We All Have Daddy Issues with Nicky Paris & Dean McDermott

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Emily Time for your. Your partner and sexuality and attractiveness to your partner is not going to find you. But I encourage people to make time for it. For intimacy, for attraction, for date nights. Like you have to put some time.

They're so easy too. Just say like a non negotiable in a relationship. Wednesday nights are date night or Saturday night and you get a babysitter and then you, you plan ahead time.

I mean sometimes it could be an afternoon. Like you meet at meet for lunch and you know, you go for like we used to, we used to go for like these sushi lunches and it was fantastic.

Like you just get some sake, hang.

Out, have some sushi and just reconnect with each other.

Yeah. Keep doing the things you love to do when you were dating too.

Yeah. And then when you get back together and it's bedtime, you're like, hey, remember lunch? Let's. Let's pick it back up. And then you know, boom, there you go.

That's how you. I always say foreplay starts after the last orgasm. That's what I'm talking about. Like keep that Attraction going throughout the relationship.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and on today's show I'm joined by Dean McDermott and Nikki Paris from the new Daddy Issues podcast. And we get into all types of sex talk whether you're in a relationship or you're single. Plus, I'm answering your questions. Topics include from head push to honeymoon phases to boredom during sex, all the things we do to find our temporary or our permanent lovers. We all love our smartphones and social media, but there's a dark side to it. What to do when it comes between you and your relationship. So you've got this new partner and they've awakened you sexually. It feels amazing. But how do you return the favor? And all the beginner anal toys for you and your partner to play with together. I've got some ideas. All this and more. Thanks for listening.

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I think we're about 2018. 2018. Yeah. We're brand new.

Okay. Dean. Canadian actor, comedian, married to Tori Spelling. Nikki Paris, comedian, named a comic to watch by Huffington Post. And then Adam Hunter can't be here.

To Tori Spelling.

Yeah, we're in a three way.

That's.

That's how we're here.

That's the podcast.

Here's your exclusive.

That's the freaking podcast.

It's a menage a trois.

It is, it is. No, but I did listen to the. I did listen to the podcast when Torey was on. That was your first.

One second.

One second one.

Okay.

So I found that interesting. Let me tell you what I thought because I don't. I didn't know that much about you guys. You know, I just, I'm not a big, like pop. I don't know people. I run into them straight. I didn't have listened to it before, but what I found interesting, you guys have a good dynamic. And Dean, you know what was so sweet? When you were like, I had a feeling there because I read into relationships, but you were like my beautiful, talented, smart, brilliant wife Tori, which was so nice. And she was like, oh, you know, like, you guys had a very cute, sweet dynamic that you were like complimenting her and making her feel good. And then you said a few times, you're like, ah, but I'm just a kind of a pain, you know, but I'm pain or I'm difficult or something in our relationship. And I was like, yeah.

Cause I'm a Guy. I'm a guy. Guys are a pain in the ass in relationships.

Okay.

I think more so than women. Women can be a pain in the ass in a relationship. But I think.

See, then I thought, you never hear that often. Like, I just could read into this. Like.

Like, yeah, I think I'm a special breed of cat that I fess up to my shortcomings.

Yeah. But. Okay, I think that's healthy, though.

I think it's healthy, too. But I know a lot of guys are just like, no, I'm a dude. I'm not gonna admit that I'm wrong or no or.

But then I heard that, I felt like maybe you're really hard on yourself.

And then there's that. Nikki can attest to how hard he is.

And so I was just. I felt like. I knew. I was like, oh, like, you're such a good guy. And then you're, like, really hard on yourself and think you're never doing enough in the relationship.

He's sensitive. He's a sensitive guy.

You could have picking that up.

Yeah, I did. I was like, I feel like I understood your whole relationship. Wow. Not to mention that Tori Spelling dresses up as Donna Martin role playing during sex, which is hot, too.

Yeah, that's really hot.

Wait, let me give out your. I didn't give out your Instagram, which is fair. Daddy issues show on Instagram.

Yeah.

Okay. And I am Dean McDermott and Nikki Paris. Bitch.

That's right.

Okay.

On my birth certificate.

So anyway, I just thought that was your birth certificate, as it should be. But I, you know. No, I liked it. So that's. That's good. I just feel like you guys have five kids. That's just. That's super busy. And anyway, can I tell you the.

Sexual tension between them?

I felt that in the room, listening.

Did you feel that, too?

I did.

I had a mini chub under the table.

Yeah, right. And it's not even your jam. Like, that's not even a. But you felt that. I guess sexual tension is hot for everybody.

Yeah, we are very sexual. We have very sexual relationship. We're very connected. I mean, hence, we have five kids.

You have five kids. Okay, so let me tell you this. I've been doing this show a long time. I have people all the time. And when they call me and they're like, I've got this. I've got that problem. We never have sex. My husband. I don't connect. And then they're like, we have five kids. I'm like, oh, my God. Well, that's Almost like a religion. Like if you have five kids, how do you have time for it? And then you're also having amazing sex too. How do you do that? What's the secret?

It was always there. It was always there. You know, like we, when we met, it was on like we.

The second you met, you had that sparks flying.

When we met, we, we met in Ottawa. We were doing film together. I flew to Ottawa and I met her in the director's office and we were together from that day on.

Wow.

Like, it was just intense and it's just that intensity has always been there through thick and thin, kids and no kids. And I just think, I think it's the exception, not the rule.

Yeah, it is the exception.

And for people who don't have that, who have kids, you gotta work on it.

So explain to me what that looks like to you. That work though. Work.

That work. That working on it means, you know, time for your partner and sexuality and attractiveness to your partner is not gonna find you.

It doesn't just show up.

It doesn't just show up. And all of a sudden you're like going, oh, wow, I have all this sexual tension for you. You know, you've gotta make time for it, you gotta work on it. We're lucky that it's just there all the time.

But all the time, like Tori, if she was here, she'd be like, yeah, every day I want it. Even when I have three kids I'm holding, hanging off of me, I want it.

Yeah, yeah, but it's just like I want it. It's like, no, I want him.

Right. But even when she's tired, aren't there ever times where she's tired or she's not?

No, both of us are like that too. Like I'm tired, she's tired and it's just there. Like we're blessed. We have it all the time. It's there.

Yeah, that's amazing.

But I encourage to make time for it for intimacy, for attraction, for date nights. Like you have to put some time are huge.

They're so easy too just say like a non negotiable in a relationship. Wednesday nights are date night or Saturday night and you get a babysitter and then you, you plan ahead time.

