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Look into his eyes.

They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day.

Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have standards. Oh, my.

The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily, talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can do so many things there. Subscribe to the podcast. Check out our daily posts about sex and relationships and all the things that you want to know about. They're all there on the website. And you can follow us on Snapchat, Twitter and Instagram. Exwithemily facebook.com sexwithemily subscribe to our newsletter if you haven't already, because that's a good time. And thanks for telling your friends about the show. And finally, you can download the show on Google Play, SoundCloud, and Spotify in addition to itunes. Very, very exciting. Oh, also, you know that I'm always talking about my favorite toys and where you can find them. Well, guess what? You can now find them on the website. My favorite picks. So look for the Shop with Emily tab on the site's menu. So do that. Hi, Menace. I'm here with Menace. What's going on? We've been separated for a while and I'm so happy to see you.

What the heck is going on? I've seen you all over the place on Instagra. If people are not following Sex the Bling on Instagram, you should do that. But you were let Me. See, you were in New York City, right? And you were looking good. You had like all these different kind of outfits going on.

Yeah, I got dressed up.

Who was your stylist, or did you do it on your own?

I did the styling on my own. I have to say, I had a great. I just literally the night before I left, I'm like, I need some killer outfits.

Yeah.

So I got one dress, that sexy lace one by Self Portrait. Great brand. And then I had this red little outfit by Reformation, showing some. Showing some abs. Yeah. Some stabs. Look at you. I know, right? It was fun.

Which ex boyfriend did you hook up with in New York?

You know what? I didn't have any sex in New York, but there I was. Well, it was sort of like I had a very Carrie Bradshaw moment where I. I don't often think, like, oh, I did my show because I'm Carrie Bradshaw. It wasn't like I saw Sex and.

The City and decided to do this.

No. But I do the Sexual Hive Expo, which was mind blowingly amazing. It was the fifth one we've done. Second one in New York, and I'm gonna get into that in a minute. But like, after the show and after two days of all these people telling me how I've changed their sex life and meeting all the fans, I was like, oh, great. You know, I'm tired. I go back to my room and I'm like, too tired to order room service. Like, alone, not having sex. I mean, not sad. Just like all these people having great sex tonight or in their lives. And I'm going to sleep and tired toward a room service alone. And I thought it was kind of funny. And then I'm sitting there, like, on my computer writing up notes from the show and not having sex. But I have sex here.

Yeah.

You know, I just was having sex in New York. I didn't hook up with any exes. Although, you know what? Yeah. I didn't hook up with anybody. There wasn't even anyone I wanted to. You know, actually, I was like, so satisfied from the two days, but drained. So here's the deal. You know, Sexual Health Expo, we started here, and it's. It's. There's two days of. It was Saturday and Sunday in Brooklyn. So what we do is there's like two days of, like, speakers, like top sex educators, and then there's all these exhibitors, right? So, like, all of the products that we know, like up and coming products and like pleasure products were just really cool. So I get there on Saturday morning, you know, at like 10. And there was a line around the corner. It's in Brooklyn at this really cool warehouse space. Literally like lined up down the street, waiting to get in. Right. Because you never know if you're gonna throw an event or party, if anyone's gonna be there. And then people just, you know, we let them in at 10 o' clock and it was just, it was so, so overwhelming and amazing because in the 11 years we've been doing the show, I met more listeners in two days than I have in 11 years.

Because, wow.

We don't. I mean, you do a lot. Like for the Woody show, you do public events. I realize I don't do that much. I've taught like a workshop here and there at Hustler. And I think some people might not want to go to a Hustler store. They might not be the thing. Right. But I'm thinking I got to get out more because meeting these people, hundreds, hundreds of listeners, it was overwhelming. And it was like, just get to. Because we get emails all the time from people who are like, you know, your shows change our life. But to meet people who were just like, you know. And the interesting thing was that the demographic, it was like, you know, there was a couple, and I'm sorry if you're listeners and I don't remember your names at this moment, but like this couple who's like in their 60s and they're like, we fall asleep every night listening to your show and it's like changed our life. Yeah, there were several like young women who were like, I'm going to become a sexologist because of you. You've like changed the course of my life. And then there were like a lot of couples who listened to the show together. Like a boyfriend, he's like, I got her to listen, you know, and. And it was just, it blew me away. It was like, just to hear that. And people were like nervous and excited and I'm just always like. And some people were like, I was nervous to say hi and I'm like, I'm standing here at this booth, like, I'm thrilled everyone said, where's Menace? Because I did a live podcast. And they're like, well, where's Menace? They just assume that you're with me. I'm like, he's probably in Vegas. Turns out you were in Vegas.

Yeah, I was there for the iHeartRadio festival, which was amazing two day event and met so many listeners. But it's crazy speaking. I was at that festival and I did meet sex with that Many listeners and every. I do a lot of, again, like you said, Woody show events, which is a morning show here in Los Angeles. And I was like that. I was at the LA County Fair, right? And somebody comes up to me says, I listen to Sex Family. So it's.

Dude, it's a thing.

I know people are out there listening.

They're out there.

It's amazing. And yeah, you got to get out more and do.

What should we do? We should do an event here that's not like you got to go to Hustler. You got to go.

Yeah.

I mean we did the Improv show, the 10 year anniversary show, but I don't know. We should talk about that. Like email us feedback.com.

It has to be like a destination place again. I mean, we've always talked about doing a Vegas thing. I think that was great because I did one. We did a thing, a meetup in, in Vegas with the Woody show. And we're just like, hey, we're going to be at this place at this point time. I think that'd be great because people just want to go somewhere for the weekend, right? You know, if we say like, oh, beat us in Hollywood, like what are people gonna do?

