The Shahs of Sex with Mercedes Javid

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that block our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just.

Got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my God, I feel so bonk. Being bad feels pretty good.

You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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Exactly.

You've got it covered everywhere.

Right? You're right. Mj. I'm going to introduce my guest because just jump in like that. I love it. Mercedes. Thank you, Mercedes. Mercedes, Javid from Shahs of Sunset is here. I like a natural. I feel like you're already like my co host because really you are today because we're going to get into some whatever you want. Sex, relationships.

This is only the beginning.

This is only. It's like our foreplay. Right? Right. And so far I'm feeling like all.

Is like also a lost art in my bedroom. Personally, I didn't mean to go right in right away, but please tell me everything. Okay, so I just. First of all, I want you to lead this thing because this is your thing.

No, I'm here, honey. We go back and forth.

But I just wanted to say that my fiance, bless his heart, we are more in love now than we ever have been. And he was trying to impress me with his skills in the bedroom in the beginning. So he would be like, I'm a stallion. I am the best sex. And he, you know, very, very early on, he said to me, you've had your last. First kiss. And then he goes, you've had your last. Like, this is the last person that you're ever gonna f or sleep with. Like, this is. We're a done deal. This is on lockdown. Like, this is us. And I was like, still getting to know you, honey. I'm not really sure. Like, you might be on that page. I'm not. Right? Yeah. So he was definitely a stallion.

A courting you sexually.

He was insane in the beginning, but. But I think that foreplay is.

It's important.

Like the sex, the beginning sex. It's not a myth, right?

No. No foreplay. Okay. So I just gave us a talk this weekend. I was at Wanderlust, which is like a yoga festival in Tahoe. My speech, my talk was called foreplay. A requirement, not a suggestion.

Right, A requirement.

We needed to get warmed up. We don't even see you walking in the door. We're not turned on. Don't touch me. Like, if you touch my clitoris right now, you're gonna be like sandpaper. So don't go, right, like warm me up, turn me on, right? That's what you're saying, right?

Do you remember that movie Spanglish with Tea Leone and Adam Sandler?

Yes.

And Taya Leone would stand right across from him and he would go like this or something to her boobs. He would like grab them like a clown.

That would like, right the nose, like, honk, honk, right?

And she was like, what is this? What are you doing? And he loved her so much, but he was so out of touch with like how to seduce a woman, right? And I think that's really funny because Tommy is the most loving, affectionate person. Every day is like fourth of July sparks. When we. Before he leaves, I get like buried with 100 kisses in the morning. And then when he comes home, his feet is. Is lit up like Rockefeller Center. But then like, he doesn't do that, you know, like that slow jam, right? R B music video kind of sex that you see with like the White House with like the white panties and the white sheets.

Have you told him this?

Actually, I don't want to tell him that. I want to seduce and bring it out of him.

Okay, so let's, let's work on this right now. I'm going to give you some, some tips. Like, let's walk this through. Because first of all, the good news is that we know that he has it in him because you've already experienced it, right? Like at the beginning.

Sex ever.

Okay, so what made, what made it the best sex ever?

So what made it the best sex ever was that I felt like I was being caressed from my head down to my shoulders down to. To the small of my back, all the way down to my feet and back up. He would do everything right? And. Except I will say we. I think that. Can I say eat ass?

Eating ass. Eat ass. You can say whatever you want.

We're not. I know that it was really funny because eating ass is like the norm now, right? We met before, that was the norm. So we don't have to eat each other's ass. And I would if you wanted to, right? Yeah. But it's funny. He's a little old fashioned and it was like, it's like that's not what he does and he's not. I'm going to make another reference to like, oh my God, there's Like that really cool guy. I can't remember his name. It'll come to me. Like, if you're, let's say 50 or 60 or 70 years old and you're dating a 20 year old girl, that man will probably eat her ass because he wants to keep up with like the 20 year old the kids are doing.

Right.

But anyway, Tommy did everything. He lasted a really, really long time and he was having sex to rock my world. And then after a couple of years, it was more like I was like, are you really gonna leave the sponge in the sink in that bowl of ice cream?

Right?

Like that is. That's what happens. And then like, do you never can pick something up off the floor even if it's been there for like a week or two. So that's not hot.

Not hot. Kills the sex drive.

But I would say it. So then I kind of, you know, like, I just got a little bit lazy. And then we gained like the weight together. I've lost the weight. He hasn't yet. So it's just like that life stuff that happens.

That is the life stuff that happens. So it's been three years, has it?

Yes, almost.

Okay. And so here's the thing about foreplay and sex with couples is that it's always. Well, it's always amazing in the beginning. Let's just say like amazing.

Like amazing like 10 times a day. Like explosive orgasms. Both of us.

Right. The bad. I mean, I just got excited for. I just got excited for Heimlich.

I don't even remember what that feels like. So.

Right. So that's what happens at the beginning of a relationship. And it's actually biology. So the first six months to two years of relationship, we. We have those hormones. We've got the feel good hormones, we've got the dopamine and we've got the oxytocin.

Oxytocin. Yeah.

Right. And that bonds us. And then it just takes a nosedive and the reason why. And then we're like, well, what happened? And then we're like, well, it'll come back. But you can't go back. You can't go back to exactly how it was. You can make it, you can work on it and talk about it, but we don't know how to talk about it because we're like, what happened? And then we just.

He hates talking about it. Like, if I say, you gotta show him he's not into sexting, he's not into like girls out there, like, don't bother trying to DM him. He Will never be turned on by, like, a sexed dm.

What does Trinon do now?

Just, he's. He just wants to see me, like, fluff up his pillow, maybe make, like, do his laundry. Do, like, very traditional things, like remember to buy him his favorite juice and milk. And, like, things like. Things that, like, a mother does. Makes him feel loved. And when he feels loved, that. Yeah, that's the way that's what makes him feel. And then, like, celebrating and, like, blowing off some steam. He's gonna take me to the Lionel Richie concert on Monday night at the Bowl.

Okay, good.

And so, like, that's gonna make him frisky because it's like he likes to go out and do stuff like batting cages, and he wants to do miniature, which I'm like, that's way too cheesy for me. I would never. Well, that's.

The adrenaline gets going also, because it's like, you're going to concert, you're trying.