I mean, sometimes it could be an afternoon. Like you meet at meet for lunch and you know, you go for like we used to, we used to go for like these sushi lunches and it was fantastic. Like we just get some sake, have some sushi and just reconnect with each other.

Yeah. Keep doing things you love to do when you were dating, too.

Yeah. And then when you get back together and it's bedtime, you're like, he. Hey, remember lunch? Let's pick it back up. And then, you know, boom, there you go.

That's how you. I always say foreplay starts after the last orgasm. That's what I'm talking about. Like, keep that attraction going throughout the relationship. I'm talking to Dean McDermott. And I'm talking to Nikki Paris about their podcast, Daddy Issues. Okay, so wait, Nikki, so here you are on a podcast with Dean, who's having killer sex. He's married, he's got five kids, and you have not been in a relationship.

Well, I'm masturbating to their sexual chemistry.

I am, too. Who is he?

We send them the videos.

We all are now going to masturbate to their sex life. But what's. Sweetie, you haven't had a relationship yet. I feel like you might have. I might be able to help you.

Yeah, please, please help me.

I'm very picky.

Okay.

He's too picky.

He's very Catholic.

Oh, okay.

And he's a germaphobe, and I'm a.

Germaphobe, so I have the Catholic guilt.

Wow, You've that dirty Catholic nut.

So whenever I do something kinky, I have to, like, pray on the rosary beads and then, like, repent on it.

Right. Are you still.

Where do you put the rosary?

Do you still go to church? Where.

Guess I'm sitting on them. No, sorry.

That's a way to work your Catholicism, isn't it?

Exactly.

I don't know what the Pope says about that, but, you know, whatever.

That's what Pope Patrick in Staten island told me.

Exactly. So tell me. Okay, so you think that it's your Catholicism that's keeping you from.

I'm kind of like a germaphobe, but, like, I really do want to get out there and be with somebody. I've been single for, like, 26 years. I mean, that's a long time.

When was your last relationship?

When I was 17, and it was only, like, a month. But I have, like, an emotional wall up, and I work, like, 25 jobs, but, you know, I used to only be into people who looked like me, but I matured and moved past that. And I'm kind of dating somebody now, but he's a head pusher.

Oh, like, wait a minute. Okay, wait.

These girls know I heard the gas. She's been there, right?

One of the groans was for me, too. I Know what you're talking about.

No, he's like. You're sitting there with him and all of a sudden he's like. He's like, hey. And he's got an erection. He's like, pushes your head down.

And let me tell you, dude, that's offensive.

You're like, I saw you had a penis I knew what to do with. If I wanted to suck it, I would have.

Right. And can I be a little vulgar? Don't ever push somebody's head because I've thrown up on somebody's dick.

Yeah, that's what you get.

I've thrown up a whole piece of penne.

A whole way.

A whole piece of penny. You have to chew your food better, Nikki. That's why you have tummy issues.

And I was upset because that night I ordered tortellini. So I was very confused as to what. Don't. If you're listening, don't push heads. Just don't.

Don't push heads.

Sam Kinison was a believer in that. Yeah, don't do that.

Yeah, well, look what happened. So listen. So nothing. Are you trying to unblock? Are you in therapy?

Can you change a head pusher? Can you? Can you?

Yeah. I think that. Here's the thing. I give. I. I don't blame the head pusher. I blame society. So I could say that if a head pusher would be open to taking feedback. I think if someone has pushed your head or coerced you into anything that you don't want to do sexually. Not like co, but not in like an aggressive. But they're like, hey, doing things in the relationship, you go, you know what? That doesn't feel great to me. I definitely like going down on you, but I'm gonna choose when I wanna do it. I find that aggressive. Just give em feedback.

Can I be honest with you? I'm really into looks, which is a problem. But like that's really the most important thing to me. And I think it's just cause I'm 26 and I'm shallow. I need to mature a little bit.

Okay.

But right now I just. The people that find me attractive are like missing three teeth.

Really? Are you sure?

Yes.

Where are you?

I find that hard to believe.

I believe that you have.

I think you're just trying to be funny right now.

I' I think I have a strong personality and it scares people.

No, no, no, no. Listen. Since you've been in here like seven minutes, you have told me five, six, seven reasons why you're not dating right now. You're Germaphobe. You're Catholicism. There are head pushers. They have to look like you have all these really stringent things lined up. They have to meet all these things. That's why you're never gonna find someone. And that's because you have a wall. And if you have all these rules about it, you'll never have to find love.

Okay, what can he do?

Well, have a three.

Cemetery Indian.

Yes. Take a number. Dude, listen.

Listen. I think it's. I know. We can all joke about being blocked and shut down. I, I. You know, I've been chipping away at my heart my entire life. My. You know, to open it up.

The corazon.

It's a little therapy. What'd you say?

The cortisone?

Yeah, exactly.

For your Spanish listeners.

Yeah.

Intense, deep, deep therapy. Once a week, every week for the rest of your life.

With you.

No, I don't do therapy.

Oh, you don't want therapy.

Okay.

I'd rather help, like, a million people with one show than one on one.

She's like, I'd love to help you, but you don't have a big enough reach. So how many followers?

You know, people can probably relate to this too. Cause I've done the reason why. I also can read. Like, I've done that. We all have reasons. Oh, he's not. This. Kristen does that. Where's Kristen? My assistant. She has a million reasons why. Guys, I'm like, we all do it. So I'm just saying, if you really want to find love.

I look at fingernails. I look to make sure the fingernails are clipped. You know, little things like that.

I'm like, oh, yeah. So how's that going for you?

Not well.

Right, Exactly. So you guys sorting this out on your podcast?

A little bit.

Trying to.

Yeah, we all take a Midol and just cry.

But, yeah, so you really. But you have time to find somebody. You look at you craving sex right now. Have you ever had sex?

Yeah, of course. Does a bear shit in the woods?

I don't know. Dude, you are not a normal human here. I mean, typical. Do you like that? Typical? Like in the sense of, you said, I thought you had. You haven't had a relationship.

Yeah.

You have sex frequently. Maybe you're not ready for a relationship.

I think a lot of people, you're having sex frequently.

Not. It's been about. I have sex about once or twice a year.

Oh.

Oh, Nicky.

I wouldn't say that's frequently. Nikki, baby, do you think the podcast will help you out?

No, no, We've been Putting it out there.

So far, no calls.

No calls whatsoever.

You could donate to my love life@gofundme.

Daddy issues, please, somebody call in on this show for Nikki, Please.

Okay, so why daddy Issues for your podcast?

Well, I'm a daddy of six.

Yes, you are.