Like, right.

People across the country and the world think like, Hollywood is this glamorous place. It's not.

No.

Yeah. It wouldn't be a great place to have people come out for the weekend for like two days. But we have. It would have to be somewhere fun where people can entertain themselves outside of just checking. Okay, us out.

So Vegas maybe, I think. Or somewhere else. Ye. Let's do that. Okay, you guys, like, we'll do that because I want just for me also after doing the show for so long, I don't meet. I know you're out there, I know you're listening, but I don't meet you. And that just. It just. My heart, I mean, I had tears, I had so many emotions and it just felt. I'm so. So thank you to everybody, all the amazing listeners who came out to say hello and who have been supporting the show. And I loved hearing your stories and it was just really inspiring. And I'm like, just. It just made me like, this is why I'm doing it. Because I said we're in a box all the time. Like, you don't understand. We don't meet.

You don't get to meet anybody.

Right.

But I already had an idea in my head that how we can make it happen, so.

Oh, you're not gonna tell me.

I'm not Gonna show you now. But people get ready because there's some dates that I have to be there. And then you can just tag it on.

Tag it on where we just record.

And say, hey, meet us up here.

Okay, that would be awesome because I did do a live.

And if no one comes, whatever, we'll be drunk and.

Yeah, we won't be mad. We won't be mad at you. We're already having a good time. That's a good point. Because if you're sitting there, no one shows up. But we. I did do a live podcast without you. I'm really sorry. That'll be coming out, like, next week or two weeks. I know. I'm not really sorry, but I had a big announcement there that I would like to announce to everybody. Now. You don't even know this, but you know how much I love lube. Well, Joe, Joe lube, we talk about them all the time. They asked me in a meeting. They're like, what would your dream lube be? And I'm like, that's interesting. Like, I have a lot of ideas about it. So now they're gonna help me make my dream lube. But I need your help, all the listeners. So go to sexwithemily.com and slacks with emily.com dreamlube and take a short survey. And your responses are going to help Joe create a brand new lube that we design together.

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That'd be awesome.

And yeah, so it was a great, you know, weekend overall. And then I'm going to.

Germany and Amsterdam on Monday.

On Monday, yes.

I'm going to another sex conference called Aeroframe. I know. I'm telling you now. He walks in, I'm like, we gotta talk on the show. But yeah, I'm going to. It's called Aeroframe. Like, you know how I go to all these industry conferences here. And so. But now I'm going with we Vibe, and we have a booth there. And so if anyone's Germany, I'm gonna be Hanover.

Oh, we've definitely had listeners over the years.

I know. Email me because I think I'm gonna do an event in Amsterdam next weekend, which is like, the weekend of October. Something. I don't even know what the date is. October, like, seventh. Ish.

Well, pay attention.

Pay attention to social media because. Okay, yeah, so follow us. It'll be like Twitter, wherever, Facebook. I'm gonna announce where it's gonna be, but Amsterdam, dude. How fun is that?

That's amazing. Yeah. I was supposed to go to Amsterdam in last December, but, you know, of course the Paris attacks happened. Messed up all my terrorist. Terror sucks. But, you know, that shouldn't stop anybody from checking out Amsterdam. That's gonna be awesome. In Germany. I don't really know much about Germany.

Right.

I just want to, you know, go to Amsterdam to check out the.

The people.

The windmills.

The windmills, exactly. And the. Yeah, it's gonna be.

That's gonna be such a great time. Please Instagram a ton while you're there.

I will.

I want to see what it looks like.

I promise I will do that.

Sex with Emily on Instagram.

Sex them on Instagram. It's a good time. Okay, so I've got some sex. Is there anything else that you wanted to share? No.

Thank you. For all the listeners. I keep on meeting.

All over the place in my travels. They come up to me and say, I listen to sex on the show. You don't have to whisper it to me. This. Don't be right.

Don't be ashamed. Yeah, it's stand up, Stand up, proud.

I love meeting all of you and thank you for following my French bulldogs. I. Last time I was on there, I announced I had a new French bulldog, Chimmy, and she's great, and she's been keeping my other French bulldog happy.

I'm so happy. And they have the two separate Instagrams.

They do.

I don't see why you wouldn't combine the Instagram.

No, they. They have their own personalities.

Really?

They do.

What's so different?

Like, shimmy likes to be cuddled. Oh, Cheryl not so much.

Oh, I would like Jimmy better. Yeah, I just want.

Chimmy's a licker. She likes to lick you on the face.

I like that, too. Yeah, so I like licking.

All right. You do, do you?

Duh, dad. Duh.

They'll be visiting the office, please.

Yeah, that's good. You have, like, a happy family, happy life, and that things are going so well for you. And everyone should check out his show, the Woody Show. Coming everywhere, right?

Yeah. They're going. Can't announce it now. But it's going to be on in other cities in the United States starting November. Starting November. So pay attention there. And we podcast every day, right?

It's up for a day.

It's up for a day. It's news, pop culture, right?

People like it. People loving you. And say hi. Yeah. And like people come to you, say hi, say hi to me. I love it. I'm not always like meeting it changed my life. This was a life changing weekend for me.

Well, once we get syndicated, it'd be great to get you back on this show.

That was a blast. You didn't tell me if what's her name, the girl on your show used the Bivator yet, but she did.

She said it wasn't strong enough. I told you to bust.

She never had an orgasm.

Yeah, and I told you to bust up.

I didn't know how to use it.

We should call that.

Just let me call her. Seriously.

She should come on the show. We'll call her for sure.

Oh yeah. Can I share one more thing?

Of course.

So I did mention a couple podcasts ago that the show that I work on, we teamed up with Habit Burger and we're helping raise money for no Kid Hungry. Well, in the month of September, we helped raise $350,000 for no kid Hungry.