A new vet, dating your man.

You got to date him. But here's the thing about the foreplay. It's almost like it'll be another thing. Like, put this. It'll be like, take the sponge out of the sink and put your leg between my. Put your head between my legs. Like you.

Right.

So you can't have that in the same vibe, in the same energy, because that's how I hear it. But what if I always talk about the. This is basic, but the compliment sandwich. Right. So what if you told him about. He doesn't want to talk about sex. So what if you, like, snuck it up on him and you're like, it's not like, we need to talk about sex. Because the sex talk should never be this, like, a toy we need to talk about never. Kind of like, I mean, you know, the things that you do that turn him on. Right. Besides getting him a sandwich. But let's say wear a thong to bed.

You know what's so weird about him?

Tell me everything.

He notices if I have a brand new, like, thong bodysuit and I wear it to bed, he'll like. Because I'll test him. I'll walk across the hall. Much like the movie the Breakup I knew I was going to be making, and Dennis Quaid was the other reference I was going to make. Okay, but remember how Jennifer Aniston got the Telly Savalas and she walked by to get his attention in the movie the Breakup?

Yes. And he.

All of a sudden, she basically got out. And so I will put something on. And out of the corner of My eye. I'll be looking out and I'll be like, will he turn his head up from the baseball game or not? And he's an avid sports fan. He loves fantasy. So basically, like, 11 and a half months out of the year, there's something more important than, like, me naked.

Right, Right.

So it's very much on his terms. Sometimes he notices and he really. I'm, like, really surprised. I was like, really? It has to be a new thong or a new bodysuit.

Like, does he remembers?

He notices? Yes.

Okay.

So he'll be like, oh, that one's really cute. I'm like, well, thank God I got it.

Couldn't you just do a rotation from, like, last year?

Maybe he's not.

But it's not about that.

He's not as peaked by something he's seen before, which is really odd.

Well, here's the thing. So we want. So what you're basically saying is that you just want more attention, more for that. When you said that, he was all over your body and picturing his hands like they never left your body. Like your top, your breasts, like your girl.

So at the beginning, he was like, I am going to lock this down. He knew that the last guy I dated before had ed.

Oh. And so dysfunction for those listening at home.

Yeah. So I was honest. I. We didn't.

I couldn't stay hard.

Talk about. No. His hit. The previous person. Not to be confused with Tommy, he had, like, a specific window of time where he could sustain a significant friction. A significant, but always the exact same number of minutes or so.

It was a premature ejaculator.

So he was like, just couldn't keep it.

Right. Not fun. Okay. So. So now your fiance, he can keep it.

No comparison. So I think he was trying to impress me because he knew that the last person wasn't giving it to me.

Right the way I needed it. But it does. But he worked.

It worked.

So this is what we're saying is it worked and he got.

And you know, it could have been.

Here's the best. Here's the best news and why I'm not worried because you had great sex in the beginning. The problem is when people email me or they call me or they ask questions, they're like, hey, so it was never. They tell me all this stuff, like, I can't get it back. I'm not attracted to them. And I'm like, well, did you ever have it? They're like, to be honest, it wasn't great in the beginning. You know that you can go There. So what if you build these scenarios around like, God, when I keep thinking about. I know you say he won't sext, but what if you plant the seeds and you're like. I keep thinking about how hot it was that time. What was the hottest moment you had sex?

The hottest.

The hottest for both of you, maybe. Was there a moment?

100%. Both of us.

Okay.

It was when we were like hanging out at home. Like, I like to like we would have like some tequila shots or something. Like with like Jimi Hendrix on, like music. Miguel, for example, gets him in the mood. Like, you know, like, like that slow, bluesy type of stuff is like easy. So if we just set the mood.

What if you set. What if you set the mood?

That would work.

So I think to do it because going back to the compliment sandwich would be like, God, babe, I keep thinking about how hot it was at night with Jimi Hendrix and I just think that'd be great to relive that again.

He would think that would be corny for me to have to say it. He would just prefer that I just have it on.

Okay, so it's a recipe.

No discussion.

Okay.

Just have the lights have the mood.

Do that.

I know it's not. It's not rocket science, to be quite honest with you.

Right. But you have to also let him know that I know he doesn't want to talk about it because I feel that you can't put on Jimi Hendrix and the set the mood every single night of your life and not every night is going to be amazing.

Yeah.

But he needs, I guess just what I want to get that right. You got cameras following you around. I feel like you just want them to know that it's like, like I say, it's not just like some light suggestion. We actually require it because we are so hookers.

Oh my God. You just reminded me of something. Who tell me that this season on Shaws.

Yes, you.

What he does, he says, my girl, we've been moving. We've been surrounded by dust, packing and unpacking boxes. She's in a hospital for 23 hours a day. And he gets me a room. And this is so funny. He takes us to a romantic getaway. And I just remembered that. And it is so funny. This conversation that we're having is part of it plays out in the season.

I love that.

Yeah.

Shahs of sunset. If you guys are living under rock, you haven't seen it. You really need to check it out. It's just endless entertainment.

You're like the star I just love. Thank you. I just love.

They didn't pay to say that. You really are.

Thank you. I. What I wanted to say is that what I love is that you see everything in my relationship with Tommy because he doesn't pull any punches. He doesn't embarrass easily. And I feel like the whole point of us doing a show is so that you can see, like, hey, like, you might have that crazy monkey sex, and then you. You have to learn to continue to date your husband and date your fiance. And we had a date night, and I'm just. Date night reminded that that was a really fun thing that we did, and the cameras were there to capture it. And I'm being 100% honest. I don't know how it played out. I can't remember it was.

And you don't know how they can edit it as well. We don't know what could happen. But here's the thing. You guys met on camera. So wait, first of all, you guys met online, correct?

Yes. Social media. We met through a dating app.

Okay. And then did you reach out to him first? Yeah. Right. Didn't you kind of pursue it? I mean, and what. This is a very inspiring story. Like, that you went after it.

Whether I swiped first and it was a match. It was one of those where I, like, as soon as I swiped, it.

Goes and goes, yeah, Bumble or Tinder. Right, but one of those.

And then Bumble wasn't around yet. Okay, but poly Tinder, as soon as you swipe and the other person has already swiped you, it just goes, boom, It's a match.