Adam is a new daddy. And Nikki still needs his daddy. Oh, he's trying to fight, so we have a different perspective. I'm the sage, you know, and Adam's the new daddy who needs help, and Nikki is just.

I don't know how to change a tire.

He's a fabulous gay man.

I'm petrified of spiders. I just found out how to do, like, my taxes. I just found out what a mortgage was, like, six months ago. Yeah, so they're like my older brothers.

That's good.

And we all have good, bad, or indifferent. We all have daddies. So you don't have to have kids to be on daddy issues.

Yeah, and I think they discard us each in our own way.

Well, yeah, that's why they're here. That's why we have parents. Our parents are here. We're here to work through our issues with our parents. And anyone who says they have a perfect childhood is not aware.

Anybody I've ever met who said they had a perfect childhood ended up being psycho.

Yeah, exactly. If you're born. If you are born and walking this earth, you've had challenges in your childhood. There's just no way our parents. You're not born to be. No one teaches you how to be a good parent. It's not even a bad parent.

And all the books out there and, you know, the evolution of, you know, the dad being hands on now and all the. All the literature and stuff out there, you're still gonna mess up, and you're still gonna mess up your kids, and you just do the best you can. And bottom line is just. You just love them and do the best you can.

Yeah, that's true, I guess. You love them and you have lots of sex. So you're happy.

Not with the kids.

No.

With mom. Right.

With the mom. No, no, no. I'm saying parents who have more sex have less problems in the relationship.

Is this a fact?

It is a fact.

It is.

Listen, there are. If your sex life is healthy. That's why I'll always have a job. Because most people are. They lose it. They don't talk about it. They don't prioritize their sex life or intimacy. They stop. They have kids. They stop having sex if they have five kids. Like, forget it.

Yeah. Forget it.

They're on Nikki's schedule twice a year.

Maybe I'm blown away by, like, all the moms at school. And, you know, you get in with them and you hear them talking, and the last thing they want to do is have sex with their husband. And I'm like, that's. That's so weird to me. Literally, we went out on Friday night, and then he wanted to have sex.

Yeah. And. Right, exactly. So this is the problem.

You're tired.

Yeah, exactly. A headache. They're taking the Midol, but they're like, pre popping the Midol and then they're taking something else.

What's your take on affection? Being affectionate with your wife or husband in front of the kids?

I think it's important, I think, in a couple's affection. I mean, I don't think you should be, you know, groping each other in front of the kids, but making out.

Like the only kissing.

Yes. I think that that is such an thing for kids to see affection. I think a lot of us are craving affection, and people who are uncomfortable with it often didn't see their parents. They're like, well, I never saw my parents touch or my parents never touched me. So therefore, I'm now an adult and I'm an intimate relationship, and I freak out when someone touches me. So I think. I think it's really healthy to model that behavior out in front of your kids.

I'm grossing my kids out. Don't you?

What are you doing? Exactly?

I love your giving her a nice kiss. Like, I'll grab her face and give her.

Oh, that's so cute. That's.

And they're like, oh, dad, that's gross. I'm like, this is what people do when they love each other.

Yeah. I think it's really, you know, I think that kids are always gonna say that. Oh, we don't want to hear about it, but I think it's sweet. I have no problem with that.

And then I pull out her anal beads and I say, look, kids, these are anal beads. These.

Talk to me about your anal beads. Do you have anal beads? Do you like toys? We brought you some toys. That's why I didn't know what you had already.

Oh, really?

Oh, wait. Just wait. You're gonna leave with her really good. We could even maybe.

Are you gonna try it out on him? Here at the Sirius xv, they tell.

You that it's sex with Emily?

No, they told me that, but I didn't know we were.

What a day for toys. We had Lisa Ann on Our show today, Lisa.

And did she give you her Fleshlight?

She gave me her butt Fleshlight. So I have.

She's a butt Fleshlight now. Didn't know that.

Yeah, it was very lovely of her.

Yeah, that's.

And I'm a big fan of the Fleshlight, by the way.

Oh, tell me. Really? It's a male masturbation sleeve that kind of looks and feels like the real deal. Like.

Like, looks and feels like the real deal. Like.

Yeah, yeah. Invented, like, by NASA.

It's like this patent material feels like like this close as you can possibly get.

Wow. Do you use it with Tory?

Yes, a couple times. I don't use it a lot because our sex life is killer. But the.

No, it doesn't mean it's an.

I'm just saying it's really. It's hot when she uses it on me.

Yeah.

But I'm just a big fan of it and we touched base on it today. It's like, look, if a Fleshlight or a real doll are gonna help you fulfill your sexual fantasies and stuff, you're not going to go out and do weird shit.

Yeah.

You know, I think if you're more.

Satisfied in your relationship sexually, and toys can do that because people get bored with the same partner, the same thing over and over again.

But even if you can't get a date, if you're that happen to be that person, like, I just think if you have this outlet, it's. I think suppressing your sexuality breeds weirdness.

Yeah. Your sexual desires.

Your sexual desires. So I just. I just think if you have an out, if you have an outlet, like a flashlight or a real doll, like, I think that helps curb it and you're not going to do weird stuff with it.

Right. And I love that you play with it with. With Tori, because, like, let's say. Which is what I love, like, masturbation sleeves for men is like, sometimes you don't want to give a blowjob or hand job. You can even sit there on your phone with one hand and she could be like, jacking you off with a flashlight. But everyone's getting happy. Everyone's getting the mask, Matt.

It's a win win.

It's a win win. Okay, so we brought you some toys. The Verge.

Oh, I got one right in front of me.

Yeah, you do.

You're like a ninja. You just snuck in and gave me the get here.

I just snuck behind you guys.

And I was just like, here is a cock ring.

It's a cock ring. It's a really cool Cock ring that also goes around your balls.

Can we open it?

Yeah, please do. And I think it's a great. It's we vibe. You can control it. So what you could do is Tori could put it on. There's an app called We Connect and she can control it. You could have this too with someone and you could control it with an app. She could be in China or next in the next room and it. And she can control it on your penis if she so chose to do that.

It's hot, you guys, what the taser is going on.

Exactly.

Dude. Don't get it. Don't get it. Messed up with your taser. Nikki, wait.

So hold on.

Same with you. Yeah.

So if I could do it right now, make it as tight or.

Oh, no. But you can control the speed, the penetration, the motion. No.

Better be on your best behavior.

Right?

Your balls are gonna be.

You guys could control each other's things. So just a really fun toy. And the other thing I love about it is that it doesn't. It goes around your.

It goes around. Yeah.

Okay.

Because this thing, right, this goes your thing.

Yes. That goes around your taint area. Taint, I will say.

Is that the dick part? The bull?