Oh my God. From the Woody show. That's amazing.

I mean Habit have it like really. You know, they promoted it a lot by themselves too, but we were a part of that and it was effing amazing. So if anybody is listening to the podcast that was a part of that and helped donate money, that is awesome.

That's a lot of money. Congratulations. You guys are doing good. Not just entertaining people, but then I.

Don'T have any details. But also on October 23rd, I'll be doing a pet adoption. Oh too.

So I want to adopt a pet.

Yeah.

Yeah. October 23rd.

Where at Tustin Toyota in Southern California. I don't have the time.

Where's Tustin? Sounds far.

It's on the Google. It'll tell you where it's at.

I'm not going to go there. But if you see a dog that I like, just pick them up for me.

I'll throw it in the back of the car.

Throw it in the back of the car. It's cool. I need a dog to cuddle. Yeah, like Jimmy.

I know my baby.

Hey, K. Chicky cuddles. I can't take dogs that don't cuddle. Yeah, it's a problem. Can you like pre screen dogs for cuddling? Dogs. You probably can. Okay. Anyway, we got some sex in the news.

All right, what's going on?

Okay. A monthly date night. Monthly date nights could save a marriage. So this is a study they did. Married couples who have a monthly date night and leave their children at home can reduce the chance of splitting up. A study found having a trip to the cinema, restaurant or theater and getting away from the children can keep the spark of love alive. Perhaps making a little effort, like little touches, wearing a more flattering outfit rather than the more practical outfits that you're just wearing around the house all the time really make a difference, or just simply spending time together as a couple without the distractions of day to day life. And they said however it works. However couples do this date night, it reduced splitting up by 14% in couples who found time to go on that date once a month. And this shows you how many couples aren't going on dates they're not taking because life gets in the way. You're busy, you know, you might be like, I'm just sick of my partner. I don't want to spend a night with him. But that's probably why you need to.

Yeah, definitely, you know, figure out what, you know, what's going on in your relationship and stuff like that. Not, like, have deep conversations in your free time. It's to have fun.

Just go out and have a good time. It's funny, I was talking to a friend about this. She's had a baby like a year ago. And she's like, God, it's just. We're just not having great sex and I'm just, you know, it's hot. Like, you had a baby. You guys, when was this time you guys went out? She's like, oh, we, we haven't at all. Like, you forget that. That's just so obvious. But then you get caught up in your life. And I was like, well, do you remember if there was a time in your relationship when things. Can you remember when you were the most attracted to him? Like, before you had the kid? And she's like, well, we just used to have fun going out, like getting buzzed and having a good meal. I'm like, okay, so do that. Like, it doesn't have to be. You don't have to be expensive. You can go to your favorite, like a hole in the wall, but just without the children, the two of you connecting. I would suggest put your cell phones away if you can. Like, I know the kids. You're worried. Like, you don't need to have them on the table. You don't need to be Instagramming your meal. Like really like focus on each other because like phones, I think are could be really harmful in a lot of relationships.

And then also.

Woody, who I work with, he's married with two kids and he makes, yeah, he does make it a point. I hear him talk all the time, like at least once or twice a month. To have a date night thing good without the kids, you have to, you have to do that.

But I get that people don't, you know, if it can reduce divorce, like.

14, they think, oh, I got to keep the family going, I gotta keep on working, I gotta, you know. But that's what helps keep the family.

Exactly. And you're better parents, you're better humans, you're better everything. Better employees, better moms, dads. When you have that time to connect.

And we said this before, it's even if it's just like a, a hotel for night in the city that you live in, right? Look, it doesn't have to be a lot of money. Holiday Inn Express, I stay there all the time. It's amazing.

What's like 49 bucks or something? You get like breakfast and you get.

Breakfast the next day. And they have a pancake maker that you hit one button, one button, and it poops out a pancake. It's amazing.

Really.

So what's more sexy than that?

That is sexy. Except for the part about the poop, which is funny. Not. Honey, that was so hot last night. Want to go poop out a pancake?

Some people. Dude, that's nothing. Not to switch the subject, but talking about pooping out a pancake is nothing compared to what just happened recently at the Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco. The stories that I've heard and the things that I. The photos that I've seen. It has taken it to a whole level bigger than I've ever seen.

Why?

Living in San Francisco, I know it's.

San Francisco I don't even recognize. Like, if San Francisco walked up to me in the bar and said hi, I wouldn't even know who it is.

I think it's like it's just taking it to another level.

Like, why was pooping reminded you of it?

I do. You know what? I don't even want to share this on the show, but people can get on Google and type in false entry.

It used to be just men and like whips and leather chaps are just.

Like not afraid to share any type of fetish or anything that they're into nowadays. It is things like even you were.

Shocked after living in San Francisco. Yeah.

Or just being on the show. Like, there's. There's stuff that I've seen, there's stuff that happened that we have never discussed on this show ever. And I cannot.

We don't even want to. We don't.

I know this was about having date night with your partner, but I just. As a side note again, get on Google, type in Folsom Tree Fair 2016.

Okay. Wow. It means everything.

Work at work. And maybe there's something that you're into that you can find.

You might find a new fetish, you might find a new interest, a new kink. Leave it to San Francisco to spark that for you. That's so good to know. I'm sorry I missed it this year. I used to always go, you know, but I love San Francisco.

Same. Just wear a wetsuit this time.

Oh, dude, it's like squirting and pooping.

What I don't even want.

Okay, don't tell me. I love that you're not telling me. I love that you're using discretion. I am super mature.

And that's what the type of show we are. We are raunchy show.

