started meditating when I was like 20, I don't know, years ago in Thailand. 10 day silent retreats. But believe it or not, I did not talk. But it never worked because I could do that for 10 days. But when I came back. How do you integrate that? So now I'm doing it twice a day, 20 minutes. And I feel like I make my assistant, I make her like I leave the office at four to do it again. It's on my schedule. Do I seem calmer?

Yeah, you seem good, actually. I know your head was not inside your bag today.

I know.

Did you even bring your bag?

I did. I brought two bags.

Yeah, okay, well, your head was in neither bag. I didn't see it anymore. I'm blown away. I did not know this about you, that you went on 10 days, three of them.

I've been silent.

So there's three separate times where Emily didn't speak a word. Did you? Did.

You can't read, you can't write, you can't make eye contact with anyone there. And you meditate from 4:00am to midnight or to 4:00am To 9:00 clock p.m. every day. You just sit, wait.

4:00Am T.O. 9.

You get breaks.

What do you do on those breaks? Can you talk?

No. No talking.

What are you doing? The breaks. You can't stare at people.

You can't write. No. You can't make eye contact.

Well, I thought you had breaks.

You walk, you get, you meditate for two hours and then you get like a 15 minute break and then you go back for two hours, then you have lunch.

So you force yourself to do nothing for 10 days at a time.

And it's amazing. And I feel such a transformation. I mean, I truly believe that meditation is curative for everybody. And I think that we wouldn't be such a jacked up society, an anxious society and drinking caffeine meds and all that stuff if people meditated more. It's truly healing. My issue is that I was never able to integrate it because the meditation I was doing, they were saying that you have to do it twice a day for an hour each. So I always felt I was like failing meditation.

Yeah, you need like a quick one, like a 10 minute in a party.

He's 40 minutes twice a day. And I go sit in my car at lunch and it's awesome.

Do you play music or anything?

No, no, no, no. Quiet, breathe.

What about people driving by and stuff?

I'm in the garage, no one's driving. It's quiet. I put earplugs in and I do it first thing when I wake up. So anyway, if I seem calmer to you, I'm glad.

That's very interesting. I did not know that about you.

I know 30 days in silence, but then I haven't stopped talking since.

I think that's what it is. Maybe you're making up for those 30 days.

I know. I don't want to say that.

I think you're ahead of yourself. You're winning.

I'm winning. Okay, so another thing I have to announce. I'll get all these announcements out of the way so we can get to your sex and relationship tips. But this is very exciting. I am the spokesperson and giving a keynote for the Sexual Health Expo. There has been nothing like this. It is January 17th and 18th in Hollywood, Los Angeles. Does that make sense? Hollywood, Los Angeles. In Hollywood, in Los Angeles, it's sexualhealthexpo.com and I'm giving away 25 tickets. And so if you email me@feedbackexwithemily.com over the next few weeks, I will be giving away tickets to 25 people and you can come. And the thing about the workshop is there's nothing like this. It's for men and for women. And there's going to be the most like the leading sex educators in the world are going to be there teaching workshops during the day. And there's also going to be like the latest and greatest sex products, sex type products. There'll be really fun parties. There'll be an award show. So everyone should join me.

How are you going to pick the 25 emails?

25 emails. I just want to see people's compelling reasons why they think they want the.

Tickets in like 150 words or less.

In 150 words or less. Thank you very much. Tell me why you need to attend this Sexual Health Expo. And each ticket is worth. It's for two people.

Oh, so they get a plus one.

Oh, my God. Plus one.

I would think that the stag people need more help than the people that already couples, but, well, if you don't.

Have a friend, hey, this is a great way to invite that person you're interested in and be like, hey, I'm going to this cool thing. You want to check it out, right? Could be a good icebreaker. Speaking of icebreakers, Roon, you wanna have a seat here for a second? So Rune Kincaid, he does the stuff here at Loveline, he does the social media and all the audio video. And he actually is in charge of this ustream stream that you're able to watch on my site. And before I get into your emails and stuff, he told me when he walked in that he did something that blew my mind. And I'm hoping I had something to do with it, but that's just my ego. But I really want to understand what he did because it's really unlike him. And I want to hear how it all went down. Ruhn, you can also find. He was on my show, like, a month ago, but also he has a podcast called Pretty Oddcast. Roon Kincaid, and he's also Rune Kincaid at Twitter.

Talk to me about what the hell you did tonight.

I approached girls in a bar.

Okay. And that's plural?

Yeah. Well, I haven't done anything like that in, like, eight years.

Okay. And what motivated you to do that?

Someone said something to me today.

Okay.

They said, you know, really attractive women hardly ever get approached.

It's true.

Yeah.

The attractive woman sitting at the bar alone or with her friends, she does not get approached.

Yeah.

Okay, so who said that to you? Just a friend.

My therapist.

Oh, she's right. Okay, so tell me. So that was it. And I've been saying that if you ever listen to my show for a million years, but go ahead.

Yeah.

What happened? So you thought to yourself, you're watching. You watching the game?

Yeah, I was watching the Broncos game.

And then you saw a pretty girl?

I saw two.

Two together?

Yeah.

Lesbians, for all I know.

Right. But you didn't care.

No, I didn't. I didn't care.

So you went up. Tell me everything.

Just, you know, we have kind of royalty at our Broncos bar, where the guys who started the group have reserved tables all the time. And I knew that they weren't showing up tonight. They were otherwise occupied with all these empty tables right at the front. I saw these two girls go to the back. And then my other friend said, hey, I'm gonna give these tables away. And I said, wait a minute. I'm gonna go see if those girls want to sit up here.