Right.

So I knew that he had already swiped, so he picked me first.

Right.

Then let me tell you, that website would crash. It would. Basically, you'd look at your phone, and everyone that you had connected with is no longer there because the Tinder app, or whatever app it was, was growing really fast, and their server wouldn't be able to handle all the communication. So I thought at certain times that I would never meet him because I didn't exchange phone numbers with him yet. And I just didn't want to take it to text or phone yet because I would be vetting him and trying to make sure that there's chemistry. And the chemistry was so good.

So right away, there was chemistry. When you saw him for the first.

Time, this is what happened. I was in Palm Springs with Reza and Adam, and they were like, girl, get off your phone. But I couldn't because I.

It's hard to get off the phone.

I kept laughing out loud at everything. And he was like, you're really funny and really smart. And I was like, you're really funny and you're really smart. And the fact that we were so engaged in just the text chemistry that we had made me, you know, kind of, like, still cautious, but interested. And then I finally was like, this site keeps crashing. Are you gonna ever ensure to meet me and, like, have my number? He, like, played it very well. He was like, whenever you're ready. Whenever you're comfortable, sweetheart. Huh?

And I was like, like, now, here's my number.

Now that you said that. Yeah. And then we were just talking on the phone, and then all of a sudden, I heard. I hear his queen's thick accent. And I was like, who the F is this guy? Like, who are you? And I was like, did you have too much coffee? Well, it was the kind of. I was like, you sound really wound up, like, really nervous.

He's probably nervous.

He kind of also, like, nervous and loud. And I was, like, compensating for him. And I was like, are you. Did you drink, like, too much coffee today? Like, are you drinking coffee in the evening? It's like seven o'.

Clock.

Maybe you should. And he's like, no, I'm fine. I was like, oh, boy. So I had a little bit of, like, pullback. But then finally one night, I had a girls night out at Craig's, and I was feeling myself, and I decided I would, like, pop on over and say hi and meet him face to face, and the rest was basically history. I did ghost him for a couple of weeks just because I think I had some of my, like, old relationship baggage where I would say, like, no, ignore them, or, like, figure it out or think about it or don't think.

Do you play games? Or that's the thing. Or, like, kind of pull back a little bit. Is that what you mean?

I used to.

Right.

But once you want to have a real relationship, you won't play games because it's stupid and you won't get what you want. You want intimacy.

It's true.

And when you want to make someone feel loved, you will not mess with their head.

So you. But you kind of knew pretty much after a few months of dating. And the sex was great.

Yeah.

Which we love. So when did you first discover sex? Like, when did you first masturbate? Do you remember?

Age 6. I locked the door and I was visiting, like, my aunt in the summer, so I had a little time on my hands, and I knew that it was, like, a good Feeling. But I also knew that it wasn't appropriate for me to necessarily explore. I've had a little bit of shame. Obviously it needed to be private. It wasn't like it wasn't going to be appropriate for the door to be open.

Right.

So I knew it was private and I knew it was just self discovery and that was it. I didn't have anything weird about it. I just knew that obviously you don't want your, you know, aunt to walk in and you're.

But you knew. You were one of these women who just knew that it felt. Because I was like I was a late bloomer. Clearly. That's why it's like I've made it my life. I didn't. I didn't even know about masturbation. Never occurred to me. That's why I think it's just so weird. Until I was like 20 and I was in grade. Yeah.

I found some household thing and then I skipped school for two weeks.

What was the household thing we're going to.

Yeah, it's really weird. I can't remember.

It was like a spatula or something.

No, it was plastic.

Oh, okay.

I don't remember.

Pervertibles. That's what they call them when you use a household item as a. Like a vibrator or dildo. That's just a technical.

Like it was more like a. Yeah, I don't know what it was. I wish I could remember.

You've always been very like. That's because you'll see. We get a lot of emails and calls from listeners. Women who aren't as in touch. Who can't even have a can of orgasm.

What I did. This is so crazy. So I would close the curtains, but they were those vertical blinds. So I moved one over just enough so that I could see the gardener that would come out and the. With like the leaf blower and all of that. So I was actually semi voyeuristically pleasuring myself knowing that like he could see because I lived like on a street level and he could. I could have gone full monty and like just opened everything and given him a free show. But I was still. I didn't have the courage to go full.

Well, you were in high school.

But I would do. I was. I was a pretty bad girl in the beginning when I was just innocently discovering.

But that's like really cool that you. You knew yourself and you know your body and you've always been able to orgasm.

Sexual menace to society Today. A fantasy would be. I joke with Tommy that if he doesn't give me, like, he doesn't satisfy my needs. Then I'm just going to go to Home Depot. Not wearing a bra with something somewhat see. Something somewhat see through. Right. And, like, I'll cut my cutoff shorts into, like, a thong and I'll just do my shopping.

Right.

That's like.

That's your fan.

That's like a fantasy type of thing. Then you're never supposed to live out.

I think some fantasies you want to live out and some you don't.

Yeah.

So. But what I like is what you're saying. So it can be confusing to people because they're like, I don't ever really want to have a gang bang in real life, but I do fantasize about eight men. And, you know, maybe you do. Yeah. See what I'm saying? It's different for everybody. But I don't think that since you're engaged now, you might want to go to Home Depot and do that, maybe as a threat to him. But here's what I'm hearing, is that what turns you on, though, would be wearing something sexy, is what I hear. And you feel really in your body when you're doing that. And then him, like, taking you in this way, that would. So how can you get him to do that without having to talk? How can we build these situations into your life that it's like role playing and. Which sounds super cheesy to some people, but it actually works and can infuse new life into your sex life?

Well, the first thing is. The first thing is that we worked out a lot together in the beginning, so that can return.

Absolutely.

Now I'm the only one that works out. And so on the real, this is a problem that I'm sure you're aware of, but if the guy doesn't work out, then he's gonna be tired. And so energy has a lot to do with that, but I would very much take it on my own. Like to.

Do the naughty schoolgirl uniform, which I know for a fact that he likes because he loves Britney Spears. He's like a thing for her.

Right.

So I was like, oh, I'll just do that one day. Like, I'll go to Hustler and figure it out.

Exactly. Hustler. Hollywood has it right here. We could send you some, too. We've got some sponsors who have some.