We're not raunchy. It's already sex in the title. If I was super raunchy, it'll be challenging. Let me just wrap up this sex in the news real quickly though. The researchers found the effect only worked on married couples and not cohabitees. Which is interesting. But I wonder if you're married, I mean, if you. If you have children and you're not married, but you've chosen never to get married, like, you know, I'm saying, I don't know if it's just like you live together. I think they're saying that if you're just living together for two years and you don't have kids, maybe. But you can also not be married with kids. So I just think every couple needs a time without the friggin cell phones. And out there's the two of you doing the things, but especially when you have kids. And Michelle Obama told us talk show host Jimmy Fallon that she and Barack try to do date nights, although it's not easy. Barack has a 20 car motorcade, men with guns. The ambulance is always there. How romantic can you be? Heart goes out to the Obamas, but they're still trying. Even Michelle Obama's trying to. You should always try. Okay, we're gonna give a little shout out to our sponsors who we love, and thank you everyone for supporting them. Because you know, I only talk about things that I love and I know that you'll enjoy. So thanks so much and we'll be right back.

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Yeah. We want to know where our listeners are coming from.

We just want to know.

Thank you so much.

We need to know. I appreciate that. And also we will. We are taking your voicemails and we've got some great calls today. We'll Be playing some as well. You can leave a message 818-AsksWe1 or 818-275-7931. That's also on the website. You can find all that there.

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Okay, here we go. Dear Emily, I'm casually hooking up with a girl a few years younger than me. We have a strong connection and have stated we have strong feelings towards each other. We talk every day and the sex is amazing. She says it's the best she's ever had and has said she loves me. The only issue is that she recently got out of a long term relationship almost seven years and wants to enjoy being single as she never experienced that when she was younger. She had one other high school relationship before.

The last one and she never got to experience being single in her early 20s. She's 25 now. She likes to have a good time, go out and have some one night stands with others. She loves the chase and excitement and it's something new for her. She loves that men approach her and seem to be attracted to her. This does worry me as I'm developing really strong feelings and want us to be exclusive. It's only been three months since she ended her last relationship because she wanted to explore her sexual and social freedom. She stated that she wants a proper relationship with me but had set herself on a 12 month goal of being single to see what she wants with life. We've planned various activities together that are a few months away. She suggested. She has suggested them, not me. So should I wait? Should I walk away or should we look at an open relationship? Thanks Josh. 30 Australia. God, I love our Australia listeners. I love. We have so many listeners from Australia. I mean I love all my listeners.

It's a great place.

It's a great place.

It's a very sexual place.

I know Australia. Wait, I got. Maybe we should go down there.

Australia down to go down under.

Who wants to fly us down? Yeah, we'll be there. We'll be there tomorrow. Okay. So Josh, so did you get this whole out? Because I even know if you're even listening. You're. It's a lot. So basically. No, I'm gonna recap.

Ready for my rebuttal on this?

Okay. Oh, you're all ready. Well, I'm just recapping here just you guys if that was with all the numbers and dates. So here's the thing is that Josh is really into this chick and they, you know, he casually hooked up with her but she got out of a seven year relationship. She's 25, so she's been with the same guy since she was 18, and he's 30. She's 25. They're having this great connection. The sex is amazing. But she states 12 months. Like, she at least gave herself 12 months to have fun and explore. Seven years in a relationship is a long time. But I get. She also is really attracted to him. And then he's saying, like, should we have an open relationship? What do we do? So I think she does need the space to see other people, because she's telling him that. But I. You know, but it's also probably mixed messages, and it's tiff. It's. It's difficult for him to navigate because she's really wants to be with him and she's attracted to him, but yet her. She's saying, I need to be without a man.

All the answers are right in front of you. They're being told to you.

It's.

That happens 90% of the time. It's just for you to accept it. That's it. That she's telling you exactly what she wants to do.

Do. All right. Right.

Just let her go off and do her own thing. You go do your own thing.

Right. She's not gonna change this. Right.

Don't try to, like, be in the middle of it. Like, you know what? I really want to commit. And she tells you, oh, I don't want to commit. I just want to be out here and doing things. Like, that's just going to cause issues.

I agree.

And if you eventually want to be with this person, go let them.

Let her be free.

Don't have all your time being taken up by a person that doesn't want to commit at this time.

Right. But here's the why go live your own life.

And if she's there, she's there.

But here's why my heart goes out, Tim. Because I was this chick for a long time. I would. I was a serial monogamist. And I would be in a relationship, and I'd break up with the guy, and I'd say, you know what? I'm gonna be free. I want to know who Emily is. Without a man in my life. I mean, this is all through my 20s. And then I'd go out and I meet a guy who was great, and I'd be like, oh, I really like you, but I can't do it. But I like you, but I can't be with you. And I would go through this, and then eventually I would break up with them. I think it's really important for everyone, men and women, to have time without a relationship. And if you keep going from one to the next, next, you never get to figure out really who you are. And I'm not saying this is for every person on the planet. Some people meet someone when they're young, meet someone whenever, and they're happy. But. But she's telling, Josh, she is telling you that she needs her sexual and social freedom. But I get it's confusing because her actions are. She's planning stuff down the road. So I would say either you need to cut it off, you could have an open relationship, which sounds like you are right now because you said she's hooking up with people. Can you handle that? Like, open relationships are hard to do when you're not. When you're starting out. Like when you don't have a foundation, it sounds like you guys are new and it's exciting. So to open it up, it sounds like you're just dating other people. If you can handle that, Josh, maybe that'll work. But it sounds like you love her and you want to, you know, you're falling in love with her and you want to be with her. So it could just get really tricky. And I know again that I used to do those things because when I was with these guys that I liked, I would really be into them. I'd be like, this is amazing. But then I'd go home and I'd be like, I'm confused. So that's what she's doing too.