And.

And they did.

Tell me how you did it.

I just walked up to him and said, you want to sit up closer?

Said, hey, you guys, I got extra seat.

I don't usually have this kind of power in the world.

No, whatever. But then they came with you.

I don't usually have so much as open tables to offer.

Do whatever. You gotta use what you got. So what happened? They said yes?

Yeah, they said yes. They sat with me for about three quarters, and then the Chargers were kind of a rollover for the Broncos, and they left because it was a blowout.

Did you talk to them while you were watching the game? Oh, yeah.

Big Bronco fan. She thinks she might be a bigger Bronco fan than me.

Wait, were they. Did they think you're, like, the hostess or something? They're like, you're showing them to their seats. And then they're like, why the fuck is the hostess sitting down with us and eating food with us? Why isn't he putting more people on different tables?

Maybe.

Yeah.

My friend Ross and I were kind of like, reseating the bar tonight.

Okay, so tell me, did you talk to them? Like.

Yeah.

Did you get numbers?

No.

Okay.

I didn't get numbers. But I feel like they'll be there. They'll come back.

Let me tell you something. It doesn't even matter that you got numbers. All that matters is that you approached and you didn't die.

Didn't die?

Yeah.

Nothing bad happened.

I mentioned that to someone.

You started chatting with chicks and that. And it's all about practice. It's. It's practice makes perfect. And the more you do that. And I love that your therapist said that the more that you do that, the more comfortable be. And you'll just see hot girl. You won't even think twice. And you'll be. You'll think of something to say. It's always about, like, observing something going on.

I'll still probably think twice. Yeah, but like, maybe, like, I'll think like nine times instead of 10.

I mean, you won't always have an open table, but, you know, doesn't matter. You can just be like, hey, how you guys. You know, it's so loud in here. How you guys even hearing each other, you know, whatever it is you observe.

That's a valid point as well. Our bar is too loud.

No, but what I'm saying is if you see girls at another bar when you don't have the power of the table master.

Yeah, I gotta get these tables.

More tables wherever I go, whatever it is. It doesn't matter what you have. You just started talking to them. So I thank you for sharing that with me. Yeah, I'm very appreciative. Thank you, Roon.

Take that to heart. Except other guys shouldn't do that because.

They'Ll put down my chances. Okay. All right. Okay. No, everyone should do it. And I love that you did that and you haven't done in eight years. And you're a handsome, young, successful man.

Oh, that's true. Rune, be honest here. How many beers had you in buy before you asked them?

Oh, a quarter. A quarter of a beer.

A quarter of a beer?

No, a quarter. Not a quart of beer. A quarter.

A quarter. A quarter of a pint. I don't know what that means.

That's like, nothing. You're not drunk yet.

Yeah, 4 ounces.

I'm so proud of you. Yeah, and just keep doing it.

We had to do it before the game, after the game, everyone's focused.

How many did you imbibe with the young ladies?

Are you drunk? No.

Two and three quarters.

What the fuck is with his math?

Well, that was.

How do you know? Were you mad at me?

Oh, so you have three total.

I see three total. And I had consumed a quarter before.

Are you drunk right now?

He's, he's a little looser, but he's not drunk. He can pass his field sobriety test, but he's still, he's got a little.

Well, whatever you need liquid courage. I'm really proud of you guys.

I also have to factor in Broncos victories. Makes me, like, kind of uppity.

Who? The Broncos.

Uppity. That's a professional football team.

I'm kidding. I know. Yeah, I know that.

I was very nervous tonight and they thrashed the Chargers, so I'm right.

So the king. The king guys that own this table, are they usually there? The one, the royalty, were they not there because they were actually at the game down in San Diego?

No, one was in Denver and the other is having a baby this week.

I got born.

Well, I'm just proud of you that after eight years you did it and now do you feel like you're ready? Because it's kind of thing. Once you start doing it, I feel.

Like it'll be the same battle over again.

You might have the anxiety, but you just go talk to him. Just start talking. I always tell. And I was having this with my ex boyfriend who's one of my best friends this weekend. He's like, I don't know what to do. I, I, he's really funny, he's extremely witty, great texter, great sexter, really great wordsmith. But the approach kills him. And he was like in yoga and he came out of yoga and he saw this woman. He's like, I'm in love, Emily. And he went up to her and he said, hi. I just, I'd kill myself if I didn't say hello. And I just want to, I'm wondering if you want to go out sometime or. He said, you probably have a girlfriend boyfriend. And she said, yeah, I do, but thanks. And he's like, so was that okay? But I seemed really nervous. I was like, well, no, that's great. I wouldn't lead with you probably have a boyfriend, but I would just. I think it's great that you went up with her because I was giving him feedback because typically you just want to just observe like, God, that class was hard today. How do you think that, you know, have you been just, like, classes here? Like, who's your favorite teacher? Don't ever ask a yes or no question. So the first thing you do is observe something that you can both talk about. That was a really hard class, don't you think? What are the other teachers that you like in this studio? Because then she can't go yes or no. And then you start talking. And he's great at talking. He just can't break the ice. So that's what I was telling him to do. And I'm glad that you did this, too.

Yeah.

And he's worth it.

Yeah.