No, it's the taint. Your taint. Your balls.

Taint your ass at balls.

Taint your ass at all. Ew, the perineum.

Sorry.

No, but definitely do not put it on. When you are fully erect, you're supposed.

To put on your.

It must be like a half chub.

Okay.

Yeah.

Have you used cock rings before?

No, this will be my first. Thank you, Emily.

You're so welcome, sweetie. I'm so glad to get. Is that your first toy? Yes.

Yay.

Yay. We should have a bell. I don't know why, but that's amazing. You're gonna love it. We also gave you some of our favorite lubes. But here's the thing about cock ring. This will help with your masturbation. It's really powerful. And let me tell you this. It feels great for women too. Like, I lose it on my clitoris. Nipples.

Well, you'll get some clitoral stimulation.

Yes, you will, right? Yeah, dude, Tell me how you like it.

I like it.

And then we get. I meant like after you use it. But you can already tell right now.

Team's like, let me go to the bathroom really quick.

Seems like.

I'll be right back.

Take a break. I'm back. But yeah, those are fun. We get. And then. Oh, that's that. Woo. More play. Is the coconut oil. It's coconut oil massage lube. Massage oil lube. It's. It's smells and tastes amazing. And then we gave you some uber lube because we love lube. My dream, my vision. And for you. Oh, because I hear you like CBD lube.

Yes.

So I gave you some forea. Awaken and we love foria. Have you used that one? Yes.

This is the one I've been looking for. I forgot the name of it.

Yeah, I know. I know, right?

It's a Christmas.

It's like Santa Claus.

I know.

I feel like I can't turn off my cock ring. People are.

I can't.

Dude.

Fun fact. Any sex toy, if you press on the button for three seconds, it'll turn off. Yes.

This is it.

This is. I know, baby. It's the best.

He's gonna cry.

So.

I know. I've never. You guys know I give people toys a lot and they seem really happy. Here's the thing. You know why CBD is. Yeah. Look at you. Do you have any questions? So, yeah. Fun, right? Masturbation. Use some lube when you're giving someone a massage next time you have like a date. Non date. Whatever it is. The coconut oil is just feels amazing. You put on your partner, you taste it.

The woo.

The Wu. More play. Smells really good.

This is the coconut.

Oh, massage.

I almost said coconut.

I always think they're saying something cocker. Someone said premium. I thought they said perineum the other day. I'm like, what did you say? Like I hear everything as being sexual, but that's my job.

I'm gonna call you Emily Claus from here on out.

Please do. I love it.

This stuff is awesome. Like you really.

You have to.

It's called for you a week and you guys, all the stuff we're talking about. If you go to sexwithemily.com you click on the show notes, you can see it. But it's really cool because cbd, I'm telling you with, with. With CBD being legal now. And sex is pretty cool because anxiety, biggest killer of our sex drive. And if you can rub it in and kind of it can relax your, you know, your vulva, your pee. You could. You men can use it as well. I mean it just kind of chills you out. But for women who have anxiety or pain during sex, the phoria can be amazing.

But that's what I was going to say.

I.

We've incorporated. Been incorporating more and more lube because we do it so often that there is a pain associated with it. But the Lube helps take it away.

Yep, absolutely. And.

And I've used uber lube.

It's awesome, right? Good. It's a little travel sized.

I know.

This is fun.

This is awesome.

I know, right?

This is awesome.

You're like, why are we going on this show? Oh, yeah. Now you're excited to come on the show, right?

We're very excited.

So how do you think it differs, though, the way I'm talking? Like, do you think that men and women. It's different how? We all talk about sex. Like, on your show. You guys talk about sex at all?

We do, yeah.

A lot.

Yeah.

It's made the news weekly.

Yeah. Your sex life. Right. So she. Yeah, that's what I want to say. Okay, forget my question. She calls you daddy in the bedroom, right? Tori does.

She calls me daddy all the time.

So all the kids are like, daddy, daddy, and she's like, daddy. So everyone calls you daddy in your household?

Everyone calls me daddy.

Yeah.

That's kind of convenient.

It is convenient. And. But I do. I love it. I don't know. I just.

It's kind of hot.

It is hot when she calls me daddy and then there's like. Then there's daddy, Right? It's a different octopus. Yeah, it's a different. Yeah, different tone. It's like brandy over crushed glass.

So are you guys. Are you. Are you. Are you guys into, like, Dom Sub stuff like play or Daddy, Little girl?

No, no, no.

Just the daddy.

Yeah, just the daddy. Just. I don't know. It's just. She's so cute. She's such a little girl, too. And that's gonna sound creepy.

No, I understand.

But she's just. There's an innocence and naivete about her that when she says daddy, it's like, oh, it's so cute. It melts my heart.

Nikki Paris and Dean McDermott, they got a new podcast, and we got some new toys. And they got some new toys.

We're gonna be vibrating all the way home.

I'm wearing mine right now. I put it on during the break.

Yeah. See? How cool is that?

Download the app, Nikki.

I will. I am.

It's called We Connect. It's very cool, like this tech stuff happening.

But, you know, it was really cool because they came out with, like, a bead that a woman could put up inside her and then you could control it. But now it's cool that it's for a guy. Exactly like that.

Right.

Equal opportunity sex toys, which we're about here.

Exactly. And what we're saying is that couples so Often get so bored in their relation in their sex lives. Like probably about after the honeymoon phase is over, which is six months, two years sometimes. You know, I would say sometimes after even just six months is probably more typical. And you're like, what are we gonna do? People don't know what to do. That's different. And sometimes it's just what couples report is they crave the spontaneity. They crave to something new and something different. And so sometimes it could just be a few drops of lube, using a toy, talking dirty, having sex in the kitchen instead of the, like, instead of the bedroom where you're always having it. So just like mixing it up a bit. So I.

Like you said spontaneity. I just think scheduling it is a killer.

Oh, really? Well, you don't need to listen to me.

No, but some people, we need to.

Schedule the time that you're not having sex. Like his calendar says, can we take.

A break on Wednesday, three and six.

Yeah, three to four. Anal, five to six.

Yeah, exactly. Right. That's not your problem.

But for couples, unlike, be a real killer, right? No, no.