So eventually, go live your life.

Let her be free.

If she comes to you in the end, she does. If she doesn't, at least you had fun.

You had fun. You had a good time, right? Okay. Hi Emily. I love your show. I get so excited when I see new episode and I always look forward to listening to the podcast on my way home from work. I'm 25 years old female and my partner is a 28 year old male. Now we've been in a relationship for three years before my current partner. I've been in four monogamous relationships. All of them like different things in bed. In particular, one of my partners enjoyed a lot of touching, licking and kissing all over his body, his necks, his ears, his chest, his waist, you name it. I really liked this and it gave me a lot of variety in terms of what I could do for foreplay. My current partner, however, seems to like only one thing when it comes to foreplay.

Blowjobs.

Blowjobs. Yes.

Sweet.

So good, right? Don't get me wrong, I love giving blowjobs. That was a tough one, right?

Yeah.

What could he possibly like? Long walks on the beach?

Where is this leading to?

Right? Kissing, nibbling on his neck. Don't get me wrong, I love giving blowjobs, but I want a little bit of warm up. I want to touch, kiss and lick his body. But he doesn't like that. Most time it just tickles. He says the issue is twofold. You don't like the tickling of the whatever. You're like, you just want a blow job. You're this guy.

I mean, every 90 of guys want that anyways. They don't. They want about you kissing them all over. They just want. They, they're gonna let you do it because eventually they know.

They know it's gonna lead to a blowjob. Well, this is a twofold. This is a twofold question. So he typically goes straight to fingering me or trying to eat me out. I want him to take his time. I want some intimate foreplay. How can I add variety to the foreplay I'm giving him and have him like it? And how can I get him to give me more foreplay? Dude, this is like harder than solving world hunger. I swear to God. Everybody wants more foreplay. But I'm going to help you. I'm going to help you, Michelle, because you're 25 years old and this is not going to end for you. So let me just tell you, because I sleep with guys my age and they don't know about form play and they're fucking putting their fingers inside me. I'm like, what the hell are you doing? I am not turned on. What about my boobs? What about my neck? What about kissing me? So, Michelle, I get it, you're on board. But sometimes men need to be taught. We need to teach them and they want to learn. Like here's the misconception about men and women. One of the bazillion is that the misunderstanding when a guy goes right to your vagina, right to your vagina, your vulva, your pussy, however you want to call it, and starts fingering you and touching you. We think he doesn't care. He doesn't want to turn me on. He just wants to get his. He doesn't know that it hurts because no, he, he, he wants to please you. He really does. He doesn't know how. So I'm going to teach you how to teach him how to have like be into foreplay and how to give you what you want.

Do it.

So just saying More foreplay. What does that do? You're like, what does that mean? Right. It can be challenging.

I think it does. And then. But here's a real quick thing before you get into it.

Yeah.

You opened up with exactly what I was gonna say. If you tell a guy that you want more foreplay, he's not gonna run away. The whole reason you're writing this email is because you're too afraid to tell them what you want.

Right?

So you want to try to figure out a different way how to get what you want without telling him directly.

Exactly.

Don't be afraid to tell him. Say, hey, you know what? I want more foreplay. Any guy in the world that is sleeping with you is not gonna be afraid by that. They just. A guy is just gonna want instructions on what to do.

This is what I'm saying. Ok. That's what I'm going to do.

I'm just giving you the point. Don't be afraid to tell him.

Don't be afraid. Do not be afraid. Because he wants to know. But it's a little finessing. You got. You can't. So here's what you do. Start by telling charts what I got blueprints and charts. No, but I need one. I need more here. So start by telling him, like, I enjoy it so much. Like when we're kissing and hugging, it really turns me on. That's something you can say. Like when he walks in the door and you guys hug, that turns me on. That feels really good. So you're like laying the groundwork for each. For what he knows. And like studies have shown that like a 30 second hug can turn not to the point where she's gonna have sex, but gets you like connected. Like it gets those hormones and like the serotonin and all that spikes just from the touching. So you want to avoid negative comments like, why don't you kiss me more? Why don't we do this or why don't we do that? Because that's just gonna like shut him down. So you can start with like you were doing something the other day. You can say to him that really turned me on. You know, like I loved when you were like the way we were making out or the way you were kissing my ear. So you're giving him like a point of reference for things that you like rather than just saying you again, you want foreplay, you could also say, and I, you could all say, I had a really hot dream about you the other night. And then you can explain it. You could say you were kiss I'm just. You were kissing my body all over, and it felt so great. I was on my stomach, and you were, like, so slowly kissing me down my back. And then, like, eventually, I turned over and gave you a blow job, right? You can put him in the dream, and you might think, well, that's not true. I didn't have that dream. Well, you had that fantasy. You had that thought. This is what you want. So you know what? It's. It's not. It's just a way to explain to him what you want. And it's kind of like an outside thing. Like, you had the dream and, you know, a little imagination, fantasy is fine. You could also tell him, like, you know, it turns me on so much when, you know, I just love kissing you. Can we go slow tonight? You know, I mean, just. You got to give them examples. Like, when something isn't working. When it's not working, you don't want to say, like, this isn't working. You can say, like.

Something. Like, there was something that you were doing the other night that felt, like, really good. And then you could, like, show them something that you want. Or you can say, like, my body is craving something different tonight. Like, just rather than, like, stop or pushing his hands away or doing something that would distract, like, make him feel like he's failing, you can just kind of keep redirecting him. So how do you show him. This is the other thing you're saying menace. You said, like, you could say, I want more foreplay. But how do you show him? How do you show him what you want? Well, first of all, you can have him start just, like, tell him that you're in charge. And then we're going to get to how you can get him to, like, foreplay. But this is about you first.