And he gets really hot chicks by all the time, but he usually. He's drunk, but he's trying not to. No offense, but he's trying not to drink as much and lead a healthier lifestyle. So he's like, I don't know how to do it after yoga. You know, I don't know how to do it during the day. So I'm, like, coaching him. So I'm coaching everyone. I'm coaching everyone. Listening. Men and women. Yeah.

Getting better.

Okay, thank you.

All right, I'll go cut your shirt.

I appreciate it, and thank you for doing my ustream and for being so great. My pleasure. Okay, so anyway, I've got a little bit of sex the news here, which is one story, actually, that I think is enough. And then your emails.

One in five single men would rather have an iPhone 6 than a girlfriend. What do you think about that, Anderson?

I think one of them might have just left the room.

No, he wants a girlfriend. You take them out to dinner and never go on holiday without them. They're right beside you as you fall asleep, and they're there to greet you when you wake. Without them, you feel confused, bereft, like part of you is missing. But enough about your phones. Let's talk about love. Apparently, nearly a fifth, 17% of single men would rather have an iPhone 6 than a girlfriend. One man who took part in the poll said if it came down to a choice between going on a date or queuing for the iPhone, the mobile would win every time. And 2% of men with partners said they would leave them if it meant they could get their hands on the iPhone 6. Who the hell did this survey?

But you know what this means. Ladies, if you're listening, Halloween's right around the corner. So dress up like a sexy iPhone.

Dress up like a sexy iPhone. I heard that this new release sold more iPhones than any other iPhone, I.

Think that's not true.

Yeah, I heard it. I heard it in Howard Stern. Okay, so it must be true. In other slightly Sad technophile news, 3% said they were closer to their mobile phones than their girlfriends.

So the thing is, yeah, more people feel emotional attachment to a lump of glass, stainless steel, plastic, and circuit boards than human. And it was. But here's the thing. This upsets me. And I'll tell you why, not both personally and globally, because I sleep with my iPhone on my pillow. Like I charge it every night. Like I'm freaked out. Like if it gets below 30%, I have anxiety.

It's not good for your brain. Leave it away from your pillow.

Do you believe that's true? It's not like on my pillow. It's like next to my pillow. I do believe that it's not on though. I turn it off.

Keep it away from like your crotch and your head.

I don't put it in my crotch unless it doesn't vibrate. But not yet. But. Well, I guess it vibrates if you text me. No, the point is, I'm very attached to my phone and I would never replace it for sex or a boyfriend, but I just kind of seemed to like. I don't know, I get it. I get being the friggin attachment, but.

There'S a bigger picture, Em.

What's the bigger picture?

The phone represents everything that's not the girl. So it's their entire life.

Beyond the girlfriend is all the pictures, all their social media, all their contacts. You know what I mean?

Yeah.

So it's not just that they're in love with the glass and the games on it.

These guys are saying they'd rather get the six than the dump. They dump their girlfriend.

Yeah. That's what makes it creepy is when they're being so specific, when it's such. Such a specific question. Like a certain model. Like, they would rather have a girlfriend than a five, but they'd rather have a six than a girlfriend.

Exactly. What if I'll give you a brand new iPhone5? You think that would change?

Well, that means like a year from now, the six won't be a big deal anymore and they'll want the girlfriend again.

Yeah, exactly. But then there'll be a seven. It just goes on and on and on. But you know, the iPhone. Here's another dating tip for people who want to meet someone. Get off your frigging phone. When you're in public, you're at a bar, you're. I always say bar, but like, bars aren't the best place when you're on. Where. When. Wherever you are getting coffee, you're on the elevator, supermarket. Get off your phone. I mean, I'm speaking. I'm trying to do that as well. Like, I'm. I'm physically. I'm mentally, physically, like, trying to. To remember to have time away from my phone because it's so consuming. And you're not seeing the world and you're not meeting people if you're single and you're all on your goddamn phones.

What. What were you gonna say?

I was gonna tell a quick story.

Go.

It's a very upsetting story. I was at the west side Pavilion a few months ago now. You know, west side Pavilion? No, it's a very.

Either San Diego or the west side Pavilion.

West side Pavilion's a big, very popular mall out here. And they have this great bridge, actually bridges the two separate sections of the mall. And it overlooks, like, Wilshire Boulevard and Pico Boulevard. It's a beautiful view, right? There's big billboards and you can see, like, half of west la. It's a really great view. I was sitting there watching it, doing some writing, you know, just kind of relaxing, trying to do my own meditation type thing. And these three teenagers walked by and they saw the view. They looked at the view for maybe a half a second, maybe a full second, and then spent the rest of the time with their back to the view. It's glass, like, you know, ceiling to floor, taking selfies, not even looking at the view. They probably spent about two and a half, three minutes taking selfies of themselves. And then they just put the phone in their pocket and walked away. Never. They looked at the view with their actual eyes for probably a full second.

And they were like a great light for us to get a great three.

Minutes, trying to, like, prove that they were there. And, you know, with the cool view.

We have to document everything that we do. I mean, whatever. But follow me on Instagram. Sex with Emily. I don't do it enough and check.

It only when there's no one around. Whenever I'm on my phone, though, I'm conscious of it and I feel like a douche.

Are you? Yeah.

And I try and get off the phone.

Do you?

I try and, like, not look at stuff when I'm out in public, but then other times, I'm lazy. I'm like, I don't care if people think I'm a douche. I want to look at the scores.