Oh, really?

Well, because it's fun, because that's what makes you feel good. And then it's not like people think, oh, but I have to have a whole scenario. No, you like Put that on instead of your thong.

And sometimes when we're at formal events, he will be like, hey, babe, want to go to the bathroom and do it? And I'm like, babe.

But, like, no, there's the cameras, and we're at a wedding.

Yeah. Like, we're miked. We can't. It's not going to be cute.

Okay.

Things like that.

So we know that these are the things that turn him on.

He does, like. Yeah. Like, spontaneous. Like, he loosens up when he's a man is relaxed. And I think that's what vacation sex is because, you know, like, he will cry if the Mets lose the World Series. He will cry like, he. He. And then work stress is really intense because he's got so many responsibilities at his company. And I think at the. At the end of a Mets game and a work day, that's not a vacation vibe. That's on him being relaxed. So if we go to an event, then he might have, like, a Heineken.

Right?

Then he might loosen up enough and want to, like, pull me into the bathroom. Then I'll be like, you will not ejaculate on this silk dress. It will show.

Exactly.

Yeah.

Unlike Monica Lewinsky or something. We're not gonna save the dress.

He doesn't care.

But here's the thing. So I feel like when you get home, then even if you. Because when you say to him, I might go, I'm still trying to help you, because I get obsessed with how I want to, like, fix this for you. And I know we can't fix it in a day. And I'm not even saying there's big problems, but if you say to him, I'm gonna go to Home Depot and do this. If you don't do this, then he's gonna feel, like, threatened, maybe. Even though you might even say, joking.

I've said it to him.

And what did he say?

I said it to him this week. He's like, go ahead. Go ahead. Right. Go ahead.

Because he's feeling.

He knows I'm not gonna do that.

But how can we get him? So you say he has to be relaxed. What if you give him a massage when he gets home for, like, 10 minutes? Right? And then you get in the mood, Then you get a massage in the school. Right?

And then you've got it. That's all I have to do.

Because especially for men and women, stress is the biggest killer of our sex drive and why we don't want to have sex. So if he's stressed, but sometimes it just Takes like a second to shake them out of it. Yeah, yeah. And like, do you guys ever use toys or anything? Because I'm gonna give you a gift.

I got a couple of vibratings, but they're still in the package.

Okay. I've got some fun things for you. Do you ever use. Since high school. Do you ever use, like, toys? Like.

Nothing.

Nothing in his ass would be ever acceptable.

What about for you? Okay, we're gonna bring you. I just have some stuff for you. I mean, I think you'll like it. It's fun. I'm just spicing it up.

I'm open.

I'm excited. Okay. We are going to get into Sex in the News. Yeah, well, we're just gonna get. We're never done, but we're going into some Sex in the News, which relates to you, which is why I thought of it because you could be very enlightening to our crowd.

Cool. So listen, Sex in the News.

Sex in the News, baby.

Okay.

Shortage of suitable men causing spike infertility preservation treatment.

Wait, shortage of what?

Available men. So women are freezing their eggs because. Preserving their eggs because they're saying there's just not a lot of great men out there. So this was a study by Yale University. They found a terrifying demographic shifts have created a large deficit between the number of female graduates and their male counterparts. It's led to professional women vastly outnumbering educated men in countries. But where they're going to is they look at 150 women undergoing egg freezing procedures at eight different clinics. They found that the vast majority of the women were attempting to buy themselves time to start a family because they hadn't found a partner. So.

And they're focused on their career.

Right.

This is my question about what you just said. Is it that the men are under educated and not like, at the same level? Is that what the women are saying? There's a shortage of good men?

Yeah, I mean, under educated, just. They're just not finding men, like. Yeah, that exactly. What they're saying is that, like, they're terrified by it because they're just not finding the guys that they want to find of good caliber. The caliber that they want to find even. Just. Yeah, they're just like, you know what? And why not have these safety precautions and just get the eggs out of there anyway? And then it takes the pressure off.

I also feel interested in exploring whether they're those men. Are they bad because they're players and they are taking women for granted or the women responsible for not allowing that to happen. Because I have nothing but strong, successful, wonderful, like accomplished, loving women. But they all might have a hang up that will keep them in standing in the own way of getting.

We do get in our own way. You're right, we absolutely do get in our way. And yeah, and I never, I never adhere to the fact there's no more good men. Like when people say that, like, I feel like wherever people live, whatever town they live in, they think they live in the worst town today. And I just feel like wherever you go, there you are. We could find someone wherever you go. But I think it's more about having. The real headline of this is that they want to prioritize their career and they can't find men to settle down to. And maybe it's because we people are delaying marriage. They're not seeing a lot of models of marriages even working perhaps because there's like divorced parents, all that. And they're thinking, I just want to like, just take care of it. Make sure that I've got my eggs all ready to go.

Definitely. I mean, I froze my eggs. So.

Yeah. This is what you're going through now, right?

Well, I had already frozen my eggs a couple of years ago.

Okay, good.

And.

The next step, obviously is to start a family. And let's not forget a wedding. Of course. Yeah.

When's the wedding?

Well, we're, we're planning it now, so I'm really excited. And I'm also excited that, you know, I do think that my dad is well enough to walk me down the aisle, which last year, you know, it was a really crucial, crazy time where, you know, we just didn't.

I don't know how you shoot all this stuff going on. I'm sorry.

Oh, thank you.

Right. We were. Oh, egg freezing. Just like you'd recommend it. And I feel like it was.

I talked about it. Yeah, I talked to all my cast about it. I shared it especially with. We just, you know, like Reza and them, they just, they know everything about the process that I went through with egg freezing. And at this point it's just fingers crossed, you know.

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We're gonna answer questions. Thank you for being here, everyone. Thank you for emailing me and thanks for getting in touch, you guys. You can go to. Here's what you can do. Text me. So easy, you guys. 797-979-text. Ask Emily one word and your questions. You can send them that way, which is so easy. You can also leave me a voicemail. 818 Ask SW E1. Most importantly, however, you get in touch. Oh, and also go to the website, obviously sexwithemily.com, ask through there. But most importantly, I need you to give me your gender, your age, where you live, and how you listen to the show. Can't wait to hear from you. Hi, Emily. I haven't been listening for very long, but your shows have already done so much for my relationship. Thank you. Yes, my boyfriend and I have been together for one and a half years and recently he hasn't gone down to me as much as he used to.