You can tell him that, like, you're in charge. Have him start kissing you and say, you know what? I want to play a game tonight. You're gonna start kissing me. And, like, I want. I want to keep kissing until, like, I kind of tell you what's happening next. So he can start kissing you, and then you can say, God, I really want you to kiss my neck. And, like, have him go slow. Like, slow him down. Be like, kiss my neck now. Like, I want you to slowly undress me. And, like, have this go as slow as you want. And you can, like, kiss him back and do things to him, and so you're directing it, and then he's understanding what you want. So have him slowly caress your neck or your back or like, and then he'll know, like, there is no going down to your pants yet. And he'll see that you need 10, 15 minutes. Two hours.

Two hours.

Do you think that would help you menace?

Yeah, just something instructional, right?

Like, slowly. It's a game.

That's what every guy wants.

Just some. Some trouble they do, but we don't know how to do it. Sometimes we get angry. We say it once, and we're like, why didn't he pay attention? Because people don't change their behavior overnight.

You're just too afraid to say directly.

What you want, right? And so if you don't know, like, I also feel like you want to be told directly.

I'm.

You do, Right?

Like, guys are like dogs. You just tell them exactly what you want. Like, you'll get it. But again, you do have to, like, keep on training them, though.

You do.

And they'll be like, okay, this is what she wanted this one time, you know?

And he'll keep doing it.

And then the second time, it's back to exactly where it was. Like, it's true.

It's like a dog. It's like training a dog.

Yeah, this is what I want every time.

Time. Right? You didn't throw a bone to. Right? You, like. You didn't just throw a bone once and.

And.

Do exactly what the brain.

Oh, you gotta do it like, 15 times. So, okay, so about him. She's. She's upset because he doesn't like the kissing and all that. But I think if you get more foreplay, you might not be as. I think she's just really, like, a giver. And I feel like, Michelle, you're thinking he should want as much foreplay as I do. But if you really want him, here's another thing. Rather than him just doing it on you, you can say, you know what, babe? Tonight is about you. You can put some music on, turn the phones off, lie them down and say, I want to put a blindfold on him if we'll be down with that. And just give him a massage. Like, start to, like, just say, I don't want you to do anything tonight. Like, right now, I'm just gonna kiss you. And you just start, you know, kissing him, touching him. You can use, like, a massage candle, pour some wax on him. I think that you. Who doesn't like massage, though, like, it could get him in the mood. Slow it down, see what he likes and doesn't like. If he's like, ouch, that hurts. You could be like, do you like this? It's Good to give options. Like, maybe you could use that touch, like, with your fingers, like, lightly down his back. Or maybe he wants a massage, like a real. Like, just figure out what touch he likes. Do you want this or do you want this? And then maybe when you. That will calm him down to be in the mood. Because you say you're trying to touch him right now, and he's like, oh, that tickles. But again, just like women, he might not be relaxed enough to receive that pleasure and how good it might feel to be touched in the way that he. He might not even know what kind of touch feels good to him either. Yeah. So it just sounds like this is the perfect example we get all the time of just slowing everything down. My favorite sex tip. Yes. Slow it down. So that's like I say, Michelle, this is all some good stuff here. I think. Do this, you'll be happy. Email me, let me know it goes. Another email. What? Excited? Did that get you turned on?

Kind of. Totally.

Hi, Emily. I love the podcast. You and Mendes make a great duo.

Oh, hey.

Hey.

Hi.

I recently started dating a guy I met at Tinder. We've been dating for three months, and everything is going great.

Cool.

Uh, oh, we've met each other. There's always a but. Yeah, yeah. Can you imagine? Just an email, like, no buts. We've met each other's families, and we instantly hit it off. We've been playing with the idea of having a threesome with another girl already. It is both of our fantasies, and I'm very attracted to women, so I'm in the hunt for someone to join us. My only fear is that it may change the dynamic of our new relationship. We've set boundaries, decided that would be a good. It would be one time a fun hookup, and we wouldn't have any contact with the girl after the fact. Since our relationship is very new, do you think this is a bad idea? Should we build a stronger foundation first? Thanks so much. Amy, 29, Covina, California.

Oh, Covina. What's up, Kovina?

It's near us.

Yeah, I. I don't know how you feel about it, but I would say if this is something you want to do, knock it out right away and see what happens. Because why invest so much in a relationship? And then you do do it, and then you realize, oh, you know what? This actually does affect our relationship. And then you invested all that time, you know, might as well just get it out of the way and see what happens. At least that's how I feel.

No, that's interesting, man. It's because I was gonna say, the fact that you're emailing me if it's a good or a bad idea, I think it might not be the right time. Because it's a new relationship. Because when you have doubts, it might not be a great thing to do. And I was gonna say you could have threesomes in other ways. Like, you can, like, fantasize about it and talk about it. Like, I had a boyfriend who did this, and he was like, God, I picture a woman right now and she's hot and going down on you. And like, to me, that was like a really hot fantasy. Like, in my 20s, I was like, wow, that's hot. But we're not actually having a threesome. However, Menace, you bring up a good point that when I'm reading this again, Amy's saying that she's really attracted to other women. And so if you really want to do it and you guys have set this, it might just. Just be prepared that it might change your relationship, but maybe for the better. Maybe you guys will have threesomes all the time, but there is no denying the fact that either way, this will change things. It could be for the better, it could be for the worse. And if you can't stop thinking about it and you, like, you really want to be with another woman right now, I like that you set boundaries. I like that you can't have any contact with the girl. I mean, these are all sounds like really good rules and boundaries.

