In this motivational monologue titled “Moment of Yes – May 5th,” the speaker reflects on a quote from a football coach—“your actions are so loud I can’t hear what you’re saying”—to emphasize that behavior outweighs spoken words. He illustrates the principle with examples from youth sports, coaching, and parenting, noting how adults model attitudes for children and teammates. The talk expands the idea to broader domains such as politics, spirituality, and everyday work relationships, urging listeners to examine how they show up in daily life. The central call‑to‑action is to be mindful of the behaviors we display, because those actions are the most powerful form of communication.
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Good morning, everyone. Here is your Moment of Yes for Wednesday, May 5th, Cinco de Mayo. Good morning, everybody. Here is your Moment of Yes for today. I was listening to a great interview yesterday with— shoot, now his name escapes me. He's the University of Washington's football coach, the longtime coach at Boise State who built that program, then went over to Washington. and is building that program back to respectability and just seems like a pretty low-key quality guy. He shared this idea which is, your actions are so loud I can't hear what you're saying. You've probably heard some variation of that quote during your life. Your actions are so loud I can't hear what you're saying. Again, that's just a great quote To demonstrate the power of actions speak louder than words, modeling our behavior. It's not what we say, it's what we do. I see it all the time in youth sports. I see it with coaches and I see it with parents. You see the parents, they get tense in a tense game and they're like, relax! Or the coaches are like, calm down! And it's obviously the complete— they are modeling— what they're saying is, hey, that's probably a helpful idea. What they're modeling is you're not hearing the message because you're only seeing the action. The action is speaking too loudly. And so clearly I can poke fun at that type of behavior, but also know that I've been guilty of that myself. And go back to, you know, with everything that we do between our relationships, between our parenting, between how we talk to and relate with everyone that we come into contact with, How are we actually showing up? What behavior are we modeling? Not what we're telling people we're about or telling people what we think or telling people what we believe, but our actual actions are more important than that. Obviously, politics and spirituality and religion are all the same thing. It's one thing to preach unconditional love and loving your neighbor and all of this stuff. But I'm going to— I'm much more interested in how you actually behave and your actions. And, um, you know, if Tiger's watching this, right, we had a good example growing up of someone's actions that often spoke louder than their words. And, uh, and again, um, to take the pressure off of yourself as a parent is, you know, if you have kids, you are always modeling For your children, and you're either modeling great behavior that they can copy, or you're modeling poor behavior that they can make sure that they don't emulate growing up. Either way, you're modeling a better way for them to be better people. So think about what you are modeling today as you go throughout your day. If you're in the work environment, if you're— or if it's just your, you know, your personal relationships, it's not so much about what you're saying. It's actually how you are showing up because your actions are so loud, I can't hear what you're saying. That's your moment of yes for today, everyone. Have an awesome day.