Oh my God. I love this question already.

I said too. Oh my God.

This is. This is the thing.

I know this is the thing. After listening, I didn't even know this was your thing. After listening to a lot of your communication themed podcasts, I gained the courage to ask him about it. It was then that he confessed. He is too grossed out.

Oh.

What the heck does he mean?

Right? Well, that's what she said. She goes, what? He assured that it wasn't me. It was just the thought of giving oral that really makes him cringe.

But he used to. Right?

He never really has. What'd she say?

She said in the beginning he used to.

Right. They always do in the beginning. They need to continue though. But it was just a thought of giving oral that really makes him cringe. He can't explain why and I can see that it does bother him. Since our talk, he's tried again, but it lasted two minutes. Not quite going to work for me, if you know what I mean.

Mm.

I've done my research and apparently one in five straight men don't enjoy Giving oral. Not sure if this is a real fact, though. We really do love each other, and it's obvious if you see us together. Is it selfish of me to feel a little resentment? I love going down on him, and I wish the feeling was mutual. Anything else I could do to turn him onto oral sex with me? Thank you so much, Ronnie. Female. Even though I have a guy's name, 21, Long Beach. She's 21.

First of all, she will give it to him, right? He will accept the oral sex, and he won't reciprocate. I have friends, like, five girlfriends that have ended relationships because they were like, this isn't going to work. He didn't. He, like, he only goes down on me for 30 minutes, and that is not enough.

Same like.

So it really. It will not work. And I'm like, really? He makes good money, he loves you, he's attentive, and he just doesn't do it that often. I'm like, you sound like a little bit of a Nazi. Like, because I was impressed by the duration. Like, for me, I would like foreplay where, like, oral sex as foreplay, where he could just kiss it. He could just. Yeah, just, like, just kiss it. Just acknowledge it. You can also finger it. You can also, you know, just use your tongue a little bit. But then it's all about, like, the spirit of it. I'm sorry, but I don't know. Why is not an answer. Saying he doesn't understand why is not good for their intimacy. And, like, at least get to the bottom of it so that they can figure out.

Exactly. I agree with you. So I mean everything that you're saying. But first, when we're both ringing it, we're like, that's horrible that he won't do it. Right? Like, if a guy doesn't want to go down and I've broke up with someone because he didn't go down. Me, it is. I'm going to say, though, he's. I'm assuming that he's 21 and she's 21. So did you have great oral sex at 21?

Yes. Hell, yeah.

You did. See, I didn't.

Oh, my God. My first boyfriend, we lost our virginity to each other. Everything was perfect, and we pleased each other mutually.

Okay. And that's amazing.

Was very happy, too. And he was Jewish, by the way, so I think Jewish guys make really good lovers. Like, that's what they say. He. They're pleasers.

I've had my share. They are pleasers. Some of them can be. That's true. So here's the thing that I want to say, though, Ronnie, is that I still want to give him the benefit of the doubt, that he probably hasn't done it that much because he's 21, and that maybe he still had. Maybe he had a bad experience or maybe it wasn't so pleasurable, but he can learn to like it and to even enjoy it. I feel like when a guy's going down on you, what they learn eventually is that, like, hopefully he will link to the fact that, wow, she's getting so turned on by me doing this, and that turns me on. And I give you the pleasure. You get into the moment, and he won't be thinking, like, this is gross, because we all worry about, like, do we taste okay? Does the scent okay? What if you guys, like, took a shower together? Make sure you're clean. Doing all that safari beforehand and just saying, like, maybe he does say he doesn't have to go inside, but he does build up with the teasing and the caressing and the outside of your lips and outside that. I mean, I love when guys don't tease nearly enough.

Like, they take it for granted. They forget how much we like it. But I like to say to Tommy, like, I really like it when you finger me. And I really like for him to know it makes me feel more loved, too. Because if he skips over that, then what ends up happening is that it's too much of a focus on him being pleased.

Right?

And that is. And you're not even.

You're not turned on. You're not aroused.

It's all about, like, cheap and not cool.

No, exactly. Well, that's the thing, is that this is not mutual. I mean, Ronnie, here's the thing.

You.

You require it. Like we say about foreplay, you actually require that to be turned on. And in a way, he's not willing to do what you need. It's like if he just sticks in his dry penis and you're not warmed up, it hurts. It's selfish. And you're giving him blow jobs. So there's, like, a lot going on here. Make sure that you're clean. Make sure that you shower. But I feel like there's something else going out here that he doesn't have as much experience as he needs to have, and you have to let him know that it makes you feel, like, not turned on and, like, not adored, and it doesn't make you feel loved. And I don't think that you can make a threat, though, either. Be like, if you don't do it, I'm gonna leave. But the truth is, I believe that if he doesn't want to change and he doesn't try to work on it with you, that you have grounds to end this relationship if he doesn't want to please you in that way. Because I broke up with someone because they wouldn't go down on me.

Yeah.

I was like, really? Like, it was like a year. We kept talking about. He's like, it's just not my thing. And I was like, well, then you're not my thing, and I'm out.

Definitely.

Yeah. Your last question. Anything I can do to turn him on to oral sex with me? I think you can just. Like we said, I don't think that there's one thing you can say do.

But you turn around and go down on him and have her pussy in his face.

You could sit on his face and not let him move.

No, like the. Like the reverse. Instead of, like, 69 facing him. Yeah. Like, be in the same 69 position. And I think that once he gets aroused, he will feel compelled to want to please her back.

Maybe. What if he starts with fingers and he starts with some lube? You should always. I love using lube for all kinds of oral sex. And then Joe has this flavored lube that I'm going to give you. They have flavored lube that's like salted caramel. Like, I always tell women, use it for blowjobs, but you could both use it together and, like, literally, like, you'll both taste like you're having, like, a caramel sundae. Ronnie, you have to talk with him, though, and let him know, really how much it feels and give him some tips here. And thank you, mj.

Yeah, we want to know how that works out for you.