So it's usually we get emails that my boyfriend wants to have a threesome. I don't know. But this is like the woman.

But do you want to hear something? No, Menace, this is. I was actually going to announce this, like, make an announcement in some other way, but I'm going to say it now, since you brought it up. Over the last 11 years, there's often trends in emails we get, you know, people. Certain topics come up. In the last, I'd say two months, we've had so many emails from women who want threesomes, they want to know how to get a third, how to convince their partner. We never got those emails. And even when I was at the Sexual Health Expo, when people came up and asked me questions, two women, how do I find a third? So it's changing. It's. The times are changing. Women are like, I don't know. And I don't know if it's because.

The women are out there hunting.

The women are hunting.

I think it's way easier for them.

Yeah. But they always want to know how to find a third. There's actually a great blog on our website that Celeste Hirschman, who I talk about, who I'm taking my Somatica training with, she wrote a blog called I'm a Unicorn and a unicorn Hunter about her experience. Because the third is called a unicorn.

Yeah.

In a threesome relationship, typically the bisexual partner and a threesome. So I would. I would check out that blog if you're interested, because I just. I'm amazed by all these women who are, like, writing it. Not amazed. It's just. I love it, but just didn't happen before. So I thought you'd like to know that. Sex with Emily update.

I love it.

I love it, too. All right, Madis, now we got this exciting part of the show. Our new thing is the voicemail. So thanks, everyone, for leaving us voicemails. I gave you the number earlier, which is 818-275-7931.

So all the info's at sex with emily.com. click on Ask Emily.

This is fun. It's almost as good as meeting everyone in person is hearing their voices. So I love hearing from you. Here we go. First question.

Hey, Emily, this is Steve, and I live in Studio City. I'm a new listener, and I was turned on to your show by my beautiful and lovely friend Summer, who also loves your show and love you, too. You're great. So here's my question. I'm so fascinated by all things women. And I'd never heard this before until I started listening to your show about the quadrants of the clitoris. Or the clitoris. Or Dolores. Anyway, so tell me more about the quadrants, and I don't. I want to know more about this. And anyway, you're fantastic. Thanks so much. Love you. And bye.

All right, thank you, Steve. I know, right?

Like Star wars talk or what?

Like, I'm just glad if you found the clitoris. And now we're breaking it into quadrants. Well, thank you, Steve.

Quadrants. Why make it more complicated?

Okay, dude, we just need. Any way that we can make you understand. If we have these Star wars analogies, we will. We just want you to break. Okay, so here's the thing, Steve. There's lots of nerve endings in the clitoris, and the upper left quadrant is the sweet spot. It contains the highest concentration of nerves in the human body. And if you built one, taste where I went mendacule, my infamous clitoris stroking class, I did years ago. Random people stroke my clitoris, which sounds much more sketchy than it actually is, but they kind of mapped out, like, the emotional reflexology of the clitoris. But their findings are pretty classified. They talk about the upper left quadrant being the third eye of om, but here's the deal. If you, Steve, want to find the upper quadrant of the clitoris, or you're a woman listening and you want to find it on your own, I would recommend it's a tiny area crammed with thousands of nerve endings. So look at the clitoris between your legs with the top of the clitoris as 12 o', clock, like on a clock face. So to find one o', clock, it's ideally like a small indentation or pocket between the hood and your clitoris. So he can use his index finger or you can use yours. And you stroke it, like, with the lightest, lightest touch possible. Like, if you think it's light, like, it's almost like you're not even sure if you are touching it. That's how light. And use the tip of the finger. You know, you can use. Stevie, your tip of your finger is like. Is the. Is. Is the pad. So you don't want to use like a pointed finger. It's like the pad of your finger and you stroke it at a constant speed for periods of like two to three minutes. And that's what they do in the Oming class. But the truth is, it's really about going slow. Like, everything with the clitoris and sex. Like, you just want to go slow. But that is like, the truth is there is more sensitivity. And a lot of women I talk to, like, I know, like when I masturbate, like, I'm focusing on that upper left quadrant, like on my clitoris, when I look down my 12, it's like to my left. Like, if I'm looking right now at my clitoris, it's to the. So that. Does that make sense? 12 o'. Clock. It's the 1 o'.

Clock.

Yeah. On the face of the clock, I'm spatially challenged. So I'm just explaining to you. So that's what it is. And it does exist and it is super sensitive.

Yeah. This website, on your website, I don't.

But we could post this little quadrant thing. We're going to do that for the show posts. We'll do that.

So keyword, quadrant.

Quadrant. Keyword, quadrant.

Yeah. I don't even know.

That was a great question, though, Steve. Thank you. Because if I ever just gave a throwaway thing about the quadrant, I understand why you'd want more information. Because I love men and women who Are interested in the clitoris. Okay, next email. Voicemail.

Hey there, Emily. This is Erin. I'm 28, and I listen to the show on my phone, usually while I'm out working.

I am just calling because I've been seeing a new guy for a couple of months, and everything seems great. He's super sweet, but a few nights ago, it came up that his feelings get really hurt because I don't like to cuddle while I'm sleeping. We'll cuddle before bed, but then as soon as I start to be sleepy, I pull away, I turn my back to him, and I fall asleep.

Sounds amazing.

I've been single for a couple years before, so I'm just used to. To sleeping alone. But I just wanted to ask, do you think that I should try to cuddle, Try to get more used to the cuddling while I sleep, or do you think it's something that he should compromise on and just be okay with cuddling before bed? Thanks so much. Let me know. Bye.