Yeah, but you're not looking to make new friends and pick up chicks right now, either. But still, I just think we're married. But whatever. I still think it's addictive. And I do believe that I'm. Even during Loveline, we're all me and Drew, and Mike's on the computer. Drew and I are on our phones. Like, I just really want to quit my phone. Wish I could quit you. Like, I've had weekends where I've tried that, and it feels. You actually feel like a physical change in your body when you're away from your phone. What?

I just love that you quoted Brokeback Mountain.

Do I get to be on your podcast now?

Your phone is a girl. That's what it tells me.

Exactly. Okay, I'm gonna get into some emails here from the people. So thank you for emailing me@feedbackextwithemily.com and also speaking of Instagram, you can also follow me on Twitter, which sex with Emily. And like, my Facebook page, which is facebook.com sexwithemily because that has a lot of useful information for you and it's fun as well. Okay. Dear Emily, I absolutely love your podcast, and it's totally changed my sex life for the better. I'm 21, male, from San Francisco, and I'm having a problem with staying hard during round two of sex. It's really been bugging me on why I can't keep an erection. I don't smoke. I'm not on any medications. I do drink, but the problem doesn't occur after drinking. Can you help me out here? Thanks for your awesome podcast. I seriously enjoy listening to it every week. Thanks, Mike. Okay, Mike, here's the deal. First, let me just say congratulations that you even have the option of around 2. A lot of guys don't, right? Like, refractory period could take a little longer. But here's the thing. Maybe you need to. I'm not sure if you're good, like, going right for round two, because there is the refractory period, and it might take you a little while to get hard again. And so what you can do during that time is to turn the tables and try to go back to pleasing her. So perform oral sex, rub her breasts for more foreplay. And so then you can build up the excitement again. And maybe you need a little extra stimulation. So maybe you need to start. Start talking dirty door or watch some porn together. You know, men, women, a lot of people are into porn born. Maybe you need something else to stimulate you again. And also, I would say, do your sexercises. Kegel exercises are for Men and for women, guys are always like, what? What are they? And they're not for me. Yes, it's those peace stopping muscles when you stop and start the flow of urine, like, you know what I'm talking about. Like, you know, I'll know how to stop and start the flow urine. And if you do it for five minutes a day, and each time you hold it, like for three, five, three to five seconds, your muscles, it'll help tighten your muscles responsible for your penis and for ejaculatory control so you actually last longer the first time. And you become familiar with them by cutting off the flow of urine, like I said, and starting again. And once you have the exercise down, you can practice them anywhere. I also happen to have an iPhone app called Kegel Camp that is super popular because you can download it. And the thing about it is, because you're never going to remember to do these. You're like, that's a great idea. And you're not going to do them. But you can set a reminder on your phone, like every day, 12:30, I want to do my. It pops up and it says, time for Kegel Camp. And it's actually my voice that walks you through it for five minutes. And there are 20 levels that you go through. And it's fun. You can actually, you know, you can turn off the volume if you want, but you know, you can just. It reminds you to do them. So every day on my phone at 11:30, I do my goddamn kaggle exercises. And they're for women and helps women have stronger orgasms. It helps women with urinary incontinence after childbirth. They're just a great exercise. So do that, do that, try that stuff and see how it works. But don't bum out my second round. 2. I just think that don't get in your head too much, that you can't stay hard during long two because you sound like a healthy male. And I think if you try some of these things and you'll be fine, but let me know how it goes. And thank you so much for the kind words. I love my San Francisco people.

Listen, there's a good chance that he or she's not going to want round two. Well, a lot of time the ladies are done, they're like, all right, yeah, that's true.

But maybe I'm wondering if he comes too quickly and he wants to last harder, longer, in which case he should try promescent, which is the only FDA approved treatment for premature ejaculation. It's a delayed spray Whatever.

So it's better than that stuff that you can buy in the bathrooms at dive bars for 50 cents.

Please don't buy that stuff.

What is that stuff?

Dude, it's just.

You think it's safe to put on the old pee?

No, this is fda. The only FDA approved treatment for staying longer, lasting longer, bad. And you just put a little bit on your penis and it's a delay spray and your penis will stay harder, longer, and it doesn't transfer to your partner. Do you want it?

No, I want to do a test with the stuff and the dive bars.

And you're gonna put it on your peniscent and then you'll have to come in after drew investigate it because your penis will fall off.

Yeah.

Oh, you want tripomescent or the one.

I want to do like a taste test with my dick or I tries test it Tries both. It tries the 50 cent stuff.

Unless you can taste your own dick.

I go to these dive bars all the time. You go in the bathroom and they, you know, have like the French tickler condoms.

Yeah.

Like glitter conditions, little pictures of actual naked pussy. It says, God, gross. And then they have stay harder longer numbing agent.

Oh my God, people, please don't do that. Just do the one that FDA approved promescents on my website. Okay. Dear Emily, when you're single, what is the best way to handle going on dates with more than one person? Should you be upfront about going on dates with another person? What if you end up liking both? Tips would be greatly appreciated, Chris. Okay, Kris, this is a great question because I believe in this day and age, a lot of people are dating around and have there's so many more ways to meet people. Like, you could be in a relationship. And then you're on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram and you're online dating and you're meeting so many more people. And I think people aren't settling down as quickly. And so there is nothing wrong at all with dating multiple people. And I don't think you should be guilty about it because I do encourage it. And I also think that there's so many bad relationships that turn stale after a while because it's pretty, you know, you have a good date with someone and the next thing you know you're in a relationship and you don't really know that much about him because you had sex right away and then you're like, you know, oh, I don't really like him. So I think it's better to date around. And so I think that the thing about dating more people is that you find out more about yourself. Like, I think that through dating people, I've learned more about what I want in a partner, what I don't want, and more about myself and how I want to be in a relationship and how I want to be treated and how I want to be loved. So all that's good stuff. But to answer your question and Anderson, I want to see what you think of this. I don't think that he's under any requirement to reveal that he's dating other people on the first few dates. I mean, until it gets, like, serious or they're having sex. A lot of times the women bring it up more than men. I think typically, that's what I hear from guys, that women bring it up more. If it starts becoming really hot and heavy and you start having sex, then I would say, you know, bring it up. But I would just assume that.