For sure. For sure. Okay, let's do another email. Hi, Emily. I have a question about possessiveness slash jealousy. I've been with my husband for three years. He's the most loyal partner I've ever had. I've been cheated on by all my exes, but I'm 100% confident he would never do the same. The problem is I have a strong feeling. A co worker of his who he met around the same time we got together, has feelings for him. She seems very enthusiastic about their friendship, but is always cold towards me on the rare occasion we interact. Despite my past experiences, I totally trust my husband, but I get uncomfortable when she's around and wind up being rude or dismissive toward her when she isn't receptive to my friendliness. I see her interact with others and she's open and warm to them. I have not mentioned this to my husband because it seems obvious only to me, but it's eating away at me. I hate seeing myself act this way towards another woman out of jealousy when I don't know for sure what's going through her head. I. How can I get over it or at least find a way to interact with her like a normal adult? Thanks, Ann, 30, Georgia. So she's jealous. So she's like, first of all, she already. Yeah. So let me just set up that real quickly. She's got a past of men cheating on her, which is very, very hard to get over. Like, you're always going to think people are going to be cheating if you go through a bad situation. And she hasn't checked this with them. So these are her own. Like, as a woman, she's watching, going, oh, she's not. Like, these are all in her head. She's making assumptions here, getting really angry without addressing it.

And get rid of the baggage that has nothing to do with this guy. This guy is not acknowledging. And if he's not flirting back, he's not unaware of it. He's not oblivious to it. But if he's ignoring it, like many men who are faithful and loyal do, then my advice to her is, when you see that girl, give your man lots of attention. Kiss his neck, lick his ear. I don't care if they're at a work social event. Just give him, like, sneak something in that, like, the boss doesn't have to see as, like, inappropriate pda, but she can always just put her hand on his back and, like, rub it. She can move it all, you know, like up to his shoulders and just like, basically pee on him in public in front of her.

Exactly. Marker territory. But he might. But what if that's. She could do that. But I feel. Which is not like, you know, to say, like, hey, don't mess with my man. But I'm wondering if this is a whole projection that she's not that nice to her. Because Ann thinks she's being really nice to this woman, but maybe she's not because she's still freaked out by it, but this is in her head. So I think either she is. It's important to get some therapy maybe and talk about this stuff if you really don't trust him and it's making you insane, or you need to talk to him about it and just say, listen, I know this is irrational, but I'm feeling this way about this woman that you're working with, and I just want to be honest about it. Anything I need to know, but I feel like it's mostly in her head, and there's probably not anything going on. Although I'm gonna bring one more thing up. What about female intuition?

I mean, have you ever. I don't think she's imagining it.

This is what I'm saying. So. So that's why I think she does in a very smart. Not in an accusatory way, not in a I see what's going on way, because that's. And you're coming from a place of dealing with this a lot, but just like, hey, babe, you know my past. I'm just gonna bring this up, but I've. It just feels to me like I'd like to know a little bit more about your relationship. I get a little weird feeling, and I just gotta bring it out.

Do you know what I say? What if I'm. If I. I'm around something, and especially in the beginning of my relationship with Tommy, I would throw my weight around, and I would do it proudly, and it worked very well. So let's just say that. Let's just use this as a hypothetical. I would say you better know that I know that that girl wants you, so you better keep your effing distance from her. And if I ever see her, I might say something to her. So make sure you respect this, unless you want to lose this, because you will be missing teeth, part of your penis might be sniffed off in the middle of the night, and I won't care. So I'll just go like crazy for a second. And then he looks at me, and he's like, oh, my gosh, this is crazy. And then he is getting trained. It's. He's getting trained now. And this is something I established early, and I was, like, so into it, and ultimately, I was being vulnerable and sassy. The way I was communicating about you. He took it like. He was like, can you do that.

Sexually and be like, gotta go down on me? No. Anyway, I'm just trying to fix your sex life. But, no, I think you're right.

He doesn't want to be told what to do ever. Like, he.

He's got a suggestion that, yeah, okay, but wait, I. That's.

With her.

That's another tactic. You got to have that. And, like, you. You're not like every woman. Like, I couldn't know if I could do that. Oh, but you can appreciate that.

Oh, but you can have a half a glass of wine.

And you can, I need to drink more.

And then you just speak it and just say it and put it out there. Because. Do you believe that this is how I think I got him to propose? Because I was being so vulnerable with him all the time. Like, I would tell him whatever I wanted and at the right time and in the right way. And it's not what you say, it's how you say it. There was one other occasion that only happened maybe a year into our relationship, and he complimented my friend's dress, like, three times. So when we got home, I was like, I don't know what the fuck you think you, like, you have lost all of your social etiquette. And not once, not twice, but three times. And I was like, don't ever, ever, ever make me feel like that. I was humiliated. I feel like now. What is she thinking? First of all, it was a sexy dress. It was one of those dresses that had a lot of those strappy cutouts, right? Like, side figure and all these things. So I basically said, make sure I don't see it. Make sure I don't notice it. And I am also not, like, possessive in a way that is going to turn him off to me. I will acknowledge that he can watch as much porn as he wants or whatever, but I, like, lost my shit. And I told him, and I even told my girlfriend. I said, I noticed that Tommy was making a lot of compliments, and it made me really uncomfortable.

You said this to my friend?

I told my friend separately, yes. And she was like, yeah, I'm glad you said something. The first one was nice, but the second one was like, a little extra.

Yeah, no, I would be upset, too, but I guess that's interesting. I don't know.

You put the cards on the table. You put your feelings on the table, and I think it really works.

Have you always been like that? Been able to just speak up for what you want?

No, not when I was insecure and I was young.

I would be like, you have such confidence. You really do. Do you think the show has helped you with that, being on TV for six years? I know you've probably always been. Obviously, you're always. You're a developed woman.

I developed it before. I had that prowess before the show.

Right.

But I didn't have it when I was, like, 19. I would cry.

Of course. This is a learned thing. You're right. But also, speak to however you say it. You're asking for what you want. You're telling him that his behavior is not okay. And a lot of women are pleasers. I think I'm more of a pleaser. And I, maybe I in the past didn't want to be as vulnerable, and I probably wouldn't even show. I'd be like, okay, whatever, he's a jerk. Or a lot of people would end a relationship or be like, I'm going to get him back. But I think that you confronted him right then when it happened is really healthy.

And you pick a guy that thinks you're the most beautiful woman in the world and you're done.