Great question, Erin. Great question. Because again, I think this could be a case of compromising. I mean, your habit is rolling over and just. Just falling asleep. And he needs that to feel connected to you. So I would say it can't hurt trying because it doesn't sound like you loathe cuddling. It sounds like you're in the habit of falling asleep cuddling, and then you roll over, which I think a lot of people do. But I personally like to be touching the person that I'm with, so maybe, you know, touching the person that I'm with when I'm dating them. Like, I don't need to be, like, completely enveloped in his arms the whole time. But. But you could do, like, that thing where your legs are wrapped around each other, you know, and you're not really, like, you're still touching in that way, but you're not completely embracing, because I know it gets hot, you want to roll away. But people have very different feelings about this. And so I would say, why not try it? See how it goes. Like, it could be like you're cuddling, but maybe he needs to make some compromises on what cuddling means to him. Like, if he needs to again engulf you again. Just like, you could be holding hands or your feet could be wrapped around each other. But I say, why not? Why not?

Like I'm saying, this is my dream girl right here.

I know, I know.

Not cuddling, it's so. It's. It's weird. The, you know, the typical, like, oh, the girl wants to cuddle. And the guy doesn't.

But he wants. Yeah, I don't want to.

Nothing's typical on my back. I mean, my girlfriend doesn't mind not cuddling.

She doesn't mind anything. Like, you never let this one go madness because she literally puts up with you. It's freaking amazing. Like, seriously, she should get a medal.

What's wrong with me?

Well, you know, it just. It would be challenging. I'm just saying.

What's challenging?

I don't know. The fact that you probably don't even. Not only don't you know the quadrant and the clitoris, I'm not sure you know the clitoris.

I can take a stealth fighter and.

Find the quad if you needed to. Right. But. But no, Aaron, I think those are good questions. Like, what do you do? You're 28. You've been with him. I think, like, you guys got to work on it together. Maybe some night you cuddle. Maybe sometimes you don't. You might find you like it more than. Than you realize. But if he's. I. Okay, so here's my thing with colleague. I personally have been with men who just, like, roll over and fall asleep. And I have woken. I feel like I am being, like, abandoned, rejected. Like, to me, it feels like I might as well be sleeping alone. And so I like to have some form of physical contact. Like, I need that. So I totally get it. And if that's what he needs, again, you could kind of find a compromise there, but if you can't do it, you can't do it. And he's just gonna have to deal with it, I guess. But I personally couldn't deal with it. I need that. That's how I feel. All right. Or you gotta find someone who's not a cuddler. Okay, we got one more.

Hi, Emily. My name is Allie, and I'm a mid-20s female from Manhattan, and I listen to your show on the Stitcher podcast app. I was thrilled to meet you on the street on Sunday at she. You're exactly how I imagined you. Friendly, articulate, and genuine. Truly beautiful inside and out. My question is, how do I change positions seamlessly in bed? I often find that I follow the lead of my partner and fall into the habit of letting him direct our next sex position. Any advice on what I can say or do during sex to ease myself into being in charge of sex transition? Thank you so much. Love your show. And also, my boyfriend is obsessed with Anderson and the Stone Vault, so. Hi, Anderson. Bye.

Thanks, Ali. It was so nice to meet You. I remember meeting you when I got out of the car, and I remember meeting you there in the street. So thank you so much for coming. God, our listeners aren't these great, like, articulate questions. Okay, Allie, here's the deal. How to transition. He probably takes control because that's how every woman has wanted a lot of guys. They got a lot of pressure on themselves. Men have to make the. Typically have to initiate. They got to direct. I think that you might be overthinking this if you know that you want just freaking roll. When. When you're doing a position, you start having sex, climb on top of him. Like, do doggy style. Like, I know that I've been with guys. When I'm with guys, and I'm like, want doggies? I'll just, like, get on my knees. I will come climb on top of them. Like, they really don't protest. So I don't even know that. I could explain to you some kind of, like, elaborate choreography, but you might just want to be like, God, you know, it feels so good right now. And then you climb. If you'd like some words so he knows what's happening. You'd be like, oh, my God, let me try this. I've been thinking about this. I've been masturbating to this all week. And just, like, climb on top, do doggy. Like, whatever. I don't know what you're thinking about, but I would say just do it. And I don't think he's going to protest at all.

Guys are so easy. Easy.

I'm telling you, roll them over like a dog.

Sexually, I mean, communicating with them, not so easy. But I mean, sexually obvious. You take over, they're not gonna.

Guys love that. I think that. I mean, I. I've. Okay, so I think I've yet to hear from a man on this show in 11 years, hundreds of thousands of emails that said, like, I'm so bummed that she always is taking control in the bedroom and doesn't let me do it. Like, never once.

You're not gonna.

You know, never once. So, Ali, I say just. I think this is all in your head, that you're like, there's got to be a thing. So stop. Don't overthink it when you're having sex with them. Just do that thing and then let me know how it goes. And it was great meeting you, too, and thanks for the kind words. These are fun. That's all we got time for. But I love these voicemails.

It's great.

I feel like they're here. Ally, I feel like you're here. So thanks everyone. Great seeing you too, Menace. Congrats.

You're traveling everywhere and it feels good.

It's really cool. So I want to do more of it. If you're going to be in Europe, if you're going to be in Germany, Amsterdam in the next week. Follow me on social media and I will let you know where I'm going to be. Thank you, Menace. Follow Menace at Menace Follows the Dogs. Yeah. Follow his life.

It's so easy.

Listen to the Woody show.

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Check it all out. Okay. And thank you, producer Madison. Thank you, Jamie. Thank you, Lori. Thank you, Eddie. Thank you, Ken. I have an amazing team. So, Ken. I love you, Ken. I don't know why shouting out to you. So thanks for killing it at she the Sexual Health Expo and I love you all and thanks so much for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedback sexwithemily.com.

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