Bring it up.

Well, okay, here's the thing. If she doesn't bring it up and you don't bring it up, definitely use protection and have sex. But maybe after you have sex, and I think that you'll know, Chris, the right time to bring it up. So I would not bring it up in the first, second, or third date. So, by the way, I'm dating other people because. Just assume that she is, too.

I mean, yeah, just brace yourself for. She's gonna ask you, like, so you seen anyone else? Don't you think that the women always. And I've been guilty many times of. Accused of being dishonest by omission, where I just don't say anything. You know what I mean?

Right.

Plead the fifth, bring up something else.

But when they ask you do, you say yes. And then they're like, why don't you tell me?

Yeah, that's. That's been the case. Some people have been fine with it, but usually if she's asking, it's because she wants you to be the one.

Exactly.

So she wants to be the one for you.

That could happen, too. But I also don't think you want to prematurely reveal that you're dating other people.

You don't go out, like, on your first date and you're at dinner and you're like, oh, by the way, I'm.

Seeing, like, four other girls date Saturday. And I banged a girl yesterday.

Two redheads, a blonde. Now you.

Yeah. Like, people. People don't need to know that. You don't need to delve into what is going on in your life in the first few dates. Again, if you Start sleeping with them, you know, once, twice, whatever, you know, that you might start to get attached. And then, and then he also said what if you like both people? Was a sex second question. And I've. I've done that before.

Brutal. It's one of the worst things in the world.

Really. What is? When you like two people at once.

When you figure out that like there's two people in your life that you really care about and you know that you're gonna hurt one. Both. It's awful.

But then how do you decide? How do you. Because that's his question.

Flip a coin.

Yeah, you just flip a coin. But I think that it's hard. I've had that problem too, that I've had that challenge. But I think you just think about it enough and you just kind of know. I mean, I think it becomes obvious after a while that you're just kind of like leaning towards one and you will hurt someone. But if you know, like you can't like them exactly the same. And if you do, well, a lot.

Of the time it's because you like them for completely different reasons. That's why you like both of them.

At the same time. And the other one is great together.

They'D make the perfect human being. You know what I mean?

I always say I wish there was like a Mr. Potato Potato Head man where I can have like the eyes of this ex boyfriend and put on the nose of this one. But meaning more like this one had. This one was great in bed and this one was really fun to go out with. And this one, we had great vacations and this one was a great communicator. You know, like. Remember Mr. Potato Head?

Oh yeah. Picture him with a penis.

No, I just want to build him that way.

You're not a control freak, are you?

No, but I always think about like if you could just put them together and I could cut and paste all my ex boyfriends together, I'd have the perfect man. But that person doesn't exist. You just got to choose which flaws you can live with in the other human. And they're gonna choose that. Your flaws too.

And don't take the easy choice, especially as guys. A lot of time you gotta go to the enabler. And I might be speaking from myself, but you know, you're gonna go to the girl who's like more into your stuff or willing to do something for you and you think that's good, but long term that might not be so obvious. What do you mean?

The one who's more of A codependent.

Codependent enabler. Yeah.

What do you mean by enabler? Like she lets you get away with stuff.

Yeah. Like she doesn't call you on your shit. I mean, don't always take the easy chance.

That's true. Don't take the one that makes you feel the most comfor. And yet you aren't completely yourself.

Think about yourself as a team with this person down the road. If you are gonna actually pick somebody.

Think about someone you wanna grow with. Think about a woman or a partner that challenges. Challenges you to grow as a human and that is emotionally evolved and not just involved. And involved. Okay, but we. And then next thing is oral sex tips. But first, a word from my incredible sponsors who help keep the show free. And one of them is, no, no, I love this. No, no. Because Anderson, I've not shaved since I got the. No, no. And not only haven't I shaved, I haven't shaved for like months now. I just use it all over my body. My legs, my arms, my face, my back. Like you could use it. Not my back. Men can use it on their back and their chest. Men get hairs in places and they're like, do I go to a waxing place? And it's long lasting, there is no pain. It's so easy to use and you have weeks of long lasting results and it'll change your life because you spend so much money and razors and waxing and you gotta buy more and da da da da. And this way you just have it for life. You charge it and you can use it anytime. And the hair is gone, gone, gone. It's not stubbly and I don't know, I just feel like you guys gotta try it because I've been talking about it and I, it's like I, I think to myself like, oh my God, I haven't shaved. Like it feels just. I feel so free. Like I don't have to worry about shaving now. And I have so much more time to worry about other things. So go to nonoemily.com that's nonoemily.com you get 100% 60 day money back guarantee. And you also get a $50 gift card to an award winning skincare line, which the skincare line rocks too. It's just all an amazing deal. NonoEmily.com okay. Also flashlight number one sex toy for men. Because men, you really don't. The thing is there's a few other sex toys out there, but this really is the number one because it's a Male masturbation sleeve. And I know you're like, I don't need a toy because I have my hand. But here's the thing. Women have hundreds of toys to choose from. You use your hand and of course it feels amazing. I'm sure it does. But what if I told you that something else felt equally amazing, if not better, and it was a different sensation? The Fleshlight actually simulates the sensations of having sex. So you don't have to just rely on your hand. You put a little lube in it and it feels amazing. And I've given it. I have. They sent them all to my office and I've had a bunch of my guy friends try it. And I've not had one guy friend. These are like straight friends, gay, whatever, who are in relationships or not. And they're like, holy moly, this feels amazing. Can I get one for most? One? I think some of them come in and steal them from my office when I'm not there, which is hilarious. So check it out. The Fleshlight stamina training unit helps you last longer in bed. So if you go to sexwithelmi.com. oh, here's a new deal. Sexwithelmy.com Click on the Fleshlight banner. They are giving their award winning flesh lube to all my listeners. So use coupon code. Emily, you get a lube and a Fleshlight and then tell me it doesn't rock your world because I'd be interested if you don't like it, because I know you're gonna love it. And when you love it, you can email me about that as well.