Exactly. And that's such a. See, for me, like, same thing. Like, if a guy doesn't, like, worship me and tell me I'm beautiful and think I'm amazing all the time, like, it doesn't work for me. Like, I can't date an asshole. Not that I don't date guys that have other issues, don't get me wrong. But, like, to me, that's like a bottom line. Like, if you don't think I'm amazing, beautiful, and make me feel that way, this won't fly.

Of course not.

So I feel like going back to Ann seems like everything's great. He's a great guy. You're just having these feelings, which is totally okay. Ann, that you had a past that. Where this happened, and so you got to bring it up to him and however you want to do it and just say, I think with the vibes of getting.

I think you should also have a sense of humor sometimes and a playfulness about the things that make you crazy. You know, like, instead of, like, just flip the script on yourself and just say, you know what? I'm gonna. I'm gonna see this girl, let's say at this work event tonight, this girl really gets under my skin and just, like, have a laugh at it. Like, have a. Have a little laugh with yourself. And maybe again, like, maybe a little bit, a glass of wine or a glass of champagne gets you, like, kind of, like, in the mood. And maybe she could just say, I know you think. I mean, maybe, like, I know you think my husband is hot. So do I.

It's cool.

We could still be friends. Like, don't worry, I notice. I see you. And then you've said it and it's like, would you, like, you know, would you like to go to the bar and get a drink together? Like, something like that, and then bond?

Right. That's another way to do it.

And then, you know, I like about.

Keeping it light, though, even saying to him, like, hey, I know, babe. I know that I'VE got this jealousy thing from before and people cheated on me. But I just want to bring this up. I think it's a little weird. Tell me about your relationship. What do you think about it? Like is there and has there ever, ever been a weird vibe about it? So then you don't seem as. Because we don't know anything yet.

Right, right.

Like all these ways. But there's all these different ways to skin the cat. There are lots of ways, as they say. So we got one more email. Hi Emily. I'm a 24 year old mother of two with a very naughty sex life that I love. My husband of five years is an amazing lover. So that's great. He's always trying new positions, massages, and he's very seductive. But here's the problem. I've always had multiple clit orgasms. So clitoral orgasms. But I've never found my G spot. I've been masturbating before I even knew what sex was. So I'm a whiz getting off that way. However, I feel sad that I haven't found my G spot. Let's make this happen. Any techniques I should be trying? One other thing. My husband is not comfortable with me using toys that go inside me. Any advice for getting him comfortable with this? Thanks for your show. I absolutely love listening while I work out. Savannah24 Merkle, Texas I think the toys.

That she wants to. If she wants to encourage him to approve, they should definitely be way smaller than his penis.

Exactly. Never bring a toy that's bigger than the penis.

Yeah, that's just an fu right in your face.

Well, okay, here's my. Do you have G spot orgasms or itching?

I've had. They're not often right. But I know that it had to do with the direction and it needed to be a banana shaped so it.

Curved a little bit.

It had to have a little bit of like curve as it was going in. So it does have a lot to do with the position.

And true it can.

And then I think you also have to be extremely aroused and you have to work your way up like tantric, you know, like you have to give it like a nice long and probably like some. What do you call those lubes that you can put inside that might stimulate her G spot. And can he put like a condom that has ticklers on the outside of it?

Maybe. But yes, we have some of those by skin condoms. These are all. Look at you. You could just do my show.

I love it.

This is so fun. Like I Could just leave. I could go to lunch.

No, you can't. We'd be lost.

But here's the thing. Is that. Okay, so here's the thing about the G spot. And I think this might help you too. Yes, of course, there's certain people have magic bananas, and you get on top and you're like, oh, my God, I had it. However, women can learn how to find their G spots and how to have a G spot orgasm. Because for some women, for me, it didn't happen. I had to learn through masturbation. I had to be like, okay, I'm going to have a G spot orgasm. When I started the show 12 years ago, I had never had one. So I was like, okay, this is like a worthwhile go. And I had. Believe me, I'm not a virgin. I had lots of sex. I was on top. But some, for some women, their anatomy doesn't really allow it either, like where their G spot is. And so there's positions you got to figure out.

And, and, and may I interject one thing before I forget? Okay. When I found that watching topless women, I'm heterosexual, right? But I'd rather watch, like, topless. Like, if I see tits.

Yeah.

Just random. Like, if I see girls tits, I get aroused. And for me to find my G spot vaginally, for a vaginal orgasm, I would need visual stimulation of breasts. And that turned me on so much that that was an essential ingredient to having, like, my G spot.

Wow.

Aroused.

The boo. The breasts.

Okay, so it's like, get some visuals that you have not discovered yet. And then don't go near your clitoris. Just stimulate with something. He doesn't have to be there on your. You know, you could try it privately. And then if you just stimulate the instrument, you're inside and you're visually stimulated. I think you could get so turned on that you work your way up. And then maybe you just like pat and tap the clip and then you'll have it.

Well, that's okay. That's amazing with it. But do you still watch porn like that? Do you guys watch porn together? Do you know what I do for couples?

I go on YouTube. I do alone. Not with Tommy.

That would be a good thing if he watches porn too.

I'm just thinking he does, but on his own time. Like, he'll just do it in the bathroom. Like his is like a random release, Right?

Well, that's how it is for men. But that they want a release like that and they're like, I'm doing on my own. I gotta knock it out.

Yeah.

But okay, so here's the thing, Savannah, right? Like, it's stress reliever. It is a huge stress reliever. Savannah. Here's the thing is that the thing about the G spot is that it. Actually, I think this is a work that she has to do on her own. Because you've already been having sex with him. It's not working. It hasn't happened before. But for women, some. A few tips are that typically it helps to have a clitoral orgasm to already be aroused. Because when you knock out that clitoral orgasm, however you do it with a toy or whatever, then the blood, you become more engorged, and the blood kind of rushes to the G spot, so you're already turned on. And so then you put your finger inside, and it's like you do like, the come hither motion with the finger going towards your belly, and it's about, like, two inches inside you. You're looking for, like, a rough spot, and you just start applying pressure to it. And it might feel like you have to pee, but you keep going. You could have that G spot orgasm. Also doing Kegel exercises. Kegel exercises. That was my game changer.

You're doing it now.