Okay. So I used to think that as well, Dee. I used to think that scheduling sex was the least sexy. Like, who wants to be like, pick up dry cleaning? My husband. No, like, but for many couples, unlike you, they. They, unlike you and Tori, they don't. They forget to have sex. They keep one partner wants it more than the other one. And then they like, never have it because one partner comes home like, hey, babe, let's do it. She's like, not tonight. Or not tonight. And then it never happens. And they keep feeling rejected. And these couples get into a cycle where one's rejected and, you know, because their partner never wants it. So the couples who are like, Saturday night, that's our night. We're going to. They. Then they get to look forward to Saturday night. They're like, we're going to bring the toy. We're going to use the lube. We're going to make a sex date. And then it becomes. Because the brain is our largest sex organ. So if you're not thinking about sex and it's never top of mind, you're never going to want to have it. So when you have it to look forward to, you're like, okay, I'm going to like, shave my legs. Wear something sexy. We're going to put out the toys and maybe even start texting. When I said foreplay starts after the last orgasm, what I mean is, like, you'd be like, I can't wait till, you know, Saturday night when I see you wearing that. You're gonna be controlling my vector in my verge. What's that? Yes, vectors are the.

Which controls your vector.

The vector's their anus, Their prostate toy. Sorry, the verge.

What's the vector?

The vector goes. I didn't know you well enough to know if you wanted a prostate toy.

Well, now that you've met me.

Do we have one? Do we have a sex toy closet here? Next time.

We do have a mini sex toy closet in the locker room.

We had to my whole office. So usually I'm an office writer there down the street, but we have a sex toy closet the size of this wall. And it's. We get like 20 pounds of toys delivered to our a week to our office that we have to try out and then give to our friends.

I love that you know it by poundage as opposed to pieces because there's.

Hundreds and hundreds and so many things. It's so fun because we never know like what's coming today. And then sometimes it's like, oh, there's my license plates. But then most of the times it's like lube. Lubes, Anal toys. Yeah, it's fun. So that'll be fun with your toys there. You can play with them. So yeah, scheduling sex is works a lot of couples.

See, I thought it would have been a killer, but yeah, I'm gonna try that.

Oh, see, it's just hot. Today we have a sex date and I'm gonna wear this toy and you're gonna do this thing and. Yeah, Nikki. What are we gonna do with Nikki? He's only having sex.

I could see that. Why scheduling it? Because I think it's like putting in an effort on both of your parts. It's showing that you're both committed to a certain time.

Right. And then you're like, yeah, then you know it and you can't get out of it. Really. You know what I'm saying? Because most times they're like, I thought people go on date night and then they get to. They get. They eat too much and then the sex doesn't happen. Right? And like, oh, fuck. But if you know that it's about the sex. And I always say have sex before dinner. Winter, winter sex before dinner.

And then have a very relaxed dinner.

Yeah, a chill out dinner. If you make it to dinner, how great if you just don't. So sometimes I think we gotta just prioritize sex.

I love those times where you're like, we're go for dinner, and then you just never make it.

And then you don't.

I like that. Having sex for dinner. Because if you really put in the work, you're like, you know what? I'm getting dessert.

Yeah, exactly. We already did it.

It's on you.

Yeah, because then you have to worry about sex. You're like, oh, I don't want to eat too much because we're gonna have sex later. But then you already did it, right? And if you have it again, it's like your double dessert. So. Okay, Dean, there's a whole thing about your sex life online.

Oh, dear.

I just had to, like, Google it. And then they're like, okay, your sex life is well documented. You got. You got real about it. So it says that you're insatiable. What does that mean? But you said that already.

I've said that. Yeah. No, I just. I. I love having sex. I love having sex with my wife. And when I was single, I loved having sex with anyone. Anyone. You know, it's the best thing that you can do that's relatively free. Like, if you just eat, you don't have to do the dinner thing or the dating. Like, if you just meet someone you're totally attracted to and you just, like, have sex, it's the best thing in the world. So why wouldn't you want to do it all the time? When you're in a good mood, when you're in a bad mood, when you're depressed? Like, I just think it cures all that ails you.

Yeah, I mean, I agree with you, but I think that so many couples just. They're. There's. They have resentments. Things build up. They're pissed that they didn't take out the trash or they didn't remember their birthday or they didn't show up for them in some way. And then sex becomes the problem. You know, sex. They don't often know that it's sex, but then they stop having sex, and then they're like, we don't connect anymore.

They need to channel that resentment somewhere else.

Yeah.

Because even Tori has told me, no matter how mad I am at you, how pissed off I am at you, I look at you and go, oh, God, I want to you, like, I love you guys. It's just. Yeah, it just.

And then they hate.

That's the one thing we've never hated. That's so funny.

They never hate each other. They're all over each other.

We've been mad at each other, but it's never been one of those.

All Right, Good.

We've never done that.

So how has your sex life gotten more adventurous since you've been together?

He's pondering.

He's going to the Rolodex.

I'm wondering. We can talk after the show.

Okay.

Just.

Cause that's just not interesting.

So many things that I talk about, about our relationship makes its way to the press.

But that's okay. Is there anything. You have a new podcast? Anything such thing as bad press? There's like a million podcasts right now.

I just need to take a break from it.

Okay, Got it.

Cause it's for like 18 episodes. There's been something weekly, but that's good.

How's your numbers?

It is good. Our numbers are great. Don't get me wrong. Don't get me wrong. But at the same time, I want.

We don't have a fuzzy chair yet though.

Do you love my fuzzy chair? You guys, soon you're gonna be able to watch this. Just so you know, we're taping tonight. It's our first night.

Oh, wow.

Yes. Hi, cameras. I forget. I forget. You look amazing. Nikki, we gotta get you. Nikki. Still, we've been spent a lot of time.

There's two things I want to say.

That Dean's having so much sex and you're not having any.

No, because I don't like to break a sweat. I'm a sweater in the bedroom.

There's so many issues.

Right, okay.

But the girls know.

Okay.

Cause when I sweat, I look like Little Richard. So I don't wanna look up while I'm getting plowed and just have a. A lazy river going down my back. I'm just. I don't like people to see me vulnerable.

I know you don't, but.

You don't. But they might.

Do you think it's gonna hurt your comedy if you just start to feel emotions? Break down that shell?

No, I'm very emotional.

I'm a lifetime. Ladies, do you hate sweat? Do you hate sweaters? I mean, messy sweat.

No, sex is messy. Sweaty, dirty, bloody. Yeah, no, sweats are.

I love. I love.

I love sexy, sweaty sex.

I love when Tori's belly button fills up with my sweat.

Oh, my God.

That is my worst nightmare. First of all, can I just say, oh, my go.

I want to help you, but at the same time, I want to beat the shit out of you.