So you've tried the hand. Everyone's had the vagine.

You had the hand of vagina.

A lot of people have had the bum.

Yeah.

Who hasn't had a mouth? Why limit yourself time to try something new?

Exactly. Like what if I like. It's amazing.

It's spitballing here. Does this work?

I don't know. What'd you say?

I'm just, I'm just going with that. Does that work as a. Yeah, well, it's true.

You've had. You've tried four orifices?

Yeah. Why not? Yeah, why not a fifth?

Why not a fifth orifice? And just, just tell me you hate it.

Right?

Because men's. Men stick their penises in everything anyway.

I love that we start the, we start the program with like. It sickens me that these men want glass and stainless steel instead of a woman. Hey, but stick your dick in a Fleshlight.

I'm not saying to trade in your woman. I'm just saying that, you know, she can use it on you too.

Every guy masturbates, so it's much, from what I hear, much, much better.

Yeah, and a lot of guys masturbate several times a day. So, you know, why not mix up that routine, people, and learn how good your penis can feel.

And when you're done, imagine those guys if the iPhone 6 came with a.

Fleshlight we'd never seen.

That's it. That's what the iPhone 7 is gonna be.

The world would be eradicated from men altogether. Okay, so now I gotta talk about oral sex. Probably because it's my favorite topic, but. Emily, hi. This is a weird question, but is there any proper way to go down on a girl or does it depend on the girl and what she likes? Thank you, John. Okay, John, I'm so glad you asked the question. And I don't think I could answer this topic nearly enough. First, I'm gonna start with a quote that I heard today from the infamous Ron Jeremy. You know who he is? Long time porn star. Famous, infamous for his 10 inch member.

And he said, julie, are trained actor.

Is he?

No, but he's, he's actually, he's very educated.

Oh, I didn't know that. I've met him so many times. He seems so. Not educated. I mean not nothing educated. He doesn't really talk much. He's kind of grunts and grabs my breasts or grabs my waist. He does. He's kind of creepy, but he's awesome. He said, listen to this because all you men complaining that you have small penises and why don't have a Ron Jeremy 10 inch penis. This is a quote from Ron. More women have gotten off with my tongue than my penis. And he's done thousands of films. Okay, people, so this is why oral sex skills are so important. So the first thing I have to say is you have to tease her first. Do not go straight for clitoris. This is the thing that drives me so crazy. And I always talk about this at foreplay. Not a suggestion, a requirement, because women actually require it to get warmed up. So tease her, spend time kissing her, her breasts, you know, foreplay, kissing her neck. And then when you have her really turned on, you can start to move down her body and then again, still don't go right for her hot spot. Tease, tease, tease as long as you can. And the ideal situation that you want, guys, is that she's begging for it. That she cannot wait for your mouth to get on to her clitoris, vagina the whole thing. So you can run your tongue along the inside of her thighs, gently flicking the tongue against her clitoris. That's part of what makes sex amazing, you know, is the anticipation. So make her wait. That is what's going to get her turned on. And I. I know that guys are always in a rush for sex. Like, they. They just. They get turned on. They're like, I'm hard and so I'm ready and I gotta go now. And women are like, sitting there like, what the hell's going on? I'm so not into this yet. And that's why they're rejecting you, because you have to warm them up. And I'm sorry, that's a bummer, guys, but it's biology. That's how we're built. There's nothing I can do to change the situation for you, except for to give you help here, like I'm doing. So when you do, begin licking her clitoris after she begs you, because she's so wet and excited, start off slowly. Focus on the clitoral hood, which is located just above. You know, just above it, which is above vagina. Little pink bump. Alternate between wide licks and small licks to see what she likes. Use your fingers. Some women like their fingers, some don't. While your tongue explores the outside of her vagina. So let your fingers bring it home. You can use two fingers. You can try to find her G spot. And also keep a steady rhythm. Because once you find the right technique, you're gonna know. You're gonna be able to tell that she's really, really into it. She get. Starts breathing heavier, she might be grabbing you. She's bucking her hips, the whole thing. Keep it up, keep going, and be patient. I'm sorry, it doesn't happen in three minutes. It probably doesn't happen in five minutes. I mean, if you're really good at foreplay and turning around, like kissing her and all that, she'll be really turned on already. Because if oral sex isn't your thing for 20 minutes, and I know a lot of guys are like, they're next. They complain the whole thing. So turn her on in other ways, but also ask for what she likes and encourage feedback to ensure the best oral experience possible. So I'm actually going to get into another question, which is about multiple orgasms. And I'm going to include. Include in here, a guy wants to know about malt, a little bit more about oral sex. We have time for one more?