You're doing it now. Do you do them often?

No, only when I remember when someone says it, and then I'm like, right.

Because they're so hard to remember to do. And so I have a lot of things to do that you could do. You could do your kegels.

Are you gonna have sex tonight? Or even maybe an afternoon delay? Because this part of the conversation is definitely making.

I have two options. Yeah, I actually could have sex shortly. I know.

Really?

Yeah.

Because it feels like a Friday, and I think you should have a Friday.

I just keep back from this, like, crazy yoga. I should be having more sex and possibly today. There are two options.

Two options. Can we talk about them?

Oh, oh, yeah. Well, I can't, because here's my issue. You can probably relate to this on your show. Is that, like, I don't know if they listen or not. And some do, some don't. And when they do listen, they tell me they don't listen, and they hear that I'm having sex more than one.

Person at the same time.

But yeah, I mean, allegedly alleged. I've been, like, fluctuating here. But let's go back to.

Or you could just be messing with their heads. And this totally is. There's only one message.

This is just for good material people. I'm practically a virgin. Again. So here's the thing about Kegels is that I made an iPhone app called Kegel Camp because I couldn't remember, because doctors are like, oh, you should do it at the traffic light. No one freaking remembers. So it reminds you twice a day to do them. So you could try that as well. You could try that, Savannah. But also, there's these Kegel balls. So the Bloom by WE Vibe, which is brand. Do you know We Vibe toys?

I don't know, but I know about the Keiko balls.

Okay. So you put them inside you, and it vibrates. Not. It could turn you on or not turn you on, but it. It's more for the point of like, you're squeezing your pelvic floor muscles, and it gets tighter, and you can feel it over time. I wear them to the gym. I wear them walking around. Because you're naturally working them. I would give you some.

I would become a sexual menace to society if I had those. I would be so turned out.

You could, though. So I'm. There's a remote control to it. So your part, he can download the. If he likes to be in control. That is crazy. And he could be watching tv and you could be on the couch. I've got other vibrators for you, like, by WE Vibe. And he could just sit there and be, like, turning you on. You could wear it to a party.

Oh, my God. That would be so right.

You would like this. And he likes the discreet sex. We just found out the secret for your mda.

Unlocked it.

I knew this would happen.

Yay.

But, Savannah, here's the thing. Your puzzle might never be comfortable with an insertable toy, but eventually, I think if he sees that you guys have pleasure, you're married. He might get there. But right now on your own. Because unless he wants to go on this G Spot searching journey with you, which maybe you guys, when you masturbate, he's sitting next to you and he helps you. But I feel like you should try this on your own with your fingers. Get a toy. You can hide it from him. There's the rave and the Nova, which is the. The Rave by WE Vibe is the one that's just for G Spot simulation. It's amazing. It might take you some time. So I had a friend in college. She never had an orgasm. She went away for 30 days. She was like an internship. And she said, I'm gonna try every night for 30 days to make myself have an orgasm. And she literally tried and tried, and it wasn't until, like, the third week that she finally had one. So for some women, it takes time. So, Savannah, it's not. You're not gonna have the G spot orgasm in a day, right? But work on it. Do your kegels. Enjoy it, play with it, use lube, get warmed up. Let me know how it goes. It's going to happen for sure. Okay. This was so helpful. Mj, you've got good advice.

This was really fun.

So much fun. You are a blast, which I knew you'd be a blast. So we can't really give a lot about Shaza sunset this season, but except for that, it's amazing.

We all go through a lot. A lot, a lot, a lot. You'll meet Gigi's husband and all of the rest of like the cast go through a whole bunch of stuff and you know, like the, the. What do you call it? The stakes are high as you.

Stakes are high. Okay, so tell me what's going on with you though? What are you excited about right now?

About watching this season, you mean? Or in my. For like my lips right now?

I want to hear about your. Well, yeah, I've been wanting to ask you because your lips look amazing. Like your lipstick. You put it. What is I want?

I developed a paraben free, cruelty free, made in the usa Beautifully formulated liquid pro matte lips is what the industry term is. And it can be purchased on liquid lips by mj.com and I started with three colors that the applicator of this lip wand is so precise that you don't need lip liner if you don't want to. But if you want, you know, lip liner, of course it'll give it like a nice two tone. One is called Natalie, which is a nude peach. Another one is called mj, which is a cooler lavender. And vita I named which is my favorite, which is like a desert rose. And all of these are kiss proof, long lasting. You'll love the bottle.

Don't you love this little beautiful.

It's very shawsy.

I love it.

And then.

And then you can get three for 50. They'll last forever. And the last thing I was going to say is if somebody did want a creamy or high gloss, you just top it off with, you know, your super gloss finish.

It'll still stay on, right?

It definitely does.

Like, it hasn't gone away. Mine's gone. My lipstick's gone and I haven't like kissed anybody. Some days you're talking eating my lips off, but yours is just like sitting there.

Yeah. Some days you might really have to remove it with makeup. Remover.

That's the best.

So it really does last long for people who have a problem with. Or they don't want to reapply or you just want to be one and.

Go, I never want to reapply. I feel like I'm always reapplying. I got no time. Life's too short.

This is the one. This is the one.

So they can all find this and they can find you on Instagram and Twitter.

Oh, me, I'm at every. On Twitter, I'm Mercedes Javid. Instagram, Mercedes Javid, Facebook, Mercedes Javid. Where else are we? Snapchat. Same thing.

It's all on my website as well. If you guys are checking out the episode, you can check out that. This is so fun.

Yes, it was so fun.

Really. Like, you're like my. Yeah, you're like my co pilot here.

Awesome.

Thank you for being here and thank you to my amazing team. Thank you to everyone for following me on social media as well. It's all sex with Emily across the board. Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram. Stories. You guys have been sending me so many great questions as well on Snapchat, and this is what I have to say. It's getting a little overwhelming. And I say that I answer you all, and I'm really trying to, but if you have a detailed question, like, someone cheated, but then you had an erection and you didn't know what happened, and then someone left you and then you got like, I don't know what happened. You guys are telling me really intricate stories. You got to go to the website or you got to just text me 797-979-Ask Emily one word, then send the question that way. Because I can't answer you on Snapchat. It's just hard. But I love you all. I love my team. Thanks, everyone, for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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