I get it, Emily. Let me tell. I do two movies in the bedroom. It's missionary and ask, are you close? I'm like, how much longer do we need to do this? And that's? My problem when I have sex. If you want to get real, fine. Here I go. Emily. All right. Of course I've had sex. You know what I mean? I'm a gay, young Italian man with the old brajole. But I feel like sometimes I'm into it. For the first two minutes, I'm like, oh, my God, this is exhausting. And his tooth looks loose. I'm like, I want. Get me out of here. So I haven't. I think I've never had sex with somebody I've been in love with.

Cause you haven't been in love.

Yes, I haven't.

Because then sex with just somebody because you think they're hot is gonna get boring after, like, a few minutes. It can. It sounds like that's happening for you.

Yes, it is. About a minute in, I'm like, I wanna go home.

Yeah, exactly.

And then I am home. I'm like, should I burn my house down? How do I end this?

I'm really hurt because I didn't know that's what you were thinking while we were having sex. I'm really hurt right now.

Ah, see?

Okay, but is this, like. Do you enjoy sex ever? How about, do you masturbate?

I do masturbate, and I like masturbating. Because you know what? You don't. Whatever you see or you view, you clear your history, and it's like it's never happened.

Yeah. Okay.

It's like, why?

Guilt.

Yeah. But I. You know, but I've never had sex. And I was like, oh, my God, I can't wait to do that again. I've had sex. And I was like, you should really be ashamed of yourself.

Oh, my God. See, this is the therapy. Yeah. Yeah. Cause we all carry. A lot of Us carry around things from religion and childhood, and we never. You're still young. You can still get it out of your head.

Well, the first had sex, I was in college, and I thought it was gonna be good. Oh, God. And he burped, so maybe that he ruined it. Yeah. See, now I'm not that crazy after all.

Burped in your face.

It was that in the bedroom. He, like. He burped. And I was like, this is the night I lost my virginity. I have to look back and say, he burped up a bacon cheeseburger, but I thought it'd be, like, fireworks and magic. And I was like, that was it.

Do you think? Heavy dubs.

Okay, but welcome to sex. Welcome to losing your virginity. Nobody has great first time sex, but.

I thought it'd be magical and it wasn't.

Oh my God.

But that's what everyone thinks.

No, first time it was awkward and.

Let me clarify, it's never been magical. Ever.

How many times? How many times?

How many times have I had sex? I've only had sex with about like 10 to 15 people maybe.

Yeah, you're still starting out.

Yeah, you gotta up that.

That's not a lot.

I have my training wheel still on.

But here's the thing. It's one time and you leave in two minutes. So like really is. Have you had a full on sex with these people and had like a. It was a one off thing.

No, I've had.

Okay.

Yeah.

There was one guy that I was sleeping with in college who I really loved and then I looked in his ear and it looked like a Yankee candle.

Oh, God.

So am I crazy? Do I have issues or am I right on the money? Okay. Get a Q tip if you want to fuck me.

Yeah, dude. I mean, but everyone's gonna have a thing.

I'm all flawed. They're all flawed.

But if you're asleep with someone, you look in his ear and you're like.

Why are you looking in the ear?

How could you not?

I just don't.

Emily, how could you not?

I don't look at the ear.

You don't look at things like that.

No, but what if you do see something you don't like? You focus your attention back on something you do, like.

Yes, thank you, Dean.

No, I focus on everything I was about.

You're like OCD too.

I'm a little ocd. And I had to tell him, I said, I think you should use a Q tip.

Yeah, you could even place one out.

And then that's when he called the taxi and left.

He did.

He was very upset. And he also.

It's the way you present the Q tip, though. You talk a lot about communication on the show. I always say communication is a lubrication. We have to talk about it in a way.

I love that.

Yeah, talk about it in a way that like makes your partner feel good. But you're like, here's a Q tip, right?

Yeah.

He's like, what's wrong? Flawed. Cause we all feel we're flawed. So it's a way you could be like, hey, like when you're in the shower or something, you're like, let me clean your ear. I don't think that'd be hot.

Oh, that's my dad.

You gotta make shit. You gotta make things hot with my dad.

I do like phone Sex, Emily.

You do, because you don't have to see them or touch them.

And then I can hang up and be like, sorry, I boost mobile. And then I'm off the hook.

This just reminded me of something. Burp reminded me. I slept with this girl. I really liked her. She was my best friend's sister, and I really, really liked her. And I pursued her. And we dated. And the very first time we had sex, it was fantastic and amazing. I really liked this girl. And we were lying there in the aftermath, and it was kind of time to kind of fall asleep. And I went from. We were spooning this way, and I turned this way, and the motion from me going, I farted.

Okay, that happened.

And she. I was mortified. But she couldn't have been more cool about it. And she was like, did she have to level it? And she. No, she pissed in my face.

Perfect.

But no, the thing is, is, like, here was. We had a great. We had a great time. And then here was something that could have potentially been a game ender.

Okay.

And she was like, oh, no, this happens. I mean, like, don't worry about it. And she talked me off the ledge. Cause I was like, oh, my God. I've never done this.

How long ago was it? Young? Like, younger.

22.

That's when you worry about these things. 22.

But she couldn't have been cooler about it. So, like, so what if buddy has wax in his ear?

Like, exactly.

He may give, like, an amazing hummer. Like, you know, like, you have all.

These expectations of no one's per. Yeah, people are gonna fart. They're gonna be messy. There's things gonna happen during sex. Sex is messy. And it's also beautiful.

I think we need to have sex. And I need to sweat on yout sex with Emily.

Let's.

Is your dick as big as I think it is? Cause you're, like 7ft tall.

That's a good question. That was my next question. Thank you. Nikki, you could be my co hosting.

Oh, my God. I would love that. Can I get a fuzzy chair?

No, fine.

Whatever. Whatever you want. I'll sit in the corner.

No, I'm hung like a light switch. God is a cosmic joker.

Because when Tori was on our show, she had a limp. So I've just been wondering since that day.

She's happy with his penis.

I would say she's happy with it.

She's happy with everything.

I can't do porn. Put it that way. Like, I wouldn't be a candidate for porn, but, you know, I've had zero complaints in the hundreds of odd women I've been with.

Ben Franklin loved his dick is what.

He was trying to tell us. Abraham could just not get enough of it.

I feel like we've been through a lot here, you guys. We have. I feel like we've made a lot of inroads about, Like, I know you guys.

I know more about you now than doing our own podcast.

Emily just brings that out of me. She just has that charm.

Guys, this is what I do. I help people come together in some ways. Well, you know what I'm saying. Open up. Open up and feel safe. This is a safe place.

Oh, I'm gonna open up. All right.

Open up the woo. More play. That lube is gonna. You just tell me. You're gonna love it. Okay, you guys, I gotta ask you the five questions I ask all of our guests. Ready under rapid fire. Okay, There are quick keys ready? Biggest turn on Nikki Paris face. Biggest Turn on Dean McDermott.

