In this motivational monologue, the speaker frames a common personal dilemma: whether to fully commit to a goal (going "all in") or to hold back and protect one’s ego. Two scenarios are contrasted – one where you give everything and still fall short, and another where you stay cautious, never know if you could have succeeded, and live with lingering "what if" regret. The speaker argues that the ego constructs a safety net, fearing failure and discouraging full commitment. This avoidance leads to chronic uncertainty and self‑doubt. Conversely, committing fully, even if the outcome is disappointing, yields valuable self‑knowledge, a sense of accomplishment, and diminishes the importance of external results. The talk concludes with a practical invitation to notice the ego’s voice, choose to go all in, and experience the peace that follows.
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Good morning, everyone. Here is your Moment of Yes for Friday, December 10th. We are clicking through the month quickly. Yeah, we are. So, I had a few coaching meetings recently and some similar ideas have come up. And so, I posed this question to you: what is scarier or which is scarier, to fully commit to trying something or going for something and actually find out that you can't reach or didn't reach the goal that you set forth. So some might say like, you went all in but it wasn't enough, right? You weren't good enough. Or you went all in and you still couldn't get it done. All right, scenario 1. The other possibility is not going in All in, therefore not achieving what that ultimate goal is. But knowing that, who knows, maybe if you had gone all in, maybe you were or would have been good enough. But you didn't. And so now you're stuck with this idea of, what if? What if I'd gone all in? So of those 2 scenarios, which is better for you? Now intellectually, I think we'd all go, I mean, just going all in. At least, I mean, at least we find out, right? But I think the reality is, and in most of the coaching that I do, is people struggle with the second one, which is, if I don't commit fully, I know I won't probably reach that goal, but But I can protect my ego by saying, hey, I don't know, maybe I would have been good enough had I gone all in. It's kind of a safety net. It's kind of a way of protecting us from this idea of not being good enough. My experience has been that tends to be consistently what most people struggle with, is this regret over and over and over again. What if? What if? What if? what if I had? What if I had? What if I had? Maybe I would have been good enough. So we end up— when we don't commit and go all in, we end up living with this idea of uncertainty, of not knowing, right? Maybe we could have, but our ego is like, well, don't go all in because if you don't achieve it, who are you if you're not good enough, right? You have to live the rest of your life realizing that you weren't good enough to do that thing. You went all in and you still weren't good enough. And what most of us have experienced is that great fear of not being good enough after going all in really actually doesn't hurt that badly because it's the idea of once we commit fully and we've done everything that we can possibly do, we're able to live with that because we end up learning so much about ourselves in the process and actually feeling such a great sense of accomplishment that comes with tapping out the best that we could actually do. And then that external goal, that external outcome becomes less important because it was always about pushing ourselves to be the best we could possibly become regardless of what happens in the end. The ego hates that. The ego is only attached to the identity of self that is actually very, very superficial. So it will prevent us from going all in by building up this fear of failure. Eff it, right? Eff it. So your opportunity today as we roll into the weekend is to notice that voice, to notice the ego voice. It's always there saying, don't do it, don't commit, you might not be good enough, you might not be strong enough, you might not be creative enough, you might not be funny enough, you might not be smart enough, don't go all in. Screw that. Go all in and see what happens, right? You're gonna sleep a lot better and a lot faster at night by doing so. All right, that's your moment of yes for today, Friday. Have an awesome weekend, everybody. Bye.