Absolutely. Real quick, Ron Jeremy, I figured it out. No, no, Is he here? He did. I was at a little small house with like five or six people one night and knock at the door and he just rolled in.

Yeah, he's like friends with himself. Yeah, he's like scruffy and he talks shit.

He's been on Loveland a number of times. Yeah, I don't think he showers much.

He doesn't shower. That's the thing.

Not a big fan of it. But he actually has his master's in special education and he actually taught me special education for a while.

Yeah, it's great. He just looks like he's like. Yeah, run down. I shouldn't judge him. I'm sure he's very smart.

Smart guy.

10 inch penis. You know, large brain, large penis.

Hate soap.

Not that it has to do with your brain being large. Okay, so Emily, can you advise me the best? Okay. No, that's the one. Oh, yeah. Okay. Dear Emily, can you advise me the best way to get a woman to orgasm or better yet, multiple orgasm. And what would you recommend for the best sexual position to achieve this? Thanks again, Emily. I love your show. Kind regards, Ron. Okay, so this is similar to what I was just saying a little bit. But. But here's the first tip I want to tell you. Is that because he wants to know about multiple orgasms. I think that lube is the most underrated. I want to say condiment accessory for sex on the planet. And there was a study that came out that said nearly 50% of women who use lube say it's easier to have an orgasm. So lube gets a bad rap. There's a stigma to it. She's dry, there's discomfort, I'm not turning her on enough. But even if she's already wet and you add a drop or two of lube, she will be more likely to orgasm. So get some lube, that will help. Also, I love. I'm obsessed right now with Uber lube. It's a silicone lube. You can get it at Good Vibes like I was talking about earlier. Good Vibes. Click on the Good Vibes banner on my website. But that's a silicone lube that you can't really use with condoms. So it's. If she's on the pill and you're not using condoms. But there's amazing water based lubes too out there, like Sliquid and Please Me Lube. They're all on my Good Vibes page. Okay. Also, if you want to give her multiple orgasms, you have to become clitorent.

Not all Guys are clitorate. Most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than what's going on with the clitoris.

Well, there's a lot more under hood of a car.

That's not true.

A lot more parts.

Not true.

Well, a lot more different parts. Okay, yeah, but because the Clitoris has what, 8 billion sensory things or whatever.

8,000 nerve endings, twice that of the penis. Thanks for asking.

But they're all the same kind of.

What do you mean?

Well, there's like pistons and Johnson rods and belts and fans and stuff.

There are 18 parts to the clitoris, I'll have you know. Twice as many nerve radiators.

18 parts in that little bean? Yeah, 18.

18. There's quadrants.

Who studied that?

Me. I'm telling you, I'm not having sex.

Did somebody really like dissect it and figure it out?

Oh my God. There's quadrants of her clitoris. Yeah, you could have a field. That's why she can have so many goddamn orgasms. And the only reason the clitoris exists is for female pleasure.

I'm thinking of a filthy version of Honey I Shrunk the Kids where he shrinks himself down and then he can figure it all out on his own wife, you know what I mean?

Because he gets down there because he's so small.

Yeah, it's too small to be able to figure out.

Get a friggin microphone. What's it called?

They're called microscopes. You're speaking into a microphone.

So listen. So when pleasuring a woman, there are multiple methods for multiple orgasms. So first, ladies first. Again, I'm gonna bring it up. When it comes to satisfying woman, a little old fashioned chivalry goes a long way. And here's another quote that I love.

Lorena Bobbitt. You remember Lorena Bobbitt?

Oh yeah.

She cut off her husband's penis.

I do recall. She threw it out the window of a car, I believe.

Right, exactly. She was pissed off. When was that? In like the 90s?

Early 90s, it was. Whenever that song I'm Half the Man I Used to Be came out. I always thought that was his song. Okay, listen. But then they started back on and then he made that porn.

Oh, okay. Oh, right. Good. At least he made a career out of it. Sewing back it out. Listen, Lorena Bobbitt, who, when questioned by police as to why she cut off her husband's penis, she responded, he always had an orgasm and didn't wait for me. It's unfair.

I don't Know, I don't know if that's really.

It's true.

Good enough reason.

No, but she cut off his friggin picture. There were other things going on. Like maybe he didn't do the dishes and you know. But he didn't wait for her to finish. And a lot of guys don't. Because you guys finish before women. Because you take four to six minutes to orgasm, if you're lucky. And we take like 18 to 45.

You guys are scary.

I know. I'm telling you.

What about the girl? What about the lady? I'm sure that she learned from Lorraine Bobbitt's mistake. Where she threw it out the window. So this other lady, she cut off the penis. I don't know if it was for the same reasons. Threw it down the garbage disposal. So you can't. You can't sew that back on.

No, you can't. I don't know why.

Flip the switch.

You should interview these women.

No, I don't want them anywhere fucking near me. Emily, are you kidding me?