Vaginas.

I love you. Biggest. Biggest turnoff Dean.

Really saggy boobs.

Biggest. Yeah.

Fried egg boobs.

Fried egg boobs. What's that?

They're like fried eggs on a nail.

Oh, yeah. All right. Biggest turn off Nikki.

Not being cleanly.

Okay. What makes good sex, Nikki, when it's on my terms?

Connection.

Something you would tell your younger self about. Sex.

Do some more sit ups.

Dean.

Stop worrying.

Okay. Number one sex tip.

Make sure there's towels and a Xanax. Clothes.

Number one sex.

Oh.

Go down on your woman like the cure for the disease you have is in it.

Oh, yeah, baby. Dean, I love you. That's amazing, Nikki. Love you too. You guys check out their podcast, Daddy Issues. It's at Daddy issues show Dee McDermott on Instagram and Twitter. Right? This is all gonna be in our show. Notes Nikki Paris, bitch. On Instagram and Twitter. Twitter. We're taking a quick break and we come back. We're going to get into your questions.

All right? We have Rob, who's 42 in California, who did have an issue with IG.

Ooh, an Instagram problem. What happened, Rob? I'm dying to know.

Hi, this is Rob. Are you there?

I'm here, Rob, yes.

Okay. So I am in a 18 year relationship. Started with a girlfriend, now my wife.

Okay.

Through.

Throughout the course of the relationship, I had.

You know, loyalty issues on my side.

Okay.

And I've done a lot of. Lot of introspective work, therapy with addiction therapists and things like that. I've done some energy work to get past those issues.

Okay?

But interestingly enough, technology let me down all along the way. And the most recent form of this was Instagram. Back. Back before the current administration in the White House changed the rules about.

What was allowed on Craigslist and back page and things like that. I made. I made a lot of my extracurricular transactions on there. And so a lot of times people say, well, what's your phone number?

And you.

You text back and forth or whatever to set up a date or however work. Well, so now when. And my wife and I, by the way, are on the same iTunes account because that's how it got set up all of those years ago. I'm sorry I'm going on so long about this, but yeah, now. Now when she goes to say, like, there's a. And I've stayed off social media all these years because I didn't want to get caught, right? And so now she goes on Instagram and it's says, you might want to follow these people based on your history and who's in your contacts.

Oh.

And it's. It's a bunch of people that I have probably contacted those. Maybe we never, you know, met up or anything, but, you know, it's bikini pictures and stuff.

Oh, my God.

It totally. It totally brings her back to the trauma that I created. And it's like, oh, my God, if I could keep her off Instagram and Facebook and all of these things that continue to trigger her from my past behaviors, it would be a wonderful thing.

Oh, God. Because you share the cloud, itunes, that you're saying, and it all comes up, oh, wow, Rob. I'm sorry that happened.

That's how I got caught. One of my initially sent me a breast picture and my kids got it.

Oh, my God. I've heard horrifying because your kid was playing Candy Crush on the iPad or something, right? And then they're like, oh, what's this boob? Yeah, I know. I stop sharing. Everyone shares everything. Do we have to all become one? Can't we Keep our own iTunes account? What is this exactly?

So laws of unintended consequences. You know, saving money as a family. We're trying to keep things on one bill.

I get that.

And then.

Wow.

Wow, Rob. So are you guys okay now?

Yeah, we're okay. You know, we still, you know, she still triggers. Sometimes it's a song, sometimes it's a behavior. If I go quiet for a day or something, she starts to wonder what I'm up to. You know, sometimes she tracks my phone to see where I'm at. And you Know the technology lets me down. And she goes, well, how come you're not at work? And it's like, well, I'm sitting here at my desk. Let me take a picture.

Oh, God, Rob, this sounds super unhealthy. I'm happy to hear that. You did healing and you're. So sobriety work. Has your wife done her work?

Well, at the. At the addiction place we went to.

Doesn't count. She came for a few weeks.

Yeah. And she was gonna have to have basically a truth read to her. And it was basically. I was told it was going to be like a police report. I did such and such with this person on this data. Such and such with this person on that date.

Give me a lot of details. Rob. Rob. Robert, all I'm saying is you were an addiction. She came on her own. Does she have ongoing support right now seeing a therapist every single week? This is your wife of 18. 18 years. She needs to do her own work. Okay.

Yes.

Thanks, Rob. Thanks for calling. Yeah, I appreciate it. I think we're good. Thanks, Rob. No, it was a lot, but I appreciate it. I like that.

But she does need to do her own work.

I'm just saying, you guys, it really. Because I just see him getting into this problem now with Rob has done a lot of work on himself and she every. Okay, listen. I picture Rob not saying he's a saint, and I don't think it's great that when icloud I had so many friends who've gotten caught and people on the show and whatever from cheating because they share all the stuff and the kids get weird sexs and it's the whole thing. But when he's saying that he's still sitting at his desk at work and his wife doesn't believe he's there. He's like, here I am. Look, here's my cubicle. Like, that's just.

That makes me think of Al Anon.

She needs something like that. Al Anon. Al Anon. It's free therapy.

It's free. And I had to do that because I was that kind of person. Person with my husband, who is now sober. He's three years sober. And at the time, I was that kind of person where I felt like I needed to check up on him. What is he doing? I counted all the beer bottles. It's like I realized, yes, I realized I am part of the issue.

Yes.

And so then I re. I stopped doing it. And that's when he decided to get sober because he saw, oh, she's not doing this anymore.

Right.

She's. What's going on? And then it was like.

Because it's like homeostasis. Like, you changed your behavior.

Right, right.

And he was like, oh, that leads him not to drink. Which is a beautiful story in that.

Sense, but I feel like for Rob, that's probably what she needs to do.

She needs to do that, too. Exactly.

We have Heather, who's 52 in Canada, who wants to know how to use anal toys.

Oh, well, hello, Heather. I'd love to help you.

With your anal toys. What are some of your questions?

Yeah, well, I've never. Never used them. I don't even know what the stirrup. It's like my husband has.

Either, so it's like I've had them.