I'm so sorry. Okay, so the thing is, the male orgasm comes easier. And you know, there's like an. There's like an ejaculatory like inevitability with men. Like you're just gonna have an orgasm. But women are not as lucky. So think outside the box. No pun intended. Rare. So listen, and here's another thing. Rare is the man who's like in the locker room going. Oh, I made love to her as subtly and lightly as a feather. Or I grazed her Volvo with the delicate wings of a butterfly. They don't talk about that. They're like, I thrust at her, pounded her like a jackrabbit. But here's the thing. This would be appropriate because the inner 2/3 of the vagina are the most sensitive. So before you go pounding away, that's another way that you can learn to turn her on. So think up out of the box. And I mean this pun as being very int. Also, avoid her genitals first and try her breasts. Because for a good 15 minutes you can lick them, you can touch them. Because a breast gasm is actually the second most common type of orgasm. So that could count as one of the word. Before What?

Breast gasm.

You have it? No, I think I made it up.

You have to be lactating for also.

So we got you. Tell you about the clarity.

I'm sorry, what'd you say about the 2/3?

Okay, the inner 2/3 of the women's vagina. So. So. So again, small if you have a smaller penis, it doesn't matter because that's the most sensitive.

So, okay, so like, if you. If you were to divide it into thirds, the first two thirds.

First two thirds, when you.

Once you enter, are the most likely. And then beyond that, it's like, yeah.

No, it feels too. I'm not saying all that doesn't feel good, but they're really sensitive, so your penis just rubbing the end two thirds can feel great. Also, let your fingers do the walking. I'm telling you, and this is from a lot of women I know that told me that their best orgasms came from their boyfriends giving them manual stimulation and talking dirty and looking around the eyes. Because women, we are visual as well, just like you. We're intimate. If you look us in the eyes and you talk dirty. Not every woman likes talking dirty, but you don't have to be, like, filthy, but you can be like, you're so hot the way you, you know, I love that you're so wet. Whatever. You don't have to go all crazy, but, you know, find out if your partner likes a little dirty dog. That can really turn on. Because words, like the brain is our large, our most effective sex organ. And so what? It makes sense that words turn on women. Like, for years I was dating writers because I loved, like, the emails and the texts they sent me. But then I realized when I was with them, like, if they really turned me on and they're not even just sex, I just loved writers. But then I realized, like, in person, they weren't as great. But not all of them. Some of them were. But the point is that the words can really turn us on. So try talking dirty. And also, again, your fingers. Now here's a great tip, okay? How to give her an orgasm, because, you know, the other way. And I'm gonna get to the position in a minute. Let your fingers. And I love that people can watch. Right now on you stream drape against the full expanse of her vulva or her vagina like a thick curtain, right? So let her. Let her push against your palm and use your index and middle finger to make. Okay, so here's her pubic mound, right? So I'm facing. So pretend this is like her stomach.

Okay, got it. You gotta at least just explain for those who.

Okay, so what I'm explaining is your hands are. Your hand is on her pubic, like her pubic region where she would have hair. And your fingers are reaching towards her vaginal opening. Okay? So let your fingers drape against the full Expanse of vagina, like a thick curtain. Oh God, curtain. That made me think of what men like to say about. Okay, whatever. Let her push against your palm and use your index and middle finger to make rhythmic up and down come hither gestures along the vaginal entrance. So her hands are on the pubic mound. You're rubbing her vaginal entrance, you're not even going inside with your fingertips really, really lightly. And for variety you can reach in and up with two fingers and press against her vaginal ceiling as though you were lifting her off the bed. So like you're, you're, you're on the mound and you're touching, just opening and you're rubbing them lightly like the lips of her vagina. And it'll feel friggin amazing. And guys don't do that enough because you go really slow and then there's a G spot. And the best way to find it is by sticking two fingers in and doing the come hither motion towards her stomach. And also remember, like I just said about oral sex, the tongue is mightier than the sword. It's true, it's a powerful tool, but not when you use it like a cobra, like lashing like you know, at a mongoose or something. Seriously, men go down there like that doesn't feel good. It's better to go slow, always go slow. And you rarely. Like a skilled cunnilinguist is going to be extremely appreciated by a woman. And this is stuff that you can learn. So if you're not really sure what to do, go slower than you think, five times slower. And also press a flat still tongue against her vagina and let her do the work. So if your tongue is flat, it's the cunningus equivalent to like getting her get on top, like if your tongue is flat against her. And also you can use the rope, a dope, that's another technique. Do you know about that? Let her push and grind against your flat still tongue and take it all in. Spring back with a series of fast vertical and diagonal tongue strokes. Oh my God. I know these are so many details, but what I'm telling you is you gotta mix up your tongue. So make it flat, make it go on the side and go slow. And look at her response. You asked me for the best position, honestly. Typically you hear women on top are able to orgasm more when they're on top. And I can't say that there's one that is best because it's different by every woman. So you just gotta figure it out with her the reason why it's on top. Why women on top is easier for because she can grind against you. She can control the depth and the motion and the movement and all that stuff and the speed when she's on top. So she knows what she likes, hopefully. And that's how she's gonna have an orgasm. So those are some good tips. Did you get those all in?

Those are fantastic tips. I like that you said get them all in too.

I can't help.

And tips. And outside the box, you're just pun full tonight.

I know. I love it. I'm in the best mood ever. Okay, Anderson, thank you so much for everything tonight. And I want to say I want to thank everyone for listening show. And there's one more thing I have to tell you. I hope to see everyone in San Diego first of all, tomorrow, 25th. October 25th. And then what else did I tell you? Did I say everything else? Okay.

Yeah.

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