Okay, well, do you have the toys yet? Because I can tell you my favorite. You have to get the BE Vibe beginner anal kit. It's literally the most perfect anal kit I've ever seen in my life. Our friend Alicia was on. Was she on here? She's on the podcast from BE Vibe. You got to check her out. She's. She's amazing. Like, let me tell you this. She's a woman, and she. Heather, she devoted her life to creating, like, literally the best, like, only anal toys. And she's got this thing called the beginner anal kit and explains everything about anal play. And it comes with a few different. It's an anal training kit, and it comes with a few different sizes, and it even. It has, like, a lube shooter, so you can get lube in there, and it even teaches you, like, the different. It has, like, a guide. Like, it's really the best guide to anal sex. It says pictures, and it's. So. I mean, because really, what you want to do is you just want to make sure that you go slow. Maybe even start with a finger, if you guys have done that yet. And then you can move into a toy, make sure it helps to be already really turned on. It helps to maybe already have an orgasm. First get in a comfortable position, and then you put a toy in with a little bit of lube. A lot of lube. And then you just kind of. Yeah.

So is the woman usually in the back, or is she, like, going around like. I don't.

You know. Oh. Oh, you mean. Where are you. How are you lying on your. You could be lying on your back. You could have a pillow. No. Okay. You could have a pillow under your bum that kind of lifts it up, like, under your lower back. You could also be in the. Like, in the spooning position.

That's a great way to do it. You could also get on your hands and knees, like doggy stuff.

What about anal toys for him, though? Like using them for him?

Oh, yeah, you could use them. You could use an anal toy for him. You could use a butt plug. So what I'm talking about is butt plugs initially, but for men, there's these prostate toys, right? And men have a prostate. Oh, that. Yes. Well, you could go to. That's what you want. Aneros toys, they go. I gotcha. The Vector by We Vibe is their new prostate toy.

Okay.

And we love that. We're going to put all this in the show notes so you don't have to write it down. You go to sex with Emily dot com. So Aneros and We Vibe have toys and essentially, you know, it's the same thing. It helps for him to, you know, be turned on, use a lot of lube, and then you. You carefully follow. You know, he just kind of puts it in slowly. Or you put it in him slowly. Unless you're also talking about penetrating him. Are you thinking about, like, using a strap on? Like, what'd you have in mind there?

Not strap on like that. Maybe down the road. But just to start off with, it would be, you know, like anal beads or.

Anal beads are fun. I would start with something small, like a snug plug. She's got snug plug this. If you go to Be Vibe, it's letter B, like. But snug plugs, butt hugs and be Vibes is the name of the podcast we did with her with Alicia Sinclair. And just go to. If you listen to pod, it's easy. Just Google it online. We'll put it in the show notes. You can listen to it. We give a whole beginner kit about anal, what toys to use. Okay, thanks a lot. Thanks for calling, Heather.

All right, we have Christina, who's 35 in California and has a question about vibrators and orgasms.

Okay. I know something about it, probably. How you doing, Christina?

Hi, Emily.

Hey, thanks for calling.

So amazing to talk to you finally. I listen to your show every day.

On my way back home.

I'm so glad to ride along with you. How can I help you?

All right, so I have a passion. I was married before for 10 years, and I divorced last year. And now I have a partner who's amazing, who pretty much awakened me, actually, I guess after 10 years of, like, I think, sexual depression. So I'm pretty happy with him. I'm having amazing sex with him, and I know that he enjoys a lot when I give him oral, but it's getting to get too basic. So I think I heard the other day, I think I caught in the middle James saying that he should use a toy, like a vibrating toy on his balls and.

Yes. Partner balls.

And I was wondering, how can I introduce that to him? Is it really good for.

Yeah, we've got you. Let me just make sure I get this question, Christina. Are you saying that you're with a great new guy, he's opened you up sexually, and you'd like to kind of spice up your blowjob skills, oral sex skills and using a toy?

Yes.

Got it. Okay. So we were talking about, I think, was it the G Jack?

The G Vibe Mini?

G Vibe Mini is. We've sort of adopted it as our little. Our favorite oral helper. Handy helper. So, Jamie, you wanna talk about your experience with that? The G Vibe Mini.

Yeah. So the way. Well, the way that I introduced it was way before we were having sex. Like, we weren't. We weren't. We were just sitting on the couch watching tv. And then I had let him know. I was like, oh. So I got this thing from work, which obviously probably wouldn't be your situation, but you could say I was thinking about, you know, I've been listening to.

This show on the way home from work.

Exactly. I've been listening to the show and they talked about this thing, and I thought it was really interesting. So I let him. I brought it out and I let him look at it first.

Yes.

And, like, kind of like. And he was just like, what is happening? Because at first he thought I was gonna stick it inside of him. I was like, no, no, no. I was like, trust me. I was like, this is going to make this next blowjob. I give you the best blowjob you've ever had. Yep. So he was very excited. And naturally, he was just, like, all game for it.

He's like. Like now.

Yeah. So then I took it, though, and I turned it on the lowest setting and I let. I, like, put it around sensitive areas, not necessarily on his penis or his balls yet. So that he. I was like, how does it feel? Is it good? Is this good? And he's like, no, I'm into this. I like this. So then I had my handy Dandy lube, some Uber lube on the side. So when I get into the blow job, I start out. You start out like a normal blow job, just like how you normally would, and then you just start to use. Because the way it kind of looks like a wishbone. So if you can cut that, like bows out.

Let's put a picture of a little bit of you guys good at.

Yeah, we'll put a picture of it in the show notes. And so I just started using it gently on the lowest, setting up and down his shaft, kind of like following where my mouth was going. So it kind of. Yeah, so he was just lightly a little bit. And then the more that he. I looked at his reaction, so I would look up at him to see if he was liking it. And then I started going faster with it. But it's very light on the touch, so it's not going around him. It's not doing like, it's not tight on there, but it just gives that little extra sensation, like right under your chin as you go up and down.

Say you put it on your chin or you put it up directly on the penis.

Yeah, right.

Okay.

Yeah. But I had. I. So I had it kind of bolt. So I had it underneath my chin this way.

So when his penis was in your mouth, he could feel the vibrations.

Exactly.

And then going up and down the penis. There you go. Is that helpful, Christina? Yeah. So you make it like you tease him with it. I don't know what person. If I. If someone approached me and said, I've got this toy for all, sucks, it's gonna make you feel amazing. I was like, yeah, but I think you do want to bring them into it and show them, like, how hot it's going to be and all that stuff. I know we started as low setting. Thanks, Christina. I'm glad you found the show. We love hearing from you. It's awesome. Hey, guys, thanks for listening to the show. Thank you for sharing the show. Maybe there's a friend or family member that you're like, they really need this information. Thanks for sharing it and for reviewing us, like, wherever you listen, whatever platform or everywhere you listen. We love when you review us, when you give us a lot of stuff, bars, all those things. Okay, guys, thank you and thanks to my amazing team. Ken, Kristen, Elisa, Michelle, producer, Jamie and Michael. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sex with emily.com.

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